Learning to Respond Not React - Tara Brach
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- Tara Brach - Learning to Respond Not React - 09/02/2015
When stressed, we often react with looping fear-thoughts, feelings and behaviors that cause harm to ourselves and/or others. This talk offers three interrelated strategies that can serve us when we’re triggered by stress, and help us find our way back to our natural wisdom, empathy and wholeness of being. By de-conditioning habitual reactivity, we are increasingly able to respond to our life circumstances in ways that serve healing and awakening.
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With thanks and love, Tara
finally a preacher that doesn't yell at you like a sinner, but a beloved student of spirituality
I feel the same. If I'm listening to someone and they raise their voice I instantly turn them off.
'Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to chose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.' Viktor Frankl-
Wow
Your space your thoughts, don't worry about the rest of us. Only life in that body can deal with that brain!
stimulus and response is a unitary movement, only humans are dumb enough to think they are separate. no matter how you call it, response or reaction, the instrument we use is the same. Mechanically repeating empty words and phrases do not make it real.
@@s.muller8688 This might be true for those with a Fixed mindset, but though there is an undeniable connection in the Stimulus - Response circuit, there is so much evidence that this can be retrained. There are not only spiritual but also cientific techniques to re-educate our responses in a natural and authentic way. Whoever would want to understand the science behind this, could just start by checking the not-so-new concept of Neural Plasticity.
@@vivsgm7538 whatever you think you are retraining, is simply a modification of thought. Thought is what keeps us going round in circles. stimulus and response are not under any circumstances related to time Your claims are completely and utterly false. and you have no way to back any of this up.Neuroscience knows nothing about the human mind. and Neural plasticity is another new age mind trick.
I’m less than 20 minutes into your talk and I want to comment. First, you are the answer to my asking source energy for assistance with my insecurities that have grown so strong over the past couple of years, but have also been with me for ever. I study psychology, spirituality, metaphysics, nap, you name it, and I work at a counseling center. I hear therapists say “they” and “people that,” etc., which makes me feel like “those people. I seriously began to think there was something really wrong with me. When you speak, you say “we,” which really lessens my feeling that I’m damaged. It’s more inpowering. And your message is simple and true. It’s a low period for me and you lift me up. Thank you! I may be back when I finish listening.
Follow brain in a nutshell...... she tells you.....You are NOT BROKEN
Thank you, you stated this so well
Hey thanks for pointing that out. That often times when we're criticizing society, duh, we're part if society. And that those types of words can be separating and alienating. When really we all have a lot of work to do.
This is really helpful to me as a therapist - I use this phrasing to generalize/describe patterns, not thinking that it could come across as othering. I'm going to think of how I can rephrase these types of remarks. Thank you!
@@witbrodt Thank you for your kind message, and for excusing my typos. It’s funny that when we point out individual’s short comings, we tend to make the whole person wrong, and mostly we/I do it to myself. So it’s somewhat comforting to know that others share my short comings.
Like many people, I grew up with a deeply stressed mother who used me as a scapegoat for her anxieties and disappointments. She put a huge amount of fear into me; she was mentally, emotionally and physically abusive every day, saying horrible things about me and inculcating me with fear. This was all secretive; she did not abuse me in front of others, including my father, who was away at work. So this secret abuse stayed with me most of my life. I was saved by being loved and appreciated by my father and everyone else around me, but I still have to fight insecurity and self-denigration. Meditation and discussions like this have changed everything. I love Tara’s guidance about self-acceptance and self-compassion. It puts me in a place of peace I needed so badly. ❤❤❤❤❤ I particularly love the message that the good thoughts accrue, so life can become better and better. PS Tara you’re a riot! I love your funny side.
I hope they never take this video down. I'm gonna need to watch it over and over again.
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@@aravindj6550 I can't download it from here. Hmm.
Me, too.
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Insightful. Wise. Soulful. Funny. To listen again & again to Tara talk on Thoughts, Presence & Love was my first response❣️ Keep flying Butterfly 🌺
1. Don’t believe your thoughts.
2. Pause and come back to the present moment.
3. Remember love
I was just about to write this to engrain it. Thank you 🙏❤️
Inspired Yoga Tribe I forgot about this, thank you!
Place hand over heart & Think... How wonderful the freedom of response. #ThankYou #TaraBrach
Very well said. Thank you
Jane Doh I’m 54. I’m just realizing that EVERYTHING we think we Know....I’ve made it all up.
A course in miracles. My thoughts are meaningless.
Thank you Tara, for making your talks available here on RUclips.
Martha Holmes its not like it costd anything to post this.
Martha Holmes its not like it cost her anything to post this here.
Its not like it cost her anything to post this here this is just a commercial for herself.
Its not like it cost her anything to post this here this is just a commercial for herself not a public service messge.
"Thoughts are never reality they are at best a representation that's useful..... And they're often misguided.." Every time I feel fear in my body I'm going to sit with it and say "this is a thought creating this fear in my body". I feel like if I can do that one thing, it will be a stepping stone to turning in the optimal direction. Thank you Tara Brach!
1)please don't believe your thoughts 2) pause, back to presence 3) remember love.... mindfulness strengths our pre-frontal cortex . I can go to bed now
I am listening to this as I battle deep suicidal ideation, truely in a state of physical and mental shock and pain. I am weak, and my heart is broken. Tara, this is the most wonderful, comforting and enlightening talk that is so pertinent to help get through these moments of utter hell and resistance and depression and stagnation. 😭🙏💗
Good advice. #1. Don't believe your thoughts.....they are real but not true. God bless you 🙏
@@mickjersey6278 😭🙏🏻
I hope you will always know you are never alone, no matter how dark the room there’s always light
As we all know, life can get tough, just know that it also gets better. Hang in there. You've made it this far. Through tough times. You are strong and brave. Wait for good things. Think good things. Keep away from negatives. Find a good group that understands the issues you've had to deal with. If it makes you feel better, stick with it, if not then find yourself a different type of support. Just get out to a safe place and take a walk. Breathe deeply. Feel how good the sun feels, how good it feels to breathe, appreciate the beauty of the day and life, of the simple things. Start there. Remind yourself of this. Take life back to a simple place, a place that's easy to handle. Stay in that place until you feel better. Find new friends. Friends that will love you, because you are a thoughtful person that deserves love. Open your heart to nice people, nice people that also have open hearts. All love and hugs to you. You are in my thoughts.
Scarlett, you ARE the perfect person to work on a suicide hotline to help talk down others from committing suicide. No matter how weak you feel mentally, there is someone much weaker than you that needs your help. In life everything happens for a reason. You have what it takes to help others even if you think you can't help yourself. Remember that is the only reason we are on Earth. We are here as part of a whole. As long as we remember that and not focus on ourselves individually, we will serve. By serving others, you will cure your sorrows. We love you Scarlett. It's time to help others now. So don't delay any longer. Call or Google to see how you can start your mission in your city. Forget the past and the future. Live for now only..... always. We are with you and so are loved ones you may have lost because they are using me to communicate this message to you.
I spend a lot of time being fearful , not enough time, now I stop that track and enjoy myself this day, this hour this minute. Great reminder for me!
Thank you Tara for a message of hope and healing. The people of the world need you.
Hello 👋how are you doing?
So many powerful messages and such a beautiful soothing speaking voice delivering it with humour and caring.
Very soothing and peacefully encouraging our nature of Love to flow without interruption from mind! Thank you🥰
Well said; that's why I love listening to Tara....
Ana Stephens oto
Namaste Tara. You saved my life too - I listened to your Radical Acceptance audio for many lonely and restless nights when I was going through a very tough time in my life. Then I would put bits of it on over the next few years after, to help me ‘remember’. Now that your teachings are on RUclips, I get to get so many more reminders. I loved your story about your high school best friend here. We’re both lucky you happened to pop into our lives at the right time. Thank you. I love you🙏💖🌟
Where can I listen to the radical acceptance audio?
Where can I listen to the radical acceptance audio?
Ive played your videos nearly all day today. I am doing my best to take in what you are teaching us. Thank you for sharing your teachings. I am so grateful and becoming more aware to grow myself. Thank you again. Peace to you and all who learn from you.
Patricia Chalmers Now one year later. Did you notice any changes in your life?
I went through two years of severe Chronic Fatigue which in turn led to a severe depressive episode (have a history of it). I know I became the complaining whiny person that normally I am not. I know my friends got tired of hearing it; I got tired of hearing myself that way. Happy to report I am feeling great mentally and physically!
Thank you, Tara for all you do!! Namaste 🕊☮
Thank you Tara, I’ve found this talk so helpful and love the gentle, mindful way you deliver it. God Bless you.
I could listen to this episode over and over because it is jammed pack full of solutions to erroneous thinking in a simple and learnable and doable formula. I am a therapist and will refer clients to this episode often! It encapsulates the foundation to gently and lovingly "managing' ones thoughts. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🖤
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
Thank you (Green) Tara... I feel how you are holding humanity in your loving embrace. You're such a Divine Power House! It is a true blessing to be able to watch your teachings here :) Namaste.
I"m so grateful to have discovered you and your teachings...so poignant and actionable...beautiful...it's really getting in. Thank you!
I am 3 minutes in and I can already tell this is going to change my life. Thank you :) x
There is a lot of wisdom and healing in this. Hard part is doing it over and over during tough times when brain is flipped. It beautifully captures the spirit and essence of traditional religions while not being religious at all.
A great and inspirational video. One of the stories she recounted is related to what happened to a friend. A long time ago he went through a lot of hardship, and sadly came to the point of deciding to give up on life. What stopped him was an expression of gratitude from a woman he sometimes chatted with on the Internet, who happened to tell him that day over chat that she always liked these special moments talking to him. That inspired him to find the courage to tell his parents about what he had been about to do. With their help he recovered and started a new life. He is now living happily. This always gives me the chills (like now) when I think of this. We really shouldn't underestimate the impact we can have on other people for good or bad with our words and actions, sometimes even the simplest ones...
I agree! The new Joker movie I feel like brings this concept across very poignantly. ❤
I remember hearing the story of a man who jumped off the Golden Gate bridge. His suicide note read: I am going to the bridge to jump. If ONE person so much as smiles at me, I won't do it.
eolyt
Now it is Aug. 2022 and I just now came upon this encouraging vid. Regarding your comment......
I usually make my You Tube comments encouraging or uplifting ....but I have reacted badly to my neighbor. So now I will stop that negative reaction...
and, thank God, NOT follow through with my plan for vengeance. Whew! Could have turned out really bad for me. Karma can be a bitch. 🤔
What a beautiful human you are Tara and to all of us that are here to grow and heal.
I'm grateful for your words, Tara. I'm deeply impacted by your message and your presence. Thank you.
This haunting diagnosis of BPD from my early 20's has been ruining my life since my earliest years and BPD seems to be more of a spiritual issue, and turning turning to this video in desperation to find how to respond and not react. I've been told I'm extremely reactive in the past and my current relationship of 4 years is suffering due to my instability, along with my job, my very few of what's left of my half friendships and family. Thank you for this video. It's helpful
Very useful talk, I've recently thought of how we can sometimes Gaslight our-self's causing us to focus on untruths and causing fear or anger. Thank you Tara
Wow, interesting insight! Thank you for sharing.
Such as the Plan Demic
@@josephwanjiku6853
Yup. The nefarious plan to turn us into a totally fear-based easily manipulated populace is rolling right along. Sad but not frightening. I say.....all we really HAVE to do is....flow with The Big Show and stay UNAFRAID.
Tara, thank you.. for your beauty, your tenderness, your compassion and your brilliant explanations. I am going through adrenal fatigue and can really relate to the complaining thoughts. Thank you for sharing your experience and your great little anecdotes that keep me laughing at myself. I love you. With blessings and best wishes from New Zealand xxx
Thank you very much for being so careing and compassionate.i have borderline personality disorder.and. anxiety. your talks help me get through the day .when im having realy bad anxity attacks .listening to your talks are so powerfull helping me get through. Thank you 👍
I keep coming back to remind myself all the time.
I love this talk. Thank you Tara. Very moving story about the boy and the books and thank you for sharing about your chronic fatigue too.
Thank you so much for this video. I just came across your teaching for the first time. In my practice, I have been giving this message. I just sent this video to over 10 people as it is not only a good follow-up to our session but so much better than how it came out of my mouth. It is pure truth and made me cry as I was so touched by the beautiful and clear way it comes through you. Thank You.
It really nice coming across your profile. With all sincerity, I just can't stop smiling because of your beautiful picture. I would love to know you and be friends with you, that is if you do not mind.
I'm so sorry to bother you. It happened to stumbled through your profile and I thought it will be very nice to make a new friend. It seems you are quite intelligent and pretty. If it OK with you, can we be friends???
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Hi from Aug. 2022. I'm curious and nosey......how did everything turn out??
I've had a few comment section friendships. Good and bad. Oh well 🤔.
So full of love... you touched me deeply. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for who you are.
This message really speaks to me. Thank you for your eloquence and grace in sharing this knowledge, as well as reminders for awakening. I deeply appreciate this and will refer to it often. The timing of coming across this talk was serendipitous and much needed for me. Aloha nui loa💜
I am very blessed to discover you and your way of teaching ...Thank you very much for your beautiful and peaceful voice!
Remembering Love, what a gift, thank you, Blessings
Amazing, made me cry. Wish I discovered this sooner. Thank you 🙏🏻
Trust the loving. ❤ Recently I've been caught between my parents and my kids. They both need me and I want to be present with both equally.
I just want to love this a thousand times lol! The space between your thoughts and the reaction can save so much turmoil in our lives! Also where the sacred is!! Thank you for the reminder! 🙏🥰💓
Dear Tara thank you from my heart! Your work and care gives so much comfort and love! ❤
Thank you for your words, I have been searching. I have found comfort inside my soul!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and what you have learned on your journey. Truly appreciative, sending much love your way.
It really nice coming across your profile. With all sincerity, I just can't stop smiling because of your beautiful picture. I would love to know you and be friends with you, that is if you do not mind.
I'm so sorry to bother you. It happened to stumbled through your profile and I thought it will be very nice to make a new friend. It seems you are quite intelligent and pretty. If it OK with you, can we be friends???
@@byungHun-eo9om
Oh. I see you do keep trying don't you. Hope you made some pretty lady friendships. 😊
Interesting how she mentions we're living mostly in a Virtual Reality, lost in thought.
And yet, the fastest growing industry is Virtual Reality....
JamesScottGuitar If people want to experience Virtual Reality, they should try watching the news. 🤣
true but from this logic the industry is "actual" virtual reality, something concrete, which means people will then in reality live in a "virtual reality" virtual reality or virtuality. I wonder how humanity will be affected when photo realistic VR exists and can be experienced through feelings by the general populace - maybe our capability for things like love and compassion changes when we experience events otherwise only available if one had actually seen them or through intuitive imagination such as lucid dreaming.
@@YayaVye369 thats a horror movie.. the skyhooks had it right.!
Like Inception... in a virtual reality in a virtual reality😁
@@user-fs5fc1vv7y I like the way you put that..🤔
Thank you Tara. I am a Christian but these principles do not belong to any certain religion, they are truth and they are so very helpful. This video made me cry, because it helped me to have hope that I really can do this - I can rewire my brain and I don’t have to stay stuck in this negative loop.
Jesus taught us these things, it's just that most people don't make the connection. The church has delivered superficial teachings of his words.. mostly for bringing people into their fold and unfortunately to gain control, but nonetheless his teachings are way deeper about freedom for all men.
I have listened to this several times over the course of years. As talks go, this one approaches perfection; inspiring, educational, emotional, funny and an acute pointer to Spirit. Thanks, Tara.
Me too ❤ helps so much
"We're really not in it alone"......as I sit here listening with all my hypochondriasis and existential anxiety "thoughts"......THANK YOU FOR THIS BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AND HER INSPIRING SPEECH.
wow that story, thanks so much Tara for all your teachings, really helps me shift my perspective and understand others and myself more.
She’s wonderful with a good sense of humour!
Thank you for this🙏🏽 I do need to re listen to this because you have some points that really resignates with my story. Thank you again
For me it takes a superhuman effort to respond and not react. But I will continue to work on this for the rest of my life.
Thank you Tara you are so soothing I relax myself just listening to you I love your story lol thank you so much keep up the good work May the universe bless you with abundance of blessings
Fantastic and the original philosophy of thought stems from Hinduism 🕉
Quote : The thought becomes the word, the word manifests as the deed, the deed develops into the habit, habit hardens into character, character gives birth to destiny.
Lightness, clarity,kindness,humores,sourire ,namastê from Brasil
Very simple
and destiny can lead to problemos, ese, so *watch it*, see?
Explains why the world is in a mess
And Seth says that the Belief becomes the Thought. Very important.
We are what we believe we are. One of the best presentation I ever heard we can break our self defeating thoughts. It takes strength and preseveranc. Thanks 😊🙏.
What a beautiful being and such a powerful message of 💘 love
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
I used to totally believe my thoughts and act on them right away...most times I regretted it and things didn't get better.Im learning slowly to just observe my thoughts but still get trapped in them.Love this talk and so glad I came upon this video now🌻🍃🦋
Thx for this comment. Illtry to )
Every round changes us for the better. So true.
20:18 I love this segment, because mastering my inner dialogue is one of the things I struggle with the most. Even when I know what's the right or most beneficial action to my well-being. "Start with the practice of waking up out of our thoughts. ...notice when we're in thoughts so that rather than living inside them, you're aware that they're happening. The point isn't to get rid of thoughts, but just know that they're there so you don't mistake them for reality. You have a choice. "Please, let me remember. I don't have to believe them".
Thoughts are not reality (subcortical looping) - Love it.
Lord, thank you for sending thí tape my way today!
Have yet to watch this vid so maybe she covered this.....but
the practice of canceling negative self accusatory thoughts with positive re wording is REALLY helpful to self esteem.
As always Tara, a brilliant guided meditation with spices of humour. Thank you immensely 🙏🏽❤️
Very inspiring and insightful. Thank you Tara ❤️
Hello 👋how are you doing?
Thank you so much. I love the wisdom you have to share.
“Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open.” This!! ❤️
thank you for your loving softness
25:32 It's not easy to learn to stay. We habitually avoid, deflect, bypass, ignore.
The Bible states "Take every thought captive". Same idea. Remember we are all children of God and God is love. The problem is many of us don't know how to love and we don't love ourselves because we don't feel loved. The truth is God loves us more than anyone else ever will and once we accept that we are on our way to being more loving.
This was incredibly healing. As I write this, Covid-19 rages through our country and our planet. Minneapolis is burning, and violent hatred is overtaking sanity. I can feel it in my heart. I understand why people want to burn. Last night, I wanted to burn. But, then, I found this. Thank you so much for helping me to center by disbelieving thoughts, being here now and remembering love. In this way, I can move forward and be strong for what is to come.
Daneeta Loretta Jackson
God bless you 🙏.
Around minute 18 she actually mentions police killings, particularly of African Americans. She said, "we can see the fear and the fear meeting each other."
Absolutely...it's best to remain in love....that has the biggest effect on this situation...resist not evil...love is always the answer
I burned sage and stayed indoors.
Daneeta Loretta Jackson the American President needs to watch this !
This is absolutely beautiful and so inspiring, you have such nurturing and wisdom in it ❣
Thank you Tara
This really does help
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Tara you are a precious gift. Thank you for sharing this video with us all and helping me to be liberated x
"THOUGHTS are NOT REALITY.....WE DON'T WANT to FORGET THOUGHTS..THEY ARE REAL..BUT they are NOT the TRUTH....WE DON'T HAVE to BELEIVE OUR THOUGHTS."--Tara Brach
I can sense the good vibrations radiating from you!
The thought becomes the word. It develops into habit. Watch your thoughts
I'm posting weekly motivational speeches every Wednesday where I personally speak to passion and prosperity.
Raise your vibration. Be calmer, focused and attract prosperity and kindness. In 30 days you can raise your energy and change your life. We believe in you. Stop limiting yourself.
Thank you. Change is at hand.
Yay for me!
Thanks you tube for recommending this
WOWOWOW I don't know how you told that story without crying; I;m sure everyone who heard it cried. Thank you for all your practices. You are making such a difference in the world and my life.
no words. I am speechless and in awe 💜
Thank you! This is very powerful!
Its never just a thought..... thoughts are real, they are things and just because you can't touch them, doesn't make them not real.
I feel a sense of calm watching this video.
I got more out of the actual calmness of the soul than the actual message. Wow!
It felt a bit like the afterlife.
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God bless you awesome story, thank you, moving, I cried tears of joy.
What a wonderful, soothing voice, and a great public speaker. Thank you.
thank you Tara
Thank you Tara, I found you through Psychology Today. I want to share this with the world! This talk was truly a life saver for me. I had a nightmare of a childhood and it's continued my whole life. Your talks and meditations were instrumental in helping me put the pieces together. I was misdiagnosed with depression all my life, in and out of psychosis, prescribed anti depressants, cocktails of prescriptions. obsessive behaviors that made me literally brush the enamel off my teeth. Drugs and Alcohol trying to self medicate. At 57 I was diagnosed with bipolar. I started DBT Therapy, even though I knew it was helping some I was still in a fog. I came to realize l couldn't pay attention and realized I had a learning disorder. I changed Dr.s again and it was determined that I've also been living with attention deficit, another new medication! Finally it all started to make sense.. I've come to accept that this was my path. I'm feeling like I'm awakening for the 1st time in my life at 58. I'm not hating myself anymore and I have found the love and light that was always there. I'm on the path with so much gratitude. I can't thank you enough .
Have you read Pete Walker's book on complex PTSD? It's a life-changer.
Thank you so much McFraneth
All the best on your awakening journey Marisa. I too am learning so much from these videos. Tra is just an amazing person to share her teachings with us all. Peace to you.
@@mishuk5043 yes we are. warriors all of us.
Glad FOR YOU😇
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Thank you so very much! You brought so many concepts together in such a beautiful way.
Dear Tara thank you, I needed that today❤️
Thank you for sharing the NOW six years ago ... so beautifully important today.
This could not have come to me at a better time. It really hit home and helped. I plan to listen again, so much to take in. Thank you.
I was just getting ready to post the same thing. Lol I guess a lot of us need this insightfulness.
Same
I agree totally. I listened to this a couple of months ago and now it's pop up again. Time to refreshen!! Thank you Tara for your enlightening words. Peace 🌟💝
Exactly in time as usual thanks to the Universal Law of Love attraction that never mistakes. Beeing trough all this thinking loop attracting the same negative emotions and situations over and over, trying to get rid of them and eventually getting stuck again and again... Living lately on positive affirmations, trying to regain my lost energy with Ho'oponopono, Abraham Hiks Universal Knowledge, Luise Hay Wisdom, Marisa Peer courses, and many more spiritual masters. Now I will definately try to use this kind knowledge and techniques too. Thank you so much.
And again and again and again and again and again and........
Thank you💕 Beautiful explanation 💕
My heart was hurting when I found this video. I’m grateful for the teaching. I was believing my thoughts that I hurt my friend deliberately, rather than sharing a delight I have in words. My sharing triggered her and she accused me of DELIBERATELY hurting her.
I took in her words and believed the thought that I was hurtful, not loving. My heart and stomach have been aching from that thought.
This meditation brought me great relief. My thoughts were much like a child’s, believing that I wasn’t a good person. I got to hear them, to recognize that they are REAL, but NOT the truth. That “child-me” now knows that her love is REAL and she/I is safe and not “awful” or “wrong”.
Blessings!
Thank you so much for sharing wisdom, and with so much grace.
“ Please May I pause!” My new mantra 🤓
Thank you so much. I've never had a mentor before! ❤
This was a profound listen for me. I've been stuck for a year and a half, unable to perform any of what are all manageable tasks. Anxiety and depression over everything surrounding my mom's passing, the onslaught of a physically and emotionally painful mystery affliction that resulted in me isolating myself from all my friends and family, spending most nights in the bathtub alone with my thoughts that vacilated between suicide, questioning my sanity, and anger/playing the victim. Then came a person that even still, I have to fight making excuses for, but is clearly a narcissist. I'm grateful to finally have the strength and sensibility to cut this person out of my life and am also finally not give in to the myriad of thoughts this relationship has plagued me with. I don't have to believe this inner voice telling me I need answers. I'm happy to move from hurt to anger. I'm slowly efforting to develop healthier daily habits such as a daily gratitude practice, and after watching Andrew Huberman's lesson on effective gratitude practices, I realized I didn't have a story of gratitude to reference... Now I do. Thank you for this lesson, and thank you for sharing such a touching story. You're a wonderful speaker and human being.
Emotional brain training by Laurel MELLIN thank you Tara!
Beautiful awakening and tears of clearing. Back to the heart knowing and trusting to let it light my way. Thank you so much!
I've always been a bit dismayed at the way people talk about feelings, such as, "how does that 'make you' feel? "She made me angry". "That makes me sad".
Things happen.
I can react, or respond.
The nature of the reaction is based on the accumulated experiences that are the structure of my "survival ego".
A response, a considered observation of events and circumstances, followed by a rational, loving, understanding, response...that is the goal.
The Dharma is called a "practice" for a reason.
"What we practice grows stronger."
-weezi-💖🙏💜🙏🤠
Thank you Tara 💖 🙏
Buddha Dharma Sanga💖🙏
Hi 👋how are you doing?
question.... what can a parent do to a situation where you ask one of your family for help in a quite simple thing and they react in anger ???. it makes me feel unloved and a pest. I understand theyre in pain too .
Me too. @Patricia Chalmers.
Emotional brain training by Laurel Mellin! thank you Tara! WOW TARA AFFIRMS THE MEN AND CALLS WOMEN TO ACCOUNT! REFRESHING
Don't believe your thoughts..Come into Presence...Be Kind...More Space ...More Ease...Look at the Trees...Thank you for these words to remember so that we can Respond & not react to others...
I have to comment a second time...this talk is so good... I shared with many friends
You have two choices in life:
1. think with your old mental software shaped by your past
2. or get a mental software update with meditation, exercise, eliminating sugar, flour and dairy products and do deep breathing twice a day when you wake up and just before bed by breathing in fast for a count of four while filling your lungs entirely with aromatized air like lavender or a calming scent you prefer and exhaling slowly for a count of eight. Then taking a good shower just before bed. Also, take a multivitamin and chelated minerals just before your last meal of the day that should be four hours before bed time. Finally, do good. When you volunteer to help others for free (that's the key), you really build up the sense that you are worthy and important and that gives you confidence to feel you belong anywhere you are and won't want to run away scared or fight with others and feel defensive.
Thank you, I plan to follow.
good advice David
Can't swallow advice 100% but, all in all, not a bad way to live.
(can't quit my bread & cheese)😊