never saw this video, but your client went through exactly what i went through about the same time. Thinking back, i now have zero doubt she monkey branched. Towards the end of our relationship, she start drifting and say she's busy with work, have work events, want to spend time with friends. Reality is she was busy with work, by going out with male coworker to test the waters most likely 2-3 months prior to ditching me. And you are right... she have very low self-esteem and never had a father figure in her life to raise her to be a proper woman. Just like your client, i was fooled as well, because out of the 9 years with her, she was very loyal. Things fell apart because I became complacent .
Things didn’t work out not because you were complacent. Things didn’t work out because she wasn’t a good woman and she wasn’t willing to put in the time to fix the relationship together. We are human beings with complex lives and will always have episodes of complacency because we are human. Mature respectful people with values who love each other work things out if they are with good partners.
Same story Bro. Picture perfect relationship for 5 years and it all fell apart within one month of the same behaviors. I believe it’s ingrained in their DNA to do this.
update? im in same situation but she monkeybranched into a LDR with this new guy in tunesia (living in germany) , he is the cuisin of her brother in law, do i have any chance?
I've been through the same experience. Being monkey branched is really painful but the only person who can help you is yourself. Take the time to heal even if it's very hard and when you are ready for a relationship, listen to your intuition and don't ignore the red flags.
Small question. If your relationship ended and the girl monkey branches to a co worker, overall do you think that's a positive that your not still in a relationship with this person. Really seems monkey branching is a common thing.
Luke well on the good side of things you get to see who she Really is. 1) if she does monkey branch it shows she has no integrity and doesn’t value loyalty. 2) it also shows she has deeper personal issues (she’s damaged). 3) the positive thing would be that “you dodged a bullet” and you have time to find a woman that is high quality who isn’t like that.
Luke it seems common because most guys enter a relationship in a beta frame. So they attract a woman who is only with them for their provision or the woman is with him Becuase she is lonely/ settling Therefore, the monkey branching will happen at some point When the beta behaviour really comes out, Because she was with him to use him in essence, so as soon as she gets tired she will see no problem in running off to the new guy that she “likes”
Same thing happened to me. We were living together. It's been 3 month in and I'm still destroyed, still crying everyday, still trying to survive. He ripped my heart out and my life completely fell apart.
.. Never been married...Never helped to bring any children into this world... Rich, poor, weak, strong, left, right, or center, I don't make conditions very favorable ("Got Thorns?") for "monkeys" to get near MY tree...Amen!
Hi Christian I'm not sure if you'll end up seeing this. But here's my story My gf and broke up after 2.5 years. In the last few months the relationship was losing its spark, because of covid 19 and quarantine. So obviously we couldn't go out often or meet in person. She broke with me saying we need to take a "break" because she needs to work on herself. I found that really odd and didn't really believe it. 2 weeks later I see her walking off with another guy in a shopping mall. I always asked her after the breakup if there was someone else, she denied it. I confronted her about it and she said only started things with this guy after we broke up with each other. I find that hard to believe because she broke up with me out of the blue. It was a normal lovey dovey conversation till she said "we need to talk". What should I do? Thanks Great video, new sub here and like😊
Hey man! Thanks for the sub! And yes, of course i see your comment. So, sounds like she just dumped you out of the blue and you confronted her and she denied it even though her actions say otherwise. Well, she clearly went behind your back. The best thing you can do is take your time to heal and go no contact. I know there’s more to your situation, so, feel free to send me an email : coachchristiankoziol@gmail.com And fill me in on all the details. And that way you can tell me more about your situation privately and I can give you a more personal in-depth reply.
She clearly wasn’t getting her needs me and there’s more going on. What was her upbringing, her values, there’s alot I need to ask you about her too. So send me an in depth email with your case and that way I can respond to you privately. I will reply with a voice recording too, so you get a more personal reply ( long ones) and if you are interested in a 1 on 1 coaching call, let me know too. Just send me your whole situation in detailed on email. Look forward to hearing from you
Its just so difficult to see the girl i was with 6 years just throws us away and got instantly in a new relationship. It gets me so damaged i didnt see any signs even when i look back to it. The only thing that was suspicious was that she got called one time by a random number and she said she put her number for fun on a wall with her friends. Which i really didn't like, litterally a few weeks later she broke up with me and was with another guy. I was clueless its devestating
(A better overview) - was and is depressed - used to cut herself - does not have a very good relationship with her parents - low self esteem - hang out with her friends a lot - forgets to tell me about specific events such as going with her friend to a hotel - gets called by a random number - showed me no respect at the end - used her phone a lot when i was there and used snapchat a lot more bcs of her friends as well - talking about relationship to her guy friend Idk if those are all red flags but.. i hope you can give some clarity to the situation because on my side it was very confusing as of why she did it. Yes we fought a lot in the end but there was nothing really where she showed me she was replacing me for real.
You overlooked the red flags in the beginning. There’s definitely quite some issues there. Feel free to send me an email detailing your situation and I’ll get back to you
Hi Mr Christian. How about doing a video about a girl sexual history or past? Her 'body count' history? Does it matter? Please take very good care of yourself during this time of crisis.
Is it considered monkey branching if we broke up, but stayed affectionate towards one another in a weird gray area and then she lined up somebody and ended it with me?
If you broke up then she didn’t line someone else up it just means that she just found someone else she wanted. What she did here is keep you in the background for free attention and validation. In this case it’s just a woman using you but at the same time you guys had broken up so you weren’t together so it doesn’t constitute Cheating/ monkey branching. So I must ask this. If you broke up... how could she line someone else up if you weren’t together. Lining someone else up would be if you both were actually together. What else happened in your situation? If you want to send me more details to your situation privately you can do so here: coachchristiankoziol@gmail.com I haven’t seen you comment before, are you a new sub?
I've been through the same experience. Being monkey branched is really painful but the only person who can help you is yourself. Take the time to heal even if it's very hard and when you are ready for a relationship, listen to your intuition and don't ignore the red flags.
never saw this video, but your client went through exactly what i went through about the same time. Thinking back, i now have zero doubt she monkey branched. Towards the end of our relationship, she start drifting and say she's busy with work, have work events, want to spend time with friends. Reality is she was busy with work, by going out with male coworker to test the waters most likely 2-3 months prior to ditching me. And you are right... she have very low self-esteem and never had a father figure in her life to raise her to be a proper woman. Just like your client, i was fooled as well, because out of the 9 years with her, she was very loyal. Things fell apart because I became complacent .
I hope you’re doing well Calvin
I have to add my situation here too... also after more than 9 years probably monkey branched.. completely disappeared
Things didn’t work out not because you were complacent. Things didn’t work out because she wasn’t a good woman and she wasn’t willing to put in the time to fix the relationship together. We are human beings with complex lives and will always have episodes of complacency because we are human. Mature respectful people with values who love each other work things out if they are with good partners.
Same story Bro. Picture perfect relationship for 5 years and it all fell apart within one month of the same behaviors. I believe it’s ingrained in their DNA to do this.
update? im in same situation but she monkeybranched into a LDR with this new guy in tunesia (living in germany) , he is the cuisin of her brother in law, do i have any chance?
I've been through the same experience. Being monkey branched is really painful but the only person who can help you is yourself. Take the time to heal even if it's very hard and when you are ready for a relationship, listen to your intuition and don't ignore the red flags.
Like the way you explain things in your content. Hope your channel grows
Luke thanks luke! I’m glad you enjoy! Feel free to share the channel with your buddies, maybe some of them would enjoy?
Small question.
If your relationship ended and the girl monkey branches to a co worker, overall do you think that's a positive that your not still in a relationship with this person. Really seems monkey branching is a common thing.
Luke well on the good side of things you get to see who she Really is.
1) if she does monkey branch it shows she has no integrity and doesn’t value loyalty.
2) it also shows she has deeper personal issues (she’s damaged).
3) the positive thing would be that “you dodged a bullet” and you have time to find a woman that is high quality who isn’t like that.
Luke it seems common because most guys enter a relationship in a beta frame. So they attract a woman who is only with them for their provision or the woman is with him Becuase she is lonely/ settling Therefore, the monkey branching will happen at some point When the beta behaviour really comes out, Because she was with him to use him in essence, so as soon as she gets tired she will see no problem in running off to the new guy that she “likes”
Luke so if a girl does monkey branch you get to see her true colours and you get to find a better woman, once you heal.
Same thing happened to me. We were living together. It's been 3 month in and I'm still destroyed, still crying everyday, still trying to survive. He ripped my heart out and my life completely fell apart.
.. Never been married...Never helped to bring any children into this world... Rich, poor, weak, strong, left, right, or center, I don't make conditions very favorable ("Got Thorns?") for "monkeys" to get near MY tree...Amen!
Hi Christian I'm not sure if you'll end up seeing this. But here's my story
My gf and broke up after 2.5 years.
In the last few months the relationship was losing its spark, because of covid 19 and quarantine.
So obviously we couldn't go out often or meet in person.
She broke with me saying we need to take a "break" because she needs to work on herself. I found that really odd and didn't really believe it. 2 weeks later I see her walking off with another guy in a shopping mall. I always asked her after the breakup if there was someone else, she denied it. I confronted her about it and she said only started things with this guy after we broke up with each other.
I find that hard to believe because she broke up with me out of the blue. It was a normal lovey dovey conversation till she said "we need to talk".
What should I do?
Thanks
Great video, new sub here and like😊
Hey man! Thanks for the sub! And yes, of course i see your comment.
So, sounds like she just dumped you out of the blue and you confronted her and she denied it even though her actions say otherwise. Well, she clearly went behind your back.
The best thing you can do is take your time to heal and go no contact.
I know there’s more to your situation, so, feel free to send me an email : coachchristiankoziol@gmail.com
And fill me in on all the details.
And that way you can tell me more about your situation privately and I can give you a more personal in-depth reply.
She clearly wasn’t getting her needs me and there’s more going on. What was her upbringing, her values, there’s alot I need to ask you about her too.
So send me an in depth email with your case and that way I can respond to you privately. I will reply with a voice recording too, so you get a more personal reply ( long ones) and if you are interested in a 1 on 1 coaching call, let me know too.
Just send me your whole situation in detailed on email.
Look forward to hearing from you
@@RelearningRelationships I sent the email bro
Its just so difficult to see the girl i was with 6 years just throws us away and got instantly in a new relationship. It gets me so damaged i didnt see any signs even when i look back to it. The only thing that was suspicious was that she got called one time by a random number and she said she put her number for fun on a wall with her friends. Which i really didn't like, litterally a few weeks later she broke up with me and was with another guy. I was clueless its devestating
There’s more to it then that. What red flags were there?
(A better overview)
- was and is depressed
- used to cut herself
- does not have a very good relationship with her parents
- low self esteem
- hang out with her friends a lot
- forgets to tell me about specific events such as going with her friend to a hotel
- gets called by a random number
- showed me no respect at the end
- used her phone a lot when i was there and used snapchat a lot more bcs of her friends as well
- talking about relationship to her guy friend
Idk if those are all red flags but.. i hope you can give some clarity to the situation because on my side it was very confusing as of why she did it. Yes we fought a lot in the end but there was nothing really where she showed me she was replacing me for real.
You overlooked the red flags in the beginning. There’s definitely quite some issues there. Feel free to send me an email detailing your situation and I’ll get back to you
@@RelearningRelationships Will do!
@@HeroesField my ex had same red flags
Hi Mr Christian. How about doing a video about a girl sexual history or past? Her 'body count' history? Does it matter? Please take very good care of yourself during this time of crisis.
Terry Lim good topic. I’ll definitely do that.
@@RelearningRelationships 👍
Terry Lim yes it’s all on lock down here, for s good few months. Stay safe, too.! Thanks for checking in Terry
@@RelearningRelationships You welcome
Terry Lim I’ll do this video topic soon terry!
Is it considered monkey branching if we broke up, but stayed affectionate towards one another in a weird gray area and then she lined up somebody and ended it with me?
If you broke up then she didn’t line someone else up it just means that she just found someone else she wanted. What she did here is keep you in the background for free attention and validation.
In this case it’s just a woman using you but at the same time you guys had broken up so you weren’t together so it doesn’t constitute Cheating/ monkey branching.
So I must ask this.
If you broke up... how could she line someone else up if you weren’t together. Lining someone else up would be if you both were actually together.
What else happened in your situation?
If you want to send me more details to your situation privately you can do so here: coachchristiankoziol@gmail.com
I haven’t seen you comment before, are you a new sub?
@@RelearningRelationships New sub!
If you have any questions, just ask!
If you want coaching, email me.
Enjoy the content. New video up tomorrow!
best way to do? my ex gf do monkey branch on me.
I've been through the same experience. Being monkey branched is really painful but the only person who can help you is yourself. Take the time to heal even if it's very hard and when you are ready for a relationship, listen to your intuition and don't ignore the red flags.