BJJ talk! Why I don't roll with women
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- Опубликовано: 19 ноя 2020
- In this clip taken from AMA 73 coach Zahabi talks about why he doesn't roll/grapple with women.
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So you don’t roll into a lawsuit
Mental strength vs. Biology. Expend and deplete your willpower on some BS that you could simply have avoided, mate. Sounds like a plan.
@lolcano234 I agree. I can understand from a legal standpoint. If a sexual thought pops in your head in the moment just move on and keep rolling. It is what it is. We have a couple women in our gym that compete a lot. If men didn’t roll with them they wouldn’t improve as quickly as they do. Just because I roll with a woman in my gym doesn’t mean I’m going to have an affair with her.
@@mxxkxxg the reason zahabi doesn’t roll with women is because he’s religious btw
🤣🤣
I go to the gym to focus on training and to "solve mental puzzles", why add an extra dimension of stress unnecessarily? Do you realize that there's a reason why most companies have dress codes? But yeah, it sounds like you're the first human to transcend your own biology. Most of us aren't on your level yet. Even Jesus and Buddha wouldn't be caught up rolling with women, but some new age male feminist like yourself obviously has more wisdom than both of them.
no one asks females their reason if they don't want to roll with a guy so I mean it isn't that hard to give the same respect to males
A simple point that somehow gets overlooked by everyone...
@@GraveDigger388 it's due to societal double standards far more of which benefit women then men (in the west)
@@robbybee70 women frequently have to say no because they can see there could be real risk of injury rolling with a dude ...doesn't sound like to much of a benefit eh
@@slowlysmiling12 there are thousands of women who roll tho (maybe millions I can't be sure) and many times they just say no out of hand because they don't want to. far too often I have seen it be that they are trying to get rounds with the black belts rather then 'waste time' with lower belts. sometimes it will have to do with safety as well but that really has nothing to do with my point
Apparently no doesn’t mean no when it comes to men.
Uncle Chael taught us the wisest lesson.....we can’t let them get close 😤
yep
what now?
I liked your comment three times
@@IkesPimpHand 😂😂🤝
dead😁😁😁
"You're ugly enough to roll with" is the compliment of the year
100% GSP rolls with women. Haha! GSP crushing relationships.
Gsp is a heartbreaker! 😂😂
@Artyom Volchenkov EXACTLY 😂😂
He's gonna "push pace" and "take the woman where he want her to go!"
But they never impressed him with their perfomance
@@AkamapD women love men who can go 5 rounds without finishing 😂😂
Did you just insinuate GSP is a home wrecker
"You're ugly enough to roll with" 🤣🤣🤣 am dead
Bro that was hilarious
@@kYA00h you realize its not about the womans thoughts, or the mans in your case, but his own and the struggle to be pure in thought... right?
@@kYA00h depends who I'm rolling with
@@kYA00h you clearly dont understand the struggle being discussed and I don't have enough desire to take the time to explain it.
not what I meant lol, it came out wrong lol. I can't pick and choose which women to roll with.
Can we talk for a second about how it takes a lot of courage to admit and be open about this? For a man to say that you can't roll with women because you're self aware enough to recognize that part of you has impure intentions is not easy, and the more we can open this conversation, the easier it is for males to open up about other uncomfortable topics on the subject that we tend to just hold in, which is unhealthy.
Well said
We can't even state purely biological facts anymore. It's ridiculous.
Impure intentions? What a poor level of self control you have. Not rolling with women, because they are women, is sexist. And trust me, I'm usually calling out people for overreacting but here you put your female students at a clear disadvantage. Imagine you were a teacher in school: sorry girl, I cannot have you in class because of my "impure intensions". Why does her education has to suffer because of what you think. This is really bad.
i roll with girls BECAUSE it's hot
“I might cheat on my wife if I roll with a girl” lmao
As a woman, I appreciate you and your honesty.
" i had to leave my last gym. I had an affair with the instructor"
Goes to new gym right up to the instructor and tell him this after wanting to roll with him.......I don't think she thought this through.
Don't worry it probably didn't happen
@@danwatts2096 😂
@@danwatts2096 did happen. Can confirm. I was the mat
I don't think the story Firas told is true. It stinks of something he made up to justify the awkwardness around women that his religion left him with.
@@shaolinabbott9161 eh idk if it did or didnt, but hey i can only hope to laugh a little and enjoy the day.
*“I NeVEr HaVE a DiRtY ThOuGhT”*
Absolute lies
😂
man , happen few time they on the top trying to kimura kind of things , and it almost become face sitting but we have to stay professional
Yeah but I still dont get why that´s supposed to be a problem? I get "dirty thoughts" no matter who I roll with. That still doesnt mean I turn into an animal that cant control itself...
@OnePlus 7T A holes a hole
@@earthphoenix7068 we're all pink on the inside bruh
@@felixrolls6016 exactly my take on it. because i dont have toxic masculinity or religious stupidity I can be an adult. Ive rolled with women i have a crush on even and for a second I might feel cozy with their thighs wrapped around my head lol. but the fucking world isnt going to end and I can snap out of it. I want them to learn bjj so they can avoid assaults and we are not doing them any good in life if we refuse to roll with them
Why do I sense a bit of sarcasm in the coaches voice when he called the other dudes angelic xD
You would appreciate the sarcasm. Unless your one of them non binary people or perhaps gay 🤔
@@ynnz You mean you realized he was being biased and forgot he was making a "fair" argument for a second? :)
@lolcano234
Martial arts are not designed around gay people .
A gay dude can roll until he gets an erection then.he will.be in trouble.
Also what you are ignoring is and failing to apply your own logic to is - straight guys dont want to roll with gay dudes anyway for the most part and gay dudes should know that.
I find it amazing that all the critics are totally ignoring the sexual nature of humans just as an excuse to.be offended. Ignorance in abundance
@lolcano234
Nobody is forcing the gay guy to roll with men. He can roll with women who accept him or with men who accept.
Just as the MeToo movement lays down the boundaries for themselves, everyone should lay down their own boundaries. A man can refuse to give consent to anyone touching his body just as a woman has the right to refuse to give consent to whoever she doesn't want touching her body.
@lolcano234
Dude STFU, martial arts that involve sparring are not fit for gay people, period.
Lesson - Roll with whoever you feel comfortable with! Also avoid extreme long distance running, go for sprints!
@lolcano234 then you wont learn
@lolcano234 well your point is invalid. Theres tons of guys to learn from but not rolling with anyone better than you is a diffrent thing
@lolcano234 you try so hard to be smart dont you
@lolcano234 Perhaps your point is not invalid but it is a form of fallacious reasoning. Being uncomfortable with rolling with women because of a potential sexual attraction and refusing to do so is in fact different than being uncomfortable with rolling with someone because they are simply better at jiu jitsu than you. Obviously, the latter could directly limit your development. As for your argument about learning more rolling with women: I have absolutely no idea why you would believe a female might be the "best person" to learn from. There are plenty of people to learn from and omitting women from that list is very unlikely to hurt your game.
@lolcano234 Maybe you dont agree with it but its got nothing to do with being weak and you know it
Huge amounts of respect to you and you are a class act. You are a very wise man and BJJ instructor.
My married Brazilian BJJ instructor had several affairs with his female students. I left that gym after I confirmed it with him and he said he was getting a divorce. I don't roll with women as I respect my wife and its against my Christian principles.
Amen 🙏
How do you convey this to other pupils? I am thinking of joining a new gym and would appreciate any advice in regards to this topic.
My gym is full of Christians. I also am Christian and roll with whoever is in front of me because Christianity teaches to respect others and warns against sexualizing them.
@@PM-hh9ur If you are a Christian man, you should NOT be rolling with females. Talk to your pastor.
@@thedetective8150 The idea that women have cooties is not a Christian idea.
The Grand Mufti of MMA has so very eloquently given us a Fatwa on how to avoid the #MeTooPlata lol.
LMAO @ #MeTooPlata 😂👍😁
😂😂😂😂 yooo!!!!
Auahahahah
How does this not have more likes xD # metooplata
@@christopherchin1038 Maybe in a couple years when the move becomes infamous lol.
Spotted lot of angelic men in the comments 😂😂😂
Or maybe there are people out there who actually get pussy and don’t turn into a horny caveman whenever they are in close proximity to a woman
OnePlus 7T stop projecting your insecurity and inability to get pussy onto others.
I can’t I’ll be naturally sniffing her fragrance hair oil and perfume no lie 😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇
@@prandz420 facts it’s been 5 years for me any touch and I’ll go 💦💦💦🍆🍆🍆🌭🌭🌭🌭
@@hemi5.7awdpursuit5 Simp
"These men are angelic" lmao
Or gay's
@OnePlus 7T bro I don't think you know what a simp is.
People who get offended when someone doesn't want to roll with women might want to ask themselves why there are separate changing rooms and showers. Personally, I'm okay with rolling with women, but at my old gym we used to all change together too and no one seemed to care either way. The main thing I don't like about rolling with women is that I can't push on my opponent's chest or use their buttcrack for control.
Ok the same change room with women is just weird man. BJJ is such borderline cult sometimes...
@@hannibalwantsahuggrande3433 We actually just didn't have any changing rooms so that's probably the main reason.
@Zoot jitsu is what it is bro
I think it’s just unfair at a level. If I’m white belt though idk I’m gonna push on your chest whether it’s soft with female parts or not. It’s all respect. I bet some women respect that your not going easy on them.
The bittcrack
"Don't take long distance running too far" seems like a contradiction
Medium distance running GOAT workout
@@CorbinNelsonMMA full speed mile hits hard
I concur. I don't roll with women also out of respect to my wife who doesn't feel comfortable. I do find it odd though that some women are offended by my choice, but I have yet to meet a man who is offended by women who do not roll with men. Not saying they don't exist, just never met one.
yeah its hillarious as they would call men sexist for that but when they do it and have their classes where no men can go its fine? fuck that
Respect
if they are offended definitely shouldn't i'm guessing.
Got respect for you Coach! Takes a man to be open about these things 👍
"takes a man to be open about these things"...🤣🤣🤣🤣
actually being "a Man" is someone who has the balls to admit theyre gay and showing up to an MMA gym...then Crushing People!!!
more laughing🤣🤣🤣🤣
I can see where you're coming from and kudos for speak out on the topic. Takes courage to do so knowadays. I will say that it is your responsibility as a coach to train everyone with a different levels of knowledge and understanding of training/fighting. I'm sure many have benefited from rolling with you in the past and learned a lot. How do you bridge that gap for those you chose not to roll with as a coach?
I don’t feel sexual at all when I roll with women. However, I feel like some women roll too hard as if they are trying to compete with me, when I am rolling softly with them... they’ll dig their elbow into my eye and fight like it’s life or death.
I feel like I roll gently for the most part, but especially so with women. So there’s no winning- if I beat them, so what it’s a girl. If she subs me- I lost to a girl!
@@gagakputih3136 in what way is he trying to be an angel, is it really that hard to not have sexual thoughts when rolling with women? I'm genuinely asking because most of my main rolling partners are men
@@zenmartialartist701 depends how attractive you are tbh 😂
Egos should not be brought to the mat.
Depends on how messed up your mind is. I never had impure thoughts and I’m also a Muslim man. I don’t roll with them now because my religion doesn’t allow me to.
I appreciate you bringing this topic up, Firas, as it can be taboo in today's culture. I roll with women without sexual thoughts, but I don't think it's because of 'purity'. I just view it as a good opportunity to roll with someone closer to my size who doesn't use strength. Everyone is free to train with only whom they feel comfortable, though. Respect.
Exactly. Everyone’s free to do what makes them comfortable. Respect and enjoy bjj. Life’s too short
lol I’m a Muslim man. Although I don’t roll with women now due to my religion. I’m with you on this. I rolled with women in the past without any thoughts. Idk what this guy is talking about speaking for Muslim men like that and generalising.
I have tons of respect for the coach’s honesty
People think this doesn't matter...
There are 3 BJJ gyms in my city and all of them didn't let me train because of this, despite me explaining that it's out of respect not out of prejudice.
I am actually unable to learn BJJ due to an odd form of liberal intolerance.
Those are shitty gyms then brother hope you find another one
same happened to me. I had to switch to GI to find a club. But it worked out for me and found a better club. Try to find one where there are a lot of muslims
@@zubayergillarkyckling7832 bruh i need help man im 14 and way younger than everyone in my class how do i apporach my head coach i dont want to roll with women
@@sayan2368 can u help me out bro
@@legolassonofthranduir33254 you can try To call the receptionist or Email the club before you join them
Coach Zahabi + an impure thought = 🤯
When I first started training a 16 yo girl choked me unconscious in front of everyone. I’m a blue belt now and still hear about that story.
Dayum
@@Slumpthemenace yup. 😂
You're a trooper
How'd that happen? Lol like damn
Way to keep it real, Firas. Outstanding video!!!
I was severely criticized for not wanting to roll with women at a particular gym here in the US. The main instructor went so far as to start bullying me. I ended up leaving that gym due to the constant negative attention I received.
He did the right thing. No place in the western world for someone who cannot treat women as their equal.
@@johanneskrv Totally agree, here in America women are considered equal. Pull that shit in my gym and I would bully you until you left as well.
@@yellowandy Post the name of your school in order for self respecting Americans can avoid it.
@@aburayyaanabuakilah4482 You are a Muslim first and American second, hence your confusion. I'm actually doing you a favor of pointing out your hypocrisy. Perhaps there is still a chance you can change your antiquated view points and join us in the 21st century. I hope you do.
@@yellowandy Maybe you should move to a country where your views are in line with the constitution. Thank you for sharing.
That woman is what they call a "Club wrecker"
I am super new to BJJ and I find this a good way of thinking that creates a stand of integrity with yourself and the sport.
I gotta agree with you, Coach. Everyone should know their limits and boundaries. If they're communicated up front, they should be respected.
I've only rolled with girls a handful of times. Besides the sexual aspect, most girls are so small it's weird to roll with them. I can't really work anything because I'm trying not to crush them.
naa...small girls with skills can roll with bigger guys ..ive seen it and experienced it..some chick's are strong wrestlers regardless of size.. .to each their own but not rolling with women because their women and one may have an impure thought isn't the best reason imo ...
Don't fret about that. We've been smashed by guys most of our adult lives in the bedroom. You're not going to crush us on the mat.
@@CutThroatCat what belt are you on?
We had a big fiasco at our gym because of this. There was a guy and girl rolling and the girl swore up and down the guy touched her in the wrong place, he swore up and down he did not. So from then on out, none of us rolled with girls.
just takes one time for it to be a thing. bullshit
Shit even if he did we're rolling yes I might touch your no no square a couple times its not intentional we're rolling shit happens don't act like I checked your oil or something g
Thats really sad you and your gym would ostracize all women or preclude them from participating in rolling especially when BJJ is already a male-dominated martial art and rolling is such a huge component of it. One bad experience should not make you paint every woman with the same brush. They were probably both right and it was simply unintentional.
@@Meliaison if they were both right then then none of them are right. The girls can still roll they just don’t roll with men, because of this reason. The gyms right, all it takes is one lawsuit, bad comments and next thing you know, they lose all their credibility and business.
@@Meliaison thank God it's a male dominated sport, would suck to have to switch martial arts
She was hitting on you coach
When I first started jiu jitsu I was terrified of rolling with women for two reasons. I didn't want to accidentally hurt them and I was worried I would have those intrusive thoughts. When my coach finally paired me with one I was quickly realized that I had bigger things to worry about when the black belt had me in a triangle that I wasn't prepared to counteract. To each their own absolutely but I am no longer nervous about it, I try to treat them like any of the guys.
Wait until you roll with someone you’re attracted to, do t act like you can roll with any women and be fine. You haven’t experienced enough.
@@manny45629 I have never rolled with a jiu jitsu girl that wasn't hot.
@@desmond3399 yeah well said. I love women. I’m always chatting them up. So trust. Me I’m probably the worst example. But when it comes to rolling with a women. I can honestly say. Those thought don’t pop in my head at all. I’m to tired and exhausted where I’ve been rolling with others to even think about that. I just get on with it. I don’t think that at all. But if I do ever start pitching a tent while rolling. I’ll let you guys know 😂😂
each his own decision. You are fine and another man who doesn't want to roll with women is fine too. That should even be a question
@@jimmybaldwin737 you and Desmond are both these "angels" the coach was talking about in the video then 🤣 personally I don't believe either of you but to each their own
I understand your reasoning coach and I agree. However, I'm still curious as to how you (being one of the most accomplished mma coaches) might deal with a female UFC fighter that was asking you to help her with her bjj. You would show her techniques I am sure, but would you let her practice it on you? Or in a live rolling situation? Or would you simply tell her to go roll with some of your other high level students?
That is the first thing I ask in a gym & I am not even a Muslim. It is just my personal preference. I always say, "I don't want to risk sexual harrasment case." Then the coach will start thinking, then he realizes I am a paying customer & agrees anyway.
Smart man.
You spend time with person, you learn about that person.You connect on some level because you are not robot.You find out what is comfortable and what not.You both want to be comf with each other and start to please each other.Little tiny step by step you start to like each other, you are bonding 100% natural.thats how ppl work and become friends or more.The problem is someone will get hurt if you dont have same goal or if someone is married.Thats why we believe in prevention.God told us what not to do, He knows how we roll :)
Yea god created you to be male and to have sexual desires because of the testorone in your system. It’s literally out of your control to be lustful or want to have sex with women. Why would he create you with such chemicals in your brain yet not want you to have sex? Makes no sense all other male species fuck as much as they want because it’s what evolution programs you to do
@@hkmma6543 Well..
-you need that urge to keep life going and its beautiful when you have wife and take care of her and that beautifull babys.
-if everyone goes around and fck as much as the want a lot of viruses would come, nobody will take care of each other and everyone would have kids more than you can handle.emotionaly ppl would be faked.i can write a book about whats wrong with all of that and if you add alkohol in that it is horror.think and controll yourself or be controlled by the things that have power over you cuz you cant controll you :)
You’re absolutely right coach. You also don’t want to be charged or accused of sexual harassment.
As a woman, I think it's totally cool for someone to say they don't want to roll with me. I don't even expect a reason. Maybe it's because I'm a female, maybe it's because I stink, maybe it's because they're scared of me. I don't care. Not my business. I respect their decision and would never take it personally. Hopefully people would have the same respect for me if the roles were reversed.
I would guess that most men who refuse to roll with you are afraid you'll make them look bad.
@Jon Christopher Gentle sobbing... lol. I thought dudes were sobbing because I was hurting them. Damn.
Lol noone is scared of you sweety
Its not because u smell. Its because ur a woman and being that close with a woman makes u think dirty. Those types of encounters lead to sex and everything. And if we r being honest here why r women in a male environment why not just have a female led environment where women can train with each other
@@KD400_you're all over this comment section! We get it, you don't like women.
My first BJJ gym I trained at closed because one of our coaches had an affair with one of the students, best training partners I ever had and I miss that place
That´s pretty common but not due to rolling.
HAPPENS 9/10 coaches or men with higher power fucking around with students or even interns, been there for a long time
@Ray Why did it close because of that?
@@Seneida the coaches had a falling out after that, The head coach was also the owner of the gym and couldn’t run the gym by itself so he closed it
@@Seneida not hard to figure out lol
Lol. I always enjoy listening to you coach. You’re funny and you make good points.
Glad someone made this video
There is a difference between having thoughts and acting on those thoughts. If a man has trouble with acting on certain sexual thougts, or if he wants to avoid the dilemma as a whole, then it's probably a good thing he avoids rolling with women.
However, it's very important for women to roll with men. The majority of women practitioners are looking to be able to defend themselves against men. If you don't give them that opportunity, then you might be doing them a disservice if and when the time comes for them to apply their skills in real life.
To be fair, I'm a single guy and I don't have the problem of having "impure" thoughts towards women who are not my wife
Very well said. Refusing to roll with women is robbing them of the opportunity that they started training for.... to be able to defend themselves against men! I’m married and continue to roll with women and doesn’t bother me a bit, doesn’t bother my wife, and I’m certain the women I roll with think I smell funny, sweat a lot, and the last thing they’re thinking of is me in some kind of sexual way.
Good point
That's ur problem u think they can defend themselves against men. They wont be able to. Most men r large maybe untrained but u don't know what they carry or if they have other guys around them
@@KD400_ you're making a lot of generalizations.
I don’t let thoughts control me and I do not judge myself on my thoughts. I will roll with anyone. If an inappropriate thought comes into my mind, it is just that, a thought. My actions and conduct are far more important.
Yeah but...a lie can become the truth real quick
mashallah Akhi, some Coaches unfortunately say doesnt matter if you roll with men or woman so if you deny they say you are not on the right place sothat either you train with them or you have to left
Could someone please help me.
When I roll with women at my gym, the guys would laugh at me and now I stopped rolling with the women and now they are all mad at me. What I'm I supposed to do cause I don't wanna be a douchebag.
This reminds me of when people say they don't drink because they fly off the handle and over drink.
It’s true. I don’t because I have an addictive personality.
Let them hate. It’s your gym. You aren’t being malicious, society makes it what it is so avoiding it altogether is not a bad prerogative.
Coach keeping it a stack 💯
This guy has so much dignity and and ethic
I don't know about this view. I'm bisexual - does that mean I can only learn with Gracie jiujitsu online academy?
According to coach that means you can't differentiate between the sport and sexual activity unless you're some sort of angelically pure being. His mindset is really creepy.
only the part that likes boys
@@Kiwipai it's funny the way he says it, but yeah, also creepy when you think about it
This view doesn't apply to me either. I'm straight but my sexual drive isn't intense enough for this to be a problem. I would think also that it would depend on what you're into. If you like spandex and autoerotic asphyxiation then maybe it would be more of a problem lol. In the end though, I don't think this is something that the individual would have much control over. Perhaps it would be creepier is Firas decided to roll with women knowing he had these inclinations. I don't think he's trying to force this perspective on everybody. I think he was just trying to eliminate stigma surrounding who people decide to roll with. He is probably fed up with people taking the moral highroad when it comes to this topic.
thats tuff
Sensei mis respetos!!! Creo que es super incómodo hacer sparring con una mujer que te impone. Es un hecho y hay que aceptarlo. Sigo sus consejos!!! Éxitos
Thank you for reaffirming that I am dead inside...or pure of heart 💜🤙
As a guy, I only roll with women, because I’m gay.
As a bisexual, I only roll with ugly people
I think women should acknowledge the fact that out of respect some men don't roll with women. This is obviously a good thing for society.
Angelic group reporting
thanks for breaching this topic, does this also apply to sparring with women?
I got submitted by a woman in my second lesson, very humbling.
Coach Zahabi, you made me laugh hard! 👍😊
When I started jiu jitsu the women I rolled with were so much better at the time that I was just trying survive and not get injured.
Train 1 year powerlifting and do pushups. Then roll with them .
Lmao any time a guy says this I scratch my fuckin head. They can have 10x technique but it doesn't matter. Me big.
Been training for about 30 years, so glad l came across this video. Thank you for breaching this subject.
shows how far we have gone from common sense. Only an idiot i think would want to roll with women in the age of #metoo's. I just watched a video before this of a feminist woman saying she got assaulted at 3 different gyms. maybe she did, seems though feminists do this for clout so can get on the man bashing wagon....plus look at womens porn searches and rape fantasies ie being dominated at the top of the list. Normal roll with a chick, she plays it in her head that many times and she twists a nomal roll into sexual assault. Plus you rolling with a weaker person what are you learning? costs seem to massively out way the positives.
I understand your point coach but I don't think this is helpful for women in a self defense situation. In a self defense situation, no one is like, "well, you're a women so I won't rob you". How can women effectively practice self defense against half the human population (men), who are just physically stronger and bigger then them? Unless you're used to practicing with people who are big and strong, you're going to be suprise when you have to use BJJ for self defense against a bigger and stronger men.
There are men who will help them, just not him
@m ab it's always the individual's choice. If the individual (women) is uncomfortable with wrestling men, than it's their choice and NO ONE should force them to do anything. But I won't be a prude and be like, no, I will not roll, wrestle, or spar with women. Martial arts and self defense is genderless. As a progressive person, I want to end the culture that martial arts is only for men. At the end of the day, it's intention. Why are you there everyday at the gym? Are you there to work? To improve your skills? Training for competition? Or are you just there to dick around and hit on people?
@@stevenshar1233
Double standards are always a problem.
A woman can choose whoever want to spar with or avoid people and a man not? What a bullshit is this!!
Everyone is free to train who they want with. Period.
I don't care at all if a woman is training for self defence. If I feel unconfortable for any reason, I don't train with her.
You're there to learn ...period.
Oh you beautiful angel..
@Ahmed AlThlathini I'm just highly competitive and I will take all the training time I can seriously.
@@xaviergovindan9966 you wouldn’t enjoy grappling laura sanko? Right 😂
Do one on rolling with people that don't shower.
@lolcano234 in Islam, it’s said you can’t make physical contact with a woman unless she’s your wife. I don’t get what the problem with this point is?
@lolcano234 but it’s his gym. Are you gonna try to kick him out of his own gym? And plus God and faith matters more than anything else, even more than martial arts so we put that before anything else. I don’t care if you grapple with woman but people of faith that are also married wouldn’t want a woman have them in full mount.
@lolcano234 I’m pretty sure he doesn’t care if others in his gym roll with women. He just said it’s his own choice that he doesn’t roll with them. If he said every man in this room can’t roll with a woman then I see your point but he doesn’t. It’s just his personal choices, that is all.
@lolcano234 and I already did answer but you didn’t read it. I said faith matters more than martial arts. This goes beyond hobbies or passion.
@lolcano234 first of all, talk without crying. Secondly like I said, when we all die on this earth, nothing else will matter except for how well we followed our faith. You will never understand this concept because you’re an atheist so if you don’t agree with me then what can I do? Go live your life and I will live mine. And there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to roll with women. Women who feel uncomfortable rolling with men are always given the option to instead roll with other women. So I don’t see why when religious people don’t want to roll with women because they are uncomfortable you make a big fuss. Also it’s your coach’s gym yes?? So he can do whatever he wants, so I don’t give a shit if he kicks out people. It’s his gym. Why would I care.
I like the honesty here, thanks for sharing Firas. You should be allowed to roll or not roll with whoever you want. That said, from my perspective, it makes sense to be open to rolling with women, because it helps them improve. If nobody wanted to roll with women, it would be more difficult for them to improve.
Your opinion is spot on it erases anything that COULD happen, if you havnt coached young to teenage girls then you dont no what your dealing with
I think this guy is the most sensible guy involved in MMA
Easily.. He's a genius
Ever hear of Khabib time ...
@@jinyow5581 yeah he is pretty sensible ,but he did lose the plot after Conor fight
@@numbnutone True, yet when a Man that respects all others .Is disrespected by disrespecting his Father his Country his beliefs an himself .Even Khabib, is but still a Man .An the Eagle Soared ...
@@MrMojo13ification Thanks could not of made it without you .😉
There is a hierarchy at a mma or bjj gym. The instructors are at the top of it and women are instinctively attracted to men at the top of the hierarchy. The instructors are only human and when an attractive women is making it known that she's ready as soon as he makes a move, given enough time most will succumb to her womanly charms.
Great conversation topic also you’re hilarious.
I appreciate the honesty and it’s something not talked about very often.
Thank you again professor
It's not that I don't have impure thoughts if the girl is attractive. I just roll with it. It's like if you have a conversation with an attractive woman, you don't have to try win them over, you can still have a civil conversation whilst undressing them with you mind. Still I get as a head coach this rule is probably something you have adopted over the years as you roll with more and more people. So it's probably a circumstantial matter, plus you're the head coach which gives you a lot of power and changes your relationship dynamic compared to ours.
If I’m ever paired with a woman I go “fcuk!” In my head. Because every bjj position could be interpreted as sexual and make a woman uncomfortable. Unfortunately as a 135lb male at a gym where most males are 175lbs+ I get paired with females more than others. I’m more focused on not making her uncomfortable than actually learning techniques and training.
It's just something you both gotta get over.
@@ghengiskhan9308 WTF!?
what do you mean WTF? youre both there to train to get better. Grow up and act like an adult.@@aabdo1770
But isn't rolling with your student a good way to assess their progress thought :( ? I feel like they're missing out.
Salaam brother Firas much respect to you. I have a request- please make more videos on Islam and philosophy I find the way you articulate your points fascinating, very level headed, thought provoking and can have real life benefits. Inshallah you see this message but regardless peace to you and your family much love
This is about rolling or not with women, not about religion.
@@markusbarth1 its coming from a religious perspective for fyras..
For me its a lot less about impure thoughts, i just feel bad about rolling with women because im more conscious about hurting them, it also feels infair to just power out of a lot of stuff they try and do. Then again im pretty new what would i know
Use it as opportunity to focus solely on technique. Don’t power through or out of stuff, bury your ego and realize you might get submitted.
I can’t wait to roll with a hot chick
Firas can do what he wishes without having to justify himself. We live in a time where everything is perceived as “offensive” especially when it comes to women, all thanks to these extreme feminists. You often put your hands in certain “areas” of your opponents body during grappling which is inappropriate for a male to do to a female - so I totally agree with Firas personally. Let Firas be and as for the guys and girls that oppose Firas - if you don’t like it, don’t follow him and just get on with your own God damn lives!
Underrated comment. Well said dude
@lolcano234 he's a grown man and can make whatever choice he wants it's his gym not ours
@lolcano234 it doesn't lessen anything that's your opinion
@lolcano234 you act like his gym is the only gym in canada and that he's the only trainer at his gym they don't loose any experience if they train with someone at the gym that will
@lolcano234 you point makes little sense at all one man's choice to roll with women somehow fucks over every women in canada? It's one man compared to the millions in canada if somehow he dictates women's progress in grappling then those women shouldn't be grappling if one dudes choice affects them all
i love the hypocrisy in some of the comments, you would have said jack*** if it was a woman that said she doesn't feel comfortable rolling with men. you don't need to agree with it or even like it, if you don't like it then just move on. you can't force people to do things and break their own personal principles/ boundaries while maintaining freedom.
he didn't sign on a contract that he would roll with women, so him maintaining a principle of not rolling with women is fine. i bet there are many women that don't roll with men not because they think men are stronger or better technically but because they don't feel comfortable being in the positions you are put when you roll and that's perfectly fine.
If women didn’t roll with men, they’d have nobody to train with. Men having these types of views ostracize women within clubs, and is one of the many reasons why female representation in combat sports is so low.
@@ashleyfrancke doesn't matter he didn't give his consent to any girl to roll with him or is consent only matters when women give it?
Stumbled onto this video and my mind was more on whether or not I should try to talk to women in the gym.
the part you were talking about men who grapple with women and say we don't feel nothing that was really funny lol holy men got bless
Look at the statistics of personal trainers who have relationships with their clients.
Look at the statistics of women who've been able to defend themselves and potentially save their lives cause they trained with bigger, stronger men. I bet you could actually find some stats on that.
A survey (I accept its not academically reliable statistics) suggests 1/4 women have had a relationship with their pt. It’s very common.
@@juniorslice9618 lololol
@@JoeyJ1984 sweet response.🤣🤣🤣👍
Bringing up such thjngs isnt the issue. Just let people do what they will ik terms of these things for what reason they have. I personally, dont really care too much, because I know what I am doing. If the woman or man is a good person, they wont do bad, and some of those will avoid any temptation to do bad.
Realistically you can get used to anything after a while. I used to have female roommates in college, and the first few weeks were awkward but after a while, they become like sisters.
Lololol he's right, it's impossible BUT I try my best to mitigate that feeling, i keep rolling and it usually goes away.
Do you think being a balance fighter is the best for fighting also be good at freestyle wresling and folkstyle wresling and kickboxing and Brazilian jiu jitsu to 🤔
Coach we need more live AMA soon ... possibly just philosophical AMA .. please do it soon
100% true coach
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i think whether you’re a student or instructor would change the situation
Its really inspiring actually how you answer this question with no apologies even though you're giving the politically incorrect answer. Most would be too afraid to do that.
Ahahaha right! That's what I love tho. Because in my mind being politically correct doesn't always mean logical. He's just saying what were all thinking.
Lmao its a shame what this society has come to
It’s the politically correct thing to say in Islam and he’s an Islamist, what is there to respect?
@@Disinfo321 his honest and reasonable approach
He's not an "islamist". He's a Muslim.
My man Firas rocking the Imperial Japanese flag on the thumbnail
How do you have time for an impure thought when you're in the middle of a fight?
Firas is such a wise dude. There was this guy at a gym i used to go to and he had the smoothest whatsapp pickup lines, he would always dump every girl after a week then go for another, every time these girls got so mad that they quit training after making a little scene, those scenes made other people quit cause the felt it was to uncomfortable to tolerate and after losing several student my Sensei had to expell him and boy he suffered because he trained him all the way to Brown belt.
I knew there was a good justification for why I hate running
I wasn’t comfortable when I first started, simply because I wasn’t confident controlling my weight (250). Now it’s honestly not a big deal at all. I just usually play guard, or focus on different passing I usually don’t try. I can recognize a girl is attractive and not have it ruin my training. I also don’t assume she wants to fuck me either. I’m honestly there to train, I’m not really in that mindset. I’m sure most women feel the same, I can respect anyone’s decision to not roll with anyone but the mocking/patronizing tone is weird on this one coach. And I say that with much respect. Sometimes my classes only have one woman in them. If we all thought like that she wouldn’t be able to train. And everyone at the academy has a right to train.
I think the sarcastic tone was mostly aimed at people who criticise people who criticise his point of view
I couldn't agree more with everything you said. It's also disturbing seeing people defend their reasoning saying 'I just dont want to be tempted to do anything'. It really shouldn't be hard to not sexually harrass someone. What do people even think is going to happen if they roll with someone they think is attractive? That she's gonna get pregnant?
I also feel like a coach should train with all his students in order to understand them and help them improve.
@@Wenutz sure. And again I can understand a lot of reasons for not wanting to roll with someone. Risk of injury, hygiene, etc. But the one in video doesn’t hold much merit for me. I’m a young guy, I get what coach is trying to say. But I’m also an adult. I’m not trying to be some “angelic” person because I can recognize I’m at my academy to train, not hunt for pussy. And I know women would benefit more from training with other women. But its not an option for a lot of women who train. We’re teammates. I’ve learned from higher level women.
finally someone with some sense and basic manners. it just shows how immature he is and how he excessively objectives women. So much so, that he can't see them as humans, as students, as doughters or mothers that are coming to his classes to train and to learn to defend themselves. He can only see them as possible sexpartners. The moment he touches them the last bit of decency would melt away. What an animal. This attitude is a disgrace. Especially to someone in the position of a teacher.
If you had a super model wrap her legs around your neck, would you still hold the same position?
Amazing perspective
Thank God finally a man standing up and saying this shit.
so the next question is do you roll with gay guys?
Depends on whether i can defend the take-down
@@rafnaegels8913 lol
The scenarios are different. As a heterosexual male I wouldn't even know if the guy I'm rolling is gay unless he told me. The one who has to decide whether he can handle the sexual tensions would be the gay dude since there would be no tension on my end (pause).
On the other hand if I'm rolling with an attractive woman I'd have to deal with unwanted sexual tensions when my mind should be on the grappling. I'd be grappling with my own biology as well which adds unnecessary stress.
@@bez1196 or you could focus on rolling for a minute and not be immature
Gay guys are guys. Tbh rolling with women you have you not use certain parts of the body (near the chest or butt even if you go for an upper c leg take down) the upper c single leg take down gets pretty close to the forbidden area and some might not feel comfortable with that. However, having rolled with gay guys they don't care about any of that they are too busy trying to choke me out lol
If it's just limited to rolling I guess it's upto you who you want to roll with. What happens when the whole class moves one spot to the new partner. In our gym in certain classes (about twice a week) we do specific training in this format. Where 10-12 students stay on the mat in a specific position and their partners move on to the the next person after one minute. This happens for 10-15 minutes and by the end of the class you have had a roll with everyone in the opposite group. It will be awkward to say oh I don't want to roll with you because you are a man/woman and it will disrupt the structure of the class. I guess a person limited this way will have to skip these classes.
I tell all the instructors of whatever gym I'm going to that I don't roll with girls. The women in class get to know this as well over time so we just skip each other when it's our turn to pair up.
@@osamahassen I have heard that many bjj gyms kick out the people who refuses to roll with women.Is it true?
“Don’t take it too far!” 😂😂😂