Divorce: Iranian Style (Global Documentary) | Real Stories
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- Опубликовано: 5 апр 2016
- Hilarious, tragic, stirring, this fly-on-the-wall look at several weeks in an Iranian divorce court provides a unique window into the intimate circumstances of Iranian women’s lives. Following Jamileh, whose husband beats her; Ziba, a 16-year-old trying to divorce her 38-year-old husband; and Maryam, who is desperately fighting to gain custody of her daughters, this deadpan chronicle showcases the strength, ingenuity, and guile with which they confront biased laws, a Kafaka-esque administrative system, and their husbands’ and families’ rage to gain divorces.
With the barest of commentary, acclaimed director Kim Longinotto turns her cameras on the court and lets it tell its own story. Dispelling images of Iran as a country of war, hostages, and “fatwas”, and Iranian women as passive victims of a terrible system, this film is a subtle, fascinating look at women’s lives in a country which is little known to most Americans.
Directed by Kim Longinotto and Ziba Mir-Hosseini, author of Marriage on Trial: A Study of Islamic Family Law.
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"you must make yourself attractive to tempt him back"
"i wasted my youth and my life in this man's house". heart breaking :(
The Straggletag it was painful to hear that 💔
TheoXaris no she never !!! She spoke with her uncle on the phone , he said she went out without me ! God forbid a woman having a right to go out
Speechless...
@@margleentp9118 same here
TheoXaris you might be another chauvinist
“You must live together for 3 months after the divorce”. I’m sorry, what?! The woman said it, “What if he does something to me?” What a set up for disaster.
Because they act according to their religion and in their religion it is compulsory for women to live together with her husband for atleast 3 months even after their divorce which according to me is totally absurd i mean what if she has a threat of life from her in laws and husband.
DIVYA SINGH
Absurd is right! My questions are: is this 3 month rule mandatory for all cases? What if there’s documented abuse & danger of serious harm/death? Is it still required?
No no no, they are doing it wrong, at least not as Islam said to do it, when a couple gets a divorce, the woman should not get together with another man for at least 3months just to be sure she isn't pregnant that's all, they should not live together, once divorced they should live seperately
Ikram Benguesmia
THAT makes much more sense to me. But that’s clearly not how it’s being applied. Like many religious based laws (from all religions), they get twisted.
@@t.l.1610 I think it depends on the country, i.e it is not applied like that in my country, and women have the right to get a divorce when needed as well as living separately WHILE divorcing and AFTER, Iran really have some strange laws even to me as a Muslim
I watched this about 7 years ago and it popped back up n my feed today. Still shocking to see a young teenage girl trying desperately to divorce her old husband. Old men have no business messing with young teenage girls. He is old enough to be her father. So disgusting. Loved the clap back, "Serves you right for marrying a 14 year old girl."
age does not matter. what matters is respect and love and his ability to take care of her. if he is a good man, she is lucky to have him.
@@lancelotthomas1887Age DOES matter. A child should not be forced to marry, especially to a much older man. That isn’t being “lucky”, that is being raped. She should be in school getting an education. You must not think that being a girl or woman is worth much.
@@kgs2280 it is not rape. they are not children. you are brainwashed. she is a female. he is a male. it was intended by god that the man and woman should be together. a girl becomes a woman at her first period. god does not say a man should be a certain age or a woman either. even in the west, there is disagreement about the age of consent. is 14 too young? is 18 too young? is 30 too young? it depends on the individual. it is not man's place to say this. God says that so long as they treat each other with respect and kindness and love, that is what matters.
@lancelotthomas1887 you're probably a questionable person. Young girls don't want old, dried up men. Age does matter.
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The little girl playing the Judge was priceless. She has some wisdom about life. She would be a good judge.
Yes but she cant :)
Hi everyone In my country, Iran, these inhumane laws are still being implemented, none of the international organizations help us and only express concern. In 2021 to 2023, according to the statistics of the Iranian authorities, there were 27,000 cases of child marriage, that is, the marriage of girls under the age of fifteen. No one really hears the voice of us Iranian people Another interesting law, which is the most brutal, is that if a father sees a mistake in his child, he can kill his child according to the order of Islam, but Islamic law says that because the father created his child, he can also end his life. These are only a small part of the ruling laws. It is on my country. Hoping for a day when peace reigns in the whole world ✌🕊
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@@rezanakhaei5272lol, where are you getting you're information from.
In Islamic law Right of execution is the hands of court NOT individuals, execution by an individual is called vigilantism (taking law into your own hands) which is prohibited in every law, as all laws want power to be with court. A person can kill another only in case of self defence.
Also execution of guilty is conducted in few cases like murder, r pe, adultery etc
You're trying to portrait a false image of that "My son plays fortnite all-day, I'll execute him'
ridiculously funny how much lack of information or tendency of lying you have.
Lmao Stop lying now.
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Majority of iran approves Present Government and blame U.S sanctions as the cause of decline in their economic growth.
@@xdkankaxd5427 she can be. a woman can be a judge
As it isn’t enough, the judge is pushing the little girl to say that she wants to get married and... the little girl best reply :”I don’t want to get married after I’ve seen here in court what husbands do to their wives!” What a priceless reply! Good job little girl!
a very smart little girl.
I hope you understood the judge was juste kidding her 🧐
@@a.b4531 That little girl was the most intelligent person in that court......she will be a judge one day and hopefully make some major law changes in that country
@@terishaw7364 she's in Iran genius. Women can't wonder in public without a man in Iran let alone become judges. This doc is probably 20 years old and all the females have been stoned to death.
@@EIPepe305 Yes you are right.... I looked it up... It is 20 years old. Such a shame these archaic laws are still in practise.... I wonder if that little girl is now one of the many Iranian woman under house arrest or in jail for protesting their freedoms.... Here's hoping something will change soon. 👍
The worse part was when the lady who worked in the court started talking against the woman who had divorced and remarried. Women against women is even worse tan men against women
@@abuqatada2389😂😂😂 I am not feminist but you talk like someone from medieval age and believes Earth is flat. All I know is that women and men are equal. It is era of information and knowledge ...pls don't be such ignorant , birdbrained person . I just feel pity for you . How someone could be this ill-informed . Learn again from ABC so that you could property read and understand that there is not place for you spout moronic idea that women are below men . Speak fact will you, so that I can be little bit understand your unintelligent sentences
Enkhzul Ulziibayar How can you justify the claim that men and women are equal? Nature disagrees with you
@@abuqatada2389 Oh so ever beholded natural biological strength which would be only useful for athletic competition if there is no war, any kind of violence which might stem from ignorant people like you. Don't be such coward to only talk of nature and seek more realistic fact. I suddenly remembered joke which will perfectly fit you "Don't be scared of zombies, they eat brains and you are safe" 😂😂😂
Oh there is another instance which you could your strength : Beat your chest and scream that you are King of Forest... Yes I just compared you to monkey 😉😂😂 Don't look down on monkey 🤔, they were our ancestors like millions of years ago😂😂😂
Let it be end of our argument .
SOOOO TRU
@Lance Penguin You were speaking invention? Oh I mean it was like hundred years ago until women were allowed to same school men attend. And if you wanna talk from this point and seems like you know invention and histories. I would like to ask you to clarify few points starting from daily questions.
1. Whom where you born from
2. Whom took care of you and your education (I would understand if you didn't have mother)
3. Why are you so against equality? Afraid that women are better than you or noone will babysit you like your mom?
4. All those invention you talked about how many of them were males , why were they able to make these invention?
5. Until 20th century, there was hardly any educational institute that accepted women. Why ? If they did, would women's contribution equal to men?
6. Why is majority of histories tyrant and cowards are male and why women always seem to bear responsibility?
I'm Iranian and every second of this film hurt me, it reminds me of my life in Iran. Very sad and heartbreaking... Every second
Where do you live now?
Wish you could go to a country that respects their women
So true, I can’t stop crying , it happened exactly the same to me and my poor little two kids when I was in Iran and got divorced… I had no right as a woman in Iran and I never forget those horrible days, but finally 6 years after divorce with so many ups and downs and unbelievable fights and miracles I was able to scape from Iran with my two kids and come to US . It was a miracle more breathtaking than movies…we have a happy life here and we all are very successful. We are so grateful and no one know what we have gone through. We were so lucky but unfortunately end of the story of most divorced women and theirs kids are so sad.
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How hard was to escape Iran?!? Did you had to go to neighboring countries? I am just trying to understand how difficult it must be because women are not allowed even to go outside without their husbands permission… so, to get in a plane alone, with kids?!? Must be really hard…. Glad for you and the kids!
I’m so happy for you to live in America and to be successful ❤
Not without my daughter....book story
How can they take her daughter like that? It is inumane. So awful I would like to know how this woman is now.
The 2nd woman! She's so pushy with things, she knows how things work, she knows why they "lost" her file. They play games on her, she teaches them the rules! ❤️
LOST? BURIED!
I felt so sorry for these women.
What is wrong with you? Why they lost her file??? They just lost it or can't find it right now!! Don't judge what you don't know
I'm surprised the husband wasn't in there before her filing for divorce. I bet she's pushy like that at home all the time and talks to down to him.
I would be pushy too considering the husband and his crazy family.
Judge: you must make yourself attractive to win him back
Woman: I don't want him at all
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Hes a duch bag as a man, this is Islam at its finest
Faustina Kavoa
Ha! Right! I love that woman. You go girl!
@@kronos01ful This is not even in islam get lost
@@muslimproudtobe what are you talking about ? ... Do you have any idea who Muhammad is?
@@kronos01ful I know more then you
Most of these stories are sad, but the divorce over "sexual problems" and the turmoil they cause in the court room is absolutely hilarious.
I loved her
The little girl playing judge brought me so much joy I hope the opportunity to actually be a judge one day is available to her
Won't happen in Iran or in a country where Islam is the law.
Be a judge in a civilized court , not a 7th century sharia court
The son who stood up for his mom seemed very sweet, hopefully when he got married, he treated his wife with love and respect.
who can tell? even he himself can't guarantee it
(like) man (like ) son
Didn't he murder his wife for actually no reason? Was in the news.
@intriguing Woman there's a high possibility. my brother is 40 years old and hates the idea of marriage
@@scopolamin1 reallly?
Damn that 16 year old girl is so smart, playing it from all sides, humble, brave, brash, strong, innocent. She should take that marriage gift and get a law degree.
Cursing is a sin
Islam gives the woman the right to take her marriage gift, the only thing a woman can get after a divorce, but as it seems 99% just give up their gift since men all play games with them and don't give the gift and it's apparently very legal. This is Islam, a religion for no woman.
It breaks my heart to see someone so smart and brave stuck somewhere with such little opportunity for her.
@@whelkpeopleofdoom blame her parents, both her mom and dad who married her to that slug. women in Iran have a right to a marriage contract she can ask whatever she want in there even education, if she didn't do that and that's her problem. She can even ask for a ferrari or a bungalow, if the husband didnt give it then she can divorce him.
@@surgigi1582 it’s Islam combined with politics. Receiving it at the end makes no sense, I would never allow it. I don’t know if their laws make it like that, or if it was an agreement between the couple. Overall this is a broken system where the judge puts little emphasis on the shortcomings of the men in the video.
Jamileh brought tears to my eyes. You can truly see she means she loves her husband and just wants him to behave.
This is all a bunch of fake news.
This is such an extraordinary documentary on so many levels. Almost each of these micro-stories has a very dramatic arc but with moments of tenderness and even humour. The incredible ability of the women to fight for their rights, still hoping they will obtain them, even though they constantly hit a brick wall, are judged as always being at fault, and are even given so many hurdles to jump and expected to renounce was nothing short of inspiring. Even the very young woman and the child had a mature and determined way of expressing themselves. What is heartbreaking (among the many terribly sad things) is that these men refuse to pay the women what was promised, which is important because the price was also based on them being virgins, (therefore less valuable in further marriages) and being there to serve and obey, even when the men did almost nothing to be worthy of all this obedience. I truly hope that at some point the filmmakers are able to find these people and let them talk about how their lives progressed. I was also stunned that there were no real professional figures to assist these women, that they would write their petitions on the street. The judge already knew what he wanted the result to be as soon as he laid eyes on the women. Telling a woman to change and “win back” her husband who was cruel and controlling was all he could think of to say. As if the fault of divorce was always with the women being unable to please the men. So much food for thought here, and so much admiration for these women who deserve so much more.
Don't forget to mention that these women were dealing with problems of all day relation life.
None of them fortunately did harm any basic rule...if so things were gettng real ugly......
“I don’t want him at all!” Haha yes girl
Please read everything from this site to know about islam-onereason.org/
Lol
@@nsand23 I the translation is not too good this is way worse if you know farsi 😔
👈🏿r a lesbian
which minute was this? I missed it and could find it going back
"you must make yourself attractive to win him back" bruh, have you seen her husband?
The translation is wrong, he said “you should make your character better towards him so he can like you again”.
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@@ZooKingJungle same damn thing bro
Lol you females think its okay to look ugly, sorry but you'll have to actually look decent if you don't want to get divorced
@Tommy 101 Women will settle for a man that has money and can provide for them no matter the looks. In return she should look good and presentable or else the man will divorce her, and rightfully so.
Very beautiful an touching documentary. thank you for keeping and sharing this priceless piece of work. As an Iranian who faced all of these problems as a kid, I went to my mom and said: "Hey ma, Look what I found. These people has the same problems as you did before." and she said: "You see a family court in Iran and you've seen them all. That's why the judges won't listen to people anymore cause they all have the same problems!" My mom divorced like 22 or 23 years after this movie and it's very unfortunate and sad to say that we got the same problems in our society still! You know it's illegal in Iran to take any camera or phone or etc. to court, This proves the high value of this documentary. Thanks again and may God help us all!
that's why it's so surprising to see this. a camera is not supposed to be there. i thought the women weren't allow to protest anywhere.
I loved the lady who screamed he has a sexual problem. She fought the brother. Father and mother. Go get tested 😂
LOL fought the people at court as well 😅 that’s a woman fed up. Good for her
Yeah i was proud of her too
She should have screamed , "He can't get it up in bed."
Courts: "Remove all that make up...wipe it all off"
10 minutes later "You must make yourself attractive to win him back"
@@MundoSefora it was kind of weird cause I was always taught bare face is unprofessional reserved for home by my mom and grandmas
@@chicchi1682 Sometimes I feel like I am blessed with eczema because it does not allow me to put makeup on my face. One last thing to worry about.
Them judge have brain cancer
@@chicchi1682 I was taught makeup was good grooming
@@evaschroeder8663 same
Wierd how the papers have been 'misplaced' everytime a woman wants her dowry back...
They were probably paid under the table for files to be misplaced.
He's obviously being a d***. Just trying to act difficult and bossy cuz he can :|
Christopher: Did you noticed that women and children have no rights at all in that country? Now I know why they want to leave!
They didn't take any dowry
@@virgenrodriguez9405 Just shut up because the ones leaving are the ones in a war zone and guess who caused it? and all of them wish to go back as soon as the conflicts are over
Truly horrible to see women bringing down divorced women. And not speaking against the abuse that these women endured.
Zeba - what a person, what a woman. So intelligent, so strong, so clever. She will get her life back, she will be free and happy.
I hope she goes to study law or something to help other young girls in her position
anyone note how only the women's files keep going missing?
he probably wants some favors from her .. she is good looking
hellen keesha: WHAT A SURPRISE: APPALLINGLY VILE AND HEARTBREAKINGLY ABUSIVE AND DEGRADING SITUATIONS!!!😟😢😭😓😰😥😿🙀😽😾🙈🙉🙊
Oh god here we go another feminist
Craig Rix Wow are you delusional.
@@christinebuckingham8369 delusional about what? The menstrual mafia?
😳 "Left the house without his permission", that’s not a wife, that’s slavery. And the judge says she must "make herself attractive to win him back"…why? He’s jealous when she talks to her uncle and sons….thank GOD I was not born in a place like that, I pray for strength for all these women
I'm a dude and I'm very thankful I wasn't born in a time or a place like that. Nightmare.
It is not about place it about religion
One particular religiom sanctions these type of fanatics
If she goes out something happens to her I guess u won't question the husband if u were the judge since she didn't have to get permission from her husband
@@salmanjama6663 I don't understand how a husband can have a say on where she goes. There is a difference between wanting to keep someone safe and demanding they listen to everything you say and do things their way. I was engaged to a Muslim man and he thought he could treat me this way. No way! I was born in a civilized society where partners are equal. If there are concerns, we discuss them. If you try to control a person like that, they are going to push back so hard. Nobody wants their lives dictated in that way. At the end of the day, my body and my safety are my concern, nobody elses. I feel so bad for women that have to live like this. I couldn't imagine the mental anguish day after day not being able to live freely. I left my fiance. He wanted to CONTROL EVERYTHING I did. EVERYTHING. He moved to a secular country but thought he could push his stone-age beliefs on women who just do not live that way. He made me become a person I didn't even recognize anymore. I always felt so angry and reactive. Even my family said I had changed. I am a happy, funny person. I have a good heart and did not deserve that kind of treatment. I feel SO BAD for women that have to endure this.
@@justthatgirl-ct4jo correct
This is a great documentary! The mainstream media does not portray Iran like this and they should.
...these women are beautiful and strong!
Their men take them for granted
They disrespect their women all the time
I am not even 4 minutes in and I am fired up! "You must be a better wife" "You must make yourself more attractive so he will want to come back to the marriage" WTF?!? How do these women stand it? They must be very strong.
lol, you must be miss USA
Dolling up costs money, and these lovers don't look they are giving their wives a spa day😂
or stupid
Why did he steal my gold?
"He'll buy you more"
What a STUPID DISGUSTING answer!!
He gave her gold for marriage then he took it back ...this is what many do in this countries
@@ingersydemon1316 well it should be changed
Should he have said “he won’t buy you anymore gold” would that have been a better answer ?
@@proudconservative2158 he should be penalized for taking it in the first place
@@lovelyeliana5669 yes you’re right he should have. What about it ?
I wish there was a current update on these women. I pray they are healthy and happy.
My heart breaks for the 4 yr old little girl who has to witness her mother beg to let her keep her and in the end lose her brother...my heart goes out to her & her devastated mom for losing her other child, as if women don't have the right to start again in their lives & keep their children just because they choose to remarry. Men are allowed to divorce, have more than one wife and keep their children. These poor women are just like any other women, & I'm glad to see that they stand up for themselves, but the rules are injustice and so unfair.
Islamic laws are written in favor of the men. The men can treat the women like crap because they have very little rights. Such a sad unfair religious system. So many deadbeat men.
That little girl is even better at making judgements than the actual judges lol
Yes God will,she will change things.
@@Jasmine-lj8qw lmao Iran doesn’t allow women judge
@@macandkiss9719 of course they don't. Strange country
She is gonna be brainwashed
Lol ya
I cannot believe how nonchalant that Judge was saying a 9 year old girl can get married. Heart Breaking.
What's heart breaking about it? If she hit's puberty what's so strange?
@@zolongOneAs long as 40 year old women also marry 9 year old boys, I guess nothing is strange.
@@brendielahooha Their religion, and thus the law of the land, says women cannot marry a 9 year old boy. However, a man can marry a 9-year-old girl.
@@zolongOne nothing wrong cutting pen*s is also not wrong.
What a ridiculous response! @@zolongOne It's called paedophilia - it's disgusting, it's wrong, it's a crime. A nine-year-old is a child! We are not cats and dogs. What a sick attitude you have!
Sad truth about my country... Thanks to your channel for showing all these to the world!!
Ziba the 16 year old, and the little girl playing judge are both SUPERSTARS!
"Don't show off - traveling abroad! Nobody's impressed!" I agree sis.
I actually burst out laughing
That was a serious burn lol! I laughed so hard.
you need to take INSANITY TEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I admire 16 years old girl. Such a strong outspoken character. Honest and intelligent! Her logic is strong! She should be the judge!
Let's hope they don't kill her
@@j3in725 ikr😰😰😰
@@j3in725 i wonder what she s doing today.......
Inshallah one day she will be a judge or in some position to let her use her intelligence and character to help her community be loving and just. 🙏
@@mitonaarea5856 I keep forgetting that this documentary is over 20 years old. I hope she's well and happy today.
Incredible.
I think we could actually learn a lot from this.
Mediation between couple's from people who have the individuals they are there expectations as their non emotional arguments is something I actually admire .
Not my family.
They just just vilified my ex spouse and made it the problem
Good for you brave lady and little girl. Defend yourselves and demand respect for your human rights and your dignity. The world is watching what is happening and we are all supporting you.
I admire the persistence of that woman, who wants to divorce her husband. That clerk was rude. I hope his tea is poisoned
Hahaha....just do that crazy men
He is a moron.he wasn't listening to a word.make yourself cute.they both hated each other
Evil
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He can get in trouble if he grants too many divorces. :/
Oh my dear girls all over the world, my heart is with you. May everyone have freedom to be themselves and make their own choices.
I have good news ...we have freedom
This video is old ...Can you find my comments ?!
I've explained compeletly .
Z- Kh hijab is still mandatory there tho
@@femmestoic yes but nobody cares . Trust me .I'm living in Iran .
Z- Kh oh im glad to hear that
@@femmestoic I'm glad that I can guide you . Are you from korea ?
This is the most heartbreaking, eyeopening and interesting documentary I have seen on RUclips
I love that strong, smart little girl and pray she has an amazingly happy life. God bless her.
This 16 year old, wow, proud of her, she stands up for herself better that adults 2 times her age.
Dunno she seemed a bit dodgy.
@@hattorihonzo5804 Dodgy because she was honest about her feelings and stood up for herself? wow
@@Pyxelles stood up for herself by making false statements. Why didn’t she show the same courage before she got married???? And why demand payment like a slag who sold her body and now wants to get paid😳
@@hattorihonzo5804 she was FOURTEEN!
@@1sheilajanae yeah she was?? Doesnt mean she can lie, cheat and deceit someone?? She knew what she was doing when she married him, should have shown the same ferocity and trash talk brashness before she got married lol which was only 5 months before the divorce call haha wtf
The man aint no angel but cmon shut the fk up and dont marry for the sake of it and carry on with your life as usual.
"Since he says he didn't, there's no point in witnesses..." I think this sentence sums their "justice" system. It is disgusting.
exactly why is that? because the Quran say's so that's why.
@@fonhollohan2908 no it’s because misogyny
Supposedly they can't lie under God's oath or something. I guess that's the premise of this.
@@fonhollohan2908 vi
What about this one? @23:34 .....
Getting a divorce in this country is more painful than actually marrying the wrong man, for a woman to suffer and be humiliated by their own kind is something inhumane.
Islam is an Evil religion !!! and the plight of Iranian people what had happened to them people for the last 45 plus years. you got to see how they hang you and submit you to the firing squads in the blink of an eye. I am an Iranian and hate this inhumane Islam religion with all my being.
one of the saddest documentaries av ever watched. So heart breaking to know women are treated so badly like that
The little girl was smarter then anybody that worked at the courthouse
I no, at least she seemed to no a lot of these men were in the wrong bless her. I just hope she hasn't changed since she has grown up as she is the only one who spoke any sense in this video.
Looks old but interesting to watch. If Any one from Iran seeing this, is the situation any different these days?
And looks like it was some time ago....
@@MM-bt8ke no, not really. The patriarchal system is still the same
I mean everything that happens in the family and society the women are blamed...
It is kind of a modern oppression these days for women in Iran !!!
It's like living in The Handmaid's tale ....😔
@@kimiaansari9293 thanks for sharing. I always wanted to visit Iran, I always really liked Persian food, culture, history also the countryside looks beautiful but as an israeli I can’t. Maybe one day in the future when there is peace. Thanks for sharing, this Is all very interesting stuff
These men have the nerve to kneel and pray throughout the day, and have the least amount of mercy. What kind of sick, controlling MALE wrote into law, that a woman must give up her children if she REMARRIES??
They can prostrate themselves as much as they want, Islam is not a religion, rather it is a way of life and Allah knows their hearts. How many religions have been misinterpreted by men to subjugate women? ......... I’d say most if not all!
@@yaapokuaboateng3075 Cult. Many destructive cults out there. This one is a cult.
They don't know GOD, if they did they wouldn't live this way. Their many prayers won't give them eyes to see and ears to hear because they are spiritually blind. They are praying to a god made up by a man who was insane. In these societies women and children are a man's property, he owns them. So if there is a divorce she is sent away but he keeps the children; they belong to him. They rip these women and children apart mercilessly. In America, the children stay with the mother, unless they can prove that she is unfit, they stay with the woman that nurtured them from the womb and birthed them and the man is held financially responsible for ensuring that his child is taken care of and that he maintains a relationship with his child. These people don't know how to live. It's so sad that they continue in ignorance throughout the ages.
You may not like this law but I think it keeps in mind the well being of the children first and foremost, what grantees do the mother or judge has that the new step father won't abuse or hurt the children when their biological dad is well capable of caring for them, we have seen sad stories about this quite a bit in the west especially with female children. Overall It's a fascinating glimpse into the social fabric of Iran. While it's easy now to preach women rights, 1500 years ago, Islam brought many rights to women centuries before the west, the right to inherit, run business, work, study, vote and fight. Generally speaking If you look at the root cause of all these problems and divorce proceedings they are no different than any other place in the word, they drill down to money, child custody, or abusive relationships regardless of the laws. The girl who was 15 years old when she got married, big deal? marriage age in Canada just few years ago was 14 and now it's up to 16. So it's not crazy around many places in the world to marry girls that young. The official age for marriage in Iran is 13 but only with family and clerk approval. of course the clerk was mistaken. The age of the prophets wife Aisha wasn't 9 when he married her. As we know at the time there was no birth certificates, Aisha age at that time was at least 20 years compared to her sister Sukaina's age and other major events around that time.
@@michelleishappy4036 How can it be a cult? Maybe started off as a cult but look how wide spread it is. Cult isn't the right word.
This was truly fascinating. What a different world!
The lady whose husband doesn't come home - The sons are comforting each other and ignoring their father's attempts to silence/convince them. They know exactly who he is.
"in 30 years of marriage, i have not once left the house without his permission" and there you have it
thats a god girl
@@abuqatada2389 sure thing troll
You must be happy
@@abuqatada2389 shut up lol
@escaped to Vancouver for keeping order in their country you jump in the Lake
I really appreciate the cousin who support the 16 year old girl. We need more men like him
The only man that have a brain in that place
Memories rush back and I'm juat left with pure fury watching this. The "littlest" part being the removal of makeup is triggering to death. Women in Iran are true heros for bearing this situation.
Fantastic documentary. These women are tenacious and clever. They would all be brillant lawyers.
Wow the 16 yo has a lot of courage. She is fearless. I hope that she is not injured or killed.
didn't you see the blackmail, either give me divorce or i will put a case of bodily harm. yes "courage" to blackmail in front of everyone.
@@ghosh25281 no one should be in a marriage they don't want to be in. it's not immoral if she's using it as a way to get out of a marriage which he is forcing her to be in by not allowing divorce. why wouldn't he just divorce her if she hates being married to him? he is clearly insane, so yes she has a lot of courage to stand up for her rights and freedom
@@Joselefineline The question is why did she marry him in the first place if she hates him so much. I dont think anyone is insane here.
forget what they claim in fron of the judge. He obviously want to stay married after putting so much time, energy and money in the marriage. She wants to divorce because he is not as wealthy as she thought.
Its all about MONEY.
@@limouzine1529 because of societal and family pressure probably. And she obviously wouldn’t know what he would be like to live with before. It’s much more likely that she didn’t have much say in the matter.
@@Joselefineline Yes, people are not always the same before and after marriage but why all the hate? He does not seem to hate her and want the marriage to work but she is very impulsive and determined to end it all together and get her drowry back. I like her independent spirit but then again she seems too young and immature for a marriage. And yes he probably is too soft and old for her.
When Zeba asked hopefully if there was a minimum legal age for marriage, hoping for a way out and then the answer "at puberty... even 9", the hopelessness in her eyes was devastating. The entire system is rigged against the women... it's a violation of their human rights.
@@Noodle12199 all religions are patriarchal constructs and need to evolve and move towards creating a more equitable and just community. Just hope it happens soon.
@@Noodle12199 Abuse isnt allowed in Islam and people arent allowed to be forced into marriage
@@aishaadelotan7278 Surah an Nisa 34 says this "As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them, refuse to share their beds, and then *strike* them "
@@Noodle12199 I am muslim and my family is quite religious but I haven't heared something like this, Quran never allows a man to abuse a women It's a punishable sin according to Quran , y'all haven't read the Quran and you are saying that Quran allows women abuse on the basis of the wrong fact
(I am a muslim girl)
@@crimsonrain9570 Can you re-read this "Nisa 34" aka "Quran 4:34"? Maybe it's translated wrong?
These women are unbeatable and as time all are strong.
👍👍
Wow, that little girl as a "judge" is spitting some great questions.
All in all, quite challenging to watch this. Very important knowledge.
"My husband is abusive to me, I want a divorce" Judge "make yourself more attractive to him so he won't divorce you." Woman "but I don't want him. I want a divorce. He mistreats me." Judge "go make yourself pretty. Good bye."
I thought the same thing. In one of the comments above, someone said that the translation was wrong. it was about changing your character to make him love you again. Not the worst thing to say to a couple if you are talking to both of them about changing so they can fall back in love. But yah, it's all her fault. jez......
I'm sorry to hear that. If I was over there I will be the mob for you.
Changing who you are is not how a genuine successful marriage works and about as uneducated advice as he could give. When you love someone, you want them to be who they really are and you love them for being that individual. When people genuinely love each other for who they are, not an altered version they try to create, then they naturally like and respect each other along with that love. He sounded like a fool who received no education since 500 years ago and like someone who has never experienced or even recognized genuine love and respect. "Make yourself pretty then cover your entire being so he can disrespect you daily."
@@betsybabf748 Actually it sounds uneducated when you call someone else uneducated. In fact, I’ll bet you’re divorced.
I don’t frankly give a toss what you think. You completely misread my answer, doesn’t surprise me. Sod off...
@@betsybabf748 Thats what TikTok, Disney and Hollywood tell you but in real life Marriage is all about compromises and mutual respect. The judge deal with this same thing for years and he knows how humen behave in situations like this. As you could see with the young women, they say whatever they need to to get what they want, the divorce, even if its a lie, he knew the guy didnt abus or hit her since there was no complaint about that initially but is rather said in the "heat" of the moment, thats why he also adds that they should work on themself more for the sake of the marriage.
"Serves you right for marrying a 14 year old girl!" truer words were never spoken. Sad how many should be educated on this though its basic human logic
@@simplesimple2260 a 12 year will unlikely be able to make an informed decision about marriage. Maybe you can put yourself in the shoes of a parent; how would you feel having a 12 year old daughter marrying at that age when she hasn't even settled on her life, let alone education?
@@simplesimple2260 Nice to see you use the Jews to set your own level of morality.
@@djfearross4144 OH DAMNNNNNNNNNNNN!!
@@simplesimple2260 LOL are you saying that having your bar mitzvah makes you an adult??? age of consent is 16 and adult age is 18 in Israel dude. HAHAHHAHA
But Whatabout!!!!1111
Very emotional stories. May all involved live in peace
EXCELLENT DOCUMENTARY, PLEASE DO MORE
“School isn’t important”
This makes my blood boil
Yes😤
@Rit916917 school is to give you education you dont get at home. like doctor, lawyer, engineer. can you get that from your parents or allah? haha.
@@thehonesttruth415 If you learnt English in school, then you just proved that it sucks. You learn much more important things outside of school.
and this is the total oposite of what the quran orders all muslim men and wommen which is to read, study research and so on and forth
@@uniquetruth2097 Learning is very important but not schools, necessarily. There are a lot of incompetent teachers and unnecessary courses and sometimes they just keep repeating things over and over again.
"You turn my tea to poison when you stand over my head..." He's a charmer, that one.
He’s just so attractive we can’t take it with his romantic talk and gentle ways
Some might find that line funny. To be fair that woman was a bit too insistent and refusing to take no for an answer.
Persian poerty
Top class banter if that's how he intended it. He even got her to smile. :D
To be fair to that guy though, each language has its own figures of speech and when native speakers of that language hear certain things they aren't offended but smile like that lady. Take for instance that other lady who said she'd rather kill her daughter or throw her under a car than give her to her ex-husband. Sounds brutal in the English language but acceptable in Farsi and the Iranian culture in that specific context. Many misunderstandings can arise if we look at foreigners without really knowing the language or context of where they are coming from :)
Como não bastasse, o juiz está pressionando a menina a dizer que quer se casar e... a melhor resposta da menina:”Não quero me casar depois de ter visto aqui no tribunal o que maridos fazem com suas esposas!” Que resposta inestimável! Bom trabalho, menina!
I totally understand the confusion expressed by some commentators, this is culture in action, and it is a very healthy way of ensuring social order.
These women are so strong, despite the system being rigged and used against them. Support women. Period.
i mean, the system is rigged in the US against men too... but it doesn't make it right for both genders to face this problem.
thats not strong. thats is noisy woman.
you can find many of this type in american streets esp in bronx.. downtown L. A... east LA. brasil.. italy ..asia dirty streets.
Yeah, swing and a miss there... The courts are rigged oppositely in the US, doesn't make it right
@@sharifahalrifaei6022 thats messed up
Support women .... unless they’re conservatives or republicans or stay at home moms who enjoy doing things for the man of the house is what you meant to say
THIS IS HEARTBREAKING. THESE WOMEN DESERVE MORE RESPECT. ☹️
@RORO roro Ok 😂😂😂😂
Junior Rivera yes
This is islam
Thanks🌷🌷🌷🌷
@@stellawilliamoldvideosofch3856 prophet Muhammad saw words are:the best of you are those who are good to their wife’s, and to treat your wives and daughters well, so no this is not Islam this is Iran
A child of this age should be in the custody of the mother,this Court is a horror 😭😭😭😭
A girl can marry at 9 ?????
Omg that is disgusting!!! 😢😢
I am about 3 minutes in and I cannot go on. I understand that this is a different culture than mine, but as a woman I find it hard to watch another woman treated like this.
It is not about the culture, Iranian women are not culturally submissive. It is about Islamic government who occupying Iran. Iranian prisons are full of Iranian women who fight for their basic rights. You can not imagine how they risk their life to not be under suppression.
As a Man, I find it hard to watch another woman be trrated like this. Mind blown!
Im not making a joke... but I hate when they say westerners objectify women.. yes it happens.. but with this culture and religion this is what objectification and oppression is. Whats scary is the vast majority will say they arent. Thats the problem when you are born a slave, you dont know any different.
Welcome to the real world....a different world outside US/Europe/Australia... disheartening but true.... watching it breaks heart but keeps u grounded
Sara go back and watch! Some of these women do have the backbone to fight for themselves unfortunately for now it doesn’t do much good. Maybe one day soon🙌🏻
Love how well that 16 year old speaks out for herself
Including the fact that she admitted on camera that she lied about him abusing her to blackmail him into agreeing to her terms?
Probably She is 60 years old now
@God is real you can go to the police and report, tell the police not to tell your father that you reported him to the police because you are afraid that he might hurt you and your mom.
@God is real I am so sorry your going through this darling, you are strong and so smart for your age. Is there a school therapist you can speak to who can help you? I hope you and your family are doing better darling. Stay safe. I will keep you in my prayers ❤️
@@yoloswaggins1579She was 16 years old and forced into a marriage in a country where they view women as nothing more than a man’s property. You gotta do what you gotta do🤷🏽♂️
Thank you to feature and nice to watch
I am just getting anry how she needs to defend herself and the response she's getting is so outrageous...
It made my stomach turn when he said a child of 9 could be married.
in islam , Marriage is ,to respect the opposite Gender, being in puberty is not a child state, i must correct your knowledge
and that's the muslim gov. system for ya. Now who wants to tell me that it's used to treat people farely?! I'm an iranian woman, and I DARE someone tell me that I am being treated fairly.
DP bradley...marriage turns your stomach but the 9yr old girls in the west who doctors prescribe the contraceptive meds dont disturb you? Goverment child abuse dont disturp you? Church children molestations dont disturb you?
You ok with girls having abortions from grate 8 in order to hide whats happening.
But marriage is the issue?
Y?
American Boys I must correct your knowledge sir. A 9 year old girl, has not reached puberty at that age...this is the onset of puberty.
Justified as an accepted norm with social and financial benefits, child marriage has little or no benefit for the young girls themselves, who are more vulnerable to domestic violence, more likely to be uneducated, and more likely to bear children before they are physically ready. Indeed, some young brides who die every year as a result of pregnancy or childbirth complications, early marriage is a death sentence.
Approximately 16 million girls aged 15 to 19 years and 2.5 million girls under 16 years give birth each year in developing countries.
Complications during pregnancy and childbirth are the leading cause of death for 15 to 19 year-old girls globally.
Adolescent mothers (ages 10 to 19 years) face higher risks of eclampsia, puerperal endometritis, and systemic infections than women aged 20 to 24 years. Adolescent pregnancy remains a major contributor to maternal and child mortality, and to intergenerational cycles of ill-health and poverty.
So, you actually believe that 9 year old girl, because she has started menstration, can take on the responsibilities of being a wife and mother??
Azariya of course we are appalled in all cases you mentioned and many of these issues are being exposed (especially sexual abuse). That doesn’t excuse the fact that 9 year old girls are forced into marriage!
Even in this severely oppressed society the women surely know what they want and do speak their minds! I’m so proud of these strong, intelligent individuals! ❤️
My thoughts exactly. They do a great job at standing up for themselves.
Perhaps it's because she can't stand the thought of how much they would suffer in an abusive loveless relationship with their father. And without her there to cushion the blows. Honestly mental health declines quickly in such a toxic situation. How did it work out for her in the end do you know?
Neanderthals. A cult. Blatant misogyny. Pedophilia. Abuse. That's Islam for you. A dystopia of female slavery.
I’ve been impressed too. I figured they’d get punched in the mouth for being so assertive.
I do wish women understood that judges view them as hysterical if they raise their voice or get emotional. It’s wrong, but that’s how men (and women judges) are. They see the woman rattling on in a high-pitched voice while the man is being quiet and reserved, and they tend to favor the man because the man isn’t causing the judge anxiety. Please, women, be as calm and collected as possible in court, so there’s some chance the judge will listen to you. It’s not our fault we have higher voices snd we get emotional at times, but men are too dumb to handle it well. You need to speak and behave more like a man for best results. (I hate it too, but men have to be treated like the babies they are.)
Hi everyone In my country, Iran, these inhumane laws are still being implemented, none of the international organizations help us and only express concern. In 2021 to 2023, according to the statistics of the Iranian authorities, there were 27,000 cases of child marriage, that is, the marriage of girls under the age of fifteen. No one really hears the voice of us Iranian people Another interesting law, which is the most brutal, is that if a father sees a mistake in his child, he can kill his child according to the order of Islam, but Islamic law says that because the father created his child, he can also end his life. These are only a small part of the ruling laws. It is on my country. Hoping for a day when peace reigns in the whole world ✌🕊
Those poor women have no rights. Thats a terrible bondage
when the judge said "a girl can reach puberty at 9 and then she can be married"...oh noooo
Men laws.
Natural pedos its in their nature.
Patriachy is world wide!
Men in the west; right wing men included, want pedophilia legalized here
The girl who wanted to continue her studies that was married to the old, lying, boozing creep made me tear up. The look on her face after the judge told her women can marry at 9 broke my heart. You can tell, if given a chance, she would do great things if not for these outdated traditions.
Schatzi P I agree! That look was pure shock. She doesn’t even know her own religion and the fact the prophet Mohammad married a six year old child. She’s caught between the devil and the deep blue sea! Very sad.
Xiven X I agree with you to an extent. Most countries have some aspects of socialism. In the U.S., welfare and the public education system are a form of socialism. Both are the opposite of capitalism, where limitations don’t exist and reward comes to those who go beyond the minimum. In capitalist societies, owners are allowed to keep the excess production they earn. And competition occurs naturally, which fosters advancement. However, capitalism also tends to create a sharp divide between the wealthiest citizens and the poorest, with the wealthiest owning the majority of the nation's resources. I don’t know what the answer is, but the extreme in either socialism or capitalism in not a benefit to society as a whole.
@@sylvanabecker5443 in U.S.A no freedom the women have more power so same bad life too
joedgreat sorry I’m not sure what you are trying to say. What do you mean by no freedom and women have more power?
@@sylvanabecker5443 We JUST WISH TO KNOW HOW A SISXC YEAR OLD PROPHET's womoan prayed and kneeled before the JUDGE AND THE defeater of all women JUne26tH
Gurl, the women are a lot more fierce than I imagined, than they have been portrayed to the world. Look at that 16year old handling her business more than most older women I know, though the odds are stacked against the women law wise.
Guuuuuurrrl! 👏👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️
Well now that the taliban is back I’m sure things will change..
She is so smart
@@goldielocs8661 What on earth are you talking about? The Taliban are "back" in Afghanistan. The country referenced in this doco is Iran. You are aware they are two separate countries, yes?.
@@caitturner5678 it was a mistake… damn let me live..
@@goldielocs8661 wrong 😑 country. This country is Iran not Afghanistan
Having lived 78 years as a mother in the US, this bears no resemblance to a “court of justice” to me. It seems chaotic, loud, capricious and ungrounded in codified law. A free-for-all argument in a small, crowded office. I could not find any built-in structure of concern for the needs & protection of young children either.
It's just an Islamic Kangaroo court
The way women are defending themselves and speaking their hearts out shows that the system has allowed them to come up with their cases and speak fearlessly to get the justice. Every country of the world has more or less stories of same nature, but the system in Iran can be given credit to compensate the aggrieved in the least possible time.
I feel sad for the little girl. She is so smart, funny and confident. She would make a good judge but the system will subdue her like all the other women.
Go and ask the ladies seeking divorce what they think about this system and Islam..
Our Sisters out there and the little girl you mentioned will eat you up if you'll say one word wrong about Sharia or Islam, we men wont even have to intervene!
Care to visit them once and you'll see for yourself!
@@quietdissent5482 Even if you were right (and I don’t think you can generalize like that), I would not care. I do not think it is right to subordinate women. The sharia does that. I respect the religious beliefs of muslims but I don’t agree with the system of these islamic states. Malala is a muslim women and still fights for women’s rights and their self-determination.
@@sarahfriedrich8183 This not Islamic states and that is not sharia which you are witnessing in this vedio, its simply theocracy!
These are simply Muslim nations!
An Islamic state and a muslim nation are two completely different things!
Ponder over what I have said above and inshallah you'll reach the truth!
At present there is no Islamic state on the entire planet not even Saudi Arabia and when I say this I don't say it to be muslim or to appease any non Islamic but infact I say this in the name of Islam!
@@quietdissent5482 Okay I don’t know enough about the Islam and these states to decide whether or not they are islamic states so I will no argue against you. But I know parts of the sharia and I know that I don’t agree with them. That is what I meant to say.
If women can not pursue the same men do and rely on their decisions I will never agree with that.
@@sarahfriedrich8183 Here is a little glimpse of Shariah law! Inshallah you will benefit from this.👇
ruclips.net/video/meJ_39UUsvo/видео.html
Yaqeen institute is a multi billion dollar institute propagating the true message of Islam!
PS : Muslims love being asked about their religion instead of being told about their religion!
Yaqeen institute is a multi billion dollar institute propagating the true message of Islam!
May Allah guide us and protect us all!
Laughed so much when the clerk said, "you turn my tea to poison when you stand over me". 🤣🤣🤣
So mean but funny😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The way she was staring at it tho was mad 😂
@@cutlergross6749 ikr 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Holy smokes! Had no idea that Iranian women were so outspoken! Well done Ladies! 😊
In iran There is no low for women. Thats why i left iran. In 1985..
Women. Life. Freedom. ❤
Irani women are very strong, such a shame they have to live like this.
@@minimalhabits you’re absolutely right, I work at a business that is all Iranian with all Iranian customers in Canada, and the women can be very stern and bossy, and I guarantee it comes from growing up in a ridiculously abusive sexist system. I wish the whole country could come to Canada, bc the children born here will grow up free and that whole system will be demolished, after we hang the government of course. Itold my coworkers that and you should have heard the cheer, they frickin love me now.
you haven't seen the feminine ones
Iranians are strong in general but we tend to go to our depressing poets and music to make us feel better.
@@lovesanimalshatesrats6339 that's quite odd, Yes, there are Iranian women who suffer in Iran, in fact, in saudi is even worse. However, that's like 30 percent of the population. You do realize almost all the iranians in the west are very secular, meaning born muslims but don't follow it and aren't abusive? That's so offensive.
@@eliza1826 just bc they don’t follow the religion doesn’t mean their customs and culture isn’t still extremely sexist. It blows my mind when someone says they are offended by some thing I say when I SEE IT WITH MY OWN EYES EVERYDAY. Canada compared to Iran are like different planets, at least different time periods.
1:27
Judge: what's the dispute?
Woman: He is mad.
Judge: So, there's no fundamental dispute.
Greetings of all brothers and sisters in Iran from Bulgaria! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Very interesting documentary. However, I wonder how they would all be behaving without the cameras around.
23:14 "don't show off... nobody's impressed" LMAOOOOO YES GIRL
I was impressed actually.
@@kenmaddock7469 how
@@kenmaddock7469 I mean why
She is extremely beautiful, can't imagine their romantic moments together. That girl deserves much much better feel sorry for here
О чем, говорят не понятно
I was jumping for joy when the schoolgirl got her divorce! She was a fighter and she is a beautiful example for other women.
She’ll just go on to be submissive to another man.
@@abuqatada2389 you mean another toxic insecure male .
She is a fighter. Love her! So fiesty
@@shinyakagomi9345 we call those little pp
There were so many things that were left out and not translated, like in 21:29 the judge says: "if he said that he did not slander you than we have to believe him"
she: "but I have witnesses, everybody was there and heart it"
judge: "I do not care, if he says that he is innocents than he is, even if you bring 100 evidences"
that's how little right women have in that country and that's how much power men have. But on the other hand it reminds me of that Kavanagh judge, he said that he was innocent and everybody: "Well, than, I guess he is". We have to unite everywhere.
The judge calls the woman "not normal", because she doesn't want to give up her daughter.....unbelievable
“She goes out without my permission….”
That is what my American wife will tell me….
And the woman at 1:05/1:16 is beautiful!
The last woman fighting to keep one of her children was intense….
Great Documentary! Very well done! 👏👏👏👏👏
I admire these women! They are bold and they know their rights.
Now just imagine how many are going through the same but *don't* have the guts to go through what you just saw.
they know their rights is because there are just few for women there. I feel sorry fir all the women living there with husbands who do not appreciate them and respect them.
Because its rules are written by men.
These women are righteous and just. The so-called judge has put her female child in danger by refusing to protect her. The father has no love for his child. So heart breaking! The society is dysfunctional more than the western countries
They just have so few rights...
She started going IN on her husband and his whole family in there and I dang near died LMAO. Get em' sis, get em'.
Yeah. They deserved it!
I just hope she doesn't get killed!
Wives are supposed to submit to their husbands in everything.
@@ladydragon7777 Yes, even if they get emotionally and physically abuse by no good little boys such as yourself.
@@shelle7123 Im not the one who says so God and his word says it.
I watched it and got amazed - Iranian women are so strong - how did men manage to make them cover their heads or impose male dominated rule ????
So frustrating not seeing what year this was recorded in the description 🤦🏾♂️.