I have yet to see 1 girl get more than 8 boyfriends. However i have seen 2 girls go for 7 before 17. Actually, 1 was before 15 because she was stupid. And yes it was stupidity and not mental illness
What I liked about this documentary is that the reporter didn't try to make them look like stupid or out dated because of how the do things, she was very respectful, I do not agree with the way they do it but I don't make them look stupid
M.E.F Djell well I have never seen a Muslim making a documentary about Americans and Europeans, mating before marriage and actually coming to USA or Europe spending time with people asking: but why? Before marriage? But isn't that Strange? Back at home we don't do that! How do you feel about it? That would be call terrorism actually... but that is what American reporters and European reporters do all the time... plus once in edition they love to make them look stupid...
these arrangements where parents has the final decisions based on how many gold coins one party can pay the other is really uncomfortably strange to me.
it depends on the family tbh. my friend's mehr was a cat lol that's all she wanted. it can be anything and its more like a gesture that the guy will make an effort and care for the girl. some families take it a bit far though and it gets weird hhhh
ir748 737e I dare you to take a Quran round the men of your city and ask them to place their hands on it and swear that they married as virgins. I dare you.
@@memoranda1 No it does not. Your information clearly comes from western propaganda and depth of your own ignorance. At least travel to Muslim countries and ask 99 percent of men how many wives they got... As for the minority, you will find that literally in any western country and Asian non muslim society as well.
@@memoranda1 it doesn't encourage having more than one wife except for the times of necessity. Some men phycologically have the capacity and financial ability to get at last 4 wives(allowed in islam). The discussion is a bit delicate. If you're interested contact me.
This episode is heartwarming especially for the couple who’s families have agreed on the terms. May they be happily married and love each other for eternity. Very good to learn about marriage practices in Iran, a side I don’t usually get to watch.
Im Iranian, I remember that 3 years ago matchmakers came to our university(shahid beheshti university) and promoted the matchmaking website. Btw, families in Iran really do have a big influence on their children’s marriage. I once wanted to get married to a guy that I loved but my family didn’t let us to get married because of different social class. From then on I reject any proposer that my family introduces to me.
@emosh73 I live in US and unfortunately I'll see majority of women here, maybe not whore! but very dis-faithful. I don't say all of them since I know some are caring, but most of them, men and women are into having sex with different partners, even when they are married and it seems it became some sort of social norm here, there is no shame in it anymore and they tell you, "You're married? so what?!!"
This is the reason why us Muslims stopped getting married so young. Men are expected to have a car a house a job that pays well then they have a chance. No way a man gonna have that before 30. Culture problems.
@casper Stingray that changes nothing. in north iraq it's literally like what he said. but you sir, are what i call a brainwashed ignorant. because since you watch some stupid fake news, now you think you know shit about muslims. west always gotta do something to destroy muslim countries. destroying afghanistan in 2001, iraq in 2003, libya in 2011, syria in 2012.
Learn Crap Quick 90% of people that are names Casper have been touched by their uncles at a young age. They tend to come and RUclips and let their frustration out.
I, as an American woman, struggle with much that has been shown on this video, especially when it comes to music. So out of respect, I will not say much more on the subject of music and freedom of speech. However, I will give some advice to the young women who are seeking a soulmate. Finances are very important, but the most important is to find a good man who has morals. Sometimes you have to deal with a very difficult personality type, but if he loves you, he has good morals, who won't go and have an affair on you, or hurt you, and he values you as a woman, then you will be in good hands, a rich man who has no values is worthless. There's nothing wrong with the woman being smarter and more educated than her husband. There's nothing wrong with the woman having a degree and her husband does not have a degree. There's something wrong when you choose a man who does not have morals. Although, it is also important that you are able to speak your mind, otherwise, it's a worthless marriage, because a man cannot improve without the words of a woman.
But would they show it in Iran? Or would they show it impartially? As you've seen for yourself, they are already telling young Iranis that the divorce rate is 93% and it's simply not true! By the way, I loved all of the young people in this film, they are all beautiful and I wish them well. Please don't think that westerners will see this as a negative portrayal of Iran. Your traditionalism is to some of us charming and well mannered :-)
@@MonkeymagicsMum yes, they will watch it, and find it more interesting because its stereotypes they can relate to their reporters would document and clear misconceptions. And only their reporters will know what those stereotypes are.
A lot of people may think that their system is strict and excessive, outdated even, but I live in a Latin American country where ideas about dating and marriage are the complete opposite, and it's not a good thing. Everyone sleeps with everyone, no one gets married, men abandon their children, cheating is normal but at the same time everyone is jealous of everyone and violence and femicides are frightening common....And all of that affects society and families, of course. A bit of morality would do this country a lot of good.
Exactly, alot of people dont understand, people need to find hobbies instead of sex. We can even look at this in the black communities in America. Children out of wedlock, zero to low marriage rates, cheating etc etc. Black communities being the worse in America, everything ties in. Its more than a blac kid not being able to find a good job which makes their communities the way they are
Men also abandon their children in the middle east and sleep around. In fact men are so promiscuous here, they travel to Dubai or Thailand just for sex. There is no difference in how the men behave compared to there.
I’m an American and I think they’re right about western society decaying from the lack of morality. However, I think it is incredibly sad if two people that want to be together and form a family cannot because of differences in the family decisions.
Dont know about shias but in sunni islam, Man dont need his parents approval and father of women who deny the marriage for flimsy reasons can lose his guardianship over women and the judge can work as guardian of women.
pakistani here years back i watched this documentary it was sent to me by a friend and the part at 7 minutes where this educator guy was talking about american girsl have tones of boyfriends in school back then my friend said this seems like a very sexist n archaic view and i remmeber reading the comments on this video years ago ppl said the same that how archaic n sexist n conservative this s#x educator guy is but after watching redpill content creators from the west FRESH N FIT , ROLLO , RICH COOPER , SANDMAN watching western ppl talk about how f3m1n1sm has ruined the west irans conservative approach to marriage dont seem so bad
This video was about conservative families and so there was quite a lot of invalid information in it. Having 20 boyfriends is a lot anywhere in the world as an example.
he said of the marriages done just for love at first sight 93% divorce, listen to his entire sentence. Not sure of true or not but definitely different than what you claimed he said
@@lemortedbrian6070 I must've missed that part. But it still depends what he means love at first sight. If he is comparing "love marriage" vs. arranged, then no. Most American marriages are not arranged. There are hardly anyone who just meet someone "fall in love instantly" and get married right of way. It happens but is not common. So maybe the statistic works there. Although I have heard of it working, even we are skeptical though. Most people date or "court" get to know each other for 2 years before marriage. Their families usually meet. And not everyone has sex before marriage like the stereotype we get. There are a lot of people who are religious and non religious who choose to wait and just spend time getting to know each other in a non physical way.
@@evilbred974 I consider this to be abit extreme since I personally dont know anyone like this. the group of friends however is the norm. 90% of Iranians are also not religious at all. shawl is a public dess code forced on us by the regime. if you go to persian gatherings, weddings and parties most women wear short tight dresses. not to mention there are Iranians who are Christian, bahai, Jewish and zoroastrian my mother is jewish my father is born Muslim but agnostic. hope that helped.
99% of the people who watched this... didn't pay attention. 1. It's not forced marriage. 2. Not everybody gets arranged marriages. 3. If your parents find someone for you, you can always say no. 4. The alternative is nobody gets married, no babies are born and you have yourself a crisis. 5. It's not like this in every muslim country, there are arranged marriages, but not by the government, it's a family matter. 6. Yes, forced marriages do happen, and so does everything else. Doesn't mean it's the norm, or that it's lawful, or endorsed...
my partner is from iran and he had partners to choose from that his family picked. he simply didnt find the right one, he was not in a crisis though because he met me outside of iran.
Still this is no way to live. peace, freedom and love is fundamental human right. 1. If they marry or dress the way they want they get killed often or face violence. 2. They have no freedom express themselves socially, liberal ideas are often being threatened, no freedom to marry with chosen individual, can't hang out in public with friends having drinks. 3. And the last people suppressing love as a moral police. Marry according to parents. love is forbidden. no physical contact before marriage. couples can't hangout in public. This medieval rules are no useful and does more harm than good.
Having drinks? How exactly is it a good idea to have drinks? I'm assuming you are referring to alcohol... What good does alcohol do? They don't get killed, they get imprisoned. It's the law of the land. You aren't free to dress as you want in the west. You can't go around naked now can you? 1. In the west we have limitations to how little clothes we can wear, in Iran those limitations are simply higher. I don't agree with it, but it's no different than here, simply more strict. 2. No freedom to express themselves socially? You know expressing oneself socially and on social media are two different things... Also, they are free to marry who they want, as you saw in this video. They found each other and then had their parents come to an agreement, and then got married... The guy has to provide the female with some... "insurance money" in case they get divorced or if he dies, so that she isn't left to tend for her kids in the gutter. It's the same system as in the west, except in the west the money issue is settled after divorce, but if he dies and doesn't got insurance then it's the wifes loss... Also, it's not like every marriage is arranged, most people find their own mates. They aren't marrying according to their parents, their parents went through the same thing and they had a good enough experience to believe it's ok to help their kids out the same way their parents helped them. People from the outside look in and think they know everything there is to know and start passing judgement... Iran isn't nearly an ideal place to live, but its not nearly as bad a place as people make it out to be.
@Donnie Darko They don't pay it up front. Even though they are supposed to, some places practice the culture of paying it over time. And a lot of people can pay that much money. Girls father seemed rich for a retired teacher!
Such a beautiful country with such beautiful inhabitants. Very interesting to view. Zohre & Ali are such a sweet & beautiful couple & i'm so happy that this story had a happy ending. My very best wishes to Zohre & Ali & i hope that thus far, their marriage has been a wonderful & enjoyable journey. May their future be very bright, even bigger & better. Thanks for sharing & my best wishes to all. Much love & Peace to Iran & it's people.
I met my wife 40 years ago, it was love at first sight. I was 20, she was 24. It’s been fun! You got married, congratulations! I wish you both the best.
As an Iranian woman, I can say this documentary wasn't accurate, these kinds of marriages are too traditional and don't happen a lot, or at least I can say it's rare especially in younger & up to date generation at all.
@@MrMrpaulo2012 the reason why the divorce rates are lower with arranged marriages is because the cultures which they take place in find divorce taboo. divorce isn't a bad thing, it's the ending of a bad marriage; people don't get a divorce for fun.
@@MrMrpaulo2012 it's very foolish to support arranged marriages as it takes away basic human rights of freedom and choice. We do not have arranged marriages in the west as we are more civilised and do not wish to live in the 5th century. Many arranged marriages end up love less and not successful but divorce is taboo. Marriage has only ever been about procreation. Having something forced on people is against human rights, end of.
@@mehraneh1554 The rate of divorce is increasing even for arranged marriage in my country. In the past couples felt a great religious commitment after vows and stayed together long life, even though there were sort of problems and disagreements between them, but these days couples have already lost their stamina and have less religious commitments which end up to divorce. Too frustrating and if they have children it would certainly bring about a heart breaking impact on their children as well and their parents would ruin their future, by falling apart or getting divorced.
Saying 93% of relationships lead to divorce isn't stating the divorce rate of the country. He is only stating that as a probability not as a statistic.
He said "93% divorce rate by love at first sight" Listen to it properly. Either way, America still has one of the highest divorce rates in the world, nothing to be proud of.
@Aria Davis that's exactly my point, people get divorced because they are "unhappy in the marriage" Why get married in the first place to divorce later? If you are unhappy try going to a counsellor or a couple therapy and work it out, that's why divorce rates are so high in the US. Unless you are being molested, then it's fine to divorce. I don't know why people randomly get married and then divorce because "iT doEsN't seEm tO woRk oUt anYmOrE"
@Aria Davis I'm sorry hun but my country is the second most populous country in the world and still has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world. I guess it all depends on morals and values. People in the US don't care for that, they marry how many ever time they want, that's probably why it has one of the highest divorce rates.
I (a woman) have been to Iran twice on business about 10 years ago (from here in the UK). It was interesting to see this programme and I am glad that here in the UK that those of my children (we are Christian) married before having children. In the latest English census we find for the first time presumably for about 1500 years just over half of people are having children without ever marrying. It is a big change. I really don't think 93% of US marriages fail or that most people have relationships intimately with 20 people before marriage. as said on the film Some might have that many, but not all.
vast majority of people barely have 2 or 3 partners in highschool, most have none afaik, he was absolutely exaggerating how promiscuous children are lol
Omg that’s youu! What a coincidence!!! I literally have talked to you on Twitter about Tatwa almutairi one day and now I see you here in the comments haha
I'm infuriated by the so-called professor claiming the dating in the US is the reason to the nation's decline. The motive for such rhetorics are ALWAYS a wish to control women.
Yea, and whenever they want to control women they hide behind their stupid ass religion and say "I'm not a misogynist, I just want to uphold God's laws!"
Keep in mind Iran is under huge sanctions by US therefore it isn't easy getting a job. US are attackimg innocent people with their sanctions. Then wonder my lot of the world hates them.
I am Iranian, and I born and grew up it Iran. And many parts of the documantry is also for me new and far from mz life. I do not mean it is fake or lie, but honestly we are such a wide range of people that I can only see this marriage stuff on the documentry. Our social group never go through these steps, and we do different way.
i am from Saudi Arabia and i knew some Iranian during my study in the USA. In spite of the political differences between the two countries , i must say that i thought Iranian people are -generally- helpful , friendly, generous and outgoing. i more astonished than shocked but this made me realize that -some times- people of opponent countries can be friendly to each other. I believe Iranian people deserve a better future and i wish them that
@@Pedo_phile_Muhammad your name shows that u are a such an ignorant idiot. You will see in the afterlife what happens to you for cursing our beloved prophet. Peace be upon him.
thanks for covering such a silent but crucial topic from religious perspective in Iranian community and letting us know more about the Iranian marriage norms and cultures. the host was extra conscious about the sensitivity of the subject, that was a good point too.
@Rusto couldn't agree more , islam is poison the government forces teenagers to taste it they are the same as north korea a dictator government run by some religious men that no matter what people do they can't change, they are just ignorant they don't care how much the citizens are suffering as long as they are "going to heaven"
These are the type of documentaries we want to see! I am from Afghanistan and it would be nice to see stories like this instead of the 24/7 war-torn country we see on the news all the time.... Keep it up!
@@MarriedToTheKGB the gold go the girl When Muslim man married he was give the wife huge amount of gold the family of the wife will never accepte low price for her
Iran.....A truly incredible country, possessing the most beautiful & rich history, culture & inhabitants. This documentary is so interesting, so eye opening, so intriguing, but also, a wee bit sad to witness. Whilst the traditional & cultural aspect of Iran is so unique, special & historically long standing, the times are slowly changing, but i do hope, that Western culture won't take over Iranian culture too much. It's critical to retain as much of one's culture & long standing traditions as much as possible, albeit, a wee bit of Western culture sprinkled in, is ok too. I see it like this.....If you take away too much of Iranian culture, then it's no longer the Iran we all know, appreciate & even love. Once certain traditions are dismantled or gone, it's almost impossible, to reverse it back once again. It's so hard to find that middle ground, the so called, balance. Zohre & Ali are such a sweet & beautiful couple, as many young Iranian couples are. I'm so happy that they got married & i can only wish them all the happiness in the world & a big, bright future. I also hope & pray, that since Covid started, that all those we've seen in this documentary, are still safe & well. Thank you for sharing this documentary with us & my best wishes to all.
Thank you so very much for taking time to write this wonderful and thoughtful letter for all of us. Wish you all the best ❤ good health and happiness and prosperity 🙏🙏🙏🌹
True but in this instance, her life is probably more restricted and so if he ever left her, that would be the cost of leaving her so she can be taken care of.
@@dharmeshmakwana1164 Iran has severe gender inequality and in their society, they have this thing to help protect her. Arguing 'what if she leaves him' is such an incredibly stupid question since this isn't some Western country or India where women have the same rights as men. What is your problem with this simple protection that the family want to give their daughters in a society of inequality? Given your name, I'm assuming you're Indian. Do you have issues with the dowry system in India where the women have to pay men to get married to them? How backwards is that??
@@dharmeshmakwana1164 Absolutely, it is a social evil but you are wrong that 90-95% think it is wrong. If that were the case, there wouldn't be dowry but there IS! And men and their families still demand dowry.
2:55 Lmao Doctor :"93% divorce rate for love marriage" Reporter: ive been married for 10 years Doctor: "science is based on the majority not the exeptions" lol fakes statistic
Agreed, I feel as if the parents are hindering them based on greed and their own selfish desires, and that they are not truly focusing on what’s best for building their iman or bettering their life!
I live in Tehran and got married at the age of 21 and now I am 38 years old. And I have 2 beautiful daughters. You can get married when you feel responsible and become a man of life, but you must promise to be the best wife and never betray your spouse.
@tahat8197 my experience in the uk, of muslim women in the work place is a very interesting version of Islam. I bet if they was in the middle east, it would not be the same. Makeup and Short dresses life of the work party until the drive home. All get dressed down in work bathrooms, and the women have more partners than the men. That dna ancestors Web sight has wound some Asian men realising they not the daddy's.😅
I am Italian, my wife is English. We married for love at first sight . We have been together for over 50 years with children and grandchildren. Love always pays. .
This is a very well documented video; however, I just wanted to clarify that what was shown in the video mainly occurs between stricter families. I visited Iran last summer and there's definitely two sides to this whole dating scene. I witnessed families that were strict and would not freely allow their kids to marry whomever they love. But I also witnessed families that were more liberal and modern who were not opposed to their children marrying for love as long as the families meet. I would have loved if they had shown both sides in the video so people around the world get to see every aspect of it.
I felt they did, they showed a group of very liberal young people who said they didn't come from strict families. I think they were trying to cover all bases.
That's true but what I meant was it would have been nice to see them talk about it a tad bit more in terms of their experiences dating for love in a country where it's not as common
Dariush Ashkani, Because liberalism is by definition modern and open to change, conservatism is stagnant and opposed to change and progress. Read a dictionary.
I’ve been to Iran many times, the dating and social life are exactly like us! We don’t tell our parents everything, neither do they! Probably the friendliest, kindest, most welcoming people I’ve ever met!
@@deepalisaraf6011 it's so unusual for Iranian man to have more than 1 wife... Before it was more common. And this is not even about the Iranian culture, it's actually the right of any Muslim man to have up to 4 wives.
I am from Afghan-Hazara-Shia, having same culture as Iranian. I faced the same thing when I was getting married, me and my wife we both agreed to get married in simplest way as possible. But We were concerned about others’ decision rather than our selves. I did it.. And now most of the people are not happy from us... even they are aunt and uncle for my kid. 😢 But we are happy as we are... less money but we can survive.. Allah has granted us enough.
If you are happy then that’s all that matters. Life is short, and no one else can make you happy except for you. I think you did the right thing. Peace be with you.
I’m so happy that Ali and Zahre could get married. May Allah grant them happiness, health and much more love and blessings for their life together ahead. Amin
I love Iran and it's people,I'll have to say that since I visited Iran in 2004 I have been going there every year till date,didn't know what to expect at beginning but since I come from Serbia and know that the west propaganda and media have made my country look so bad and evil and racist while it's completely the opposite and serbians are one of the most welcoming and nicest people anyone will come across I was sure that Iranians are the same and God was I right. I was welcomed like a prince there and invited almost by everyone I met,in restaurants random people I didn't know wanted to pay my bill and even the restaurant owner didn't want to charge me as he was happy that I visited his place but ofcourse I paid.No one ever spoke about religion or Hate towards anyone,they were western orientated and are very smart people and highly educated,of course I knew all these but had to see it for myself and was sure that since they get so much bad advertisnt against them that it is exactly the opposite of what the western poison does to countries that doesn't abide by their rules. Another point I would like to add is that I traveled quite a lot(over 50 countries)even in the middle east where alcohol and clubbing is allowed but I actually felt more free and relaxed in IRAN than in those ME COUNTRIES. Also my country has opened a viza free regime to IRANIAN citizens and many of them are visiting here and that make me so happy to see them that I would walk up to them and start a conversation cause as I said they treated me soo good that I'll never forget that and it's not only me they treat good but any tourist that visits gets the same hospitality regardless of their religion or nationality, US citizens included,thank u IRAN from one SERBIAN guy.
sure media exaggerate things, but most of the time they have some truth in them. as for serbia a lot of people i know are kind and good but the state still dreams and has nostalgjia of the war and never accepted it atrocities
"serbians are one of the most welcoming and nicest people anyone will come across" - Yeah, they only sold Romanians back to their government back in its communist days (to the end of '89) for salt, and gasoline. Those were real refugees, many with families, who risked their lives to get across and when handed back some ended up dead while others serving prison sentences, etc. And there were so many... So please. I'm not generalizing at all by saying all Serbs are bad, because that would be a lie, but I am recounting real, recent side of history that nonetheless must be known.
thats what the hardcore religious people think about marriage. dont believe everything you see. only a minority of people think this way and wear clothes like that
oh yea sorry my bad, I meant to say "some Iranians". I just edited my comment. I personally agree with you, but still it was nice to see what some Iranians think, because I do not really know a lot about Iran, as a country. :)
Iam iranian and live in Iran even for me (and many other Iraninas)it was interesting to see these guys view . never met anyone like these people . very nice
I had girlfriend since I was 17 , my parents never told me not to have girlfriend or not to have have sex before marriage . and this is not only my parrents. alot of family in Iran are not that strict. I think alot of it ,is becuase of Reza Shah modernization in the 20's and 30's. however as you can see they are still minorities(always been) with strong religious view. only difference is that after revolution the world got to see more of them beacuse today in Iran minorities with extreme islamic view are in control of everything . politics , Media , etc
@K K in iran there is two type people.one we call hejabi ones and the other westerny one!! So u see what u see in america or Europe and you also see type like saudi or arab countries!!
Cuz they were good ol' days. Those who are sincere Christians or some other religion( in the west), they mostly stay loyal to one partner all their life. But, I see athiests and liberals every where these days, look at the promiscuity(I'm not surprised by the no. of young people wanting to do porn for money and be like it's no big deal)especially in the US ( you may not be like that, but they simply didn't get that stereotype, a lot of others do). They treat sex as a need, and act as if they die if they won't have it. Well, but if mind is controlled, you can focus on more important things than that.
I am SO happy that sweet couple got married!!!! They were so in love and both seem to be nice, happy, people who will enjoy life together. It would have been very very sad if they hadn't got each other.
I’ve travelled to see a lot of the world in my life. But the main two things I’ve noticed are: 1) While we all look a little different, and speak different languages - we really all want the same things out of life. (Family, love, happiness, opportunity and good health - a good life.) 2) Cultures often come up with different solutions - for the same old problems. (Sometimes it may seem easy to see what solution is better - and sometimes it’s not.) Knife and fork or Chopsticks? Just be sure to have an adventurous life - no matter what solution you pick!
I never wanted a husband, I thought it looked boring to be closed in a house with one man. Always having to be together and travelling together and going on holiday together. I didn't see the joy in it! I got kids but no husband, I have LOVED my life, travelling with my kids, having movie-nights with them, doing so much fun with them, and spending time with my friends and now as in my 60's travelling with my friends! I love my life and would not have it any other way!
@@mrsTraveller64 Your psychology seems damaged. Kids without a father are damaged specimens even no one realises it at first. If you want to live alone with ur cats then you mustn’t have kids and make them miserable with you. Very selfish. And a good indicator of why Western society is such a depressive failure where most women are on anti-depressants. I strongly suspect the real reason you never had a husband is because you could never keep one. To hide your failure as a woman you pretend like you are single out of choice.
I am from Sweden but I really like the Iranian family system within the rich tapestry of Iranian familial bonds lies a heritage of honor, devotion, and timeless traditions, fostering a sacred ground for unions to blossom. The Persian family, a mosaic of warmth and solidarity, paints a canvas of love and guidance, a cherished legacy passed down through generations, adorning the journey of new beginnings.
Islamic science supposedly taught in the quoran is based on majority. Like it teaches how Muhammad pbuh split the moon into two. However everyone knows everything in it is bullshit.
DEBABRATA MUKHERJEE kind of I mean exceptions are written at the bottom of our text book meanwhile the majority on top Of the book this is why Those who disagree with this probably never studied chemistry in school
Zohre and Ali is exactly what is so fantastic romantic about Iran, so romantic and poetic steeped in a long history of refined intellectual universal truths with an Iranian twist, I wish them all happines in the world!
@@hatemchananeh6901 she was negotiated and sold like a slave for the highest auction bid 💰 what an unhealthy and confusing way to see a person you're in love with
I am Iranian it is not 100 percent just like that in Iran. Maybe 10 percent of people are getting married like this. The most majority of youngsters in Iran are boyfriend and girlfriend then they decide whether they get married or not.
اره افرین بگو بشون ک ازشون تقلی کردیمو رد هم شدیمو گند زدیم ب رابطه ها!!!!!!یگو بشون دخترا چنتا چتا دوس پسر دارن زنای متاهل هم دوس پسر دارنو برعکسش!!!!!!!بگو انحراف مد شده تو ایران!!!!!!!
There was a misunderstanding for non Iranian who watched this video, The gold coins they were talking about before the couple's marriage, is not being paid at all, It's the only power the wife will have in a case one day she wants to divorce her husband, based on Islamic law in Iran, women do not have any power to divorce their husband, it belongs solely to husbands' powers, Mehriah_The gold coins_ are the power what the wife uses mostly as a threat if she wants to divorce, to get her husband to accept the divorce, if he doesn't accept it , she asks the husband to pay it and law in this matter is in wives' side and as more the coins are as stronger is the power.
@Ali El Sibai Dear Ali it is true in some part but in reality it dose not work this way, First of all proof of abuse in court in women favor is something near to impossible, even when you do have the paper from legal doctors I heard judges saying you are still alive and he provide for you and.. About the agreement,when it came to time for divorce despite the agreement the judge asks the wives to bring another paper, not the marriage certificate which is signed with the conditions in it, from the husband to let the wife to divorce. Even those very little powers, are just on paper and when someone needs to use them they see the ugly reality of it, those are bunch of useless laws. Everything is in favor of husband, unless the person has a political issue with IRI then the wife can get her divorce!
Dude even if someone wanted to follow a different religion, that's not possible. So dumb. But then again thats the best chance to purge religion from our lives
@@mukunda4021 it's stressful for you to watch and u feel it's not liberal, that's what I perceived from your comment, u sound some one from the west ???
The guy at 13:55 He looks just like me. Like we're identical twins. Please if someone knows him, direct me to him or something. This is very cool and very freaky at the same time. (Please like it so that more people can see this)
Kindy_91 Because you Iranian men can be crazy like that loool. It be your way of saying "Ladies I'm a hot fella, the proof is in this video, feel free to slide into my dm".
im an iranian and i didnt know there are matchmakers in iran and they help finding couples this way. i enjoyed watching this video thx for making it. just want to mention iran has a diverse society and this video just shows us a part of it. there are a lot of agnostics and atheists too.
My heart bleeds often for you guys, and I cry from time to time. My country is pursuing war with you guys.... I hope you and yours manage to stay safe. I am trans female, not "the real thing," and I know Islamic Law forbids homosexuality, but I really don't care about my rights or well-being in comparison with how much I care about so many children, women, and men. It's moments like these I feel ... sinful... for how much I have placed myself above people overseas, in my own daily activities. I am in moderately ~fair / ~poor health, mentally and physically, but if I just learn to keep my mouth shut better, and if I pick up the speed of my studies once I have finished securing and making more complete my double life, then five years from today, if I study that long before taking full involvement... I could do anything, if it's on a computer and i began beforehand.
@@sayeemazharul1245 the rules in islam are soooo complicated... long story short... it depends on the ayyatollah whom you are following... if it really is important to you we can continue this topic❤️
@@RobustNut Accountancy is a job that involves heavy math and numbers hence the term "added up to much" with an emphasis on "added" which links to math and adding and subtracting numbers.
Men in iran better move to Pakistan or India lol, here if someone is "wella" jobless. Parents urge him to get married. We desi think marriage is the ultimate solution for all of our problems lol
the reporter is professtional, irani people looks kind and friendly :) and i want to say that every mama in different country enjoy being a match maker, especially in Asia maybe? 🤣
"10 boyfriends in high school and another 10 in college??" 😂😂😂 At 30 years old I have enough trouble trying to find a man I can tolerate for more than 20 minutes. I didn't even have my first boyfriend until after I got my degree. But dating 20 men over my lifetime?? FOR FREE?? I would go criminally insane.
It’s not ur fault, the society thought you immorality from young age. Try compromise any time each there aren’t perfect person &,most importantly stop sinner other word create commitment with lord. You will happiness!!
That Sabba girl is actually pretty imo, kind of happy to see that she may possibly have a choice in who she marries instead of forced arranged marriage zz
@@hannahfountain8515 Incredible. I did more research into Anni and the current state in Iran. It makes me glad that the people are getting sick and tired of sharia law and want to start a revolution.
People need to differentiate between CULTURE and RELIGION.... in this documentary... CULTURE is shown... RELIGION is a far broader term.... Islamic weddings vary greatly from different parts of the world.... Malaysian do not get married the same way as Saudis do, Iranian do no get married the same way as Pakistanis do, Ethiopian do not get married the same way as Egyptians do.... Its all a matter of CULTURE and not RELIGION.... gosh people, grow some freaking common sense
This was an excellent report and the reporter was calm and collective at all times. I liked the way the reporter made all the people she spoke to feel very comfortable. Ali and Zohre were such a great couple really in love. I myself was anxious to learn the outcome of their parents deciding on whether they would marry or not. The suspense was overwhelming but, I was so relieved that they married a few days later. What a nice ending. Thanks to this wonderful reporter for such an in sight about Iranian culture. I respect the Iranian and their traditional ways as they’ve been doing it forever. One day I’d like to experience Iranian hospitality as they look to be wonderful respectful people. Thanks for this wonderful report.
@Darren Richardson Trust me it's not that easy. One example is YT itself. How many times do you think I find a report like this in YT? 3 out 10. Unfortunately western platforms have somehow been saturated by such representations that finding the real deal has become a little difficult and time consuming.
@Darren Richardson There are so many types of propaganda about everything. It's all political. You need to see from both the sides. You can't just take one side and call it propaganda. You need to see the other side and see if what the other side says is true or not too. Like how west is represented without any morals and Islamic is treated as cruel and presented in very bad light.
Lovely young couple at the end. It’s horrible how the parents demanded 114gold coins for her and it could have split them up. Thankfully they made it together. The accountant lady was very pretty.
Frog Princess why was the parents’ demand a bad thing? They wanted financial security for their daughter. I think you’re looking at this the wrong way.
In that environment, the family feel disrespected if they sell the woman for cheap. It's all about reputation. You will be surprised if she was a divorce they would demand nothing. That's how fucked up it is in the middle East.
That is because starting a family with a divorced woman is a risk for man since she already has had a failed marriage. Woman feel the same way. I don't think that many lets say first timer woman are very eager to marry a divorced men, either. The other thing is it is mostly the women that assign monetary value to themselves. I live in part of Turkey where not the parents but their daughters make such demands. If the man owns a house she wants it to be put under her name. If he owns a car she demands that he registered it under her name as a condition of marriage. I have friend who went to meet a girl which was arranged by both side's families. She was a nurse making a good money. She demanded him to give her this much gold, set up a bank account in her name and deposit a large amount of money. She said ıf you meet my demands I am gonna marry you tomorrow. He told her that so if someone comes along and offers you more money and gold, you are gonna split your legs for him. I don't marry a whore. You said that " the family feel disrespected if they sell the women for cheap " . I don't buy it. I don't talk about the women in this particular video but I am sure generally it is the girls that make those demands , fathers are just voicing it. Watch here 05:53 she doesn't want to marry with someone who has less education than her. .
that is not selling you dumbass. 114 gold is if the husband cheats or leave her then has to pay that to the wife. that is the same as alimony in the west. remember that he only has to pay if he leaves her
To be fair, theyve seen american movies. thats their only source and all kids in those movies are crying cause they are 17 and still a virgin. I bet you have a wrong idea about Iran. Its not all what on the media.
@@attorneyatlaw4021 That's called being normal. Do you think every relationship is a fairytale where the man and woman are virgins on their wedding night and stay together until they die of old age? If so, then you are putting ridiculous expectations on people and you don't understand human nature.
@T.Great Island Of The World Forever I will not adopt "Islamic values" because religions are false. I don't care what the majority of the world supposedly wants because I believe in individual freedom. And marriage is just a man-made tradition, it is not natural like sex. Good parents talk to their kids about sex and educate them about it and teach them to have sex responsibly. Abstinence only fails everywhere it goes and leads to teen pregnancy and stds.
@T.Great Island Of The World Forever You're a simpleton. People here can make their own choices, for good or bad. Freedom and reality are risky. And morality has nothing to do with it, that's your own bigotry. Not sure how somebody like you would define "cheating" anyways. And marriage is not perfect, sometimes there is domestic abuse, and divorce is good in those cases. Women are not "used and abused", they choose to have sex and they enjoy it.
As someone with Iranian roots, it's very interesting to see this kind of people that I usually don't have to do with, traditional, religious people. The ones I know get to know each other on parties, in cafes etc. And I really liked the way the reporter presented everyone.
Isaac Asimov, the SciFi writer, had foreseen the complete transformation of society, also at the love level. When men and women become "free" of their fundamental needs to mate, where they are not dependent on one from the other anymore, then living single becomes the default behavior. "Needs" can be as diverse as : need for company to avoid solitude, need to have children, need of financial support, need to respect traditions... etc. I agree 100% with Asimov's, and I believe that Iran is not a special case. You see the same trend in Japan, South Korea, Italy, each of them having different reasons explaining the difficulty for man and woman to mate. These countries develop a specific strategy, largely influenced by local culture, to push men and women to meet, have sex and procreate. That's one of the new challenges of modern age. Thank you for this very good reportage and very good reporter, full of respect and open to others. SUBSCRIBED!
The reporter was more excited than the dating couple.
She was too weak and accommodating to everybody. Not what a reporter should be.
@@GirGir183 she is attending a private affair. What should she do? Shout at everyone? You have no common sense
@@dysplasiaanaplasia4128 But that just prolongs the agony, in the long run. She doesn't have to shout at anyone tho.
@@GirGir183 Untrue. The more friendlier you are, the one being interviewed will be more comfortable and have more to say
She did a good job i think ..
Ten boyfriends in high school and ten boyfriends in college?... I will be freakin' busy this year, it seems
Will you be my girlfriend?
I have yet to see 1 girl get more than 8 boyfriends. However i have seen 2 girls go for 7 before 17. Actually, 1 was before 15 because she was stupid. And yes it was stupidity and not mental illness
hahaha
I think he meant body count haha, not boyfriend as in long term relationship. In that case 10 by 20 isn't that unusual
jiminici no it is still unusual
What I liked about this documentary is that the reporter didn't try to make them look like stupid or out dated because of how the do things, she was very respectful, I do not agree with the way they do it but I don't make them look stupid
True lovely people
That's true. There is a particular pattern of blonde extroverted reporters being all judgemental of these things, this was a breath of fresh air.
M.E.F Djell well I have never seen a Muslim making a documentary about Americans and Europeans, mating before marriage and actually coming to USA or Europe spending time with people asking: but why? Before marriage? But isn't that Strange? Back at home we don't do that! How do you feel about it?
That would be call terrorism actually... but that is what American reporters and European reporters do all the time... plus once in edition they love to make them look stupid...
Juan Torres
True. The "documentary" is done in the masjid by the mullahs.
That is stupid government is not allowed to control people lives
these arrangements where parents has the final decisions based on how many gold coins one party can pay the other is really uncomfortably strange to me.
it depends on the family tbh. my friend's mehr was a cat lol that's all she wanted. it can be anything and its more like a gesture that the guy will make an effort and care for the girl. some families take it a bit far though and it gets weird hhhh
Supposedly women in America have 10 boyfriends by college... I'm waiting
Sara Grace point is most have a lot
ir748 737e Babe its a joke
Sara Grace im not your babe, hun
Mariezee Phyllix cause we dont you idiot
ir748 737e I dare you to take a Quran round the men of your city and ask them to place their hands on it and swear that they married as virgins. I dare you.
the parents make things more difficult, adding extra rules which islam never asks for.
yes it does. Islam is the worst religion ever created
@@madapigi1 It doesn't do anything with Islam. In Islam, there are encouraging words in favour of marriage rather than unnecessary restrictions.
@@someiranian1840 ....doesn't it also encourage to have many wives?
@@memoranda1 No it does not. Your information clearly comes from western propaganda and depth of your own ignorance. At least travel to Muslim countries and ask 99 percent of men how many wives they got... As for the minority, you will find that literally in any western country and Asian non muslim society as well.
@@memoranda1 it doesn't encourage having more than one wife except for the times of necessity. Some men phycologically have the capacity and financial ability to get at last 4 wives(allowed in islam). The discussion is a bit delicate. If you're interested contact me.
What a respectful reporter. Totally love her style of relating to people.
that's her fucking job to act like a way where u r working
@@joharzaman5208 Well alot of reporters can't separate being in the shot with not injecting their views into the story.
She was fair and kind, but she challenged that psychologist about his stats in the government institution
Doesn’t she smiles too much in front of men ? I thought this is not seen well by them.
She is not reporter she is documentary maker and get alot of money to advertise islamic culture. Oil money😊😊
This episode is heartwarming especially for the couple who’s families have agreed on the terms. May they be happily married and love each other for eternity. Very good to learn about marriage practices in Iran, a side I don’t usually get to watch.
Im Iranian, I remember that 3 years ago matchmakers came to our university(shahid beheshti university) and promoted the matchmaking website. Btw, families in Iran really do have a big influence on their children’s marriage. I once wanted to get married to a guy that I loved but my family didn’t let us to get married because of different social class. From then on I reject any proposer that my family introduces to me.
Dear best of luck.
i'm sorry.. i hope you and your family could come in term and find a good partner..
@emosh73 I live in US and unfortunately I'll see majority of women here, maybe not whore! but very dis-faithful. I don't say all of them since I know some are caring, but most of them, men and women are into having sex with different partners, even when they are married and it seems it became some sort of social norm here, there is no shame in it anymore and they tell you, "You're married? so what?!!"
@@sherya.7067 i agree with you.
I hope one day they abandon their prejudices about marriage this Islamic belief which is only for restricring them
This is the reason why us Muslims stopped getting married so young. Men are expected to have a car a house a job that pays well then they have a chance. No way a man gonna have that before 30. Culture problems.
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@casper Stingray that changes nothing. in north iraq it's literally like what he said. but you sir, are what i call a brainwashed ignorant. because since you watch some stupid fake news, now you think you know shit about muslims. west always gotta do something to destroy muslim countries. destroying afghanistan in 2001, iraq in 2003, libya in 2011, syria in 2012.
In today's economy? It's hard
Learn Crap Quick 90% of people that are names Casper have been touched by their uncles at a young age. They tend to come and RUclips and let their frustration out.
@@ACTURK61 hahaha
No money, no honey. Same all over the world.
lol
Haha da fuq
daniel ndungutripp well mr ur also made the same way
yup
hahaha
I, as an American woman, struggle with much that has been shown on this video, especially when it comes to music. So out of respect, I will not say much more on the subject of music and freedom of speech. However, I will give some advice to the young women who are seeking a soulmate. Finances are very important, but the most important is to find a good man who has morals. Sometimes you have to deal with a very difficult personality type, but if he loves you, he has good morals, who won't go and have an affair on you, or hurt you, and he values you as a woman, then you will be in good hands, a rich man who has no values is worthless.
There's nothing wrong with the woman being smarter and more educated than her husband.
There's nothing wrong with the woman having a degree and her husband does not have a degree.
There's something wrong when you choose a man who does not have morals.
Although, it is also important that you are able to speak your mind, otherwise, it's a worthless marriage, because a man cannot improve without the words of a woman.
Man should have morals but the rest you have said is correct
It must be pretty damn annoying constantly having old people tell you what to feel and think.
Save me.. It's true
yh it is
Oh yes
Yes🇮🇶Save me plz
welcome to the *ENTIRE* continent of *Asia*
( & some times *Africa* )
I want to see foreign reporters documenting western societies.
But would they show it in Iran? Or would they show it impartially? As you've seen for yourself, they are already telling young Iranis that the divorce rate is 93% and it's simply not true! By the way, I loved all of the young people in this film, they are all beautiful and I wish them well. Please don't think that westerners will see this as a negative portrayal of Iran. Your traditionalism is to some of us charming and well mannered :-)
@@MonkeymagicsMum yes, they will watch it, and find it more interesting because its stereotypes they can relate to their reporters would document and clear misconceptions. And only their reporters will know what those stereotypes are.
Borat 😂😂😂
@Cassie K How centered the west is? Why because they focus on themselves? What are you even saying people calling Africa a nation?
@Cassie K I asked you to elaborate, did you not comprehend?
A lot of people may think that their system is strict and excessive, outdated even, but I live in a Latin American country where ideas about dating and marriage are the complete opposite, and it's not a good thing. Everyone sleeps with everyone, no one gets married, men abandon their children, cheating is normal but at the same time everyone is jealous of everyone and violence and femicides are frightening common....And all of that affects society and families, of course. A bit of morality would do this country a lot of good.
Exactly, alot of people dont understand, people need to find hobbies instead of sex. We can even look at this in the black communities in America. Children out of wedlock, zero to low marriage rates, cheating etc etc. Black communities being the worse in America, everything ties in. Its more than a blac kid not being able to find a good job which makes their communities the way they are
Katie Frank this is why most of us are turning to Islam ❤
daniella castillo bejarano really??
Daniella, God has blessed you with the power to discover the Truth
Men also abandon their children in the middle east and sleep around. In fact men are so promiscuous here, they travel to Dubai or Thailand just for sex. There is no difference in how the men behave compared to there.
I’m an American and I think they’re right about western society decaying from the lack of morality. However, I think it is incredibly sad if two people that want to be together and form a family cannot because of differences in the family decisions.
Dont know about shias but in sunni islam, Man dont need his parents approval and father of women who deny the marriage for flimsy reasons can lose his guardianship over women and the judge can work as guardian of women.
pakistani here
years back i watched this documentary it was sent to me by a friend
and the part at 7 minutes where this educator guy was talking about american girsl have tones of boyfriends in school
back then my friend said this seems like a very sexist n archaic view
and i remmeber reading the comments on this video years ago ppl said the same
that how archaic n sexist n conservative this s#x educator guy is
but after watching redpill content creators from the west
FRESH N FIT , ROLLO , RICH COOPER , SANDMAN
watching western ppl talk about how f3m1n1sm has ruined the west
irans conservative approach to marriage dont seem so bad
Time is not far when in your society siblings will date with each other and like live-in-relation .
Islam has a huge problem with inbreeding
Thats what you get for Living in Medievil times
The US divorce rate is not 93%, it's somewhere in the 50's .
This video was about conservative families and so there was quite a lot of invalid information in it. Having 20 boyfriends is a lot anywhere in the world as an example.
divorce leave that you don't have marriages now 😂
he said of the marriages done just for love at first sight 93% divorce, listen to his entire sentence. Not sure of true or not but definitely different than what you claimed he said
@@lemortedbrian6070 I must've missed that part. But it still depends what he means love at first sight. If he is comparing "love marriage" vs. arranged, then no. Most American marriages are not arranged. There are hardly anyone who just meet someone "fall in love instantly" and get married right of way. It happens but is not common. So maybe the statistic works there. Although I have heard of it working, even we are skeptical though. Most people date or "court" get to know each other for 2 years before marriage. Their families usually meet. And not everyone has sex before marriage like the stereotype we get. There are a lot of people who are religious and non religious who choose to wait and just spend time getting to know each other in a non physical way.
@@falahati but i have 30 ex girlfriend from my highscholl till now
How respectful and graceful was the reporter, her questioning was done with out any judgement passed on different cultures or options .
anita i so like your name
this is not our culture. this is the 1% extremely religious Iranians. I have a boyfriend and even my parents married through dating.
@@user-fq7wr2vt5c Is this the extreme though or just more conservative than normal? I am very interested in learning about Iranian culture.
@@evilbred974 I consider this to be abit extreme since I personally dont know anyone like this. the group of friends however is the norm. 90% of Iranians are also not religious at all. shawl is a public dess code forced on us by the regime. if you go to persian gatherings, weddings and parties most women wear short tight dresses. not to mention there are Iranians who are Christian, bahai, Jewish and zoroastrian my mother is jewish my father is born Muslim but agnostic. hope that helped.
@@user-fq7wr2vt5c Cool, thanks for the real info.
The reporter is one of the most professional, respectful and smartest among her peers! Great job! Marry me plz
How do you ask a married women to marry you?
She is married for 10 years when this documentary waa filmed
haydara haydara she may be but you obviously are not. 🤦🏽♂️
Ahhahaha she looks like 50
Dont dont dont be Indian pls pls pls , too much hate today , cant take more , or i go full allhu akbar
What a respectful reporter.totally love her style of relating to the people.Thanks.
99% of the people who watched this... didn't pay attention.
1. It's not forced marriage.
2. Not everybody gets arranged marriages.
3. If your parents find someone for you, you can always say no.
4. The alternative is nobody gets married, no babies are born and you have yourself a crisis.
5. It's not like this in every muslim country, there are arranged marriages, but not by the government, it's a family matter.
6. Yes, forced marriages do happen, and so does everything else. Doesn't mean it's the norm, or that it's lawful, or endorsed...
There isn’t exactly a crisis if no babies are born. We are over populated.
my partner is from iran and he had partners to choose from that his family picked. he simply didnt find the right one, he was not in a crisis though because he met me outside of iran.
The crisis would be in 30-60 years in that particular country, when they got too many old people that can't work and not enough young working people.
Still this is no way to live. peace, freedom and love is fundamental human right.
1. If they marry or dress the way they want they get killed often or face violence.
2. They have no freedom express themselves socially, liberal ideas are often being threatened, no freedom to marry with chosen individual, can't hang out in public with friends having drinks.
3. And the last people suppressing love as a moral police. Marry according to parents. love is forbidden. no physical contact before marriage. couples can't hangout in public.
This medieval rules are no useful and does more harm than good.
Having drinks?
How exactly is it a good idea to have drinks? I'm assuming you are referring to alcohol...
What good does alcohol do?
They don't get killed, they get imprisoned. It's the law of the land.
You aren't free to dress as you want in the west. You can't go around naked now can you?
1. In the west we have limitations to how little clothes we can wear, in Iran those limitations are simply higher. I don't agree with it, but it's no different than here, simply more strict.
2. No freedom to express themselves socially? You know expressing oneself socially and on social media are two different things...
Also, they are free to marry who they want, as you saw in this video.
They found each other and then had their parents come to an agreement, and then got married... The guy has to provide the female with some... "insurance money" in case they get divorced or if he dies, so that she isn't left to tend for her kids in the gutter. It's the same system as in the west, except in the west the money issue is settled after divorce, but if he dies and doesn't got insurance then it's the wifes loss...
Also, it's not like every marriage is arranged, most people find their own mates. They aren't marrying according to their parents, their parents went through the same thing and they had a good enough experience to believe it's ok to help their kids out the same way their parents helped them.
People from the outside look in and think they know everything there is to know and start passing judgement... Iran isn't nearly an ideal place to live, but its not nearly as bad a place as people make it out to be.
I was really happy that Ali and Zahra got married.
Daaaaaaamn 😂😂😂😂😂 دهنتوووو
ولی صد تا سکه رفت تو پاچه علی!🙄
@Donnie Darko It does, 23K pounds
@Donnie Darko in Iran no one have enough money to pay for those gold coin only jail lol
@Donnie Darko They don't pay it up front. Even though they are supposed to, some places practice the culture of paying it over time. And a lot of people can pay that much money. Girls father seemed rich for a retired teacher!
10 boyfriends in highschool, And another 10 in college??
I was ripped off...send me those men please and thank you.
Hey...
It's normal in iran
ikr im already 18 but never had one that was crazy
Houston
@Joxxer619 as an asian, my mom wouldnt let me get into relationships until i graduate or prove them something:(
Such a beautiful country with such beautiful inhabitants. Very interesting to view. Zohre & Ali are such a sweet & beautiful couple & i'm so happy that this story had a happy ending. My very best wishes to Zohre & Ali & i hope that thus far, their marriage has been a wonderful & enjoyable journey. May their future be very bright, even bigger & better. Thanks for sharing & my best wishes to all. Much love & Peace to Iran & it's people.
IM WAITING FOR MY 20 BOYFRIENDS YALL
me too :)
@W M 🤣🤣💀💀
And I never even had one
Can I get them all at once?
maybe ur ugly :P
I met my wife 40 years ago, it was love at first sight. I was 20, she was 24. It’s been fun! You got married, congratulations! I wish you both the best.
Am sure your parents had concerns over the age gap
@@lilliangomez8971 the age gap of four years? Perhaps if the parents were stupid, then yes, that’d be a “pRoBlEm”
Bah bah.just get together with love and respect and leave the gap.♥️♥️
Bah bah ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
My wife should be 1 to 8 years younger than me simple
As an Iranian woman, I can say this documentary wasn't accurate, these kinds of marriages are too traditional and don't happen a lot, or at least I can say it's rare especially in younger & up to date generation at all.
@@MrMrpaulo2012 You may think it 's weird, but in my opinion, we're getting married to get a divorce one day.
@@MrMrpaulo2012 the reason why the divorce rates are lower with arranged marriages is because the cultures which they take place in find divorce taboo. divorce isn't a bad thing, it's the ending of a bad marriage; people don't get a divorce for fun.
@@MrMrpaulo2012 it's very foolish to support arranged marriages as it takes away basic human rights of freedom and choice. We do not have arranged marriages in the west as we are more civilised and do not wish to live in the 5th century. Many arranged marriages end up love less and not successful but divorce is taboo. Marriage has only ever been about procreation. Having something forced on people is against human rights, end of.
@@mehraneh1554 The rate of divorce is increasing even for arranged marriage in my country. In the past couples felt a great religious commitment after vows and stayed together long life, even though there were sort of problems and disagreements between them, but these days couples have already lost their stamina and have less religious commitments which end up to divorce. Too frustrating and if they have children it would certainly bring about a heart breaking impact on their children as well and their parents would ruin their future, by falling apart or getting divorced.
@@hshf.6292 yes, as societies develop, divorce becomes less taboo
I'm from Iran
And this report is not accurate
It's about a minority of people
Ali and Zohre really love each other. I’m glad their families worked it out!
Yes, after they bankrupt him.
yes probaly, but famillies didn't work it out, they still gave the 114 gold coins.
but in my case it has not worked. as i am hindu and she is shia muslim.
spoilersssss!!!!
run away.
93% divorce rate is a blatant lie! And he is talking about science.
Saying 93% of relationships lead to divorce isn't stating the divorce rate of the country. He is only stating that as a probability not as a statistic.
He said "93% divorce rate by love at first sight" Listen to it properly. Either way, America still has one of the highest divorce rates in the world, nothing to be proud of.
@Aria Davis that's exactly my point, people get divorced because they are "unhappy in the marriage"
Why get married in the first place to divorce later? If you are unhappy try going to a counsellor or a couple therapy and work it out, that's why divorce rates are so high in the US. Unless you are being molested, then it's fine to divorce. I don't know why people randomly get married and then divorce because "iT doEsN't seEm tO woRk oUt anYmOrE"
@Aria Davis I'm sorry hun but my country is the second most populous country in the world and still has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world. I guess it all depends on morals and values. People in the US don't care for that, they marry how many ever time they want, that's probably why it has one of the highest divorce rates.
@Aria Davis molest includes abuse and cheating
So glad Ali and Zahra got married. I'm Christian and truly believe Love is a gift from God
Amen
Ya in america love is a fucked up concept
Yea it is a gift ... but how the girl's from there say if he's reach ... it's better ..
. OMG
No, It's just chemicals in your brain encouraging you to reproduce. It's a survival mechanism wired in into our brains.
I believe a person's first proper job is a gift from God.
I (a woman) have been to Iran twice on business about 10 years ago (from here in the UK). It was interesting to see this programme and I am glad that here in the UK that those of my children (we are Christian) married before having children. In the latest English census we find for the first time presumably for about 1500 years just over half of people are having children without ever marrying. It is a big change. I really don't think 93% of US marriages fail or that most people have relationships intimately with 20 people before marriage. as said on the film Some might have that many, but not all.
America are number 1 for STDs, single mothers and abortions so I think those stats are right.
Yes, the illegitimacy rate here in the UK is absolutely shameful.
vast majority of people barely have 2 or 3 partners in highschool, most have none afaik, he was absolutely exaggerating how promiscuous children are lol
93$ of LOVE MARRIAGES. Key word: Love marriages fail.
'I'll hold into this ecstasy my whole life. As I already loved you before I lived''
That was the most romantic thing I have ever heard.
This poem is by Saadi
Omg that’s youu! What a coincidence!!! I literally have talked to you on Twitter about Tatwa almutairi one day and now I see you here in the comments haha
I could say 100 things more romantic off the top of my head, never mind if put some effort and thought into
@@elnazt7044 do you know the poem's name in Persian?
Poem, run away from anyone who told such stuff to you
I'm infuriated by the so-called professor claiming the dating in the US is the reason to the nation's decline. The motive for such rhetorics are ALWAYS a wish to control women.
Fuck you
@@mauriciozambrano3166 Fuck you too incel.
Yea, and whenever they want to control women they hide behind their stupid ass religion and say "I'm not a misogynist, I just want to uphold God's laws!"
@@mauriciozambrano3166
I don't think it's accepted to swear in Islam especially if it's with no reason...
Yes I am infuriated also, so outraged.........now where did I out the BBQ chips....
The reporter is absolutely adorable with her child like fascination
Lmao right?
I don't know if she's faking it or is she really that naive
@@lisakuhta3157 I think she was just trying to be nice and not too critical. So she smiled way too often
Reporter has come with a western colonial mindset
@@mohammadrahman9698 Childlike wonder is colonial? Correct yourself.
I really love your documentary. You really engaged yourself to that culture and I hope you enjoyed it
I kind of don't blame Zohre's parents for playing hardball. If my daughter brought home a guy with no job, I wouldn't be too thrilled either.
high rate of underemployment in Iran makes finding jobs hard specially in art field like this boy
Keep in mind Iran is under huge sanctions by US therefore it isn't easy getting a job. US are attackimg innocent people with their sanctions. Then wonder my lot of the world hates them.
VegasGirl35
You are right , I agree with you .
@@mohammadbaqer7921 study engineering then lol
Are you dumb they were greedy. He has 13k wasnt it? They wanted se big bog gold
I am Iranian, and I born and grew up it Iran. And many parts of the documantry is also for me new and far from mz life. I do not mean it is fake or lie, but honestly we are such a wide range of people that I can only see this marriage stuff on the documentry. Our social group never go through these steps, and we do different way.
I am from Pakistan I marry in Iran please guide me brother
soheil Mirzajanian Totally agree.
Only Peace kill infidels you will get ur virgins
@@OldGold56 you cant. Fuck off
@@OldGold56 Get lost
i am from Saudi Arabia and i knew some Iranian during my study in the USA. In spite of the political differences between the two countries , i must say that i thought Iranian people are -generally- helpful , friendly, generous and outgoing. i more astonished than shocked but this made me realize that -some times- people of opponent countries can be friendly to each other. I believe Iranian people deserve a better future and i wish them that
ever thought about emigrating from SA?
Thanks Alot! love form Iran to you Muslim brother/sister(sorry Idont know your Gender by name)
@@Pedo_phile_Muhammad your name shows that u are a such an ignorant idiot. You will see in the afterlife what happens to you for cursing our beloved prophet. Peace be upon him.
Muslim men can marry little girls ruclips.net/video/Xn_qlXV-fSs/видео.html
Much love from iran to free peoples❤️
thanks for covering such a silent but crucial topic from religious perspective in Iranian community and letting us know more about the Iranian marriage norms and cultures. the host was extra conscious about the sensitivity of the subject, that was a good point too.
13 million singles and 250 marriages. That's the result when state is trying to do what it shouldn't.
True
@Rusto i think ya don't know nothing about development?, what kind of development they don't have?!..
@Rusto couldn't agree more , islam is poison the government forces teenagers to taste it they are the same as north korea a dictator government run by some religious men that no matter what people do they can't change, they are just ignorant they don't care how much the citizens are suffering as long as they are "going to heaven"
Bro really typed “That`s”
With the ` instead of the normal ‘
It shows how fussy the brides to be are and how rigorous the selection process.
These are the type of documentaries we want to see! I am from Afghanistan and it would be nice to see stories like this instead of the 24/7 war-torn country we see on the news all the time.... Keep it up!
Hope liberals like you ll be out of islamic emirate of Afghanistan
@@malcolmx3399 'liberals like you'
Hope you are okay
Hope you’re ok man
@@malcolmx3399 my man writes a comment on a video and suddenly he is a liberal lol
So glad they got married in the end they truly looked In love such a beautiful couple, I think the parents are making things difficult 🙄
Shakeel Tec um?
Sameer yaris calm down
@Sameer yaris Nani ?
the parents demanding 114 gold coins appear to be greedy to me
@@MarriedToTheKGB the gold go the girl
When Muslim man married he was give the wife huge amount of gold the family of the wife will never accepte low price for her
Iran.....A truly incredible country, possessing the most beautiful & rich history, culture & inhabitants. This documentary is so interesting, so eye opening, so intriguing, but also, a wee bit sad to witness. Whilst the traditional & cultural aspect of Iran is so unique, special & historically long standing, the times are slowly changing, but i do hope, that Western culture won't take over Iranian culture too much. It's critical to retain as much of one's culture & long standing traditions as much as possible, albeit, a wee bit of Western culture sprinkled in, is ok too. I see it like this.....If you take away too much of Iranian culture, then it's no longer the Iran we all know, appreciate & even love. Once certain traditions are dismantled or gone, it's almost impossible, to reverse it back once again. It's so hard to find that middle ground, the so called, balance. Zohre & Ali are such a sweet & beautiful couple, as many young Iranian couples are. I'm so happy that they got married & i can only wish them all the happiness in the world & a big, bright future. I also hope & pray, that since Covid started, that all those we've seen in this documentary, are still safe & well. Thank you for sharing this documentary with us & my best wishes to all.
Thank you so very much for taking time to write this wonderful and thoughtful letter for all of us. Wish you all the best ❤ good health and happiness and prosperity 🙏🙏🙏🌹
When families use money to negotiate their childrens love for one another that's just so wrong and unpure.
True but in this instance, her life is probably more restricted and so if he ever left her, that would be the cost of leaving her so she can be taken care of.
@@IceQeen1011 so u mean yo say a girl dont have a potential to earn if he leaves her n what if she leaves her what money he ll get ?
@@dharmeshmakwana1164 Iran has severe gender inequality and in their society, they have this thing to help protect her. Arguing 'what if she leaves him' is such an incredibly stupid question since this isn't some Western country or India where women have the same rights as men. What is your problem with this simple protection that the family want to give their daughters in a society of inequality? Given your name, I'm assuming you're Indian. Do you have issues with the dowry system in India where the women have to pay men to get married to them? How backwards is that??
@@IceQeen1011 dowry is wrong
almost 90-95% of the society dont believe in dowry now. we have to change for the good of our self. dont u think ?
@@dharmeshmakwana1164 Absolutely, it is a social evil but you are wrong that 90-95% think it is wrong. If that were the case, there wouldn't be dowry but there IS! And men and their families still demand dowry.
2:55 Lmao
Doctor :"93% divorce rate for love marriage"
Reporter: ive been married for 10 years
Doctor: "science is based on the majority not the exeptions"
lol fakes statistic
Islamic "science"
Raman chaudhary The saw is absolutely right. We Iranians also laugh at the statistics of politicians.😀 are fake
Well she didn't say if it was her first love or not
She didn’t say “married” nor did she say “husband.” She said “partner” and “together.”
Yeah so 7 percent is still left
I like Ali, he's a sweetheart. I'm SO glad he got to marry his one true love.
I am Ali
Yes. Not everyone is lucky to have it all in life
I wonder what the woman thinks? Not just what Ali thinks?
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Making someone’s path for marriage easy is a good deed in Islam, as you’re protecting them from adultery and helping them towards the moral decision
Agreed, I feel as if the parents are hindering them based on greed and their own selfish desires, and that they are not truly focusing on what’s best for building their iman or bettering their life!
I live in Tehran and got married at the age of 21 and now I am 38 years old. And I have 2 beautiful daughters. You can get married when you feel responsible and become a man of life, but you must promise to be the best wife and never betray your spouse.
Best husband should also not betray
Yes you must promise 😅 😉
@@aleckerby1236 wtf?
@tahat8197 my experience in the uk, of muslim women in the work place is a very interesting version of Islam. I bet if they was in the middle east, it would not be the same. Makeup and Short dresses life of the work party until the drive home. All get dressed down in work bathrooms, and the women have more partners than the men. That dna ancestors Web sight has wound some Asian men realising they not the daddy's.😅
I am Italian, my wife is English. We married for love at first sight . We have been together for over 50 years with children and grandchildren. Love always pays. .
This is a very well documented video; however, I just wanted to clarify that what was shown in the video mainly occurs between stricter families. I visited Iran last summer and there's definitely two sides to this whole dating scene. I witnessed families that were strict and would not freely allow their kids to marry whomever they love. But I also witnessed families that were more liberal and modern who were not opposed to their children marrying for love as long as the families meet. I would have loved if they had shown both sides in the video so people around the world get to see every aspect of it.
I felt they did, they showed a group of very liberal young people who said they didn't come from strict families. I think they were trying to cover all bases.
That's true but what I meant was it would have been nice to see them talk about it a tad bit more in terms of their experiences dating for love in a country where it's not as common
rmadridista ah well but their translator works for the government, so if they talk to freely they might be in trouble
Why do you have to equate modern with liberal?
Dariush Ashkani, Because liberalism is by definition modern and open to change, conservatism is stagnant and opposed to change and progress. Read a dictionary.
I’ve been to Iran many times, the dating and social life are exactly like us! We don’t tell our parents everything, neither do they! Probably the friendliest, kindest, most welcoming people I’ve ever met!
all people are not like that
Agree!
Plz tell me how many marriage a man can do?
@@deepalisaraf6011 it's so unusual for Iranian man to have more than 1 wife... Before it was more common. And this is not even about the Iranian culture, it's actually the right of any Muslim man to have up to 4 wives.
@@Perkeleee666 ok Thank U 4 the Information ☺
Incredible! thanks for such an amazing stories.
I am from Afghan-Hazara-Shia, having same culture as Iranian. I faced the same thing when I was getting married, me and my wife we both agreed to get married in simplest way as possible. But We were concerned about others’ decision rather than our selves. I did it.. And now most of the people are not happy from us... even they are aunt and uncle for my kid. 😢 But we are happy as we are... less money but we can survive.. Allah has granted us enough.
Why they call refugee on Iran and why they call your Barbari
Ismail shamali
Because we having such people like your self.
Hazaras are also Persian and Persian speaking
If you are happy then that’s all that matters. Life is short, and no one else can make you happy except for you. I think you did the right thing. Peace be with you.
you did the best👍
"i will hold on to this ecstasy all my life as i already loved u before i lived"
call me a simp I guess because I MELTED when he said that. They are so in love and I feel so full with happiness for them :)))
@@claire6511 yup, Iranians love poetry and their poetry is beautiful.
@@claire6511 your not a simp ur just a human who wants to be loved, and its beautiful, w8 for a man who loves you like that :)
I’m so happy that Ali and Zahre could get married. May Allah grant them happiness, health and much more love and blessings for their life together ahead. Amin
Alis a HORRIBLE negotiator lmao... 114 gold coins to 14, and then back to 114 along with other shit lol
Lol, may they live in misery so long as it makes everyone else happy
@@dannnsss8034 I am going to hell for laughing at your comment :D
@@dannnsss8034 I'd be so triggered if I was the father. He has level 100 rizz but level 0 negotiation.
Iran looks like a very beautiful country, really want to visit someday.
I love Iran and it's people,I'll have to say that since I visited Iran in 2004 I have been going there every year till date,didn't know what to expect at beginning but since I come from Serbia and know that the west propaganda and media have made my country look so bad and evil and racist while it's completely the opposite and serbians are one of the most welcoming and nicest people anyone will come across I was sure that Iranians are the same and God was I right.
I was welcomed like a prince there and invited almost by everyone I met,in restaurants random people I didn't know wanted to pay my bill and even the restaurant owner didn't want to charge me as he was happy that I visited his place but ofcourse I paid.No one ever spoke about religion or Hate towards anyone,they were western orientated and are very smart people and highly educated,of course I knew all these but had to see it for myself and was sure that since they get so much bad advertisnt against them that it is exactly the opposite of what the western poison does to countries that doesn't abide by their rules.
Another point I would like to add is that I traveled quite a lot(over 50 countries)even in the middle east where alcohol and clubbing is allowed but I actually felt more free and relaxed in IRAN than in those ME COUNTRIES.
Also my country has opened a viza free regime to IRANIAN citizens and many of them are visiting here and that make me so happy to see them that I would walk up to them and start a conversation cause as I said they treated me soo good that I'll never forget that and it's not only me they treat good but any tourist that visits gets the same hospitality regardless of their religion or nationality, US citizens included,thank u IRAN from one SERBIAN guy.
milos medic yeah right, serbians are miserable never smile and always complain 😂
sure media exaggerate things, but most of the time they have some truth in them.
as for serbia a lot of people i know are kind and good but the state still dreams and has nostalgjia of the war and never accepted it atrocities
"serbians are one of the most welcoming and nicest people anyone will come across" - Yeah, they only sold Romanians back to their government back in its communist days (to the end of '89) for salt, and gasoline. Those were real refugees, many with families, who risked their lives to get across and when handed back some ended up dead while others serving prison sentences, etc. And there were so many... So please.
I'm not generalizing at all by saying all Serbs are bad, because that would be a lie, but I am recounting real, recent side of history that nonetheless must be known.
milos medic you go to iran every year? Wow
This documentary was really well produced! It is so interesting to see what some Iranians think about marriage. Thank you very much
thats what the hardcore religious people think about marriage. dont believe everything you see. only a minority of people think this way and wear clothes like that
oh yea sorry my bad, I meant to say "some Iranians". I just edited my comment. I personally agree with you, but still it was nice to see what some Iranians think, because I do not really know a lot about Iran, as a country. :)
Iam iranian and live in Iran even for me (and many other Iraninas)it was interesting to see these guys view . never met anyone like these people . very nice
F Piuz can you tell me what you think about marriage? It would be interesting to see the differences between your point of view and their's :)
I had girlfriend since I was 17 , my parents never told me not to have girlfriend or not to have have sex before marriage . and this is not only my parrents. alot of family in Iran are not that strict. I think alot of it ,is becuase of Reza Shah modernization in the 20's and 30's. however as you can see they are still minorities(always been) with strong religious view. only difference is that after revolution the world got to see more of them beacuse today in Iran minorities with extreme islamic view are in control of everything . politics , Media , etc
Iranians appear to be very beautiful people not like media paints them.
Thank you
@K K its is not hot!?
K K
13:36 🥰
K K she’s not talking about physically you genius. She means their spirit and attitude
@K K in iran there is two type people.one we call hejabi ones and the other westerny one!! So u see what u see in america or Europe and you also see type like saudi or arab countries!!
My mom & dad were together 53 years after “love at first site” when my mom passed in 2011.
May Allah have mercy on her soul.
I am sorry for your lost
Those were in true love!
I'm sorry for your loss
My parents were married 65 years.. they fell in love at first sight
Cuz they were good ol' days. Those who are sincere Christians or some other religion( in the west), they mostly stay loyal to one partner all their life. But, I see athiests and liberals every where these days, look at the promiscuity(I'm not surprised by the no. of young people wanting to do porn for money and be like it's no big deal)especially in the US ( you may not be like that, but they simply didn't get that stereotype, a lot of others do). They treat sex as a need, and act as if they die if they won't have it. Well, but if mind is controlled, you can focus on more important things than that.
I am SO happy that sweet couple got married!!!! They were so in love and both seem to be nice, happy, people who will enjoy life together. It would have been very very sad if they hadn't got each other.
Muslim men can marry little girls ruclips.net/video/Xn_qlXV-fSs/видео.html
He'll
I’ve travelled to see a lot of the world in my life. But the main two things I’ve noticed are:
1) While we all look a little different, and speak different languages - we really all want the same things out of life. (Family, love, happiness, opportunity and good health - a good life.)
2) Cultures often come up with different solutions - for the same old problems. (Sometimes it may seem easy to see what solution is better - and sometimes it’s not.)
Knife and fork or Chopsticks?
Just be sure to have an adventurous life - no matter what solution you pick!
People are people. We all want love and respect, and want the best for our loved ones. 🤷
Well put. Only, in religious societies you want what the religion wants and what it has led to believe you that you want, or how you want it...
I never wanted a husband, I thought it looked boring to be closed in a house with one man. Always having to be together and travelling together and going on holiday together. I didn't see the joy in it! I got kids but no husband, I have LOVED my life, travelling with my kids, having movie-nights with them, doing so much fun with them, and spending time with my friends and now as in my 60's travelling with my friends! I love my life and would not have it any other way!
Hands knife and firs chopstic I think hands are the best
@@mrsTraveller64 Your psychology seems damaged. Kids without a father are damaged specimens even no one realises it at first.
If you want to live alone with ur cats then you mustn’t have kids and make them miserable with you. Very selfish.
And a good indicator of why Western society is such a depressive failure where most women are on anti-depressants.
I strongly suspect the real reason you never had a husband is because you could never keep one. To hide your failure as a woman you pretend like you are single out of choice.
I am from Sweden but I really like the Iranian family system within the rich tapestry of Iranian familial bonds lies a heritage of honor, devotion, and timeless traditions, fostering a sacred ground for unions to blossom. The Persian family, a mosaic of warmth and solidarity, paints a canvas of love and guidance, a cherished legacy passed down through generations, adorning the journey of new beginnings.
You are not Swedish so your opinion doesn't count. 😂. Once a mulla always a mulla.
@@skagraw2 pfftt, you are a p3jeet, your kind follow the same system until now. 70 to 80% of marriages in india are arranged.
Man :- "Science is based on Majority not on Exceptions...
Le Chemistry :- "Hold My Beer"..!!!!
Indian exams and their fetish to exceptions.
Islamic science supposedly taught in the quoran is based on majority. Like it teaches how Muhammad pbuh split the moon into two. However everyone knows everything in it is bullshit.
DEBABRATA MUKHERJEE kind of I mean exceptions are written at the bottom of our text book meanwhile the majority on top Of the book this is why Those who disagree with this probably never studied chemistry in school
Zohre and Ali is exactly what is so fantastic romantic about Iran, so romantic and poetic steeped in a long history of refined intellectual universal truths with an Iranian twist, I wish them all happines in the world!
ngl it was disgusting not fantastic
@@hatemchananeh6901 she was negotiated and sold like a slave for the highest auction bid 💰 what an unhealthy and confusing way to see a person you're in love with
Asalam u alaikum
@@supreme5580 She was not sold, she is the one who gets the money
As an Iranian, I would like to inform you that this is only a VERY VERY SMALL part of the population. Not the majority.
this video is very innocent, showing very innocent clean people but the truth that it is not majority...maybe 5%
@Grandmaster that's not what I'm talking about
Religous Iranians are probably 30% of Iran.
Fake troll
ikr? because Iranians were secular...... it is the majority in other muslim countries?
Cute, and well-made documentary with excellent reporter!
I am Iranian it is not 100 percent just like that in Iran. Maybe 10 percent of people are getting married like this. The most majority of youngsters in Iran are boyfriend and girlfriend then they decide whether they get married or not.
Sahar Ahadi it's crazy how the media gives us bad image about your country
@@kevinchiau8829 Yeah
@@kevinchiau8829 Thanks for your notice ! These Media get paid by the terrorist government , better to say it is Fake News .
اره افرین بگو بشون ک ازشون تقلی کردیمو رد هم شدیمو گند زدیم ب رابطه ها!!!!!!یگو بشون دخترا چنتا چتا دوس پسر دارن زنای متاهل هم دوس پسر دارنو برعکسش!!!!!!!بگو انحراف مد شده تو ایران!!!!!!!
sad ena چیزی غیر از اینه مگه
There was a misunderstanding for non Iranian who watched this video, The gold coins they were talking about before the couple's marriage, is not being paid at all, It's the only power the wife will have in a case one day she wants to divorce her husband, based on Islamic law in Iran, women do not have any power to divorce their husband, it belongs solely to husbands' powers, Mehriah_The gold coins_ are the power what the wife uses mostly as a threat if she wants to divorce, to get her husband to accept the divorce, if he doesn't accept it , she asks the husband to pay it and law in this matter is in wives' side and as more the coins are as stronger is the power.
that explains a lot! thank you
women are not allow to divorce? that's unbelievable.
@@qizhang5129 the can divorce the husband but they have to pay back the mahr expect some cases they dont pay it back
@Ali El Sibai Dear Ali it is true in some part but in reality it dose not work this way, First of all proof of abuse in court in women favor is something near to impossible, even when you do have the paper from legal doctors I heard judges saying you are still alive and he provide for you and..
About the agreement,when it came to time for divorce despite the agreement the judge asks the wives to bring another paper, not the marriage certificate which is signed with the conditions in it, from the husband to let the wife to divorce. Even those very little powers, are just on paper and when someone needs to use them they see the ugly reality of it, those are bunch of useless laws. Everything is in favor of husband, unless the person has a political issue with IRI then the wife can get her divorce!
Thanks for clarifying. That's really confusing for us westerners.
Literally so happy Ali and zohre could marry. What a beautiful couple!
But the family of Ali is not so happy with this huge loan of gold coins
I loved this documentary ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Where are you from bro
@@agostocobain2729 Pakistan, Skardu
Iran looks much liberal compare to Saudi. I have lived in Saudi for 5 years.I never seen boys and girls mingling like this in Saudi
Dude even if someone wanted to follow a different religion, that's not possible. So dumb. But then again thats the best chance to purge religion from our lives
This is really stressful for me to even watch. Is this liberal? I real feel bad for all these people.
@@mukunda4021 whatever it is , it's there culture don't march in there storing democracy and colonism
@@aliescobar9615 I didn't get you. What do you mean?
@@mukunda4021 it's stressful for you to watch and u feel it's not liberal, that's what I perceived from your comment, u sound some one from the west ???
I wish Iran all the best, and to get out of US sanctions soon. From Scandinavia.
When they behave, the sanctions will be lifted.
@@stukazzo8026 the US are pricks
Ameen
Ameen
Thanks man
The guy at 13:55
He looks just like me. Like we're identical twins. Please if someone knows him, direct me to him or something.
This is very cool and very freaky at the same time.
(Please like it so that more people can see this)
Kindy_91 funny
Kindy_91 looool you little sneak. He is YOU. You just want to draw attention to the fact you appeared in the video.
Mariezee Phyllix Why the fuck would i do that 😂
Kindy_91 Because you Iranian men can be crazy like that loool. It be your way of saying "Ladies I'm a hot fella, the proof is in this video, feel free to slide into my dm".
Mariezee Phyllix sorry to bust your dreams of making a weird argument sound but I’m not even Iranian 😄
What a story!!!
It's more emotional than a fairy tale. The endurance of the reporter must be appreciated.
im an iranian and i didnt know there are matchmakers in iran and they help finding couples this way. i enjoyed watching this video thx for making it. just want to mention iran has a diverse society and this video just shows us a part of it. there are a lot of agnostics and atheists too.
thank you for informing
My heart bleeds often for you guys, and I cry from time to time. My country is pursuing war with you guys.... I hope you and yours manage to stay safe. I am trans female, not "the real thing," and I know Islamic Law forbids homosexuality, but I really don't care about my rights or well-being in comparison with how much I care about so many children, women, and men.
It's moments like these I feel ... sinful... for how much I have placed myself above people overseas, in my own daily activities. I am in moderately ~fair / ~poor health, mentally and physically, but if I just learn to keep my mouth shut better, and if I pick up the speed of my studies once I have finished securing and making more complete my double life, then five years from today, if I study that long before taking full involvement... I could do anything, if it's on a computer and i began beforehand.
Can you tell me , will a Shia girl marry with a Sunni boy or not ?
@@sayeemazharul1245 the rules in islam are soooo complicated... long story short... it depends on the ayyatollah whom you are following... if it really is important to you we can continue this topic❤️
@@bonniesnowden4076 thanks for your kindness but i just wanted to mention that changing gender in islam and iran has no problem for transsexuals...
I was in high school once, where tf were my 10 boyfriends at??!!
Sadly this world isn't fair
At high school.
Maybe you're ugly thats why 🙃
Perseverance13 it seems you are the one who dont have sense of humor . 🙃😉 peace
LOOLL
5:14 ''She's studying accountancy... So far she's not met men who added up to much'' Pun intended
Haha
Haha
Haha 😂😂🤣
@@RobustNut Accountancy is a job that involves heavy math and numbers hence the term "added up to much" with an emphasis on "added" which links to math and adding and subtracting numbers.
But on the plus side...
As an Iranian watching your documentary 5 years later, the only thing I can say is IT IS EXPIRED!
No. It isn't.
I am sooooo happy for Ali and Zohre
Men in iran better move to Pakistan or India lol, here if someone is "wella" jobless. Parents urge him to get married. We desi think marriage is the ultimate solution for all of our problems lol
We have too much freedom belive me
You just shoud see our university!
@@mohamadmehrzad577 l
😂👍
This luxury is only for women/girls though
Bro i was also thinking that.In this subcontinent it's so easy to get married.
the reporter is professtional, irani people looks kind and friendly :)
and i want to say that every mama in different country enjoy being a match maker, especially in Asia maybe? 🤣
Mama😂😂
Thanks for showing our beautiful traditions ❤❤
"10 boyfriends in high school and another 10 in college??" 😂😂😂
At 30 years old I have enough trouble trying to find a man I can tolerate for more than 20 minutes. I didn't even have my first boyfriend until after I got my degree.
But dating 20 men over my lifetime?? FOR FREE?? I would go criminally insane.
Slayer fan?
It's weird that a woman can't stand men, hates cooking, it seems that she feels uncomfortable for being a woman.
🤣🤣🤣
I will find you 1 husband 💞🤩 send your WhatsApp or email address to me ✍
It’s not ur fault, the society thought you immorality from young age. Try compromise any time each there aren’t perfect person &,most importantly stop sinner other word create commitment with lord. You will happiness!!
That Sabba girl is actually pretty imo, kind of happy to see that she may possibly have a choice in who she marries instead of forced arranged marriage zz
I think in Western world choosing a spouse for your kid would be considered "babying your adult child", right??
We dont have forced marriage in Iran.
Rain X She's too old
I don’t think you understand the meaning of ‘force’. She has choice- no one was forcing her to marry a man she didn’t know.
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Iranians are the most cultured people .. one of the great civilizations. I wish to visit Iran once. Love from India.
Better you visit israell😂
Yes love Iran from Pakistan
what s great documentary! very happy couple at end of the documentary
What’s more ironic is that men from Iran actually invented Tinder! Lol
I did a google, and it seems that you are wrong. The founders are from America; their families are from Iran.
@@socrattt Still tho...
Sooo, Iranian Americans. Technically you’re both right?
@@socrattt that's the same thing if your Iranian American, your basically from Iran.
Iran also allows gender reassignment surgery, even though it is against Islam.
We need more documentaries on Iran. I am 3rd generation Persian, and I want to discover more about my culture.
ruclips.net/video/OuQZ19Om1JA/видео.html Best documentary
@@hannahfountain8515 thats literal far right western propaganda.
@@hannahfountain8515 Incredible. I did more research into Anni and the current state in Iran. It makes me glad that the people are getting sick and tired of sharia law and want to start a revolution.
flux good
flux This is no where close to the reality 🙃
People need to differentiate between CULTURE and RELIGION.... in this documentary... CULTURE is shown... RELIGION is a far broader term.... Islamic weddings vary greatly from different parts of the world.... Malaysian do not get married the same way as Saudis do, Iranian do no get married the same way as Pakistanis do, Ethiopian do not get married the same way as Egyptians do.... Its all a matter of CULTURE and not RELIGION.... gosh people, grow some freaking common sense
exactly
Krygstan marry by kidnyping girl
Please marry with love, love can move mountains, living with a rich husband but no love is going to turn into an emotional tragedy and misery
This was an excellent report and the reporter was calm and collective at all times. I liked the way the reporter made all the people she spoke to feel very comfortable. Ali and Zohre were such a great couple really in love. I myself was anxious to learn the outcome of their parents deciding on whether they would marry or not. The suspense was overwhelming but, I was so relieved that they married a few days later. What a nice ending. Thanks to this wonderful reporter for such an in sight about Iranian culture. I respect the Iranian and their traditional ways as they’ve been doing it forever. One day I’d like to experience Iranian hospitality as they look to be wonderful respectful people. Thanks for this wonderful report.
There are so much misconcept about western way of life.
Unfortunately western media and cultural presentations are not helping us as foreigners what exactly western social values are.
@Darren Richardson Trust me it's not that easy. One example is YT itself. How many times do you think I find a report like this in YT? 3 out 10. Unfortunately western platforms have somehow been saturated by such representations that finding the real deal has become a little difficult and time consuming.
@Darren Richardson Who are you? The '''Moral'' teacher?
@Darren Richardson There are so many types of propaganda about everything. It's all political. You need to see from both the sides. You can't just take one side and call it propaganda. You need to see the other side and see if what the other side says is true or not too. Like how west is represented without any morals and Islamic is treated as cruel and presented in very bad light.
@Darren Richardson Yeah, I do agree with you. That there are vile characters in every group of people.
Lovely young couple at the end. It’s horrible how the parents demanded 114gold coins for her and it could have split them up. Thankfully they made it together.
The accountant lady was very pretty.
Frog Princess why was the parents’ demand a bad thing? They wanted financial security for their daughter. I think you’re looking at this the wrong way.
In that environment, the family feel disrespected if they sell the woman for cheap. It's all about reputation.
You will be surprised if she was a divorce they would demand nothing. That's how fucked up it is in the middle East.
Sam LSD ‘sell’- how ridiculously stupid are you😂😂! The bride gets to keep the dowry - not her family.
That is because starting a family with a divorced woman is a risk for man since she already has had a failed marriage. Woman feel the same way. I don't think that many lets say first timer woman are very eager to marry a divorced men, either. The other thing is it is mostly the women that assign monetary value to themselves. I live in part of Turkey where not the parents but their daughters make such demands. If the man owns a house she wants it to be put under her name. If he owns a car she demands that he registered it under her name as a condition of marriage. I have friend who went to meet a girl which was arranged by both side's families. She was a nurse making a good money. She demanded him to give her this much gold, set up a bank account in her name and deposit a large amount of money. She said ıf you meet my demands I am gonna marry you tomorrow. He told her that so if someone comes along and offers you more money and gold, you are gonna split your legs for him. I don't marry a whore.
You said that " the family feel disrespected if they sell the women for cheap " . I don't buy it. I don't talk about the women in this particular video but I am sure generally it is the girls that make those demands , fathers are just voicing it.
Watch here 05:53 she doesn't want to marry with someone who has less education than her.
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that is not selling you dumbass. 114 gold is if the husband cheats or leave her then has to pay that to the wife. that is the same as alimony in the west. remember that he only has to pay if he leaves her
Thanks you have done great work, this video very informative for me, here misperception in the world in about Iran .
Lies I didn't date till I was 21, and I'm an American girl from a huge city.
To be fair, theyve seen american movies. thats their only source and all kids in those movies are crying cause they are 17 and still a virgin. I bet you have a wrong idea about Iran. Its not all what on the media.
You’re right, but by the time you get 41 you would say I date only 10 peoples. Not bad at all !
@@attorneyatlaw4021 That's called being normal. Do you think every relationship is a fairytale where the man and woman are virgins on their wedding night and stay together until they die of old age? If so, then you are putting ridiculous expectations on people and you don't understand human nature.
@T.Great Island Of The World Forever I will not adopt "Islamic values" because religions are false. I don't care what the majority of the world supposedly wants because I believe in individual freedom. And marriage is just a man-made tradition, it is not natural like sex. Good parents talk to their kids about sex and educate them about it and teach them to have sex responsibly. Abstinence only fails everywhere it goes and leads to teen pregnancy and stds.
@T.Great Island Of The World Forever You're a simpleton. People here can make their own choices, for good or bad. Freedom and reality are risky. And morality has nothing to do with it, that's your own bigotry. Not sure how somebody like you would define "cheating" anyways. And marriage is not perfect, sometimes there is domestic abuse, and divorce is good in those cases. Women are not "used and abused", they choose to have sex and they enjoy it.
Gosh the Iranians are so good looking.
We got big cocks too
@@wedemboys3024 Too bad you're not allowed to use them
Kaïsa Ilona We go to other countries and use it on their women don’t worry
While you're at it, you should use it on the men too...
@@kaisailona685 if we couldnt use them there wouldnt be 82 million Persians in Iran hahaha
As someone with Iranian roots, it's very interesting to see this kind of people that I usually don't have to do with, traditional, religious people. The ones I know get to know each other on parties, in cafes etc. And I really liked the way the reporter presented everyone.
Is Iran diaspora even Muslim?
I really wonder how people get to know each other in cafes if it's not a celebration with a mutual friend who can introduce you to each other.
You mean in Iran? Oh, people learn flirting there hahaha Especially in the cities that's a whole vibe, very flirty, kind of promiscuous at times
Isaac Asimov, the SciFi writer, had foreseen the complete transformation of society, also at the love level. When men and women become "free" of their fundamental needs to mate, where they are not dependent on one from the other anymore, then living single becomes the default behavior. "Needs" can be as diverse as : need for company to avoid solitude, need to have children, need of financial support, need to respect traditions... etc.
I agree 100% with Asimov's, and I believe that Iran is not a special case. You see the same trend in Japan, South Korea, Italy, each of them having different reasons explaining the difficulty for man and woman to mate. These countries develop a specific strategy, largely influenced by local culture, to push men and women to meet, have sex and procreate. That's one of the new challenges of modern age. Thank you for this very good reportage and very good reporter, full of respect and open to others. SUBSCRIBED!
The correspondent is really wonderful and lovely.
I loved her.
Shes Irish were amazing people