A Lot of You Are Autistic & Asexual (Me Too) | Autism Q&A pt.1
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- Listen to me autistically ramble about why I think some of us (yes, I'm looking at you) are both asexual and aromantic (and nonbinary/ genderfluid/ gender non-conforming...) and autistic. Autism and queerness are no strangers, and for me, they are intrinsically intertwined. How about for you?
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My name is Elle (they/he/she) and I'm an enby and aro-space ace doing my queer thing here in the internet universe. Join me and let's be gay nerds. I'd really like that. Love you!!
My name is Kaden, (any pronouns) and I'm a non-binary demisexual aromantic nerd! Stick around if you seek to trudge through my existential edginess here in this internet space.
I used to think I couldn't be asexual because I sometimes feel sexual attraction, and then I learned about terms such as demisexual and gray-asexual.
I’m autistic and ace. I definitely have had a couple of crushes but my autism and not knowing how to navigate romantic relationships has held me back.
I heard ACE crushes called "Squishes" =o)
i’m not autistic but i honestly think everyone has a lil tism ~~ i totally agree with you the not knowing how to navigate a romantic relationship and looking back i rejected a lot of people because the idea in my head was oh they want sex so i’m going to say no when i honestly didn’t know what they wanted really. one of my friends asked me out and i said yes but then literally 2 hours later and went back to him and was like no nevermind i don’t wanna date you. 😭🤣🤣
I'm autistic aroace & agender,just collecting all the As! and am only figuring this out recently because I am very weird around other people, but I know how to do school and get good grades so I didn't start hitting trouble till I got to uni and had no idea how to make friends or whether I was supposed to have relationships?? And just wondering what was wrong with me and finding labels because there's actually nothing wrong with me, it's just how I was born. Anyway, I love your videos!! They are so good!! Also sweet octopus poster! Octopuses are so cool! It's very interesting how thier eyes evolved separately from ours and the function and parts are super similar (retina, lens ect.) but the attachment of retina to nerve cells is backwards to ours, so while we have a blind spot in our eyes where the optic nerve attaches, they don't, it just attaches behind the retina instead of in front!
Triple A battery
I have a really hard time differing between Platonic and Romantic feelings (i identify as autsitc but originally disngoseed with Aspergers) I never actually had an actual crush before the only crush I had like feelings for was for tbe opposite gender and I was only in the 1st grade. But even with that I felt sort of pressured to have a crush to the point that I had to lie about having s crush on a boy who I ddint even like for the rest of my school years. 😅. Now I identify has Aro/ace and is very happy with it!
btw aspergers is an outdated term in the autism community (comes from a nzee)
@@Katethebush00 oh sorry I forgot
I'm 39 years old and recently discovered that I'm autistic and asexual...Veeeery tragically romantic 😅 but after the privilege of years of psicotherapy i could manage massive narcissistic abuse and create enough inner emotional and mind space to finally learn about my identity ❤
This video was really interesting, especially the part about microagressions- I hadn't thought about it that way before but it makes a lot of sense. Looking forward to the other videos! 🌈💜
Microaggression is not microdamage 😢
I just came from another video about sexuality and autism. I felt heavily unheard as an asexual lol ! (Not the fault of the creator AT ALL).
But I do think one micro agression we totally overlook is saying "Its normal to be sexual" ._.
Like...if we take a moment to think about it... Not so nice for people who do not identify with sexuality at all lol !
I feel sooooo "attacked"? Like... degraded and ridiculized when someone say that... I 100 million % understand that.... yep, this won't change today and probably not in the next 100 years xD !
But yaah... I feel alone, weird, wrong, unheard, NOT normal
I am glad you landed here for a more ace-focused version! I understand the language implications kinda suck... I guess my focus is on ensuring I spread the message that sexuality in any sense or the lack thereof is all natural, and worthy of acceptance. I hope that it catches on more universally. Thank you for the comment!
Sadly, the stigmatization of autism makes me hide it a lot, but not with being aroace. I see no reason to conflate the two into a clunky set of words like auti-aro/ace because they may be related, but they are still distinct ideas. They don't always come together with people.
Its always lovely to see you have uploaded! Good video.
ASD, NB, ACE... or gray... or demi... not straight, but what is straight when you're NB? No cis/het boys, but my presentation is intended to weed "that type" out =oD
I think it is funny that I am technically MTF but my presentation looks like an FTM Egg so I get people using accidental male and correcting female. But as NB, I don't care what you call me, just not late for breakfast because I'm asleep by dinner =oP
Thank you for talking about such relevant topics ❤ I am so glad this channel exists.
Im so elated to have found you and your channel. Ive long been looking into autism queer identities and my personal journey. Thank you so much for your time , passion and labor with this channel❤
thanks, there is not much content of the combination, liked your explanations
Thank you.
You’re welcome. 😊
I'm aroace and probably have ADHD and not so long ago my sibling's new girlfriend, who is autistic, just kinda through a comment about my behaviour being very autistic into a conversation which confused the fuck out of me because she assumed that I was autistic and knew it and I had never even considered that I might be autistic before and now I’m trying to find out if that’s a realistic assumption on her part (without going to therapy bc that’s not currently an option to me). And now I’m just really confused because I guess I can see what she means in some ways but it doesn’t really fit with the way I’ve seen myself before and now there a big question mark behind everything I do. Again.
Hehe, sorry for overcharging but I had to rant about this somewhere. ^^'
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I'm autistic and aromantic (but not asexual), and to be honest I really wish I were asexual too
If I may, why?
hi, im a bit lost in my relationship and came over your videos, they didnt help a lot so im hopeing you (or somebudy else) answers me... im in a relationship with a 18y ace/aro or grey romantic woman. i never had a real relationship befor but i know what relationships should look like (or at least i think i know) were thougether now 5 months and i still feel like i dont get enought affection,. i like to flirt and she likes to send memes. i love her so i send her memes back and watch that she feels loved but when i feel lonely i feel like she does nothing against it. Whenever i tell her to try "flirting" or showing affection to me, she says that its hartbreaking for her when i tell her "shes good enought" wich arnt my words. idk what to do, does she need more time? do i need to much affection? are we just not made for each other?
You're not compatible. She wants friendship and you want something romantic. As an ace I literally cannot flirt so I would hate it if I was expected be be flirtatious. She probably felt very uncomfortable when you suggested it.