Managing Intrusive Thoughts After an Affair

After an affair, many of my clients often experience "flooding," where overwhelming negative thoughts and emotions engulf the betrayed partner. This video discusses the impact of reacting defensively to these flooding thoughts, which can hinder the recovery of the relationship (if desired). The video also touches on the time and effort required for this healing process, acknowledging that it's not a quick fix but a journey that spans months, even years.
Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships.
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[@toadman5184]

Problem is that once the trust has gone, it doesn't come back. I might stay with a betraying spouse out of convenience, but I would never actually trust or respect them ever again. Some things can't be repaired or put back to what they were.

[@moonafarms1621]

A lot of great points in the book "Not Just Friends," however if there are children in the marriage I cannot fathom how painful and stress that would be!!!!! Thanks for sharing this.

[@mimihoward4459]

You are speaking to the cheater, i thought this was focused on the betrayed

[@Ash.Crow.Goddess]

All these videos I click on sound like they will help me, the betrayed, stop ruminating. But they are all for the betrayer. Annoying.

[@user-np6bg7yo9h]

Thank you for speaking to this. Emotional affairs are just as bad.

[@abeso7896]

How do I stop feeling like I’m the second choice?
Just because my husband’s lover didn’t want to continue the affair now he wants to work on our marriage😢

[@christopherlundberg976]

The cheater has crossed the Rubicon.

[@jerry-mind-sky]

After affair soul ties are created and last forever.

[@RobertDybowicz]

Thank you. 💐

[@Dachshundcrazy]

Not sorry im mot going to baby their feelings when they choose to cheat on me. I have a right to call out their shitty behavior im not going to be a cool girl and be nice about it. Because im not the person who fucked up. If they feel shame for being called out fir the choices THEY MADE, thats a them issue. Not mine.
You cannot hurt someone and expect them not to react or call you out. It's unrealistic and unhealthy

[@user-xp7lt6cl8u]

after 45 and of marriage
my spouse is in an emotional affair..

[@user-xp7lt6cl8u]

I am reliving what I get to know of it for the pass 11months..daily..can't seem 🤔 to get it out of my head 🙃

[@christopherlundberg976]

I believe all these female contributors have had affairs in their past.

[@Odani_Fam]

How is your skin so gorgeous? Please!