there is something really really special about the victims of these predators, we have a light that is so precious and bright that the narcs are so threatened by it
It’s an incredible feeling the exact moment when you break the trauma bond. I literally felt lighter. It was wonderful. Hang in there if you’re not there yet. It’ll happen sooner than you think.
Wao , I enjoy listening to her, she so good I understand her go through me how she break this down, being 6 weeks NC . I feel at peace 😂 lite back to be myself again ! Thank you Paula and others videos i being listening! God is love ❤️ Hang in there all of yours is coming 🙏 ☺️ 🙌😇🕯🌎❤️💪💪💪
The narc is the brutal opportunity we have to build inner validation and educate ourselves about toxic people who want to feed off us. They never change, but we can.
For the last few months I have had an adorable pic of me at age 4 . The pic makes me sad because I know that little girl was fighting for herself , trying to figure out why her own mom did not like her . My mom was a narcassist with mental illness . I was always walking on eggshells . I kiss that pic every nite and say you darling girl .. little did that little girl know that she would encounter several romantic relationships that almost killed me . We have done the work together and at age 62 I know that little girl is the only approval I need .. this made me cry .
It's a tether; they attach to your soul. And they hook into your psyche. They're scanning/ reading you every moment to detect any vulnerabilities, wounds, insecurities, and even the things you care about most. Whatever your highest and truest intention is that you embody; your true essence; the goal is to destroy that. That's why the minute you leave breaking your bond and your relationship with the children is the main focus and goal. You must break, bind, rebuke, cancel that tether in the spiritual realm. You can visualize cutting that tie as you speak aloud detaching that contract from your soul.( Mind will and emotions) You can then loose God's will over your life and your temple. God gives us 1 spirit; a spirit of love power and a sound mind! Bind and return to the abyss anything outside of God's will. Pray also that every celluar memory of trauma abuse and cruelty be removed from your temple in Jesus Holy name! When we're born we're naturally wired for love and connection. Pray that your brain be rewired back to it's natural state for love and connection in Jesus Holy name. And that your spirit and essence and integrity be returned to its natural state in Jesus name 🙏 AMEN 🙏🙌
Jesus is requesting to have a personal relationship with each of us. Evil is terrified of our Lord Jesus, our King. He shed his blood to save us from sin, He is the rightful heir son of God. Jesus is inviting us to share in his inheritance. His covenant with us is love for eternity. His yoke is easy, His burden is light. The kingdom of God is near. Resist the devil, and he will flee. Stay in fellowship together with others who care for us in loving safe ways, for all of our health and well-being, and then stay to help others to heal. In this way, we can love our neighbors like we love ourselves, and Jesus will bless us with his peace.
So true. I am in the process of doing this......almost there, I feel. Thank you for sharing this It is the most vitue step, equal to. No contact that one can do in the process of healing ❤
This is wonderful work you are doing, Paula, educating us about this dreadful condition. Knowledge is power and let us all take our power back. Thank you so much
Damn. This was deep. I allowed narcissists into my life, and they were toxic. The last one was over the summer, love bomb made me feel like it was a romance like no other. This man is almost 60, still running around hurting other women. I told him off thru a text last weekend. I never knew the extent of the narcissist until I started listening to you. Thank you for this message
As painful as it was I'm glad Jesus gave me strength to go no contact, I felt like an addict going cold turkey as I felt so addicted to him. THANK YOU Jesus my Saviour for setting me free. They are fallen angels
Been divorced from my ex narcissistic husband for a little over 20 years now and I feel the same way. Happy with just me, my dog, and cat. And of course, and above all else, God 🙏🏻
You have to have gone through this horrible demonic experience to fully understand. I’m so graceful to have healed. I got my life back and Never again.
@@Leannot35Praying for you, it feels like a life in pieces. I divorced my husband two years ago now and it still hurts, I never planned on getting divorced in all my time. We must pray together. Be kind to yourself. God Bless
When I was still in the fog and suffering, my cats always cuddled me with extra dedication, comforting me. I know they picked up on my anxiety before I myself even realised in how bad a state I was. So yes, Paula, animals sense the Truth. Often before we do. I don't know where I'd have been without their unconditional love.
@@barbarafischer4619 my heart goes out to you, Barbara 🙏. I've been there too very recently. I wish you strength and that you can remember all the care and love you gave them. They had it good with you ❤️ they for sure felt that! ..but yes, missing my buddies too... will always miss them 😥
@@meredithyoung9200 My narc was never around my pets so I can only guess. For I understand the question. Like.. maybe one even doubts the person is bad/a narc because your pet likes them. But who knows.. maybe the narc likes dogs (superficially, for they are incapable of love) and the dog somehow picked up on the damaged child still present in the narc (deep deep down). These 2 factors combined could maybe have made your dog not adverse to the narc. It's just my thoughts.. As to our own suffering and pain our pets know. They know and comfort us. That was the observation I do know about in abundance. PS Just cuz there's a broken child in there somewhere doesn't mean we have to help or love this child and accept abuse. I tried. We all did I guess. However, they will not change. So you have to let them go.
The best revenge is to live a good life and be happy. It takes real focus, what do you want, what makes you feel good? It takes some time, it took a while for me to understand that they are not like us, they do not think like most people, they are indeed evil. Accepting that helped me move on, I still do not understand it how anyone could be that malevolent, but it’s not for me to understand. They are actually very weak and frightened underneath it all and yes we do not need them. I want people in my like who have my best interests at heart. Thank you for these videos, I love your dog. 80 ? Pull the other one 😆😆😆 what utter rollocks! “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten”
Hi, yuck is right! I recently looked at a facebook page from my narc. ex from 21 years ago, and wanted to vomit when I saw his face. I wont be looking again at his face, and I cant believe I fell for his seduction and trickery. Another time, I opened up an old box that contained his pajamas, and I broke out in hives all over my face, neck and body. I had to make a doctor visit as it was horrendous. I know it was emotional/spiritual and psychological. I threw all his stuff that I found in the garbage asap!
@@TheEcstacyrose Yes I felt like that looking at people who manipulated me into finding them attractive, and once the spell wore off I actually found them less physically attractive and a bit repugnant even though they were not techinically ugly.
@@jasminebarratt1809 Agreed. Absolutely demonic. My ex narc could change his physical appearance, and did so when he was embarking on a new conquest, (even though he was married to me), and once during intercourse, I saw the image of a beast on the wall, as his shadow fell on the wall! It was during a time when he was grappling for control over me. I did see the devil in his left eye as I faced him once. Its very serious. Even so, it took a miracle to get me away from him and divorce him. He was super attractive to the women, even my so called friends were totally woooed by him. It made me sick, how he could seduce even the most discerning of friends.
My one year anniversary of no contact was this week. Finally free! Yes, Paula, you’re right. I had to break it. I did it. He controls me no longer after a decade.
Supernova and over and out. It’s the empath’s triumph to break the trauma bond. Putting an end to all potential bs coming through. And don’t the narcissists just know it when we’ve moved back to sanity corner - where we deserve to be. To the pinnacle of indifference and beyond. Thank you, Paula.
I didn't know about narcissism until 23 years into my marriage. Once I learned about it I realized why I felt like I was sleeping with a 12 year old boy...still working on getting out at my very ripe old age.
I also knew nothing of narcissist abuse, it was my son who pointed it out to me about his Dad, I took his advice and researched this awful condition. Now divorced after realising and accepting the truth and trying to lead a better life.
Paula, I come from a toxic family and have a severely narcissistic sister. Breaking this bond was a superhuman feat. As you say, I don't need her, but she does. Thank you. 🌹
I went no contact 2years 3 months ago & have thought about him every day. I was diagnosed with ptsd. I’ve tried everything to stop thinking about him. Zoloft, counseling, hypnotherapy, prayer, fasting, gratitude walks, journaling, meditation, breath work, support groups. You are correct, it is never ending! It’s like he stole my soul 😢 god bless us🙏🏻
@@annettehovey6105 after time it will get better. Give them a diminutive nick name fir your thoughts to dismiss … and when life gives you loads of work to do the business will reword your thoughts
I did need the narcissists when a child. It was so empty for my heart! Big fancy home, it all looked so good and others told me so. The loneliness was soul breaking with periods of hype and glitter. Such cognitive dissonance. My mother gave me the silent treat for 13 years. Her grandchild. It was mind boggling. Therapists said let it go, I couldn’t. I didn’t know it was on purpose to control me. I do now. I can’t understand it, you’re right. So many years questioning me, family blaming me because she did it. No specific reasons anyone could even give me. What a life to break the covenants and be free of what is not mine to bear. It is not easy and I won’t give up because so many love me and I them and it’s so different. I’m a moth to a flame to narcissistic people, my first caretakers sadly.
What do you mean by this? I take it the wiches&warlocks are associated the nar and you are the narc's victom? How would their master i.e. satan be living in you? I might be misunderstanding something, but pls let me know..tnx
@@andreapril6969God is always in control. God is our master and those who believe that God's son Jesus died to save us from our sins lives in us as we are the true temple of God.
Oh!, and about that nasty comment you got, you don´t look 80 at all Paula, and Remy gives always a warmth feeling, sleeping comfortably on the background. Especially when talking abut this very dark subject, that has caused us so much pain. You and Remy are part of my healing process, so let the evil ones say nasty things, you’ve got us to tell you beautiful things.
Prayer shared from a priest: “By the blood of Christ, I command the demons of (say the type, eg desire or lust or loneliness, enmeshment, etc), to leave me alone and get to the foot of Christ’s cross to receive your sentence. Amen”
The last person you would want to get advice from about the casting out of demons, or Christian prayers, is a Catholic priest. You instead want to find someone who is actually a Christian, but the paganistic Antichrist Church does an exemplary job of counterfeiting Christianity for maximum mockery, blasphemy, and sacrilege. In other words, "the whore of Babylon" as the Bible describes the "synagogue of Satan". It's not like it wasn't predicted perfectly. Take the movie called "The Exorcist" for example, of which the Catholic church was behind, as part of its deceptive marketing. The story they produced for the film was fictional. The actual case that the film was supposedly based upon played out completely differently. After 70-something failed exorcisms, they eventually killed that poor girl. Shouldn't they have included that in the story? Aren't Christians supposed to be truthful? I think that being truthful may even be one of the ten commandments. By the way, the Church of romanism altered the part about idolatry in commandment number two - so they can participate in their open idolatry and 'Mary'/'saint' worship, but I digress. Even the holy water used in exorcisms is a mockery of God, because it's part of the sorcery of the forbidden pagan religions. Holy water was part of Ba'al worship, the demonic god of child sacrifice, also known as Moloch. It was never used by any of the Christians of the Bible, but it was used by the pagans that God cursed. There's no witchcraft, sorcery, or magical items (including relics or the necromancy of dead bodies and prayers to the dead). None of that's Christianity, and I haven't even gotten warmed up on the church's abominations. Virtually everything the Catholics do is from the other side, and one cannot serve both God and Satan. The demons are going to laugh at you if you try that "foot of the cross prayer". Not only is it nonsensical and delusional, but it furthermore expresses a very Catholic desire to turn the spiritually symbolic (holy) cross into a physical object of idolatry with magical powers. See the reoccurring theme yet? Any possessing demons might cry out like they're in pain, but it's still them mocking you, even if they pretend like they are leaving for a while. Their pagan exorcisms are rarely effective, in actuality. The demons usually love Catholic exorcisms, so they often play along to encourage your devotion to that Babylonian religion that originated from Nimrod. Angering and mocking God pleases their dark lord. Jesus doesn't require special rote prayers. In fact, he specifically spoke against them. Check the Gospels, to see this for another example of how the Catholic Church mocks Christ. The rote (magical) prayer thing one of the many reasons why you are defying and sinning against Jesus every time you pray the rosary, not to mention the goddess worship component. That's the point. That church misleads to ensure that we don't escape from our sins, or hell. There's a reason why they are the only 'Christian' church which does not encourage its own people to read their Bibles, and to override whatever it says with "tradition" whenever they actually do. Whatever you do, don't listen to what Jesus said! Right? God once said, "my people perish for lack of knowledge". How much worse is it when the little that they do know is the complete opposite of the truth. The Catholics are known for their exorcisms, but no one ever asks why is it that Catholics are possessed the most often? How did they get that monopoly?Perhaps there's a reason for it. Why did it become their thing, while Christians seem to be MUCH less effected? The Gospels talk about how to cast out demons in Jesus's name, but being an actual faithful Christian is one of the requirements. As Jesus said, "a house divided cannot stand" and "Satan cannot cast out Satan". For the Catholic poster or anyone else here who is, I want you to think about this the next time that you're talking to your priest. Jesus said that it was forbidden to refer to any religious leader as "Father", so the Catholic Church goes out of its way to insult Christ. Think about this as you're talking to the priest, and about how he's tricking you into sin. You would think that the priests would know what Jesus said, right? It really leaves only two possibilities. Either the priest has absolutely no knowledge whatsoever about being a Christian, or he's actively working for the other side.
more than a year - 3 years in my case. because family narcissism is the cause of attracting narcissistic partners so after leaving the partner you have to heal from narcissistic family wounds which are much deeper and harder to overcome.
Beautiful Perfectly Helpful and Encouraging Talk Today - Thank you. Coincidentally I found my self literally standing in check out line behind the horrific parasitic abuser narcissit that captured me several years ago. I recognized him from behind and silently slinked back to hide / blend in with a very tall woman looking at dishes at the 2nd hand resale store. I vented a bit to her and verbalized how awful that man over is and was to me - - - how long I had successfully kept him away from me - - and there he is - - a few feet away. I have had several near misses with this person - usually easy to go by when I am driving in town and recognized him on the street or crossing the street while I am going about my business. But yesterday was very close - -same physical space sharing close and I snapped instantly back to a position far away and waited it out until I could finish my purchases and go home. I have at times been upset just for these crossings - - taking them as a "sign" that there is still some connection - I call karma - with that person. But now I see they are just tiny momentary chances for ME to SEE WHERE I AM WITH THEM. Not Near Misses of Being Hooked - - as I was so preoccupied with dreading before. Now I SEE I WOULD NEVER GIVE THEM AN OUNCE of my PRECIOUS TIME -- I gave as much to that person as was humanly possible and they almost ate me alive. I Understand Deeply Today What You Are Saying In This Talk. How I Got Trapped in the False Idea of the Relationship. How I Wanted Love and Respect and To Be Heard and Seen and He ACTED LIKE THAT WAS HAPPENING - - but was all the while data mining me to get fuller and fuller control while I took care of his every need and made up with my great skill and full functioning heart for his utter empty black power hungry angry baby tantrum disfunction. Paula It Is a Thrill and Honor to Sit Here Today Hearing you Speak About Loving The Little Person Within Me and How Wonderful It Is To Know I Am HERE FOR HER ! I WILL NEVER BE HERE TO BE TAKEN UP AS A MEAL FOR THE HUNGRY DARKNESS THAT THE NARC SADLY IS FULLY BONDED WITH. Much Love and Appreciation to you.
I have an idea Paula. It's been nearly 2 years since I've been separated from a vicious covert religious narc. In the end I was ship wrecked for a long time. I didn't believe my X could be a narcissist ,he is. Our covenant had three layers. The first was my loyalty to God. It took therapy & 2 religious leaders to be told, "leave God never desired you to be abused". The second was a divorce. The court signed that petition of divorce on July 25. The third layer I had to face is I accept and agree with all that is in me that although I forgive him, I learned recently that God rewards us when we forgive & that made it that much easier to forgive him. I am through with him entirely. I wash my hands & I've turned my back on him with no emotional breakdown. This is my testimony wish me luck. Its been good to spend time here. Thanks
This video is on point on how the bond/ trauma bond/ covenant is made. The parent child dynamic with the narcissist is so difficult to break and it was when i stopped sleeping with him that i was then able to see the relationship for what it was 25 years was too long and i had to make the break I am finally divorced and the bond is broken. Whats loosed in heaven is loosed in earth i never thought i would be free from this toxic evil relationship. Its hard work but its possible and the freedom that comes with it is indescribable Believe what paula says its 100% accurate God bless you Paula for this work which is literally saving lives 🙏
My bond has finally been broken with him. Now I have more time for myself and more money as well. The relationship (if you can call it that) had drained my body and mind. I had a plan and over months gradually carried it out towards getting him away from me. The local police who caught him driving my car unlicensed and with drugs in his system....this had a part in making things easier for me. I'm ok now and I'm rather sure I will never be attracted to a covert narcissist again as I now have the knowledge. I feel stronger and healthier. I don't desire to be friends with a demon.
I am on the road to healing. I count all my blessings. The blessings will always be more than the pain. I still have flashbacks, however I think that is normal. They left a scar on our heart. Even healed, I believe we will always have that scar. Even with that scar we still didn't sink to their level. Paula. The person that made fun of Remy does not know a dog knows the good people from the bad people. I have just adopted a little dog. I talk to my dog all the time.
The first step is forgiving them, but never to return, once you forgive them the same way Christ did for those that pursicuted him, that's the road to recovery, then self love, love yourself unconditionally, set boundaries for yourself, and then that's the beginning of recovery. And knowing it was not you, it was them, and you were a light, that they couldn't stand, because darkness hates the light. You had a love inside you, that they didn't have, and they wanted to put it out. Blessing to you. 🙏❤
He replicated the never ending parent pleasing I had as a Child. Like in a pscyhological Role Play, I were his (hated-loved) Mother and at the same time, the Daughter he abandoned and the Son (he were), abandoned for his Father. All mixed up, spiritually.
The potentialities of Family Constelations dynamics and its Spiritual Role Play is something growing now, because we still don't know much about the almost unbelivable association of the Theorie of All in All. And It starts with the Spiritual Family Molecul, replicated in Earth, for Good (and Evil too - Narc's are tools for our spiritual growth - if you survive🙄). And fortunately, We, indeed, overcame🙏🏻 God bless you, Paula and all of you, warriors of the Holly Spirits❤️
It's funny how when they are in a relationship with us and they reject us, they tell us they are not rejecting us and that it is all in our heads. But then, when we break up, they tell us that they are the ones rejecting us. It's always about what makes them feel good about themselves.
True. We left him after i was hit physically for the 2nd time. But he changed the narrative to reverse the situation- to make it appear that he left us...they will say whatever will make them look good!
Dead on paula dead on!! That's exactly. What it feels like unconditional. Love that you did not receive from your caregivers. And it's intoxicating so addictive. And Crushing when you find out. Not only is it a lie, but it's being used deliberately to hurt you. It taints every aspect of your life. It hurts your soul.Your spirit changes the way you look at the world around you and at people it's evil to the core. I've just finished four e m d r treatments. I've been trying to get apart from this for 8 years. I didn't know the first 2 years, so it's a total of 10 or 11. But this is beyond anything I've ever had to face. EMDR has helped a lot.
EDMR helped me so much. Married for 18, boyfriend 10 years. I didn’t know about Narcissists. My parents both Narcissists. Groomed my entire life. Jesus rescued me. He gave me his arm and pulled me out. God will take care of Narcissists. We need to take care of us now. God bless.
I am the type that attracts narcissists. And so have had to sort out a number of situations, some lasting decades. Every time I listen to one of your podcasts Paula it is like another layer of lies peels off. And now I understand why people have not understood my plight and this phenomenon. It is quite complex. I have had to begin again by spending a lot of time alone and I must say the Covid thing actually helped. Some times I think it took all this just so that I could learn how to say no. You are a blessing in this world!❤️
I have had this twice in my life, this time was for longer and as an empath I started to loose myself by becoming like them, I became more co-dependant than I ever was and while they filled my cup up in the beginning the devalue stage came and the discard and it made me feel like I lost myself at such a time I had some family issues, when the hoover came I went back (I still had brain fog after being ghosted for ages) I later saw them brag about reading the book ‘Power’, and realised I was done, I removed all numbers, media from my phone and blocked them. If they try to come back by another means I’ll show them what rage is.
Another thought provoking video Paula. You've nw put the fear of God in me, that my female narcassist will come back to me at a later date,two years narc free If you are correct I will see if I'm fully healed and educated myself properley, if she ever was to come back. Cant wait for part two.... You are correct that not just my female narcassist but my narcassitic mother never thought I was good enough and I would see them both enjoy any failings on my part, put downs , criticism, I used to think to myself that my relationship with the female narcassist was like being with my mother. Looking back I should of realised they both were one of a kind,narcassists, I even told my female narcassist that my mother was a narcassist. I look back and can see the similarities! Once you realise they don't think like normal people ,your half way there! As your never understand them! Great video paula👍
Eight years of laborious research and obsessive study on this topic and quite literally, your presentation here has resolved it all. I am speechless. It FINALLY all makes sense to me. Thank you so so so very much…it is a watershed moment of the highest order.
Bingo, this is exactly how it went in my case. I became a parent and later he verbally started to punish me for who I am. No matter how much I gave in, it was worse and worse.
Thank you for explaining the child, parent dynamic. I can totally understand it because that was part of his disorder. I'm doing everything to eliminate him from my life. After 35 years of trauma and emotional abuse. He destroyed my spirit. Now I am free to be the person God created me to be.
It will go on for the rest of your agonising life until you educate yourself about what happened to you. I survived 50 years of it. I am now putting my knowledge on how to leave them for dead into action. When they realise you have changed the pin number to your soul it is like an electric shock runs through them. SSSSSSHHHHHHHH! xxx
Yes, when I left one state for another without telling anyone, the fact that we could not go to lunch and more was a lightening bolt to my Mom as she exclaimed. I am low contact and see the incredible patterns that now seem expected with no power over me.
My lady i believe i have listened almost 98% of your videos but today you are at gods level with this knowledge and warnings,it shocked my soul and i felt my inner child scared a bit about what you counted for the narcissist to come back,whats shocks me is that when we broke up she told me ,let be friends and i denied and she said she is going to sort her life but mayb she will come back ,i said no I won't allow you,she said then she will find a way because i belong with her and ahe left. Anyway that shocked me but i thought she was just saying not aware what i was dealing with really,and because we have children,when i speak to her over the phone ,she sound like nothing bad happened between us like everything it normal,and that always shocks me and now you explain this part ,guys this lady is so true we must be becareful it more than physical this thing ,i slept with a demon my self not knowing, guys
After I had gone no-contact, I tried a ceremony with burning sage and imaginary scissors to cut the ties to the narcissist, as one more step in the healing process.
I chose praying, it helped me so much. I would stay away from sage to be honest, lean on Jesus as he is the one who can truly heal and break trauma bonds.
Thank you this is great. If you haven’t broken the bond yet, you will. When you are ready to accept finally once and for all HOW this person actually operates, that they need YOU empty vessels that they are, you do not need them. You wanted what you THOUGHT it was, that is fine, but now that you know dear ones, you won’t allow them to “feed” off of your beautiful spirits any longer.
I would never do that to anyone i love helping people but i cant anymore i have to go away to nature from everyone if i cant get over this aftermath. Lol. Im so happy to be alive right now. ❤ i feel like i healed most of my inner child.
The covenant was broken on Mother’s Day when I went no contact. I feel like there is now a peace and shackles have fallen off. I was adopted so I do not have the blood bond.
It is the spiritual and energy connections which you speak about that are helping me to understand the deeper realities of my own puzzlement from my experiences with narcissists. Thank you for going deeper. Thank your for sharing your knowledge of how narcissistic relationships play into the spiritual realms, the intentional mis-use of energy to control and take energy from another, and the energetic realities of what is really going on. Thank you so much!
We forget because we are all healing or dealing with the dark souls that we only think of our problems so i would like to say thank you to Paula for continuing to fight and help all who listen and i would like to say to all the dark souls who pass by to listen long enough to change and let the light in.. stay strong Paula.
Oh myyyy, I have watched 100s of RUclips vids & listened to podcasts, read...heck, I'm even trained in risk,violence, dv, personality disorders. Yet, not one of them could hit it spot on 💯 like this,you. Every singke word. ❤️🩹Spot on💫. Really is a kind of awakening when your eyes are finally opened to the devastating truth, revelations bit by bit. You can only know the true horror by lived experience, sadly. Thank you spreading awareness and shining the light!🔥 Keep doing what you are doing.🙏🏽
I do think about this person almost everyday. I look foward to the day I begin to think less and less of him, as it is I want nothing to do with him ever!
Yes! Exactly. I tried to please the ‘parent’ (narcissist partner) in return for the unconditional love I was receiving. I didn’t actually want to quite often, but I felt I ‘ought’ to. (And, yes, I hadn’t received unconditional love as a child. And I acted/act the same way to my actual mother.) He then pulled back. I wonder what would happen if you didn’t try so hard to please the ‘parent’/narcissist? Would they still pull away? Could it be the over-pleasing that causes them to pull away? I’ve been told by other narcissists that I ‘gained power’ when I walked away/ignored them, and they have even advised me to do the same with my mother.
The last time I was still bonded I lay on the floor in a fetal position thinking “please come back through the door and feed me”… that was when I realized my inner unfed infant in me was who was bonded to them. And I realized I had to feed myself and to do so I had to heal my under eating disorder from not being fed enough from birth.
Hi Paula and Remy .. You are quite accurate, Paula. I've studied psychology, and I am speaking the truth when i say .. It's one thing to have psychological studies under my belt. However, nothing is more detrimental after being in a relationship/ role play to the Narc. I've been there, and i entered into a deep fog, / illusion so to speak, quiet quickly.. It's, in my opinion ,through my experience with the Narc.He definitely mirrored his mothers behaviors and very false entities. I escaped once i sacrificed myself to this powerless entity. After the brain fog lifted, and i realized it was more a parental alienation .and both the narc and mother were on the same page and controlled whomever they used the illusion on. You want to run to the hills. The strength i gained from you, Paula, through your podcasts, has been very intuitive. I walked away with a better insight, and I never looked back..now I'm not saying that it wasn't tough or that they still felt entitled .. But i stood my ground, and now have happiness and complete solice within myself.I truly love myself and accept myself and nothing less .❤. PS.. I've followed you. A while now Paula ,and I'm so sorry. I had to miss your 80TH birthday... LOL.IM BEING VERY FECICIOUS!!. YOU LOOK AMAZING GIRL. SOME PEOPLES KIDS .. ❤ ON A HAPPIER NOTE I'D LOVE TO ADD .A HUGE THANK YOU TO YOU AND REMY.... SENDING MUCH LOVE ❤️.
Paula those shadow fake accounts are following us non stop. Don't worry at all this may be the ex narc who can't stand your success still trying to put you down like my ex does exactly the same. It is so fun to watch how their envy is killing them. I enjoy your podcasts, you wisdom, experience in life. Thank you so much for that. God bless you darling
What an amazing master class! Paula, you are so precise, everything said in this video is so amazingly true! I don’t know what to say, this level of precision and clarity is like a shower of bright light, thanks for this master class! God bless you Paula (and Remy!!!)
I still think there’s a difference between male and female narcissists as it’s a lot easier in general for women to pick up men than it is for a man to pick up another woman. My experience for example, my ex narcissist gf had a long list of applicants on Facebook to replace me as her new supply. So this plus the fact that I had called her out as a narcissist means there’s zero chance of her hoovering me now.
Most people don't even know about narcissistic personality hunny as most people don't research things to be honest u can't notice something u not aware of
@@audreyroche9490you miss my point which is I think it’s a lot more likely for a male narcissist to hoover than it is for a female one, as the female narcissist has a lot more supply options
She can have 100 other supplies....that will not stop the hoover. It may come when you least expect it. In some cases, you dont even realize youre being hoovered especially when its by proxy.
@@audreyroche9490 Audrey I'm not sure where you live but in the US narcissist is so well known, it's gone beyond cliche to the point we are avoiding using it bc it's overused. Literally everyone - no exaggeration - knows what a narcissist is. They may get it mixed up with codependency which is the narc supply, but they know evil super villains. The church calls this a Jezebel Spirit. This lovely lady is the first I've seen describe the demons that are involved bc it's a slew. And Jezebel is a spirit referred to in Revelation. The antichrist is not a person. It's a spirit that has been happening since King herod killed all babies age 2 and under trying to kill Jesus at age 1. This is an antichrist spirit affecting this generation and the spirit will possess a person who will become Antichrist. This spirit also acts narcissistic, grandiose, at times but by any means to achieve it's objective. People def know a narcissist by name. It was predicted in the Bible by Paul to Timothy, Lovers of themselves, lovers of money, given over to lusts of the flesh, and multiple places. We are there. Help us Lord. Deliver us from evil
Thank you Paula. My vicious mom is gone, but now my MIL lurks in the bushes. She is subtle, though, not grandiose like my mom. She is nice , but subtly lets me down and gossips about me and then says " You poor thing, please lean on my strong shoulders." My relationship with her is much more confusing and harder to get a finger on. I'm breaking the spell with her too.
This is pretty spot on. Could be vulnerability, sadness, loneliness, empathy, physical attraction. My Narc got to me with a combination of these, exploitation and attachment. I was not in good place. When we met I felt bad for them and their family life. I felt like they needed me. I looked after them. Then it all went to hell. The Narc went cold, but mean, angry, unloving. Mentally abusive. Still, even though I pray, bind, rebuke, and pray for my healing … I can’t break it off. The mental anguish of just the thought is so overwhelming.
Another video ringing with truth from one very smart and caring lady. Just reading the comments and seeing the powerful, educated, and uplifting responses from so many of your followers shows just how much healing you are bringing to this special community of folks who are breaking free from these psychological con artists. I have been up and down on this journey, and will keep watching these videos as a touchstone when I start to struggle again. It is spiritual, no doubt. The devil tied a big knot around my relationship to a narcissist “best friend”, binding us together. I am still working on getting those knots undone. Thanks to an educated community of counselors and survivors, I believe I will eventually get the last knots undone. With a new relationship with “little me” - who I am really starting to respect and like more and more. Thanks Miss Paula. ⛅️
Please 🙏🏼 do not stop making these videos. You have helped me tremendously! I am going through a painfully messy divorce with a narcissist. Your videos have helped me navigate the process of finding myself again and REALITY. It’s honestly very complex and unless you have lived it YOU HAVE NO IDEA.
We need groups set up for people traumatised by narcissistic abuse. Your videos have helped my son see exactly how a narcissist works. Thankyou so much ❤❤❤❤
Who ever understands this massive massage and feel it in side your self. It is your everyday decision to be become in peace or to live in heaven. And The rest will be Your story. But seek first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you" (Matthew 6:33).
I am so thankful 😢for these videos, it’s helping me to realize my worth. It has been a very difficult road being with a narc and being discarded. I believe for the longest there is something wrong with me, I keep attracting narcs, or people who posses narc behaviors. I have to find away to break this pattern and it starts with me.
I appreciate the effort to help people and spread awareness. Thanks for that. I have seen from my personal experience that it's all easier said than done. I have seen people struggling all their lives to get out of the clutches of a narcissist. It took my mother 50 years to finally break the covenant with my malevolent narcissistic father. People need to know that the narcissist is basically an immoral person with a burning desire to win at all costs. They also learn to hide this fact well and put on a mask to manipulate people. That's the essential underlying trick.
2 years have passed, a year has passed without contact. I have never felt such pain in my life. It's interesting that your channel came out to me the other day, and I've watched so many of them. It seems that I was not ready for some answers before. I have come all this way on my own, with the help of God and people like you. I couldn't explain to people here, they don't even know what Narcissus means. Just then, my friend said to me, start praying and turn to Jesus. And immediately, not overnight, it started to get better. I would only add that when we kissed I felt nothing, like a wall to kiss, and then I wondered for a long time: Am I so empty? Thank you for everything, God bless you
Thank you so much Paula. Im right in the middle of how can I totally get that person out of my life and thoughts. I know deep within me that what you are saying is true. It is the light that will lead me out of this dark tunnel 💜
Paula 🙏🏽❤️ You are a beautiful soul. Inside and out. Narcs always comment and show themselves, "hit dogs will holler." 😂 You and Remy are living your best lives, and they're bitter. 😂❤
there is something really really special about the victims of these predators, we have a light that is so precious and bright that the narcs are so threatened by it
Yes❤
It just blows my mind at how much the demons are attracted to the light.
Just like zombies. They're attracted to what gives life..Deebo style
@@hardwiredtoself-destructio7614 rightttt I even had one of my hackers admit we watch you because your alive. Just WOWWW WOWW
Amen to that! 🙏🏽💕 I have to be light.
Moth to a flame
Mine as well...incredible and disturbing
If you are really 80...you are the most beautiful and smartest 80 year old I have ever seen....with a sweet dog by your side!💜😹🐶
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@@NarcCon no way is Paula 80...her mom can't even be 80 yet...ha ha...Paula is the best!
I want to be like her when I grow up!❤
Your dog is lovely, I have a black lab retriever guide dog. Whom I love very much. I somehow feel didn’t want to be left on the shelf.
80??? Omg! She looks amazing!!! 😮❤
It’s an incredible feeling the exact moment when you break the trauma bond. I literally felt lighter. It was wonderful. Hang in there if you’re not there yet. It’ll happen sooner than you think.
I felt pure peace the very day I left, but it did take me a l9ng time to heal. But I'm there, and happier than ever. 😊
Thank you. I did not realize all the educating it takes and strength to break this wicked demonized individuals that trauma bond you.
I've had a few narcissists in my life, even family and every time I broke the bond, they got sick and died.
Wao , I enjoy listening to her, she so good
I understand her go through me how she break this down, being 6 weeks NC .
I feel at peace 😂 lite back to be myself again ! Thank you Paula and others videos i being listening! God is love ❤️
Hang in there all of yours is coming 🙏 ☺️ 🙌😇🕯🌎❤️💪💪💪
@@freedomwarrior5087How did you break the bond? Do you remember ?
The narc is the brutal opportunity we have to build inner validation and educate ourselves about toxic people who want to feed off us. They never change, but we can.
Well stated. ❤
Amen to that
Well said. That's why I've changed. 🎉🎉🎉
Yes let’s stay strong.
So much power in that comment!
For the last few months I have had an adorable pic of me at age 4 . The pic makes me sad because I know that little girl was fighting for herself , trying to figure out why her own mom did not like her . My mom was a narcassist with mental illness . I was always walking on eggshells . I kiss that pic every nite and say you darling girl .. little did that little girl know that she would encounter several romantic relationships that almost killed me . We have done the work together and at age 62 I know that little girl is the only approval I need .. this made me cry .
I can do allthings thru Christ who strengthens me
Amen ♥
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Oh how Jesus loves us bless you, may you go from strength to strength
Amen 🙏
Amen☝️🙏🤲
Ephesians 6:12 we struggle not against flesh and blood but forces and rulers of the dark world.
Wrestle not with flesh and blood but powers and principalities
WHOAH! what a quotation that is thank you
Put on your armor every day!
It's a tether; they attach to your soul.
And they hook into your psyche.
They're scanning/ reading you every moment to detect any vulnerabilities, wounds, insecurities, and even the things you care about most.
Whatever your highest and truest intention is that you embody; your true essence; the goal is to destroy that.
That's why the minute you leave breaking your bond and your relationship with the children is the main focus and goal.
You must break, bind, rebuke, cancel that tether in the spiritual realm. You can visualize cutting that tie as you speak aloud detaching that contract from your soul.( Mind will and emotions)
You can then loose God's will over your life and your temple.
God gives us 1 spirit; a spirit of love power and a sound mind! Bind and return to the abyss anything outside of God's will.
Pray also that every celluar memory of trauma abuse and cruelty be removed from your temple in Jesus Holy name!
When we're born we're naturally wired for love and connection.
Pray that your brain be rewired back to it's natural state for love and connection in Jesus Holy name.
And that your spirit and essence and integrity be returned to its natural state in Jesus name 🙏
AMEN 🙏🙌
Wonderful comment! I will be using this prayer. Thank you 🙏🏾
Jesus is requesting to have a personal relationship with each of us. Evil is terrified of our Lord Jesus, our King. He shed his blood to save us from sin, He is the rightful heir son of God. Jesus is inviting us to share in his inheritance. His covenant with us is love for eternity. His yoke is easy, His burden is light. The kingdom of God is near. Resist the devil, and he will flee. Stay in fellowship together with others who care for us in loving safe ways, for all of our health and well-being, and then stay to help others to heal. In this way, we can love our neighbors like we love ourselves, and Jesus will bless us with his peace.
@@gingerhenna9445 AMEN 🙏🙌
So true. I am in the process of doing this......almost there, I feel.
Thank you for sharing this
It is the most vitue step, equal to. No contact that one can do in the process of healing ❤
Yes, yes, I agree, bind, and receive in the name of Jesus!!!@
This is wonderful work you are doing, Paula, educating us about this dreadful condition. Knowledge is power and let us all take our power back. Thank you so much
Damn. This was deep. I allowed narcissists into my life, and they were toxic. The last one was over the summer, love bomb made me feel like it was a romance like no other. This man is almost 60, still running around hurting other women. I told him off thru a text last weekend. I never knew the extent of the narcissist until I started listening to you. Thank you for this message
As painful as it was I'm glad Jesus gave me strength to go no contact, I felt like an addict going cold turkey as I felt so addicted to him. THANK YOU Jesus my Saviour for setting me free. They are fallen angels
EXACTLY.. pure addiction..pure desperation
It was Jesus who instructed me to end it and gave me the strength to go no contact also, praise Jesus xx
Remy is an integral part of this amazing work.
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The animals are always the first to know
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Fo sure 😊
I feel less anxiety when I watch him☺️
28 empty years. Am a widow, will stay single, happier now, on my own w my cat family.❤❤😊
Yes! Same here-my dog, cat and I are at peace and don’t need the craziness of life with a covert narc.
Been divorced from my ex narcissistic husband for a little over 20 years now and I feel the same way. Happy with just me, my dog, and cat. And of course, and above all else, God 🙏🏻
You have to have gone through this horrible demonic experience to fully understand. I’m so graceful to have healed. I got my life back and Never again.
It's been 8 years I want my life back I need prayer thank you
@@Leannot35Praying for you, it feels like a life in pieces. I divorced my husband two years ago now and it still hurts, I never planned on getting divorced in all my time. We must pray together. Be kind to yourself. God Bless
When I was still in the fog and suffering, my cats always cuddled me with extra dedication, comforting me. I know they picked up on my anxiety before I myself even realised in how bad a state I was. So yes, Paula, animals sense the Truth. Often before we do. I don't know where I'd have been without their unconditional love.
My dog saves me everyday.
Why did my dog like the narc I was with?
Animals are so incredibly loving, wise and faithful...unlike humans. Loosing both my dogs this year,..I struggle more without them in my life.
@@barbarafischer4619 my heart goes out to you, Barbara 🙏. I've been there too very recently. I wish you strength and that you can remember all the care and love you gave them. They had it good with you ❤️ they for sure felt that! ..but yes, missing my buddies too... will always miss them 😥
@@meredithyoung9200 My narc was never around my pets so I can only guess. For I understand the question. Like.. maybe one even doubts the person is bad/a narc because your pet likes them. But who knows.. maybe the narc likes dogs (superficially, for they are incapable of love) and the dog somehow picked up on the damaged child still present in the narc (deep deep down). These 2 factors combined could maybe have made your dog not adverse to the narc. It's just my thoughts..
As to our own suffering and pain our pets know. They know and comfort us. That was the observation I do know about in abundance.
PS Just cuz there's a broken child in there somewhere doesn't mean we have to help or love this child and accept abuse. I tried. We all did I guess. However, they will not change. So you have to let them go.
Let me congratulate myself for conquering that demon, I have overcome thank you Jesus ❤❤❤
Amen 🙏🏼
Jesus wins 🎉
The best revenge is to live a good life and be happy. It takes real focus, what do you want, what makes you feel good? It takes some time, it took a while for me to understand that they are not like us, they do not think like most people, they are indeed evil. Accepting that helped me move on, I still do not understand it how anyone could be that malevolent, but it’s not for me to understand.
They are actually very weak and frightened underneath it all and yes we do not need them. I want people in my like who have my best interests at heart.
Thank you for these videos, I love your dog. 80 ? Pull the other one 😆😆😆 what utter rollocks!
“And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten”
Definitely a false demonic covenant takes place when the relationship gets physically intimate. Yuck
Yuck indeed.
Hi, yuck is right! I recently looked at a facebook page from my narc. ex from 21 years ago, and wanted to vomit when I saw his face. I wont be looking again at his face, and I cant believe I fell for his seduction and trickery.
Another time, I opened up an old box that contained his pajamas, and I broke out in hives all over my face, neck and body. I had to make a doctor visit as it was horrendous. I know it was emotional/spiritual and psychological. I threw all his stuff that I found in the garbage asap!
@@TheEcstacyrose Yes I felt like that looking at people who manipulated me into finding them attractive, and once the spell wore off I actually found them less physically attractive and a bit repugnant even though they were not techinically ugly.
IKR!?🤮
@@jasminebarratt1809 Agreed. Absolutely demonic. My ex narc could change his physical appearance, and did so when he was embarking on a new conquest, (even though he was married to me), and once during intercourse, I saw the image of a beast on the wall, as his shadow fell on the wall! It was during a time when he was grappling for control over me.
I did see the devil in his left eye as I faced him once. Its very serious. Even so, it took a miracle to get me away from him and divorce him. He was super attractive to the women, even my so called friends were totally woooed by him. It made me sick, how he could seduce even the most discerning of friends.
He'll never get a reactionary response from me again! He's trying, but he can't make me mad enough anymore. I'm free! ❤
Well done! ❤
keep strong
My one year anniversary of no contact was this week. Finally free! Yes, Paula, you’re right. I had to break it. I did it. He controls me no longer after a decade.
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Supernova and over and out. It’s the empath’s triumph to break the trauma bond. Putting an end to all potential bs coming through. And don’t the narcissists just know it when we’ve moved back to sanity corner - where we deserve to be. To the pinnacle of indifference and beyond. Thank you, Paula.
Thank you Paula for talking about this topic. We are dealing with very unwell individual's who will never heal. Tortured souls who torture others..
We showed them that We CARED enough to GIVE 100%
I didn't know about narcissism until 23 years into my marriage. Once I learned about it I realized why I felt like I was sleeping with a 12 year old boy...still working on getting out at my very ripe old age.
I also knew nothing of narcissist abuse, it was my son who pointed it out to me about his Dad, I took his advice and researched this awful condition. Now divorced after realising and accepting the truth and trying to lead a better life.
Paula, I come from a toxic family and have a severely narcissistic sister. Breaking this bond was a superhuman feat.
As you say, I don't need her, but she does.
Thank you. 🌹
3 1/2 years gone and still think of him constantly. It’s never ending
I went no contact 2years 3 months ago & have thought about him every day. I was diagnosed with ptsd. I’ve tried everything to stop thinking about him. Zoloft, counseling, hypnotherapy, prayer, fasting, gratitude walks, journaling, meditation, breath work, support groups. You are correct, it is never ending! It’s like he stole my soul 😢 god bless us🙏🏻
Check out Noah Hinds Ministry..cast out for narc abuse.
@@annettehovey6105 after time it will get better. Give them a diminutive nick name fir your thoughts to dismiss … and when life gives you loads of work to do the business will reword your thoughts
I started to feel better after I'd accepted what had happened & that it was part of my life. I stopped fighting against that fact.
I also have a wonderful, caring therapist.
Well your looking pretty bloody good for 80. 😅
Hope you hit 100k soon.
Love and Peace
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I did need the narcissists when a child. It was so empty for my heart! Big fancy home, it all looked so good and others told me so. The loneliness was soul breaking with periods of hype and glitter. Such cognitive dissonance. My mother gave me the silent treat for 13 years. Her grandchild. It was mind boggling. Therapists said let it go, I couldn’t. I didn’t know it was on purpose to control me. I do now. I can’t understand it, you’re right. So many years questioning me, family blaming me because she did it. No specific reasons anyone could even give me. What a life to break the covenants and be free of what is not mine to bear. It is not easy and I won’t give up because so many love me and I them and it’s so different. I’m a moth to a flame to narcissistic people, my first caretakers sadly.
hugs..so get you.
Soul tie, and the 😈 knows exactly what we crave for, then they try to destroy us
I agree
So true 🎉❤️
Always be prepared for surprises- yet they are so predictable..
Paula, your ability to describe this horrendous life we lived is amazing 👏 . Love all your videos. Thank you ❤
You are so welcome
You are so right. I married to one. He is beyond evil.
I was the daughter and the parent; weirdest dynamic ever. You are so spot on
These witches and warlocks know that there master lives inside of me who they have to submit too.
What do you mean by this? I take it the wiches&warlocks are associated the nar and you are the narc's victom? How would their master i.e. satan be living in you? I might be misunderstanding something, but pls let me know..tnx
@@andreapril6969 Satan is not a master, Satan has a master.
Bull -
@@barbaragodfrey1402 you will bow and your tongue will confess
@@andreapril6969God is always in control. God is our master and those who believe that God's son Jesus died to save us from our sins lives in us as we are the true temple of God.
Oh!, and about that nasty comment you got, you don´t look 80 at all Paula, and Remy gives always a warmth feeling, sleeping comfortably on the background. Especially when talking abut this very dark subject, that has caused us so much pain. You and Remy are part of my healing process, so let the evil ones say nasty things, you’ve got us to tell you beautiful things.
She looks fine.
Prayer shared from a priest: “By the blood of Christ, I command the demons of (say the type, eg desire or lust or loneliness, enmeshment, etc), to leave me alone and get to the foot of Christ’s cross to receive your sentence. Amen”
@anon660. Thank you for sharing.
The last person you would want to get advice from about the casting out of demons, or Christian prayers, is a Catholic priest. You instead want to find someone who is actually a Christian, but the paganistic Antichrist Church does an exemplary job of counterfeiting Christianity for maximum mockery, blasphemy, and sacrilege. In other words, "the whore of Babylon" as the Bible describes the "synagogue of Satan". It's not like it wasn't predicted perfectly.
Take the movie called "The Exorcist" for example, of which the Catholic church was behind, as part of its deceptive marketing. The story they produced for the film was fictional. The actual case that the film was supposedly based upon played out completely differently. After 70-something failed exorcisms, they eventually killed that poor girl. Shouldn't they have included that in the story? Aren't Christians supposed to be truthful? I think that being truthful may even be one of the ten commandments. By the way, the Church of romanism altered the part about idolatry in commandment number two - so they can participate in their open idolatry and 'Mary'/'saint' worship, but I digress.
Even the holy water used in exorcisms is a mockery of God, because it's part of the sorcery of the forbidden pagan religions. Holy water was part of Ba'al worship, the demonic god of child sacrifice, also known as Moloch. It was never used by any of the Christians of the Bible, but it was used by the pagans that God cursed. There's no witchcraft, sorcery, or magical items (including relics or the necromancy of dead bodies and prayers to the dead). None of that's Christianity, and I haven't even gotten warmed up on the church's abominations. Virtually everything the Catholics do is from the other side, and one cannot serve both God and Satan.
The demons are going to laugh at you if you try that "foot of the cross prayer". Not only is it nonsensical and delusional, but it furthermore expresses a very Catholic desire to turn the spiritually symbolic (holy) cross into a physical object of idolatry with magical powers. See the reoccurring theme yet? Any possessing demons might cry out like they're in pain, but it's still them mocking you, even if they pretend like they are leaving for a while. Their pagan exorcisms are rarely effective, in actuality. The demons usually love Catholic exorcisms, so they often play along to encourage your devotion to that Babylonian religion that originated from Nimrod. Angering and mocking God pleases their dark lord.
Jesus doesn't require special rote prayers. In fact, he specifically spoke against them. Check the Gospels, to see this for another example of how the Catholic Church mocks Christ. The rote (magical) prayer thing one of the many reasons why you are defying and sinning against Jesus every time you pray the rosary, not to mention the goddess worship component. That's the point. That church misleads to ensure that we don't escape from our sins, or hell.
There's a reason why they are the only 'Christian' church which does not encourage its own people to read their Bibles, and to override whatever it says with "tradition" whenever they actually do. Whatever you do, don't listen to what Jesus said! Right?
God once said, "my people perish for lack of knowledge". How much worse is it when the little that they do know is the complete opposite of the truth.
The Catholics are known for their exorcisms, but no one ever asks why is it that Catholics are possessed the most often? How did they get that monopoly?Perhaps there's a reason for it. Why did it become their thing, while Christians seem to be MUCH less effected?
The Gospels talk about how to cast out demons in Jesus's name, but being an actual faithful Christian is one of the requirements. As Jesus said, "a house divided cannot stand" and "Satan cannot cast out Satan".
For the Catholic poster or anyone else here who is, I want you to think about this the next time that you're talking to your priest. Jesus said that it was forbidden to refer to any religious leader as "Father", so the Catholic Church goes out of its way to insult Christ. Think about this as you're talking to the priest, and about how he's tricking you into sin. You would think that the priests would know what Jesus said, right? It really leaves only two possibilities. Either the priest has absolutely no knowledge whatsoever about being a Christian, or he's actively working for the other side.
more than a year - 3 years in my case. because family narcissism is the cause of attracting narcissistic partners so after leaving the partner you have to heal from narcissistic family wounds which are much deeper and harder to overcome.
Channels like this have helped me a lot. Once you survive, the Narc learn how to protect your heart. That's our responsibility!❤
Beautiful Perfectly Helpful and Encouraging Talk Today - Thank you. Coincidentally I found my self literally standing in check out line behind the horrific parasitic abuser narcissit that captured me several years ago. I recognized him from behind and silently slinked back to hide / blend in with a very tall woman looking at dishes at the 2nd hand resale store. I vented a bit to her and verbalized how awful that man over is and was to me - - - how long I had successfully kept him away from me - - and there he is - - a few feet away. I have had several near misses with this person - usually easy to go by when I am driving in town and recognized him on the street or crossing the street while I am going about my business. But yesterday was very close - -same physical space sharing close and I snapped instantly back to a position far away and waited it out until I could finish my purchases and go home. I have at times been upset just for these crossings - - taking them as a "sign" that there is still some connection - I call karma - with that person. But now I see they are just tiny momentary chances for ME to SEE WHERE I AM WITH THEM. Not Near Misses of Being Hooked - - as I was so preoccupied with dreading before. Now I SEE I WOULD NEVER GIVE THEM AN OUNCE of my PRECIOUS TIME -- I gave as much to that person as was humanly possible and they almost ate me alive. I Understand Deeply Today What You Are Saying In This Talk. How I Got Trapped in the False Idea of the Relationship. How I Wanted Love and Respect and To Be Heard and Seen and He ACTED LIKE THAT WAS HAPPENING - - but was all the while data mining me to get fuller and fuller control while I took care of his every need and made up with my great skill and full functioning heart for his utter empty black power hungry angry baby tantrum disfunction. Paula It Is a Thrill and Honor to Sit Here Today Hearing you Speak About Loving The Little Person Within Me and How Wonderful It Is To Know I Am HERE FOR HER ! I WILL NEVER BE HERE TO BE TAKEN UP AS A MEAL FOR THE HUNGRY DARKNESS THAT THE NARC SADLY IS FULLY BONDED WITH. Much Love and Appreciation to you.
I have an idea Paula.
It's been nearly 2 years since I've been separated from a vicious covert religious narc. In the end I was ship wrecked for a long time. I didn't believe my X could be a narcissist ,he is.
Our covenant had three layers. The first was my loyalty to God. It took therapy & 2 religious leaders to be told, "leave God never desired you to be abused".
The second was a divorce. The court signed that petition of divorce on July 25.
The third layer I had to face is I accept and agree with all that is in me that although I forgive him, I learned recently that God rewards us when we forgive & that made it that much easier to forgive him. I am through with him entirely. I wash my hands & I've turned my back on him with no emotional breakdown. This is my testimony wish me luck. Its been good to spend time here. Thanks
Beautiful Bon Voyage 🌹
This video is on point on how the bond/ trauma bond/ covenant is made. The parent child dynamic with the narcissist is so difficult to break and it was when i stopped sleeping with him that i was then able to see the relationship for what it was
25 years was too long and i had to make the break
I am finally divorced and the bond is broken. Whats loosed in heaven is loosed in earth i never thought i would be free from this toxic evil relationship.
Its hard work but its possible and the freedom that comes with it is indescribable
Believe what paula says its 100% accurate
God bless you Paula for this work which is literally saving lives 🙏
My mother used to treat me badly and then carry on as if nothing happened. No ability to applogize. And if I ever brought ot up, she would lash out.
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That was my relationship completely! 23 years , I'm so thankful I'm out!
42 years for me….its never too late.
45 years for me. Still in!!!
@@marinanamaste5821 Well I hope you get out and find happiness.
@@marinanamaste5821Praying you can get out 🙏
41 yrs still here.tragic
Remy, the silent producer in the background
Remy the dog the co producer 🤣
My bond has finally been broken with him. Now I have more time for myself and more money as well.
The relationship (if you can call it that) had drained my body and mind.
I had a plan and over months gradually carried it out towards getting him away from me.
The local police who caught him driving my car unlicensed and with drugs in his system....this had a part in making things easier for me.
I'm ok now and I'm rather sure I will never be attracted to a covert narcissist again as I now have the knowledge.
I feel stronger and healthier.
I don't desire to be friends with a demon.
I am on the road to healing. I count all my blessings. The blessings will always be more than the pain. I still have flashbacks, however I think that is normal. They left a scar on our heart. Even healed, I believe we will always have that scar. Even with that scar we still didn't sink to their level. Paula. The person that made fun of Remy does not know a dog knows the good people from the bad people. I have just adopted a little dog. I talk to my dog all the time.
The first step is forgiving them, but never to return, once you forgive them the same way Christ did for those that pursicuted him, that's the road to recovery, then self love, love yourself unconditionally, set boundaries for yourself, and then that's the beginning of recovery. And knowing it was not you, it was them, and you were a light, that they couldn't stand, because darkness hates the light. You had a love inside you, that they didn't have, and they wanted to put it out. Blessing to you. 🙏❤
@sharonbice7490 Sharon, yes never go back to them.
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He replicated the never ending parent pleasing I had as a Child. Like in a pscyhological Role Play, I were his (hated-loved) Mother and at the same time, the Daughter he abandoned and the Son (he were), abandoned for his Father. All mixed up, spiritually.
The potentialities of Family Constelations dynamics and its Spiritual Role Play is something growing now, because we still don't know much about the almost unbelivable association of the Theorie of All in All. And It starts with the Spiritual Family Molecul, replicated in Earth, for Good (and Evil too - Narc's are tools for our spiritual growth - if you survive🙄). And fortunately, We, indeed, overcame🙏🏻 God bless you, Paula and all of you, warriors of the Holly Spirits❤️
It's funny how when they are in a relationship with us and they reject us, they tell us they are not rejecting us and that it is all in our heads. But then, when we break up, they tell us that they are the ones rejecting us. It's always about what makes them feel good about themselves.
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True. We left him after i was hit physically for the 2nd time. But he changed the narrative to reverse the situation- to make it appear that he left us...they will say whatever will make them look good!
Dead on paula dead on!! That's exactly.
What it feels like unconditional. Love that you did not receive from your caregivers. And it's intoxicating so addictive.
And Crushing when you find out. Not only is it a lie, but it's being used deliberately to hurt you. It taints every aspect of your life. It hurts your soul.Your spirit changes the way you look at the world around you and at people it's evil to the core. I've just finished four e m d r treatments. I've been trying to get apart from this for 8 years. I didn't know the first 2 years, so it's a total of 10 or 11.
But this is beyond anything I've ever had to face. EMDR has helped a lot.
EDMR helped me so much. Married for 18, boyfriend 10 years. I didn’t know about Narcissists. My parents both Narcissists. Groomed my entire life. Jesus rescued me. He gave me his arm and pulled me out. God will take care of Narcissists. We need to take care of us now. God bless.
I am the type that attracts narcissists. And so have had to sort out a number of situations, some lasting decades. Every time I listen to one of your podcasts Paula it is like another layer of lies peels off. And now I understand why people have not understood my plight and this phenomenon. It is quite complex. I have had to begin again by spending a lot of time alone and I must say the
Covid thing actually helped. Some times I think it took all this just so that I could learn how to say no. You are a blessing in this world!❤️
I have had this twice in my life, this time was for longer and as an empath I started to loose myself by becoming like them, I became more co-dependant than I ever was and while they filled my cup up in the beginning the devalue stage came and the discard and it made me feel like I lost myself at such a time I had some family issues, when the hoover came I went back (I still had brain fog after being ghosted for ages) I later saw them brag about reading the book ‘Power’, and realised I was done, I removed all numbers, media from my phone and blocked them. If they try to come back by another means I’ll show them what rage is.
Yep, nailed it. Thanks paula.62 days free.
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@@NarcCon🌹❤️🌹 Thank you Sweat Soul for the podcasts ❤️🌹❤️
Artfully, spiritually, and truthfully very well illustrated.
Another thought provoking video Paula.
You've nw put the fear of God in me, that my female narcassist will come back to me at a later date,two years narc free
If you are correct I will see if I'm fully healed and educated myself properley, if she ever was to come back.
Cant wait for part two....
You are correct that not just my female narcassist but my narcassitic mother never thought I was good enough and I would see them both enjoy any failings on my part, put downs , criticism,
I used to think to myself that my relationship with the female narcassist was like being with my mother.
Looking back I should of realised they both were one of a kind,narcassists,
I even told my female narcassist that my mother was a narcassist.
I look back and can see the similarities!
Once you realise they don't think like normal people ,your half way there!
As your never understand them!
Great video paula👍
Eight years of laborious research and obsessive study on this topic and quite literally, your presentation here has resolved it all. I am speechless. It FINALLY all makes sense to me. Thank you so so so very much…it is a watershed moment of the highest order.
Glad it was helpful! 🙋♀️🌹
I’m so so relieved to be reassured that my own belief of being spiritually attacked is understood 🙏 blows my mind daily right now x
Remi is squirming in the background saying, not again bloody NARCS 😂
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Bingo, this is exactly how it went in my case. I became a parent and later he verbally started to punish me for who I am. No matter how much I gave in, it was worse and worse.
you are out now Agata, life is beautiful enjoy
Thank you for explaining the child, parent dynamic. I can totally understand it because that was part of his disorder. I'm doing everything to eliminate him from my life. After 35 years of trauma and emotional abuse. He destroyed my spirit. Now I am free to be the person God created me to be.
It will go on for the rest of your agonising life until you educate yourself about what happened to you. I survived 50 years of it. I am now putting my knowledge on how to leave them for dead into action. When they realise you have changed the pin number to your soul it is like an electric shock runs through them. SSSSSSHHHHHHHH! xxx
Ooohh, changed the pin # to your soul…what a wonderful metaphor! 💕
Yes, when I left one state for another without telling anyone, the fact that we could not go to lunch and more was a lightening bolt to my Mom as she exclaimed. I am low contact and see the incredible patterns that now seem expected with no power over me.
My lady i believe i have listened almost 98% of your videos but today you are at gods level with this knowledge and warnings,it shocked my soul and i felt my inner child scared a bit about what you counted for the narcissist to come back,whats shocks me is that when we broke up she told me ,let be friends and i denied and she said she is going to sort her life but mayb she will come back ,i said no I won't allow you,she said then she will find a way because i belong with her and ahe left. Anyway that shocked me but i thought she was just saying not aware what i was dealing with really,and because we have children,when i speak to her over the phone ,she sound like nothing bad happened between us like everything it normal,and that always shocks me and now you explain this part ,guys this lady is so true we must be becareful it more than physical this thing ,i slept with a demon my self not knowing, guys
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After I had gone no-contact, I tried a ceremony with burning sage and imaginary scissors to cut the ties to the narcissist, as one more step in the healing process.
Sage attracts demons
I chose praying, it helped me so much. I would stay away from sage to be honest, lean on Jesus as he is the one who can truly heal and break trauma bonds.
Thank you this is great. If you haven’t broken the bond yet, you will. When you are ready to accept finally once and for all HOW this person actually operates, that they need YOU empty vessels that they are, you do not need them. You wanted what you THOUGHT it was, that is fine, but now that you know dear ones, you won’t allow them to “feed” off of your beautiful spirits any longer.
I would never do that to anyone i love helping people but i cant anymore i have to go away to nature from everyone if i cant get over this aftermath. Lol. Im so happy to be alive right now. ❤ i feel like i healed most of my inner child.
The covenant was broken on Mother’s Day when I went no contact. I feel like there is now a peace and shackles have fallen off. I was adopted so I do not have the blood bond.
I went no contact on Mother's day too. It feels great!
It is the spiritual and energy connections which you speak about that are helping me to understand the deeper realities of my own puzzlement from my experiences with narcissists. Thank you for going deeper. Thank your for sharing your knowledge of how narcissistic relationships play into the spiritual realms, the intentional mis-use of energy to control and take energy from another, and the energetic realities of what is really going on. Thank you so much!
Thank you so very much for your generosity Elizabeth 🌹🌹
THAT was the greatest N presentation EVER. EVER !!! Thank you.
Wow, thank you! 🌹
We forget because we are all healing or dealing with the dark souls that we only think of our problems so i would like to say thank you to Paula for continuing to fight and help all who listen and i would like to say to all the dark souls who pass by to listen long enough to change and let the light in.. stay strong Paula.
This is 100% accurate!!!
Thanks BEAUTIFUL Paula full of light!
I love how none of us worry about the narcs finding us on these sights..hahaha..they NEVER THINK IT'S THEM
This resonate so deeply sadly so and so fast ~ thank God for my strong mind but it so deeply
Oh myyyy, I have watched 100s of RUclips vids & listened to podcasts, read...heck, I'm even trained in risk,violence, dv, personality disorders. Yet, not one of them could hit it spot on 💯 like this,you. Every singke word. ❤️🩹Spot on💫. Really is a kind of awakening when your eyes are finally opened to the devastating truth, revelations bit by bit. You can only know the true horror by lived experience, sadly. Thank you spreading awareness and shining the light!🔥
Keep doing what you are doing.🙏🏽
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They know the arrangement is set against you, they know.
I do think about this person almost everyday.
I look foward to the day I begin to think less and less of him, as it is I want nothing to do with him ever!
They are evil...he has put a spell an attachment curse on you!!!
You have to break FREE!!!
Yes! Exactly. I tried to please the ‘parent’ (narcissist partner) in return for the unconditional love I was receiving. I didn’t actually want to quite often, but I felt I ‘ought’ to. (And, yes, I hadn’t received unconditional love as a child. And I acted/act the same way to my actual mother.)
He then pulled back. I wonder what would happen if you didn’t try so hard to please the ‘parent’/narcissist? Would they still pull away? Could it be the over-pleasing that causes them to pull away?
I’ve been told by other narcissists that I ‘gained power’ when I walked away/ignored them, and they have even advised me to do the same with my mother.
thank you ❤🙏 my covenant has been broken. through God all things are possible. im better than i was before
I break any and all covenants with the narc now and all in past in aJesus name fill us.
Definitely spiritual
Great video and lovely to see Remy so comfortable. I love it how he rests throughout while you talk about narcs.
Profound 😮 I feel you are right . Thank you ❤
You are so welcome
The last time I was still bonded I lay on the floor in a fetal position thinking “please come back through the door and feed me”… that was when I realized my inner unfed infant in me was who was bonded to them. And I realized I had to feed myself and to do so I had to heal my under eating disorder from not being fed enough from birth.
Hi Paula and Remy ..
You are quite accurate, Paula.
I've studied psychology, and I am speaking the truth when i say ..
It's one thing to have psychological studies under my belt. However, nothing is more detrimental after being in a relationship/ role play to the Narc.
I've been there, and i entered into a deep fog, / illusion so to speak, quiet quickly..
It's, in my opinion ,through my experience with the Narc.He definitely mirrored his mothers behaviors and very false entities.
I escaped once i sacrificed myself to this powerless entity.
After the brain fog lifted, and i realized it was more a parental alienation .and both the narc and mother were on the same page and controlled whomever they used the illusion on. You want to run to the hills.
The strength i gained from you, Paula, through your podcasts, has been very intuitive.
I walked away with a better insight, and I never looked back..now I'm not saying that it wasn't tough or that they still felt entitled .. But i stood my ground, and now have happiness and complete solice within myself.I truly love myself and accept myself and nothing less .❤.
PS.. I've followed you.
A while now Paula ,and I'm so sorry. I had to miss your 80TH birthday... LOL.IM BEING VERY FECICIOUS!!. YOU LOOK AMAZING GIRL. SOME PEOPLES KIDS ..
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ON A HAPPIER NOTE
I'D LOVE TO ADD .A HUGE THANK YOU TO YOU AND REMY....
SENDING MUCH LOVE ❤️.
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@@NarcConthere is no way you are 80! Gorgeous!
Paula those shadow fake accounts are following us non stop. Don't worry at all this may be the ex narc who can't stand your success still trying to put you down like my ex does exactly the same. It is so fun to watch how their envy is killing them. I enjoy your podcasts, you wisdom, experience in life. Thank you so much for that. God bless you darling
What an amazing master class! Paula, you are so precise, everything said in this video is so amazingly true! I don’t know what to say, this level of precision and clarity is like a shower of bright light, thanks for this master class! God bless you Paula (and Remy!!!)
Thank you so much!
I still think there’s a difference between male and female narcissists as it’s a lot easier in general for women to pick up men than it is for a man to pick up another woman. My experience for example, my ex narcissist gf had a long list of applicants on Facebook to replace me as her new supply. So this plus the fact that I had called her out as a narcissist means there’s zero chance of her hoovering me now.
Most people don't even know about narcissistic personality hunny as most people don't research things to be honest u can't notice something u not aware of
@@audreyroche9490you miss my point which is I think it’s a lot more likely for a male narcissist to hoover than it is for a female one, as the female narcissist has a lot more supply options
She can have 100 other supplies....that will not stop the hoover. It may come when you least expect it. In some cases, you dont even realize youre being hoovered especially when its by proxy.
@@audreyroche9490 Audrey I'm not sure where you live but in the US narcissist is so well known, it's gone beyond cliche to the point we are avoiding using it bc it's overused. Literally everyone - no exaggeration - knows what a narcissist is. They may get it mixed up with codependency which is the narc supply, but they know evil super villains. The church calls this a Jezebel Spirit. This lovely lady is the first I've seen describe the demons that are involved bc it's a slew. And Jezebel is a spirit referred to in Revelation. The antichrist is not a person. It's a spirit that has been happening since King herod killed all babies age 2 and under trying to kill Jesus at age 1. This is an antichrist spirit affecting this generation and the spirit will possess a person who will become Antichrist. This spirit also acts narcissistic, grandiose, at times but by any means to achieve it's objective. People def know a narcissist by name. It was predicted in the Bible by Paul to Timothy, Lovers of themselves, lovers of money, given over to lusts of the flesh, and multiple places. We are there. Help us Lord. Deliver us from evil
@@haneefahmuhammad3447 help me understand hoovered by proxy. I'm not familiar with this. And I've just learned about gang stalking yesterday.
Thank you beautiful soul full of light for sharing this revelation and for your kind words of encouragement ❤
You are so welcome
Thank you Paula. My vicious mom is gone, but now my MIL lurks in the bushes. She is subtle, though, not grandiose like my mom. She is nice , but subtly lets me down and gossips about me and then says " You poor thing, please lean on my strong shoulders." My relationship with her is much more confusing and harder to get a finger on. I'm breaking the spell with her too.
This is pretty spot on. Could be vulnerability, sadness, loneliness, empathy, physical attraction. My Narc got to me with a combination of these, exploitation and attachment. I was not in good place. When we met I felt bad for them and their family life. I felt like they needed me. I looked after them. Then it all went to hell. The Narc went cold, but mean, angry, unloving. Mentally abusive. Still, even though I pray, bind, rebuke, and pray for my healing … I can’t break it off. The mental anguish of just the thought is so overwhelming.
Another video ringing with truth from one very smart and caring lady. Just reading the comments and seeing the powerful, educated, and uplifting responses from so many of your followers shows just how much healing you are bringing to this special community of folks who are breaking free from these psychological con artists. I have been up and down on this journey, and will keep watching these videos as a touchstone when I start to struggle again. It is spiritual, no doubt. The devil tied a big knot around my relationship to a narcissist “best friend”, binding us together. I am still working on getting those knots undone. Thanks to an educated community of counselors and survivors, I believe I will eventually get the last knots undone. With a new relationship with “little me” - who I am really starting to respect and like more and more. Thanks Miss Paula. ⛅️
Thank you so much J 🐕🌹
Love you for sharing the precious information. Thank you. You are beautiful ❤
Please 🙏🏼 do not stop making these videos. You have helped me tremendously! I am going through a painfully messy divorce with a narcissist. Your videos have helped me navigate the process of finding myself again and REALITY. It’s honestly very complex and unless you have lived it YOU HAVE NO IDEA.
We need groups set up for people traumatised by narcissistic abuse. Your videos have helped my son see exactly how a narcissist works. Thankyou so much ❤❤❤❤
Who ever understands this massive massage and feel it in side your self. It is your everyday decision to be become in peace or to live in heaven. And The rest will be Your story.
But seek first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you" (Matthew 6:33).
I am so thankful 😢for these videos, it’s helping me to realize my worth. It has been a very difficult road being with a narc and being discarded. I believe for the longest there is something wrong with me, I keep attracting narcs, or people who posses narc behaviors. I have to find away to break this pattern and it starts with me.
I appreciate the effort to help people and spread awareness. Thanks for that.
I have seen from my personal experience that it's all easier said than done. I have seen people struggling all their lives to get out of the clutches of a narcissist. It took my mother 50 years to finally break the covenant with my malevolent narcissistic father. People need to know that the narcissist is basically an immoral person with a burning desire to win at all costs. They also learn to hide this fact well and put on a mask to manipulate people. That's the essential underlying trick.
Very healing, thank you Paula from NSW Australia. May God keep & guide all Truthseekers🙏💪❤️🩹🌱🌻
2 years have passed, a year has passed without contact. I have never felt such pain in my life. It's interesting that your channel came out to me the other day, and I've watched so many of them. It seems that I was not ready for some answers before. I have come all this way on my own, with the help of God and people like you. I couldn't explain to people here, they don't even know what Narcissus means. Just then, my friend said to me, start praying and turn to Jesus. And immediately, not overnight, it started to get better. I would only add that when we kissed I felt nothing, like a wall to kiss, and then I wondered for a long time: Am I so empty? Thank you for everything, God bless you
Thank you so much Paula. Im right in the middle of how can I totally get that person out of my life and thoughts. I know deep within me that what you are saying is true. It is the light that will lead me out of this dark tunnel 💜
Paula 🙏🏽❤️ You are a beautiful soul. Inside and out. Narcs always comment and show themselves, "hit dogs will holler." 😂 You and Remy are living your best lives, and they're bitter. 😂❤
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It's amazing how free you feel when you break the bond \ covenant especially In Ministry