No one person has it all or can be everything. My husband is not a big burly strong guy out there hunting. He's a smaller-built guy but he still goes to work unfailingly every single day. We are middle-aged now and he has a very physical job. He comes home with burns and cuts and an aching back and stiff knees and does not complain. He's conscientious and reliable to do what he needs to do every day. He is loyal and completely beyond reproach when it comes to respecting women. He is kind and gentle with me always but still, he leads. I love him completely and pray for his conversion every day. He was raised to be anti-faith. Luckily his heart is not quite so hardened as that. He is fine with other people having their faith but he has a lack of belief himself. It was never introduced to him. Myself, I'm converting from the progressive Protestantism that I was brought up in. So at the time I was married, I did not look for someone of similar faith. But I do love my husband dearly and would never trade him. I will continue to pray for him. I am not a woman who has it all or can be everything, but I can do that.
A man has a duty protect and give his life for his family, if need be. If he has that quality in his heart then that's good. Being big and strong helps very much in that endeavor which is why I make it a point to work out. In case i'm needed on the day of battle.
@@justaguy328 Absolutely it is prudent for us to improve upon what we are given. It's good that you have recognized your responsibilities. The self-discipline is lacking in so much of society now to do that. I'm turning a finger back at myself when I say that.
God made man and women to be complementary to each other, and he gave them both good traits, which echo God's own goodness. There are corruptions of these traits of course. For men, leading can become controlling, confidence turns into pride, and steadfastness turns into temper.
10 Attractive Qualities in a Man *Patience. If a man stays kind under pressure and keeps his cool in the face of insult, that's a sign he'd make a good father. *Competance. A man who's skillful, well-rounded, knowledgable, adaptable in the world around him. Someone you'd want on your team during a zombie apocalypse. *Confidence. Confidence isn't, "I know they'll love me," it's, "I'll be fine if they don't." *Reliability. Follows through on his promises even when the going gets tough. *Humility. When a guy is quick to apologize -- not in a sycophantic way, but one that shows he genuinely cares about how he makes others feel -- that communicates maturity. *Playfulness. Seriously, a resilient sense of humor goes a long way. If he can take smack talk from guy friends without getting pissy, that's attractive. *Poise. Staying level-headed and calm when you're scared or stressed makes a guy feel safe. *Forgiveness. Readiness to forgive is a mark of great virtue. *Optimism. Pessimism is ungodly, whereas cheerfulness is considered a lesser known virtue. *Compassionate toward enemies. The way some guys refer to Feminists is downright scary. I once heard a guy say he wouldn't defend a Feminist if she got assaulted in public because she'd have deserved it. A true gentleman is heroic, even toward the opposite side. *Rugged. I see guys saying, "Masculine doesn't mean macho," but honestly, a guy shouldn't be threatened by the idea of being a bit macho, of being the jock. It's attractive. . 10 Unattractive Qualities in a Man *Bitterness. That's when a man thinks he's suffering worse than other people and is entitled to pity. *Being a sore loser. Nobody is perfect, but taking it out on others when you're embarrassed is weak. Refusing to play a game you're bad at is also cringe. *Temper. A guy having an explosive temper makes me feel unsafe. *Over-eating. St. Thomas Aquinas & St. Augustine believed there's a direct link between overindulgence in food and a lack of chastity. *Spiritual sloth. If he doesn't have a private prayer life, he's not the one. *Procrastination. Just wake up on time already. *Not having a particular devotion to Our Lady. Real men love Mary. *Ignorant of the Faith. Intellectual attraction is too important to me. *Earthly mindedness. No ambition other than to get married and have kids. Doesn't concern himself much with saving souls, prayer & penances, or expanding the Kingdom of God. Only cares about his own little corner. *Having a crush on an anime character. The most unattractive quality to me of all. Run far away. He's emotional and defensive and attracted to cartoon characters that look like minors. 😂
Quiet daily meditation with Jesus solves a lot of the need for attention and floundering. I truly wish Steubenville conferences (and Mountain Madness) would promote quiet contemplation with God instead of noisy and distracting worship music.
Haha love the part about an African Pope. He is right. Every priest I have seen ffroom there have been wonderful men of God and to me for some reason have a strong presence around them. But they are also the good natured smiling ones too. Also as far as the suits I agree. I love to see men wearing suits. Ladies dressing nice as well. I haven't joined the church yet. In protostant churches it has gotten to the point where they don't care. They will wear no shoes. Cut off shorts. Tank tops, yoy name it to church. When I first started watching online masses I was excited. I said here are people who will respect the reverence of the church. I was sad to see all the jeans and hoodies. Or even leggings for the girls. I believe we are better than that. We should have more respect for ourselves and our Lord than that. After all we would get dressed up to go see a king or queen. How much more the the highest of all?
I have a question; does this need for masculinity in the church also pertain to individuals within it? As in men who don’t overtly display behaviors or characteristics seen as masculine, are those individuals inherently flawed or otherwise detrimental? As in, say a boy grew up with only sisters so he never really knew how to interact with other boys without being bullied, or grew up in a setting where he would associate masculinity with aggression and abuse? Is that individual mistaken for not acting in ways deemed more manly? I only ask this out if the sincerest curiosity. I do understand much of what was said; at least I believe I do. On the individual, men are in a social deprivation of our best selves. All of this said, none of it probably matters does it? I apologize for this admittedly unstructured question; likely product of my own strong inclination to satiate curiosity. I just felt a need to ask it where it could possibly be answered.
I think we have to draw a distinction between masculinity and what is often called "machismo." Machismo is putting on a display of exaggerated, hyper-masculine traits in order to gain attention and influence over others (which perverts the purpose of true masculinity, which is to provide, protect, and love with humility). While it is heart breaking that there are many boys who are scarred by their experiences of machismo, that doesn't mean that they can be excused from becoming authentically masculine. The road will be hard for them, but it is for all of us. We all battle these things.
@@JoshSmith-db2of Very valid points, and I am thankful for it. I would then like to ask further: can the qualities of masculinity be expressed in different ways? As in hypothetically if a man were a stay at home father, is he less masculine as he isn’t providing for his family? Or a man who is sensitive and empathetic, is he still masculine? And I’d like to further ask in regard to young men who didn’t grow up with good role models in regards to masculinity, what then should they do? If they have no men to observe to learn these better qualities, what can they do? I know this may be much to ask, and I apologize for my inquisitive prying.
@@brandonbreaux1296 to your first follow-up question I will share that I recently met a man who was both a stay-at-home dad (his wife is pretty highly ranked in the army) as well as quite sensitive and empathetic. He was boyish and funny, but also completely competent and sure of himself in an attractive way. Though quite untraditional, I had genuine respect for him and for the arrangement that seemed to work well for their family. (It isn't really the path I would follow, but then I am more of the nurturing type while my husband functions best in normal employment.) To address your second follow-up question, I do believe this masculine strength comes most easily to those who were raised in a healthy environment. I think therefore it is important for those who lacked that growing up to engage in their church community and to find others who can mentor them and hold them accountable in order to foster that stability of character. In my experience, that and growing intentionally with the Lord through scripture alters us over time to be more of the person God intended us to be.
I had always seen Catholicism as being more feminine. I was pretty hardcore atheist until a few months back. Suddenly I find myself attending Mass. But I'm still a bit confused, and maybe I'm wrong, that there's no warrior or masculine wing of the religion. I'd love to be wrong.
You do it because it's the only option, not because anyone commends you for it. Women have to be who God called them to be regardless of their role's marginalization as well.
Men's role is that of guarding, provisioning, and being the head of the woman since in relation to God we represent the Image of God in a priestly function distinct from women. God will always judge the head more than the body by virtue of its authority over its body. Simple
I don't care where our next Pope comes from ( hopefully a country that has not been infested with limp wristed Catholicism ) We need a Pope that is a real man.
Interesting thumbnail choice I guess, I see nothing in and of itself wrong with dressing in garb that someone feels is fashionable. I doubt Harry Styles thinks that he is a woman, or desires to play pretend as one either.
I thought masculinity and femininity was a binary defined by biological realities, not personality traits which overlap between the sexes. Very confused.
Male and female are the biological representations of the transcendent reality of masculine and feminine (other cultures might say yin and yang etc). This is how the Church can be female and the bride and the Trinity can be male and the bridegroom. It is why priests are always male. Etc. Aquinas has a hermeneutic which is God writes on the world in the way that man writes on paper: when God wants us to understand something it is written into the physical world. Gender is an example of this. He wants us to understand the spiritual/metaphysical masculine and feminine so He creates male and female. Male and female is defined by biological reality but it also represents something more
@@ThePhilologicalBell it means stuff that is transcendent or metaphysical. Something which exists independently of us that God wants us to know very much and as such has made it an essential and immutable part of our human nature. For instance, look at pagan religions. Because of natural law, there is some truth there. In greek mythology you have mother Gaia (earth) and father uranus (sky) and their union created the world. In hinduism the bride says to the groom you are my sky and I am your earth and the groom says you are my earth and I am your sky. In Catholicism, the earth (the church) is she and God (who is in heaven) is He. So you can see the theme. Pagan religions are grasping at this concept of divine masculinity/femininity and the church has the truest and purest representation of it. Just as God goes into the church and creates eternal life, the man goes into the woman and creates life. The biological male and female is a type of the transcendent masculine and feminine. This is why gender roles and marriage etc are so important
@@Sophia-qp1og Thanks for explanation of the metaphysical reality of the sexes, I have understood that is a reality but heard little to nothing about it.
No one person has it all or can be everything. My husband is not a big burly strong guy out there hunting. He's a smaller-built guy but he still goes to work unfailingly every single day. We are middle-aged now and he has a very physical job. He comes home with burns and cuts and an aching back and stiff knees and does not complain. He's conscientious and reliable to do what he needs to do every day. He is loyal and completely beyond reproach when it comes to respecting women. He is kind and gentle with me always but still, he leads. I love him completely and pray for his conversion every day. He was raised to be anti-faith. Luckily his heart is not quite so hardened as that. He is fine with other people having their faith but he has a lack of belief himself. It was never introduced to him. Myself, I'm converting from the progressive Protestantism that I was brought up in. So at the time I was married, I did not look for someone of similar faith. But I do love my husband dearly and would never trade him. I will continue to pray for him. I am not a woman who has it all or can be everything, but I can do that.
That was a beautiful. May God bless and reward you both!!!
A man has a duty protect and give his life for his family, if need be. If he has that quality in his heart then that's good. Being big and strong helps very much in that endeavor which is why I make it a point to work out. In case i'm needed on the day of battle.
@@emmadumais2337 Thank you. 🙏
@@justaguy328 Absolutely it is prudent for us to improve upon what we are given. It's good that you have recognized your responsibilities. The self-discipline is lacking in so much of society now to do that. I'm turning a finger back at myself when I say that.
I do love men, I like masculinity and I want a church full of masculine priest and bishops and a pope from Africa.
Cardinal Robert Sarah I feel would be an excellent Pope!
Too old, Bp. Robert Barton would be great too.
The profound revelation that it’s okay to be who you want to be because that’s what the opposite sex wants you to be too. That’s common sense awesome!
So true. Be true to who you are and you will naturally and authentically express your femininity or masculinity.
God made man and women to be complementary to each other, and he gave them both good traits, which echo God's own goodness. There are corruptions of these traits of course. For men, leading can become controlling, confidence turns into pride, and steadfastness turns into temper.
The irony that I had a pride ad to this video
10 Attractive Qualities in a Man
*Patience. If a man stays kind under pressure and keeps his cool in the face of insult, that's a sign he'd make a good father.
*Competance. A man who's skillful, well-rounded, knowledgable, adaptable in the world around him. Someone you'd want on your team during a zombie apocalypse.
*Confidence. Confidence isn't, "I know they'll love me," it's, "I'll be fine if they don't."
*Reliability. Follows through on his promises even when the going gets tough.
*Humility. When a guy is quick to apologize -- not in a sycophantic way, but one that shows he genuinely cares about how he makes others feel -- that communicates maturity.
*Playfulness. Seriously, a resilient sense of humor goes a long way. If he can take smack talk from guy friends without getting pissy, that's attractive.
*Poise. Staying level-headed and calm when you're scared or stressed makes a guy feel safe.
*Forgiveness. Readiness to forgive is a mark of great virtue.
*Optimism. Pessimism is ungodly, whereas cheerfulness is considered a lesser known virtue.
*Compassionate toward enemies. The way some guys refer to Feminists is downright scary. I once heard a guy say he wouldn't defend a Feminist if she got assaulted in public because she'd have deserved it. A true gentleman is heroic, even toward the opposite side.
*Rugged. I see guys saying, "Masculine doesn't mean macho," but honestly, a guy shouldn't be threatened by the idea of being a bit macho, of being the jock. It's attractive.
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10 Unattractive Qualities in a Man
*Bitterness. That's when a man thinks he's suffering worse than other people and is entitled to pity.
*Being a sore loser. Nobody is perfect, but taking it out on others when you're embarrassed is weak. Refusing to play a game you're bad at is also cringe.
*Temper. A guy having an explosive temper makes me feel unsafe.
*Over-eating. St. Thomas Aquinas & St. Augustine believed there's a direct link between overindulgence in food and a lack of chastity.
*Spiritual sloth. If he doesn't have a private prayer life, he's not the one.
*Procrastination. Just wake up on time already.
*Not having a particular devotion to Our Lady. Real men love Mary.
*Ignorant of the Faith. Intellectual attraction is too important to me.
*Earthly mindedness. No ambition other than to get married and have kids. Doesn't concern himself much with saving souls, prayer & penances, or expanding the Kingdom of God. Only cares about his own little corner.
*Having a crush on an anime character. The most unattractive quality to me of all. Run far away. He's emotional and defensive and attracted to cartoon characters that look like minors. 😂
That last one about the anime character sounds very oddly specific. I'm guessing this came through experience? lol
@@justaguy328 Well, I'm just being ornery 😂 But yes, I've observed a strange pattern, so I like to tease my friends about it, haha!
In other words, Christian virtue is attractive!
@@mattharazin5578 You got it!
As a man I agree with your list
Man! I've liked every single video I've watched from your channel! God bless you!
Greetings from Venezuela.
Mr Fraad upon this is very bless, his work for purity against porn culture its a very blessed thingh, thanks.
Your thumbnails are getting better, props
You guys killed it
Quiet daily meditation with Jesus solves a lot of the need for attention and floundering. I truly wish Steubenville conferences (and Mountain Madness) would promote quiet contemplation with God instead of noisy and distracting worship music.
Brilliant clip.
My takeaway from this is that I need to wear more brown
No problem for me. I AM brown. Huehueheu.
Earth tones rock 🪨
Haha love the part about an African Pope. He is right. Every priest I have seen ffroom there have been wonderful men of God and to me for some reason have a strong presence around them. But they are also the good natured smiling ones too.
Also as far as the suits I agree. I love to see men wearing suits. Ladies dressing nice as well.
I haven't joined the church yet. In protostant churches it has gotten to the point where they don't care. They will wear no shoes. Cut off shorts. Tank tops, yoy name it to church. When I first started watching online masses I was excited. I said here are people who will respect the reverence of the church.
I was sad to see all the jeans and hoodies. Or even leggings for the girls.
I believe we are better than that. We should have more respect for ourselves and our Lord than that.
After all we would get dressed up to go see a king or queen. How much more the the highest of all?
Great points! So true!
Love this!
I have a question; does this need for masculinity in the church also pertain to individuals within it? As in men who don’t overtly display behaviors or characteristics seen as masculine, are those individuals inherently flawed or otherwise detrimental? As in, say a boy grew up with only sisters so he never really knew how to interact with other boys without being bullied, or grew up in a setting where he would associate masculinity with aggression and abuse? Is that individual mistaken for not acting in ways deemed more manly?
I only ask this out if the sincerest curiosity. I do understand much of what was said; at least I believe I do. On the individual, men are in a social deprivation of our best selves. All of this said, none of it probably matters does it?
I apologize for this admittedly unstructured question; likely product of my own strong inclination to satiate curiosity. I just felt a need to ask it where it could possibly be answered.
I would say that we must portray humility and meekness.
Men should also be modest in their courtship and manners.
I think we have to draw a distinction between masculinity and what is often called "machismo." Machismo is putting on a display of exaggerated, hyper-masculine traits in order to gain attention and influence over others (which perverts the purpose of true masculinity, which is to provide, protect, and love with humility). While it is heart breaking that there are many boys who are scarred by their experiences of machismo, that doesn't mean that they can be excused from becoming authentically masculine. The road will be hard for them, but it is for all of us. We all battle these things.
@@JoshSmith-db2of Very valid points, and I am thankful for it. I would then like to ask further: can the qualities of masculinity be expressed in different ways? As in hypothetically if a man were a stay at home father, is he less masculine as he isn’t providing for his family? Or a man who is sensitive and empathetic, is he still masculine?
And I’d like to further ask in regard to young men who didn’t grow up with good role models in regards to masculinity, what then should they do? If they have no men to observe to learn these better qualities, what can they do?
I know this may be much to ask, and I apologize for my inquisitive prying.
@@brandonbreaux1296 to your first follow-up question I will share that I recently met a man who was both a stay-at-home dad (his wife is pretty highly ranked in the army) as well as quite sensitive and empathetic. He was boyish and funny, but also completely competent and sure of himself in an attractive way. Though quite untraditional, I had genuine respect for him and for the arrangement that seemed to work well for their family. (It isn't really the path I would follow, but then I am more of the nurturing type while my husband functions best in normal employment.)
To address your second follow-up question, I do believe this masculine strength comes most easily to those who were raised in a healthy environment. I think therefore it is important for those who lacked that growing up to engage in their church community and to find others who can mentor them and hold them accountable in order to foster that stability of character. In my experience, that and growing intentionally with the Lord through scripture alters us over time to be more of the person God intended us to be.
I had always seen Catholicism as being more feminine. I was pretty hardcore atheist until a few months back. Suddenly I find myself attending Mass. But I'm still a bit confused, and maybe I'm wrong, that there's no warrior or masculine wing of the religion. I'd love to be wrong.
Superb
I feel like there's no point trying to be authentically masculine if there's no one around you to -
a) recognize it
b) help you maintain it
God recognizes it. God's grace will help you maintain it. Pax
You do it because it's the only option, not because anyone commends you for it. Women have to be who God called them to be regardless of their role's marginalization as well.
@@nickk4851 god is so petty that he cares if you're "truly" masculine?
@@leekflower1 No, it's not the only option. Glad I could be of help
@@Mish844 your comments don't make sense
Men's role is that of guarding, provisioning, and being the head of the woman since in relation to God we represent the Image of God in a priestly function distinct from women. God will always judge the head more than the body by virtue of its authority over its body. Simple
I don't care where our next Pope comes from ( hopefully a country that has not been infested with limp wristed Catholicism ) We need a Pope that is a real man.
Two men talking about how much they desperately need big, strong, (African) men. Nothing out of the ordinary to see here.
Yea cause of fruity whiteboys like u
Why are people offended by men wearing dresses? Is the "masculinity" they love really threatened by such things?
Men really have to stop obsessing over what is “actually masculine.”
genuine 'real men' don't, it's only insecure men obsessed with it
Never try to be masculine .
I think this is the soundest advice I've seen on this page so far.
😵💫😬😬😬
clothes don't make the man
This refers more to the quality or price of the clothes, not the style.
Prison inmates. Raining men, player.
It's good Friday. Let's talk about Christ.
Interesting thumbnail choice I guess, I see nothing in and of itself wrong with dressing in garb that someone feels is fashionable. I doubt Harry Styles thinks that he is a woman, or desires to play pretend as one either.
I thought masculinity and femininity was a binary defined by biological realities, not personality traits which overlap between the sexes. Very confused.
Male and female are the biological representations of the transcendent reality of masculine and feminine (other cultures might say yin and yang etc). This is how the Church can be female and the bride and the Trinity can be male and the bridegroom. It is why priests are always male. Etc. Aquinas has a hermeneutic which is God writes on the world in the way that man writes on paper: when God wants us to understand something it is written into the physical world. Gender is an example of this. He wants us to understand the spiritual/metaphysical masculine and feminine so He creates male and female. Male and female is defined by biological reality but it also represents something more
@@Sophia-qp1og So does that 'something more' mean stuff that's not biological? I don't get it 😔
@@ThePhilologicalBell it means stuff that is transcendent or metaphysical. Something which exists independently of us that God wants us to know very much and as such has made it an essential and immutable part of our human nature. For instance, look at pagan religions. Because of natural law, there is some truth there. In greek mythology you have mother Gaia (earth) and father uranus (sky) and their union created the world. In hinduism the bride says to the groom you are my sky and I am your earth and the groom says you are my earth and I am your sky. In Catholicism, the earth (the church) is she and God (who is in heaven) is He. So you can see the theme. Pagan religions are grasping at this concept of divine masculinity/femininity and the church has the truest and purest representation of it. Just as God goes into the church and creates eternal life, the man goes into the woman and creates life. The biological male and female is a type of the transcendent masculine and feminine. This is why gender roles and marriage etc are so important
@@Sophia-qp1og Thanks for explanation of the metaphysical reality of the sexes, I have understood that is a reality but heard little to nothing about it.
@@Sophia-qp1og Ok so the gender stereotypes matter to you because they supposedly make straight couplings more likely
Thanks for a great example of toxic masculinity
Always one woke person in every crowd.🙄