Stop being used & abused | How to stop people to take ADVANTAGE of you - Personality Development
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2018
- Stop being used & abused | How to stop people to take ADVANTAGE & take you for GRANTED - Personality Development Video
It happens that people take advantage of you and take you for granted for being too nice to them. That upsets you and you don’t know how to deal with it. You get used and abused for being nice to people. Well, you need to put a stop to it. In this personality development video with Ceema you will learn signs that indicate you are taken advantage of. Learn how to deal with such mean and rude people. Stop people to use and abuse you all the time. Watch this motivational video and share it with your friends and folks. To watch such interesting videos and read the complete transcript of this video, visit - www.learnex.in/
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What if your best friend and your family members are taking you for granted
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Thanks a lot
Mam, can you please suggest a book for this problem.
I wanna to get rid of negative thoughts...
I know it doesn't bye anything... I needed more from your.
dont react just respond😎😎😎
I have cut a lot of people because I became awake being too kind has severe negative consequences
Sometimes that's what you have to do. Cut people off that ask too much & don't give back in return or you say no and they try to put you on a guilt trip when you know you said yes more than no.
May be I am changing when I was in 10th I was very kind and truthfully now a day I lie a lot and started abusing 😓😓😓
Respect your self
Learn to say no
Don't over explain
Don't burden URSELF with feelings of others
Don't stop ppl from leaving your life
Thank you
Exactly
Thanks
But why always reality is hard to believe and to accept 😓😓😓
When you say no, they say you're selfish. I say you're right.
This is so true..
Yea you're right.
Truee
But I don't want to be selfish 😔😔
Hi Janie, your absolutely right, well said, ty, Bob,
Nice tips.... I am a victim of being too nice.. Forgot to live my life.. End of the day feeling unhappy for having not satisfied all
me2
Me3
Fell sorry to hear that...big hug😊
I am also
That's totally me so sad 😣
I was nice and kind to others but some selfish and manipulative people tried to take advantage of my nature. I am now careful about whom I should help and how much I should do for others without allowing anyone to take me for granted. Help only those who genuinely need help and do not let anyone take advantage of you. Beware of fake people.
I am form 2 category
me too mostly my friends and co church too.now i am aware of this thanks for this.
Trust issues? Same here :(
My classmates take me for granted and tease me even if I help them, unwillingly. But now is the time to say no
The same is with me, brother.
Same here
“I feel guilty if I didn’t please my friend or others” I feel I did something wrong for not being there for others when they need me!
It's totally okay!.....
I am happy for you because the thing is no one realize this until you lost someone very close... you realized. Make sure that you're not doing that mistake again..
Are u Pisces ♓
People didn't walk away from my life but I had to get rid of many who were simply toxic to my well-being... I have no regrets after cutting off such people from my life. It is better to be alone than surround yourself with negative and fake ppl!
My take away is -
Don't let someone's feeling, emotions rule you.
Thank you for the wisdom 😊
"Don't link your feelings with others" thanks so much dear am just fed up of being tooooo nice
From today onwards I have gain confidence to say 'NO' without feeling guilty .....Thnx to you dear 👍
She narrated exaxtly my life in 11 mins and 45 seconds
Mine as well😔☹
@@Anu20810 Same :(
True 😓
Mine too
I used to takecare of others more than i takecare about myself... Sometimes i don't care about my health condition.... I hope this video helps me ... Thank you for the video. ..
Me too
Same here dear
Please don't do it anymore, I was like that too, take extremely good care of yourself.
NO Clickbait Do what you have to take care of yourself. If can’t do that then taking care of others could become difficult and eventually prevent you from doing so later on because of lack of self care for yourself. Do your best to take time for self care! Good luck and hope your life gets better for you.
What u get
"let them go".....some times it seems quite impossible....but it's not 😎😎😊😊
Nilanjana Saha indeed true dear
Thank you. I've been too nice to people that I ended up being treated with disrespect. I'm headed out for work and you just made my day. 😊😘
I’m way too nice that I’m not respected..my family’s and certain friends drains my energy, time, happiness, peace and strength 💯 out..my 2021 got to be different. So thank you.
"Don't burden yourself with the feelings of others "... this is the best thing that I am gonna implement in my life .Thank you mam for such beautiful lesson .
"Don't over explain yourself " 👌 👍 💖 i damn have to follow this. Seriously 🙏 very nice video. Nicely explained 👌 👍 💖
You have inspired me to be myself instead of wasting my valuable time and life to please others
I have a sister who made me an ATM. Since 16 years.. Paying her rent and skool fees for her kids. Thanks a lot dear, u are an eye opener.
if you are not able to say NO to your friends or relatives, then don't pick up their calls, they may call you 2 to 3 times max, but then everything goes smooth, this what I m doing for past two years and all my friends and relatives don't have any issues, because I meet them occasionally whenever I get some times
ratnesh vikrant good point.! Ur right!
In case of relationships, if you're too nice, they'd walk all over you and eventually get bored and leave you. If you keep them at arms length, they'd leave you cuz you're not giving them what they want a 100%. How to win then?
Based on my experience, it helps a lot... i forgot to love myself..
I was too nice a few years ago, but people still respected me...at least I think they did.
Being " too nice" kills me everyday. these points are totally relating to me. thnk u so much mam!!
Best Motivater on the planet.Her speaking style & way of explaining is amazing & really nice.
We have life,so we don’t need to give up our life for anyone.People will overuse you,then they’ll throw you in a dustbin.plz you don’t need this kinda people,let them go out 💯
This is how I really looked at it I have been very nice to people ,most times but they will take ur kindness for weakness do good alternative the time don't let negative People stop ufrom doing the right thing when I realize I was going over board I draw a line some people are not conc ciderrate but do good to them anyway but have a limit to how far you go
Piratheepan Varatharajan yea!!
I have also been too nice to people. I don't mind at all helping when in need, but like she said in the video people appreciate it, but can also start expecting it too much & taking you for granit (not everyone, but some). I'm learning to say no, but still struggle with it & after feel guilty.
Great video! Being taken for granted is something I've been struggling for all of my life & I live constantly depressed thinking that I am not worth anything.... but the more I start looking at my life from the outside, the more I realize that I've been people's door mat for too long! Thank you for this video!!!
😬Thank you so much i am one of those persons who were abused but thank God i did the right thing before its too late.
More power to your program
Thats my story maam, no matter how i try to see good in people but some people even friend in my life , remember me when they need !!
Suprona Jidung I would bring that to their attention with examples. When they walk away then consider you blessed.
Its really a very good video... I have learnt a lot...great going ..Thanks a lot
Thanks for uploading this encouraging video.this WAS my habit for being nice to everyone, anytime.But now i came to how to say NO to people u take u for granted,or to people who use you.thanks again.
I have had Problems with relatives when i am in a troubled situation ,taking advantage of you while in a Hospital these are the worst Kind.
Tq....so....much!
I just realized that how....introverted i was!!!😔
Ur words changed my thoughts!💜
I learned this after soooo many years. But it really works. And it makes me feel so much confident and happy too. You just give words of my feelings. Thanks a lot.
I feel so empowered now. I finally said no. What took me so long. Thank you for this.
I get treated with disrespect constantly. The same people act shocked when you stand up for yourself or try to mock you. Just say no to abusers and users. You’re not a doormat.
there r people in our life that r really close to our heart , but we also know that they r draining us , but we choose to hurt ourselves rather than hurting there emotions .
Really good tips! I've been there done that! And bailed myself out of this 'being too nice' web! I've practiced similar tips even before watching this video! But I've always had doubts whether what I've done is right or wrong. Now I feel that I've done the right thing. I couldn't thank my self enough for that! Now I feel more confident and my self esteem is much higher. I feel good now overall.
Love this. Glad I clicked on your video! Please continue to inspire more people.
Thank you, I'm tired of being very nice and being taken for granted. This is a path I find myself returning to often. I've literally have the smallest circle.
Thanks for this video it helped me a lot. Saying yes every time is deteriorating my health and just leaves me feeling used and abused and I’m rarely even told THANK YOU.
Thank you ma'am for your encouraging words.i really need this.i am abused because i always give in to friends who need help all the time even relatives but i've learned now to say NO trying to distant myself from those who are taking advantage of my kindness and generosity.God Bless.
Self respect is very important. I agree...
My grown son tells me all the time that I’m too nice and I let people walk all over me. I’m trying to work on it. I’m getting alittle better. He is the type of guy that doesn’t pull any punches and he says what he thinks. If you don’t want to know the truth, don’t ask him. He is my hero. I was young when I had him. And I’ve pretty much been a single mother. He is my only child and my mom, dad and my only sibling, my brother, have all passed away. So he’s been my rock. He says sometimes he feels like the parent. LOL! I’m fixing to be 52 and he’s almost 34.
Great advice! I have been too generous to people just to show off and I found out I made a big mistake. You have changed my life from now on.
I am learning at my old age. Anyhow it will help me for the remaining life. 21.12.2018
This video is totally based on my sorrowful life till now
Just awesome ! You just don’t know how much your video has helped me. I just escaped and I mean escaped from a toxic relationship. This past Saturday I could not take it anymore and your video showed me that I was too nice to this man but he also over- powered me. I respect myself that I do, you confirmed that I had to leave no matter what. It’s amazing that I am not crying for him or wanting to go back to him. I feel so FREE and happy. But I do feel a little traumatized and so drained emotionally, physically, and spiritually. I have been sleeping and resting for 3 days now. But I know when I get my strengths back, I will blossom in my business life, my social life because he stole that, I will regain all if have, not lost but been hindered and just put on hold because he always tried to stop me or get in my way. Buy now I am so free and your video confirmed that I did the right thing and taught me how not to be too nice. Thank you thank you.
Especially when people see you as a loner and no kids- they assume you’re just available to immerse your life with theirs - be a baby sitter /house sitter and take care their shit . I’m done with that.
Actually...it doesn't matter whether others respect us or not.....also it is not necessary that all those who r respected are really hving a good personality.....we just hv to be positive and develop a good personality.....I think we should always try....try....and try....to be a better person today than yesterday....
I feel the same
Who tries to make m feel guilty he always dumb themselves
...I don't care about his talking or his words.. I only 😀..& say nothing.. Some months ago I get upset for those ppl with whom I was much connected but they insult m.. I share everything with my boyfriend he saves m.. Now I can control my mind almost all time & treat that typ of.... I love him
Very useful video for those who are too good to everyone.
☹️ ya true we need to change
Always discarded in life but confused of my mistakes but now I understand that the ways I was employing to get people was letting me down.
Thanks for this life changing video
Your channel is a blessing for me.
I have a narcissistic mother that takes me for granted. Recently she turned 90 and my younger sister and I went all out and threw her a beautiful party close family only due to the pandemic.
Fast forward to my birthday 6 weeks later and all I get is when you're in town I have a card for you. It really made me feel worthless.
Thanku very much. Now I need to change my attitude..
I have been facing this problem at my Office. Thanq soo much..its very useful
there are users in this world. they think your there for their convenience. you are just an option. so it's good to say No to these people.x
i learnt to urgently stop saying yes instead of no. personally this tip will make people stop calling me a fool & then i'll be wise. thanks.
Thank you so much for making such a quality video. All the tips mentioned in the video are really very useful. All the best for ur future journey !
Keep it up !
Wow! I had no clue it would be so simple :)
Thank you very much for this video! It has helped me heaps!! :D
How could you be so clear and to the point ,I have watched many videos , but this is everything. You have answered all my unanswered doubts , I needed to learn that , unfortunately I get affected by people ‘s emotions and push myself till I’m all drained out and in return , I don’t get the same actions from others , till I have reached a point of saying no without even listening and shutting down the closest people . This made me unable to differentiate between who could I help or who shouldn’t / must not help . Thank you a lot 🙏🙏🙏🙏
From now on I m going to respect myself...cos being too nice drains out money, emotions, n not being important to any1...m always being taken advantage off..but from 2day it's gonna be never... thank u sis for helping me out
Ty for this video, I was really feeling a bit broken inside from some days thinking abt people who never valued my emotions, for whom I tried my best to keep them happy all d time bt I just got more disappointment each time.. but now I realized dt they too have just taken me for granted n even if I bring stars for them still they aren't ever going to appreciate..
Some people r really not our cup of tea n it's better to let them go, not for their happiness bt for d one who deserve our 1st priority #ourselves😊😊
Sonu Das. I read ur comment several times, this was exactly what I feel right now. Now I want talk to myself if I really give up for the person who not value my emotions.who not value the love and care I was giving. I care and give love too much but still not appreciated.. :(
@@KAyala-mk2qu same here😥
Sonu Das I feel the same way but they still dumb me! Thanks to this vid! I’ll try to help myself to regain my self confidence
This is what happening to me they forget I also have a life n my own family to see to and when situations get tough no1 offer to even give a little concern. I just cut off all negative people that only brought problems in my life. This is very good to know n learn how to deal with this because it's getting out of hand and I'm losing my cool.
Fatima Junaid patel Good luck on developing better boundaries and better friends who care for you and your family!
Be strong fell sorry to hear that...big hug from me😊 good luck and fell much better right on.
I love the fact of cutting unnecessary relationships, this is just fantastic, thank you for the great sharing💗
Thank you so much. I am going through tough time. I was so nice to my boyfriend. Whatever he says I always say agree with him. But after 3 years he left me alone for his career and for his life. When I asked him, he said like if you want me to have everything in my life,please leave me alone. I didn't have anyone to share my feelings or to guide me. Because my parents and sisters didn't know about this. At last I saw this video. Seriously this video will help me so much in my future. THANK YOU SO MUCH.It really means alot.
Tq from at right point I'm changing my life
Very encouraging. This video hit me hard 😕.
Thank you... I feel like watching this video now and again in order to gain back my self-respect.
thank you for this. i deal with being taken advantage of nearly everyday at work, and i’ve been trying to change.
Tqsm... These r the best steps..! I was really in need of these advices❤️
Thank you..
I was searching this😊
It is a truly relieve seen in the comments that I'm not the only one who is toooo nice ,and that I can changed that .
That's true and I have been victim of accepting all my friends promise instead of saying No that I can't be able to do it.thank you for enlightenment.
#3 don't allow people to rule you. Best in all.
Thank you very much madam teacher, in fact you really described how I was in my teenage age I was somuch drained by fake people
The point you described is really good. I am very emotional and sensitive person. thats why when i am sad or something happens to me I instantly share the feelings with my closed ones ,but they took advantage of me , they never understood me and I always feel very guilty about being nice to them
I also learnt that you do not need to share things with others and that you choose to share information about yourself to be closer to them. I know it sounds silly, but I always thought I had to tell people I was hanging out with everything that is going on, especially if they are sharing their own things. However, be selective with what you share is a power.
Helpful ....thnku miss❤😊😇
Excellent video...this is going to be sooo helpful ..!! Thanks a lottt ! Keep up the good work.😍
Thank you
I bend over backwards to help others and now find that im used up. Your tips i have taken to heart and will use them. Thank you.
Phenomenal advice.
Clearly describes the relationship between my friends abusive and toxic grandson who lives with her while at college.
Thank you soooooo much for this video which creates a base for deep reflexion and discussion about her status at home.
You put in concise order what do passionately was telling her for the past year.
Subscribed!!!!
I set my boundaries. However, my husband constantly overstep them. Without a care
And then tells me to stop going on on about it.
Mel Rose I know! That’s how most males are!
Well that needs to change! Stop being nice about it.
Stop cooking his favourite dishes and when he starts going on about that than you do the same you tell him to stop going on about it.
@@LK-pb4no eeth ka jawab patthar se
Nobody can overstep your boundaries endlessly if you keep them firmly in.
You are awesome. Thank you so much!
before watching this video I was the same kind of person to whom u describe here but after watching this video I completely changed my self and now I feels good thank you so much
Every single word you said is true..
This is happening with me everyday
I never understood what’s exactly my problem
Now after this, i will definitely change my behaviour for being too nice.
It is very very very soooooo much use full for me because many people mock at me thank for uploading this video
One of the most helpful video 👏👍 thanks
really motivated.. i used to do that for someone too.. i never loved my parents alsw the way i loved him.. but end of the day i got no respect, broken trust, tears, pains, and last breakup.. now i can understand that he just used me to forget his past, and that's y he broke me into pieces.. 😢💔
I agree 100% with everything you said. I used to feel guilty of not helping or saying no. Now I do not.
Very encouraging ..Thank you
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Yes self respect is every thing you first then others
I'm too nice that my sister take me for granted and I was afraid to say no to her. This vedio helps a lot.
My day started with this video...I hope today is going to be a great day not only today but everyday from today.....
That's the attitude to explain these stuff...
To nice and helpful information. Respect yourself before others,
BE A LEGION OF GREATNESS and YOU ARE.
True saying NO is hard but when you practice of saying it with honesty it will become normal and help yourself to value your own
Thnxxxx..... It did open my mind. Thanks. Yup I m being used & abused by every single one including my own younger sister. I m not being treated well by anyone . Everyone bullies me. But if they need a favour they drastically change for the work to be done. Probably my fate is due to my own self. I even had a few councilling sessions for a change in my behaviour but it didn't work out. I don't think I will change just like that but I will try. I do know all these things but it didn't hit my mind upto this level . Thank u
thanks mam....i believe it will help me out.....
Very helpful tips.
I can relate to each word that you have spoken. Thanks for this video. People have used me for years and ultimately I ended up with having nothing with me.