Filling Our Gaps | Chosen Family Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Mak celebrates Kansas City’s Super Bowl win. Alayna reveals an update on her quest to merge her passions. Ashley, Alayna, and Mak give advice to a listener seeking queer joy in a rural community.
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19:16 100% will listen to Alaynas pod button ----->
For suuuure. Nowadays, podcast is the format I consume the most. And I think she could alternate weekly, one episode with a guest, the other one by herself, maybe with a section to answer questions about the previous episode's topic. Idk, content creation is not my thing lol. But I recommend watching the Made it out Podcast by Mal Glowenke, I really like the structure of her pod.
Petition for Alayna to call her podcast “Jumping with Joy” cause her content name is Alayna Joy!!!!
Edit- or like something else with Joy because of heavier topics covered but still :)
OMG the dream interaction was so fucking funny
"You didn't dream for years?!"
"It's a sign of depression."
"I must be doing great, I dream every night"
"I'm dreaming constantly but it's a stress response"
Alayna just comes out with the most candid of answers, I live
"It's a sign of depression"
me: OH! Oh... horrible abusive roommate situation was literally eating my dreams... huh
I resonated so hard with everything Alayna said on the dream front 😂
Ashley would make a terrifying but incredible life coach.
Alyana your podcast could be called QUEER JOY 🤩 26:57
YES YES!!
26:19 don't sell yourselves short, Mak and Alayna! Everyone in the comments LOVED the mother-son episodes. Though you could do GUESTS only while Ashley is away if you do want to change the dynamic up.
Yesss!!! A Mattea episode would be great
Here's my example of solo queer joy: movies and books. Reading and watching fiction about queer characters.
I love that the posting time is right around my breakfast time😂
omg same!! :D
Same! ❤
lunch time for me :))
It's 2 am for me 😭
It's already wednesday night for me when it comes out (where I live it's 15 hours ahead of new york)
Alayna's podcast: name ideas:
Filled with Joy
Alayna brings Joy
😂❤
Filled with Joy is lowky inappropriate😂😂
Filled with Joy, A Pod in the WHGS Network of Podcasts.
omg I love Filled with Joy I just suggested “Jumping with Joy” on another post 😭😭😭🤞
Saw another poster suggest “Queer Joy” which is my all time fav
I forgot all about the What You Ate For Dinner part of this podcast 😂
Ah, yes, early Wednesday post. The moment where insomniacs and people in Europe meet in the comment section
Agreed. Salutations, fellow insomniacs
Canadian here but I work nights so it's perfect for me, hehe.
I’m SO down for another podcast!!! We already have Ash’s podcast, this one- We would LOVE more podcasts from every single one of you 🥺 I always listen to these before work (like right now) since I’m in the U.K.!
Mak is correct with the not enough people point. I'm from the west and rural west is a different thing, not to mention this is Wyoming we're talking about!
Can you make a soundboard filled with Ashley responses and funny one liners for when she is on her Euro-tour? You know Ashleyisim’s! So when you need her input during an episode just hit the button.
Week 2 of petitioning to get Lucas as a guest on the pod.
Also, if you want to affirm your queerness in a way that isn't just over the internet (although I believe that that isn't necessarily bad, it's actually one of the best uses for parasocial relationships because it makes you feel less alone even when there is no irl community available), you can also do some things that aren't social at all and are just for yourself. Wear something that feels queer, experiment with makeup, learn about your local queer history (although that one comes with a big warning because unfortunately, happy endings are a rare occurrence), get a haircut, find queer media you enjoy and feel represented by, do the activities on your own. Maybe you have heard that rock climbing is a gay activity and now you go do it and take delight in the thought that you fulfill a cliché. Maybe you do a weekly gay movie night or maybe one whenever you feel like you need it and you don't have to invite anyone else initially. Take up space in non queer contexts if you feel comfortable being out there. Suggest a gay book for your book club; have the conversations that will make you find your people or even realise you already have them; don't be afraid to be the gay one for a while. Truly, being out as queer or even just as the one who speaks about queer topics positively might already attract your people. You don't need to be afraid of the internet, but you also absolutely can find people off of it. You got this.
Ashely, if you cant cook, that will just add to the cooking episode. Comic relief and all!
yay for an Alayna podcast! I always run out of episodes to listen to while I do my chores and routines and I can't seem to move without someone talking in my ears these days.
btw, if anyone has podcast recommendations in the comments, I'm all ears 👂👂👂
I work in podcasting so always listening to and finding new ones. What others pods do you love? And any interests you are super into right now?? Maybe I can suggest some.
@@aakshisinha522 Thank you! My other go-to pods are Ashley's WHGS and I Can Explain (by Breanne Williamson and Sean Lusk), so I like conversational, fun podcasts. An interest I've been really getting into is pottery and ceramics! (attended one class and it's becoming my whole identity 😂)
also totally feel you about making a new hobby/interest your whole identity. I just did that with crocheting 😂@@hyleore
@@hyleore omg i wrote another comment but I don't think it sent it. The other pods you might like: 1) PANTS with Kate and Leisha (It's Kate and Leisha from the L-Word. Their friendship is so cute and they are quite funny) ; 2) Scam Goddess maybeeee???? ; 3) Interviews with MUNA ; 4) Handsome (with Tig, Mae and Fortune); 5) Made It Out podcast AND found this cute pottery themed show called Wheel Talk, never heard it myself but maybe you'll like it. ❤
@@aakshisinha522 thanks so much for these recommendations! I'll try to give each a listen :) I'm already listening to the latest episode of PANTS - I had no idea Kate and Leisha had a podcast (or I forgot) but it's a great option because I already know their voices from The L Word, so it's cosy from the start, I'm liking it!
"She hasn't sent a snapchat in a while" - We all lean in - REEEAALLLLY?
There’s gotta be a queer zoom meet up group or something as well for folks far away from irl community where you can have discussions or book clubs with other queer people near/far
I'll see Ashley in Berlin!
So excited! Also a little scared... But so excited! 😂
same! 😂 see you all in berlin ❤
is someone going there alone as well? 😅
@@mero8374 I might! I'll be around europe for 6 weeks, when is she playing in Berlin?
Just bought tickets for Ashley's london show. Preemptively saying we're not pulling back on you we're just English lol
i dont even know how this is the first time I've heard about Ashley's tour!!??!! maybe i just tuned it out bc i was so sure there was no chance she would come to Denmark... but omg, she is AND IT'S LITERALLY ON MY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!! WTF
I would've never guessed she'd come to Denmark either.. I've never been to a stand-up comedy show and I'm really trying to figure out if I should get a ticket..
@@sascha2728 yeah me too..
I would love seeing guests on the new podcast that are from other therapy / advice / relationship podcasts once in a while honestly? I think getting people who also studied the same topics would create such an interesting conversation and also perspective between two people. But I definitely agree that having guests weekly would be draining and take so much out of you! Once a month / biweekly sounds a bit better and less exhausting. Although once a month sounds nice, a special guest that you can bounce ideas from and all sorts of cool things, especially for those who want to learn more about these topics.
Yeah it’s a ton of work to have a podcast that aims to be educational like that. You have to be really well researched yourself in addition to having experts. It sounds like it would occasionally be one of the videos on her channel so I’m not sure if it would even be weekly with or without guests
Yay you post during my insomnia hours lol
3 am lol
Dreaming one afternoon talking in my sleep and I said loud & clear “ how would you like it if you were a litter box and people just moved you around & put you anywhere they wanted to!!!
Mak, I bought a monocular because of you!😂
Mak is right. A rural town in the middle of the US is much worse than where she was at in a medium sized town near larger cities. When I was in northern MN it was hours to any larger city that would have queer spaces and out queer people. And MN is even a solidly blue state. I would imagine it’s the same in Wyoming. It’s probably not somewhere you’d want to stay long term if you can afford to leave.
Alayna, I will listen to your podcast. For guests, I'd reach out to friends, and people you've already done collabs with in the past if you already have a connection and established chemistry with them. If they're too flat-strap for the foreseeable future, they could put you in touch with someone they know, perhaps someone you might already be 'soft mutuals' with but would like to get to know better. You could also reach out to LGBTQ Psychology Canada.
FYI- Clonopin is EXTREMELY addictive. I'd been prescribed a low dosage for a couple yrs & I became physically dependent & just had the most excruciating time getting off them. So, please weigh the options when considering meds. If I'd known that beforehand, I would've never started taking them. They also prevent you from learning how to tackle the anxiety yourself. But, I do know they are needed in certain circumstances.
For real. I watched Clonopin give my ex memory issues, cognitive impairment, and delusions when she got hooked on it as a way of getting off of kratom (also everyone stay the fuck away from kratom too fr). She was always so cavalier about benzos but tbh by the time she got off of them she had almost completely ruined her life. And the whole thing did contribute to our breakup. I learned from that experience that Benzos shouldn't be taken regularly, otherwise they start to cause cognitive impairment after just a few weeks in addition to being super addictive. Way to get off of the Clonopin, I'm sure it took a LOT of work to accomplish that!
@@Grounded_Gravity Thank you! Yes, it was unbelievably hard. It took me many different tries to finally beat it. And yes, the key is to not take them regularly & take it seriously. I'm sorry u had that experience w your ex & I feel bad she had such a rough time too. Its not just illegal stuff that gets u in trouble, thats for sure. I just don't like people being cavalier about it, like u had mentioned. I wanted to speak up in case someone watching this was curious about taking it. Meds are not always the answer or the best course of action in many cases.
You guys (I hope one of you actually reads this), but I used to not be able to laugh audibly because I grew up in a cult, an anti-LGBT cult, and my mom made me a gay foetus, (uncomfortable as a combination). Tuning into this every week did a therapy to me and I naturally laugh in company now unafraid and I am grateful. I'm going to do the Patreon because we all deserve it and I'm also no longer afraid subscriptions will bleed me financially white. 😊
edin-borough killed me
The timing of the ads are always so spot on
Maybe Helsinki, you said? Can we lose the 'maybe'? 😍
I come for the conversation, I stay for the disrespect 😉 ... I really appreciate the spontaneity and humor ... I know that it isn't *actual* disrespect but a way to let us be a part of podcast. Thanks so much for what you all do - ❤❤🌈🌈☺☺
Alyana, your therapy insight is one of the things I love about this podcast. Excited to listen to your new project!
I looove this podcast, no matter what happens in my life, I listen to it. Thank you so much for you three. It's always a pleasure and so much fun !!!
Ashley low-key matching the tissue box in the back
Definitely up for a podcast by you Alayna! Mak is right, you have a terrific voice, and you are super curious - perfect for hosting a podcast👍
I would LOVE a podcast from Alayna!!!🥰🥰☺️
Conspiracy theory psychology is actually REALLY interesting. Related to what Alayna said, there's this weird feeling of cognitive dissonance, and in the conspiracy theories help them explain why without having to examine why they feel that cognitive dissonance.
Ashley for President!!!!
ALAYNA!! I’m way late to watching this… but you have been such a huge part of my journey (late bloomer) and l panicked until l heard you out! I was like NOO ALAYNA IS GONNA STOP RUclips! Selfishly I’ve watched for years and need your content! But OMG a mental health focus is so needed in the community! Anything you are kind enough to share under that umbrella would be FIRE!!!
Your podcast would be insanely successful if you choose to go that direction!
You are a breath of fresh air to us gays!! Xoxoxo
i love watching Alayna's therapy skills developing over time. She's gonna be such a great therapist!
Alayna podcast name ideas:
The path to Joy.
Joyful Meanings.
Mindful Joy.
Mental Help with Joy.
Alaynas Mindful Joy.
The Joy of Therapy.
Hopefully that helps start the brainstorming process.
I love joy of therapy
NOT ME LOSING IT THE SECOND ASHLEY MENTIONS HELSINKI OMG ❤❤
Alayna I will most definitely be listening to you new pod! I cannot wait!
So close in the 4th “inning” 🤣🤣
please come to Helsinki, it would be so much fun! ❤️
Yesss! Pleaaaaase, please pleaaaase!
i can confirm that you can get a lot of queer joy from having ally bro friends. being the only lesbian at the magic the gathering mall gathering and being surrounded by guys has been surprisingly affirming for me
I discovered healthy gamer recently, and watching an pseudo therapy session of 2h is INCREDIBLE. I would looooooove to have a queer version of that when you are ready for a thing like that. But talks with you and other professionals might be great too
“This is chosen family podcast! Sit down at the table, eat dinner and talk about gay stuff with us. This is Ashley, your dad, I’m-“
Makes for an AMAZING starter actually. I love those chairs so much 😭😭😭
Alayna, about football, "..in the fourth... inning" 😂
My dreams are also "so vivid! They wake me up screaming"😅 SAME here Alayna!! Loved the dream conversation! This podcast helps me after I wake up from nightmares so thank you all for the work, time, and energy you put into your platforms🥹💜
I am laughing so hard at Ashley yawning at 20:10
Mak and Alayna- don’t sell yourselves short- you two will do just fine!!
Remember everyone, the difficulty of something isn't established until it reaches your mind (and its current state ). Nobody should tell you somethings easy or hard because they don't know how your mind is working.
I'm from wyoming in a small town of 500 people and the only community we have is a bunch of drunk old men in a bar.
I wish there was a way for you to connect with the Listener who wrote in!
alayna you underestimate how ready we are for any of your thoughtful and therapeutic content. thirst traps are fun but honestly not super interesting. very excited for this podcast!
This is kinda random but I’d love to see more climbing videos from mak
ashley please come to Barcelona, I would love to see you in person doing comedy❤
Ashley saying "Just by(bi) the way" and then talking about bridging communities and not turning it into a joke is - honestly a missed opportunity LOL
I am so excited that Ashley is coming to England! And also sad because I'm not brave enough to go to the show alone and don't have anyone to go with.
Really love this pod. You guys are literally a life saving safe space.
And also completely hysterical
💜
Would it be the Brighton show? I am also thinking of going alone, so we could go together!
So many new faces unlocked this episode 😂
Love u guys ❤️ and so exciting about Alayna podcast 😊 QUEER JOY
Dublin! Tour! Wow
Whooooop!
I watch this every Wednesday morning in my drawing class ❤ It starts my morning off right
Oh Alayna. We gonna LISTENNNNN
ALAYNA PODCAST!!!! YAY!!!!
The dream thing is crazy because I didn’t dream for probably 4 years (that I was aware of) and now I have had several dreams a night since the middle of college (and pandemic start) and I don’t get great sleep. Probably anxiety but I didn’t realize that until now
A podcast from Alayna would be amazing!!😍
Can't wait for Alayna's podcast! Always want to hear more from you guys!
Ouhhh, Ashley please come to Vienna! 😲 I would love to see a live show of yours! Never thought I would be able to, but that would honestly be so awesome! 🤯
10:20 god damnit 😂😅 choked on my drink with the sleepy joking 😅
Thank you!! I feel seen now.
26:59 Ashley is so real for that lmaoooo
Oh my, Ashley might be coming to Helsinki Finland??!! I was sure our little country is way too remote. Should have joined the text list earlier
I laughed my ass off at Ashley's dream joke!
i was sleepwalking once into my parents room holding my pillow like a shield and just stood there at the foot of their bed until someone woke up and asked what i was doing and i said “i’m just waiting til it’s not slippery”
I am going to Scotland for my honeymoon at the end of May. I am so sad I am missing Ashley's tour! I'm on the text list, but not for Scotland 😂
On another note, does anyone else wish they could see Alayna's cinnamon challenge? I know it's from a previous era, but I am just so curious!
During the talk about hanging out with guy friends and eyeing off women to affirm one's queerness, when Mak said to Ashley "you're a lesbian, bro", I heard it as "you're a lesbian-bro"... as in one of the many kinds of bro that there are, like being a finance-bro or a gym-bro... a lesbian-bro.
Ashley, can you come to Warsaw, Poland as well 🥺?
Bring a sister on for each episode that Ashley can't do. We all know Maks sister has good pod chemistry and everyone is dying to see what Alaynas sister looks like.... and bringing her on when Ashley is out would make the next Ashley episode super funny while she razzes you 2 about it. Just an idea.
No one caught Ashley's "the government is making the frogs gay" when talking about men & conspiracy theories, but it caught me so off guard and it made me laugh and then i choked LMAO
Didnt feel super duper having Mom saying "lets crank this out" like its an errand to finish.
Somewhere I saw Ashley saying that there will be a second show in Copenhagen, but on her website (tourdates) and this Danish ticket site, there's still only one show at 8 PM. What did I miss?! 🥺
This was fun! Last time I went to The Gap it was just clothes. 😅
I actually think Queer Joy is a great name for Alaynas podcast
I hesitated too long to buy tickets to see Ashley in Amsterdam because I didn't want to drive for 2 hours 😳 I really hope she comes to Brussels ❤
“Wait guys, I’m crashing, I haven’t eaten and I’m crashing” -Ashley Gavin
"Moments of Joy" with Alayna
This is a question for anyone in the comments, I would definitely start my own queer space hangout thing but my biggest question would be how could I promote it, and what platforms would you suggest to do so. Also getting a space to host something like this might be difficult.
Maybe not, I joined a queer women’s group that meets once a month in a local coffee bar, it was advertised on FB and has about 200 members but only a regular 20ish turn up each month. Maybe you could start small and see if it gains traction?
@@xanitajobe5920 that's good thank you
Rural queer people eople will definitely travel for group inclusion. I live in the rural Midwest and before the pandemic I had weekly set appointment for the trans group in the nearest city an hour away. And those folks are as dear to me as Air Force friends (but they're all straight or Heteroflexible dudes).
Thank god you are coming to the uk 🎉
Ashley please come to italy😢
The ash,alayna multiverse is expanding
Can't wait to see Ashley in Paris !! I don't know who to bring with me though, because my friends are either not good in enough in English or not familiar enough with comedy + woke
Good luck and have fun in Europe @ashgavs
Be sure to take some extra time to visit Amsterdam and Copenhagen while you are there, the level of acceptance and socialism is a real experience.
Oh wait i forgot, americans scared of that word, lets call it liberal then!
Ok when I say rural I mean 2 to 300 people lol hard to start things in a town that size
ok but HOW exactly would you start a queers&beers night in your local bar???? I'm CRAVING queers
6:05 when Alayna starts looking for work as a therapist or starts running her own clinic and people ask if she has any experience she can be like, "yeah I've been practicing for years on my podcast" and just send them outtakes
I wrote that only to continue listening and find out she's starting a new podcast specifically dedicated to that. I don't actually know if she's going to have clients, it was just something I was picturing.
Ashley please let Europeans know how to sign up for your text message via European phone numbers, currently it doesn't work for those +[nr] prefixes.
Also, Helsinki yes please!