Because one day you will be rite and if you don't die with God who is Jesus you go to a worse place fear is God calling you find him and you will conquer all fears
Know that if u wait nothing u imagined ever happens have faith in that n heal u must let go we dont control anything our destiny is written enjoy the journey .
Not skeptical, I suffered too much to realize when I've found a true Sage.Rest in peace Dr. Gerlach!It really works, I talked to 3 sub selves yesterday and see a tiny difference already and I know THIS is it, your teachings are the game changer. We have to do our part though and persist. I'll do this work until my death.Don't trust shiny egocentric people, if you see that a spiritual person did DOZENS of hours of content for FREE for the good of the future children, stop and listen to them. It's rare to find these souls in a barbaric world.I'm so blessed to have found your videos.
I am starting this TODAY, I like a lot of people I am tired of living in fear, the older I get the harder it is...never goes away. It is really taking over my life at this point, I believe I have finally bottomed out as they say. I thank Dr Gerlach for being here to help me.
It got so hard for me I locked myself at home and was basically almost disabled. Shame and trauma gets worse, we got heal while we still have strength.
Lillian S so sorry to hear that, i recommend you visit a psychiatrist, i thought i could do it alone too but its better to be guided by someone who has knowlegde. Check out Jordan Peterson on youtube
I wish I knew what I had exactly. Psychiatrist labeled me with panic and anxiety disorder with a bit of depression. So I’m on the typical ssris which have helped. However, when I get a pain attack It’s terrorizing. I get so scared that I believe it’s not your textbook panic attack. Most panic attacks that I know of as I have some friends who have them, run to the hospital or never want to be around people. Their heart beats very fast and they think they’re dying. NOT ME. I never want to go to a hospital because I know it’s a panic attack or whatever is. My heart beat does not increase and I want to be around as much people as I can because that’s what’ll make me feel better and maybe take my mind off it. However, and this is a big however, as I said prior, I get so so so scared and think to myself that this feeling will never go away and how can I live with it. Killing myself is all I could do. And then I get scared about killing myself. I mean it’s so devastating that I think it may be some sort of trauma and my mind is remembering that first major attack. Please tell me what this is. I know for sure it acts up when I get stressed and I’m getting older and have a feeling it will come more often the older I get. By the way it’s sometimes a panic attack and it sometimes manifests as a crazy depressive episode. They both suck but I think I’d rather the panic attack because the depression is scary and sad. I start thinking about my funeral and my kids feelings at the funeral. My wife and mother, etc etc. by the way I forgot to say that as i get stressed and start feeling these things coming on I get the intrusive thoughts. Kids heads being chopped off and shown to me on a platter as an example I often use as that’s the craziest one. Thank for listening but tell me what this is.
@Elaine Diamond hi Elaine. Thank you. I have often thought it was something like PTSD but since I was never in a war I kinda brushed it aside. I do remember the first time it happened and I was super terrified. Luckily I had a friend who helped me immensely that night. Before that night I had panic attacks but never as intense. Now they are outright impossible to live with. Luckily it hasn’t happened in 5+ years but I fear it’s always there. I also wonder if it gets worse with age as life gets shorter and scarier or if life teaches you that it’s just a passing thing. It’s east to speak lucid when you’re not in one.
I've been seeing that he may have passed within the last few years.(I know I edited it several times) RIP thank you for all your videos. I wish I would have found you sooner. God bless your soul. Amen
When i lost parents i became such. Worried, insecure, afraid. I was 13 then around ppl that did not care for most part.We must reach out and help kids w troubles.
I'm a huge worrier and pessimistic person in general. I have anxiety and every time it gets bad I think I'm losing my mind and go to the worst conclusion like I'm gonna die or have some other serious mental illness. Usually it's not bad but every now and then I get anxious and fear I will lose control or sanity. It comes and goes but it's gone for the most part. I just want to know how to get rid of it completely and not get taken over by my fearful self and all these crazy thoughts.
I get like this too. You will recover fully. But yes it's super scary. They are just an anxious mind sensitized to catastrophic thoughts . You will heal
You guys might want to work towards changing your attributional explanation style. A book named 'Learned optimism' by Martin seligman helped me the most in this regard.
I wish I could speak with you about my childhood. I've never given anyone in my life the full story because it would take too long but its left me a mess since as long as i can remember. I don't even have memories from my childhood until I was about 9 or 10, and what does peek through I suppress. Thank you for your video. I am trying now at 24 to come out with my anxiety and bipolar and try to heal myself.
Gerlach, I remember my pessimist, scared inner child- it was when I was around 12-13 years old. I remember ruminating about the existence of God and if I would go to Hell for hours a day. Help?
while Peter may not have been a medical doctor, I ready his books and followed his RUclips channel and go more from these than just about any therapy I ever had. Bless you Peter for sharing your experience and your beliefs - I believe you spoke from experience and your own learnings which were useful for me.
I wish I knew and understood this when my mom was alive. She was so tortured with fear and anxiety along with panic attacks. I thought it was all in her head😞
I have been suffering from anxiety for a few months now, trying out many things to try to stop it. After watching your video about subselves, I identified that my trigger was the "worrier" one. Now for the last two days I feel my anxiety dramatically drop. I thank you, I will continue to practice this method
I am in between sessions of EMDR and ,at the moment, I feel worse. There is so much going on in my head. I have just found your videos and I am starting to get a better understanding of myself already. Thank you so much, I look forward to watching them all.
@@sorenlorenson8327 Hi, yes they did help a little but i found them a bit too complicated, i still feel the same in myself really but i have found Sadhguru video's help. I always have a knot in my stomach, i have decided 'this is me' and try to accept it and plod on as they say. All the best.
Hello again Pete . I used to feel anxious and guilty etc about wanting to go online because ive heard the internet is bad etc etc but the internet led me to you my friend . The best therapist ive ever met and ive seen afew since the age of ten . All I can say is the net cant be that bad. I hope you stay with us for many more years ,
I have that fear that I must do something about my life as it could turn to sh1t any moment, so much that I don't answere the phone or stay long at freinds place's.
this videos are pretty decent for youtube you can learn something from veterans in the psychology field thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge
Thanks! These lessons are very insightful and I love how you leave the room for incorporating personal spiritual beliefs in---that's such a hug part of who I am (not religious, but definitely what I consider to be spiritual). The various subselves--those who worry and those that are more positive and confident sometimes argue with each other--so this makes plenty of sense. I really appreciate that you offer your first 7 lessons free. So thanks for that! Love and Light!
Aww, are you feeling any better now after this? Gerlach has lots of lessons on his site--very insightful. Much love to you, buddy! You're not alone. We're all in this world together. Hugs!
Thank you. There are too many videos about how to overcome fear, self sabotage, etc., dedicated for negative people. This is the only video that answer how to deal with fearful people & projecting cowards, dedicate for positive people who refuse to be object of their targets.
I believe I understand both of you are coming from. Elizabeith, sounds like you may be familiar w/ Abraham channeled by Esther Hicks? Recall how we come here to also learn through "contrast"? I can honestly & lovingly say to you that I have learned the depth of any love & joy I've ever experienced by past pain & suffering. I also have aspects within me that got hurt in my past and needed to be acknowledged, loved and healed. What I see is you both commonly care for others well-beings. :)
You are truly amazing and selfless for posting your thoughts and knowledge for others to heal! God bless you. Any specified videos for overcoming Panic Attacks? I'm currently in therapy... just thought I would get your professional opinion. thanks for your time
Hey Doc Gerlach, I experienced something similar to this I think, I have been in recovery clean and sober 22+ years, started on some inner child work, some Gestalt, for about 6 months and then regular counseling for three years, however recently a woman in recovery discredited my recovery in front of the group, and it triggered some disloyalty from my Mom I experienced 1994, and I had relapsed back then after I became suicidal and I couldn't shake the feeling, after that experience I stayed away from my family, my role in the dysfunction was scapegoat, I haven't reconnected because it was very toxic and harmful, to be around my family of origin, three weeks ago I got triggered in this AA meeting and it brought up a lot of those same feelings, of not wanting to live, depression, not being able to sleep, etc I'm better now since that incident, but I noticed a flood of feelings, and fight or flight stuff, it seems when I talk about these feelings around my AA support group people shut me down, it's so hard because most of them haven't been Sober as long as I have , but I've never considered myself an oldtimer in AA, in fact I feel more messed up emotionally than I ever was in the beginning, it seems people don't want to talk about feelings from the past am I messed up.? I feel isolated right now, because of how I am treated, I don't want to be re injured any more, I currently have a therapist at the VA, and I go to Alanon Family Support groups, what else do you suggest? This stuff is painful, is it normal to experience these feelings,
One's poor nutritional state can be a great factor in developing anxiety and panic attacks, and so can be great chronic stress. I am willing to believe that childhood wounds can cause one to have elevated levels of chronic stress, but so can mundane playing computer games during nights :) (Although, you will probably say that the latter is an addiction and is caused by the wounds :) ) Supplements can help MUCH and fast too (serotonin precursors and also magnesium, GABA, glycine, taurine, etc.)
@jerzeytpke I've only had it for 5 years, since I was 16, it has prevented me from doing a lot of things that I haven't done yet. I've never been to a therapist or tried drugs, and times are getting tough so I can relate somewhat. I still feel a 16 year old, I haven't done anything with my life literally since then, that's how bad it is. It's the unbearable nausea I get that I just can't deal with. I couldn't imagine having it for 25 years, you deserve relief and I hope you find it one day.
I avoid dealing with my childhood trauma, fear and anxiety for the simple fact I don’t want to be perceived as feeling sorry for myself. I need to get over that to begin healing
thanks ur video helps out alot, I fear and anxiety, from my past, I'm looking for a new job, and anxiety and fear, gets to me, this sucks!!!! I always think the worst
Thank you for this, I have chronic fear and paranoia due to childhood trauma abandonment issues as well as childhood trauma by seeing my baby sister get hit by a car. I'm a worrier and I want help so bad but refuse meds. I am engaged to a man with childhood abuse and major abandonment issues, so much so that he lies constantly due to shame and guilt.. I refuse to take medication so I'm gonna try this parts thing and hope it works. Thanks again
it's just me and I'm sick of being nervous and afraid all the time. I know when I was little I was afraid of old men. I JUST WANT THIS TO STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :((((
Wow. You've just described me as well as all my "sub-cells" to a tee. Not kidding here. This is honestly the most helpful video I've ever seen on this subject. :)
Mine has to do with my gf who broke my heart, we are back together and working towards repairing our relationship but it has caused me anxiety and fear that I have never dealt with in my life. If she don’t call me or text me I get pessimistic and my mind goes haywire. Even when we do talk as soon as she leaves my confidence drops and it’s like it’s starting all over. I have never dealt with this in my life.
I compassionately urge you to consider doing "inner family" therapy as a way to permanently reduce excessive fear (and other psychological wounds). See my "Lesson 1" playlists and sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm
Wow...this really helps me see these strange reactions that come from even thinking I might have to face a blocked pain from around 10 years old and then again 10 years later. I have few memories from before 19 years old and the parts that I do remember are what I have always called fragmented (like a shattered mirror). I realized that I worry I will have to relive that abandonment (and death). I did to some degree in 2000. I have not been able to get what turned into fear/anxiety under control to some degree. It seems to spiral around the sense that I will relive it again again. I have been in this spiral since then. It has taken a lot of work to identify the ages of these fragmented parts of my emotional self. I did a lot of work using art. Seems there is a lot of shame in admitting to having had a "dissociative" childhood. People would say "She doesn't have a clue" and they were right haha. well, not really fun funny. If I am stressed out I will forget things now but I am not dissociative. I was before 19 years old...that is what I have concluded about why there are so few memories. There is a lot of buried fear I think which makes it harder if someone is part of that emotionally...and stays afraid of me because of whatever happened. There are no memories for me and people generally don't understand an amnestic barrier. it won't just break down. The person won't wake up one day and get it. It doesn't work that way. the worst thing to do to someone with an amnestic barrier is hide information from them...that took forever to see that IF I "sense" that I get very upset... This helps me see it a little better. It will take a while to see them as dissociated parts of the true self.
I will check back to see what you have to say about how to identify each stage of the reaction or what you call sub selves. I have studied PTSd since 1996. I also finished a degree in Clinical Psychology (BA) in 1992 and think what I am dealing with is like a syndrome that can go back toward disorder. It can go back toward a syndrome by working on my feelings (that came back from the past) every day. I am about to use some more art. I also use gardening, and renovating a house to process stuff...
Love theae videos, but change your background from a hospital room to a nice warmer setting. thanks. Sort of looks like you are patient sitting in a hospital bed.
I think he is. I also think he may have passed away. I'm going to do some research and find out. The Impression I'm getting is that he's sick in the hospital and he's trying to get all his knowledge out there for everyone to see if anything were to happen... If he has passed ..RIP
I just fired my psychologist. I want a dude like this. Straight up and authentic. I had a female psychologist who was an old lady with dyed red hair. She seemed like a good one at first. Then she lied to my face and acted like I was misremembering the situation. Gaslighting by the psychologist lol. I want a male this time.
God i had one last night it was horrible how does it end i just want it be over i Always comfort my self you would think my inner sub cells would chill by now
Thank you sir for your humane and spiritual teaching on trauma.I have a problem?My mother has had perhaps,a history of borderline personality;of course this is just a label.Anyway,when mom was about 11 yrs old,she watched here brother drown right before here eyes! Because she could not swim, she let go of him as she watched his eyes glaring at her as he went down in a small lake in poteau Oklahoma?Could you guide me in understanding her Trauma? Thank You
If she has borderline symptoms, your Mom may be a "Grown Wounded Child" (GWC), The trauma she experienced may have caused her excessive guilts, shame, and anxiety. If so, she can heal. See shelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm
hey gerlach, I really enjoy your videos. Thank you for offering your time and expertise! I was wondering if you had anything to say about impulsiveness? For the past year or more I've been doing a lot of introspection and meta-thinking as I've been caught in a rut of depression/anxiety and avoiding life, getting overly emotional and such. I've started to notice that I am easily stimulated, especially by the computer and it's become almost an attachment for me to escape my problems rather than something I enjoy now. My judgements are not as clear as they used to be. I notice how the computer slowly became the only thing I wanted to do, and recently I realize how many other things I used to enjoy. Conversation was more personal and I could connect and open up to people I cared about a lot better. I knew I was diagnosed with ADD as a kid, but I never truly understood what it meant until now that I am remembering times where I would get lost in ways of thinking that were too fast paced/unfocused/reactive and eventually causing me anxiety because I couldn't trust myself to function and started monitoring myself a lot. I feel like I've grown a lot and am finally seeing my positive traits rather than over focusing on my negative traits, but I still feel held back in emotionally accepting my intuitive qualities because of how connected that part of myself is with my impulsive side and I guess the real me as well. I've been trying to get back to what normal feels like to me, but it's been difficult because I keep running back to compulsive computer use and avoidance. I was wondering if you had any insight or experience to share on this topic.
The behavior you describe suggests your true Self is disabled by subselves seeking to- distract you from inner pain. You can permanently reduced the pain using "parts work: sfhelp.org/gwc/recover.htm
How do you get past the belittling one can do to one's own trauma? I cannot believe what has happened to me is traumatic because I know of how much worse (my perception) that has happened to other people. I literally cannot and have never been able to actually BELIEVE that what has happened to me is traumatic, especially because my caregiver dismissed my feelings.
You've mentioned in this video that you've come across pieces of advice to reduce panic attacks and anxieties that you view as harmful. Would you describe them, please?
Thank you for posting all of this videos, very interesting, I´ve been watching this and learning for more than two hours now. I have a question though. How do you view faith in healing proceses. Are you familiar with hagiotherapy and similar practices?
I was in my therapy appointment explaining what happened to me and that caused me to feel agitated. As I explained I Always rehearse my warrior in my mind before leaving my apt, especially when I have take the bus to therapy. I said, when I step on to the street I say aloud to myself, if anyone F's with me, I'll F.... Them up. Then I feel more confident and puffed up. Her reply was "WHO DOES THAT????". I DO. Guess I got work to do.
He is so right i figured this out by myself i could even go to sleep i told myself you know what's happening your fine it's okay I don't calm completely but I do relax IT TOOK ME YEARS to be able to handle it I took xanax but stopped because I always felt intoxicated i did it on my own but I want them to stop.... yet they still come
Hi Peter, I just stopped the video 6 minutes into it as this question popped into my head - if one of my subselves is causing me fear and anxiety then how could they be well meaning? If I am misunderstanding it, can you briefly explain? I don't have the attention span right now to focus on reading the information on your website. I learn well from watching videos and listening. Thanks for your insight. Respectfully, Gina
From a subself's perspective, causing fears is a way of guarding against risky or dangerous actions. This comes from subselves' distrusting the judgment of your true Self to make wise (safe) decisions.
Peter Gerlach Can you give me an example of this? At work, I feel that I have a fear of making mistakes and being reprimanded by my boss. It's a visceral reaction and I feel very fearful. I think that it might have to do with my childhood, where if I did something like forget my key, my father would become annoyed and sometimes angry. We lived in an apartment and he didn't like when people rang the bell. So if I forgot my key I would be fearful right before I pressed the buzzer. So, in this case of my feeling fearful at work, what would be the risky or dangerous action that my subself is trying to avoid? At work, I know on an intellectual level, that my boss won't be angry. I hope you don't mind me questioning you about this. Believe it or not, I am even fearful of perhaps making you annoyed at my questions. Thank you for listening.
Gina888 Visceral fears are caused by a Scaredw Inner Child who lives in the2 past. She doesn't know or trust your true Self to handle criticism from your boss calmly. See sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm.
Has anyone ever given you advice that you didnt ask for? Do yoiu recall how that feels? The implication is "I knoiw how you should live your life better than you do." Pretty arrogant attitide, even if well-meant.
Pete I was wondering why therapies designed to eliminate anxiety fond they does not work. Things like CBT Or EFT. I find they do not work that well for me. I know that I am still behaving on past traumas. I have no trust in other ppl becasue in my mind ppl only cause pain.
hello sir im an anxiety victim due to panic attack nearly 5 years ago and i overcame my fear to panic attack which i thought i was going crazy and stuff of the kind but now i have got the problem like i fear that i forget myself and the language im speaking.. and i know ots just a thought but it wont go off my mind ... HELP!!
Hagiotherapy (hagios - sacred, holy) is a psychotherapeutic technique with a "spiritual" view on treating mental illness. It uses sacred texts, especially biblical texts. To bring that which is lacking, faith to replace fear and sickness. Where regular psychology mostly deals with problems, dissects them on and on... Your methods are mostly rational, intellectual. Do you have any video where you share your thoughts on healing with faith, faith in God and similar? How do you see that?
@gercacn I feel like many disorders, fears and such are caused childhood experiences in psychological terms. May i ask : Why is that ? And what do you mean childhood, because that is an expendable term , i think. Sorry for probable grammarfaults I'm german and just 16.
Your reactions sound normal. If you study this free online lesson, you can gradually convert inner overwhelm to stable calm: sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm. I cant suggest anyone local to help you, I CAN offer consultation over the phone or Skype if you wish - see sfhelp.org/consult.htm.
@Yirumaist From your description, I suspect you have all six psychological wounds and are ruled by a protective "false self." You can reduce these wounds (including your fears) by working on "Lesson 1" at sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm
What do you think about boundary tapping? Personally this has really helped me a lot. On many situations especially in public. It has helped to calm me down when i have a panic attack coming on. With the help of tapping and accupuncture believe it or not Im pretty much clear or anxiety. Its amazing.
+Stacy Farrow Yes you can recover it applies to any situation or stimulus in taking control of excessive fear response and builds confidence. Just a though i believe it works.
@evvtech - I propose that only a PART of you is very scared, and I respectfully suggest you study and experiment with these options to reduce his fears to normal - sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm
"Depersonalization" is usually a symptom of inherited psychological wounds from earl-childhood trauma. Once identified, these wounds van be reduced. See sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm
I have a question that I`ve wanted to ask for so long ,if you can please give me some info .I dont even know if what I want to ask has any reflection on my illness,but I think it does .I have always believed that my bipolar was caused by childhood trauma ,when I first heard that theory I almost cried ,I felt understood and relieved that washed over me ,but I assumed it was from trauma I got as a teenager ,because thats what I remember most .But you say is this video it might be caused sooner .Okay so my question is ,If you ask me to remember my earliest memory Ill say I remember being 6 .I have 2 or maybe 3 memories of being 6 .My Next memory is being 11.I cant remember anything between being 6 and being 11.I have tried for the longest time .What do you think caused this 'amnesia ' ?? thank you in advance
There is a Break-the-Cycle FaceBook group of 300 people from all over the world who disagree with you. Read this article - it's written to skeptics like you: sfhelp.org/gwc/IF/letter.htm.
Kamal - looks like you're looking for a quick fix and don't give much priority to self-healing. Meditate on your priorities, and wonder which of your personality subselves are setting them. I suspect it is not your wise true Self.
Sometimes Dr., a brat is a brat. Children who well always abuse their mother and talk to them badly always do even as adults. I am a mother of such a daughter and I am done I'm 70 years old and she will fight and argue and scream at me until I'm dead. And if she can't show makeup things. I know where it stems from but there's nothing I can do to convince her of her father's sexual abuse but it's all going on me my entire life with her. I'm 70 years old and I would like to live my life now. I'm done.
this guy is good....he understands
Veronica D i found him today and sadly he passed away on October 22, 2015. he was amazing.
+Natalia 777 I found him a few days ago and his videos are currently making me cry rivers! What a great loss this man is not among us anymore
Wow I was just about to ask does anyone have number for him SMH.
we lost Dr. Gerlach in 2015 but,oh how much good stuff he left for us to learn from. A true catalyst of change.
Indeed, R.I.P Gerlach
Awesome human being..Thank you Dr Gerlach.
Bless you Mr. Gerlach. This video is bringing tears to my eyes. Thank you for validating and demystifying the "crazy" experiences of many.
I'm so sorry and wanna tell I was crying too
I am crying too. Sending love 2 u radiant hearts!
omg. that is so me. I'm ALWAYS AFRAID OF EMINENT DOOM. ALL THE TIME.
Because one day you will be rite and if you don't die with God who is Jesus you go to a worse place fear is God calling you find him and you will conquer all fears
Know that if u wait nothing u imagined ever happens have faith in that n heal u must let go we dont control anything our destiny is written enjoy the journey .
Not skeptical, I suffered too much to realize when I've found a true Sage.Rest in peace Dr. Gerlach!It really works, I talked to 3 sub selves yesterday and see a tiny difference already and I know THIS is it, your teachings are the game changer. We have to do our part though and persist. I'll do this work until my death.Don't trust shiny egocentric people, if you see that a spiritual person did DOZENS of hours of content for FREE for the good of the future children, stop and listen to them. It's rare to find these souls in a barbaric world.I'm so blessed to have found your videos.
Lillian S Hi...what did you mean? Did this man pass away & if so, when??
Wow. He passed. Damn. Rest his soul. He's left great work.
Sub selves???
He passed away in October 2015
I am starting this TODAY, I like a lot of people I am tired of living in fear, the older I get the harder it is...never goes away. It is really taking over my life at this point, I believe I have finally bottomed out as they say. I thank Dr
Gerlach for being here to help me.
See sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm
It got so hard for me I locked myself at home and was basically almost disabled. Shame and trauma gets worse, we got heal while we still have strength.
Lillian S so sorry to hear that, i recommend you visit a psychiatrist, i thought i could do it alone too but its better to be guided by someone who has knowlegde. Check out Jordan Peterson on youtube
I wish I knew what I had exactly. Psychiatrist labeled me with panic and anxiety disorder with a bit of depression. So I’m on the typical ssris which have helped. However, when I get a pain attack It’s terrorizing. I get so scared that I believe it’s not your textbook panic attack. Most panic attacks that I know of as I have some friends who have them, run to the hospital or never want to be around people. Their heart beats very fast and they think they’re dying. NOT ME. I never want to go to a hospital because I know it’s a panic attack or whatever is. My heart beat does not increase and I want to be around as much people as I can because that’s what’ll make me feel better and maybe take my mind off it. However, and this is a big however, as I said prior, I get so so so scared and think to myself that this feeling will never go away and how can I live with it. Killing myself is all I could do. And then I get scared about killing myself. I mean it’s so devastating that I think it may be some sort of trauma and my mind is remembering that first major attack. Please tell me what this is. I know for sure it acts up when I get stressed and I’m getting older and have a feeling it will come more often the older I get. By the way it’s sometimes a panic attack and it sometimes manifests as a crazy depressive episode. They both suck but I think I’d rather the panic attack because the depression is scary and sad. I start thinking about my funeral and my kids feelings at the funeral. My wife and mother, etc etc. by the way I forgot to say that as i get stressed and start feeling these things coming on I get the intrusive thoughts. Kids heads being chopped off and shown to me on a platter as an example I often use as that’s the craziest one. Thank for listening but tell me what this is.
@Elaine Diamond hi Elaine. Thank you. I have often thought it was something like PTSD but since I was never in a war I kinda brushed it aside. I do remember the first time it happened and I was super terrified. Luckily I had a friend who helped me immensely that night. Before that night I had panic attacks but never as intense. Now they are outright impossible to live with. Luckily it hasn’t happened in 5+ years but I fear it’s always there. I also wonder if it gets worse with age as life gets shorter and scarier or if life teaches you that it’s just a passing thing. It’s east to speak lucid when you’re not in one.
I can't thank you enough for your videos...being traumitized myself as a child I am learning a lot
I've been seeing that he may have passed within the last few years.(I know I edited it several times) RIP thank you for all your videos. I wish I would have found you sooner. God bless your soul. Amen
Thank you for your compassion and for sharing healing so freely and without ego. Your advice is like gold. It's a true gift.
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How are you doing? :)
When i lost parents i became such. Worried, insecure, afraid. I was 13 then around ppl that did not care for most part.We must reach out and help kids w troubles.
I'm a huge worrier and pessimistic person in general. I have anxiety and every time it gets bad I think I'm losing my mind and go to the worst conclusion like I'm gonna die or have some other serious mental illness. Usually it's not bad but every now and then I get anxious and fear I will lose control or sanity. It comes and goes but it's gone for the most part. I just want to know how to get rid of it completely and not get taken over by my fearful self and all these crazy thoughts.
I have similar issues. It can get scary.
I get like this too. You will recover fully. But yes it's super scary. They are just an anxious mind sensitized to catastrophic thoughts . You will heal
I feel the same. I am a chronic worrier. I fear that I am a selfish person to a point I emotinally "hide".
Me too, it causes so much drama in my otherwise perfect relationship. Paranoia sucks :(
You guys might want to work towards changing your attributional explanation style. A book named 'Learned optimism' by Martin seligman helped me the most in this regard.
I wish I could speak with you about my childhood. I've never given anyone in my life the full story because it would take too long but its left me a mess since as long as i can remember. I don't even have memories from my childhood until I was about 9 or 10, and what does peek through I suppress. Thank you for your video. I am trying now at 24 to come out with my anxiety and bipolar and try to heal myself.
Gerlach, I remember my pessimist, scared inner child- it was when I was around 12-13 years old. I remember ruminating about the existence of God and if I would go to Hell for hours a day. Help?
while Peter may not have been a medical doctor, I ready his books and followed his RUclips channel and go more from these than just about any therapy I ever had. Bless you Peter for sharing your experience and your beliefs - I believe you spoke from experience and your own learnings which were useful for me.
He had a calming voice.
This helped me incredibly. Thank you kind sir. RIP
I wish I knew and understood this when my mom was alive. She was so tortured with fear and anxiety along with panic attacks. I thought it was all in her head😞
I have been suffering from anxiety for a few months now, trying out many things to try to stop it. After watching your video about subselves, I identified that my trigger was the "worrier" one. Now for the last two days I feel my anxiety dramatically drop. I thank you, I will continue to practice this method
I am in between sessions of EMDR and ,at the moment, I feel worse. There is so much going on in my head. I have just found your videos and I am starting to get a better understanding of myself already. Thank you so much, I look forward to watching them all.
Hey did you keep using them and did the videos help ?
@@sorenlorenson8327 Hi, yes they did help a little but i found them a bit too complicated, i still feel the same in myself really but i have found Sadhguru video's help. I always have a knot in my stomach, i have decided 'this is me' and try to accept it and plod on as they say. All the best.
Hello again Pete . I used to feel anxious and guilty etc about wanting to go online because ive heard the internet is bad etc etc but the internet led me to you my friend . The best therapist ive ever met and ive seen afew since the age of ten . All I can say is the net cant be that bad. I hope you stay with us for many more years ,
I was the person b. I was also abused physically by my father. I was a happy person emotionally
I have that fear that I must do something about my life as it could turn to sh1t any moment, so much that I don't answere the phone or stay long at freinds place's.
this videos are pretty decent for youtube you can learn something from veterans in the psychology field
thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge
Thanks! These lessons are very insightful and I love how you leave the room for incorporating personal spiritual beliefs in---that's such a hug part of who I am (not religious, but definitely what I consider to be spiritual). The various subselves--those who worry and those that are more positive and confident sometimes argue with each other--so this makes plenty of sense. I really appreciate that you offer your first 7 lessons free. So thanks for that! Love and Light!
Aww, are you feeling any better now after this? Gerlach has lots of lessons on his site--very insightful. Much love to you, buddy! You're not alone. We're all in this world together. Hugs!
Thank you. There are too many videos about how to overcome fear, self sabotage, etc., dedicated for negative people.
This is the only video that answer how to deal with fearful people & projecting cowards, dedicate for positive people who refuse to be object of their targets.
Yes. It'sw blank to allow you to print the page and write in any awarenesses you have about the points in the page..
Just discovered this today and want to thank you so very much for these resources. This has given me so much hope. Digging in today!!!
helpful vid! lots of PTSD here....and avoidance...
I believe I understand both of you are coming from. Elizabeith, sounds like you may be familiar w/ Abraham channeled by Esther Hicks? Recall how we come here to also learn through "contrast"? I can honestly & lovingly say to you that I have learned the depth of any love & joy I've ever experienced by past pain & suffering. I also have aspects within me that got hurt in my past and needed to be acknowledged, loved and healed. What I see is you both commonly care for others well-beings. :)
You are truly amazing and selfless for posting your thoughts and knowledge for others to heal! God bless you. Any specified videos for overcoming Panic Attacks? I'm currently in therapy... just thought I would get your professional opinion. thanks for your time
Thanks. Panic attacks are symptoms of a disabled true Self. See sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm .
Thanks, Laurette - keep learning and healing! :-)
Hey Doc Gerlach, I experienced something similar to this I think, I have been in recovery clean and sober 22+ years, started on some inner child work, some Gestalt, for about 6 months and then regular counseling for three years, however recently a woman in recovery discredited my recovery in front of the group, and it triggered some disloyalty from my Mom I experienced 1994, and I had relapsed back then after I became suicidal and I couldn't shake the feeling, after that experience I stayed away from my family, my role in the dysfunction was scapegoat, I haven't reconnected because it was very toxic and harmful, to be around my family of origin, three weeks ago I got triggered in this AA meeting and it brought up a lot of those same feelings, of not wanting to live, depression, not being able to sleep, etc I'm better now since that incident, but I noticed a flood of feelings, and fight or flight stuff, it seems when I talk about these feelings around my AA support group people shut me down, it's so hard because most of them haven't been Sober as long as I have , but I've never considered myself an oldtimer in AA, in fact I feel more messed up emotionally than I ever was in the beginning, it seems people don't want to talk about feelings from the past am I messed up.? I feel isolated right now, because of how I am treated, I don't want to be re injured any more, I currently have a therapist at the VA, and I go to Alanon Family Support groups, what else do you suggest? This stuff is painful, is it normal to experience these feelings,
One's poor nutritional state can be a great factor in developing anxiety and panic attacks, and so can be great chronic stress. I am willing to believe that childhood wounds can cause one to have elevated levels of chronic stress, but so can mundane playing computer games during nights :) (Although, you will probably say that the latter is an addiction and is caused by the wounds :) )
Supplements can help MUCH and fast too (serotonin precursors and also magnesium, GABA, glycine, taurine, etc.)
@jerzeytpke I've only had it for 5 years, since I was 16, it has prevented me from doing a lot of things that I haven't done yet. I've never been to a therapist or tried drugs, and times are getting tough so I can relate somewhat.
I still feel a 16 year old, I haven't done anything with my life literally since then, that's how bad it is. It's the unbearable nausea I get that I just can't deal with.
I couldn't imagine having it for 25 years, you deserve relief and I hope you find it one day.
Please let me know where are the video lessons that you have mentioned in this clip.
Great work!
I avoid dealing with my childhood trauma, fear and anxiety for the simple fact I don’t want to be perceived as feeling sorry for myself. I need to get over that to begin healing
thanks ur video helps out alot, I fear and anxiety, from my past, I'm looking for a new job, and anxiety and fear, gets to me, this sucks!!!! I always think the worst
Got the same problem, been sitting home now for months.
Thank you for this, I have chronic fear and paranoia due to childhood trauma abandonment issues as well as childhood trauma by seeing my baby sister get hit by a car. I'm a worrier and I want help so bad but refuse meds. I am engaged to a man with childhood abuse and major abandonment issues, so much so that he lies constantly due to shame and guilt.. I refuse to take medication so I'm gonna try this parts thing and hope it works. Thanks again
it's just me and I'm sick of being nervous and afraid all the time. I know when I was little I was afraid of old men. I JUST WANT THIS TO STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :((((
I encourage you to study online "lesson 1" at sfhelp.org/gwc/guide.htm
@@gercacn could you resend wep page cant find it
Wow. You've just described me as well as all my "sub-cells" to a tee. Not kidding here. This is honestly the most helpful video I've ever seen on this subject. :)
Mine has to do with my gf who broke my heart, we are back together and working towards repairing our relationship but it has caused me anxiety and fear that I have never dealt with in my life. If she don’t call me or text me I get pessimistic and my mind goes haywire. Even when we do talk as soon as she leaves my confidence drops and it’s like it’s starting all over. I have never dealt with this in my life.
1*reviwe the concept of normal part
2*know your subselves and know the ones who get fear and panic and learn not take over by them
Great information. Thank you.
Thank you, sir. God bless you.
I compassionately urge you to consider doing "inner family" therapy as a way to permanently reduce excessive fear (and other psychological wounds). See my "Lesson 1" playlists and sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm
Wow...this really helps me see these strange reactions that come from even thinking I might have to face a blocked pain from around 10 years old and then again 10 years later. I have few memories from before 19 years old and the parts that I do remember are what I have always called fragmented (like a shattered mirror). I realized that I worry I will have to relive that abandonment (and death). I did to some degree in 2000.
I have not been able to get what turned into fear/anxiety under control to some degree. It seems to spiral around the sense that I will relive it again again. I have been in this spiral since then. It has taken a lot of work to identify the ages of these fragmented parts of my emotional self. I did a lot of work using art.
Seems there is a lot of shame in admitting to having had a "dissociative" childhood. People would say "She doesn't have a clue" and they were right haha. well, not really fun funny. If I am stressed out I will forget things now but I am not dissociative. I was before 19 years old...that is what I have concluded about why there are so few memories. There is a lot of buried fear I think which makes it harder if someone is part of that emotionally...and stays afraid of me because of whatever happened. There are no memories for me and people generally don't understand an amnestic barrier. it won't just break down. The person won't wake up one day and get it. It doesn't work that way.
the worst thing to do to someone with an amnestic barrier is hide information from them...that took forever to see that IF I "sense" that I get very upset...
This helps me see it a little better. It will take a while to see them as dissociated parts of the true self.
I will check back to see what you have to say about how to identify each stage of the reaction or what you call sub selves.
I have studied PTSd since 1996. I also finished a degree in Clinical Psychology (BA) in 1992 and think what I am dealing with is like a syndrome that can go back toward disorder. It can go back toward a syndrome by working on my feelings (that came back from the past) every day.
I am about to use some more art. I also use gardening, and renovating a house to process stuff...
A core issue is self-nurturance. Psychologially-wounded people often minimize or neglect their wholistic health, including diet.
Love theae videos, but change your background from a hospital room to a nice warmer setting. thanks. Sort of looks like you are patient sitting in a hospital bed.
I think he is. I also think he may have passed away. I'm going to do some research and find out. The Impression I'm getting is that he's sick in the hospital and he's trying to get all his knowledge out there for everyone to see if anything were to happen... If he has passed ..RIP
I just fired my psychologist. I want a dude like this. Straight up and authentic. I had a female psychologist who was an old lady with dyed red hair. She seemed like a good one at first. Then she lied to my face and acted like I was misremembering the situation. Gaslighting by the psychologist lol. I want a male this time.
God i had one last night it was horrible how does it end i just want it be over i Always comfort my self you would think my inner sub cells would chill by now
Thank you sir for your humane and spiritual teaching on trauma.I have a problem?My mother has had perhaps,a history of borderline personality;of course this is just a label.Anyway,when mom was about 11 yrs old,she watched here brother drown right before here eyes! Because she could not swim, she let go of him as she watched his eyes glaring at her as he went down in a small lake in poteau Oklahoma?Could you guide me in understanding her Trauma? Thank You
If she has borderline symptoms, your Mom may be a "Grown Wounded Child" (GWC), The trauma she experienced may have caused her excessive guilts, shame, and anxiety. If so, she can heal. See shelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm
Bruh her brother died?
Sir I love your info and find it very useful thank you!
hey gerlach, I really enjoy your videos. Thank you for offering your time and expertise!
I was wondering if you had anything to say about impulsiveness? For the past year or more I've been doing a lot of introspection and meta-thinking as I've been caught in a rut of depression/anxiety and avoiding life, getting overly emotional and such. I've started to notice that I am easily stimulated, especially by the computer and it's become almost an attachment for me to escape my problems rather than something I enjoy now. My judgements are not as clear as they used to be. I notice how the computer slowly became the only thing I wanted to do, and recently I realize how many other things I used to enjoy. Conversation was more personal and I could connect and open up to people I cared about a lot better. I knew I was diagnosed with ADD as a kid, but I never truly understood what it meant until now that I am remembering times where I would get lost in ways of thinking that were too fast paced/unfocused/reactive and eventually causing me anxiety because I couldn't trust myself to function and started monitoring myself a lot. I feel like I've grown a lot and am finally seeing my positive traits rather than over focusing on my negative traits, but I still feel held back in emotionally accepting my intuitive qualities because of how connected that part of myself is with my impulsive side and I guess the real me as well. I've been trying to get back to what normal feels like to me, but it's been difficult because I keep running back to compulsive computer use and avoidance. I was wondering if you had any insight or experience to share on this topic.
The behavior you describe suggests your true Self is disabled by subselves seeking to- distract you from inner pain. You can permanently reduced the pain using "parts work: sfhelp.org/gwc/recover.htm
Really interesting video to see!!!! Thanks! 🤔
How do you get past the belittling one can do to one's own trauma? I cannot believe what has happened to me is traumatic because I know of how much worse (my perception) that has happened to other people. I literally cannot and have never been able to actually BELIEVE that what has happened to me is traumatic, especially because my caregiver dismissed my feelings.
You've mentioned in this video that you've come across pieces of advice to reduce panic attacks and anxieties that you view as harmful. Would you describe them, please?
I don't understand your question.
Thank you for posting all of this videos, very interesting, I´ve been watching this and learning for more than two hours now.
I have a question though. How do you view faith in healing proceses. Are you familiar with hagiotherapy and similar practices?
Has anyone considered how this applies to David Goggins. He created a character within himself called Goggins, who is extremely tough
I was in my therapy appointment explaining what happened to me and that caused me to feel agitated. As I explained I Always rehearse my warrior in my mind before leaving my apt, especially when I have take the bus to therapy. I said, when I step on to the street I say aloud to myself, if anyone F's with me, I'll F.... Them up. Then I feel more confident and puffed up.
Her reply was "WHO DOES THAT????".
I DO.
Guess I got work to do.
Bless you Peter,!
He is so right i figured this out by myself i could even go to sleep i told myself you know what's happening your fine it's okay I don't calm completely but I do relax IT TOOK ME YEARS to be able to handle it I took xanax but stopped because I always felt intoxicated i did it on my own but I want them to stop.... yet they still come
Wow! Amazing! This video has helped me.
Thank you
Hi Peter, I just stopped the video 6 minutes into it as this question popped into my head - if one of my subselves is causing me fear and anxiety then how could they be well meaning? If I am misunderstanding it, can you briefly explain? I don't have the attention span right now to focus on reading the information on your website. I learn well from watching videos and listening. Thanks for your insight. Respectfully, Gina
From a subself's perspective, causing fears is a way of guarding against risky or dangerous actions. This comes from subselves' distrusting the judgment of your true Self to make wise (safe) decisions.
Peter Gerlach Can you give me an example of this? At work, I feel that I have a fear of making mistakes and being reprimanded by my boss. It's a visceral reaction and I feel very fearful. I think that it might have to do with my childhood, where if I did something like forget my key, my father would become annoyed and sometimes angry. We lived in an apartment and he didn't like when people rang the bell. So if I forgot my key I would be fearful right before I pressed the buzzer. So, in this case of my feeling fearful at work, what would be the risky or dangerous action that my subself is trying to avoid? At work, I know on an intellectual level, that my boss won't be angry. I hope you don't mind me questioning you about this. Believe it or not, I am even fearful of perhaps making you annoyed at my questions. Thank you for listening.
Gina888 Visceral fears are caused by a Scaredw Inner Child who lives in the2 past. She doesn't know or trust your true Self to handle criticism from your boss calmly. See sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm.
You have an ''Awareness section on the second page of the link you sent me which is blank. Is it meant to be like this?
This is so interesting.
Has anyone ever given you advice that you didnt ask for? Do yoiu recall how that feels? The implication is "I knoiw how you should live your life better than you do." Pretty arrogant attitide, even if well-meant.
Pete I was wondering why therapies designed to eliminate anxiety fond they does not work. Things like CBT Or EFT. I find they do not work that well for me. I know that I am still behaving on past traumas. I have no trust in other ppl becasue in my mind ppl only cause pain.
Im 31 years old , i suffer from anxiety . i fear for my life . any advice will be greatly appreciated . .
hello sir im an anxiety victim due to panic attack nearly 5 years ago and i overcame my fear to panic attack which i thought i was going crazy and stuff of the kind but now i have got the problem like i fear that i forget myself and the language im speaking.. and i know ots just a thought but it wont go off my mind ... HELP!!
There are other RUclips videos that suggest how to reduce fear - have you viewed them?
please you could help me with this sir
ujan shakya I encourage you to study online "lesson 1" at sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1,htm. It's free, and is about healing
tq sir !! i hope it gets better
:) :)
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I needed this.
The videos are meant to augment Web pages in a series of 7 free online self-improvement "lessons" at sfhelp.org..
Hagiotherapy (hagios - sacred, holy) is a psychotherapeutic technique with a "spiritual" view on treating mental illness. It uses sacred texts, especially biblical texts. To bring that which is lacking, faith to replace fear and sickness. Where regular psychology mostly deals with problems, dissects them on and on...
Your methods are mostly rational, intellectual. Do you have any video where you share your thoughts on healing with faith, faith in God and similar? How do you see that?
im a worrier about feeling dizzy and lightheaded feeling everyday and get uneasy tense and not calm and get nausea.
@gercacn I feel like many disorders, fears and such are caused childhood experiences in psychological terms. May i ask : Why is that ? And what do you mean childhood, because that is an expendable term , i think. Sorry for probable grammarfaults I'm german and just 16.
In ASD the "lizard brain" is enlarged, also currently just theorizing nothing solid or established yet.
Your reactions sound normal. If you study this free online lesson, you can gradually convert inner overwhelm to stable calm: sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm. I cant suggest anyone local to help you, I CAN offer consultation over the phone or Skype if you wish - see sfhelp.org/consult.htm.
@Yirumaist From your description, I suspect you have all six psychological wounds and are ruled by a protective "false self." You can reduce these wounds (including your fears) by working on "Lesson 1" at sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm
Thanks = I cheder you on!
What do you think about boundary tapping? Personally this has really helped me a lot. On many situations especially in public. It has helped to calm me down when i have a panic attack coming on. With the help of tapping and accupuncture believe it or not Im pretty much clear or anxiety. Its amazing.
sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears2.htm Is the Awareness section meant to be like that? I'm confused.
Does this mean we can recover from social anxiety too?
+Stacy Farrow Yes you can recover it applies to any situation or stimulus in taking control of excessive fear response and builds confidence. Just a though i believe it works.
I'm not clear what you're asking. Can you cloarify? I'm noi familiar with "hagiotherapy."
Thank you. Agape
I encourage you to patiently study online "lesson 1" at sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm.
Amazing speaking from his hospital bed. God Bless him
@evvtech - I propose that only a PART of you is very scared, and I respectfully suggest you study and experiment with these options to reduce his fears to normal -
sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm
I wonder what would P. Gerlach say about psychopathy. Does it belong to the same category of false selves?
Thank-you!
See this: sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm - Your symptoms suggest yor true Self is disabled by some parts of your personality who live in thre past.
I tell myself when I have a panic attack calm down you what this is
Help I have depersonalization :(
"Depersonalization" is usually a symptom of inherited psychological wounds from earl-childhood trauma. Once identified, these wounds van be reduced. See sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm
thanks for the vid
I have a question that I`ve wanted to ask for so long ,if you can please give me some info .I dont even know if what I want to ask has any reflection on my illness,but I think it does .I have always believed that my bipolar was caused by childhood trauma ,when I first heard that theory I almost cried ,I felt understood and relieved that washed over me ,but I assumed it was from trauma I got as a teenager ,because thats what I remember most .But you say is this video it might be caused sooner .Okay so my question is ,If you ask me to remember my earliest memory Ill say I remember being 6 .I have 2 or maybe 3 memories of being 6 .My Next memory is being 11.I cant remember anything between being 6 and being 11.I have tried for the longest time .What do you think caused this 'amnesia ' ?? thank you in advance
***** thank you
i'am past self help and the doctors dont know whats wrong with me
See this: sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm - it's about you and healing
See this: sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds/fears.htm and watch for my future video on "panic attacks."
There is a Break-the-Cycle FaceBook group of 300 people from all over the world who disagree with you. Read this article - it's written to skeptics like you: sfhelp.org/gwc/IF/letter.htm.
Kamal - looks like you're looking for a quick fix and don't give much priority to self-healing. Meditate on your priorities, and wonder which of your personality subselves are setting them. I suspect it is not your wise true Self.
Sometimes Dr., a brat is a brat. Children who well always abuse their mother and talk to them badly always do even as adults. I am a mother of such a daughter and I am done I'm 70 years old and she will fight and argue and scream at me until I'm dead. And if she can't show makeup things. I know where it stems from but there's nothing I can do to convince her of her father's sexual abuse but it's all going on me my entire life with her. I'm 70 years old and I would like to live my life now. I'm done.