Another sleepiness night so I realise I need help to stop the inner noises so I scan online for help. I cant find anything immediate by my fav therapists until I notice Gerlach. Voila i hone my search down to this video. I think it's what i need. Its 1.45am & I feel calmer now after listening to this short piece. Thank you
Thankyou Pete . This is all so interesting im going to keep studying . I feel so much better after just starting the course . If everyone in the world found this work it would be a much better place .
Thanks for sharing. I feel you. But we can accept responsibility for our own experiences. Everything starts on th no physical plain, so if we experience bullies we must have been a bully to ourselves for a long time, no? Correct me I I'm wrong
average number Ive seen is 25-30; Often initial lists count one subself as two. When early-childhood trauma is specially severe, the degree of dissociation (inner-family disharmony) seems greater - a loose correlation.
Identify (list) your busy subselves and focus on (1) bringing them each into the present (2013); (2) learning to trust your true Self and other Manager subseloves; and then teach all subselves how to do win-win problem-solving: sfhelp.org/cx/skills/ps.htm. You're not "a mess," you have very active subselves who dont yet trust your wise reident true Self to lead them.
This is all so validating to me!!! I've always been taught and made to feel we're just not supposed to have sub selves. Why is this fact so hidden?? Others here saying this too. Why not talk about it in life?? 🤔🤔🤔🐱
Hi Laurette - it probably means tjhat different subselves have taken over the true Self, and are each speaking their (confloicting) truths. The Self isn't free to mediate and speak the person's REAL truth.
Ps I used to get mad at people who contradict themselves a lot even though I must do it too but I can now try show abit more patience and understanding .
Thank you for the wisdom you share in your videos. You clearly understand the chaos going on in our minds. Just please get to the point faster in your videos, when I watched many of them at once, most of each video was introduction and saying the same things b4 u get to the practical point. In my chaotic mind that was alittle annoying! But thank u :))
What do you think about Eckhart Tolle's approach, if you have heard of him. His approach is 'to be present' and observe the mind chatter. You call them subselves; he calls them egos. His approach is not an easy one; one's attention must always be in the present moment. I am still trying his approach, but it's not easy. What do you think?
These videos are very good, I was the victim in childhood of first abuse by parents and then extreame bullying in high school, I live with intense anxiety, depression. I also have virtual constant flashbacks about things that happened in my past, particularly high school bullying. What should I do? should I see a behavioral therapist? I would appreciate any advice.
Back in 2003 before I ever knew about this, I had a conversation with myself and realized there were at least 7 and I identifies characteristics of each of them and I thought I was multiple personality i didn't want to tell my doctors for obvious reasons. I set aside these notes I am so excited to hear this so I can really work on this process.
/watch?v=mKlQ43Po2oc This link is Eckhart Tolle explaining his view on let's say psyche hygiene Buddhist, New Testament style. He even mentions 'Inner Critic'. It is very interesting how both your method and his interconnects.
Hi Pete just a question for you. When people contradict themselves a lot ; is this the different subselves speaking because the true self cant or dosent know how to put its point across. Thankyou . I love your work .
Have all the subselves trust and tollow the true Self and other manager subselves. Each subself brings a valuable talent or ytrait to the host person, so you don'ty want to integrate them...
Then make a two teams consisting of all your subselves- the negative team and the positive team . Write on a piece of paper what the negative team of selves talk about you. Then let the positive team of selves refute them one by one, sympathetically , with logic. This simple method of writing down has given me clarity and has helped me a great deal. On a different note, psychologist Albert Ellis have noted that irrational thoughts are the causes of our mental discomfort, agitation and even sorrow. He has listed 12 such irrational thoughts( which you can find online ) which you can study. Written in very simple manner , the list is a fantastic sieve which can point to the negative ways we think. It will help you greatly in refuting the 'Negative team' of the selves.
Hi Peter, from my analysis I would say I have over 40 subselves, is this unusual and is there any correlation from the level of abuse suffered when you and the number of subselves present?
can i see "subselves" as "egos"? also, is this concept unique to you, or are "subselves" a common term in (western) therapy / coaching? i am asking because i am learning who my "pure" self really is, and can be present in my soul-body, and i don't want to falsely create negative "subselves" that perhaps don't even exist (by accident). thanks! : )
Call them whatever you wish. This is an ancient world-wide concept which I and hundreds of therapists believe in, starting with Freud. Clinical writers have no common language for "personality subselves" - there are at least 19 other descriptive words (e..g. "little minds / "sub states" / sub-personalities" / "parts" / archetypes / etc - See the books by John Rowan.
It's a interesting concept but I don't have any voices in my mind. If I am not actively thinking something like "where is my damn phone" my mind is completely silent. I can ask in my internal voice whatever I want but I'm never going to get any form of reply.
whoops, question was answered already. Anyway, .. i know a little bit about pc-hardware and sound settings especially. I would be honored if i could help you whatever it is, so feel free to ask me whatever it is, just in case.
Some people feel a common subself can be called the "Dream Maker," who shapes our unconscious dream content. If so, it's possible to "meet" this subself and learn from it via inner dialoging. See sfhelp.org/gwc/dialof.htm.
I honestly feel 10 times more schizophrenic and confused when I try to talk to them, because I'm not sure which one is really "me", or my "higher self", I suppose. So instead it's like I'm making arguments on one side, then switching to another side and making arguments for them too, etc etc. It's actually quite horrifying and I feel pretty much screwed most of the time. Like I'll never be able to form relationships with other people because I'm too broken up inside.
Don't give up now, he is offering the tools you never had access to before. I am certain that enough people have given up on you, don't give up on yourself, go on his website and take it slow it is a challenging site to navigate but it will a journey to find your true self and integrate all the beautiful parts of you. Unfortunately you will not be able to get direct answers as he has passed away but there is a link on his page for a facebook group dedicated to his cause and information and support from people who are Breaking The Cycle Blessings.
On a lighter note , it is like counting sheep in our imagination to induce sleep. You count on and on and after counting 10,332 of them you see plethora of them coming , of all shapes and sizes, and you are the one solely responsible for counting them.
I encourage you to invest time studying online "lesson 1" for more insight and healing: sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm. If you do and have questions, please ask.
There's something serene about his face. Like it's radiating love, hope and comfort.
god thankyou, finally someone who making sense about the mind and breaking it down to understand what is going on in my head.
ruhk tyrell I agree with you!!!!!! 😃😃😁😁😥😥
This man seemed so wise!! So thankful for his work! 🤗🤗😊😊
Another sleepiness night so I realise I need help to stop the inner noises so I scan online for help. I cant find anything immediate by my fav therapists until I notice Gerlach. Voila i hone my search down to this video. I think it's what i need. Its 1.45am & I feel calmer now after listening to this short piece. Thank you
You're most welcome. Enjoy getting to know and harmonize your talented subselves - they each mean well, and are trying to help you.
gerlach This is fascinating to me!!! He had allot of understanding and skills !!! 😆
I'm glad I found you! Should've known you before but glad to find you now!!!!!!
Thankyou Pete . This is all so interesting im going to keep studying . I feel so much better after just starting the course . If everyone in the world found this work it would be a much better place .
Lol, I agree with you !
Hate mind chatter, i dont need these voices, they are activated because of bullies, i was fine before all of this
Thanks for sharing. I feel you. But we can accept responsibility for our own experiences. Everything starts on th no physical plain, so if we experience bullies we must have been a bully to ourselves for a long time, no? Correct me I I'm wrong
average number Ive seen is 25-30; Often initial lists count one subself as two. When early-childhood trauma is specially severe, the degree of dissociation (inner-family disharmony) seems greater - a loose correlation.
This makes sense..
Really does.
You are very soothing to listen to. You are a good teacher.
Identify (list) your busy subselves and focus on (1) bringing them each into the present (2013); (2) learning to trust your true Self and other Manager subseloves; and then teach all subselves how to do win-win problem-solving: sfhelp.org/cx/skills/ps.htm. You're not "a mess," you have very active subselves who dont yet trust your wise reident true Self to lead them.
I think that I'm a good judge of character, and you seem like a nice guy.
This is all so validating to me!!! I've always been taught and made to feel we're just not supposed to have sub selves. Why is this fact so hidden?? Others here saying this too. Why not talk about it in life?? 🤔🤔🤔🐱
Hi Laurette - it probably means tjhat different subselves have taken over the true Self, and are each speaking their (confloicting) truths. The Self isn't free to mediate and speak the person's REAL truth.
Ps I used to get mad at people who contradict themselves a lot even though I must do it too but I can now try show abit more patience and understanding .
laurette - thanks. I hope you'll alert receptive other people to this site and course. :-)
Thank you for your swift answer.
Thank you very much for the video
Being a Good Diplomat is making a Point without making an Enemy.
Thank you for the wisdom you share in your videos. You clearly understand the chaos going on in our minds. Just please get to the point faster in your videos, when I watched many of them at once, most of each video was introduction and saying the same things b4 u get to the practical point. In my chaotic mind that was alittle annoying! But thank u :))
What do you think about Eckhart Tolle's approach, if you have heard of him. His approach is 'to be present' and observe the mind chatter. You call them subselves; he calls them egos. His approach is not an easy one; one's attention must always be in the present moment. I am still trying his approach, but it's not easy. What do you think?
Very eye opening.
These videos are very good, I was the victim in childhood of first abuse by parents and then extreame bullying in high school, I live with intense anxiety, depression. I also have virtual constant flashbacks about things that happened in my past, particularly high school bullying. What should I do? should I see a behavioral therapist? I would appreciate any advice.
Good luck!
Back in 2003 before I ever knew about this, I had a conversation with myself and realized there were at least 7 and I identifies characteristics of each of them and I thought I was multiple personality i didn't want to tell my doctors for obvious reasons. I set aside these notes I am so excited to hear this so I can really work on this process.
/watch?v=mKlQ43Po2oc
This link is Eckhart Tolle explaining his view on let's say psyche hygiene Buddhist, New Testament style.
He even mentions 'Inner Critic'. It is very interesting how both your method and his interconnects.
Can this also happen in dreams? Inner conflict? Excessive Fear or Anxiety? The subselves talking in our dreams about wounds?
@manlypedro75 Thanks for the feedback I dont kniw what "EQ" is. If the sibilance distracts you, consider turning down your playback treble control.
great vids! please address sibilants (s's) it coud be an EQ issue!
@goingplaces11 I dont see the connectrion between EQ and sibilance - ?
Hi Pete just a question for you. When people contradict themselves a lot ; is this the different subselves speaking because the true self cant or dosent know how to put its point across. Thankyou . I love your work .
@gercacn EQ must mean the "equalizer" in your computer where you can adjust the sound frequency :)
Thanks for sharing this knowledge 🙏 RIP sir
Is the ultimate goal to keep all the parts, with the true self being mostly in control or to integrate all the parts into your true self?
Definitely . Thanks again .
Have all the subselves trust and tollow the true Self and other manager subselves. Each subself brings a valuable talent or ytrait to the host person, so you don'ty want to integrate them...
I get shouting obscenities while daydreaming and dreaming by night with settings all from the past and imagined.
This parts work seems like a lot of work. At least, the way you described it. I wish there was a faster and easier way to resolve internal conflicts.
Then make a two teams consisting of all your subselves- the negative team and the positive team .
Write on a piece of paper what the negative team of selves talk about you. Then let the positive team of selves refute them one by one, sympathetically , with logic.
This simple method of writing down has given me clarity and has helped me a great deal.
On a different note, psychologist Albert Ellis have noted that irrational thoughts are the causes of our mental discomfort, agitation and even sorrow. He has listed 12 such irrational thoughts( which you can find online ) which you can study. Written in very simple manner , the list is a fantastic sieve which can point to the negative ways we think. It will help you greatly in refuting the 'Negative team' of the selves.
Unthetered soul by Micheal singer
"No such thing s free lunch" - Parts work gets easier and easier the more you do it. Give it a try!
Thanks Pete :)
Hi Peter, from my analysis I would say I have over 40 subselves, is this unusual and is there any correlation from the level of abuse suffered when you and the number of subselves present?
@RustyCoathanger2 Many thanks for the affirmation. Im an ex-engineer, and I like specificity :-)
can i see "subselves" as "egos"?
also, is this concept unique to you, or are "subselves" a common term in (western) therapy / coaching? i am asking because i am learning who my "pure" self really is, and can be present in my soul-body, and i don't want to falsely create negative "subselves" that perhaps don't even exist (by accident). thanks! : )
Call them whatever you wish. This is an ancient world-wide concept which I and hundreds of therapists believe in, starting with Freud. Clinical writers have no common language for "personality subselves" - there are at least 19 other descriptive words (e..g. "little minds / "sub states" / sub-personalities" / "parts" / archetypes / etc - See the books by John Rowan.
Will this work for dissociative disorders?
It's a interesting concept but I don't have any voices in my mind. If I am not actively thinking something like "where is my damn phone" my mind is completely silent. I can ask in my internal voice whatever I want but I'm never going to get any form of reply.
whoops, question was answered already. Anyway, .. i know a little bit about pc-hardware and sound settings especially. I would be honored if i could help you whatever it is, so feel free to ask me whatever it is, just in case.
Some people feel a common subself can be called the "Dream Maker," who shapes our unconscious dream content. If so, it's possible to "meet" this subself and learn from it via inner dialoging. See sfhelp.org/gwc/dialof.htm.
I honestly feel 10 times more schizophrenic and confused when I try to talk to them, because I'm not sure which one is really "me", or my "higher self", I suppose. So instead it's like I'm making arguments on one side, then switching to another side and making arguments for them too, etc etc. It's actually quite horrifying and I feel pretty much screwed most of the time. Like I'll never be able to form relationships with other people because I'm too broken up inside.
Don't give up now, he is offering the tools you never had access to before. I am certain that enough people have given up on you, don't give up on yourself, go on his website and take it slow it is a challenging site to navigate but it will a journey to find your true self and integrate all the beautiful parts of you. Unfortunately you will not be able to get direct answers as he has passed away but there is a link on his page for a facebook group dedicated to his cause and information and support from people who are Breaking The Cycle Blessings.
@@mominator69 🙏
On a lighter note , it is like counting sheep in our imagination to induce sleep. You count on and on and after counting 10,332 of them you see plethora of them coming , of all shapes and sizes, and you are the one solely responsible for counting them.
Many thanks. :)
Cold turkey is pretty painful, do be careful. Ween off if you can instead.
I think internal family systems (IFS) therapy is clearer and easier than his approach. See sfhelp.org/gwc/IF/ifs.htm.
I encourage you to invest time studying online "lesson 1" for more insight and healing: sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm. If you do and have questions, please ask.
This is basically schema therapy