OOP doesn’t necessarily want a romantic relationship with her friend but she is clearly jealous of her friend moving on. She sounds like she might have an unhealthy attachment to her friend. And now she feels like she won’t get the attention she needs from her friend. Good on the fiancé for standing up for himself and his fiancée. I think that OOP might need to see some counseling. Otherwise she’s going to lose her friend.
I was right, VINDICATION. People going on and on about "Op is wrongly targeted" despite the showing how she need attention. I was right when I said, " op was trying to manipulate them into getting her way. Op will make it about herself and seek attention. The bride and groom know it will happened and is sick of her shit. Lastly she only cared about herself.".
OOP I think has a crush on her friend. "Leave us alone." "Only I can make her happy." That doesn't sound like something just a friend would say. I'd love to know what the bride to be has to say
I really want a follow-up by someone! Did Izzy go to wedding? Did groom or bride tell her off? Maybe the other bridesmaids did. Talk about a reception that warrants a popcorn machine!
The bride needs to talk to OP. It sounds like she is saying one thing to OP, and then something else to her soon to be hubby. I would not be surprised if she is having a hard time saying no to OP, and is using her soon to be hubby as an excuse to back out of things. Many couples do this. Yet she has done it too many times, so now it comes across as hubby hating OP, and OP now has a grudge back.
My best friend had a literal nervous breakdown when I got engaged. I thought she was going to unalive herself. It was not fun. Shes 49 and has never had a relationship.
She definitely sees her friend as an integral part of her happiness and likes whatever routine they had going before future hubby entered the picture. That's HER best friend. THEY are close. HE entered the picture, and their FRIENDship CHANGED. She wants her friend all to herself. Selfish.
This is the friendship version of those MiLs that make weird remarks around their children getting married like "I'll always be my babys first love" or "You may be marrying them, but I'll always be #1 in their life" and all other manner of emotional incest-y type comments.
This is clearly a no contact situation. OP doesn’t care about her “friend”. She’s spoiled and selfish. I’d never spend time with a person like her. So gross.
How is this new to you? The first was basically Op going " I need to tell everyone what I don't like all of time publicly, I know i tried to manipulate them with a fake joke. Putting "LOL" should've took away their common sense.".
As the youngest in my friend group, I’ve been where Izzy is. Watching your friends grow up and start their lives and not be a part of that is a scary thing. Izzy isn’t handling it properly at all-instead of diversifying her own interests and opening new chapters of her own life, she’s getting extremely territorial over her friend. I do think that there’s a possibility for Izzy and Em to come back from this. Izzy definitely needs some help to deal with her attachment issues, though.
What an absolutely exhaustive way of destroying a long-standing friendship. OP can't be happy for her best friend and inserts herself in the wedding plans everywhere she can (not her place; wedding plans are the bride's and groom's; she can offer an opinion WHEN asked for it, but not criticize and challenge every move they make). She's stealing all the joy from the bride-to-be by questioning all the decisions - wedding planning is long, tedious, nerve-wracking and a lot of work and she's not being a helpmate to her friend with her shenanigans. That the groom-to-be felt the need to launch a response on social media that he doesn't frequent seems to set the tone that OP is obsessed with being the ONLY close person to the bride-to-be, and OP considers the bride-to-be as her sole possession. It wouldn't matter who the groom-to-be was, OP would treat him the same way. She is so used to being at the forefront of the BFF friendship, she doesn't get it that the bride's priorities have changed and she isn't first and foremost any longer. Either the BFF needs to have a serious no-holds-barred conversation with OP or the friendship is going to end. OP's behavior to this point has reached levels of the fiancé addressing the situation himself means this friendship is deeply fractured and OP doesn't see it: if she continues to treat her BFF's fiancé, and ultimately husband, like the enemy, undermining their wedding and, most likely, their marriage after the ceremony, the friendship won't survive even with the most sincere apology. She's already damaged it badly: there might not be a way back, but if she values it as much as she claims, she needs to get right with how she's treating the fiancé, she needs to know her place as a dear friend and not as the owner of the bride who needs to do what OP wants, when and how OP wants it, and because OP wants it. She doesn't seem to comprehend that her BFF has chosen a partner for life and has begun a new life with him, which means, whether OP likes it or not, she's now second in line. OP needs to have a grand attitude adjustment because once children come along through that marriage, her importance drops another run on that 'priority' ladder she's got in her head.
I mean, OOP *might not* be romantically interested in her friend, but her wanting fiance to be on the couch prooooobably means she wanted to have the bed with her friend.
Not necessarily. When I got engaged, my best friend had a nervous breakdown and ruined my entire engagement. She called me screaming about how stupid I was to get married, how much she hated him, etc. She tried to ruin our relationship. She was jealous. She's not a lesbian. Shes just a 49 year old single woman 22 years later.
That young girl needs to find herself a life partner. She's too invested in her friend. And it sounds like she's in love with her friend.... Sorry friendo found a man. And wants to be happy. This girl needs to have boundaries and if she keeps falling over those bounders she needs to go no contact and leave Izzy in the dust
I agree that she's too invested in her friend, but I don't think she should find try to find a life partner right now. She's pretty clearly not in a healthy place right now, and that's a not a recipe for a successful relationship.
Oop has a unhealthy controlling relationship now she feels threatened. The fact she referred to herself and M as we instead of acknowledging fiance and M are the WE just proves how delusional she is, she chose to marry this person linking them forever. If OOP doesn't realise the pecking order has changed its because she has her head in the sand.
Original OP is the AH. The wedding isn't about her, she needs to grow up and realize it's not all about her. Friend needs to cut contact with OP and run
OOP doesn’t necessarily want a romantic relationship with her friend but she is clearly jealous of her friend moving on. She sounds like she might have an unhealthy attachment to her friend. And now she feels like she won’t get the attention she needs from her friend. Good on the fiancé for standing up for himself and his fiancée. I think that OOP might need to see some counseling. Otherwise she’s going to lose her friend.
The girl sounds like she wants a relationship with her friend 😅😅
I was right, VINDICATION. People going on and on about "Op is wrongly targeted" despite the showing how she need attention. I was right when I said, " op was trying to manipulate them into getting her way. Op will make it about herself and seek attention. The bride and groom know it will happened and is sick of her shit. Lastly she only cared about herself.".
Definitely think Izzy is very unhealthly attached to friend
Can we get "DADDY'S MAD" on a t-shirt?
OOP I think has a crush on her friend. "Leave us alone." "Only I can make her happy." That doesn't sound like something just a friend would say. I'd love to know what the bride to be has to say
I really want a follow-up by someone! Did Izzy go to wedding? Did groom or bride tell her off? Maybe the other bridesmaids did. Talk about a reception that warrants a popcorn machine!
The bride needs to talk to OP. It sounds like she is saying one thing to OP, and then something else to her soon to be hubby. I would not be surprised if she is having a hard time saying no to OP, and is using her soon to be hubby as an excuse to back out of things. Many couples do this. Yet she has done it too many times, so now it comes across as hubby hating OP, and OP now has a grudge back.
I agree with Dusty. This has nothing to do with cake. There is so much more going on here.
Sounds like someone is upset that her bestie is moving on and into the next phase of her life and possibly leaving her behind.
My best friend had a literal nervous breakdown when I got engaged. I thought she was going to unalive herself. It was not fun. Shes 49 and has never had a relationship.
She definitely sees her friend as an integral part of her happiness and likes whatever routine they had going before future hubby entered the picture. That's HER best friend. THEY are close. HE entered the picture, and their FRIENDship CHANGED. She wants her friend all to herself. Selfish.
They're both adults and both fighting on the internet. Maybe the bride should run away from both of them 😂
This is the friendship version of those MiLs that make weird remarks around their children getting married like "I'll always be my babys first love" or "You may be marrying them, but I'll always be #1 in their life" and all other manner of emotional incest-y type comments.
This is clearly a no contact situation. OP doesn’t care about her “friend”. She’s spoiled and selfish. I’d never spend time with a person like her. So gross.
It’s obvious that OP is in love with her friend.
High school drama on steroids.
Holy cow the drama.
Sounds like OG ( friend ) is in love with soon to be bride
OOP totally has an unhealthy attachment with the friend and hates the fiance because he's in an actual relationship with her. Girl, stop. Get help.
How is this new to you? The first was basically Op going " I need to tell everyone what I don't like all of time publicly, I know i tried to manipulate them with a fake joke. Putting
"LOL" should've took away their common sense.".
I would eat popcorn if it wasn't too late to eat. 😂
Is this Single White Female?
As the youngest in my friend group, I’ve been where Izzy is. Watching your friends grow up and start their lives and not be a part of that is a scary thing. Izzy isn’t handling it properly at all-instead of diversifying her own interests and opening new chapters of her own life, she’s getting extremely territorial over her friend. I do think that there’s a possibility for Izzy and Em to come back from this. Izzy definitely needs some help to deal with her attachment issues, though.
What an absolutely exhaustive way of destroying a long-standing friendship. OP can't be happy for her best friend and inserts herself in the wedding plans everywhere she can (not her place; wedding plans are the bride's and groom's; she can offer an opinion WHEN asked for it, but not criticize and challenge every move they make). She's stealing all the joy from the bride-to-be by questioning all the decisions - wedding planning is long, tedious, nerve-wracking and a lot of work and she's not being a helpmate to her friend with her shenanigans. That the groom-to-be felt the need to launch a response on social media that he doesn't frequent seems to set the tone that OP is obsessed with being the ONLY close person to the bride-to-be, and OP considers the bride-to-be as her sole possession. It wouldn't matter who the groom-to-be was, OP would treat him the same way. She is so used to being at the forefront of the BFF friendship, she doesn't get it that the bride's priorities have changed and she isn't first and foremost any longer. Either the BFF needs to have a serious no-holds-barred conversation with OP or the friendship is going to end. OP's behavior to this point has reached levels of the fiancé addressing the situation himself means this friendship is deeply fractured and OP doesn't see it: if she continues to treat her BFF's fiancé, and ultimately husband, like the enemy, undermining their wedding and, most likely, their marriage after the ceremony, the friendship won't survive even with the most sincere apology. She's already damaged it badly: there might not be a way back, but if she values it as much as she claims, she needs to get right with how she's treating the fiancé, she needs to know her place as a dear friend and not as the owner of the bride who needs to do what OP wants, when and how OP wants it, and because OP wants it. She doesn't seem to comprehend that her BFF has chosen a partner for life and has begun a new life with him, which means, whether OP likes it or not, she's now second in line. OP needs to have a grand attitude adjustment because once children come along through that marriage, her importance drops another run on that 'priority' ladder she's got in her head.
I mean, OOP *might not* be romantically interested in her friend, but her wanting fiance to be on the couch prooooobably means she wanted to have the bed with her friend.
Oooooooh.
This tea got HOT 😆
That's not tea. That's freaking lava
She's definitely in love with her best friend.
Not necessarily. When I got engaged, my best friend had a nervous breakdown and ruined my entire engagement. She called me screaming about how stupid I was to get married, how much she hated him, etc. She tried to ruin our relationship. She was jealous. She's not a lesbian. Shes just a 49 year old single woman 22 years later.
Denial is more than just a river in Egypt.
The "friend" has feelings she refuses to come to terms with.
That young girl needs to find herself a life partner. She's too invested in her friend. And it sounds like she's in love with her friend....
Sorry friendo found a man. And wants to be happy. This girl needs to have boundaries and if she keeps falling over those bounders she needs to go no contact and leave Izzy in the dust
I think she thinks she has already found a life partner. She's just waiting for her to realize it.
I agree that she's too invested in her friend, but I don't think she should find try to find a life partner right now. She's pretty clearly not in a healthy place right now, and that's a not a recipe for a successful relationship.
Well, damn.
Talk about messy internet drama
Oop has a unhealthy controlling relationship now she feels threatened. The fact she referred to herself and M as we instead of acknowledging fiance and M are the WE just proves how delusional she is, she chose to marry this person linking them forever. If OOP doesn't realise the pecking order has changed its because she has her head in the sand.
This girl sounds like she is crushing on her friend and won’t straight up admit it. This attachment is unhealthy.
Op is the ahole, you say you can't be an ahole for feelings but it's how you act upon those feelings. Op is acting horrible.
I'm sorry, that's not a nest friend at all.
Original OP is the AH. The wedding isn't about her, she needs to grow up and realize it's not all about her. Friend needs to cut contact with OP and run
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I ... i don't know what to say that ain't been said... but ... Just gonna sit and munch xD
Wow.
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Izzy seriously tried to convince the bride to dress her and the other bridesmaids in ivory? Aka white?
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