Thankyou for this.....i realised a while ago that my choice in partner reflects from my traumatic childhood....narcissist after narcissist....my choice because of my mindset. Not anymore....dealing with my past now...at the age of 53...finaly 🙂 Richard ...you and Sam Vaknin have saved me.
Bravo for you! Learned about this from Sam at 54, went no contact with mother. great 6 year. learned in a pandemic isolation of my 32 yr old son is malignant NPD as he and his girlfiend who I support rage and abuse and dictate. Waiting to get out to move and heal. Gannon and Sam life savers!
Tracy, you have company here with me. 69. Not multiple partners, just same one over and over 50 years straight. Sending hug your way. Richard and Sam and Jesse helping me every day. This lecture in particularly on target. Psychologist we went to years ago told me, "Embrace hopelessness." Now, NOW I am getting it.💙
I always thought I was in a bad relationship with someone else. Now, I realize, I needed to clean up my relationship with myself. Take my toys home. Thank you ❤️
having watched dozens of NPD videos - Richard Grannon's work is ground breaking. The other "experts" seem to be enforcing the sickness of abuse and cementing it. Acknowledging that we all have darkness in us - and if we are not telling the truth about our own culpability and engagement in the abuse, we cannot move toward healing. People who feed the victim fear, helplessness, overwhelm and anger are taking us in the opposite direction of wholeness, empowerment and wellness. Thank YOU Richard! What a remarkable voice of reason, compassion and intelligence you have offered the world. BRAVO!
I used to, not anymore. You do heal, it does get better but I didn’t believe it would when told this over and over. No matter what I did, even traveling to UK for Richard's first live seminar didn't help but all his vids made me feel sane. The only thing that healed was going through it all, all of the emotions until time passed and it just left my head - not to forget but became a totally new me I finally loved. Big Hugs
I finally realized that l had shame for not being able to protect myself. From childhood abused and shame lm not better off, and further along in healing.
Exactly. How do you heal when you are completely trapped in the situation and no matter what you do you cannot escape and still have to live with someone in complete denial of of what is being done to by a narcissist who is enabled by all around them. I'm talking 50 years.
As a child I accepted responsibility for my family due to my father's alcoholism. I also enabled him from a very young age. Subconsciously, I carried this in my life and relationships. Locus of control from a very young age was my parents and family needs. I see now that I took that role without questioning what I needed to do for myself. The boys in the family were much better at internalizing their locus of control.
Yoga. It's healing. My Yoga teacher says, "it's not for us to become perfect but to become more whole" and "Where you are is where you should be." My first fitness teacher, a musician and bodybuilder named Helen Wheels said "to become the best you that you can be." We're works - in - progress. Gracias!
The little boy in me will not stop telling me how much pain he is in. I just want him to know I hear him and understand even though I don't remember his experiences. I doubt what he is telling me at times, just like others doubt me. I want to believe him. Doing my best to love and accept that beautiful little boy.
Excellent! Self improvement starts with accepting responsibilty for whatever situation we have put ourselves in. We always control ourselves. That means we put ourself in whatever situation we currently fnd ourselves in. We are not children anymore. We control our own destiny.
@@Solmaz_S I think he meant in very specific cases. Like things that are out of your control like illness or the weather or what other people do. But for the majority of cases, there's responsibility, yes, like the fire case.
Richard you have this exceptional ability to structure and explain/transfer meaning. It is special and a gift. It is a burden and a purpose in one. You have changed my life - I hear you - amongst all the noise you are a beakon of libidinal energy. Beyond the teaching may you move to the next level - whatever it is - one of the things (amongst the many) is the survival to the thrivival - it’s the humour and the fun and the joy and fuck you have made me laugh the biggest belly laughs ever - May I die laughing at one of your jokes Richard - I’ve followed you through the whole way and the super ego course has now got me to that final point. You have given me so much - gd luck - much love - I hope to be free of personal growth soon too - it feels like synchronicity tbh x
Richard, please don't delete the narc related content in here.. you said your spartan courses and site will be gone forever but please dont delete the videos here, they are life saving and I haven't had the time to watch all of them.. @richard grannon
I went to a seminar once and the presenter said...just accept what happened is unacceptable...one of the wisest statement..by accepting that something is unacceptable. In case it was for parents who had lost a child..by accepting the unacceptable one stops resisting and by getting out of your own way the healing journey continues without resistance.
Wow! The words you've said in the first 7mins are so uplifting, such super words of guidance - absolutely spot on. To elaborate my meaning; I submitted my problem and all I need do is to wait on the healing and stop lifting the lid, stop opening it to find out what has happened so far. Thank you Richard for your inspired words.
It's a place of peace, your soul is in a state of contentment within yourself and loneliness springs forth deep.spirituality in me. It's an amazing place. Stay strong. 😊
Great seminar Mr Grannon. Watching as a heterosexual man with massive protector fantasy, I had to repeatedly catch myself falling for these beautiful but traumatised women. I heard you well when you spoke recently of your own tendency to project this saviour/hero role and how it may not serve you. I learned a lot about me watching this. Much to reflect on. Thank you. Time for me to be authentic and change the role.
Thank you Richie. So many stand out moments. For me something clicked like clockwork when you said it is not about him, he is a symbol. I took to my journal and wrote all the similarities that he has with my father. It was eye opening and a huge step in my healing.
This was SOOOOO good. I just found your videos and am binge-watching them. You have helped me more than years of therapy (which did not help; yoga did though. lol). Thank you for being you. Thank you for being so honest and real!!
Thank you so much, Richard! I have experienced some healing. However, I’ve been feeling tuck lately. The timing of watching this video was perfect. I’ve been too much in my own head. And, need every word you shared! Thanks so much.
Thank you so much for this video. From the getgo, you were speaking about what I have been doing right now. I am fighting memories and consequences and I'm tired. I have not wanted to accept all I went through. I have blamed myself from childhood. I want to forget it. That has not been working. I am ready to accept what comes up and not fight it anymore.I just found your channel recently and you are a true blessing.
1:43:36 "(Tissue crinkling drowns out atendee)" 😂 the captions made me laugh way too much at points. Also, the seminars are so frickin well done. Paradigm changing for me for sure.
I find most every word and how you use it to be very powerful. I am taking notes. I am many times ready to use the sword of truth to cut through the shadows in life. I am many times willing to face the dragons alone even when it hurts, even when it means I walk into a loosing battle. I am not perfect but this is the work I have come here to do on this planet and I take it seriously. I am often faced with others who have not even begun to open up these deeper layers within and work on them, and they seem to really not like my vibe. Which is funny because I really try my best to live in a high level of morality and integrity. When you are a truth and freedom fighter you can easily be hated, but some of us are willing to die for what we believe in. This is my heart and soul, principal above all else.
The ugly crying truth of the situation!! Worth it! Extremely uncomfortable at times but make a safe word and keep moving forward! 💝 lhe reward is priceless self sustaining and my more beautiful thank imaginabke. 💓
What a concept and understanding....why hasn't anyone said this before...?? is my thought about most things Richard says bc when he says something it's so clear...and it's like a bulls eye...on truth...and yet no one said it before. This time he said...your body heals it'self just like it does with a cut...BUT WE are the ones that stand in the way...or block it. and how is in the shadow and the shadow just means the unseen....it's the unconscious......then he gives some ideas of how to do this ..but more like principals than techniques. I loved this so much. Grateful...bc his words just resonate and ring true as tho all my life i knew this but never gave it any mind....bc didn't hear it anywhere else. What confirmation to what our own mind and truth is (there all the time but we don't listen or trust it). Now to just DO it...apply it. Thank you so much Richard for being so honest and clean with what we as a world /culture/consciousness have made so complicated and muddied it when it could have easier to heal and grow and change....and now we can do it that way.
Acceptance!! That reminds me of the Serenity Prayer. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
a year ago I discovered this material. Thank you sincerely, Richard Grannon. It's hard to find quality resources when someone isnt used to helping themselves/been wrapped up. Personally I've struggling with PTSD, complex and some very recent. The grounding I've found doing a few of the exercises Richard provides, it has helped me get my awareness and sense of self and automation back.
This was such a wonderful experience. Can't even imagine how much I would have loved being there! I have been working a lot on radical acceptance in places that have held me back the most. So grateful 💪❤💫
Its not cold Richard..it is so easy to do..Mom in nursing home with brain damage..end of 20 year relationship ...Father just passed...I am grateful for the past year you have shared.. after following.for way too many years..I get it..finally❤
I sincerely appreciate your help....I have been seeking answers for years....This is phenomenal 🙌 👏 amazing and that is exactly 💯 correct....you are spot on....Bless you
Namaste Richard, I love you soooo much! I love your work, truly you have helped me many, many days on this journey! Please respectfully allow me to say that your clientele are very clearly suffering from severe abuse and psychological and spiritual trauma (detached from emotions?!? It seriously should be criminal! But I’ve been there). 😭 No surprise there, I’m sure. But you are on the cusp of a HUGE awakening, I can hear it in many, many of your videos. You’re flirting with God, but you’re not fully sold out yet. It’s ok, I get it. Please allow me to say that you are doing a mighty work, and please keep going, keep searching, keep opening, this is vital, and you are more valuable than you realize. There’s a reason Sam could no longer stand the site of you. His reasons are LIES, as the enemy likes to do. You know I speak the truth. I’m grateful the world has you for such a time as this, and you are a hair fraction (I’m sorry I don’t know the English colloquialisms for this) from helping a magnitude more people than you could have ever dreamed. But perhaps you know this too. I know it’s a lot for this venue, but I didn’t know how else to reach you with this message. 🩵
Thank you Richard. I came back to this after a sudden unexpected failure. Using the EL techniques have brought me through. Still painful but I see how I can move forward instead of shutting down and dying. Thanks for your wonderful work.
My body kept score. Two different. Breast cancers=2mastectomies, endometrial cancer=total hysterectomy, recto-sigmoid cancer, 2 TIA's, and Fibromyalgia . None of cancers related. All of these within last 20 years. He cheated 2 years of our dating plus all 50 years marriage! I suspected. Could not prove. He looked at Porn last 20 years all day as he no longer worked, while I did even after Drs told me to stop. He was diagnosed anxiety and bi polar...now he has told me of his 52 years infidelity. Who wouldn't be anxious and appear bi polar leading double life. His longest affair 4 years during lunch hours 2 times each week. You are correct about must implement internal locus. I am early along this journey. God bless those of us along our paths to us.
Hi Brooke. I have so much compassion for you. I took a screenshot of your comment. I am 28 years old with a now 1 year old. Separated from the malignant narc (probably psycopath) with a protective order in place. My mothers body kept score of the many ways my father was abusive to her. After seeing what happened to my mom I decided I would never sacrifice my body (the thing that would either keep me comfortable or miserable in this life) for a man. Your comment will also serve as a reminder. I have to be physically and mentally strong for my son.
@@Joy-zn2lo Dear Heart, Sweet of you to let me know my poor choices and consequences have inspired you enough to save them, to help you save you! That takes great courage at your age and with your little one. I found out his first affair was a "one nighter" with my "best friend" right before our wedding. I was 19, just turned. He was 23. The best man told me he caught husband in the act after AFTER we had been married 5 months and I was 2 1/2 months pregnant. Back then I felt, I am here now. My parents won't help me. I have no where to go. (Womens shelters not a thing yet) He insists he did not touch her but yes they were together. At 8 months of that same preg I found out he was with a women 6 yrs older for 4 months of preg. I should have somehow left then for sure. He insisted he never touched her either. I found out from a guy friend he had been using as an alibi. The friends wife insisted he tell me. Within 3 days of him telling on my husband the woman's husband called me! So many more affairs that I did not know about until this past year. One lasted 4...FOUR years. Nooners, getting oral sex in parking lot of library! Tawdry. It was 30 years ago, but I wentvto see her anyway. I should write a book. I am devastated. Physically and emotionally. I have been on antidepressants since first mastectomy and antianxiety meds after second one. How I wish I had been brave like you. Brave is a crazy word to use as what else is the right thing to do but put one foot in front of the other to provide a better life for your child and to keep yourself from a living Hell? Staying not only damaged me but screwed up 4 children through his mind games and rages. You have absolutely made the right choice. Your road will be hard for a season but then your good life will come back. Remember, keep an eye out for "red flags" when dating!! You have my heart and prayers. God bless you. Big Hugs. One for you. One for baby. One for your mom💙💙💙
Thank you, Richard. This was incredibly helpful to me. I needed this insight more than you can imagine. You truly do keep me on track. And I am getting stronger with the empowering wisdom in all you share. Bless You!! 🙏💖
Mom is an addict. 3 of us(girls), m.j.(youngest) o.d.d in 2019, same year my daughters were legally adopted by foster parents. I connected with dad n his wife, Nov 2019, then mom in 2020. Reliving because they fail to see any faults of their own. Still healing, scratching, clawing, crying, working, striving to heal So I don't hurt others and raise my youngest (23months) . I vow to act on improving my life, odaat. Thank you Richard. You're amazing, just for sharing let alone passing on knowledge from experience and your own journey.
Thank you, for all you do to share whats what, and the way out of all the shit, thats not helping. And giving people their power back, into themselves. Without your videos, I had not been able to see better hear clearer or taking care of myself better again. Or had the guts to even question anything in me, or others, you have helped me get the foggy confusion away, and heal what ordinary therapists couldnt help with, and getting my own power back inside of me. And have many good laughters at myself and all the rest ;)
acceptance important.. my first step was to stop judging my emotions and just allow for the lessons or message behind the emotion to reveal what i needed at the moment. truth.. what is truth? for most the truth of our woundings not necessarily THE truth. as with feelings.. our truth, not neccesarily THE TRUTH.. i believe our journey is about LOVE and removing the obstacles withIN ourselves to love and be loved.. life's greatest gift.
Thank you for this enlightening lecture, Richard! This video helped me a lot! I watched the entire video, although I have some difficulty to understand English. I'm going to watch it again. Thank you very much. From 🇧🇷
I really appreciate your posts. These are great videos, they have really helped me a lot. I used to go to therapy but I can't afford it anymore. Your presence on the internet has given me an efficacy that I never knew was possible. Thank you!
"An' all this crass communication that has left you in the cold Isn't much for consolation when you feel so weak and old But if home is where the heart is, then there's stories to be told No, you don't need a doctor, no one else can heal your soul" - Guns N' Roses, Coma
Okay . . . Whew . . . Thankfully, just got out of that circle of background noise torture. Please excuse my UPSET AT TRYING TO. H E A R. what was actually being said over all that b.s. distracting instrumental NOISE!!!!!! Richard has very good messages, and is a good speaker, so he does NOT need to have his words and voice competed with during the audio of any of his videos. Good job finally turning off all of that added in instrumental noise! Now, we can listen to the "rest" of his message. Thank goodness and ALWAYS the best regards to Richard.
This is hands-down the best seminar I’ve seen on the topic - and certainly your finest seminar to date. This even includes the London one which I saw in person. Before the cameras rolled you may have exposed a logical fallacy in an assumption about your own inner critic whilst simultaneously being so funny that I nearly sprayed my drink over my friend Annie… in an effort to be helpful and provide interesting info, I’ve sent it to your IG account without expectation of reply (of course).
Thank you so much !! The abusive relationship I was in , made me realize I had some healing to do . I appreciate all of your videos ! You are helping many
YOU are phenomenal and I’m grateful for your courage to share both your struggle and wisdom. *Listener since January 2020* The background music distracts from your brilliance. Unfortunately my CPTSD brain can’t focus on your words with the music playing.
?how do we get emotions to ACCEPT? Unbelievable synchronicity here: I took notes the day you posted this seminar step by step - few days later went off my rocker - looked back on notes - and saw that I not done step #1. ACCEPTANCE ! Went off my rocker again last night and this rolled up on feed today. Thanks 👍 so much.
I am well on my way to healing but I noticed I was triggered by some of your jokes. I am light humored, I appreciate humor and see value in timing or how it is a great way to settle our serious mind down or break a tough topic, but sometimes I equally worry it’s hurting other peoples feelings. Not my feelings but others. Since I have learned more ways to assert myself, I do not allow others to treat me poorly on the regular, red flags are not ignored. I had an epiphany tonight. This is a codependent behavior because I am not responsible for others feelings, especially if I just imagine them. If they feel something they should say so, not my responsibility to project anything nor is it healthy. Sometimes I am overly sensitive to others energy or body language too, but still not my job to make waves where there is none. That’s also a result of life experience if not raw intuition or instinct etc. So then, it’s really a memory of me not speaking up when someone used a joke as a way not to be funny but to hurt my feelings. Translation: someone saying something cruel and either we say nothing or when we speak up or put a boundary up, sometimes we are told “just kidding”. You are “too sensitive” etc. is often a way to minimize abusive bs. The old me believed it was “me” even if deep down something said no it’s not. When it is part of the “initial confusion” and questioning our own perception it can be really muddy. It is trusting another more than ourselves, especially when they switch from so caring and lovey to so cold and hurtful. Thinking back now, when someone asked me to take on their credit card debt even before we were engaged and I said no and they lashed out, saying I was selfish, I was overreacting for getting upset and saying get out, they quickly switched emotions and projected, “I was just joking” “you are overreacting”. Then the tears and confusion set in, then they act sad and apologize and say the nicest things. The first time this happens you do question your reaction because it feels blind sliding and maddening, it’s almost doesn’t make sense so you try to find anything to justify it. Also, when they blurt out something sacred in front of many and say “come on it was just a joke” or “have humor” and you allow that and laugh just so you don’t get raged at later. It can corrupt our once healthy organic emotions. It’s obvious to me at this moment why at times humor can make me feel imagined pain for others. Crazy how that just happens. Flash of clarity. Breathe, accept and let go. Sometimes laughing is amazingly exhilarating, even remembering ridiculous moments we allowed or were not healthy enough to handle better, or simply laughing when we realize we are over thinking. It’s a good way to bring us in the now, present 🎁. It’s like my favorite Buddha image, just laughing, just sitting there and realizing everything is perfect and we just burst out in happiness and allow raw emotion to express and feel alive and really blessed! Thanks for triggering me, self reflection is essential when that happens. ✨😂✌🏻
Avoid Bee Ess. Others enjoy hurting you. It's ok to keep trying to find kindness. The problem is it's inside you. Not them. They enjoy your suffering. Let it go. It's impossible. Seek another path. It was never real. It was never about you. It was all about them. They are not there for you. You are not their puppet. Your mind screams No. So stop. Just stop. Walk away. You know why it's all wrong. They are all wrong for you. You can be you. Don't try to be who you are not. They may never change.And you knew that you couldn't change them. So let it go.
for the second to last question. i believe the more she heals and the more she opens up to her feelings and experiences her grief & sadness, she may also begin to experience joy and love anew.
I have done what you suggest; i remember while driving towards SFO I realized I felt rage for men and instead of denying it, I used the EFT technique while I expressed the emotions I was experiencing. This technique has helped me when I used it to accept what I am feeling...
Thankyou for this.....i realised a while ago that my choice in partner reflects from my traumatic childhood....narcissist after narcissist....my choice because of my mindset. Not anymore....dealing with my past now...at the age of 53...finaly 🙂 Richard ...you and Sam Vaknin have saved me.
Better late than ever!
Tracy you sound enlightened and aware. I am happy for you. Good luck on your journey and lots of love and support
Bravo for you! Learned about this from Sam at 54, went no contact with mother. great 6 year. learned in a pandemic isolation of my 32 yr old son is malignant NPD as he and his girlfiend who I support rage and abuse and dictate. Waiting to get out to move and heal. Gannon and Sam life savers!
Tracy, you have company here with me. 69. Not multiple partners, just same one over and over 50 years straight. Sending hug your way. Richard and Sam and Jesse helping me every day. This lecture in particularly on target. Psychologist we went to years ago told me, "Embrace hopelessness." Now, NOW I am getting it.💙
Hear! Hear! 54
I always thought I was in a bad relationship with someone else. Now, I realize, I needed to clean up my relationship with myself. Take my toys home. Thank you ❤️
Good one!
Bingo
I felt this 💯🙌🏾
having watched dozens of NPD videos - Richard Grannon's work is ground breaking. The other "experts" seem to be enforcing the sickness of abuse and cementing it. Acknowledging that we all have darkness in us - and if we are not telling the truth about our own culpability and engagement in the abuse, we cannot move toward healing. People who feed the victim fear, helplessness, overwhelm and anger are taking us in the opposite direction of wholeness, empowerment and wellness. Thank YOU Richard! What a remarkable voice of reason, compassion and intelligence you have offered the world. BRAVO!
Who else anxiously awaits Richard's live videos like a kid in a candy store? 🤷🏻♀️😜🧡
Me 😂
I used to, not anymore. You do heal, it does get better but I didn’t believe it would when told this over and over. No matter what I did, even traveling to UK for Richard's first live seminar didn't help but all his vids made me feel sane. The only thing that healed was going through it all, all of the emotions until time passed and it just left my head - not to forget but became a totally new me I finally loved.
Big Hugs
I prefer to see it as an organic farmers market ...
Whole foods raw 😊
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'Just admit that you failed'
-Ouch, I felt that.
I finally realized that l
had shame for not being able to protect myself. From childhood abused and shame lm not better off, and further along in healing.
“Accept the injustice “ . That’s where I’m stuck.
Me,too. My intelligent brain is still waiting for my emotions to catch up.
Exactly. How do you heal when you are completely trapped in the situation and no matter what you do you cannot escape and still have to live with someone in complete denial of of what is being done to by a narcissist who is enabled by all around them. I'm talking 50 years.
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Leave them. @@hughlindsay540
@@hughlindsay540 All.
Richard, You are a man to be proud of.
Agree 💯
As a child I accepted responsibility for my family due to my father's alcoholism. I also enabled him from a very young age. Subconsciously, I carried this in my life and relationships. Locus of control from a very young age was my parents and family needs. I see now that I took that role without questioning what I needed to do for myself. The boys in the family were much better at internalizing their locus of control.
Yoga. It's healing. My Yoga teacher says, "it's not for us to become perfect but to become more whole" and "Where you are is where you should be." My first fitness teacher, a musician and bodybuilder named Helen Wheels said "to become the best you that you can be." We're works - in - progress. Gracias!
So agree. Yoga healed me.
“We didn’t come here to be perfect, we came here to be real”
The little boy in me will not stop telling me how much pain he is in. I just want him to know I hear him and understand even though I don't remember his experiences. I doubt what he is telling me at times, just like others doubt me. I want to believe him. Doing my best to love and accept that beautiful little boy.
Does anybody else just absolutely adore Richards, Jordan Peterson impressions 😍😍😍
Excellent! Self improvement starts with accepting responsibilty for whatever situation we have put ourselves in. We always control ourselves. That means we put ourself in whatever situation we currently fnd ourselves in.
We are not children anymore. We control our own destiny.
"Just admit that you failed." My gods, the RELIEF.
"If you can't control it, you're not responsible for it."
@@Solmaz_S I think he meant in very specific cases. Like things that are out of your control like illness or the weather or what other people do. But for the majority of cases, there's responsibility, yes, like the fire case.
You are in control of your will to start fires.
There is a Purpose a bigger purpose if you are blind to not to see it is OK. Might Harmony and Order help us all to start a new world order.
The only control we have is how we respond.
This is going up on my kitchen cupboard door where all the great quotes are
Richard you have this exceptional ability to structure and explain/transfer meaning. It is special and a gift. It is a burden and a purpose in one. You have changed my life - I hear you - amongst all the noise you are a beakon of libidinal energy. Beyond the teaching may you move to the next level - whatever it is - one of the things (amongst the many) is the survival to the thrivival - it’s the humour and the fun and the joy and fuck you have made me laugh the biggest belly laughs ever - May I die laughing at one of your jokes Richard - I’ve followed you through the whole way and the super ego course has now got me to that final point. You have given me so much - gd luck - much love - I hope to be free of personal growth soon too - it feels like synchronicity tbh x
I HAVE ACCEPTED, IT FOR WHAT IT IS.
Anger is always a manifestation of fear, hurt or frustration. We must recognized how it applies to ourselves.
Richard is a God send for sure! So beautiful that he is making this available to people that can't afford or find help
Pretty decent of him! 🦋Think of the young ones in peril - if they have access to RUclips what a difference hearing some of these vids would make. 🦋
Richard, please don't delete the narc related content in here.. you said your spartan courses and site will be gone forever but please dont delete the videos here, they are life saving and I haven't had the time to watch all of them.. @richard grannon
Yes
I went to a seminar once and the presenter said...just accept what happened is unacceptable...one of the wisest statement..by accepting that something is unacceptable. In case it was for parents who had lost a child..by accepting the unacceptable one stops resisting and by getting out of your own way the healing journey continues without resistance.
Wow! The words you've said in the first 7mins are so uplifting, such super words of guidance - absolutely spot on.
To elaborate my meaning; I submitted my problem and all I need do is to wait on the healing and stop lifting the lid, stop opening it to find out what has happened so far.
Thank you Richard for your inspired words.
It's a place of peace, your soul is in a state of contentment within yourself and loneliness springs forth deep.spirituality in me. It's an amazing place. Stay strong. 😊
Great seminar Mr Grannon. Watching as a heterosexual man with massive protector fantasy, I had to repeatedly catch myself falling for these beautiful but traumatised women. I heard you well when you spoke recently of your own tendency to project this saviour/hero role and how it may not serve you. I learned a lot about me watching this. Much to reflect on. Thank you. Time for me to be authentic and change the role.
Thank you Richie. So many stand out moments. For me something clicked like clockwork when you said it is not about him, he is a symbol. I took to my journal and wrote all the similarities that he has with my father. It was eye opening and a huge step in my healing.
Richard, This video was perfect, our world and us as individuals need this understanding. Thank You!!!!
This was SOOOOO good. I just found your videos and am binge-watching them. You have helped me more than years of therapy (which did not help; yoga did though. lol). Thank you for being you. Thank you for being so honest and real!!
Thank you so much, Richard! I have experienced some healing. However, I’ve been feeling tuck lately. The timing of watching this video was perfect. I’ve been too much in my own head. And, need every word you shared! Thanks so much.
Thank you so much for this video. From the getgo, you were speaking about what I have been doing right now. I am fighting memories and consequences and I'm tired. I have not wanted to accept all I went through. I have blamed myself from childhood. I want to forget it. That has not been working. I am ready to accept what comes up and not fight it anymore.I just found your channel recently and you are a true blessing.
I'm so glad I didn't miss this 🙌🙌
One of the most Crucial videos about the healing on youtube! Great seminar, thank you!
1:43:36 "(Tissue crinkling drowns out atendee)" 😂 the captions made me laugh way too much at points. Also, the seminars are so frickin well done. Paradigm changing for me for sure.
So proud of you, Richard, what a lovely man you have become thank you for trying to help others. I pray we will all be blessed by your endeavors.
I find most every word and how you use it to be very powerful. I am taking notes. I am many times ready to use the sword of truth to cut through the shadows in life. I am many times willing to face the dragons alone even when it hurts, even when it means I walk into a loosing battle. I am not perfect but this is the work I have come here to do on this planet and I take it seriously. I am often faced with others who have not even begun to open up these deeper layers within and work on them, and they seem to really not like my vibe. Which is funny because I really try my best to live in a high level of morality and integrity. When you are a truth and freedom fighter you can easily be hated, but some of us are willing to die for what we believe in. This is my heart and soul, principal above all else.
""Those who flow as life flows know there is no other way" Lao Tzu
My favourite quote
The ugly crying truth of the situation!! Worth it! Extremely uncomfortable at times but make a safe word and keep moving forward! 💝 lhe reward is priceless self sustaining and my more beautiful thank imaginabke. 💓
What a concept and understanding....why hasn't anyone said this before...?? is my thought about most things Richard says bc when he says something it's so clear...and it's like a bulls eye...on truth...and yet no one said it before. This time he said...your body heals it'self just like it does with a cut...BUT WE are the ones that stand in the way...or block it. and how is in the shadow and the shadow just means the unseen....it's the unconscious......then he gives some ideas of how to do this ..but more like principals than techniques. I loved this so much. Grateful...bc his words just resonate and ring true as tho all my life i knew this but never gave it any mind....bc didn't hear it anywhere else. What confirmation to what our own mind and truth is (there all the time but we don't listen or trust it). Now to just DO it...apply it. Thank you so much Richard for being so honest and clean with what we as a world /culture/consciousness have made so complicated and muddied it when it could have easier to heal and grow and change....and now we can do it that way.
Acceptance!! That reminds me of the Serenity Prayer.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Amazing seminar, I think the best one to date, go RG!!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Thank-you for this high quality content!
RUclips - this is what your potential looks like!
Best video yet in my humble opinion! Thank you Richard! 💞
Very authentic and real. My first and only RUclips video stream I watch and follow. Really helps me a lot.
Captivated, raw ugly truth of acceptance and self accountability, as always enjoying the eccentric raw humor😁💪
a year ago I discovered this material. Thank you sincerely, Richard Grannon. It's hard to find quality resources when someone isnt used to helping themselves/been wrapped up.
Personally I've struggling with PTSD, complex and some very recent. The grounding I've found doing a few of the exercises Richard provides, it has helped me get my awareness and sense of self and automation back.
Mr Grannon love you. Thank you for your support.. 😘
Such a great presentation in Belgrade …
Just starting on my healing journey. Thank you for the content you make Richard.
This was such a wonderful experience. Can't even imagine how much I would have loved being there!
I have been working a lot on radical acceptance in places that have held me back the most. So grateful 💪❤💫
Real, direct, practical, helpful and useful... as always.
Thanks a million for everything, Richard! 🙏
Truly grateful for the time and effort you have put into helping people, looking forward to what you do next 😊
Its not cold Richard..it is so easy to do..Mom in nursing home with brain damage..end of 20 year relationship
...Father just passed...I am grateful for the past year you have shared.. after following.for way too many years..I get it..finally❤
Lots of ladies in the audience, but that’s cool 😎!
I learn things from this guy all of the time! Amazing!
I love when a video shows up just when needed. Just when I am ready to accept it. Thank you Richard for ALL you share.
I sincerely appreciate your help....I have been seeking answers for years....This is phenomenal 🙌 👏 amazing and that is exactly 💯 correct....you are spot on....Bless you
Acceptance is key to healing. Thank you!!
Namaste Richard, I love you soooo much! I love your work, truly you have helped me many, many days on this journey!
Please respectfully allow me to say that your clientele are very clearly suffering from severe abuse and psychological and spiritual trauma (detached from emotions?!? It seriously should be criminal! But I’ve been there). 😭
No surprise there, I’m sure. But you are on the cusp of a HUGE awakening, I can hear it in many, many of your videos. You’re flirting with God, but you’re not fully sold out yet. It’s ok, I get it.
Please allow me to say that you are doing a mighty work, and please keep going, keep searching, keep opening, this is vital, and you are more valuable than you realize.
There’s a reason Sam could no longer stand the site of you. His reasons are LIES, as the enemy likes to do. You know I speak the truth.
I’m grateful the world has you for such a time as this, and you are a hair fraction (I’m sorry I don’t know the English colloquialisms for this) from helping a magnitude more people than you could have ever dreamed. But perhaps you know this too.
I know it’s a lot for this venue, but I didn’t know how else to reach you with this message. 🩵
The title alone was worth the time, wo woowoo bullshit. Love it
I came out of an abusive relationship with a narcissist. Wrecked me financially but basically I am to blame. I was besotted but could see the signs
Thank you Richard. I came back to this after a sudden unexpected failure. Using the EL techniques have brought me through. Still painful but I see how I can move forward instead of shutting down and dying.
Thanks for your wonderful work.
My body kept score. Two different. Breast cancers=2mastectomies, endometrial cancer=total hysterectomy, recto-sigmoid cancer, 2 TIA's, and Fibromyalgia . None of cancers related. All of these within last 20 years. He cheated 2 years of our dating plus all 50 years marriage! I suspected. Could not prove. He looked at Porn last 20 years all day as he no longer worked, while I did even after Drs told me to stop. He was diagnosed anxiety and bi polar...now he has told me of his 52 years infidelity. Who wouldn't be anxious and appear bi polar leading double life. His longest affair 4 years during lunch hours 2 times each week. You are correct about must implement internal locus. I am early along this journey. God bless those of us along our paths to us.
Hi Brooke. I have so much compassion for you. I took a screenshot of your comment. I am 28 years old with a now 1 year old. Separated from the malignant narc (probably psycopath) with a protective order in place. My mothers body kept score of the many ways my father was abusive to her. After seeing what happened to my mom I decided I would never sacrifice my body (the thing that would either keep me comfortable or miserable in this life) for a man. Your comment will also serve as a reminder. I have to be physically and mentally strong for my son.
@@Joy-zn2lo Dear Heart, Sweet of you to let me know my poor choices and consequences have inspired you enough to save them, to help you save you! That takes great courage at your age and with your little one. I found out his first affair was a "one nighter" with my "best friend" right before our wedding. I was 19, just turned. He was 23. The best man told me he caught husband in the act after AFTER we had been married 5 months and I was 2 1/2 months pregnant. Back then I felt, I am here now. My parents won't help me. I have no where to go. (Womens shelters not a thing yet) He insists he did not touch her but yes they were together. At 8 months of that same preg I found out he was with a women 6 yrs older for 4 months of preg. I should have somehow left then for sure. He insisted he never touched her either. I found out from a guy friend he had been using as an alibi. The friends wife insisted he tell me. Within 3 days of him telling on my husband the woman's husband called me! So many more affairs that I did not know about until this past year. One lasted 4...FOUR years. Nooners, getting oral sex in parking lot of library! Tawdry. It was 30 years ago, but I wentvto see her anyway. I should write a book. I am devastated. Physically and emotionally. I have been on antidepressants since first mastectomy and antianxiety meds after second one. How I wish I had been brave like you. Brave is a crazy word to use as what else is the right thing to do but put one foot in front of the other to provide a better life for your child and to keep yourself from a living Hell? Staying not only damaged me but screwed up 4 children through his mind games and rages. You have absolutely made the right choice. Your road will be hard for a season but then your good life will come back. Remember, keep an eye out for "red flags" when dating!! You have my heart and prayers. God bless you. Big Hugs. One for you. One for baby. One for your mom💙💙💙
I didn't listen because the piano was distracting. I'm trying again because yet again this is an excellent video
thank you
59:53 if no one hears it, you might as well not say it. Spot on. Thanks again Richard
This was incredibly mind opening towards healing🙏 Thank you.
There's always somome at a seminar who dominates the conversation and uses it as a therapy opportunity 😭 Richard was great with the boundaries
U are a fucking psychological rock star.. lol! In all seriousness, u have helped me immensely 🎉
Thank you, Richard. This was incredibly helpful to me. I needed this insight more than you can imagine. You truly do keep me on track. And I am getting stronger with the empowering wisdom in all you share. Bless You!! 🙏💖
I love that you described this "without the woo woo bullshit."
Mom is an addict. 3 of us(girls), m.j.(youngest) o.d.d in 2019, same year my daughters were legally adopted by foster parents. I connected with dad n his wife, Nov 2019, then mom in 2020. Reliving because they fail to see any faults of their own. Still healing, scratching, clawing, crying, working, striving to heal So I don't hurt others and raise my youngest (23months) . I vow to act on improving my life, odaat. Thank you Richard. You're amazing, just for sharing let alone passing on knowledge from experience and your own journey.
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Thanks Richard as always love your videos 💕
Thank you, for all you do to share whats what, and the way out of all the shit, thats not helping. And giving people their power back, into themselves. Without your videos, I had not been able to see better hear clearer or taking care of myself better again. Or had the guts to even question anything in me, or others, you have helped me get the foggy confusion away, and heal what ordinary therapists couldnt help with, and getting my own power back inside of me. And have many good laughters at myself and all the rest ;)
acceptance important..
my first step was to stop judging my emotions and just allow for the lessons or message behind the emotion to reveal what i needed at the moment.
truth.. what is truth? for most the truth of our woundings not necessarily THE truth. as with feelings.. our truth, not neccesarily THE TRUTH..
i believe our journey is about LOVE and removing the obstacles withIN ourselves to love and be loved.. life's greatest gift.
Beautiful comment and I agree ❤️
Thank you for this enlightening lecture, Richard! This video helped me a lot! I watched the entire video, although I have some difficulty to understand English. I'm going to watch it again. Thank you very much. From 🇧🇷
I really appreciate your posts. These are great videos, they have really helped me a lot. I used to go to therapy but I can't afford it anymore. Your presence on the internet has given me an efficacy that I never knew was possible. Thank you!
Thank you, long time grateful follower
Richard is the best :)
Brilliant Richard. Thank YOU!
"An' all this crass communication that has left you in the cold
Isn't much for consolation when you feel so weak and old
But if home is where the heart is, then there's stories to be told
No, you don't need a doctor, no one else can heal your soul"
- Guns N' Roses, Coma
Okay . . . Whew . . . Thankfully, just got out of that circle of background noise torture. Please excuse my UPSET AT TRYING TO. H E A R. what was actually being said over all that b.s. distracting instrumental NOISE!!!!!!
Richard has very good messages, and is a good speaker, so he does NOT need to have his words and voice competed with during the audio of any of his videos.
Good job finally turning off all of that added in instrumental noise!
Now, we can listen to the "rest" of his message. Thank goodness and ALWAYS the best regards to Richard.
Thanks Richard. You're doing God's work.
Such a wonderful and powerful song 🙏🏻
This is hands-down the best seminar I’ve seen on the topic - and certainly your finest seminar to date. This even includes the London one which I saw in person. Before the cameras rolled you may have exposed a logical fallacy in an assumption about your own inner critic whilst simultaneously being so funny that I nearly sprayed my drink over my friend Annie… in an effort to be helpful and provide interesting info, I’ve sent it to your IG account without expectation of reply (of course).
Good lecture seminar. I added it to my interdisciplinary playlist Creative Psychology.
Goddamn....This is brilliant.
Thank you for the great seminar.
And the fun one)))
I laughed to tears)))
This is a very valuable video Richard. TYVVM. It took all kinds of reading and DBT to get me to start recognizing this. You are a great help.
Incredibly helpful, thank you.
You're work is just Amazing thank you for your help to me by learning this amazing information from you
Good man Rich! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Hvala!🙌
Thank you so much !! The abusive relationship I was in , made me realize I had some healing to do . I appreciate all of your videos ! You are helping many
YOU are phenomenal and I’m grateful for your courage to share both your struggle and wisdom. *Listener since January 2020*
The background music distracts from your brilliance. Unfortunately my CPTSD brain can’t focus on your words with the music playing.
Oh to have the ability to see yourself as others see you
?how do we get emotions to ACCEPT? Unbelievable synchronicity here: I took notes the day you posted this seminar step by step - few days later went off my rocker - looked back on notes - and saw that I not done step #1. ACCEPTANCE ! Went off my rocker again last night and this rolled up on feed today. Thanks 👍 so much.
I am well on my way to healing but I noticed I was triggered by some of your jokes. I am light humored, I appreciate humor and see value in timing or how it is a great way to settle our serious mind down or break a tough topic, but sometimes I equally worry it’s hurting other peoples feelings. Not my feelings but others. Since I have learned more ways to assert myself, I do not allow others to treat me poorly on the regular, red flags are not ignored.
I had an epiphany tonight. This is a codependent behavior because I am not responsible for others feelings, especially if I just imagine them. If they feel something they should say so, not my responsibility to project anything nor is it healthy. Sometimes I am overly sensitive to others energy or body language too, but still not my job to make waves where there is none. That’s also a result of life experience if not raw intuition or instinct etc.
So then, it’s really a memory of me not speaking up when someone used a joke as a way not to be funny but to hurt my feelings. Translation: someone saying something cruel and either we say nothing or when we speak up or put a boundary up, sometimes we are told “just kidding”. You are “too sensitive” etc. is often a way to minimize abusive bs.
The old me believed it was “me” even if deep down something said no it’s not.
When it is part of the “initial confusion” and questioning our own perception it can be really muddy. It is trusting another more than ourselves, especially when they switch from so caring and lovey to so cold and hurtful.
Thinking back now, when someone asked me to take on their credit card debt even before we were engaged and I said no and they lashed out, saying I was selfish, I was overreacting for getting upset and saying get out, they quickly switched emotions and projected, “I was just joking” “you are overreacting”. Then the tears and confusion set in, then they act sad and apologize and say the nicest things.
The first time this happens you do question your reaction because it feels blind sliding and maddening, it’s almost doesn’t make sense so you try to find anything to justify it.
Also, when they blurt out something sacred in front of many and say “come on it was just a joke” or “have humor” and you allow that and laugh just so you don’t get raged at later.
It can corrupt our once healthy organic emotions.
It’s obvious to me at this moment why at times humor can make me feel imagined pain for others. Crazy how that just happens.
Flash of clarity. Breathe, accept and let go.
Sometimes laughing is amazingly exhilarating, even remembering ridiculous moments we allowed or were not healthy enough to handle better, or simply laughing when we realize we are over thinking. It’s a good way to bring us in the now, present 🎁.
It’s like my favorite Buddha image, just laughing, just sitting there and realizing everything is perfect and we just burst out in happiness and allow raw emotion to express and feel alive and really blessed!
Thanks for triggering me, self reflection is essential when that happens.
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Avoid Bee Ess. Others enjoy hurting you. It's ok to keep trying to find kindness. The problem is it's inside you. Not them. They enjoy your suffering. Let it go. It's impossible. Seek another path. It was never real. It was never about you. It was all about them. They are not there for you. You are not their puppet. Your mind screams No. So stop. Just stop. Walk away. You know why it's all wrong. They are all wrong for you. You can be you. Don't try to be who you are not. They may never change.And you knew that you couldn't change them. So let it go.
for the second to last question. i believe the more she heals and the more she opens up to her feelings and experiences her grief & sadness, she may also begin to experience joy and love anew.
Well said Brandy and the new actors aren't easy on us either. So we need to form our own personal inner circle....
Smokey smart Richard! Amazing.
I loved the somatic association with truth telling. This reminded me to try more yin yoga. Ty Richard.
I have done what you suggest; i remember while driving towards SFO I realized I felt rage for men and instead of denying it, I used the EFT technique while I expressed the emotions I was experiencing. This technique has helped me when I used it to accept what I am feeling...
Hit that like button for him!