For those of us who haven't been a patient of Dr Gabor Maté, we are so blessed to have a rich selection of podcasts, each a little different, to listen to over and over, and help ourselves with the doctor's wisdom. He's already helped me more than all the counselling sessions I've had in the last few years.
I've been following Dr. Maté's work for well over a decade now. His work is paramount for us getting out of this insane sick society. Mercy on all of us.
Dr Mate is such a humble soul and extremly valuable to us all. I love his work and all he shares with us. I would love to attend one of his work shops. Bless up.
As a nurse, every patient now has a DX of anxiety and depression. People are sad, sick, disgusted and confused. Everyone can agree, something is REALLY VERY WRONG!
You know, your right, what's wrong, is that 12% of humanity, is been trying, to inslave, 88% with a serious militar y might,or economic sanctions, or bullying for greed, and resources.etc.The press manipulated and hijackt, by capital. And because of all that...greetings😢
It's never been any different, government, mainstream medicine etc has always been either corrupt or plain ignorant. I realised what Gabor is talking about..over 20 years ago..so it's nothing new.
For me, crying releases stress from my body and allows me to relax and this bodily relaxation keeps me from getting sick. When I used to attend weekly yoga classes a few years ago before I moved to another province, I always cried spontaneously throughout the class. I didn't wail as I cried, not wanting to disturb others in the room but the crying came as a result of moving my body in a calm and silent space where nothing was expected of me and I could simply 'be present.' I think there are so few places and spaces to be present and allow feelings to rise up. Also, while at Kripalu Yoga Retreat Centre for a week, I cried during every yoga class as I moved my body. It's quite remarkable. Few people whom I've told understand this. Crying is seen as something to resolve or stop, but for me I've felt its breath-giving effects on my emotional and physical state of being.
Thank you for your beautiful share. Reflecting Self-knowing and what works for your unique way of release, clearing, Self-discovery and walking your Path. Beautiful to witness. Namaste. Sat Nam.
Your crying story reminds me of one episode of Everybody Loves Raymond when Marie pops in to visit Debra and finds her crying. Marie thinks something is terribly wrong and then Debra explains that women (and probably men) just need to cry sometimes to release. Marie thinks a moment and remembers her own struggles and agrees. Decades ago I worked for a medical answering service when thunderstorms would knock out the whole computer system. Our boss was a female go getter who was a wealth of resource and this one time nothing worked and she finally laid her head on the counter and asked,”Can I cry now?” We all chimed in “Yes!”
I have MS. My mother died of complications from her RA. My father died of cancer. It took decades for me to understand that I had been abused by them. It took decades more to understand why they abused me and to forgive them for it. I’m in my mid-60’s, and I’m still working to heal the trauma of my past. Despite my age and my limited time left, I hope to heal enough to know what it’s like to not be depressed or anxious, to feel well in a way I never have, to have compassion for myself and a cathartic break from my past, and to meet my authentic self finally.
I was raised strict LDS (Mormon), and love was VERY conditional, although I was being taught about the importance of Unconditional love. It messed with me, very deeply. Double binds starting at 18 months old, and a belief system that defines who and what you are and where your worth is derived, can really take time to deconstruct, mourne and release. Not being allowed to show anger, or individuate at age 2 or in adolescence, has caused me much grief, suffering and has made me need to completely deconstruct my thought processes and views of the world, and myself. I'm 40 and FINALLY giving myself permission to individuate, explore and build myself, from the bottom up. Better late than never!
there's many issues that've surfaced from the LDS scandals - maybe they'll help you see what's going on. The reason is we shouldn't be at the whim of bad stuff in our lives.
Well done and it takes guts to do that x doing similar work on myself and it's like unlearning what you have been taught isn't it? to replace with your true unique self x all the very best💚🙏
i was raised LDS too-- and i am so glad you are giving yourself the gift of growing beyond what you have been indoctrinated with. love is a currency in our culture-- and it does do real emotional damage. xoxo
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
I'm so happy that 12 Step stuff was brought up. When I was in AA, I consistently felt like, "Yes, this is helping me to not drink, but something else, something deeper, is missing..." and I have since discovered that what was missing was trauma work. Long story short, I have also discovered Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families, which does address trauma, and implements inner child work, etc. It has been incredibly healing for me! Thanks for having Dr. Mate on, Rich - great conversation!
Did you attend the ACA meetings online or in person? Is it just talking about childhood trauma with others? Is it better to attend this meeting over therapy?
@@bobbettemarks6439 Did you attend the ACA meetings online or in person? Is it just talking about childhood trauma with others? Is it better to attend this meeting over therapy?
Honestly, DR Gabor Mate is freaking amazing, he hits every cords and speaks what I've always been thinking. Thank you Lord for creating Dr. Gabor to help the world in healing. So much respect.
Don't you mean, thank you lord for putting Gabor through so much suffering so he could share his learnings with us in the later years of his life... (?) Right?
#1 Rich, I really love your channel. No hype and really IMPORTANT guests. #2 Dr. Mate changed my life as a 1st time Dad. I thought "time out" was the way to go for my 3 year old Son, but after watching Dr. Mate in another talk, I realized how important it was to be with him when he needed me most and LISTEN to him about how he was upset instead of putting him in "time out." My Son and I now sit in his little chairs and talk about how he feels and how I feel. IT REALLY WAS A GAME CHANGER. Dr. Mate, you REALLY changed life. Thank you so much.
You sound like an amazing dad. From someone who has been raised by two horribly abusive/violent parents, it makes my heart sing to see comments like this. The part were you mentioned about both of you sitting on little chairs and talking about your feelings together made me smile soooo much. Thankyou for being great dad for your kid mate 💙
@@thecrowsnest44 I am so sorry that you had to go through that. How are you doing with it? Thank you for your beautiful reply to my post. My name is Rick.
your comment healed my heart as I work with adults who need to reparent themselves never having had this kind of emotional validation and safety in the formative years. Thank you, to parent well (in this one way) is to help the whole world. Thankyou!
What’s been super interesting to me as I heal from CPTSD, is that I have started prioritizing my physical health, including doing moderate aerobic exercise and basic stretching of various muscles, and the release of trauma in my body is profoundly noticeable. Where I was previously storing most emotional pain in my heart area, it’s now spread to the rest of my body. I can tell my body is now connecting with itself and coming online where it was previously shut down. To those dealing with trauma, consider doing some basic stretches to move those muscles, the body work goes hand in hand with cognitive and emotional awareness of trauma healing. ❤💪
Yes, because physical exercise up-regulates anti-aging and anti-disease biological processes, hormones, neurotransmitters and has a modulating effect on immune system function. In essence, exercise signals healing and longevity. Add proper diet (with supplementation) proper rest, and proper mood/mental regulatory behavior and you maximize health and longevity.
I absolutely agree. I’ve recently started doing yoga, walking & swimming as part of my routine & the yoga alone is helping my anxiety & ptsd soooo much! Wish I’d done this years ago instead of taking meds
Thank you for your enlightening share....Any movement,..dancing, yoga or simple stretching allows us to begin the thawing of old junk...glad to hear of your gifts. Blessings, Meg
The medical system not only ignores trauma but creates trauma. Medical trauma is rarely spoken of. Emergency surgery, misdiagnosis, gaslighting, are just a few of the things create trauma in patients.
I was treated horribly the last time I tried to deal with them. The only thing they helped me out with is helping me out of my money,, and I felt insulted to boot.
That’s why patients need to get good, educated information about their problems or have someone who understands with them when they go visit their Drs. I know this is not always possible, but it is the best and only way to make the Drs. explain the issues to you and get proper treatment. If the Dr. won’t discuss your health with you, then it’s time to find a replacement.
What I understand so far about healing is that it's not a linear process, there are ups and downs, and it's much harder than I thought it would be, especially if you're alone. I'm there now, I'm working on it and hopefully I'll make it.
I hope you make it, too, Gabriela. I understand being alone...sometimes this makes the struggle seem harder. I just listened to a podcast with author, Kamal Ravikant, who wrote "Love Yourself Like Your Life Depended on It." A practical guide he developed during a difficult time in his life and continues to follow. Gabor Mate is excellent. This book is one I believe will also be helpful.
Thank you to you both! Gabor Maté is the premier mental health expert who specializes in how child-hood trauma and our toxic culture manifests later on in people’s lives.
Gabor Mate is one of my favorite human beings. I discovered him through your podcasts and his books are wonderful in their wealth of knowledge and humanity. Thank you for another podcast with him!
For hundreds of thousands of years people who were more introverted lived in small communities and didn't really have to travel far or meet lots of new people. In the last 100 years people have been moving further and further away from old friend groups and families. The modern world demands that at least a third of people fake extroversion in order to live and work. Humanity has never been in a position like this before. Well done Dr. Mate for pointing out so many of societies modern ills!
Reminds me of the words of the Indian philosopher Krisnamurti who said. “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society”! Gabor echoes the truth of that observation by his own individual experience and by what he has learnt as a wise and compassionate medical practitioner!
our way of expressing these concepts always attracts me, and nothing, but nothing compares with it-- the tone, the depth of spirituality, I can't put it into words. Your Manifesting Manual is something I can read over and over and soak up. ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq I am in process of making the routine a solid part of my life, and it has made a difference! I LOVE your 12 meditations too! I know I am a different person after 9 months with Super Manifestor, and in process of continued positive change! You deserve accolades every day of the year! Keep on with everything, and as we say in Spanish, ANIMO! Lots of love and every blessing to you both.
Oh my, after a two hour tour-de-force of the soul, I almost had to cry in the end, when Rich closed the talk with a very personal statement. I am deeply, deeply grateful for your podcast, Mr. Roll. May god protect you and your family! THANK YOU.
Hi everyone, I am literally going through the worst challenge in my life and feel like this video is changing my life at the moment. Super grateful and huge hug 🤗❤️ listen to yourself and love yourself
What a breath of fresh air when listening to this topic. I really appreciate the atmosphere you bring in these interviews, and this perspective on the topic really does shine a light on our crippling society. We cannot paint positivity over what is really happening and really need to focus on the true nature of human beings and our environment. Once we get those two things healthy and thriving what a beautiful world we could make.
I love Gabor but I also really love Rich Roll and your calm and relaxed interviewing style and your overall calming and reassuring presence.I really love your interviews and you honest and open approach. Its just such a pleasurable listen to not only what you say but how you say it,your voice and tone is very relaxing and good for the nervous system :) Also totally agree with Gabors assessment of how its dangerous for young kids or teenagers to put their peer group as their major source of attachment or approval and to look for guidance or knowledge they should begetting from elders".I get it that teenagers by their nature and development are at the point of seeking more indpendence and individuating from parents but too often it is done with little guidance from parental input and good communication.
Correct, kids today identify with their peers more than their families. But that is not necessarily the situation everywhere. There are societies where, even today, that is not the case because they have not gone off track like we have. It's time to reestablish connections with parents, families and communities otherwise we are lost.
Rich Roll is one of the best interviewer out there thanks to his experience with trauma. I wish Gabor Mate was a lot more mainstream given the sheer amount of help his work has provided me. So far in my life and in my personal development journey he's been the most helpful. I thank you Gabor for your help in making my life a tiny more enlightened.
Doctor Matt is so soothing, but also touching in an area,that doctors and people do not want to talk about...I cannot understand the reason this side of life is so hidden!?
Thank-you Rich. I just found your channel and it's unbelievable the amount of high quality education information you put out on your channel. This channel is a real 💎.
I've been reading Gabor since his Realm of Hungry Ghosts " book, (2009?) And everything since. He is just brilliant. His book on ADD, Scattered Minds, and raising kids, Hold Your Kids Close, are excellent for anyone dealing with any part of those groups. Highly recommend him, I have been helped soooooooo much by Dr Mate. I really love him, and thank him so much.
The way he describes the autoimmune disease is exactly how I got mine. My chronic illness is a direct order for me to be me and change my path. I feel it is a blessing, there is no other way to get through to me.
It's so satisfying to hear this! As someone that developed a drug addiction to cover the pain I was going through, I met many many addicts and quickly realized that each of them had a trauma somewhere in their life and from that point they started using. I went to rehab and they reprogram you and never talked about what started the addiction. But now I know I was on the right track and I truly believe that all drug addicts have a deep hurt within them that they cover up with drugs.
Painful trauma does not get resolved immediately unless you have a profound spiritual experience which has happened. For most people it is like pulling a thread out of the fabric until it all unravels. The things in my past that used to horrify me when I was acting out in my addiction are less painful to look it. Gaining a surer foothold on life comes with honesty and diminishes the hold trauma and your thoughts about your behavior has on you.
This is so great to hear from Gabor Mate again! I love how Rich makes the most out of his episodes for the things he is dealing with which we all deal with!
The way Gabor said that what is happening to me is not a disease but trauma from my childhood and this alcohol, sex, drugs, etc. is the way I deal with, or have dealt with my pain, is what I have been saying for a long time.
Just found this channel. Wow, have I been missing a gem! Love Dr. Mate, not just for his insightful expertise, but also for his willingness to share his own struggles & humanity ❤️. This interview was excellent! I'm hooked instantly on this channel.
Susan! I'm jealous of you! I've been following Rich since 2015ish and haven't missed many episodes. If you knew the amazing content you have yet to discover of Rich's, your mind would explode. Enjoy diving deep with Rich, he will change the way you see your life!
Psilocybin containing mushrooms saved my life. The drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@Lillian Victoria I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across *dr.jeromespores* a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@@ryancihet555 I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
Thank you Rich Roll for this podcast episode inviting Gabor Maté. Its so important to speak in public about traumas in connection to diseases in order to spread this knowledge in society. There's more than food, lack of movement and sleep that makes you sick. Sometimes its even so deap that the cause of a disease is a intergenerational trauma. Interesting that he points out the importance of the social and cultural toxicity as a reason for the raise of mental diseases or autoimmun diseases. So those diseases are a society problem. I love his definition of trauma as not defining it as an event rather then as an emotional consequence of the event or not-event. Its calming to know that gens are turned on and off according to the circumstances. We are totally out of balance as society. Some are hit worse, some are less, but in total we all get touched in one way or an other. Great example about the kid being angry or the misinformation of not picking up a crying baby, how you suppress natural human reaction and you start conditioning them that its not ok to feel like you feel and learn them that love is conditional. Society really doesnt support healing. I totally agree we need a trauma sensitive medicine and legal system. I also think its important to talk in public about your own traumatic experiences or mental struggeling. It helps and relieves. But as said you shouldnt victimize yourself or even identify yourself with your disease, especially in case of mental disorders. And you shouldnt take the open talking about your problems as an excuse to not change anything about it, as you should stay in your self-empowerment and self-responsabilty.
Rich, I enjoyed this interview. After 40plus years in 12-step recovery, the acknowledgment of my own trauma has also been helpful. In the early days, We just didn't know what to do with it. In my work these days with Dads in recovery, Trauma awareness is essential. Love Melts Trauma. Thank you again for this work. Sending Love.
This is beyond profound...Doctor Mate is so humble and is brilliant, and every word we heard was a gem...thank you Doctor and thank you Rich for this wonderful episode
THIS.WAS.PERFECT! From the ALL TO RELATABLE epitaph joke, to the disgusting set up of our systematic oppression and culturally opressive expectations, to the encouragement to listen to your parental instincts vs. Current parental trends. Thank you to you both! There was NOTHING I didn't love (and I personally have a lot of beef with AA... but you both addressed its place in society well.) I especially LOVED the real language. All the f*cks and bullsh*ts cause it's healthy anger!!!!!
I was a student nurse at 18 yrs of age. I had to deal with very upsetting situations on a daily basis. Also i’m a very sensitive person & these traumatic situations had a great impact on my psyche. I couldn’t sleep at night or function during the day
This interview brought me to tears. Dr. Gabor's humanity is astounding. As a parent and teacher, I highly recommend his other book, Hold on to Your Kids, written with Dr. Neufeld. Thank you Rich Roll fir your high quality programs.
Dear Rich, I am living proof of what Dr Mate has discovered. I was a 'yes' person which led me to having cancer. 15 years later, I face new challenges and stresses. Thanks to you and your amazing prophet guests like Gabor, remind us to never go back to where we were. Thank you Rich
This is the most insightful presentation I have seen …maybe ever. As a 25 year”clean” addict (having done thousands of meetings, many rehabs etc. I sense that Dr. Mate can see that something is missing there.(inAA) I found that to be true but not so in Alanon, which I call “the graduate program.” That is where I learned about who I am and my relationships with all kind of other people. I have never felt more secure than I do now and that covers a great deal of territory.I am very worried about many”things” currently happening. in our world. Being compassionate is my daily goal as I like myself better that way. Thanks to both of you.
Thank you I’ve been watching your channel and many of Gabor Mate’s interviews as I’m dealing with my husbands battle with addiction and the trauma/PTSD We’ve both endured. I recently was diagnosed with a very rare auto immune disease, and I’m absolutely fascinated to dive into trauma and the links to addiction and my own health and disease. I personally grew up in a very toxic environment filled with many traumatic occasions. Thank you this is an incredible connection I can wait to read more about.
The first time I went to an NA meeting and heard someone say " Hello, I'm so and so and I'm an addict", I was so confused because that person had been clean for so many years. When I questioned why they identified that way I was met with resistance and anger. I just did not understand why they would identify that way when I was seeing a healed person who was more than an addiction. It never sat well with me because I truly believe all diseases including the disease of addiction has a cure. It's so comforting to know that the science and work of so many great minds are bringing this to light by being so bold and brave and challenging the current paradigms and modalities of addiction and recovery.
As Rich Roll said it Dr. Gabor Maté is truly a gift to us in this lifetime and for many centuries later. Rich and Dr. Gabor thank you for this needed conversation.
An amazingly insightful conversation (as usual)! The more I observe aspects of our culture and learn about the effects of colonialization, the more I am convinced our culture is sociopathic. It is difficult to look at but as an individual, I see it as my job to continue to look, not look away, and work to better both myself and society however I can.
I do agree living with someone with an addiction & now living away from that person was the greatest life lesson for me. I learned so much through relapse, recovery . Someone else’s conflict is not mine. I work toward living my most authentic self now. I believe in what Dr M teaches & know now leading someone to freedom is not my responsibility. I thank you for my ongoing education 😊
Rich you are really an ultra amazing human being. I am awed by your vocabulary, your flow of conversation, and so much more. Thank you from a grateful recovering alcoholic.
Love the way Dr. Maté speaks about addiction, putting trauma awareness in the forefront rather than the substance (alcohol, drugs, etc.) and the subsequent labelling
Thank you so much. Since finding Dr.Mate and reading some of his books I have now realized my trauma and why I was diagnosed with MS in my early 20’s. I love all of this!!! Thank you Rich my mind is blown!
This type of content is SO important on RUclips. I am grateful I 'met' Gabor Maté this way and I am looking forward to share his knowledge with other people struggling
Rich, I cannot express the gratitude I feel for all of the information / education I have derived from your podcast, which in turn has been monumental in my recovery. Thank you 1000 times over. ❤🙏
Listening for dr Maté for a couple of years now has help understand just a tiny bit about my addiction and that’s a huge help for someone who think he is just wrong
Have known this and it's challenging to teach to my coaching clients. Asking the right questions is always the goal. Everyone can benefit from this episode! Brilliant and so crucial to all today!!
At 01:14:28 I would suggest Pete Walker's book as a map on psychoeducation and understanding the fight/flight/freeze/fawn for AA as the book Complex PTSD from Surviving is gold on the subject. I recall 12 weeks I did in AA and I stopped going as found it quite dogmatic in only one book reference. I also do not believe we are powerless. I used alcohol to self-soothe as I began firstly I won't knock those 12 weeks as it gave me enough time to see that something else was going on in me. I then went and got therapy but pre that tons of psychoeducation. No two paths will be the same and as PW says "Healing is not all or Nothing". I have bought the new book by Gabor on Audible and loved this interview. I also think as Gabor says repeating a negative statement about what "I Am" is not helpful to people on any level. To say yes I have this issue that I need help with is another matter. Anyways .. healing to us all and as Jung pointed out the route to becoming whole is a life's work to our last breath. I also think that telling one's story develops over time and can be used to help others as one is able to self-soothe in loving healthy ways then the story softens popping up only at times in nightmares or triggers but we then improve upon our reactions again via psychoeducation. We do not need to perfect anything we are beautifully human.
Extreme poverty (material and spiritual) is the worst act of violence. The system which is materialistic 100%, makes you feel guilty if you don't comply with its dishonest, incoherent, unjust, cynic, sick ways, plus the poisoned foods and drugs..what else can we expect.....love Dr Mate been listening him for few years now, great interview Gracias Dr Mate again ..
Thank you very much. Perfect description why I'm leaving society thinking that I was the wrong one and no able to fit in and always trying to help to be helpless.
I've been listening to Dr. Mate for a while and he's fascinating! This is so important. One question bugs me though- the previous generation had it worse than we do when it comes to childhood trauma, racism, etc. and we still see a significant rise in cancer and autoimmune disease in our generation. So there are clearly additional issues in the culture.
Great insights. As a 12 step atheist i too am constantly trying to adjust the sobriety wheel thru the winding recovery journey road. Fluidity is a must. Forward thinking. Change can be looked at as a friend not a foe. We do have control. We do get better. As for Dr. Neufeld he is truly a gift to the world. I’ve been to 3 intensives of his and it’s crucial information. Thanks again RR for your honesty, humility and for your decency.
Many generations have lived in fear and uncertainty. The poisoning we are all being exposed to has complicated our lives exponentially, and made healing more difficult, if not impossible for so many.
You're my hero, Rich. I know endurance and veganism sparked the press, but it's the addiction recovery that I look up to you the most for. Edit: And I'm also vegan and getting into Ironmans ;)
What a wonderful interview and new look at Dr Maté’s work. I appreciate Rich’s honesty and courage, and want to say that when we stumble and make mistakes, we are being human. It’s how we step up to accepting our mistakes, staying with our emotions and instincts that nature has given us, in remaining real to ourselves and others, where we grow and can let go of our old dysfunctional beliefs. We need compassion for ourselves, and to treat ourselves with love. Thank you to you both!
I appreciate Dr.Mate’s honesty, he is not excluding himself or anyone from struggling with the seen and unseen marks of trauma in our lives. He also is inviting us to seek for the light at the end of the tunnel!
"...[AA] helping to gain agency over our addictive patterns, is it also entrenching us in a self-identity..." This line from Dr. Gabor Maté struck a chord. As an AA I often mediate on the identity I am creating with the language of AA.
I love Gabor. I feel most of his insights are not incredibly novel, rather they seem to echo a lot of the insights shared in many modern spiritual circles. What Gabor does great, however, is put all of the pieces together into a very clear framework based in the very human experience of "my story". The way he shares them from a such humble, warm, self-reflective, and personal place, makes these profound insights extremely digestible for the audience. I can listen to him for hours.
Much love and immense gratitude to Dr Gabor Mate for dedicating his life to sharing the wisdom of his vast experience for the betterment of mankind, and to Rich Roll likewise, never afraid to expose their vulnerability. I am so grateful to you both. Really looking forward to reading this book, I believe this will be the best. 💕
When you take the disease by the hand and befriend it to find out why it's visiting right now,and then i come from love instead of fear, i stood apart from the control,and could appreciate it and let that bugger go. I've had lupus for over 30 yrs,and when the body does attack itself, it recovers better and quicker with this approach. It's been my greatest teacher for sure. Gabor Mate, thankyou for seeing this and being such a force for understanding and change.
Good on you my Mom had the idea ingrained in her let them cry they get used of being held it terrible advice. I believed it but gladly didn't do that to my daughter. I dont get the logic of depriving a kid of love and comfort its the most rediculous concept.
Dr Mate was my doctor in Vancouver very briefly over 20 years ago. I wouldn’t be where I am without his kindness, understanding and genius.
Andrea you are blessed beyond measure.
He is also my doctor now too although I have never met him.
I consider to him to be my trauma shaman. ✨🙏✨💖
In the last few weeks of discovering Dr. mate he has done more than the decade of therapy I've had.
Thank you for sharing that! @Andre McGowan
I wish I could have been his patient.
For those of us who haven't been a patient of Dr Gabor Maté, we are so blessed to have a rich selection of podcasts, each a little different, to listen to over and over, and help ourselves with the doctor's wisdom. He's already helped me more than all the counselling sessions I've had in the last few years.
I've been following Dr. Maté's work for well over a decade now. His work is paramount for us getting out of this insane sick society. Mercy on all of us.
Totally agree! I got the honor of meeting him at a movie screening about a month ago called dosed 2.. he is such a amazing person.
@@MrSixohfour That must have been a transcendent experience.
Yes
Although I've seen his face and name before I've not heard him speak til recently. What life-changing read - The Myth of Normal.
Dr Mate is such a humble soul and extremly valuable to us all. I love his work and all he shares with us. I would love to attend one of his work shops. Bless up.
As a nurse, every patient now has a DX of anxiety and depression. People are sad, sick, disgusted and confused. Everyone can agree, something is REALLY VERY WRONG!
Agree. May I ask are you seeing this in what setting.?
You know, your right, what's wrong, is that 12% of humanity, is been trying, to inslave, 88% with a serious militar y might,or economic sanctions, or bullying for greed, and resources.etc.The press manipulated and hijackt, by capital.
And because of all that...greetings😢
It's never been any different, government, mainstream medicine etc has always been either corrupt or plain ignorant.
I realised what Gabor is talking about..over 20 years ago..so it's nothing new.
as a psychotherapist, I agree with you 1000% 😔
I agree the most common dx.is fatigue and depression.
For me, crying releases stress from my body and allows me to relax and this bodily relaxation keeps me from getting sick. When I used to attend weekly yoga classes a few years ago before I moved to another province, I always cried spontaneously throughout the class. I didn't wail as I cried, not wanting to disturb others in the room but the crying came as a result of moving my body in a calm and silent space where nothing was expected of me and I could simply 'be present.' I think there are so few places and spaces to be present and allow feelings to rise up. Also, while at Kripalu Yoga Retreat Centre for a week, I cried during every yoga class as I moved my body. It's quite remarkable. Few people whom I've told understand this. Crying is seen as something to resolve or stop, but for me I've felt its breath-giving effects on my emotional and physical state of being.
Thank you for your beautiful share. Reflecting Self-knowing and what works for your unique way of release, clearing, Self-discovery and walking your Path. Beautiful to witness. Namaste. Sat Nam.
Please read Arthur Janov's books you would benefit from his therapy.
Exactly
Your crying story reminds me of one episode of Everybody Loves Raymond when Marie pops in to visit Debra and finds her crying. Marie thinks something is terribly wrong and then Debra explains that women (and probably men) just need to cry sometimes to release. Marie thinks a moment and remembers her own struggles and agrees.
Decades ago I worked for a medical answering service when thunderstorms would knock out the whole computer system. Our boss was a female go getter who was a wealth of resource and this one time nothing worked and she finally laid her head on the counter and asked,”Can I cry now?” We all chimed in “Yes!”
Karin, I cry easily in certain circumstances, as well. I think it helps me in ways you describe. I think it is a good thing.
I have MS. My mother died of complications from her RA. My father died of cancer. It took decades for me to understand that I had been abused by them. It took decades more to understand why they abused me and to forgive them for it. I’m in my mid-60’s, and I’m still working to heal the trauma of my past. Despite my age and my limited time left, I hope to heal enough to know what it’s like to not be depressed or anxious, to feel well in a way I never have, to have compassion for myself and a cathartic break from my past, and to meet my authentic self finally.
Now that you have come this far, you will enjoy the healing, have no doubt. ❤
@@psnat7198you aren't relieved from responsibility to help change the world
And u might even heal your MS...I hope u recover...all the best!
You're clearly on your way 👍
You're perfect the way you are and your time here has been worth every moment. I may not know you but you inspire me.
I was raised strict LDS (Mormon), and love was VERY conditional, although I was being taught about the importance of Unconditional love.
It messed with me, very deeply.
Double binds starting at 18 months old, and a belief system that defines who and what you are and where your worth is derived, can really take time to deconstruct, mourne and release.
Not being allowed to show anger, or individuate at age 2 or in adolescence, has caused me much grief, suffering and has made me need to completely deconstruct my thought processes and views of the world, and myself.
I'm 40 and FINALLY giving myself permission to individuate, explore and build myself, from the bottom up.
Better late than never!
there's many issues that've surfaced from the LDS scandals - maybe they'll help you see what's going on. The reason is we shouldn't be at the whim of bad stuff in our lives.
I really get this...so good you have realised so much and its changing xx
Absolutely!!💚
Also 40, and also " starting my life" anew :)
Well done and it takes guts to do that x doing similar work on myself and it's like unlearning what you have been taught isn't it? to replace with your true unique self x all the very best💚🙏
i was raised LDS too-- and i am so glad you are giving yourself the gift of growing beyond what you have been indoctrinated with. love is a currency in our culture-- and it does do real emotional damage. xoxo
"There's very little that actually promotes healing - and there's VERY much that undermines it" Gabor Maté
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Thanks for info on this topic❤
@@marykinsella417 what on earth are you talking about?
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
@@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEUI got mine from dr.sporesss
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
@@eddiejohn8506Is he on instagram?
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
PILATES has saved my life. And Gabor mate videos and books. Resolving MS symptoms at warp speed
I'm so happy that 12 Step stuff was brought up. When I was in AA, I consistently felt like, "Yes, this is helping me to not drink, but something else, something deeper, is missing..." and I have since discovered that what was missing was trauma work. Long story short, I have also discovered Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families, which does address trauma, and implements inner child work, etc. It has been incredibly healing for me! Thanks for having Dr. Mate on, Rich - great conversation!
Totally relate to this. The 12 steps are great but at some point you just feel is not complete.
I credit much of my emotional sobriety to ACA. I was 24 years sober when I attended an ACA meeting. Now 31 years and so grateful.
Well said Linda
Did you attend the ACA meetings online or in person? Is it just talking about childhood trauma with others? Is it better to attend this meeting over therapy?
@@bobbettemarks6439 Did you attend the ACA meetings online or in person? Is it just talking about childhood trauma with others? Is it better to attend this meeting over therapy?
Honestly, DR Gabor Mate is freaking amazing, he hits every cords and speaks what I've always been thinking. Thank you Lord for creating Dr. Gabor to help the world in healing. So much respect.
YaaaS🙏🏾🙏🏾🧚🏾♀️
Don't you mean, thank you lord for putting Gabor through so much suffering so he could share his learnings with us in the later years of his life... (?) Right?
The idea of a "Lord" of creation is one of the deepest trauma we're healing as a society today. #religioustrauma
#1 Rich, I really love your channel. No hype and really IMPORTANT guests. #2 Dr. Mate changed my life as a 1st time Dad. I thought "time out" was the way to go for my 3 year old Son, but after watching Dr. Mate in another talk, I realized how important it was to be with him when he needed me most and LISTEN to him about how he was upset instead of putting him in "time out." My Son and I now sit in his little chairs and talk about how he feels and how I feel. IT REALLY WAS A GAME CHANGER. Dr. Mate, you REALLY changed life. Thank you so much.
You sound like an amazing dad. From someone who has been raised by two horribly abusive/violent parents, it makes my heart sing to see comments like this. The part were you mentioned about both of you sitting on little chairs and talking about your feelings together made me smile soooo much. Thankyou for being great dad for your kid mate 💙
@@thecrowsnest44 I am so sorry that you had to go through that. How are you doing with it? Thank you for your beautiful reply to my post. My name is Rick.
your comment healed my heart as I work with adults who need to reparent themselves never having had this kind of emotional validation and safety in the formative years. Thank you, to parent well (in this one way) is to help the whole world. Thankyou!
Oh my, how wonderful, am happy for your son, having such a wise father
After reading Gabor's books I have a deep appreciation and profound respect for him. His lessons are a gift to humanity
What’s been super interesting to me as I heal from CPTSD, is that I have started prioritizing my physical health, including doing moderate aerobic exercise and basic stretching of various muscles, and the release of trauma in my body is profoundly noticeable. Where I was previously storing most emotional pain in my heart area, it’s now spread to the rest of my body. I can tell my body is now connecting with itself and coming online where it was previously shut down. To those dealing with trauma, consider doing some basic stretches to move those muscles, the body work goes hand in hand with cognitive and emotional awareness of trauma healing. ❤💪
Amen to this!!!
Yes, because physical exercise up-regulates anti-aging and anti-disease biological processes, hormones, neurotransmitters and has a modulating effect on immune system function.
In essence, exercise signals healing and longevity.
Add proper diet (with supplementation) proper rest, and proper mood/mental regulatory behavior and you maximize health and longevity.
I absolutely agree. I’ve recently started doing yoga, walking & swimming as part of my routine & the yoga alone is helping my anxiety & ptsd soooo much! Wish I’d done this years ago instead of taking meds
Thank you for your enlightening share....Any movement,..dancing, yoga or simple stretching allows us to begin the thawing of old junk...glad to hear of your gifts. Blessings, Meg
Go to Las Vegas and see a man named Glenn Hall (Create Health Nevada). His soft tissue work is beyond words. You'll come out a new person.
The medical system not only ignores trauma but creates trauma. Medical trauma is rarely spoken of. Emergency surgery, misdiagnosis, gaslighting, are just a few of the things create trauma in patients.
I was treated horribly the last time I tried to deal with them. The only thing they helped me out with is helping me out of my money,, and I felt insulted to boot.
Sadly it's true. But just drs. Staff too. It's the main reason I'm leaving FL. SHITTY HEALTHCARE driven by profit, not (helping) people.
@@Jmamelia it’s that way everywhere in the US as far as I know.
THIS RIGHT HERE
That’s why patients need to get good, educated information about their problems or have someone who understands with them when they go visit their Drs. I know this is not always possible, but it is the best and only way to make the Drs. explain the issues to you and get proper treatment. If the Dr. won’t discuss your health with you, then it’s time to find a replacement.
What I understand so far about healing is that it's not a linear process, there are ups and downs, and it's much harder than I thought it would be, especially if you're alone. I'm there now, I'm working on it and hopefully I'll make it.
you'll only not make it if you quit. Stay in your struggle and the Castle in your Forest will one day appear
I think you will make it Gabriela
Fax
I hope you make it, too, Gabriela. I understand being alone...sometimes this makes the struggle seem harder. I just listened to a podcast with author, Kamal Ravikant, who wrote "Love Yourself Like Your Life Depended on It." A practical guide he developed during a difficult time in his life and continues to follow. Gabor Mate is excellent. This book is one I believe will also be helpful.
@@janetfedeles3964 Thank you!
So much humanity is in this great man.
This brilliant man has been a LIFE CHANGER in my life. True healing. I’m forever grateful!
Thank you to you both! Gabor Maté is the premier mental health expert who specializes in how child-hood trauma and our toxic culture manifests later on in people’s lives.
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He’s not a mental health expert-he’s a family medicine doctor…
You’re being misinformed. GM has no degree in any medical specialty...just pretends to.
@@robynhope219 I believe it. Thanks random person of the internet
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Gabor Mate is one of my favorite human beings. I discovered him through your podcasts and his books are wonderful in their wealth of knowledge and humanity. Thank you for another podcast with him!
Love him too but very disappointed in him gaslighting of people who opted out of the Pfizer solution.
@@presterjohn1697 What?
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For hundreds of thousands of years people who were more introverted lived in small communities and didn't really have to travel far or meet lots of new people. In the last 100 years people have been moving further and further away from old friend groups and families. The modern world demands that at least a third of people fake extroversion in order to live and work. Humanity has never been in a position like this before. Well done Dr. Mate for pointing out so many of societies modern ills!
Dr Mate is a healer in all aspects. Even just listening to his voice I find myself relaxing. Such important information. Thank you!!
I can't wait for this one. I work in paediatric mental health and I'm constantly talking to colleagues about Gabor. Absolutely gold standard
Everything that comes out of Gabor's mouth is gold
Don’t be ridiculous...he is an exceptionally good con.
Reminds me of the words of the Indian philosopher Krisnamurti who said. “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society”! Gabor echoes the truth of that observation by his own individual experience and by what he has learnt as a wise and compassionate medical practitioner!
That's an excellent quote. Thank you.
our way of expressing these concepts always attracts me, and nothing, but nothing compares with it-- the tone, the depth of spirituality, I can't put it into words. Your Manifesting Manual is something I can read over and over and soak up. ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq I am in process of making the routine a solid part of my life, and it has made a difference! I LOVE your 12 meditations too! I know I am a different person after 9 months with Super Manifestor, and in process of continued positive change! You deserve accolades every day of the year! Keep on with everything, and as we say in Spanish, ANIMO! Lots of love and every blessing to you both.
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Loved it. Gabor is a Father, an Elder, a Healer and Light.
Oh my, after a two hour tour-de-force of the soul, I almost had to cry in the end, when Rich closed the talk with a very personal statement. I am deeply, deeply grateful for your podcast, Mr. Roll. May god protect you and your family! THANK YOU.
Hi everyone, I am literally going through the worst challenge in my life and feel like this video is changing my life at the moment. Super grateful and huge hug 🤗❤️ listen to yourself and love yourself
Grab a book of his. He's so wonderful. All the best to you. You can make it. You can get through the worst. You are not alone!
🤗 Sending you a hug
What a breath of fresh air when listening to this topic. I really appreciate the atmosphere you bring in these interviews, and this perspective on the topic really does shine a light on our crippling society. We cannot paint positivity over what is really happening and really need to focus on the true nature of human beings and our environment. Once we get those two things healthy and thriving what a beautiful world we could make.
I love Gabor but I also really love Rich Roll and your calm and relaxed interviewing style and your overall calming and reassuring presence.I really love your interviews and you honest and open approach.
Its just such a pleasurable listen to not only what you say but how you say it,your voice and tone is very relaxing and good for the nervous system :)
Also totally agree with Gabors assessment of how its dangerous for young kids or teenagers to put their peer group as their major source of attachment or approval and to look for guidance or knowledge they should begetting from elders".I get it that teenagers by their nature and development are at the point of seeking more indpendence and individuating from parents but too often it is done with little guidance from parental input and good communication.
Very well stated! I couldnt agree more
Correct, kids today identify with their peers more than their families. But that is not necessarily the situation everywhere. There are societies where, even today, that is not the case because they have not gone off track like we have. It's time to reestablish connections with parents, families and communities otherwise we are lost.
I totally agree. Some other podcast interviewers give me anxiety. RR lowers my blood pressure! Stress reliever ❤️
@@jimparsons4312 yeah sometimes I tune in just to listen to his voice as it relaxes me...don't even pay attention to content 🤣
@@upendasana7857 love it!
Rich Roll is one of the best interviewer out there thanks to his experience with trauma. I wish Gabor Mate was a lot more mainstream given the sheer amount of help his work has provided me. So far in my life and in my personal development journey he's been the most helpful. I thank you Gabor for your help in making my life a tiny more enlightened.
I like this interview as well with Dr Mate: ruclips.net/video/OvSL6RZCkyI/видео.html
Dr. Mate is a living legend worthy of accolades and more for his brilliant work 😎
Doctor Matt is so soothing, but also touching in an area,that doctors and people do not want to talk about...I cannot understand the reason this side of life is so hidden!?
Thank-you Rich. I just found your channel and it's unbelievable the amount of high quality education information you put out on your channel. This channel is a real 💎.
Same here! I just discovered it today and I am so grateful to find this amazing channel! ❤️🙏
I've been reading Gabor since his Realm of Hungry Ghosts " book, (2009?) And everything since. He is just brilliant. His book on ADD, Scattered Minds, and raising kids, Hold Your Kids Close, are excellent for anyone dealing with any part of those groups. Highly recommend him, I have been helped soooooooo much by Dr Mate. I really love him, and thank him so much.
Wow. Just wow. This man is a gift to humanity.
The way he describes the autoimmune disease is exactly how I got mine.
My chronic illness is a direct order for me to be me and change my path. I feel it is a blessing, there is no other way to get through to me.
Mental pain can be inflicted by people treating you as though they know you better than yourself
I am so glad to see more of Gabor Mate lately, he is back making the rounds. His message needs to be understood for society to get better.
May we all help to make a less toxic world and heal ourselves. Thank you Gabor!!❤
It's so satisfying to hear this! As someone that developed a drug addiction to cover the pain I was going through, I met many many addicts and quickly realized that each of them had a trauma somewhere in their life and from that point they started using. I went to rehab and they reprogram you and never talked about what started the addiction. But now I know I was on the right track and I truly believe that all drug addicts have a deep hurt within them that they cover up with drugs.
Painful trauma does not get resolved immediately unless you have a profound spiritual experience which has happened. For most people it is like pulling a thread out of the fabric until it all unravels. The things in my past that used to horrify me when I was acting out in my addiction are less painful to look it. Gaining a surer foothold on life comes with honesty and diminishes the hold trauma and your thoughts about your behavior has on you.
Ive seen enough to completely agree with you, drug addiction (most of the time) stems from trauma in their past, a deep hurt, as you said it.
This is so great to hear from Gabor Mate again! I love how Rich makes the most out of his episodes for the things he is dealing with which we all deal with!
The way Gabor said that what is happening to me is not a disease but trauma from my childhood and this alcohol, sex, drugs, etc. is the way I deal with, or have dealt with my pain, is what I have been saying for a long time.
Just found this channel. Wow, have I been missing a gem! Love Dr. Mate, not just for his insightful expertise, but also for his willingness to share his own struggles & humanity ❤️.
This interview was excellent!
I'm hooked instantly on this channel.
Susan! I'm jealous of you! I've been following Rich since 2015ish and haven't missed many episodes. If you knew the amazing content you have yet to discover of Rich's, your mind would explode. Enjoy diving deep with Rich, he will change the way you see your life!
This man speaks with such warmth and love it's hard to not listen intently to hear the message
5:55 that's why it's important that we all help each other get to where we need to to create a safety net to keep people from falling through.
I adore Dr. Mate. One of the great thinkers of our age. Thank you for this conversation!
this man fascinates me in his simple explanation, the clarity of what he is able to state about humanity.
Psilocybin containing mushrooms saved my life. The drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@Lillian Victoria I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across *dr.jeromespores* a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@Lillian Victoria Use the name dr.jeromespores to check him out on. 👇🏻
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@@ryancihet555 I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
Gabor's epigenetic presentation is EXCELLENT! Straight-forward and synced.
Thank you Rich Roll for this podcast episode inviting Gabor Maté. Its so important to speak in public about traumas in connection to diseases in order to spread this knowledge in society. There's more than food, lack of movement and sleep that makes you sick. Sometimes its even so deap that the cause of a disease is a intergenerational trauma. Interesting that he points out the importance of the social and cultural toxicity as a reason for the raise of mental diseases or autoimmun diseases. So those diseases are a society problem.
I love his definition of trauma as not defining it as an event rather then as an emotional consequence of the event or not-event. Its calming to know that gens are turned on and off according to the circumstances.
We are totally out of balance as society. Some are hit worse, some are less, but in total we all get touched in one way or an other. Great example about the kid being angry or the misinformation of not picking up a crying baby, how you suppress natural human reaction and you start conditioning them that its not ok to feel like you feel and learn them that love is conditional. Society really doesnt support healing.
I totally agree we need a trauma sensitive medicine and legal system.
I also think its important to talk in public about your own traumatic experiences or mental struggeling. It helps and relieves. But as said you shouldnt victimize yourself or even identify yourself with your disease, especially in case of mental disorders. And you shouldnt take the open talking about your problems as an excuse to not change anything about it, as you should stay in your self-empowerment and self-responsabilty.
Facinating about the trauma definition.
An amazing man this doctor: straightforward ,yet kind and considerate with sensitivity...
Truly a beautiful interview....so rich!
Rich, I enjoyed this interview. After 40plus years in 12-step recovery, the acknowledgment of my own trauma has also been helpful. In the early days, We just didn't know what to do with it. In my work these days with Dads in recovery, Trauma awareness is essential. Love Melts Trauma. Thank you again for this work. Sending Love.
Love melts trauma. Crucial.
This is beyond profound...Doctor Mate is so humble and is brilliant, and every word we heard was a gem...thank you Doctor and thank you Rich for this wonderful episode
THIS.WAS.PERFECT!
From the ALL TO RELATABLE epitaph joke, to the disgusting set up of our systematic oppression and culturally opressive expectations, to the encouragement to listen to your parental instincts vs. Current parental trends.
Thank you to you both! There was NOTHING I didn't love (and I personally have a lot of beef with AA... but you both addressed its place in society well.)
I especially LOVED the real language. All the f*cks and bullsh*ts cause it's healthy anger!!!!!
I was a student nurse at 18 yrs of age. I had to deal with very upsetting situations on a daily basis. Also i’m a very sensitive person & these traumatic situations had a great impact on my psyche. I couldn’t sleep at night or function during the day
Thank you soooo much for having Dr. Maté! So many more people need to know of his work related to trauma and disease❤
This interview brought me to tears. Dr. Gabor's humanity is astounding.
As a parent and teacher, I highly recommend his other book, Hold on to Your Kids, written with Dr. Neufeld. Thank you Rich Roll fir your high quality programs.
I can't hit the like button as many times as I would have liked. Gabor is a beautiful human, with a sensible soul
Dear Rich, I am living proof of what Dr Mate has discovered. I was a 'yes' person which led me to having cancer. 15 years later, I face new challenges and stresses. Thanks to you and your amazing prophet guests like Gabor, remind us to never go back to where we were. Thank you Rich
Love this talk..love you both! Your honest connection, you vulnerability, your maturity... such a packed interview! I immediately want to hit replay..
This is the most insightful presentation I have seen …maybe ever. As a 25 year”clean” addict (having done thousands of meetings, many rehabs etc. I sense that Dr. Mate can see that something is missing there.(inAA) I found that to be true but not so in Alanon, which I call “the graduate program.” That is where I learned about who I am and my relationships with all kind of other people. I have never felt more secure than I do now and that covers a great deal of territory.I am very worried about many”things” currently happening. in our world. Being compassionate is my daily goal as I like myself better that way. Thanks to both of you.
Thank you I’ve been watching your channel and many of Gabor Mate’s interviews as I’m dealing with my husbands battle with addiction and the trauma/PTSD We’ve both endured.
I recently was diagnosed with a very rare auto immune disease, and I’m absolutely fascinated to dive into trauma and the links to addiction and my own health and disease. I personally grew up in a very toxic environment filled with many traumatic occasions.
Thank you this is an incredible connection I can wait to read more about.
The first time I went to an NA meeting and heard someone say " Hello, I'm so and so and I'm an addict", I was so confused because that person had been clean for so many years. When I questioned why they identified that way I was met with resistance and anger. I just did not understand why they would identify that way when I was seeing a healed person who was more than an addiction. It never sat well with me because I truly believe all diseases including the disease of addiction has a cure. It's so comforting to know that the science and work of so many great minds are bringing this to light by being so bold and brave and challenging the current paradigms and modalities of addiction and recovery.
It gives hope for society and our future as more and more people are being exposed to his work
As Rich Roll said it Dr. Gabor Maté is truly a gift to us in this lifetime and for many centuries later. Rich and Dr. Gabor thank you for this needed conversation.
An amazingly insightful conversation (as usual)! The more I observe aspects of our culture and learn about the effects of colonialization, the more I am convinced our culture is sociopathic. It is difficult to look at but as an individual, I see it as my job to continue to look, not look away, and work to better both myself and society however I can.
it's not so much our culture that's sociopathic but the socioeconomic conditions we all live under (*cough* capitalism *cough*)
I do agree living with someone with an addiction & now living away from that person was the greatest life lesson for me. I learned so much through relapse, recovery . Someone else’s conflict is not mine.
I work toward living my most authentic self now.
I believe in what Dr M teaches & know now leading someone to freedom is not my responsibility.
I thank you for my ongoing education 😊
Rich you are really an ultra amazing human being. I am awed by your vocabulary, your flow of conversation, and so much more. Thank you from a grateful recovering alcoholic.
Love the way Dr. Maté speaks about addiction, putting trauma awareness in the forefront rather than the substance (alcohol, drugs, etc.) and the subsequent labelling
Thank you so much. Since finding Dr.Mate and reading some of his books I have now realized my trauma and why I was diagnosed with MS in my early 20’s. I love all of this!!! Thank you Rich my mind is blown!
My daughter turned me on to this incredible Doctor:) he has been a powerful force of inspiration and change for me! Love you both!!
This type of content is SO important on RUclips. I am grateful I 'met' Gabor Maté this way and I am looking forward to share his knowledge with other people struggling
Where did you meet him?
I love how Rich Roll goes into expressing the meaning of quotes and complements the guests' thoughts. he is such a great podcaster!!! salute
Rich, I cannot express the gratitude I feel for all of the information / education I have derived from your podcast, which in turn has been monumental in my recovery. Thank you 1000 times over. ❤🙏
Listening for dr Maté for a couple of years now has help understand just a tiny bit about my addiction and that’s a huge help for someone who think he is just wrong
Have known this and it's challenging to teach to my coaching clients. Asking the right questions is always the goal. Everyone can benefit from this episode! Brilliant and so crucial to all today!!
At 01:14:28 I would suggest Pete Walker's book as a map on psychoeducation and understanding the fight/flight/freeze/fawn for AA as the book Complex PTSD from Surviving is gold on the subject. I recall 12 weeks I did in AA and I stopped going as found it quite dogmatic in only one book reference. I also do not believe we are powerless. I used alcohol to self-soothe as I began firstly I won't knock those 12 weeks as it gave me enough time to see that something else was going on in me. I then went and got therapy but pre that tons of psychoeducation. No two paths will be the same and as PW says "Healing is not all or Nothing". I have bought the new book by Gabor on Audible and loved this interview. I also think as Gabor says repeating a negative statement about what "I Am" is not helpful to people on any level. To say yes I have this issue that I need help with is another matter. Anyways .. healing to us all and as Jung pointed out the route to becoming whole is a life's work to our last breath. I also think that telling one's story develops over time and can be used to help others as one is able to self-soothe in loving healthy ways then the story softens popping up only at times in nightmares or triggers but we then improve upon our reactions again via psychoeducation. We do not need to perfect anything we are beautifully human.
what a great guest! such a wise man. I think he is a genius.
Appreciation for Rich, for working so hard and caring so hard to be a great dad to his kids.
Extreme poverty (material and spiritual) is the worst act of violence. The system which is materialistic 100%, makes you feel guilty if you don't comply with its dishonest, incoherent, unjust, cynic, sick ways, plus the poisoned foods and drugs..what else can we expect.....love Dr Mate been listening him for few years now, great interview Gracias Dr Mate again ..
Thank you very much. Perfect description why I'm leaving society thinking that I was the wrong one and no able to fit in and always trying to help to be helpless.
I've been listening to Dr. Mate for a while and he's fascinating! This is so important. One question bugs me though- the previous generation had it worse than we do when it comes to childhood trauma, racism, etc. and we still see a significant rise in cancer and autoimmune disease in our generation. So there are clearly additional issues in the culture.
gluten, sugars, night shades, toxic vaccines from childhood. Industries poison our physical bodies and health practitioners are trained by industries.
Great insights. As a 12 step atheist i too am constantly trying to adjust the sobriety wheel thru the winding recovery journey road. Fluidity is a must. Forward thinking. Change can be looked at as a friend not a foe. We do have control. We do get better. As for Dr. Neufeld he is truly a gift to the world. I’ve been to 3 intensives of his and it’s crucial information. Thanks again RR for your honesty, humility and for your decency.
Many generations have lived in fear and uncertainty. The poisoning we are all being exposed to has complicated our lives exponentially, and made healing more difficult, if not impossible for so many.
Yep , and to realise the powers that be put so much work to distract us from our true selves is so huge.
@@sis8521indeed, there's a lot to distract us, but if ur committed to healing, distractions are superfluous...at least for me.
You're my hero, Rich. I know endurance and veganism sparked the press, but it's the addiction recovery that I look up to you the most for. Edit: And I'm also vegan and getting into Ironmans ;)
@Texasgirlinacrazyworld Texasgirlinacrazyworld? lol - it's people like you that make the world worse. Why troll on positivity?
Dr. Mate is really such a gift. 💜
What a wonderful interview and new look at Dr Maté’s work.
I appreciate Rich’s honesty and courage, and want to say that when we stumble and make mistakes, we are being human.
It’s how we step up to accepting our mistakes, staying with our emotions and instincts that nature has given us, in remaining real to ourselves and others, where we grow and can let go of our old dysfunctional beliefs. We need compassion for ourselves, and to treat ourselves with love.
Thank you to you both!
I could listen to you both for hours. Thank you for this insightful conversation.
I appreciate Dr.Mate’s honesty, he is not excluding himself or anyone from struggling with the seen and unseen marks of trauma in our lives. He also is inviting us to seek for the light at the end of the tunnel!
He lost me here 11:56 when he talked about the healing and said “But…”. Love this guy!!!
Clarifying, deep and rich conversation. Admirable Dr. G.Maté
"...[AA] helping to gain agency over our addictive patterns, is it also entrenching us in a self-identity..." This line from Dr. Gabor Maté struck a chord. As an AA I often mediate on the identity I am creating with the language of AA.
I love Gabor. I feel most of his insights are not incredibly novel, rather they seem to echo a lot of the insights shared in many modern spiritual circles. What Gabor does great, however, is put all of the pieces together into a very clear framework based in the very human experience of "my story". The way he shares them from a such humble, warm, self-reflective, and personal place, makes these profound insights extremely digestible for the audience. I can listen to him for hours.
You're right: nothing he says is really new. He is good at pulling it all together to make it more coherent.
Much love and immense gratitude to Dr Gabor Mate for dedicating his life to sharing the wisdom of his vast experience for the betterment of mankind, and to Rich Roll likewise, never afraid to expose their vulnerability. I am so grateful to you both. Really looking forward to reading this book, I believe this will be the best. 💕
This is one of the best conversations I have seen on how society negatively impacts on humans true natures.
Great discussion. Can't wait to read this new book! Gabor, you are a world treasure!
Rich you are a great interviewer. Right question in the right time to right one. Congratulations..
When you take the disease by the hand and befriend it to find out why it's visiting right now,and then i come from love instead of fear, i stood apart from the control,and could appreciate it and let that bugger go. I've had lupus for over 30 yrs,and when the body does attack itself, it recovers better and quicker with this approach. It's been my greatest teacher for sure. Gabor Mate, thankyou for seeing this and being such a force for understanding and change.
When my babies cried, I picked them up. I would not let them cry, by themselves, in their bed, couldn’t. It made me and the baby happy every time.
I will make sure to be this parent
Good on you my Mom had the idea ingrained in her let them cry they get used of being held it terrible advice. I believed it but gladly didn't do that to my daughter. I dont get the logic of depriving a kid of love and comfort its the most rediculous concept.