How to Get Over Your FEAR OF BEING SEEN

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  • Опубликовано: 18 дек 2024

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  • @antiquelady60
    @antiquelady60 3 месяца назад +167

    I'm a "fluffy" grandma. I don't remember the topic of the first video I watched on your channel. I do remember thinking, what can I possibly learn from a beautiful, confident woman half my age? Your warm, authentic presentation and engaging topics immediately hooked me and I am enjoying rediscovering my feminine side, Thank you for all of the effort you put into creating quality content!

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  3 месяца назад +15

      Aw thank you!! 🩷🩷

    • @prazdnyhrnek123
      @prazdnyhrnek123 3 месяца назад +15

      I think it's so great that you are allowing yourself to learn from people younger than you. Good for you! Not everyone is open-minded, but they are only limiting themselves. I write this comment, because of how I was impressed. That is the type of grandma I would heartily look up to and listen to her advices❤! With that said, have a nice day💐☀️!!!

    • @omnamah-shivaya6779
      @omnamah-shivaya6779 3 месяца назад +9

      As a fluffy 47 yo I agree! I wish this content would have been on my radar in my 20’s alas better late than never! I spent 2 decades in my masculine due to career choice and insecurity as a female… cheers to the new generation of women embracing these concepts! And a big thank you to Jillz for being bold enough to get it out there! 😘 much love to all my sisters 🫶

    • @allieblank5992
      @allieblank5992 3 месяца назад

      @@omnamah-shivaya6779 I hear you! I wish I had heard these things in my 20s! It took my 40s to realize this. I look back and realize how much I underestimated my abilities!

    • @brendathomas7173
      @brendathomas7173 3 месяца назад +4

      Great comment! I'm similar. I don't remember the first video but I do remember thinking that I sometimes feel I have to push my way through life... And Jillz seems to glide more. I want more gliding through life!

  • @bethzy335
    @bethzy335 3 месяца назад +291

    I know this comment is probably going to get lost amongst others, but I just want to say a couple of words: " You've got this bestie 💗. You are truly beautiful, amazing, smart and most of all, you are doing your best to be better while a lot of people are just so lazy to even wake up".

    • @isabelladuquedaza5971
      @isabelladuquedaza5971 3 месяца назад +2

      Thank u ❤

    • @Brandileelombas
      @Brandileelombas 3 месяца назад +1

      Yesss!!!! THAT is what sets her apart!!

    • @healed9259
      @healed9259 3 месяца назад +1

      I needed that Thankyou😭❤

    • @idonotlikeppllol
      @idonotlikeppllol 3 месяца назад +1

      you are so sweet!
      i can say the same to you, have a great day,ladies❤

    • @laaauraaa158
      @laaauraaa158 3 месяца назад +1

      Thank you so much! 🫶🏼 have a great week and I wish you all the best!

  • @pavanigoel8569
    @pavanigoel8569 3 месяца назад +100

    Can we take a moment to appreciate the fact that her hair is always on point. Also I love how calming your energy is, like you make me want to listen without feeling like someone is shoving information down my throat.

  • @biazitah03
    @biazitah03 3 месяца назад +33

    Being hidden has costed me a lot, I’ve never had the courage to be vulnerable and be in a relationship. I used to panic every time I had a presentation at Uni. Whenever I think of a job that has meetings and individual presentations, where you have to share your option I simply think it’s not for me. For sure It’s the fear of being judged mixed with low self esteem and maybe a kind of social fobia, but at the end the person who hurts me, judges and keeps me small I see on the mirror everyday.

    • @jj9501
      @jj9501 3 месяца назад

      Yes, feel the same. Well I am in this kind op job but totally panicking every time and trying to mask my fears. Too bad I'm in healthcare and not IT 😂
      Hope this video will help us! Because life can be so much easier!

  • @MandyJRoss
    @MandyJRoss 3 месяца назад +34

    If you’re reading this I’m praying something amazing happens for you today.🙏🏼♥️

  • @stephaniemthoma
    @stephaniemthoma 3 месяца назад +35

    This is such an important distinction- it's not a fear of being seen, but being judged.

  • @YaraOsama-yz1zh
    @YaraOsama-yz1zh 3 месяца назад +19

    Sometimes, overevaluating your problem makes it bigger and bigger. However, smalling the problem makes it smaller and easier to deal with.

  • @ghzltnsr20
    @ghzltnsr20 3 месяца назад +68

    Congrats on 500k!!

  • @sanikadixit9223
    @sanikadixit9223 3 месяца назад +12

    i used to wait to do the inner work and think that all my fears will magically go away. thanks for clarifying that thats not how it works. you have to be brave enough to take action.

  • @NicoleHardwick-s9q
    @NicoleHardwick-s9q 2 месяца назад +5

    If you had a podcast, I’d listen all day. Thank you for inspiring me and all of these other incredible women ❤

  • @courageousT
    @courageousT 3 месяца назад +5

    Recognising the "separation of tasks".
    My task vs Not my task.
    What I am in control of is my task.
    What other people think of you is not your business, because it's not your task, it's theirs.
    It's safe to release control of things that are not your task.
    Thank you Jillz!

  • @alexlavi3699
    @alexlavi3699 3 месяца назад +10

    Thank you for mentioning/ recommending the book "The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi". I'm reading it now and I really enjoy it!

    • @polisemicbot
      @polisemicbot 3 месяца назад +2

      i've read this book twice this year. It's a goldmine 🤍

    • @alexlavi3699
      @alexlavi3699 3 месяца назад +2

      @@polisemicbot agreed!!!!

  • @yumtaco7376
    @yumtaco7376 3 месяца назад +2

    3:57 what’s worse is that people seem to encourage quietness and loneliness, especially teachers, and I do know it’s because of their stressful lives and job, but what they don’t recognize is that silencing kids for their own peace of mind is going to create a great negative impact on the kid’s personalities as adults, and it is saddening to me. As a child I was told I was the best in class for being so quiet and lonely, but now as an adult this has NOT benefited in anyway other than to kill my character and my confidence, and I struggle a lot till this day because of it

  • @lifeofjeannebromley2606
    @lifeofjeannebromley2606 3 месяца назад +7

    The timing of this vid is insane, thank you so much, Jillz 😭

  • @acutehandlelol
    @acutehandlelol 3 месяца назад +10

    Fear will never disappear. If we keep waiting till we "fix it" before we start taking up space, we will never start. Let's all be brave even if we're scared as hell, do it for the little girl in you! Good luck girlies 😚🩷🎀

  • @ArianaNunezz
    @ArianaNunezz 3 месяца назад +3

    This was exactly what I needed to hear. Recently I've uncovered that my biggest fear is being seen and perceived negatively by other people, to a point that it is controlling my life. This video provided so many perspective shifts that I definitely needed to hear from someone else. Thank you for sharing! Love these videos.

  • @dayvancowgirl
    @dayvancowgirl 3 месяца назад +8

    I need to keep telling myself I'm deserving

  • @naturalebeing
    @naturalebeing 19 дней назад

    This was huge. I got bullied ruthlessly all throughout grade school. I was so outspoken, confident, bold, passionate, and they hated it. My teachers as well as my classmates, I got bullied by teachers as much as my peers. People always called me dumb because I was very engaged in class and I’m a blonde, so at some point I decided to lean into it and amped up my “dumb blonde” behavior. I’ve carried that identity into adulthood, I’m only now at 26 starting to embrace the fact that I am intelligent and my thoughts/opinions matter. Most of my issues in life stem from my refusal to be seen.

  • @sarasundell4319
    @sarasundell4319 2 месяца назад +3

    Wearing red is scientifically proven to be eye catching ❤

  • @KathleenDavis731
    @KathleenDavis731 3 месяца назад +15

    Such an important topic to really unpack

  • @gabbriellejacobs5192
    @gabbriellejacobs5192 3 месяца назад +4

    This video in particular means so much to me. I feel like the topic applies to me directly. Its been a personal struggle for me my whole life. Thank you so much for making this video. Your advice is definitely what I needed and I am going to follow it. I am grateful. Thank you

  • @moumitabiswas1801
    @moumitabiswas1801 3 месяца назад +2

    Thank you Jillz for posting this video. It’s been a few days I have been working with my therapist on this. I have been judged, criticised and shamed all throughout my childhood. I had been bullied at home & school. Thankfully got a few good friends. Deeply thank you ❤ You changed my perception.

  • @mc7playatease
    @mc7playatease 2 месяца назад +1

    Brilliant! you are a gifted presenter, and I am grateful for your gracious gift. Bless you LOVE xoxOxox

  • @_nicole02
    @_nicole02 3 месяца назад +1

    I really appreciate myself having time to watch this video…i realized some things about myself but really didn't know how to go about them. This really did help thank you

  • @panickimg
    @panickimg 3 месяца назад +2

    Wtf the universe guided me to you and you used the perfect words to describe the feelings. Thank you.

  • @rainsoaked_dreamer
    @rainsoaked_dreamer 3 месяца назад +2

    wooooooooooooooooooo This is tough stuff! Great video, I am going to start taking baby steps!

  • @dafnneperez9577
    @dafnneperez9577 Месяц назад

    You have the gift to explain the most complex topics in a practical and easy way to understand. All the best! 🎉🔥🙏🏽

  • @LindsayGrandberry
    @LindsayGrandberry 3 месяца назад +4

    Wow 500k!!!! Congratulations!!! Way to go Queen!!! xoxoox

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  3 месяца назад

      Ahh thank you!!!!! 🥰❤️❤️❤️

  • @Lilyllewspare
    @Lilyllewspare 3 месяца назад +1

    I had to watch the entire thing on silent with subtitles because I'm at the gym on a treadmill and my headphones have died 😂 but it was great so thank you ❤

  • @nataliedube1665
    @nataliedube1665 Месяц назад

    I love being myself when I’m with friends and family members but for some reason I’m scared and overthink certain parts of myself with guys on dates. I’m fine with being seen until it comes to those more difficult things. It’s important to see that it’s not just me facing this ❤

  • @hellcat.countess
    @hellcat.countess 3 месяца назад +3

    I have been trying to refresh my Subscriptions page on YT the whole day for the best of vibes. Thank you for posting this at the right time. 🫶🏼✨️

  • @alinemartinez7256
    @alinemartinez7256 3 месяца назад +1

    Hii Jillz! Thank you for the video, big fan of the channel! 🌷 Id like to suggest a video; On moving out and living alone, some feminine habits that might minimize pain and loneliness, and improve discipline for competence. I’m planning on this and really scared.. xxxx

  • @VICTORIARAFAELLAMARIASILVADESO
    @VICTORIARAFAELLAMARIASILVADESO 3 месяца назад +7

    When I was a kid I had so much fear of being seen

  • @healed9259
    @healed9259 3 месяца назад

    I never wanted to look past to my childhood.It was too overwhelmeing & alz ended up crying.As a18 yr old i realise my younger self deserved so much.Iam never gonna upset myself & will start being bold❤

  • @DaveyBlueJay
    @DaveyBlueJay 3 месяца назад +1

    This message is so beautiful. thank you!

  • @Sunethrae
    @Sunethrae 2 месяца назад

    Your videos have helped me so much learn more about myself and grow further. Thank you for all that you do❤

  • @mo_moneyyy
    @mo_moneyyy 3 месяца назад +1

    Literally just finished an eft taping for “fear of being seen”. How did you just post this 5 hours ago!!

  • @DamrudharNag-q7h
    @DamrudharNag-q7h 3 месяца назад

    Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone

  • @anikalee9012
    @anikalee9012 3 месяца назад +2

    This is one of my problem. Everytime people notice me in my head is like Danger!!!!

  • @lilaxshade
    @lilaxshade 3 месяца назад

    Congratulations on 500k! 🎉Love your videos, so helpful. I resonate with taking small steps so much, and it's so awesome when it compounds and there are visible results.

  • @cristinadiazaleiva6845
    @cristinadiazaleiva6845 3 месяца назад

    You're healing my soul❤ Thanks, I've been working a lot on myself since I found you. Thank you so much❤

  • @merlyn8062
    @merlyn8062 3 месяца назад +1

    A really needed message !!... So clearly elucidated I... This video certainly resonates with me !!.. Thanks a ton Jilllz.... Love 💖 and wishes 🎉from India .

  • @emmasjellycatcollection
    @emmasjellycatcollection 3 месяца назад +2

    Aw I remember being here at a few thousand and your channel has helped me a lot. Thank you so much super inspiring 🥹🩷💕✨

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  3 месяца назад +1

      Ahh thank you for being here since the beginning!! I appreciate you! ❤️❤️

    • @emmasjellycatcollection
      @emmasjellycatcollection 3 месяца назад

      @@JillzGuerin Queen 👸 🩷 You deserve every like and follow I wish you the most success!

  • @vintageKatie
    @vintageKatie 3 месяца назад

    i am normally not compelled to comment on things, but im 26 and an artist and this video called me out SOOOOO bad LOL!!!! keeping this one close

  • @angelqueen4885
    @angelqueen4885 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for this video ❤. I didn’t know how much i needed it until i watched….you are on point! Side note: You look so pretty, RED is definitely your color. ❤

  • @Cara.s_Life_Is_Pink
    @Cara.s_Life_Is_Pink 3 месяца назад

    You are just making videos for me at this point! 😅 And your videos just get better and better! ❤❤❤

  • @lew2227
    @lew2227 2 месяца назад

    You’re an angel 💜🥳 thank you for your work!!🥰

  • @haitress
    @haitress 3 месяца назад +3

    Congrats on 500k! It is so well deserved! So happy for you Jillz! Your videos have really changed my life and allowed me to step into my feminine energy

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  3 месяца назад

      Thank you so much!!! 🥰🥰🥰

  • @liezacarroll8018
    @liezacarroll8018 2 месяца назад

    Love this video! Thank you!❤

  • @lifeofyarden
    @lifeofyarden 3 месяца назад

    Thank you so much for sharing your insights in this video--as someone that struggles with this- I found it really helpful
    😊💖

  • @arav1102
    @arav1102 3 месяца назад

    Amazing content in this video! I rarely suggest anything in comments, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is a game-changer. It provides deep knowledge on wealth and self-care that can really make a difference. Take care, everyone

  • @mahwishqayyum9598
    @mahwishqayyum9598 3 месяца назад

    These are very deep observations of thoughts, you've made.

  • @PA-tu1jg
    @PA-tu1jg 3 месяца назад

    That made me teary eyed.. thank you for the nudge Jillz 🦋

  • @juliaisabella2236
    @juliaisabella2236 3 месяца назад

    Hey Jillz, today in particular watching your video really made my day and gave me the insight that I know I needed to hear ❤ thank-you! You’re noticed in my world and I appreciate you doing what you’ve done, so I can benefit haha and everyone else too. I come here for your info and the level-up and you! I’m here for it 💎💌💖

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  3 месяца назад

      Aw thank you so much 🥹❤️ sending you so much love!

  • @Nivruttisolav
    @Nivruttisolav 3 месяца назад +529

    It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!

    • @hello_autumn
      @hello_autumn 3 месяца назад +1

      Is it for females? I'm asking because in one site i red its kind of a guide book for men to understand female psyche for approaching women for dating and building relationships..
      Please enlighten..
      Could you please suggest me some other books? I'm 22 and lost, i doubt myself and dealing with identity crisis ..

    • @bluebella26
      @bluebella26 3 месяца назад

      @@hello_autumn if you like podcasts, listen to The Champagne Diet💕Hope this helps!

    • @bela2721
      @bela2721 2 месяца назад

      Bot

  • @hamsashreemuralikrishna7768
    @hamsashreemuralikrishna7768 3 месяца назад

    Exactly what I needed! Perfect timing🎉❤

  • @sandrakueviakoe4800
    @sandrakueviakoe4800 3 месяца назад

    Thank you very much for this video. I needed it. I cried and i healed. Your tips help me too. Thank you ❤

  • @glykokoutaliousyko
    @glykokoutaliousyko 3 месяца назад

    Thanks for another nice video😊 🌻
    Just wanted to add that some women might be afraid of positive judgement as well. To connect it with what you mentioned about childhood ;mums that were not comfortable themselves receiving for example attention and compliments, can pass through this "modesty" to their daughters.. ( my case too 😋) .

  • @alphapylori4490
    @alphapylori4490 2 месяца назад

    Can you talk about being a people pleaser to be accepted and how to snap out of it 🙌🏻🙌🏻

  • @mahwishqayyum9598
    @mahwishqayyum9598 3 месяца назад

    Your approach is interesting and intellectual

  • @anvisham9189
    @anvisham9189 3 месяца назад

    Hi Jillz ❤ Always love your video and the way of your explanation ❤ Being seen definitely changes our life in many ways. Thank you for such a Informative video ❤ Have a Great Day ❤

  • @alexjohnson111
    @alexjohnson111 3 месяца назад +2

    This is so timely!

  • @vanessajooo
    @vanessajooo 3 месяца назад

    Thank you Jillz, I needed that!💛

  • @BlancaMarínRibera
    @BlancaMarínRibera 3 месяца назад

    THANK YOU🙏🏼❤️

  • @Vale_______4839
    @Vale_______4839 3 месяца назад +1

    Have you ever thought about starting a podcast? I'd love that!

  • @anastasiafreesoul8188
    @anastasiafreesoul8188 3 месяца назад

    I love it ! So helpful !!! Thank you,Jillz ! Thank you from Bulgria, Europe! 🤗🥰❤❤❤

  • @katieegdell1488
    @katieegdell1488 3 месяца назад

    This is exactly the video I needed today, the perfect timing ✨ Well explained concepts and actionable steps 👏🏼

  • @ingridfaro7442
    @ingridfaro7442 3 месяца назад +1

    very good ❤

  • @fionapereira4148
    @fionapereira4148 3 месяца назад

    Thank you so much girl.. You explained it well❤❤

  • @relishbee187
    @relishbee187 3 месяца назад

    much needed videos and love the tips for dressing well. tysm

  • @letticiaweasly9952
    @letticiaweasly9952 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for what you do❤ You are a gift☀️

  • @nospoon1111
    @nospoon1111 3 месяца назад

    I need this blouse in my life ❤

  • @tuma0000
    @tuma0000 3 месяца назад

    I don’t know if I said this before but; thanks Jillz for finding me and guide me to be butter version of myself, seriously thank you gorgeous❤
    Ok now we come to your amusing look I love the RED on you massive choice ❤️‍🔥😍

  • @laurenmcolletti
    @laurenmcolletti 3 месяца назад

    Beautiful video. Resonated a lot. Very inspiring, thank you❤

  • @jo.hnny79
    @jo.hnny79 3 месяца назад

    love this and absolutely needed this 💓

  • @jennysegal1211
    @jennysegal1211 3 месяца назад

    thank you so much for this! 💖

  • @gio_pru
    @gio_pru 3 месяца назад

    Thank you! ❤
    You inspire me so much 😊

  • @kashawn
    @kashawn 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for the message, very timely.😊

  • @lianilges_lilaconeal
    @lianilges_lilaconeal 13 дней назад

    0:59 hits home 😶

  • @azeoo5666
    @azeoo5666 3 месяца назад

    This video is right timing ❤

  • @dareenaljaaidi
    @dareenaljaaidi 3 месяца назад

    Jillz thank youuuuuu❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @dais216
    @dais216 3 месяца назад

    I keep seeing videos on this - it must be a big hint hint

  • @bryttanikrob8
    @bryttanikrob8 3 месяца назад +2

    I have a fear of being seen because I always felt like I never fit in anyway. I have lazy eye and often didn’t want people to look at me because I didn’t want people to see it and make fun of me. I still have trouble letting myself be seen.

    • @cristinaslattery2579
      @cristinaslattery2579 3 месяца назад +1

      I had a lazy eye and had eye surgery for it. Maybe you want to look into this, if it makes sense. I couldn’t drive for a long time and I am so very grateful the issue was corrected and I can drive again!

    • @bryttanikrob8
      @bryttanikrob8 3 месяца назад

      @@cristinaslattery2579 I had the surgery to correct it when I was younger but I heard that as you age the muscles weaken and so surgery might be necessary again. I will definitely look into it.

  • @NaglaaAdel-s4q
    @NaglaaAdel-s4q 3 месяца назад

    Good episode thank u i will read the book ❤❤

  • @marinamayer6920
    @marinamayer6920 День назад

    Learning all this at the end of my 30s!

  • @kaileywatts7508
    @kaileywatts7508 3 месяца назад

    Loved this!!

  • @Brittwhales
    @Brittwhales 3 месяца назад +11

    In psychology, we may call this rejection sensitivity dysphoria. I definitely struggle with this.

  • @An_Drea_Calling
    @An_Drea_Calling 3 месяца назад

    Love, I need a video with a tutorial on how you do your hair. It looks fabulous!

    • @bellaella4485
      @bellaella4485 3 месяца назад +1

      I think she did a video on it a while ago 😊 I can’t remember the title though :/

    • @An_Drea_Calling
      @An_Drea_Calling 3 месяца назад

      Oh, thanks ​@@bellaella4485!

  • @DreamLife-bd7rz
    @DreamLife-bd7rz 3 месяца назад

    Tnx for sharing💖

  • @stephclet
    @stephclet 3 месяца назад

    Very helpful thank you Jill !! 😃💜

  • @DoudaNourFeriel
    @DoudaNourFeriel 3 месяца назад

    I hope I can get out of this circle I live in ..I really waist a whole year in school not showing that I can do good ,,just because I was scared that I'll do less than the others and end up embarrassing myself

  • @narutosd8178
    @narutosd8178 2 месяца назад

    Love it so much

  • @Theshortprocecutor
    @Theshortprocecutor 3 месяца назад

    I love your videos and find them to be very helpful❤❤

  • @SID-RIUSLY
    @SID-RIUSLY 3 месяца назад +1

    Wowwwww!
    Early! 💅✨

  • @KuduBaby-x3p
    @KuduBaby-x3p 3 месяца назад

    Hey.... Thank you

  • @coralifyblog5448
    @coralifyblog5448 3 месяца назад

    Love your content ❤

  • @lianilges_lilaconeal
    @lianilges_lilaconeal 13 дней назад

    9:04 your friendly reminder for overcoming your fear(s)

  • @sonja7711
    @sonja7711 3 месяца назад

    Thank you ❤

  • @kaitlananderson4302
    @kaitlananderson4302 3 месяца назад +3

    Hi Jillz, could you make a video about preparing for and embracing the upcoming cold seasons. I know its still a little bit away but we had a cold front come through my area for a couple days and it felt just like fall was here early, it really got me dreading the end of summer. I typically get really down during the cold months but this year I want to prepare and embrace the cold seasons more. I'm thinking getting preped with clothing that will keep me really warm and getting excited about getting my sweaters out. Last year was the first year that I kept trying to get outside everyday even in the cold and I was surprised to realize how warm the sun on my skin can make me feel even in the cold air..so I'm going to keep getting sun too. I'm sure there are other things I could do to prepare and embrace the cold months and I think you could make a really great video with suggestions. Thanks!

    • @JillzGuerin
      @JillzGuerin  3 месяца назад +1

      I’ll try to do that! ❤️

    • @kaitlananderson4302
      @kaitlananderson4302 3 месяца назад

      @@JillzGuerin thank you! ❤

    • @Himmiefan
      @Himmiefan 3 месяца назад +3

      Look into the concept of hygge. There are some good suggestions out there. Personally, I focus on candles and using a lot of fairy string lights around the house. After Christmas, I leave up the white lights and have special winter decorations.

    • @Jojo-k8b
      @Jojo-k8b 3 месяца назад +1

      At first I thought you meant cold season like the virus and thought huh that's a weird ask lol

  • @emmataylor8947
    @emmataylor8947 3 месяца назад +1

    I have a massive childhood abuse history and I'm also a trans woman. I have absolutely no idea how to tackle the fear of being seen especially in a world that does want to judge me and hurt me for something I didn't choose.