How I completely changed my life (and you can too!)

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  • Опубликовано: 26 апр 2022
  • I thought it was important for me to share this story with you because it’s probably the most significant one that shaped me and my whole outlook on life. I hope that it can spark a little inspiration or serve as a reminder that it’s never too late to change if you are not happy with the current trajectory of your life.
    "We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection." - Brené Brown.
    C O M E S A Y H I-
    My Personal Channel: / sophiedaquis
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    Website: www.malama-life.com
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    I N Q U I R I E S
    sophie.malamalife@gmail.com
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    C A M E R A G E A R
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  • @LizzieOktambe
    @LizzieOktambe 2 года назад +1762

    “Don’t just be yourself, create yourself.” Very powerful and it really got me thinking. Thank you for this wonderful video. ♥️

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +30

      I'm happy to hear that :)

    • @LearnWithLilibeth
      @LearnWithLilibeth 2 года назад +3

      8:17

    • @kulwantvig9226
      @kulwantvig9226 2 года назад +1

      @@MalamaLife qqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqqq

    • @malehuseng8196
      @malehuseng8196 Год назад +1

      Maex. St ging

    • @nawee6801
      @nawee6801 Год назад +4

      Yup.. always thought that it's an overrated/overused advice.. " Just be yourself" what if you are a jerk.. do you keep being a jerk...? 🤔🤦🏽

  • @155books
    @155books 2 года назад +545

    “We are not just the main character in our life, we are the author” 👌🏻🥺💗

    • @emoses
      @emoses Год назад

      We are both!

    • @ussliberty4631
      @ussliberty4631 Год назад +1

      Watch Europa the last battle it completely changed my entire life

    • @2DOLLARRIP
      @2DOLLARRIP Год назад +1

      We are also the antagonist, the secondary characters and the setting. Only you can decide how many pages are in the book. What you don't control are the volumes.

  • @calistaj2284
    @calistaj2284 11 месяцев назад +37

    I love her voice. It's so soothing and can help when you're having a bad day and you just need some advice from a big sis.

  • @error0803
    @error0803 Год назад +188

    "discomfort is a sign of your growth"
    That was deep and eye opening for me. Thx

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад +6

      ❤️ glad it resonates with you

  • @therobotdevil2284
    @therobotdevil2284 2 года назад +483

    I've heard "You used to be more fun" and it stings. It's just a painful reminder that we can outgrow friendships, but that's ok. Thank you for sharing your story and wisdom ♥️

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +51

      So true! Even the closest friendships can grow apart

    • @fajaroncam9229
      @fajaroncam9229 2 года назад

      @@MalamaLife go to Bali Island.

    • @ricardomorares7327
      @ricardomorares7327 2 года назад

      Go to hell then and never get back !
      May Jesus Christ burn the devil spirit which is inside of you.

    • @tanya4219
      @tanya4219 2 года назад +1

      @@MalamaLife it can be good part of urs lives too.If that was a true friendship,it would never end.

    • @dayah03y2k
      @dayah03y2k Год назад

      Yup same what im going through right now, feel so sad, but change is inevitable

  • @Diana-dl2ft
    @Diana-dl2ft 2 года назад +128

    When I had just met my husband, my sister said to me, "do you really think someone like him is going to be in a serious relationship with you"
    I thought she was projecting but in reality it's because she didn't really know me, the side that he fell in love with, because I'm reserve with mostly everyone and few people know who I really am. That's how it's been all my life feeling like i don't belong but now I don't mind not belonging and standing on my own.

  • @libinsalal429
    @libinsalal429 Год назад +102

    "You are the author of your story" . True words. I hope everyone feeling lonely here will build your life better.

  • @Myeternalperspective
    @Myeternalperspective 2 года назад +96

    "to accept what was and finally move on."....that's powerful.

  • @mom4peace919
    @mom4peace919 2 года назад +322

    I was widowed 5 years ago at the age of 54. I've spent 5 years clinging to the widow title and living safely in limbo. I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing your inspiring story in such a thoughtful way.

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +19

      Big hugs ❤

    • @SuzannesSimpleLiving
      @SuzannesSimpleLiving 2 года назад +19

      Hi Tammy… I was widowed nearly 10 years ago and also had the widow title, I learnt to move on because I didn’t want my life to be wasted the same as my partner dying young. Happy to say that I am now in an extremely amazing place. Good luck in whatever you choose to do 😊🇬🇧💕

    • @shabnammago183
      @shabnammago183 2 года назад +4

      Same story here but you have to move on as you have one life to be lived and if you have children you have to consider that you are a source of inspiration for them

    • @Gabi-wm7yk
      @Gabi-wm7yk Год назад +9

      My patient told me she just found love at the age of 64!!! Now she is 86 hopping to get well soon in order to reunite with her partner.

  • @mandylaplante4985
    @mandylaplante4985 2 года назад +253

    It's amazing how 8:59 minutes can have such an impact for the rest of our lifes. I can't imagine the amount of energy you put into each video, but please know that they are timeless masterpieces. ❤

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +9

      ❤️

    • @christinam6430
      @christinam6430 2 года назад +7

      I agree. I have a few of Sophie’s videos saved in a favorites playlist because there are so many wonderful lessons that I like to revisit

  • @khalilahd.
    @khalilahd. 2 года назад +571

    The courage you have to be so open and transparent about such a difficult topic is beyond inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story and how you learned from it 🙏🏽

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +25

      Thanks Khaliliah ❤ that means a lot

    • @Perfectpeace19
      @Perfectpeace19 2 года назад +1

      I couldn't of said that better Khalilah.

    • @m2pozad
      @m2pozad 2 года назад +7

      @@Perfectpeace19 Probably not. She says the same thing on all the channels.

  • @amandal8404
    @amandal8404 2 года назад +93

    Sophie, this is so timely. I've been talking to my hubby a lot lately about "changing the narrative", ever since we moved to a new place. 5 years ago, I couldnt code, rollerblade, bake, or dance, and all that changed because I decided to rewrite my narrative. This is so encouraging as I continue to navigate change and growth in life!

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +6

      I'm happy for you! the narrative we tell ourselves is so important! it can be life changing ❤️

    • @jayjuan919
      @jayjuan919 Год назад

      Did you learn to code on your own?

  • @emmalimariyel8401
    @emmalimariyel8401 Год назад +23

    I decided to change my life recently but never thought it would be that hard. It feels like even my body refuses to leave habits of old life and begin to do things that I really want. I spent about three years in depressed state, and still overcoming it, that's what's making things harder for me. But I know I will get over it. I know I can. But it's harder than it seemed.
    Your story really is inspiring, and I think I just figured out some things for myself.
    Thank you.

  • @lazytales722
    @lazytales722 2 года назад +132

    Love the way you narrate and it's important to be a narrater of your own story.

  • @jonetsu8890
    @jonetsu8890 Год назад +24

    "Because everyone's battle is so unique and different." How right you are. I used to play down my mom's narcissm and the pain and trouble she sends the family through and sometimes, I still do. "Hey, some people don't have parents, you do." But it is painful, it is difficult. And accepting that it is a vulnerable part of your soul is the first and most important step. Sending you my support and love!

  • @LaureninGermany
    @LaureninGermany 2 года назад +181

    Maybe you were more fun, but fun for whom? Thank you for sharing this. You have added to the honesty that makes RUclips so special, and proved your authenticity once again. I do hope you somehow know how much you are inspiring and supporting people all over the world with your content.
    Btw, I started my channel after watching your video about starting in 2021 and not only has it changed my life so much for the better, but I went over 1000 subscribers a couple of days ago.

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +17

      Thank you for your sweet comment Lauren 🥺❤ that means a lot. And so happy to hear about your YT journey! Congrats!!

    • @LaureninGermany
      @LaureninGermany 2 года назад +7

      @@MalamaLife thank you, Sophie! I remember watching your video and feeling so inspired, and I really wanted to tell you. It’s made both me and my husband happier - it’s a beautiful addition to my life, gets me out and about so much more and I‘m meeting some wonderful people here on YT. ❤️🤗 Thank you for all you do!

    • @nicholajayne
      @nicholajayne 2 года назад +4

      You now have another subscriber Lauren :)

    • @coco-bz3kp
      @coco-bz3kp Год назад +2

      You’re so sweet

    • @LaureninGermany
      @LaureninGermany Год назад +2

      @@nicholajayne thank you so much!!

  • @Emptybasilisk
    @Emptybasilisk 2 года назад +46

    I am glad to discover I am not the only one trying to "change my narrative" as you said! It is a pretty long and difficult journey, I often feel lonely because I thought nobody can really understand me, so thank you for sharing such an intimate story with us !

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +2

      ❤️ Yes! you're not alone

  • @acadaemian
    @acadaemian 2 года назад +27

    is it not wonderful that there is always a possibility for us to change, to grow, to turn our lives around? it's so inspiring to me that we are just one good choice away from starting the avalanche of other good choices that will benefit us. the journey doesn't have to be rushed or flawless, but it needs to be genuine and healing. lots of love from your new subscriber 🥰 your content really resonates with me. thank you so much!

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +2

      Yes! I think the choice is always there :) Thank you for your comment and for supporting me❤️

  • @in.spired.bylife
    @in.spired.bylife Год назад +7

    "change always comes with discomfort" 🙏 such deep truths, thank you for this✨

  • @hcy_jann.laquip2003
    @hcy_jann.laquip2003 2 года назад +3

    one of my new inspirations, I see as an introvert our similarity from dreams and personalities, so I will try to pursue all my dreams despite my depression and anxiety that makes me miserable and tearful, through my trust in god, I can achieve the life I want like you

  • @ErikStenbakken
    @ErikStenbakken 2 года назад +15

    I think it’s a testament to the transparency of this video that so many strangers feel compelled, yet safe, to share their stories in response. That’s powerful.

  • @TheMaribel1981
    @TheMaribel1981 Год назад +4

    “To accept what was and finally move on” super powerful!!

  • @herjourney862
    @herjourney862 2 года назад +66

    There's something so peaceful and elegant about your channel that intrigues me. During my gap year, last year, I started watching your videos and it brought immense joy to me and helps me in my journey through self discovery. Thank you for sharing your story with us. 💕

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +3

      I'm so happy to hear that ❤ so cool we're on this journey together

  • @TheMagicCrafter
    @TheMagicCrafter Год назад +7

    I love your videos so much. Thank you for sharing your story. You're such an inspiration 🖤

  • @682sunidhibhardwaj7
    @682sunidhibhardwaj7 2 года назад +10

    The Change was Scary but also Freeing at the Same time!-
    It felt like..these words were said SPECIALLY for me to hear them!

  • @anomiwijesinghe
    @anomiwijesinghe 2 года назад +16

    Perfect content. Thanks Sophie! You being 31, so brave and found the true life so early in your journey. I am still struggling to break the walls of tradition, culture, acceptance and yet seeking the peace in mind, happiness and I’m almost 10 years late than you!

  • @sarasaeq3446
    @sarasaeq3446 2 года назад +38

    This is literally a piece of art and I’m so thankful I made this incredibly beautiful and amazing message for us! Ily!

  • @CeritaFandaVancouver
    @CeritaFandaVancouver 2 года назад +28

    Sophie, I can only imagine how difficult and sad that separation must have been and it's inspiring how you've turned it around into self-reflection, strengths, and shaped your life.

  • @tessn6471
    @tessn6471 Год назад +7

    Your lifestyle is literally what I'm working on creating. Thank you for creating such a beautiful video and for providing encouraging words 🙌

  • @ericeichstaedt2357
    @ericeichstaedt2357 2 года назад +7

    Sophie, we share a similar story. Though I'm much older now than you, at around 11 going on 12 my family moved, and it was very traumatizing and shocking, and I did things that created more destruction.
    I too knew I deserved better, and I've spent all these years creating a life worthy of me. I know I haven't always been as conscious as I could be, but I do think I've created a pretty decent painting so far. Thanks for sharing your story and process. I know what you've been through on sone level. We're so vulnerable and like you said don't have the tools yet. Not many at least. But every day is the first day of the rest of our lives, always another chance.

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +2

      Every day is the first day of our lives. I'll remember this :)

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 2 года назад

      Love is a Tapestry; Success is a journey. You are precious... 💞

  • @ChaiTogether
    @ChaiTogether 9 месяцев назад +5

    I felt called to look up this topic before bed :) glad you created it! ❤

  • @poppycalliope
    @poppycalliope 2 года назад +10

    " I want nothing but the best for me" such strong words, we should always remember to do what's best for us cause at the end of the day we tend to be the most strict with ourselves. Thank you for sharing your story. All I see is a beautiful, strong and capable woman. ✨️💕

  • @iamalady461
    @iamalady461 2 года назад +9

    This video really hit home. I can relate to feeling abandoned as a child and the spiral an adolescent goes into as a result. I changed the narrative and have so much peace and gratitude. I wish my mother well, wherever she is.

  • @KristinaKooks
    @KristinaKooks 2 года назад +28

    I bet it was hard for you to share this story with us, but thank you for doing so. I was really inspired with the part where you moved away from Alaska to the place where you didn't know anyone. Sending you love and positive energy! ❤️✨

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +2

      ❤️ thanks Kristina. Thanks for watching

  • @shackeriabrown2378
    @shackeriabrown2378 2 года назад +37

    So beautiful, the narration, the graphics, the message... love what it embodies 🥰

  • @SaraBiancaBentley
    @SaraBiancaBentley 2 года назад +38

    Sophie, this was so elegant in its honesty… I already greatly admired your channel and everything you have accomplished with it, yet now I find myself just completely in awe. Thank you for sharing your story… what an inspiration ✨

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +3

      aw thank you so much Sara. I appreciate your comment so much

  • @skylerxing7548
    @skylerxing7548 Год назад +6

    I want to say that your story resonates with me. Something relates to unhappy childhood, like an identity crisis. It will evolve into a battle inside the mind always reminding us who we are and how we live this life. I just hope that all people suffering from this could find their way to live through the dark times and be happy again.

  • @thea1rachiel
    @thea1rachiel Год назад +4

    This is a synchronistic message. I’d been feeling as though I’d been thru ‘too much’ trauma to come back from it ever. Just last night, I realized what I now wanted was to gather myself away from this idea and leave it behind. I deserve not to have to keep carrying the story of how much I’ve been through.

  • @KatrinaKavvalos
    @KatrinaKavvalos Год назад +7

    You have such a beautiful voice! I felt completely at ease listening to you tell your story. Congrats on breaking the chains to your old story and embracing the new one ❤

  • @empope188
    @empope188 2 года назад +5

    Thank you so much for having the courage to share your story Sophie, it is truly inspiring. Your channel is seriously such a gift and this video has come at the perfect time. It's such a beautiful reminder that we hold the pen, the brush, and the tools to create the thoughts that shape our life and that part of transformation is uncomfortable growth.

  • @mariemarzan1716
    @mariemarzan1716 2 года назад +3

    The courage for narrating your own story and the powerful messages you shared definitely touched a nerve. Thank you for creating this channel. You are inspiring people beyond measures.

  • @midhunamenon6551
    @midhunamenon6551 2 года назад +3

    Thank you so much Sophie!! This video just changed my perspective and I'm so grateful that you are sharing this with us!! Love you lot! ❤

  • @mihaelaclaudiap..2
    @mihaelaclaudiap..2 2 года назад +16

    Sophie my lovely you made me cry! I adore this video, my absolute favourite from you! And even if I wasn't adopted I can relate a lot with your pain, I had my own share as well and I also had to choose at one point, do I want to keep playing the angry victim or just start working on my self and accept my past. I chose to bring out the best of me and see my past from an observer's point of view, without judgement, it was what it was, I cannot change that but I can change my present and my future because I deserve peace and happiness. i am glad I did that choice, my life it's much better now and same is my relationship with the ones around me. The change was very hard but was worth the pain! Thank you Sophie for reminding me all this! Much love!

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +3

      I'm so glad you can relate to this message Mihaela! I think it's really liberating that no matter what happens, we always have a choice on how to view it. much love to you ❤️

  • @mumbis1845
    @mumbis1845 Год назад +10

    Thank you Sophie, you're one of the most genuine people that I have ever come across on RUclips! Thank you for sharing yourself with us, for being vulnerable, authentic and realistic, addressing real life issues head on, without fear! Compared to most millenials of today, you truly are a breath of fresh air.....I hope that those young people who will be blessed to see your videos will know that they can change the trajectory of their lives. Thank you so much, keep on keeping on :). Love your two dogs by the way!

  • @lely757
    @lely757 2 года назад

    Thank you for sharing your stories with healing messages. I love your videos. “Change is scary but also free at the same time” - this is exactly I feel now. Once again, thank you

  • @girlwinduhh
    @girlwinduhh 2 года назад

    When I hear you, it felt like I was listening to my soul. Your voice liberates, your wisdom inspires ❤️ thank you for this priceless connection.

  • @wl5721
    @wl5721 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I could not appreciate it more because I had a similar experience, that I was fostered since an infant and it was an indigenous community. Though I lived with mostly relatives and family friends and not complete strangers, my upbringing was quite turbulent that I had to frequently switch schools, and rotate families. Our physical conditions were very coarse, however, it was mainly the emotional needs of a child not being met. For a long time, I never questioned the way I grew up, always thought it is the way my life is, and internalized my pain and frustration, which led to many negative beliefs in me, such as "I don't deserve to be loved", "others have it better than me" or "no one would listen to me" and difficulty in expressing myself, etc. Your writing and videos are so beautiful, the way you articulated your story has also helped me to process mine. I can resonate so much with your words!

  • @kim.mie.
    @kim.mie. Год назад +4

    I am so sorry for what you had to experience at the age of 11 😔 so much love to you and your sister ❤

  • @ririzamel285
    @ririzamel285 2 года назад

    I really admire you for being so deep and gentle. Thank you so much for always inspiring us and that what makes you so beautiful!

  • @Olladar
    @Olladar Год назад

    This was just so wonderful. It’s been hard to resonate with the new generation of RUclipsrs out there but I love your channel and purpose. I’ve been going thru a hard time thus falling into bad habits and mentalities that don’t serve me (especially with buying goodies) and this is a grounding reminder. Thank you!

  • @atqiyamaisha7116
    @atqiyamaisha7116 2 года назад +6

    You have such a beautiful way of choosing your words and speaking ! It goes straight into our hearts 🤍
    Lots of prayers 🤍

  • @ananyasharma2834
    @ananyasharma2834 Год назад

    literally the only video about changing your life that makes real sense

  • @Zainchowdhury513
    @Zainchowdhury513 2 года назад

    Thank you for sharing your genuine and resilient self, may the goodness of life always surround you! What an amazing journey of growth you had, you’re brilliant!!

  • @oliviafortheocean
    @oliviafortheocean Год назад +3

    Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your journey! 💕

  • @elenad4294
    @elenad4294 2 года назад +7

    These last 2 videos you posted came exactly in the right moment for me as I quit my job, where I have been working for 5 years. I felt a bit scared but also very happy, now I really feel the journey just started. I don't know what I'm doing next, but I will allow myself to reflect and choose the career that suits me most hopefully.

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +2

      Wishing you all the best! excited for you!!

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 2 года назад +2

      Lots of resource in doing what You luv

  • @beautifulordinary
    @beautifulordinary Год назад

    Your videos serve as journal prompts for me. They're always so insightful and make me really think about what's important in life. Thank you!

  • @Cherrycreamsoda1
    @Cherrycreamsoda1 Год назад +1

    Thanks very much for making this video; I’m currently going through a difficult time and feeling lost and this is quite comforting to listen to 🙏❤️

  • @pyang264
    @pyang264 Год назад +5

    Thank you this was so inspiring and profound for me.

  • @kashmirakaya6557
    @kashmirakaya6557 2 года назад +7

    This was just what my soul needed to hear and feel. Thank you for creating and sharing you Sophie 💜

  • @keentoknowher
    @keentoknowher 2 года назад

    Much Needed Thank you so much, I was at my low, and didn't feel like doing anything. It comforted me after a very long period.

  • @dariush2329
    @dariush2329 Год назад

    this was the best morning video I have ever watched. Thank you and stay blessed ❤️

  • @dinuli2494
    @dinuli2494 2 года назад +12

    This came in just in time! Thank u for this!😇❤️

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +3

      ❤🥰 thanks for watching

  • @larkfly9273
    @larkfly9273 2 года назад +6

    Thank you SO much for allowing us to get to know you better on a deeper level. Please do more of these if you feel like it, I really liked this

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад

      Thanks for being here to hear my story 😁

  • @Wwennnnn
    @Wwennnnn 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for much for shading this, I was so motivated ❤️

  • @KishaMacalino
    @KishaMacalino 2 года назад +5

    As I am still young, I'm worried about myself and about my future. I'm honestly lost but thanks to your inspiring words and story about your life, I am now doing the things that I've set aside for too long.
    I am loving your videos so much! Thank you sooo muchhh! I'm learning a lot from you! 🫶🫶🫶

  • @lalletate7204
    @lalletate7204 Год назад

    your voice is so calm , makes me feel good and relaxed i loved this phrase don't just be yourself create yourself

  • @whtvr_clover
    @whtvr_clover Год назад +4

    This is beyond inspiring, Sophie. Thanks for sharing your story. You are courageous and resilient.

  • @SanujaJagoda
    @SanujaJagoda 2 года назад +4

    Thank you so much for sharing your story with us Sophie! Your strength and courage is so inspiring to so many of us out there ☺️❤️❤️

  • @amytownsend2512
    @amytownsend2512 Год назад +1

    This is one of my favourite videos of yours. I have been binge watching your channel, I find it thought provoking and calming. Thus video in particular came up in my suggested watches at just the right time. I have found myself completely changing the trajectory of my life and the way I embrace different situations. I love the new person I am becoming and watching your channel has truly helped me continue on my path. I cannot thank you enough! xxx

  • @valeriiademianenko5155
    @valeriiademianenko5155 2 года назад

    You spoke all those thoughts I've been having in my head last couple of years. Today I had a very tough day. I felt lost again. Started to compare myself to others. I'm so grateful I came across with this video. Made me feel so much better. Thank you for this beautiful reminder. I'm going to build myself up. It's my responsibility. Even when I feel like my whole world is falling apart, I promise I won't give up.

  • @enriquetavolari4117
    @enriquetavolari4117 2 года назад +4

    You gave me a hope in my difficult times! You gave me a strong motivation!You should be very proud for yourself and your journey!

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад

      ♥️ thank you so much

  • @joyceliu1117
    @joyceliu1117 2 года назад +3

    Dear Sophie, many thanks for sharing your story and inspiring us. I was crying when hearing your story and glad you made your life move on your own way. Wish you all the best, because you are well deserved it!

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад

      thank you so much ❤️ best wishes to you

  • @nouha9741
    @nouha9741 2 года назад

    u're totally right , " it never too late to change if you are not happy with the current trajectory of your life "

  • @martinamarino4599
    @martinamarino4599 Год назад +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your life with us to encourage to live happily being the authors of our lives❤️

  • @mpgibson6342
    @mpgibson6342 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for your openness and honesty in sharing your story. I too lived in the victim mentality for many years, and changing that mindset has been one of the most freeing decisions of my life, although that realization came very late to me. I know now that I did not want to take responsibility for my own happiness, but looked for it in the approval and love of others. That approach was doomed to failure. I have since learned to find happiness in myself - in the enjoyment of the present moment, as well as in the gratitude I feel for all the good things in my life.

  • @thats_nice_canada6283
    @thats_nice_canada6283 2 года назад +5

    You are wise beyond your years and thank you, I needed to receive this today 💗

  • @ameliap413
    @ameliap413 2 года назад

    This is the path I'm currently on. I feel like your message has helped me in a moment of doubt. Thank you!

  • @TacoTrucc
    @TacoTrucc 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing this, related on so many levels, & I've been guilty of this mentality early on & still working on.
    Your channel is amazing!

  • @robreeves4059
    @robreeves4059 2 года назад +6

    I seldom comment on anything but this time I am motivated to make an exception. I'll begin by saying Wow! what a beautiful, artistic, intellect she is. Wise beyond her years in her views. She has been given many gifts and is willing to share them with us through her narrative. How refreshing and inspiring even for a budding senior like me. Thank you Sophie.

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +1

      Thank you so much for you kind comment Rob. Appreciate it and happy you enjoyed the video

  • @lamialabadi9744
    @lamialabadi9744 2 года назад +5

    I teared up at the end of the video 🥺🥺 , thank you for sharing this with us, it came at the exact time when I was thinking that we always believe the story we tell ourselves, so we must be careful with the story we choose to embrace, changing the narrative of our story might look like a meaningless step, but it's the first step into changing our lives, it depends on everyone but the foundation of our narrative should come from a place of gratitude not a place of entitlement, a narrative where we feel as the hero and the survivor of our circumstances not a victim, that's what changing the narrative means to me, and as I am writing this comment I am reminding myself of it because it's easy to fall back into the past narrative if we don't constantly remind ourselves with the new one. Have a good week Sophie I am looking forward to seeing your next video 🎁

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +1

      I think it's so important to remind ourselves :) I love how you phrased it. I'm so happy that you enjoyed the video. Thank you ❤️

  • @jourdandolan2939
    @jourdandolan2939 Год назад

    I just found this video and it bought me such comfort with an incredibly hard time I’m going through. Like a sign from above. TY. 🙏🏻

  • @anjalidas4711
    @anjalidas4711 Год назад

    This video changed something in me.
    From now on, I'm going to work on changing the narrative to a one that suits me.
    Thankyou so much for sharing your story, and a bigger thankyou for the quote at the end!

  • @TubeDeviant
    @TubeDeviant 2 года назад +5

    Thank you for sharing something so personal with us. Once again, it helps us on our bad days to keep things in context and in perspective. I definitely needed to hear this as a reminder because sometimes we just feel helpless and tired of whatever situation we are dealing with at that moment. Feeling lost or without direction.
    While I'm not adopted, I had parents who didn't want me, was abandoned by my "father", and had a mother who made it clear that she didn't want me as a son. She took care of me, (I say that loosely) but the result of her not actually wanting me was verbal, emotional, psychological abuse. It could have been worse, so I'm thankful it wasn't. I guess the point is that everything is a double edged sword, even in your past experiences with your parents. On one side of the spectrum, your parents left you and your sister, and on the other side of the spectrum, they may have been abusive in every way possible if they didn't leave.
    I don't think you have an idea of how your videos actually affect others in the world, and for that, I say thank you.

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +2

      I'm so sorry to hear about your family. I hope that you can see past it and still create something beautiful for yourself. Sending you my love

    • @TubeDeviant
      @TubeDeviant 2 года назад

      @@MalamaLife Thank you..!
      I send you some love too..! =)
      Trying to make the most of the rest of my time, but who knows.. I wasted a lot of time in the past, not caring/not trying, being discouraged, with low confidence and ambition, but it's a lot better now.
      I need to GTFO of here.. haha.

  • @freewillietoday
    @freewillietoday 2 года назад +14

    Your story today is compelling and pictures an excellent outlook on how each of us can create our own narrative. I have steadfastly maintained to be myself and not worry what others think. That mantra combined with respecting others-humans, animals, and the environment is what I try to keep foremost in my mind.

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад

      Thanks Wilfred. I appreciate that! I agree with you on your mantra

  • @quotesnotquotes
    @quotesnotquotes Год назад

    The way you narrated your story is so relaxing

  • @homotiv5721
    @homotiv5721 Год назад

    How strong and smart you are. You push me to keep going in my way of change , you gave me the hope that I am looking for . sometime I am so weak I can not control my emotions and my bad feelings , I say that I will never forget the past and I will never have a stable mental health , I will always remember the past and my wounds never heal but with your video I have now I have the motivation to think in a positive way . thank you for sharing with us all of that♥️♥️♥️

  • @jahnavijammi8464
    @jahnavijammi8464 2 года назад +6

    Your story really moved me, thanks for sharing this. I think you are whatever you transformed in yourself, after all that you went through. Hardships are our true friends in life as they give you courage and chance to explore yourself. Thanks for being a great motivation to everyone through this channel. I really look forward every week to hear your soothing voice and some motivation in life, take care! ❤❤

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад

      aw thank you very much ❤️ I'm so happy to hear it

  • @theloveyourfacegal2773
    @theloveyourfacegal2773 2 года назад +7

    Sorry for your loss in the past 💕 beautiful area where you live live love the photography. So glad your mind set changed for a more positive out look thanks for sharing young lady :)

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +1

      Thank you so much Mary

  • @naturewithmarusa3539
    @naturewithmarusa3539 2 года назад +2

    And by creating yourself you change the trajectory of your life, you rewrite your story ❤️ I needed those worlds today, thank you!

  • @almab1044
    @almab1044 Год назад +1

    I have thought that my discomfort was telling me that something was wrong with me, it never occurred to me that it’s me growing and becoming the person I should be. I’m glad I found this video exactly when I needed it, your story has inspired me more than I can describe.❤️

  • @jill5977
    @jill5977 2 года назад +3

    I love your videos and I appreciate how much care and effort you put in your work. The pictures are aestheticly pleasing, and your words are considered and loving. I also love the slow pace of the pictures and your calming voice. All in all very harmonious ❤

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад

      I'm happy to hear that :) thank you!

  • @irene2958
    @irene2958 2 года назад +7

    Thanks for sharing your story with us. I really appreciate your inspiring videos. This topic touched me, because I've changed my life too. Thanks for the encouragement, Sophie!💚☀️😇💙

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +1

      I'm happy to hear that 🥰

  • @manurana7929
    @manurana7929 Год назад

    Wow !
    Powerful !
    Thanks for sharing .
    Lots of love and hugs .

  • @meghabhagat4972
    @meghabhagat4972 2 года назад

    Your Vibe is contagious that i myself feeling so contempt and free now 💖💖thanks for sharing

  • @tanatom11
    @tanatom11 Год назад +3

    This teared me up. Thank you for this. I needed this ❤

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад +1

      Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @iremsugirgin2105
    @iremsugirgin2105 2 года назад +3

    While I am watching your videos, it gives me the courage to change myself, my life, my narrative. Not just this video, almost your every videos. I am so happy for listening your life story, seeing your true self more than I saw ever in your other videos. We dont met, but I have a love for you, a pure love and it makes me so happy for knowing you more in this video. I am always appreciating what you've done and what you've said to us. So happy for discovering your channel, your beautiful and kind soul.
    With all my love 💖💟

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад +1

      big hugs to you ❤️ thank you for your kind words! it really means a lot.

    • @iremsugirgin2105
      @iremsugirgin2105 2 года назад

      @@MalamaLife 💗

  • @susannebarclay6096
    @susannebarclay6096 11 месяцев назад

    You have no idea how much I needed to see this today, right now! Thank you so much for your wonderful video. ❤️

  • @j.dtruths5577
    @j.dtruths5577 Год назад

    Thank you , I needed this tonight and I need to start ! Love you , J...

  • @SethuChandra
    @SethuChandra 2 года назад +3

    this has to be one of my favorite videos by you, I love the authenticity malma

  • @christinathorsen4274
    @christinathorsen4274 2 года назад +6

    This was truly powerful. Deeply resonated with me in this moment and place in my journey...namaste...thank you dearly 🙌🙏

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  2 года назад

      Thanks for watching ❤️ glad it resonated with you