@@stanleynzerue8705 Brother , if you don't do no contact, your ex woman mind will never reset nor will she ever respect you because she will see it as you're being too needy...Follow coach Lee instructions to the T
Thanks a lot. But my mum called her to cuss her ass out for the hurtful things she said and did to me, like cheating on me and leaving me for her low-level ex despite our talks about getting married. She asked her to return everything she had taken from me including money and gifts. However, I am still in my no-contact mode, despite how hard it's been because we had genuinely great and lovely times together. She took good care of me though and later claimed she was with me for the money when pressured by the dude. Shaking my head!! I have forgiven her and long for her, but my mum says she can't allow a cheat and chameleon like her back into my life.
@@stanleynzerue8705 Sound like you're dealing with a narcissist, please see videos so you can understand what you're dealing with. During no contact , I found out I was dealing with a narcissist. Narcissists always cheat with their ex , they will leave you for no reason on your behalf. They don't like being held accountable and they have no empathy. Narcissists enjoy making people upset because they think it gives them power over you. A narc will leave without any explanation in hopes of tearing your heart out..If you are dealing with a narcissist, you would be wise to stay in no contact. Stay Away...period
I fully agree and although I've broke it twice(In 10 months) I've learnt massively from it. Your self worth improves without contact and so does your ability to move forward with or without them coming back.
I stopped calling and texting! No response to his calls or texts not interested in reconciliation. My worth is more than he could ever know now he wants another chance I don't want someone who was unsure of our future I cannot live wondering if it may happen again! Gave back the ring not looking back😊 Be strong every one NC works its been two years still in NC I've moved forward!
I begged a little. I wrote a letter. I felt guilt because i thought i pushed them away. She replied but cold, emotionless and told me she doesn't care about me. Then i stopped talking to her. Full no contact. She messaged me last week asking for closure. This was after 9 months no contact. I ignored her, already over her and disgusted by her attitude in her responses in the initial phases. Moving on was best thing ever for my life which is much better now. They will contact you eventually guys dont worry. Keep your self respect unlike my initial mistake
Exactly what happened in my case , mine Called saying a mutual friend said I told them to contact me I smiled I told her sorry I never did such , she said she’s been asking about me , she told me she is surviving by his grace . I didn’t stay long on call I wasn’t cold , when excited either , I asked was this her phone number , she didn’t know why I was asking I was asking because I deleted and blocked her from reaching me so I was surprised she did . She felt I was gonna contact her back afterwards I didn’t . I guess that sent her the right message , is never a good ideal to take an ex back in most cases , when a glass is broken you can’t forge it back even if you do , the cracks will always show . Guys in most cases move on . Sometimes I come back to coach Lee to smile and laugh remembering the days I gave out stupid power to people who didn’t worth it
When you realize the last time you saw them was the last time seeing them and you had no idea that would be the last time.. I’m there right now, 2 months into a break and I’m feeling all types of ways. Especially thinking of her with other guys
A bit of a NC success story. I found myself on Coach Lee's RUclips channel about 2 half months ago, fresh out of a breakup. I literally spent hours and hours (to many to admit) watching his videos, over and over again, I'm pretty sure you'll see my name in comments on every video, desperately seeking answers and comfort from anyone. I was broken. I applied all the techniques in all the videos, and sure enough...we are in reconciliation, taking it very slow. Everything played out EXACTLY like Coach Lee says. I was for sure certain this was never going to happen, I had no hope. Love yourselves, the rest falls into place x Thank you Coach Lee.
Oh my god. I’m dying. Like you, I feel like a stalker to Coach Lee. I listen to him whenever I struggle. My bf asked for NC to reevaluate our relationship. At least he has agreed to go couple counseling with me next week! Do u know how many more sleepless nights. I’m like a zombie rn. Plz pray for me. It’s weird. He asked for NC but couldn’t decide to end our 7 yrs relationship. So yes I listen to Coach Lee. Don’t think I can get through this wo him
@@LabradoodleTofuBoy The sleepless nights are the worse, crazy how much we can function on adrenaline, under no other circumstances could I sleep or eat so little as i do during breakups, our poor bodies go into shock. Took me weeeeeks.
No contact isn't to "get the other person back," no contact is for YOU. If you do no contact correctly, you get the time and perspective to see that relationship for what it was and realize someone better is on their way. It's easy to think, when you're wrapped up in someone, that just because they're the best you've had so far it means they're the best you'll ever get. Most of the time, if you really committed to no contact and invested all that energy back into yourself, by the time your ex shows back up you've taken reconciliation off the table.
I know your right but we can all agree the anxiety the stress and pain in the initial period say first 6 weeks is overwhelming. And we fight to stay in no contact because we hear so many coaches tell us it's the best thing for healing .
No Contact levels the playing field! If you felt like you were left in a weak, or inferior position, NC can change the balance of power. That is, if you want to change the dynamic of the relationship. Thank you Coach!
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
I am going through a breakup but I binge watch these videos and the more I watch the more I fall in love with coach Lee 😊. I think I'll be ok without my ex cuz now I'm addicted to these videos 🤗
No contact isn't to "get the other person back," no contact is for YOU. If you do no contact correctly, you get the time and perspective to see that relationship for what it was and realize someone better is on their way. It's easy to think, when you're wrapped up in someone, that just because they're the best you've had so far it means they're the best you'll ever get. Most of the time, if you really committed to no contact and invested all that energy back into yourself, by the time your ex shows back up you've taken reconciliation off the table.
No contact is only gonna work when you're your focus during the time. It only works by bettering yourself and sometimes once you do you realize they weren't everything you thought they were. In the instances that they are they'll come back! No contact is about you and gives time to appreciate your self worth and to learn who've you become now! God bless
I was dumped in March, 2022. I had given some pushback at the moment it happened. I then surrendered to the breakup. I gave it to him. From that time in he was confused that I didn’t beg him to come back. That went on until recently. He actually is giving himself time to be by himself which is great. Better than a rebound relationship. I went full no contact this whole time. I am now with someone better, someone I never imagined I could be with. I’m deeply grateful. In the time I did wait for my ex to come back, I listened to Coach Lee. Coach has been a great comfort and makes 100% sense. Follow his advice closely. I wish all of you luck and love ❤️
@@gemma9507 first obviously Coach Lee is telling you to leave them alone. I left my Ex alone. There’s a point to all of that. Next don’t get someone to soothe you. I didn’t look for any for that purpose. I realized my ex isn’t a good fit. I’m no longer in love with him. I have my current boyfriend and I couldn’t be happier. I listened to each and every Coach Lee video including the emergency break up kit. That gave me comfort and urged me to leave my ex alone so he wouldn’t block me. I unblocked him also. I’m ok if he contacts me or not
Coach Lee is right. After 14 days of no eating & sleeping, I looked like the walking dead. 1 month now, I feel sooo much better. I pushed him out of my mind 1 day at a time. It’s a hard practice but doable. Now I think of him less & more more of myself. I have neglected my body & spirit too long. It’s time for much self love. I feel prettier & stronger ea day. I finally got color back on my face. This NC was sh** at 1st but it will get better. We’re going this together! Hang in there. My big warm hug to u. You will get through this
@@Liz-dragon-street. NC didn't work for me bc he planned to leave at the moment he asked for NC. It was excruciating 2 months I went through, but today I'm glad he did it. It made me realize I could not be with someone who never loved me. Today, I am happier and love myself more for been back from hell. If a man asked for NC, say "see ya". It is not worth it. Learned my lesson. Love supposed to be natural & easy. It should not be a mind game & NC bs. So don't boost up their ego by giving them NC. Walk & u will thank yourself
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on us, the broken-hearted. Give us strength and love to move ever closer to You, and to show love to our exes and the ones who hurt us. Scripture says You are near to the broken-hearted, so we call upon Your mercy. Reveal Your will to us, hold us in Your mighty arms, and do the same to our exes. Lord, please restore the loving relationships if it be Your will, and forgive both parties of their wrongs. I am in so much pain, even after 40+ days on no contact. I can’t take the suffering on my own, so I call out to Christ, the Healer. I know I’m not the only one.
I went no contact, changed my number and moved. He asked around about me but no one gave him info. I went back to college, got a new career, bought my own house. Never trusted anyone again.
Coming on to 3 months of NC with my ex, who broke up with me for ambiguous reasons, we had a good thing. Of course I'd like her to reach out, to at least make me feel like the 10 months of beautiful intimacy we had wasn't for nothing. I've come to terms with moving on, I still miss her terribly! Thanks Coach Lee, you got me through some pretty tough times. Keep it up!!
Coach Lee has mentioned in many videos that after 2.5 months, sometimes 3 - 4, you have nothing to lose anymore in breaking NC. Unless you know the other person is in a new relationship. So if you don't know or if the person isn't, you CAN send a message, if you decide to. I know I will once I reach that point if she hasn't contacted me, as I feel getting closure is very important, whether it's reigniting the relationship or a clear definitive ending. The point of NC is to make THEM feel the breakup too, and give them doubts, and all that. But it affects us too! So after a good amount of time has passed, get some closure one way or the other. If they don't want back in and are very cold doing so, then we know it's over and bye bye. Why he says it makes sense after this amount of time is that sometimes the dumper would want to contact us but hesitate out of fear or rejection and so on. Either way, you can find out! But again, not if you know they are in another relationship - and never do it too soon! But that's not your case, 3 months of NC when the relationship was 10 months, it's enough.
@@MVProfits I don't think I'll ever reach out first, the way she turned so cold during the break up was too much for me to comprehend, especially with how warm, friendly and happy she was with me before. I'm not even sure I would take her back at this point, I don't know how I could trust her to not break up with me again on a whim, when her feelings or mood changes. I miss her, and would love to go out and talk over a drink, but I'm not going to reach out. She's posted on her socials quotes about decisions and the universe blah blah. She knows where to find me, but it will have to be her idea to talk to me again. I've got some self respect left for that at least. I know when I'm not wanted. Besides I've met someone else now, still too early to know where its going to go, but it helps with moving forward.
@@jerescot everything you say is the same as me bro, don't reach out imo, it will never be the same again and if they want it to work that badly they would reach out to you. For ages I wished with anything that she would reach out, she never did, I then realized she left me for another guy and that was the final straw, I blocked everything but her number so it couldn't hurt me anymore because I decided I had done enough pain and just wanted myself back and to be happy again and as long as she was looming over me on social media I would suffer. Blocking for my sake was the best thing i've ever done, not checked her socials or even been close to unblocking and checking since and my mental health is miles better because of it!
Thank you Coach Lee. I went into this journey wanting my ex back but more importantly I saw it as a way to heal. I didn't get my ex back but your coaching helped me move on and start dating again.
I am going to be really honest with you guys. Coach Lee methods really works and he knows what he is talking about. I used the no contact rule with my ex for 4 weeks. Honestly 4 weeks and she called back saying she misses hearing my voice and wants to talk about again. My advice is to stay busy and keep your mind occupied. Do things for yourself and do things make that make you happy. I know it will be hard at first but just stay busy and block the urge to contact. More than likely they will come back
Coach Lee is the best and the most accurate relationship expert that I’ve experienced. He hit every little nuance that I saw with my ex, every single one. He is the absolute best, and no one should look elsewhere for advice when you can have Lee. Thank you, coach Lee, you are a God-sent.
Just here to encourage you to never give up on no contact man... You're closer than you think! For me it took 3 years until I finally cracked this girl's unimagnable pride and extreme stuburness... Now she is head over heels for me, as she should, 'couse that's how I've always felt for her.
Coach Lee, I just want to say that you have been the answer to my prayers. I was broken up with two months ago and it felt like my heart was in pieces. Had to negotiate getting my stuff back from my ex and have been in no contact for a month now. It's hard but you give me the support I need when my anxiety kicks in and the desire to reach out hits. Getting stronger everyday. Thank you so much!
You had to negotiate getting your stuff back!?!?!? What kid of a world are we living in when it filled with such garbage people who will stoop so low as to make it hard for u to get your property back
BOTTOM LINE: LEAVE THEM ALONE! GIVE THEM TIME TO THINK & MISS YOU. DON'T BEG OR CRY, OR EVEN TRY TO TALK TO THEM. LET THEM CONTACT YOU. REMEMBER, ALWAYS GIVE THEM TIME TO MISS YOU....
Coach Lee I have to send you a huge thank you for all your videos in your words of experience. I have been split up from my ex-fiancee since January the 7th I've been watching your videos Non-Stop about no contact how it works how your exes thinking what they're going through how they are thinking and every one of your videos are spot on. I'm posting this comment because I want every person to know that's experiencing this pain of a breakup to just believe in your words and give it time and it really will work out for you. Showing that I could stay away and letting him feel the loss has brought him back to me and I mentioned getting back together slowly and he agreed I'm more than elated but at the same time I will never stop watching these videos and I want everyone who's watching them to not give up because my ex is coming back to me. Thank you so much God bless you all
Hi Coach Lee, thank you for all of the content! I bought the emergency break up kit previously, and found it really helpful. Have gone no contact fully now, as previous attempts to build attraction were not getting me anywhere. I have focussed on “glowing up” and found other people are attracted to me! Not rushing into anything, as i’m still missing her. I have no idea how things will pan out, but that is me letting go of any outcome! Stay strong everyone, you are not alone!! ❤
Back here 4 months down the line and I'm so happy I didn't run back to her. Went through the dreaded phase of "I'm never going to get over this" and that I did, no contact and time works wonders folks! Stick to it. No more relationships Robert!! Behave yourself and enjoy life. Love you coach ♥️
It's been a over a year since she left me and I am extremely happy to be single and living a great life. I STILL say she is an AMAZING WOMAN. But I am so happy for her that she has moved on and grown as a more mature and hard working person. I think the breakup was the best thing that happened to both us. I'm so happy for me and extremely happy for her.
My ex progressively hurt me - in the end i decided any contact wasnt worth it, i was disrespected, misunderstood and painted the villain/black. I gave up on defending my character
For me, the solution was to come to terms with a fact: I'm in love with her, and may continue to be, but I cannot be with her because she simply doesn't feel the same. I can love her in her absence, and still continue on with my own life.
Doing NC helped me to stop, regain control of my impulses to save a “situationship”, and reflect on what needs were not being met by my ex. I was so unhappy in the relationship, but when the breakup happened I didn’t want to let go. Now I truly want to move on. My ex is contacting me while I’m in NC, but I don’t see him the same way. I guess these videos and implementing NC for myself made me realize I don’t like the idea of someone leaving me and then coming back. It feels gross, toxic, and unhealthy to do NC to wait on someone to come back. I am now turned off by the idea of taking someone back a second or third time. If someone feels comfortable taking the risk to lose you by breaking up with you, then this person is not really ever going to truly value you moving forward. My opinion but to each his/her own. Best of luck!
I actually have to disagree with the not valuing part. Everything else you said resonated but in my humble experience, I learned to appreciate the person I broke up with. I realized my mistake and that I took him for granted and I prayed he would even consider and be open to take me back. When he did, I did everything in my power to make sure he never doubts my love for him and how I appreciated him in my life ever again. Of course, 5 years later, he broke up with me and that’s why I’m here now, watching this video. All I can say is that on this side of the coin, IF I’m still available, I could possibly be open to trying things again if I see the same remorse that I had when I did it to him. 😢
Hi Lee, another terrific video. I remember when I left my ex, and still wanting to talk to him even knowing what he was, it was very hard. I suffered for over 2 years. I know that one phone call would have been a big mistake for ME! More of being used, gaslighting, etc. Instead, I changed my phone #, got off social media, and finally moved. I missed him, but thru Therapy, reading books, and seeing my friends helped me. These videos are the WINNER! Binge watching you and finding the right videos, Lee, I must have played them 20 times or more. Even if my relationship had been a NORMAL one, I never would call him even though I wanted to. Hey, it's been 11 years now, and I know if I can do it, all your listeners (clients) can do it. Lee, you're the BEST! Love you.♥️💙
@@thehavoc6331 Used me, and mental abuse were only 2 things. He lied, gave me SILENT TREATMENTS for no reason. I couldn't take it anymore..I was always sad!
Great info! Comments about giving your ex space and your ex's friends thinking you're stalking or crazy and not understanding is spot on! We hope they would understand but they won't.
I had a problem of being in a relationship with a narcissist (I didn't know) and I used your advice. I was devalued and discarded 9 times in 5 years. I was even accused of being the narcissist. Once you take them back they will not hesitate to dump you again the next time a problem shows up and they will take longer and longer to miss you and come back. Not worth the heartache just find someone who values you enough not to dump you. Many times she treated me badly but I didn't dump her.
@@princhipessa1969 Just C. DON'T take her back. 7 times? What's wrong with her? Does she abuse you, and Gaslight you? If so, she has a problem. Let her go ! Good luck to you...
9 months of no contact the tears didn't stop untill i got to month 8 I'm feeling much better now some ex's never come back no contact was very hard but i had to learn to get on my feet many days i simply felt i couldn't move on but i told myself I'm not going to contact her until i am completely over the pain of losing her now I don't think I ever will.
It’s been 36 days since the she broke up with me and 24 days no contact as I had only reached out to her once. Hoping for the best! Your videos help so much!
Love me some Coach Lee, always cutting edge content to do with relationships and attracting ones Ex. I wish my ex all the happiness, I am really happy and levelling up in every area, and I only have her to thank for dumping my asss because it has made me OUTSTANDING and HIGH VALUE :)
It's going to kill me when I see she's in a relationship with someone else... I don't think I'll be able to cope with it & I'm honestly dreading that day.
She is already in a relationship all narcissistic has a suplay before they let you go catch yourself on move on don't look back . Block them no contact be strong there no good however they meet or have meet will get the same treatment as you got they move to next suplay bit faster
Don’t even think about that. It’s tormenting you. Focus on yourself and being happy with yourself and your life. Do not focus on the ‘what ifs.’ Stay positive! Reinforce your mind with positivity and your heart with self love. Do some praying, believe that your life is going to change for the better and it will!
@@diamond13130how do I stop thinking about that, I still only 18 days into NC and I’m trying to work on myself but how do I stop the intrusive thoughts, ofc I don’t want to think of it but it hovers on my mind as I try to push it away
Coach, your videos are helping me so much. I don't necessarily want my narcissistic ex back, but we've been together for 4 years and I am hurting. Watching these videos me feel so much better. Thank you Coach Lee
Almost 5 months NC. I keep holding on to hope that he will contact me. Some days are harder than others but trying to stay strong 💪. Thanks Coach Lee. I 🙏 I'm one of the NC success stories someday! Keep the videos, advice and encouragement coming!!
@Fernanda A. I've not heard Coach Lee suggested or recommend contacting them. I think my ex is mad at me at contacting him rt now would not be a good idea. I'm hoping he will contact me when he's ready. If Coach Lee reads these comments I would love to hear his professional opinion on it.
@Fernanda A. ABSOLUTELY zero contact. He's blocked me on social media and text / phone calls. I have a letter written but have not sent as I do not think it'll be received well. Thanks for sharing the video I'll check it out
@@thehardtruth3027 I wish I knew. I've heard it though the grapevine that it has to do with a conversation I had with his 19 yr old daughter & some hard truths about her father I said when she asked me questions but honestly I'm not sure. He started backing away prior to my conversation with his daughter (I suspected a third party & even asked) The letter I have written,but not sent, simply says I THINK I may know why he's angry at me and would like the opportunity to have a conversation with him to clear the air and for him to hear things directly from me. Honestly, I'm at a total loss about the whole situation. If what I heard through the grapevine is the reason he is angry I'm prepared to own up to what I said and apologize for it. I guess I just feel that if he wasn't still very angry towards me he would have attempted to contact me or at the very least unblock me. IMO he is the type of person that when he's done he's done no matter the reason.
I spent 12 years watching my ex look for another relationship. Well now he has it and idc if he is happy with it or not. I no longer want him back. But I also don’t want to deal with another partner ever again. They are just to stressful. But I love watching your videos still.
doing the no contact for 2 reasons, for him to realize my worth or for me to realize my worth. But as time goes by, I am more on to move on and realize my worth. If he's coming back for good, then thats a bonus, but moving on, finding my worth and be genuinely happy is the ultimate prize! I'll keep on watching your videos as it relaxes me whenever I'm having a relapse or anxiety 🙏
Mitchy_kles, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent and POWERFUL! It has strategies for every situation including yours. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
After 40 days of no contact I sent her a message about how I need to let go. I did it for myself. Sent it from an email that I never use. I’ve been working on me lost 30 pounds and just don’t want to hold onto our 3 year relationship anymore. I’m taking away the what ifs. I was positive wished she finds the love she is looking for, said I hope she accomplish her goals and that I appreciated everything we had and ended it at that.
Coach Lee your videos help me a lot. It’s been a month now with no contact, even if we don’t get back with each other I’ll be ok because of your videos.
I had gotten my ex back and tips from your break up kit helped the last time For Sure. It is not manipulation, your breakup kit is the perspective of things. But I need this video now more than Ever. I think this is really it for our relationship....Thank you for being there Again Coach Lee. Again, you are a life saver.. MY life saver.. this time you're helping me Cope. I think we are Over and you help me to be strong for MySelf.
Well I messed all this up but my wife(13yrs) has agreed to Church counseling for us. We have had contact and even spent many days together. I have backed off a lot though after the initial devastation and evaluated myself thoroughly. I'm a better man as a result of all this suffering. Always look at yourself first! Dont ignore this or you will make the same mistakes in the future. I pray we can reconcile. If not, I know that I did everything possible(except for no contact which I didn't know) to get us back together. No regrets.
Consider that when your ex does finally reach out it may just be breadcrumbing and will leave you just as dissatisfied as before, all while knowing you were waiting and waiting in NC.
At the strongest I've been in a long time. My motivation for using no contact is to benefit myself alone and it's providing me with the perspective that my relationship wasn't what I want. My ex always left. Not having that in future relationships so I've discovered a relationship with effective communication only is one that I want. Not ghosting and crap like that under the guise of "space'. Helped me asses what I don't want in a partner which is everything my ex offered me,c self centred, no emotional empathy, no understanding/patience/compassion. These are important traits to me so moving on and this has really helped! No contact gives perspective
If your gut feeling says that the relationship you imagined and the reality you are living doest match..go no contact...its because the other person doest see you in her future..give her peace..and expect nothing...go NC..enjoy your own life..we born alone and die alone...always remember.....there is nothing called unconditional love
It's like you were watching me make my mistakes Coach Lee. Omg, I made all of these mistakes but I'll let her do all the contacting from now on. Thanks again Coach.
Thank you so much coach Lee no contact worked for me he reached out after 2 weeks he was asking forgiveness and he was like he has realized his mistake!
After exactly 30 days my ex reached out.. nothing much but I’m guessing she’s starting to want me again. I appreciate this coaching from you truly coach lee. I don’t know if I’m going to progress again with her because I’ve been doing my thing with other women anyways and I think she knows that. She probably just wants me wrapped around her finger again and not actually to get back together so I’m gonna see how it goes.
Thank you so much coach Lee!! I let go of that loser and let me tell you i feel so good about myself and my peqce of mind.. 10 months no contact and i saw this man spying on me. I just saw him as another face in the crowd.. no contact made me realize my self worth! And let me tell you im Slaying! Lost weight and shining bright!! Stay safe everyone and listen to Mr. Coach lee!!! He's the Man!
I already switched 3 gym and my ex won’t stop popping up. He regret dumping me last year June 2021. I begged and pledged to keep the relationship but he blocked me. So I went into no contact for 6 months and now he won’t stop showing up my new gym. I don’t even know how he found out my new gym. I will never take him back. I will be his forever “the one that got away”. Listen to coach lee. No contact your dumper.
It’s been 2 months since the breakup. 1 month since no contact. Some days I feel as though I’m getting over her and others I still feel like I’m at square one.
7 weeks NC 😢 my heart is broken, I try be strong 💪 I miss our connection. I’m working on myself. Some nights are so hard and lonely 😔 thank you for video
I have mixed emotions, sometimes I’m very upset 😠 how he just left me, & sometimes I just want us back. Probably because I was in big shock when it happened. I didn’t saw this coming. Like a 💣
Coach Lee, I’ve never yelled at my X. He became so upset at me during an intimate moment. About something I’m uncomfortable with. It seemed like a shame spiral I witnessed. He could hardly calm himself. Like a switch flicked into an alternate reality. It appeared to be a trauma to him. Unable in that moment to consider my feelings. Yet I still managed to say I didn’t want to loose contact and that I was trying to be non toxic. He discarded me on spot. Kicked me out and said there’s nothing to talk about. Yet I feel compassion and anger, hurt, wishing to explain I never wished to hurt him. I’m confused if this warrants a clean slate statement? No contact for about 6 weeks now. It’s very hard on me. I hope I can afford a coaching call soon to try to get clarity. I usually don’t mention such personal details on social media. Maybe I should have not. Thanks for your videos.
Update at 15 days : he has reached out multiple times. He seems worried whether I don’t want to speak with him or not anymore. It’s still so fucking hard.
Update at 21 days : there has been minimal contact from his end, and one from mine. But mostly we are keeping away. I’m starting to realize why things happened the way they did and why maybe this is not too bad.
when u realized that NC is the best way to heal yourself from abuse and toxicity, you will value yourself more than anyone else. Learn not to care what others or your ex thinking about you, stop pleasing others!
thank you for all these videos! i am going through it right now and currently using no contact. thankfully i didnt beg afterwards but its been hard but it is also getting easier everyday
Already done 31 days and he made contact i was rude to him and he swore never to speak to me again.. but after 3yrs I am okey without him and I am tired of being treated badly,feeling unloved and always walking on egg shells. Good riddance! Thank you coach Lee for making me realize my worth.
@@chopper481 late reply sorry, it actually went really well but I am back in no contact again now as I knew she wasn’t ready still so time will tell, will give another update if anything changes
Coach lee I've watched your videos every day since I broke up with my girlfriend in 2020 and that is really helpful for me. Long story short, in September 2022, we got back together and it is kind of weird because every word you say happens. thank you coach lee!
Can you please do a video about on and off relationships? I always wonder if the same things apply to a back and forth relationship or if it’s any different
I pushed my ex to breaking point due to causing arguments all the time over silly thing's and would expect her to come running back to me. It wasn't all bad, we did have a fantastic connection on the days we weren't arguing. Last week I said something ridiculous that she apparently can't shake off and doesn't look, or feel the same way towards me now. The following morning we woke up and she told me she doesn't want the relationship anymore, I tried my best to speak with her but she wasn't interested at all... I cried, begged, and promised thing's would change but it didn't phase her in the slightest. She wants time and space to clear her Head and to get out this "depressed" state shes apparently in that I was never informed of before until the day of that break up. I've tried giving her time and space but I always get the urge to reach out and I do, but I never hear anything back. I'm Trying to do NC now but in this situation I don't think it's going to work unfortunately, I don't think she has that desire to reach back out to me anymore even though she said she would. I'm still holding on Trying to fix something that she probably doesn't want to fix anymore and it's killing me slowly inside. I know I've messed up and blew my chance with the girl I wanted to get with for 2 years, then when we do I ruin it. I'll never forgive myself for this. Promised her everything but gave her pretty much nothing 💔. I just hope she'll be in touch at one point.. I'm so broken
Be strong bro. Don't text her tomorrow. I know it seems impossible but it'll get better if you back away and let yourself regain your composure. If you keep responding with emotions it'll 100% bite you in the ass. Pray on it brother, I mean really let it out if you gotta. The big man is always listening
@@e.collins2768 I received a text last night from her mate telling me that my ex doesn't want to speak, nor fix things anymore as she can't forgive the things that I said and that I've to never contact her ever again... So I've now blocked her, if she really wanted to she could forgive me. But that's just her excuse so she doesn't need to get back with me. But she could give her previous ex multiple different chances who was an alcoholic and hit her once? Makes sense bro doesn't it.
@@roberts5368 my ex left after 10 years, I never cheated, hit her, no emotional abuse or drunken drama. I cared and looked after and her kids. We had no fights until she started to withdraw then more fights once she moved out. Was the only fights the whole 10 years but now she makes up thinks to fuel her fire towards and me, anything she can come up with to make the image of worse she does it. She says she “can’t” be with me. Not I don’t want to be with you. Her ex’s in the past cheated and so many other things wrong yet they stayed together and fixed things. I ask myself why I don’t even get the chance to prove my changes to her and why don’t I get more chances like every other couple we know. She just stamps her foot and says no. I know what your saying and feeling mate.
@@Andrew_kiwi_AF @Andrew Colver ahhhh mate I can only understand how you're feeling at this moment in time. Didn't argue in 10 years? Then when yous did start arguing she decides to walk away and Makes out as if she can't be with you anymore? When in reality if she really wanted to, she could... And this being cheated on by previous ex's, if she can forgive and give them multiple different chances, why can't she give you any, that's the thing you need to start questioning mate. My ex who Just split up with me 3 weeks ago was with someone before me who was a raging alcoholic, drank Monday to Monday, lied to her all the time, and so on so forth. She Gave him multiple chances to change his ways and he didn't. I say a few things out of line and she gets rid of me in a beat? Apparently doesn't look at me or feel the same towards me anymore. Won't communicate with me, got her pal to send me a message informing me that the ex can't forgive what I said and doesn't want to get back with me again nor even speak to me... What chance do you have man.
My ex left me a year and half ago I gave her the breakup and I deleted and went in no contact and radio silence..since then we both have never contacted each other..so for the way I see it we will never be together again..I remember a video of you coach Lee where you said that it is not sure a 100 percent sure they come back..so for my advice I think i did the right thing she wanted to leave me I could only accept her choice even if she wanted to give me the fault of our relationship....so I wished her all the best..good luck..
Havent heard from mine in almost 14 months and found out she started a new relationship with some ugly dude in April… I’m done for good. I gave her the space and that’s what she does? Doesn’t even care to check? She don’t love me or never did. Sad reality but her being with someone new is helping me move forward a lot easier!
@@MrTony759 thats all u can do brother. Keep urself busy and eventually you will feel like you’ve truly moved on. But don’t rush to feel that way. It will just happen and become your reality slowly that you could care less about hearing from them again/wanting them back. Don’t ignore your feelings. Experience those feelings/learn from them/manifest a better life for yourself and you will be happier than being with someone
Antonio, if somebody wants to leave, let them. You did the RIGHT thing. If she's seeing someone else, so what!! You will find someone who deserves you. Good luck to you!
Thank you coach Lee, if it were not because of you, I don’t where or how I would be, I don’t have my ex back yet, I’m in no contact and I know that at the end of the road even if she doesn’t come back, I’ll be better because of your advices, thank you again.
Needing closure ... you're deceiving yourself. Them letting you go IS closure. Have some self respect. Don't give them another chance to humiliate you. NEVER let them tell you twice they don't want you.
I walked away from a relationship I was not prioritised in. I took back the power and knew my worth, she since made a beeline for me which I told her if she wants to speak she needs to set the time aside and find a time that I am free and not expect me to be ready whenever she wants. She called to cancel due to work but saw I was pretty checked out. Let’s see if she tries again 🤷🏽♂️
Been in no contact for 46 days and I thought i was doing good and then suddenly I feel the pain and hurt all over again 😢 I wish I could fast forward through this heartache
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together, I got help from a man who brought us back together. he helped me in getting rid of third party that was involved in my relationship
In many videos, Coach Lee mentions that after 45 days, but preferably 60-90, we can break NC in a informal message, as we have reached the "nothing to lose point". A few exes want to reach back but are afraid of... rejection by us! I know I will reach out if she hasn't when I go to that point as I want to have closure or a restart. The limbo is too much.
Hi coach! Can you please make a video on the chances to get your ex back if they made a semi-permanent decision after the breakup? For example: moving out and getting their own place
Me and my ex have been messaging a lot more then usual now and texting, we didn’t end on bad terms or anything, we went NC for a couple of months, we aren’t back together but I’d say taking things slowly
90 days of NC. She hasn't tried anything at all and my birthday was a week and a half ago. Sometimes people aren't meant to be. I broke up with her due to being unhappy. She lied, put no effort and broke promises often and had avoidant behavior. She wasn't always this way but I offered her the option to reconcile if she is willing to put in the work in the relationship. She argued with me and ghosted me after dismissing my needs and met another man a week later and then had sex with him a month after that. I unfriended her to save my sanity and help myself from the hurt she put out by ghosting me and then branching off to a new man. I've honestly given all hope awhile back on her coming back but on the bright side I need someone who appreciates me and I am moving on slowly... Day by day it gets better eventually. :) Also, we dated for 6 years almost. Thank you Lee.
Coach Lee... I gave her No contact for two months....then I texted her from another phone because she blocked my phone number.... I basically told her how she wronged me ... I apologized for my mistakes....she texted back "You said your peace.... I've forgiven you....we texted a couple more times, and she now unblocked me on the phone. We're not talking on the phone yet, but we are texting....that's a huge step because she was so angry at me before the No Contact. I don't know if we're getting back together, we may...but at least she has forgiven me, that's a start
NC 11 months, not a single word from her.. I can only assume she found a better option... NC doesn't work to get an ex back, though it helps to move on somehow. I've seen countless ppl get their ex back by talking to them after a few weeks no contact. Those like me who went indefinite no contact never heard from them. If the dumpee can move on after some time, imagine the dumper, who already moved on before breaking up... by the time the dumpee feels better, the dumper is MILES AWAY
I agree. I think NC is only for moving on. If you lose contact and connection - you lose it. Why would you ever connect after months to reunite? It would be interesting to get stats of reuniting after NC vs keep on talking approach.
If your ex has friends who resort to gaslighting in order to convince your ex that they’re not ‘the one,’ then that person, your ex, is definitely not for you.
It's been 3 months since I got broken up with out of a 3 year long distance relationship. I still don't get why I can't move on. Trying to work on myself but I feel like a zombie going through the motions. It is so true that the ones that care the least have the most power in the relationship. Every time I think of her I have to remind myself that if she wanted to talk to me, she would. If there was only a way to stop thinking of her every day could try and get my heart to move on vs battling my brain. Trying the no contact but it rips me apart every single day, wishing I could talk to her and tell her all the thoughts I have if her but I can't and keep them to myself. I love and miss you Emily. I hope you are happy.
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together, I got help from a man who brought us back together. he helped me in getting rid of third party that was involved in my relationship
I’m pretty much agree with everything the coach is saying, but there are a couple of things that I’ve experienced in the past that sort of contradict his no contact rule teachings. Number 1., regardless who employs the no contact rule first, no contact helps her get over you as much as it helps you get over her; and with the ease attractive, young women have at meeting guys, particularly with the dating sites and social media, it’s now easier than ever for a girl just move on without you. With this in mind, couldn’t no contact be a recipe for disaster? Number 2., while I am not proud of this, I have personally begged ex girlfriends back into relationships with me. I have hovered around long enough, kept in contact, called regularly, etc., until the point she gave in and got back with me, even if it took a couple of months. So, I do know you can get your girl back by fighting to get your girl back. How do you we reconcile what the coach is saying, with the two issues I named above??
@@susananavarrete2801 Hey Susana, I missed my ex for a little over 2 years also. I left him after 5 years. He was using me the whole time. You will be fine. If I made it, so can you. Get out with your friends, find a hobby, but in TIME, you'll be ok! ⚘️
I have put this to test, it works. It also helped me find myself as well.
Lucky you. I hope it works for me too.
@@stanleynzerue8705 Brother , if you don't do no contact, your ex woman mind will never reset nor will she ever respect you because she will see it as you're being too needy...Follow coach Lee instructions to the T
Thanks a lot. But my mum called her to cuss her ass out for the hurtful things she said and did to me, like cheating on me and leaving me for her low-level ex despite our talks about getting married.
She asked her to return everything she had taken from me including money and gifts.
However, I am still in my no-contact mode, despite how hard it's been because we had genuinely great and lovely times together.
She took good care of me though and later claimed she was with me for the money when pressured by the dude.
Shaking my head!!
I have forgiven her and long for her, but my mum says she can't allow a cheat and chameleon like her back into my life.
@@stanleynzerue8705 Sound like you're dealing with a narcissist, please see videos so you can understand what you're dealing with. During no contact , I found out I was dealing with a narcissist. Narcissists always cheat with their ex , they will leave you for no reason on your behalf. They don't like being held accountable and they have no empathy. Narcissists enjoy making people upset because they think it gives them power over you. A narc will leave without any explanation in hopes of tearing your heart out..If you are dealing with a narcissist, you would be wise to stay in no contact. Stay Away...period
My gf said that I'm a great guy. That she misses me. She texted that right after breakup. Gee, I don't believe in a word that woman says.
Self respect is the best thing you can get out of no contact
I concur.
And confidence.
I fully agree and although I've broke it twice(In 10 months) I've learnt massively from it. Your self worth improves without contact and so does your ability to move forward with or without them coming back.
I guess, but I would still like the ex back. Self respect doesn't really help a lonely heart.
Yes.
They will miss you when you are a mystery and can’t be found. It will drive them insane.
That’s exactly what I want. Probably more so than them breaking no contact.
I stopped calling and texting! No response to his calls or texts not interested in reconciliation. My worth is more than he could ever know now he wants another chance I don't want someone who was unsure of our future I cannot live wondering if it may happen again! Gave back the ring not looking back😊 Be strong every one NC works its been two years still in NC I've moved forward!
I don’t know. My ex girlfriend a week later is on tinder already. We dated 2.5 years and she moved on so quick.
@@jarrodoberg2078 you can do better bro, don’t ever contact her again
I know it's over for me haha
I begged a little. I wrote a letter. I felt guilt because i thought i pushed them away. She replied but cold, emotionless and told me she doesn't care about me. Then i stopped talking to her. Full no contact. She messaged me last week asking for closure. This was after 9 months no contact. I ignored her, already over her and disgusted by her attitude in her responses in the initial phases. Moving on was best thing ever for my life which is much better now.
They will contact you eventually guys dont worry. Keep your self respect unlike my initial mistake
Exactly what happened in my case , mine Called saying a mutual friend said I told them to contact me I smiled I told her sorry I never did such , she said she’s been asking about me , she told me she is surviving by his grace . I didn’t stay long on call I wasn’t cold , when excited either , I asked was this her phone number , she didn’t know why I was asking I was asking because I deleted and blocked her from reaching me so I was surprised she did . She felt I was gonna contact her back afterwards I didn’t . I guess that sent her the right message , is never a good ideal to take an ex back in most cases , when a glass is broken you can’t forge it back even if you do , the cracks will always show . Guys in most cases move on .
Sometimes I come back to coach Lee to smile and laugh remembering the days I gave out stupid power to people who didn’t worth it
It's so nice to know I am NOT the only one going through this shitty time in my life 💖
❤BE STRONG EVERYONE!❤
We owe it to ourselves to succeed and show our true worth and value to the world
A couple weeks ago my girl dumped me too. So im right there with ya
@@manesmarcellon6059 🤗 be strong and good luck!
@@manesmarcellon6059 hey - you are an AMAZING artist! 🤩
@@jambogb wow thank you. How did u know?
4 months of no contact worked - got back together, thank god i found this channel
You know what hurts the most is really knowing it’s over
Yes
It doesn’t mean it’s over. With distance she might miss you😊
When you realize the last time you saw them was the last time seeing them and you had no idea that would be the last time..
I’m there right now, 2 months into a break and I’m feeling all types of ways. Especially thinking of her with other guys
She will be rebounding so it won't last long, he won't stay long believe me.
It needs to be over
Damn....so many broken hearts here!!! Hugs for all of you!!!❤❤❤
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A bit of a NC success story. I found myself on Coach Lee's RUclips channel about 2 half months ago, fresh out of a breakup. I literally spent hours and hours (to many to admit) watching his videos, over and over again, I'm pretty sure you'll see my name in comments on every video, desperately seeking answers and comfort from anyone. I was broken. I applied all the techniques in all the videos, and sure enough...we are in reconciliation, taking it very slow. Everything played out EXACTLY like Coach Lee says.
I was for sure certain this was never going to happen, I had no hope. Love yourselves, the rest falls into place x
Thank you Coach Lee.
Hello :) happy for you!
Did he reach out? After how long?
@@mariianicababaPT close to 3 months x
@@jacqui8392 thank you :)
Oh my god. I’m dying. Like you, I feel like a stalker to Coach Lee. I listen to him whenever I struggle. My bf asked for NC to reevaluate our relationship. At least he has agreed to go couple counseling with me next week! Do u know how many more sleepless nights. I’m like a zombie rn. Plz pray for me. It’s weird. He asked for NC but couldn’t decide to end our 7 yrs relationship. So yes I listen to Coach Lee. Don’t think I can get through this wo him
@@LabradoodleTofuBoy The sleepless nights are the worse, crazy how much we can function on adrenaline, under no other circumstances could I sleep or eat so little as i do during breakups, our poor bodies go into shock. Took me weeeeeks.
No contact isn't to "get the other person back," no contact is for YOU. If you do no contact correctly, you get the time and perspective to see that relationship for what it was and realize someone better is on their way. It's easy to think, when you're wrapped up in someone, that just because they're the best you've had so far it means they're the best you'll ever get. Most of the time, if you really committed to no contact and invested all that energy back into yourself, by the time your ex shows back up you've taken reconciliation off the table.
What I needed to hear, thank you..
I'm avoiding breadcrumbs with no contact what a mind eff
I know your right but we can all agree the anxiety the stress and pain in the initial period say first 6 weeks is overwhelming. And we fight to stay in no contact because we hear so many coaches tell us it's the best thing for healing .
Absolutely 💯 💯
No Contact levels the playing field! If you felt like you were left in a weak, or inferior position, NC can change the balance of power. That is, if you want to change the dynamic of the relationship. Thank you Coach!
Mustang J, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
What if we tried for eight months after the divorce to work it out and it ended in a big fight …. Will no contact still work ?
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
I am going through a breakup but I binge watch these videos and the more I watch the more I fall in love with coach Lee 😊. I think I'll be ok without my ex cuz now I'm addicted to these videos 🤗
I wish you all the best. Keep strong and keep focused.
whenever i feel urge to call my ex i just come to watch coach lee and thats really makes me calm
me too! I need to watch this to keep me on track & move forward. This NO contact sucks!!!! At night that's what kills
Same here it helps me a lot understanding my feelings and what I'm going through. Now I'm ok
No contact isn't to "get the other person back," no contact is for YOU. If you do no contact correctly, you get the time and perspective to see that relationship for what it was and realize someone better is on their way. It's easy to think, when you're wrapped up in someone, that just because they're the best you've had so far it means they're the best you'll ever get. Most of the time, if you really committed to no contact and invested all that energy back into yourself, by the time your ex shows back up you've taken reconciliation off the table.
No contact is only gonna work when you're your focus during the time. It only works by bettering yourself and sometimes once you do you realize they weren't everything you thought they were. In the instances that they are they'll come back! No contact is about you and gives time to appreciate your self worth and to learn who've you become now! God bless
@Greeean Genna can they help me plz
No contact is to make him miss you and scared to lose you. If he’s for you he will come back chasing you 😍
I was dumped in March, 2022. I had given some pushback at the moment it happened. I then surrendered to the breakup. I gave it to him. From that time in he was confused that I didn’t beg him to come back. That went on until recently. He actually is giving himself time to be by himself which is great. Better than a rebound relationship. I went full no contact this whole time. I am now with someone better, someone I never imagined I could be with. I’m deeply grateful. In the time I did wait for my ex to come back, I listened to Coach Lee. Coach has been a great comfort and makes 100% sense. Follow his advice closely. I wish all of you luck and love ❤️
Do you realize yet that you are in a rebound relationship...?
@@mr.fettesq.7705 yes.
@@gemma9507 first obviously Coach Lee is telling you to leave them alone. I left my Ex alone. There’s a point to all of that.
Next don’t get someone to soothe you. I didn’t look for any for that purpose. I realized my ex isn’t a good fit. I’m no longer in love with him. I have my current boyfriend and I couldn’t be happier. I listened to each and every Coach Lee video including the emergency break up kit. That gave me comfort and urged me to leave my ex alone so he wouldn’t block me. I unblocked him also. I’m ok if he contacts me or not
@@mr.fettesq.7705 I agree, this is definitely a rebound!
@@monicawylie3985 I feel bad for your new guy....does he know you unblocked your ex that you still have feelings for?
Coach Lee is right. After 14 days of no eating & sleeping, I looked like the walking dead. 1 month now, I feel sooo much better. I pushed him out of my mind 1 day at a time. It’s a hard practice but doable. Now I think of him less & more more of myself. I have neglected my body & spirit too long. It’s time for much self love. I feel prettier & stronger ea day. I finally got color back on my face. This NC was sh** at 1st but it will get better. We’re going this together! Hang in there. My big warm hug to u. You will get through this
❤️ how are you 2day?
@@Liz-dragon-street. NC didn't work for me bc he planned to leave at the moment he asked for NC. It was excruciating 2 months I went through, but today I'm glad he did it. It made me realize I could not be with someone who never loved me. Today, I am happier and love myself more for been back from hell. If a man asked for NC, say "see ya". It is not worth it. Learned my lesson. Love supposed to be natural & easy. It should not be a mind game & NC bs. So don't boost up their ego by giving them NC. Walk & u will thank yourself
@@LabradoodleTofuBoyupdates
Yep their people will negatively influence them to make them feel better. That’s a GREAT point.
It's an annoying thought that the friends would be egging them on to dump you without giving a second thought to what the situation actually is.
@@lolmeercatz10 but now we know about this and can be encouraged to stay in NC.
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on us, the broken-hearted. Give us strength and love to move ever closer to You, and to show love to our exes and the ones who hurt us. Scripture says You are near to the broken-hearted, so we call upon Your mercy. Reveal Your will to us, hold us in Your mighty arms, and do the same to our exes. Lord, please restore the loving relationships if it be Your will, and forgive both parties of their wrongs.
I am in so much pain, even after 40+ days on no contact. I can’t take the suffering on my own, so I call out to Christ, the Healer. I know I’m not the only one.
I'm here too brother.
Thank you for the prayer. ❤️
+1...
I am here two brother of mine starting the journey. Whatever path God has for us. Let it be❤
Jesus is with u
I went no contact, changed my number and moved. He asked around about me but no one gave him info. I went back to college, got a new career, bought my own house. Never trusted anyone again.
You made a good decision for yourself ❤👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Coming on to 3 months of NC with my ex, who broke up with me for ambiguous reasons, we had a good thing. Of course I'd like her to reach out, to at least make me feel like the 10 months of beautiful intimacy we had wasn't for nothing. I've come to terms with moving on, I still miss her terribly!
Thanks Coach Lee, you got me through some pretty tough times. Keep it up!!
I feel you brother, I hope you feel much better now than a few months back, I know i've progressed miles in the 3 months NC
Carry on brother.
Coach Lee has mentioned in many videos that after 2.5 months, sometimes 3 - 4, you have nothing to lose anymore in breaking NC. Unless you know the other person is in a new relationship. So if you don't know or if the person isn't, you CAN send a message, if you decide to. I know I will once I reach that point if she hasn't contacted me, as I feel getting closure is very important, whether it's reigniting the relationship or a clear definitive ending.
The point of NC is to make THEM feel the breakup too, and give them doubts, and all that. But it affects us too! So after a good amount of time has passed, get some closure one way or the other. If they don't want back in and are very cold doing so, then we know it's over and bye bye. Why he says it makes sense after this amount of time is that sometimes the dumper would want to contact us but hesitate out of fear or rejection and so on. Either way, you can find out! But again, not if you know they are in another relationship - and never do it too soon! But that's not your case, 3 months of NC when the relationship was 10 months, it's enough.
@@MVProfits I don't think I'll ever reach out first, the way she turned so cold during the break up was too much for me to comprehend, especially with how warm, friendly and happy she was with me before. I'm not even sure I would take her back at this point, I don't know how I could trust her to not break up with me again on a whim, when her feelings or mood changes. I miss her, and would love to go out and talk over a drink, but I'm not going to reach out. She's posted on her socials quotes about decisions and the universe blah blah. She knows where to find me, but it will have to be her idea to talk to me again. I've got some self respect left for that at least. I know when I'm not wanted. Besides I've met someone else now, still too early to know where its going to go, but it helps with moving forward.
@@jerescot everything you say is the same as me bro, don't reach out imo, it will never be the same again and if they want it to work that badly they would reach out to you. For ages I wished with anything that she would reach out, she never did, I then realized she left me for another guy and that was the final straw, I blocked everything but her number so it couldn't hurt me anymore because I decided I had done enough pain and just wanted myself back and to be happy again and as long as she was looming over me on social media I would suffer. Blocking for my sake was the best thing i've ever done, not checked her socials or even been close to unblocking and checking since and my mental health is miles better because of it!
Thank you Coach Lee. I went into this journey wanting my ex back but more importantly I saw it as a way to heal. I didn't get my ex back but your coaching helped me move on and start dating again.
What u got going on now 8 months later?
I am going to be really honest with you guys. Coach Lee methods really works and he knows what he is talking about. I used the no contact rule with my ex for 4 weeks. Honestly 4 weeks and she called back saying she misses hearing my voice and wants to talk about again. My advice is to stay busy and keep your mind occupied. Do things for yourself and do things make that make you happy. I know it will be hard at first but just stay busy and block the urge to contact. More than likely they will come back
Dustin Dawson, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome! It has strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Did you get back to her?
I learned this later in my life but have applied it flawlessly. They may never reach out but at the end, they will respect you for it.
Coach Lee is the best and the most accurate relationship expert that I’ve experienced. He hit every little nuance that I saw with my ex, every single one. He is the absolute best, and no one should look elsewhere for advice when you can have Lee. Thank you, coach Lee, you are a God-sent.
Been in no contact for over a year. I've never felt better about myself and got my self respect back
Beautiful to hear. Keep strong and focused.
Did you get them back
@@jayfigueroa3649 doubt it
Just here to encourage you to never give up on no contact man... You're closer than you think!
For me it took 3 years until I finally cracked this girl's unimagnable pride and extreme stuburness... Now she is head over heels for me, as she should, 'couse that's how I've always felt for her.
@@jayfigueroa3649 no I didn't. But I'm good with that
Coach Lee, I just want to say that you have been the answer to my prayers. I was broken up with two months ago and it felt like my heart was in pieces. Had to negotiate getting my stuff back from my ex and have been in no contact for a month now. It's hard but you give me the support I need when my anxiety kicks in and the desire to reach out hits. Getting stronger everyday. Thank you so much!
I feel it same here but I’m just vibing now
You had to negotiate getting your stuff back!?!?!? What kid of a world are we living in when it filled with such garbage people who will stoop so low as to make it hard for u to get your property back
One week in and it's been pure hell
BOTTOM LINE: LEAVE THEM ALONE! GIVE THEM TIME TO THINK & MISS YOU. DON'T BEG OR CRY, OR EVEN TRY TO TALK TO THEM. LET THEM CONTACT YOU. REMEMBER, ALWAYS GIVE THEM TIME TO MISS YOU....
@@tazzybear6434 Hey, how are you now?
Coach Lee I have to send you a huge thank you for all your videos in your words of experience. I have been split up from my ex-fiancee since January the 7th I've been watching your videos Non-Stop about no contact how it works how your exes thinking what they're going through how they are thinking and every one of your videos are spot on. I'm posting this comment because I want every person to know that's experiencing this pain of a breakup to just believe in your words and give it time and it really will work out for you. Showing that I could stay away and letting him feel the loss has brought him back to me and I mentioned getting back together slowly and he agreed I'm more than elated but at the same time I will never stop watching these videos and I want everyone who's watching them to not give up because my ex is coming back to me. Thank you so much God bless you all
Thank you for your kind words and I am thrilled for you! I’m grateful you will still watch!
Hi Coach Lee, thank you for all of the content! I bought the emergency break up kit previously, and found it really helpful. Have gone no contact fully now, as previous attempts to build attraction were not getting me anywhere.
I have focussed on “glowing up” and found other people are attracted to me! Not rushing into anything, as i’m still missing her.
I have no idea how things will pan out, but that is me letting go of any outcome!
Stay strong everyone, you are not alone!! ❤
Back here 4 months down the line and I'm so happy I didn't run back to her. Went through the dreaded phase of "I'm never going to get over this" and that I did, no contact and time works wonders folks! Stick to it. No more relationships Robert!! Behave yourself and enjoy life.
Love you coach ♥️
Robert s, GOOD FOR YOU!! 👍
@@jannlewandowski5540 thank you v much,now I'm going through heartbreak with someone else
It's been a over a year since she left me and I am extremely happy to be single and living a great life. I STILL say she is an AMAZING WOMAN. But I am so happy for her that she has moved on and grown as a more mature and hard working person. I think the breakup was the best thing that happened to both us. I'm so happy for me and extremely happy for her.
Very mature of you bro
Great attitude
Awesome mindset!
My ex progressively hurt me - in the end i decided any contact wasnt worth it, i was disrespected, misunderstood and painted the villain/black. I gave up on defending my character
For me, the solution was to come to terms with a fact: I'm in love with her, and may continue to be, but I cannot be with her because she simply doesn't feel the same. I can love her in her absence, and still continue on with my own life.
Doing NC helped me to stop, regain control of my impulses to save a “situationship”, and reflect on what needs were not being met by my ex. I was so unhappy in the relationship, but when the breakup happened I didn’t want to let go.
Now I truly want to move on. My ex is contacting me while I’m in NC, but I don’t see him the same way.
I guess these videos and implementing NC for myself made me realize I don’t like the idea of someone leaving me and then coming back. It feels gross, toxic, and unhealthy to do NC to wait on someone to come back. I am now turned off by the idea of taking someone back a second or third time.
If someone feels comfortable taking the risk to lose you by breaking up with you, then this person is not really ever going to truly value you moving forward. My opinion but to each his/her own.
Best of luck!
It’s sooo true very ever do they value you the same again
I actually have to disagree with the not valuing part. Everything else you said resonated but in my humble experience, I learned to appreciate the person I broke up with. I realized my mistake and that I took him for granted and I prayed he would even consider and be open to take me back. When he did, I did everything in my power to make sure he never doubts my love for him and how I appreciated him in my life ever again. Of course, 5 years later, he broke up with me and that’s why I’m here now, watching this video. All I can say is that on this side of the coin, IF I’m still available, I could possibly be open to trying things again if I see the same remorse that I had when I did it to him. 😢
Hi Lee, another terrific video. I remember when I left my ex, and still wanting to talk to him even knowing what he was, it was very hard. I suffered for over 2 years. I know that one phone call would have been a big mistake for ME! More of being used, gaslighting, etc. Instead, I changed my phone #, got off social media, and finally moved. I missed him, but thru Therapy, reading books, and seeing my friends helped me. These videos are the WINNER! Binge watching you and finding the right videos, Lee, I must have played them 20 times or more. Even if my relationship had been a NORMAL one, I never would call him even though I wanted to. Hey, it's been 11 years now, and I know if I can do it, all your listeners (clients) can do it. Lee, you're the BEST! Love you.♥️💙
If I may know, Why did you left him? Was there cheating ? Or emotional or mental abuse?
@@thehavoc6331 Used me, and mental abuse were only 2 things. He lied, gave me SILENT TREATMENTS for no reason. I couldn't take it anymore..I was always sad!
Great info! Comments about giving your ex space and your ex's friends thinking you're stalking or crazy and not understanding is spot on! We hope they would understand but they won't.
I had a problem of being in a relationship with a narcissist (I didn't know) and I used your advice. I was devalued and discarded 9 times in 5 years. I was even accused of being the narcissist. Once you take them back they will not hesitate to dump you again the next time a problem shows up and they will take longer and longer to miss you and come back. Not worth the heartache just find someone who values you enough not to dump you. Many times she treated me badly but I didn't dump her.
Woah
Thats messed up bro
@@splitzyentertainment7995 It has messed me up
Nate, I left my ex narcissist after 5 years. They are MONSTERS! GOOD LUCK TO YOU..♥️
@@princhipessa1969 Just C. DON'T take her back. 7 times? What's wrong with her? Does she abuse you, and Gaslight you? If so, she has a problem. Let her go ! Good luck to you...
9 months of no contact the tears didn't stop untill i got to month 8 I'm feeling much better now some ex's never come back no contact was very hard but i had to learn to get on my feet many days i simply felt i couldn't move on but i told myself I'm not going to contact her until i am completely over the pain of losing her now I don't think I ever will.
It’s been 36 days since the she broke up with me and 24 days no contact as I had only reached out to her once. Hoping for the best! Your videos help so much!
Any updates?
Update?
Love me some Coach Lee, always cutting edge content to do with relationships and attracting ones Ex. I wish my ex all the happiness, I am really happy and levelling up in every area, and I only have her to thank for dumping my asss because it has made me OUTSTANDING and HIGH VALUE :)
Well said bro
It's going to kill me when I see she's in a relationship with someone else... I don't think I'll be able to cope with it & I'm honestly dreading that day.
Make sure you never find out. She is eventually gonna be with someone else, but so are YOU
She is already in a relationship all narcissistic has a suplay before they let you go catch yourself on move on don't look back . Block them no contact be strong there no good however they meet or have meet will get the same treatment as you got they move to next suplay bit faster
You will be fine , it's really not bad. By the time you find out which you will. You will be over it
Don’t even think about that. It’s tormenting you. Focus on yourself and being happy with yourself and your life. Do not focus on the ‘what ifs.’ Stay positive! Reinforce your mind with positivity and your heart with self love. Do some praying, believe that your life is going to change for the better and it will!
@@diamond13130how do I stop thinking about that, I still only 18 days into NC and I’m trying to work on myself but how do I stop the intrusive thoughts, ofc I don’t want to think of it but it hovers on my mind as I try to push it away
Self respect and self love is essential. Dont chase em back if dump u. Just let them go n focus on urself.
Coach, your videos are helping me so much. I don't necessarily want my narcissistic ex back, but we've been together for 4 years and I am hurting. Watching these videos me feel so much better. Thank you Coach Lee
All the best to you.
Michie, DO NOT REMAIN WITH A NARCISSIST. THEY ARE TOXIC.
I was with one for 5 years, and nearly died! GET AWAY..❤❤
I agree see this as a blessing a narcissist will play with you like a cat plays with mice torturing you for their own gain
Almost 5 months NC. I keep holding on to hope that he will contact me. Some days are harder than others but trying to stay strong 💪. Thanks Coach Lee. I 🙏 I'm one of the NC success stories someday! Keep the videos, advice and encouragement coming!!
Going true the same
@Fernanda A. I've not heard Coach Lee suggested or recommend contacting them. I think my ex is mad at me at contacting him rt now would not be a good idea. I'm hoping he will contact me when he's ready. If Coach Lee reads these comments I would love to hear his professional opinion on it.
@Fernanda A. ABSOLUTELY zero contact. He's blocked me on social media and text / phone calls. I have a letter written but have not sent as I do not think it'll be received well. Thanks for sharing the video I'll check it out
@@kimberlylentz515 Do u want to share what you did that was maybe so bad?
@@thehardtruth3027 I wish I knew. I've heard it though the grapevine that it has to do with a conversation I had with his 19 yr old daughter & some hard truths about her father I said when she asked me questions but honestly I'm not sure. He started backing away prior to my conversation with his daughter (I suspected a third party & even asked) The letter I have written,but not sent, simply says I THINK I may know why he's angry at me and would like the opportunity to have a conversation with him to clear the air and for him to hear things directly from me. Honestly, I'm at a total loss about the whole situation. If what I heard through the grapevine is the reason he is angry I'm prepared to own up to what I said and apologize for it. I guess I just feel that if he wasn't still very angry towards me he would have attempted to contact me or at the very least unblock me. IMO he is the type of person that when he's done he's done no matter the reason.
Coach lee got me through my first breakup and now #2, always appreciated bro
I spent 12 years watching my ex look for another relationship. Well now he has it and idc if he is happy with it or not. I no longer want him back. But I also don’t want to deal with another partner ever again. They are just to stressful. But I love watching your videos still.
Well, mine also left me for a better partner... Im so sorry this happened to you
doing the no contact for 2 reasons, for him to realize my worth or for me to realize my worth. But as time goes by, I am more on to move on and realize my worth. If he's coming back for good, then thats a bonus, but moving on, finding my worth and be genuinely happy is the ultimate prize! I'll keep on watching your videos as it relaxes me whenever I'm having a relapse or anxiety 🙏
Mitchy_kles, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent and POWERFUL! It has strategies for every situation including yours.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
She will come back to me sooner than ever in Jesús name..Amén
After 40 days of no contact I sent her a message about how I need to let go. I did it for myself. Sent it from an email that I never use. I’ve been working on me lost 30 pounds and just don’t want to hold onto our 3 year relationship anymore. I’m taking away the what ifs. I was positive wished she finds the love she is looking for, said I hope she accomplish her goals and that I appreciated everything we had and ended it at that.
But really you wanted her to respond.
Do u really want her to find another lover that's not you?
@@glowaustralia8535 lmao exactly. All that hard work for nothing
So much gratitude for what you do, your advice is invaluable !
This guy is good, always on point.
He is brilliant !
Yey! Im still awake. Notif squad here
ATTENDANCE CHECK: PRESENT 🇵🇭🙋🏻♀️
Coach Lee your videos help me a lot. It’s been a month now with no contact, even if we don’t get back with each other I’ll be ok because of your videos.
G. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent!
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
If she lies to her friends about “all” things that transpired they will trash you no matter what.
I had gotten my ex back and tips from your break up kit helped the last time For Sure. It is not manipulation, your breakup kit is the perspective of things. But I need this video now more than Ever. I think this is really it for our relationship....Thank you for being there Again
Coach Lee. Again, you are a life saver.. MY life saver.. this time you're helping me Cope. I think we are Over and you help me to be strong for MySelf.
Well I messed all this up but my wife(13yrs) has agreed to Church counseling for us. We have had contact and even spent many days together. I have backed off a lot though after the initial devastation and evaluated myself thoroughly. I'm a better man as a result of all this suffering. Always look at yourself first! Dont ignore this or you will make the same mistakes in the future. I pray we can reconcile. If not, I know that I did everything possible(except for no contact which I didn't know) to get us back together. No regrets.
Consider that when your ex does finally reach out it may just be breadcrumbing and will leave you just as dissatisfied as before, all while knowing you were waiting and waiting in NC.
At the strongest I've been in a long time.
My motivation for using no contact is to benefit myself alone and it's providing me with the perspective that my relationship wasn't what I want. My ex always left. Not having that in future relationships so I've discovered a relationship with effective communication only is one that I want. Not ghosting and crap like that under the guise of "space'. Helped me asses what I don't want in a partner which is everything my ex offered me,c self centred, no emotional empathy, no understanding/patience/compassion. These are important traits to me so moving on and this has really helped! No contact gives perspective
If your gut feeling says that the relationship you imagined and the reality you are living doest match..go no contact...its because the other person doest see you in her future..give her peace..and expect nothing...go NC..enjoy your own life..we born alone and die alone...always remember.....there is nothing called unconditional love
Ever heard of God's love. Lets start somewhere atleast. He loves you
It's like you were watching me make my mistakes Coach Lee. Omg, I made all of these mistakes but I'll let her do all the contacting from now on. Thanks again Coach.
Thank you so much coach Lee no contact worked for me he reached out after 2 weeks he was asking forgiveness and he was like he has realized his mistake!
After exactly 30 days my ex reached out.. nothing much but I’m guessing she’s starting to want me again. I appreciate this coaching from you truly coach lee. I don’t know if I’m going to progress again with her because I’ve been doing my thing with other women anyways and I think she knows that. She probably just wants me wrapped around her finger again and not actually to get back together so I’m gonna see how it goes.
Any updates?
Thank you so much coach Lee!! I let go of that loser and let me tell you i feel so good about myself and my peqce of mind.. 10 months no contact and i saw this man spying on me. I just saw him as another face in the crowd.. no contact made me realize my self worth! And let me tell you im Slaying! Lost weight and shining bright!! Stay safe everyone and listen to Mr. Coach lee!!! He's the Man!
I already switched 3 gym and my ex won’t stop popping up. He regret dumping me last year June 2021. I begged and pledged to keep the relationship but he blocked me. So I went into no contact for 6 months and now he won’t stop showing up my new gym. I don’t even know how he found out my new gym. I will never take him back. I will be his forever “the one that got away”. Listen to coach lee. No contact your dumper.
@Greeean Genna not interested scammer
It’s been 2 months since the breakup. 1 month since no contact. Some days I feel as though I’m getting over her and others I still feel like I’m at square one.
don’t think about them or look at social media
Stay in no contact and radio silence delete block social media I know it is hard but cry give yourself time greave and most of all respect yourself..
@@MrTony759 I deleted all social media the day of the break up
@@Dialogos1989 good you have done the best thing for yourself take your time..and everything will be fine..👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Hi, you CAN DO THIS. Keep busy.Go out with friends, pick up a hobby, but don't call.
7 weeks NC 😢 my heart is broken, I try be strong 💪 I miss our connection. I’m working on myself. Some nights are so hard and lonely 😔 thank you for video
You can do this. Be brave. Have faith.
I went crazy too, but I did it. YOU CAN DO THIS TOO. Keep busy, call your friends, go out, but DO NOT CALL! Best of luck to you.
I have mixed emotions, sometimes I’m very upset 😠 how he just left me, & sometimes I just want us back. Probably because I was in big shock when it happened. I didn’t saw this coming. Like a 💣
They missed out is the way you gotta look at it
Don't listing to music 🎵
Went NC and starting to feel so much better. Changed the way i feel and think about everything. ❤
Yes!!!❤
Coach Lee, I’ve never yelled at my X. He became so upset at me during an intimate moment. About something I’m uncomfortable with. It seemed like a shame spiral I witnessed. He could hardly calm himself. Like a switch flicked into an alternate reality. It appeared to be a trauma to him. Unable in that moment to consider my feelings. Yet I still managed to say I didn’t want to loose contact and that I was trying to be non toxic. He discarded me on spot. Kicked me out and said there’s nothing to talk about. Yet I feel compassion and anger, hurt, wishing to explain I never wished to hurt him. I’m confused if this warrants a clean slate statement? No contact for about 6 weeks now. It’s very hard on me. I hope I can afford a coaching call soon to try to get clarity. I usually don’t mention such personal details on social media. Maybe I should have not.
Thanks for your videos.
If they lose interest in you. Forget it. You're done. NC won't work. You'll never be enough for the wrong person.
Lies lol , now if they never really liked you then yeah no contact don’t work
Two years later, the same person, the same situation, I am back here again to find peaceful
It’s been 5 days and it’s so bad my heart is hurting. I’ll update in 45 days. It’s time to focus on me.
Don't look back, it'll make sense someday
Update at 15 days : he has reached out multiple times. He seems worried whether I don’t want to speak with him or not anymore. It’s still so fucking hard.
Update at 21 days : there has been minimal contact from his end, and one from mine. But mostly we are keeping away. I’m starting to realize why things happened the way they did and why maybe this is not too bad.
@@Sihara.Liyanapathirana it's not too bad. Aug 7th we broke up and haven't contacted since Aug 22nd. Almost at the 6 week mark
@@Sihara.Liyanapathirana any update?
when u realized that NC is the best way to heal yourself from abuse and toxicity, you will value yourself more than anyone else. Learn not to care what others or your ex thinking about you, stop pleasing others!
I’m noticing how a majority of comments on this channel are from people with flaky exes or whose exes never reached out.
Your voice and these penetrating videos make me sleep at night in a good way .. your a great therapist
thank you for all these videos! i am going through it right now and currently using no contact. thankfully i didnt beg afterwards but its been hard but it is also getting easier everyday
Already done 31 days and he made contact i was rude to him and he swore never to speak to me again.. but after 3yrs I am okey without him and I am tired of being treated badly,feeling unloved and always walking on egg shells. Good riddance! Thank you coach Lee for making me realize my worth.
Self respect is d best.... Be strong all. Amen🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much coach, I am currently about to go meet my ex for the first time after being in no contact! You are a life saver!
How did it go?
@@chopper481 late reply sorry, it actually went really well but I am back in no contact again now as I knew she wasn’t ready still so time will tell, will give another update if anything changes
@@echo6197 wishing you all the luck!
@@echo6197 how long were u in no contact before she reached out bro ?
@@echo6197you good now?
Coach lee I've watched your videos every day since I broke up with my girlfriend in 2020 and that is really helpful for me. Long story short, in September 2022, we got back together and it is kind of weird because every word you say happens. thank you coach lee!
Can you please do a video about on and off relationships? I always wonder if the same things apply to a back and forth relationship or if it’s any different
That's a trauma Bond and it's very toxic.
I pushed my ex to breaking point due to causing arguments all the time over silly thing's and would expect her to come running back to me. It wasn't all bad, we did have a fantastic connection on the days we weren't arguing. Last week I said something ridiculous that she apparently can't shake off and doesn't look, or feel the same way towards me now. The following morning we woke up and she told me she doesn't want the relationship anymore, I tried my best to speak with her but she wasn't interested at all... I cried, begged, and promised thing's would change but it didn't phase her in the slightest.
She wants time and space to clear her Head and to get out this "depressed" state shes apparently in that I was never informed of before until the day of that break up. I've tried giving her time and space but I always get the urge to reach out and I do, but I never hear anything back. I'm Trying to do NC now but in this situation I don't think it's going to work unfortunately, I don't think she has that desire to reach back out to me anymore even though she said she would. I'm still holding on Trying to fix something that she probably doesn't want to fix anymore and it's killing me slowly inside. I know I've messed up and blew my chance with the girl I wanted to get with for 2 years, then when we do I ruin it. I'll never forgive myself for this. Promised her everything but gave her pretty much nothing 💔.
I just hope she'll be in touch at one point.. I'm so broken
Be strong bro. Don't text her tomorrow. I know it seems impossible but it'll get better if you back away and let yourself regain your composure. If you keep responding with emotions it'll 100% bite you in the ass. Pray on it brother, I mean really let it out if you gotta. The big man is always listening
@@e.collins2768 I received a text last night from her mate telling me that my ex doesn't want to speak, nor fix things anymore as she can't forgive the things that I said and that I've to never contact her ever again... So I've now blocked her, if she really wanted to she could forgive me. But that's just her excuse so she doesn't need to get back with me. But she could give her previous ex multiple different chances who was an alcoholic and hit her once? Makes sense bro doesn't it.
@@roberts5368 my ex left after 10 years, I never cheated, hit her, no emotional abuse or drunken drama. I cared and looked after and her kids. We had no fights until she started to withdraw then more fights once she moved out. Was the only fights the whole 10 years but now she makes up thinks to fuel her fire towards and me, anything she can come up with to make the image of worse she does it. She says she “can’t” be with me. Not I don’t want to be with you. Her ex’s in the past cheated and so many other things wrong yet they stayed together and fixed things. I ask myself why I don’t even get the chance to prove my changes to her and why don’t I get more chances like every other couple we know. She just stamps her foot and says no. I know what your saying and feeling mate.
@@Andrew_kiwi_AF @Andrew Colver ahhhh mate I can only understand how you're feeling at this moment in time. Didn't argue in 10 years? Then when yous did start arguing she decides to walk away and Makes out as if she can't be with you anymore? When in reality if she really wanted to, she could... And this being cheated on by previous ex's, if she can forgive and give them multiple different chances, why can't she give you any, that's the thing you need to start questioning mate.
My ex who Just split up with me 3 weeks ago was with someone before me who was a raging alcoholic, drank Monday to Monday, lied to her all the time, and so on so forth. She Gave him multiple chances to change his ways and he didn't. I say a few things out of line and she gets rid of me in a beat? Apparently doesn't look at me or feel the same towards me anymore. Won't communicate with me, got her pal to send me a message informing me that the ex can't forgive what I said and doesn't want to get back with me again nor even speak to me... What chance do you have man.
My ex left me a year and half ago I gave her the breakup and I deleted and went in no contact and radio silence..since then we both have never contacted each other..so for the way I see it we will never be together again..I remember a video of you coach Lee where you said that it is not sure a 100 percent sure they come back..so for my advice I think i did the right thing she wanted to leave me I could only accept her choice even if she wanted to give me the fault of our relationship....so I wished her all the best..good luck..
Havent heard from mine in almost 14 months and found out she started a new relationship with some ugly dude in April… I’m done for good. I gave her the space and that’s what she does? Doesn’t even care to check? She don’t love me or never did. Sad reality but her being with someone new is helping me move forward a lot easier!
@@os3688 I didn't want to go ahead with my situation the same happen to me..so I can only wish her the best....
@@MrTony759 thats all u can do brother. Keep urself busy and eventually you will feel like you’ve truly moved on. But don’t rush to feel that way. It will just happen and become your reality slowly that you could care less about hearing from them again/wanting them back. Don’t ignore your feelings. Experience those feelings/learn from them/manifest a better life for yourself and you will be happier than being with someone
Antonio, if somebody wants to leave, let them. You did the RIGHT thing. If she's seeing someone else, so what!! You will find someone who deserves you. Good luck to you!
Thank you coach Lee, if it were not because of you, I don’t where or how I would be, I don’t have my ex back yet, I’m in no contact and I know that at the end of the road even if she doesn’t come back, I’ll be better because of your advices, thank you again.
Needing closure ... you're deceiving yourself. Them letting you go IS closure. Have some self respect. Don't give them another chance to humiliate you. NEVER let them tell you twice they don't want you.
I agree and have said it. Them dumping you IS closure.
I APPRICIATE AND RESPECT YOU COACH, because you are right and smart about these bs that people put us threw
I walked away from a relationship I was not prioritised in. I took back the power and knew my worth, she since made a beeline for me which I told her if she wants to speak she needs to set the time aside and find a time that I am free and not expect me to be ready whenever she wants. She called to cancel due to work but saw I was pretty checked out. Let’s see if she tries again 🤷🏽♂️
No contact works like a charm, even on a stubborn man.. took him 4 months but he reached out. Nothing changed but, still works ha
Thank you Mr Lee i chase her for 9 months. I am done now chasing her since i listen to you. I'm ok now
Been in no contact for 46 days and I thought i was doing good and then suddenly I feel the pain and hurt all over again 😢 I wish I could fast forward through this heartache
Hi my relationship is fixed back again
my ex is back to me we loving and
happily together, I got help from a
man who brought us back together. he helped me in getting rid of third party that was involved in my relationship
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He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's.
In many videos, Coach Lee mentions that after 45 days, but preferably 60-90, we can break NC in a informal message, as we have reached the "nothing to lose point". A few exes want to reach back but are afraid of... rejection by us! I know I will reach out if she hasn't when I go to that point as I want to have closure or a restart. The limbo is too much.
Hi coach! Can you please make a video on the chances to get your ex back if they made a semi-permanent decision after the breakup? For example: moving out and getting their own place
Hmm this happened to me too, she’s even talking about moving out of my city so I think there’s no hope
This guy is so professional & powerful
Me and my ex have been messaging a lot more then usual now and texting, we didn’t end on bad terms or anything, we went NC for a couple of months, we aren’t back together but I’d say taking things slowly
Does anyone else think coach Lee would have a good voice to be the narrator of a true crime show lol
You deserve my subscription Coach Lee! That was an eye-opener!
90 days of NC. She hasn't tried anything at all and my birthday was a week and a half ago.
Sometimes people aren't meant to be. I broke up with her due to being unhappy. She lied, put no effort and broke promises often and had avoidant behavior.
She wasn't always this way but I offered her the option to reconcile if she is willing to put in the work in the relationship. She argued with me and ghosted me after dismissing my needs and met another man a week later and then had sex with him a month after that.
I unfriended her to save my sanity and help myself from the hurt she put out by ghosting me and then branching off to a new man. I've honestly given all hope awhile back on her coming back but on the bright side I need someone who appreciates me and I am moving on slowly... Day by day it gets better eventually. :)
Also, we dated for 6 years almost.
Thank you Lee.
My bf just broke up with me ... I'm not hurt , Just sad ... I don't want this to end but i will be fine one day soon ... ✌️
Jira, order Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It will help you. It's awesome!
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Coach Lee... I gave her No contact for two months....then I texted her from another phone because she blocked my phone number.... I basically told her how she wronged me ... I apologized for my mistakes....she texted back "You said your peace.... I've forgiven you....we texted a couple more times, and she now unblocked me on the phone. We're not talking on the phone yet, but we are texting....that's a huge step because she was so angry at me before the No Contact. I don't know if we're getting back together, we may...but at least she has forgiven me, that's a start
NC 11 months, not a single word from her.. I can only assume she found a better option... NC doesn't work to get an ex back, though it helps to move on somehow. I've seen countless ppl get their ex back by talking to them after a few weeks no contact.
Those like me who went indefinite no contact never heard from them. If the dumpee can move on after some time, imagine the dumper, who already moved on before breaking up... by the time the dumpee feels better, the dumper is MILES AWAY
I agree. I think NC is only for moving on.
If you lose contact and connection - you lose it. Why would you ever connect after months to reunite?
It would be interesting to get stats of reuniting after NC vs keep on talking approach.
If your ex has friends who resort to gaslighting in order to convince your ex that they’re not ‘the one,’ then that person, your ex, is definitely not for you.
It's been 3 months since I got broken up with out of a 3 year long distance relationship. I still don't get why I can't move on. Trying to work on myself but I feel like a zombie going through the motions. It is so true that the ones that care the least have the most power in the relationship. Every time I think of her I have to remind myself that if she wanted to talk to me, she would. If there was only a way to stop thinking of her every day could try and get my heart to move on vs battling my brain. Trying the no contact but it rips me apart every single day, wishing I could talk to her and tell her all the thoughts I have if her but I can't and keep them to myself. I love and miss you Emily. I hope you are happy.
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I’m pretty much agree with everything the coach is saying, but there are a couple of things that I’ve experienced in the past that sort of contradict his no contact rule teachings. Number 1., regardless who employs the no contact rule first, no contact helps her get over you as much as it helps you get over her; and with the ease attractive, young women have at meeting guys, particularly with the dating sites and social media, it’s now easier than ever for a girl just move on without you. With this in mind, couldn’t no contact be a recipe for disaster?
Number 2., while I am not proud of this, I have personally begged ex girlfriends back into relationships with me. I have hovered around long enough, kept in contact, called regularly, etc., until the point she gave in and got back with me, even if it took a couple of months. So, I do know you can get your girl back by fighting to get your girl back. How do you we reconcile what the coach is saying, with the two issues I named above??
It been 2years of doing this guess I'm done now...I need a new relationship!
22 months here. I still miss him terribly
@@susananavarrete2801 Hey Susana, I missed my ex for a little over 2 years also. I left him after 5 years. He was using me the whole time. You will be fine. If I made it, so can you. Get out with your friends, find a hobby, but in TIME, you'll be ok! ⚘️
@@susananavarrete2801 damn that's crazy 22 months,no honey get over it