After 6 mo he texted and asked if he can see me,,,, but I'm actually interested in someone else and want to pay attention to him. Why would I want to go back to someone who left me when I Wanted a Real life with them,,, Kids Marriage highs, lows Forever .. .. I actually don't see it anymore.. Coach Lee is the Truth
@@legendneymar5691 No,, Everyday,, Everyday for a month I watched Coach Lee Videos, I Was so depressed and I did cry,,, but then things got better and I began to See A hopeful Future for me and those feeling faded and I will Not make the same mistakes again
I admire your fortitude and that you made a choice. He lost you, and he'll have to live with that. For me 7 months now dreadful pain, no sleep. This morning he says good morning my heart dropped we are LDR I don't know what to do anymore. I listen to Coach Lee everyday and it seems to calms me.... Don't even know if the emergency break up kit will help me at this point ... He has a brother that lives in my town so, I know he'll come to visit, but still he needs to reach out to me. I think I'd better do a coaching call. I'm happy for you for moving on!!
Everytime I start to feel the need to contact her I just watch these videos. They give me motivation and makes everyday much easier. I know that I will be alright with whatever happens. Just have to stay strong and love yourself.
Same here my wife kicked me out the family home blocked me on everything tryimg to stay strong but so hard...think need my own place show I can stand on my own too feet
At 35 days NC he reached out and I no longer cared or wanted a relationship with him. He texted and made an excuse to see me, when that didn’t work he called me, when I didn’t answer he left a long voicemail that solidified my decision 😅 Sometimes relationships can be repaired but other times, when you do exactly what Coach Lee says, you realize you deserve more 🤷🏻♀️
@@alejandraperez6714 while that is true, your situation is contradicting to why you came to this channel in the first place. I guess it only took 35 days to realise you didn't really want to be with the guy but you came here for advice to try and get him back and now dont want him after only a month.
@@CiluhStyle1 I guess every situation is different? If you must know, within that month I found out he cheated on me. Anyone with enough self respect would not welcome that kind of situation with open arms. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t love him. I chose myself and if you think that’s contradicting, idk what else to tell you ♥️✌🏼
I think is good to respect yourself enough and know that people who don't appreciate your presence should earn your absence. Don't let anybody treat you any kind of way. They are millions of beautiful women /men who are drooling over you right now, but you have to respect yourself enough not to allow anyone to mistreat, you deserve the best and you know that.
I’m in the bait stage. I find baiting so disrespectful. After the breakup, he was so cold and mean. I cried a lot and he knew I was hurting, but he couldn’t care less. For him to come back with a simple “hey” was more disappointing than him saying nothing to me. As much as I want to express myself to him I refuse to say anything. Talking to him about how he made me feel would be pointless. He needs to realize that on his own. It sucks that they only reach out when they want something from you, these type of people have no empathy. Stay far far away
1 year and 3 months full of No Contact and going strong! During the sixth month of NC, I've made the decision to block and remove my ex-fiancé off of social media and, let me tell you this: Best decision ever. Why? You see, it actually gave me a "sense" of control the situation and was able to take care of myself not just physically but mentally as well. I told myself that, "She will never ever find anything new about me. Not even a single drop. If she wants to speak to me, my phone is always open 24/7. No excuse." As of right now, I absolutely have no desire to go back to her and wish her the best. God is good. Thank you, Coach Lee.
That is great for you! I did the same, not seeing their social media helps because you don't overthink and make imaginary scenarios of what they are busy with.
@@tiffanypr.9448 That! I remember during the first 6 month of No Contact, I saw her having a "good time" with their friends and talked and laughed with them. It was almost as I didn't even exist in her world. It was very hurtful quite literally. That's why I was like "okay, enough is enough. I don't deserve that at all" and removed her off of social media. I felt peaceful about that. Hope everything works out well for you!
Dont you think after a year and 3 months that it's time to leave her completely in the past and move on? You said you have no desire to go back to her yet you said your phone is available 24/7. That sounds really desperate the way you worded you comment. What was it that made her leave you?
@@sloanmagnum5009 Oh I am already moved on. :) I was just saying that if she ever wants to talk, phone message is the only way and not on social media or anything else. As for her reason for leaving me, apparently, no reason at all, which confuses me. We were dating for two years, and we were talking about wanting to get marry someday and all that. Just right in the middle of wedding plans, she says she doesn't want to get marry (out of blue) and gave me back the wedding ring and never heard from her since then. We never got into fight or anything at all, which was really odd. I was so good to her and took care of her 100%. She decides to be rude and just left me. My whole family and friends were confused. So yeah, go figure, lol.
Dumped in April after 10 yrs. I went no contact, heartbroken but did it. Xmas he sent me a card sending me "All my love" Straight in the log burner it went. In a yr he's gone through 4 women that I know of. Meanwhile I'm living the best life with a new caring TRUE partner. Please pls people stay no contact!! Hard, but SO worth it I the end
She broke up with me a little before Christmas and it’s been a rough month for me. Thank you for your words of wisdom and giving me strength to keep going
My ex did the same thing with me. I packed my things and moved out. No contact at all since then. Is a huge pain, but we need to move on and concentrate on ourselves.
I ruined my relationship. The stress from my life experiences and work were put into my relationship. I pushed my girl away. She is so perfect and don’t want to be without her. I see many comments saying they don’t want to get back after NC. I hope this is not the case for either of us, but much of what he is saying makes a lot of sense. Thank you for these videos sir, the breakup just happened and I hope I can make it through this.
Dude I know you’re pain. Same thing happened to me a month and half ago. I’ve been on nc for two weeks and I’m already feeling a lot better stay strong. We got this. Don’t beg and don’t apologize and especially don’t get jealous if you see them with anyone else.
I feel you, my ex and me was together for almost 12 years and she decided to break up with me. I did the exact same thing as you did in your relationship. I actually broke NC and texted her couple of days ago, and she replied that she have moved on, and that she is feeling okey, and that she cannot be there for me anymore. 💔 I’ve come to realise that I need to face reality and move on, do NC and work on myself. I don’t know what the future holds but I’m trying so hard not to dream about a relationship with her, grief and work on myself and I’m applying NC. You got this. We both do and I wish you the best. 🫂
Same bro. 1 week in over a 3 year relationship. Was super depressed this past year and treated her poorly. Going on a bought trip in 6 months and doing no contact, but we’re free to do whatever… hope to get back, but not planning on it as well. Focusing on me and hopefully I can at least get her back as a friend at some point
Just want to let you all know that my ex reached out to me last night after 6 months of no contact. Who knows if it'll go anywhere, but Coach Lee is the real deal.
if it helps, I got my ex back and we've been back together a year now and bought a house. It all depends on the strength of the relationship and if youre both willing to work, but NC works!@@basicinfo2022
@@basicinfo2022 I got him back - I commented this but its disappeared? Anyway we're almost back together a year and we bought a house. Relationship 2.0 is even better than our relationship 1.0 0 our reasons for BU were him not being ready for the next steps (living together, and feeling like he was holding me back. A year of NC & him rebounding with an awful relationship were enough to change his outlook and move back home from London, to our home town after living there 8 years
@@TheUnplugged1 if you're interested, we've been back together for just over a year and we bought a house 6 months ago! NC works- most of my NC support group friends (8 people I closely stayed in contact with) did get contact, some got the opportunity to try & get back together, some did get back together but it didn't work the 2nd time. Mine is the only one that has lasted. The best advice I can give is that, the relationship, and whether you could both work on the issues, is the thing to really think about during NC. Use this time to get over the break up and open your mind to the possibilities so that if you cant make it work 2nd time, you're prepared to move on.
I over stepped boundaries! Yes I got ignored after apologizing. Day 12 NC and I’m happy. I signed up to start courses for my Ph.D, getting 6 figure salary. I told him give me a few weeks I’d be ok. Took about 4 and I’m feeling great❤
May you be blessed in Jesus' name Coach Lee and all you reading this. Your work is the best I've ever seen about basic psychology that can really make or break a relationship. Thank you for all of your work and much love to you all.
Straight facts. I pray over him regularly and anyone dealing with this pain, because there’s nothing quite like it when you truly loved someone. We were together for almost 3 years and it’s been about a year since we broke up. Of course I acted like a little bitch begging and shit, but Coach Lees and other good coaches videos really give you some good advice. Worst thing about my case is that we worked together and my uncle is the manager of that job I use to work. That was tough, but when they say focus on your purpose and hit the gym. That shit really helps and when you get that confidence back, you realize you have a lot more options
@@Jus-Too-Smoove There are definitely other options Justus and it was good to hear from you. Back in April, my ex left after 25 years. I didn't know it when she left, but there was someone else. Once I was sure about that, I only had to deal with the pain. That took a couple of months before I could put my brain in order. I come on here once in a while to give others my experience, for good or bad, and hope it may help someone else. Am I glad she left? No, and I wish things never changed from a year before, but there was really nothing I could do about it. I look at her as being weak, and basically a POS. I don't care to even hear from her anymore and at this point, I want to keep it that way. There was never any fixing it, at least for me. Coach Lee does know his stuff. No contact is best in many ways. It gives the dumper a chance to think about things (although it didn't happen with my ex) and it gives someone in our position a chance to heal a bit, so we can put things into perspective. Without no contact, it's doubtful they come back and stay very long. They need a chance to miss you, and if they don't, you are in a much better place to move on anyway. You have already started building a new life. I do miss all the extended family at times, but that, unfortunately, comes with it.
@@Jus-Too-Smoove You will be fine. I was engaged for 5 years to the love of my life, and I was shattered when it ended. I got myself back together in TIME. It gets better, and I got to a point where I even stopped thinking of him. You have a LOT to look forward to. God bless you! Hugs..❤️❤️⚘️
I think that no contact is absolutely brilliant. It's wonderful in that it gives you the best chances of your ex coming back, but if it doesn't work, it has already put you on the path to recovery, and happiness, and also keeping your dignity in not begging. However, I think some videos about self improvement are the next logical step. An ex will probably reach out, and want a second try after they realize you're stronger than they thought, but if real changes aren't made, they will probably end up leaving again (they left for a reason and if it's not changed will leave again).
She's definitely going through these sub stages... She tried to get a support group around her but all the people I know, told her that she was wrong and she's very upset with them. I'm going out, having a great time, accomplishing goals and moving forward. Also, no contact is working on an ex from 3 years ago. She's been texting, sending pics, and calling out the blue. I most definitely wasn't expecting that at all.
Curtis Smith, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
This man knows his stuff. Listen to him. It's exactly as he says. Have confidence and do the work on your end. Your work needs to be done for your sake and for your future with or without the other person but they come back more often than you think if the relationship was of value
I get as much help (or more) from the Commenters as I do Coach Lee. Very smart audience and their feedback is helping me a lot because they are or have experienced what I'm going through.
wecometototali I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you immensely. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk This Breakup Kit is excellent. Nobody on line can talk about how great his Kit is. It's very POWERFUL.
He left a week ago, leaving me pregnant after 6 years of being together after physically fighting me and calling the cops on me,I thank God I found this videos,I feel much better each day I watch them.Sending my love my South Africa❤
Coach I wanna thank you very very genuinely, I wish I could hug you or something. I'm doing NC right now and just wanted to say that regardless of what the outcome will be, I'll be thankful to you always for helping me get through this. You really are doing an amazing job
Greensloth, I’m honored. In place of a hug, you could donate to my son’s college golf team so they can have a season. Their GoFundMe is at www.gofundme.com/f/help-the-golf-team
Coach Lee, I listen to you everyday...some of your videos I need to watch several times per day...others I just put on repeat...and listen until I finish driving. You are simply the best.
I couldn't agree more! I've literally learned and followed every bit of your advice and I'm such a better woman for it. My ex randomly reached out several months ago to tell me I need to let him go and move on and when I honestly told him that I wasn't holding on to him and that I was living my best life, he back peddled and told me how much he missed me, said the good memories way outnumbered the bad, let it slip that he watches my social media and even said I could be in the Guinness World Book of Records for most unique woman. Hah! He was so used to me begging and telling him that I would wait for him forever that it shocked the socks off of him. He's a great guy and not a Narcissist, so it's fabulous to understand that even the best people have natural reactions to certain things. We aren't back together but if he does ask me for a date, I now have the tools to utilize in the process, thanks to Coach Lee!
Coach Leey I pull up your videos everyday and I have LDR when I go onto your channel I try to look for videos in that category and I don't see one would you please develop one? You did say that most of your clients are all long distance relationships
@@mistydawn5061to keep you close and ease the pain of the breakup, using you as an emotional crutch, that’s an unconscious reaction. They also love and care for you, they want you in their life, even though attraction has dropped. Maybe you have mutual friends, so they think a friendship can also save the mutual connections you have. Don’t take friendship, just avoid mentioning it and go no contact.
@@mistydawn5061 they do it to not feel the separation properly. the time after break-up is difficult & keeping on seeing your ex as a friend is a way to not feel those negative emotions. catching up is a respite of sorts to help them move on a more comfortably. that's why ppl with low-self respect keep enabling their friendly exes.
6 months no contact and I let go. She caused the breakup and then proceeded to be rude and mean. Her friends vandalized my truck for something I didn't even do and I'm just done. Never talking to her again. Gonna find someone better.
So my ex went through all these stages, it happened very rapidly. I foolishly accepted her back, only so we could be broken up again a few months later. I learned and although I am eager to go back home it will be a much slower process. I wish I would have taken more time to separate my emotions from what would have been a more well thought out and logical response. Thank you coach Lee. I purchased the emergency breakup kit and it was well worth it, your words helped and continue to help me to reevaluate my own worth in the situation.
I wish there was an easy way to see into their head to understand what part of ourselves we are not aware of that they find unattractive. Clearly she is attracted to you. But there is this one piece that turns her away. Same for all of us. If we could see it, we would adjust it and then life would be easier. Wishing you a wonderful relationship.
I'm so lousy at NC but watching this video was helpful with all the reminders. My ex is the queen of baiting and I fall for it every time and then get ghosted again and again.
When I watched your videos and heard this I was livid. It made me even work harder. And harder. Have hope guys . My ex called me after 6 months of no contact. At that point I was dating someone else he was the last thing on my mind. Now I have him chasing me. The tables have changed. I do not ignore him. I am civil to him How the tables have turned.
I’d like to see subcategories of dumper. These videos are helping go so much, but my ex is more complicated: she’s the textbook definition of a fearful avoidant, which makes things more complicated
@@darioussmith3450 he, lol. It was an ex boyfriend. He contacted me once maybe a month later, just to lash out at me about something. I didn’t give in to it and then I just moved on. Haven’t heard from him since and I’d like to keep it that way haha. Realized I deserved much better :)
It’s been 23 days since my lady dumped me after a very good 8 year relationship! I’ve been in no contact since. I was completely blindsided, I believe there’s another man involved. I’m dying inside, I get sick to my stomach on a daily basis. I really love this woman. I’ve been in the gym lifting weights like an insane person. Upside is I’ll get back in excellent shape. I really believe I have zero chance of getting her back unless her new relationship falls apart by that time I won’t want her back. We could work it out now if she was willing but time is not on my side. So I figure I have nothing to lose staying in no contact.
I'm glad you mentioned "2 or 3 months" as a minimal reasonable grieving time because one coach I came across was boasting techniques that "Get Your Ex Back In 30 Days" and I'm not ready for her yet. My emotional circuits just won't realign that fast. As of now, if contact were made, I'd just be hitting her with an angry list of grievances so fast. Being "slow and casual but polite" is quite beyond me at this time, meaning that No Words out of me are the only right words :( It's a total exercise in self-discipline, isn't it?
Yes. This. The first month, I would've replied with "go F yourself." So many stages if healing we MUST do. Whether you get back together or not. The work must happen. Stay strong! ❤
Thanks@@lnzprazak2711 💜 It IS work and yeah, it does require strength 💪😠 I have an employment advisor who seemed to find my breakup far more interesting to talk about than finding me new work last time I saw her, and who named 6 ways from Sunday I could heap Miss X with poetic, explosive "F U"s. I sighed "Nah, that would be too easy. And the satisfaction I got would be gone the next day." Stages of healing... mmm... ugh...true 🤦♂ It's sweet of you to share you've been there anyway 🙏 I think of a line from Star Trek II: "How we deal with death is at least as important as how we deal with life." 👻💀☠
Yoi are doing great. I feel the same. My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago and i feel like i need one more month at least to fix my issues and be rational before he comes back. If he ever will come back
And here's me thinking all this time has whizzed on by, @@andreearoxana5989, while eating my slice of private pain cake every day- truly "dining on ashes"- but it's just past 7 weeks which really isn't long at all. One of these coaches (probably all of them) pointed out that exes seem to have a spidey sense for that moment when you've finally decided "I don't care"... and that'll be when the ex shows up, and you'll be ready to be sincerely "meh" about them ;p We shall see...
I’m coming back to these videos over two years after getting my girl back. And we’re now about to get married. Let me just say one thing that’s kind of the opposite advice of what these coaches are saying. At the end of the day you need to really know your girl. You need to truly understand her personality to really be able to deep dive into what you were doing wrong in the relationship. If you don’t then you probably will never get your girl back. I appreciate these videos but I sort of did the opposite of a lot of what they suggested because I obviously knew my fiancé soon to be wife a lot better than a coach video online. But they did help me get through some of the emotional stages of being broken up with.
Hi i just wanna say it toke me 2 years to finally get over him and believed again that i will find someone better and that i deserve love again. There were countless times where i thought id never find someone like him again and u start missing the person again, losing sleep over it or stuck in thinking about the "what ifs". But the truth is we all heal, we all can move on, dont lose hope and it surely is not the end of the world. 🧡 Stay strong
Coach Lee has helped me through two breakups now. I have been down as low as you can go and his videos got me through. He kept me sane. He kept me logical. I have studied them all and he’s the best. He knows what he’s doing and he knows what he’s talking about. I bought his breakup kit years ago. It was worth every penny. Thank you Coach Lee. I only know you from a screen, but I appreciate you more than you know.
This guy, Coach Lee, is incredible. If you are exhausted from listening to talk on dealing with a narcissist and have moved on, this is an excellent resource!
My Ex dumped me for another guy after an 8 year relationship. I’m doing no contact but in my mind all is futile unless her relationship with the new guy falls apart. We almost never had an argument and we were truly in love! I can’t believe she doesn’t love me anymore. The facts don’t add up! My best move is to forget about her and move on. Coach Lee helped me understand what was going on and more than likely kept me from making an ass out of my self and going to jail. I surely would have been knocking on her door and calling her friends. Instead I’ve went dark, paused my FB page no social media, no contact. I’m thankful for Coach Lee!
Yes! I totally understand the making an ass out of yourself and going to Jail. I can relate to that. They're not worth it. You really have to keep your emotions intact and maintain self control. I am happy I did.
Same situation. Dunped me for some other guy.. its 4 yr relationship.. i go NC right away.. it’s understandable she dnt want u anymore in her life.. NC for 40days.. her mom txted me that she still loves me she missed me.. i told the mom your bitch is a good player.. im done with her for dumping me with other man while we in relationship..
This was our second time back together and he has left me again to be with his ex. I'm just so hurt by the way he did me. So yes he has moved on and gotten back with her. I begged and pleaded chased and stalked and his family even noticed how was I was behaving and I'm not proud of it, but I just didn't want to lose him this time around. I'm still so hurt and think about him all the time I miss him, but I know he's happy and moved on back with her. So I won't fight it anymore. Thank you so much for these videos they are very helpful and inspirational 💗
No contact is the best possible thing. I was devastated when my "dismissive avoidant" ex blindsided me and dumped me by email after 8 months. For the next week we went back and forth and I felt crazy (I'm not now and I wasn't then, but that's how you feel). I did no contact for 40 days (as of today) and it took 4 weeks for me to process the emotional hurt to even start going back to analyze what happened. Definitely starting to see now that there were big red flags in his behaviors that I didn't address and let slide, and when thinking about even considering trying to restore anything (I wouldn't have been with him in the first place had I not liked a lot of things about him), I now realize that some of these things are non-negotiables for future relationships and healthy boundaries that need to be addressed. This was only after doing the work on myself when totally separate. So though I miss the person and the good parts of what we had, and clearly am here to sort out how to even begin approaching getting back together, I know what needs to be addressed so history doesn't repeat itself. Those may be things that prevent us from ever getting back together, and therefore so be it. But I could NOT have done that without complete space.
No contact in my opinion includes delete and block your ex on social media, block them on your phone or change your number. Fill your time with things that make you feel better, take care of yourself. Post break up time is not a race with your ex, move on.
Day 6 of no contact and we’ve been broken up for 9 days. It hurts so much, but he views my stories very fast and when we broke up he was very emotional. I have started going back to the gym and being more independent in myself, my lack of independence was I think what pushed him away. I hope no contact works. He is my home.
I dont know what is going through. She contacted my friend's wife and asked about me. But one thing am sure about. Follow this man. In 3-4 months ull find yourself back. And your sa will be in stage one of breakup. They will regret. I no longer want my text book narcissist back. Thanks coach lee.
Just checking in. I've decided not going back together after he reached out. I don't want Ex or Ex2.0..but your videos really helped me understand what happened to him and why he contacted me again after break up. Keep doing great videos Coach
I was the one that ended my 2 year relationship, to the most wonderful human, due to external stress factors. I pleaded for 2 weeks and he said he wouldn’t re enter a relationship with me because he wouldn’t be able to be the same with me. I told him I’d keep fighting; but what I did was listen to him and enter NC. I’m only 9 days in but I’m already thinking ‘why ruminate and long over someone who doesn’t want me? If he can’t support me at stressful times then maybe he’s not for me. I’m secretly hoping he comes back, but already I’m making huge progress in only 9 days.
This is still highly useful. I'm not personally going to try and get my ex back. I want to move on to someone else, but this advice still helps because it lends me closure knowing that I can keep her as a friend in time. I don't want to be in a relationship with her, but it seems silly to completely toss someone aside because you're no longer in a relationship of that kind.
day 35 of from a breakup from an almost 13 year old relationship...i struggle to comprehend. i work on myself and surround myself with friends, but its soul shattering, especially when u imagined your life with this person. i just want to buy and island and live on it with my dogs....but alas im poor lol
RaquelRavage, I do understand what you are feeling. I have been there. Go out with friends, listen to Coach Lee's videos, and you will be fine. I was in the SAME situation years ago, and Coach Lee helped me. Get out of the house too! Big hug for you..❤❤💕⚘️
DEAR COACH LEE SPEAKING HONESTLY YOUR VIDEO IS HELPING ME BREATHE IN THESE DARK DAYS OF MINE... SPENDING MOST OF MY TIME ON YOUR CHANNEL IS HELPING ME GET BETTER EVERYDAY... U R REALLY A LEGEND SIR
I agree with other commenters, going no contact has given me a sense of im in control of my life, i think hes really gone for good, i think i learned a lot about my core wounds.
I feel the need to comment this. I’m reading through comments and the one thing I’m seeing in all of them is the no contact being used as a form of manipulation or tactic. No, no contact is supposed to be used to benefit you. Take this time to reflect on the relationship, don’t romanticize it, really look at it. We’re you happy when you were with your SO? Do work on yourself. Go to war with yourself. Move on. If they come back, you’ll be in a diff mindset and hopefully so will they. If they don’t come back, you’re not disappointed bc you’ll be in a different mindset completely.
Coach, I removed my ex from my social media and removed myself from hers about a week after the break-up. I needed to heal; I didn't need to be reminded of what she is doing. So no way she can stalk me, but my phone line is still open. 10 weeks of no contact and going strong. Thank you for your guidance and support.
I would say pretend there is a mandated Court Order. If you break that contact law that is in place, you will end up in jail with now even more consequences. If you’ve ever had one slapped on you, you’ll realize just how strong you are! Trust me!
I did a little begging for a few days which angered her, but afterwards, I disappeared and completley stopped reaching out. It's now day 5 and it hurts but I have too much self-respect to beg more. In fact, her response to it turned me off and reminded me that I'm the prize!
JoMama12345, Let her be the one to contact you. Stay in NO Contact. She's probably wondering what you're doing. Stay strong💪 Also, get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is excellent. myexbackcoach.com/ebk This Kit has strategies for every situation..
Coach am in my 12th month of no contact and my ex narc boyfriend is in the 5th stage and am following your videos through and through taking my time. Thank you
She’s didn’t deserve my crap, she is legit 💯 and did it all right. I’m letting go. Honestly at the age of 51 I should know better, she was the best “partner” ever. There’s no fixing what she broke, I was the one who broke
Keeping NC is so difficult, it's been 3 weeks since I implemented NC, 4 weeks since my ex of 1yr ghosted me out of the blue when work was becoming overly demanding and causing him to work weekends (we were long distance, 4.5hrs away, he would come out every weekend, I realized about stepping up to go out by him the weekends he had to work too late, I suppose). I know the whole thing was difficult on him through some of the last few messages he had sent me, he was distant and seemed sad. I know he's a jerk for ghosting rather than verbally breaking up, but we had such an amazing year together and everything clicked, our kids meshed well with each other, sexual chemistry was high... we even went on a 2 week vacation over the summer which was stressful but fun and everyone truly enjoyed it. I love this man so incredibly much, but I'm giving him that space and time and am doing my best to focus on myself... I was a widow of a 19yr marriage before dating him, and he was so incredibly understanding of that as well. None of this makes any sense other than the distance, work and him catching up with friends... I'm sure all 3 were factors. He isn't seeing anyone new, and I do hope that he may be missing me and that he reaches out. It's just so so difficult to keep from messaging him, so many memories that we have in just 1 year. He made me feel alive and happy - of the guys I was talking to when I decided to start dating again, he was the one who just felt natural and a true connection... I do not fall in love easily, I'm very observant and aware (my late husband was my first true boyfriend at age 19). - anyway, it's nice knowing I'm not here alone in this difficult time. (sorry for the long post)
How did this turn out for you? My ex has taken time to pour back into himself following his own crisis and a downward spiral. He pulled back to fix the things leading him down a path of destruction. I admire him for it but damn do I miss him. Things were great with us but he was drowning in his pain and work demands needing to put on his life jacket.
I wish I'd seen this 1 month ago. My ex GF did exactly this, she ended it, we had no contact for around 1 month, then she emailed me telling me how I was everything she wanted in a man, had all the traits she was looking for, was a great dad, how no-one had ever treated her so well, shown her such love. I stupidly ran right back to her, fed into her ego, and what happened, after 3 weeks of trying again, she ended it, told me she didn't feel the same. I can see now that I was too eager to please, created that imbalance, and she got what she needed and broke my heart again. We've been 1 week apart, and today I crumbled and messged. When will I learn 😢
Actually it's not the No Contact that's gets them back. It's the Fact they realize they can't replace you and they're tired of getting Fucked and Tossed. Period
You have help me so much coach lee 🙏 may god blessed you🙂i have saved like 50plus of your videos just to remind myself in these hard times , i can't thank you enough
I stepped up my game of NC and I delete all of my social media. I don’t need it anyways and it’s a good way for me to not stalk them online either. I rather focus on my career
My wife ran to anyone who would tell her things to fit her narrative. But runa from people who will tell her she wrong for how she went about things. Crazy
Most women really don't know what they're doing and are very weak emotionally. She has no clue if she has done the right thing, and it's hurting her so much that she's seeking reassurance wherever she can. You can wake up with a smile knowing that your wife is miserable without you and crippled with anxiety. Don't break no contact, work out, try to have a good social life and she'll realize that she only belongs beside you. And if she doesn't, and if you work on yourself, well it won't be long before you find someone much better who respects you like you deserve, cooks for you with a smile and can't wait to be ravished sexually.
Thank you Coach Lee, through your videos I learned to love myself and realised that my ex-boyfriend is not worth it; he was a manipulator and pretty immature. No contact for me was essential to heal and give myself what I was looking for in that person. If you really believe that your ex-partners are worth it, try it to start a new relationship with them if not, to recover yourselves.
Hi, Coach Lee. You have really been a blessing to me in the past month in a half. I have relied on you, prayer, and your videos to help get me through a very painful breakup where my ex blind sided me out of nowhere, and ghosted me after 2.5 years in a solid, loving relationship. Everything was fine in our relationship until I asked him when are we going to the next level in our relationship. I’m not talking marriage, I’m talking about moving closer to each other (LDR 2.5 hours away) or by possibly moving in together. After that convo, he disappeared. I was shocked bc he had always been very communicative and mature. I have been in no contact for about 45 days and have been taking care of myself. He thought I was going to chase bc I was acting needy, and I didn’t, thanks to you and your videos. It was very hard and I lost weight, but I have gotten so much stronger. Well, one of our mutual friends contacted me just minutes ago and said my ex just contacted him and told him how much he loves me and misses me, and I was the best woman to ever be a part of his life. Our friend said my ex wants me to call him bc he does not want to annoy me. Can you believe this? He wants me to call him! Not doing it. I’m not taking his breadcrumbs. He needs to be a man and contact me since he’s the one that disappeared from my life. I‘ve learned from watching your videos, not to respond until my ex comes to me and says he wants to talk or meet up. Like you say, he could just be testing the waters with me to see where my mind is at by going through our mutual friend. I completely through him off by doing no contact. He thought I was going to chase him. Now, I don’t know if I could ever be with him again. I feel so strong now and non-needy and like I have the upper hand for a change. The tables have literally turned. Thank you Coach Lee! ❤
I am literally going crazy from this breakup. It's been a year and he came back but now he is pulling away at the moment when we were talking well. Why do people do that? How can someone toy you like that? How am I supposed to trust people after this emotional torture? The anxiety is killing me.
Hi Tiffany, the world is full of dishonest people and "players" I ended up with a narcissist which I left after 5 years. Maybe he's seeing someone else on the side. Only my opinion. I would not bother with him anymore. If you love him, and he can't return the feeling, you will get hurt. Personally, I would let him go. Like I said, only my opinion. Good luck to you, honey...♥️⚘️
@@tiffanypr.9448 Just remember that you deserve to be happy. The best revenge is for you to find someone who will love, and cherish you. As for why he's pulling back? It could be any number of things. He may have relationship anxiety where real commitment is scary. Maybe he's not a good guy and is fooling around. It's tough to say. It could be him dealing with personal issues that he's embarrassed about. The best thing is to have an honest conversation about it. If he doesn't give you answers that you feel comfortable with, you may want to just end it and move on.
Id love to be wrong but if your ex that your doing no contact on can also go 30 days plus without contacting you, they are over you and have moved on. Personally I feel if they haven't reached out in 2 to 3 weeks, it's all over.
Very simple actually: I do not have any social media and when she broke up I deleted her number and that was it! Her loss, I can't and won't contact her. If all that what I did for her and the relationship was not enough, then seriously...I could not have done any better, I feel it.
My ex has our 3 children. 2 months ago took out a restraining order because I wanted to see my children. Very dubious claims on the order already closed by CPS. I believe we are done. Good.I just want the kids back in my life. After 16 years of mostly a good marriage I've now become public enemy #1. No cheating, stealing etc. I've had enough.
This is my timeline: 1st no contact try, she contact me after 3weeks, I made the mistake of ignore (Coach Lee don't recommend that). 2round no contact, 4months, she was cruel and cold. 3round NC, 1month, she contact me for a very silly matter. Hope for more news before Christmas, but honestly, I feel better now and have more opportunities due to working to be a better me during the NC time. Thank you Coach Lee!
@@Storyspinner_Am Short answer: it takes a long more than I think. But no suprise. There are three more main events in my time line: she is rounding the places where I usually frequent daily, and totally ignoring me when see me, she changes his hair style at least three times in the period, she is comment hate in some of my personal post with a fake account. I am in a "Monk mode" this year, focusing in lookmaxxing. My appareance is my strong card in relations and I hope it helps me when I make a direct move on her. If not works, I have more options yet, due to my personal improvement.
I did NC on my own alone. This relation & breakup caused me to become distant from friends. So somehow my support group was being back home with my family.
Isabelle Deschamps, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation including yours. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Today is two weeks no contact. It is really hard to do this when you wanted the relationship to work. A relationship with a narcissist just can't work. Maybe he's surprised that I haven't tried to reach out but something tells me he no longer cares whatsoever. I can no longer tolerate being used.
@@jannlewandowski5540 We are officially done. It has been since January. He's moved on to his new supply. I'm no longer a good source of supply by not putting up with the bs. Stay strong too! 💪
Four months in now. I had been blocked and unfriended on social media. A few days ago she out of nowhere started liking my posts. She suddenly became available to add as a friend again. Isn't happening with just a few bread crumbs. I need to see more effort. She broke it. She can fix it. Progress may ne slow but it's coming
Michael Cruz, it sounds like she may miss you. I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is fantastic! Everyone loves it because it helps. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I'm on day 2 of no contact after being blocked on Facebook and learning to believe in myself and do what's best till they wanna return to my life because no contact has worked alot from me and they start unblocking me and this video has been helpful
I sincerely wish I had found you 2 weeks ago!!! My ex temporarily moved out for a week and a half. She has now moved back into the house but is sleeping in another room. Our daughter’s husband didn’t want her at their house anymore. So she had no place else to go. She now has to pay half of all the bills. I’m letting her know that I will move on and I’m looking to the future without her. She cannot financially live without my help. I’ve never held that over her head. I do wish for another opportunity to be better.
Thomas North Castle. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for married couples. It's excellent and it has strategies for every situation including yours. myexbackcoach.com/emk
She broke with me 20 days ago, I gave her a perfect break up, I am not looking at her stories but she is looking at mine, one night she posted story for close friends and I was there, I didn’t look and she deleted it later. She also comes to one pub where I go, but I am just ignoring her and have fun with my friends. Her birthday is in 2 weeks and I think she hopes for me to send her a birthday message but she doesn’t know that we are not doing that, fellas😅
He broke up with me and then after sometime I told him to stop calling me so that I can move on, hearing this he argued that there is no reason for ending our friendship and then one day I clearly stated that I can't be friends with him and told him to stop calling me, after several months one of his friends called me and she said she thought i wouldn't pick up the call, Coach did she called me for him? If yes what should i do to avoid him, He doesn't want me to be his gf also he don't want me to be with anyone else
Hi Lee, I’ve been in no contact for nearly 2 months now (had to answer to a few of her text messages, though, unfortunately) and my EX is leaving in a few weeks to another country - the US, which is impossible for me to get into with my qualifications. I know I will never see her again, but I also know there’s no one quite like her. Yes, I think she will meet someone when she goes back home… I know it’s over and I have zero hope left, but I’m not feeling any better. No contact isn’t helping me move on. She wanted to meet for a walk, but I didn’t pick up on the offer. I do love her and I can’t see every falling in love at the same level.
Same situation, mine left already and said she is open to meet somebody new when the time is right, but i tell you man you sould had accepted the walk and dont act sad desperate lonely or any of that quite the oposite and treat her nice not too nice to give her a boost but positive and make her laugh and feel good and during that walk you could suggest going to a beautiful place that she would like but say something sice we are in this area let me show you something be genuine and kind make her feel good that would stick in her heart and her brain. Before she goes maybe you have a chance to meet act casual at first while you text but when you meet bee that guy with energy confidence and manners in other words be a man.
I don't know man, she was on chilling on Tinder a week after the breakup. I sent her the screenshots, said 'doing great I see" and unfollowed her on socials. Been in No Contact for 2 weeks now, broken up for 3. I wonder if women really come back ? She seemed pretty cold
My ex is still cold it's been a year of no contact we are strangers. Sucks but alot of exs use it as a coping mechanism but you will never know what's going on inside their mind. Good luck
This is the second time he's broke up with me due to his depression and mental health. My ex told so many times how he loved , how i made his life better he promised me that he would never do this to me ever again and here we are. Even before he broke up with me we were planning a hoilday. The break up only happened a few weeks ago so I'm just trying to keep busy , watch stuff like this but also do lots of healing work. I've not reached out much apart from once or twice when I've had l we we're supposed to meet and chat which was his suggestion but I've cancelled twice as I'm not strong even yet. Still doing the no contact 😊
She keep posting sad stuff every couple of days, and she literally posted something about standing outside her house w a boom box. Lmaooo foh she got me fucked up😂
BU for 1 year. Been in a relationship that long. Contact on and off since September. He wants to be friends. He also thinks I’m in a relationship. He still doesn’t reach out or miss me even though he made a comment about him not being happy. He won’t come back because he thinks I’m happier without him. Idk what to even think anymore. Miss him daily. Act like I don’t if I talk to him. Haven’t mentioned about getting back together since March of this year. I guess he is happier without me and it’s time I just stay single and keep doing my own thing. Thank you coach lee!!
I was completely blindsided. My ex broke up with me after meeting a new woman within a month. Says he's in love with her. What the hell does that mean Coach Lee? In love in a month? Is that even normal/real? We were together for 7 Years. I've been in no contact since September. I am a lot better emotionally than I was.
@@bartmccoy5111 So sorry to hear that Bart. I hope you're doing well. My Ex strung me along and breadcrumbed me in the break up, knowing he had his mind made up to leave. I've been in No Contact for 3 months, but I am still in disbelief and shock at times. I just didn't know this person like I thought. It's a gut wrenching reality.
@@shawny979 I go back and forth but its only been a couple weeks so far. I hope by 45 days I'll be done with her in my mind. I keep thinking about how cruel and cold hearted she has been. Its like I didnt know her at all.
@Shawny Well it depends on the type of relationship you bought hard for 7 years.. things can change because love is just a feeling. You should talk to him to know what happened, Why he left you for another person, So you can learn from that and amend your ways. Everything is not always no-contact.
I feel relieved after finding out these important information. i didnt cheat on her but she thinks i am still with my baby mama. she got a group of friends telling her she must look for another side guy. only these past weekend i saw everything, her messages with so many guys and its like they have been sleeping together, she is partying and drinking heavily. she literally told me she agreed to one guy's proposal because she wanted to hurt me. she doesn't like the guy but she did it to hurt me. i told her she must move on now.. she told me she feels better after hurting me(pride). i think psychologically she is not okay. i am now going to no contact rule and i don't think i will ever get back with her. i want her to feel that pain i went through. I have decided not to be on social media for a couple of weeks
Last part is so real.. like, why do you want me to react so bad? No one's getting on my nerves this year anymore.. I'll just be sending you love & light ☺️🤍✨
I've had no contact for 2 months now, and yes he thinks I will always wait for him because we go back so far. We were together for 3 years as teens, and 10 yrs together up till over 4 months. He has a new girlfriend that tells him that; he did the right thing leaving her. Then she goes on about how good she is for him. This woman is easy and hard-looking. He hooked up with the other woman only a week later after dumping me. I am in a long-distance relationship nothing big, but my ex lost it. Andi post nothing.
I must add my comment. 51 days since the breakup, she decided and i was blindsided she "lost feelings" i did some push back at the "talk" because i loved her and i wanted to work this out, no yelling or anything but she was already gone. Day 7 : i sent a text asking for a coffee so we could talk, she answered coldly that she wont change her mind about us. (i discover coach lee there) Day 30 : i write a letter and let a friend of mine convince me that "it cant do no harm" and send it, even if the coach say its a loophole, instant regret, i probably fucked up everything at this point, but i cant change it. Day 51 : no contact, no text since the day 7, except for the letter which i really regret, we didn't talk, text, called, see each other or anything. I must admit, i am losing hope here... i know that my best alternative is doing what the coach recommend, but i don't feel it getting any better... for all i know she could be with someone else and be happy, i wouldn't know, and i would be sitting here, waiting for her to reach out... I'm starting to feel despair.
You're counting down the days, which tells me you're in a lot of pain. It's 2.00am now, I can't sleep. She's on my mind. I'm counting the days down too. Today is 2 months since the split. Been on dates. Meeting new women. Yet the heart remains with the ex. Strength , patience , faith and self improvement are the only tools we have. Use them well. This is a defining moment for you, for all of us men and women currently hurting. The wisdom. Experience. Inner power we are manifesting. You will be a better man, partner , friend because of it. Keep going. Day by day by day. Congratulate yourself when you have good days, sooth yourself if you don't. You're not alone in your pain. Remember that. :)
Its been almost four month now, turns out, she had someone else a week after dumping me. I have been waiting, hoping and improving while she didn't care at all and was happy with another man. Even now, I can't get her out of my head, I have been doing everything, gym, going out, date, meeting people. She is still living rent free I'm my head and the fact that I went to hell and came back while she didn't felt anything piss me off so much. Where is the fairness? Was I just a burden for her ?
@@cavazzinia Being with someone new, 1 week later is tough on you. However , there's no rule that says anyone has to wait a certain time. It sounds like she is in your head. Remember, you are not your thoughts , 💬 you are the observer of them. The practice I use when I think obsessively about her " the avatar is full of thought today " - immediately, thoughts gone. The egoic mind has to fuel itself. As I said, that's not you though. You're a soul in a body. Brother , I seriously empathize with you and your situation. Dedicate yourself to a purpose greater than you. Help someone in need. Show love. Talk to someone. Embrace the feelings. Again though , remember you're the observer of them, you are not the feelings yourself.
Yes, the second stage. I noticed that and it upsets me because we have the same friends and they are acting like they can't speak to me, and one even made a face at me but I haven't done anything to him. I'm like is these people crazy!!
I probably hamstrung my chances. We broke up with the caveat of "being friends" and I would keep her up to date on therapy. After watching your videos, I started NC and plan to focus on myself with the therapy. I want her back, but I refuse to languish in the friend zone.
After 6 mo he texted and asked if he can see me,,,, but I'm actually interested in someone else and want to pay attention to him. Why would I want to go back to someone who left me when I Wanted a Real life with them,,, Kids Marriage highs, lows Forever .. .. I actually don't see it anymore.. Coach Lee is the Truth
Love your mentality!
But I think you still have strong feelings for him, isn’t it
@@legendneymar5691 No,, Everyday,, Everyday for a month I watched Coach Lee Videos, I Was so depressed and I did cry,,, but then things got better and I began to See A hopeful Future for me and those feeling faded and I will Not make the same mistakes again
I admire your fortitude and that you made a choice. He lost you, and he'll have to live with that. For me 7 months now dreadful pain, no sleep. This morning he says good morning my heart dropped we are LDR I don't know what to do anymore. I listen to Coach Lee everyday and it seems to calms me.... Don't even know if the emergency break up kit will help me at this point ... He has a brother that lives in my town so, I know he'll come to visit, but still he needs to reach out to me. I think I'd better do a coaching call. I'm happy for you for moving on!!
Damn
Everytime I start to feel the need to contact her I just watch these videos. They give me motivation and makes everyday much easier. I know that I will be alright with whatever happens. Just have to stay strong and love yourself.
ILOP3Z, Watching Coach Lee's videos will not only help you get over an ex, but it will EDUCATE you about life. 👍
did they ever reach out to you in NC?
and the way coach lee talkin ahahahh i feel like i have my back
Same here, brother 🙏
Same here my wife kicked me out the family home blocked me on everything tryimg to stay strong but so hard...think need my own place show I can stand on my own too feet
At 35 days NC he reached out and I no longer cared or wanted a relationship with him. He texted and made an excuse to see me, when that didn’t work he called me, when I didn’t answer he left a long voicemail that solidified my decision 😅
Sometimes relationships can be repaired but other times, when you do exactly what Coach Lee says, you realize you deserve more 🤷🏻♀️
Absolutely!
If you can get over him in a month then you never loved him. Best you did move on for both of you alls sake
@@CiluhStyle1 You can love someone and still choose not to be around them. That’s on maturity 😏🤌🏼
@@alejandraperez6714 while that is true, your situation is contradicting to why you came to this channel in the first place. I guess it only took 35 days to realise you didn't really want to be with the guy but you came here for advice to try and get him back and now dont want him after only a month.
@@CiluhStyle1 I guess every situation is different? If you must know, within that month I found out he cheated on me. Anyone with enough self respect would not welcome that kind of situation with open arms. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t love him. I chose myself and if you think that’s contradicting, idk what else to tell you ♥️✌🏼
I think is good to respect yourself enough and know that people who don't appreciate your presence should earn your absence. Don't let anybody treat you any kind of way. They are millions of beautiful women /men who are drooling over you right now, but you have to respect yourself enough not to allow anyone to mistreat, you deserve the best and you know that.
I’m in the bait stage. I find baiting so disrespectful. After the breakup, he was so cold and mean. I cried a lot and he knew I was hurting, but he couldn’t care less. For him to come back with a simple “hey” was more disappointing than him saying nothing to me. As much as I want to express myself to him I refuse to say anything. Talking to him about how he made me feel would be pointless. He needs to realize that on his own. It sucks that they only reach out when they want something from you, these type of people have no empathy. Stay far far away
Did he realise?
U dodged a bullet then. Take ur power back and don't let him impact u anymore u will meet someone sm better and more respectful
Update ??
1 year and 3 months full of No Contact and going strong! During the sixth month of NC, I've made the decision to block and remove my ex-fiancé off of social media and, let me tell you this: Best decision ever. Why? You see, it actually gave me a "sense" of control the situation and was able to take care of myself not just physically but mentally as well. I told myself that, "She will never ever find anything new about me. Not even a single drop. If she wants to speak to me, my phone is always open 24/7. No excuse." As of right now, I absolutely have no desire to go back to her and wish her the best. God is good. Thank you, Coach Lee.
That is great for you! I did the same, not seeing their social media helps because you don't overthink and make imaginary scenarios of what they are busy with.
If she got rid of your number you may have left no avenue for them to contact you.
@@tiffanypr.9448 That! I remember during the first 6 month of No Contact, I saw her having a "good time" with their friends and talked and laughed with them. It was almost as I didn't even exist in her world. It was very hurtful quite literally. That's why I was like "okay, enough is enough. I don't deserve that at all" and removed her off of social media. I felt peaceful about that. Hope everything works out well for you!
Dont you think after a year and 3 months that it's time to leave her completely in the past and move on? You said you have no desire to go back to her yet you said your phone is available 24/7. That sounds really desperate the way you worded you comment. What was it that made her leave you?
@@sloanmagnum5009 Oh I am already moved on. :) I was just saying that if she ever wants to talk, phone message is the only way and not on social media or anything else. As for her reason for leaving me, apparently, no reason at all, which confuses me. We were dating for two years, and we were talking about wanting to get marry someday and all that. Just right in the middle of wedding plans, she says she doesn't want to get marry (out of blue) and gave me back the wedding ring and never heard from her since then. We never got into fight or anything at all, which was really odd. I was so good to her and took care of her 100%. She decides to be rude and just left me. My whole family and friends were confused. So yeah, go figure, lol.
Dumped in April after 10 yrs. I went no contact, heartbroken but did it.
Xmas he sent me a card sending me
"All my love"
Straight in the log burner it went. In a yr he's gone through 4 women that I know of. Meanwhile I'm living the best life with a new caring TRUE partner.
Please pls people stay no contact!! Hard, but SO worth it I the end
Liz P. GOOD FOR YOU! ❤
She broke up with me a little before Christmas and it’s been a rough month for me. Thank you for your words of wisdom and giving me strength to keep going
My ex did the same thing with me. I packed my things and moved out. No contact at all since then. Is a huge pain, but we need to move on and concentrate on ourselves.
Me too. I hope you’re ok.
Me too😔
Ditto. I wish it hadn't happened around the holidays. Stay strong, folks. Hugs.
Same
I ruined my relationship. The stress from my life experiences and work were put into my relationship. I pushed my girl away. She is so perfect and don’t want to be without her. I see many comments saying they don’t want to get back after NC. I hope this is not the case for either of us, but much of what he is saying makes a lot of sense. Thank you for these videos sir, the breakup just happened and I hope I can make it through this.
Dude I know you’re pain. Same thing happened to me a month and half ago. I’ve been on nc for two weeks and I’m already feeling a lot better stay strong. We got this. Don’t beg and don’t apologize and especially don’t get jealous if you see them with anyone else.
any news bro?
I feel you, my ex and me was together for almost 12 years and she decided to break up with me.
I did the exact same thing as you did in your relationship.
I actually broke NC and texted her couple of days ago, and she replied that she have moved on, and that she is feeling okey, and that she cannot be there for me anymore. 💔
I’ve come to realise that I need to face reality and move on, do NC and work on myself.
I don’t know what the future holds but I’m trying so hard not to dream about a relationship with her, grief and work on myself and I’m applying NC.
You got this. We both do and I wish you the best. 🫂
Any update?
Same bro. 1 week in over a 3 year relationship. Was super depressed this past year and treated her poorly. Going on a bought trip in 6 months and doing no contact, but we’re free to do whatever… hope to get back, but not planning on it as well. Focusing on me and hopefully I can at least get her back as a friend at some point
Just want to let you all know that my ex reached out to me last night after 6 months of no contact. Who knows if it'll go anywhere, but Coach Lee is the real deal.
Do you have any updates for us? I hope it went somewhere positive for you!
any updates RB?
@richardthompson2563 I feel as if things go well people don't feel the need to respond a lot of times
What came of it? Hopefully something positive?
Leave update plz
1. Doubting You Can Move On
2. Gathering Support Group
3. Stalking And Snooping
4. Baiting You (breadcrumbs)
5. Moment Of Truth
Thanks!
if it helps, I got my ex back and we've been back together a year now and bought a house. It all depends on the strength of the relationship and if youre both willing to work, but NC works!@@basicinfo2022
@@basicinfo2022 I got him back - I commented this but its disappeared? Anyway we're almost back together a year and we bought a house. Relationship 2.0 is even better than our relationship 1.0 0 our reasons for BU were him not being ready for the next steps (living together, and feeling like he was holding me back. A year of NC & him rebounding with an awful relationship were enough to change his outlook and move back home from London, to our home town after living there 8 years
Bump
@@TheUnplugged1 if you're interested, we've been back together for just over a year and we bought a house 6 months ago! NC works- most of my NC support group friends (8 people I closely stayed in contact with) did get contact, some got the opportunity to try & get back together, some did get back together but it didn't work the 2nd time. Mine is the only one that has lasted. The best advice I can give is that, the relationship, and whether you could both work on the issues, is the thing to really think about during NC. Use this time to get over the break up and open your mind to the possibilities so that if you cant make it work 2nd time, you're prepared to move on.
If they leave you once there is no guarantee they will not do that again, so it's better to move on and find someone better who really cares for you.😇
In four years together she has finished with me 720 times.
I over stepped boundaries! Yes I got ignored after apologizing. Day 12 NC and I’m happy. I signed up to start courses for my Ph.D, getting 6 figure salary. I told him give me a few weeks I’d be ok. Took about 4 and I’m feeling great❤
Congratulations on it all! You go!
May you be blessed in Jesus' name Coach Lee and all you reading this. Your work is the best I've ever seen about basic psychology that can really make or break a relationship. Thank you for all of your work and much love to you all.
Straight facts. I pray over him regularly and anyone dealing with this pain, because there’s nothing quite like it when you truly loved someone. We were together for almost 3 years and it’s been about a year since we broke up. Of course I acted like a little bitch begging and shit, but Coach Lees and other good coaches videos really give you some good advice. Worst thing about my case is that we worked together and my uncle is the manager of that job I use to work. That was tough, but when they say focus on your purpose and hit the gym. That shit really helps and when you get that confidence back, you realize you have a lot more options
@@Jus-Too-Smoove well put brother. Hope you're doing well now
@@Jus-Too-Smoove There are definitely other options Justus and it was good to hear from you. Back in April, my ex left after 25 years. I didn't know it when she left, but there was someone else. Once I was sure about that, I only had to deal with the pain. That took a couple of months before I could put my brain in order. I come on here once in a while to give others my experience, for good or bad, and hope it may help someone else. Am I glad she left? No, and I wish things never changed from a year before, but there was really nothing I could do about it. I look at her as being weak, and basically a POS. I don't care to even hear from her anymore and at this point, I want to keep it that way. There was never any fixing it, at least for me. Coach Lee does know his stuff. No contact is best in many ways. It gives the dumper a chance to think about things (although it didn't happen with my ex) and it gives someone in our position a chance to heal a bit, so we can put things into perspective. Without no contact, it's doubtful they come back and stay very long. They need a chance to miss you, and if they don't, you are in a much better place to move on anyway. You have already started building a new life. I do miss all the extended family at times, but that, unfortunately, comes with it.
Coach Lee is good at what he does. God bless him❤ and bless his talents ✨
@@Jus-Too-Smoove You will be fine. I was engaged for 5 years to the love of my life, and I was shattered when it ended. I got myself back together in TIME. It gets better, and I got to a point where I even stopped thinking of him. You have a LOT to look forward to. God bless you! Hugs..❤️❤️⚘️
I think that no contact is absolutely brilliant. It's wonderful in that it gives you the best chances of your ex coming back, but if it doesn't work, it has already put you on the path to recovery, and happiness, and also keeping your dignity in not begging. However, I think some videos about self improvement are the next logical step. An ex will probably reach out, and want a second try after they realize you're stronger than they thought, but if real changes aren't made, they will probably end up leaving again (they left for a reason and if it's not changed will leave again).
She's definitely going through these sub stages... She tried to get a support group around her but all the people I know, told her that she was wrong and she's very upset with them. I'm going out, having a great time, accomplishing goals and moving forward. Also, no contact is working on an ex from 3 years ago. She's been texting, sending pics, and calling out the blue. I most definitely wasn't expecting that at all.
Curtis Smith, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
This man knows his stuff. Listen to him. It's exactly as he says. Have confidence and do the work on your end. Your work needs to be done for your sake and for your future with or without the other person but they come back more often than you think if the relationship was of value
I’ll be almost 2 years in NC. Best decision I ever made. Stay strong!
Good for you!
Probably no so proper. I want to say sorry about it.
2 years is no longer no contact. Y'all are just over
If u keep watching this videos... not a good sign
@@FJBallday Not always, sometimes even 5, 10, 20 years later, people find each other again. Which is rare but can happen
I get as much help (or more) from the Commenters as I do Coach Lee. Very smart audience and their feedback is helping me a lot because they are or have experienced what I'm going through.
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I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you immensely. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
This Breakup Kit is excellent. Nobody on line can talk about how great his Kit is. It's very POWERFUL.
He left a week ago, leaving me pregnant after 6 years of being together after physically fighting me and calling the cops on me,I thank God I found this videos,I feel much better each day I watch them.Sending my love my South Africa❤
Your videos helped me realize that I do not want him back in my life. Thank you for clear thinking in the midst of heartache.
Coach I wanna thank you very very genuinely, I wish I could hug you or something. I'm doing NC right now and just wanted to say that regardless of what the outcome will be, I'll be thankful to you always for helping me get through this. You really are doing an amazing job
Greensloth, I’m honored. In place of a hug, you could donate to my son’s college golf team so they can have a season. Their GoFundMe is at www.gofundme.com/f/help-the-golf-team
Coach Lee, I listen to you everyday...some of your videos I need to watch several times per day...others I just put on repeat...and listen until I finish driving. You are simply the best.
Thank you for your kind words.
I do this too - also in the car! Coach - I find your videos very soothing
I couldn't agree more! I've literally learned and followed every bit of your advice and I'm such a better woman for it. My ex randomly reached out several months ago to tell me I need to let him go and move on and when I honestly told him that I wasn't holding on to him and that I was living my best life, he back peddled and told me how much he missed me, said the good memories way outnumbered the bad, let it slip that he watches my social media and even said I could be in the Guinness World Book of Records for most unique woman. Hah! He was so used to me begging and telling him that I would wait for him forever that it shocked the socks off of him. He's a great guy and not a Narcissist, so it's fabulous to understand that even the best people have natural reactions to certain things. We aren't back together but if he does ask me for a date, I now have the tools to utilize in the process, thanks to Coach Lee!
How positive! Wishing you luck!
Thank you 🙏
This is great! I’m happy for you 😊
sometimes I actually hate it when the ex leaves us no reason to hate them whatsoever haha
Coach Leey I pull up your videos everyday and I have LDR when I go onto your channel I try to look for videos in that category and I don't see one would you please develop one? You did say that most of your clients are all long distance relationships
I also love the “hey we just broke up let’s be friends”, they don’t want to let you go
Why do they do this
@@mistydawn5061to keep you close and ease the pain of the breakup, using you as an emotional crutch, that’s an unconscious reaction. They also love and care for you, they want you in their life, even though attraction has dropped. Maybe you have mutual friends, so they think a friendship can also save the mutual connections you have.
Don’t take friendship, just avoid mentioning it and go no contact.
@@mistydawn5061 they do it to not feel the separation properly. the time after break-up is difficult & keeping on seeing your ex as a friend is a way to not feel those negative emotions. catching up is a respite of sorts to help them move on a more comfortably. that's why ppl with low-self respect keep enabling their friendly exes.
@@mistydawn5061it’s a way to use you to get over you. And you should NEVER accept the friend zone offer, it’s a bluff
6 months no contact and I let go. She caused the breakup and then proceeded to be rude and mean. Her friends vandalized my truck for something I didn't even do and I'm just done. Never talking to her again. Gonna find someone better.
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@@Storyspinner_Am Haven't met anyone else yet but I'm happy anyway.
@@Connor4x4all the best!
So my ex went through all these stages, it happened very rapidly. I foolishly accepted her back, only so we could be broken up again a few months later. I learned and although I am eager to go back home it will be a much slower process. I wish I would have taken more time to separate my emotions from what would have been a more well thought out and logical response. Thank you coach Lee. I purchased the emergency breakup kit and it was well worth it, your words helped and continue to help me to reevaluate my own worth in the situation.
I wish there was an easy way to see into their head to understand what part of ourselves we are not aware of that they find unattractive. Clearly she is attracted to you. But there is this one piece that turns her away. Same for all of us. If we could see it, we would adjust it and then life would be easier. Wishing you a wonderful relationship.
I'm so lousy at NC but watching this video was helpful with all the reminders. My ex is the queen of baiting and I fall for it every time and then get ghosted again and again.
When I watched your videos and heard this I was livid. It made me even work harder. And harder. Have hope guys . My ex called me after 6 months of no contact. At that point I was dating someone else he was the last thing on my mind. Now I have him chasing me. The tables have changed. I do not ignore him. I am civil to him How the tables have turned.
I’d like to see subcategories of dumper. These videos are helping go so much, but my ex is more complicated: she’s the textbook definition of a fearful avoidant, which makes things more complicated
Looking forward to this one. Today is day 22 of NC for me, officially over three weeks strong now 💪🏼
How are you doing these days? Did she ever come back? How long did the NC take before she contacted you?
@@darioussmith3450 he, lol. It was an ex boyfriend. He contacted me once maybe a month later, just to lash out at me about something. I didn’t give in to it and then I just moved on. Haven’t heard from him since and I’d like to keep it that way haha. Realized I deserved much better :)
It’s been 23 days since my lady dumped me after a very good 8 year relationship! I’ve been in no contact since. I was completely blindsided, I believe there’s another man involved. I’m dying inside, I get sick to my stomach on a daily basis. I really love this woman. I’ve been in the gym lifting weights like an insane person. Upside is I’ll get back in excellent shape. I really believe I have zero chance of getting her back unless her new relationship falls apart by that time I won’t want her back. We could work it out now if she was willing but time is not on my side. So I figure I have nothing to lose staying in no contact.
Bart, STAY IN NO CONTACT. ⚘️
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Keep hitting them weights buddy,be💪
How is it going bro
Update?
I'm glad you mentioned "2 or 3 months" as a minimal reasonable grieving time because one coach I came across was boasting techniques that "Get Your Ex Back In 30 Days" and I'm not ready for her yet. My emotional circuits just won't realign that fast. As of now, if contact were made, I'd just be hitting her with an angry list of grievances so fast. Being "slow and casual but polite" is quite beyond me at this time, meaning that No Words out of me are the only right words :( It's a total exercise in self-discipline, isn't it?
Yes. This. The first month, I would've replied with "go F yourself." So many stages if healing we MUST do. Whether you get back together or not. The work must happen. Stay strong! ❤
Thanks@@lnzprazak2711 💜 It IS work and yeah, it does require strength 💪😠 I have an employment advisor who seemed to find my breakup far more interesting to talk about than finding me new work last time I saw her, and who named 6 ways from Sunday I could heap Miss X with poetic, explosive "F U"s. I sighed "Nah, that would be too easy. And the satisfaction I got would be gone the next day." Stages of healing... mmm... ugh...true 🤦♂ It's sweet of you to share you've been there anyway 🙏 I think of a line from Star Trek II: "How we deal with death is at least as important as how we deal with life." 👻💀☠
Yoi are doing great. I feel the same. My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago and i feel like i need one more month at least to fix my issues and be rational before he comes back. If he ever will come back
And here's me thinking all this time has whizzed on by, @@andreearoxana5989, while eating my slice of private pain cake every day- truly "dining on ashes"- but it's just past 7 weeks which really isn't long at all. One of these coaches (probably all of them) pointed out that exes seem to have a spidey sense for that moment when you've finally decided "I don't care"... and that'll be when the ex shows up, and you'll be ready to be sincerely "meh" about them ;p We shall see...
I’m coming back to these videos over two years after getting my girl back. And we’re now about to get married. Let me just say one thing that’s kind of the opposite advice of what these coaches are saying. At the end of the day you need to really know your girl. You need to truly understand her personality to really be able to deep dive into what you were doing wrong in the relationship. If you don’t then you probably will never get your girl back. I appreciate these videos but I sort of did the opposite of a lot of what they suggested because I obviously knew my fiancé soon to be wife a lot better than a coach video online. But they did help me get through some of the emotional stages of being broken up with.
10 months of NC. I still miss her, but its obviously time to move on.
NC is a waste of time
I've struggled with 10 days. I feel for you. I'm not sure what I'll do. In my mind at the moment I'll last a month tops
@@droflivelife every time i had a break up in the past. I just moved on. Idk what it was with this one…. Destroyed me
Who broke up with who? And what was the reason of the break up?
Hi i just wanna say it toke me 2 years to finally get over him and believed again that i will find someone better and that i deserve love again. There were countless times where i thought id never find someone like him again and u start missing the person again, losing sleep over it or stuck in thinking about the "what ifs". But the truth is we all heal, we all can move on, dont lose hope and it surely is not the end of the world. 🧡 Stay strong
Coach Lee has helped me through two breakups now. I have been down as low as you can go and his videos got me through. He kept me sane. He kept me logical. I have studied them all and he’s the best. He knows what he’s doing and he knows what he’s talking about. I bought his breakup kit years ago. It was worth every penny. Thank you Coach Lee. I only know you from a screen, but I appreciate you more than you know.
This guy, Coach Lee, is incredible. If you are exhausted from listening to talk on dealing with a narcissist and have moved on, this is an excellent resource!
Karyl, NARCISSISTS are dangerous & toxic people. Run from them!
My Ex dumped me for another guy after an 8 year relationship. I’m doing no contact but in my mind all is futile unless her relationship with the new guy falls apart. We almost never had an argument and we were truly in love! I can’t believe she doesn’t love me anymore. The facts don’t add up!
My best move is to forget about her and move on.
Coach Lee helped me understand what was going on and more than likely kept me from making an ass out of my self and going to jail. I surely would have been knocking on her door and calling her friends. Instead I’ve went dark, paused my FB page no social media, no contact. I’m thankful for Coach Lee!
Yes! I totally understand the making an ass out of yourself and going to Jail. I can relate to that. They're not worth it. You really have to keep your emotions intact and maintain self control. I am happy I did.
Did she give you a reason as to Why she left? My Ex didn't.
Same situation. Dunped me for some other guy.. its 4 yr relationship.. i go NC right away.. it’s understandable she dnt want u anymore in her life.. NC for 40days.. her mom txted me that she still loves me she missed me.. i told the mom your bitch is a good player.. im done with her for dumping me with other man while we in relationship..
This was our second time back together and he has left me again to be with his ex. I'm just so hurt by the way he did me. So yes he has moved on and gotten back with her. I begged and pleaded chased and stalked and his family even noticed how was I was behaving and I'm not proud of it, but I just didn't want to lose him this time around. I'm still so hurt and think about him all the time I miss him, but I know he's happy and moved on back with her. So I won't fight it anymore. Thank you so much for these videos they are very helpful and inspirational 💗
How you doing ?
No contact is the best possible thing. I was devastated when my "dismissive avoidant" ex blindsided me and dumped me by email after 8 months. For the next week we went back and forth and I felt crazy (I'm not now and I wasn't then, but that's how you feel). I did no contact for 40 days (as of today) and it took 4 weeks for me to process the emotional hurt to even start going back to analyze what happened. Definitely starting to see now that there were big red flags in his behaviors that I didn't address and let slide, and when thinking about even considering trying to restore anything (I wouldn't have been with him in the first place had I not liked a lot of things about him), I now realize that some of these things are non-negotiables for future relationships and healthy boundaries that need to be addressed. This was only after doing the work on myself when totally separate. So though I miss the person and the good parts of what we had, and clearly am here to sort out how to even begin approaching getting back together, I know what needs to be addressed so history doesn't repeat itself. Those may be things that prevent us from ever getting back together, and therefore so be it. But I could NOT have done that without complete space.
Did your ex reached out?
Update ?
2 yrs no contact radio silence and nothing! Actions not words. I have cut the person,memories from my life..
Moved on
No contact in my opinion includes delete and block your ex on social media, block them on your phone or change your number. Fill your time with things that make you feel better, take care of yourself. Post break up time is not a race with your ex, move on.
I agree.
Agreed
You are the best Coach Lee. Best breakup expert in the field. I feel I can trust you the most with the advice you give.
Thank you coach Lee, not for getting my ex back but giving me the lessons and strength of moving on without her.
Day 6 of no contact and we’ve been broken up for 9 days. It hurts so much, but he views my stories very fast and when we broke up he was very emotional. I have started going back to the gym and being more independent in myself, my lack of independence was I think what pushed him away. I hope no contact works. He is my home.
I’m on day 8. Stay strong. How are you?
Im on 8 days but im doind good since i realized it better for him or for us. God is on my side, i have no fear if i lose him forever 🙏
Any update ?
so what happened?
I dont know what is going through. She contacted my friend's wife and asked about me.
But one thing am sure about. Follow this man.
In 3-4 months ull find yourself back. And your sa will be in stage one of breakup. They will regret.
I no longer want my text book narcissist back.
Thanks coach lee.
Just checking in. I've decided not going back together after he reached out. I don't want Ex or Ex2.0..but your videos really helped me understand what happened to him and why he contacted me again after break up. Keep doing great videos Coach
You are the greatest! 3rd day of no contact, long way to go but challenge to not contact them accepted!! 🎉
I was the one that ended my 2 year relationship, to the most wonderful human, due to external stress factors. I pleaded for 2 weeks and he said he wouldn’t re enter a relationship with me because he wouldn’t be able to be the same with me. I told him I’d keep fighting; but what I did was listen to him and enter NC. I’m only 9 days in but I’m already thinking ‘why ruminate and long over someone who doesn’t want me? If he can’t support me at stressful times then maybe he’s not for me. I’m secretly hoping he comes back, but already I’m making huge progress in only 9 days.
how are you now?
It’s been 6 days but I’m getting through 🙏🏼 working on myself the whole way
How is it going?
Same
Update???
This is still highly useful. I'm not personally going to try and get my ex back. I want to move on to someone else, but this advice still helps because it lends me closure knowing that I can keep her as a friend in time. I don't want to be in a relationship with her, but it seems silly to completely toss someone aside because you're no longer in a relationship of that kind.
day 35 of from a breakup from an almost 13 year old relationship...i struggle to comprehend. i work on myself and surround myself with friends, but its soul shattering, especially when u imagined your life with this person. i just want to buy and island and live on it with my dogs....but alas im poor lol
RaquelRavage, I do understand what you are feeling. I have been there. Go out with friends, listen to Coach Lee's videos, and you will be fine. I was in the SAME situation years ago, and Coach Lee helped me. Get out of the house too!
Big hug for you..❤❤💕⚘️
did they come back?
@ynalone they did not! But it's OK I'm doing better now.
DEAR COACH LEE
SPEAKING HONESTLY YOUR VIDEO IS HELPING ME BREATHE IN THESE DARK DAYS OF MINE...
SPENDING MOST OF MY TIME ON YOUR CHANNEL IS HELPING ME GET BETTER EVERYDAY...
U R REALLY A LEGEND SIR
I agree with other commenters, going no contact has given me a sense of im in control of my life, i think hes really gone for good, i think i learned a lot about my core wounds.
Association, Definitely go NO Contact
I feel the need to comment this. I’m reading through comments and the one thing I’m seeing in all of them is the no contact being used as a form of manipulation or tactic. No, no contact is supposed to be used to benefit you. Take this time to reflect on the relationship, don’t romanticize it, really look at it. We’re you happy when you were with your SO? Do work on yourself. Go to war with yourself. Move on. If they come back, you’ll be in a diff mindset and hopefully so will they. If they don’t come back, you’re not disappointed bc you’ll be in a different mindset completely.
Coach, I removed my ex from my social media and removed myself from hers about a week after the break-up. I needed to heal; I didn't need to be reminded of what she is doing. So no way she can stalk me, but my phone line is still open. 10 weeks of no contact and going strong. Thank you for your guidance and support.
I would say pretend there is a mandated Court Order. If you break that contact law that is in place, you will end up in jail with now even more consequences. If you’ve ever had one slapped on you, you’ll realize just how strong you are! Trust me!
I did a little begging for a few days which angered her, but afterwards, I disappeared and completley stopped reaching out. It's now day 5 and it hurts but I have too much self-respect to beg more. In fact, her response to it turned me off and reminded me that I'm the prize!
JoMama12345, Let her be the one to contact you. Stay in NO Contact. She's probably wondering what you're doing. Stay strong💪
Also, get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is excellent. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
This Kit has strategies for every situation..
Coach am in my 12th month of no contact and my ex narc boyfriend is in the 5th stage and am following your videos through and through taking my time. Thank you
She’s didn’t deserve my crap, she is legit 💯 and did it all right. I’m letting go. Honestly at the age of 51 I should know better, she was the best “partner” ever. There’s no fixing what she broke, I was the one who broke
Keeping NC is so difficult, it's been 3 weeks since I implemented NC, 4 weeks since my ex of 1yr ghosted me out of the blue when work was becoming overly demanding and causing him to work weekends (we were long distance, 4.5hrs away, he would come out every weekend, I realized about stepping up to go out by him the weekends he had to work too late, I suppose). I know the whole thing was difficult on him through some of the last few messages he had sent me, he was distant and seemed sad. I know he's a jerk for ghosting rather than verbally breaking up, but we had such an amazing year together and everything clicked, our kids meshed well with each other, sexual chemistry was high... we even went on a 2 week vacation over the summer which was stressful but fun and everyone truly enjoyed it. I love this man so incredibly much, but I'm giving him that space and time and am doing my best to focus on myself... I was a widow of a 19yr marriage before dating him, and he was so incredibly understanding of that as well. None of this makes any sense other than the distance, work and him catching up with friends... I'm sure all 3 were factors. He isn't seeing anyone new, and I do hope that he may be missing me and that he reaches out. It's just so so difficult to keep from messaging him, so many memories that we have in just 1 year. He made me feel alive and happy - of the guys I was talking to when I decided to start dating again, he was the one who just felt natural and a true connection... I do not fall in love easily, I'm very observant and aware (my late husband was my first true boyfriend at age 19). - anyway, it's nice knowing I'm not here alone in this difficult time. (sorry for the long post)
How is it now for you? Hope you are well
How did this turn out for you? My ex has taken time to pour back into himself following his own crisis and a downward spiral. He pulled back to fix the things leading him down a path of destruction. I admire him for it but damn do I miss him. Things were great with us but he was drowning in his pain and work demands needing to put on his life jacket.
I wish I'd seen this 1 month ago. My ex GF did exactly this, she ended it, we had no contact for around 1 month, then she emailed me telling me how I was everything she wanted in a man, had all the traits she was looking for, was a great dad, how no-one had ever treated her so well, shown her such love. I stupidly ran right back to her, fed into her ego, and what happened, after 3 weeks of trying again, she ended it, told me she didn't feel the same. I can see now that I was too eager to please, created that imbalance, and she got what she needed and broke my heart again. We've been 1 week apart, and today I crumbled and messged. When will I learn 😢
Actually it's not the No Contact that's gets them back. It's the Fact they realize they can't replace you and they're tired of getting Fucked and Tossed. Period
Exactly.. They don't realize what they're jumping into is only temporary.
@@johndemario8173 🙌🏽 💯
You have help me so much coach lee 🙏 may god blessed you🙂i have saved like 50plus of your videos just to remind myself in these hard times , i can't thank you enough
Holy smokes, @8:50, my ex updated her Facebook header to a picture of a place we went to. I was wondering why she did that. 🤯
Lmao I saw my ex and he used a pic of him as a pfp.. that was taken inside our apartment 🤓
I stepped up my game of NC and I delete all of my social media. I don’t need it anyways and it’s a good way for me to not stalk them online either. I rather focus on my career
My wife ran to anyone who would tell her things to fit her narrative. But runa from people who will tell her she wrong for how she went about things. Crazy
Most women really don't know what they're doing and are very weak emotionally. She has no clue if she has done the right thing, and it's hurting her so much that she's seeking reassurance wherever she can. You can wake up with a smile knowing that your wife is miserable without you and crippled with anxiety. Don't break no contact, work out, try to have a good social life and she'll realize that she only belongs beside you. And if she doesn't, and if you work on yourself, well it won't be long before you find someone much better who respects you like you deserve, cooks for you with a smile and can't wait to be ravished sexually.
Thank you Coach Lee, through your videos I learned to love myself and realised that my ex-boyfriend is not worth it; he was a manipulator and pretty immature. No contact for me was essential to heal and give myself what I was looking for in that person. If you really believe that your ex-partners are worth it, try it to start a new relationship with them if not, to recover yourselves.
Hi, Coach Lee. You have really been a blessing to me in the past month in a half. I have relied on you, prayer, and your videos to help get me through a very painful breakup where my ex blind sided me out of nowhere, and ghosted me after 2.5 years in a solid, loving relationship. Everything was fine in our relationship until I asked him when are we going to the next level in our relationship. I’m not talking marriage, I’m talking about moving closer to each other (LDR 2.5 hours away) or by possibly moving in together. After that convo, he disappeared. I was shocked bc he had always been very communicative and mature. I have been in no contact for about 45 days and have been taking care of myself. He thought I was going to chase bc I was acting needy, and I didn’t, thanks to you and your videos. It was very hard and I lost weight, but I have gotten so much stronger.
Well, one of our mutual friends contacted me just minutes ago and said my ex just contacted him and told him how much he loves me and misses me, and I was the best woman to ever be a part of his life. Our friend said my ex wants me to call him bc he does not want to annoy me. Can you believe this? He wants me to call him! Not doing it. I’m not taking his breadcrumbs. He needs to be a man and contact me since he’s the one that disappeared from my life. I‘ve learned from watching your videos, not to respond until my ex comes to me and says he wants to talk or meet up. Like you say, he could just be testing the waters with me to see where my mind is at by going through our mutual friend. I completely through him off by doing no contact. He thought I was going to chase him. Now, I don’t know if I could ever be with him again. I feel so strong now and non-needy and like I have the upper hand for a change. The tables have literally turned. Thank you Coach Lee! ❤
Proud of you. Hope you're sticking with it. Sounds like you deserve much better and gained a lot of love and respect for yourself in the process
I am literally going crazy from this breakup. It's been a year and he came back but now he is pulling away at the moment when we were talking well. Why do people do that? How can someone toy you like that? How am I supposed to trust people after this emotional torture? The anxiety is killing me.
Hi Tiffany, the world is full of dishonest people and "players" I ended up with a narcissist which I left after 5 years. Maybe he's seeing someone else on the side. Only my opinion. I would not bother with him anymore. If you love him, and he can't return the feeling, you will get hurt. Personally, I would let him go. Like I said, only my opinion. Good luck to you, honey...♥️⚘️
I agree. People who do this are selfish and don't care that there is an actual person on the other end of their actions.
@@jannlewandowski5540 I am so sorry about your case. I fully agree with you, time to fully move on and never look back.
@@lisabaughn Yes you are right. But karma will hit them later on.
@@tiffanypr.9448 Just remember that you deserve to be happy. The best revenge is for you to find someone who will love, and cherish you. As for why he's pulling back? It could be any number of things. He may have relationship anxiety where real commitment is scary. Maybe he's not a good guy and is fooling around. It's tough to say. It could be him dealing with personal issues that he's embarrassed about. The best thing is to have an honest conversation about it. If he doesn't give you answers that you feel comfortable with, you may want to just end it and move on.
Third time going no contact, I don't feel desperate anymore. Just go enjoy the life. No contact always work, don't worry
Id love to be wrong but if your ex that your doing no contact on can also go 30 days plus without contacting you, they are over you and have moved on. Personally I feel if they haven't reached out in 2 to 3 weeks, it's all over.
Very simple actually: I do not have any social media and when she broke up I deleted her number and that was it! Her loss, I can't and won't contact her. If all that what I did for her and the relationship was not enough, then seriously...I could not have done any better, I feel it.
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Hahaha! (But seriously…Fisetin - look it up)
My ex has our 3 children. 2 months ago took out a restraining order because I wanted to see my children. Very dubious claims on the order already closed by CPS. I believe we are done. Good.I just want the kids back in my life. After 16 years of mostly a good marriage I've now become public enemy #1. No cheating, stealing etc. I've had enough.
This is my timeline: 1st no contact try, she contact me after 3weeks, I made the mistake of ignore (Coach Lee don't recommend that). 2round no contact, 4months, she was cruel and cold. 3round NC, 1month, she contact me for a very silly matter. Hope for more news before Christmas, but honestly, I feel better now and have more opportunities due to working to be a better me during the NC time. Thank you Coach Lee!
So you 2 broke up around 6 months ago?
@@brandonohara4122 Yes
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@@Storyspinner_Am Short answer: it takes a long more than I think. But no suprise. There are three more main events in my time line: she is rounding the places where I usually frequent daily, and totally ignoring me when see me, she changes his hair style at least three times in the period, she is comment hate in some of my personal post with a fake account. I am in a "Monk mode" this year, focusing in lookmaxxing. My appareance is my strong card in relations and I hope it helps me when I make a direct move on her. If not works, I have more options yet, due to my personal improvement.
I did NC on my own alone. This relation & breakup caused me to become distant from friends. So somehow my support group was being back home with my family.
Isabelle Deschamps, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation including yours.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Today is two weeks no contact. It is really hard to do this when you wanted the relationship to work. A relationship with a narcissist just can't work. Maybe he's surprised that I haven't tried to reach out but something tells me he no longer cares whatsoever. I can no longer tolerate being used.
Danielle, NEVER GO BACK TO A NARCISSIST!!!!
@@jannlewandowski5540 We are officially done. It has been since January. He's moved on to his new supply. I'm no longer a good source of supply by not putting up with the bs. Stay strong too! 💪
Four months in now. I had been blocked and unfriended on social media. A few days ago she out of nowhere started liking my posts. She suddenly became available to add as a friend again. Isn't happening with just a few bread crumbs. I need to see more effort. She broke it. She can fix it. Progress may ne slow but it's coming
Michael Cruz, it sounds like she may miss you. I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is fantastic! Everyone loves it because it helps.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I'm on day 2 of no contact after being blocked on Facebook and learning to believe in myself and do what's best till they wanna return to my life because no contact has worked alot from me and they start unblocking me and this video has been helpful
I sincerely wish I had found you 2 weeks ago!!! My ex temporarily moved out for a week and a half. She has now moved back into the house but is sleeping in another room. Our daughter’s husband didn’t want her at their house anymore. So she had no place else to go. She now has to pay half of all the bills. I’m letting her know that I will move on and I’m looking to the future without her. She cannot financially live without my help. I’ve never held that over her head. I do wish for another opportunity to be better.
Thomas North Castle. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for married couples. It's excellent and it has strategies for every situation including yours.
myexbackcoach.com/emk
@@jannlewandowski5540 I’m getting it today!!!
She broke with me 20 days ago, I gave her a perfect break up, I am not looking at her stories but she is looking at mine, one night she posted story for close friends and I was there, I didn’t look and she deleted it later.
She also comes to one pub where I go, but I am just ignoring her and have fun with my friends.
Her birthday is in 2 weeks and I think she hopes for me to send her a birthday message but she doesn’t know that we are not doing that, fellas😅
Straight savage
No birthday message.
Sigma
Good idea! No MESSAGE AT ALL!
He broke up with me and then after sometime I told him to stop calling me so that I can move on, hearing this he argued that there is no reason for ending our friendship and then one day I clearly stated that I can't be friends with him and told him to stop calling me, after several months one of his friends called me and she said she thought i wouldn't pick up the call, Coach did she called me for him? If yes what should i do to avoid him, He doesn't want me to be his gf also he don't want me to be with anyone else
Manhwa, you cannot be friends with an ex. Just move on, and let him go.
Hi Lee, I’ve been in no contact for nearly 2 months now (had to answer to a few of her text messages, though, unfortunately) and my EX is leaving in a few weeks to another country - the US, which is impossible for me to get into with my qualifications. I know I will never see her again, but I also know there’s no one quite like her. Yes, I think she will meet someone when she goes back home… I know it’s over and I have zero hope left, but I’m not feeling any better. No contact isn’t helping me move on. She wanted to meet for a walk, but I didn’t pick up on the offer. I do love her and I can’t see every falling in love at the same level.
Same situation, mine left already and said she is open to meet somebody new when the time is right, but i tell you man you sould had accepted the walk and dont act sad desperate lonely or any of that quite the oposite and treat her nice not too nice to give her a boost but positive and make her laugh and feel good and during that walk you could suggest going to a beautiful place that she would like but say something sice we are in this area let me show you something be genuine and kind make her feel good that would stick in her heart and her brain. Before she goes maybe you have a chance to meet act casual at first while you text but when you meet bee that guy with energy confidence and manners in other words be a man.
I don't know man, she was on chilling on Tinder a week after the breakup. I sent her the screenshots, said 'doing great I see" and unfollowed her on socials. Been in No Contact for 2 weeks now, broken up for 3. I wonder if women really come back ? She seemed pretty cold
My ex is still cold it's been a year of no contact we are strangers. Sucks but alot of exs use it as a coping mechanism but you will never know what's going on inside their mind. Good luck
This was incredibly insightful. I’m staying in no contact. Hopefully I lose all desire
This is the second time he's broke up with me due to his depression and mental health. My ex told so many times how he loved , how i made his life better he promised me that he would never do this to me ever again and here we are. Even before he broke up with me we were planning a hoilday. The break up only happened a few weeks ago so I'm just trying to keep busy , watch stuff like this but also do lots of healing work. I've not reached out much apart from once or twice when I've had l we we're supposed to meet and chat which was his suggestion but I've cancelled twice as I'm not strong even yet. Still doing the no contact 😊
She keep posting sad stuff every couple of days, and she literally posted something about standing outside her house w a boom box. Lmaooo foh she got me fucked up😂
How long have you been in NC?
Like 4.5 weeks
😂😂😂 I’m sorry but the boom box killed me. She got all of us fucked up
BU for 1 year. Been in a relationship that long. Contact on and off since September. He wants to be friends. He also thinks I’m in a relationship. He still doesn’t reach out or miss me even though he made a comment about him not being happy. He won’t come back because he thinks I’m happier without him. Idk what to even think anymore. Miss him daily. Act like I don’t if I talk to him. Haven’t mentioned about getting back together since March of this year. I guess he is happier without me and it’s time I just stay single and keep doing my own thing. Thank you coach lee!!
I was completely blindsided. My ex broke up with me after meeting a new woman within a month. Says he's in love with her. What the hell does that mean Coach Lee? In love in a month? Is that even normal/real? We were together for 7 Years. I've been in no contact since September. I am a lot better emotionally than I was.
Your story is almost identical to mine. We should talk! Lol
@@bartmccoy5111 So sorry to hear that Bart. I hope you're doing well. My Ex strung me along and breadcrumbed me in the break up, knowing he had his mind made up to leave. I've been in No Contact for 3 months, but I am still in disbelief and shock at times. I just didn't know this person like I thought. It's a gut wrenching reality.
@@shawny979 I go back and forth but its only been a couple weeks so far. I hope by 45 days I'll be done with her in my mind. I keep thinking about how cruel and cold hearted she has been. Its like I didnt know her at all.
@Shawny Well it depends on the type of relationship you bought hard for 7 years.. things can change because love is just a feeling. You should talk to him to know what happened, Why he left you for another person, So you can learn from that and amend your ways. Everything is not always no-contact.
He was always a cheater. Good thing you’re gone
I feel relieved after finding out these important information. i didnt cheat on her but she thinks i am still with my baby mama. she got a group of friends telling her she must look for another side guy. only these past weekend i saw everything, her messages with so many guys and its like they have been sleeping together, she is partying and drinking heavily. she literally told me she agreed to one guy's proposal because she wanted to hurt me. she doesn't like the guy but she did it to hurt me. i told her she must move on now.. she told me she feels better after hurting me(pride). i think psychologically she is not okay. i am now going to no contact rule and i don't think i will ever get back with her. i want her to feel that pain i went through. I have decided not to be on social media for a couple of weeks
Last part is so real.. like, why do you want me to react so bad? No one's getting on my nerves this year anymore.. I'll just be sending you love & light ☺️🤍✨
I've had no contact for 2 months now, and yes he thinks I will always wait for him because we go back so far. We were together for 3 years as teens, and 10 yrs together up till over 4 months. He has a new girlfriend that tells him that; he did the right thing leaving her. Then she goes on about how good she is for him. This woman is easy and hard-looking. He hooked up with the other woman only a week later after dumping me. I am in a long-distance relationship nothing big, but my ex lost it. Andi post nothing.
I must add my comment.
51 days since the breakup, she decided and i was blindsided she "lost feelings"
i did some push back at the "talk" because i loved her and i wanted to work this out, no yelling or anything but she was already gone.
Day 7 : i sent a text asking for a coffee so we could talk, she answered coldly that she wont change her mind about us.
(i discover coach lee there)
Day 30 : i write a letter and let a friend of mine convince me that "it cant do no harm" and send it, even if the coach say its a loophole, instant regret, i probably fucked up everything at this point, but i cant change it.
Day 51 : no contact, no text since the day 7, except for the letter which i really regret, we didn't talk, text, called, see each other or anything.
I must admit, i am losing hope here... i know that my best alternative is doing what the coach recommend, but i don't feel it getting any better... for all i know she could be with someone else and be happy, i wouldn't know, and i would be sitting here, waiting for her to reach out...
I'm starting to feel despair.
Yeah bro you gotta try to forget her at this point
You're counting down the days, which tells me you're in a lot of pain. It's 2.00am now, I can't sleep. She's on my mind. I'm counting the days down too. Today is 2 months since the split.
Been on dates. Meeting new women. Yet the heart remains with the ex.
Strength , patience , faith and self improvement are the only tools we have.
Use them well. This is a defining moment for you, for all of us men and women currently hurting.
The wisdom. Experience. Inner power we are manifesting. You will be a better man, partner , friend because of it.
Keep going. Day by day by day. Congratulate yourself when you have good days, sooth yourself if you don't.
You're not alone in your pain. Remember that. :)
Its been almost four month now, turns out, she had someone else a week after dumping me. I have been waiting, hoping and improving while she didn't care at all and was happy with another man.
Even now, I can't get her out of my head, I have been doing everything, gym, going out, date, meeting people.
She is still living rent free I'm my head and the fact that I went to hell and came back while she didn't felt anything piss me off so much.
Where is the fairness? Was I just a burden for her ?
@@cavazzinia Being with someone new, 1 week later is tough on you. However , there's no rule that says anyone has to wait a certain time. It sounds like she is in your head. Remember, you are not your thoughts , 💬 you are the observer of them. The practice I use when I think obsessively about her " the avatar is full of thought today " - immediately, thoughts gone. The egoic mind has to fuel itself. As I said, that's not you though. You're a soul in a body. Brother , I seriously empathize with you and your situation. Dedicate yourself to a purpose greater than you. Help someone in need. Show love. Talk to someone. Embrace the feelings. Again though , remember you're the observer of them, you are not the feelings yourself.
@@cavazzinia Another thing .. Make the changes for you, rather than for her. Make your evolution a personal one, rather than to " win "her back
😂you are the 🐐everything you said is 100 percent true I hope she comes back but if she don’t im not holding my breathe. Like you said coach GO DARK.
Unfortunately the"people around"is out ,no family,no friends
In this world nobody care the problem of the others
Agnes Korondi, WE CARE...❤❤
Yes, the second stage. I noticed that and it upsets me because we have the same friends and they are acting like they can't speak to me, and one even made a face at me but I haven't done anything to him. I'm like is these people crazy!!
6 months since the breakup and my ex is still on step 3 :D
Broke up two weeks ago she followed an ex and next day hmu saying “hope you’re well …”
I probably hamstrung my chances. We broke up with the caveat of "being friends" and I would keep her up to date on therapy.
After watching your videos, I started NC and plan to focus on myself with the therapy. I want her back, but I refuse to languish in the friend zone.
Same with me, I want her back but don’t want to be in the friend zone