I just want to say listen to Coach Lee! He got me through a terrible time over the past 3 months after I was dumped. He gave me the courage and strength to stay in no contact and radio silence and at about 3 months she broke the silence, we’ve reconnected and are doing better than ever. True love prevails, and it is crucial to watch and listen to all of his videos through a breakup! Thank you so so much Coach Lee, I wish I could hug you I’m so grateful for your inspiration and support. ❤️🙏
As someone who was the dumper and is about 6 weeks into the post breakup experience, I can tell you that everything he says in his videos about the psychology of this end of things is exactly correct. Trust the no contact, because it really is fucking with my head.
Yes, but my dumper was straight into another relationship....for me that has been a jagged little pill to swallow. I do hope for a conversation at some point though. I'm in NC and that is where I will stay! Thoughts?
The most important factor is when you go absent, it hurts their ego. That's where it hits them! And they see you as a strong person at the same time! Questioning their decision.
@@twistedstoic same, my short term partner left me due to depression . I stayed by her side for 8 weeks. I didnt beg and plead but let her know i was there. Then she pushed me away and said we need to end it completely when i couldnt contain my feelings one day. Its now been 3 weeks of NC.
After 6 months of breakup. Im watching this because to say guys its working. Please never contact your ex. Period! Its working not because we are back together, but its working because I have moved on! Keep moving forward never look back! Just focus on yourself, your goal!
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
You guys… please listen to Lee. It really does work-but you have to get yourself into the right mindset during NC. During NC, you need to boss up. Give yourself the love you want. Take care of your amazing body and soul and really pour attention and care into yourself. Get stronger mentally, physically. Get spiritual. Get curious and fun-seeking. Get sexy. ;) When they come back (which is MOST of the time… trust), you will be so strong and healthy and amazing that your S.O. is going to have to level up in order to regain their relationship with you… if that’s what you want! Stay NC and use your new free time to invest in YOU.
@@rowdybliss Got blocked twice now. First one was in July for a month and she unblocked me cuz she was curious if I'd texted or trying to go around the block. But I reached out afterwards and in November got blocked again and still not unblocked but it is good in a certain way because helps the NC. I'm now in a mindset like Lee said: if she comes back, she does. If not, well so be it. But deep inside you kinda 'hope' that she does ^^
No contact works in every case as long as you’re not the one to initiate contact and certainly, not one or two months down the line. It’s too soon for most people. If you initiate with someone who left you, you’re putting yourself in the “weak” position and it’s an ego stroke like coach Lee says. It has to be a meeting by chance or “by chance” or even better let them come to you. It works, I speak from experience. Time is on your side people, don’t view it like an enemy. Thank you coach Lee!
No contact always Works for the one that makes his life more sucssesfull and atractive even if you contact them First because that is what is All about mindset
@@fernandogonzalezmartinez83 yes exactly, my ex didn’t benefit my life and I realized that after she got a new tattoo with her new boyfriend that she’s been dating for two weeks. That’s a permanent write off in my book.
Yeah my ex came back a month later and ended it again. Broke my heart all over again but maybe it was just too soon. It feels not as bad but more final since he said he wasn’t in love with me. I just don’t understand why he came back at all only to end it again.
@@godsavethecoffeecake probably he wasn’t sure it was over for him, or he got lonely or he just wanted to know he could have you. Mine reached out a few times over the first four months post break up and I didn’t respond at first because it felt too pretentious but then the third time he texted something similar to all of his exes (I’m friends with my predecessor so I knew) and I got so mad I couldn’t let him think he was fooling us. Now he’s unemployed, promising marriage to a trans wannabe singer (he hated trans and gay people with burning passion) I mean... I still care for him, but I pitty the man I see. I will forever love the version of him I used to know but since it’s not the person he is anymore... It feels a lot like mourning someone who died, you know?
I’m 34 days NC, still not sleeping, eating ok, gym 5 days per week. Trying to work. Not bad considering my ex terminated our relationship with a 45 second FT call after 8 years together. I read something yesterday that said: ‘If I could love the wrong person that much, imagine how much I could love the right one’ 🤷🏼
@@minigengarr4729 well, I found out there was infidelity so it’s not gone well. I still hurt but it gets a little easier everyday. We’ve had some contact but it’s not been great. I wish I’d have ignored her messages but I can’t beat myself up for replying. I believe NC is a must, I’ve restarted NC and I will not reach out again ever. Is she cheats, send her back to the streets. It just isn’t worth your sanity and the heartache. So if you’re reading this do everything you can possible to not contact your ex!!!!!!!!
@@d34285 Yeah, I'm trying everyday. It is still hard as I'm still in the dark as to why the break up happened 100%, although when I say that, I actually think I know the answer. Anyway, I did reach out with a letter, silly I know but I've forgave myself, and forgiven her too, it has been a good few weeks since we have had any contact. We have not spoken FtoF since August 19th, though.
@@diilain we are in this together. We are strangers connected by the same life experiences. We got this, stay strong. You have said your piece to her and it is out of our control. Time to focus on what is most important in life.....our happiness. We grow with each life lesson and what this taught us is we can always be better not for her but for our happiness. If she can't see that then why are we sad. Whenever you feel down just go for a walk. I believe in you!
It almost did. And i didn't want him still don't so i found these videos and realized what he was doing. Now i am doing this entirely. I want us to part were both to toxic. Updates he's a soical path I didn't want him and he kept using bs to get to me now it will be a month no contact but there's a problem we have kids. He kept using them as tools to get to me. :(
Lee's videos and most of the comments in the comments section are like a lifeline for me, giving me so much hope... not necessarily that she'll come back, but that things will get better eventually, whatever the outcome.
Answering requests, the update: she hasn't come back, nor do I think she ever will. However, things are indeed going much better with my life. If I can survive this, anyone can. Just focus on improving as a person, helping people that are in even worse situations and having fun, and soon enough you won't even have mental room to suffer that much.
If you had a great relationship. There is a great chance they will revisit the idea of coming back to you. In the meantime concentrate on personal growth
@@yswen828 I’m no expert. It depends on how they truly felt at one time. If you both were in love. That’s great. Because attachment is hard to get over
@@rickcope3226 I have a question...when we broke up, he didn’t say “goodbye it was nice knowing you.” Does that mean he will come back? What do you want to know? It’s kind of hard to explain.
After 4 months of no contact! My ex reaches out to me today! My heart was in my stomach I couldn’t believe it. I Ofcourse , gave it a few hours before I respond and sure enough he hasn’t stopped texting me. Don’t ignore like coach Lee says but don’t give away too much too soon! If he wants me back he’s gotta work for it. Trust in the power of time and trust that no contact works it allows them to experience the break up that they asked for. Thanks Coach Lee for your wisdom 🙏🏻
Life update it’s been a year and a few months since the break! We are not together and we no longer keep in touch. Iv learned to love and put myself first, I realized I couldn’t make someone happy because I wasn’t happy with myself. I sacrificed too much and neglected my own needs. While Coach Lee paved the way, I now believe in self love and self worth. Time does heal all wounds, I have a new career that allows me to travel and meet the world and couldn’t be happier. While self love continues to be my priority I look forward to my future prospering in all aspects of my life!
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
“they’re letting you contact them; what a wonderful person they are” ... this made me laugh, thank you! Still struggling with keeping to NC after 3 months. It’s the best thing for me. Your videos truly are a lifeline to me keeping my dignity and sanity... and power 😀
@@unknown49818 Yes. It was a very short (2 month) relationship. He broke it off 3 months ago. It actually was the right thing to do, but it still hurts and I miss him.
Coach Lee videos are like a drug for me during this difficult time of going through a break up. When I feel the anxiety of loss coming on, I frantically search for the right video to bring me back to reality and ground me. I feel indebted to Coach Lee. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, sir.
I was in no contact with my ex of 10 years for about a month and a half when a fling from 12 years ago contacted me. We are now married, waiting for a baby, madly in love and blissfully happy.
No contact works! I wanted my own success story and now I have it! My ex and I have been broken up for 3 months before he reached out and admitted to wanting us trying again. We are taking things slow. We are texting every day and it feels so weird after 3 months of not talking, it doesn't feel real! We have our second meet up scheduled tonight. Wish me luck and good luck to everyone!
@@RickySpanish12344 Hi, things are going good, unfortunately we are not spending christmas together, but made plans after. Taking things slow and both of is definitely want to work on things and staying together
@@ags835 Glad to hear, and good luck :). Just remember that you are a person of great value (as all people are), and deserve to be happy, and respected.
Love this. Very well explained. There are so many coaches who advocate no contact as a trick to get your ex back but they rarely mention that after no contact you’ll be a better and stronger partner for your next partner - whether that be your ex or someone you’ve never even met yet.
Been NC for 3 weeks. None. His birthday is in 3 months. I will want to reach out to him. You’re saying DO NOT DO IT, Right?? I’ve decided to follow these rules or guideline seriously. I have begun a personal training course, will beginning my Masters degree, joined French classes and seeing my friends and family. Trusting the process. No ego strokes for this 61 year old vibrant woman! I totally lost myself for 7 years with a DA. NO MORE. and it’s truly bc of your videos. ❤️❤️. They are soooo inspiring no matter what the outcome. I’m feeling empowered rather than disempowered. Thank you coach Lee😘 8:02
@ things are good! I can still have some moments of sadness but I think it’s mostly bc I wasted so much time on someone that didn’t really care about my wants and needs. I felt that early on but I brushed it off. Other than that I’m really good. Almost done getting my personal training certification and I’ve spent a lot of time with my friends and family. I have not reached out to him and neither has he. I hope you are doing well. I know this for sure for myself. I betrayed myself many times. Overlooked being ignored, overlooked lack of affection. Overlooked many things. Betrayed my own self. Working on anything that brings me joy is my focus. I hadn’t done that for years. I find it is the ONLY thing that brought me out of this very difficult time. Work on having fun in small ways. Youll be just fine….. and wayyyy better without them❣️❣️
After two years I came back here to express how thankfull I am for your videos. Two years ago I went through the hardest breakup, i was watching your videos day and night, I needed them to fall asleep. I went through no contact, first and foremost for myself, it was the hardest phase of my life, after I experienced a physical and mental glowup the following summer, I rekindled with my ex. It works guys, but please please do it for yourself, this is really important, YOU are the most important person in your own life. I never thought of coming back here and comments about how successfull this actually was, ramdomly i remebered and I decided to write a comment. It works and I am sure it works for many more who forget to come back and write it down. I wish you all heartbroken the best, you are not alone, we are a community, it gets better and everything is possible as long as you focus on yourself. Much love.
Hi guys I was in pain like you guys were, yeah nc rules does works!! But hear me out for me it took 3 months during the time I work on my self and by almost the 4 month I was like great if she comes back and great if she doesn’t and guess what two days later she reach out! Now we’re stronger than before
Wow! I have to say that you are one of the best coaches that I’ve seen on RUclips. You have a really positive and calming presence and it has helped me get through these hard times. I haven’t spoken to my ex since the middle of November. He sent me a text message on Christmas but didn’t bother to tell me Happy Birthday on Christmas Eve. He is soooo PETTY! Recently he’s been sending me one text message every weekend and he’s been getting more desperate with every message. NO CONTACT DOES WORK! Thanks Coach Lee!
I still haven’t spoken to my ex since November. He continues to send me messages and calls me regularly. He even called and texted me from someone else’s phone two weeks ago because I blocked him in November. My best friend is so proud of me for finally moving on with my life. I’ve been working on myself for the last 6 months and I feel much better. I have weak moments from time to time, but thanks to Coach Lee’s encouraging videos I’ll be just fine. 🙂
No contact absolutely works, it took my girlfriend about 4 weeks to text me and say that not talking was stupid and we should meet up, that was 2 years ago!
I love coach Lee’s metaphors! “Snatching defeat from the jaws of victory”. And if your ex contacts you, don’t say, “Oh I’ve missed you so much, have you thought about anymore names for our kids!?” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@rowdybliss No not so much now.. I'm happy to move on, dating has its positive.. just be open to opportunities and see what happens.. I find with us women we have to much expectation.. if we got rid of those we'd been fine.
@@lordkillohendrix-8501 I broke it. In friend zone for like 2 weeks but I’m seeing someone and so is she, had I followed instructions maybe the outcome would have been better but surprisingly I feel our break up was a blessing in disguise I no longer want her back and she’s shown signs of jealousy about my new person and I’m not jealous of hers. Sorry for the bad news brother
How do I say this,,, coach lee works. Few months ago my ex broke up with me. After applying all these things Coach Lee taught me I’m happy to say my ex just texted me and wants to start dating again. It takes time and patience and lots of strategizing but I promise it works. Thank you Coach Lee for everything. You are a blessing.
@@ppv1780 hey bud. We were together a year. I coped by simply talking to myself and by keeping hope. Like coach Lee said as long as you two are alive, there’s always a chance of reunion.
5 months no contact , she doesn't give 2 f@#*s . And neither do I now. Thanks coach you have helped achieve that . I've worked on myself and gonna keep pushing for a better me . She'll never find anyone as nice as me , good luck to her I hope she finds happiness. I truly mean that . Anyone reading this if you want decent man here I am 🙂
Although, I used No Contact, my ex hasnt reached out since the breakup, which is more than 4 months ago. Fortunately, I have accepted his decision and feel better than before
@@georgepanagiotou8673 i highly doubt it anymore because, i ruined my chances. Also we broke up 4 months ago too and i Didn’t know anything about no contact until a month ago......so im just going to assume she will never come back to me. Especially when she even said we will never get back and also calls me girly/feminine..........yeah :)
It s been a month for me and I felt great but now i found out that he is with somebody else he didn t even have the decency to hide it from me... at least for a while. He promised me he would not be with someone new because he didnt feel the need, and i told him i want to be with someone new, who would show me the love i want and give. But here I am, single, no need for anyone, just myself... anyway, the girl is a nurse he would talk crap about... and a friend of mine met them a week ago. I feel so hurt and furious but at the same time i feel free and ready for what comes next no matter what life brings me. Because i don t want to do this NC this with the idea that He will contact me again. No. I suggest you to do the same. I think that Coach Lee insists on the idea of us getting better, loving ourselves and enjoying our lives alone. And it really is a blessing to be alone and do what you love. Not to mention that many times i just didnt feel happy around him, I felt caged, I felt like he didn t want me to be happy. I didnt want to make changes( start dance lessons, go out, go to the gym, even work more) because I was afraid i wouldnt spend enough time with him!!! That s toxic
Day 48 and stronger than ever. Time is power and perspective. It's an experience and a gift nobody can take from you. The harder the challenge, the greater reward...stay strong, you are worth it!
COACH !! I must thank you. This worked for me, and shared your videos with a friend who was hurting from a break up. NOW IT HAS WORKED FOR HER TOO❤ I will share your with anyone who is healing from a break up. Thank You
No contact worked after 3 weeks and I just wanted to thank you for your videos. I binged watched when I felt bad and I'm back with my ex but I'm the one regretting now and it's okay cause my heart will never break...thank you coach lee
Starting no contact today guys. We have been off and on for a while. But this time he made it clear that we are done for good. He falsely accused me of cheating. I’m devastated because I would never. He thinks it’s because our sex is different.. I will keep you guys updated with my journey. If this brings me anything I hope it’s strength 🤞🏾
Coach Lee u killed it on this video bro! Ha just when I was thinking of reaching out & stroking my exs ego again this made me realize shes giving me measly breadcrumbs with the "I miss u, how are u doing? crap." I want more & deserve more. I'm reassured I'm doing the right thing by staying away & doing ME. I'm the king & I want to be above her. Not equals. Thanks man! I needed this
Do it right and it works !!!! Dont put a time on it tho, just disappear and dont be a nuisance... of course its hard but you need to show your strength
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems 🙌
It's been a week now of NC and I finally received the phone call. Even tho our conversation started leaning towards the issue of the matter, I've continue to stand on good morals without devaluing myself. Even though she was persistent in having things her way, Ive continue to stay strong to the point of her finally realizing her own toxic perception. Now she's all over me showering me with love while I take all the time that i need before giving all of my heart back into her hands again,.. She's has alot of work to do if she truly wants the old me again,.. and she knows it
@lliana C Things eventually went back to normal and unfortunately she became too comfortable enough for her to go back into her old ways, so I stonecold dumped her recently a week before Valentine's day and I never looked back since then. But now I have another headache to deal with, and that's all these options of women with redflags since I've been in the gym. She tried contacting me through texts messages for me to see her, but I just ignored her and her lack of taking accountabilities. We both know this movie has ended now.
Buddy I got to tell ya that until this morning my wife had been gone for a month. Yesterday I watched about 10 of your videos and got me a little bit of wisdom from them. Well guess what. She came back home today. Your tricks are dang awesome man!!! Plus God had a hand in it a lot too
I got her after 2 months of strict no contact..when she dumped me , i just said " alright, its over wish you the best , goodbye". And then i just vanished, out of her radar..then today she saw me with talking to another girl, that drived her crazy, she panicked, probably she thought if i dont take any step further i ll lose him soon,although i cleared her that this girl is just an old friend. She came back and apologized, we are now together, hoping everything gets fine. Trust me buddies just vanish ,they ll definitely come back.
CRUMBS FROM THEIR TABLE. That's powerful. Listen up fellas. Do something positive for yourself. Workout, hard. With a purpose. Drop some weight. Dress better. Be confident and believe in yourself and watch the incredible changes that take place. Don't find time, make time. You got this fellas and above all.... STAY AWAY!!! Sometimes you just have to move on. Don't deprive yourself of a more beautiful person that is waiting for you. DO IT!!! Start now.
Coach Lee, you are definitely the best RUclips break up/get your ex back coach! You have definitely helped me in this journey I'm on. And because of your videos and my renewed belief in myself, I know i will be stronger and a better man regardless if she comes back or not. Thank you for all you do. I hope your channel takes off soon! You deserve it for all you're doing for those of us hurting.
When the break up happens and you dont want it .... Yes its true, no contact works!!! They have 2 go through all the stages.. but trust me, you also have 2 go through all the stages! You have 2 feel pain, lost, etcetera etcetera ... Wait until YOU find yourself back! It can take months and months 2 let them go in your mind. And when you really moved on in your own life ... When you have new friends, a "new job", new energy, and you can see in the mirror a new you ❤❤❤ thats the time when they can come back in your life.. Thats the moment when you can make a clear decision if you want them back. Trust me it can take months, a year.. but when you are there ... and you can face yourself in the mirror with self pride and self respect❤ that is the moment! It is hard 2 let go of your dreams about the other person .. Dont hate them, but feel the love just the love you found back in yourself about who you are! ❤❤❤ Nobody can use you and never ever lower your self esteem! This was a journey that in the end made me a better person 🙏💯 Thank you Coach Lee 🎉🎉🎉 you gave me back myself 💫
@@joshmcgowan4376 hi, im so much better now. it only took 51 days for him to crawl back and i shut the door closed. serves him well. im better off without him.
Same here 3 weeks today , he just put me over the edge to break up with him , by dragging me down , bargaining about his ex gf and disrespecting me , I ended up saying bye cuz the pain was too much and I know deep down he will never change cuz he never loved me genuinely .
Would just like to say thank you for your videos I cannot tell you how helpful they have been to me for the past three weeks, it’s literally like a mental medicine. Been in NC for about 3 weeks now found out she moved on with somebody else after a week! Even if she contacted me now I wouldn’t go back after this disappointing move and I will never reach out to her again.
@@SamanthaSprinkles69 It will get easier.. you'll have good days and you'll have days were u think about and thats okay to.. just be kind to yourself.. I know its gonna sound corny but it helps loving on yourself and treating yourself well.
@@amberbee6389 We're rooting for you too amber. Dont rush it, slow and steady wins the race. Look at me mine got in contact after 9 months of nothing, so no expectations..
Coach Lee, I’ve watched all of your videos and I think this one is extremely underrated. This is my favorite video on your channel because it gives people hope that my ex may be back one day and helps you move on at the same time. Some videos get me in this hole where I only focus on getting them back, but this one helps me reframe my way of thinking. I was going to the gym and fixing my diet and seeing a therapist and all of these things to get her back, but I’m doing it for myself now. Im doing it 90% for myself and only 10% for her. Your words are extremely helpful. Almost 2 weeks NC and I can finally see the light at the end of this VERY long, long tunnel now. Thank you Coach!!!
Boy, were you right...after no contact for a few months, I received a text message! He was flirting with me, said I looked great. I remembered your advise and was pleasantly surprised when he made the attempt to talk to me! Now what? I don't want to appear anxious...who knows, maybe he just wanted to see if I still cared about him??
I watched your videos on repeat when I was first going through my break up. I even fell asleep to them, just hearing the reassurance and your words helped immensely. It’s been almost 11 months and I haven’t reached out, neither has she. I still have my hard days, but I’m focusing on myself and that is the most important part. Thank you coach Lee 🖤
No Contact is not to get your ex back but to heal yourself and make yourself better. IF you are lucky they MIGHT come back. The important thing is to get your self back to a healthy place.
Day 13 and I nearly gave up.. Thank you coach lee for helping me go through this and also thanks to all the dumpees haha for positive and success stories! keep them coming I get so motivated!
After being a loser for 3 days, I finally started the real NC. It's like an emotion roller coaster. There are days I feel alive, and there are days I want to fly a white flag. 5 days now NC and I will keep at it. Coach Lee is right. I can't gamble my dignity. No more crumbs coach!
@@LabradoodleTofuBoy yes! Some days I'm good, others not so much. It fluctuates throughout the day to be honest. I'm on 6 weeks since break up and 4 weeks of NC. To be honest, it's gonna end up being exactly what it's suppose to be. I'm just doing things for myself and really blossoming. It sucks though man. Not gonna lie. It won't always be like this though.
Say it anyway. Have faith in yourself always. Don’t let the mind drag you along, stay centred, grounded and on your purpose. Get in the gym, empower and respect yourself. The rest will follow.
I been NC now 3weeks almost a month. And I'm so much stronger. I decided that I'm better off alone. Unless I find the right person. I have learned so much from this relationship. And am blessed to see that I definitely loved him more then myself. Now I'm going to work on myself. Get my life together so I can do what I need to do for our children . He wasn't the one I always had doubts about he always disappointed me always.
Omg thank you 🙏🏾 so much. I’m glad I watched you this vid. It worked no contact for a week after a week he start asking our friends about me.. so he could get some info ℹ️ from them. After a couple weeks he reached out and the rest is history 😅
Whenever I get the urge to contact my ex (and trust me I’ve had many)I always come back to this particular video. It’s been 10 months since my ex broke up with me and I felt the usual emotions you would experience when you have been dumped. But these 10 months have given me plenty of time to think about whether I want him back or not. And I’ve decided the answer to that is no I don’t want him back. Without getting into too much detail, I noticed towards the end of our relationship my ex was starting to shut me out and push me away. And that right there is a big deal breaker for wanting to get back together.
What’s sad is that I’m the ‘dumper” and I’m watching these videos bc I’m experiencing all the “dumpee” feelings. Ughhhhhh!!! We need a video for this situation!
I am doing a SuperChat at 6 pm central which is in about 3 hours here on my channel. I’ll be answering questions live and you are welcome to ask this one there.
Its been a little over a month since the break up and it will be a month of no contact on the 31st. Your videos keep me going Coach Lee, thank you. I hope I can get to a point where I dont feel like I have to binge or comment on videos anymore❤
Works 100%, I realized after begging and pleading to save a 15 yr relationship, I didn't want it bc of all the cheating and lying this person did to me. No contact gave me clarity and freedom, being single isnt so bad, not at all and I was frightened to death of it.
@@pascaljuno3663 No contact allows you to clear your head and take a step back and put things into perspective. Do I really want to be with someone who betrayed me, then had no remorse for doing so? Ummmm no, bc I would never have done it to her.
stayed strong for 2 years now .... companies success is about to take off...she wanted to come back 5/6times within the first year I stayed strong as I could not get over the disappointment I was left with... walked away and never went back !
I nearly caved after having an argument at work. Emotions running high and nearly fell back into contacting my ex. I'm here now watching, calming down & going back on the right path
@@joshmcgowan4376 my ex called me last night.. complaining how depressed she was. I tried to be reserved & composed & show strength. I can tell she was waiting for me to start chasing her again. I didnt cave. Her response was to complain about how much ive changed & she has blocked me. She expects me to panic and chase her. I will not chase.
@@robertbuck3431 wow ! thanks for the update ! Seems like no contact is working! I'm 21 days in no contact . No word yet.. but I can feel myself changing from watching all the videos.. no telling what will happen
Im from Texas and she is from Mexico . Was not a far drive. Anyways im.fixing to go back to Colombia for 2 months and teach English and study French. Im not waiting on her im going to live my life !! Feels exciting . Some days I hurt and others I feel alive like never before
@@joshmcgowan4376 her over reaction to me just wanting to end the call & sleep was very immature. No contact helps you see your ex in a different light.
Day 45 of NC today. I battle with myself whether to contact or not. Some days I wonder if he’s ok (COVID took a toll on his stress levels and anxiety). Then other days I feel he doesn’t deserve to hear from me. I’m just glad the tears have dried up and the knot in my stomach is gone. To text or not to text, that is the question 🤷🏾♀️ Let go and let God I guess.
Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.
@@pvz0484 We have been in contact here and there but nothing that suggests getting back together. Once you find a level of acceptance of the situation you will be good. It’s all about how you want to live your life. Being miserable or focusing on yourself and making yourself happy without them. You get to live one life. Yes it sucks big time and you don’t know what the future holds. It could be a blessing in disguise. Let God lead the way. I promise you in a few months you’ll care but not that much. Life truly moves on.
@@pvz0484 Yes it does and it will. But it’s not forever. My ex reached out again with another random text just when I’m beginning not to give a shit…lol. Funny how that works.🤷🏾♀️ One foot in front of the other is all I can say. Find things that you like to do. This too shall pass🙏🏾
Day one in no contact rule. I am not doing it so that he comes back to me or does what I want. I am doing it because if he doesn't want to be serious about us or realize my value, then, I don't need him anyway. So, if he comes back on my terms which are really logical terms, it's good. If he doesn't, I am better off without a man who only want play and waist my time.
Lee you are a genius he reached out 13 days after NC then nothing for a month ... well today I wake up to a happy valentines day message because he might forget on the day as it will be a regular day for him (trying to hint I see you) he wished me all the best cause I'm the most beautiful soul he ever met (well doooh)
I'm going through a break up right now, one week in. At first I contacted him and did all the things. This is day 3 of no contact for me. We had a great relationship, being an older couple...him 48 and me 55, but he was going through a divorce and we got together about 6 months after his separation. He said he needed his freedom, and we ended things. At first, I wanted to hate him, but he treated me so well, and we really had so many great times. These videos are really helping me stay strong. Thank you.
Thank you Coach Lee for making these video Ive been watching you since 2019 it was a rough road but you help me a lot. I saw all the signs with my ex she left me for another guy. But guess what. Yes yes yes she came back. Things are still fresh we have 3 children been together since 2011. I didn't do everything right at first but I stay in no contact since may 2020 I saw the signs along the like you talk. So yes people Coach know what he is talking about it's hard but focus on you give them the break up and stay away. Yes it's hard some days and easier some days. After awhile I was really planning my life with her. She got to see what life was like without me. Like I said it's still fresh but 10 years together is very hard to walk away from. Stay strong y'all. Watch the videos over and over or when you are having a hard day it will keep you going.👍👍💪💪
Hey , are you trying to attract or win back your ex , specific person ( SP ) , restore a broken relationship / marriage or banish a third party from your relationship💕💕💕💕
Every time I've gone no contact with my ex it haven't been more than a month until she reached out, but this is also because we did have a good relationship, and ending it in a respectful way. I've learned every time from this, to not cause drama, or show jealousy if she was dating others while we were broken up. This time though, I think it will take more than a month, and I am unsure if she actually will reach out again. We've been on/off for over 4 years, but I see now that life is better with her, and if I have the choice I will choose her. Wish us luck.
@@SJ-nw1ym She started dating someone within 3 weeks after we broke up. Although I don't know for sure, I think she is clearly still dating the same and happy with that. As long as she is happy I'm absolutely fine with it. Haven't hear anything from her for 6 months. I'm dating someone new who is both fitter, better looking, smarter and more in line with what I want :). Adding to that I don't think I ever had so much attention from females as I've had just from working on myself and focusing on making my own life better.
Yes always works. I am so thankful that all of my exes are gone( the current sort of looks like an ex excluded). They left or I cut it off and I am thankful that I am free to be with a good woman not an evil selfish one.😊😊
I'm only a day into NC and holy hell it hurts 😢 these comments have helped me stay strong and positive - not that I want my ex back (although I do), but that eventually I will be okay with time ❤
This one is really good to listen to coach. Even with the EBK I still needed to hear the video. I'm 2 weeks in no contact after5 months of giving her hell. Man it's rough! But she finally unblocked me from Facebook tonight but not Instagram. But I didn't flinch. She still has pics of us up.
Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.
8 Months since the break up, NC since October because we had unfinished buisness - nothing. Its better for you all, that you consider more, that she/he does not come back. Its healthier for you
After 6 years of a toxic relationship..7 months if being strung along with client treatment/ignored..saying will should be friends for now..found out 4 days ago he has a girlfriend..our connection is intense..been watching these videos for the past three months...it's all make sense Coach Lee makes sense..been really analyzeing our relationship..it was so abuse...I did all the wrong things the past 7 months..Started NC two days ago..I will conquer NC..I deserve to respect myself and reinvent myself..
Dude, 2 days in and now she still wants her space but wants therapy to see if we can work on our issues. It worked. She’s avoidant and I’m anxious. I’m going to keep up the no contact. It’s much healthier for me anyway, because I can’t handle the constant rejection.
After 2 months he texted me to tell he had met someone new and if it was possible to stay friends because “ I really enjoyed our time together” 😅 no boy! I said that wasn’t good for me and I needed time to move on he just said “ok, I understand” I totally agree with Coach Lee. Lemerence is a real thing and he will miss our time together all the little moments that we were just human and connecting. On my 12 day of NC I’m working out and get ready for a trip to Chile. If my guy valued our time together then I trust he will call me to ask how was my trip. Ugh... I hate this feeling I miss him and I hate he is with someone else when I thought his hugs and affection was real.
He left 2 and half months ago.after 23 yrs of marriage.i did everything wrong for 2 months.ive been in no contact for over 2 weeks.i understand now how this works.negative consequences are coming to him,finances are a disaster now,bills unpaid.waiting and improving myself.
@coachlee you've saved my sanity. I really messed up when she broke up with me, I was a mess and took it so bad. But you still give me faith. I owe you a beer brother.
I just want to say listen to Coach Lee! He got me through a terrible time over the past 3 months after I was dumped. He gave me the courage and strength to stay in no contact and radio silence and at about 3 months she broke the silence, we’ve reconnected and are doing better than ever. True love prevails, and it is crucial to watch and listen to all of his videos through a breakup! Thank you so so much Coach Lee, I wish I could hug you I’m so grateful for your inspiration and support. ❤️🙏
3 months radio silence?
This is great news, I hope you guys are a great success moving forward.
Thank you for sharing that! It gives me a major amount of encouragement to keep going!
@@madisonray9295 Radio silence meaning there was no contact at all.
@@RickySpanish12344 Also, I need to mention that my ex is an avoidant so... that makes it even more complicated 🤦♀️
"If you are going through hell, keep going" - Winston Churchill
No you're thinking of Rodney Atkins
Also said “success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts”
Noooo my dear I can't ♥️ ❤️ 💕 too much
Love it
Wallah this made me laugh in this crazy phase 🤣🤣🤣🤣
As someone who was the dumper and is about 6 weeks into the post breakup experience, I can tell you that everything he says in his videos about the psychology of this end of things is exactly correct. Trust the no contact, because it really is fucking with my head.
Did you ever make it right??
@@sandy_side “making it right” is relative to the situation, but yes, we are back together, and better than ever. I will not make this mistake again.
@@elijah_lees wow. Good for you Elijah. I wish you guys all the best moving foward.
Wow good to hear the perspective from the other side.
What was the reason(s) you broke up?
Yes, but my dumper was straight into another relationship....for me that has been a jagged little pill to swallow. I do hope for a conversation at some point though. I'm in NC and that is where I will stay!
Thoughts?
Coach Lee is mad at them for hurting us! Lol. He’s the best.
Yeah right i love him
That's why I only trust him
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙈🙈🙈
Lol I like how he always says "we"
Compassionate dude
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭am dying 😢
The most important factor is when you go absent, it hurts their ego. That's where it hits them! And they see you as a strong person at the same time! Questioning their decision.
So true
What if you did some pleading
You’ll be fine. I pleaded and begged. Go into no contact immediately.
It took almost 5 weeks of pleading and a letter and bought flowers till I finally maned up better late then never almost 5 weeks now later.
@@twistedstoic same, my short term partner left me due to depression . I stayed by her side for 8 weeks. I didnt beg and plead but let her know i was there. Then she pushed me away and said we need to end it completely when i couldnt contain my feelings one day. Its now been 3 weeks of NC.
After 6 months of breakup. Im watching this because to say guys its working. Please never contact your ex. Period! Its working not because we are back together, but its working because I have moved on! Keep moving forward never look back! Just focus on yourself, your goal!
update ??
Abuserlutely
Never look back! Keep going!
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
You guys… please listen to Lee. It really does work-but you have to get yourself into the right mindset during NC. During NC, you need to boss up. Give yourself the love you want. Take care of your amazing body and soul and really pour attention and care into yourself. Get stronger mentally, physically. Get spiritual. Get curious and fun-seeking. Get sexy. ;) When they come back (which is MOST of the time… trust), you will be so strong and healthy and amazing that your S.O. is going to have to level up in order to regain their relationship with you… if that’s what you want! Stay NC and use your new free time to invest in YOU.
Love this!
Very true
@@yswen828 it can take a while. How long were you in a relationship?
@@yswen828 most of the time, they do come back, but let me ask you this: if he ghosted you and disappeared, do you really want him back after that?
@@rowdybliss Got blocked twice now. First one was in July for a month and she unblocked me cuz she was curious if I'd texted or trying to go around the block. But I reached out afterwards and in November got blocked again and still not unblocked but it is good in a certain way because helps the NC. I'm now in a mindset like Lee said: if she comes back, she does. If not, well so be it. But deep inside you kinda 'hope' that she does ^^
No contact works in every case as long as you’re not the one to initiate contact and certainly, not one or two months down the line. It’s too soon for most people. If you initiate with someone who left you, you’re putting yourself in the “weak” position and it’s an ego stroke like coach Lee says.
It has to be a meeting by chance or “by chance” or even better let them come to you. It works, I speak from experience.
Time is on your side people, don’t view it like an enemy.
Thank you coach Lee!
This is true. People want results really quickly. After a while a lot of people will realize you don’t want them and are better off without.
No contact always Works for the one that makes his life more sucssesfull and atractive even if you contact them First because that is what is All about mindset
@@fernandogonzalezmartinez83 yes exactly, my ex didn’t benefit my life and I realized that after she got a new tattoo with her new boyfriend that she’s been dating for two weeks. That’s a permanent write off in my book.
Yeah my ex came back a month later and ended it again. Broke my heart all over again but maybe it was just too soon. It feels not as bad but more final since he said he wasn’t in love with me. I just don’t understand why he came back at all only to end it again.
@@godsavethecoffeecake probably he wasn’t sure it was over for him, or he got lonely or he just wanted to know he could have you.
Mine reached out a few times over the first four months post break up and I didn’t respond at first because it felt too pretentious but then the third time he texted something similar to all of his exes (I’m friends with my predecessor so I knew) and I got so mad I couldn’t let him think he was fooling us. Now he’s unemployed, promising marriage to a trans wannabe singer (he hated trans and gay people with burning passion) I mean... I still care for him, but I pitty the man I see. I will forever love the version of him I used to know but since it’s not the person he is anymore... It feels a lot like mourning someone who died, you know?
I’m 34 days NC, still not sleeping, eating ok, gym 5 days per week. Trying to work.
Not bad considering my ex terminated our relationship with a 45 second FT call after 8 years together.
I read something yesterday that said:
‘If I could love the wrong person that much, imagine how much I could love the right one’ 🤷🏼
How’s it going?
@@minigengarr4729 well, I found out there was infidelity so it’s not gone well. I still hurt but it gets a little easier everyday. We’ve had some contact but it’s not been great. I wish I’d have ignored her messages but I can’t beat myself up for replying. I believe NC is a must, I’ve restarted NC and I will not reach out again ever. Is she cheats, send her back to the streets. It just isn’t worth your sanity and the heartache. So if you’re reading this do everything you can possible to not contact your ex!!!!!!!!
You got this man! Work on you and build yourself better than before.
@@d34285 Yeah, I'm trying everyday. It is still hard as I'm still in the dark as to why the break up happened 100%, although when I say that, I actually think I know the answer.
Anyway, I did reach out with a letter, silly I know but I've forgave myself, and forgiven her too, it has been a good few weeks since we have had any contact. We have not spoken FtoF since August 19th, though.
@@diilain we are in this together. We are strangers connected by the same life experiences. We got this, stay strong. You have said your piece to her and it is out of our control. Time to focus on what is most important in life.....our happiness. We grow with each life lesson and what this taught us is we can always be better not for her but for our happiness. If she can't see that then why are we sad. Whenever you feel down just go for a walk. I believe in you!
It works 100%....I didn't even want them back and the no contact rule works.
It almost did. And i didn't want him still don't so i found these videos and realized what he was doing. Now i am doing this entirely. I want us to part were both to toxic. Updates he's a soical path I didn't want him and he kept using bs to get to me now it will be a month no contact but there's a problem we have kids. He kept using them as tools to get to me. :(
You don't want your ex back? Remember, everyone can do some mistake, nobody is perfect, human beings have doubts sometimes ;)
How long did your NC last?
Does no contact work on someone who doesn't love you?
What if they moved out of town
Lee's videos and most of the comments in the comments section are like a lifeline for me, giving me so much hope... not necessarily that she'll come back, but that things will get better eventually, whatever the outcome.
Same here. It helps so much to know I'm not alone.
You gotta give an update rn
Can we get an update ?
Answering requests, the update: she hasn't come back, nor do I think she ever will. However, things are indeed going much better with my life. If I can survive this, anyone can. Just focus on improving as a person, helping people that are in even worse situations and having fun, and soon enough you won't even have mental room to suffer that much.
i feel u brother
If you had a great relationship. There is a great chance they will revisit the idea of coming back to you. In the meantime concentrate on personal growth
@ Rick, are you talking about long term or short term r’ship?
@@yswen828 I’m no expert. It depends on how they truly felt at one time. If you both were in love. That’s great. Because attachment is hard to get over
@@rickcope3226 I have a question...when we broke up, he didn’t say “goodbye it was nice knowing you.” Does that mean he will come back?
What do you want to know? It’s kind of hard to explain.
@@yswen828 like. Was there any mention of marriage?
@@yswen828 my girlfriend left me for someone else after 13 years. No goodbye or reason why. Go through not no contact. It is your only chance
After 4 months of no contact! My ex reaches out to me today! My heart was in my stomach I couldn’t believe it. I Ofcourse , gave it a few hours before I respond and sure enough he hasn’t stopped texting me. Don’t ignore like coach Lee says but don’t give away too much too soon! If he wants me back he’s gotta work for it. Trust in the power of time and trust that no contact works it allows them to experience the break up that they asked for. Thanks Coach Lee for your wisdom 🙏🏻
I'm so happy for you, good luck!
How did it work out
Life update it’s been a year and a few months since the break! We are not together and we no longer keep in touch. Iv learned to love and put myself first, I realized I couldn’t make someone happy because I wasn’t happy with myself. I sacrificed too much and neglected my own needs. While Coach Lee paved the way, I now believe in self love and self worth. Time does heal all wounds, I have a new career that allows me to travel and meet the world and couldn’t be happier. While self love continues to be my priority I look forward to my future prospering in all aspects of my life!
@@Wayne-gn3hewow that’s amazing, enjoy your life and hope you the best
This is smiliar to my situation. I had this special person. Very caring and loving and has high interest and desire towards me. There was one time we stopped talking because i couldn’t commit to her yet. When we stopped communicating i did everything to get her back and she told me she was seeing someone already. However after i found one it didn’t work out with that guy for that guy ghosted her/left her less than 3 months or so. I started connecting with her and so did she with me and asked her if something happened between that guy and she said she did everything for him especially giving herself to him because she liked him. It was a disappointment for me because how can you give yourself to a person that easily and left you just like that. That held me back for committing to her. But i still showed her and gave her what a boyfriend would do for his girl. February i distanced myself to think if im ready to be committed to her however she didn’t want it anymore. For a month of march i tried to get her back but failed and told me to move on and might find someone better. So right now i have walked away and stopped communicating with her even though she wanted friendship. Oh well.🤷🏽♂️life as we know it.
30 days into no contact.
It was hard in the beggining, but it is easier now.
I am healing and focusing on personal growth.
@@XD-vs7zt wow lol F em
“they’re letting you contact them; what a wonderful person they are” ... this made me laugh, thank you! Still struggling with keeping to NC after 3 months. It’s the best thing for me. Your videos truly are a lifeline to me keeping my dignity and sanity... and power 😀
You got thissss 💥💥💥
Has it been 3 months since you last talked to them?
@@unknown49818 Yes. It was a very short (2 month) relationship. He broke it off 3 months ago. It actually was the right thing to do, but it still hurts and I miss him.
My 3 months completed Jst today
Soul paining like hell 🙃
Wish me luck & pray for me sis🥺
@@bonniebender9268 The length of time, unless it was 2 or 3 dates, is irrelevant...it's all about the connection and bond.
Coach Lee videos are like a drug for me during this difficult time of going through a break up. When I feel the anxiety of loss coming on, I frantically search for the right video to bring me back to reality and ground me. I feel indebted to Coach Lee. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, sir.
I was in no contact with my ex of 10 years for about a month and a half when a fling from 12 years ago contacted me. We are now married, waiting for a baby, madly in love and blissfully happy.
Ex from 10 years: noooooooooooooo........you bitchhhhhhhhhh🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 good for you
I really like your username, everyone should have appreciation for "1984". More than ever in today's world.
Now thats fate 👍 congratulations 🎊
Wait are you married to the fling or the ex?
@@jonlukevandam / She married the fling
No contact works! I wanted my own success story and now I have it! My ex and I have been broken up for 3 months before he reached out and admitted to wanting us trying again. We are taking things slow. We are texting every day and it feels so weird after 3 months of not talking, it doesn't feel real! We have our second meet up scheduled tonight. Wish me luck and good luck to everyone!
how are things going now?
@@RickySpanish12344 Hi, things are going good, unfortunately we are not spending christmas together, but made plans after. Taking things slow and both of is definitely want to work on things and staying together
@@ags835 Glad to hear, and good luck :). Just remember that you are a person of great value (as all people are), and deserve to be happy, and respected.
It hurt alot at first.. but I stayed strong regardless of what we went through. & Karma really does exist 🙂
Wat did Karma do dear ?!😮😮😮
Ya it does exist dear...And it should too otherwise our ex will not understand our value🙂
Karma is a bullshit word no such thing
@@christophersargeant6291 Bullhonky.Karma is 100% real.
Yes indeed! Karma is very real.
Love this. Very well explained. There are so many coaches who advocate no contact as a trick to get your ex back but they rarely mention that after no contact you’ll be a better and stronger partner for your next partner - whether that be your ex or someone you’ve never even met yet.
"no contract" - good Freudian slip :-D
Been NC for 3 weeks. None. His birthday is in 3 months. I will want to reach out to him. You’re saying DO NOT DO IT, Right?? I’ve decided to follow these rules or guideline seriously. I have begun a personal training course, will beginning my Masters degree, joined French classes and seeing my friends and family. Trusting the process. No ego strokes for this 61 year old vibrant woman! I totally lost myself for 7 years with a DA. NO MORE. and it’s truly bc of your videos. ❤️❤️. They are soooo inspiring no matter what the outcome. I’m feeling empowered rather than disempowered. Thank you coach Lee😘 8:02
How are things now?
@ things are good! I can still have some moments of sadness but I think it’s mostly bc I wasted so much time on someone that didn’t really care about my wants and needs. I felt that early on but I brushed it off. Other than that I’m really good. Almost done getting my personal training certification and I’ve spent a lot of time with my friends and family. I have not reached out to him and neither has he. I hope you are doing well. I know this for sure for myself. I betrayed myself many times. Overlooked being ignored, overlooked lack of affection. Overlooked many things. Betrayed my own self. Working on anything that brings me joy is my focus. I hadn’t done that for years. I find it is the ONLY thing that brought me out of this very difficult time. Work on having fun in small ways. Youll be just fine….. and wayyyy better without them❣️❣️
After two years I came back here to express how thankfull I am for your videos. Two years ago I went through the hardest breakup, i was watching your videos day and night, I needed them to fall asleep. I went through no contact, first and foremost for myself, it was the hardest phase of my life, after I experienced a physical and mental glowup the following summer, I rekindled with my ex. It works guys, but please please do it for yourself, this is really important, YOU are the most important person in your own life. I never thought of coming back here and comments about how successfull this actually was, ramdomly i remebered and I decided to write a comment. It works and I am sure it works for many more who forget to come back and write it down. I wish you all heartbroken the best, you are not alone, we are a community, it gets better and everything is possible as long as you focus on yourself. Much love.
I swear No contact really worked for me .now we're back together .thank you soooo much❤
No contact is the best medicine against toxic people.
You’re so underrated you’re one of the smartest people on RUclips I stg
Chris canwell as well.
I noticed that too..🦸
He is. Better than Matthew H. in my opinion
Hi guys I was in pain like you guys were, yeah nc rules does works!! But hear me out for me it took 3 months during the time I work on my self and by almost the 4 month I was like great if she comes back and great if she doesn’t and guess what two days later she reach out! Now we’re stronger than before
@@marvischarthy7540 you know I’m going to report you
This is great to see. Congrats hope it stays strong for you both.
Wow! I have to say that you are one of the best coaches that I’ve seen on RUclips. You have a really positive and calming presence and it has helped me get through these hard times. I haven’t spoken to my ex since the middle of November. He sent me a text message on Christmas but didn’t bother to tell me Happy Birthday on Christmas Eve. He is soooo PETTY! Recently he’s been sending me one text message every weekend and he’s been getting more desperate with every message. NO CONTACT DOES WORK! Thanks Coach Lee!
You go girl 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I still haven’t spoken to my ex since November. He continues to send me messages and calls me regularly. He even called and texted me from someone else’s phone two weeks ago because I blocked him in November. My best friend is so proud of me for finally moving on with my life. I’ve been working on myself for the last 6 months and I feel much better. I have weak moments from time to time, but thanks to Coach Lee’s encouraging videos I’ll be just fine. 🙂
@@mckennaross7855 if he's reaching out... You should talk to him... What are you thinking?
No contact absolutely works, it took my girlfriend about 4 weeks to text me and say that not talking was stupid and we should meet up, that was 2 years ago!
@@paigemarvel2129 You apparently didn't understand what I said.
I love coach Lee’s metaphors! “Snatching defeat from the jaws of victory”. And if your ex contacts you, don’t say, “Oh I’ve missed you so much, have you thought about anymore names for our kids!?” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Dang how did coach lee know I wanted to say those exact words to my ex lol I would probably ask “so when are we moving back in “ lmao
Mine got in contact after 9 months. At this point I wish he hadn't bothered. I'm more pissed than happy, he texts me like nothing happened..
I think that shows you’re in a healthier place now - good for you! You’ve done the hard work and it shows. 👍
@@rowdybliss
Please don't be misled, its definitely not been easy by any means.
@@misslanapford9169 and I imagine that it’s still really hard… it’s tough trying to reconcile a breakup that hurt you.
@@rowdybliss
No not so much now.. I'm happy to move on, dating has its positive.. just be open to opportunities and see what happens.. I find with us women we have to much expectation.. if we got rid of those we'd been fine.
My ex contacted me 2 weeks ago after 8 months. I feel pissed too
I can’t thank you enough for your videos. I’ve been dealing with this all by myself and you have been a lifeline for me.
U hanging in there bro ? Still on NC?
I can recommend you to (Mr oduma )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems
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Message or call
Found this just in time!!! 3rd day of no contact. Getting stronger daily and taking the power back!! Can’t wait to update you
I’m also looking forward to follow your progress
Any progress report?
@@lordkillohendrix-8501 I broke it. In friend zone for like 2 weeks but I’m seeing someone and so is she, had I followed instructions maybe the outcome would have been better but surprisingly I feel our break up was a blessing in disguise I no longer want her back and she’s shown signs of jealousy about my new person and I’m not jealous of hers. Sorry for the bad news brother
How do I say this,,, coach lee works. Few months ago my ex broke up with me. After applying all these things Coach Lee taught me I’m happy to say my ex just texted me and wants to start dating again. It takes time and patience and lots of strategizing but I promise it works. Thank you Coach Lee for everything. You are a blessing.
Ok these are probably bs. Just listen to coach Lee. Seriously
@@babywasp4805 they are scammers
That's good ,just be patient and don't start from where you both stopped.let them work for you,let them prove their love for you.
How did you deal with not knowing if they would come back? And how long were you guys together ?
@@ppv1780 hey bud. We were together a year. I coped by simply talking to myself and by keeping hope. Like coach Lee said as long as you two are alive, there’s always a chance of reunion.
5 months no contact , she doesn't give 2 f@#*s . And neither do I now. Thanks coach you have helped achieve that . I've worked on myself and gonna keep pushing for a better me . She'll never find anyone as nice as me , good luck to her I hope she finds happiness. I truly mean that . Anyone reading this if you want decent man here I am 🙂
Although, I used No Contact, my ex hasnt reached out since the breakup, which is more than 4 months ago. Fortunately, I have accepted his decision and feel better than before
@@georgepanagiotou8673 i highly doubt it anymore because, i ruined my chances. Also we broke up 4 months ago too and i Didn’t know anything about no contact until a month ago......so im just going to assume she will never come back to me. Especially when she even said we will never get back and also calls me girly/feminine..........yeah :)
@@SexAndCandyHair92 it’s been a month and a half for me. Seems like forever
@@tavionharris7314 that was such a nice text!
It s been a month for me and I felt great but now i found out that he is with somebody else he didn t even have the decency to hide it from me... at least for a while. He promised me he would not be with someone new because he didnt feel the need, and i told him i want to be with someone new, who would show me the love i want and give. But here I am, single, no need for anyone, just myself... anyway, the girl is a nurse he would talk crap about... and a friend of mine met them a week ago. I feel so hurt and furious but at the same time i feel free and ready for what comes next no matter what life brings me. Because i don t want to do this NC this with the idea that He will contact me again. No. I suggest you to do the same. I think that Coach Lee insists on the idea of us getting better, loving ourselves and enjoying our lives alone. And it really is a blessing to be alone and do what you love. Not to mention that many times i just didnt feel happy around him, I felt caged, I felt like he didn t want me to be happy. I didnt want to make changes( start dance lessons, go out, go to the gym, even work more) because I was afraid i wouldnt spend enough time with him!!! That s toxic
Day 48 and stronger than ever. Time is power and perspective. It's an experience and a gift nobody can take from you. The harder the challenge, the greater reward...stay strong, you are worth it!
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well next update
COACH !! I must thank you. This worked for me, and shared your videos with a friend who was hurting from a break up. NOW IT HAS WORKED FOR HER TOO❤ I will share your with anyone who is healing from a break up. Thank You
You got your ex back?
I did no contact for 3 years now. It worked i dont even remember her face!
But you still thought about them, so maybe another 3 years?
No contact worked after 3 weeks and I just wanted to thank you for your videos. I binged watched when I felt bad and I'm back with my ex but I'm the one regretting now and it's okay cause my heart will never break...thank you coach lee
It works! I'm healed and have moved on. Don't want him back anymore
Starting no contact today guys. We have been off and on for a while. But this time he made it clear that we are done for good. He falsely accused me of cheating. I’m devastated because I would never. He thinks it’s because our sex is different.. I will keep you guys updated with my journey. If this brings me anything I hope it’s strength 🤞🏾
Hope things improves for you. How are things going now?
That's some narcissistic bullshit, ditch that mf
Coach Lee u killed it on this video bro! Ha just when I was thinking of reaching out & stroking my exs ego again this made me realize shes giving me measly breadcrumbs with the "I miss u, how are u doing? crap." I want more & deserve more. I'm reassured I'm doing the right thing by staying away & doing ME. I'm the king & I want to be above her. Not equals. Thanks man! I needed this
Any updates?
How r things today?
It always works because either you will get back together or you'll get someone even better.
3 and half weeks NC! Stay tuned ! I’m stronger and getting better then ever ! Your videos help me so me!
Do it right and it works !!!!
Dont put a time on it tho, just disappear and dont be a nuisance... of course its hard but you need to show your strength
I can recommend you to someone powerful who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems
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It's been a week now of NC and I finally received the phone call. Even tho our conversation started leaning towards the issue of the matter, I've continue to stand on good morals without devaluing myself. Even though she was persistent in having things her way, Ive continue to stay strong to the point of her finally realizing her own toxic perception.
Now she's all over me showering me with love while I take all the time that i need before giving all of my heart back into her hands again,..
She's has alot of work to do if she truly wants the old me again,.. and she knows it
Any update? But with respect I have to tell that one week is a short time just a bit anger not a big problem like to have a long time with not contact
@lliana C
Things eventually went back to normal and unfortunately she became too comfortable enough for her to go back into her old ways, so I stonecold dumped her recently a week before Valentine's day and I never looked back since then. But now I have another headache to deal with, and that's all these options of women with redflags since I've been in the gym. She tried contacting me through texts messages for me to see her, but I just ignored her and her lack of taking accountabilities.
We both know this movie has ended now.
“ Chasing love is like chasing death “
Well…I don’t know if I’d go that far, but don’t chase love. lol
@@RealCoachLee 😂
Buddy I got to tell ya that until this morning my wife had been gone for a month. Yesterday I watched about 10 of your videos and got me a little bit of wisdom from them. Well guess what. She came back home today. Your tricks are dang awesome man!!! Plus God had a hand in it a lot too
Joey, awesome! I’m so happy for you. Please email myexbackcoach@gmail.com because we have a couple of questions if you don’t mind. 💪🏻
Lmao. I really did use ur info too. Took bout a day and a half to get her back home
I got her after 2 months of strict no contact..when she dumped me , i just said " alright, its over wish you the best , goodbye". And then i just vanished, out of her radar..then today she saw me with talking to another girl, that drived her crazy, she panicked, probably she thought if i dont take any step further i ll lose him soon,although i cleared her that this girl is just an old friend. She came back and apologized, we are now together, hoping everything gets fine.
Trust me buddies just vanish ,they ll definitely come back.
CRUMBS FROM THEIR TABLE.
That's powerful.
Listen up fellas. Do something positive for yourself. Workout, hard. With a purpose. Drop some weight. Dress better. Be confident and believe in yourself and watch the incredible changes that take place. Don't find time, make time. You got this fellas and above all.... STAY AWAY!!!
Sometimes you just have to move on. Don't deprive yourself of a more beautiful person that is waiting for you.
DO IT!!! Start now.
Coach Lee, you are definitely the best RUclips break up/get your ex back coach! You have definitely helped me in this journey I'm on. And because of your videos and my renewed belief in myself, I know i will be stronger and a better man regardless if she comes back or not. Thank you for all you do. I hope your channel takes off soon! You deserve it for all you're doing for those of us hurting.
put a tip in his tip jar
When the break up happens and you dont want it ....
Yes its true, no contact works!!!
They have 2 go through all the stages.. but trust me, you also have 2 go through all the stages!
You have 2 feel pain, lost, etcetera etcetera ...
Wait until YOU find yourself back!
It can take months and months 2 let them go in your mind.
And when you really moved on in your own life ...
When you have new friends, a "new job", new energy, and you can see in the mirror a new you ❤❤❤ thats the time when they can come back in your life..
Thats the moment when you can make a clear decision if you want them back.
Trust me it can take months, a year.. but when you are there ... and you can face yourself in the mirror with self pride and self respect❤ that is the moment!
It is hard 2 let go of your dreams about the other person ..
Dont hate them, but feel the love just the love you found back in yourself about who you are!
❤❤❤
Nobody can use you and never ever lower your self esteem!
This was a journey that in the end made me a better person 🙏💯
Thank you Coach Lee 🎉🎉🎉 you gave me back myself 💫
Its been three weeks of no contact. You inspire me to be stronger.
Im at 17 days ... it hurts . Can u give an update ? Hope u are doing better
i'm on almost 2 weeks
@@joshmcgowan4376 hi, im so much better now. it only took 51 days for him to crawl back and i shut the door closed. serves him well. im better off without him.
Same here 3 weeks today , he just put me over the edge to break up with him , by dragging me down , bargaining about his ex gf and disrespecting me , I ended up saying bye cuz the pain was too much and I know deep down he will never change cuz he never loved me genuinely .
I just wonder, how many girls felt in love with Lee during healing through those videos😂😂
Hahahahahaahhahahaah
Yeah, you wouldn’t wanna go no contact with Lee though… he’ll tear you to pieces 😂
And men! Lel
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@@jonathanb6911 lololol toxic
Would just like to say thank you for your videos I cannot tell you how helpful they have been to me for the past three weeks, it’s literally like a mental medicine. Been in NC for about 3 weeks now found out she moved on with somebody else after a week! Even if she contacted me now I wouldn’t go back after this disappointing move and I will never reach out to her again.
Nearly 4 weeks strong, thanks Lee
I can confirm it does get easier and u will think about them less. But the times u do, don't be hard on yourself.
@@SamanthaSprinkles69
It will get easier.. you'll have good days and you'll have days were u think about and thats okay to.. just be kind to yourself.. I know its gonna sound corny but it helps loving on yourself and treating yourself well.
@@amberbee6389
We're rooting for you too amber. Dont rush it, slow and steady wins the race. Look at me mine got in contact after 9 months of nothing, so no expectations..
Coach Lee, I’ve watched all of your videos and I think this one is extremely underrated. This is my favorite video on your channel because it gives people hope that my ex may be back one day and helps you move on at the same time. Some videos get me in this hole where I only focus on getting them back, but this one helps me reframe my way of thinking. I was going to the gym and fixing my diet and seeing a therapist and all of these things to get her back, but I’m doing it for myself now. Im doing it 90% for myself and only 10% for her. Your words are extremely helpful. Almost 2 weeks NC and I can finally see the light at the end of this VERY long, long tunnel now. Thank you Coach!!!
This was hilarious: “Have you thought of anymore names of our kids” 😂
He is comical lol
Boy, were you right...after no contact for a few months, I received a text message! He was flirting with me, said I looked great. I remembered your advise and was pleasantly surprised when he made the attempt to talk to me! Now what? I don't want to appear anxious...who knows, maybe he just wanted to see if I still cared about him??
This lad is a legend.
I understand why he is the coach. He is logic, details and clear.
I can recommend you to (Mr oduma )who was able to bring back my ex husband and it works, I believe he can solve your relationship problems
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I watched your videos on repeat when I was first going through my break up. I even fell asleep to them, just hearing the reassurance and your words helped immensely.
It’s been almost 11 months and I haven’t reached out, neither has she. I still have my hard days, but I’m focusing on myself and that is the most important part. Thank you coach Lee 🖤
Update?
Update?
11 months? It's over
Soo lmao UPDATE?
No Contact is not to get your ex back but to heal yourself and make yourself better. IF you are lucky they MIGHT come back. The important thing is to get your self back to a healthy place.
@@victoryjamess5519 That is as bad as texting him out right. BAD advice.
Day 13 and I nearly gave up.. Thank you coach lee for helping me go through this and also thanks to all the dumpees haha for positive and success stories! keep them coming I get so motivated!
Are you still NC? I’m on day 10. This is so hard
Yes tell us what happened
Please update
After being a loser for 3 days, I finally started the real NC. It's like an emotion roller coaster. There are days I feel alive, and there are days I want to fly a white flag. 5 days now NC and I will keep at it. Coach Lee is right. I can't gamble my dignity. No more crumbs coach!
@@LabradoodleTofuBoy yes! Some days I'm good, others not so much. It fluctuates throughout the day to be honest. I'm on 6 weeks since break up and 4 weeks of NC.
To be honest, it's gonna end up being exactly what it's suppose to be. I'm just doing things for myself and really blossoming. It sucks though man. Not gonna lie. It won't always be like this though.
I can't thank you enough for your videos! You help me hang on day-by-day and fight off the sadness that is constantly trying to overtake me!
Say it anyway. Have faith in yourself always. Don’t let the mind drag you along, stay centred, grounded and on your purpose. Get in the gym, empower and respect yourself. The rest will follow.
Text him on WhatsApp ..
@@tonyjack8801 Lol sounds like a nice scam, worst of luck with that
If only I knew then what I know now - LET PEOPLE GO! Peace will soon follow!
Coach Lee is providing a valuable service. I think he is the best at what he does in the industry.
I literally prayed for motivation to keep waiting on my ex to come back and I woke up to this video. Love you Coach Lee!
Your videos make this sudden exam, open book. Thankyou.
Pain Heals In Time, The Best Is Yet To Come.
I been NC now 3weeks almost a month. And I'm so much stronger. I decided that I'm better off alone. Unless I find the right person. I have learned so much from this relationship. And am blessed to see that I definitely loved him more then myself. Now I'm going to work on myself. Get my life together so I can do what I need to do for our children . He wasn't the one I always had doubts about he always disappointed me always.
4 weeks into no contact I’ll try to keep this updated
Omg thank you 🙏🏾 so much. I’m glad I watched you this vid. It worked no contact for a week after a week he start asking our friends about me.. so he could get some info ℹ️ from them. After a couple weeks he reached out and the rest is history 😅
Whenever I get the urge to contact my ex (and trust me I’ve had many)I always come back to this particular video. It’s been 10 months since my ex broke up with me and I felt the usual emotions you would experience when you have been dumped. But these 10 months have given me plenty of time to think about whether I want him back or not. And I’ve decided the answer to that is no I don’t want him back. Without getting into too much detail, I noticed towards the end of our relationship my ex was starting to shut me out and push me away. And that right there is a big deal breaker for wanting to get back together.
What’s sad is that I’m the ‘dumper” and I’m watching these videos bc I’m experiencing all the “dumpee” feelings. Ughhhhhh!!! We need a video for this situation!
I am doing a SuperChat at 6 pm central which is in about 3 hours here on my channel. I’ll be answering questions live and you are welcome to ask this one there.
Please tell me about it I'm in the same situation right now and it hurts tooo muchhh!!
Are you doing any live videos?
Its been a little over a month since the break up and it will be a month of no contact on the 31st. Your videos keep me going Coach Lee, thank you. I hope I can get to a point where I dont feel like I have to binge or comment on videos anymore❤
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You get to say ; “no, I’m doing fine, thanks anyway” I am on a crumb free diet!!!!
omg I HATE crumbs...did some advice ..months of crumbs! I am in NC. Done. Lo carb lol
Perfect.
Works 100%, I realized after begging and pleading to save a 15 yr relationship, I didn't want it bc of all the cheating and lying this person did to me. No contact gave me clarity and freedom, being single isnt so bad, not at all and I was frightened to death of it.
Wh@tsAPP him for help
@@pascaljuno3663 No contact allows you to clear your head and take a step back and put things into perspective. Do I really want to be with someone who betrayed me, then had no remorse for doing so? Ummmm no, bc I would never have done it to her.
Wonderful Coach
stayed strong for 2 years now .... companies success is about to take off...she wanted to come back 5/6times within the first year I stayed strong as I could not get over the disappointment I was left with... walked away and never went back !
I nearly caved after having an argument at work. Emotions running high and nearly fell back into contacting my ex.
I'm here now watching, calming down & going back on the right path
Stay encouraged brother 🙏 you are not alone. Im going through it too .
I hope your heart heals and receives its truest desires
@@joshmcgowan4376 my ex called me last night.. complaining how depressed she was. I tried to be reserved & composed & show strength. I can tell she was waiting for me to start chasing her again. I didnt cave. Her response was to complain about how much ive changed & she has blocked me.
She expects me to panic and chase her.
I will not chase.
@@robertbuck3431 wow ! thanks for the update ! Seems like no contact is working! I'm 21 days in no contact . No word yet.. but I can feel myself changing from watching all the videos.. no telling what will happen
Im from Texas and she is from Mexico . Was not a far drive. Anyways im.fixing to go back to Colombia for 2 months and teach English and study French. Im not waiting on her im going to live my life !! Feels exciting . Some days I hurt and others I feel alive like never before
@@joshmcgowan4376 her over reaction to me just wanting to end the call & sleep was very immature. No contact helps you see your ex in a different light.
I’ve accepted it.
Relationships are over in 2021 and beyond.
Listen to every word this man says. Watch his other videos. You'll feel better and his advice is the best you'll get. Thanks coach Lee
I cannot believe it! My ex reach out with me after 3months of no contact!NC really works!
Day 45 of NC today. I battle with myself whether to contact or not. Some days I wonder if he’s ok (COVID took a toll on his stress levels and anxiety). Then other days I feel he doesn’t deserve to hear from me. I’m just glad the tears have dried up and the knot in my stomach is gone. To text or not to text, that is the question 🤷🏾♀️ Let go and let God I guess.
Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.
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@@pvz0484 We have been in contact here and there but nothing that suggests getting back together. Once you find a level of acceptance of the situation you will be good. It’s all about how you want to live your life. Being miserable or focusing on yourself and making yourself happy without them. You get to live one life. Yes it sucks big time and you don’t know what the future holds. It could be a blessing in disguise. Let God lead the way. I promise you in a few months you’ll care but not that much. Life truly moves on.
Just sucks, why is that only we get to feel this way. how does it not affect them AT all. shit hurts.
@@pvz0484 Yes it does and it will. But it’s not forever. My ex reached out again with another random text just when I’m beginning not to give a shit…lol. Funny how that works.🤷🏾♀️ One foot in front of the other is all I can say. Find things that you like to do. This too shall pass🙏🏾
Day one in no contact rule. I am not doing it so that he comes back to me or does what I want. I am doing it because if he doesn't want to be serious about us or realize my value, then, I don't need him anyway. So, if he comes back on my terms which are really logical terms, it's good. If he doesn't, I am better off without a man who only want play and waist my time.
Lee you are a genius
he reached out 13 days after NC then nothing for a month ... well today I wake up to a happy valentines day message because he might forget on the day as it will be a regular day for him (trying to hint I see you) he wished me all the best cause I'm the most beautiful soul he ever met (well doooh)
I'm going through a break up right now, one week in. At first I contacted him and did all the things. This is day 3 of no contact for me. We had a great relationship, being an older couple...him 48 and me 55, but he was going through a divorce and we got together about 6 months after his separation. He said he needed his freedom, and we ended things. At first, I wanted to hate him, but he treated me so well, and we really had so many great times.
These videos are really helping me stay strong. Thank you.
Thank you Coach Lee for making these video Ive been watching you since 2019 it was a rough road but you help me a lot. I saw all the signs with my ex she left me for another guy. But guess what. Yes yes yes she came back. Things are still fresh we have 3 children been together since 2011. I didn't do everything right at first but I stay in no contact since may 2020 I saw the signs along the like you talk. So yes people Coach know what he is talking about it's hard but focus on you give them the break up and stay away. Yes it's hard some days and easier some days. After awhile I was really planning my life with her. She got to see what life was like without me. Like I said it's still fresh but 10 years together is very hard to walk away from. Stay strong y'all. Watch the videos over and over or when you are having a hard day it will keep you going.👍👍💪💪
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Every time I've gone no contact with my ex it haven't been more than a month until she reached out, but this is also because we did have a good relationship, and ending it in a respectful way. I've learned every time from this, to not cause drama, or show jealousy if she was dating others while we were broken up. This time though, I think it will take more than a month, and I am unsure if she actually will reach out again. We've been on/off for over 4 years, but I see now that life is better with her, and if I have the choice I will choose her. Wish us luck.
Any luck?
@@SJ-nw1ym She started dating someone within 3 weeks after we broke up. Although I don't know for sure, I think she is clearly still dating the same and happy with that. As long as she is happy I'm absolutely fine with it. Haven't hear anything from her for 6 months. I'm dating someone new who is both fitter, better looking, smarter and more in line with what I want :). Adding to that I don't think I ever had so much attention from females as I've had just from working on myself and focusing on making my own life better.
@@sune89 I'm really happy for you. I wish you very best for the future :)
@@SJ-nw1ym Thank you, I appreciate it :) Same to you.
Yes always works. I am so thankful that all of my exes are gone( the current
sort of looks like an ex excluded). They left or I cut it off and I am thankful that I am free to be with a good woman not an evil selfish one.😊😊
I'm only a day into NC and holy hell it hurts 😢 these comments have helped me stay strong and positive - not that I want my ex back (although I do), but that eventually I will be okay with time ❤
I'm about 4 days in. It's rough for sure
@@heywoodjablowme1358 haha no matter the advice, you know it's true but it's still hella hard
Day 1 😢
This one is really good to listen to coach. Even with the EBK I still needed to hear the video. I'm 2 weeks in no contact after5 months of giving her hell. Man it's rough! But she finally unblocked me from Facebook tonight but not Instagram. But I didn't flinch. She still has pics of us up.
Wh@tsapp him🌷🌷
Hello! I understand how you're feeling going through breakup I can recommend you to the same man who help me get my ex back permanently after 3 years of separation... I will advise you seek his help thanks.
8 Months since the break up, NC since October because we had unfinished buisness - nothing.
Its better for you all, that you consider more, that she/he does not come back. Its healthier for you
@@jakejordan6572 dont get on my nerves with you bullsh***
Iam already over the hump
@@jakejordan6572 Did you have any references of him ? Website ? Some LEGIT sources of him ?
@@Wurzelkopp let me report them
After 6 years of a toxic relationship..7 months if being strung along with client treatment/ignored..saying will should be friends for now..found out 4 days ago he has a girlfriend..our connection is intense..been watching these videos for the past three months...it's all make sense Coach Lee makes sense..been really analyzeing our relationship..it was so abuse...I did all the wrong things the past 7 months..Started NC two days ago..I will conquer NC..I deserve to respect myself and reinvent myself..
Dude, 2 days in and now she still wants her space but wants therapy to see if we can work on our issues. It worked. She’s avoidant and I’m anxious. I’m going to keep up the no contact. It’s much healthier for me anyway, because I can’t handle the constant rejection.
Keep it slow Richard. Don’t let her feel that you think you two have just picked up where you left off or she will likely run away again.
After 2 months he texted me to tell he had met someone new and if it was possible to stay friends because “ I really enjoyed our time together” 😅 no boy! I said that wasn’t good for me and I needed time to move on he just said “ok, I understand” I totally agree with Coach Lee. Lemerence is a real thing and he will miss our time together all the little moments that we were just human and connecting. On my 12 day of NC I’m working out and get ready for a trip to Chile. If my guy valued our time together then I trust he will call me to ask how was my trip. Ugh... I hate this feeling I miss him and I hate he is with someone else when I thought his hugs and affection was real.
I enjoyed the note of sarcasm at the beginning, nice 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
He left 2 and half months ago.after 23 yrs of marriage.i did everything wrong for 2 months.ive been in no contact for over 2 weeks.i understand now how this works.negative consequences are coming to him,finances are a disaster now,bills unpaid.waiting and improving myself.
Text him at what'Sapp
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There is a way
Trust me
@coachlee you've saved my sanity. I really messed up when she broke up with me, I was a mess and took it so bad. But you still give me faith. I owe you a beer brother.
Are you in no contact now?
Sam how are you now dude? I’m in the same situation x
How r u today?
@@spiderofsorts7611 how r u doing today ?