It’s really cool how people find each other in RUclips and hear messages like this right when they need to in life. This popped up in my feed this morning, and your message really resonated with me. “Sometimes the healing is you allowing yourself you express it with your voice” That’s good stuff!!!!! Really good message. Thanks for the video.
I just found you and I am so happy I did! I have been trying to get this message across to people for soooo very long and it feels like I'm swimming as hard as I can, upstream, in rapids made of people's unwillingness to want anything to change. The vitriol from the masses just doesn't end. I struggle on the regular with meeting people where they're at so I don't surpass anyone and make them feel bad because I did better. I am working on changing that. :) Much love.
My biggest fear about being seen is being targeted for harm. I moved states because someone I had to fire kept escalating their revenge on me and local law enforcement was small town politics. I simultaneously felt targeted, while my struggle felt unseen.
I completely understand that fear, and it's a healthy fear in your case. There are definitely consequences, or trade-offs, to being seen. You have to be ready to make sacrifices if you want to stand fully in your authenticity. And it's 100% what stops most people. It's what kept me frozen for years, too. I'm really sorry that you had to uproot your life though...that seems unfair 😔
Just found your channel. You're certainly going to make it on RUclips, if you decide to do so. You're authentically yourself, raw, intelligent. You've a lot to say; a lot of value to give. Subscribed.
I was told not to brag about my grades, my clothes, or my creative projects because it would make someone else feel bad. My clothes I can understand because I grew up poor and clothes are necessary, but superficial. My grades and creativity came from me, though. I learned to deny my own gifts through that. The other side of this is that, when I would do poorly in school or my creative projects failed, I was told I wasn’t trying hard enough or talented enough and I had no “pride.” Never, ever enough, and never allowed to feel proud. ❤
@@myboringpowerpoints7782 wow, yeah you're being set up to fail at that point. It's so unfair and so confusing for a child. I'm sorry that happened to you 😔 Hopefully you have been able to heal 💞
I've been on a journey for three years already, unlearning some stuff to be able to live without some fears and in a completely authentic way. It's amazing how I still don't feel 100% comfortable being me, although I already know rationally that I can. I'm not giving up, though. I'm way better now than three years ago. 😅 You gave me a great perspective by making a relation between the level of discomfort with something being a life's calling. I love it, thanks!
I grew up alone with just my mother, who had a habit of ignoring me and not responding when I spoke. Never asked anything about me. When other people would ask normal questions, I didn’t understand why I was being asked. It felt like a spotlight and an expectation to entertain someone. I have nothing to say. And my job is customer service. I don’t want to be observed.
@@stephanie4175 wow that's fascinating. I'm always amazed at how our upbringings shape the people we become. I wonder what the underlying belief is though...the reason why you don't want to be observed. There must be a core belief of not being worthy or valuable enough for someone's attention. At least that is what I would think 🤔 Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼💗
Thank you, thank you, thank you for all that motivation from Germany ❤ I have so much to say and am so afraid of judgement from my family, although i have always spoken my truth towards them i never felt like they unverstand or even except what i was doing or saying. It's time to find my real family in friends or a tribe, who truly get me. Spent last year with my husband and kids on Sardinia. Noone can take that experience from us.
Thank God you figured all this out at such an early age. I am actually homeless, living out of my car with my cat Jack, because I let everyone walk all over me my whole life. Keep going, you are going to go so far in life.
@@MelissaPlessinger and thank God that you figured it out, too! And thank God for Jack 🥰 It sounds like you have an incredible story. One that would surely inspire a lot of people. Maybe you'll consider taking to RUclips, too 😉💗
Why not? It's about being seen, isn't it? There are millions who could and would want to help if only they could feel they're not going to waste their resources as sadly in many cases where peeps have given up on trying to improve their lot. There are also many times more empty homes than homeless people, it's a highly artificial situation. Resist! You have to be seen and heard before you can be helped! I've been there and am hardly much better off stuck in a nuthouse where it's almost impossible to get any work done, writing in my case. Best of luck, Melissa! Allow yourself to be seen. But do watch out for predators, some hone in on the weak. Eat and rest as well as you can! Try something different every day? Best of luck! To the channel host, please keep it short and don't shout! I get enough of that already. Thanks for the help, I feel it all boils down to the last line or simply the title!
I know how you feel, you have to disappear from all of it , only to be misunderstood why. No winning in that family dynamic...you make total sense to me
Letting go and shedding is the beauty of the human experience, it's all supposed to happen exactly how it is! I think of it as the universe learning about itself through all of our experiences, which is the human journey. We're reflected in everything around us, and for any of us to choose to do the work and discovery of ourselves and inner makings is a sign of healing going on for the whole world. We’re all cells of the same body promoting growth for the ones we reach. I really appreciate your video, you spoke on a lot of what I've been thinking about and going through myself, crazy timing for me to come across this at the moment it did, THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU
@@okayrelly I couldn't agree more. I share your perspective 💗 Thank you for watching and commenting 🙏🏼 I appreciate you so much and am happy you are here!
@@sarahjane5273 You are an angel 😇🥹💗 THANK YOU for taking the time to write a comment. I rarely leave them, too, but I can't tell you how much it means to me to receive them. So I honestly do appreciate it so much. And I'm really glad that you got something from the video 🥰
Omg I love this! So grateful you decided to start! Look how fast you are growing! I actually needed this message today 😭🙌🏾💕 look how the universe serves us when we serve others. Thank you for adding so much light to the collective. WE truly need beautiful souls like you! I have subscribed and look forward to seeing your channel grow too!
@@alonnaelaine OMG Alonna! I am fangirling so hard right now 😍 THANK YOU so much, for inspiring me and encouraging me, and for replying to my comment on your video ❤️ I'm so flattered that something I shared could be helpful and supportive for you! It makes me happy that I could reciprocate, because you have done it for me many times with your videos. It really is so exciting! I'm absolutely loving it, love making videos, even editing is fun 😄 Thank you again, I'm so grateful for your support 🥹💗
@@makelifemedicineI love that!! Honestly, having fun is literally what put me into the energy of receiving more and CLEARLY you’re in that energy too. Your channel is growing and I’m so proud of you for stepping out! Keep going, this is your season!!💕
@@alonnaelaine 100% having FUN is actually the secret ingredient. I am honored to be in your company, and thank you SO much for watching and supporting me! I'm cheering you on, too 😉💗
@@nataliefields9009 I think it's SO important! I get so much inspiration from so many people and I keep lots of things saved in my notes app. I have always made sure I make note of the person who said it, or where I found it, because I knew one day I'd create my RUclips channel and want to reference these things, and I would feel like such an ass if I took credit for all of it! Plus, eventually when I start my podcast I want these people to be guests of mine! I think they're amazing and they deserve for more people to know about them 💃🏼💗
This is absolutely badass. I think that lack of inner authentic bold fanatically true expression is often a part of what feels so null and void for many today for sure - often escaping into distractions and bad habits and whatnot to compensate when it's simply digging deep from within and living a more authentically expressive life, regardless - regardless. I think there's often too much damn fear of being respectful when the core of it is not truly meaning or causing harm of life and expressing something that deeply resonates in us, that inner vision that will inevitably offend or make some uncomfortable. Our best separates from the rest, or "actually social" circle with authenticity and if someone lacks the emotional maturity to handle a reasonable conversation, that's their business - not ours. Sometimes there are a lot of words today but not always the most social of social circles that inevitably require collaborative authenticity and emotional maturity. There are some wise times to truly respect someone's emotions like if they're on their death bed or really ill, but if things are pretty even playing field in terms of general health and there's merely the problem of a reactionary person - ha, let em be reactionary - speak anyways and perhaps let their tornado of being unable to handle who we truly are be a separate matter from our true personal narrative, agenda, structure. The vast majority of a reaction speaks about the one reacting.
@@Astral_Dusk 100% yes. The real conundrum is that people are not even aware of the fact that they are escaping and distracting themselves from the "null and void" reality of their lives. It's kinda like being in the "unconsciously incompetent" stage of competence. And until you're aware of it, nothing can change. But yes, in short I agree. And people are FAR too concerned with how others perceive them. It paralyzes people and it's so sad 💗
You are amazing and what you have to say is amazing. I'm going to let my daughter know about your wonderful channel. I am 70, and I ran the gauntlet. I have lived my true life or close to it. Commit to what you want to do or how you want to life your life. I can confirm that what you say about the universe opening doors for you is true.
@@artieskeeter6318 🥹 thank you so much. That really means a lot. I bet you have an incredible life story. Thank you for confirming that this is the way to create a life worth living 🙏🏼💗
Thank you!!!💗 I moved to the states 6 years ago. Living in russia was a hell. Since elementary school, teachers and kids used to verbally and mentally abuse other kids(including me) for mistakes or things we didn't know. Imagine a teacher asking a kid to answer a question from a book and call them stupid if their answer was wrong😮💨 I'm glad I got to experience American school because everyone is very supportive here but the fear to speak is still living inside of me, especially when English is not my first language.
That's unreal 😢 Sounds pretty archaic. I wouldn't expect that to still be happening in schools. I believe it was that way in the States too, though, to be fair. My mom has told me horror stories about the nuns that used to teach in the Catholic schools. They were monsters 😂 I'm glad you got to have a contrasting experience, though!
Some of us are truly getting the download from God. You just explained everything I am trying to accomplish in my life and practice. I’ve been shut down by getting labeled as having too big an Ego. It is self liberation. And then the experience of that is a truth I can share with others. I keep trying to reach out to people who are talking about this like you are, but no one is willing to talk about it! Amen it is bullshit. I would love to talk with you. ❤
Giiirrrrrlllll, yes. I am here WITH YOU. I promise you are not alone, and I too have been labeled selfish, among other things. Trust me, keep speaking up and sharing and you will reach the critical threshold where a massive weight is lifted, and you'll just start to catapult on an exponential trajectory! Feel free to DM me over on IG @makelifemedicine ❤
It's not worth keeping on speaking out sometimes, it is too dangerous and better to just fade away, reduce and gaslighting and abuse, and stay alive. Depends how severe the abuse is and how powerful the people.
@@projectbirdfeederman5491 Context is key 🗝️. It depends on WHO you're speaking to and HOW you're speaking. There's definitely nuance and sometimes you need to be strategic. But also, if you're in a situation where there's ongoing abuse and gaslighting, I'd recommend getting out of that situation. And there is ALWAYS a way 💗
Wow the perfect video arrives exactly when I need to hear it! Can I keep you on my shoulder for moments of self doubt? That would be very useful lol but I suppose that would negate the purpose of this self liberation journey wouldn’t it 😊 anyway thank you so much! I loved every second of this. Glad you put yourself out there so someone like me could hear you powerful message!
That's the algorithm hijacking your thoughts and curating your feed accordingly 🤣 If AI can create a pocket sized me, we can absolutely make that happen 😉 You are amazing! Wow, I'm speechless...those are such kind things to say. Thank you, Alleella! I'm really glad you're here, and I hope you stick around 🤗🥲💗
People will think whatever they want to think. It only means anything to them. Nobody else should even care. As I mentioned in an earlier comment I learned to avoid people and become invisible. It was a simple survival strategy. But it wasn't working for me. We're all part of a much much larger and more diverse "tribe." But we're now better able to find our own tribes. Now that I'm retired I've drifted back into the shadows because it's still comfortable to me. But I'm finally getting curious again and I need to make changes. I had an influential friend who was a big fan of Anaïs Nin. She was a big proponent of journaling. I like to believe anyone could easily say "You ain't seen nuthin' yet!" Sometimes it's unspoken expectations hold us back. I have occasionally heard them clearly spoken. Everybody is different and others just need to get used to that.
The phases you've experienced are very relatable, personally. In and out of survival mode, back and forth between isolated contentment and apprehensively putting oneself out there. Introverted, intellectual types seem to battle this push/pull consistently throughout life. It's almost a defining characteristic. I just discovered Anais Nin! I should explore her work more. I agree, and I actually think its most often unspoken expectations. They can be more burdensome than the ones given a voice.
The only time I'm TRULY honest is under the anonymity of the internet. I was rejected and dumped after I fully revealed my flaws to someone I loved. Suuuuucks
@@varnishyourboard I am SO sorry. I've said many times that there's no greater pain than revealing yourself to someone you love and being rejected for it. It's tragic. I've experienced it, too, and I can understand wanting to protect yourself now. The internet is a beautiful place to express yourself with as many layers of anonymity as you need....and, as you begin to feel more comfortable you can choose to remove layers, one cloak at a time 😉💗
@@makelifemedicine Thank you! I'm working on that, but recently, I've gone full scorched-earth isolation/hermit mode. I never knew heartbreak could be so painful. 3 steps forward and 2 steps back is still moving forward though!
@@varnishyourboardit's SO painful, isn't it? You probably need this period of recuperating and healing so don't stress it. 100% you are moving forward. I'm glad you commented and hope you stick around my little community I'm creating here 😊❤
@@MelissaPlessinger it sounds like you're in a transition phase. They are tough 😔 They don't last forever, but I know it feels that way when you're in it.
Males had to abide by tribalism too and tech and modern weaponry ended all that. But Christianity gave people love and peace and joy on the inside so nobody wanted to hurt people anymore.
@@TheReneej19 FUCK 'EM. Seriously, FFFF those people. Childhood bullying is so traumatizing, and one of the things that enrages me the most. I hope you didn't allow it to dominate your own view of yourself 😌❤️
I love this quote too.
“The goal here is to liberate yourself fully. To allow your voice to be vulnerably expressed. To choose not to shut it down.”
@@JoshuaBHendo Thank you so much for watching 🙏🏼💗
Had to watch this twice… Beliefs I had were tied to being good at things, and then was told to stop showing people up.
Lived a very stifled life 😂
That's the point - Validate yourself feel alive, don't expect someone to validate you or make you feel alive
It’s really cool how people find each other in RUclips and hear messages like this right when they need to in life.
This popped up in my feed this morning, and your message really resonated with me.
“Sometimes the healing is you allowing yourself you express it with your voice”
That’s good stuff!!!!! Really good message. Thanks for the video.
@@JoshuaBHendo 100% I agree. The messages I need always pop up, too! I'm glad this resonated 💗💗
I just found you and I am so happy I did! I have been trying to get this message across to people for soooo very long and it feels like I'm swimming as hard as I can, upstream, in rapids made of people's unwillingness to want anything to change. The vitriol from the masses just doesn't end. I struggle on the regular with meeting people where they're at so I don't surpass anyone and make them feel bad because I did better. I am working on changing that. :) Much love.
@@mellane30 Let yourself be SEEN. In a big way 💗💗
My biggest fear about being seen is being targeted for harm. I moved states because someone I had to fire kept escalating their revenge on me and local law enforcement was small town politics. I simultaneously felt targeted, while my struggle felt unseen.
I completely understand that fear, and it's a healthy fear in your case. There are definitely consequences, or trade-offs, to being seen. You have to be ready to make sacrifices if you want to stand fully in your authenticity.
And it's 100% what stops most people. It's what kept me frozen for years, too.
I'm really sorry that you had to uproot your life though...that seems unfair 😔
Just found your channel. You're certainly going to make it on RUclips, if you decide to do so. You're authentically yourself, raw, intelligent. You've a lot to say; a lot of value to give. Subscribed.
I was told not to brag about my grades, my clothes, or my creative projects because it would make someone else feel bad. My clothes I can understand because I grew up poor and clothes are necessary, but superficial. My grades and creativity came from me, though. I learned to deny my own gifts through that. The other side of this is that, when I would do poorly in school or my creative projects failed, I was told I wasn’t trying hard enough or talented enough and I had no “pride.” Never, ever enough, and never allowed to feel proud. ❤
@@myboringpowerpoints7782 wow, yeah you're being set up to fail at that point. It's so unfair and so confusing for a child. I'm sorry that happened to you 😔 Hopefully you have been able to heal 💞
yes, such weird double and contradictive messages. Be the best but do not show it, uh what? How?
I'm literally afraid to leave my house. :) I've been hiding my entire life. And, yes. When you set boundaries and expectations you will be 100% alone.
@@thechaostrials1964 Go outsiiiiiiide. Come out of hiding. Emerge from your cocoon 💗🦋
I've been on a journey for three years already, unlearning some stuff to be able to live without some fears and in a completely authentic way. It's amazing how I still don't feel 100% comfortable being me, although I already know rationally that I can. I'm not giving up, though. I'm way better now than three years ago. 😅 You gave me a great perspective by making a relation between the level of discomfort with something being a life's calling. I love it, thanks!
@@itshsilva You are well on your way 😉💗
I grew up alone with just my mother, who had a habit of ignoring me and not responding when I spoke. Never asked anything about me. When other people would ask normal questions, I didn’t understand why I was being asked. It felt like a spotlight and an expectation to entertain someone. I have nothing to say. And my job is customer service. I don’t want to be observed.
@@stephanie4175 wow that's fascinating. I'm always amazed at how our upbringings shape the people we become. I wonder what the underlying belief is though...the reason why you don't want to be observed. There must be a core belief of not being worthy or valuable enough for someone's attention.
At least that is what I would think 🤔
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼💗
Thank you, thank you, thank you for all that motivation from Germany ❤ I have so much to say and am so afraid of judgement from my family, although i have always spoken my truth towards them i never felt like they unverstand or even except what i was doing or saying. It's time to find my real family in friends or a tribe, who truly get me. Spent last year with my husband and kids on Sardinia. Noone can take that experience from us.
Thank God you figured all this out at such an early age. I am actually homeless, living out of my car with my cat Jack, because I let everyone walk all over me my whole life. Keep going, you are going to go so far in life.
@@MelissaPlessinger and thank God that you figured it out, too! And thank God for Jack 🥰 It sounds like you have an incredible story. One that would surely inspire a lot of people. Maybe you'll consider taking to RUclips, too 😉💗
Why not? It's about being seen, isn't it? There are millions who could and would want to help if only they could feel they're not going to waste their resources as sadly in many cases where peeps have given up on trying to improve their lot. There are also many times more empty homes than homeless people, it's a highly artificial situation. Resist! You have to be seen and heard before you can be helped! I've been there and am hardly much better off stuck in a nuthouse where it's almost impossible to get any work done, writing in my case. Best of luck, Melissa! Allow yourself to be seen. But do watch out for predators, some hone in on the weak. Eat and rest as well as you can! Try something different every day? Best of luck!
To the channel host, please keep it short and don't shout! I get enough of that already. Thanks for the help, I feel it all boils down to the last line or simply the title!
@eeemotion I appreciate you watching, and for sharing your insights with Melissa 😉
I know how you feel, you have to disappear from all of it , only to be misunderstood why. No winning in that family dynamic...you make total sense to me
@@douglaslangham4417 I'm so glad to hear that 🙏🏼 Thank you for watching 💗
So many truths. Great video!
Letting go and shedding is the beauty of the human experience, it's all supposed to happen exactly how it is! I think of it as the universe learning about itself through all of our experiences, which is the human journey. We're reflected in everything around us, and for any of us to choose to do the work and discovery of ourselves and inner makings is a sign of healing going on for the whole world. We’re all cells of the same body promoting growth for the ones we reach.
I really appreciate your video, you spoke on a lot of what I've been thinking about and going through myself, crazy timing for me to come across this at the moment it did, THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU
@@okayrelly I couldn't agree more. I share your perspective 💗
Thank you for watching and commenting 🙏🏼 I appreciate you so much and am happy you are here!
Thanks again. Right on time.
@@JakeyWakey 💗💗
I rarely write comments! Keep glowing woman of God! This was everything for me today!
@@sarahjane5273 You are an angel 😇🥹💗 THANK YOU for taking the time to write a comment. I rarely leave them, too, but I can't tell you how much it means to me to receive them. So I honestly do appreciate it so much. And I'm really glad that you got something from the video 🥰
Omg I love this! So grateful you decided to start! Look how fast you are growing!
I actually needed this message today 😭🙌🏾💕 look how the universe serves us when we serve others. Thank you for adding so much light to the collective. WE truly need beautiful souls like you!
I have subscribed and look forward to seeing your channel grow too!
@@alonnaelaine OMG Alonna! I am fangirling so hard right now 😍
THANK YOU so much, for inspiring me and encouraging me, and for replying to my comment on your video ❤️
I'm so flattered that something I shared could be helpful and supportive for you! It makes me happy that I could reciprocate, because you have done it for me many times with your videos.
It really is so exciting! I'm absolutely loving it, love making videos, even editing is fun 😄
Thank you again, I'm so grateful for your support 🥹💗
@@makelifemedicineI love that!! Honestly, having fun is literally what put me into the energy of receiving more and CLEARLY you’re in that energy too. Your channel is growing and I’m so proud of you for stepping out! Keep going, this is your season!!💕
@@alonnaelaine 100% having FUN is actually the secret ingredient. I am honored to be in your company, and thank you SO much for watching and supporting me! I'm cheering you on, too 😉💗
I love that you credit all the creators you received inspo from! This is decolonizing work 🙌🏽
@@nataliefields9009 I think it's SO important! I get so much inspiration from so many people and I keep lots of things saved in my notes app. I have always made sure I make note of the person who said it, or where I found it, because I knew one day I'd create my RUclips channel and want to reference these things, and I would feel like such an ass if I took credit for all of it!
Plus, eventually when I start my podcast I want these people to be guests of mine! I think they're amazing and they deserve for more people to know about them 💃🏼💗
This is absolutely badass. I think that lack of inner authentic bold fanatically true expression is often a part of what feels so null and void for many today for sure - often escaping into distractions and bad habits and whatnot to compensate when it's simply digging deep from within and living a more authentically expressive life, regardless - regardless. I think there's often too much damn fear of being respectful when the core of it is not truly meaning or causing harm of life and expressing something that deeply resonates in us, that inner vision that will inevitably offend or make some uncomfortable. Our best separates from the rest, or "actually social" circle with authenticity and if someone lacks the emotional maturity to handle a reasonable conversation, that's their business - not ours. Sometimes there are a lot of words today but not always the most social of social circles that inevitably require collaborative authenticity and emotional maturity. There are some wise times to truly respect someone's emotions like if they're on their death bed or really ill, but if things are pretty even playing field in terms of general health and there's merely the problem of a reactionary person - ha, let em be reactionary - speak anyways and perhaps let their tornado of being unable to handle who we truly are be a separate matter from our true personal narrative, agenda, structure. The vast majority of a reaction speaks about the one reacting.
@@Astral_Dusk 100% yes. The real conundrum is that people are not even aware of the fact that they are escaping and distracting themselves from the "null and void" reality of their lives.
It's kinda like being in the "unconsciously incompetent" stage of competence. And until you're aware of it, nothing can change.
But yes, in short I agree. And people are FAR too concerned with how others perceive them. It paralyzes people and it's so sad 💗
You are amazing and what you have to say is amazing. I'm going to let my daughter know about your wonderful channel. I am 70, and I ran the gauntlet. I have lived my true life or close to it. Commit to what you want to do or how you want to life your life. I can confirm that what you say about the universe opening doors for you is true.
@@artieskeeter6318 🥹 thank you so much. That really means a lot. I bet you have an incredible life story. Thank you for confirming that this is the way to create a life worth living 🙏🏼💗
Thank you!!!💗 I moved to the states 6 years ago. Living in russia was a hell. Since elementary school, teachers and kids used to verbally and mentally abuse other kids(including me) for mistakes or things we didn't know. Imagine a teacher asking a kid to answer a question from a book and call them stupid if their answer was wrong😮💨 I'm glad I got to experience American school because everyone is very supportive here but the fear to speak is still living inside of me, especially when English is not my first language.
That's unreal 😢 Sounds pretty archaic. I wouldn't expect that to still be happening in schools. I believe it was that way in the States too, though, to be fair. My mom has told me horror stories about the nuns that used to teach in the Catholic schools. They were monsters 😂
I'm glad you got to have a contrasting experience, though!
@@makelifemedicine thanks😂 you are doing a great job. Good luck to you!
Some of us are truly getting the download from God. You just explained everything I am trying to accomplish in my life and practice. I’ve been shut down by getting labeled as having too big an Ego. It is self liberation. And then the experience of that is a truth I can share with others. I keep trying to reach out to people who are talking about this like you are, but no one is willing to talk about it! Amen it is bullshit. I would love to talk with you. ❤
Giiirrrrrlllll, yes. I am here WITH YOU. I promise you are not alone, and I too have been labeled selfish, among other things. Trust me, keep speaking up and sharing and you will reach the critical threshold where a massive weight is lifted, and you'll just start to catapult on an exponential trajectory!
Feel free to DM me over on IG @makelifemedicine ❤
AND you're a massage therapist, too?! Saaaaame, sis. 😉
@@makelifemedicinei will! Thank you!
It's not worth keeping on speaking out sometimes, it is too dangerous and better to just fade away, reduce and gaslighting and abuse, and stay alive. Depends how severe the abuse is and how powerful the people.
@@projectbirdfeederman5491 Context is key 🗝️. It depends on WHO you're speaking to and HOW you're speaking. There's definitely nuance and sometimes you need to be strategic.
But also, if you're in a situation where there's ongoing abuse and gaslighting, I'd recommend getting out of that situation. And there is ALWAYS a way 💗
on point and brilliant, thank you
🥲 Thank YOU! I'm so grateful for you watching 💗
Wow the perfect video arrives exactly when I need to hear it! Can I keep you on my shoulder for moments of self doubt? That would be very useful lol but I suppose that would negate the purpose of this self liberation journey wouldn’t it 😊 anyway thank you so much! I loved every second of this. Glad you put yourself out there so someone like me could hear you powerful message!
That's the algorithm hijacking your thoughts and curating your feed accordingly 🤣
If AI can create a pocket sized me, we can absolutely make that happen 😉
You are amazing! Wow, I'm speechless...those are such kind things to say. Thank you, Alleella! I'm really glad you're here, and I hope you stick around 🤗🥲💗
I appreciate you
People will think whatever they want to think. It only means anything to them. Nobody else should even care.
As I mentioned in an earlier comment I learned to avoid people and become invisible. It was a simple survival strategy.
But it wasn't working for me.
We're all part of a much much larger and more diverse "tribe." But we're now better able to find our own tribes.
Now that I'm retired I've drifted back into the shadows because it's still comfortable to me.
But I'm finally getting curious again and I need to make changes.
I had an influential friend who was a big fan of Anaïs Nin. She was a big proponent of journaling.
I like to believe anyone could easily say "You ain't seen nuthin' yet!"
Sometimes it's unspoken expectations hold us back. I have occasionally heard them clearly spoken.
Everybody is different and others just need to get used to that.
The phases you've experienced are very relatable, personally. In and out of survival mode, back and forth between isolated contentment and apprehensively putting oneself out there.
Introverted, intellectual types seem to battle this push/pull consistently throughout life. It's almost a defining characteristic.
I just discovered Anais Nin! I should explore her work more.
I agree, and I actually think its most often unspoken expectations. They can be more burdensome than the ones given a voice.
The only time I'm TRULY honest is under the anonymity of the internet. I was rejected and dumped after I fully revealed my flaws to someone I loved. Suuuuucks
@@varnishyourboard I am SO sorry. I've said many times that there's no greater pain than revealing yourself to someone you love and being rejected for it. It's tragic. I've experienced it, too, and I can understand wanting to protect yourself now. The internet is a beautiful place to express yourself with as many layers of anonymity as you need....and, as you begin to feel more comfortable you can choose to remove layers, one cloak at a time 😉💗
@@makelifemedicine Thank you! I'm working on that, but recently, I've gone full scorched-earth isolation/hermit mode. I never knew heartbreak could be so painful. 3 steps forward and 2 steps back is still moving forward though!
@@varnishyourboardit's SO painful, isn't it? You probably need this period of recuperating and healing so don't stress it.
100% you are moving forward.
I'm glad you commented and hope you stick around my little community I'm creating here 😊❤
@@makelifemedicine Thanks again. Liked and Subbed 🙂
@@varnishyourboard Yay! We will get through this together 😉
and, I have no more friends either. And I only speak to one family member.
@@MelissaPlessinger it sounds like you're in a transition phase. They are tough 😔
They don't last forever, but I know it feels that way when you're in it.
affraid of failing.... others opinions... county... cityhall... gouverment.. family.. friends
Males had to abide by tribalism too and tech and modern weaponry ended all that. But Christianity gave people love and peace and joy on the inside so nobody wanted to hurt people anymore.
Totally, tribalism is inherent to our species 🙌
I'm not so sure Christianity can claim that achievement though 😏
People made fun of my voice when I was young.
@@TheReneej19 FUCK 'EM. Seriously, FFFF those people. Childhood bullying is so traumatizing, and one of the things that enrages me the most. I hope you didn't allow it to dominate your own view of yourself 😌❤️
Gabor Mate'
@@oonojoe love him 💗
You’re a pretty together lady….
@@RiverWhisperPrd I'm a work in progress 😂😉❤️
@@makelifemedicine friend of Bill W.?
@@oonojoe Who is Bill W? 😅
@@makelifemedicine A co-founder of A.A.
@@oonojoe Ohhhh. You're asking if I'm his friend?