When I was young I used to be so afraid of getting a job, I mean profoundly terrified. I still have this issue to this day. Someone told me that I had a fear of people and that resonated with me. I was so afraid of going out there. My dad kicked me out after I finished college, I moved in with my sister and got a job that I hated then got kicked out again. I moved in with other people and I had gotten better and had more positive experience however I knew I was still carrying my fears and I wasn’t happy because I was working jobs that I hated. I eventually figured out how to improve my life by working as a private piano teacher and I made a living doing that. But now due to COVID I moved back and after three months of living with my family, I have found out yesterday that my family is selling the house, and now I am feeling that feeling of facing the fear of being responsible for my life. As I write this I can feel my eyes tearing up and I am so scared because I’d rather have someone take care of me so I can be free and focus on my art like I used to when I was younger, I feel afraid to go out into the world, but I just need to be brave and go through it.
Piano may be your best answer... Power of Music/sound frequencies unlocks your total viberation from which states it's in, look further, the 7cords ( 432 universal frequency), best of wishes to u, Much love Namaste 🙏🦋👁️♓
COVID creating this scamdemic is a joke to progress. Unfortunate. Just shows this fragile and delusional society we live in. I feel you man. Keep sticking around bud, don’t take anything too seriously. That’s what I have to remind myself.
I am in exactly the same boat as you right now. I feel relieved to see someone else who has a similar struggle. You are not alone in how very overwhelming trying to exist in this world is.
I recently started holding myself personally responsible with commenting on my favorite creator’s content and videos to help them get the recognition they deserve. I used to passively watch RUclips, and it was because I lacked confidence that the commentary I might put on the internet for all to see would look silly or I’d somehow feel too seen for comfort. 👀 It sounds small, but knowing that I can practice little things like this, and simultaneously add support to who l want to give it to (in this case, It’s amazing RUclipsrs like you, Teal ♡) by boosting your like count, comments and algorithm chances allows me to experience a small increase in confidence every time I do it! And inspires breaking down bigger doors of responsibility. I love you, you’re such a powerful and wise mentor. I wish for you everything!
This was exactly what I concluded a few years ago, and it has helped a lot. You put it very well when you said “too seen for comfort”, that was me. All the best.
It is excellent progress toward something, but not suitable in long term. Soon, you will give up on doing such a thing for making yourself a youtube channel or something bigger. It is just a matter of time. Like your comment!!!
@@wisdomofthewildempathsview581 hi may I drop by and listen? I would really enjoy and learn. I need help in applying my knowledge. Thank you kind Sir 🌈🎨💫🇮🇹🌞🐦
Every word in this video is true. We are all given a gift and we have the responsibility of using this gift to help others and ourselves without overpowering others.
I relate to this issue, sometimes we grow up with parents who puts us down because they have an inner sense of failure and because of pride don't want us to be seen as "better", so they make sure to destroy our self confidence
I HATE competition when someone constantly tries to be better than you and will put you down in order to feel better about themselves. I can understand it in the appropriate context, like a competitive board game, but even then, some adults go into a full blown outrage, flipping the table over and shouting or whatever...
This video hit home with me. I feel like if I don’t keep working a high paying stressful job just to have expensive cars/home that I am a failure to my family. I want to downsize, live minimalistic and do volunteer work. Having to take antidepressants and anxiety meds daily just to function is not living.
It’s really hard, isn’t it, this world we have created - I want to simplify too. So much of my identity is in the things I own, I find it hard to let go. Taking responsibility for it feels like I won’t get anything out of it. Xo
I handle responsibility well. But whenever I take responsibility for something, I immediately feel like I have to take it to the next level. Up to and including being president. It's almost impossible for my mind to talk myself out of it. It just happens.
Love you Teal. Life is so much better with you. I am so thankful and lucky to have a teacher to guide my healing journey. Just knowing that whenever I am lost, I can listen to your teachings and cope with the situation empowers me. Thank you You are such a brilliant teacher that every soul needs💗
I've started this video when it was posted in 2020, but then closed it due to the overwhelming emotions that started to bubble up. I had extremely low self-esteem, and I felt powerless about it. Healing my self worth felt daunting and never ending. But today, I'm watching this video as an empowered individual. I can look at this wound in the eye and I won't be shaken anymore. I can hold space for myself without feeling overwhelmed. It took me lots of ups and downs, tons of shadow work and inner child work, and I'm finally here again to be fully present this time. Whomever is reading this, and need a reminder or hope, it's doable. As Teal says all the time, "the better it gets, the better it gets". Don't give up on yourself.
I was JUST telling a friend during a hike that I love children and really want them but I can’t take the responsibility of having a partner or kids. This was meant for me
Taking responsibility is what gives meaning to our lives. It makes life meaningful enough to make the suffering of life bearable. I am paraphrasing Dr. JB Peterson. I wish I had understood this when I was young.... Women have a marriage clock and a baby clock, and it runs out faster than you think.
@@meagiesmuse2334 not to mention women also have the added responsibility of a more "responsible" lifestyle decisions/choices relative to pregnancy and nurturing healthy children. men can smoke and booze and do drugs and whatnot (even unprotected sex bcz HIV)but women have always been the one "holding the family together" a lot of times the self-sacrifice is already part of the deal, expected sort of.
I think you got the message wrong. Taking responsibility is a good thing, but overwhelming yourself is probably not the best choice, you SHOULD PROBABLY NOT take on ANY responsibility, this is NOT the message. Too much responsibility breaks down a lot of people, plenty of graphs to prove people become more and more unhappy as they bring children cause of how modern society is built. Just dive deeper into this, don't take such a big decision based on one video, with all due respect to teal.
Everyone, trauma or not, needs to take responsibility for their lives. Nobody else can do that for someone. Most of us want to help others whenever we can, but not if nothing ever changes. We all need to fix our own crap so we aren't sucking the life out of others when they try to help.
Personal accomplishments builds confidence. By completing one simple task in your personal life builds your confidence in take on more and more responsibilities. I learned that years ago after I lost my identity in my first marriage and I voiced that during and through the end of my second marriage. However, I got SO effective at taking on responsibility in my life that others began allowing me to take on THEIR responsibilities. Which now causes me to avert responsibility. My focus is more my OWN personal responsibilities. Tough love can appear like avoiding responsibility, but sometimes to prevent feeling like you HAVE to take on responsibilities you don't HAVE to, you got to say NO regardless of the outcome or threat of conflict. Responsibility REALLY IS a choice. I'm the person in this video who averted responsibility because self sacrifice didn't equal reward in my life but in others. So now, I comfortably CHOOSE what responsibility to take on and when there are concerns about those responsibilities, I firmly address them with the intent to find the best plan of action to execute those responsibilities with a 'win-win' outcome.
This makes me think about this frase i once heard. Responsibility is the ability to respond. Which helped me to look differently towards the idea of responsibility. Gave me a much freeër interpetation. Plus after hearing your words on the subject., it makes me want to look deeper into it. So thank you.
Ugh I feel this one SO deeply. I am literally all of the different scenarios combined in one. My entire life feels like one huge test in which I need to prove that I am capable when I feel like the polar opposite and then get judged on it! The pressure is having me spiral into panic on the daily. It’s so deeply programmed that whenever I DO try to take responsibility, I create some kind of scenario that puts me straight back into dependency. It’s wild y’all, I am working on it 💪🏼💥
You also have to take into account that as women we are not meant to be working, we are meant to be taken care of by the men of the tribe. So on top of the pressure of responsibility is the trauma of being abandoned by modern men, our fathers and brothers and husbands and men in general. Women are meant to work differently than men, doing different things, it's how we evolved. So if you have no masculine support, your DNA is traumatized and in constant fight flight.
I've always had this sinking feeling when taking responsibility and even when playing competitive games, I had panic attacks from it, I never knew what it was now I'll try to be more conscious and analyze what's is going on instead of bulldozing lol thank you so much
you feel very "airy" today. like freedom. This might be the video that touched me the most. almost everything you said about this is something that i've struggled with. pretty much spot on. i bulldozed the hell out of myself because i feel like not taking responsibility will result in pain or being looked down on or disconnection. and it feels disgusting to take responsibility like this. i know i always wanted to take responsibility and be empowered. i remember having fantasies about that but knowing that it's impossible. because of all these inexplainable , indescribable "things" in the way. (which is the things you described) and yeah.. definitely true about the conflict part. i avoid conflict completely because that means game over. that means disconnection forever. i see it as something like that. and if i am identified with the relationship with the person or with the other person , it's even worse.
Oesh, the conflict part you wrote, that hit hard, when you said "i avoid conflict completely because that means game over. that means disconnection forever. i see it as something like that. and if i am identified with the relationship with the person or with the other person , it's even worse". I never realized how that's such a big part of the fear of conflict, when we put our own worth/value in the relationship (as well as in the other person (acknowledging/wanting to be with us and to invest as much / to be in the relationship) instead of where it truly is, which is within ourselves. and trusting that, being confident with that. I'd be curious to know if you'd be willing to share more on how you personally came to realize this identification with the relationship / the person yourself, and how it felt realizing that, and if you feel like you're able grow and detach from this identification meanwhile? I definitely agree with what you said in the beginning. This video touched me too, in a deeper place I didn't know I was holding so much fear / aversion for yet. And like many others here as I can read, it comes at a wonderful time for me. I started a new, intense full-time job Monday, and after having graduated recently - so it's a big jump with lots of responsibilities to take on. Lots to unravel and to deal with: it's almost ironic how it's about taking full responsibility for healing our own fear for taking on responsibility (or of the effects / consequences it could have as we do).
@@marinikaP what you said is also right. what i was thinking is that because i am identified with someone else or with the relationship, then i become at risk. because i see them as me now. and if i separate from them forever , then its as if i die. and that's even more of a resistance than before. so now its not just the pain of disconnection. it's also ego death basically. or double ego death if you're identified with both. i guess you can add the self esteem ontop of it and it reveals itself to be very difficult. the reason for insecurity in relationships is because you're identified with the other person/the relationship, but because you're identified with the other person it's not a matter of choice whether you put your value (of yourself) in yourself or in the relationship/person. (because you see the relationship/person AS yourself.) so there is no distinction. it's just cause and effect. it's completely natural to react this way. and to be afraid this way. it's just cause and effect. it's as obvious as you being afraid as when you're falling down from an airplane. so all there is to do is to dis-identify and that solves the whole spiel.
I work as a nurse and I feel so responsible for my patients. Today will be my first work day after 3 weeks having Corona, and I felt this morning so anxious about getting back to work, because at my work almost everyone has Corona, so I'm the only one on my work. I needed this video so much now, thank you so much!!!! I feel way better to go work now.
I have huge anxiety over caring for my two boys. I don't feel I'll be able to cope. I've blamed myself for feeling this way but it's only now that I'm making the connections of my high levels of anxiety and the abuse that I've been exposed to by their father. He has continously used my children to inflict abuse and control including finding toxic ways to point out that I'm not a good mother. I've realised that after years of these constant put downs, insults and attacks, I have no confidence in being able to manage the responsibilities. I'm now focusing on repairing the damage and being able to take care of my children again. Thank you for this video, I really needed to hear this.
I can finally digest this information now that I have a better relationship with myself. I'll be watching this multiple times while I journal and pray. Thank you 😊
"Feeling the can and will in any given situation in your life is sth you DESERVE to experience! and that empowerment can be yours the second that you actually realize or ACTUALIZE the COURAGE to shoulder the emotional burden or the pressure that comes with responsibility!" ❤️❤️❤️ OMG, what a divine timing ! Teal, I felt that it was a divine message came to me through you❤️! Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
🧮💃🏻🧧💃🏻🧮💃🏻🧧💃🏻🧮 Replay ! One of ur best videos Teal. Never take it off RUclips 02:40 Reasons for fear of responsibility 08:28 Reason : You took responsibility in your life for something in past which didn’t lead to improvement in life (no reward ) True.. like weight loss and failures in love. 10:35 in my case it’s basically “fear of putting in the effort and money and not getting the desired results.. leading into DISAPPOINTMENT 😔” 10:58 Reason : the FEAR of PAST repeating and and FAILING ONCE MORE .
wow spot on ...fear of owning my life what a concept , and it just when I thought everything was going well. I need to take piles of responsibilities. Thank you very much Teal for everything you do.
Thank you Teal this is the main thing that’s been inhibiting my growth this year. For me it was growing up doing chores for my perfectionist Virgo mum 😅
I cant express how much I love you right now through a comment. I have been searching for a year and a half( when I started my spiritual jurney) for a feeling and I've been searching and searching and I've grown is so many ways but I never found this feeling that intuitively I knew I was looking for. I thought I've found it so many times but you know how intuition works. So I kept looking and looking. Once you brought up the tennis and taking care of siblings(in which I did have to do) you said that taking responsibility for my own siblings didn't benefit my but my parents did benefit thats when it clicked I've finally found the feeling. I can't thank you enough you have helped me grow so much. So thank you
When you gave the example of stepping in and taking responsibility for doing something I felt confident I could do... I noticed immediately that I would have the “out” of being able to say it wasn’t my job anyway I was being the “hero”. I grew up believing that fault and responsibility were the same thing. It’s very difficult to undo. Thanks Teal!
I feel like I am not alone feeling this fear, each and every 9 points were spot on for me, I have been struck with this fear for 11 years, not working because I am so scared, hope I'll overcome this someday, my hope keeps fading but Teal Swan is here with her articulate video with completion process. I love Teal for giving me courage and all the people here, my fellow travellers ❤️
For me, I feel like responsibility is kind of like a snowball rolling down a hill. At first you can control it but the more that you do the more that is expected of you. And for me it always eventually falls apart. I don't like when people expect things of me because eventually they'll be disappointed. It doesn't seem to matter if I explain to them in the first place that I have difficulty keeping on top of things and staying organized. I guess for me it's always felt like the first time I disappoint someone they just give up on me outright and if I want another chance it's this whole thing. Even the dentist is like this. If I missed two appointments without giving 24 hour notice then I get suspended and my cavities grow for months... But of course if it snows even a little bit they can cancel on me with no notice. I feel like this attitude has been reflected to me in every aspect of my life. I have honest memory issues as well as executive functioning issues. It's impossible that I won't eventually fail and I feel like I'm willing to accept that but I honestly feel like other people are not and I don't know how to change this. I'm really not happier without responsibility though because everyone treats me like I'm incapable which I'm not. I'm just a little more likely to fail than most people if things aren't set up right.
I have been heavily traumatized. The friend of the one who did things to me told me that it was my fault because I haven`t done anything to make him not traumatizing me....so therefore what has happened to me is my responsibility..... this is a level of..... don`t even have a word for it to describe what I feel now..
I liked this a lot - the responsibility exercise was very useful to see what my values are. I find that I do take responsibility for things, but I hardly think of them as responsibilities
i am highly confident and capable, but taking responsibility leads to a loss of freedom and I have big issue with that. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. It’s not just low self-confidence
This!!!! I am very confident and I know I can do things better than other people, just the feeling of being attached to something and losing my freedom gives me anxiety
May be being overly capable is itself a coping mechanism disguised as seeking validation , not depending on other or being able to control someone or something , if one can feel not whole then even confidence can be cover up by being in survival mode
Your amazing Teal. Totally under the radar, I wish more people could appreciate and recognize the great work you do. Thank you for continuing to speak the truth without compromising it to fit our egos. I will keep trying to spread the word about your work!
I have found out recently that my fear of responsibility lied upon my financial stability and avoiding becoming broke. What I have learned so far was that as a kid and my early teenage years, my mother would take a portion of whatever money I have earned from my part-time job working as a cashier and overall took control over my finances. Some cases she would take all if it and gave the "justified" reason that it was for the family expenses (mortgage, groceries etc) that it was my job in other words from being born into the family that I must pay for my mere existence. I hardly got to enjoy the fruits of my own hard work and the responsibility I was forced to make the money was to benefit her through contributing to the mortgage which was her main argument. When I explained any unfairness about that obligation that was forced upon me, it was met with animosity and I was reinforced the idea and belief that if I dont contribute, I am a selfish inconsiderate, neglectful daughter. Also, that money buys you respect but only short term. Whenever I do contribute to the family, I was able to earn not being treated like garbage but that only lasted so long before I would get treated bad again until suddenly it didn't matter if when I contribute or not, that didn't make much of a difference in the way I was treated. This video hit hard for me but I am so grateful for this clarity in seeing where this issue with money comes from. I got a lot of healing work to do 🙄. Thank you so much Teal!! 💕
On Saturdays I wake up now waiting to see what Teal's going to talk about and I prayed that it was something that I could really use in my life which is usually every Saturday her talks this morning was really powerful I gained a totally new perspective on responsibility and had no idea how much fear I was living in as a result of not taking responsibility I always thought I was a very responsible person and I am but there's a lot of areas where I live in fear of that and didn't put the two and two together wow thank you Teal again I learned so much from you all of your videos have been so pertinent to my life right now I've been leaving listening to some of your old ones the synchronization workshops they've been really powerful and sometimes painful but in a good way bless you. ❤️
I hate it when people worry about me for doing things differently. I have to stand up for my ideas, because the alternative is abandoning my ideas, worrying paranoidly about myself, and giving up my freedom.
I never realised or recognised my own unwillingness to be responsible was down to this but I recognise it now. Really useful video. So all I have to do is develop confidence in the things I need to be capable of doing that require my responsibility. I understand. Thanks.
You have so much insight, it is really enjoyable to listen and there are some epiphanies, even for a guy like me who's been around the block a few times. For me, fear of taking responsibility came from fear of losing freedom. I since took responsibility for find my own work (self employment) and it has permanently freed me from taking responsibilities for employers. I now say yes (or no) to customers.
This is so synchronistic Teal, wow, this was a great video. Oh my god have i struggled with this my entire life, fear of responsibility has truly been the bain of my life and root of so much stuckness which I have literally just this week hit a total brick wall with. You are so right that the fear is not of responsibility itself at all it is of the negative consequences involved in taking it that occurred in childhood. Even the word responsibility triggers me as I hear it as if its being spoken by the people with whom I could never win or do right with, just like your millennial wound video!!. I haven't realised just how bad my fear was until recently, I'm having to try and face it now in order to move forward even an inch. I was heavily criticised as a child and felt so humiliated and worthless and incompetent all the time, the list goes on, eventually this led to utter futility and stuckness and then feeling like such a failure for being stuck on top of the original fears. If I dare to put a foot forward i would feel this terror of the impeding humiliation arising and criticism and "I told you so's" so i would just retract and hide in my shell because I thought I can't do anything right, it will always be wrong and I will always be left feeling so small and stupid that I stopped trying altogether and just hid as best I could from life and people. I am 30 now and still struggling with this, its my toughest hurdle by far. This childhood scenario has led to so much self hate that you stop even wanting to live let alone take responsibility. I think the best way I've found to tackle this is inner child work, and feeling that if I look at a picture of myself then I can't hate her or feel she is wrong as much as I can do that to my adult self. I go back and try to undo all the blame i placed on myself and find underneath all the dark layers those parts of myself that were truly me and not total emeshment and self-abandonment. In order to want to take responsibility you have to first want to live, and second love yourself enough to want to move forward and be brave. Thanks Teal 😊 I really hope that soon I can see you live again! Lots of love to you, thank you xxxxx
Teal, I realize now that because of your diligent teachings that essentially reparent us so we can reparent ourselves, I have made huge strides to taking massive responsibility for my life where I previously avoided responsibility like the plague!!! I am so proud to see my massive growth since I first watched this video years ago! Now this was just a top-off rather than a life-overhaul! Thank you 🙏🏽
I would love a video about the negative side effects of suppressing your Emotions (longterm, short term). I think it will help people understand the importance to tune into their emotions even more. I would love to know. X
God... Teal, THANK YOU. This is it. This is what block me from achieving myself. I'm the 8 and 8th case and when I do something I like, even then, I feel like it wasn't for me. I feel like my being is taken from me. God , thank you for this break through..., I was looking for it. You heard it. I love you.
Thank you so much. When I watch your videos I always feel that you're /helping/ me, however hard it is to sometimes face the things you dissect. I can feel the intention of help in your videos, even if it's worded harshly sometimes. I'm very grateful for you being you and posting these videos. They have a big impact on me. Thanks!!
With great responsibility comes great power. It is the terror of having to accept that the bad things in life were one's fault. People never get the power to fully control the good in life so long as they give power over the bad to others. We are either in control of events in our lives or we are not. We fear accepting that we have caused the bad, or at least taken a big part in everything bad in our adult lives. The ego does not like this idea at all
I am manifesting my twin flame here that he is also Teal’s follower . Teal you have no idea how much I relate to your teaching and knowing myself more ❤ Thank You Goddess 👑
I’ve listened to your videos for years now (5+), and I’ve been on a bit of a ‘zig zag’ path. This video is shedding light on the direction I need to take. Now I realize that I need to ‘uproot’ the causes for ‘my ways’ and plant the seeds that are custom to my own ‘ways’ that benefit myself and others that I am responsible for. In my youth, I was always having responsibilities that were for the betterment of others (mother). I choose to repair this belief now, so I can do my best to raise my teen girls with their own value of having personal responsibility.
It’s been a while since I’ve listened to your videos but I am glad this one came up in my recommended. I appreciate the timing and the content. Bless 🦋✨
*I don't refuse to take responsibility. I refuse to take sole responsibility. I'm partly responsible, yes; but not entirely responsible. There are others who have refused to accept any responsibility at all, which is very unfair to me. It's unjust to ask me to shoulder all the responsibility. This notion can be called 'shared responsibility'. My psychological problem is that throughout my life I have chronically burdened myself with too much responsibility. I'm the person who wrongheadedly takes responsibility for everybody, a/k/a - the scapegoat. I take responsibility for the well-being of strangers, of people I've never met, people who don't know I exist and couldn't give a hoot what happens to me.*
Everyone must take responsibility over HIS LIFE. Others lives are responsibility of other people. Period. Sometimes people take responsibility over other people's lives, but not over their own. And they are letting them parasiting on them.
@@janbalaban5268 I can be responsible for myself and for others too, within reasonable limits.When someone else wrongs me or injures me, they ought to take responsibility for the harm they've caused to me - just as I do whenever I cause hurt or suffering to someone else. This is basic morality. But what do you do when someone injures you through malice or negligence and then they refuse to take responsibility? What if a medical doctor injures you and you are no longer able to be self-sufficient as a result, and the medical doctor doesn't acknowledge that they are responsible?
I like your videos very much. Just a few days ago I was thinking that I have to face the fear of responsibility in different areas in my life. I found the roots in my childhood of course. Thank you Teal you are very good spiritual teacher ❤️🙏
this was meant for me as well. I would really appreciate if you could elaborate on the competition aspect a bit more. I have always felt that me being "better" has alienated people. I have always lived small in fear.
Thank you for the immeasurable help you have given to countless souls. The clarity I gain from any of your videos empowers the deepest and blindest parts of me. I love you and your dedication. ❤️
This has hit me in the core! I have lived through that “or else” feeling of taking responsibility all my life because of pressure from others, especially when I feel that I am out of my control at work and with relationships. Like living on a knife-edge, it’s been like: “I have only just got this job”, “I have only just got this relationship”, “I have only just got this house”, etc., and I have only to make just _one tiny mistake_ and *BANG!* it’s all over forever!
Teal you have taught me to relax more and stop being so hyper responsibie. We love you thanks 4 all you do. We shout out your new book. 👍🌈👑💖🙏🇮🇹🎊👑💍 The book resonated with us in game development the term completionist. Dad still self harms at the Geri floor is inconsolable. I wish i didn't feel 40 and 70 at the same time.
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for this video! I didn't realize how much I needed it. Listening to your video was like putting the puzzle pieces of things I've noticed about myself and my life together. I have a lot of trauma with responsibility being many if not all of the adverse things you mentioned. I had an internship not that long ago that caused me to see a lot of the feelings I've avoided. And I've also realized I have a lot of recurring codependent habits or feelings of being forced into responsibility or powerlessness growing up. But now, I feel such a sense of relief having tools provided for me to face this aspect of myself. And you explaining that responsibility ultimately means trust and empowerment in myself is extremely motivating. I've already taken steps to learn how to be positively take responsibility but I still have a lot of work to do. A lot of truama I need to sit with and understand. Heck I was watching this video because I was procrastinating taking responsibility for the tests and homework that are due today. But honestly I'm glad I did because I think I needed to listen to this. I took notes to remind myself later as well. Thank you so much for what you do and the resources you provide Teal. They are incredibly valuable. I'm so glad I found your channel because I honestly like who I am now so much more since following your advice.
I needed this. Thank You Teal. Imagine if Dr. Judy Rosenberg and Teal Swan made a pod cast for people to learn? That would be cool. ...Then add Kevin Zadai in the mix and it would be a dynamic trio for healing the planet. Lord, please bless these amazing people.
When I was young I used to be so afraid of getting a job, I mean profoundly terrified. I still have this issue to this day. Someone told me that I had a fear of people and that resonated with me. I was so afraid of going out there. My dad kicked me out after I finished college, I moved in with my sister and got a job that I hated then got kicked out again. I moved in with other people and I had gotten better and had more positive experience however I knew I was still carrying my fears and I wasn’t happy because I was working jobs that I hated. I eventually figured out how to improve my life by working as a private piano teacher and I made a living doing that. But now due to COVID I moved back and after three months of living with my family, I have found out yesterday that my family is selling the house, and now I am feeling that feeling of facing the fear of being responsible for my life. As I write this I can feel my eyes tearing up and I am so scared because I’d rather have someone take care of me so I can be free and focus on my art like I used to when I was younger, I feel afraid to go out into the world, but I just need to be brave and go through it.
Piano may be your best answer... Power of Music/sound frequencies unlocks your total viberation from which states it's in, look further, the 7cords ( 432 universal frequency), best of wishes to u, Much love Namaste 🙏🦋👁️♓
COVID creating this scamdemic is a joke to progress. Unfortunate. Just shows this fragile and delusional society we live in. I feel you man. Keep sticking around bud, don’t take anything too seriously. That’s what I have to remind myself.
@@whitephoenix_oftheecrown7608 thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
@@sinoda3340 You are so welcome! , and oh trust I understand , one love to you dear ! , namaste to all 🙏🦋☮️
I am in exactly the same boat as you right now. I feel relieved to see someone else who has a similar struggle. You are not alone in how very overwhelming trying to exist in this world is.
I recently started holding myself personally responsible with commenting on my favorite creator’s content and videos to help them get the recognition they deserve.
I used to passively watch RUclips, and it was because I lacked confidence that the commentary I might put on the internet for all to see would look silly or I’d somehow feel too seen for comfort. 👀
It sounds small, but knowing that I can practice little things like this, and simultaneously add support to who l want to give it to (in this case, It’s amazing RUclipsrs like you, Teal ♡) by boosting your like count, comments and algorithm chances allows me to experience a small increase in confidence every time I do it! And inspires breaking down bigger doors of responsibility.
I love you, you’re such a powerful and wise mentor. I wish for you everything!
This was exactly what I concluded a few years ago, and it has helped a lot.
You put it very well when you said “too seen for comfort”, that was me.
All the best.
I feel you so much! Thank you for writing that down
It is excellent progress toward something, but not suitable in long term. Soon, you will give up on doing such a thing for making yourself a youtube channel or something bigger. It is just a matter of time. Like your comment!!!
waow you guys 🥺♥️ what a kind community here
You are truly appreciated 💫💓
this is some good ass shadow work
Ooohhh yeess
This week Ralph smart did a great upload on that.
Try my channel wisdom of the wild its more for men thanks
@@wisdomofthewildempathsview581 hi may I drop by and listen? I would really enjoy and learn. I need help in applying my knowledge. Thank you kind Sir 🌈🎨💫🇮🇹🌞🐦
@@405OKCShiningOn yes most definitely ive got a lot more ideas and everyone's welcome
We have to take charge of our own life, otherwise someone else will do that for us. Much love🙌🏻💚
Every word in this video is true. We are all given a gift and we have the responsibility of using this gift to help others and ourselves without overpowering others.
True 💫
True!!! true!!!
Fact! A lot of psychic vampires out there.. I love TEAL!
Jordan peterson says responsibility makes your life more meaningful and therefore meaning will make you feel truly happy.
I relate to this issue, sometimes we grow up with parents who puts us down because they have an inner sense of failure and because of pride don't want us to be seen as "better", so they make sure to destroy our self confidence
I HATE competition when someone constantly tries to be better than you and will put you down in order to feel better about themselves. I can understand it in the appropriate context, like a competitive board game, but even then, some adults go into a full blown outrage, flipping the table over and shouting or whatever...
This video hit home with me. I feel like if I don’t keep working a high paying stressful job just to have expensive cars/home that I am a failure to my family. I want to downsize, live minimalistic and do volunteer work. Having to take antidepressants and anxiety meds daily just to function is not living.
It’s really hard, isn’t it, this world we have created - I want to simplify too. So much of my identity is in the things I own, I find it hard to let go. Taking responsibility for it feels like I won’t get anything out of it. Xo
Downsizing and doing volunteering work sounds amazing! good luck and support from here
Omg , i was feeling fear of responsibility to become a supervisor and this video show up
I would like to thank Teal Swan for reminding me a few important things in this video.
Synchronicity on this one... i need to take responsibility. "Resonsibility comes with awareness" Osho.
I handle responsibility well. But whenever I take responsibility for something, I immediately feel like I have to take it to the next level. Up to and including being president. It's almost impossible for my mind to talk myself out of it. It just happens.
@1peter18 im starting a channel like this geared more for men your welcome to wisdom of the wild only got couple videos up so far but more to come
@Shawn RobinsDouble thanks for sharing this. May you be blessed by the courage and confidence you demonstrate be typing your truth!
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/how-to-get-over-the-fear-of-responsibility-r423/
Love you Teal. Life is so much better with you. I am so thankful and lucky to have a teacher to guide my healing journey. Just knowing that whenever I am lost, I can listen to your teachings and cope with the situation empowers me. Thank you You are such a brilliant teacher that every soul needs💗
Thank you Michelle
I've started this video when it was posted in 2020, but then closed it due to the overwhelming emotions that started to bubble up. I had extremely low self-esteem, and I felt powerless about it. Healing my self worth felt daunting and never ending. But today, I'm watching this video as an empowered individual. I can look at this wound in the eye and I won't be shaken anymore. I can hold space for myself without feeling overwhelmed. It took me lots of ups and downs, tons of shadow work and inner child work, and I'm finally here again to be fully present this time.
Whomever is reading this, and need a reminder or hope, it's doable.
As Teal says all the time, "the better it gets, the better it gets". Don't give up on yourself.
I was JUST telling a friend during a hike that I love children and really want them but I can’t take the responsibility of having a partner or kids. This was meant for me
Taking responsibility is what gives meaning to our lives. It makes life meaningful enough to make the suffering of life bearable. I am paraphrasing Dr. JB Peterson. I wish I had understood this when I was young.... Women have a marriage clock and a baby clock, and it runs out faster than you think.
@@meagiesmuse2334 not to mention women also have the added responsibility of a more "responsible" lifestyle decisions/choices relative to pregnancy and nurturing healthy children. men can smoke and booze and do drugs and whatnot (even unprotected sex bcz HIV)but women have always been the one "holding the family together" a lot of times the self-sacrifice is already part of the deal, expected sort of.
I think you got the message wrong. Taking responsibility is a good thing, but overwhelming yourself is probably not the best choice, you SHOULD PROBABLY NOT take on ANY responsibility, this is NOT the message. Too much responsibility breaks down a lot of people, plenty of graphs to prove people become more and more unhappy as they bring children cause of how modern society is built. Just dive deeper into this, don't take such a big decision based on one video, with all due respect to teal.
Everyone, trauma or not, needs to take responsibility for their lives. Nobody else can do that for someone. Most of us want to help others whenever we can, but not if nothing ever changes. We all need to fix our own crap so we aren't sucking the life out of others when they try to help.
Im screaming I was JUST writing about this. THANK YOU!
Personal accomplishments builds confidence. By completing one simple task in your personal life builds your confidence in take on more and more responsibilities. I learned that years ago after I lost my identity in my first marriage and I voiced that during and through the end of my second marriage. However, I got SO effective at taking on responsibility in my life that others began allowing me to take on THEIR responsibilities. Which now causes me to avert responsibility. My focus is more my OWN personal responsibilities. Tough love can appear like avoiding responsibility, but sometimes to prevent feeling like you HAVE to take on responsibilities you don't HAVE to, you got to say NO regardless of the outcome or threat of conflict. Responsibility REALLY IS a choice. I'm the person in this video who averted responsibility because self sacrifice didn't equal reward in my life but in others. So now, I comfortably CHOOSE what responsibility to take on and when there are concerns about those responsibilities, I firmly address them with the intent to find the best plan of action to execute those responsibilities with a 'win-win' outcome.
This makes me think about this frase i once heard. Responsibility is the ability to respond. Which helped me to look differently towards the idea of responsibility. Gave me a much freeër interpetation. Plus after hearing your words on the subject., it makes me want to look deeper into it. So thank you.
Ugh I feel this one SO deeply. I am literally all of the different scenarios combined in one. My entire life feels like one huge test in which I need to prove that I am capable when I feel like the polar opposite and then get judged on it! The pressure is having me spiral into panic on the daily. It’s so deeply programmed that whenever I DO try to take responsibility, I create some kind of scenario that puts me straight back into dependency. It’s wild y’all, I am working on it 💪🏼💥
You also have to take into account that as women we are not meant to be working, we are meant to be taken care of by the men of the tribe. So on top of the pressure of responsibility is the trauma of being abandoned by modern men, our fathers and brothers and husbands and men in general. Women are meant to work differently than men, doing different things, it's how we evolved. So if you have no masculine support, your DNA is traumatized and in constant fight flight.
I've always had this sinking feeling when taking responsibility and even when playing competitive games, I had panic attacks from it, I never knew what it was now I'll try to be more conscious and analyze what's is going on instead of bulldozing lol thank you so much
you feel very "airy" today. like freedom.
This might be the video that touched me the most. almost everything you said about this is something that i've struggled with. pretty much spot on.
i bulldozed the hell out of myself because i feel like not taking responsibility will result in pain or being looked down on or disconnection. and it feels disgusting to take responsibility like this.
i know i always wanted to take responsibility and be empowered. i remember having fantasies about that but knowing that it's impossible. because of all these inexplainable , indescribable "things" in the way. (which is the things you described)
and yeah.. definitely true about the conflict part. i avoid conflict completely because that means game over. that means disconnection forever. i see it as something like that. and if i am identified with the relationship with the person or with the other person , it's even worse.
Oesh, the conflict part you wrote, that hit hard, when you said "i avoid conflict completely because that means game over. that means disconnection forever. i see it as something like that. and if i am identified with the relationship with the person or with the other person , it's even worse".
I never realized how that's such a big part of the fear of conflict, when we put our own worth/value in the relationship (as well as in the other person (acknowledging/wanting to be with us and to invest as much / to be in the relationship) instead of where it truly is, which is within ourselves. and trusting that, being confident with that.
I'd be curious to know if you'd be willing to share more on how you personally came to realize this identification with the relationship / the person yourself, and how it felt realizing that, and if you feel like you're able grow and detach from this identification meanwhile?
I definitely agree with what you said in the beginning. This video touched me too, in a deeper place I didn't know I was holding so much fear / aversion for yet. And like many others here as I can read, it comes at a wonderful time for me. I started a new, intense full-time job Monday, and after having graduated recently - so it's a big jump with lots of responsibilities to take on. Lots to unravel and to deal with: it's almost ironic how it's about taking full responsibility for healing our own fear for taking on responsibility (or of the effects / consequences it could have as we do).
@@marinikaP what you said is also right. what i was thinking is that because i am identified with someone else or with the relationship, then i become at risk. because i see them as me now. and if i separate from them forever , then its as if i die.
and that's even more of a resistance than before.
so now its not just the pain of disconnection. it's also ego death basically. or double ego death if you're identified with both. i guess you can add the self esteem ontop of it and it reveals itself to be very difficult.
the reason for insecurity in relationships is because you're identified with the other person/the relationship, but because you're identified with the other person it's not a matter of choice whether you put your value (of yourself) in yourself or in the relationship/person. (because you see the relationship/person AS yourself.) so there is no distinction. it's just cause and effect.
it's completely natural to react this way. and to be afraid this way. it's just cause and effect. it's as obvious as you being afraid as when you're falling down from an airplane.
so all there is to do is to dis-identify and that solves the whole spiel.
I work as a nurse and I feel so responsible for my patients. Today will be my first work day after 3 weeks having Corona, and I felt this morning so anxious about getting back to work, because at my work almost everyone has Corona, so I'm the only one on my work. I needed this video so much now, thank you so much!!!! I feel way better to go work now.
I have huge anxiety over caring for my two boys. I don't feel I'll be able to cope. I've blamed myself for feeling this way but it's only now that I'm making the connections of my high levels of anxiety and the abuse that I've been exposed to by their father. He has continously used my children to inflict abuse and control including finding toxic ways to point out that I'm not a good mother. I've realised that after years of these constant put downs, insults and attacks, I have no confidence in being able to manage the responsibilities. I'm now focusing on repairing the damage and being able to take care of my children again. Thank you for this video, I really needed to hear this.
Yep under pressure & conflict are both of my biggest issues
The writing exercises in this helped me release so much tension and discover a lot of the roots of my trauma. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 💜💜
I can finally digest this information now that I have a better relationship with myself. I'll be watching this multiple times while I journal and pray. Thank you 😊
The fact that this is resonating with me rn is✨magical✨
I love how Teal always lays it out, 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8
For example being to forced to clean up by a parent who themselves is a slob and makes most of the mess.
Facts
I hugely fear taking financial responsibility for my life. My body was seriously contracting during this video 😬😖😩
I feel you, Carli. It’s my biggest issue in life
Right here with you.
ruclips.net/video/iKPGnW6N_rY/видео.html This might help& she have a book also.
"Feeling the can and will in any given situation in your life is sth you DESERVE to experience! and that empowerment can be yours the second that you actually realize or ACTUALIZE the COURAGE to shoulder the emotional burden or the pressure that comes with responsibility!" ❤️❤️❤️
OMG, what a divine timing ! Teal, I felt that it was a divine message came to me through you❤️! Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
🧮💃🏻🧧💃🏻🧮💃🏻🧧💃🏻🧮 Replay !
One of ur best videos Teal. Never take it off RUclips
02:40 Reasons for fear of responsibility
08:28 Reason : You took responsibility in your life for something in past which didn’t lead to improvement in life (no reward )
True.. like weight loss and failures in love.
10:35 in my case it’s basically “fear of putting in the effort and money and not getting the desired results.. leading into DISAPPOINTMENT 😔”
10:58 Reason : the FEAR of PAST repeating and and FAILING ONCE MORE .
wow spot on ...fear of owning my life what a concept , and it just when I thought everything was going well. I need to take piles of responsibilities. Thank you very much Teal for everything you do.
Thank you Teal this is the main thing that’s been inhibiting my growth this year. For me it was growing up doing chores for my perfectionist Virgo mum 😅
I cant express how much I love you right now through a comment. I have been searching for a year and a half( when I started my spiritual jurney) for a feeling and I've been searching and searching and I've grown is so many ways but I never found this feeling that intuitively I knew I was looking for. I thought I've found it so many times but you know how intuition works. So I kept looking and looking. Once you brought up the tennis and taking care of siblings(in which I did have to do) you said that taking responsibility for my own siblings didn't benefit my but my parents did benefit thats when it clicked I've finally found the feeling. I can't thank you enough you have helped me grow so much. So thank you
This is a vibrational match to my Reality because I believe in miracles🤩
When you gave the example of stepping in and taking responsibility for doing something I felt confident I could do... I noticed immediately that I would have the “out” of being able to say it wasn’t my job anyway I was being the “hero”. I grew up believing that fault and responsibility were the same thing. It’s very difficult to undo. Thanks Teal!
I felt that By not saving her I wasn’t her savior. But fights don’t end until your enemy is dead.
Your awesome 👌 love from the UK
I feel like I am not alone feeling this fear, each and every 9 points were spot on for me, I have been struck with this fear for 11 years, not working because I am so scared, hope I'll overcome this someday, my hope keeps fading but Teal Swan is here with her articulate video with completion process. I love Teal for giving me courage and all the people here, my fellow travellers ❤️
For me, I feel like responsibility is kind of like a snowball rolling down a hill. At first you can control it but the more that you do the more that is expected of you. And for me it always eventually falls apart. I don't like when people expect things of me because eventually they'll be disappointed. It doesn't seem to matter if I explain to them in the first place that I have difficulty keeping on top of things and staying organized. I guess for me it's always felt like the first time I disappoint someone they just give up on me outright and if I want another chance it's this whole thing. Even the dentist is like this. If I missed two appointments without giving 24 hour notice then I get suspended and my cavities grow for months... But of course if it snows even a little bit they can cancel on me with no notice. I feel like this attitude has been reflected to me in every aspect of my life. I have honest memory issues as well as executive functioning issues. It's impossible that I won't eventually fail and I feel like I'm willing to accept that but I honestly feel like other people are not and I don't know how to change this. I'm really not happier without responsibility though because everyone treats me like I'm incapable which I'm not. I'm just a little more likely to fail than most people if things aren't set up right.
When I agree with Teal, it is always based on personal experience. She has really helped me understand myself way better.
I know this video is old, but oh my gosh. I'm LOVING the hair. You've always had beautiful hair, but you''re flowing with the change you made!
I have been heavily traumatized. The friend of the one who did things to me told me that it was my fault because I haven`t done anything to make him not traumatizing me....so therefore what has happened to me is my responsibility..... this is a level of..... don`t even have a word for it to describe what I feel now..
First one to comment feels like too much responsibility
I liked this a lot - the responsibility exercise was very useful to see what my values are. I find that I do take responsibility for things, but I hardly think of them as responsibilities
i am highly confident and capable, but taking responsibility leads to a loss of freedom and I have big issue with that. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. It’s not just low self-confidence
This!!!!
I am very confident and I know I can do things better than other people, just the feeling of being attached to something and losing my freedom gives me anxiety
The fear of loss of freedom usually boils down to a fear of being out of control.
May be being overly capable is itself a coping mechanism disguised as seeking validation , not depending on other or being able to control someone or something , if one can feel not whole then even confidence can be cover up by being in survival mode
True freedom is the belief in self to being able to trust self and face anything even one does not get what I expect by sharing himself or herself
you have a video on everything I need to know, I listen to your videos everyday, it's been so healing and transformative and validating. Thank you!
Your amazing Teal. Totally under the radar, I wish more people could appreciate and recognize the great work you do.
Thank you for continuing to speak the truth without compromising it to fit our egos.
I will keep trying to spread the word about your work!
I have found out recently that my fear of responsibility lied upon my financial stability and avoiding becoming broke.
What I have learned so far was that as a kid and my early teenage years, my mother would take a portion of whatever money I have earned from my part-time job working as a cashier and overall took control over my finances. Some cases she would take all if it and gave the "justified" reason that it was for the family expenses (mortgage, groceries etc) that it was my job in other words from being born into the family that I must pay for my mere existence. I hardly got to enjoy the fruits of my own hard work and the responsibility I was forced to make the money was to benefit her through contributing to the mortgage which was her main argument. When I explained any unfairness about that obligation that was forced upon me, it was met with animosity and I was reinforced the idea and belief that if I dont contribute, I am a selfish inconsiderate, neglectful daughter.
Also, that money buys you respect but only short term. Whenever I do contribute to the family, I was able to earn not being treated like garbage but that only lasted so long before I would get treated bad again until suddenly it didn't matter if when I contribute or not, that didn't make much of a difference in the way I was treated. This video hit hard for me but I am so grateful for this clarity in seeing where this issue with money comes from. I got a lot of healing work to do 🙄. Thank you so much Teal!! 💕
On Saturdays I wake up now waiting to see what Teal's going to talk about and I prayed that it was something that I could really use in my life which is usually every Saturday her talks this morning was really powerful I gained a totally new perspective on responsibility and had no idea how much fear I was living in as a result of not taking responsibility I always thought I was a very responsible person and I am but there's a lot of areas where I live in fear of that and didn't put the two and two together wow thank you Teal again I learned so much from you all of your videos have been so pertinent to my life right now I've been leaving listening to some of your old ones the synchronization workshops they've been really powerful and sometimes painful but in a good way bless you. ❤️
I hate it when people worry about me for doing things differently. I have to stand up for my ideas, because the alternative is abandoning my ideas, worrying paranoidly about myself, and giving up my freedom.
Come at my life Teal! Didn't know how much I needed to hear this
I'm so grateful to have a mentor I can fall back on whenever I'm lost. It soothes my heart beyond anything. Thankyou from the bottom of my heart!
Thank you Teal 👏👏👏👏
I never realised or recognised my own unwillingness to be responsible was down to this but I recognise it now. Really useful video. So all I have to do is develop confidence in the things I need to be capable of doing that require my responsibility. I understand. Thanks.
You have so much insight, it is really enjoyable to listen and there are some epiphanies, even for a guy like me who's been around the block a few times. For me, fear of taking responsibility came from fear of losing freedom. I since took responsibility for find my own work (self employment) and it has permanently freed me from taking responsibilities for employers. I now say yes (or no) to customers.
This is so synchronistic Teal, wow, this was a great video. Oh my god have i struggled with this my entire life, fear of responsibility has truly been the bain of my life and root of so much stuckness which I have literally just this week hit a total brick wall with. You are so right that the fear is not of responsibility itself at all it is of the negative consequences involved in taking it that occurred in childhood. Even the word responsibility triggers me as I hear it as if its being spoken by the people with whom I could never win or do right with, just like your millennial wound video!!. I haven't realised just how bad my fear was until recently, I'm having to try and face it now in order to move forward even an inch. I was heavily criticised as a child and felt so humiliated and worthless and incompetent all the time, the list goes on, eventually this led to utter futility and stuckness and then feeling like such a failure for being stuck on top of the original fears. If I dare to put a foot forward i would feel this terror of the impeding humiliation arising and criticism and "I told you so's" so i would just retract and hide in my shell because I thought I can't do anything right, it will always be wrong and I will always be left feeling so small and stupid that I stopped trying altogether and just hid as best I could from life and people. I am 30 now and still struggling with this, its my toughest hurdle by far. This childhood scenario has led to so much self hate that you stop even wanting to live let alone take responsibility. I think the best way I've found to tackle this is inner child work, and feeling that if I look at a picture of myself then I can't hate her or feel she is wrong as much as I can do that to my adult self. I go back and try to undo all the blame i placed on myself and find underneath all the dark layers those parts of myself that were truly me and not total emeshment and self-abandonment. In order to want to take responsibility you have to first want to live, and second love yourself enough to want to move forward and be brave. Thanks Teal 😊 I really hope that soon I can see you live again! Lots of love to you, thank you xxxxx
I felt this so intimately Jennifer 😕 it’s so painful to exist this way. It really helps to know I am not alone. Thank you for sharing
@@indigolynn4192 so glad this helped you, you're definitely not alone 😇💗
Could not get by without Teals talks....she makes so much sense and I have grown so much xx thank you Teal for being you. Vionna UK
Teal,
I realize now that because of your diligent teachings that essentially reparent us so we can reparent ourselves, I have made huge strides to taking massive responsibility for my life where I previously avoided responsibility like the plague!!! I am so proud to see my massive growth since I first watched this video years ago! Now this was just a top-off rather than a life-overhaul! Thank you 🙏🏽
I would love a video about the negative side effects of suppressing your Emotions (longterm, short term). I think it will help people understand the importance to tune into their emotions even more. I would love to know. X
God... Teal, THANK YOU. This is it. This is what block me from achieving myself. I'm the 8 and 8th case and when I do something I like, even then, I feel like it wasn't for me. I feel like my being is taken from me.
God , thank you for this break through..., I was looking for it. You heard it. I love you.
Teal, you could talk about anything and I'd listen just cause your voice is so calming. Thanks for another great video!
Thank you so much. When I watch your videos I always feel that you're /helping/ me, however hard it is to sometimes face the things you dissect. I can feel the intention of help in your videos, even if it's worded harshly sometimes. I'm very grateful for you being you and posting these videos. They have a big impact on me. Thanks!!
With great responsibility comes great power.
It is the terror of having to accept that the bad things in life were one's fault. People never get the power to fully control the good in life so long as they give power over the bad to others.
We are either in control of events in our lives or we are not. We fear accepting that we have caused the bad, or at least taken a big part in everything bad in our adult lives. The ego does not like this idea at all
I am manifesting my twin flame here that he is also Teal’s follower . Teal you have no idea how much I relate to your teaching and knowing myself more ❤ Thank You Goddess 👑
How is it going
I like the Cause and Effect that was explained clearly. Thanks Teal 🙏❤
I recognized my patterns within the first few minutes. This was so helpful, thank you. 🙏
Love you Teal. You are the best inspirational teacher here
I have ever related to one of your videos more than I relate to this one. Practically every word is true for me!!!!
Oh my God! This is amazing! Thank you sooo much for putting this content together.
This is literally what I worked on with all my parts this week that was in fear about my business :)
This video has helped me so much, I appreciate the wisdom you have to share.
I like how she breaks down everything
I love your videos, they re so complete with deep subjects ! Nothing to add, Amen
I needed this today more than you think. Incredible timing
I’ve listened to your videos for years now (5+), and I’ve been on a bit of a ‘zig zag’ path. This video is shedding light on the direction I need to take. Now I realize that I need to ‘uproot’ the causes for ‘my ways’ and plant the seeds that are custom to my own ‘ways’ that benefit myself and others that I am responsible for. In my youth, I was always having responsibilities that were for the betterment of others (mother). I choose to repair this belief now, so I can do my best to raise my teen girls with their own value of having personal responsibility.
Also, thank you so much for all of your amazing videos @TealSwan
It’s been a while since I’ve listened to your videos but I am glad this one came up in my recommended. I appreciate the timing and the content. Bless 🦋✨
*I don't refuse to take responsibility. I refuse to take sole responsibility. I'm partly responsible, yes; but not entirely responsible. There are others who have refused to accept any responsibility at all, which is very unfair to me. It's unjust to ask me to shoulder all the responsibility. This notion can be called 'shared responsibility'. My psychological problem is that throughout my life I have chronically burdened myself with too much responsibility. I'm the person who wrongheadedly takes responsibility for everybody, a/k/a - the scapegoat. I take responsibility for the well-being of strangers, of people I've never met, people who don't know I exist and couldn't give a hoot what happens to me.*
Everyone must take responsibility over HIS LIFE. Others lives are responsibility of other people. Period.
Sometimes people take responsibility over other people's lives, but not over their own. And they are letting them parasiting on them.
@@janbalaban5268 I can be responsible for myself and for others too, within reasonable limits.When someone else wrongs me or injures me, they ought to take responsibility for the harm they've caused to me - just as I do whenever I cause hurt or suffering to someone else. This is basic morality. But what do you do when someone injures you through malice or negligence and then they refuse to take responsibility? What if a medical doctor injures you and you are no longer able to be self-sufficient as a result, and the medical doctor doesn't acknowledge that they are responsible?
I like your videos very much. Just a few days ago I was thinking that I have to face the fear of responsibility in different areas in my life. I found the roots in my childhood of course. Thank you Teal you are very good spiritual teacher ❤️🙏
this was meant for me as well. I would really appreciate if you could elaborate on the competition aspect a bit more. I have always felt that me being "better" has alienated people. I have always lived small in fear.
Perfect timing.🌻 thank you Teal. 💚
Thank you for the immeasurable help you have given to countless souls. The clarity I gain from any of your videos empowers the deepest and blindest parts of me. I love you and your dedication. ❤️
Thank you teal really appreciate all the help and insight
All the above and below .... Thanks Teal, as always much Love your way !
I read ur blog post on this and it changed my life. You are the best
That's so weird! I was just writing about this last night :) Thank you
This has hit me in the core!
I have lived through that “or else” feeling of taking responsibility all my life because of pressure from others, especially when I feel that I am out of my control at work and with relationships.
Like living on a knife-edge, it’s been like:
“I have only just got this job”,
“I have only just got this relationship”,
“I have only just got this house”,
etc.,
and I have only to make just _one tiny mistake_ and *BANG!* it’s all over forever!
Thank you dear Teal Swan...May blessings shower upon you...as you help many in their awakening process...Namaste.
Teal you have taught me to relax more and stop being so hyper responsibie. We love you thanks 4 all you do. We shout out your new book. 👍🌈👑💖🙏🇮🇹🎊👑💍
The book resonated with us in game development the term completionist.
Dad still self harms at the Geri floor is inconsolable. I wish i didn't feel 40 and 70 at the same time.
Love your teachings! And your energy in this video was so grounding
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for this video! I didn't realize how much I needed it. Listening to your video was like putting the puzzle pieces of things I've noticed about myself and my life together. I have a lot of trauma with responsibility being many if not all of the adverse things you mentioned. I had an internship not that long ago that caused me to see a lot of the feelings I've avoided. And I've also realized I have a lot of recurring codependent habits or feelings of being forced into responsibility or powerlessness growing up.
But now, I feel such a sense of relief having tools provided for me to face this aspect of myself. And you explaining that responsibility ultimately means trust and empowerment in myself is extremely motivating. I've already taken steps to learn how to be positively take responsibility but I still have a lot of work to do. A lot of truama I need to sit with and understand.
Heck I was watching this video because I was procrastinating taking responsibility for the tests and homework that are due today. But honestly I'm glad I did because I think I needed to listen to this. I took notes to remind myself later as well. Thank you so much for what you do and the resources you provide Teal. They are incredibly valuable. I'm so glad I found your channel because I honestly like who I am now so much more since following your advice.
I needed this. Thank You Teal. Imagine if Dr. Judy Rosenberg and Teal Swan made a pod cast for people to learn? That would be cool. ...Then add Kevin Zadai in the mix and it would be a dynamic trio for healing the planet. Lord, please bless these amazing people.
Needed exactly this right now🙏Thank Youuu❤❤
Wow, I'm going to be revisiting this one for a long time. Thank you
19:31 this is a breakthrough for me, I never thought about that side of the coin, thx Teal.
Thank you Teal, I really needed this insight right now.
I had to overcome the fear of responsibility when clicking on this video.
im a follower of teal thats a part of my personality