What Infidelity Does To The Betrayed and How To Recover Part 1 w Hasani & Danielle Pettiford
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- Опубликовано: 16 дек 2021
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16:40 is so right on. When Hasani says overwhelmingly most people don’t break up over the affair but over how the betrayer shows up or doesn’t show up after. Yes, that’s absolutely so true!
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Absolutely wonderful show!
Thank you so much! You two are wonderful! ❤️❤️ God bless you both! 🙏🏼💝
My husband is defensive and secretive right now … it’s been a few months since dday and I want to separate at least once a day … if he doesn’t start doing a really deep dive with his therapist our 35 yr relationship could be over … he has childhood trauma to work through I now realize his affair had nothing to do with me … he used things about me as a justification to have a 2 yr affair … he told me he thought he could have an affair and then end it and never tell me 😡😡 he is a very selfish judgemental man right now … he is a stranger … hoping both IC and MC can help us both 🙏🙏🙏
He chose to cheat on *you*. The affair was about what you couldn’t give him that he got from someone else…
I'm thankful 🎉for this conversation... this was very constructive 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for this episode
Wow, you hit the nail on the coffin, thank you for the truth, i can show this to my husband because this is exactly my situation. He is holding some details, like the number of prostitutes he had for 7 years, he is minimizing , because he is scared to lose me.
Yikes!!!! Please get yourself tested....
Good information
Is that Chalene ❤ what a fantastic trio!!!!
If your partner is a narcissistic psychopath who showed no remorse just drop them get the best divorce attorney you can and GTFO ONCE YOU KNOW YOU GO
Thank you sincerely 😢
Love you guys. So detailed and helpful in everyway. God bless you both.
I wish my wife was on your same page. She has not a clue how devastating it was to me. I just want to die every day.
What to do if your partner pays for prostitution and porn
Is there a part 2?
So what if she has been lying about credit card debt for a few years. That's the one thing that kills me I would've rather she cheated. I did it out of spite. Because I didn't know what else to do.
What do you do when your spouse just simply enjoy having sex with different partners? He’s not interested in leaving the marriage or even intrigue by an “affair”. He just likes having sex with different women! How does the wife deal with that foolishness? I thought seriously about leaving in several occasions but ultimately never followed through. In all other aspects of the marriage he is 90% perfect!!
Seriously? Do you care that he sleeps with other women behind your back? Or even if he tells you he is going to are you ok with it? If the answer is NO then stop being a doormat and leave that cheating pos
i mean if you aren't okay with it then you should divorce him, you would benefit from it a lot anyway.
The whole point of marriage is monogamy are you not worried about diseases and how its breaking your self esteem
Unfortunately it sounds like there is an underlying addiction/ coping strategy in place . Probably has nothing to do with sex and would encourage him to go to personal counseling to work through his “Why “ . Regardless of how well he does other things he putting your household at risk .
Hopefully he is able to make changes before it is too late .
Stop having sex with him and move out from the bedroom …..go out and make yourself friends that you will have fun …..most men out there are looking for sex only so be careful …..just have fun ….THIS HAPPENED TO ME . I can’t and won’t TRUST ANY MAN WHATSOEVER. THEY ARE WATCHING PORN , HAVE CYBERSEX , PHONE SEX , ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING FOR AN ORGASM ….
Also what about the two young teen sons and the husband letting them know and getting them involved
Was there ever a part 2 to this topic? I haven’t been able to find it.
I hear u say cut off the relationship but, what do u do when he has cheated with his child’s mother. He can’t cut it off
Ugh but strict boundaries maybe
Maybe you can make a boundary that you are with your husband when he picks up or drops off his child? And he only email the mother for corresponding any information concerning their child...of course he would have to WANT these safety boundaries as well....
How can three people academically discuss affair recovery for the betrayed but not a single one of them really knows what being betrayed is like, looks like, and feels like because he or she has gone through it?
I think the reality is that when one person is the TRUE victim of infidelity you cannot expect the other 2 to even be on the same page, they will expect forgiveness, mercy and will not be nearly as understanding or willing to work with you from the side of your most hurt, yeah a cheater can feel bad and hurt (usually it's more to do with a selfish hurt) and the 3rd parties may feel hurt (usually it's embarrassment). Do not be fooled, it's a matter of inconvenience and image that hurts them more than anything ever, the faithful is the one who truly deserves mercy not those who choose to willingly do wrong, there are obvious situations like being unfaithful as a mate in non-infidelity (like removing sex, being a nag, and verbally/emotionally/resource or physically abusive) that can trigger someone to become a cheater but really it depends. Jesus said you can divorce because he knew the reality of it, it often cannot be salvaged because either party is not mature enough to be accountable to whatever they may have done and the time and effort it takes can be like being in a crappy relationship were any sense of joy and love is gone for a time that may be intolerable and result in abuses and more problems if not dealt with properly. Jesus even said NOT to marry because it is the better choice and in reality it is, especially, now when people are more easily able to act out their desires due to the social networks we have and the modes of transport that facilitate connecting with people from anywhere were back in Jesus' time, it would mostly be local with a few passer bys coming through town and eventually you'd be caught much sooner or easily and have more community and social backlash (and stoning in some cases). The consequences are not as severe in theory now. It's a shame people still use their monkey brains to live life and only want to be mature when things are easy.
I DONT FORGIVE NOR FORGET …..ITS A MISTAKE THAT ALL WOMEN DO ….