There are a few factors in improving your marriage. One plan I found which successfully combines these is the Pavs partner pundit (google it if you're interested) without a doubt the most helpful blueprint that I have ever heard of. look at the super info .
i guess im asking the wrong place but does someone know of a way to get back into an Instagram account? I somehow forgot the password. I would appreciate any help you can give me.
@@lequinnmejia2492 i called Hasanti at a terrible point in my marriage of 23 years. I was facing my husbands 3rd affair with very little hope. Hasanti HAD THE ANSWERS to all my questions when no-one else did. We counseled with him and his wife and they gave us the tools to see clearly what had been the source of all the infidelity AND they taught us how to fix it . We are still married and our marriage is better than it ever was . 😊
@@camato726 my husband had a lot of childhood trauma and used porn to escape the feelings of bitterness. He projected the pain onto me and our children and was always thinking there was someone who would complete him. Until he faced those truths he couldn't change . By the grace and help of God he was delivered ❤️❤️
I believe #6 is kinda of unfair to the hurt/betrayed partner . For them to “keep details that may be harmful to me to know” is not it! You already hurt me, i’m already destroyed, dont save me from any pain and tell me EVERYTHING! It’s my right to determine what is painful or not, it : def not up to the other person .
8 Ways To Restore Your Marriage After Infidelity: 1) End the affair 2) Take 100% of the responsibility for the affair 3) Attempt to empathize with your spouse’s reactive emotions (if you don’t help them to recover from the damage you’ve caused, you’re abandoning them again!) 4) Recommit to your spouse 5) Be completely honest and transparent with your betrayed spouse. Answer their questions and give them the details they’re asking for. NO MORE LIES! NO MORE OMISSIONS! NO MORE MINIMIZATIONS! 6) Protect your spouse from the details that will haunt their mind. (I somewhat disagree with this. Where was their protection when you were cheating? How can you do #5 and withhold the details?) 7) Seek help with the brokenness in your own mind. 8) Express gratitude to your spouse that stayed after you broke them.
Extensive research and studies have revealed women cheat more than men. Mainly because men often ignore the emotional and physical needs of women. So without restoring the basic problem, cheaters will always be cheaters. Both partners have equal responsibility for relationship breakdown.
I agree with SIX, I feel bad for all the HURT, I wish I could take it all back but if I tell my hubby EVERYTHING, it would crush him, he can never stay and I swear it would hurt him too much more than I can ever imagine, I never ever thought it would hurt him so much even the ones he knows, i was so blinded by resentment and anger......., I don't want to lose him mentally, the weight is already way too much, because unfortunately no professional help yet (I really wish I can book the Pettiford's' but I just started following them and hope I get the way). I would keep asking GOD For mercy. I would show him as much, love, care and value I can add to him and knowing that NOTHING IS HIDDEN under the sun. I KNOW he would still find out and maybe just maybe we might still work things out. If not, I would have to live with my consequences for ever. May GOD help us. My husnand desrves all the happiness in the world.
@@De-tw7by THeres NO EXCUSE for cheating but am the unfaithful woman and I have been feeling like a devil, but I was so so emotional fagged out and I felt my husband hated me and he fought me and kept malice from me like an enemy and I told him, you fight me like another man like an enemy. I lost on all accounts! I felt dejected and I still feel like crap and I am very imperfect as well. I don't like it at all. BUT I wish I didn't cheat, the after effect on me is worse!! I hate it so much. I would never have wanted to be the one to do this! Ever! I CAN NEVER CHEAT again and listen to the video above, "the two people contributed to the vulnerability of the relationship but you are 100% responsible for the affair.". wow! I wish I looked for help before I cheated, I wish I NEVER did it. There is NO EXCUSE for it.
Hi my name is Marcus Banks and I need HELP. I cheated on my wife and I DON'T WANT TO HER ANYMORE. I feel 😪 so, so BAD that I did that to her. I've been honest about everything. I answered all the questions she's asked me. I've taken full responsibility for my behavior and I want to getting back to us. I didn't have sex with the person just alot of texting but I know what I did was highly wrong I just wanna know how can I get my wife back. Please give me the tools I need to make it right.
I want to applaud you for at least being honest and answering her questions at least. I can't even get that, he just wants me to forget it and move on. If she is even open to working it out, time plus the steps in this video will help. But honestly, it's if she can get through the PTSD...the constant thinking of you with this other person, what you did to them, how you liked what they did better, her looks and shape compared to hers, and most importantly why you risk what you had with your wife for the lame reason you gave. Empathy is the most important thing to me right now, and I gets none. Ask her what she needs, give it to her, earn her back, and don't let it happen again...she has to feel that.
We are four months from d-day. My d-day is March 23rd. I will always remember it. My husband and I have been to couples therapy. We’ve also been to individual therapy. My husband to discover why he did this, and me for how to deal with PITSD. My husband sent me one of your RUclipss, and I having bingeing since. I have listened to multiple different help sites, RUclips’s, the therapy, etc. No one. No one! Has spoken to my heart like you two. They are all kind and helpful in their own ways. But you say it like it is. No hemming or hawing around the point. Thank you!! I’m continuing to binge, and thank you!
Hi, sorry about your experience, did you want to know every single detail and how did it affect you? Please I would really appreciate your response, am the unfaithful spouse.
My boyfriend cheated on me for 2 months behind my back. He literally came out the other day and told me, but I'm assuming that he only told me because the lady cut him off, she told me everything. He basically was telling me and her the same thing. Everyone knew about her but me when it was to late. He called me from jail and told me everything he's done and said he was sorry that he's willing to make it up to me. I'm so beyond hurt it's not even funny. We were suppose to get married in two years, now I feel like I don't even know what to do. I still love him but I don't trust him. I told him that I'm hurt and I need time to heal, he told me he understands and is willing to do whatever he has to, to make this right for us. I forgive him I'm just beyond hurt
He is in a very vulnerable place right now being in jail. Been there, done that. He may be telling you what ever he needs to because he needs your support right now. He doesn’t want to be left at his lowest place. That’s selfish and it’s not love.
Hi , we are on the same boat , cheated on me for 3 months , was supposed to get married in a year later, I'm literally going insane.. i thought he's the one for me.. literally couldn't wait for our marriage n our happily ever after. I've already imagined the whole thing in my mind..n now that the trust is broken.. the pain i feel is out of words. He's also feeling deeply sorry, saying he'll do everything to earn my trust again.. seeking God for the sins he committed. But i don't know what i am supposed to do here.. I'm shattered in an unimaginable way
My husband and I are cheating on one another on and off we won’t admit it to one another. But we. Both know we have done it may still be doing it. I’m devistated we both want to make it work and we aren’t going anywhere. Please help
First, just stop! Then get counseling to see why you are in this cycle, and why you are even together. I really hope you are with single people and not ruining other relationships, otherwise you will be dealt with until karma is done. Best wishes.
My dear if you seriously want help to get ex or a specific personMr john is the best when it comes to recovery relationship, he helped me get my ex and he can also help you.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions. I say this often. Intentions are only genuine when there's a plan in place to implement those intentions.
I'm haunted by alot of stuff from the affair, then after the affair, months later he contacted her again while we were not together that was a stab in my heart, the reason we got issues is because of his addiction and his affair. I never cheated and bever would.
Even if you can keep some datails from the hirt spouse, some details are obvious, for instance what he did sexually with you he was doing with her and even had a baby.
I can’t see to be able to do 6 and respect 5? I guess everyone is different but imo you shouldn’t “protect” which will lead to “lies” and more hurt and wont let me move on.
I has the affair and my husband has moved in with another woman. I am devastated, but these videos along with fasting and praying are giving me hope that the Lord can and will restore what I destroyed 🙌🏽😭🙌🏽
Not going to happen. You are going to have to live with it. Praying never accomplished anything. It is doing that accomplishes something. Get to a gym and take off those pounds. You will feel better about yourself. Bleach your hair and a new hair do for the same reason.
My husband accuses me of cheating all the time (which I'm not) My husband is a pastor and he does not walk the the word of GOD he was called to do, As a man he does more wrong than doin the work God call him to do now he wants to divorce me because he is cheating Remember he a Pastor So help me save my marriage I willing to forgive
Ok, 1 reason is: The times, WWIII or civil war, disease, famine - nobody’s gonna go through that better with you than the person who vowed to God that only death would do you part. Nobody’s gonna protect your shared children from that better than the other parent, in general. (Although this is not true for every case, use your best judgement) Um… what else? Are there other reasons lately? To stay in it? Because you might grow into the type of person you’d want to be. You’re gonna get old anyway, might as well get those rich rewards of lifetime relationships. Holding those in honor is an amazing benefit. And you’ll lose more than just your spouse if that ends.
My dear if you seriously want help to get ex or a specific personMr john is the best when it comes to recovery relationship, he helped me get my ex and he can also help you. .
@codenamekidnextdo… I’ll pray for you and your wife. Did she openly tell you or you probed her? Is she remorseful? I was remorseful and we have flourished.
@@husbandslockerroom4041 she told me herself she said the guilt was eating her up. She doesn't show remorse like a normal person but she says she is and we are seperated right now.
Ok intreged my husband had affair for 14 yrs he managed to stay out my life for 2 yrs after he came bk and i sent him away as the lady was still around ouch the this yrs we married in march and ouch he still has the lady. Openly he wasnt isnt willing to state he has had this lady' in his life as evidently evidence. State he has lol hes even told stories takes on himself
My dear if you seriously want help to get ex or a specific personMr john is the best when it comes to recovery relationship, he helped me get my ex and he can also help you. .
My dear if you seriously want help to get ex or a specific personMr john is the best when it comes to recovery relationship, he helped me get my ex and he can also help you. .
Will u cut the head if ur having headache. Lot of studies have revealed women cheat more than men because men are too busy and ignore her emotional and physical need. So before throwing some out think that you have contributed to the root cause.
If he's had 2 affairs but seems really sorry n won't do it again how to I believe him n forgive? We can't afford therapists or counseling he is the only one who works n I'm trying to get my disability but how do I know if I'm wasting my time?
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I am so ANGRY all the time. .. I feel stuck 😪 I can't take the lies anymore
There are a few factors in improving your marriage. One plan I found which successfully combines these is the Pavs partner pundit (google it if you're interested) without a doubt the most helpful blueprint that I have ever heard of. look at the super info .
i guess im asking the wrong place but does someone know of a way to get back into an Instagram account?
I somehow forgot the password. I would appreciate any help you can give me.
Do a lie detector test. It helps them to come out with everything. I did one and it helped a lot
@@RobertJohnson-wh8si my husband is so narcissistic he is always willing to take one. And with that emphatic response, he probably would
My prayers are for you!!!
These two wonderful people saved my life and my marriage !!!!
How so?
@@lequinnmejia2492 i called Hasanti at a terrible point in my marriage of 23 years. I was facing my husbands 3rd affair with very little hope. Hasanti HAD THE ANSWERS to all my questions when no-one else did. We counseled with him and his wife and they gave us the tools to see clearly what had been the source of all the infidelity AND they taught us how to fix it . We are still married and our marriage is better than it ever was . 😊
@@Czibs111 can I ask what the root of the infidelity was?
@@camato726 my husband had a lot of childhood trauma and used porn to escape the feelings of bitterness. He projected the pain onto me and our children and was always thinking there was someone who would complete him. Until he faced those truths he couldn't change . By the grace and help of God he was delivered ❤️❤️
@@Czibs111 thank you for your response; so happy for you and your family..
I believe #6 is kinda of unfair to the hurt/betrayed partner . For them to “keep details that may be harmful to me to know” is not it! You already hurt me, i’m already destroyed, dont save me from any pain and tell me EVERYTHING! It’s my right to determine what is painful or not, it
: def not up to the other person .
8 Ways To Restore Your Marriage After Infidelity:
1) End the affair
2) Take 100% of the responsibility for the affair
3) Attempt to empathize with your spouse’s reactive emotions (if you don’t help them to recover from the damage you’ve caused, you’re abandoning them again!)
4) Recommit to your spouse
5) Be completely honest and transparent with your betrayed spouse. Answer their questions and give them the details they’re asking for. NO MORE LIES! NO MORE OMISSIONS! NO MORE MINIMIZATIONS!
6) Protect your spouse from the details that will haunt their mind. (I somewhat disagree with this. Where was their protection when you were cheating? How can you do #5 and withhold the details?)
7) Seek help with the brokenness in your own mind.
8) Express gratitude to your spouse that stayed after you broke them.
What if the affair continues
Yes
Extensive research and studies have revealed women cheat more than men. Mainly because men often ignore the emotional and physical needs of women. So without restoring the basic problem, cheaters will always be cheaters. Both partners have equal responsibility for relationship breakdown.
I agree with SIX, I feel bad for all the HURT, I wish I could take it all back but if I tell my hubby EVERYTHING, it would crush him, he can never stay and I swear it would hurt him too much more than I can ever imagine, I never ever thought it would hurt him so much even the ones he knows, i was so blinded by resentment and anger......., I don't want to lose him mentally, the weight is already way too much, because unfortunately no professional help yet (I really wish I can book the Pettiford's' but I just started following them and hope I get the way). I would keep asking GOD For mercy. I would show him as much, love, care and value I can add to him and knowing that NOTHING IS HIDDEN under the sun. I KNOW he would still find out and maybe just maybe we might still work things out. If not, I would have to live with my consequences for ever.
May GOD help us. My husnand desrves all the happiness in the world.
@@De-tw7by THeres NO EXCUSE for cheating but am the unfaithful woman and I have been feeling like a devil, but I was so so emotional fagged out and I felt my husband hated me and he fought me and kept malice from me like an enemy and I told him, you fight me like another man like an enemy. I lost on all accounts! I felt dejected and I still feel like crap and I am very imperfect as well. I don't like it at all. BUT I wish I didn't cheat, the after effect on me is worse!! I hate it so much. I would never have wanted to be the one to do this! Ever! I CAN NEVER CHEAT again and listen to the video above, "the two people contributed to the vulnerability of the relationship but you are 100% responsible for the affair.". wow!
I wish I looked for help before I cheated, I wish I NEVER did it. There is NO EXCUSE for it.
The background music is so distracting. I wanted to listen but I couldn't 😌
Next time can you make the sound softer it's disturbing
Hi my name is Marcus Banks and I need HELP. I cheated on my wife and I DON'T WANT TO HER ANYMORE. I feel 😪 so, so BAD that I did that to her. I've been honest about everything. I answered all the questions she's asked me. I've taken full responsibility for my behavior and I want to getting back to us. I didn't have sex with the person just alot of texting but I know what I did was highly wrong I just wanna know how can I get my wife back. Please give me the tools I need to make it right.
I want to applaud you for at least being honest and answering her questions at least. I can't even get that, he just wants me to forget it and move on. If she is even open to working it out, time plus the steps in this video will help. But honestly, it's if she can get through the PTSD...the constant thinking of you with this other person, what you did to them, how you liked what they did better, her looks and shape compared to hers, and most importantly why you risk what you had with your wife for the lame reason you gave. Empathy is the most important thing to me right now, and I gets none. Ask her what she needs, give it to her, earn her back, and don't let it happen again...she has to feel that.
Getting the images out of my head for both his affairs is so hard. We've been together 12 yrs been 3 yrs since the affairs but first constantly
Same here. He asks why I can't let it go by now. I wish I could!
did he give you the details and do you think that what made it harder?
I’m so angry it’s like I don’t even love him no more I just don’t know what to do 😢
What do you mean you don't know what to do? Leave and file for divorce. 🤷🏾♀️
We are four months from d-day. My d-day is March 23rd. I will always remember it. My husband and I have been to couples therapy. We’ve also been to individual therapy. My husband to discover why he did this, and me for how to deal with PITSD. My husband sent me one of your RUclipss, and I having bingeing since. I have listened to multiple different help sites, RUclips’s, the therapy, etc. No one. No one! Has spoken to my heart like you two. They are all kind and helpful in their own ways. But you say it like it is. No hemming or hawing around the point. Thank you!! I’m continuing to binge, and thank you!
What’s a d day?
Hi, sorry about your experience, did you want to know every single detail and how did it affect you? Please I would really appreciate your response, am the unfaithful spouse.
Marriage can thrive but the one who cheated need to be remorseful and repent to God.
I totally agree!!
I cheated he forgave me I cheated again... I will never regain his trust again... it's not him it's my deamons and issues
This ia the worst thing some one should go through
My boyfriend cheated on me for 2 months behind my back. He literally came out the other day and told me, but I'm assuming that he only told me because the lady cut him off, she told me everything. He basically was telling me and her the same thing. Everyone knew about her but me when it was to late. He called me from jail and told me everything he's done and said he was sorry that he's willing to make it up to me. I'm so beyond hurt it's not even funny. We were suppose to get married in two years, now I feel like I don't even know what to do. I still love him but I don't trust him. I told him that I'm hurt and I need time to heal, he told me he understands and is willing to do whatever he has to, to make this right for us. I forgive him I'm just beyond hurt
He is in a very vulnerable place right now being in jail. Been there, done that. He may be telling you what ever he needs to because he needs your support right now. He doesn’t want to be left at his lowest place. That’s selfish and it’s not love.
Hi , we are on the same boat , cheated on me for 3 months , was supposed to get married in a year later, I'm literally going insane.. i thought he's the one for me.. literally couldn't wait for our marriage n our happily ever after. I've already imagined the whole thing in my mind..n now that the trust is broken.. the pain i feel is out of words. He's also feeling deeply sorry, saying he'll do everything to earn my trust again.. seeking God for the sins he committed.
But i don't know what i am supposed to do here.. I'm shattered in an unimaginable way
Neither of you elaborated on what the unfaithful can do on d-day annis. I would really love to hear any tips. Please respond, thanks
My husband and I are cheating on one another on and off we won’t admit it to one another. But we. Both know we have done it may still be doing it. I’m devistated we both want to make it work and we aren’t going anywhere. Please help
First, just stop! Then get counseling to see why you are in this cycle, and why you are even together. I really hope you are with single people and not ruining other relationships, otherwise you will be dealt with until karma is done. Best wishes.
Restore it by getting a divorce. If they cheating they don't love you...move on and don't look back!
Agreed
Not true at all.
I’d love to hear y’all but your background music is way too loud. Actually I don’t you need any, it’s a distraction.
My dear if you seriously want help to get ex or a specific personMr john is the best when it comes to recovery relationship, he helped me get my ex and he can also help you.
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The road to hell is paved with good intentions. I say this often. Intentions are only genuine when there's a plan in place to implement those intentions.
Step 1) Leave.
Step 2) File for divorce
That's what you do bro. I don't understand why people even waste their time. If one cheats they'll do it again. Why waste each others time
Watching from Kenya
What are some exercises my fiancé and I can do together to help build our bond? Like a couple’s guessing game or something? Work sheets?
Powerful. Hope God will help through the journey of reconciliation
I'm haunted by alot of stuff from the affair, then after the affair, months later he contacted her again while we were not together that was a stab in my heart, the reason we got issues is because of his addiction and his affair. I never cheated and bever would.
Your husband hates you. Leave.
“Trickle Truth” That Part!
He very disconnected because of third party he said he wants to figure it out by him self.
Restore? If a person is un faithful then that is the end. I could never trust in that person again.
Then why ya here Tamora?
Bingo. This forgiveness crap is just that. Forgiving is easy but not forgetting is not.
The music kills the message
I love this message and it was information that I needed. My question is how can I get a copy of the transcription?
Omg cut the music....
Even if you can keep some datails from the hirt spouse, some details are obvious, for instance what he did sexually with you he was doing with her and even had a baby.
Awesome information
Me looking into this website; another reason I have to be angry with my cheating wife.
A LOT
Leave her
I can’t see to be able to do 6 and respect 5?
I guess everyone is different but imo you shouldn’t “protect” which will lead to “lies” and more hurt and wont let me move on.
I have a question are women more forgiving than the man is about an affair I feel that women might overcome it better than men
I has the affair and my husband has moved in with another woman. I am devastated, but these videos along with fasting and praying are giving me hope that the Lord can and will restore what I destroyed 🙌🏽😭🙌🏽
@Noelle Aviles stop with this in all the comments. Seriously.
Not going to happen. You are going to have to live with it. Praying never accomplished anything. It is doing that accomplishes something. Get to a gym and take off those pounds. You will feel better about yourself. Bleach your hair and a new hair do for the same reason.
Praying does work
My husband accuses me of cheating all the time (which I'm not) My husband is a pastor and he does not walk the the word of GOD he was called to do, As a man he does more wrong than doin the work God call him to do now he wants to divorce me because he is cheating Remember he a Pastor So help me save my marriage I willing to forgive
Wow D Date Anniversary
Thanks u. I used this for the relationship but more so to heal myself.
I need help please reach out to me I don't want to lose my relationship please..
Ok, 1 reason is:
The times, WWIII or civil war, disease, famine - nobody’s gonna go through that better with you than the person who vowed to God that only death would do you part. Nobody’s gonna protect your shared children from that better than the other parent, in general. (Although this is not true for every case, use your best judgement)
Um… what else? Are there other reasons lately? To stay in it?
Because you might grow into the type of person you’d want to be.
You’re gonna get old anyway, might as well get those rich rewards of lifetime relationships. Holding those in honor is an amazing benefit. And you’ll lose more than just your spouse if that ends.
I can't deal with the lies
He go to work and then come back to the room after he went out all night long
My dear if you seriously want help to get ex or a specific personMr john is the best when it comes to recovery relationship, he helped me get my ex and he can also help you. .
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Thank you for the advice.
This is baloney. Cheaters do not stop and become reformed. They just become better at lying.
That's where I'm at with it. I don't know how to trust after the first time
🖕🖕Whenever you need to have concrete evidence about a cheater, to prove a point or use in defense ... 📌
Im going threw this right now the emotional roller-coaster my wife just told me 3 days ago she cheated last year I'm heartbroken..
@codenamekidnextdo… I’ll pray for you and your wife. Did she openly tell you or you probed her? Is she remorseful? I was remorseful and we have flourished.
@@husbandslockerroom4041 she told me herself she said the guilt was eating her up. She doesn't show remorse like a normal person but she says she is and we are seperated right now.
Please help me my husband is in midlife crisis
What is D-Day?
The day you discover the affair.
Do you have any upcoming academies show’s coming up?
This realy helped me
jevic from Phillipines
Jevic, stop hainging out at the short time house.
Ok intreged my husband had affair for 14 yrs he managed to stay out my life for 2 yrs after he came bk and i sent him away as the lady was still around ouch the this yrs we married in march and ouch he still has the lady. Openly he wasnt isnt willing to state he has had this lady' in his life as evidently evidence. State he has lol hes even told stories takes on himself
I have a question
i really need to talk to you guys its a 911
How do I know he ended the affair
What if he keeps denying it despite presenting evidence??
I am there I have circumstancial evidence and he can’t explain it?I don’t know is all he is saying that and nothing happened.
My dear if you seriously want help to get ex or a specific personMr john is the best when it comes to recovery relationship, he helped me get my ex and he can also help you. .
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@@genarogarcia6284 I can’t afford it but I appreciate it
Going trough the same thing right now. So upsetting.
I am in agony
jevic
Good Morning
Great!
❤️❤️❤️❤️
Why would anyone want to "work it out" with a cheater?
There’s nothing to restore Hun. Throw him/ her away. If he/she cheated, how else do you want him/her to tell u they don’t want you anymore??? 🤦🏾♀️
My dear if you seriously want help to get ex or a specific personMr john is the best when it comes to recovery relationship, he helped me get my ex and he can also help you. .
+1 2 0 8 4 4 6 2 5 3 3,,
@@genarogarcia6284 He’s an ex for a reason. I don’t want him back.
Will u cut the head if ur having headache. Lot of studies have revealed women cheat more than men because men are too busy and ignore her emotional and physical need. So before throwing some out think that you have contributed to the root cause.
I need this. Im watching
If he's had 2 affairs but seems really sorry n won't do it again how to I believe him n forgive? We can't afford therapists or counseling he is the only one who works n I'm trying to get my disability but how do I know if I'm wasting my time?
You are wasting your time.