I had this with my son times 8 times he did 'crazy!' and I finally learned MY lesson--healing me, healed him and the situation!! I realized he was unconsciously playing a pre-destined role to teach me SURRENDER!! It was amazing.
@@amna378 For me, Yes! I will do a youtube video on my channel soon--I feel that we all had agreements before we came to help each other awaken to the unconscious to heal all aspects of Self.
I love Rupert's very practical and clear advice in this matter. Clarity in separating reactions from "the separate self" as opposed to "natural authentic reactions".
As a mother of a 13-year-old teenager, i found so important this kind of topic. I am really grateful to the woman who brought it and to Rupert, who iluminates the situation with his already known wisdom. Thank you so much!!!
It feels like as a child my father 'owned' me, i had to be there for him. And now i need to look for the inner strenght (which seemed impossible sometimes) and find back my own voice to speak up for myself. E.g. to stop friends going over the line (energetically or in real). It sounds simple, but inside I ve been very confused because these people are friendly. And i never learned my will counts. I am glad Rupert also says Walk away. And don't work it out with him, but come back later. To acknowledge this strength inside I have to stay safely inside myself.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Reading your comment made me realize that all of my childhood I also believed that I belong to my parents like any piece of property & this might be the reason why I've struggled to speak out my mind or stand up for myself.. this needs some serious contemplation
I can’t express enough how I understand this situation and the mental, emotional chaos, almost as an abyss when it’s at worst. I have been there, three times, nearly at ones. I found the way and it’s exactly as Rupert describes it, but it takes time and one has to find the strenght to endure, work on self and see the own part in the game. It’s painful and you don’t see the end and it goes on and on and on ........... but there will be the glimpse of light from time to time and one day it’s over. And you both will get strengthened and the love will blossom. One has to fight and surrender at the same time, every day but it’ll be over and you will learn a lot about yourself on the way. I send you all my love and hope!! ❤️🦋🙏
@@BigSausageTits Ok....but "loving or not" is just another perspective of the ego, which does not even exist. A phantom loves now that carrying and chopping!
Roman Korber you are absolutely correct from my poor description,my neutrality towards work/life is 3 months old,it's fresh and vibrant.i call it love from my shadow,thank you for that insight..i have infinite things yet to learn...but my life has drastically changed.i cannot claim otherwise. how long have you been conscious? do you have any advice if you have passed my timeframe?
The purpose of it is to change one's life and it does do that, chop wood and fetch water is a survival need it won't change in consciousness it will get pleasure, and better in the doing of it etc.
Best "parenting" there is - watching yourself. Too many parents suffer under the illusion that the child is "their property" and the children (older) suffer for it.
You go to a teacher like him, spend the money, the planning, the build up, the event, the underlying drive to be free, get up there, wait for the mic, get your opportunity to ask a question that you don't know the answer to, for some sort of clarity and then... interrupt him throughout his answer as if you know better.
@Dean Mitchell I am mother of tennagers too. My Guru told me something when I brought fort a similar question. The guru's words detonated the false belief that was present. Reverence to the wise one also helped in that process.
I know what you mean but I like that he allows it! It’s part of her sounding off with her resistance and helps us voyeurs understand her reaction, to which Rupert too takes in, and responds to. It also keeps it real, free of the trappings of master student.
Rupert is like the human version of Data, the android from Star Trek: TNG. I mean that in a good way in that he computes/analyses things carefully before he makes a pronouncement. I wish more people were like that.
Interesting comparison, quite a compliment I would say. Data was unaware of a personal identity, his behaviour was merely motivated by general better outcome. In a way, Data was the embodiment of nondualism. I mis Data.
@@curiosity_saved_the_cat Data is my favourite character from TNG. He did entertain non-dualism at times but largely due to being around human beings. He had his own character and, in a sense, had an identity as the episode with that Dr who wanted to dissect him shows. He didn't wish to be dissected so was sentient and could express his will. Data was principled and even showed human qualities to bring about the better outcome you speak of. For example, when he captained the ship to detect the Romulans. Priceless :)
Does non-dualism prevent anything from not wanting to be dissected? Does the better outcome rely on human qualities? From my perspective Data's point of view has little to do with common human qualities, but everything with cold logic; which excludes presence of an 'I' and only includes everything. Still, the number one directive in his programming is to be human, to fit in the whole - even if it includes the potrayal of a non-logical dualistic perspective.
@PowerOf One if he was driving high that obviously isn´t ok, but it didn´t seem like it. Taking drugs doesn´t necessary have to do anything with lacking. It can just be an interesting expirience. Escpecially psychedelic drugs are taken by people who are interested in consciousness etc.
There are times and situations so severe that the best you can do is be aware of being aware, thus centered in your inherent wholeness of being until time catches up, until the elements of your experience re-organize themselves around the new bio-electro-magnetic epi-center, by choosing to maintain inherent joy and happiness regardless of everything against it instead of being miserable because of everything against it.
The problem is she is not a good listener. She has to respond, to interrupt so the work needs to be done on herself. She needs to find her own peace. She needs to take responsibility for what’s happening. She thinks she already knows. She must meditate and meditate and learn to release her own tensions.
It's a tricky thing and very easy to fool oneself. To what extent are we suffering because we are denying our true expression in favor of a spiritualized ideal or basic fear? "The no in you must come from your strength and not your reactivity." And this phrase which I got from David Hoffmeister : "I manifest my invulnerability." which is my Beingness and everything but my psychological self. This weakness, which is an expression of my neediness, must be given up.
We are an unchangeable eternal being, knowing everything we see, think or experience is changing & temporal. Everything happens; But nothing happens to me! (My self) Relax with rock solid facts!
The questioner is annoying. She keeps talking over Rupert continually. She keeps saying, "I know," before he even finishes his sentence. Rupert is so patient! I admire how he doesn't react to that.
you will abide there when you are all gone,or rather your identity/ego are all gone. don't chase it,instead take egoic thoughts as they arise and hold them in your consciousness,feel them in the moment and you'll feel the negativity dissolve. it's really freaky but it works. good luck to you.
The woman talks too much.. and at same time, side by side... Too much overlapping of both speakng at same time. Unnecessarily.. Like yes, I know, I know, nah, yes, I understand etc.. She can nod silently instead.. I mean it becomes difficult for audience to understand.
All of the human power n strength is located in the part of the brain , n physicality of our genital identity. The brain n physicality connected together makes us , who we truly are. I write this based on , without listening to the vid . Probably off topic .... Emotional intimate intelligence at it best , is the highest most human form of humanity.
Not sure about this - is he really manipulating her as Rupert suggests or is she just getting in his busines too much? The son has been away in Australia and then comes back and disturbs her peace. Perhaps there's some resentment and issues of control that needs looking at. I wonder what the son's perspective is, that would be interesting...
“Normally people suppose that a Jnani should suppress all the emotional outbursts. That is not correct. With your standpoint in the Absolute, you are not concerned with the feelings and instinctive outbursts of the apparatus.” - Sri Nisargadatta Maharaji
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The "no" in you must come from your strength, not from your reactivity. Thankyou my Brother.
I love his silence!
I had this with my son times 8 times he did 'crazy!' and I finally learned MY lesson--healing me, healed him and the situation!! I realized he was unconsciously playing a pre-destined role to teach me SURRENDER!! It was amazing.
beautiful realization. Thank you for sharing, that really helped me today.
Hello, how do you know it was a pre-destined role? Thank you.
@@amna378 For me, Yes! I will do a youtube video on my channel soon--I feel that we all had agreements before we came to help each other awaken to the unconscious to heal all aspects of Self.
@@amna378 because there are no 'triggers' or internal chaos if they are not.
@@AngelicaChristi Wasn't it the victim-perpetrator danse? It takes 2 to tango.
I love Rupert's very practical and clear advice in this matter. Clarity in separating reactions from "the separate self" as opposed to "natural authentic reactions".
As a mother of a 13-year-old teenager, i found so important this kind of topic. I am really grateful to the woman who brought it and to Rupert, who iluminates the situation with his already known wisdom. Thank you so much!!!
It feels like as a child my father 'owned' me, i had to be there for him. And now i need to look for the inner strenght (which seemed impossible sometimes) and find back my own voice to speak up for myself. E.g. to stop friends going over the line (energetically or in real).
It sounds simple, but inside I ve been very confused because these people are friendly. And i never learned my will counts.
I am glad Rupert also says Walk away. And don't work it out with him, but come back later.
To acknowledge this strength inside I have to stay safely inside myself.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Reading your comment made me realize that all of my childhood I also believed that I belong to my parents like any piece of property & this might be the reason why I've struggled to speak out my mind or stand up for myself.. this needs some serious contemplation
I can’t express enough how I understand this situation and the mental, emotional chaos, almost as an abyss when it’s at worst. I have been there, three times, nearly at ones.
I found the way and it’s exactly as Rupert describes it, but it takes time and one has to find the strenght to endure, work on self and see the own part in the game. It’s painful and you don’t see the end and it goes on and on and on ........... but there will be the glimpse of light from time to time and one day it’s over. And you both will get strengthened and the love will blossom. One has to fight and surrender at the same time, every day but it’ll be over and you will learn a lot about yourself on the way. I send you all my love and hope!! ❤️🦋🙏
I love the line, "go to your impersonal being".
Non duality doesn't change life. "Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water."
... may change you attitude ...
it deeply changes perspective though.
now i love that carrying and chopping.
to me that changes life.
@@BigSausageTits Ok....but "loving or not" is just another perspective of the ego, which does not even exist. A phantom loves now that carrying and chopping!
Roman Korber
you are absolutely correct from my poor description,my neutrality towards work/life is 3 months old,it's fresh and vibrant.i call it love from my shadow,thank you for that insight..i have infinite things yet to learn...but my life has drastically changed.i cannot claim otherwise.
how long have you been conscious? do you have any advice if you have passed my timeframe?
The purpose of it is to change one's life and it does do that, chop wood and fetch water is a survival need it won't change in consciousness it will get pleasure, and better in the doing of it etc.
Best "parenting" there is - watching yourself. Too many parents suffer under the illusion that the child is "their property" and the children (older) suffer for it.
Amazing Rupert thank you!!!
I appreciate his advice to walk away when emotionally triggered rather than arguing and trying to be right.
every parent has been through this, great advice
You go to a teacher like him, spend the money, the planning, the build up, the event, the underlying drive to be free, get up there, wait for the mic, get your opportunity to ask a question that you don't know the answer to, for some sort of clarity and then... interrupt him throughout his answer as if you know better.
How true , brings frustration in other listening bodies 🙏
Thank you for this wisdom 🙏
Thank you Rupert!
Thank you, thank you, thank you 🌹
Great talk. Thanks for sharing, Rupert. I love the ones, which are going right into daily experiences🙏❤️🍀🌞
thank you sir
I love these conversations but it will be nice for the questioners to ask questions and then not interrupt the Master when he is responding.
@Dean Mitchell I am mother of tennagers too. My Guru told me something when I brought fort a similar question. The guru's words detonated the false belief that was present. Reverence to the wise one also helped in that process.
I know what you mean but I like that he allows it! It’s part of her sounding off with her resistance and helps us voyeurs understand her reaction, to which Rupert too takes in, and responds to. It also keeps it real, free of the trappings of master student.
Beautiful. Thank you!
Thanks Rupert for sharing this wonderful video
Absolutely, I know, I know, I know, Yes, I know, I have, I did, Yes, I know, Absolutely, I know, I know, I know, I can't, Okay, I know, I know, I know
Wonderful
People are so adorable....
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Thank you
I love you Rupert
Rupert is like the human version of Data, the android from Star Trek: TNG. I mean that in a good way in that he computes/analyses things carefully before he makes a pronouncement. I wish more people were like that.
Interesting comparison, quite a compliment I would say. Data was unaware of a personal identity, his behaviour was merely motivated by general better outcome. In a way, Data was the embodiment of nondualism. I mis Data.
@@curiosity_saved_the_cat Data is my favourite character from TNG. He did entertain non-dualism at times but largely due to being around human beings. He had his own character and, in a sense, had an identity as the episode with that Dr who wanted to dissect him shows. He didn't wish to be dissected so was sentient and could express his will. Data was principled and even showed human qualities to bring about the better outcome you speak of. For example, when he captained the ship to detect the Romulans. Priceless :)
Does non-dualism prevent anything from not wanting to be dissected? Does the better outcome rely on human qualities?
From my perspective Data's point of view has little to do with common human qualities, but everything with cold logic; which excludes presence of an 'I' and only includes everything.
Still, the number one directive in his programming is to be human, to fit in the whole - even if it includes the potrayal of a non-logical dualistic perspective.
He is a driver.
Precicely
But he obviously did not crash the car on purpose and smoking a few joints at this age isn't that bad either
Well said mate, I totally agree
@PowerOf One if he was driving high that obviously isn´t ok, but it didn´t seem like it.
Taking drugs doesn´t necessary have to do anything with lacking. It can just be an interesting expirience. Escpecially psychedelic drugs are taken by people who are interested in consciousness etc.
brilliant
Woah he doesn’t have flowers next to him 😱
😂😂😂
hahahahaha
Be strong, Daniel-san 🙂
Haha!
Gracias ☺ 💖
If she knows so much...she could start practicing all her knowing and observe more quietly
There are times and situations so severe that the best you can do is be aware of being aware, thus centered in your inherent wholeness of being until time catches up, until the elements of your experience re-organize themselves around the new bio-electro-magnetic epi-center, by choosing to maintain inherent joy and happiness regardless of everything against it instead of being miserable because of everything against it.
The problem is she is not a good listener. She has to respond, to interrupt so the work needs to be done on herself. She needs to find her own peace. She needs to take responsibility for what’s happening. She thinks she already knows. She must meditate and meditate and learn to release her own tensions.
thank you so much for this....
8:16 this is so fucking true. I see it all the time.
It's a tricky thing and very easy to fool oneself. To what extent are we suffering because we are denying our true expression in favor of a spiritualized ideal or basic fear?
"The no in you must come from your strength and not your reactivity."
And this phrase which I got from David Hoffmeister : "I manifest my invulnerability." which is my Beingness and everything but my psychological self. This weakness, which is an expression of my neediness, must be given up.
We are an unchangeable eternal being, knowing everything we see, think or experience is changing & temporal.
Everything happens;
But nothing happens to me! (My self)
Relax with rock solid facts!
The ego is strong with this one.
The questioner is annoying. She keeps talking over Rupert continually. She keeps saying, "I know," before he even finishes his sentence. Rupert is so patient! I admire how he doesn't react to that.
I wonder what it would have been like to see Rupert be angry at his son?
He just walked away, stood outside of his feelings, stood back inside of his impersonal self . . .and kicked his son in the chest.
Ikr? Can't imagine Rupert being angry
@@davee.4847 he's gotten angry on RUclips plenty
Rupert when angry at son: steps out of his body and observes he body kicking his sons ass
It's a phase, an experience. I have 3 young men aged 21, 19 and 15.
Ask ourselves what would Awareness Love and Intelligence do in this situation and there is our Answer. Thank you
Absolutely no help at all. She can't know what Awareness/God would do since she's too deeply entangled in this samsara.
I don't know how, but i briefly found myself in the space between two thoughts.
How do i abide there ? Something always keeps pulling me back........
Witness the pulling and witness the non pulling.
Dear Juna Beautiful experience
Beautiful place beautiful space;
Lets learn to abide by Grace!
you will abide there when you are all gone,or rather your identity/ego are all gone.
don't chase it,instead take egoic thoughts as they arise and hold them in your consciousness,feel them in the moment and you'll feel the negativity dissolve.
it's really freaky but it works.
good luck to you.
The most practical answer: keep going back there over and over and over and over and over. The mind needs to be reconditioned out of its old habits
Don’t make your questions too long and let him talk
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The woman talks too much.. and at same time, side by side... Too much overlapping of both speakng at same time. Unnecessarily.. Like yes, I know, I know, nah, yes, I understand etc.. She can nod silently instead.. I mean it becomes difficult for audience to understand.
All of the human power n strength is located in the part of the brain , n physicality of our genital identity. The brain n physicality connected together makes us , who we truly are. I write this based on , without listening to the vid . Probably off topic .... Emotional intimate intelligence at it best , is the highest most human form of humanity.
Not sure about this - is he really manipulating her as Rupert suggests or is she just getting in his busines too much? The son has been away in Australia and then comes back and disturbs her peace. Perhaps there's some resentment and issues of control that needs looking at. I wonder what the son's perspective is, that would be interesting...
He behaves like he's my parent not I'm his.
She talks too much
Too many 'yes-butts and 'can'ts'. She's just being being her helpless self.
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A true master has no more anger right?
“Normally people suppose that a Jnani should suppress all the emotional outbursts. That is not correct. With your standpoint in the Absolute, you are not concerned with the feelings and instinctive outbursts of the apparatus.” - Sri Nisargadatta Maharaji
I love you, Rupert. But this woman needs Byron Katie's tool kit.
He thinks a lot before answering certain questions. strange
don't procreate, #anitinatalism