Dealing With Separation In A Marriage: Stop Chasing & Re-Attract Her Back

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  • Опубликовано: 16 июл 2024
  • DEALING WITH SEPARATION IN A MARRIAGE: STOP CHASING & RE-ATTRACT HER BACK
    If you are dealing with a separation in your marriage, the first thing you will want to do is to look up ways to re-attract your wife.
    The problem with this is that most people’s approaches to doing this involves “chasing”, which will actually push your partner further away. And as this video will outline, we often “chase” our partners away without even realizing it!
    In this video, I want to show you the key things you need to focus on to stop chasing and re-attract your partner in a more effective and genuine way!
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Комментарии • 232

  • @GeoffreySetiawan
    @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +21

    Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts?
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    • @Anakin_0YT
      @Anakin_0YT 2 года назад +3

      is there anyway we can have a one on one conversation with you?

    • @jimdemichele5479
      @jimdemichele5479 Год назад

      How does she see the changes during very limited contact and that she doesn’t believe me?

    • @Wiku03
      @Wiku03 Год назад

      Same as here, well mine of 2 years. And yesterday she made 2 weeks official of the no contact. Over the period of the relationship I’ve gotten so close to her family. And I’m just hoping and manifesting that sooner or later this no contact method

    • @Pez_220
      @Pez_220 7 дней назад

      Hi,
      I'm struggling to find the facebook group as the link is not working.

  • @k.kersey4108
    @k.kersey4108 2 года назад +152

    Struggling! I just separated with my husband of 4 years.We both been through a lot from grief to argument’s. I couldn’t take the arguments and the belittling anymore. I have living on my own now for two months. He booked us a trip and told me that we need a reset because of everything we have been through. We went on the trip and it was amazing like we just started dating. We are going for marriage counseling in two weeks. I really hope we can get through this

    • @a.haseebmalik6974
      @a.haseebmalik6974 2 года назад +6

      Hopefully everything works out for you guys! Sending positive wishes. As long as you both are willing to work on your relationship and growing in it - you will be fine.

    • @RobertRiggin
      @RobertRiggin Год назад +5

      She had planned a stay out of state with our kids that she didn't intend me to come on. She allowed me to come and during that time together I kept my composure but didn't make any moves nor just be stoic. We hadn't been sharing the bedroom for most of the year prior to that and when we got home before she went to bed she said I could join her. For almost a month things were great but then she had a snap back to reality or a newfound resolve to end things between us. I feel that she may have thought I was getting comfortable and wasn't confident enough in my changes to believe that it wasn't going to just be a matter of time and we'd end up back where we were before. It broke me again but I still haven't given up but I know a big difference between how I was conducting myself before she wanted me back and throughout being back for that blissful month is I haven't been able to hide my outward appearance in words and expression and how I hold myself of being needy and desperate. I'm working on getting finances in order to get in the program as just when I was using all the videos to try and guide myself this material has made the most amount of sense and given me the most amount of hope of any resource I've tried to reach reconsiliation... But that's still a part of my struggle is being so terhered to that desired outcome and it affects me on every level. Makes me doubt my value and intelligence and qualities. I want my partner to be emotionally safe for me too. To support and build me and encourage me rather than kicking me when I'm down, saying they want me to wake up and want me to succeed while it feels like actively trying to ensure I fail. Despite it all I still love her and I don't want to raise our kids in another broken home.

    • @a.haseebmalik6974
      @a.haseebmalik6974 Год назад +5

      @@RobertRiggin I feel you brother. Going through a similar situation with my wife. She’s unwilling to work on the relationship. Keep at it , it isn’t easy to break that confirmation bias Jeffrey talks about. It’s tough to not appear needy and desperate but we need to somehow overcome that and do it really to change ourselves and be the best version and then in the end the decision lies in their hands whether to revive the relationship or not. Im in a similar financial situation and trying to afford the program.

    • @RobertRiggin
      @RobertRiggin Год назад +6

      @@a.haseebmalik6974 I could go on but I'm on both the pity party and the ownership. The harder she resists the harder I try and the stronger my resolve gets but it's breaking my heart. The kids I have with this woman are the same age as my oldest child was when that relationship ended and I never wanted to ever have kids get raised in a split household again. I've got myself to blame for not stepping up sooner at the first time she brought issues and unhappiness to my attention years ago. I could go on for hours but I'll just end this with I need healing, I need to get myself figured out and stop allowing my happiness to be tethered to anyone but myself.

    • @quitetidy
      @quitetidy Год назад +2

      ​@@RobertRiggin any update?

  • @michaelhealy81
    @michaelhealy81 10 месяцев назад +24

    Being needy is the absolute worst thing to do. I couldn't agree more.
    I really wish I'd listened to this about two months ago. Dang it's hard as all hell.
    Best of luck to you all. Stay strong

    • @Metalman2351
      @Metalman2351 7 месяцев назад

      I’m assuming you’re no longer together?

  • @jordanwendell6279
    @jordanwendell6279 3 месяца назад +2

    Going through the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life currently. These videos help clear my head and I’m trying to grow moving forward. Breakup after 4 years and I want nothing more than to mend the situation and spend my life with her and my kids.

  • @InfamousKiddXD
    @InfamousKiddXD Год назад +12

    Watching your videos helped me realize so much about myself, past trauma, hidden secrets and self deceit..
    I went on a journey to analyze myself and make true changes by surrendering to God
    And it turned my life around, 1 year ago , i am now onenyear sober, my wife came back we worked things out and we had a baby together, we also learned alot about investing and are getting into realestate together as a unit.
    Thank you sincerely and God bless you. I still watch your videos by the way and have refeered people to you as well.
    Not sure if youll ever read this comment but thank you geofrey for everything.

  • @omarruiz4542
    @omarruiz4542 Год назад +41

    My gf broke up with me for a week already and until now I’m finding these videos just this morning. And I’ve been talking to her for the first time since this week. These videos are great. I really love this girl and I can’t picture my life without her. Now I’m changing and evolving and it seems like it might actually work. Thank you so much. This past week has been literal hell. Great great video

    • @Timmytimson314
      @Timmytimson314 Год назад +1

      how it went bro

    • @omarruiz4542
      @omarruiz4542 Год назад +27

      @@Timmytimson314 sorry for the late response brother but we got back together talked it out and worked it out. We are now looking for a place to move into together. These videos really helped us and our relationship has never been better.

    • @Timmytimson314
      @Timmytimson314 Год назад +1

      @@omarruiz4542 Same here :3

    • @Eggmayor
      @Eggmayor 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@omarruiz4542u are a G bro, i wish you the best of luck

    • @Writer_insides
      @Writer_insides 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@omarruiz4542can you help me,, going through same

  • @mylesmann4918
    @mylesmann4918 Год назад +5

    You are very detailed in all aspects of that "in between" phase during a marriage separation/divorce process, much appreciated brother

  • @eastsiderider
    @eastsiderider 2 года назад +17

    I’ve been listening to these type of videos for a few weeks now and yours are the best for me. I was hesitant to click on your videos because I thought I needed to hear from the woman’s point of view to receive the best advice. So I was only searching out videos from women. I was wrong. Advice is good no matter where it comes from. I’m struggling with my wife needing space. It really hurts, but your videos are spot on for how I feel and my situation. I’ve never really felt vulnerable, weak, scared before in my life. So I’m all fucked up in my head. Thank you for creating this content. I hope to thank you for helping me make the changes to fix my marriage.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +1

      Love it K, thank you for your comment and support.

  • @Riffa22
    @Riffa22 Год назад +9

    Great video and solid advice. My take away from this is dont let your emotions get the best of you and just try to be the person you are ment to be without letting any negative thoughts or feelings get in the way. Learn to enjoy and grow as a person and your own character. Easier said than done of course, but I believe it's possible with a little time.

  • @DerrickMatthewsOfficial
    @DerrickMatthewsOfficial Год назад +16

    I've consumed a lot of content especially on the topic of my relationship and my partner being "done". I've watched 5 videos from this man and I have to say this has opened my eyes. A lot.

  • @commonsensecrusader
    @commonsensecrusader 2 года назад +6

    Thanks for the video. I found it really helpful in understanding the fundamentals of what's happening in my relationship at the moment. I'll take a look at your master class 🙏

  • @joelherbert3377
    @joelherbert3377 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you, truly. I can't emphasize enough just how much these videos mean.

  • @matthewbyers2539
    @matthewbyers2539 День назад

    Your content is a real breath of fresh air! So much more real, genuine and feels less manipulative than a lot of others advice!

  • @emmanuelfranco3511
    @emmanuelfranco3511 Год назад +5

    My wife and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for the past 3 weeks she wants a divorce but still wanted us to live together in the time being as we just moved to a new state a year ago and we own a business together. Today I left the house to give her space even tho she didn’t kick me out but it hurts being roommates. I’m staying at our business and I’m just going to focus on myself, workout meditate and try to keep busy at work in the time being. Hopefully I didn’t make a mistake by leaving but I wanted to give her the space and see if it helps. I love her with all my heart and I want nothing more than to work on our marriage but she has her mindset hopefully I get a miracle and get to come back home, I will do no contact and work on myself in the meantime. Prayers needed for my family everyone. 💔

    • @ManifestYourself
      @ManifestYourself Год назад +3

      I'm in same boat, man. Good luck

    • @emmanuelfranco3511
      @emmanuelfranco3511 Год назад +2

      @@ManifestYourself Thank you! You too brother best of luck. If you need to talk I’m here for you.

    • @ManifestYourself
      @ManifestYourself Год назад +1

      @@emmanuelfranco3511 sure would love to. Do you have an Instagram?

    • @katizig
      @katizig 26 дней назад +1

      I'm in the same position except I'm the wife and he's the husband who wants a divorce. He said he will stay until I get a job (I'm self-employed currently) so that me and my son will have insurance. And he said he'll still want to fix things around the house and do projects and things like that because he knows I'm cheap. So I feel like there might be still hope, but it is very hard with him sleeping separately and telling me there's no hope.

    • @emmanuelfranco3511
      @emmanuelfranco3511 23 дня назад

      @@katizig I wish you the best! It’s tough for sure. She ended up going back to AZ took the kids and left. For a bit we talked she wanted us to work through it only for her to change her mind again it was torture. I’m ready to move on. I love her deeply and wished things did turn around but I deserve better. She’s been gone for a little over a month I had time to really think things thoroughly.

  • @rahuldeb9235
    @rahuldeb9235 2 года назад +3

    Untethered from outcome...somewhat self actualisation, introspection and start the journey to that "awesome self"...really tough ..but to start with right mindset in right way is very important. We start..."how to fix?"....then shift "how to focus- become and then show". Before getting her back..need to get myself back..
    Thanks a lot for many of the concepts and principles u r spreading through these videos...thanks for guiding

  • @LadyNoemiZavala
    @LadyNoemiZavala 2 года назад +9

    This video has been very helpful thank you for explaining Geoffrey. I enjoy learning from your videos. Now I am falling in love with the process. Thank you again for sharing your knowledge that is empowering and liberating.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +3

      Hi Noemi Zavala,
      This is awesome and exactly what you must do in order to save your relationship. What part of this video did you find most eye-opening?

  • @6ixvamp
    @6ixvamp Год назад

    I really just wanna echo what you said about your passion for helping people… I genuinely think I can get through this stage of my partner and I’s life with just your RUclips videos alone… so much in fact that the course is intriguing because how much more info could you possibly have?
    You’ve been so helpful, and given me so much information to soak up, and I really honestly find you the most genuine coach I have ever come across :) thank you sir

  • @anthonyrobinson6752
    @anthonyrobinson6752 2 года назад +10

    I love this brother 👍💪🙏. He really knows exactly what he's talking about.

  • @adriannunez1051
    @adriannunez1051 2 года назад +5

    you hella smart asf I'm finna do all the stuff you said homie! I miss my ex but damn I needa quit being a bozo & get my mindset right!

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +1

      Love it! Thank you for the compliment and support.
      Keep learning and keep rising!

  • @michaelgerena6833
    @michaelgerena6833 Год назад +3

    Thanks for another great video. Right now my biggest obstacle is that my wife is convinced that I have given up on our marriage even though I have not. She says my kisses are cold and I don't look at her the same way. I don't think any of this is true since I've actively tried to rekindle at every level.

  • @davidthomspson9771
    @davidthomspson9771 2 года назад +5

    Just ran into your videos... they're great.I understand things about myself I didn't before

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад

      Love it David! Keep watching and keep learning. Let me know how I can help.

  • @christiansigrist9244
    @christiansigrist9244 2 года назад +55

    This young man is really good. This video will help me to stop chasing her... I will try to apply the advice. My wife left the house after a burst of anger and being in a burn out for several years. Together with her midlife crisis we are now in serious trouble, after a mariage of 21 years. I hope the seperation is temporary because i truly feel that my life without her is not worth living. We have been seperated for 2 months now. It feels like hell.

    • @rontatts8941
      @rontatts8941 Год назад +10

      Keep your head high bro

    • @christiansigrist9244
      @christiansigrist9244 Год назад +16

      @@rontatts8941 She rented another appartement. And i need to find another appartement too. She hasn't filed for divorce , and it has been 4 months and a half since she told me she wanted a divorce. I still hope she needs a breather and will find her way back to me in a year or so. I am demolished. She barely talks to me but yesterday we talked on the phone about practical things for 90 minutes; I hope that once she realises i was not the cause of her depression and sadness that she will come back. I can't imagine growing old without here;

    • @jimdemichele5479
      @jimdemichele5479 Год назад +3

      I’m only on week 3 after she filed and it feels like a year…but we’re talking and doing things together and she says she loves me and keeping her options open…but I’m worried

    • @ChrischrosBelgium
      @ChrischrosBelgium Год назад +1

      She is going on a holiday to see her family abroad and she is taking our daughter. I am happy for them. They need the break. I dropped of my daughter yesterday together with some stuff and when I saw her we talked...and she even started laughing when I pointed out what I wrote on a bag that I bought her during.g our separation. On the bag was a word and by adding one letter it spelled her name. She also said " courage"...wich means something like stay strong. The last 10 days I noticed she is calming down. I hope she comes back from her 20 day visit to the family and she tells me we will try again. I have a feeling that if I stay positive, constructive and take care of myself and our daughter she will see she took too fast her radical decision and we will reunite. I told her she has the key to my heart and my happiness.

    • @ChrischrosBelgium
      @ChrischrosBelgium Год назад +6

      She hasn't filed for divorce yet. It has been 4,5 months since we broke up. It is hell. I would give 30 year of my life to be with her again. It is crazy.

  • @Phoenix-lc7jv
    @Phoenix-lc7jv Год назад +5

    Thank you G. for speaking truth. I love how deep you delve into relationships issues. It’s not about tactics but transformation.

  • @vvvvv543
    @vvvvv543 2 года назад +3

    I feel and think that this is not only a game changer for getting soemone back it is also for being and becoing the partner i wana be. I mean like ofcourse i wana make my girl happy and at the same time enjoy it. It is like i do not want that my partner do constantly things what she dosnt like just to make me happy.
    It is a natural process
    Thank you so much for charing your mind about this topic.

  • @aaronbennett1266
    @aaronbennett1266 Год назад +7

    Thank you for this bro! I have been struggling so hard to get my marriage back on track after having 3 beautiful kids and drifting apart!.
    Ty👊

  • @FlorisVerbeij
    @FlorisVerbeij Год назад

    Best content out there. Great work

  • @bigceasar169
    @bigceasar169 2 года назад +2

    This is me all over holy crap, I need to grow up here real quick.

  • @JamesKendallMusic
    @JamesKendallMusic 2 года назад +2

    This is great information. Thank you so much

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +1

      Hi James Kendall,
      Love it, and thank you for your support and comment.

  • @carlosdimas9505
    @carlosdimas9505 2 года назад +3

    Very helpful information. I was looking at my situation all wrong. This is helping tremendously. Thank you!

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +1

      Great, now we can start to do something about it!

  • @escottn
    @escottn Год назад +8

    I am in the process of finding and fixing my problems that drove her to leave the house entirely. I screwed up. I realized I had not even apologized sincerely for my behaviors in the past five years, though that was only one of the many of my issues. She is currently extremely limiting our contact. I am letting her lead that aspect with hopes of showing her respect again. Like Geoffrey said, I'm learning and doing this for a genuine change in me. I love the process of change for improvement. She said she misses the man she married. I say I want to be a greater man than him.

  • @oyston73
    @oyston73 2 года назад +1

    You are very helpful Geoffrey

  • @sdo5618
    @sdo5618 Год назад

    Indeed i want my pure self back.. exactly that

  • @BlackPriest001
    @BlackPriest001 7 месяцев назад

    Before the separation, I got into AA, got a therapist, then started parental courses. It’s been great, we face ti change for us or we set ourselves up for disappointment if we hinge our growth or happiness on others. Expect nothing, accept everything.

  • @FL.Kaiser
    @FL.Kaiser Год назад

    best separation videos. thank you.

  • @bethanivoi3868
    @bethanivoi3868 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for this. I haven’t searched much but is there a video for bettering yourself? Or identity shifting? 🙏

  • @Croonina
    @Croonina 10 дней назад

    Loving the process. Just to compare to something I do. I love to weld. Not to have the outcome to finish it but actually enjoy the melt and dipping the electrod.

  • @trinitarianchampion
    @trinitarianchampion Год назад

    Amazing video

  • @dariedelfino2868
    @dariedelfino2868 Год назад

    This is so away with manuipulating thank you

  • @Frank1life2live
    @Frank1life2live 2 года назад +16

    I've been married 30 years. I've allowed my marriage to get stale and we've coexisted for so long. Man, it's a major challenge to change, both she or I. I know what I have to do. I understand it doesn't take two to tango now to change, but it took two to get us into this shit were in. I know its crucial that I have to better myself despite the outcome and this I must do. After 30 years, raising kids and identifying as a hard working family man, I wonder where I (Me) am at, I dont know where he is....

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +2

      Hi Frank,
      Start here to see what changes are needed and where the destruction of the relationship began.
      relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

  • @user-ji9vl9lg9i
    @user-ji9vl9lg9i Год назад +2

    My gf of 3 years has broken up with me about 3 weeks ago. In this short amount of time ive already learned, grown, and evolved from my issues. I really wish she would give me another chance. I can't imagine my future without her. I really hope the no contact will pay off bc I love this girl so much.

    • @Wiku03
      @Wiku03 Год назад

      Same as here, well mine of 2 years. And yesterday she made 2 weeks official of the no contact. Over the period of the relationship I’ve gotten so close to her family. And I’m just hoping and manifesting that sooner or later this no contact method is beneficial. @GeoffreySataiwan

    • @myballsitchsomethingfierce6319
      @myballsitchsomethingfierce6319 Год назад

      Did she call?

    • @andrewwells3090
      @andrewwells3090 5 месяцев назад

      Did she ever get back with you?

  • @Thejasonsancho
    @Thejasonsancho 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for the video Geoffrey! But does any one have any testimonials on cheating?

  • @jubaljohn6509
    @jubaljohn6509 2 года назад

    New to this program but taking notes trying to get my wife back

  • @TRYCLOPS1
    @TRYCLOPS1 2 года назад +7

    Can you interview some of the failures as well? Those who joined the program and failed to get reconciliation etc. Maybe they could provide some positive feedback and also share what led to failure, etc.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +3

      Hi Mauro Augusto Mexia,
      With the exception of individuals who did not even do the program, we don't really get failures in the program. If you watch more of my client stories, you will hear us talk about this - how there are no people losing in the program.
      This is hard for people who have not joined the program to believe, but it's the reality.
      We are, however, going to start publishing some testimonials from people in the middle of their journey before reconciliation, and posting another story at the end.
      This is how confident we are of our system - if you simply do the work, the outcomes you desire will be within reach and is a matter of time.

  • @we_thrive
    @we_thrive Год назад

    Truth!

  • @sakuragun6193
    @sakuragun6193 Месяц назад +1

    My partner of 4 years recently cheated by flirting with a guy online for half a month, when confronted she felt no remorse but after i threatened to take actions against everyone involved in it (like her friends who knew but did nothing), she then started listening. Made her understand that he was taking advantage of her mental state. I wanna give her another chance and she said she wants to try again. But she hates me for threatening her and others. I wanna keep her, what should i do?

  • @yuenfattchung954
    @yuenfattchung954 2 года назад +4

    I been chasing my ex for 3 months and she said I was annoying after that I found out about the no contact rule and I apply it and I only broke it once when I saw my ex out with her boyfriend and that the second time I saw them in public and a month later I found out she got broken up and her boyfriend also cheated on her and my friend saw her crying out in public and he went up to her and talked and found out she got broken up and she told my friend to tell me not to contact her she said she going through breakup and she needs some time and my friend asked her what she think of me and she said I'm very understanding, genuine and sweet, I can't believe she said all the good things about me I guess that a good sign and I hope she will reach out soon

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +4

      Hi Yuen Fatt Chung,
      I remember you placing this similar comment before. I'll also remind you that in order for your partner to want to be open to the relationship again you will need to make the right and massive changes so that she knows this time things will be different.

    • @raymondgerardcarls4741
      @raymondgerardcarls4741 Год назад

      How are you now?

    • @yuenfattchung954
      @yuenfattchung954 Год назад +3

      @@raymondgerardcarls4741 I'm feeling great now got over her

  • @JimmyDShea
    @JimmyDShea 2 года назад +1

    Damn dude...thank you

  • @adrainjohnson8193
    @adrainjohnson8193 2 года назад

    Thank you

  • @arniep740
    @arniep740 Год назад

    Very helpful video. Thank you for sharing it. Is the facebook group no longer active? I get an error when I click on your link.

  • @gabourizk1
    @gabourizk1 Год назад

    I like u a lot thanks for your wisdom

  • @ritzoner11
    @ritzoner11 Год назад

    Hey Geoffrey what would do for valentines day, after a some space and time apart. Do you give something or not?

  • @skale7738
    @skale7738 Год назад

    So ok, I need to get better for myself. But what should I do exactly?

  • @Vysion3434
    @Vysion3434 2 года назад +1

    What are other examples of Noble Selfishness?

  • @EricSmith-mz7tn
    @EricSmith-mz7tn 2 года назад

    What if she wants a massage from you?
    Should you give her one?
    If so, why?
    If not, why?

  • @chrisroche7368
    @chrisroche7368 Год назад +2

    She says she cares. Doesn't want me to leave but she cant commit.
    Just wants to be friends. I want more so it's been months of a tug of war trying to convince each other of our own perspective.
    I kept pushing want more and she piece by piece pull away stonewalling me. She'll respond if I text her but won't initiate and then it takes forever. It's on the fly and for just a few minutes.

  • @richardwitalis7731
    @richardwitalis7731 Год назад

    Wow, that was draining.

  • @sufianelmariamy9906
    @sufianelmariamy9906 2 года назад

    So you said all what is wrong, and things that we shouldn't do then a little bit of what we should do ?

  • @Lorden350
    @Lorden350 4 месяца назад

    I watch a lot of your videos and tried to use your points as scripts. But the more videos I watch the more I realize I’m nowhere near equipped to re attract my partner. So my question is how can I learn more of what you’re offering?

  • @CJGraysongaming
    @CJGraysongaming Год назад +1

    I’ve been with my wife for 13 years married for 6 2 kids she filed for divorce 4 weeks ago. She says she needs space we both have done wrong to each other . She gambled twice total of 55 k and we both suffer from depression and also dealing with our son 5 being diagnosed with cancer in Nov . She would always say I was hot and cold and she couldn’t talk to me . She never would come to me . I go to therapy and on meds for depression . All I want is my family whole again . She wants space right now and can’t tell me what she truly wants . I find myself fighting for our family and my emotions more and more . Looking for little text from her and everything. Any advice to help save my marriage to my soulmate

  • @itzdwalk2u
    @itzdwalk2u 2 года назад +12

    What do I do when my partner has others in her ear trying to discredit me while that person is pursuing her?

  • @AMERICANEXPATADVENTURES
    @AMERICANEXPATADVENTURES 2 года назад +1

    After I made a mistake with her. I'm guilty of this with a girl I was talking with for a while and I really like her. She has gone cold and sometimes replies but also leaves me on red at times. She hasn't unfriended or blocked me and it's been about 1 month. Is their anything I can do at this point to get her reattracted to me?

  • @vontrezsmithstudent725
    @vontrezsmithstudent725 Год назад

    Me and my wife are going through the stage where she doesn’t talk to me no more and doesn’t love me because of things I’ve done I really need help

  • @Chris-fv8kc
    @Chris-fv8kc 2 года назад +2

    Hey Geoffrey, what’s your advice to when she wants to be friends and take things slow ?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад

      Hi Chris,
      Have you made the right changes and can the two of you have an open and conversation about this topic?

    • @Chris-fv8kc
      @Chris-fv8kc 2 года назад

      @@GeoffreySetiawan I started off by doing non verbal touch when we met in person since we have a daughter together, and she was slowly opening up to her feelings but not everything obviously and then she brought up stuff that was said in the past week, and that’s when she said she wants to take things slow and be friends for now. I wanted to react the bad way as my response but then from me watching your videos and Love Advice videos, it’s best to accept this as a good sign to help each other and for me to find the root cause and be able to take this time to learn how to approach her with win win solutions and how to properly communicate with her that won’t lead to arguments. I’m committed to bettering myself for my child and her to be a better boyfriend to eventually a husband to her and a better father to my child but at the moment I can’t afford your amazing course till another time but I’m still watching your videos and taking things step by step like how you explained in the in the masterclass on building the first 2 foundations with emotional and psychological safety.

  • @832FDS713
    @832FDS713 Год назад

    To bad I can’t afford the program I’d be on it right now

  • @relentlessgaming9739
    @relentlessgaming9739 Год назад

    is this also applicable to relationships like gf/bf... not the married thing

  • @user-jw1bl4hq9j
    @user-jw1bl4hq9j 5 месяцев назад +1

    I AM THE LEAVING PROOF THAT ALL THE MIND GAMES MEN PLAY HAS AN END ….I AM MOVING TO ANOTHER CONTINENT . 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @traejanstephens6012
    @traejanstephens6012 2 года назад +7

    My partner acts like every-time I change I’m gonna just do the same thing and has given up hope she no longer is affectionate even though she calls me “babe” or “love” and she sleeps with a separate blanket and on the other side of the bed now she’s completed guarded with me and it almost feels like she’s forcing herself to not be with me what do I do we live together and have a 1 year old

    • @gsknives245
      @gsknives245 2 года назад +1

      From what I am reading, you are doing things from a place of need. Once you achieve true change, you will be unthered from the outcome and your partner will notice your true/genuine changes.

  • @FLS713HTX
    @FLS713HTX Год назад

    Been almost 6 months seperated no divorce she moved out, is there still hope ? Have 2 kids i have been needy however especially in the beginning now not really especially last couple months, also went total opposite and ignored, not idk what to expect she was kinda willing like 2 months ago to sort of fox and go to therapy now I asked again for therapy after a while of not going and she wants to have one on one talk with me about that idk what to expect or if there's hope.

  • @Smilemonk5
    @Smilemonk5 Год назад

    All is great but then it is higher probablity that i dont want them in my life again due to pain i m getting now..i am just scared

  • @KeithCanisius
    @KeithCanisius Год назад

    Not a big fan of no contact then?

  • @grildcheez1504
    @grildcheez1504 2 года назад +1

    Are there any good examples on how to apply the concept of noble selfishness to reattract her back?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +2

      Hi Tiger Fang,
      Good question and check out this video below and let me know what you think.
      ruclips.net/video/bhpOOJNkFAs/видео.html

  • @Karthik_jayaraman
    @Karthik_jayaraman Год назад

    I was in love with a girl for 6 years now she tell me that she doesn’t love me I was frustrated I begged her to stay now she has blocked me in all social media now i have no way to contact her how to save my relationship now

  • @dhanunjayreddy4477
    @dhanunjayreddy4477 2 года назад

    I have 7years relationship with my gf we got married without knowing her parents we are now separate because we are waiting for her parents acceptance , in mean while I was struck with another girl , she know that relation so she broke up with me , I have better romantic and understanding level relationship but we got separated because I have cheated her. Their parents got better opportunity to separate us , please provide me better solution she Will come back or not actually she is stubborn is it possible to comeback I want know

  • @JasonConkle-zz5uz
    @JasonConkle-zz5uz Год назад

    I ask my wife what she needs and she says there's nothing I can do?

  • @SandraFernandes621
    @SandraFernandes621 2 года назад +2

    My wife just moved out last week its been hell for me- now shes talking about filling for divorce and basically says she is fully checked out and wants to move on with her life. Ive told her lets try to just separate first and see how it goes, I really dont want a divorce but now she is treating me like a stranger and things are getting nowhere. How should I handle this? just give her space?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад

      Check this video out the first video to learn why this happened and then go check out the second video to see what you can do to restore hope within your partner once again.
      ruclips.net/video/g6N9OLoNfG4/видео.html
      ruclips.net/video/HsHQ3M9Agz4/видео.html

  • @seananderson2638
    @seananderson2638 2 года назад +8

    Me and my wife have been separated for a little over a month. I have been trying to woo her back to me (I.e. flowers, gifts, surprise lunches delivered to her while she is at work) should I consider trying to take her on dates and slowly build the relationship back with her? Or should I just wait for her to come to me and stop doing the things I have been doing to make her feel special. I really do love my wife and it brings me happiness to do all of the nice things I have been doing for her. That’s the on thing that is making me happy right now and gives me a sense of hope that we can reconcile. We have 3 children together and I feel like I should continue to fight for her love and try to get her to be attracted to me all over again. Please give me a answer ! I love her unconditionally no matter what.

    • @seananderson2638
      @seananderson2638 2 года назад

      @ibrahim umar I just need an answer to my comment. I just need to know if I’m right or wrong in what I’m doing.

    • @Bobo-wl6bs
      @Bobo-wl6bs 2 года назад

      @@seananderson2638 It depends what the reasons are tbh and when you say seperated is that until she figures out what she wants or is she planning to file?

    • @seananderson2638
      @seananderson2638 2 года назад +2

      @@Bobo-wl6bs she stated that she is taking divorce off the table about 3 weeks ago.

    • @seananderson2638
      @seananderson2638 2 года назад

      @@Bobo-wl6bs and she told me that I can come back home around our anniversary but I wants me to sleep in a separate room. Which is ok with me. I just need to know if I should pour all of my love I have for her into her or should I just let her come to me naturally. I’m scared she won’t come to me naturally tho. I feel like if I show her that I’m capable of making her feel important and special everyday of our lives, then she will realize that I am amazing man and father.

    • @Bobo-wl6bs
      @Bobo-wl6bs 2 года назад +10

      @@seananderson2638 Okay so is it safe to say that the reason she initially wanted a divorce is because she felt neglected? What are the actual reasons?. Coach Lee argues it's almost always caused by a drop in emotional attraction. A safe way would be to work on this. Improve your emotional attraction with her by (having meaningful deep conversations with her), workout, try and make money (even if you don't I've lost count of the number of women who have told me how attractive ambition is). DO NOT make her your number one focus, she should be a compliment to your life not the focus. I understand your trying to woo her back but don't over do it. If it took 1 year for her attraction for you to drop it will take a year for it to rise to the level it was again. I got that from coach lee. Women want to be with the prize if you appear to be too needy of her validation she will sense that immediately and will lose attraction for you. You should both be in pursuit. Be unavailable at times (by that I mean be out grinding, levelling up, show her your ambition) then when you're around her make it fun. Women hate routine and love surprises remember that. Don't do too much too quickly. Also remember no women wants to be with a doormat, do not lose your masculine frame.

  • @24klogan86
    @24klogan86 2 года назад +2

    My wife says that I pushed her away as a wife and not so sure about our future😔 I want her back more than anything what should I do Geoffrey?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +1

      Logan_TheGreat,
      Learn the first step I teach my clients that they must do in order to save their relationship. Be sure to come back and let me know what you think.
      ruclips.net/video/LK0gJ7oFciE/видео.html

  • @rufussayton5244
    @rufussayton5244 2 года назад

    I don't just know what happened to my relationship I want my partner back she changed and lost it to me and started chatting and video calling another guy until she called it a quit finally and I really and genuinely love her with all I have got. She never gave me chance to talk to her she wanted all the talks to be her and wanted what she wants I never had a say in the relationship even when I will try to talk to her

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад

      Hi Rufas Sayton,
      Check out this video below and let me know what you think.
      ruclips.net/video/g6N9OLoNfG4/видео.html

  • @RobertDress-dq9pc
    @RobertDress-dq9pc 11 месяцев назад

    As some one who made a terrible mistake and betrayed the trust of a woman/mother.... she no longer wants me around. She is also 4 months pregnant with our child.
    Would it be selfish and wrong to create a youtube channel to chronicle my inner transformation and at some point share this with her? Because i dont have anything tangeble to show my regret and genuine willingness to make my self right in the head. I cant just tell her that im destroyed every day. Ive stopped drinking. Stopped wqtching porn. Improved mt relationship with my mither and father and close friends. I work out now and clean my room and make my bed. Big deal right.
    I just cant seem to shake the pain and the tears from being perceived as someone im not. But more so, my oain comes from knowing a fraction of her torment.

  • @christophercooper9814
    @christophercooper9814 2 года назад +1

    I know you're saying do it for yourself not for her

  • @melissahusa2650
    @melissahusa2650 2 года назад

    Is this advice mainly for men or applicable for women also?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад

      Hi melissa Husa,
      No, this is applicable to both men and women. See my clients stories below to check out some of the many women that are seeing massive success in their lives.
      ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

  • @mohammadsinaalikhani2020
    @mohammadsinaalikhani2020 2 года назад +2

    Wish i had u sooner 💔 she doesn't love me any more and blocked me i still want her but how can i get her back when i broke everything several times and she can't trust or talk me anymore

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад

      Hi Noob Saibot,
      I would love for you to join me in my free 90 min master class where I show many of my clients how to begin to do the things that will allow our partners to regain hope in their relationships again.
      relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

  • @ramsfan9065
    @ramsfan9065 9 месяцев назад

    Trying to win my wife back we been together for 13 years now she is seeing another guy

  • @aaronbennett1266
    @aaronbennett1266 Год назад

    I'm having trouble proving to my wife that she can trust me again! There was no infidelity, just white lies of the past that have tagged along. How can I go about proving that change & trust again!

  • @isabella635
    @isabella635 6 месяцев назад

    My heart is broken after 31 years of marriage😢

  • @MrMcMiller
    @MrMcMiller 2 года назад +18

    Geoffrey, my wife has fallen out of love with me and now we live in separate rooms and rarely talk to each other. I expressed my feelings and she said she feels smothered so I have been giving her space. She wants a divorce and says there is no chance to fix our marriage. What should I do?

    • @timotahowhitehawk3756
      @timotahowhitehawk3756 2 года назад +10

      MrMcMiller, you need to figure out what you have done in the relationship that drove her away from you. Generally, we have issues pains or wounds from life, that cause us to react a certain way towards our wives. I have done the same thing, driven mine away, by me overbearing, controlling behavior; & I had anger issues too. So, to fix her I had to fix ME. When I changed my behaviors, and the ways I responding to her, then she began to change towards me. Basically, I created an environment where she felt Unsafe and Unprotected. That is a husband's job to create a safe place for our women, so they can grow. You need to go figure out your bullets that are sabotaging your marriage Relationship, and fix it in you, then when she see's a genuine change in you, then she may change her mind. But you need to fix you 1st. unless she's just a crazy woman. You will have to remove yourself from crazy women, but I doubt that is the case with you. I created the negative environment by being too controlling and too NEEDY! We have to grow up as men, and become truce Care Givers, that protect our women and our family. I had to change too my behavior toward one of my son's who was rebellious, but I was too demanding with him, driving a wedge between us. So this Training is good for all relationships. Hope this brings you some hope.! Geoffrey is brilliant in his training. Give her space and do not chase, use this time to go fix yourself. It will not be time waisted. It will better your entire life.

    • @YourBiggestFlexMove
      @YourBiggestFlexMove 2 года назад +1

      Believe her and focus on yourself.

    • @kaedenwheeler6967
      @kaedenwheeler6967 2 года назад

      @@timotahowhitehawk3756 facts

    • @kaedenwheeler6967
      @kaedenwheeler6967 2 года назад

      @@timotahowhitehawk3756 can u give me some advice if u have time

    • @BillyVatcher
      @BillyVatcher 2 года назад

      @@ted2136 the way I understand this for now is : you so much want this that you fall apart if you don’t get it and are dependant on outcomes in our relationship… you gave me the key to make you miserable and I don’t want it. I can’t bear it anymore and I need space from that.

  • @romyman1971
    @romyman1971 Год назад

    "Ingenuine" is not a word.

  • @toowavy4u124
    @toowavy4u124 2 года назад +1

    So I been putting in the good fight January 9th my wife said she s not in love anymore been working hard to save our marriage however I just got served with divorce papers Sept 3 so is it safe to say it's over?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад

      TooWavy4u, actually I have found this not to be true. Many of my clients receive success when all hope has been take from them, when things are dire. Please watch this video and see what your partner is looking for in order for you to be able to restore their hope in the relationship once again.
      ruclips.net/video/hwzvQEm6YAU/видео.html

    • @rahulmenith96
      @rahulmenith96 2 года назад +1

      Let go my brother... Time to reinvent yourself

    • @toowavy4u124
      @toowavy4u124 2 года назад

      @Menith Rahul yes sir I have I fought hard and lost we just going through the divorce litigation now

    • @rahulmenith96
      @rahulmenith96 2 года назад +1

      @@toowavy4u124 we have filed for divorce, she wants us to be together one moment and throws me away the next. I'm sick and tried of going back and forth , I was on the verge of loosing my job. Now it's time to reinvent. It hurts but if it's important they'll always find a way not reasons. We live once enough of worrying over relationships there are lots of stuff that are waiting for us! Strength to you brother

    • @toowavy4u124
      @toowavy4u124 2 года назад +1

      @Menith Rahul you too man the old saying says It gets greater later

  • @roberthinkle2376
    @roberthinkle2376 Год назад

    Hey Geoffrey, I just separated from my wife and it’s really hard . We have a 5 year old and we still communicate about her but otherwise my wife wants no contact. We’re both working on issues to save our marriage but I feel like no contact with just push us further apart. Please help

    • @TheEVGAftw
      @TheEVGAftw 11 месяцев назад

      How did it go..?

    • @roberthinkle2376
      @roberthinkle2376 11 месяцев назад

      @@TheEVGAftw she filed for divorce on the 16th of june

    • @TheEVGAftw
      @TheEVGAftw 10 месяцев назад

      @@roberthinkle2376 Best of luck

  • @marccoste115
    @marccoste115 7 месяцев назад

    I dont see a ring on home boy finger so what can you teach married men. Like getting tattooed by someone without any tattoos.

    • @tyroncline5978
      @tyroncline5978 2 месяца назад

      Some marry and don’t use rings

  • @samuelharding257
    @samuelharding257 2 года назад +2

    My girlfriend and I are on a break right now… I would primarily assume because of me and my neediness and it’s soemthing that I’m working on and doing my own things etc and working on my personality and character trying to be more compassionate and understanding. Look I love this girl and i would say I want to continue our relationship when she feels ready. Im at a loss… she said she wants a break etc and after watching this video I’m just wondering if I talk to her or not? I have been needy and I want to chnage that but one side is if I just stop talking to her will that be a sign of neediness the same way as if I keep talking to her? Should I only talk to her when she talks to me first? Is that a good balance while on this break.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад +1

      Hi Samuel Harding,
      I think you will find this video very helpful in answering your question here.
      ruclips.net/video/6akN8wMEc6Q/видео.html

    • @williamleemcnutt7972
      @williamleemcnutt7972 Год назад

      13 years, a 12 yr old Son, a real rocky beginning and a separation after she found a sexting conversation with a girl I hadn't seen for 20+ yrs. Just 1 time, drunk and totally stupid. Ripped her heart to shreds. Long line of ignoring her when she wanted me to just hold her. Total asshole move on my part, over and over and over. My wife is the most beautiful person I have ever known. Her dad dying of liver failure, her mom died when she 15 yrs old, older sister went completely rogue (meth, fentynol. Weed, pills, major charges), nephew had a seizure at work and fell 12 ft and 15 staples in his melon, her brother and wife moved away, myself getting hospitalized with some kind of heart attack shit, raising my granddaughters; MY GRANDDAUGHTERS, not hers, her working her ass off cleaning, cooking, bathing, laundry and you name it; she's a incredible woman, 1 in a million for real and I'm serious as can be: then my stupid ass drunk one night and just mentioned what I heard to that girl about not having any gag reflex and loving oral sex, I say a bunch of totally inappropriate shit, next day ashamed and embarrassed.... Erased everything and tell the girl I fked up, couldn't ever cheat on my wife, completely defuse the situation and a month later my wife finds entire conversation in my trash file on phone. I destroyed the most beautiful person I have ever known. And only a sexting conversation, nothing more. She's done. Asked me to move out yesterday. So disgusted what at myself and no way to prove it didn't happen. Need a miracle for real. Any help?

    • @denricsixty970
      @denricsixty970 Год назад

      @@williamleemcnutt7972 What happened did you get together?

  • @kalluralove946
    @kalluralove946 2 года назад +1

    Why do I feel this is aimed at my husband 🤔

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  2 года назад

      Lol. Not sure. Do the both of you need to join my free 90 min master class?
      relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

  • @ZAZA-pv1pg
    @ZAZA-pv1pg Год назад +1

    This guy runs circles around other dating coaches

  • @emeriamariandoriga5744
    @emeriamariandoriga5744 Год назад

    À0

  • @jandogta2030
    @jandogta2030 6 месяцев назад

    Passive chase doestn work. I tried for a year, my wife just confirmed I didnt liked her and I was a gay on the closet,
    CHASE HER, be a man

  • @elgamazacatecas6670
    @elgamazacatecas6670 9 месяцев назад

    Need advice I cheated on my wife really bad ..wit 3 kids involved...I really want her back put I think this really hit her shes thinking about devouring me ?...help me

  • @user-zx3he9ls6z
    @user-zx3he9ls6z Год назад

    I just can’t stop watching I came on broken but just few videos and stronger than ever before 🫂

  • @clwn2609
    @clwn2609 Год назад

    Thank you