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This mindset that you are sharing could actually help and reduce the amount of divorce we are having in society. People just give up too easily on each other.
Will power alone is not sustainable. Identity change and coming from a place of want instead of need is sustainable in the long run is what I’m getting from this wonderful message
This is one of your best videos ever. My whole demeanor is different because of my lack of safety and it’s so sad and detrimental. She knows my defensiveness and my lack of ability to discuss our relationship issues as we remain separated with a divorce looming that I can’t even bring up! She loves me and needs her space as does my daughter, but I have zero ideas on where I stand
Seen this video 5x and only due to an internal shift i understand what he is saying. Love is more then... its not possession or ego. It actually destroys both. If you understand that you will enter for yourself and entire new person but also become what your partner needs... A partner. Love is shown by your accountability beging humble and truly want to understand your spouse. Its like playing double double tennis. You dont condemn your partner when they had successes with you for years youll catch all the balls and try to win that match and try to see whats wrong with your partner when they fall out. Knee injury or mentally theyre not there anymore. Youll ask how come how can i help? Instead of blaming. Youll face the problems together and sometimes it means you face the problems or opportunities alone for her or him until theyre ready to see the actual issue is you both vs that problem and not you vs him her
Fantastic. When there is emotional safety, problems cease to become threats, but become opportunities. I remember I used to be afraid of arguments and conflict, but I get that it was because of a lack of emotional safety.
Embrace your change, don't tether with the outcome and expect nothing, just bettering yourself for the sake of bettering yourself, learn to wear a bulletproof vest if you happen to be with her again, learn to adapt and accept words without arguing. Got it.
Good morning, So this past Friday my wife and family left me and I am so confused. This is probably the hardest thing to do. It feels like I had a death in the family! I am trying to follow your advice thank you for the insight on this truly hard life change.
Amazing! Needy partners are not bad they need more safety and they need to grow in self esteem but they are gifted and great people just like the self-sufficient ones.
Hey man, just came across your videos after pushing my wife away after 13 years, now we’re in a very confusing situation, but your videos have been really putting things into perspective where others seem more based on short term relationships. I just wish I could get a little more situation specific advice, I feel like we have a pretty unique situation going on here.
If she grabbing, touching, show a lot of affection she is trying to get your attention from the first start do not ignore these signs guys give all her time show her attention take her out buy her a lil gift boost eachother up if u dont want to be in that position of separation I'm am goin through this phase almost 3 years relationship we are working giving eachother time n space
Me and my wife have ben separated for 4 months we have ben together for 11 years and have a three year old daughter we had lack of communication and emotional safety she did a lot for us as a couple and a family i was complacent and took her for granted now she dont want to let me fix anything she wants space wont reply to anything we trade off my daughter every three days or so i always stay upbeat and positive and just ask how was your day how have you ben its just im good lets go and shrugs me off i dont know how to build up from my point and have positive communication
Hi Celine Cormier, Yes, exactly. It provides me with such value and honor to see people start to change their life around and seek to become the best versions of themselves just like I and my clients have. Thank you.
Going through this whole video, I understood and agreed with everything you said. Ive came to a point to where, like you said in the video, it is my indenity now. Thank you Geoffrey, helped me mature at a young age.
@@moorejanice7129 Man I'm here to actually help others because of my situation, but to turn it into a spam ? I thought that's something I'd never have to come across on the internet smh
@@moorejanice7129 That's great that this isn't a spam, I truly admire your help man. Im pretty sure I got things going the way I like it, thanks to Geoffrey, I got to put those inferences into my own personal situation that works out best for me. If I change my mind I'll certainly take your help into consideration my man. Let's hope I don't need, as I put the puzzle pieces together, and so close to finishing so.
Does telling your wife that you're doing this program hurt the chances? Should you just do it and let the results speak for themselves OR let her know you're in the program so she's on the lookout for changes?
Does not matter - if you grow so massively, you transcend having to worry about all of these petty things. Truth is, your partner will find a way to resist you and think your changes are ingenuine. If not the program, it will be for something else. You're going to need to learn the skill to be able to truly dance under resistance. Any & all kinds (and the reason why you are where you are i most likely because you don't know how to do this really well). If you're still worried about these short-term & petty things, it means you have not grown massively enough, and have not become irreplaceable. Watch any & all of my client stories, and they all will say the same. This is a non-issue... In fact, if this is the issue you're facing, THAT is the issue in itself that you need to learn to bust through. We call this busting through the paradox of change.
I am trying to understand what does he mean by lack of safety. Is it personal confidence or fearlessness of the posible consequences of discussing the issues ? What is the fundamental problem ?
Regarding the conversation, what to do if your spouse seems like not interested in having a conversation...should we brought up the issue like say "why you are so silent..."
This represents almost 100% of the people who sign up for our program. And we have enroll 1,500+ clients per year, and publish success stories endlessly every 2 weeks. :)
Just a brand name of a brand I like. Check out this video where one of my clients showed up to his interview in the same brand. Lol ruclips.net/video/LSs7y0s0gYg/видео.html
Almost a year of my marriage been in a limbo of space in the same house so hard for both of us been watching your content bit I feel like still in the limbo I think maybe u font fully understand I will love to join the program where can I find more information?
I was told I don’t understand how she is feeling etc, when she tries to tell me I react in a way that makes her bottle up her feelings and it leads to wanting the relationship to end. Where do I start listening the right way etc. What is my first step.
Hello I want to ask you how do you create safety if your in debt and having trouble providing for you wife needs. Most problems that can lead to divorce are financial issues what can be done to create safety when the financial situation is bleak?
Hi RBS Breslov, Going to provide you with the same reply to all 3 of the same comments you posted. No, that data does not show this to be true. But in any case and with any issue or obstacle in a relationship when you can create safety and begin to start to deal with the obstacles together as a team this is when the relationship will stand the test of time and become more fulfilling. Come join me in my free 90 min master class to learn more. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
Good day sir, I watched your videos yesterday, my girlfriend says she wants to heal from the relationship and all because we always have petty arguments and all and she is very sensitive, so I have given her space but I want to ask if I try and improve myself and she doesn't text back when can I text?
Hi Saleeman Ibrahim, First come learn how the destruction of the relationship occurs and then how to repair it. Join my free 90 min master class. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
Hi, my ex partner has requested space after hurting her several times, she says she still loves me and is still in love with me but i’ve hurt her too many times for her to trust me again, she said she has lost the emotional trust and doesn’t feel like she’ll ever get that back again. Initially messed up by begging her and chasing but after your content i have respected her decision and gave her the space she needs, she never felt heard and understood so i’m working on that from your content. Do i just wait for her to contact me or do i check in with her in at some point? Thanks
Well man before you even think about that figure out why you keep hurting her…when you ain’t with her reflect on yourself get better realize that you need to stop hurting her.
Hey Geoffrey and anyone who can help, I have a ex gf who I've been with for 3+ yrs, but unfortunately we broke due to her wanting her alone time to enjoy herself, but till she still care and fells things for me but doesn't feel like committing to anyone or thing, is there anything I can do? Or what should I do, I would really appreciate the help.
there is a lot of "overlap" in your many youtube videos. Surely a lot of the info could be condensed into a few underlying memorable principles guidelines which would be more helpful. Many of the scenarios you describe are to produce a perfect man (who does not exist) with a high maintenance demanding wife or partner. In ALL relationships you love your partner even with some faults (otherwise they would not be human beings!!!).
In your experience.. have you worked with couples that have deep trauma, both intergenerational and from their life experience? Would or could or do you have a video on trauma-informed relationships? Or is that a whole other bag of chips?
Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts?
Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
🎉 To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
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This mindset that you are sharing could actually help and reduce the amount of divorce we are having in society. People just give up too easily on each other.
Thank you Jose Garcia, this is exactly my mission.
Exactly!!! Just be divorcing over stupid stuff!!!
💯
Will power alone is not sustainable. Identity change and coming from a place of want instead of need is sustainable in the long run is what I’m getting from this wonderful message
Bingo! You understand the spirit behind this video.
This is one of your best videos ever. My whole demeanor is different because of my lack of safety and it’s so sad and detrimental. She knows my defensiveness and my lack of ability to discuss our relationship issues as we remain separated with a divorce looming that I can’t even bring up! She loves me and needs her space as does my daughter, but I have zero ideas on where I stand
Me too
@InDroVidual she continues to push for the divorce unfortunately…I’m in the apartment now on month 10
Seen this video 5x and only due to an internal shift i understand what he is saying.
Love is more then... its not possession or ego. It actually destroys both. If you understand that you will enter for yourself and entire new person but also become what your partner needs... A partner. Love is shown by your accountability beging humble and truly want to understand your spouse. Its like playing double double tennis. You dont condemn your partner when they had successes with you for years youll catch all the balls and try to win that match and try to see whats wrong with your partner when they fall out. Knee injury or mentally theyre not there anymore. Youll ask how come how can i help? Instead of blaming. Youll face the problems together and sometimes it means you face the problems or opportunities alone for her or him until theyre ready to see the actual issue is you both vs that problem and not you vs him her
Fantastic. When there is emotional safety, problems cease to become threats, but become opportunities. I remember I used to be afraid of arguments and conflict, but I get that it was because of a lack of emotional safety.
You got it!
Embrace your change, don't tether with the outcome and expect nothing, just bettering yourself for the sake of bettering yourself, learn to wear a bulletproof vest if you happen to be with her again, learn to adapt and accept words without arguing. Got it.
Good morning, So this past Friday my wife and family left me and I am so confused. This is probably the hardest thing to do. It feels like I had a death in the family! I am trying to follow your advice thank you for the insight on this truly hard life change.
Amazing! Needy partners are not bad they need more safety and they need to grow in self esteem but they are gifted and great people just like the self-sufficient ones.
Thank you for all your content. You get me through some hard days.
So glad, thank you for your comment and support. Stay tuned because we have an exciting calendar ahead.
Hey man, just came across your videos after pushing my wife away after 13 years, now we’re in a very confusing situation, but your videos have been really putting things into perspective where others seem more based on short term relationships. I just wish I could get a little more situation specific advice, I feel like we have a pretty unique situation going on here.
Any updates?
I realize your content is geared toward males but I have learned so much watching your videos - thank you
Damn that paradox blew my mind a little. It’s like even if you are right there you are wrong to speak. Hard to swallow.
If she grabbing, touching, show a lot of affection she is trying to get your attention from the first start do not ignore these signs guys give all her time show her attention take her out buy her a lil gift boost eachother up if u dont want to be in that position of separation I'm am goin through this phase almost 3 years relationship we are working giving eachother time n space
Brah, you spit some straight knowledge. I think I shall binge watch this weekend. 👌
Me and my wife have ben separated for 4 months we have ben together for 11 years and have a three year old daughter we had lack of communication and emotional safety she did a lot for us as a couple and a family i was complacent and took her for granted now she dont want to let me fix anything she wants space wont reply to anything we trade off my daughter every three days or so i always stay upbeat and positive and just ask how was your day how have you ben its just im good lets go and shrugs me off i dont know how to build up from my point and have positive communication
Geoffrey, you are opening my mind and renewing my mindset! Thank you for sharing your knowledge, insight and wisdom.
Hi Celine Cormier,
Yes, exactly. It provides me with such value and honor to see people start to change their life around and seek to become the best versions of themselves just like I and my clients have. Thank you.
Going through this whole video, I understood and agreed with everything you said. Ive came to a point to where, like you said in the video, it is my indenity now. Thank you Geoffrey, helped me mature at a young age.
I love it! If you know the secrets then you know how to save your relationship. Keep watching I have some exciting video coming soon.
@@moorejanice7129 Man I'm here to actually help others because of my situation, but to turn it into a spam ? I thought that's something I'd never have to come across on the internet smh
@@moorejanice7129 That's great that this isn't a spam, I truly admire your help man. Im pretty sure I got things going the way I like it, thanks to Geoffrey, I got to put those inferences into my own personal situation that works out best for me. If I change my mind I'll certainly take your help into consideration my man. Let's hope I don't need, as I put the puzzle pieces together, and so close to finishing so.
Thank you for everything geoffrey
god bless
Thank you Winter-Soldier* for your comment and support.
This is what I have been trying to convey to my husband. We are going thru separation. Probably divorce.
Does telling your wife that you're doing this program hurt the chances?
Should you just do it and let the results speak for themselves OR let her know you're in the program so she's on the lookout for changes?
Does not matter - if you grow so massively, you transcend having to worry about all of these petty things.
Truth is, your partner will find a way to resist you and think your changes are ingenuine. If not the program, it will be for something else.
You're going to need to learn the skill to be able to truly dance under resistance. Any & all kinds (and the reason why you are where you are i most likely because you don't know how to do this really well).
If you're still worried about these short-term & petty things, it means you have not grown massively enough, and have not become irreplaceable.
Watch any & all of my client stories, and they all will say the same. This is a non-issue...
In fact, if this is the issue you're facing, THAT is the issue in itself that you need to learn to bust through.
We call this busting through the paradox of change.
how do you do this while separated with minimal contact?
Thanks so much for the valuable information.
Hi Gene Sebelius,
Thank you for you comment and support.
How do join and get to speak to someone, because I am in bad shape
I am trying to understand what does he mean by lack of safety. Is it personal confidence or fearlessness of the posible consequences of discussing the issues ?
What is the fundamental problem ?
Regarding the conversation, what to do if your spouse seems like not interested in having a conversation...should we brought up the issue like say "why you are so silent..."
I need solution to this too.
What I've experienced unfortunately
Hi how’s the master class work I want to learn to be a better me for my self and my partner
Hi sleepybmw,
Click on the link and register to join me in my free 90 min master class.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
What if one person want to work in it and the other person moved on?
This represents almost 100% of the people who sign up for our program. And we have enroll 1,500+ clients per year, and publish success stories endlessly every 2 weeks. :)
What does your shirt Blakely mean?
Just a brand name of a brand I like. Check out this video where one of my clients showed up to his interview in the same brand. Lol
ruclips.net/video/LSs7y0s0gYg/видео.html
Hi Jeff, do you have any contact number?
I have a very unique case and would like to discuss it.
Almost a year of my marriage been in a limbo of space in the same house so hard for both of us been watching your content bit I feel like still in the limbo I think maybe u font fully understand I will love to join the program where can I find more information?
Thank you
Hi Adrian Johnson,
So glad you found my video to be helpful. May I ask what you found to be most eye-opening?
How do I create that emotion safety
You’re the man Geoff!
Thank you Jasper!
Does your advice go both ways i mean man and women
Did you check out the last interview we published was with Camille (a woman), and the many interviews with many women in recent months?
I was told I don’t understand how she is feeling etc, when she tries to tell me I react in a way that makes her bottle up her feelings and it leads to wanting the relationship to end. Where do I start listening the right way etc. What is my first step.
Hi John Cornell,
Start here in this free 90 min master class.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
Hello I want to ask you how do you create safety if your in debt and having trouble providing for you wife needs. Most problems that can lead to divorce are financial issues what can be done to create safety when the financial situation is bleak?
Hi RBS Breslov,
Going to provide you with the same reply to all 3 of the same comments you posted.
No, that data does not show this to be true. But in any case and with any issue or obstacle in a relationship when you can create safety and begin to start to deal with the obstacles together as a team this is when the relationship will stand the test of time and become more fulfilling.
Come join me in my free 90 min master class to learn more.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
Exactly true Geoffrey
Hi T P,
Love it! Glad you found my video helpful.
Good day sir, I watched your videos yesterday, my girlfriend says she wants to heal from the relationship and all because we always have petty arguments and all and she is very sensitive, so I have given her space but I want to ask if I try and improve myself and she doesn't text back when can I text?
Hi Saleeman Ibrahim,
First come learn how the destruction of the relationship occurs and then how to repair it. Join my free 90 min master class.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
Hi, my ex partner has requested space after hurting her several times, she says she still loves me and is still in love with me but i’ve hurt her too many times for her to trust me again, she said she has lost the emotional trust and doesn’t feel like she’ll ever get that back again. Initially messed up by begging her and chasing but after your content i have respected her decision and gave her the space she needs, she never felt heard and understood so i’m working on that from your content. Do i just wait for her to contact me or do i check in with her in at some point? Thanks
Well man before you even think about that figure out why you keep hurting her…when you ain’t with her reflect on yourself get better realize that you need to stop hurting her.
Hey Geoffrey and anyone who can help, I have a ex gf who I've been with for 3+ yrs, but unfortunately we broke due to her wanting her alone time to enjoy herself, but till she still care and fells things for me but doesn't feel like committing to anyone or thing, is there anything I can do? Or what should I do, I would really appreciate the help.
Hi DnH_Legend,
I will invite you to start by joining me in my free 90 min master class.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
I don't know how anyone could take back a partner that cheated...
there is a lot of "overlap" in your many youtube videos. Surely a lot of the info could be condensed into a few underlying memorable principles guidelines which would be more helpful. Many of the scenarios you describe are to produce a perfect man (who does not exist) with a high maintenance demanding wife or partner. In ALL relationships you love your partner even with some faults (otherwise they would not be human beings!!!).
In your experience.. have you worked with couples that have deep trauma, both intergenerational and from their life experience? Would or could or do you have a video on trauma-informed relationships? Or is that a whole other bag of chips?
Hi Feliz Tupe,
Check out this video and let me know what you think.
ruclips.net/video/wRxMS4Qlu4Q/видео.html
I wish I would have been watching your videos
Thanks for your videos. I would like to see these push more towards the main stream instead of those bullshit red pill movement videos.
This is the gospel repackaged.
Haha, glad you like it. Stay tuned, I have some exciting videos ahead.
💯
Love it!
My husband is fooling around wuth another woman
How did this young man even figure this out to begin with? Cuz my wife is trying to bill me..
In summary how dow we offer the High LEVEL VALUES
I thought changing behavior is enough. You change your behavior because you love the other person.