I remember when our school teachers made us sit with the opposite gender as a "punishment" . Funny how the slightest interaction with the opposite gender was considered an act of humiliation.
man, I laughed so hard When I was in class 5 our teacher made us sit with opposite gender to reduce the conversation and gossip between our friends And it worked actually 😂
Being a 15 year old girl, I think lack of healthy interaction with opposite gender in school is one problem that develop a sense of awkwardness between both genders regarding the opposite sex. Believe me, a friend of mine who studies in different school told me how in her school, the buildings of boys and girls are on opposite sides. They are not allowed to interact in school hours mostly and they even have a day timing system for boys and girls to go out during recess, so that interactions can be avoided. Moreover, some teachers still have a backward mentality that girls and boys shouldn't be friends with each other. Although, they are from a different generation so we can't really blame them EDIT: 1) Not all schools have this issue. There are exceptions where students are given a healthy environment to interact comfortably
You hit the nail on head with that. Our society makes it so embarrassing to talk to someone from another gender. I remember the times when I talked to a girl at school and every one of my friends was cheering from the background. This might seem like a small thing but this awkwardness between two genders is the reason behind this creepy behaviour
As someone who can count the number of female interactions I’ve had throughout my life on my fingers, I disagree and it depends on how your parents raised you.
As NRI I always felt uncomfortable around indian men. Even before I found out about the tiktok stereotypes and everything. I've never been able to put a finger on it, this video explains it perfectly. I was whistled at by three adult men on a bike while I was just 12. I'm horrified to think that they had no idea that it was wrong.
same i was literally catcalled by men who were older than my father when i was 8 infront of my mother and harassed by one of my neighbours when i was 6 hopefully i am in a better state now
I'm a 25 year old woman from South India and I still find it difficult to talk to the opposite gender normally. Grew up in a co-ed school where girls did not talk to boys as friends
Then imagine this plight of our family members getting us engaged to strangers for Life whom we never intimately or personally interacted with earlier... 😂😂 Scary af!!!
@@Shiva-zj6od Yes, it happens. Since the other classmates specially girls starts teasing the girl about particular boy. And that teasing can become a bigger issue as many teenagers watch Indian serials and they are influenced by them not knowing when to stop. So to avoid such situations they just avoid talking to boys. Well it also depends on the environment of the class, if the environment between boys and girls is friendly and casual in class then a girl can starts interacting with them. I studied in co Ed school and college, but the vibe is totally different in my school and College. Girls and boys can even sit together as friends in college and no one objects but in my school girls and boys rarely interact with each other. So it depends on the environment of the class.
As a Bihari I can relate they just say us Bihari babu 😂😂 Dihati gawar and many more Currently I am in up to complete my study Even when I enter in class my teacher too say me bihari babu 😂😂 That somehow feels superior than others 🤣🤣 And my friends always call me bihari ji 🤣🤣
I was shamed in front of the whole class and my parents were called when I was seen talking to a female classmate when I was in 11th standard. I was made to feel guilty and seen with suspicion by my parents after that. Not to mention how many times I was mocked by lecturers for wearing "colorful" T-shirts. That incident had a deep impact on the way I behaved, dressed etc.
Honestly be yourself. The ones getting angry at you are just jealous they missed out on all the things in their childhood and are now bitter to see others living their life freely. As long as you r not hurting someone idk why it should be a problem for anyone
This is so important!! Most of the Indian men that I met on online platforms turned out to be creepy. It’s so scary. It’s not just online, but offline too, it’s scary to walk past a street alone. So now I have started skipping Indian men, I, intentionally or not, have already formed an assumption that all men are like this, even tho it’s not but we don’t know whom yo trust 🤷🏻♀️
@_shibs___7694 I am Nepali tho, I still have Nepali men as an option. It’s just that I am living in India for my education and I have come across many creepy Indian men. So yeah, good luck to me, I guess!
@@shirin05just improve your eye sight and experience and be strong than you can see the boy behaviour just watching by face or 2 or 3 simple conversation
Not all Indian men are like that especially the younger generations like me who are more open minded. I am a 22 year old guy living in Bangalore and I never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss as I had been shy of girls. After 3 rejections recently, my childhood friend who is 21 year old now turning 22 soon has agreed to meet up after I asked her out via Instagram but she replied to it after almost a month as she isn't that active on the app and she replied yeah ok and then I asked her when we can meet and she is offline again and yet to reply and I am waiting. But I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who used to be in the same school as me but we didn't know each other in school days. Now she is 19 year old and in 1st year of engineering and I am in last year of engineering and we chat daily about pretty much everything and send each other virtual hugs and I think I started to like her too but idk whether it will be fine to ask her out as we are in different colleges and my childhood friend didn't reject me but her college is very near to my home tho.
I am a medical student and we have a subject called Forensic Medicine where we were discussing the subject of R*pe and sexual assault. The topic of consent came up and I was so shocked to see that literally no one in my batch knew about it. They laughed at the fact that one should take consent before anything sexual. And these are kids of rich people in a private medical college. The concept of personal space and boundaries literally doesn’t exist in India and I swear Bollywood has a lot of influence over the stalker culture. The schools not allowing proper socialisation between males and females have a role too. I’ve always loved talking to females in order to understand their side of the story and my god creepy stuff happens with them. Stalking, harassment, staring, etc. are common practices here in our country. I just hope with the introduction of internet and our ability to learn from foreign culture, the next generation will value consent and communication between the two genders.
My heart skipped a beat when i read the word medical students not knowing about consent and laughing! Geez! It's disgusting especially as a girl i feel so unsafe
Well the thing is people are learning from western culture and I can see young boys and girls are more open now as compared to when internet wasn't big around 2014-15 but it has side effects too like casual s*x, hook-up culture which is fine with consent but scientific research shows it leads to stress and anxiety in long term, models influence and what not so rather than being extreme I think a perfect balance should be understood which is talking to each other about everything and normalizing it but also understanding that casual s*x is not good!!
@@utkarshakarki6015 now you are demonising casual s*x and blaming society for that but not blaming women's for misusing laws....as women's are also filing fake r*pe cases after breakup (so what now you're gonna blame love marriages for that ? ) Women's are destroying Men's life by Misusing laws ....and now you're giving justification for that wow mam! Such a nice thinking !
The amount of creeps who use "bura na mano holi hai" as an excuse to harass others on holi is humongous. They've ruined festivals for others by using a religious day for their uncontrolled sexual desires. There's a huge staring problem in India. These men act like they've never seen a woman in their entire life. Most of them actually never interact with women and there's no concept of personal boundaries here.
I saw another person write something similar under another video and the replies were full of people saying that what they said was "hinduphobic" or why the commenter didn't talk about other religion (islam) Absolutely infuriating how people blatantly ignore what the actual point of the comment was. And isn't the fact that men like that use a beautiful festival as an excuse to be pervert more hinduphobic?
@@Wini_7774 some people are really ignoring the fact that creeps are using Holi as an opportunity to harass people and get away with it. These overly religious people should be mad at creeps instead.
@@Wini_7774 and guess what ! Those ppl who call out every right criticism "hinduphobic" to defend their acts are the same who use these auspicious days to exploit the weak ! Be it the harrasment of women (in holi) or assault of animals (diwali) ! And If u give some credible points then they have this weapon of " Go to pakistan" always ready .
Oh yes i saw that too first of all Holi is a festival of happiness and union it never was said that you are supposed to colour someone without consent The whole bura na mano holi hai and attacking with colour started with Bollywood Seriously this is why i don't like bollywood they always promote mostly wrong creepy stuff in romanticized manner it needs to stop!
@snow : u r absolutely correct. This staring problem of Indian men is a big but neglected issue . This issue may be present across the globe as well . But it's sooooo common in India . It's really annoying.
"Never stare at strangers, just mind your business. This is what I was taught as a child And I'm thankful to my parents I don't have the habit of staring at any stranger be it men or women I mind my own business, only look at someone if I'm talking to them"
@@Simply..Lychee. yes, even if you have a crush on them. You should never make people uncomfortable by staring at them no matter how much you like them
@@Simply..Lychee. Small glances once in a while is fine and sometimes we do it subconsciously. As long as it doesn't make the person uncomfortable or creeped out, its fine. Incessant staring is when it becomes a problem.
Good video, as I'm a foreigner living in India with an Indian husband. Until today, I'm still scared actually to go outside by myself. Not only men, but in general all the people are staring and it makes me very uncomfortable. I'd rather have people come to me and talk to me and ask questions instead of staring at me with creepy eyes. There are some women now these days that often come to me and start talking and I can sense that it's also curiosity, as I think I'm the only foreigner in the neighborhood. Nevertheless, I want people to stop staring at me, so I can go about my life in India. I noticed, that dressing up more Indian style helps, but still, I don't dare to go out by myself without my husband for bigger groceries. It's funny, that they don't bother for foreign men, but when it's a foreign woman they all have to stare and it makes me sad in today's society. Most of people would be less rude if I tell them that my husband is Indian. I come from a very progressive and liberal country where men and women are equally treated from a young age and we are all taught in school and at home by our family how to properly interact with various kinds of people and opposite genders. My parents always told me: never to stare at other people, it's rude. no one else is your business and always treat them with the same respect as you want to be treated. I enjoy watching your videos, as it helps me to understand Indian culture better and to read into the country's issues.
I’m from Bangladesh and I have to disagree with you on the foreign man in South asian country thing. Because I was half Persian and half south indian, I also used to get strange creepy looks mostly from women. But it’s true that getting stared at by women is definitely less scary than getting stared at by men lol
@@tawsif1999 I forgot to mention, mostly regarding Western people visiting or living in India. I just notice that men are much less looked upon compared to women. It's also curiosity I guess... but still, it's very uncomfortable at times.
This is really sad but this is not going to change for a while. Change is coming gradually but it is slow, It will probably take another 20-25 years for things to become better. If you are this uncomfortable living in India, you should probably move out. Is it really living if you can't even feel comfortable?
@@luciferwarrior9061 Yeah but it still happens in many schools. Especially only boys are physically punished and humiliated as they're less likely to tell their parents about it, or even if they do, their parents are less likely to care
To all women and girls who have faced crap like this: I'm extremely sorry that you had to go through that. I can personally say that I'll strive to create a society healthy for women. And I'm sure there are many boys who think the same as I.
Earlier Bollywood now is teaching new ways of love between girls and boys And basically this guy have taken the video of 90s Except that Akshay Kumar one
Recently an Indian guy abroad was found carrying an unconscious woman on recording who he r@ped later. The stereotype did not crop out of nowhere. Every Indian woman has been assaulted atleast once. The perception can and should only be changed when Indian women are truly safe.
@@shaivjoshi4063 Maybe you should try asking them if they were ever assaulted in their lives or maybe it is so normalized that they might not have even realized that they have been assaulted.
Once in my school. One boy gave a compliment to the girl that she is beautiful. On next day that girl brought her mother. And that mother slapped the boy. We were like in 5th or 6th std. That boy then never been to that school. I guess he changed his school.
Our indian male have made that impression internationally. Not just foreigner who visited India thinks we are creepy but also foreigner who never visited India thinks we are creepy as well. We made a mark for ourselves.😂😂 I am a student, In the US i am sharing room with 12 all males from different parts of India mejority from states of Telangana and AP native Telugu speaking. The way my roomates think of female in general... I now realised how rotten parenting, education system, society in our country is. There is a class difference people who can afford gated communities in india are bit more modern. I cannot change mindset of my roommates but hope india become more female friendly.
We can't blame then brother. They're not taught about anything about sex education and female interaction in school, in college, not even after all that, they're mocked to the core if they ever had any kind of female interaction
I went to club in US, there were bunch of south indian boys in the club as well. One guy just kept asking a girl to dance by tapping on her shoulder, even though girl was not interested at all. We have a problem with handling no.
I absolutely love the fact that you added the alshay kumar part at the end... These film stars, of not just bollywood by the way but all language cinemas because this issue persists in all, need to be called out for their hypocrisy. Films in India are an extremely potent form of social discourse setting and have an immense impact of the entire society's psyche and character. So it is now more important than ever that we dont just call out or boycott these film stars and their films on just historical or religious lines, which i also agree with, but also on these social aspects as well. And the beginning to that process begins with one single important thing - STOPPING IDOLIZATION OF FILM STARS and looking them as what they are, just an actor.
This problem is needed to be raised. Thank you so much Mohak and the team for making it happen. You are creating awareness regarding many topics that are really important to be discussed. Hat's off to your good work .👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Great content! I wish all the "creepy" Indian men watch this and are hit by some realisations! It's high time men and women of this country realise that what's portrayed as "romantic" and "funny" in Bollywood (and so often also in other Indian industries like Telugu,Kannada, etc. -e.g. Kantara) movies is actually really REALLY disrespectful and even debasing. I loved that you showed Akshay's clips from movies....I still remember how horrified I had felt watching his "love" story unfold in "Toilet:Ek Prem Katha".. they way he had decided to pursue his "love" interest: absolutely abominable! These people themselves live in privileged and protected spaces and unleash such horrid ideas of "heroism" into the society. I wish the movies would stop creating such idiotic and damaging narratives of what a hero is like. Ofc, the people need to use their own brains too! And yes, lack of healthy interaction between boys and girls and the way society treats such an interaction is really the most important issue to be addressed! I suppose if this issue did not exist, the movies themselves wouldn't have succeeded in creating the creeps they do... because at the end of the day the movies just show ways of approaching and interacting with a woman to men who do not seem to know anything about it from their own experience otherwise.
I don’t want to hate on anybody, but very often I have been targeted with misogynistic slurs for making simple remarks online. I mean, attack my arguments, not me. Also joined a telegram channel for study related content and was never aware of the settings, within a few minutes my dms were full of lewd messages and I started receiving video calls at midnight . Please be kind to people regardless of their gender…your words have a big impact.
@@Kushagra.j btw, not virtue signalling here, I am extremely passionate advocate for men’s right( my social media is full of it)…and I’ve nonetheless been trolled mercilessly. And I know how terribly it impacts you. Stupid people exist everywhere.
@@Kushagra.j that’s why I specifically mentioned be kind regardless of gender and stated in the very beginning that I am not targeting any specific group pf people.
I was fortunate to have been brought up in Shillong, Meghalaya. Where we did not have to face problems like this and the concept of personal space came naturally as we grew up. Respect for women and respect for each other . 🙏
Still northeast is much better for women to live in and move freely in..I'm as a naga can confirm this...say anything mean in public to our women ...the whole mob will come to thrash you !!
As a 15 year old talking to opposite gender in our school is still a taboo and if some teacher catches you doing so they will literally take you in side and ask you call they could about that situation
Opposite in my class nobody in my class is like that we can talk sit with opp gender and no one has pb with it teacher has assigned us to sit together too in maharashtra
@@piyushkumar6275 aare ha Bhai samjh gai movie hai aur kitni bar likhega Par aajkal ke young log movie se influence hote hai eesiliye movie me ye sab nhai dikhna chahiye wo bhi main character ke dwara Aagr aap ye sab dikhna band nahi kar rahe ho aur een chizo pe comments kar rahe bad me to ye aapke Dogle pan ko darsta hai
This is not only problem of Bollywood but whole film industry and tv serial industry. In my 12 standard a boy tried to express his love to me and but the way he did it only bring my disgust , it's completely crazy. We should also teach students about healthy relationship and how to express himself
I honestly feel ashamed at introducing myself as an Indian when I meet someone online . The second hand embarrassment I feel ; but then again not so many Indians are privileged enough to be taught these decencies by schools and peers . Thankfully more people are now acknowledging this problem and the situation is improving . I thank you for helping in spreading awareness among our fellow country men and women .
The thing is no other countrymen mention their country but Indians ( specially the creepy ones ) always emphasize that they are from India , like the foreigner will be impressed by them and will handover it property to them .
Yesterday in the AskReddit subreddit I asked people what they think of Indians? And most answers were creepy, sexist, hard working and polite people. After reading those answers I felt a weird sense of racism for the first time in life. But I guess it's a true perception if so many of those foreigners believe that.
Why wouldn't they? You can watch any foreigner's vlog about India and you can see how people ( men and women) just stare at them like they are some other worldly creatures
@@sujalbageriya2619 It's because of India's inferiority complex due to our colonial hangover, obsession with fair skin and low number of European origin people in India which makes them a rare sight to see. As India develops, more people get exposure to the world outside, more people gain an education with the right atmosphere and quality of life improves, this will eventually stop. Depends on our current government efforts to educate the population.
I am from Patna and I see a foreign man walking on the street and no one even cared to even look at him. And this happens at a crowded place. This made me kinda feel good that people are getting less creepy. Can't say about foreign girls.
I am Indian woman, living in foreign and I would say, somewhere it is true as they don't know how to be friend with woman, what are boundaries and basic understanding.I have seen how guys talk about girls, which is very downgrading. Proper policing is important for guys in today's generation.Only 1/10 guys know it, otherwise most guys want more than that because they think u r only friendly because you want more than friendship.
I never thought someone would ever pick this topic for case study video. This has been a major problem in India. Being an introvert and experience of completing my school ed in rural area i myself experienced some trouble. But my family helped me alot overcome my fears and it was smooth sailing thereafter.🥂
@@stephenwilson4931taking pictures of people without their consent, following them in public, constantly messaging them is creepy, doesnt have anything to do with looks
The main issue is the conservative upbringing and no moral education in schools, schools don't teach the meaning of consent , and society evils like eye teasing,sexual harrasment etc. They even restrict male and females to interact with each other. moreover when the law and order is weak in a country, these things will skyrocket and are bound to happen
plus I wish parents and schools also stressed about consent not just in context of sex but also in general. Forcing someone to drink even though they said no, or parents who force their toddlers to give relatives (who are strangers to the kid) a hug or a kiss. Or dance for them? It’s weird.
True that. Society don't allow both the genders to get along with each other and keeps them in a cave until they hit that particular age number where they have to mate or should know each other(specially in arranged marriages) and then at that point it becomes way too hard and weird to even start a convo with another gender. Its crazy how they keep both genders apart and suddenly expects you to act friendly after centuries. Its been happening since school like how you can't sit with another girl just because people will start having different perception about both of you.
Exactly bro. They need to teach children about consent and how porn is harming our eyes. They need to teach boys and girls to stop looking at the other gender that way so we can be a good society The more u keep guys and girls away, the more they're gonna think that it is a conserved thing so we should break it
@@Wini_7774 it's not about education or anything but if you goes in private schools then the boys around you is not creepy and we never seen this types of boys untill we reach to the 8 th class when some boys of the age 21 to 25 stand there to see girl's of our class and they even takes there photos but police still can't do anything and our society didn't accept love marriages but my brother did love marriage and he also face problems from my family even he has job this happens due to conservative mindset.
My first encounter with a creepy man was in Mathura IN A TEMPLE, where we had gone to not just worship but donate some money to the temple. I was still a school girl, from a Hindu family, in the Northeast. The priest disgusted me with the way he touched me with the excuse that I must be held to be guided since I didn't look like I would understand when he speaks Hindi. while none of my family members were noticing. I WAS IN A SALWAR KAMEEZ WITH A LARGE DUPATTA. I did not know what to say or what to do. And even now that I'm in my 30s, the number of times I have noticed creepy men trying to record me or secretly take a photo of me!! And each such time, I was in a MODEST attire. After many unpleasant experiences in life as a woman, I have become very scared of being alone with any man under any circumstance. It's mentally tiring to have to fight every time such things occur, so I tell myself, "Sudharne waale toh hain nahin, apna hi energy jayega aur harassment bhi ulta apna hi hona hai" and hold it back. Apart from that, since I speak fluent Hindi, I already get exhausted from answering someone or the other very frequently that I am Indian, people can speak Hindi where I come from, a lot of my friends and cousins are as fluent as me and then I go on to explain where Tripura is. I recently realized why I feel anxious when I have to go anywhere alone and prefer to go out with someone who looks "more Indian" (mostly my boyfriend): to cut down the explaining and staring.
A similar thing happened to a friend of mine in a temple. She was inappropriately touched by a man when they were waiting in a line. Mind you she was just 6 at the time.
I was reading this article about a survey conducted by an organisation. According to the survey, what men fear the most when they approach a woman is rejection and what women fear the most is getting killed. As a girl, I can relate. There's always a fear in back of my head what if I say no and he stalks me, or threatens me or something worst. There's no women out there who never been through harrasment! The fear is real.
@@ishabargale3216 Wait why does it have to imply that men can't be victims? I'm not trying to downplay the harassment of women, but what you said doesn't make sense...
lol that survey is false, I read a survey too that states women are the most perpetrators of domestic violence than men, but instead try to act like victims
Being an Indian, I feel ashamed here. Sometimes our so-called brothers are such disgrace to our society because they have and promote such filthy creepy mindset. Great job Mohak bhai by raising such matters which have become an inherent part of Indian society.
At first you should be ashamed of actors like Shahrukh, Salman, Akshay and many South Indian actors and directors. They create creepy scenes in movies that is being taken as truth by innocent public and they start acting accordingly. These people should be first jailed for creating bad and harassing environment for girls in country. But that won't ever happen. because these morons are Gods for few fools.
Sometimes I feel the creepy behavior is not just limited to young Indian men. Being stared at for no reason is creepy and both Indian men and women , young and old do it. I currently live in the US and rarely catch someone looking at me walking down the street or in restaurants, airport etc. But even in the US you set foot in an Indian restaurant you will catch a few aunties stare at you up and down like you are walking around naked. It is very uncomfortable and at least the younger generation should actively think about not adopting this habit. I always get this reverse cultural shock when I go back to India that its not considered rude to gawk and stare at people and it happens all the time in almost all public places.
In my school days, I was friends with many girl students. We used to sit together, shared notes with each other and had lunch together. But one day in seventh standard, a lady teacher decided that boys and girls cannot sit together. Boys and girls were separated. On top of that, some boys in class started to make fun if I spoke to any girl saying that I had a 'line' with the girl. This made me extremely shy to approach any girl. All the bonds and friendship which I had made with those girls were broken never to be recovered again. It affected me throughout my teens and college days. Only after attaining certain age and having some financial freedom, I gained some confidence to approach women. But by then my youthful age of romance was over. It doesn't mean that I became a creep or a stalker. Since I was shy and taciturn, I internalised my problems but a lot of people who become creeps can't do it and they just express it in very disturbing ways. This a real mental health issue for young Indian men and only a very liberal attitude from society when they're children can help it. To begin, stop separating boys and girls once they attain puberty. Let them have as much interaction as possible and get to know each other.
Man I don't know where to start. I would be turning 24 soon and have gone through most of what you are saying. It is so that I can talk to women at work or otherwise normally, but I don't have any female friends. I don't believe in romance, more than having some type of connection. I have asked so many girls out and sad part is now I look back and know, I was not even a good friend of theirs, forget being a close or best friend. I have always been an introvert and that has led me to not be the talkative kid. I know how many girls would always be out of my approach, even if they were in my league, because I am that person who will not approach them. I am not sad being single, but I feel I wasted so much time being someone else that what I really am. Hope that I can see the world and have a pet and get my dream cars and take good care of my parents, because I don't want to spend my life in hope of romance. Thanks for the comment, really felt like writing my perspective too!
This is a problem for girls too ngl. Girls too doesn't really know how to interact with guys. Most just run away because again, men are like this. I agree there should be more interactions with the opposite gender otherwise we'll never learn some decencies while approaching people in general
I think this is very important. I like how we are referred to as "The greatest social democracy with lots of freedom" when kids can't even talk to a person of the opposite gender. India may become a "superpower" in paper terms like big and self sustaining economy, manufacturing and militarily, but becoming a social "superpower" will take us years.
I don't think it will ever happen. Our genes will not change over such amount of time. It will take hundreds of thousands of years for ene expression to change. Unless indians intermarry with Europeans on a large scale which I don't think will happen.
I was lucky enough to grow up abroad, study at a school where there was no segregation, where we had healthy relationships with everyone. We never saw each other's genders, we saw them as peers. Unfortunately this doesn't mean much when people see me as the stereotypical indian man until they interact with me. I've thought about why and have had many debates with my friends who actually conform to the stereotype; the silver lining is I've been able to make them understand why it's not okay to stare, teach them about personal space. Some grow, some wilt. But hey, one better person is better than none.
This is a genuine issue which needs to be addressed by people and society as whole.. I loved the analogy shown in the video between Bollywood and real life !
@Anurag Kumar Singh I disagree. His statement of "even though I am a man" sounds like he is being a great man by admitting that some men are creepy which is wrong and I simply pointed it out, I don't see what's wrong with that.
I am a 17 year old girl. I have a friend who is a boy with whom I have studied 10 years. My mother has no problem with our friendship and she supports me.But my father and grandmother along with other relatives always judge me. I remember until 4th standard any student irrespective of gender could sit togather but after that girls and boys were divided. Even during my 10th standard boys and girls had separate classes even separate corners of the school and we used to meet them during language classes like hindi, odia or Sanskrit. Once I was called to submit my presentation to a teacher who was a class teacher of a boys section. When during recess break I went there ANOTHER TEACHER HELD MY HAND AND PUSHED ME AND QUESTIONED ME WHY WAS I THERE.Although the teacher to whom, I was going, was about to collect the presentation. So thats the mentality of some people.
This is sadly true 😢, it’s embarrassing and shameful, I am an Indian immigrant in Canada, and have witnessed this shameful behaviours by fellow Indians 😢
I'd like to share something Till I was in 10th, boys and girls in our class talked normally. Yea, although in different benches (which was actually comfortable I'd say) we were comfortable while talking to boys and we also had many group projects which were done together. Then I went to college, very popular in Telangana for IIT (you guessed it right), there were different sections for boys and girls. Some sections did have co-ed, but all boys sat on one side and all girls on one side. And the most absurd thing, a bench was left in between boys and girls because boys and girls shouldn't talk with each other, you know!! (And we sat like 4 people in one bench)
I must say I have been very fortunate with girls...since childhood I had some girls as friends from colony to school to college and this is the reason I know how to talk with a girl ( and impress her if I wish) Whereas I have seen many men finding it difficult to understand that how should they interact with women and it's simply because they rarely interacted with women outside from there house.
When I asked my nephew (an 8 year old) if there are any girls in his class, he immediately replied that there are but he never talks to them. When I questioned him more, he said boys wouldn’t talk/play with girls as it is not okay to do so. I mean, we as a society are imbibing these opinions into a child’s mind that they become unaware of the ways a boy can approach a girl without offending her and vice versa.
Can relate so much. I've faced weirdass stupidity in school and coaching centres as well. Basic interactions with a female lead to weird looks and then taunts like "aur bhai kaesi hai nayi gf." Again, the schooling system and society are largely responsible for this. Most schools teach kids from a very young age to sit on different benches from girls and interaction is limited in colleges too where there are completely different buildings from boys and girls. Moreover, any romantic relationships between students are suppressed. They don't understand that teens and youngsters need this stuff to balance out their youth or otherwise they'll start looking at the opposite gender as some sort of object of novelty. Older bollywood movies and today's SouthIndian movies don't help either.
Spent full schooling and college like that, at 24 its hard to not develop feeling for any woman who is kind to me, rational mind is string with me so I don't wander off
nowadays movies reels videos all play crucial role in shaping mindset. misogynist approach, toxic muscularity is being taught by disgusting movies, surprisingly these videos cross 1000 cr too
The whole male- female friendship is quite a weird zone. A lot of dudes are incapable of seeing a girl as 'just friend'. They feel entitled to romantic reciprocation from women that they are friends with and talk about being wronged if the girl clarifies that she is not sexually interested in them. I have seen some people turning on their female friends because they refused to get intimate with them. P.S. A lot of people can't accept being refused. I'm not saying that cordially accepting the refusal n even ending the friendship is the same reaction as becoming toxic, accusing the person of having used u, endlessly asking them to reciprocate romantic advances, behaving passive aggressive n all. They are different scenarios.
It all depends on the equation between the two. If the guy wants to date a girl and she doesn’t want to date but is okay with being friends and the guy is not , i don’t see any issue with it. The guy can deny and move on and ofcourse, it should apply exactly the same to a girl.
@@_prash This ! I might come of as non sympathetic but I just can't understand how you fall for somone romantically if they have shown zero intrest towards you. That person can be good looking and a great human being but don't you need that idea that the person likes you too ? that makes you happy and you feel your likingness towards them is valid and appreciated. This I have seen in India a lot, how does this work, curious.
This is a problem which is not just limited to India but it's definitely much more significant here. Instead of shaming men we need to change their perspective and educate them on how to be more social with the opposite gender. Men need to be taught how to take proper care of themselves (physically and mentally) and build self respect which will solve the main cause of the problem which is loneliness.
@@abhishekverma4290 western culture>>>>>>Indian culture muslim culture Japanese culture Chinese culture any culture combined shut ur mouth i hope Indian adopt western culture
I don't usually comment on video's, but this video is a very informative way of teaching our younger one's and society to at least care about someone's privacy and personal space.
The only way to overcome such a problem is by promoting interaction between opposite sex in schools I have always been in a co-ed school till 10th grade and we were always made to sit with the opposite sex so that we can be comfortable with each other but in 11th-12th the school was co-ed but the students came from rural background who have always been in either same sex school or had negligible interation with the opposite gender and I have observed that me and my 10th school friends were able to communicate more freely without being shy or awkward with opposite sex but those people from sex-segregated background were usually very uncomfortable and awkward in even talking or being close friends with them.
Schools censoring talking to your male classmates is so true. I was in a class 10th and had a guy friend in a different section. So, the only time we can interact is either in the morning before assembly or after departure. My class teacher confronted me on this. She even told my mother in the PTM that she is in a bad influence.
@@akashpatre8643 same thing happened to me when I am in 10 th and I'm going home from my tution and one of my female friend she also in my class we know each other from class 1 and our homes are in same direction so i usually go my home with her but some of my friends start calling her name in my tution when she come and i felt very bad.
When you get married and your parents would be expecting baby from you. You must tell your parents/ "Vo kasa hota ha?" In India, our folks kept us from talking to other guys and girls and after marriage. They think you know how to do sex?
As a girl from Bangladesh who has been stalked for 2 years, I really wish our society would change. I'm afraid that people in Bangladesh are being more conservative day by day and they are making male-female friendships even more difficult. 90% schools here are not co-education ones.
I am so happy to see a video on this topic which is so rampant but always slide under the carpet. Thank you Soch ! This is so true that personal space concept is alien for us Indians and in this video as you have shown foreigners getting unwanted attention but the truth is even Indians (men and women) stare their fellow cititzens the same way intentionally or unintentionally and it's quite creepy and yes happens all across urban or rural areas. There is one thing to be vigilant but just to stare someone for sake of timepass or as they would say "Aakhen hai toh dekhenge na", this attitude shows that we are insensitive towards others. The poor Japanese girl getting heckled by guys was horror to me as someone who understands their culture well. But the shocking part is for one sec I couldn't understand what's wrong this the way I have always seen people play Holi and this exact scene I have seen several times. Later I did realised this was the same reason why I had stopped playing Holi in the first place. That was really good initiative by Haryana government and this should be across all the states. Thank you once again for making a video on this and highlighting points how we can change it 🙂
this is a real issue and needs to be fixed. we are a social creatures and having no interaction with the opposite gender starts affecting in our later stages of life. i also had no female interactions till my 11th grade, i just never thought that i would have any need of talking or making friends with them and the society dont even teach or guide you in this regard. and suddenly when you come at the age of marriage they expect you to talk and develop a connection with a random girl that they selected.
Thank you so much, Mohak, for creating such a great video. I have engaged in some of the creepy behaviors you mentioned in the video, and I genuinely feel ashamed and sorry for them. Thanks to you, I now understand the root of the problem and will definitely strive to bring about a positive change in myself. Thank you once again.😃😃😃🙏🙏🙏
God!! I still remember I took a drop year for my NEET exam from Sri Chaitanya in Vijayawada Andhra Pradesh. I am from Himachal Pradesh and I was schooled in a very liberal environment at a catholic school where sitting with girls and talking to each other was encouraged. Now my dad got a super specialization course in Andhra Hospital after my 12th so I went with him and honestly I was shocked at the level of boundaries they had set between girls and boys. The girls and boys were mortally terrified from the idea of getting caught talking to each other. If someone was caught initially a warning then a permanent change of campus and further character assassination of boys and girls in front of their parents. Contrary to the things shown in Telugu cinema these guys were terrified to talk to the girls and vice versa. And then people talk about rape and stalking, this will continue to happen until and unless both genders maintain a level of curiosity which by adulthood developes into obsession. I remember there was a girl who liked me and she tried so desperately to have a conversation with me and one day the Dean of the institution discovered it and as a consequence changed her campus. I felt so bad for her and a group of local boys after the end of classes who apparently liked her approached me with their faces covered and told me " don't bring this North Indian filth here with you" maybe they were jealous and sad at the same time as they were fond of looking at that girl from last many years(the girl did her 12th from the same institution) and now they didn't know what to do as they were never were able to muster up any courage to have a conversation with her. I didn't feel angry I felt extremely sorry for the lads. I never blamed them, the society is to blame. They never let boys Integrate socially with girls and as a result the concept of emotions is lost and what remains is a curiosity as to what is underneath those clothes😔. So sad.
People always try to showcase that South India is more progressive, liberal, gender equal etc but it is not the truth. Parents play a huge role in creating gender segregation. They always try to admit their kids in uni-gender schools, and if they are forced to admit in co-ed, they mostly try to infuse in their child's brain that interacting with opposite gender classmates is not a good etiquette. 90s kids can relate to all of these in a much better way.
i am from himachal and i am shocked too.. in my school , it was completely normal for boys and girls to talk and sit next to each other. but when i saw the situation of other states of india, i got to know the reality
I'm a 15 year old and i this is something i really wanna educate people about. Just today when I was coming back from my tution in an auto, random uncles were staring at me and making weird gestures.. that made me so uncomfortable. They did not say a word, but those eyes terrify me. Even one of my teachers has scolded me for sitting with guy bestfriend in class. This issue really needs some serious attention, for the betterment of our society, and most importantly, our safety.
What can I do man I want a Girlfriend to whom I can talk and share my thoughts and who doesn't feel uneasy to listen and judge me Because She can definitely make me better person ( at time i am not into romantic stuff because for me love is a very broad term ) At the same time I can't just simply go to a random girl and ask her to be by Girlfriend .... I also know about personal space so I don't talk to girls generally as long as there isn't a necessity and that time comes after months .... I sit with my friends who are Males ...and I feel that they will not judge me because they share the same Feeling as I do .... And then we have strict lecture timings you can't even get 5 minutes to talk somebody......
Thanks for bringing this topic up! So many Indian men do this and all my life is women have suffered through it. Most of them don’t understand why it is wrong in the first place! 😱It is really important for us to normalise healthy friendship between men and women so that they are able to treat each other with respect and not be the cause of discomfort for the other sex. 😩 You bring up all hard hitting and relevant topics!! Thank you for that! 🙏
Is it bad that I message girls on Instagram who were in my school? I am a 22 year old guy living in Bangalore who never had a girlfriend before and having no luck on dating apps. I follow and chat with girls on insta who were in the same school as me and are mostly 19-22 year olds now. But I got ghosted and blocked by many. Actually during school days I was very shy near girls so I never interacted with girls those days so many of them don't really remember me so I am kind of like a stranger to them. Only 4 girls chat with me these days and only 2 of them both 20 year olds are sweet to me and we send each other virtual hugs and they call me sweet too but we go to different college now so we haven't met yet.
Let me tell you all about an interesting case [Delhi] Till 9th the gender ratio in our class used to be around 3:7 in some it was 1:3 as girls : boys Our school used to allot us sections on random basis maybe on names or what I don't know But in 10th our schools used to select top 45 students based on 9th results and allot them section A , other 3 sections were alloted on random basis to rest of other students Now in these 45 students the twist is that 23 were girls and 22 were boys for the first time we boys were like used have 1.5 rows and 2.5 for girls Our class teacher was a lady a strict and old teacher initially she wanted us to sit according to our own preferences she was a hindi teacher But soon she realized the Coordination of class is not much good she made a rule that on 1 desk one should be boy and other girl Don't know but that 1 year was different we boys were in minority our class were mainly lead by girls but I think it taught us to respect each other Earlier we used to avoid girls and no boy used to sit with girls but now it was like compulsory and children started feeling no shame in sitting with girls
This is a necessity, must be done more often from early school age. So that when they step in college and taste freedom for 1st time , they don’t get haywire. Also it will help us look at females with less positive biased , rather that in present time If you are a female, you are by default innocent and victim. We need to understand that females are a complete human too with equally evil intentions and capable of committing crimes as equal to male counterparts.
Reminds me of the time when my seat was literally surrounded by all girls on all four sides I got the lable as the garrison town guy with no contact with guys in class honestly some work needs to be done among the students too
Thanks for making a video on this topic....wish it was broadcast on all screens in India somehow :) Hoping we can all make strides towards having better understanding and empathy towards all genders. It's mind-blowing to think of how many problems it can solve.
I'm from UP and I live in that kind of environment Mohak bhai is talking about. I've no female friends. I never talked to a girl for two minutes straight. I used to get nervous when it came to speaking with a girl, but now I'm trying to normalise it. People here believe in a "a girl and a boy can never be friends" mentality, even the girls, I think. I remember once I was in the market and there was a girl who dropped her books. I saw that and picked the books up and gave them to her. But I felt that a lot of people were looking and smiling at me as if I was trying to impress the girl or something. Maybe the girl herself thought the same, but I didn't have any intention like that. 😃
a few months ago, i happened to visit my girlfriend at her rented apartment and while leaving i just side hugged her once. In a few mins she got a call from the society secretary to avoid doing “modern” things in public because “respected people” live in that society!!! He also messaged her a screenshot of the cctv footage of me hugging her. 😅
broo thats so fucked up. Similar thing happened to me in school when I shaked hand with a girl and a teacher saw us. The teacher called both our parents and complained that how "undisciplined" we are. The worst thing is that my dad slapped me for that. I was just 13 🙂
@@shibainu7500 true. Bohot humiliation jhelni padti hai bohot bacho ko aise bekar teachers ki wajah se. That in turn ruins their school life and makes them hate it forever (me).
Even though my school presented itself as a coed school, there were separate classroom for boys and girls from 5th grade. The teachers as well as my parents didn't allow any kind of interaction between boys and girls and saw it negatively. It really had a tremendous effect on me as it made me awkward and anxious around girls and it made it hard for me to approach and start a conversation with a girl. our school and society needs to encourage healthy interactions between boys and girls from an early age to prevent this.
I was shamed in front of the whole class and my parents were called when I was seen talking to a female classmate when I was in 11th standard. I was made to feel guilty
I think this problem also implies to all the well educated people out there. I grew up in Air Force Station and there were guys (probably my father's age) who would stalk me and few other young girls as if they're trying to be friends with us or may be more than that. Ngl my father's boss (married and has a kid ) asked me out for coffee and texted me on WhatsApp asking for a pic of mine.. IDK how was I supposed to feel but it was disgusting and this has happened to many other known friends who were brought up in defence campuses. I'm specifically not saying that all of them are creepy but if such sorta approach a man can have who's well educated and also has wife and kids, both problem and solution lie beyond that. I wish people were better than this.
Ya ! my girlfriend also faced the same problem & no one was there to hear her out or help her out , but now she has me & she shares everything with me ❤ . These AFS officers are known to protect "mother" India but some shits out these officers are running the "mother" tag & respect . How can the govt. give the responsibility of protecting mother India on the shoulders of such officers when they are teasing young girls !! Hell man ! every thing ! every body is responsible for such act .
After having an healthy school life in terms of male-female interaction and friendship... When I shifted to kota to join ALLEN..... I had faced an cultural shock.... Like in ALLEN... They are having different shifts for male and female students... Forget about sharing classes.... They even try to avoid their interactions at stares... When at 2PM females used to leave and males used to enter the same building according to schedule.......i mean... It's like separating a pray population from predator... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Didi ji mujhe ek chej batao Zara please just as little brother Agar aap Chaho to help Kardo Aapko kya lagta hai Koi ladka aapko kaise approach kare to be a friend without looking a creep or a stalker
@@_kartik_chauhan meri already hai bhai 3 saal se. Isiliye bol rha hu. Normally jaa k pucho, aur agar na bole toh ego pe mat lo. "No problem," bolke nikl lo.
Idk if being an introvert has to do with anything, but the watch thing happened with me too and I felt extremely uncomfortable. Also if people are staring at you, idk why but you feel their stares...specifically in the metro. Why is talking to the opposite sex such a big deal in childhood?? And suddenly after college you want them to have kids?? Thankfully I didn't have parents like that. I was in a Co ed school which normalised talking with anyone. And yes before anyone calls me spoiled...I don't drink, smoke or anything tbh. I respect everyone. And I'm proud I had parents like that. Sadly my mum is no more. Thank you Dad.
When I was in first year, I was friends with a group of girls. All of us spent a lot of time together. Professors and guys looked at me as if either I was some kind of a player which made me realised there is still a lot of taboo of a guy and girl being friends.
As someone who studied 8 years in kv , once we were in 10th or more , teachers stopped moral policing us , i never saw any instances of teachers discouraging interactions between students of different genders. Agar koi lafda hota tha tabhi hi apne teachers involved hote the
again.. we call relationships as lafda🙂.. not all are lafdas... i have many friends who had their relationships from school and are still together... i feel we should educate teenagers especially the difference between love/infatuation etc....not always is everything infatuation...
@@DR-jl6fm guess you misunderstood me . Lafda like serious lafda. Example , 2 girls presented their case to class teacher , one girl was trying to date the other girls bf/crush , and the boy is a senior lol
@@DR-jl6fm in India teenagers who are in relationships don't do well in their careers unless they're IIT level legends. Most of those dudes who were toppers in my high school who were in a relationship are doing engineering from below average private colleges and will get minimum wage
People say how can I live in a China which is not considered a free country. Well, at least I got free from stares after coming here 😅 freedom to roam freely without fear is the best freedom
As a fellow in KV student i can confirm they aren't really a co-ed school anymore. I don't know what sexism/discrimination girls face but we guys face a lot of stuff too. There is no equality in these so called co-ed schools and if you make a friend of the opposite gender and sit with them You'll probably be called out and told to sit somewhere else. Common friendship and talks with girls are a taboo too and people may even spread rumours about you. There is a lot of discrimination that you'll notice on a daily basis. This basically negates the whole purpose of co-ed schools. There are a lot more things i can talk about but i wanna keep this as family friendly as possible Edit - I forgot to mention how even just by talking to girls you are labelled as horny or some other term.
KVs were great in the 70s 80s when only kids of transferable govt employees were the students there....yup its the truth, mixing kids from different background doesn't really work well. Good become spoilt, spoilt become thugs. now KVs are nothing but hell holes and co-ed for just the sake of it
In my experience as a girl with kv school boys, they were so bad but I agree sometimes it was known to be inappropriate to talk to the opposite gender. Even as a girl I have experienced the same, but I should say I have experienced worse like sexual harassment and objectification. Stalking too…
Same thing happened in my school A girl and a boy of our class became really good friends and spent most of their time togather**group studing But the teachers were acting weird about this Many teachers complained about such behaviour to our class teacher and told him to make them sit sepreately But our class teacher boldly said that "Friendship between a girl and boy is normal They can talk if they want to. I will not change their seats😊"
as an Indian girl, 18 I really feel someone(creepy guy) is staring at me every time I go out. I feel unsafe walking alone in the streets. they really be looking sometimes even at my chest. I actually get scared lol i just stare back with rage in my face idk how to face it
As a teenager I can totally relate with this video I am in 9th grade . I want to share one of my story this year I played holi with my classmates and clicked some pictures I showed that pictures to my mother and she litterly shouted on me she told me stay away from boys they are not good 😐 I don't why we are taught that boys and girls are equal when we cannot do anything like that
Same, but it was something else. I asked for some homework from my male classmates because i was lagging behind and my mother told me to not talk to them or be friends with them. Which was stupid as hell because what i asked for was literal homework.
@@rinkeerani7385they want you to be involved in study and not into friendships because if ever you get into love with somebody your life will be distracted and disturbed That's all
the thing he said in the beginning is way too relatable for me, there was a guy who constantly used to follow me on my way back from tuitions. he always noticed that i felt uneasy and angry but he still did it repeatedly with no shame...... and the fact is that he never talked to me but only looked at me in a very creepy way......as he remained silent i also couldn't make any protest.... later on i realised that he only used to this because most probably he was inspired by these rubbish bollywood movies that have no logic.... he thought that i would say yes to him if he keeps on following me like me like that! so much of nuisance!
3:33 separate sections for boys and girls exist in many parts of India. I m from Tripura and my school sri sri ravishankar Vidyamandir divided sections on that basis but limited to class 11 and 12. But another popular school called sri krishna mission school divided entire buildings on that basis......they even get tiffin break in different time While people might laugh but the thing is its a serious issue. Schools r place which teach us gender inequality and discrimination right from the start of our life
I remember when our school teachers made us sit with the opposite gender as a "punishment" . Funny how the slightest interaction with the opposite gender was considered an act of humiliation.
man, I laughed so hard
When I was in class 5 our teacher made us sit with opposite gender to reduce the conversation and gossip between our friends
And it worked actually 😂
And i always created nuisance to get this punishment
It still is..
@@pahadipilla you're one of the chads people wish they were 🙃
@@theunfunnylad693 hahaha
I’m tamil and it’s shocking how much stalking is showed in tamil movies and portrayed as something normal
அந்த ரசிகர்மன்றத்து நாய்களை கொள்ள வேண்டும்...😂
I thought tamils were the most educated people in country 😅😅😂😂😂joke
@@RealCherry8085
Yes, they're! But, some obsessed with skin colour!
@@RealCherry8085 actually keralites are (I'm not a kerelite)
@@RealCherry8085 even the most educated ones are casteist, sexist and racist.
Being intellectual is nothing when you’re simply a terrible human
Being a 15 year old girl, I think lack of healthy interaction with opposite gender in school is one problem that develop a sense of awkwardness between both genders regarding the opposite sex.
Believe me, a friend of mine who studies in different school told me how in her school, the buildings of boys and girls are on opposite sides. They are not allowed to interact in school hours mostly and they even have a day timing system for boys and girls to go out during recess, so that interactions can be avoided.
Moreover, some teachers still have a backward mentality that girls and boys shouldn't be friends with each other. Although, they are from a different generation so we can't really blame them
EDIT: 1) Not all schools have this issue. There are exceptions where students are given a healthy environment to interact comfortably
You hit the nail on head with that. Our society makes it so embarrassing to talk to someone from another gender. I remember the times when I talked to a girl at school and every one of my friends was cheering from the background. This might seem like a small thing but this awkwardness between two genders is the reason behind this creepy behaviour
as a fellow 15yo I approve of this message
As someone who can count the number of female interactions I’ve had throughout my life on my fingers, I disagree and it depends on how your parents raised you.
Thoda bade ho jao to desh sudhar dena bahan yaha comment me gyan fekane se kya hoga
This teacher thing is soo truee.., lol
As NRI I always felt uncomfortable around indian men. Even before I found out about the tiktok stereotypes and everything. I've never been able to put a finger on it, this video explains it perfectly. I was whistled at by three adult men on a bike while I was just 12. I'm horrified to think that they had no idea that it was wrong.
same i was literally catcalled by men who were older than my father when i was 8 infront of my mother and harassed by one of my neighbours when i was 6 hopefully i am in a better state now
@@aroundhyunjin So sorry to hear that. I hope you're doing better and I hope those men feel ashamed for what they did
@@starlure we get it you like white men that is cool lol
@@RazorRamonMachismo This isn't about my preferences the point of the comment flies above your head.
@@starlure HA got you lmao
I'm a 25 year old woman from South India and I still find it difficult to talk to the opposite gender normally. Grew up in a co-ed school where girls did not talk to boys as friends
😢😢 btw you can talk to me 😂😂 just kidding I m not creepy okk 🙂🙂😑😬🥺
@@solid2561 🤣🤣
Then imagine this plight of our family members getting us engaged to strangers for Life whom we never intimately or personally interacted with earlier... 😂😂
Scary af!!!
Even if boys trying to talk to girls. Girls just take it as offence in school. I have seen that many times.
@@Shiva-zj6od Yes, it happens. Since the other classmates specially girls starts teasing the girl about particular boy. And that teasing can become a bigger issue as many teenagers watch Indian serials and they are influenced by them not knowing when to stop. So to avoid such situations they just avoid talking to boys. Well it also depends on the environment of the class, if the environment between boys and girls is friendly and casual in class then a girl can starts interacting with them. I studied in co Ed school and college, but the vibe is totally different in my school and College. Girls and boys can even sit together as friends in college and no one objects but in my school girls and boys rarely interact with each other. So it depends on the environment of the class.
When Indians stereotype Biharis : Chill😂
When Foreigners stereotype Indians : RACIST !!!🤬
Sometimes I think how some dufus in our country think of Bihar is how foreigners think of us indians
So true! 😂
Welcome to INDIA 😭
Becoz biharis stereotype is used by foreigners as indian stereotype
As a Bihari I can relate they just say us Bihari babu 😂😂
Dihati gawar and many more
Currently I am in up to complete my study
Even when I enter in class my teacher too say me bihari babu 😂😂
That somehow feels superior than others 🤣🤣
And my friends always call me bihari ji 🤣🤣
I was shamed in front of the whole class and my parents were called when I was seen talking to a female classmate when I was in 11th standard. I was made to feel guilty and seen with suspicion by my parents after that. Not to mention how many times I was mocked by lecturers for wearing "colorful" T-shirts. That incident had a deep impact on the way I behaved, dressed etc.
man, this shit is so fucked up fr 😢
Sad to hear it
Honestly be yourself. The ones getting angry at you are just jealous they missed out on all the things in their childhood and are now bitter to see others living their life freely. As long as you r not hurting someone idk why it should be a problem for anyone
What does it means colorful t-shirt?
Please tell
I feel sorry for you man😶
This is so important!! Most of the Indian men that I met on online platforms turned out to be creepy. It’s so scary. It’s not just online, but offline too, it’s scary to walk past a street alone. So now I have started skipping Indian men, I, intentionally or not, have already formed an assumption that all men are like this, even tho it’s not but we don’t know whom yo trust 🤷🏻♀️
@_shibs___7694 I am Nepali tho, I still have Nepali men as an option. It’s just that I am living in India for my education and I have come across many creepy Indian men. So yeah, good luck to me, I guess!
@@shirin05just improve your eye sight and experience and be strong than you can see the boy behaviour just watching by face or 2 or 3 simple conversation
Not all Indian men are like that especially the younger generations like me who are more open minded. I am a 22 year old guy living in Bangalore and I never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss as I had been shy of girls. After 3 rejections recently, my childhood friend who is 21 year old now turning 22 soon has agreed to meet up after I asked her out via Instagram but she replied to it after almost a month as she isn't that active on the app and she replied yeah ok and then I asked her when we can meet and she is offline again and yet to reply and I am waiting. But I also have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who used to be in the same school as me but we didn't know each other in school days. Now she is 19 year old and in 1st year of engineering and I am in last year of engineering and we chat daily about pretty much everything and send each other virtual hugs and I think I started to like her too but idk whether it will be fine to ask her out as we are in different colleges and my childhood friend didn't reject me but her college is very near to my home tho.
Nepal is one of the most dangerous countries for women right?
@@manosijroy8282 You're.. finding someone.. through Instagram?????
I am a medical student and we have a subject called Forensic Medicine where we were discussing the subject of R*pe and sexual assault. The topic of consent came up and I was so shocked to see that literally no one in my batch knew about it. They laughed at the fact that one should take consent before anything sexual. And these are kids of rich people in a private medical college.
The concept of personal space and boundaries literally doesn’t exist in India and I swear Bollywood has a lot of influence over the stalker culture. The schools not allowing proper socialisation between males and females have a role too.
I’ve always loved talking to females in order to understand their side of the story and my god creepy stuff happens with them. Stalking, harassment, staring, etc. are common practices here in our country.
I just hope with the introduction of internet and our ability to learn from foreign culture, the next generation will value consent and communication between the two genders.
It's really feel safe😢 when men like you exist in society for a girl
My heart skipped a beat when i read the word medical students not knowing about consent and laughing!
Geez! It's disgusting especially as a girl i feel so unsafe
@@_o6629 oh yeah? like we Men's are safe here.. wake up to reality Mam ! 74% Fake R*pe cases
ring a bell ?
Well the thing is people are learning from western culture and I can see young boys and girls are more open now as compared to when internet wasn't big around 2014-15 but it has side effects too like casual s*x, hook-up culture which is fine with consent but scientific research shows it leads to stress and anxiety in long term, models influence and what not so rather than being extreme I think a perfect balance should be understood which is talking to each other about everything and normalizing it but also understanding that casual s*x is not good!!
@@utkarshakarki6015 now you are demonising casual s*x and blaming society for that but not blaming women's for misusing laws....as women's are also filing fake r*pe cases after breakup (so what now you're gonna blame love marriages for that ? ) Women's are destroying Men's life by Misusing laws ....and now you're giving justification for that wow mam! Such a nice thinking !
The amount of creeps who use "bura na mano holi hai" as an excuse to harass others on holi is humongous. They've ruined festivals for others by using a religious day for their uncontrolled sexual desires.
There's a huge staring problem in India. These men act like they've never seen a woman in their entire life. Most of them actually never interact with women and there's no concept of personal boundaries here.
I saw another person write something similar under another video and the replies were full of people saying that what they said was "hinduphobic" or why the commenter didn't talk about other religion (islam) Absolutely infuriating how people blatantly ignore what the actual point of the comment was. And isn't the fact that men like that use a beautiful festival as an excuse to be pervert more hinduphobic?
@@Wini_7774 some people are really ignoring the fact that creeps are using Holi as an opportunity to harass people and get away with it. These overly religious people should be mad at creeps instead.
@@Wini_7774 and guess what ! Those ppl who call out every right criticism "hinduphobic" to defend their acts are the same who use these auspicious days to exploit the weak ! Be it the harrasment of women (in holi) or assault of animals (diwali) ! And If u give some credible points then they have this weapon of " Go to pakistan" always ready .
Oh yes i saw that too first of all Holi is a festival of happiness and union it never was said that you are supposed to colour someone without consent
The whole bura na mano holi hai and attacking with colour started with Bollywood
Seriously this is why i don't like bollywood they always promote mostly wrong creepy stuff in romanticized manner it needs to stop!
@snow : u r absolutely correct.
This staring problem of Indian men is a big but neglected issue .
This issue may be present across the globe as well . But it's sooooo common in India . It's really annoying.
"Never stare at strangers, just mind your business.
This is what I was taught as a child
And I'm thankful to my parents
I don't have the habit of staring at any stranger be it men or women
I mind my own business, only look at someone if I'm talking to them"
Thank you
Lol.. even if you have a crush on them?
@@Simply..Lychee. yes, even if you have a crush on them. You should never make people uncomfortable by staring at them no matter how much you like them
@@Maya_hee well not staring.. like.. just looking at your crush?
@@Simply..Lychee. Small glances once in a while is fine and sometimes we do it subconsciously. As long as it doesn't make the person uncomfortable or creeped out, its fine.
Incessant staring is when it becomes a problem.
Good video, as I'm a foreigner living in India with an Indian husband. Until today, I'm still scared actually to go outside by myself. Not only men, but in general all the people are staring and it makes me very uncomfortable. I'd rather have people come to me and talk to me and ask questions instead of staring at me with creepy eyes. There are some women now these days that often come to me and start talking and I can sense that it's also curiosity, as I think I'm the only foreigner in the neighborhood. Nevertheless, I want people to stop staring at me, so I can go about my life in India. I noticed, that dressing up more Indian style helps, but still, I don't dare to go out by myself without my husband for bigger groceries. It's funny, that they don't bother for foreign men, but when it's a foreign woman they all have to stare and it makes me sad in today's society. Most of people would be less rude if I tell them that my husband is Indian. I come from a very progressive and liberal country where men and women are equally treated from a young age and we are all taught in school and at home by our family how to properly interact with various kinds of people and opposite genders. My parents always told me: never to stare at other people, it's rude. no one else is your business and always treat them with the same respect as you want to be treated. I enjoy watching your videos, as it helps me to understand Indian culture better and to read into the country's issues.
I’m from Bangladesh and I have to disagree with you on the foreign man in South asian country thing. Because I was half Persian and half south indian, I also used to get strange creepy looks mostly from women. But it’s true that getting stared at by women is definitely less scary than getting stared at by men lol
@@tawsif1999 I forgot to mention, mostly regarding Western people visiting or living in India. I just notice that men are much less looked upon compared to women. It's also curiosity I guess... but still, it's very uncomfortable at times.
@@DesiDutchDiarieswhere do you live sis in india
This is really sad but this is not going to change for a while. Change is coming gradually but it is slow, It will probably take another 20-25 years for things to become better. If you are this uncomfortable living in India, you should probably move out. Is it really living if you can't even feel comfortable?
I understand
In my school, it was a punishment that if you don't do homework or misbehave, you will be sat next to girl and everyone in school will mock you
Hey bro, do school punishments still exists??
@@jashanbirsingh yep
@@noble_limebut it’s illegal as per RTE Act
Physical punishment is illegal, not this@@jashanbirsingh
@@luciferwarrior9061 Yeah but it still happens in many schools. Especially only boys are physically punished and humiliated as they're less likely to tell their parents about it, or even if they do, their parents are less likely to care
To all women and girls who have faced crap like this: I'm extremely sorry that you had to go through that. I can personally say that I'll strive to create a society healthy for women. And I'm sure there are many boys who think the same as I.
Good man u are 🙌🏽
Thanks Abhimanyu . We want more boys like u 🤗
Thank you! We really appreciate having people like you
Count me in ✌️
count me in bro
Moral of the story: "do not watch Bollywood movies "😂
Only Bollywood?
bollywood movies are much better than other industries in this genre they at least do not show focefull love like kgf and pushpa
@@pranitrindhe1778 agree 👍
Earlier Bollywood now is teaching new ways of love between girls and boys
And basically this guy have taken the video of 90s
Except that Akshay Kumar one
Bollywood movie 🎥 is the best ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Recently an Indian guy abroad was found carrying an unconscious woman on recording who he r@ped later. The stereotype did not crop out of nowhere. Every Indian woman has been assaulted atleast once. The perception can and should only be changed when Indian women are truly safe.
Well, my mom, sister, grandma, aunty, 2nd cousin, 3rd cousin. Did not. But I was falsely accused by 5 girls.
Woah really @@shaivjoshi4063
@@shaivjoshi4063 Maybe you should try asking them if they were ever assaulted in their lives or maybe it is so normalized that they might not have even realized that they have been assaulted.
@@shaivjoshi4063 you will be surprised that they have but they won't tell you as you are a man.
What are your sources @barneyy
Students used to get suspended in our school for talking to opposite gender. This was the biggest crime you can commit in our school
Really strange but nothing to do 😥
Same.
That's fucked up bruh
Once in my school. One boy gave a compliment to the girl that she is beautiful. On next day that girl brought her mother. And that mother slapped the boy. We were like in 5th or 6th std. That boy then never been to that school. I guess he changed his school.
This should be against human rights
Our indian male have made that impression internationally. Not just foreigner who visited India thinks we are creepy but also foreigner who never visited India thinks we are creepy as well. We made a mark for ourselves.😂😂 I am a student, In the US i am sharing room with 12 all males from different parts of India mejority from states of Telangana and AP native Telugu speaking.
The way my roomates think of female in general... I now realised how rotten parenting, education system, society in our country is. There is a class difference people who can afford gated communities in india are bit more modern. I cannot change mindset of my roommates but hope india become more female friendly.
We can't blame then brother. They're not taught about anything about sex education and female interaction in school, in college, not even after all that, they're mocked to the core if they ever had any kind of female interaction
@@spymadmax584 pehle una bolna seekhna hoga. Bina ghali.
@@spymadmax584 We can. Grown men are completely capable of going on the internet and learning about sex education themselves.
Why? What happened?
I went to club in US, there were bunch of south indian boys in the club as well. One guy just kept asking a girl to dance by tapping on her shoulder, even though girl was not interested at all. We have a problem with handling no.
I absolutely love the fact that you added the alshay kumar part at the end... These film stars, of not just bollywood by the way but all language cinemas because this issue persists in all, need to be called out for their hypocrisy. Films in India are an extremely potent form of social discourse setting and have an immense impact of the entire society's psyche and character. So it is now more important than ever that we dont just call out or boycott these film stars and their films on just historical or religious lines, which i also agree with, but also on these social aspects as well.
And the beginning to that process begins with one single important thing - STOPPING IDOLIZATION OF FILM STARS and looking them as what they are, just an actor.
The whole segment of akshay kumar was legendary
5:16 Where does this inspiration came from..?
Sharukh Khan:🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Every movie of sharuk 😂😂
@@chargeoutanime4864 Darr movie criticised stalking...!! same goes with Anjaam...
Man you have my respect! You're addressing very important aspects in a way it should be. Please continue this great work.
As a vlogger, i couldnt agree more man
He takes problems which don't exist😂
@@hello-il3fg He's talking about problems like you.
@@hello-il3fg problam is you my friend.. the problem itself can't see any problem elsewhere..
Some people will not stop dirty girls and alcoholic boys.
But freedom ka gyaan denge.
This problem is needed to be raised.
Thank you so much Mohak and the team for making it happen. You are creating awareness regarding many topics that are really important to be discussed.
Hat's off to your good work .👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@Hui hui so what sirrr!
Indian culture ☕
@Hui hui just bought a new phone...otherwise I'm watching this channel bhut Pehle see🙂
@Hui hui Men☕
@Hui hui Ganjam wbu
Great content! I wish all the "creepy" Indian men watch this and are hit by some realisations! It's high time men and women of this country realise that what's portrayed as "romantic" and "funny" in Bollywood (and so often also in other Indian industries like Telugu,Kannada, etc. -e.g. Kantara) movies is actually really REALLY disrespectful and even debasing. I loved that you showed Akshay's clips from movies....I still remember how horrified I had felt watching his "love" story unfold in "Toilet:Ek Prem Katha".. they way he had decided to pursue his "love" interest: absolutely abominable! These people themselves live in privileged and protected spaces and unleash such horrid ideas of "heroism" into the society. I wish the movies would stop creating such idiotic and damaging narratives of what a hero is like. Ofc, the people need to use their own brains too! And yes, lack of healthy interaction between boys and girls and the way society treats such an interaction is really the most important issue to be addressed! I suppose if this issue did not exist, the movies themselves wouldn't have succeeded in creating the creeps they do... because at the end of the day the movies just show ways of approaching and interacting with a woman to men who do not seem to know anything about it from their own experience otherwise.
I don’t want to hate on anybody, but very often I have been targeted with misogynistic slurs for making simple remarks online. I mean, attack my arguments, not me. Also joined a telegram channel for study related content and was never aware of the settings, within a few minutes my dms were full of lewd messages and I started receiving video calls at midnight . Please be kind to people regardless of their gender…your words have a big impact.
I sympathise with you but what about millions of Misandrist messages on social media and in popular culture which we see and feel daily?
@@Kushagra.j btw, not virtue signalling here, I am extremely passionate advocate for men’s right( my social media is full of it)…and I’ve nonetheless been trolled mercilessly. And I know how terribly it impacts you. Stupid people exist everywhere.
@@Kushagra.j that’s why I specifically mentioned be kind regardless of gender and stated in the very beginning that I am not targeting any specific group pf people.
Iam creepy 😌
I hope u dont conclude that all are same . There is a huge section of men in India who don't do these stuffs ...
One of the major reasons why I dislike the Indian society. Hats off bro, keep up the good work!
is there anything to like about the indian society ? because all i see is crap from ignorent people who are not willing to change.
Hello fellow Machiavellian.
To jau apne favorite desho mein . Bharat chodo
@@swastikayanghosh160 If your mother is doing questionable things, would you make her mend her ways, or just leave her?
I was fortunate to have been brought up in Shillong, Meghalaya. Where we did not have to face problems like this and the concept of personal space came naturally as we grew up. Respect for women and respect for each other . 🙏
Really?? I was born and brought up in assam and went there on every vacation. People stare a lot. Especially if you look different from them.
nice place bro
@@grace-zz8zhAssamese community and khasi community are very different IMHO
Still northeast is much better for women to live in and move freely in..I'm as a naga can confirm this...say anything mean in public to our women ...the whole mob will come to thrash you !!
Yeah same in Goa and coastal Karnataka region, no one cares ,
As a 15 year old talking to opposite gender in our school is still a taboo and if some teacher catches you doing so they will literally take you in side and ask you call they could about that situation
Opposite in my class nobody in my class is like that we can talk sit with opp gender and no one has pb with it teacher has assigned us to sit together too in maharashtra
10:26 Akshay Kumar's hypocrisy
Neon man incoming
Ye movie hai aur Akshay kya har actor ko aisa role mila hi hai ek actor ka naam batana jisne aisa role nhi kiya hai
@@piyushkumar6275 aare ha Bhai samjh gai movie hai aur kitni bar likhega
Par aajkal ke young log movie se influence hote hai eesiliye movie me ye sab nhai dikhna chahiye wo bhi main character ke dwara
Aagr aap ye sab dikhna band nahi kar rahe ho aur een chizo pe comments kar rahe bad me to ye aapke
Dogle pan ko darsta hai
But moi ji ne to hippokrashi kaha 😂
This is not only problem of Bollywood but whole film industry and tv serial industry. In my 12 standard a boy tried to express his love to me and but the way he did it only bring my disgust , it's completely crazy. We should also teach students about healthy relationship and how to express himself
I honestly feel ashamed at introducing myself as an Indian when I meet someone online . The second hand embarrassment I feel ; but then again not so many Indians are privileged enough to be taught these decencies by schools and peers . Thankfully more people are now acknowledging this problem and the situation is improving .
I thank you for helping in spreading awareness among our fellow country men and women .
why so you represent india in your way if you are decent then indian image will improve
Just because some do, does not mean you should feel ashamed of being an Indian. Thats wrong mentality
The thing is no other countrymen mention their country but Indians ( specially the creepy ones ) always emphasize that they are from India , like the foreigner will be impressed by them and will handover it property to them .
Indians are the most successful people in world. CEOs and presidents in various countries. Maybe you should get over your negative mentality
Buddy,You have slave mentality 🤦
Yesterday in the AskReddit subreddit I asked people what they think of Indians? And most answers were creepy, sexist, hard working and polite people. After reading those answers I felt a weird sense of racism for the first time in life. But I guess it's a true perception if so many of those foreigners believe that.
First time?
Nice name
Why wouldn't they? You can watch any foreigner's vlog about India and you can see how people ( men and women) just stare at them like they are some other worldly creatures
@@sujalbageriya2619 It's because of India's inferiority complex due to our colonial hangover, obsession with fair skin and low number of European origin people in India which makes them a rare sight to see. As India develops, more people get exposure to the world outside, more people gain an education with the right atmosphere and quality of life improves, this will eventually stop. Depends on our current government efforts to educate the population.
Your name checks out for sure.
I am from Patna and I see a foreign man walking on the street and no one even cared to even look at him. And this happens at a crowded place. This made me kinda feel good that people are getting less creepy. Can't say about foreign girls.
If there is any foreign girl
All uncles: 😘😘🥰🥰😍🤩🤤🤤🤤
@@ashwani515 frfr
@@ashwani515 unless she is from africa
truth is truth
Africans can be beautiful too.They just don't know how to present them.
@@markazulislam5143 they look beautiful even without whatever u mean by 'presenting'
3:42... I hope the editor gets a raise. Lol
I am Indian woman, living in foreign and I would say, somewhere it is true as they don't know how to be friend with woman, what are boundaries and basic understanding.I have seen how guys talk about girls, which is very downgrading. Proper policing is important for guys in today's generation.Only 1/10 guys know it, otherwise most guys want more than that because they think u r only friendly because you want more than friendship.
You are commenting late 🙂, better luck next time
I never thought someone would ever pick this topic for case study video.
This has been a major problem in India. Being an introvert and experience of completing my school ed in rural area i myself experienced some trouble. But my family helped me alot overcome my fears and it was smooth sailing thereafter.🥂
How your family helped u overcoming this, can u share?
Creepy is just a guy who is not attractive, trying to flirt.
Dating and sex is mainstream in India as well.
@@stephenwilson4931taking pictures of people without their consent, following them in public, constantly messaging them is creepy, doesnt have anything to do with looks
The main issue is the conservative upbringing and no moral education in schools, schools don't teach the meaning of consent , and society evils like eye teasing,sexual harrasment etc. They even restrict male and females to interact with each other. moreover when the law and order is weak in a country, these things will skyrocket and are bound to happen
plus I wish parents and schools also stressed about consent not just in context of sex but also in general. Forcing someone to drink even though they said no, or parents who force their toddlers to give relatives (who are strangers to the kid) a hug or a kiss. Or dance for them? It’s weird.
True that. Society don't allow both the genders to get along with each other and keeps them in a cave until they hit that particular age number where they have to mate or should know each other(specially in arranged marriages) and then at that point it becomes way too hard and weird to even start a convo with another gender. Its crazy how they keep both genders apart and suddenly expects you to act friendly after centuries. Its been happening since school like how you can't sit with another girl just because people will start having different perception about both of you.
Exactly bro. They need to teach children about consent and how porn is harming our eyes. They need to teach boys and girls to stop looking at the other gender that way so we can be a good society
The more u keep guys and girls away, the more they're gonna think that it is a conserved thing so we should break it
@@Wini_7774 it's not about education or anything but if you goes in private schools then the boys around you is not creepy and we never seen this types of boys untill we reach to the 8 th class when some boys of the age 21 to 25 stand there to see girl's of our class and they even takes there photos but police still can't do anything and our society didn't accept love marriages but my brother did love marriage and he also face problems from my family even he has job this happens due to conservative mindset.
@CarUniverse I didn't say anything about that though 🥲
Indian schools took all Indians are my Brothers and sisters part in pledge very seriously...
Vasudev kutumkam
Sahi khel gya Bhai😂
🤭😂😂🤣🤣
@@vaishnavimishra9607 😂😂😂😂
Indian schools are big example of sexism
My first encounter with a creepy man was in Mathura IN A TEMPLE, where we had gone to not just worship but donate some money to the temple. I was still a school girl, from a Hindu family, in the Northeast. The priest disgusted me with the way he touched me with the excuse that I must be held to be guided since I didn't look like I would understand when he speaks Hindi. while none of my family members were noticing. I WAS IN A SALWAR KAMEEZ WITH A LARGE DUPATTA. I did not know what to say or what to do. And even now that I'm in my 30s, the number of times I have noticed creepy men trying to record me or secretly take a photo of me!! And each such time, I was in a MODEST attire. After many unpleasant experiences in life as a woman, I have become very scared of being alone with any man under any circumstance. It's mentally tiring to have to fight every time such things occur, so I tell myself, "Sudharne waale toh hain nahin, apna hi energy jayega aur harassment bhi ulta apna hi hona hai" and hold it back. Apart from that, since I speak fluent Hindi, I already get exhausted from answering someone or the other very frequently that I am Indian, people can speak Hindi where I come from, a lot of my friends and cousins are as fluent as me and then I go on to explain where Tripura is. I recently realized why I feel anxious when I have to go anywhere alone and prefer to go out with someone who looks "more Indian" (mostly my boyfriend): to cut down the explaining and staring.
A similar thing happened to a friend of mine in a temple. She was inappropriately touched by a man when they were waiting in a line. Mind you she was just 6 at the time.
@@paracetamol256😢
Sorry : (
That's really sad. Hope we change for the better
I was reading this article about a survey conducted by an organisation. According to the survey, what men fear the most when they approach a woman is rejection and what women fear the most is getting killed. As a girl, I can relate. There's always a fear in back of my head what if I say no and he stalks me, or threatens me or something worst. There's no women out there who never been through harrasment! The fear is real.
yes and men act as if they are the victims😂lol
@@freespirithermitthis infuriates me so much. Men trying to become victims
@@ishabargale3216 Wait why does it have to imply that men can't be victims? I'm not trying to downplay the harassment of women, but what you said doesn't make sense...
@@freespirithermit Are you saying that Men cannot be victims under any circumstances?
lol that survey is false, I read a survey too that states women are the most perpetrators of domestic violence than men, but instead try to act like victims
Last 10:10 seconds...
Omg akshay was blaming himself only 😂
Ye movie hai aur Akshay kya har actor ko aisa role mila hi hai ek actor ka naam batana jisne aisa role nhi kiya hai
@@piyushkumar6275 video firse dekh
@@ABCXYZ-dt4pdyeh movie h
Being an Indian, I feel ashamed here. Sometimes our so-called brothers are such disgrace to our society because they have and promote such filthy creepy mindset. Great job Mohak bhai by raising such matters which have become an inherent part of Indian society.
At first you should be ashamed of actors like Shahrukh, Salman, Akshay and many South Indian actors and directors. They create creepy scenes in movies that is being taken as truth by innocent public and they start acting accordingly.
These people should be first jailed for creating bad and harassing environment for girls in country. But that won't ever happen. because these morons are Gods for few fools.
@@ayushjha_2006 cool bn gye bro, congrats
@@ayushjha_2006 Congratulations 🎉👏
Edit: Same to you Ayush Jha
@@ayushjha_2006 jaldi jaldi gaali de deta du cool ban jaunga
@manosanjiru6984 idhr single ya relationship mein hone ki baat kaha se aai? Usne toh kuch Aisa nhi bola
Sometimes I feel the creepy behavior is not just limited to young Indian men. Being stared at for no reason is creepy and both Indian men and women , young and old do it. I currently live in the US and rarely catch someone looking at me walking down the street or in restaurants, airport etc. But even in the US you set foot in an Indian restaurant you will catch a few aunties stare at you up and down like you are walking around naked. It is very uncomfortable and at least the younger generation should actively think about not adopting this habit. I always get this reverse cultural shock when I go back to India that its not considered rude to gawk and stare at people and it happens all the time in almost all public places.
Us Mai India se jada rape cases hai didhi todha Google dekho AP to unpad nikli todha educated Bano
@@firesumit44India mein almost 99% rape cases unreported hoti hai , jaa kr pdhlo , jarant insaan 🤣
Ya a country where school kids play with guns 😂
@@neutralguy634 aur india mein 99% cases false bhi hai jaa kr pdhlo , jarant insaan 😂
In my school days, I was friends with many girl students. We used to sit together, shared notes with each other and had lunch together. But one day in seventh standard, a lady teacher decided that boys and girls cannot sit together. Boys and girls were separated. On top of that, some boys in class started to make fun if I spoke to any girl saying that I had a 'line' with the girl. This made me extremely shy to approach any girl. All the bonds and friendship which I had made with those girls were broken never to be recovered again. It affected me throughout my teens and college days. Only after attaining certain age and having some financial freedom, I gained some confidence to approach women. But by then my youthful age of romance was over.
It doesn't mean that I became a creep or a stalker. Since I was shy and taciturn, I internalised my problems but a lot of people who become creeps can't do it and they just express it in very disturbing ways. This a real mental health issue for young Indian men and only a very liberal attitude from society when they're children can help it. To begin, stop separating boys and girls once they attain puberty. Let them have as much interaction as possible and get to know each other.
Man I don't know where to start. I would be turning 24 soon and have gone through most of what you are saying. It is so that I can talk to women at work or otherwise normally, but I don't have any female friends. I don't believe in romance, more than having some type of connection. I have asked so many girls out and sad part is now I look back and know, I was not even a good friend of theirs, forget being a close or best friend. I have always been an introvert and that has led me to not be the talkative kid. I know how many girls would always be out of my approach, even if they were in my league, because I am that person who will not approach them. I am not sad being single, but I feel I wasted so much time being someone else that what I really am. Hope that I can see the world and have a pet and get my dream cars and take good care of my parents, because I don't want to spend my life in hope of romance. Thanks for the comment, really felt like writing my perspective too!
This is a problem for girls too ngl. Girls too doesn't really know how to interact with guys. Most just run away because again, men are like this. I agree there should be more interactions with the opposite gender otherwise we'll never learn some decencies while approaching people in general
It is the most relatable comment i ever came across in RUclips same things happened with me,i am 23 i feel i need to fix it,it is so distrubing man 😢
I wish you the best
Damn dude , where do you stay dude, male female friendship is normal in our place
I think this is very important. I like how we are referred to as "The greatest social democracy with lots of freedom" when kids can't even talk to a person of the opposite gender. India may become a "superpower" in paper terms like big and self sustaining economy, manufacturing and militarily, but becoming a social "superpower" will take us years.
Dioooo Brando? What a menacing profile pic
Light years bro
I don't think it will ever happen. Our genes will not change over such amount of time. It will take hundreds of thousands of years for ene expression to change. Unless indians intermarry with Europeans on a large scale which I don't think will happen.
It all comes down to education and exposure. With the right mix of both, things can change dramatically in a couple of generations.
@@jarjarbinks3193 Not in the case of India. Anywhere else in the world what you said is true.
I was lucky enough to grow up abroad, study at a school where there was no segregation, where we had healthy relationships with everyone. We never saw each other's genders, we saw them as peers. Unfortunately this doesn't mean much when people see me as the stereotypical indian man until they interact with me. I've thought about why and have had many debates with my friends who actually conform to the stereotype; the silver lining is I've been able to make them understand why it's not okay to stare, teach them about personal space. Some grow, some wilt. But hey, one better person is better than none.
What are the stereotypes about Indian men that are still floating around? 😮
@@daredevil30000 a lot of things like our food and clothing to everything
Holi has become our worst festival.
This is a genuine issue which needs to be addressed by people and society as whole..
I loved the analogy shown in the video between Bollywood and real life !
Even though I'm a man, but I still feel some men are creepy af! Hearing such stories from my female friends make me go mad!!🤦🏻♂️
"Even though I am a man I still feel some men are creepy" You don't need to be a woman to tell some men are creepy you just have to be a human
💀 not only boys also girls but boys are more💀
@@sujalbageriya2619 ikr 😂
@@sujalbageriya2619 exactly 😂
@Anurag Kumar Singh I disagree. His statement of "even though I am a man" sounds like he is being a great man by admitting that some men are creepy which is wrong and I simply pointed it out, I don't see what's wrong with that.
I am a 17 year old girl. I have a friend who is a boy with whom I have studied 10 years. My mother has no problem with our friendship and she supports me.But my father and grandmother along with other relatives always judge me.
I remember until 4th standard any student irrespective of gender could sit togather but after that girls and boys were divided. Even during my 10th standard boys and girls had separate classes even separate corners of the school and we used to meet them during language classes like hindi, odia or Sanskrit.
Once I was called to submit my presentation to a teacher who was a class teacher of a boys section. When during recess break I went there ANOTHER TEACHER HELD MY HAND AND PUSHED ME AND QUESTIONED ME WHY WAS I THERE.Although the teacher to whom, I was going, was about to collect the presentation.
So thats the mentality of some people.
Dam what's going on 😂
This is sadly true 😢, it’s embarrassing and shameful, I am an Indian immigrant in Canada, and have witnessed this shameful behaviours by fellow Indians 😢
I'd like to share something
Till I was in 10th, boys and girls in our class talked normally. Yea, although in different benches (which was actually comfortable I'd say) we were comfortable while talking to boys and we also had many group projects which were done together.
Then I went to college, very popular in Telangana for IIT (you guessed it right), there were different sections for boys and girls. Some sections did have co-ed, but all boys sat on one side and all girls on one side. And the most absurd thing, a bench was left in between boys and girls because boys and girls shouldn't talk with each other, you know!! (And we sat like 4 people in one bench)
I must say I have been very fortunate with girls...since childhood I had some girls as friends from colony to school to college and this is the reason I know how to talk with a girl ( and impress her if I wish)
Whereas I have seen many men finding it difficult to understand that how should they interact with women and it's simply because they rarely interacted with women outside from there house.
That's sick
Are you talking about VIT?
@@kusshagra srichaitanya or narayana probably
😱
When I asked my nephew (an 8 year old) if there are any girls in his class, he immediately replied that there are but he never talks to them. When I questioned him more, he said boys wouldn’t talk/play with girls as it is not okay to do so. I mean, we as a society are imbibing these opinions into a child’s mind that they become unaware of the ways a boy can approach a girl without offending her and vice versa.
Can relate so much. I've faced weirdass stupidity in school and coaching centres as well. Basic interactions with a female lead to weird looks and then taunts like "aur bhai kaesi hai nayi gf." Again, the schooling system and society are largely responsible for this. Most schools teach kids from a very young age to sit on different benches from girls and interaction is limited in colleges too where there are completely different buildings from boys and girls. Moreover, any romantic relationships between students are suppressed. They don't understand that teens and youngsters need this stuff to balance out their youth or otherwise they'll start looking at the opposite gender as some sort of object of novelty. Older bollywood movies and today's SouthIndian movies don't help either.
Spent full schooling and college like that, at 24 its hard to not develop feeling for any woman who is kind to me, rational mind is string with me so I don't wander off
Hit Bollywood movies even now shows this
I wish you to have healty relationships with female friends and future partner, keep it up!
nowadays movies reels videos all play crucial role in shaping mindset. misogynist approach, toxic muscularity is being taught by disgusting movies, surprisingly these videos cross 1000 cr too
Nope because all the best movies of all time are mostly gangsters or serial killer genre yet everyone is fine
The whole male- female friendship is quite a weird zone. A lot of dudes are incapable of seeing a girl as 'just friend'. They feel entitled to romantic reciprocation from women that they are friends with and talk about being wronged if the girl clarifies that she is not sexually interested in them. I have seen some people turning on their female friends because they refused to get intimate with them.
P.S. A lot of people can't accept being refused. I'm not saying that cordially accepting the refusal n even ending the friendship is the same reaction as becoming toxic, accusing the person of having used u, endlessly asking them to reciprocate romantic advances, behaving passive aggressive n all. They are different scenarios.
It all depends on the equation between the two. If the guy wants to date a girl and she doesn’t want to date but is okay with being friends and the guy is not , i don’t see any issue with it. The guy can deny and move on and ofcourse, it should apply exactly the same to a girl.
But it's between them, they can handle it. Problem is when society poke nose and create unnecessary problems.😐
Indian culture ☕
@@_prash This ! I might come of as non sympathetic but I just can't understand how you fall for somone romantically if they have shown zero intrest towards you. That person can be good looking and a great human being but don't you need that idea that the person likes you too ? that makes you happy and you feel your likingness towards them is valid and appreciated. This I have seen in India a lot, how does this work, curious.
@@_prash agree with everything you said, but the commenter clearly specifies men who can only see women as potential partners and not friends.
This is a problem which is not just limited to India but it's definitely much more significant here. Instead of shaming men we need to change their perspective and educate them on how to be more social with the opposite gender. Men need to be taught how to take proper care of themselves (physically and mentally) and build self respect which will solve the main cause of the problem which is loneliness.
Indian culture ☕
@@Jajshshshs Western culture ☕☕
@@Jajshshshs people like you ☕☕🤡
@@abhishekverma4290 western culture>>>>>>Indian culture muslim culture Japanese culture Chinese culture any culture combined shut ur mouth i hope Indian adopt western culture
@@abhishekverma4290 bro literally explained all the problems of the indian culture and he still doesn't care about how shit it is. Average Indian men
Mohak Sir became Sansani 03:42😅😂
I am ded💀
@@askmr21 you're typing from heaven 😨
Trust the news💀😂
@@bereniceg777 no buddy,,, from hell 🗿
😂😂
I don't usually comment on video's, but this video is a very informative way of teaching our younger one's and society to at least care about someone's privacy and personal space.
The only way to overcome such a problem is by promoting interaction between opposite sex in schools I have always been in a co-ed school till 10th grade and we were always made to sit with the opposite sex so that we can be comfortable with each other but in 11th-12th the school was co-ed but the students came from rural background who have always been in either same sex school or had negligible interation with the opposite gender and I have observed that me and my 10th school friends were able to communicate more freely without being shy or awkward with opposite sex but those people from sex-segregated background were usually very uncomfortable and awkward in even talking or being close friends with them.
Schools censoring talking to your male classmates is so true. I was in a class 10th and had a guy friend in a different section. So, the only time we can interact is either in the morning before assembly or after departure. My class teacher confronted me on this. She even told my mother in the PTM that she is in a bad influence.
thats fucked up really
She must be having arranged marriage and also could be wishing same for you 😂.
@@akashpatre8643 same thing happened to me when I am in 10 th and I'm going home from my tution and one of my female friend she also in my class we know each other from class 1 and our homes are in same direction so i usually go my home with her but some of my friends start calling her name in my tution when she come and i felt very bad.
Shukar manao ke aap ladki ho or dusri baat haryana me nhi ho 😂
When you get married and your parents would be expecting baby from you.
You must tell your parents/ "Vo kasa hota ha?"
In India, our folks kept us from talking to other guys and girls and after marriage. They think you know how to do sex?
As a girl from Bangladesh who has been stalked for 2 years, I really wish our society would change. I'm afraid that people in Bangladesh are being more conservative day by day and they are making male-female friendships even more difficult. 90% schools here are not co-education ones.
Are you a Bangladeshi Hindu 🤔🤔🤔🤔
@@ashwani515 I belong to a muslim family, but I don't follow any specific religion.
@@silvermist6891 do you understand Hindi ?🤔
Cultural issue.
welcome to the islamic majority world, dear, ik , sad but face it
You are criminally underated.
We live in such a stigmatized and sensitive society. Wonder when will all this change.
Change starts with you and me ❤️
It has already changed, who cares what other thinks
I am so happy to see a video on this topic which is so rampant but always slide under the carpet. Thank you Soch ! This is so true that personal space concept is alien for us Indians and in this video as you have shown foreigners getting unwanted attention but the truth is even Indians (men and women) stare their fellow cititzens the same way intentionally or unintentionally and it's quite creepy and yes happens all across urban or rural areas.
There is one thing to be vigilant but just to stare someone for sake of timepass or as they would say "Aakhen hai toh dekhenge na", this attitude shows that we are insensitive towards others. The poor Japanese girl getting heckled by guys was horror to me as someone who understands their culture well. But the shocking part is for one sec I couldn't understand what's wrong this the way I have always seen people play Holi and this exact scene I have seen several times. Later I did realised this was the same reason why I had stopped playing Holi in the first place.
That was really good initiative by Haryana government and this should be across all the states. Thank you once again for making a video on this and highlighting points how we can change it 🙂
this is a real issue and needs to be fixed. we are a social creatures and having no interaction with the opposite gender starts affecting in our later stages of life. i also had no female interactions till my 11th grade, i just never thought that i would have any need of talking or making friends with them and the society dont even teach or guide you in this regard. and suddenly when you come at the age of marriage they expect you to talk and develop a connection with a random girl that they selected.
Thank you so much, Mohak, for creating such a great video. I have engaged in some of the creepy behaviors you mentioned in the video, and I genuinely feel ashamed and sorry for them. Thanks to you, I now understand the root of the problem and will definitely strive to bring about a positive change in myself. Thank you once again.😃😃😃🙏🙏🙏
The things neglected the most becomes the hardest problem to face and this is one of them. Good job Mohak.
God!! I still remember I took a drop year for my NEET exam from Sri Chaitanya in Vijayawada Andhra Pradesh. I am from Himachal Pradesh and I was schooled in a very liberal environment at a catholic school where sitting with girls and talking to each other was encouraged. Now my dad got a super specialization course in Andhra Hospital after my 12th so I went with him and honestly I was shocked at the level of boundaries they had set between girls and boys. The girls and boys were mortally terrified from the idea of getting caught talking to each other. If someone was caught initially a warning then a permanent change of campus and further character assassination of boys and girls in front of their parents. Contrary to the things shown in Telugu cinema these guys were terrified to talk to the girls and vice versa. And then people talk about rape and stalking, this will continue to happen until and unless both genders maintain a level of curiosity which by adulthood developes into obsession. I remember there was a girl who liked me and she tried so desperately to have a conversation with me and one day the Dean of the institution discovered it and as a consequence changed her campus. I felt so bad for her and a group of local boys after the end of classes who apparently liked her approached me with their faces covered and told me " don't bring this North Indian filth here with you" maybe they were jealous and sad at the same time as they were fond of looking at that girl from last many years(the girl did her 12th from the same institution) and now they didn't know what to do as they were never were able to muster up any courage to have a conversation with her. I didn't feel angry I felt extremely sorry for the lads. I never blamed them, the society is to blame. They never let boys Integrate socially with girls and as a result the concept of emotions is lost and what remains is a curiosity as to what is underneath those clothes😔. So sad.
People always try to showcase that South India is more progressive, liberal, gender equal etc but it is not the truth. Parents play a huge role in creating gender segregation. They always try to admit their kids in uni-gender schools, and if they are forced to admit in co-ed, they mostly try to infuse in their child's brain that interacting with opposite gender classmates is not a good etiquette. 90s kids can relate to all of these in a much better way.
i am from himachal and i am shocked too.. in my school , it was completely normal for boys and girls to talk and sit next to each other.
but when i saw the situation of other states of india, i got to know the reality
@@HighAltitudeEnjoyer we are extremely lucky to be Himachalis brother ❤️
I'm a 15 year old and i this is something i really wanna educate people about. Just today when I was coming back from my tution in an auto, random uncles were staring at me and making weird gestures.. that made me so uncomfortable. They did not say a word, but those eyes terrify me. Even one of my teachers has scolded me for sitting with guy bestfriend in class. This issue really needs some serious attention, for the betterment of our society, and most importantly, our safety.
im so sorry you had to go through that :((
@@Sanvi23Sharma sorry that you had to go through that dear. and yes! uncles are the worst!
that not called creepy, its called tharky. Creepy is somewhat still decent.
What can I do man
I want a Girlfriend to whom I can talk and share my thoughts and who doesn't feel uneasy to listen and judge me
Because She can definitely make me better person ( at time i am not into romantic stuff because for me love is a very broad term )
At the same time I can't just simply go to a random girl and ask her to be by Girlfriend ....
I also know about personal space so I don't talk to girls generally as long as there isn't a necessity and that time comes after months ....
I sit with my friends who are
Males ...and I feel that they will not judge me because they share the same
Feeling as I do ....
And then we have strict lecture timings you can't even get 5 minutes to talk somebody......
@@_kartik_chauhan You can share your query, come here in Dharma Sansad.😅
I want to send this to my teacher so bad 🙂🙂💢
Thanks for bringing this topic up! So many Indian men do this and all my life is women have suffered through it. Most of them don’t understand why it is wrong in the first place! 😱It is really important for us to normalise healthy friendship between men and women so that they are able to treat each other with respect and not be the cause of discomfort for the other sex. 😩
You bring up all hard hitting and relevant topics!! Thank you for that! 🙏
@Sudhanshu Sharma is there a reason you asked this question which is relevant to the topic in discussion?
@Hui hui itna denk bnke kya karoge bhaiya🫠🫠
Right .
Infact kisi ldki se ek sec baat b krli toh apne dost hi ldki ko apni bhabhi bna lete Hain 😢
Iski wjh se dostia khrab hoti hai 😢
@Hui hui hn bhaiya alg hee sukh milta tumko heinaa 🗿🗿
Is it bad that I message girls on Instagram who were in my school? I am a 22 year old guy living in Bangalore who never had a girlfriend before and having no luck on dating apps. I follow and chat with girls on insta who were in the same school as me and are mostly 19-22 year olds now. But I got ghosted and blocked by many. Actually during school days I was very shy near girls so I never interacted with girls those days so many of them don't really remember me so I am kind of like a stranger to them. Only 4 girls chat with me these days and only 2 of them both 20 year olds are sweet to me and we send each other virtual hugs and they call me sweet too but we go to different college now so we haven't met yet.
7:03 Chachaji be like "Jalwa hai hamara yaha!!!"
😂
Mohak be like : o chacha ....o !!!chacha😂😂
Let me tell you all about an interesting case [Delhi]
Till 9th the gender ratio in our class used to be around 3:7 in some it was 1:3 as girls : boys
Our school used to allot us sections on random basis maybe on names or what I don't know
But in 10th our schools used to select top 45 students based on 9th results and allot them section A , other 3 sections were alloted on random basis to rest of other students
Now in these 45 students the twist is that 23 were girls and 22 were boys for the first time we boys were like used have 1.5 rows and 2.5 for girls
Our class teacher was a lady a strict and old teacher initially she wanted us to sit according to our own preferences she was a hindi teacher
But soon she realized the Coordination of class is not much good she made a rule that on 1 desk one should be boy and other girl
Don't know but that 1 year was different we boys were in minority our class were mainly lead by girls but I think it taught us to respect each other
Earlier we used to avoid girls and no boy used to sit with girls but now it was like compulsory and children started feeling no shame in sitting with girls
This is a necessity, must be done more often from early school age. So that when they step in college and taste freedom for 1st time , they don’t get haywire. Also it will help us look at females with less positive biased , rather that in present time If you are a female, you are by default innocent and victim.
We need to understand that females are a complete human too with equally evil intentions and capable of committing crimes as equal to male counterparts.
Maybe it is that I am younger than you, but it seems these practices have been introduced to lower classes as well
Faced a similar situation in 11th. More girls in class as compared to guys. Has improved interactions by a lot.
Reminds me of the time when my seat was literally surrounded by all girls on all four sides I got the lable as the garrison town guy with no contact with guys in class honestly some work needs to be done among the students too
Faced similar situation in my 4th grade. This one time our teacher made us sit with boys (I'm a girl) & that dissolved some bit of awkwardness
Thanks for making a video on this topic....wish it was broadcast on all screens in India somehow :)
Hoping we can all make strides towards having better understanding and empathy towards all genders. It's mind-blowing to think of how many problems it can solve.
I'm from UP and I live in that kind of environment Mohak bhai is talking about. I've no female friends. I never talked to a girl for two minutes straight. I used to get nervous when it came to speaking with a girl, but now I'm trying to normalise it. People here believe in a "a girl and a boy can never be friends" mentality, even the girls, I think.
I remember once I was in the market and there was a girl who dropped her books. I saw that and picked the books up and gave them to her. But I felt that a lot of people were looking and smiling at me as if I was trying to impress the girl or something. Maybe the girl herself thought the same, but I didn't have any intention like that. 😃
a few months ago, i happened to visit my girlfriend at her rented apartment and while leaving i just side hugged her once. In a few mins she got a call from the society secretary to avoid doing “modern” things in public because “respected people” live in that society!!! He also messaged her a screenshot of the cctv footage of me hugging her. 😅
broo thats so fucked up. Similar thing happened to me in school when I shaked hand with a girl and a teacher saw us. The teacher called both our parents and complained that how "undisciplined" we are. The worst thing is that my dad slapped me for that. I was just 13 🙂
@@shibainu7500 true. Bohot humiliation jhelni padti hai bohot bacho ko aise bekar teachers ki wajah se. That in turn ruins their school life and makes them hate it forever (me).
Even though my school presented itself as a coed school, there were separate classroom for boys and girls from 5th grade. The teachers as well as my parents didn't allow any kind of interaction between boys and girls and saw it negatively.
It really had a tremendous effect on me as it made me awkward and anxious around girls and it made it hard for me to approach and start a conversation with a girl.
our school and society needs to encourage healthy interactions between boys and girls from an early age to prevent this.
I was shamed in front of the whole class and my parents were called when I was seen talking to a female classmate when I was in 11th standard. I was made to feel guilty
5:50 this is so shameful 😢 these boys are destroying our image 😡
I think this problem also implies to all the well educated people out there. I grew up in Air Force Station and there were guys (probably my father's age) who would stalk me and few other young girls as if they're trying to be friends with us or may be more than that. Ngl my father's boss (married and has a kid ) asked me out for coffee and texted me on WhatsApp asking for a pic of mine.. IDK how was I supposed to feel but it was disgusting and this has happened to many other known friends who were brought up in defence campuses.
I'm specifically not saying that all of them are creepy but if such sorta approach a man can have who's well educated and also has wife and kids, both problem and solution lie beyond that. I wish people were better than this.
Yeh baate school main baata ni chahiyeh
Ya ! my girlfriend also faced the same problem & no one was there to hear her out or help her out , but now she has me & she shares everything with me ❤ .
These AFS officers are known to protect "mother" India but some shits out these officers are running the "mother" tag & respect . How can the govt. give the responsibility of protecting mother India on the shoulders of such officers when they are teasing young girls !!
Hell man ! every thing ! every body is responsible for such act .
@@SatanjibDas1408 choro re.. at least inko kuch initiative lena chahiye govt ko in sabke against 🤦
U r funny if u think people in armed forces are well educated
@@spilltea4241 may be I am.. cuz I grew up surrounded by them. Its just their education lacks behind some moral values 🤷
After having an healthy school life in terms of male-female interaction and friendship... When I shifted to kota to join ALLEN..... I had faced an cultural shock.... Like in ALLEN... They are having different shifts for male and female students... Forget about sharing classes.... They even try to avoid their interactions at stares... When at 2PM females used to leave and males used to enter the same building according to schedule.......i mean... It's like separating a pray population from predator... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is the similar sex ratio problem which we can spot in IITs as well, where there would be handful of girls amongst hundreds of boys.
Didi ji mujhe ek chej batao Zara please just as little brother Agar aap Chaho to help Kardo
Aapko kya lagta hai
Koi ladka aapko kaise approach kare to be a friend without looking a creep or a stalker
@@_kartik_chauhan normal insaan ki tarah jaake pucho aur agar woh no kahe toh humbly accept karke nikal jao.
@@jatinsharma2787
Experienced ?
@@_kartik_chauhan meri already hai bhai 3 saal se. Isiliye bol rha hu. Normally jaa k pucho, aur agar na bole toh ego pe mat lo. "No problem," bolke nikl lo.
Idk if being an introvert has to do with anything, but the watch thing happened with me too and I felt extremely uncomfortable. Also if people are staring at you, idk why but you feel their stares...specifically in the metro. Why is talking to the opposite sex such a big deal in childhood?? And suddenly after college you want them to have kids?? Thankfully I didn't have parents like that. I was in a Co ed school which normalised talking with anyone. And yes before anyone calls me spoiled...I don't drink, smoke or anything tbh. I respect everyone. And I'm proud I had parents like that. Sadly my mum is no more. Thank you Dad.
I am sure your mother is proud of the gentleman you have become Rohan!
@@TheFirePhoniex837 Thank you so much!
When I was in first year, I was friends with a group of girls. All of us spent a lot of time together. Professors and guys looked at me as if either I was some kind of a player which made me realised there is still a lot of taboo of a guy and girl being friends.
Much needed topic to discuss. Need so many social experiments for solutions. Bollywood plays vital role in it.
As someone who studied 8 years in kv , once we were in 10th or more , teachers stopped moral policing us , i never saw any instances of teachers discouraging interactions between students of different genders. Agar koi lafda hota tha tabhi hi apne teachers involved hote the
Indian culture ☕
again.. we call relationships as lafda🙂.. not all are lafdas... i have many friends who had their relationships from school and are still together...
i feel we should educate teenagers especially the difference between love/infatuation etc....not always is everything infatuation...
@@DR-jl6fm guess you misunderstood me . Lafda like serious lafda.
Example , 2 girls presented their case to class teacher , one girl was trying to date the other girls bf/crush , and the boy is a senior lol
@@Sailed_away ohhk. thanks for the clarification..
@@DR-jl6fm in India teenagers who are in relationships don't do well in their careers unless they're IIT level legends. Most of those dudes who were toppers in my high school who were in a relationship are doing engineering from below average private colleges and will get minimum wage
People say how can I live in a China which is not considered a free country. Well, at least I got free from stares after coming here 😅 freedom to roam freely without fear is the best freedom
10:30 canadian akshay 😅😅😅
As a fellow in KV student i can confirm they aren't really a co-ed school anymore. I don't know what sexism/discrimination girls face but we guys face a lot of stuff too. There is no equality in these so called co-ed schools and if you make a friend of the opposite gender and sit with them You'll probably be called out and told to sit somewhere else. Common friendship and talks with girls are a taboo too and people may even spread rumours about you. There is a lot of discrimination that you'll notice on a daily basis. This basically negates the whole purpose of co-ed schools. There are a lot more things i can talk about but i wanna keep this as family friendly as possible
Edit - I forgot to mention how even just by talking to girls you are labelled as horny or some other term.
" I forgot to mention how even just by talking to girls you are labelled as horny or some other term.". I'm the victim.
KVs were great in the 70s 80s when only kids of transferable govt employees were the students there....yup its the truth, mixing kids from different background doesn't really work well. Good become spoilt, spoilt become thugs.
now KVs are nothing but hell holes and co-ed for just the sake of it
@@bhaskarmaity2890 I'm so sorry for you.
I am a KV product too but in our school we could interact freely with the opposite gender.
In my experience as a girl with kv school boys, they were so bad but I agree sometimes it was known to be inappropriate to talk to the opposite gender. Even as a girl I have experienced the same, but I should say I have experienced worse like sexual harassment and objectification. Stalking too…
Same thing happened in my school
A girl and a boy of our class became really good friends and spent most of their time togather**group studing
But the teachers were acting weird about this
Many teachers complained about such behaviour to our class teacher and told him to make them sit sepreately
But our class teacher boldly said that
"Friendship between a girl and boy is normal
They can talk if they want to. I will not change their seats😊"
as an Indian girl, 18 I really feel someone(creepy guy) is staring at me every time I go out. I feel unsafe walking alone in the streets. they really be looking sometimes even at my chest. I actually get scared lol i just stare back with rage in my face idk how to face it
It's hard tbh
9:53 irony ho rahi hai ji bohot bhayankar.
As a teenager I can totally relate with this video I am in 9th grade .
I want to share one of my story this year I played holi with my classmates and clicked some pictures I showed that pictures to my mother and she litterly shouted on me she told me stay away from boys they are not good 😐 I don't why we are taught that boys and girls are equal when we cannot do anything like that
Same, but it was something else. I asked for some homework from my male classmates because i was lagging behind and my mother told me to not talk to them or be friends with them. Which was stupid as hell because what i asked for was literal homework.
@@Rrrrahhhh these things are disgusting 😑
@Hui hui why
@@rinkeerani7385they want you to be involved in study and not into friendships because if ever you get into love with somebody your life will be distracted and disturbed
That's all
unfortunately, conflicting views exist because of generational gap; so long you're staying faithful to yourself, it's all good fam.
3:15 That's a extreme case , usually its not that much serve customs .
the thing he said in the beginning is way too relatable for me, there was a guy who constantly used to follow me on my way back from tuitions. he always noticed that i felt uneasy and angry but he still did it repeatedly with no shame...... and the fact is that he never talked to me but only looked at me in a very creepy way......as he remained silent i also couldn't make any protest.... later on i realised that he only used to this because most probably he was inspired by these rubbish bollywood movies that have no logic.... he thought that i would say yes to him if he keeps on following me like me like that! so much of nuisance!
3:26 was this the reason behind why our schools installed CCTV.. i thought it was to prevent mischievous activities and stuff! 😂
3:33 separate sections for boys and girls exist in many parts of India.
I m from Tripura and my school sri sri ravishankar Vidyamandir divided sections on that basis but limited to class 11 and 12. But another popular school called sri krishna mission school divided entire buildings on that basis......they even get tiffin break in different time
While people might laugh but the thing is its a serious issue. Schools r place which teach us gender inequality and discrimination right from the start of our life
its simple lack of male - female interaction from the childhood.....
Even u can't trust indian male because rapes is very common....
And indian film industry also plays a big role
The way YOU explain!🤌🏼🔥
3:40 😂😂😂 video editor needs an applause.