@@awwlexisYeah, I invited the crackhead single mother to supper. The other night, she smoke me sausage. She smoked my sausage and then she both smoke rings
My standards was high from my childhood. I thought I need to lower my standards. I did and it was a bad decision.Then I realised we shouldn't lower our standards. I learned it a hard way.
I kept high standards and had so so many women and men try their hardest to convince me I should lower my standards and then got angry when I didn't. Later when I met my High Value man those same people tried to break us up. Sad people love spreading sadness. I'm sorry you went through that, and I totally understand why you tried it. Congrats on realizing your worth and having high standards.🎉
Ikea effect: You value something you put more work into it. If you keep trying to belong, it will make your life harder. Never date a broke man. Financially, physically, mentally, spiritually. Inner work is making you the match for your rich man. By doing inner work, you are preparing yourself for your desired relationship. You are selfish for not having high standards because it will affect your offspring that deserve to live a happy life and it insults you. As a woman, you are allowed to change your mind at any point. Being in touch with your feminine energy will upgrade your relationship with yourself and your partner. Dressing up is giving yourself 100% for the day.
Oh my gosh... the rich man/poor man analogy called me out big time. I've been taken out by such rich hot absolutely lovely guys and turned them down. Meanwhile, I've settled for the potential of guys who have little to offer me and turn out to be abusive. I felt like I'd be called shallow if I accepted love from somebody attractive and successful, because everyone called me shallow throughout my life just based on assumptions. I felt like I had to prove them wrong. Never doing that again. It's okay to be treated wonderfully.
I'm sorry, but idk wtf will guarantee you that "rich guy" won't become abusive later down the road either, if and once you begin to date him? Just because he took you out on a fancy dinner date or just because that "poor guy" took you walking on a park, doesn't mean they will turn out any which way. It takes time to vett someone and know if your compatible and for that you need to know what your actual needs and want are in a partner.
I pray you heal from the hurt people have caused you. There is a contradiction to everything. She explained herself clearly. I understood what she is saying. Im sure she knows she don't know how the rich guys would have turned out but I'm sure the proof is in the pudding. Spend your time learning about yourself ans how to become better. Where are you adding value in this world or to someone elses life?
I resonated with what you shared. Also ended up with a broke abuser for 15 years. My standards were so low he didnt even buy me a wedding ring or propose properly, I divorced and didnt even have a ring to remove on my way out dramatically haha
Unless they go get off the couch and start working but that doen’t happen often 😂😂 They are like 10 year olds who need to be taken care of like their mom does
Same. Its been 6 months and my husband completely retired me from my job and treats me like a queen. The entire time it was me being too masculine. Keep up the good work girl. ❤
I did and I got used, devalued and discarded like shit. Eventually they married someone who was as good as them and better than me. I'm also not settling for less but the truth is that my youth, my health are gone and these men destroyed my psychologicaly and emotionally.
@@redleeks6253 That is because you did not date someone on your level. When you are dating someone that is better than you in every regard, you run the risk of being taken advantage of. In addition to the fact that you picked such a man to begin with. It is definitely not men's fault(or women's fault)if someone(regardless of gender)is deliberately making terrible decisions and then wants to put the blame on outside forces instead of accepting responsibility. There exist so many women in this comments section that eventually found love after raising their standards and engaging in some serious self-introspection. I do not necessarily believe they either happen to be more "worthy" or "lucky" or whatever(even if such a concept exists).
Also, I don’t know if this is a good thing but it can definitely work in our favor! When we spend so much time, more and more every week working on ourselves and investing in ourselves, we are essentially using the IKEA effect on us! I see this in myself. I have worked on myself for so long and so passionately that I can’t give me less than I worked for. Because I have invested in me, I now want it to work, so I am choosing me more than I choose anything other than what I want.
I used to have very high standards but I thought It was too much and lowered them but later I realized that was my biggest mistake . I attracted literally broke mindset person and he later messed up with my mind completely. He literally destroyed my whole self confidence . I was thrown lowest in my life by him 😢. I am never ever going to lower my standards literally for no one now.
“I am no longer responsible for the emotions of other people” I needed to hear this so much right now! Thank you! Going through something with a family member too who is calling my sisters and I all toxic and removing themselves. I’ve been really struggling with why it’s like this and what we could do to make it better. But I have to come to terms with how there might not be anything we can or should do. They’re an adult and I have to just trust that this is what’s best for now and though it sucks to not have them around lately, we can’t change how they feel.
While I was doing laundry last Saturday I asked myself why I keep attracting men that were projects.... it's been a week since i discovered that negative self talk about myself...I started to pay more attention to myself...I am changing myself talk...like you said when you take care of yourself spiritually, emotionally, financially....u draw that which you are...God sent this message on time...
This information was very Powerful..Thank You..I just got out of a relationship with a broke man..and that relationship brought me down..I don't even look the same..I lost myself..I'm finally out and a weight has been lifted..I'm finding myself again..I definitely don't want too repeat the cycle of being with a broke and broken man...
I assumed a low value man would get his act together because I am soooo magnificent lol😅 but that was a hard wake-up call. I finally have the right one now. 🙏🏾🥰🌹
I love that you said you cannot mess up what is meant for you!! I ask for signs from God and I get them, let me tell you they are goooood too! I go into fear and worry but remembering what is meant for me will find me is so helpful. It's on my vision board! : )
This is so true. I remembered when I was in college, I gave my all to building my career to the extent of being so confident. My husband persuaded me with all this might because I didn’t want my energy divided, so he supported me throughout until we got married. Thank you so much!
girl you need to have a ted talk! more women need to hear this! u are changing the world! i’ve been watching your channel since january and you seriously leave my mind blown every single video! it’s like you always know what i need to hear at the right time! keep it up girl!
it is so important that women who have daddy issues work on their decisions because the problem is that when you didn't have the best relationship with your dad, you will unconsciously pick men who will reflec that lack of attention, lack of love, etc. it is a conscious decision
Your psychology knowledge is what initially attracted me to your channel, I picked up on it right away, when you spoke about faith and listening to Joyce Meyer that’s when I knew I should stay, feminine energy knowledge is new to me so that is an extra blessing of knowledge that I have gained from your channel. I want you to know that you are appreciated. Thank you ❤
My phone had died RIGHT when I asked the question. Thank you so much for your response. Sometimes u know things but when ur upset hearing it again always helps and hits different!! My attachment is actually the concern as well. Girl I’ve watched like ALL of ur videos lol maybe I’ll join the course as well. ❤ thanks again! 🥰😘
No better words than this came at the exact right timing ❤ I’ve been having thoughts about my past self having too low standards with everything , and setting new standards would make me the happiest now. I attracted a man in my life that is an example of my new self and he makes me want to be that better version. Thank you Alexis angel😻
You dont know how amazing you are girl.Your words instantly raises my vibration.i love how happy and smiley i get after watching your videos and smile.Grateful for your existence 💗
Having parents who are narcissist and enabler left me feeling unworthy , since they were so wrapped up in their Co-dependency and fighting and my mother wearing the pants left me looking for weak non-committal men. Thank you so much for this video . I truly needed this right now !! ❤
I have the same experience. At the very least it taught me what i will not accept for my future children to go through. It's just what Alexis said, choosing the broke mindset man is selfish because it's not only you who suffers, it's also the kids. I remember thinking back on how my mom was treated and I'm almost positive I can pin my own low self worth back to seeing my mom go through that. I would never want my kids to accept unloving behavior because that's what I modeled for them. It's on us to make changes ❤
Thank you for the inspiration. I knew a woman who was attracted to guys whom she could fix. It resulted in having an abusive husband who was extremely jealous and rude to her in front of their young child. She was a nice, intelligent and attractive woman so I could never get my head around that. Now I understand.
I can not stress how much i needed your videos. I love how forward you are with taking accountability. I grew up in a very controlling home as well. Im constantly asking why me why me.. Sometimes i forget to not put a question mark where god put a period. Sometimes it is what it is, and it's my duty to live my best life for me and my child. Thank you for sharing. Instantly subscribed
She worded this beautifully, the way it was planned out and the explanations just wow! You can tell she’s really passionate about psychology and knows what she’s talking about. This really opened my eyes. Just earned a subscriber 🥰
That is so interesting!! I am only at the beginning, but I realized that at the time in my Life that I was investing the most in myself, I never had higher standards!
Thank you for starting to post these longer segments...don't cut yourself short queen I love seeing the authentic side and I listen to you while I work out!!!
I believe the term is Sunk Cost Fallacy. It’s why I couldn’t leave my dismissive avoidant husband for 16 years but I finally found the strength to leave and do my healing work to not keep attracting emotionally unavailable men
I just found you yesterday!! As I was listening to this I was really really wanting a group of women to talk to, who shared similar views. Then you mentioned your app! So grateful I found you. Im at the tail end of divorce and have started seeing someone else, I knew I needed inner work before pursuing another relationship.. that you for all you do! 🥰🥰
Since many days I prayed to God to make the situation correct and one day I was praying and feeling so intensely to make the situation favourable I was very much upset and depressed about a pattern in my life. That same day a 30 sec reel popped off and answered my most of the questions about not only the situation and I cracked the pattern I was facing since teenage
Omg!!! I am so happy you used the right / precise words to describe the men that I don’t want to attract anymore ! Not only I don’t want to attract the bad boy , the narcissist, but I don’t want to attract low confidence, low consciousness, boys that are not capable of taking good care of me . What I also discovered is that a low consciousness man , that’s poor and lives with his mother , is not always a bad person. STILL he is a boy who is immature and can’t treat me to the standards I have .
I can attest to the you leveling up levels up your husband 💯 there was disonance at first but I persisted and told myself “it’s either going to be him and he’ll figure it out or it’ll be someone else but either way this is what I want.” It ended up being him.
i am back here a year later and i am so grateful for this video it changed my life, my love life shifted so much after this video and i love how spoilt and taken care of i am now with my current partner, he is so secure and sweet and loves taking care of me.
I absolutely love your videos - they have helped elevate my energy so much and bring so so so much clarity! I love watching them in the morning while I'm doing my make up just surrounded by feminine energy
Alexis you are such a sweet, kind, and beautiful soul! Thank you so much for teaching us about the IKEA Effect! I will certainly be incorporating this into my life asap! Keep doing what you’re doing love!❤🥰
About the lying....I've stopped a long time ago. My motto for it is to live in a way you're proud of and don't need to lie about it. If you feel you need to lie, you probably shouldn't do it.
Thanks Sis for being brave and transparent. This information is helping me. I understand now is the time I can truly receive this. I believe in right place, right time for every single thing. So many things I need to unlearn and now My journey begins.
I didn’t have self confidence and had low standards when I got married to my husband. I am only now realizing this after 10.5 years of marriage and I’m now unfortunately paying for it. Lots of work ahead of me on whatever the future holds for me.
Totally love the statement that we can change our mind at any time and it’s our right to do so. I think women naturally consider other’s feelings before our own which is not good.
I was nodding my head as you’re talking! I felt the connection with you while watching the video😍 it’s my first time seeing your videos and i love how you send the message to women!! Keep it up I LOVE THIS AWARENESS! I was unaware why i kept attracting these kinds of men
yesterday evening I was thinking about this topic and here you are talking about it, it's crazy 😀 I was thinking how to end connections with people that were not good for me and now I understand what was happening to me, the Ikea effect is so true 😊
Queen you are a breath of fresh air your energy is so infectious Im so happy your video came up I don't usually comment on videos but I had to, i resonate with everything you've said and you've presented it so beautifully learnt so much already love the analogy thank you,,❤️❤️❤️❤️
wow! :( this story made me feel so sad that I didn't know this sooner! I feel bad for my past self for even doing ANYTHING for a boy & never recieving that same amount of effort in the first place, nor in return :( I never want to "earn" anything again!!! Despite my feelings of deep remorse :/ I understand that that was the last time & now that ive learned this valuable lesson I will change my attitude towards all the experiances. Never making those mistakes again & I really am only avaliable for high value masculine men who are ready to give eagerly, earnestly, willingly, aswell as gladly & freely! I am sort of angry & regretful, though I don't have anywhere to direct this energy other than into my motivation for healing. I cannot change anyone except myself! Thank you for holding this space Alexis & teaching us these things. This is life changing & saving. I know that I am still growing & becoming my best self; that woman is reserved specifically & especially for the man whom deserves her!!! You're a beautiful human inside & out love, praise jah.
I love how you speak about spiritual alignment and this entire topic. Your energy is such a blessing 🙏🏽✨ God is definitely speaking through you. I’m a new follower and this is my first video I’ve watched of yours and I’m excited to continue to watch all of your content ♥️ thank you so much for all that you do xoxo
Omg, thank you I’m on this journey of rebirth & this will keep me on top of my toes. I have been reading self taught books before finding this video that was part of my goals this year to level up emotionally. Your telling me everything I been questioning lately. New subscriber ❤
This vvideo is God sent. Today i just asked God to help me get out of a situation with a relationship i already know i should not be in. Thank you so much🥰
Thank you thank you thank you, i stumbled upon this video while cleaning my room and i didnt need anything else god bless and keep posting these amazing ideas
Haha you're so sweet, "I don't know if IKEA is outside of America". It's from Sweden where I come from, and yes they've exported it to other countries for example America and all over the world really.
Oh wow !!! Alexis this video is right on time. Thanks for telling us that you do not want us in our wounded feminine energy. You are so insightful and I appreciate you talking about the Ikea effect as well as that video you saw.
So glad your video found me, thank you 🙏 It reminds me of how in our memories, people were magical. When often, we are the magical ones and we can project that on anything.
This is fantastic and much needed!! A few days ago I saw a van w the word glo on it and just knew it was a sign from Jesus! Look forward to being more in my feminine I keep giving away what should be worked for emotionally and in my being present w people who dont appreciate. I'm always afraid if I withdraw he won't chase.
A brilliant analysis of the reasons women undervalue themselves, and go on to make erroneous decisions. By the way, the same logic could also apply to men! Thank you for sharing.
came across u just now and told 5 other women bout you. i agree and i did try once to fix a broken man and trauma bonded listening to his constant whining on the phone. wasted 2 years of my life...but its ok and we learn.... today like you said.. my energy just repels low value simps and pimps..... and i like the warm and happy demeanor that you have.
Aww I am so happy to have you here love. Those experiences are ALWAYS blessings in disguise, they will be used for something great for you. Thank you for sharing my channel ♥️
Thank you so much Alexis, I'm just feeling better seeing your video, I'm in a good inner mood to be the girl I want to become, and this is thanks to you and your work! Your my mentor and I'm so grateful to God to have find you just when I need a person like youin this moment, you have right, god always know how to help us! love you.
I married young straight from an abusive home. When I started my level up journey I woke up and realised he would never change. So yes, I have a "failed marriage" but my new husband adores me, cherishes me and would give me the world if I asked. Edited to add: if you level up and they fall away, it's only to make room for someone so much better ❤
Been watching your videos on my walks and in my shower sounds like the big sis I never had thank you dear. I used to be a bad boy magnet. Inner work is something I’ve been working on for 6 plus years finally making Money doing what I love in a healthier relationships where I get to be my feminine self My Man loves it the girly me
Hey glo sista! it would be amazing to connect with Queen Afua or any of the women she works with, i foresee it lifting up your business to a next level and connect you with so many women just like you!
everyone should take your course, it is absolutely life-chaning. still processing all these valuable informations. thank you so much Alexis
Thank you so much Sandra ♥️
Same
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@@awwlexisDude's needs to hook up with crackhead crackhead single mothers
@@awwlexisYeah, I invited the crackhead single mother to supper. The other night, she smoke me sausage. She smoked my sausage and then she both smoke rings
My standards was high from my childhood. I thought I need to lower my standards. I did and it was a bad decision.Then I realised we shouldn't lower our standards. I learned it a hard way.
Same for me 🤦🏻♀️
Same for me
🎯🎯🎯🪀
I kept high standards and had so so many women and men try their hardest to convince me I should lower my standards and then got angry when I didn't. Later when I met my High Value man those same people tried to break us up. Sad people love spreading sadness. I'm sorry you went through that, and I totally understand why you tried it. Congrats on realizing your worth and having high standards.🎉
Me too 😢
Ikea effect: You value something you put more work into it.
If you keep trying to belong, it will make your life harder.
Never date a broke man. Financially, physically, mentally, spiritually.
Inner work is making you the match for your rich man.
By doing inner work, you are preparing yourself for your desired relationship.
You are selfish for not having high standards because it will affect your offspring that deserve to live a happy life and it insults you.
As a woman, you are allowed to change your mind at any point.
Being in touch with your feminine energy will upgrade your relationship with yourself and your partner.
Dressing up is giving yourself 100% for the day.
❤
Thank you so much for this ❤
Thanks for summarizing!!!
Oh my gosh... the rich man/poor man analogy called me out big time. I've been taken out by such rich hot absolutely lovely guys and turned them down. Meanwhile, I've settled for the potential of guys who have little to offer me and turn out to be abusive. I felt like I'd be called shallow if I accepted love from somebody attractive and successful, because everyone called me shallow throughout my life just based on assumptions. I felt like I had to prove them wrong. Never doing that again. It's okay to be treated wonderfully.
I'm sorry, but idk wtf will guarantee you that "rich guy" won't become abusive later down the road either, if and once you begin to date him? Just because he took you out on a fancy dinner date or just because that "poor guy" took you walking on a park, doesn't mean they will turn out any which way. It takes time to vett someone and know if your compatible and for that you need to know what your actual needs and want are in a partner.
@@rocio292 I don't think many women know what "standards" actually are. When they talk about standards, they seem to mention money 90% of the time
I pray you heal from the hurt people have caused you. There is a contradiction to everything. She explained herself clearly. I understood what she is saying. Im sure she knows she don't know how the rich guys would have turned out but I'm sure the proof is in the pudding. Spend your time learning about yourself ans how to become better. Where are you adding value in this world or to someone elses life?
I resonated with what you shared. Also ended up with a broke abuser for 15 years. My standards were so low he didnt even buy me a wedding ring or propose properly, I divorced and didnt even have a ring to remove on my way out dramatically haha
My job as a woman is to avoid broke men because they bring a lot of stress to the table.
I love it! I'm going to apply for that job😂
Unless they go get off the couch and start working but that doen’t happen often 😂😂 They are like 10 year olds who need to be taken care of like their mom does
I just found your channel 3 weeks ago and you've already changed my life and my marriage. I wish all women can find you
That is awesome.
I am so grateful to have you here and proud of you for doing the inner work ♥️
Same. Its been 6 months and my husband completely retired me from my job and treats me like a queen. The entire time it was me being too masculine. Keep up the good work girl. ❤
So, in order to be IKEA proof from "boys",I have to start building myself with that same IKEA effect. Shift of focus and dedication towards self.
That's IT! 😊 💡
I can 1000% relate to cringing when I think about what I tolerated in the past. But you experienced this to be a light to others 🙏🏽
sameeee lol sooooo embarazzzing
Yes and everything is just a lesson to make us a better version of ourselves😊
Girls never accept a man who is less than u in any aspect, chose better looking, better financially, better education, better family.
I did and I got used, devalued and discarded like shit.
Eventually they married someone who was as good as them and better than me.
I'm also not settling for less but the truth is that my youth, my health are gone and these men destroyed my psychologicaly and emotionally.
better looking without wearing make up?
@@redleeks6253 That is because you did not date someone on your level.
When you are dating someone that is better than you in every regard, you run the risk of being taken advantage of.
In addition to the fact that you picked such a man to begin with.
It is definitely not men's fault(or women's fault)if someone(regardless of gender)is deliberately making terrible decisions and then wants to put the blame on outside forces instead of accepting responsibility.
There exist so many women in this comments section that eventually found love after raising their standards and engaging in some serious self-introspection.
I do not necessarily believe they either happen to be more "worthy" or "lucky" or whatever(even if such a concept exists).
Also, I don’t know if this is a good thing but it can definitely work in our favor! When we spend so much time, more and more every week working on ourselves and investing in ourselves, we are essentially using the IKEA effect on us! I see this in myself. I have worked on myself for so long and so passionately that I can’t give me less than I worked for. Because I have invested in me, I now want it to work, so I am choosing me more than I choose anything other than what I want.
Absolutely! ♥️🙌🏽
I used to have very high standards but I thought It was too much and lowered them but later I realized that was my biggest mistake . I attracted literally broke mindset person and he later messed up with my mind completely. He literally destroyed my whole self confidence . I was thrown lowest in my life by him 😢.
I am never ever going to lower my standards literally for no one now.
“I am no longer responsible for the emotions of other people” I needed to hear this so much right now! Thank you! Going through something with a family member too who is calling my sisters and I all toxic and removing themselves. I’ve been really struggling with why it’s like this and what we could do to make it better. But I have to come to terms with how there might not be anything we can or should do. They’re an adult and I have to just trust that this is what’s best for now and though it sucks to not have them around lately, we can’t change how they feel.
While I was doing laundry last Saturday I asked myself why I keep attracting men that were projects.... it's been a week since i discovered that negative self talk about myself...I started to pay more attention to myself...I am changing myself talk...like you said when you take
care of yourself spiritually, emotionally, financially....u draw that which you are...God sent this message on time...
thank you Alexis. I rarely made the connection that dating a wounded masculine affects the wounded feminine as well
This information was very Powerful..Thank You..I just got out of a relationship with a broke man..and that relationship brought me down..I don't even look the same..I lost myself..I'm finally out and a weight has been lifted..I'm finding myself again..I definitely don't want too repeat the cycle of being with a broke and broken man...
I assumed a low value man would get his act together because I am soooo magnificent lol😅 but that was a hard wake-up call. I finally have the right one now. 🙏🏾🥰🌹
That’s my girl ♥️ and he can only see you through the lens he sees himself
@@awwlexis Thank you 😊
Strong men love pursuing and chasing me ! They are waiting to come and find me ⚡️😌
I love that you said you cannot mess up what is meant for you!! I ask for signs from God and I get them, let me tell you they are goooood too! I go into fear and worry but remembering what is meant for me will find me is so helpful. It's on my vision board! : )
Absolutely! ♥️
This is so true. I remembered when I was in college, I gave my all to building my career to the extent of being so confident. My husband persuaded me with all this might because I didn’t want my energy divided, so he supported me throughout until we got married. Thank you so much!
girl you need to have a ted talk! more women need to hear this! u are changing the world! i’ve been watching your channel since january and you seriously leave my mind blown every single video! it’s like you always know what i need to hear at the right time! keep it up girl!
Aww my girl thank you so so much! I am so happy to have you here 🥹
it is so important that women who have daddy issues work on their decisions because the problem is that when you didn't have the best relationship with your dad, you will unconsciously pick men who will reflec that lack of attention, lack of love, etc. it is a conscious decision
Alexis you are so wise beyond your years. I love your insight.
Thank you so much Stephanie 🥺♥️
Your psychology knowledge is what initially attracted me to your channel, I picked up on it right away, when you spoke about faith and listening to Joyce Meyer that’s when I knew I should stay, feminine energy knowledge is new to me so that is an extra blessing of knowledge that I have gained from your channel. I want you to know that you are appreciated. Thank you ❤
Aww my sweet girl thank you! I am SO happy to have you here 🥰 Sending you love
Your energy is just so beautiful and positive. I am so glad I found you. You are inspiring!! ❤❤
My phone had died RIGHT when I asked the question. Thank you so much for your response. Sometimes u know things but when ur upset hearing it again always helps and hits different!! My attachment is actually the concern as well. Girl I’ve watched like ALL of ur videos lol maybe I’ll join the course as well. ❤ thanks again! 🥰😘
Aww my girl so happy to help you! And you are spot on, hearing it again always helps ♥️
No better words than this came at the exact right timing ❤ I’ve been having thoughts about my past self having too low standards with everything , and setting new standards would make me the happiest now. I attracted a man in my life that is an example of my new self and he makes me want to be that better version. Thank you Alexis angel😻
You dont know how amazing you are girl.Your words instantly raises my vibration.i love how happy and smiley i get after watching your videos and smile.Grateful for your existence 💗
Aww my girl thank you so much for sharing this with me 🥰
Having parents who are narcissist and enabler left me feeling unworthy , since they were so wrapped up in their Co-dependency and fighting and my mother wearing the pants left me looking for weak non-committal men. Thank you so much for this video . I truly needed this right now !! ❤
I have the same experience. At the very least it taught me what i will not accept for my future children to go through. It's just what Alexis said, choosing the broke mindset man is selfish because it's not only you who suffers, it's also the kids. I remember thinking back on how my mom was treated and I'm almost positive I can pin my own low self worth back to seeing my mom go through that. I would never want my kids to accept unloving behavior because that's what I modeled for them. It's on us to make changes ❤
Thank you for the inspiration. I knew a woman who was attracted to guys whom she could fix. It resulted in having an abusive husband who was extremely jealous and rude to her in front of their young child. She was a nice, intelligent and attractive woman so I could never get my head around that. Now I understand.
The Ikea story really made me feel so seen and guilty... thanks for calling us out
I can not stress how much i needed your videos. I love how forward you are with taking accountability.
I grew up in a very controlling home as well.
Im constantly asking why me why me.. Sometimes i forget to not put a question mark where god put a period.
Sometimes it is what it is, and it's my duty to live my best life for me and my child. Thank you for sharing. Instantly subscribed
She worded this beautifully, the way it was planned out and the explanations just wow! You can tell she’s really passionate about psychology and knows what she’s talking about. This really opened my eyes. Just earned a subscriber 🥰
Aww I appreciate it 🥰
This was so good I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing!! I’m going to look into this more.
That is so interesting!! I am only at the beginning, but I realized that at the time in my Life that I was investing the most in myself, I never had higher standards!
Thank you for starting to post these longer segments...don't cut yourself short queen I love seeing the authentic side and I listen to you while I work out!!!
Thank you so much sweet girl 😘
Thanks . Having standards is a must . ❤
I believe the term is Sunk Cost Fallacy. It’s why I couldn’t leave my dismissive avoidant husband for 16 years but I finally found the strength to leave and do my healing work to not keep attracting emotionally unavailable men
I just found you yesterday!! As I was listening to this I was really really wanting a group of women to talk to, who shared similar views. Then you mentioned your app! So grateful I found you. Im at the tail end of divorce and have started seeing someone else, I knew I needed inner work before pursuing another relationship.. that you for all you do! 🥰🥰
Since many days I prayed to God to make the situation correct and one day I was praying and feeling so intensely to make the situation favourable I was very much upset and depressed about a pattern in my life. That same day a 30 sec reel popped off and answered my most of the questions about not only the situation and I cracked the pattern I was facing since teenage
This video is GOLD!! 👏🏾🥰
I feel you would have an amazing course on relationships/dating, if it feels aligned for you 👀💖
Omg!!! I am so happy you used the right / precise words to describe the men that I don’t want to attract anymore ! Not only I don’t want to attract the bad boy , the narcissist, but I don’t want to attract low confidence, low consciousness, boys that are not capable of taking good care of me . What I also discovered is that a low consciousness man , that’s poor and lives with his mother , is not always a bad person. STILL he is a boy who is immature and can’t treat me to the standards I have .
I can attest to the you leveling up levels up your husband 💯 there was disonance at first but I persisted and told myself “it’s either going to be him and he’ll figure it out or it’ll be someone else but either way this is what I want.” It ended up being him.
I promised I just said the prayer and you just popped up on my time line this is amazing you are spiritually led blessings to you
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This is so profound for me right now! I receive this uplevel🙌🏾 ❤
i am back here a year later and i am so grateful for this video it changed my life, my love life shifted so much after this video and i love how spoilt and taken care of i am now with my current partner, he is so secure and sweet and loves taking care of me.
Ahh I LOVE this for you! Thank you for sharing beautiful 🤍
I absolutely love your videos - they have helped elevate my energy so much and bring so so so much clarity! I love watching them in the morning while I'm doing my make up just surrounded by feminine energy
Such an eye opening video. Thank you for giving me the tools to raise my standards. I'm loving your vids and I can't wait to see my transformation!
You are more than welcome my girl! I am so excited to be on your inner work journey with you ♥️
Alexis you are such a sweet, kind, and beautiful soul! Thank you so much for teaching us about the IKEA Effect! I will certainly be incorporating this into my life asap! Keep doing what you’re doing love!❤🥰
Omg Alexis this video has almost instantly help me get over a guy who gives me nothing
About the lying....I've stopped a long time ago. My motto for it is to live in a way you're proud of and don't need to lie about it. If you feel you need to lie, you probably shouldn't do it.
Absolutely love ♥️
I’ve always hated the bachelor and never understood how women can degrade themselves so much lol
Thanks Sis for being brave and transparent.
This information is helping me. I understand now is the time I can truly receive this. I believe in right place, right time for every single thing.
So many things I need to unlearn and now My journey begins.
I am so happy to help you. Thank you beautiful ♥️
I didn’t have self confidence and had low standards when I got married to my husband. I am only now realizing this after 10.5 years of marriage and I’m now unfortunately paying for it. Lots of work ahead of me on whatever the future holds for me.
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This video is so good! You’re making so many great points and coming down my row for sure 😅 especially the part about not giving 100%
Totally love the statement that we can change our mind at any time and it’s our right to do so. I think women naturally consider other’s feelings before our own which is not good.
I was nodding my head as you’re talking! I felt the connection with you while watching the video😍 it’s my first time seeing your videos and i love how you send the message to women!! Keep it up I LOVE THIS AWARENESS! I was unaware why i kept attracting these kinds of men
Thank you love 🥰 I’m so happy to have you here ♥️
Best advice ever!!! It’s about your kids as well your generational line not just you and we are worth way more than that.
yesterday evening I was thinking about this topic and here you are talking about it, it's crazy 😀 I was thinking how to end connections with people that were not good for me and now I understand what was happening to me, the Ikea effect is so true 😊
SO beautiful said
Queen you are a breath of fresh air your energy is so infectious Im so happy your video came up I don't usually comment on videos but I had to, i resonate with everything you've said and you've presented it so beautifully learnt so much already love the analogy thank you,,❤️❤️❤️❤️
Aww thank you so much sweet girl 🥰 I am so happy to have you in this community
wow! :( this story made me feel so sad that I didn't know this sooner! I feel bad for my past self for even doing ANYTHING for a boy & never recieving that same amount of effort in the first place, nor in return :( I never want to "earn" anything again!!! Despite my feelings of deep remorse :/ I understand that that was the last time & now that ive learned this valuable lesson I will change my attitude towards all the experiances. Never making those mistakes again & I really am only avaliable for high value masculine men who are ready to give eagerly, earnestly, willingly, aswell as gladly & freely! I am sort of angry & regretful, though I don't have anywhere to direct this energy other than into my motivation for healing. I cannot change anyone except myself! Thank you for holding this space Alexis & teaching us these things. This is life changing & saving. I know that I am still growing & becoming my best self; that woman is reserved specifically & especially for the man whom deserves her!!! You're a beautiful human inside & out love, praise jah.
You are so lovely and encouraging!!! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love how you speak about spiritual alignment and this entire topic. Your energy is such a blessing 🙏🏽✨ God is definitely speaking through you. I’m a new follower and this is my first video I’ve watched of yours and I’m excited to continue to watch all of your content ♥️ thank you so much for all that you do xoxo
Aww thank you so much! 🥰
Awwlexis, thank you for your message and for your energy, you are changing my life and I’m so inspired and grateful to you!
Omg, thank you I’m on this journey of rebirth & this will keep me on top of my toes. I have been reading self taught books before finding this video that was part of my goals this year to level up emotionally. Your telling me everything I been questioning lately. New subscriber ❤
I just watched your last video and now i rewaching this one and i can tell you, you done such a huge quantum jump, that is amazing ❤
Thank you so so much beautiful 🥺
This vvideo is God sent. Today i just asked God to help me get out of a situation with a relationship i already know i should not be in. Thank you so much🥰
You came into my life at the perfect time 🙏🏾🤞🏾I am here to receive your energy. So amazing 🙌🏾
I am so happy you are here love ♥️
I needed this video! Thank you so much for your shining energy Alexis 🌹💗
Thank you thank you thank you, i stumbled upon this video while cleaning my room and i didnt need anything else god bless and keep posting these amazing ideas
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@@awwlexisthe robe is beautiful.
So insightful, thank you beautiful ❤️ that colour looks amazing on you! IKEA is in Europe too
Haha you're so sweet, "I don't know if IKEA is outside of America". It's from Sweden where I come from, and yes they've exported it to other countries for example America and all over the world really.
Thank you for letting me know love. I had no idea 😅
Oh wow !!! Alexis this video is right on time. Thanks for telling us that you do not want us in our wounded feminine energy. You are so insightful and I appreciate you talking about the Ikea effect as well as that video you saw.
So glad your video found me, thank you 🙏
It reminds me of how in our memories, people were magical. When often, we are the magical ones and we can project that on anything.
I've been working on getting over a breakup from a broken boy and prayed to god for help. You popped up randomly and I'm so thankful. ❤
I am so happy to have you here love. The pain you may feel now is SO temporary, trust me trust me. This is just the beginning for you ♥️🙏🏽
This is fantastic and much needed!! A few days ago I saw a van w the word glo on it and just knew it was a sign from Jesus! Look forward to being more in my feminine
I keep giving away what should be worked for emotionally and in my being present w people who dont appreciate. I'm always afraid if I withdraw he won't chase.
Thank you so much Ms. Alexis. You were such an inspiration. May God bless you more so you can share more ❤
Thank you for mentioning The Bachelor!!! Yesssss I’ve thought the same things about that show. Could never watch it for more than a few minutes. 😂
This channel found me in divine timing ❤ thank you so much Alexis for this video 😊 it is very empowering and gave me hope!
A brilliant analysis of the reasons women undervalue themselves, and go on to make erroneous decisions. By the way, the same logic could also apply to men! Thank you for sharing.
came across u just now and told 5 other women bout you. i agree and i did try once to fix a broken man and trauma bonded listening to his constant whining on the phone. wasted 2 years of my life...but its ok and we learn.... today like you said.. my energy just repels low value simps and pimps..... and i like the warm and happy demeanor that you have.
Aww I am so happy to have you here love. Those experiences are ALWAYS blessings in disguise, they will be used for something great for you. Thank you for sharing my channel ♥️
Every woman needs to hear this! 🎯 🎯 🙏 . Thanks for sharing
Thank you so much Alexis, I'm just feeling better seeing your video, I'm in a good inner mood to be the girl I want to become, and this is thanks to you and your work! Your my mentor and I'm so grateful to God to have find you just when I need a person like youin this moment, you have right, god always know how to help us! love you.
Thank you so much Mina 🥺
Omg I needed to hear this. I really am working on healing my feminine energy.
Love the robe !!! The loungewear is so affordable!!! Thank you ! I’m definitely shopping with you.
I want people in my life who wants to do good for me. It feels good.
You said it so well. High value men who want to do everything for me.
All what you said makes me feel so in peace, thank you sister ❤
All the way from Africa 🇰🇪 Kenya thanks for your inspirational videos.
Aww hello beautiful! Sending you lots of love from Las Vegas. So happy to have you here ♥️
Kumbe tuko wengi lol ❤
@zolambithi5786 yes Mbithi lazima tugrow
Girl..this is gold. Yess
My name is Alexis too and just recently got divorced and feel like you are talking to me!
Godddesssss I fucking love you! This was epic. Divine codes flowing through your wideeeeee open channel! Thank you
Thank you beautiful! I am SO happy to have you here 🥰
I married young straight from an abusive home. When I started my level up journey I woke up and realised he would never change.
So yes, I have a "failed marriage" but my new husband adores me, cherishes me and would give me the world if I asked.
Edited to add: if you level up and they fall away, it's only to make room for someone so much better ❤
Omg. I needed this. I work for him and he may not be the best man for me!!! #broke Facts!!!! Thank you!
You are such a vibrant soul!!!!! Thank you for sharing this and giving us GEMS!!!
Been watching your videos on my walks and in my shower sounds like the big sis I never had thank you dear. I used to be a bad boy magnet. Inner work is something I’ve been working on for 6 plus years finally making
Money doing what I love in a healthier relationships where I get to be my feminine self
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Man loves it the girly me
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At least here in Finland is many Ikea's... It's Swedish brand...
I like that you said my country here, America. It moved m heart and I honestly don't know why.
Hey glo sista! it would be amazing to connect with Queen Afua or any of the women she works with, i foresee it lifting up your business to a next level and connect you with so many women just like you!
Girl your vibe is AWESOME!!!❤❤❤