Seriously; blush, peach, light pink, light grey, off white, eggshell, ivory, whatever, doesn’t matter. If it’s a color that could conceivably be mistaken for white, DON’T WEAR IT TO A WEDDING!!!!!
Yes! My wedding dress had white lace but the underskirts were a light champagne/pink! And I coordinated my bridesmaids dresses to compliment it. All of my lovely guests showed up in greens, blues, blacks and yellows! When in doubt, just ask!
@@ZStitchDisneyFan I tried on a pale blue dress to go to a wedding. It looked fine in the dressing room lights but as I left the cubicle my friend gasped. In the light of the shop it had gone from a pale blue to a bright white. I just. Chose something else. I'd looked nice in it but I'm not risking it. Went with a black one with navy flowers and it looked way more formal.
I think it depends on what kind of wedding it is too. Indoors you can get away with it, outdoors no not really. I think a problem is that not everybody is fashion savvy, and when fashion faux pas happen; people need to know/ have this in mind. That lady that said the woman wants to sue her, unfortunately she can win if the dress is not indeed white. Unfortunately, just because the lighting plays tricks, doesn’t change the actual color of the dress. The bride should’ve thought to ask the person to see the dress up close before making that statement. This is why people ask party goers to wear certain types of colors, tones, styles etc. to events; depending on the venue and theme.
If people on Tik Tok are harassing her, she can sue. The person who recorded is an idiot and released information on who she is based on how they are related. You can tell the person who posted the video is loving the attention.
Wouldn’t that then be a suit for harassment not defamation? I don’t see her getting anywhere trying to claim defamation. “Truth as a defense your honor”
I found out I was cancer positive a month prior to my sisters wedding. I didn’t tell anyone until the day after the wedding so everyone could look back at a great time I know my sister had an amazing time so that’s all that mattered to me
Two of my bridesmaids (my husband’s step-sisters) missed the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. They weren’t answering their phones and I was scared that they were not even going to be there the next morning for my wedding. They arrived at the hotel the next morning and things were so frantic that we really didn’t have time to talk about anything. it wasn’t until later that night that I found out that they were in a car accident. Everyone kept it from me because they didn’t want me getting upset and worried on “my day”. Sometimes they’re really are valid reasons for these things.
It’s also a wedding where the woman would know photos were being taken and would be posted. Like wedding photos of her in the dress would be up somewhere. Was she going to threaten the bride to take down Instagram photos of her wedding or something? It’s a photographed event.
What is so hard to grasp about colors when attending a wedding? If the first Chica was so "educated" then she knew her choice was wrong. She is just mad she got called out and people shaded her for wearing a dress like that.
@@sonialinsey8083 saying a dress was white or close to white doesn't make someone a narcissist. Get a dictionary. Also even though it wasn't white, it was white enough to look white in certain white and was also still a wedding type dress
As a designer and dressmaker, a couple of months ago a friend aske me to customize one of my designs for her to wear to a wedding. She was between light blue (pastel) or aqua/tiffany (kind of that shade between green and blue) we realised that, as lovely as the light blue fabric was, in daylight and photographs it might look waaaaay to close to being white and decided that the more greenish hue was more appropriate and just as pretty. Even when the fabric WAS obviously blue neither of us wanted to take any chances, she as a guest out of respect to a friend and me as a designer who has to know a thing or two about etiquette, color perception etc IT'S NOT THAT HARD
Yes see that's what gets me it's like I understand "it's not white" but it literally looks like a wedding dress! I wouldn't be caught dead wearing that to another woman's wedding that is disrespectful! It's not that hard you're right it really isn't it's simple etiquette!
I was 6 months away from getting married, had everything ready, had been sharing all the details with my Aunt who offered to help me. My wedding ended up being canceled because me and my fiance ended things (wont get into that)... so flash forward a year later. My Aunt is throwing a wedding for her son. It's my freaking wedding. Everything I planned down to a T. She stole the whole idea... I still went because it's not my cousins fault. But damn, it was hard to sit at the wedding I imagined would be mine and watch other people walk down the isle.
I'm so sorry you had to endure that. I would have talked to my cousin and explained why I couldn't come and hopefully they would understand and not be upset. I guess your a better person than me bc I don't think I could watch my dream in someone else's wedding. That would break my heart. You are absolutely right about it not being your cousins fault but still I don't think I could do it. Thank you for being the bigger person and going to the wedding. I'm sorry that your aunt did that to you though. Are you still in touch with your aunt. Well I guess you really can't trust anyone with your dream no matter what. That truly sucks but with all this tech it's turning into reality. God bless you and I hope you find that special person one day.
I doubt your aunt was being malicious. It sounds like your wedding ideas were too amazing to pass up and she probably figured you would do something else at your future wedding. That said, it would be hard to sit through the vision of your perfect day come to life. Now you have seen what it is like, you can make tweaks and improve upon your ideas. As my sister says, everything happens for a reason and it will be even better when it happens.
Damn, that sucks. It's probably because you spent a lot of time coming up with the ideas, & she didn't want to spend a lot of time coming up with new ideas.
My wedding was nuts. My MIL hated the choice of song I wanted to walk down the isle to so to keep her quiet I changed it to something she loved and I liked but not loved. Her sister(my husband’s aunt) tried to dictate to our photographer on how to do his job, then my MIL had screamed at us to turn down the music. We are renewing our vows next year for our 20th anniversary. Guess who’s not invited!
Anytime someone wears a wedding dress to a wedding that isn't theirs, go up to that person and tell them congratulations.... make them feel so awkward and uncomfortable!
lmao, make sure to bring your friends as well, more fun when alot of people hear it, then exclaimes "omg your not the bride??? why are you also wearing a wedding dress in a wedding that is not yours????! this is not white? really? lets check under the sun, there, in the middle of more people" the amount if attention she'll get will be amazing hehehehe
I would simply go for "aren't you a little bit old to be a flower girl? 'Cause, you know, flower girls are the only female allowed to wear white at someone else's wedding!" That of course after "accidentally" spilling the darkest stuff I can find at the bar on said dress, because the moment you decide to wear white at someone else's wedding you are choosing violence.
Not only we’re those first two dresses wayyyy too close to a shade of white, they were wedding dressy looking. And that one talking about how she knows the difference obviously put that exact thought into the choice of dress she wore. The AUDACITY! 🍌🍌
The rule should always be: if you don't know if it's appropriate wedding attire for a guest, then pick another dress/outfit. Any shade that is too close to white counts as "inappropriate" in my wedding book _unless_ it is okay'd by the bride(s).
I once went to a family wedding when I was a teenager. At the reception, and older distant relative came up to me and said "There's a handsome boy about your age. You should ask him to dance." I looked to where she was directing me to, looked back at her and said "Ma'am, that is my brother." Now, my brother and I don't look alike because we're both adopted with different bio parents (but he's still my BROTHER) but I didn't bother telling that to the old woman. She looked mortified.
Nooooo that reminds me of this time I was walking in the park with my brother and a lady passing by us said "cute couple" 🤢 like, were the opposite gender, how could we not want to date one another?? 😭😭🤮
@@js8qp2pwisos haha my best friend gets this a lot with her brother, she figures it is because they are so comfortable around each other and they don't really look alike so people assume they are partners
I used to get "shipped" with my brother, and my oldest son, scarily frequently. 🤣 My brother and I were BFFs, therefore were really close. We worked at the same company for 2 years, and I can't count the number of people who would ask if we were a couple, if we were married, if not then how we should be. Our favorite response to "How long have you been together?" was whatever age I was, since I'm the youngest. 🤣🤣🤣 The people who recognized our last names matched, always assumed we were married. The ones who didn't, were obsessed with trying to get us together. We didn't keep it secret that we were blood related. And honestly, we literally looked very related. Thank God our parents wrote who was who on our baby pictures, because they look exactly the same, taken 6 1/2 years apart. 🤣 My oldest son, who also looks incredibly like me, was frequently mistaken for being my boyfriend or husband. And my youngest son (there's a 6y age gap, and my youngest didn't really grow much until he turned 16, while my oldest hit 6' by age 14) was mistaken as being "ours". 🤢 and 🤔 and 🤣🤣🤣 To be fair, my oldest liked his hair longer, and it's thick and bushy. He also had an instant talent for growing a super thick beard, and basically looked like Grizzly Adams (look it up). 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My big sister, my 3 yo daughter and I in library. When an old gentleman came to me to congrats us, because it's good to see proud lesbians with kids! I thanked him because damn he is right. But still I was dying inside, we are sisters, we weren't even holding hands! My guess is that he noticed my daughter calling me "mom" ans since she looks more like my sister than me... still it was good to see an ally.
Was a bridesmaid at my good friends wedding just last weekend. While taking a group photo the photographer said “kiss”.. the bride then turned 180 degrees and kissed her mum. The photographer was like “ahhh your husband” and the rest of us erupted in laughter. I’m never going to let her live it down HHAHA.
I will never ever get over the friend of my husband who wore a floor length white dress to my wedding. Like it was white white. It’s been 12 years and I’m still mad 😂
I went to a wedding where the grooms boss had brought his sister who was wearing a dress not just the same colour but the same material. I wanted to say something but I was worried because she was his bosses sister he might get into shit for it. At least it was short but its more the principle than the chance of her actually getting confused for the bride.
If it’s a shade close to white (white, blush, cream, etc.) DONT WEAR IT TO A WEDDING!!!!! I accidentally wore the bridesmaids color for a wedding I attended (my mom was invited so I didn’t see the invitation) and was MORTIFIED. Yes the their dresses were dramatically different but I didn’t even want to have the appearance of an issue. That first guest insisting she knew etiquette after wearing that dress is hilarious.
That happened to me once lol. My grandma was invited to a goddaughters wedding and the invite specified mustard, periwinkle, and some other colors. I being the fashion conscious person I was adhered to the colors suggested and wore periwinkle. Turns out that the bridesmaids and flower girls were wearing periwinkle and my dress color hit it right on the nose so I think it was the wedding planner or something handed me a basket to walk down the aisle. I had to go explain that I wasn't a flower girl or a bridesmaid lol.
@@srkh8966 That was probably referring to the wedding colors over all. A lot of invitations describe color and theme now, so usually the bridesmaids will be in one of the colors specified for the wedding. So if she never saw invitation, she wouldn't have known thew colors/theme (if they were told to everyone), hence the accident.
I called my wedding off a month before I was to get married cause I found out my (now ex) fiancé was cheating on me with multiple women. He got engaged to one on the same day we were supposed to get married 🤣 3 months later his new fiancée found out about us and got in touch with me. And the other women he’s cheating on HER with. She broke up with him. Now she and I are low-key friends in the making 😂
Sounds like my friend who was engaged and the guy broke it off with her 2 months before their wedding. He started dating someone else the same week BRINGING HER OVER TO THEIR APT and introduced her to my friend and his' son and now less than a year later, he got married to this new girl...I'm like wtf!!
I never get the whole being-single-at-a-wedding is a sad thing. Being bitter because people are in love seems so tacky. Also when my friends and family are getting married it’s such a happy fun time and so many people to catch up with etc I never for a second would think of my love life.
Just last month my niece got married and a woman was wearing a white dress. Everyone was talking about how they wanted or felt like emptying wine on her but nobody actually did it… until I went and had a giant glass of red wine poured to the brim (I don’t drink) and the woman was dancing and so I stood in front of her and said “One should never wear white to a wedding” and I poured the glass of wine slowly in her cleveage … you should’ve seen her face 😅😅😅
This is why I wear suits to weddings. Don't have to worry about wearing the wrong style or colour. They're a classic and not like you're gonna get accused of upstaging the groom lol
The only wedding drama I have taken part in, really not by choice was at my sisters wedding. My nan is kind of... Well, an entitled witch. My sister decided to have a small ceremony at her own house, my nan hijacked pretty much everything. The wedding dress, the decorations, the food, how everything was set up. My sister was quite distraught the night before, so me and her now sister in law; stayed up all night and rearranged everything to how my sister wanted it. To say my nan was salty would be an understatement, she was pissed. And before anybody asked, my nan isn't somebody you can just say no to. For reference, she threw a tantrum because she wasn't able to park in the drive way, the grooms parents (who owned the house at that time) wanted to park in their own drive way. She ended up leaving early, over another tantrum involving not being able to light her big propane heaters, it would have burned the house down. Speaking of burning the house down, the candles she chose for decoration (floating candles that floating in oil or something) set fire to the garden three seperate times, because my nan kept relighting them. After that, my nan didn't speak to us for a very blissful 17 months; so i guess we won in the end
I should mention, this is after three weeks of complete hell; with her ordering us around. In the end, my sister was so stressed she had to take a valium to calm down enough to actually walk down the isle.
@@nandimashinini9791 she kept coming in and changing things behind my sisters back. Since my sister was trying to organise mostly everything herself, she would organise one thing (like the decorations) and then go onto the next. When she was on the next thing, our nan would go and change things with the decorations. Like take them and replace them with other things, to everybody else it looked as though she was just helping and they assumed it was something my sister wanted. I mean, who questions an old frail (not really frail, just pretends to be helpless) looking lady?
My brother got married last night (the day this was posted) and luckily it was the best wedding most people had ever been to (small-35 people total). The only snag was the wrong song was played as she walked down the aisle, no one really noticed. Something always goes wrong but we took that no problem lol. So lucky, it was beautiful and exactly what they deserved after almost 10 years.
If i had had an actual wedding, some crazy ish like this would have happened. The day i eloped was the best day of my life so far and it was the best decision ever. It actually got rid of a lot of toxic people in my life. SO, TOTAL WIN!
One of my friend's wedding invitation specifically said "please don't wear white." But one of our officemates, wore WHITE!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA She was made fun by all through the party. When the announcer said the bride and groom will now cut the cake, one jokester said, hey get ready! She cried after and did not talk to some of us in the office hahahahahaa Please take note, that the invitation is big, as in big big, like an artsy type so you cant missed out on anything.
Lol well, I mean she may have gotten some justified teasing, but if you’re brave enough to wear white to a wedding, let alone one that clearly states not to… you should be big enough to take some hazing.
As a daughter of seamstress, this is a kind of color used for bridal dress especially for women who are conscious of not being a virgin but still wants to wear white but not being a hypocrite. 😂😂😁😁 IT IS WHITE. From her own words, "peach undertone" meaning white with hint of peach. By the way, for Philippine weddings, usually godparents use white (rami, philippine piña silk, jusi etc). So when you are going to invite a Filipina as godmother, you have to remind her not to wear white.
Awe!!! I would have been perfectly fine incorporating her traditions into my wedding!!! My daughter has a Guatemalan godmother, so many of our celebrations are a mixture of American and Guatemalan traditions. I absolutely love it.
@@ida6950 That is the reason wedding dresses are white. They are meant to be a sign of "purity" aka VIRGINITY. IT's bonkers and I don't agree with that at all since virginity is a concept made to shame women for having sex, but it is the reason white wedding dresses are a thing.
My MIL chose her dress and wanted to show me. It was a full length, light cream, pearl encrusted dress. Yeah I’ll just say it was white and could have been a wedding dress. I took one look at it, thought “typical.” And didn’t argue with her. I think she was look for me to get upset…. I didn’t have time for her sh*t. Then on my wedding day- she walked into the room where my bridesmaids and I were hanging out- before the ceremony- and looked me right and the face, “idk if he’s going to go through with this.” I cried all the way down the aisle bc I was so relieved he was standing up there. Update: Her husband ended up *illing himself a few years later. She blamed me. We moved out of the country. Had kids. They like the money she sends. Husband talks to her a lot, but not around me bc he never knows when she’ll say something dumb.
Her husband ended up *illing himself a few years later. She blamed me. We moved out of the country. Had kids. They like the money she sends. Husband talks to her a lot, but not around me bc he never knows when she’ll say something dumb.
I feel incredibly blessed that I married a man with a lovely family. His parents treat me like I'm blood family. His mum and I send a quick goodnight message each night. My husband says he feels the same way with my parents, that they openly love him and treat him so well. I will be forever grateful that I didn't just get the best man I could want, but we also all support and love each other with no drama.
I am so grateful that there was zero drama at my wedding - except between me and my mom behind the scenes. To clarify, my monthly friend showed up the day before and I was a super crabby witch - and I took it out on my mom who was just trying to be a part of the planning process. Sorry mom. I love you forever!
Man I would be grumpy if that happened to me tbh... for me it hurts a lot and means I need painkillers with me. Knowing my mom I could have her carry them but still I’d be annoyed I had to worry about blood in my dress and whatnot... that would suck xd
@@GubbiGap It sucked huge. I had Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. My pain was atrocious! I had to wear three huge pads stretched across two pair of underwear to make sure no blood got on my dress. My hose and underwear were ruined, but the dress was spared! And I was on prescription painkillers.
The TicTok wedding drama. Yeah, those dresses both were inappropriate unless they were chosen by the bride. I always try and wear the wedding colors or something complementary to the colors. The fact that lady who was called out freaked out, says a lot about her intentions.
As someone who shame watches "Say Yes To The Dress", I can tell you that blush is coming back into style (big time) for wedding dresses. (though I think this dress is def classified as white/off white)
This reminds me of the time when my aunt (related by marriage) wore her soon to be SIL’s wedding dress and took photos with her husband before the bride even got to wear it. The photographer was a family friend and just went with the flow. We were over at their place (they all live together) looking at the photos (which was how we found out about what she did).. My mom kept making comments to my aunt about how the bride looked so much better than her in the dress lol. The aunt somehow managed to be in almost every wedding picture (except the couples pictures).
When my grandmother was young, she hitched a ride to a wedding, several hours away, with the couple who were getting married. It didn't even dawn on any of them until after the reception that that meant they would also be giving her a ride home. On their wedding night.😂
First story: it was a wedding dress. I am sure she was thinking "what can I do to make it not look like a wedding dress and still get away with it" and decided the color was all she needed to change, and yeah that can work, but she still wanted to wear a wedding dress so got the color she thought was farthest from white that still fell in the wedding dress family but was still a wedding dress.
Maybe, but there are black wedding dresses out there, so... not quite the furthest colour from white? I do agree she was making a statement at that wedding, and that dress looked white-ish in certain lighting, she definitely knew what she was doing, and didn't like being called out. OP just posted what others thought really.
I did wear a white dress to a wedding but I covered it with a very colorful cardigan that was knee length too. I was friends with both bride and groom and asked if it was okay only because-i was like mega pregnant and it was the only dress I had that fit and this was a last minute "lets do this" wedding lol. They were both fine since the big cardigan was damn near rainbow colors and hid all but the very part that my belly stuck out and couldn't be covered by by the cardigan. They didnt give a crap andcwanted me and my hubby and daughter there. None of our other friends and family said a thing. But the big dress was stark white summer dress lol. I did worry a little bit.
So my parents are divorced, but when they were still together, when me and my sisters were kids, they bought two houses next to each other together with my maternal grandmother. This worked out great for us, and I've always had a really close bond with my grandma because of it. But when my parents divorced over 15 years later my mom didn't want to stay in such a big house by herself. So my dad stayed, and so did my grandma. And that actually works out great too. My mom still comes over regularly to visit her mother (and us and dad). And my dad and grandma still eat dinner together 3 times a week and my mom comes over for dinner with my grandma every friday (my dad eats dinner at grandma's that day too). It's really great. And my dad now lives next to his ex-mother in law so we get to bust the cliché too. :D
My friends discussed the concept of weddings not to long ago and we made a plan for whoever wore white to one of our weddings. There’s 3 of us so as the bride-to-be gets ready for her special day, two of us would be posted at the entrance with water guns filled with red wine(or whatever stains best)
So I was recently at this wedding for my boyfriend’s family and there was this girl who thought she was the main character at someone else’s wedding. Like, HUUUUUGE Main Character energy. Now granted, I was at a wedding where I didn’t know many people, least of all this girl. Not knowing her name, I will refer to her as Bailee. Now, this wedding had a HUGE wedding party. I believe there were at least 6 people on each side for the groom and bride. However, despite how concerningly invested Bailee was in the whole event, Bailee was not in the wedding party nor was she at the family table where the mother of the groom and the rest of my boyfriend’s family were seated. She was, however, at the front of the crowd for every “special moment”. You name it: the First Dance, the Father-Daughter Dance, the Mother-Son Dance, the second Father-Daughter dance (the groom and his year-old daughter, who was the cutest flower girl I’ve ever seen), and all of the toasts. Any time the crowd got up to put attention on the dance floor, there was Bailee, front and center. It was weird to say the least but not nearly as weird when this absolute stranger started making comments to me during these events. What kind of comments? Glad you asked: Her: “Ohhhh, aren’t they just so cute?” Me: (smiles and nods politely) “Mhmm, they’re a lovely couple.” Her: “I wish I had someone like that.” Me: (smiles in uncomfortable silence) Her: “Don’t they just make you wish you weren’t single?” Me: (already holding my boyfriend’s hand, uncomfortable silence increases) She continued to make side comments throughout the night to me, a complete stranger. Also, she never introduced herself or attempted to meet me. Why would she? She’s obviously the main character at this wedding. It was the weirdest thing I’d ever had happen. Also, in the spirit of fun, I was at the bar ordering a “Giggity” on the Beach and an elderly woman was ahead of me in line. She overheard me place my drink order and said, “Enjoy it, honey, I was young once.” before sauntering back to her table from the bar like an absolute queen. 😂 I hope I’m as sharp and witty as that woman when I’m old some day.
went to a wedding similar to that where one of the brides' friends, who was not in the wedding, wore a thin sheer WHITE dress. The bride was my bff from high school and me and my fiance made fun of the girl wearing white the entire day. It was a fall wedding too, and it was a little chilly. Like where do you get off wearing a sleeveless SHEER WHITE dress to your good "friends" wedding. I could not believe it ...I'm upset I didn't approach her but we knew almost no one at the wedding besides my friends immediate family
Those off-white dresses are the type of options bride shops show you when you don't want to get a white dress but still feel like it should be as closer to white as possible.
Maybe I'm weird, but I'd love to have a wedding with a black and white theme where everyone wears black and/or white with a single colour accent of their choosing. I think the photos would look fantastic. 🙂
My brother’s wedding had black suits for the groomsmen, black cocktail dresses for the bridesmaids (6ea.). The contrast against the white of the bride’s wedding dress was beautiful. One problem: the photographer was a NO SHOW. Luckily, one of their friends was a gifted amateur photographer. This was back in the days when someone had to run out for rolls of film, and they included some in b/w. Those photos were amazing!
I guess that's also a good idea for when the bride didn't pick white but rather like a bright pink or a bright red, and have everyone else wear white. I think Charlotte has covered similar stories of ppl making sure everybody showed up in white bc the monster in law was scheming to wear white, hah, they one upped her :p
Literally, all these wedding videos just reinforce my husband's and my decision to elope... it was amazing and drama free. We told everyone after our honeymoon. It was glorious 🎉
For precaution, let's stay away from dresses that are off white, pale grey, soft pink or light flesh tone. Let's also look at the dress color from a distance of 10-20 feet away before deciding if it's too easily mistaken for white. And the lighter the color, the shorter it should be. It will also look much lighter if you're around anyone in anything darker even if it doesn't look white next to an actual white dress. It doesn't have to be mini dress or something so short you're constantly checking to make sure it's not riding up, just not ankle or floor length is all. Not only because of getting the dress dirty but it feels less bridal and still wedding appropriate if a non-bride wears a dress that isn't to the ankles or floor. Also, if it's a light color, stay away from lace. Weddings are an opportunity to wear really fun dresses that are formal but can still be colorful if you aren't a bridesmaid. Is it white? My answer: It's white enough for me. Yes.
100%! If it's a light pink or something, it should be like cocktail length, not long and lacy if you don't want to look like you're wearing a wedding gown!
I went to a wedding a few years ago and the invitations were VERY clear that they wanted EVERYONE to wear white linen. "Beach chic." I seem to recall several people not wearing white, regardless of the couple's request, because of superstition, lol. Babes, if my spooky all-black-wearing ass can wear white because the bride asked, you can too. It's a few hours.
Right? I've been in several weddings and it's not about the bridesmaids! If the bride asks us to wear a gunny sack with a huge hair bow, then that's what we wear. How do people not get that?
Just had my wedding today, actually and it's evening now. Really funny coming home to watch this seeing as my day was shockingly drama free (even though my in-laws hate my guts). Love your videos Charlotte ❤
UPDATE - YES I PASSED IT GOING TO COLLEGE IN 2 MONTHS APPROX, I'M EXCITEDD (Thanks all of you, you're so lovely people ❤️i can't describe how much you guys calmed me when i was anxious in morning love y'all 🤭❤️) Have a huge Exam tomorrow for which I've been preparing for almost 2 years, Thanks Charlotte for being with me through your videos. Also thanks to all the petty potatoes reading my comment. Will update my results as I'll become a doctor hehe ❤️😁
Omg EEEEEEE!!!!! Congrats doctor bestie!!!! I know you got this damn thang!!! I helped my mother pass her MCAT. and then she became a social worker… lmao😅
A few months before my sister's wedding I finally realized I was bisexual and didn't tell any family members at that time, my thing could wait until after all of the wedding stuff was over. It's not hard to let the couple have their day and if they're immediate family you can put things on hold. She wasn't happy about the fact that I thought I needed to stay in the closet because of her wedding and wished I hadn't felt that way 🥹 my sister is the best
This video is just a list of reasons why I don't want a big wedding. I'd rather go to the courthouse and then throw one heck of a party after, but not a super big or formal one.
I never thought of my wedding as the "one day it's all about me". I just thought of it as the day I held the best party for relatives and friends looking top tier! Like great gatsby. If my guests are happy, I'm happy. I dont think I ever once thought about everyone focusing solely on me and my wants. Not once.
Agree! Thats how I see weddings as well. It's about TWO people and their respective families merging together to celebrate romance and have a good time. The Bride and Groom definitely set the mood and are the focus, but I would say its far from being 'all about me [aka, the bride]". That said, some effort should go to making sure the bride AND GROOM both get plenty of respect all night long and making sure everyone is helping keep the mood happy and focused on their union. Wearing white to stir up drama or making big announcements that have everyone gossiping just prior is disrespectful af. But I don't think I would be so immature to think that a breakup someone else had (even if it was between my parents) was suddenly all about taking attention away from me. Shit happens. If it can wait, absolutely try to make it work for a few days or keep things lowkey until afterwards. But the world and life for others absolutely doesn't stop just bc your sweet little innocent face is about to get married. The less you think the world revolves around you regardless of what day it is, the happier you will be.
I was blessed with a wonderful MIL. We got along great. Not to say there was never a disagreement, but nothing that wasn't worked out. Also respect on both sides, goes a long way. Many blessings out there to all who are struggling with a MIL.
I was a bridesmaid and the color the bride picked for our dresses was ivory and even though the bride picked this color I felt so uncomfortable that I was wearing a shade so close to white. I have know some girls that wear something that resembles a wedding dress hoping to get their significant other to visualize them as a bride but I feel that is still super disrespectful to the couple getting married.
I attended a wedding and a woman wore a form fitting white dress. I approached her and told her white was her color...and congratulations on her pregnancy. She was not pregnant and enjoyed looking down in overweight people. The bride and groom celebrated while their Ahole friends rode the attention seeker until she left less than half an hour into the reception.
I am 66 now and I went to a wedding with someone who was my boyfriend at the time, I was 28 and wore an ivory dress with a peach sash , I regret it to this day . I swear it was not done with malice , it was just my favorite dress . Never crossed my mind .. so to Diane who married jerry like in 1983 I apologize😊
Poor thing. Sometimes we are just thoughtless, I can fully relate. I may not have worn white to a wedding, but I did wear all black to my uncles, and ended up apologizing to my cousins and uncle and new aunt. I did not intend to make them feel like I was mourning their happy day. Ooops!!!
I'm not sure people made such a deal out of it then. Remember, at no time in our history have people ever been so easily offended as they are now. On the other hand, now, were you at the wedding of your boyfriend's friend, or at your boyfriend's wedding? 😁
@@pennPi I think it’s only appropriate if you’re a man (in which case it’s usually a black suit and colors to compliment such as white, blue, pink, purple, etc) but apparently all black on a woman is only appropriate if it’s considered a black and white tie event. Which is rare, because then you’re allowing other women to also wear white to your wedding. So apparently not??? Lol
@PennyPie all these rules and expectations, and I have to bring a gift to eat a cold spaghetti dinner. I’m kinda glad my family is small and most of my friends are common law couples.
Me and my brothers are single and just hung out and had fun at our parents' weddings. The 2 weddings were night and day emotional. We couldn't care less about our mom's wedding. She didn't even try to include us in anything and we didn't really have any strong opinions on her husband. We honestly just shat-talked her the whole time in one of the back church pews. (She deserved it. She's a piece of work and I've literally blocked her number since then.) While my dad and his wife made sure to include us. My dad had us as his best men and we honestly really like his wife. I feel like you always hear about crazy step moms, but mine is chill 🤷
She cant sue because there wasn't any "damages". Claiming that she was rude at a wedding doesn't cost anybody work, unless they're a wedding coordinator or something like that. You can't just sue someone because they said something about you.
I work in a little boutique and someone came in looking for a dress to wear to a wedding. She was looking at a white dress. I asked her if she was the bride, no. I explained that she can’t wear white to a wedding unless the bride has asked her guests to. I tried to show other options while she still wanted the white one. I told her I’m trying to save her from being outed on Reddit. She did not like my help 🤦🏻♀️
You're kinder than a lot of people. If I didn't know that ettiquette, I would definitley have appreciated the input. Although, I would never have been looking at the white dress because I don't like white. If I have a wedding dress, it will likely be black, or deep dark purple. 😉 Lol!
My own grandmother wore white lace to my wedding after I told her I was wearing a white lace dress. I didn’t allow myself to be angry on my own wedding day, but I did allow myself to be petty about it afterwards. Edit to add: she told me she wanted to “dress complementarily to the bride.” Geez.😑
But what's this a sweet grandmother who really thought she was complementing the bride, her beloved granddaughter, and honestly meant no harm or was she swinging more to the "bitch you thought" side?
When we went to my husband's bff's wedding I had intended to wear a nice summer dress. I didn't think much of my choice at first but as we got closer to the wedding I started having second thoughts. It was floor length with a crochet halter top. The waist up was entirely pale beige crochet, and the skirt was cream chiffon with a pattern of flowers/leaves in sage, cranberry, and mustard. I ended up buying a new, shorter dress that was black with red and beige florals instead because I didn't want to even get CLOSE to the line. I can't even imagine wearing a solid colour pale dress that is floor length. Some people are wild.
Most humans in a wedding can’t human and just act reasonable. That’s why my one guest in our special day a couple of months ago was our fur baby. He even wore a tie! 🐶❤️
The girl who go married to someone else the same week she was supposed to marry the original groom: The only acceptable scenario is if Keanu Reeves suddenly became available and asked for your hand, who are you(or any of us) to say no?
My sister-in-law picked out my mom's dress and she picked a cream color, so I brought up how it's too close to white. She said she doesn't care about that rule and just wants us to look good. I told her I had to go dress shopping because the only wedding appropriate dress I have is white and once again she told me she didn't care. She even had us in all her wedding pictures. I know not everyone will be like her but we appreciated her only caring about us looking good and being there.
If you have the bride's blessing, all is good. My aunt had a bridal party entirely made up of people wearing different types of off white. Cream, ivory, blush.
@@Backwardspajamas44 I meant that it was the only formal dress I had. In fact it as the only dress I owned. All 3 of us were dress shopping for my mom when the convos happened and she insisted I didn't have to get a new dress. So with the bride's blessings it's all fine.
I would be this bride, I mean I'd appreciate my guests dressing up a bit for my wedding, but apart from that I couldn't care less :) In either case, better safe than sorry and check with the couple what their ideas about colors are 🙃 Your sister in law sounds like a chill person!
If it could "pass" as a "traditional" wedding dress, DON'T wear it to a wedding. It's not that complicated. EDIT: ok so we saw "the dress". I wouldn't call that "peach with pink". The "dress" is covered in off-white LACE AND from a distance looks sorta white.
My wedding drama, my supposed "best" friend decided she wouldn't be in the wedding because the dress would make her look to busty. The main problem with this is she was invited to go pick out the bridesmaid dresses, she said she couldn't go, she had to go do something with her sister. So we all went, the other bridesmaids picked out beautiful dresses, she went to look at them and she said no. So my supposed "best" friend wasn't in my wedding. Still makes me very sad.
I'm sure she could've had hers altered a bit so as to not show off her bust as much instead of completely saying "no"....sad. unfortunately weddings bring out the worst in people 😕
Maybe she Just dont want to be at your wedding. I remember ut happened to me too. Both of us are the last two single girls. People think i was the least settle Down, but i got married before she did. I was told by my aunty that she was so sad for not getting married before I did.
I'm sorry she did that to you. Can't imagine my best friend doing that, but it would hurt very much if she did. My best friend picked out her bridesmaid dress for us, and regardless of what I thought of the dress, that's what I wore, because that's what she wanted. Doesn't matter about you, it's the bride's choice. It's great if you are able to consult on it (I lived in a different country, so no consulting for me), but it's her choice in the end. I would never have considered saying "no, sorry, don't like it, won't wear it." I wanted her to be happy. Still my best friend of 42 years. Love her to bits!
My sisters ex fiancé got married on the same day as her… the day she picked when she was 3 yrs old so it’s not like it was an accident, also her birthday btw. Then he asked our brother to be the best man and invited all mutual acquaintances. No surprise, everyone came to my sisters wedding. It is to this day the most fun happy awesome wedding anyone can can remember. Funny how things work out when you have a celebration based on love and friendship. ❤ It was beautiful.
As someone with severe anxiety, I know that you can't really control when a panic/anxiety attack happens. It just happens. However, if I was at someone's wedding or another important occasion I would hide it as much as humanly possible.
If it looks like a wedding dress or any shade that can seem white in any light DONT WEAR IT. 🤨 How hard is it not being the center of attention on someone else wedding day. I’m glade I avoid those type of people.
I wore a white tea-length dress with a portrait neckline to a cousin's wedding when I was 18. I had no idea it wasn't the right color to wear and no one corrected me, but as I got older and found out that wearing white to a wedding was frowned upon, I made sure never to wear white to someone else's wedding ever again!
I did that to my sister's wedding when I was a teen! I had no idea back then and my mom didn't know until I told her when I learned it. Oh gosh I still feel terrible, my sister has never said anything about it. I truly hope it didn't bother her
Don’t spill red wine on someone who wears a white dress to someone else’s wedding… . . . . . Spill hot coffee. It’s cheaper and a much worse experience for the person getting splashed.
My wedding was on a boat and a fishing competition got moved up a week so as we were going out all of the fishing boats were coming in, at least 3 people fell and half of us were sea sick 😂. Two of my guest wore white, one was floor length and lacy. The staff cut my cake and passed it out without me and my husband cutting it or getting photos. I didn’t even get a piece. My husband stepped on my dress and broke the bustle so I had to carry it the rest of the night. Even with all of that going on I had an amazing time and all of my guests two years later talk about what an awesome wedding we had. ❤
I accidentally wore a peach with little flowers on a cute summer dress. This was about 20 years ago to my cousins wedding,🤗 I had no idea it looked too light in the bright sun.😱😇 I had no idea it would be a problem and felt awful, it wasn't looking like a formal dress at all though. To be fair , most of my closet looked like I was going to a funeral🤣😂 , so this was the best last minute dress I had . My cousin said you have flowers all over this dress, yes it did, lol !
Best thing we ever did! It was small and fun and we went out to eat with the ones who came after. It was blissful. No stress, and perfect. I still wore a dress, he wore what I asked him to. Our friends as well. It was fabulous. I say do it!
Weddings can be done right with the right friends and family in your life. When you have people around you who are only in the relationship for what they can get, your wedding is bound to have issues somewhere. I don't blame anyone for having a small wedding/courthouse wedding
I try to stay away from anything that could be wedding party adjacent when going to weddings, where I don’t know the bride well enough to ask her to OK my dress because I’ve already accidentally matched the bridesmaids before and it was the most embarrassing thing on the planet 😭😭 especially when people started commenting on it
Well they are a great source of Petty ways to save your day! One video had a monster in law wearing white and the bridesmaid got a big cup of red wine and "tripped."
@@KazekageGaaraGirl109 not really. My MIL can be a little bit more aggressive than most, but she doesn’t bother me. My mom is a mean girl, my aunts and sisters all mean girls. She isn’t nearly mean enough to scare me. She reminds me of a mean girl in middle school, and I just love that about her. She’s petty and funny and can be so sweet. But nope. No toxic family or friends that I would allow. Lol wby
White, ivory/cream, blush pink, light beige/peach, extra light yellow, even light gray can all appear whitish in wedding photos and under certain lighting.
My wedding was fcking nuts, I’ll tell you all the best moments from annoying to bat sh!t crazy. One of my crazy aunts stole of the leftover food at my wedding, she didn’t eat all day even after we offered her food (it was for everyone and self serve so you just grab it yourself) and she refused. My mother was really mad about this since she had done this before (at my holy communion and conformation) so she slashed her tires. My BIL tripped on the stairs, as he was walking up the stage to make his speech, and busted his chin open. Blood was everywhere but he insisted on still doing his speech, it was amazing and by far the best one. Afterwards he allowed people to help him but had to be rushed to the hospital, he gave us all a big hug goodbye and apologised for having to leave early. He was all fine but we didn’t hear from him until the end of the wedding which made my husband and MIL panic. I got my husband to calm down which upset his mother, she said he should be panicking and upset because his brother had just been taken to the hospital while he was here with me who was not important. My twin sister tried to blackmail her bf into proposing to her at my wedding, she kept whispering to him the whole wedding and he kept moving away from her (which was weird af, he was really in love with her). They’ve been together almost 10 years, they got together when I met my husband. My sister has been making it very clear leading up to my wedding that she is mad I’m getting married before her even though she’s been with her man longer). Then during my husband’s and I’s first dance my sister’s bf suddenly SCREAMED at my sister, saying very loudly that he was not going to proposing to her at my wedding (he knew I’d be p!ssed) and that he was never proposing to her period. My sister ran out in tears and he awkwardly left, I told him to stay and that I wasn’t too bothered by the outburst (I would rather an outburst than another proposal, also I’m proud of him for not letting my sister pressure him) but sadly he said he had to leave and just left. When he left he was crying too.
Poor guy. He's a great guy to not want to upstage your wedding. I hope he finds someone who will love him as much as he loves her. Your sister needs therapy ASAP. She's destroying her own life.
My brother was with his wife since 2016 and they just got married in 2022. My sister, who's younger than him, started dating her husband early 2020 and they were married late that same year. People just take their time as they will. My brother and his wife were in college and happy dating for a while so they could be in a better position when they got married. My sister and her husband had jobs and decided they were ready. My sister-in-law never resented my sister because she was married before my brother proposed to her. It's literally just timing; when people are prepared, stable, and comfortable moving forward with their lives *together as a team*. I'm sorry your sister failed to see this. I hope she matured since and that the guy is taking care of himself/in a happier place or found the love of his life.
Seriously; blush, peach, light pink, light grey, off white, eggshell, ivory, whatever, doesn’t matter. If it’s a color that could conceivably be mistaken for white, DON’T WEAR IT TO A WEDDING!!!!!
There’s a post on here that added pastel blue. I think pastel colours in general don’t do so well,
Yes! My wedding dress had white lace but the underskirts were a light champagne/pink! And I coordinated my bridesmaids dresses to compliment it. All of my lovely guests showed up in greens, blues, blacks and yellows! When in doubt, just ask!
@@ZStitchDisneyFan I tried on a pale blue dress to go to a wedding. It looked fine in the dressing room lights but as I left the cubicle my friend gasped. In the light of the shop it had gone from a pale blue to a bright white. I just. Chose something else. I'd looked nice in it but I'm not risking it. Went with a black one with navy flowers and it looked way more formal.
Nope….just white and shades of white are off limits…the bride doesn’t get to hold pastels hostage
I think it depends on what kind of wedding it is too. Indoors you can get away with it, outdoors no not really. I think a problem is that not everybody is fashion savvy, and when fashion faux pas happen; people need to know/ have this in mind. That lady that said the woman wants to sue her, unfortunately she can win if the dress is not indeed white. Unfortunately, just because the lighting plays tricks, doesn’t change the actual color of the dress. The bride should’ve thought to ask the person to see the dress up close before making that statement. This is why people ask party goers to wear certain types of colors, tones, styles etc. to events; depending on the venue and theme.
She has no chance suing for defamation. Any ethical attorney would explain to her the elements of defamation.
Just because something said is not the truth does not make the statement defamatory.
If people on Tik Tok are harassing her, she can sue. The person who recorded is an idiot and released information on who she is based on how they are related. You can tell the person who posted the video is loving the attention.
@@Steph-yz4tn do you know her name and face? No she can't sue. We just know how the dress looks and she's a cousin of the groom. Not enough
Wouldn’t that then be a suit for harassment not defamation? I don’t see her getting anywhere trying to claim defamation. “Truth as a defense your honor”
@Steph no she can't sue the person who posted the video. She'd sue the people harassing her for *shocker* harassment!
I don't care what EXACT color that first dress was - with the lace and beading, it still looks like a wedding dress!! 🤦♀️
Yep. Whatever it was, it was too damn close.
EXACTLY. Bish knew better lol 😂
If it can easily be mistaken for a wedding dress "in the wrong lighting" it's too similar
it's definitely STYLED that way
@@EmilyLennoxchannel THIS 100% this!
I found out I was cancer positive a month prior to my sisters wedding. I didn’t tell anyone until the day after the wedding so everyone could look back at a great time I know my sister had an amazing time so that’s all that mattered to me
Good on you. So sorry you are having to go through this. Hope you are doing well.
I know I'm late reading this but I wanted to let you know Im sending good vibes to you for a full recovery. I hope you are well. ❤
sending you my well wishes ❤
You are an amazing person who shows how much you love your sister. You rock. I wish all the best for you. 💖👑
I had cancer, too. I hope you’re doing well now. ☮️❤️💪
Two of my bridesmaids (my husband’s step-sisters) missed the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. They weren’t answering their phones and I was scared that they were not even going to be there the next morning for my wedding. They arrived at the hotel the next morning and things were so frantic that we really didn’t have time to talk about anything. it wasn’t until later that night that I found out that they were in a car accident. Everyone kept it from me because they didn’t want me getting upset and worried on “my day”. Sometimes they’re really are valid reasons for these things.
I hope they're okay 💗
What could you have done?
@@marciaspiegel5280got married at the hospital or atleast checked on them. She clearly cared more about her friends wellbeing than her big day
The fact the girl went straight to threatening to sue instead of just asking for it to be taken down is insane to me.
Money. I guess
It’s also a wedding where the woman would know photos were being taken and would be posted. Like wedding photos of her in the dress would be up somewhere. Was she going to threaten the bride to take down Instagram photos of her wedding or something? It’s a photographed event.
The fact she stated her nationality tells me she thought "this is my chance to do it the american way by weaponizing my minority status"
It's a young Karen. Still developing
Yeah, because it will didappear from the internet just because the original poster takes it down.
What is so hard to grasp about colors when attending a wedding? If the first Chica was so "educated" then she knew her choice was wrong. She is just mad she got called out and people shaded her for wearing a dress like that.
Agreed. Especially when that fabric and color is typically used for “ older “ brides.
Dress was peach, you narcissists.
@@sonialinsey8083 .
Peach my arse.
@@sonialinsey8083it was definitely white lol
@@sonialinsey8083 saying a dress was white or close to white doesn't make someone a narcissist. Get a dictionary. Also even though it wasn't white, it was white enough to look white in certain white and was also still a wedding type dress
As a designer and dressmaker, a couple of months ago a friend aske me to customize one of my designs for her to wear to a wedding. She was between light blue (pastel) or aqua/tiffany (kind of that shade between green and blue) we realised that, as lovely as the light blue fabric was, in daylight and photographs it might look waaaaay to close to being white and decided that the more greenish hue was more appropriate and just as pretty. Even when the fabric WAS obviously blue neither of us wanted to take any chances, she as a guest out of respect to a friend and me as a designer who has to know a thing or two about etiquette, color perception etc IT'S NOT THAT HARD
Agreed. I think if you even have to ask the question of “Are people going to think it’s white or not?” … better safe than sorry 😂
@@lindseyosborn154 i've seen enough of Charlotte's wedding videos to know how much of a controversy that can cause
Yes see that's what gets me it's like I understand "it's not white" but it literally looks like a wedding dress! I wouldn't be caught dead wearing that to another woman's wedding that is disrespectful! It's not that hard you're right it really isn't it's simple etiquette!
Do not wear anything that could be mistaken for a wedding dress 👗 ok
I was 6 months away from getting married, had everything ready, had been sharing all the details with my Aunt who offered to help me. My wedding ended up being canceled because me and my fiance ended things (wont get into that)... so flash forward a year later. My Aunt is throwing a wedding for her son. It's my freaking wedding. Everything I planned down to a T. She stole the whole idea... I still went because it's not my cousins fault. But damn, it was hard to sit at the wedding I imagined would be mine and watch other people walk down the isle.
That's just evil !
Why can we never trust anyone even family. :(
Reminds me of “The Office” with Pam and Phyllis 😂
I'm so sorry you had to endure that. I would have talked to my cousin and explained why I couldn't come and hopefully they would understand and not be upset. I guess your a better person than me bc I don't think I could watch my dream in someone else's wedding. That would break my heart. You are absolutely right about it not being your cousins fault but still I don't think I could do it. Thank you for being the bigger person and going to the wedding. I'm sorry that your aunt did that to you though. Are you still in touch with your aunt. Well I guess you really can't trust anyone with your dream no matter what. That truly sucks but with all this tech it's turning into reality. God bless you and I hope you find that special person one day.
I doubt your aunt was being malicious. It sounds like your wedding ideas were too amazing to pass up and she probably figured you would do something else at your future wedding. That said, it would be hard to sit through the vision of your perfect day come to life. Now you have seen what it is like, you can make tweaks and improve upon your ideas. As my sister says, everything happens for a reason and it will be even better when it happens.
Damn, that sucks. It's probably because you spent a lot of time coming up with the ideas, & she didn't want to spend a lot of time coming up with new ideas.
My wedding was nuts. My MIL hated the choice of song I wanted to walk down the isle to so to keep her quiet I changed it to something she loved and I liked but not loved. Her sister(my husband’s aunt) tried to dictate to our photographer on how to do his job, then my MIL had screamed at us to turn down the music. We are renewing our vows next year for our 20th anniversary. Guess who’s not invited!
Oh my goodness I’m sorry for all that happening at your wedding
It's next year and I sooooo hope that you have/had an amazing day. I know it can't make up your wedding, but I hope it comes close.
Anytime someone wears a wedding dress to a wedding that isn't theirs, go up to that person and tell them congratulations.... make them feel so awkward and uncomfortable!
lmao, make sure to bring your friends as well, more fun when alot of people hear it, then exclaimes "omg your not the bride??? why are you also wearing a wedding dress in a wedding that is not yours????! this is not white? really? lets check under the sun, there, in the middle of more people" the amount if attention she'll get will be amazing hehehehe
I like ya'll's brand of petty lol
I would simply go for "aren't you a little bit old to be a flower girl? 'Cause, you know, flower girls are the only female allowed to wear white at someone else's wedding!"
That of course after "accidentally" spilling the darkest stuff I can find at the bar on said dress, because the moment you decide to wear white at someone else's wedding you are choosing violence.
Ooooooh I like this one. 10/10 on the perty scale.
Not only we’re those first two dresses wayyyy too close to a shade of white, they were wedding dressy looking. And that one talking about how she knows the difference obviously put that exact thought into the choice of dress she wore.
The AUDACITY! 🍌🍌
Especially when that fabric and color is typically used by “older” brides.
I say let's get the white wine so it looked like they piss themselves
I literally can’t say “the audacity” without saying it like Charlotte these days lol
I really don’t understand why people do this. It only makes yourself look bad
The rule should always be: if you don't know if it's appropriate wedding attire for a guest, then pick another dress/outfit. Any shade that is too close to white counts as "inappropriate" in my wedding book _unless_ it is okay'd by the bride(s).
I once went to a family wedding when I was a teenager. At the reception, and older distant relative came up to me and said "There's a handsome boy about your age. You should ask him to dance." I looked to where she was directing me to, looked back at her and said "Ma'am, that is my brother." Now, my brother and I don't look alike because we're both adopted with different bio parents (but he's still my BROTHER) but I didn't bother telling that to the old woman. She looked mortified.
Nooooo that reminds me of this time I was walking in the park with my brother and a lady passing by us said "cute couple" 🤢 like, were the opposite gender, how could we not want to date one another?? 😭😭🤮
@@js8qp2pwisos haha my best friend gets this a lot with her brother, she figures it is because they are so comfortable around each other and they don't really look alike so people assume they are partners
My brother and I look very much alike and people still do this to us. The family resemblance is so obvious! Why are you assuming we are a couple!
I used to get "shipped" with my brother, and my oldest son, scarily frequently. 🤣 My brother and I were BFFs, therefore were really close. We worked at the same company for 2 years, and I can't count the number of people who would ask if we were a couple, if we were married, if not then how we should be. Our favorite response to "How long have you been together?" was whatever age I was, since I'm the youngest. 🤣🤣🤣 The people who recognized our last names matched, always assumed we were married. The ones who didn't, were obsessed with trying to get us together. We didn't keep it secret that we were blood related. And honestly, we literally looked very related. Thank God our parents wrote who was who on our baby pictures, because they look exactly the same, taken 6 1/2 years apart. 🤣
My oldest son, who also looks incredibly like me, was frequently mistaken for being my boyfriend or husband. And my youngest son (there's a 6y age gap, and my youngest didn't really grow much until he turned 16, while my oldest hit 6' by age 14) was mistaken as being "ours". 🤢 and 🤔 and 🤣🤣🤣 To be fair, my oldest liked his hair longer, and it's thick and bushy. He also had an instant talent for growing a super thick beard, and basically looked like Grizzly Adams (look it up). 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My big sister, my 3 yo daughter and I in library. When an old gentleman came to me to congrats us, because it's good to see proud lesbians with kids!
I thanked him because damn he is right. But still I was dying inside, we are sisters, we weren't even holding hands!
My guess is that he noticed my daughter calling me "mom" ans since she looks more like my sister than me... still it was good to see an ally.
Was a bridesmaid at my good friends wedding just last weekend. While taking a group photo the photographer said “kiss”.. the bride then turned 180 degrees and kissed her mum. The photographer was like “ahhh your husband” and the rest of us erupted in laughter. I’m never going to let her live it down HHAHA.
That's so cute!
I agree that is adorable!
I will never ever get over the friend of my husband who wore a floor length white dress to my wedding. Like it was white white. It’s been 12 years and I’m still mad 😂
I went to a wedding where the grooms boss had brought his sister who was wearing a dress not just the same colour but the same material. I wanted to say something but I was worried because she was his bosses sister he might get into shit for it. At least it was short but its more the principle than the chance of her actually getting confused for the bride.
If it’s a shade close to white (white, blush, cream, etc.) DONT WEAR IT TO A WEDDING!!!!! I accidentally wore the bridesmaids color for a wedding I attended (my mom was invited so I didn’t see the invitation) and was MORTIFIED. Yes the their dresses were dramatically different but I didn’t even want to have the appearance of an issue. That first guest insisting she knew etiquette after wearing that dress is hilarious.
I have never seen the color of the bridesmaids’ dresses on an invitation
That happened to me once lol. My grandma was invited to a goddaughters wedding and the invite specified mustard, periwinkle, and some other colors. I being the fashion conscious person I was adhered to the colors suggested and wore periwinkle. Turns out that the bridesmaids and flower girls were wearing periwinkle and my dress color hit it right on the nose so I think it was the wedding planner or something handed me a basket to walk down the aisle. I had to go explain that I wasn't a flower girl or a bridesmaid lol.
@@srkh8966 That was probably referring to the wedding colors over all. A lot of invitations describe color and theme now, so usually the bridesmaids will be in one of the colors specified for the wedding. So if she never saw invitation, she wouldn't have known thew colors/theme (if they were told to everyone), hence the accident.
@@aphelion4616 tacky
I called my wedding off a month before I was to get married cause I found out my (now ex) fiancé was cheating on me with multiple women. He got engaged to one on the same day we were supposed to get married 🤣
3 months later his new fiancée found out about us and got in touch with me. And the other women he’s cheating on HER with. She broke up with him. Now she and I are low-key friends in the making 😂
Sounds like you all should start a softball team, or book club!
This is the way!
😂😂😂
Sounds like my friend who was engaged and the guy broke it off with her 2 months before their wedding. He started dating someone else the same week BRINGING HER OVER TO THEIR APT and introduced her to my friend and his' son and now less than a year later, he got married to this new girl...I'm like wtf!!
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Exactly! And to be appropriately petty when needed ! ❤
completely agree, and Charlotte is definitely one of the best people ever
What do you mean can?
I'm am assuming you meant she IS.
🥹 love u Dina
@@CharlotteDobre 🤗thank you.
I never get the whole being-single-at-a-wedding is a sad thing. Being bitter because people are in love seems so tacky. Also when my friends and family are getting married it’s such a happy fun time and so many people to catch up with etc I never for a second would think of my love life.
Just last month my niece got married and a woman was wearing a white dress. Everyone was talking about how they wanted or felt like emptying wine on her but nobody actually did it… until I went and had a giant glass of red wine poured to the brim (I don’t drink) and the woman was dancing and so I stood in front of her and said “One should never wear white to a wedding” and I poured the glass of wine slowly in her cleveage … you should’ve seen her face 😅😅😅
Savage! Love how you didn't even try to pretend it was an 'accident'.
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It’s definitely a cream/egg shell situation. I’d never wear a REMOTELY close to a white dress to a wedding 💒
This is why I wear suits to weddings. Don't have to worry about wearing the wrong style or colour. They're a classic and not like you're gonna get accused of upstaging the groom lol
The only wedding drama I have taken part in, really not by choice was at my sisters wedding. My nan is kind of... Well, an entitled witch. My sister decided to have a small ceremony at her own house, my nan hijacked pretty much everything. The wedding dress, the decorations, the food, how everything was set up. My sister was quite distraught the night before, so me and her now sister in law; stayed up all night and rearranged everything to how my sister wanted it. To say my nan was salty would be an understatement, she was pissed. And before anybody asked, my nan isn't somebody you can just say no to. For reference, she threw a tantrum because she wasn't able to park in the drive way, the grooms parents (who owned the house at that time) wanted to park in their own drive way. She ended up leaving early, over another tantrum involving not being able to light her big propane heaters, it would have burned the house down. Speaking of burning the house down, the candles she chose for decoration (floating candles that floating in oil or something) set fire to the garden three seperate times, because my nan kept relighting them. After that, my nan didn't speak to us for a very blissful 17 months; so i guess we won in the end
I should mention, this is after three weeks of complete hell; with her ordering us around. In the end, my sister was so stressed she had to take a valium to calm down enough to actually walk down the isle.
Oh nan… smh. And floating candles are supposed to be floating in water with essential oils sprinkled in. Not in oil itself. Wth?!?
What do you mean by hijacked everything? How's that allowed?
@@nandimashinini9791 my guess is she kept going behind their backs and doing what she wanted. I know quite a few older women like that.
@@nandimashinini9791 she kept coming in and changing things behind my sisters back. Since my sister was trying to organise mostly everything herself, she would organise one thing (like the decorations) and then go onto the next. When she was on the next thing, our nan would go and change things with the decorations. Like take them and replace them with other things, to everybody else it looked as though she was just helping and they assumed it was something my sister wanted. I mean, who questions an old frail (not really frail, just pretends to be helpless) looking lady?
My brother got married last night (the day this was posted) and luckily it was the best wedding most people had ever been to (small-35 people total). The only snag was the wrong song was played as she walked down the aisle, no one really noticed. Something always goes wrong but we took that no problem lol. So lucky, it was beautiful and exactly what they deserved after almost 10 years.
If i had had an actual wedding, some crazy ish like this would have happened.
The day i eloped was the best day of my life so far and it was the best decision ever. It actually got rid of a lot of toxic people in my life. SO, TOTAL WIN!
One of my friend's wedding invitation specifically said "please don't wear white." But one of our officemates, wore WHITE!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA She was made fun by all through the party. When the announcer said the bride and groom will now cut the cake, one jokester said, hey get ready! She cried after and did not talk to some of us in the office hahahahahaa Please take note, that the invitation is big, as in big big, like an artsy type so you cant missed out on anything.
Lol well, I mean she may have gotten some justified teasing, but if you’re brave enough to wear white to a wedding, let alone one that clearly states not to… you should be big enough to take some hazing.
Deserved lol
She wanted to be the main character in someone else’s play.
She _cried_ !? What did she expect wearing white to a wedding? Applause?
@@ricebeansrockroll882 I am surprised that she wasn't denied entrance until she changed her outfit😆
As a daughter of seamstress, this is a kind of color used for bridal dress especially for women who are conscious of not being a virgin but still wants to wear white but not being a hypocrite. 😂😂😁😁 IT IS WHITE. From her own words, "peach undertone" meaning white with hint of peach. By the way, for Philippine weddings, usually godparents use white (rami, philippine piña silk, jusi etc). So when you are going to invite a Filipina as godmother, you have to remind her not to wear white.
Awe!!! I would have been perfectly fine incorporating her traditions into my wedding!!! My daughter has a Guatemalan godmother, so many of our celebrations are a mixture of American and Guatemalan traditions. I absolutely love it.
I'm not sure where this whole white=virgin thing originated from but it's baloney! Most brides aren't virgins anyway!
That's a good point about the word "undertone" lmao. Even if it isn't a wedding dress, I still wouldn't wear it to someone else's wedding.
This whole “being a virgin thing” is SO freaking weird to me. Like, that’s not even the reason wedding dresses are white!
@@ida6950 That is the reason wedding dresses are white. They are meant to be a sign of "purity" aka VIRGINITY. IT's bonkers and I don't agree with that at all since virginity is a concept made to shame women for having sex, but it is the reason white wedding dresses are a thing.
My MIL chose her dress and wanted to show me. It was a full length, light cream, pearl encrusted dress.
Yeah I’ll just say it was white and could have been a wedding dress.
I took one look at it, thought “typical.” And didn’t argue with her.
I think she was look for me to get upset…. I didn’t have time for her sh*t.
Then on my wedding day- she walked into the room where my bridesmaids and I were hanging out- before the ceremony- and looked me right and the face, “idk if he’s going to go through with this.”
I cried all the way down the aisle bc I was so relieved he was standing up there.
Update: Her husband ended up *illing himself a few years later. She blamed me. We moved out of the country. Had kids.
They like the money she sends. Husband talks to her a lot, but not around me bc he never knows when she’ll say something dumb.
Omg, she sounds like a total piece of work 😲😲
I hope you told your fiancé what she said. PLEASE keep yourself and your kids-if any- far away from her. She's toxic.
Her son should have cut her out as soon as he heard what she did. That was unbelievably cruel.
Her husband ended up *illing himself a few years later. She blamed me. We moved out of the country. Had kids.
They like the money she sends. Husband talks to her a lot, but not around me bc he never knows when she’ll say something dumb.
@@alipennington3764 see edit
I feel incredibly blessed that I married a man with a lovely family. His parents treat me like I'm blood family. His mum and I send a quick goodnight message each night. My husband says he feels the same way with my parents, that they openly love him and treat him so well.
I will be forever grateful that I didn't just get the best man I could want, but we also all support and love each other with no drama.
That girl wanted to sue because she was wearing "peach" and it looks white in the video?😮 That will hold up in court.😂
Must be nice to have the money to throw around on lawyers in a lost cause.
I am so grateful that there was zero drama at my wedding - except between me and my mom behind the scenes. To clarify, my monthly friend showed up the day before and I was a super crabby witch - and I took it out on my mom who was just trying to be a part of the planning process. Sorry mom. I love you forever!
Man I would be grumpy if that happened to me tbh... for me it hurts a lot and means I need painkillers with me. Knowing my mom I could have her carry them but still I’d be annoyed I had to worry about blood in my dress and whatnot... that would suck xd
@@GubbiGap this is not a clear response
@@GubbiGap It sucked huge. I had Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. My pain was atrocious! I had to wear three huge pads stretched across two pair of underwear to make sure no blood got on my dress. My hose and underwear were ruined, but the dress was spared! And I was on prescription painkillers.
@@dawnwooten4950 Oh wow... I’m so sorry :/
@@d.b.israel3214 What do you mean? Sorry I’m just confused
The TicTok wedding drama. Yeah, those dresses both were inappropriate unless they were chosen by the bride. I always try and wear the wedding colors or something complementary to the colors.
The fact that lady who was called out freaked out, says a lot about her intentions.
As someone who shame watches "Say Yes To The Dress", I can tell you that blush is coming back into style (big time) for wedding dresses. (though I think this dress is def classified as white/off white)
This reminds me of the time when my aunt (related by marriage) wore her soon to be SIL’s wedding dress and took photos with her husband before the bride even got to wear it. The photographer was a family friend and just went with the flow. We were over at their place (they all live together) looking at the photos (which was how we found out about what she did).. My mom kept making comments to my aunt about how the bride looked so much better than her in the dress lol. The aunt somehow managed to be in almost every wedding picture (except the couples pictures).
When my grandmother was young, she hitched a ride to a wedding, several hours away, with the couple who were getting married. It didn't even dawn on any of them until after the reception that that meant they would also be giving her a ride home. On their wedding night.😂
Did they just leave her there?
@@flamefangstar Nope. It was kind of an awkward drive home.
@@cathipalmer8217 GODS
First story: it was a wedding dress. I am sure she was thinking "what can I do to make it not look like a wedding dress and still get away with it" and decided the color was all she needed to change, and yeah that can work, but she still wanted to wear a wedding dress so got the color she thought was farthest from white that still fell in the wedding dress family but was still a wedding dress.
Right? The idea is not "How close can I get to a wedding dress and get away with it?" It's more like "How un-bridal can I possibly look?"
Maybe, but there are black wedding dresses out there, so... not quite the furthest colour from white? I do agree she was making a statement at that wedding, and that dress looked white-ish in certain lighting, she definitely knew what she was doing, and didn't like being called out. OP just posted what others thought really.
I did wear a white dress to a wedding but I covered it with a very colorful cardigan that was knee length too. I was friends with both bride and groom and asked if it was okay only because-i was like mega pregnant and it was the only dress I had that fit and this was a last minute "lets do this" wedding lol.
They were both fine since the big cardigan was damn near rainbow colors and hid all but the very part that my belly stuck out and couldn't be covered by by the cardigan.
They didnt give a crap andcwanted me and my hubby and daughter there.
None of our other friends and family said a thing.
But the big dress was stark white summer dress lol. I did worry a little bit.
So my parents are divorced, but when they were still together, when me and my sisters were kids, they bought two houses next to each other together with my maternal grandmother. This worked out great for us, and I've always had a really close bond with my grandma because of it. But when my parents divorced over 15 years later my mom didn't want to stay in such a big house by herself. So my dad stayed, and so did my grandma. And that actually works out great too. My mom still comes over regularly to visit her mother (and us and dad). And my dad and grandma still eat dinner together 3 times a week and my mom comes over for dinner with my grandma every friday (my dad eats dinner at grandma's that day too). It's really great. And my dad now lives next to his ex-mother in law so we get to bust the cliché too. :D
My friends discussed the concept of weddings not to long ago and we made a plan for whoever wore white to one of our weddings. There’s 3 of us so as the bride-to-be gets ready for her special day, two of us would be posted at the entrance with water guns filled with red wine(or whatever stains best)
So I was recently at this wedding for my boyfriend’s family and there was this girl who thought she was the main character at someone else’s wedding. Like, HUUUUUGE Main Character energy.
Now granted, I was at a wedding where I didn’t know many people, least of all this girl. Not knowing her name, I will refer to her as Bailee.
Now, this wedding had a HUGE wedding party. I believe there were at least 6 people on each side for the groom and bride. However, despite how concerningly invested Bailee was in the whole event, Bailee was not in the wedding party nor was she at the family table where the mother of the groom and the rest of my boyfriend’s family were seated. She was, however, at the front of the crowd for every “special moment”. You name it: the First Dance, the Father-Daughter Dance, the Mother-Son Dance, the second Father-Daughter dance (the groom and his year-old daughter, who was the cutest flower girl I’ve ever seen), and all of the toasts. Any time the crowd got up to put attention on the dance floor, there was Bailee, front and center.
It was weird to say the least but not nearly as weird when this absolute stranger started making comments to me during these events. What kind of comments? Glad you asked:
Her: “Ohhhh, aren’t they just so cute?”
Me: (smiles and nods politely) “Mhmm, they’re a lovely couple.”
Her: “I wish I had someone like that.”
Me: (smiles in uncomfortable silence)
Her: “Don’t they just make you wish you weren’t single?”
Me: (already holding my boyfriend’s hand, uncomfortable silence increases)
She continued to make side comments throughout the night to me, a complete stranger. Also, she never introduced herself or attempted to meet me. Why would she? She’s obviously the main character at this wedding. It was the weirdest thing I’d ever had happen.
Also, in the spirit of fun, I was at the bar ordering a “Giggity” on the Beach and an elderly woman was ahead of me in line. She overheard me place my drink order and said, “Enjoy it, honey, I was young once.” before sauntering back to her table from the bar like an absolute queen. 😂 I hope I’m as sharp and witty as that woman when I’m old some day.
went to a wedding similar to that where one of the brides' friends, who was not in the wedding, wore a thin sheer WHITE dress. The bride was my bff from high school and me and my fiance made fun of the girl wearing white the entire day. It was a fall wedding too, and it was a little chilly. Like where do you get off wearing a sleeveless SHEER WHITE dress to your good "friends" wedding. I could not believe it ...I'm upset I didn't approach her but we knew almost no one at the wedding besides my friends immediate family
@@MrsMuffin11 A SHEER WHITE DRESS. What in the hell. Tell me you’re the main character without telling me you’re the main character.
@@ScarletSerenade we were absolutely flabbergasted lol
go the old lady! damn! she is a queen!👑
I don’t think anything wrong of what u told us. Ppl just make small talks and that’s fine. Not like she’s wearing white or sexy cleavage showing.
Those off-white dresses are the type of options bride shops show you when you don't want to get a white dress but still feel like it should be as closer to white as possible.
Maybe I'm weird, but I'd love to have a wedding with a black and white theme where everyone wears black and/or white with a single colour accent of their choosing. I think the photos would look fantastic. 🙂
My everyday wardrobe is black and white (mostly) and this sounds gorgeous.
@@sonialinsey8083 ☺
My brother’s wedding had black suits for the groomsmen, black cocktail dresses for the bridesmaids (6ea.). The contrast against the white of the bride’s wedding dress was beautiful. One problem: the photographer was a NO SHOW. Luckily, one of their friends was a gifted amateur photographer. This was back in the days when someone had to run out for rolls of film, and they included some in b/w. Those photos were amazing!
@@katiet.7656 Sounds gorgeous. 🙂
I guess that's also a good idea for when the bride didn't pick white but rather like a bright pink or a bright red, and have everyone else wear white. I think Charlotte has covered similar stories of ppl making sure everybody showed up in white bc the monster in law was scheming to wear white, hah, they one upped her :p
Literally, all these wedding videos just reinforce my husband's and my decision to elope... it was amazing and drama free. We told everyone after our honeymoon. It was glorious 🎉
“I can’t see through the tea!”
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For precaution, let's stay away from dresses that are off white, pale grey, soft pink or light flesh tone. Let's also look at the dress color from a distance of 10-20 feet away before deciding if it's too easily mistaken for white. And the lighter the color, the shorter it should be. It will also look much lighter if you're around anyone in anything darker even if it doesn't look white next to an actual white dress. It doesn't have to be mini dress or something so short you're constantly checking to make sure it's not riding up, just not ankle or floor length is all. Not only because of getting the dress dirty but it feels less bridal and still wedding appropriate if a non-bride wears a dress that isn't to the ankles or floor. Also, if it's a light color, stay away from lace. Weddings are an opportunity to wear really fun dresses that are formal but can still be colorful if you aren't a bridesmaid.
Is it white? My answer: It's white enough for me. Yes.
100%! If it's a light pink or something, it should be like cocktail length, not long and lacy if you don't want to look like you're wearing a wedding gown!
Charlotte doesn't know me personally but her daily videos feel like a long distance bestie calling you to share the ✨TEA✨☕
I went to a wedding a few years ago and the invitations were VERY clear that they wanted EVERYONE to wear white linen. "Beach chic." I seem to recall several people not wearing white, regardless of the couple's request, because of superstition, lol. Babes, if my spooky all-black-wearing ass can wear white because the bride asked, you can too. It's a few hours.
Right? I've been in several weddings and it's not about the bridesmaids! If the bride asks us to wear a gunny sack with a huge hair bow, then that's what we wear. How do people not get that?
10:40 I thought that it was the groom for a second😊
Imagine having enough time to threaten libel over saying your dress color is too close to white 😂
TWO girls wore white at her wedding?? The AUDACITYYY!
Just had my wedding today, actually and it's evening now. Really funny coming home to watch this seeing as my day was shockingly drama free (even though my in-laws hate my guts). Love your videos Charlotte ❤
Congrats, I think. I wouldn't marry into a family who treated me so poorly. I hope your husband stands up for you.
Congratulations 🎊 glad you had a great wedding ❤️
Congratulations!!!
Congratulations!
Congratulations 🎉🎊🎂
UPDATE - YES I PASSED IT GOING TO COLLEGE IN 2 MONTHS APPROX, I'M EXCITEDD (Thanks all of you, you're so lovely people ❤️i can't describe how much you guys calmed me when i was anxious in morning love y'all 🤭❤️)
Have a huge Exam tomorrow for which I've been preparing for almost 2 years, Thanks Charlotte for being with me through your videos. Also thanks to all the petty potatoes reading my comment. Will update my results as I'll become a doctor hehe ❤️😁
Good luck with your exam - I bet you'll do great!!! 😊
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Omg EEEEEEE!!!!! Congrats doctor bestie!!!! I know you got this damn thang!!! I helped my mother pass her MCAT. and then she became a social worker… lmao😅
A few months before my sister's wedding I finally realized I was bisexual and didn't tell any family members at that time, my thing could wait until after all of the wedding stuff was over. It's not hard to let the couple have their day and if they're immediate family you can put things on hold. She wasn't happy about the fact that I thought I needed to stay in the closet because of her wedding and wished I hadn't felt that way 🥹 my sister is the best
This video is just a list of reasons why I don't want a big wedding. I'd rather go to the courthouse and then throw one heck of a party after, but not a super big or formal one.
I never thought of my wedding as the "one day it's all about me". I just thought of it as the day I held the best party for relatives and friends looking top tier! Like great gatsby. If my guests are happy, I'm happy. I dont think I ever once thought about everyone focusing solely on me and my wants. Not once.
I didn't either. Maybe it was good karma because our wedding went off without a hitch ♥️
That is the best way to think of your wedding.
Agree! Thats how I see weddings as well. It's about TWO people and their respective families merging together to celebrate romance and have a good time. The Bride and Groom definitely set the mood and are the focus, but I would say its far from being 'all about me [aka, the bride]".
That said, some effort should go to making sure the bride AND GROOM both get plenty of respect all night long and making sure everyone is helping keep the mood happy and focused on their union. Wearing white to stir up drama or making big announcements that have everyone gossiping just prior is disrespectful af. But I don't think I would be so immature to think that a breakup someone else had (even if it was between my parents) was suddenly all about taking attention away from me. Shit happens. If it can wait, absolutely try to make it work for a few days or keep things lowkey until afterwards. But the world and life for others absolutely doesn't stop just bc your sweet little innocent face is about to get married.
The less you think the world revolves around you regardless of what day it is, the happier you will be.
I bet you are happily married too, aren’t you? Because you are not selfish 😀
I was blessed with a wonderful MIL. We got along great. Not to say there was never a disagreement, but nothing that wasn't worked out. Also respect on both sides, goes a long way. Many blessings out there to all who are struggling with a MIL.
7:00 I thought she was gonna say that he was cheating with HER, the sister! The MOM?! That's a whole mother level of trauma! 😢
I was a bridesmaid and the color the bride picked for our dresses was ivory and even though the bride picked this color I felt so uncomfortable that I was wearing a shade so close to white. I have know some girls that wear something that resembles a wedding dress hoping to get their significant other to visualize them as a bride but I feel that is still super disrespectful to the couple getting married.
I attended a wedding and a woman wore a form fitting white dress. I approached her and told her white was her color...and congratulations on her pregnancy. She was not pregnant and enjoyed looking down in overweight people. The bride and groom celebrated while their Ahole friends rode the attention seeker until she left less than half an hour into the reception.
I am 66 now and I went to a wedding with someone who was my boyfriend at the time, I was 28 and wore an ivory dress with a peach sash , I regret it to this day . I swear it was not done with malice , it was just my favorite dress . Never crossed my mind .. so to Diane who married jerry like in 1983 I apologize😊
Poor thing. Sometimes we are just thoughtless, I can fully relate. I may not have worn white to a wedding, but I did wear all black to my uncles, and ended up apologizing to my cousins and uncle and new aunt. I did not intend to make them feel like I was mourning their happy day. Ooops!!!
@@erikarussell1142 I didn’t know you can’t wear black to a wedding. Black dresses seem appropriate to a black tie event so why not a fancy wedding?
I'm not sure people made such a deal out of it then. Remember, at no time in our history have people ever been so easily offended as they are now.
On the other hand, now, were you at the wedding of your boyfriend's friend, or at your boyfriend's wedding? 😁
@@pennPi I think it’s only appropriate if you’re a man (in which case it’s usually a black suit and colors to compliment such as white, blue, pink, purple, etc) but apparently all black on a woman is only appropriate if it’s considered a black and white tie event. Which is rare, because then you’re allowing other women to also wear white to your wedding. So apparently not??? Lol
@PennyPie all these rules and expectations, and I have to bring a gift to eat a cold spaghetti dinner. I’m kinda glad my family is small and most of my friends are common law couples.
Me and my brothers are single and just hung out and had fun at our parents' weddings. The 2 weddings were night and day emotional. We couldn't care less about our mom's wedding. She didn't even try to include us in anything and we didn't really have any strong opinions on her husband. We honestly just shat-talked her the whole time in one of the back church pews. (She deserved it. She's a piece of work and I've literally blocked her number since then.) While my dad and his wife made sure to include us. My dad had us as his best men and we honestly really like his wife. I feel like you always hear about crazy step moms, but mine is chill 🤷
7:07 when I say my jaw hit the floor 😳😳😳
She cant sue because there wasn't any "damages". Claiming that she was rude at a wedding doesn't cost anybody work, unless they're a wedding coordinator or something like that. You can't just sue someone because they said something about you.
Nothing screams “I need everyone’s attention all the time” like wearing white to a wedding
I work in a little boutique and someone came in looking for a dress to wear to a wedding. She was looking at a white dress. I asked her if she was the bride, no. I explained that she can’t wear white to a wedding unless the bride has asked her guests to. I tried to show other options while she still wanted the white one. I told her I’m trying to save her from being outed on Reddit. She did not like my help 🤦🏻♀️
I hope she was outed and embarrassed. You can only do so much.
You're kinder than a lot of people. If I didn't know that ettiquette, I would definitley have appreciated the input.
Although, I would never have been looking at the white dress because I don't like white. If I have a wedding dress, it will likely be black, or deep dark purple. 😉 Lol!
My own grandmother wore white lace to my wedding after I told her I was wearing a white lace dress. I didn’t allow myself to be angry on my own wedding day, but I did allow myself to be petty about it afterwards.
Edit to add: she told me she wanted to “dress complementarily to the bride.” Geez.😑
You mean, live vicariously through you???
But come on no one is gonna think that gammy looks hot Or wt ever 😂
But what's this a sweet grandmother who really thought she was complementing the bride, her beloved granddaughter, and honestly meant no harm or was she swinging more to the "bitch you thought" side?
Was she senile at the time?? 🤪
@@EH23831 lol no, she's completely coherent.
When we went to my husband's bff's wedding I had intended to wear a nice summer dress. I didn't think much of my choice at first but as we got closer to the wedding I started having second thoughts. It was floor length with a crochet halter top. The waist up was entirely pale beige crochet, and the skirt was cream chiffon with a pattern of flowers/leaves in sage, cranberry, and mustard. I ended up buying a new, shorter dress that was black with red and beige florals instead because I didn't want to even get CLOSE to the line. I can't even imagine wearing a solid colour pale dress that is floor length. Some people are wild.
These stories make me so grateful for my husband and in-laws.
Thank you Charlotte, for letting us see the crazy from a safe distance. It’s so hard to laugh if you’re running for your live lol. ❤😊
0:24 the dresses were definitely white and the second one definitely gave me wedding dress vibes
Most humans in a wedding can’t human and just act reasonable. That’s why my one guest in our special day a couple of months ago was our fur baby. He even wore a tie! 🐶❤️
Ha ha ha! That's great.
That sounds adorable!
Awww! ❤🐕
11:20 I died laughing😂
The girl who go married to someone else the same week she was supposed to marry the original groom:
The only acceptable scenario is if Keanu Reeves suddenly became available and asked for your hand, who are you(or any of us) to say no?
My sister-in-law picked out my mom's dress and she picked a cream color, so I brought up how it's too close to white. She said she doesn't care about that rule and just wants us to look good. I told her I had to go dress shopping because the only wedding appropriate dress I have is white and once again she told me she didn't care. She even had us in all her wedding pictures. I know not everyone will be like her but we appreciated her only caring about us looking good and being there.
The only “wedding appropriate” dress you had was white 🧐 even if a bride says it’s ok, just don’t
@@Backwardspajamas44 I think she means a "fancy enough" dress, not a dress she wears specifically to weddings😊
If you have the bride's blessing, all is good. My aunt had a bridal party entirely made up of people wearing different types of off white. Cream, ivory, blush.
@@Backwardspajamas44 I meant that it was the only formal dress I had. In fact it as the only dress I owned. All 3 of us were dress shopping for my mom when the convos happened and she insisted I didn't have to get a new dress. So with the bride's blessings it's all fine.
I would be this bride, I mean I'd appreciate my guests dressing up a bit for my wedding, but apart from that I couldn't care less :) In either case, better safe than sorry and check with the couple what their ideas about colors are 🙃 Your sister in law sounds like a chill person!
If it could "pass" as a "traditional" wedding dress, DON'T wear it to a wedding.
It's not that complicated.
EDIT: ok so we saw "the dress". I wouldn't call that "peach with pink". The "dress" is covered in off-white LACE
AND from a distance looks sorta white.
Going to a wedding tomorrow!! After watching your videos I ALWAYS ask the bride for a blessing of what to wear if they are not wearing white.
10:46 - TOO TRUE! I kept getting called horrible things by my sibling. They ended up cheating on their spouse.
Ok, MAJOR kudos for using that IT Crowd clip. To this day, I still hear “People. What a bunch of bastards” in my head during certain situations” 😂
Good Morning Petty Potatoes!
Morning 🎉
Good morning *\(^o^)/*
My wedding drama, my supposed "best" friend decided she wouldn't be in the wedding because the dress would make her look to busty. The main problem with this is she was invited to go pick out the bridesmaid dresses, she said she couldn't go, she had to go do something with her sister. So we all went, the other bridesmaids picked out beautiful dresses, she went to look at them and she said no. So my supposed "best" friend wasn't in my wedding. Still makes me very sad.
I'm so sorry. It's awful when the meaningful people in our lives choose important moments to cause unnecessary drama
I'm sure she could've had hers altered a bit so as to not show off her bust as much instead of completely saying "no"....sad. unfortunately weddings bring out the worst in people 😕
Maybe she Just dont want to be at your wedding. I remember ut happened to me too. Both of us are the last two single girls. People think i was the least settle Down, but i got married before she did. I was told by my aunty that she was so sad for not getting married before I did.
I'm sorry she did that to you. Can't imagine my best friend doing that, but it would hurt very much if she did.
My best friend picked out her bridesmaid dress for us, and regardless of what I thought of the dress, that's what I wore, because that's what she wanted. Doesn't matter about you, it's the bride's choice. It's great if you are able to consult on it (I lived in a different country, so no consulting for me), but it's her choice in the end. I would never have considered saying "no, sorry, don't like it, won't wear it." I wanted her to be happy. Still my best friend of 42 years. Love her to bits!
The fact she said you don’t know me well is her first step to losing her defamation suit
My sisters ex fiancé got married on the same day as her… the day she picked when she was 3 yrs old so it’s not like it was an accident, also her birthday btw. Then he asked our brother to be the best man and invited all mutual acquaintances. No surprise, everyone came to my sisters wedding. It is to this day the most fun happy awesome wedding anyone can can remember. Funny how things work out when you have a celebration based on love and friendship. ❤ It was beautiful.
As someone with severe anxiety, I know that you can't really control when a panic/anxiety attack happens. It just happens. However, if I was at someone's wedding or another important occasion I would hide it as much as humanly possible.
Nothing feels like bingeing Charlotte's content for comfort and then seeing a new upload!
If it looks like a wedding dress or any shade that can seem white in any light DONT WEAR IT. 🤨 How hard is it not being the center of attention on someone else wedding day. I’m glade I avoid those type of people.
I wore a white tea-length dress with a portrait neckline to a cousin's wedding when I was 18. I had no idea it wasn't the right color to wear and no one corrected me, but as I got older and found out that wearing white to a wedding was frowned upon, I made sure never to wear white to someone else's wedding ever again!
I did that to my sister's wedding when I was a teen! I had no idea back then and my mom didn't know until I told her when I learned it. Oh gosh I still feel terrible, my sister has never said anything about it. I truly hope it didn't bother her
@@bonnemoms5413 If your mother didn't knew there is good chance your sister didn't knew too.
Assuming your mother raised both of you
Don’t spill red wine on someone who wears a white dress to someone else’s wedding…
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Spill hot coffee. It’s cheaper and a much worse experience for the person getting splashed.
My wedding was on a boat and a fishing competition got moved up a week so as we were going out all of the fishing boats were coming in, at least 3 people fell and half of us were sea sick 😂. Two of my guest wore white, one was floor length and lacy. The staff cut my cake and passed it out without me and my husband cutting it or getting photos. I didn’t even get a piece. My husband stepped on my dress and broke the bustle so I had to carry it the rest of the night. Even with all of that going on I had an amazing time and all of my guests two years later talk about what an awesome wedding we had. ❤
This week has been such a big drama mess and I love it 😂😂😂❤ love your videos Charlotte ❤
I accidentally wore a peach with little flowers on a cute summer dress. This was about 20 years ago to my cousins wedding,🤗 I had no idea it looked too light in the bright sun.😱😇 I had no idea it would be a problem and felt awful, it wasn't looking like a formal dress at all though. To be fair , most of my closet looked like I was going to a funeral🤣😂 , so this was the best last minute dress I had . My cousin said you have flowers all over this dress, yes it did, lol !
All of your wedding videos have thoroughly convinced me to not have one. Me and my fiancé are going to the court and then having a small party lol
Best thing we ever did! It was small and fun and we went out to eat with the ones who came after. It was blissful. No stress, and perfect. I still wore a dress, he wore what I asked him to. Our friends as well. It was fabulous. I say do it!
Weddings can be done right with the right friends and family in your life. When you have people around you who are only in the relationship for what they can get, your wedding is bound to have issues somewhere. I don't blame anyone for having a small wedding/courthouse wedding
I try to stay away from anything that could be wedding party adjacent when going to weddings, where I don’t know the bride well enough to ask her to OK my dress because I’ve already accidentally matched the bridesmaids before and it was the most embarrassing thing on the planet 😭😭 especially when people started commenting on it
7:09 . The "I cAn'T sEe ThRoUgH tHe TeA" had me dying 🤣
Love watching these as I prepare for my wedding in 3 months!
Congratz. I hope you have a happy wedding
Well they are a great source of Petty ways to save your day! One video had a monster in law wearing white and the bridesmaid got a big cup of red wine and "tripped."
Congratulations bestie!!!! And yeah, it makes me nervous when I’m getting ready to get it done next year. I’ve been waiting 3 from Covid.
@@erikarussell1142 it will be amazing! Any toxic MILs to worry about or dramatic friends??
@@KazekageGaaraGirl109 not really. My MIL can be a little bit more aggressive than most, but she doesn’t bother me. My mom is a mean girl, my aunts and sisters all mean girls. She isn’t nearly mean enough to scare me. She reminds me of a mean girl in middle school, and I just love that about her. She’s petty and funny and can be so sweet. But nope. No toxic family or friends that I would allow. Lol wby
wedding videos are always my favorite
Your videos always feel like I’m watching with my bestie ❤️ tysm for the comfort you provide
Wow. I just noticed how cool the lighting is in Charlotte’s filming room.
White, ivory/cream, blush pink, light beige/peach, extra light yellow, even light gray can all appear whitish in wedding photos and under certain lighting.
My wedding was fcking nuts, I’ll tell you all the best moments from annoying to bat sh!t crazy.
One of my crazy aunts stole of the leftover food at my wedding, she didn’t eat all day even after we offered her food (it was for everyone and self serve so you just grab it yourself) and she refused. My mother was really mad about this since she had done this before (at my holy communion and conformation) so she slashed her tires.
My BIL tripped on the stairs, as he was walking up the stage to make his speech, and busted his chin open. Blood was everywhere but he insisted on still doing his speech, it was amazing and by far the best one. Afterwards he allowed people to help him but had to be rushed to the hospital, he gave us all a big hug goodbye and apologised for having to leave early. He was all fine but we didn’t hear from him until the end of the wedding which made my husband and MIL panic. I got my husband to calm down which upset his mother, she said he should be panicking and upset because his brother had just been taken to the hospital while he was here with me who was not important.
My twin sister tried to blackmail her bf into proposing to her at my wedding, she kept whispering to him the whole wedding and he kept moving away from her (which was weird af, he was really in love with her). They’ve been together almost 10 years, they got together when I met my husband. My sister has been making it very clear leading up to my wedding that she is mad I’m getting married before her even though she’s been with her man longer). Then during my husband’s and I’s first dance my sister’s bf suddenly SCREAMED at my sister, saying very loudly that he was not going to proposing to her at my wedding (he knew I’d be p!ssed) and that he was never proposing to her period. My sister ran out in tears and he awkwardly left, I told him to stay and that I wasn’t too bothered by the outburst (I would rather an outburst than another proposal, also I’m proud of him for not letting my sister pressure him) but sadly he said he had to leave and just left. When he left he was crying too.
The last bit-the poor bf. Seemed like he was a good guy.
Damn, your sister needs therapy
Poor guy. He's a great guy to not want to upstage your wedding. I hope he finds someone who will love him as much as he loves her. Your sister needs therapy ASAP. She's destroying her own life.
My brother was with his wife since 2016 and they just got married in 2022. My sister, who's younger than him, started dating her husband early 2020 and they were married late that same year. People just take their time as they will. My brother and his wife were in college and happy dating for a while so they could be in a better position when they got married. My sister and her husband had jobs and decided they were ready. My sister-in-law never resented my sister because she was married before my brother proposed to her. It's literally just timing; when people are prepared, stable, and comfortable moving forward with their lives *together as a team*.
I'm sorry your sister failed to see this. I hope she matured since and that the guy is taking care of himself/in a happier place or found the love of his life.
The peach dress drama is yet another reason I'm glad I'm not on TikTok and barely use my Instagram 🤣
For real, that just gives me the ick, lol. Sure, it was not exactly cool to wear that to a wedding, but what op did was extremely unnecessary.
Looked beige to me.