Traits of Autism Spectrum Disorder and How They Affect Relationships: Video Compilation
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- Опубликовано: 20 июн 2021
- Downloadable programs:
--- Living with ASD: eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples- www.livingwithaspergerspartne...
--- Interpersonal Relationship Skills: eBook and Audio Instruction for Male Partners with ASD- www.neurodiversemarriage.org/...
Coaching services for autistic male partners:
--- Skype Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/20...
--- Skype Group: ASD Men’s Master Class: www.asdmasterclass.com/2022/0...
Coaching services for neurotypical female partners:
--- Skype Group for Neurotypical Women Struggling in Their Relationship with an ASD Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/20...
--- Skype Group: Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery...
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--- Skype Group for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/20...
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Parenting resources:
--- Parenting System that Reduces Problematic Behavior in Children and Teens with ASD Level 1: www.myaspergerschild.com/2019...
--- Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism: www.high-functioningautism.co...
--- Discipline for Defiant Teens on the Autism Spectrum: www.myaspergersteen.com/
--- Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.autism-meltdowns.com/
--- Launching Adult Children with ASD Level 1: How to Promote Self-Reliance: www.launchingadultchildren.com/
--- Teaching Social Skills and Emotion Management to Kids on the Spectrum: www.social-skills-emotion-man...
--- Unraveling The Mystery Behind Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism: aspergers-mystery.blogspot.com/
Learning so much about myself and my relationships here....thank you Mark.
My pleasure...
I’m in a relationship with an Aspie & beginning to learn all his mind blindness & sarcasism. We have are ups & downs but it is really beautiful having him in my life. Love can conquer these idieosyncrsies. 💕😅✌️❤️
I sincerely hope your comment ages well
Thank you.
I've figured out my bd has aspburgers after we had our son...I've known him a year and a half...(whats life without mistakes right) he's undiagnosed...and ive been having a difficult time trying to co-parent...
Thank you again for the insight.
You're out here improving lives and i salute you for that sir 👏
It's Aspergers
One of the worst misunderstandings me and my AS husband had was while he was learning all about cars so he could inspect cars we were buying I asked if he could learn about how I work in the same way so we could have a good relationship. He didn't understand what I was saying, that was obvious. I found out recently that he just thought that I was scolding him for learning about cars and he thought I wanted him to stop and I wanted him to buy an unsafe car. Hes pretty quiet and doesn't speak much except to convey factual info, and he has echolalia. I'm starting to wonder if he's not really verbal in the way an NT is. Like I wonder if he doesn't understand the NT function of language and is 'lower functioning' than he appears. He seems to just pick up on very basic emotions like I seem upset about something = scolding and trying to hurt him, no matter what I'm actually saying. He also cannot really produce language well that requires any sort of free thought, like I do all his form completion, job applications etc. He also appears to be hyperlexic, he could read online articles 10 hours a day, but if I ask about the content his reading comprehension seems poor. He can't easily explain the salient points of the article without re-reading parts. And even then he's not good at explaining well. This is not true for me at all. He's bilingual but it doesn't matter what language he's reading in. Overall he's a very good natured, sweet person but I'm wondering if his relationship to language is so different to mine I'll never understand. I'm wondering really if he appears somewhat verbal but that's an illusion and he's almost nonverbal actually.
Sounds exhausting, good luck to you!!
Well you interrupted him and were complaining about his lack of attention and understanding of your personality. He sucks, but it’s funny that you are like guilty of the same thing you are complaining about.
@@pl2604 stop assuming and ask. You can't just speculate and get everything a 100% right without asking why.
@@mkufreq9744 good advice, exactly my problem lol
My jaw dropped and is still on the floor with the perceived malice around the car vs relationship comment. That just broke my brain. It’s an analogy. So the takeaway here is he’s not comprehending analogy. Did he take geometry or algebra? I wonder how he did in those subjects, or what his score on the SAT analogy section was. This is to this, as that is to that. Thanks for taking the wind out of me for the night. I’m emotionally exhausted after reading this comment. Feel for you so hard, as I’m going through a lot of the same issues with my fiancée.
Thanks! You are amazing!
How sweet. Thank you!
My or my someone understands my husband and I . He was given an honorable discharge after given an order from a nurse that wasn’t in his job description so he was sent to a higher officer because he wouldn’t submit. He was afraid of dying if he was sent to Vietnam Nam as a hospital Corpsman so he was sent for psych evaluation and it came back Schzoid and when I saw the report I thought he sure likes me. Good at helping me with the house and six kids. I hope he will get a evaluation now . I have a son with Aspergers. He worked as a silk screen printer then as a Dial A Ride driver. He started talking more after getting concussionHe has a lot of good qualities. I understood him more after sons diagnosis.
Is there a support group for nt partners
This sooooo sound like my spouse. I'll be emailing u. This was a great VIDEO. Sooo helpful.
I'm sorry to say but if I meet someone I'm interested in and I find out she's on the spectrum. I'm running for the hills. I don't mean to be mean but it's a nightmare being in a relationship with a person on the spectrum. I can't even imagine being married to one and realizing it later in the marriage after having some kids too.
Well I had a similar experience.I figured out after marrying one jerk. I am going through divorce proceedings with his father and he is hiding somewhere
You're doing them a favor, they would be miserable in that relationship
Yes run, I divorced years ago live in peace
This describes him so much.... to a t. I am not kidding. I'm so broken.
I feel exactly the same, I thought I was going crazy.
I love you Penni. I’ll in real ur heart. Message me honeybun.
Same thing but my ex gf, legit made me almost go insane
Sorry to hear that.
I relate to a lot of this as the wife but I think it was moreso with him and that is what I didn't understand because he was very loud and very dramatic when he was defensive. Psychiatrist said it was anxiety and mood disorder but maybe is was ASD?
Can I just say, Ive watched a few of your videos. Can we have solutions to these issues you present? Thank you for awareness of what life is like if you have Aspergers but for the partners, we need solutions and Im hard pressed to find videos with solutions to the issues that come up with being with a husband with Aspergers.
More resources for you:
--- Living with ASD - eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples: www.livingwithaspergerspartner.com/
--- Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-asd-men-struggling-in-their.html
--- Online Group Therapy for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/10/mark-hutten-m.html
--- Group for Neurotypical Women Struggling in Their Relationship with an ASD Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-nt-women-struggling-in-their.html
--- One-on-One Skype Counseling for Struggling Individuals & Couples Affected by ASD: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2019/07/skype-counseling-for-struggling-couples.html
--- Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome - Counseling for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery.com/2021/08/recovery-from-emotional-deprivation-for.html
Three things I've stopped doing that has helped - telling him something important when I don't have his full attention and expecting him to be tuned in when he first gets home and hasn't put his stuff exactly where it needs to be. I also stopped saying my opinion in a way that he may take as an argument or as oppositional. Very hard for him to NOT imply that I want to argue. Putting important appointments in writing is a must.
I was a sounding board and no more except a source to have his needs met in various ways
We moved 55 times in 35 years so it was impossible to hold down a job when I already felt dejected and unloved and despondent (and also because of my own autistic traits being around people and noise/ confusion)
I believe I have autism also (scored 10 on the AQ10 and was put on a waiting list for assessment) but I was ignored by him unless it was for him to tell me his problems or talk about his special interest
There was no connection or nurturing and I felt belittled and unloved and was getting emotionally and physically sick as a result.
I stayed 35 years. It was the last year that I was beginning to get angry and snap at him and I left because I didn't like being that way and because I thought he secretly hated me.
Completely understandable and I hope your doing well now
When dating, would the asd female ever initiate contact much? She says we have a connection spiritually, energetically, hardly ever reaches out unless i do 1st. Needs to onow all details of dates too
Hmm I wonder how's it going now? I just ended my relationship with a female ASD. Tried and tried and tried until I couldn't anymore..
@@pastushi2883 you'llnotice a difference 8n your cemtral nervous system soon. I'm sad for you as you probs felt a lot of deep feelings for yet always felt unseen and heard and quite unimportant, like everything thing else is important to her.
@@daveparbery5831 You're right. Hoping is more manageable with you guys there..
This is beyond good taste.... as for me.. In the least.
The HFA excellent salesperson spouse I married is completely 2 faced. One shiney good guy face to others serley self absorbed teenager toward me the NT. My nickname is the saint. I thought it was NPD. I overthink he doesn’t seem to.
He may be masking around other people. Though more common in females on the spectrum, some males will mask their Autistic traits.
Do people with Asperger's know or recognize when they fall in love with someone? My boyfriend demonstrates affection and spends a lot of time with me and acts like we are in a relationship but calls me his friend ? This is the first intimate relationship he has had, according to his family .
Like the presenter said, people may have a hard time recognizing and identifying feelings, they may lack awareness of what exactly they feel toward you or be unable to distinguish at what point close friendship transforms into love - and as a rule, an Aspie wouldn't claim something he/she is not certain about. Putting feelings into words could be harder still. It's a bummer, and pushing the subject can very well scare him off. However, the approach when something is logically analyzed and evaluated against definite criteria like a rubric might work, like spelling out that "it's love when......." may work better. And base it on actions and behaviors, not just feelings. Creating, say, a list of specific criteria and making sure both are ABSOLUTELY, to the smallest detail, on the same page on what EXACTLY each one means could serve as a guide to arrive at the conclusion - "this must be it", or maybe, "there's still a couple of things that need to happen first". Like for instance, if you accidentally destroy my precious lifetime collection of whichamagigs and I don't feel the urge to strangle you....(exaggerating, of course, but only half joking here). And it's very important to let enough time pass for the novelty of the relationship to stop affecting the person's focus and other cognitive functions, so that his brain chemistry returns to "normal" and both people get a chance to make an informed judgement about what it is they'll have to deal and whether they are willing/ able to compromise (and there will be things that will require compromising) for a long time if the relationship continues. Otherwise you may join an army of miserable spouses who feel that the person has changed dramatically once growing challenges and demands of family life became overwhelming for that specific individual. It may still happen, but that's what therapy is for ;/
Run
Cool men normally call their girl friend. It’s a chilled way, a socially savvy way of dealing with attractive women. It could also be a trick to subtly gain the upper hand.
@Plainly Put Truth wouldn’t they? What about false agreement which can be prevalent in conversations when they just want the conversation to end. Although this is probably not them actually ‘claiming’ per se.
Aspies recognize and feel everything in a relationship that NT people do. If it's his first relationship, how would he know what "love" is to recognize? Most people are very bad at that.
Jesus Christ why even try a relationship? What does Aspie get out of it?
Ikr? I know he's going more for the general issues + worst case scenario, this is just putting me off of dating at all (Aspie). Like my god I sound difficult to live with and it sounds like if I date I'll be endlessly confused.
Some are extremely romantic and passionate. Not all avoid human touch. Some crave it. Every person is an individual and there are variances among Aspies. Generalizing "Aspies" is not right.
@@knowhere60 yes, you're right, there are constellations of symptoms and each to varying degree like with many conditions. Otoh, these generalizations can really help new learners figure out what's going on.
In my own family, we have mild autism, ADHD and both conditions, as well as (possibly misdiagnosed, not sure) bi polar and BPD. Our family also has addicts to nicotine, alcohol, weed, and a few other things.
We are a real mix of people. Some sound very similar to the generalizations used here, most of us show at least some of these things. Only two of us don't care for human interaction in a meaningful way, and if you met or saw us, we would (mostly) blend in.
@@knowhere60 Mine is super romantic and passionate -- at times. I really get sucked in during those times, but then he goes cold and resistent. It's confusing.