The Neurodiverse Marriage: Challenges and Solutions
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- Опубликовано: 27 июн 2021
- Downloadable programs:
--- Living with ASD: eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples- www.livingwithaspergerspartne...
--- Interpersonal Relationship Skills: eBook and Audio Instruction for Male Partners with ASD- www.neurodiversemarriage.org/...
Coaching services for autistic male partners:
--- Skype Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/20...
--- Skype Group: ASD Men’s Master Class: www.asdmasterclass.com/2022/0...
Coaching services for neurotypical female partners:
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--- Skype Group: Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery...
Coaching services for the ASD + NT couple:
--- Skype Group for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/20...
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Parenting resources:
--- Parenting System that Reduces Problematic Behavior in Children and Teens with ASD Level 1: www.myaspergerschild.com/2019...
--- Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism: www.high-functioningautism.co...
--- Discipline for Defiant Teens on the Autism Spectrum: www.myaspergersteen.com/
--- Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.autism-meltdowns.com/
--- Launching Adult Children with ASD Level 1: How to Promote Self-Reliance: www.launchingadultchildren.com/
--- Teaching Social Skills and Emotion Management to Kids on the Spectrum: www.social-skills-emotion-man...
--- Unraveling The Mystery Behind Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism: aspergers-mystery.blogspot.com/
The journal is a good idea, but as usual it is me that has to do all the work/ research. I’m exhausted with him at the moment and fed up with all my wasted energy in trying to communicate with him.
So true. It's really unfair!
VERY unfair! I am doing all the work and he just shuts down
@@dianeroeder3350 yes I agree! But if there’s love there, don’t give up! We have come a long way in the last year, and he has definitely recognised some of the difficulties. I wish you all the best, and if he can listen to these videos it may help, or a good counsellor that understands how he works!
@DeeBee
He listens to the videos, but he doesn't get it. We have gone to 2 therapists that told him he needs to get therapy for asperger's. It's been a year! And he still hasn't.
@@dianeroeder3350 I sympathise with you 😔 It’s hard when we are at their mercy - and we have to wait on them for action. Try and show the good parts of the relationship to him, to remind him that it would be worth it, they can tend to just think of all the negative. All the best x
I’m not sure 🤔 if this is balanced. It feels like we have to do all the work. It’s like pulling teeth. 😂😂😂. While I do think my expectations were unrealistic at first, I feel like their withdrawal that lasts a long time just pushes me further away. 🤦🏻♀️
Same here
Yep!!!
Well said, Our World.
Life is precious and short.
I have endured enough for far too long and will not coddle nor over-give to anyone.
Billions of people on this earth have all kinds of conditions and challenges. Many navigate with grace. I will spend my time with those people.
My husband uses it as an excuse NOT to have to try and meet my very limited needs He has said he’s gone as far as he intends to go (which is not far) so I’ve come to the painful decision that I’d rather be on my own out of a painful marriage rather than be on my own in one. 😢
@CoderCoder-px4bd . Thanks for sharing that. I've been learning about ND marriages for just over a year. It's a lot to educate oneself with. Mark also says that pple with ASD can have some growth spurts and devemlment later in life. probably under conditions where he's not stressed and can learn more. It's possible that your husband's awareness grew partly due to aging into a more mature state than he was in throughout the marriage until that point. These marriages def don't follow the path of NT ones. Not even close!
Does there come a time that the NT has to leave the marriage to save their own mental and emotional health? After years of not knowing or understanding what happened in the marriage, is it futile to expect that there will be a place where the madness stops and the couple starts completely over again? I don't know if there is any hope for a healing of relationships that have been torn apart by such violent behavior.
Serious question….So if a bunch of AS men get together do they just argue all the time? Or can they be friends with each other?
Lol
Thank you for this. I try, so much easier said than done :-(
You are so welcome!
It sure is!
These videos have been very helpful. I’ve been dating for almost a year someone who I believe has AS. I recently asked him if he had ever been told this and he said that it has been suggested to him but he rejected it.
I’m watching to find out the work involved in maintaining such a relationship and if I have the bandwidth for it. He is a great person but I have a high emotional need and I’m not hopeful that we are a good match.
I am a retired nanny.
Years ago, I was out walking with the baby, and his brothers.... a 4 year old, and a 6 year old.
The 6 year old was on the autism spectrum.
He fell and scraped his knee which started to bleed.
He went into a total meltdown to which I responded..."I am so glad that you are not severely injured. Unfortunately,
Nana is unable to fix it while we are walking since I did not bring any bandages. I will fix it as soon as we get back home!"
End of meltdown.
He proudly showed his bloody knee to all the children in the neighborhood on our way home.
Keep calm and carry on.