I can't deal with rude or arrogant people but I will help anyone who is civil and polite. I feel that the rude people are the ones who have the problem, not me. Having Aspergers I get hurt easily and emotionally bruised. It's not what people say to me, it's the way they say it.
When I had to use a self checkout in a Walmart by myself, some woman behind me got impatient I just took a few seconds, she got up all in my personal space, was acting like she was helping me, but she had this tone that just made me feel pressured, as someone with Aspergers. And when I told her to back off and that I have autism, she was like "Well I work with autistic people!" How ignorant ARE people?!
I am a black man with Aspergers which is now called Autism 1. I face the ailments of both and have learned from it that, the only problem is acceptance. Not my skin or my culture, not my “diagnosis,” but the acceptance of difference. I spend most days surrounded by people yet in solitude. A room full of people doesn’t quench that feeling of being alone. Know this, eagles..... don’t flock. Use your alone time to become who you are meant to become in the light of greatness. Use your time to tend your life’s garden, if you use that time right, you can have beautiful growth. I am Andrew David Lipp, I call myself an Aspergian! Haha maybe we are evolution!
Andrew, you aren't alone. I doubt anyone here cares if you are black, green, purple, straight, gay, trans, Christian, muslim, hindi, or buddhist. The people here are higher evolved. You are alone among NT's but not here. Be a friend to yourself. We can't change what NT's think but "we" don't judge based on difference. Learn to meditate my friend. Blessings
To be totally honest, I'm black as well and on the spectrum. My inability to fit in with most other black people caused me to develop a hatred for my own race to a degree.
@@vice2versa I think my boyfriend went through the same feelings as a child. I believe that he has Asperger's but has never been diagnosed. I am actually watching this video now to educate myself more and to find a way to bring the topic up with him.
Andrew Lipp My husband is a black man and he has Asperger and ADHD. He diagnosed at 41 years old. I had feelings that’s why I took him to the hospital and he did Brain waves scan. He still doesn’t see whatever I say to him. Need very long time to understand and accept fully I believe.
Ear plugs and headphones playing your favorite feel good music, this helps this Aspire with PTSD , super sensory overload. Neurotypicals are not necessarily normal, and that's our biggest issue interacting with them. There is nothing normal about this world, " measuring yourself in comparison to such a profoundly sick society is no measure of mental health."
AMEN! People think Aspies lack emotion because they often lack the desire to be phony and lie. Good and healthy people can handle Aspies. I like to listen to Lauren Daigle: Look Up Child
After devouring hundreds of books and attending dozens of seminars, i can finally claim, i'm somewhat close to normal in behaviour. But inside my mind, it's all just a facade. A mask i put on to function as a member of this highly social species. No matter how much i obtain, no matter how much financial, social or career success i've reached. Even after achieving a $1m+ net worth at 27, i still feel like something is missing. Even if i have friends and girlfriends, i still feel alone. Unable to fully connect to my peers.
I am a 96 year old Aspie who thinks it is wonderful that we now understand and can talk about autism. In the thirties and forties I received an almost daily dose of derision and ridicule. Everyone thought that my odd behavior was my fault and that I should stop it. I could not play baseball or any other team sport like the other kids because of sensory issues. A couple of "experts" were dispatched to "find out what is wrong with this kid". Their conclusion was that I was just dumb and put me back one grade, which was exactly the wrong thing to do. They only succeeded in making me feel that I was indeed a dumb kid. Then one day a teacher took me aside and said, all the while poking me with her red fingernails for emphasis, " I think you are really bright ". That was the first time in my young life that anyone had said anything good or encouraging to me. No one but l will ever know how beautiful and wonderful those words sounded to me; to this day I still begin to tear up whenever I think about them. The system in those days was that where you sat in the classroom was determined by how well you did with tests. The smartest student sat at the very back and the pupil with the poorest results occupied a front desk. The result of those words from that beautiful woman was that I was to occupy that rear seat for the rest of my public school days and more importantly, in spite of being "different" had a successful life. It is important for adults to realize the power they have to shape the future of children.
My Dad’s 96! I’ve always thought he was a bit autistic, but looking back, he’s been a typical neurotic Jew. He made a fortune doing math, but thinks out loud inappropriately and has extreme mood swings. Can’t remember names because he doesn’t care, but he loved us in a way our mother doesn’t. He has no sense of the mood in a room. A nerd!
My Dad’s 96! I’ve always thought he was a bit autistic, but looking back, he’s been a typical neurotic Jew. He made a fortune doing math, but thinks out loud inappropriately and has extreme mood swings. Can’t remember names because he doesn’t care, but he loved us in a way our mother doesn’t. He has no sense of the mood in a room. A nerd! Do high functioning neuro-atypical people calm down with drugs? He’s been in rehab 5 times, but is still caring for my mother, who has MS!
My Dad’s 96! I’ve always thought he was a bit autistic, but looking back, he’s been a typical neurotic Jew. He made a fortune doing math, but thinks out loud inappropriately and has extreme mood swings. Can’t remember names because he doesn’t care, but he loved us in a way our mother doesn’t. He has no sense of the mood in a room. A nerd! Do high functioning neuro-atypical people calm down with drugs? He’s been in rehab 5 times, but is still caring for my mother, who has MS!
I am almost 50 and a friend with an Aspy son pointed out that I am probably Aspy too. High sensitivity (light, sound, smells, tastes, textures), hyper focus/obsession, super crazy awesome imagination, no friends because I don't care for small talk or social gossip and can't figure out why people want to hang out in packs, and the need to come home and sleep or getting a migraine after going to an office every day. Plus I do accounting for a living! OMG! To have an explanation on why I've felt like a social outcast my whole life . What a gift. Thank you for this beautiful video. Love and blessings to all of you. Mwah!
I wouldn't be surprised if you meet the criteria because it's quite genetic. I hope that identifying with it helps you, it's a much nicer label than "weirdo" or "outcast" or whatever you may have been called in your life. Though now, Asperger's is no longer in the DSM, instead it is Autism Spectrum Disorder which includes a broader range of people, including people who would have been diagnosed with Asperger's.
Tina. You said, "and the need to come home and sleep." Can you say more about that? Are you constantly tired? Are you trying to escape "reality?" Is there some other reason for that?
Tina. You said "the need to come home and sleep." Can you say more about that? What makes you do that? Are you escaping reality? Are you constantly tired?
Great film. Unfortunately, I wasn't diagnosed until my early 30's. Until then I thought sensory overload and social anxiety was "normal" and that everyone else was just better at dealing with it than me. It never occurred to me that my experiences might be in some way different. I've now learned a few coping strategies that really help (wearing sunglasses when I leave the house *really* helps with the sensory overload), but I wish I'd known about my condition sooner. If you're a parent who thinks their child might have Asperger's, do them a favor get them tested. The sooner they learn coping strategies, the easier life will be for them.
ANTIJPUG It seems pretty common. A lot of the people I've met who have Asperger's were wrongly diagnosed with other conditions. I guess it's still quite new and a lot of doctors don't really know all that much about it.
I was misdiagnosed until I was 21 and my little sister suggested it to my parents. My dad scolded her for calling me "Retarded". I was accurately diagnosed at 28 by a doctor. I just thought I was just too introverted, asexual and meltdowns every 3 months or so was just normal for me.
i cried all through this. 50 and only just realised why i have had trouble fitting in all these years. Sure i have coped through mimicking but i never know or read correctly if others are bored or just wanting to stop talking. I get fixated on my current interesting topic. Many people have found me interesting but find me to be way too intense. I took up rollerblading 3 yeats ago and it has consumed all my free time, a total addiction i must say. I believe I am not normal nor have I ever been. Relationships have been difficult but only now do I realise why. This video made me cry.
Street Skater 66. same here, try 70 yrs old sadly. Trouble fitting in and trying so hard using masks and mimicking Drs have used many labels, with no solutions. This video is better than any dr or counsellor to explain how to cope. One doesn't have to conform all the time. acceptance of differences is a big help. and knowing the why helps. Now have to believe its ok to be me.
Worst thing about life is, Unlike school, Life is all about your likeability, Not your talents. In Primary School, Secondary School and College I was the top student. Higher grades than everyone else. Though, Since then, I've been unable to make a penny. I've been unsuccessful, Now Seven years have passed, Nearly Eight, And I'm still trying to find my place. The grades have also become obsolete due to the fact that they're so outdated.
I'm 27 and got diagnosed last week. I left Secondary School in 2006 and finished College in 2009. I'm the same, I haven't really been successful in my life so far. I managed to get my first job in 2012 but it only lasted 4 months (Redundancy) and have been back to square one ever since. I suppose it's frustration I feel. Sure, I want a job but have absolutely no idea what I want to do in my life. Feel totally lost. Now that I know there is a reason for the way I am, I can now seek the right help. Ideally I would like to get my life on track again by the time I reach 30 in a couple of years.
This is a wild guess, but could it have to do with the culture in the US? Maybe people are really extroverted and outgoing over there. I feel like in germany it's relatively ok, because you are allowed to be introverted and not show emotions. I'd assume GB is alright too. the only major bummer about german culture is, people give a lot of mixed messages and subtext, everything's subtle and indirect... that's my main issue.
So true! Being likeable opens doors. I have two daughters. One (my eldest) is like..super brilliant. Like...hit cognitive developmental milestones waaaaay earlier than most kids. But I don't focus on her academics. I know she is brilliant and can learn anything. What I focus on is her social skills. Her brilliance is useless if she is too anxious to use it. If she feels confident and comfortable in the world she will be able to access her awesomeness unburdened by self doubt. That's what I want for her. So I work with her through social stories and role playing and modelling.
@@Darkstar263 Do what energizes you. Many people seek their passion to no avail, instead seek what energizes you because that's what'll pull you forward.
I am pretty convinced I have asperger's syndrome and I have 1 friend and my fiance which is my best friend. But we think my fiance also has asperger's. I think that if you have asperger's it doesn't mean you are unable to have friends, it is just harder to make friends and stay friends with people. That doesn't mean it's impossible.
I agree with u. I feel like I'm on another planet about 80% of the time. I have high functioning autism. I get overwhelmed with people very easy. It sounds crazy.
I'm a high-functioning aspie myself, and its really difficult connecting with people. Meeting other aspies is hard and watching your really amazing documentary makes me realise that i'm not alone, and there are people like me who function very similarly, who go through the same struggles and life experiences. You're amazing Alyssa
Many humans go through the same experiences. NT's are not always as confident as they appear to everyone. They mask, too. NT's can be anxious talking to a stranger, being in a new situation, trying new things, being sensitive to light, sound, touch, etc. It's not exclusively reserved for the ASD community. My body is sensitive to light and sound. Doesn't make me ASD. I understand that, but keep in mind its also part of the human condition, not exclusively reserved for the ASD community.
@@Alphacentauri819 No one said they were, but there's definitely a correlation. Not all introverts are aspies, but it sure looks like alot of aspies are introverts.
Sound and the cold sensation makes me feel awful. I feel them 100 times more. Also every time someone talked bad to me, i took it literally, i never thought they may be jealous or try to diminish me in order to make themselves feel better and this gave me depression because i genuinely thought they are just saying the truth, especially my family.
This is so so true! All my childhood whenever someone said something out of jealousy or bad intentions, I could just never figure that out and I took that to be true! Infact I don't quite understand what is the need for someone to be jealous for anything at all!
@Tweed Penguin no, I don't understand it in this way, please don't let your social undersight statements rules your life, please be proud of that what makes you unique, unlike the others, that what make you so special, the whole World would have to speak. Don't be ashamed, embrace the beauty of being different!
@Tweed Penguin not especially a good one from different professionnal point of view... consider what Laurent Mottron a research specialist in autism that has a informations worth to consider
@Tweed Penguin yes it was. However so many people around their world were diagnosed with Asperger's. So for many autistics it is a HUGE part of their identity. Give them time to get used to the new terms and don't take away something that they see as part of who they are.
"I thought I was the modern equivalent of the village idiot" touched me very deep because I realized that that's what it was for so long and that this is why I'm so engaged in getting recognized as someone with Aserger's. I'm tired of being the village idiot when in fact I just function differently than average people.
same here. Though I don't tell people that I have Asperhers, because that is something that I rather keept to myself as well as family and a few friends, but that is what I felt like for a very long time. It didn't take until finding out that I have Asperger's that I realized that I'm not stupid and that I just think differently.
You guys are not village idiots. You are called one by the idiots. Nobody would think that in their right mind NT or not. You guys are awesome. I dated an aspie and even though romantic relationship has it’s own challenges because of different needs he is still my favorite human being. I have so much respect and love for him.
I used to go to the library at school during lunchtime to try and escape into my imagination to avoid all the bullying. I was bullied all through primary and secondary school and in the workforce.
I am a gamer, and I am an Aspie. Thanks for producing and creating this eye-opening film. I identified with most of the traits depicted from the individuals you interviewed though everyone's autism is different. How my diagnosis plays in my development and into my adulthood is the fact that I am audio sensitive and unable to multitask when it comes to certain duties. And like most people, my K12 education was very chaotic for me that I don't even like to talk about my high school experiences, I have actually destroyed and tossed away my yearbooks because I don't want to reminisce the negative experiences I've endured. When I go to public places to socialize, like there's this place I go to sing karaoke, if I interact with someone I have not ever met, the only time I will speak to them is if they compliment about the songs I sung. But I am careful and cautious of who I interact with because they may be up to no good. As as far as my strengths are concerned, I tend to be creative and fascinated with art and music and of course video games. I can even remember 40 years ago and I'm only a young 46 yr old.
Nope it means that people drain you and you need time alone after being with people. Extroverts get energised by other people. It’s nothing to do with how friendly or social you are.
The difference is introverts can have the prrfect skills to socialize naturally and never want to do so, autistics can't even if they are willing to it takes them more time to adapt and obtain those skills to a certain extent
@@noblestsavage1742 I get energy from good people but go out less because of the magnetic attraction bad people have for me. I would sit and draw, then get into trouble and barred for being stalked 3very day by Martin Woods and his accomplices.
why would anyone "Dislike" this video?! Perhaps competitors of Channel Topic? I sincerely appreciate your video! Answers so many questions. I'm holding back tears. Thank you for your courage and your willingness to share. Aspies are beautiful people oftentimes.
My parents have always been anything but supportive. They have mocked and bullied me for years, verbally attacking me for being different. I had to escape. Now that I am an adult with a family of my own, they wonder why I don't come visit them. If they can't figure out the reason by now, they never will. I now strive to be the kind of parent I never had. It's bittersweet what Asperger's can do for a person.
I have high functioning autism. It has been very difficult to socialize. I have that same sensory to the volume. I am glad to finally find someone who can actually relate.
I'm 25 with Asperger's, and I work 40 hours a week. I'm very satisfied with what I do. My co-workers are amazing! I hope other adults with Asperger's who are employed feel the same way!
Alyssa. Thank you so much for making this documentary. Just showed it in my Abnormal Psychology class and the students loved it. This is a dual enrollment class so the students are in high school getting a college credit. They really appreciated the clarity with which you presented the symptoms and the adaptations. Keep using those super powers for good!
If I had one message for people with Asperger's it would be "Try not to get frustrated with things that your not good at, I'm not saying not to care, just realize that it might take some time". It took me 27 years to understand this. Sending love and hope to all in the community.
I was diagnosed with aspergers at the age of 5 and I'm a girl, I'm actually happy I have it because I have a wide imagination and Know more about computers than others my age and more about animation. The only thing bad about it was my depression and social anxiety but I coped with it by lookin at the positives ;)
And woohoo to girls in tech! I am learning to code now in the hopes of a career change from a socially demanding one (that was causing me to be phsyically ill) to one where I can work from home and utilize my creativity. I'd like to get into app building and maybe video game design or something. I'm finding learning to code so rewarding. It feels safe being in my house all day. And it feels nice working on something super logical and like...fun.
I'm a mathematician, coder and Aspie as well. I've been diagnosed last week and I'm 26. It's been awful to live a life without knowing why I was different from everybody else. At least now I can relate to people like you guys.
Dear Alyssa, Thank you for making your film. I am 61 years old, and am just beginning to figure things out. I didn't understand what was so different about me until I was diagnosed a few years ago. It is amazing to begin to realize what you already know. I wish you well.
@@priscillaanderson2949 I am not sure if my reply was posted. I'll not repeat what I wrote unless requested. What I did decide to add to my response was that I just went on medication that has improved my state of mind significantly. For this, I am grateful to have had the information about high-functioning autism. I couldn't have advocated for myself without it. I have only been on new meds for about six months...but I feel remarkably well. The meds work on dopamine rather than serotonin.
@@Cindy-ys9xb Thank you Cindy that was very helpful. It does help me to understand why certain things help me (like pushing myself physically). And the documentary was very good, thank you very much.
I love it too. I find it very endearing about her, and the stories themselves are incredibly unique and interesting so I like hearing about them when we hang out.
❤️❤️❤️ Love this video. You remind me of an older version of my daughter. She shows many of the signs and symptoms of Asperger’s Syndrome and is being evaluated. I’ve made mistakes with her when believing she isn’t taking heed to what I tell her and is not paying attention to her surroundings. So I’ve been reading up on AS and watching videos of others who have AS and it’s really eye-opening to me. I want to parent her to the best of my ability and provide her with the support she needs. I have compassion for Aspies because I am a highly sensitive person and have been accused by my parents as being “too sensitive” and “different”. I also had social difficulties growing up and even in adulthood. I’m a lot better at handling them now. It is now my job to make sure my daughter is a well-adjusted, happy individual who will be productive in society. Thank you for this!
My Grandson and myself are Aspies. It is so nice when we are together we can really understand d each other. It is wonderful having a intellectual discussion about anything!
I'm on the spectrum, so is my brother but my parents just ignore him. It's so sad. He has no friends and his ankles are swollen from sitting at the computer all day. Making friends is so important. Friends just like the ones in this documentary.
thank you for making this film. my boyfriend has asperger's & it helps to know more than i did before watching your documentary. i believe you will do great in the film industry! really, really great!!!!
The part about the imagination is what I connected to the most. The only problem is my imagination is so vivid that I can literally just think about something and trigger the same reward response in the brain as if I had actually done it. It gets really frustrating.
I love my over active imagination. My dreams are even more amazing! I refuse to take medication pumped out by big pharma to stifle my imagination. It's mine and I will not give it to them!
Like exercise--I imagine it so vividly, that I feel tired once I want to do it, physically. Which is why I try to school my thoughts, but it's bloody hard.
Medications are such a fraud.. yeah, some people do need them. But some, or many, actually don't. There are cases where the medications itself IS THE CAUSE of suicidal thoughts and severe anxiety 24/7. and the medications are highly addictive - people cant just stop taking it, or they will die. ...Look, at what those so-called 'medications' do to people. It's not something that should be taken daily, but some people thought that these meds, or drugs, can solve their problem, which is not.. and their should refrain from taking it every damn time they have problems - like, painkillers: my friend said that she'll try to be patient, try to not taking painkillers when she can, because she knows, it's not that good to take it too much.
@@second_second_ Man, I remember when I was forced to take medications. Suffice to say, they ruined me and sent me into a pretty nasty depression. And despite me being very obviously unwell and making it very clear that I didn't like it, my parents where still pushing for it simply cause my doctor said so and due to my grades going up, despite that the later thing was due to me finally getting the aid I needed. It finally took the teachers raising concerns over my mental health to finally remove that shit. But suffice to say, the scars that stuff inflicted on my mind still lives on years later.
Alyssa I can relate to, highly functioning, but some symptoms are still pretty bad... its a weird position to be in. Also, MY GOD this documentary deserves its 1mil views!
Glad we can relate. :) For that exact reason I don't buy into "high functioning" or "low functioning" labels anymore because my functioning varies from day to day and with certain activities. And thanks~!!! I was super happy when it finally hit 1 million views, I feel proud of this project and the hard work we put into it. :) :) :)
no such thing as normal its good to be unique and its for people to accept you and fit in with your expectations don't let people call you names like my abusive ex called me well he was handicapped and mad ok
This was so helpful. I'm 23 And was just recently diagnosed with Aspergers. My main symptoms are social issues and obsessive interests. Unfortunately most of my internets are not "age appropriate" as they are things like dolls and other toys. It really hurts my feelings when people say that I'm too old for my dolls.
I know what you mean. I know quite a few girls (and boys) on the spectrum who are into things considered "childish." My take on it is--who cares? You're never too old for what you love. "Age appropriate" is just a concept people use to make others conform to "common interests" as they grow older.
"Yes I am different, but there is a reason..." When I realized that there was a sort of medical condition, or perhaps just a different way of being for some of us, it was indeed a relief. In a sense, it is finding "normalcy" or realizing that yes, some people just are this way. And that in itself was kinda comforting.
Thank you for making this. Had me in tears through a lot of it as it's all so familiar. I wish I had the network of Aspies you do. Fitting in anywhere has always been so challenging for me and I just hate thinking that I need to make excuses for my behaviors to NT's and just don't get the understanding that I need. Having an ASD is not an excuse, its a reason for why we are the way we are and more people need to accept that we are not broken.
As a parent ,I have seen a lot of this in my daughter, since before she was diagnosed at 21. What Dr Wahlberg was saying about the lightswitch switch was the hardest thing for me, as mom, to deal with . The identification of Aspergers helped our relationship and helped her understand herself. She had a health crisis and her college ended after a month, but at this time she's got a remote internship learning to do IT Sys admin, and it's a perfect fit for her limitations and her super powers.
Dear Alyssa: All my life I have fought against social anxiety and it's been hell in life. I have considered surrendering more than once, but, besides that, I had always wondered why I was a literary genius. I had the belief that someone greater had chosen me to deliver "out of this world stories" to Earth (I can tell by the look on the eyes of whom have read my tales and novels). I was diagnosed with Asperger last Friday and suddenly everything makes complete sense to me. Today I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart because, after watching your documentary for the first in my life I gotta the feeling I belong somewhere and it's the most beautiful thing that has ever happened in my life. :')
I'm so happy you guys made this documentary! I have ASD too, I just found out about 15 years ago. I'm really glad more and more people are learning about Asperger's. Thank you so much!
I wish I had known ANYONE similar to me as a child. My son is the only person I know who is similar to me now. I'm soooooo proud of him, he deals so much better then me. He has very little depression and loves to socialize even though he realizes he can be a bit awkward. I on the other hand have become a depressed recluse. My son inspires me. I'm supposed to do that for him. I'm glad to see that todays Aspies approach life probs from another angle.
+Auntie M Yes, we do. But there is no reason you cannot start to socialise! When I was eight I had no friends, but now that im 15 I can socialise fairly normally. Its never too late.
That's sweet for you to say but I'm almost 40, I don't even know where to start. There are no programs here where I live . I did ok as a child but I learned early early to keep my friends to a select few. I would encourage you Alan to never stop socializing. Be better than me. That's what I tell my boy.
This documentary has really helped me understand what two of my sons that have recently been diagnosed with Asperger's at the ages of 34 and 26 are going thru. Thanks for the upload.
What a wonderful job explaining the Asperger's to the rest of the population. Videos like this one help so much in understanding how these beautiful minds function and how we need to be much more sensitive to the fact that their "differences" are not the disadvantages; they are gifted and we need to be thankful that they share their giftedness with us. I am learning so much from videos like this one! We need more of this content, so that the world could be a better and more beautiful place. Thank you!
Fantastic documentary. Thank you for making this. My son 13, has just had an official diagnosis although as parents we have long believed this to be the case. I'm here on RUclips looking for information to share with my kids, family and friends to help them understand and educate them. I'll definitely be getting them to watch this one. Thank you for making this
I have aspergers, I suffer from everything else and every other sensory thing EXECPT for loud music, I'm a huge heavy metal/alternative music fan and have played guitar for 12 years myself, and also (make attempts to) sing I love it, can't get enough of it. Also have a friend who's band I play with sometimes who has aspergers and loves the same music too, he's an incredible vocalist AND drummer
I know two guys with autism who are total metal heads and one is also a musician. I don't like metal (well some I do...but I don't like angry sounding metal) but I don't mind loud noises. I am a musician and love to play at all volumes. I blast music when I clean my house or walk my dogs. I struggle when the world is 'quiet' because i hear high pitched frequencies and they drive me nuts!
I've corrected the English subtitles up to about 7.5 minutes so far. I'm busy at college but will finish the corrections as I have time to do them, and I'll comment again when they're done!
The subtitles for me have white text with a black background on any device I use... have you tried multiple devices? Or perhaps there is a setting to change the color on your end?
A neurotypical trying to befriend an aspie can be quite frustrating, too. Any profound difference creates a gap. There's also that saying that very intelligent people have a harder time finding friends.
Naturally. "Normal" by definition means fitting in with the mainstream. Anyone abnormal in any way will have added difficulty fitting in, leading to a heightened desire to self-'improve'. Personally in my early life I fell for selfish people's bullshit and believed I had to improve myself and eventually realized they were never on my level to begin with in regards to character. They had merely learned to mask their selfishness with BS, which is very common and thus normalized.
@@Dowlphin Usually if someone thinks of themselves as 'very intelligent' they often aren't, on the contrary, people who usually feel as if they're mediocre are actually the intelligent ones. Don't quote me on this though, I'm sure you're the exception
Being an aspie myself I can really relate to the sensory problems. I hate loud noises like the fire drill at school it just pierced my ears. I also have never enjoyed fireworks because they are so loud. Also I am very picky about clothes and texture. I can't stand when I get a new shirt and the area around my neck is so tight I feel like I am being choked. I have always liked loose clothing and cotton material clothing. I can not stand wearing anything itchy it will just make me very uncomfortable and irritable. I always try to avoid crowded places as much as possible because it is so noisy and claustrophobic and it makes me get really stressed out physically and mentally. Socializing has also been very challenging for me because I felt like nobody understood me. Things like parties and social gatherings have always been hard for me and I prefer to just be with one or two close friends. A major struggle for every aspie is when nuerotypical people think we overreact to certain sensory things but they don't see or feel what we feel and it is exhausting.
+Blue 97 Your last statement captures it well... and also, I seem to deal with a lot of the sensory stuff you go through. I made another video with Katie talking about her experience with fire alarms--you might be interested in sharing it with others so they can understand your reactions better. ruclips.net/video/PhXgUbWfSN8/видео.html
Lotor the Magnificent you are not alone on that last part I 31 and still dealing with accepting my body I figure out How to deal with crowded places I look in windows and shine like a reflection of the cars paints objects When I in the city just walking in extreme crowds I do get nervous But always have something in my hand to just focus on and not on The people staring at me like that U could try it worked for me To not think that everyone is staring at me so after i past that challenge I just look around on RUclips And came a cross a channel Well a RUclipsr say if u having Trouble with watching straight just Watch people on different parts of there body u can also see true them For me is always been difficult to watch guys like straight in there eyes Because I gay so I will be watching confusing but will be sweating a lot
@@tonyshumway7652 I always used to be very distressed by the sound of Snufflupagus from Sesame Street because he sounds like he's talking from inside a gas mask. Oddly, Darth Vader's voice doesn't bother me....
You are wonderful Alyssa. I think I have asperger's, I'm 36 and have felt like an alien for so long. It has been so painful. I have been suicidal and depressed and treated for other issues. Part of me feels terrified but part of me knows that I can find some relief.
I'm sensing that there is also this nihilistic part of you that feels like something doesn't really matter any more because you don't know what you really want or are lost with what to do next.
Thank you so much for this video. My husband is on the spectrum although undiagnosed, his nephew is diagnosed as having Asperger's and the similarities are uncanny. He is extremely intelligent but lacking in social skills and has sensory overload, is very easily distracted by sounds, easily angered, and extremely focused on interests. In addition, I see degrees of ASD in many of our children and at least one of our grandchildren. My grandson Sam is on the spectrum I believe though he is not diagnosed. He showed an early talent with words and could spell 3 and 4 letter words at 2 and by three he had gained an interest in dinosaurs such that he knew all their scientific names and could identify them easily by 4. He also has many of the characteristics that you mentioned in this video. This video helps me to understand my family members better so that I can love them better. I am so thankful for your courage and determination and for overcoming your anxieties to produce this video. May God continue to bless you to be a guide to people on how to understand and love Aspies. Sincerely, thank you.
Hi i'm Sam, i'm an Aspie from Italy. I just recently acknowledged that. Your video was the first documentary I saw, and I'm so glad i did it. Thank you.
Wow, thank you so much guys for compiling this video together, i'm just starting my aspie journey, at 24 it's been a long time coming, i'm starting to understand more of who I am now, your video has really opened my eyes, thanks again =) keep up the good work!
Becky Wood I'm also 24 but I don't have a diagnosis YET, my mom is taking me to get tested soon though and people that really know me believe me to be an aspie
Thank you so much. Videos on RUclips really help in trying to find who i am. I havent been diagnosed, but I relate so much with how aspies describe the world, i believe i do. 💕
I'm sorry to hear things have been so difficult for you! I try to be positive about ASD but I cannot deny the difficulties. I hope you can find things to help you function better.
You aren't a freak. I think aspie are wonderful. I'm jealous of your amazing minds. My six year old is so intelligent and funny and so creative. I have ADHD and social anxiety so I think I understand some of the social awkwardness. Lol I just don't have the aspie intelligence 😂
Pansy Parkinson i mimic to the point it now effects me and how i act if you know me. I am now VERY obnoxious at times but it usually turns out making my friends laugh so I just do it and enjoy myself better that way. But my personality first hand is just robotic and fucking odd.
Getting through public school was the hardest part of my life. If I could give advice to any young people with ASD would be to hang in there it gets easier with age. At 37 my life is the best it's ever been. Great job , married with 5 daughters. 3 of them are just like me
Wow Alyssa, I enjoyed watching your beautiful documentary. I can totally relate to what you were mentioning. I was diagnosed with Asperger's at 49 year old back in the fall of 2013. I am very sensitive to bright lights and loud sounds. I feel the bright lights seem to hurt my eyes and I dim the lights around the house in the evening until someone in our family brightens them once again. I thrive on having a routine and try to keep it going daily. 💞💕
Jennifer Sinclair I know I’m just saying to neurotypical people it appears more ‘normal’ so that’s why it is considered mild. Still a struggle for sure just not as outwardly obvious, and not as different to neurotypical
@@anonymouschange287 Yup! My oldest sister has level 1 autism ("mild autism") and she comes across as just "weird" to the world rather than bluntly autistic. But her whole life is crazy. She spent the last 4 decades lying to people about everything and "laid off" from many jobs.
I am an Aspie. I have a lot of trouble with a lot of things. However, I have been successful financially. I was lucky. Like the doctor said, stick to what you’re good at. I had to learn that by myself-I wasn’t diagnosed until my mid 30s. I know what I am not good at somethings -my girlfriend is NT and she reminds me whenever I step out of line.
My sixteen year old sister is not diagnosed with Asperger's, but after doing research, I'm almost 100% sure she has it. It really struck me the other day when she made a concerned facial expression while talking to me and it really threw me off because I realized that I had never really seen her make a facial expression before. She will smile and stuff, but it never reaches her eyes. None of her emotions reach her eyes, but I only finally realized it when she actually DID show a glimpse of a facial expression. My parents don't want to get a doctor's diagnosis because they don't want to "put a label on it" or doom her to think that there's no way for her to be normal, but that just doesn't seem right to me.
+KimPossible There are advantages and disadvantages to the diagnosis, but I thi the good outweighs the bad. A diagnosis may help your sister understand the way she is and not blame herself for being different. Having a name for it also could help in searching for answers online or finding others like her. Also, things like school or work accommodations often require a diagnosis. The greatest downside (especially in my experience) is that it can be used as a crutch. While I would advise anyone first diagnosed to explore their own behaviors in relation to ASD, as they adjust, I think one needs to take responsibility for their actions, Asperger's or not. What helps me is to really own my struggles, as mine uniquely, not blame a label, and explain to others "I struggle with this" rather than "I have Asperger's." That sort of approach really helps in communicating needs and accommodations as well.
I haven't got a diagnosis yet, but I am pretty sure I do have it. To be fair, I really want the diagnosis. I have always felt different than the people around me, and I just thought I was a freak, or that everything was always my fault, but if I do end up with this diagnosis I can finally make peace with it and understand why I am the way I am. To me, not having a diagnosis is the biggest problem. I know you posted this a year ago, but I hope that your parents have come around a bit and have been able to let her make her own decision about whether or not she wants the diagnosis.
At 16 it should be her choice if she wants to be diagnosed or not. If she doesnt have a problem with how a diagnosis probably isnt going to do anything for her.
Yup I was diagnosed with Aspergers, OCD and major depression about 6 years ago. I have social issues the most. I'm introverted. Luckily I have a brother who also has Aspergers and were as close as it gets. Together we like to create worlds, characters and creatures/species. We put our ideas together and create amazing stories! Our characters and imagination is very real to us, at the same time we know it isn't real. All my life I was an outcast in school, I was bullied, picked on and I felt alienated. If I'm surrounded by people I get very anxious I just wish to be invisible. I feel like everyone is judging me. I had to drop out of highschool cuz it was just too overwhelming. I was homeschooled after that which was, beyond a sigh of relief. I can be happy one second and get sad the next. If I get on a line of thought it can turn dark and get depressing. For example my cat died recently, I keep thinking about death and my whole family dying and I just feel overwhelmed. Thinking of my Mom or grandmother dying or worst of all my brother dying scares and saddens me. I hope somehow we die at the same time instead of separately. We basically do things on a schedule, we draw and roleplay at least once a day. We also love video games and anime. Our worlds have been largely based on anime. And we also get inspiration from video games and movies. I often wish we had a machine that could take our stories and turn them into watchable anime. It'd be really cool to see, and maybe people would understand all that goes on inside us and maybe come to accept it better, I don't know. In my experience I'm happy I have Aspergers. When I was diagnosed it's kind of a relief. You know that it's not all just in your head, you are different. It's hard to explain. I guess giving my condition a name just put me more at ease with myself. I'm horrible at face to face conversation, but if my face isn't seen I can talk and talk and talk as you just read, lol. I'm on Deviant Art if any of you wanted to see some of my characters or stories. Midnamoony is my name on DA.
I love this girl so much. She strives very hard to improve herself and helped me to understand aspergers so much better. I hope many more people can try to understand these people's lives and help them.
Thanks for making this documentary. I'm not officially diagnosed, but I understand being an Aspie. Great job and I can relate to these reasons with Asperger's.
You have a lovely mother, be grateful. You did a good job. I hope you, the younger generation, will be able to establish us a place in this world and help people to understand us better.
this is one of the first videos that has spoken to me on a level that I wish other videos or people would. some people know of my depression, but none know of my anxiety and especially my issues with sensory stuff, they're biggest at school or concerts, like katie described. but I don't want to diagnose myself and I am afraid of people not believing me..
There's always a risk of people not believing you even if you have a diagnosis, but from my experience, it has been worse NOT being diagnosed. It's easier for others to accept your weaknesses if it is connected to a disorder. Someone close to me used to think I was lazy, but has gone easier on me after my diagnosis. When you have ASD, you have clear disadvantages, and having the diagnosis allows you a bit of space to catch up. I still have had some friends who assumed I could "improve myself" or I just needed to "work harder" to be normal in spite of the diagnosis, but the benefits of having it far outweigh the few misunderstandings.
Alyssa Huber - The Life of an Aspie thanks for thr nice reply. The thing is just.. for an actual diagnosis, I would need my parents to know because I am not 18 yet. But they've never believed a bit of anything regarding my health and mental health- I'm just so scared that I will not be diagnosed with it and that I have been "blaming" my social difficulties and basically everything on my asd that isn't there..
Well, there's only one way to find out... do you think that giving it a try is better than remaining uncertain? In any case, I know how it feels for others to not believe you. It causes a lot of doubt. I would suggest seeking an answer, and being prepared to accept whatever it might be.
I was diagnosed with Autism when I was 18 years old; I was tested many times but for some reason the Doctors never picked it up. I wasn't given help for a very long time and was bullied in school, outside, in my own home and even molested by my cousin and best friend's grandfather more than once. I wish if I was diagnosed much earlier then I would have gotten help instead of suffering.
This is an excellent film which all Aspies and those they live with, should watch. It explains a lot. I am almost 70 and have had to figure much of this out myself. My wife, kids and grandchildren are Aspie to some degree.
I have met AS and have seemed normal to me, is why I am glad this documentary is "through the eyes" because it gives NT's the perception of even though you guys seem normal, you have a tremendous amount of everyday hurdles.
How can this video have any "thumbs down"? I have Asperger's, and I found this documentary extremely informative for a neuro-typical and accurate. A lot of the circumstances are exactly what me and my sister go through.
Thank you for this great film. I love that I can come closer to understanding the point of view of others who perceive and process things differently than I do - you're helping all of us with empathy!
I felt so at home watch ing this video. I am "artistic" but my son is an Aspie. I loved this documentary as he did ( he is just 12)!. I live in Chicago and I went back to school to study psychology too! I am my son's advocate! I have inundated myself with anything As pie related since his diagnosis ( 2011). What an inspiration you are!
On church communities, I think you and Katie should check out a church that does chant, like Byzantine, Orthodox, or traditional Catholic Churches (or monasteries, abbeys, etc.) You need a peaceful sound experience in worship. Just a random thought as I watch your video. Thanks for doing this, btw. It''s wonderful.
Do it! Your world sounds amazing and would be a great way to teach good messages. :) I'm in the process of writing Vael into a novel, so Seamus may get to teach some things as well!
I've had a fantasy world in my head since I was in middle school. Before then I would imagine vivid scenes, but once I entered adolescence I started to make coherent settings and long stories. Currently trying to write a novel in that setting but find I am so exhausted from my noisy day job that it's difficult to do much more than crash out when I come home.
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I can't deal with rude or arrogant people but I will help anyone who is civil and polite. I feel that the rude people are the ones who have the problem, not me. Having Aspergers I get hurt easily and emotionally bruised. It's not what people say to me, it's the way they say it.
I feel the same way too
Me too im like Waylon. I've never intentionally hurt anyone
When I had to use a self checkout in a Walmart by myself, some woman behind me got impatient I just took a few seconds, she got up all in my personal space, was acting like she was helping me, but she had this tone that just made me feel pressured, as someone with Aspergers. And when I told her to back off and that I have autism, she was like "Well I work with autistic people!" How ignorant ARE people?!
People with aspergers are not willingly rude it's just a matter of misunderstanding social norms and the concept of perspectives
Maybe you are just a woman
I am a black man with Aspergers which is now called Autism 1. I face the ailments of both and have learned from it that, the only problem is acceptance. Not my skin or my culture, not my “diagnosis,” but the acceptance of difference.
I spend most days surrounded by people yet in solitude. A room full of people doesn’t quench that feeling of being alone.
Know this, eagles..... don’t flock. Use your alone time to become who you are meant to become in the light of greatness.
Use your time to tend your life’s garden, if you use that time right, you can have beautiful growth. I am Andrew David Lipp, I call myself an Aspergian! Haha maybe we are evolution!
Andrew, you aren't alone. I doubt anyone here cares if you are black, green, purple, straight, gay, trans, Christian, muslim, hindi, or buddhist. The people here are higher evolved. You are alone among NT's but not here. Be a friend to yourself. We can't change what NT's think but "we" don't judge based on difference. Learn to meditate my friend. Blessings
To be totally honest, I'm black as well and on the spectrum. My inability to fit in with most other black people caused me to develop a hatred for my own race to a degree.
Nicely said
@@vice2versa I think my boyfriend went through the same feelings as a child. I believe that he has Asperger's but has never been diagnosed. I am actually watching this video now to educate myself more and to find a way to bring the topic up with him.
Andrew Lipp My husband is a black man and he has Asperger and ADHD.
He diagnosed at 41 years old.
I had feelings that’s why I took him to the hospital and he did Brain waves scan.
He still doesn’t see whatever I say to him.
Need very long time to understand and accept fully I believe.
Ear plugs and headphones playing your favorite feel good music, this helps this Aspire with PTSD , super sensory overload. Neurotypicals are not necessarily normal, and that's our biggest issue interacting with them. There is nothing normal about this world, " measuring yourself in comparison to such a profoundly sick society is no measure of mental health."
AMEN! People think Aspies lack emotion because they often lack the desire to be phony and lie. Good and healthy people can handle Aspies. I like to listen to Lauren Daigle: Look Up Child
@@SRose-vp6ew Thank lord! Amen!
Hi-fidelity earplugs are the best.
💯 need music in my life 24/7 without it I would become very overwhelmed
Amen 😊
I just realized that Aspies go through so much effort for self improvement than most neurotypical people do. They want to be better.
We want to be social, but we are not capable of. So, to change this, we have to improve. Usually, took years, but we get something near a social life.
reiwell del
Yep perfection
may young gunna bless our drip
We just we want to live our lives the best we can
After devouring hundreds of books and attending dozens of seminars, i can finally claim, i'm somewhat close to normal in behaviour. But inside my mind, it's all just a facade. A mask i put on to function as a member of this highly social species.
No matter how much i obtain, no matter how much financial, social or career success i've reached. Even after achieving a $1m+ net worth at 27, i still feel like something is missing. Even if i have friends and girlfriends, i still feel alone. Unable to fully connect to my peers.
I am a 96 year old Aspie who thinks it is wonderful that we now understand and can talk about autism. In the thirties and forties I received an almost daily dose of derision and ridicule. Everyone thought that my odd behavior was my fault and that I should stop it. I could not play baseball or any other team sport like the other kids because of sensory issues. A couple of "experts" were dispatched to "find out what is wrong with this kid". Their conclusion was that I was just dumb and put me back one grade, which was exactly the wrong thing to do. They only succeeded in making me feel that I was indeed a dumb kid. Then one day a teacher took me aside and said, all the while poking me with her red fingernails for emphasis, " I think you are really bright ". That was the first time in my young life that anyone had said anything good or encouraging to me. No one but l will ever know how beautiful and wonderful those words sounded to me; to this day I still begin to tear up whenever I think about them. The system in those days was that where you sat in the classroom was determined by how well you did with tests. The smartest student sat at the very back and the pupil with the poorest results occupied a front desk. The result of those words from that beautiful woman was that I was to occupy that rear seat for the rest of my public school days and more importantly, in spite of being "different" had a successful life. It is important for adults to realize the power they have to shape the future of children.
My Dad’s 96! I’ve always thought he was a bit autistic, but looking back, he’s been a typical neurotic Jew. He made a fortune doing math, but thinks out loud inappropriately and has extreme mood swings. Can’t remember names because he doesn’t care, but he loved us in a way our mother doesn’t. He has no sense of the mood in a room.
A nerd!
My Dad’s 96! I’ve always thought he was a bit autistic, but looking back, he’s been a typical neurotic Jew. He made a fortune doing math, but thinks out loud inappropriately and has extreme mood swings. Can’t remember names because he doesn’t care, but he loved us in a way our mother doesn’t. He has no sense of the mood in a room. A nerd!
Do high functioning neuro-atypical people calm down with drugs? He’s been in rehab 5 times, but is still caring for my mother, who has MS!
My Dad’s 96! I’ve always thought he was a bit autistic, but looking back, he’s been a typical neurotic Jew. He made a fortune doing math, but thinks out loud inappropriately and has extreme mood swings. Can’t remember names because he doesn’t care, but he loved us in a way our mother doesn’t. He has no sense of the mood in a room. A nerd!
Do high functioning neuro-atypical people calm down with drugs? He’s been in rehab 5 times, but is still caring for my mother, who has MS!
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@@lisaschuster686yes, and no. It's a whole area of study, along with our tendency for addiction. Which explains rehab 5 times.
I am almost 50 and a friend with an Aspy son pointed out that I am probably Aspy too. High sensitivity (light, sound, smells, tastes, textures), hyper focus/obsession, super crazy awesome imagination, no friends because I don't care for small talk or social gossip and can't figure out why people want to hang out in packs, and the need to come home and sleep or getting a migraine after going to an office every day. Plus I do accounting for a living! OMG! To have an explanation on why I've felt like a social outcast my whole life . What a gift. Thank you for this beautiful video. Love and blessings to all of you. Mwah!
I wouldn't be surprised if you meet the criteria because it's quite genetic. I hope that identifying with it helps you, it's a much nicer label than "weirdo" or "outcast" or whatever you may have been called in your life. Though now, Asperger's is no longer in the DSM, instead it is Autism Spectrum Disorder which includes a broader range of people, including people who would have been diagnosed with Asperger's.
I know 2 people with Asperger's who are accountants, must be a go-to job for this condition.
Tina. You said, "and the need to come home and sleep." Can you say more about that? Are you constantly tired? Are you trying to escape "reality?" Is there some other reason for that?
Tina. You said "the need to come home and sleep." Can you say more about that? What makes you do that? Are you escaping reality? Are you constantly tired?
Dogs Are the Best tired from all the sensory input and trying to act normal.
Great film.
Unfortunately, I wasn't diagnosed until my early 30's. Until then I thought sensory overload and social anxiety was "normal" and that everyone else was just better at dealing with it than me. It never occurred to me that my experiences might be in some way different.
I've now learned a few coping strategies that really help (wearing sunglasses when I leave the house *really* helps with the sensory overload), but I wish I'd known about my condition sooner.
If you're a parent who thinks their child might have Asperger's, do them a favor get them tested. The sooner they learn coping strategies, the easier life will be for them.
I went undiagnosed for 30+ years!
ANTIJPUG It seems pretty common. A lot of the people I've met who have Asperger's were wrongly diagnosed with other conditions. I guess it's still quite new and a lot of doctors don't really know all that much about it.
I was wrongly diagnosed with Jinn posession by my own family!
I was misdiagnosed until I was 21 and my little sister suggested it to my parents. My dad scolded her for calling me "Retarded". I was accurately diagnosed at 28 by a doctor. I just thought I was just too introverted, asexual and meltdowns every 3 months or so was just normal for me.
Hello, do forgive my ignorance but can you please us more examples of the "coping strategies" you use?
i cried all through this. 50 and only just realised why i have had trouble fitting in all these years. Sure i have coped through mimicking but i never know or read correctly if others are bored or just wanting to stop talking. I get fixated on my current interesting topic. Many people have found me interesting but find me to be way too intense. I took up rollerblading 3 yeats ago and it has consumed all my free time, a total addiction i must say. I believe I am not normal nor have I ever been. Relationships have been difficult but only now do I realise why.
This video made me cry.
years* not yeats.
i wish you good tidings. this might also be relevant to your addiction: www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html
In 44 and just realized it
Street Skater 66.
same here, try 70 yrs old sadly. Trouble fitting in and trying so hard using masks and mimicking
Drs have used many labels, with no solutions. This video is better than any dr or counsellor to explain
how to cope. One doesn't have to conform all the time. acceptance of differences is a big help. and knowing the why helps. Now have to believe its ok to be me.
Same. I'm 37, just realizing.
Worst thing about life is, Unlike school, Life is all about your likeability, Not your talents.
In Primary School, Secondary School and College I was the top student. Higher grades than everyone else.
Though, Since then, I've been unable to make a penny. I've been unsuccessful, Now Seven years have passed, Nearly Eight, And I'm still trying to find my place.
The grades have also become obsolete due to the fact that they're so outdated.
I'm 27 and got diagnosed last week. I left Secondary School in 2006 and finished College in 2009. I'm the same, I haven't really been successful in my life so far. I managed to get my first job in 2012 but it only lasted 4 months (Redundancy) and have been back to square one ever since. I suppose it's frustration I feel. Sure, I want a job but have absolutely no idea what I want to do in my life. Feel totally lost. Now that I know there is a reason for the way I am, I can now seek the right help. Ideally I would like to get my life on track again by the time I reach 30 in a couple of years.
This is a wild guess, but could it have to do with the culture in the US? Maybe people are really extroverted and outgoing over there. I feel like in germany it's relatively ok, because you are allowed to be introverted and not show emotions. I'd assume GB is alright too. the only major bummer about german culture is, people give a lot of mixed messages and subtext, everything's subtle and indirect... that's my main issue.
So true! Being likeable opens doors. I have two daughters. One (my eldest) is like..super brilliant. Like...hit cognitive developmental milestones waaaaay earlier than most kids. But I don't focus on her academics. I know she is brilliant and can learn anything. What I focus on is her social skills. Her brilliance is useless if she is too anxious to use it. If she feels confident and comfortable in the world she will be able to access her awesomeness unburdened by self doubt. That's what I want for her. So I work with her through social stories and role playing and modelling.
I hear that magic mushrooms(psilocybin) and/or LSD has helped people with autism and Asperger's.
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@@Darkstar263 Do what energizes you. Many people seek their passion to no avail, instead seek what energizes you because that's what'll pull you forward.
If you have ASD, you're doing pretty well if you have friends, period.
There are always friends to find. Tons of us on Facebook! goo.gl/ZSGYGJ
Ha, just what I need, more FB "friends." Thanks anyway.
Micah Newman I have two friends. I'm fortunate. They are the only people I get along with.
I am pretty convinced I have asperger's syndrome and I have 1 friend and my fiance which is my best friend. But we think my fiance also has asperger's. I think that if you have asperger's it doesn't mean you are unable to have friends, it is just harder to make friends and stay friends with people. That doesn't mean it's impossible.
Thing is I got a few friends myself, almost all of them had to approach me first but hey
I agree with u. I feel like I'm on another planet about 80% of the time. I have high functioning autism. I get overwhelmed with people very easy. It sounds crazy.
musashisam Thankyou
Maybe you ARE coming from another planet!!!
I feel like I am from another planet, and when I meet people from that "planet" I recognize them...its really weird.
Kara Undefined i think its more of a curse to be honest. but it does bring some advantages...
Yep
I guess most of us just have to deal with it or cope in some way
I don't really like being autistic but I have to deal with it
I'm a high-functioning aspie myself, and its really difficult connecting with people. Meeting other aspies is hard and watching your really amazing documentary makes me realise that i'm not alone, and there are people like me who function very similarly, who go through the same struggles and life experiences.
You're amazing Alyssa
Many humans go through the same experiences. NT's are not always as confident as they appear to everyone. They mask, too. NT's can be anxious talking to a stranger, being in a new situation, trying new things, being sensitive to light, sound, touch, etc. It's not exclusively reserved for the ASD community. My body is sensitive to light and sound. Doesn't make me ASD. I understand that, but keep in mind its also part of the human condition, not exclusively reserved for the ASD community.
I hate when people say they are "aspie" I have it and it ain't cute
"I think the most important thing is that this is a person, and every person is different" so true.
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Never look down on introverted people they're the best.you're lucky if one calls you a friend.
You’re gosh darn right!!!
Jennifer Aluni introversión and Aspergers are NOT the same
@@Alphacentauri819 thank you 🙏
We are discerning!
@@Alphacentauri819 No one said they were, but there's definitely a correlation. Not all introverts are aspies, but it sure looks like alot of aspies are introverts.
Sound and the cold sensation makes me feel awful. I feel them 100 times more. Also every time someone talked bad to me, i took it literally, i never thought they may be jealous or try to diminish me in order to make themselves feel better and this gave me depression because i genuinely thought they are just saying the truth, especially my family.
This is so so true! All my childhood whenever someone said something out of jealousy or bad intentions, I could just never figure that out and I took that to be true! Infact I don't quite understand what is the need for someone to be jealous for anything at all!
Yes😊
From Aspie to another thank you for this!
@Tweed Penguin People can identify however they want tbh. You don't have to like the term
@Tweed Penguin no, I don't understand it in this way, please don't let your social undersight statements rules your life, please be proud of that what makes you unique, unlike the others, that what make you so special, the whole World would have to speak. Don't be ashamed, embrace the beauty of being different!
Hold up I think I know you an seen your videos.
@Tweed Penguin not especially a good one from different professionnal point of view... consider what Laurent Mottron a research specialist in autism that has a informations worth to consider
@Tweed Penguin yes it was. However so many people around their world were diagnosed with Asperger's. So for many autistics it is a HUGE part of their identity. Give them time to get used to the new terms and don't take away something that they see as part of who they are.
"I thought I was the modern equivalent of the village idiot" touched me very deep because I realized that that's what it was for so long and that this is why I'm so engaged in getting recognized as someone with Aserger's. I'm tired of being the village idiot when in fact I just function differently than average people.
same here. Though I don't tell people that I have Asperhers, because that is something that I rather keept to myself as well as family and a few friends, but that is what I felt like for a very long time. It didn't take until finding out that I have Asperger's that I realized that I'm not stupid and that I just think differently.
@So Lo it gets you in trouble at work because you think outside the box. It can seem like discord if not expressed correctly.
You guys are not village idiots. You are called one by the idiots. Nobody would think that in their right mind NT or not. You guys are awesome. I dated an aspie and even though romantic relationship has it’s own challenges because of different needs he is still my favorite human being. I have so much respect and love for him.
@@elfglow4557 ❤️
You are no idiot. You are a gift to this world. I am not just saying this.
The visualizing little shows or worlds you've created in your head is so spot on relatable. I've never heard anyone explain it like that. Wow.
I used to go to the library at school during lunchtime to try and escape into my imagination to avoid all the bullying. I was bullied all through primary and secondary school and in the workforce.
I am an Aspie. This documentary makes me feel MUCH BETTER! Thank you!
I am a gamer, and I am an Aspie. Thanks for producing and creating this eye-opening film. I identified with most of the traits depicted from the individuals you interviewed though everyone's autism is different. How my diagnosis plays in my development and into my adulthood is the fact that I am audio sensitive and unable to multitask when it comes to certain duties. And like most people, my K12 education was very chaotic for me that I don't even like to talk about my high school experiences, I have actually destroyed and tossed away my yearbooks because I don't want to reminisce the negative experiences I've endured. When I go to public places to socialize, like there's this place I go to sing karaoke, if I interact with someone I have not ever met, the only time I will speak to them is if they compliment about the songs I sung. But I am careful and cautious of who I interact with because they may be up to no good. As as far as my strengths are concerned, I tend to be creative and fascinated with art and music and of course video games. I can even remember 40 years ago and I'm only a young 46 yr old.
Being Introverted doesn't mean u don't like people it means u prefer to be alone or have a small group of friends. That's how it is
as for me its just i dont like being watched lol...i guess thats why i say big fuk you to big brother
Nope it means that people drain you and you need time alone after being with people. Extroverts get energised by other people. It’s nothing to do with how friendly or social you are.
The difference is introverts can have the prrfect skills to socialize naturally and never want to do so, autistics can't even if they are willing to it takes them more time to adapt and obtain those skills to a certain extent
@@noblestsavage1742 I get energy from good people but go out less because of the magnetic attraction bad people have for me. I would sit and draw, then get into trouble and barred for being stalked 3very day by Martin Woods and his accomplices.
@@carolinemacrae6227ouch
why would anyone "Dislike" this video?! Perhaps competitors of Channel Topic? I sincerely appreciate your video! Answers so many questions. I'm holding back tears. Thank you for your courage and your willingness to share. Aspies are beautiful people oftentimes.
My parents have always been anything but supportive. They have mocked and bullied me for years, verbally attacking me for being different. I had to escape. Now that I am an adult with a family of my own, they wonder why I don't come visit them. If they can't figure out the reason by now, they never will. I now strive to be the kind of parent I never had. It's bittersweet what Asperger's can do for a person.
Same😊
I have high functioning autism. It has been very difficult to socialize. I have that same sensory to the volume. I am glad to finally find someone who can actually relate.
If you have one person who is alive who understands you, you are so blessed The struggle to appear normal will last a lifetime if you don,t. Just me.
I'm 25 with Asperger's, and I work 40 hours a week. I'm very satisfied with what I do. My co-workers are amazing! I hope other adults with Asperger's who are employed feel the same way!
I wish I could find a workplace where I didn’t need to mask😔
@@archdukefranzferdinand4429
Same 😢
Alyssa. Thank you so much for making this documentary. Just showed it in my Abnormal Psychology class and the students loved it. This is a dual enrollment class so the students are in high school getting a college credit. They really appreciated the clarity with which you presented the symptoms and the adaptations. Keep using those super powers for good!
Thanks for showing it in your class! I hope it was enjoyed and informative for everyone :)
If I had one message for people with Asperger's it would be "Try not to get frustrated with things that your not good at, I'm not saying not to care, just realize that it might take some time". It took me 27 years to understand this. Sending love and hope to all in the community.
I was diagnosed with aspergers at the age of 5 and I'm a girl, I'm actually happy I have it because I have a wide imagination and Know more about computers than others my age and more about animation. The only thing bad about it was my depression and social anxiety but I coped with it by lookin at the positives ;)
I am your male version, but still having a hard time coping with mine.
And woohoo to girls in tech! I am learning to code now in the hopes of a career change from a socially demanding one (that was causing me to be phsyically ill) to one where I can work from home and utilize my creativity. I'd like to get into app building and maybe video game design or something. I'm finding learning to code so rewarding. It feels safe being in my house all day. And it feels nice working on something super logical and like...fun.
Yes! FINALLY someone like me who likes to do what I like (I'm an aspie, btw)
im normal, and i get bored too easily
I'm a mathematician, coder and Aspie as well. I've been diagnosed last week and I'm 26. It's been awful to live a life without knowing why I was different from everybody else. At least now I can relate to people like you guys.
Dear Alyssa,
Thank you for making your film. I am 61 years old, and am just beginning to figure things out. I didn't understand what was so different about me until I was diagnosed a few years ago. It is amazing to begin to realize what you already know. I wish you well.
Same here...im 52..and just found out. It explains all my relationship...friend...work failures. I wis my meltdowns would go away😥
How did you get your diagnosis? Did it help you?
@@priscillaanderson2949 I am not sure if my reply was posted. I'll not repeat what I wrote unless requested. What I did decide to add to my response was that I just went on medication that has improved my state of mind significantly. For this, I am grateful to have had the information about high-functioning autism. I couldn't have advocated for myself without it. I have only been on new meds for about six months...but I feel remarkably well. The meds work on dopamine rather than serotonin.
@@Cindy-ys9xb Thank you Cindy that was very helpful. It does help me to understand why certain things help me (like pushing myself physically). And the documentary was very good, thank you very much.
I love how happy Katie looks when she talks about her stories.
I love it too. I find it very endearing about her, and the stories themselves are incredibly unique and interesting so I like hearing about them when we hang out.
❤️❤️❤️ Love this video. You remind me of an older version of my daughter. She shows many of the signs and symptoms of Asperger’s Syndrome and is being evaluated. I’ve made mistakes with her when believing she isn’t taking heed to what I tell her and is not paying attention to her surroundings. So I’ve been reading up on AS and watching videos of others who have AS and it’s really eye-opening to me. I want to parent her to the best of my ability and provide her with the support she needs. I have compassion for Aspies because I am a highly sensitive person and have been accused by my parents as being “too sensitive” and “different”. I also had social difficulties growing up and even in adulthood. I’m a lot better at handling them now. It is now my job to make sure my daughter is a well-adjusted, happy individual who will be productive in society. Thank you for this!
Good😊
My Grandson and myself are Aspies. It is so nice when we are together we can really understand d each other. It is wonderful having a intellectual discussion about anything!
I'm on the spectrum, so is my brother but my parents just ignore him. It's so sad. He has no friends and his ankles are swollen from sitting at the computer all day. Making friends is so important. Friends just like the ones in this documentary.
So sad to read this. Please reach me maybe i can help somehow
As a sister Make sure u don’t ignore him. Get him outsude for walks and be his friend
@@marymolloy4396 Yes!
My son is an aspie too, glad you guys aren't in NC there is nothing here that helps. It's chaos at best. This video helped a lot. Thank You!!!
Alyssa, you did a fantastic job with this documentary! You are certainly a force to be reckoned with and I wish you and your family all the best. 💜✝️
thank you for making this film. my boyfriend has asperger's & it helps to know more than i did before watching your documentary.
i believe you will do great in the film industry! really, really great!!!!
The part about the imagination is what I connected to the most. The only problem is my imagination is so vivid that I can literally just think about something and trigger the same reward response in the brain as if I had actually done it. It gets really frustrating.
I love my over active imagination. My dreams are even more amazing! I refuse to take medication pumped out by big pharma to stifle my imagination. It's mine and I will not give it to them!
Like exercise--I imagine it so vividly, that I feel tired once I want to do it, physically. Which is why I try to school my thoughts, but it's bloody hard.
Medications are such a fraud.. yeah, some people do need them. But some, or many, actually don't. There are cases where the medications itself IS THE CAUSE of suicidal thoughts and severe anxiety 24/7. and the medications are highly addictive - people cant just stop taking it, or they will die. ...Look, at what those so-called 'medications' do to people. It's not something that should be taken daily, but some people thought that these meds, or drugs, can solve their problem, which is not.. and their should refrain from taking it every damn time they have problems - like, painkillers: my friend said that she'll try to be patient, try to not taking painkillers when she can, because she knows, it's not that good to take it too much.
Spot on man
@@second_second_ Man, I remember when I was forced to take medications. Suffice to say, they ruined me and sent me into a pretty nasty depression. And despite me being very obviously unwell and making it very clear that I didn't like it, my parents where still pushing for it simply cause my doctor said so and due to my grades going up, despite that the later thing was due to me finally getting the aid I needed. It finally took the teachers raising concerns over my mental health to finally remove that shit. But suffice to say, the scars that stuff inflicted on my mind still lives on years later.
What a wonderful documentary! The filmmaker and her friends were so lovely. Thank you for sharing. God Bless!
Alyssa I can relate to, highly functioning, but some symptoms are still pretty bad... its a weird position to be in. Also, MY GOD this documentary deserves its 1mil views!
Glad we can relate. :) For that exact reason I don't buy into "high functioning" or "low functioning" labels anymore because my functioning varies from day to day and with certain activities.
And thanks~!!! I was super happy when it finally hit 1 million views, I feel proud of this project and the hard work we put into it. :) :) :)
Agreéeeed😊
“Wired differently”
I can’t say how many times I’ve heard that
@espoir inconscient it is
This was so amazing. My boyfriend has autism and this helps me understand him better.
So glad about that!
He's lucky.
What an amazing wonderful mother!
i have aspegers its very hard to be "normal" and fit everyone's expectations..
Agreed!
no such thing as normal its good to be unique and its for people to accept you and fit in with your expectations don't let people call you names like my abusive ex called me well he was handicapped and mad ok
This was so helpful. I'm 23 And was just recently diagnosed with Aspergers. My main symptoms are social issues and obsessive interests. Unfortunately most of my internets are not "age appropriate" as they are things like dolls and other toys. It really hurts my feelings when people say that I'm too old for my dolls.
I know what you mean. I know quite a few girls (and boys) on the spectrum who are into things considered "childish." My take on it is--who cares? You're never too old for what you love. "Age appropriate" is just a concept people use to make others conform to "common interests" as they grow older.
maybe this is your aesthetic then ruclips.net/video/pb3IdLdIc6s/видео.html
Marie Osmond loves dolls, and she's not afraid to tell the world. I love children's literature and cartoons. I'm not going to be shamed. 💗
I’m 47 and I have dolls! I love them. Maybe because their facial expressions ver change! Lol. Just kidding. I haven’t been diagnosed yet.
"Yes I am different, but there is a reason..." When I realized that there was a sort of medical condition, or perhaps just a different way of being for some of us, it was indeed a relief. In a sense, it is finding "normalcy" or realizing that yes, some people just are this way. And that in itself was kinda comforting.
Suggested video after a conversation with a friend.
Thanks for always listening Google
Just realized that. Yesterday my daughter ask me to spell autistic twice and my phone was beside me. Here I am the next morning seeing it recommended
Thank you for making this. Had me in tears through a lot of it as it's all so familiar. I wish I had the network of Aspies you do. Fitting in anywhere has always been so challenging for me and I just hate thinking that I need to make excuses for my behaviors to NT's and just don't get the understanding that I need. Having an ASD is not an excuse, its a reason for why we are the way we are and more people need to accept that we are not broken.
Tysbm,
As a parent ,I have seen a lot of this in my daughter, since before she was diagnosed at 21. What Dr Wahlberg was saying about the lightswitch switch was the hardest thing for me, as mom, to deal with . The identification of Aspergers helped our relationship and helped her understand herself. She had a health crisis and her college ended after a month, but at this time she's got a remote internship learning to do IT Sys admin, and it's a perfect fit for her limitations and her super powers.
This is amazing! Please keep up your interest in filmmaking. We need you. And women need you.
Finally found this again after two years! Why I didn't think to check my watch history to begin with is beyond me, but I'm glad I rediscovered this.
Dear Alyssa:
All my life I have fought against social anxiety and it's been hell in life. I have considered surrendering more than once, but, besides that, I had always wondered why I was a literary genius. I had the belief that someone greater had chosen me to deliver "out of this world stories" to Earth (I can tell by the look on the eyes of whom have read my tales and novels). I was diagnosed with Asperger last Friday and suddenly everything makes complete sense to me.
Today I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart because, after watching your documentary for the first in my life I gotta the feeling I belong somewhere and it's the most beautiful thing that has ever happened in my life.
:')
Welcome to our awesome community, fellow aspie :)
I'm so happy you guys made this documentary! I have ASD too, I just found out about 15 years ago. I'm really glad more and more people are learning about Asperger's. Thank you so much!
I wish I had known ANYONE similar to me as a child. My son is the only person I know who is similar to me now. I'm soooooo proud of him, he deals so much better then me. He has very little depression and loves to socialize even though he realizes he can be a bit awkward. I on the other hand have become a depressed recluse. My son inspires me. I'm supposed to do that for him. I'm glad to see that todays Aspies approach life probs from another angle.
+Auntie M Yes, we do. But there is no reason you cannot start to socialise! When I was eight I had no friends, but now that im 15 I can socialise fairly normally. Its never too late.
That's sweet for you to say but I'm almost 40, I don't even know where to start. There are no programs here where I live . I did ok as a child but I learned early early to keep my friends to a select few. I would encourage you Alan to never stop socializing. Be better than me. That's what I tell my boy.
Auntie M There are programmes for people your age. Just getting outside and talking to people will make you naturally better at socializing.
This documentary has really helped me understand what two of my sons that have recently been diagnosed with Asperger's at the ages of 34 and 26 are going thru. Thanks for the upload.
What a wonderful job explaining the Asperger's to the rest of the population. Videos like this one help so much in understanding how these beautiful minds function and how we need to be much more sensitive to the fact that their "differences" are not the disadvantages; they are gifted and we need to be thankful that they share their giftedness with us.
I am learning so much from videos like this one! We need more of this content, so that the world could be a better and more beautiful place.
Thank you!
Fantastic documentary. Thank you for making this.
My son 13, has just had an official diagnosis although as parents we have long believed this to be the case.
I'm here on RUclips looking for information to share with my kids, family and friends to help them understand and educate them. I'll definitely be getting them to watch this one.
Thank you for making this
My son is an Aspy. He is our greatest gift. Thanks for this great doc. It was wonderful!
I have aspergers, I suffer from everything else and every other sensory thing EXECPT for loud music, I'm a huge heavy metal/alternative music fan and have played guitar for 12 years myself, and also (make attempts to) sing I love it, can't get enough of it. Also have a friend who's band I play with sometimes who has aspergers and loves the same music too, he's an incredible vocalist AND drummer
I know two guys with autism who are total metal heads and one is also a musician. I don't like metal (well some I do...but I don't like angry sounding metal) but I don't mind loud noises. I am a musician and love to play at all volumes. I blast music when I clean my house or walk my dogs. I struggle when the world is 'quiet' because i hear high pitched frequencies and they drive me nuts!
I've corrected the English subtitles up to about 7.5 minutes so far. I'm busy at college but will finish the corrections as I have time to do them, and I'll comment again when they're done!
+AlyssaHuberFilms thank you this helps me a lot to understand myself. I have felt from another planet for years now, just starting to understand.
+AlyssaHuberFilms UPDATE: They are now corrected up to 20 minutes, I will finish them soon :)
Hey thanks for the subtitles! It would help if they weren't highlighted in yellow because I can barely read them.
It might have something to do with your browser. It should appear as white text on top of a translucent black highlight.
The subtitles for me have white text with a black background on any device I use... have you tried multiple devices? Or perhaps there is a setting to change the color on your end?
finding a friend as a normal person: minecraft
finding a friend as an aspie: dark souls
Neurotypical*
A neurotypical trying to befriend an aspie can be quite frustrating, too.
Any profound difference creates a gap.
There's also that saying that very intelligent people have a harder time finding friends.
Naturally. "Normal" by definition means fitting in with the mainstream.
Anyone abnormal in any way will have added difficulty fitting in, leading to a heightened desire to self-'improve'.
Personally in my early life I fell for selfish people's bullshit and believed I had to improve myself and eventually realized they were never on my level to begin with in regards to character. They had merely learned to mask their selfishness with BS, which is very common and thus normalized.
🤣🤣🤣
@@Dowlphin Usually if someone thinks of themselves as 'very intelligent' they often aren't, on the contrary, people who usually feel as if they're mediocre are actually the intelligent ones. Don't quote me on this though, I'm sure you're the exception
Being an aspie myself I can really relate to the sensory problems. I hate loud noises like the fire drill at school it just pierced my ears. I also have never enjoyed fireworks because they are so loud. Also I am very picky about clothes and texture. I can't stand when I get a new shirt and the area around my neck is so tight I feel like I am being choked. I have always liked loose clothing and cotton material clothing. I can not stand wearing anything itchy it will just make me very uncomfortable and irritable. I always try to avoid crowded places as much as possible because it is so noisy and claustrophobic and it makes me get really stressed out physically and mentally. Socializing has also been very challenging for me because I felt like nobody understood me. Things like parties and social gatherings have always been hard for me and I prefer to just be with one or two close friends. A major struggle for every aspie is when nuerotypical people think we overreact to certain sensory things but they don't see or feel what we feel and it is exhausting.
+Blue 97 Your last statement captures it well... and also, I seem to deal with a lot of the sensory stuff you go through. I made another video with Katie talking about her experience with fire alarms--you might be interested in sharing it with others so they can understand your reactions better. ruclips.net/video/PhXgUbWfSN8/видео.html
Lotor the Magnificent you are not alone on that last part I 31 and still dealing with accepting my body I figure out
How to deal with crowded places
I look in windows and shine like a reflection of the cars paints objects
When I in the city just walking in extreme crowds I do get nervous
But always have something in my hand to just focus on and not on
The people staring at me like that
U could try it worked for me
To not think that everyone is staring at me so after i past that challenge
I just look around on RUclips
And came a cross a channel
Well a RUclipsr say if u having
Trouble with watching straight just
Watch people on different parts of there body u can also see true them
For me is always been difficult to watch guys like straight in there eyes
Because I gay so I will be watching confusing but will be sweating a lot
I feel the same way. Your not alone
I often hate the horns of vehicles when I hear them.
@@tonyshumway7652 I always used to be very distressed by the sound of Snufflupagus from Sesame Street because he sounds like he's talking from inside a gas mask. Oddly, Darth Vader's voice doesn't bother me....
You are wonderful Alyssa. I think I have asperger's, I'm 36 and have felt like an alien for so long. It has been so painful. I have been suicidal and depressed and treated for other issues. Part of me feels terrified but part of me knows that I can find some relief.
I'm sensing that there is also this nihilistic part of you that feels like something doesn't really matter any more because you don't know what you really want or are lost with what to do next.
Thank you so much for this video. My husband is on the spectrum although undiagnosed, his nephew is diagnosed as having Asperger's and the similarities are uncanny. He is extremely intelligent but lacking in social skills and has sensory overload, is very easily distracted by sounds, easily angered, and extremely focused on interests. In addition, I see degrees of ASD in many of our children and at least one of our grandchildren. My grandson Sam is on the spectrum I believe though he is not diagnosed. He showed an early talent with words and could spell 3 and 4 letter words at 2 and by three he had gained an interest in dinosaurs such that he knew all their scientific names and could identify them easily by 4. He also has many of the characteristics that you mentioned in this video. This video helps me to understand my family members better so that I can love them better. I am so thankful for your courage and determination and for overcoming your anxieties to produce this video. May God continue to bless you to be a guide to people on how to understand and love Aspies. Sincerely, thank you.
Hi i'm Sam, i'm an Aspie from Italy.
I just recently acknowledged that.
Your video was the first documentary
I saw, and I'm so glad i did it.
Thank you.
+the one left out :)
Wow, thank you so much guys for compiling this video together, i'm just starting my aspie journey, at 24 it's been a long time coming, i'm starting to understand more of who I am now, your video has really opened my eyes, thanks again =) keep up the good work!
No problem! Thanks for watching!
Becky Wood I'm also 24 but I don't have a diagnosis YET, my mom is taking me to get tested soon though and people that really know me believe me to be an aspie
Thank you so much. Videos on RUclips really help in trying to find who i am. I havent been diagnosed, but I relate so much with how aspies describe the world, i believe i do. 💕
I'm 22, and my Aspergers has become near crippling. Very interesting watch and helps put things into perspective. Thank you ever so much!
I'm sorry to hear things have been so difficult for you! I try to be positive about ASD but I cannot deny the difficulties. I hope you can find things to help you function better.
This is an excellent film. Thank you so much for producing it! I'm sure it will help many people find more self-acceptance.
Thank you so much for posting this! I think it's really important for people to understand what it's like for a person who deals with this every day.
I never learned to mimic, I just learn to except I'm weird. I know I'm a freak, I don't hide it. Been there, tried that. Never worked.
+Pansy Parkinson so how do people relate to u then?
They don't
+Pansy Parkinson I think I can relate to those feelings and to you. You are no freak to me :)
You aren't a freak. I think aspie are wonderful. I'm jealous of your amazing minds. My six year old is so intelligent and funny and so creative. I have ADHD and social anxiety so I think I understand some of the social awkwardness. Lol I just don't have the aspie intelligence 😂
Pansy Parkinson i mimic to the point it now effects me and how i act if you know me. I am now VERY obnoxious at times but it usually turns out making my friends laugh so I just do it and enjoy myself better that way. But my personality first hand is just robotic and fucking odd.
Great mini documentary, kept me both learning and entertained the whole way through. 10/10!
Getting through public school was the hardest part of my life. If I could give advice to any young people with ASD would be to hang in there it gets easier with age. At 37 my life is the best it's ever been. Great job , married with 5 daughters. 3 of them are just like me
If you don’t mind me asking, has being social ever been an issue for you? If so, how have you worked with it?
For me it never ended. Glad it got better for you.
Wow Alyssa, I enjoyed watching your beautiful documentary. I can totally relate to what you were mentioning. I was diagnosed with Asperger's at 49 year old back in the fall of 2013. I am very sensitive to bright lights and loud sounds. I feel the bright lights seem to hurt my eyes and I dim the lights around the house in the evening until someone in our family brightens them once again. I thrive on having a routine and try to keep it going daily. 💞💕
For some of us asperger isn’t ‘mild’
You are right. It takes over a person's entire life.
It’s a mild form of autism
That’s what she said
@@anonymouschange287 But it sure isn't "mild" for the people living with "mild autism".
Jennifer Sinclair I know I’m just saying to neurotypical people it appears more ‘normal’ so that’s why it is considered mild. Still a struggle for sure just not as outwardly obvious, and not as different to neurotypical
@@anonymouschange287 Yup! My oldest sister has level 1 autism ("mild autism") and she comes across as just "weird" to the world rather than bluntly autistic. But her whole life is crazy. She spent the last 4 decades lying to people about everything and "laid off" from many jobs.
Absolutely wonderful. Very professional level content, production and heart-felt script. Than you so much.
I am an Aspie. I have a lot of trouble with a lot of things. However, I have been successful financially. I was lucky. Like the doctor said, stick to what you’re good at. I had to learn that by myself-I wasn’t diagnosed until my mid 30s. I know what I am not good at somethings -my girlfriend is NT and she reminds me whenever I step out of line.
Great documentary Alyssa! This really helps me understand what my little boy may be dealing with as he grows. Thank you.
Thank you Alyssa, Katie and everyone who has generously offered their stories and skills for this film
My sixteen year old sister is not diagnosed with Asperger's, but after doing research, I'm almost 100% sure she has it. It really struck me the other day when she made a concerned facial expression while talking to me and it really threw me off because I realized that I had never really seen her make a facial expression before. She will smile and stuff, but it never reaches her eyes. None of her emotions reach her eyes, but I only finally realized it when she actually DID show a glimpse of a facial expression.
My parents don't want to get a doctor's diagnosis because they don't want to "put a label on it" or doom her to think that there's no way for her to be normal, but that just doesn't seem right to me.
+KimPossible There are advantages and disadvantages to the diagnosis, but I thi the good outweighs the bad. A diagnosis may help your sister understand the way she is and not blame herself for being different. Having a name for it also could help in searching for answers online or finding others like her. Also, things like school or work accommodations often require a diagnosis.
The greatest downside (especially in my experience) is that it can be used as a crutch. While I would advise anyone first diagnosed to explore their own behaviors in relation to ASD, as they adjust, I think one needs to take responsibility for their actions, Asperger's or not. What helps me is to really own my struggles, as mine uniquely, not blame a label, and explain to others "I struggle with this" rather than "I have Asperger's." That sort of approach really helps in communicating needs and accommodations as well.
I haven't got a diagnosis yet, but I am pretty sure I do have it. To be fair, I really want the diagnosis. I have always felt different than the people around me, and I just thought I was a freak, or that everything was always my fault, but if I do end up with this diagnosis I can finally make peace with it and understand why I am the way I am. To me, not having a diagnosis is the biggest problem. I know you posted this a year ago, but I hope that your parents have come around a bit and have been able to let her make her own decision about whether or not she wants the diagnosis.
At 16 it should be her choice if she wants to be diagnosed or not. If she doesnt have a problem with how a diagnosis probably isnt going to do anything for her.
KimPossible Same, I'm 16, and I'm not diagnosed with Asperger's. But I'm pretty sure I have Asperger's:)
Ugh, I hate the word normal.
Yup I was diagnosed with Aspergers, OCD and major depression about 6 years ago. I have social issues the most. I'm introverted. Luckily I have a brother who also has Aspergers and were as close as it gets. Together we like to create worlds, characters and creatures/species. We put our ideas together and create amazing stories! Our characters and imagination is very real to us, at the same time we know it isn't real.
All my life I was an outcast in school, I was bullied, picked on and I felt alienated. If I'm surrounded by people I get very anxious I just wish to be invisible. I feel like everyone is judging me. I had to drop out of highschool cuz it was just too overwhelming. I was homeschooled after that which was, beyond a sigh of relief.
I can be happy one second and get sad the next. If I get on a line of thought it can turn dark and get depressing. For example my cat died recently, I keep thinking about death and my whole family dying and I just feel overwhelmed. Thinking of my Mom or grandmother dying or worst of all my brother dying scares and saddens me. I hope somehow we die at the same time instead of separately.
We basically do things on a schedule, we draw and roleplay at least once a day. We also love video games and anime. Our worlds have been largely based on anime. And we also get inspiration from video games and movies. I often wish we had a machine that could take our stories and turn them into watchable anime. It'd be really cool to see, and maybe people would understand all that goes on inside us and maybe come to accept it better, I don't know.
In my experience I'm happy I have Aspergers. When I was diagnosed it's kind of a relief. You know that it's not all just in your head, you are different. It's hard to explain. I guess giving my condition a name just put me more at ease with myself.
I'm horrible at face to face conversation, but if my face isn't seen I can talk and talk and talk as you just read, lol.
I'm on Deviant Art if any of you wanted to see some of my characters or stories. Midnamoony is my name on DA.
Midna Moon Bro you're literally me :3
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Midna Moon you know your imaginations can become a board game you should really look up dungeons and dragons...
I love this girl so much. She strives very hard to improve herself and helped me to understand aspergers so much better. I hope many more people can try to understand these people's lives and help them.
Thanks for making this documentary. I'm not officially diagnosed, but I understand being an Aspie. Great job and I can relate to these reasons with Asperger's.
You have a lovely mother, be grateful. You did a good job. I hope you, the younger generation, will be able to establish us a place in this world and help people to understand us better.
this is one of the first videos that has spoken to me on a level that I wish other videos or people would. some people know of my depression, but none know of my anxiety and especially my issues with sensory stuff, they're biggest at school or concerts, like katie described. but I don't want to diagnose myself and I am afraid of people not believing me..
There's always a risk of people not believing you even if you have a diagnosis, but from my experience, it has been worse NOT being diagnosed. It's easier for others to accept your weaknesses if it is connected to a disorder. Someone close to me used to think I was lazy, but has gone easier on me after my diagnosis. When you have ASD, you have clear disadvantages, and having the diagnosis allows you a bit of space to catch up. I still have had some friends who assumed I could "improve myself" or I just needed to "work harder" to be normal in spite of the diagnosis, but the benefits of having it far outweigh the few misunderstandings.
Alyssa Huber - The Life of an Aspie thanks for thr nice reply. The thing is just.. for an actual diagnosis, I would need my parents to know because I am not 18 yet. But they've never believed a bit of anything regarding my health and mental health- I'm just so scared that I will not be diagnosed with it and that I have been "blaming" my social difficulties and basically everything on my asd that isn't there..
Well, there's only one way to find out... do you think that giving it a try is better than remaining uncertain? In any case, I know how it feels for others to not believe you. It causes a lot of doubt. I would suggest seeking an answer, and being prepared to accept whatever it might be.
I was diagnosed with Autism when I was 18 years old; I was tested many times but for some reason the Doctors never picked it up. I wasn't given help for a very long time and was bullied in school, outside, in my own home and even molested by my cousin and best friend's grandfather more than once. I wish if I was diagnosed much earlier then I would have gotten help instead of suffering.
Aura flower Thompson Why didn't you call the police?
Or run away?
Man, how old are you?
Thank you so much, Alyssa, and thanks to your friends as well, for sharing all this with us. It really is helpful
This is an excellent film which all Aspies and those they live with, should watch. It explains a lot. I am almost 70 and have had to figure much of this out myself. My wife, kids and grandchildren are Aspie to some degree.
Thank you for this video Alyssa. I feel like I understand my daughter so much better now!
I have met AS and have seemed normal to me, is why I am glad this documentary is "through the eyes" because it gives NT's the perception of even though you guys seem normal, you have a tremendous amount of everyday hurdles.
+m169marroquin So true. Everyone's "deficits" are different :) and I hope people can understand that. Being NT doesn't make you better!
Such an AWESOME documentary young lady. I am so proud of you. I have recently been diagnosed Aspie (ASD-1). I am 42!
How can this video have any "thumbs down"?
I have Asperger's, and I found this documentary extremely informative for a neuro-typical and accurate. A lot of the circumstances are exactly what me and my sister go through.
Thank you for this great film. I love that I can come closer to understanding the point of view of others who perceive and process things differently than I do - you're helping all of us with empathy!
Thanks!
This was so good! The young people in this video were so level-headed and self-accepting. And we know it took so much work just to get that place.
I felt so at home watch ing this video. I am "artistic" but my son is an Aspie. I loved this documentary as he did ( he is just 12)!. I live in Chicago and I went back to school to study psychology too! I am my son's advocate! I have inundated myself with anything As pie related since his diagnosis ( 2011). What an inspiration you are!
Thank you all sooo much for this Amazing video! You have all truly helped me🤗🥰🤍
On church communities, I think you and Katie should check out a church that does chant, like Byzantine, Orthodox, or traditional Catholic Churches (or monasteries, abbeys, etc.) You need a peaceful sound experience in worship. Just a random thought as I watch your video. Thanks for doing this, btw. It''s wonderful.
Thank you for your courage in posting! Its helping me not feel so alone in this.
Alyssa, your documentary needs to be part of our educational curriculum! I think it could save so many kids.
I'm an Aspie too
Do it! Your world sounds amazing and would be a great way to teach good messages. :)
I'm in the process of writing Vael into a novel, so Seamus may get to teach some things as well!
Alyssa Huber - The Life of an Aspie Thank youuuuuu. When it's out tell me where to get it. I'm interested
I also made my own world, I thought I'm alone lol.
I've had a fantasy world in my head since I was in middle school. Before then I would imagine vivid scenes, but once I entered adolescence I started to make coherent settings and long stories. Currently trying to write a novel in that setting but find I am so exhausted from my noisy day job that it's difficult to do much more than crash out when I come home.
I'm 4 years late to this comment, but I've never read something I relate to so much. Thank you :,)
When he was talking about having his arms crossed; i can relate so much.