How Resilience Breaks Us Out of Our Vulnerability Cage | Taryn Stejskal | TEDxValparaisoUniversity

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  • Опубликовано: 18 ноя 2024

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  • @idreamtranslator1
    @idreamtranslator1 2 года назад +455

    "Challenge, change & complexity", I like how she pulls this together with vulnerability.

  • @juniorjensen
    @juniorjensen 2 года назад +57

    I'm so amazed by the fact that this woman was ever able to feel safe again, let alone work through the trauma to become a well adjusted human who wants to help others in such a personal way. Just... wow.

    • @tellmystory9488
      @tellmystory9488 2 года назад

      agree!

    • @virgillopez5889
      @virgillopez5889 2 года назад +1

      We often think that showing our vulnerability is a sign of weakness when actually, it's a foundational practice of resilience

    • @joemurray1664
      @joemurray1664 2 года назад

      resilience is the essence of what it means to be human, and this is a really important area in this field that is so catastrophically misunderstood

    • @barrywells2020
      @barrywells2020 2 года назад

      resilience and vulnerability to psychopathologies have been suggested to depend on the early background

    • @melindarichardson9342
      @melindarichardson9342 2 года назад

      Resilience (is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things don't go as planned.

  • @woodychuck
    @woodychuck 2 года назад +66

    This definitely has made me contemplate a few things in my life and I appreciate having come across Taryn's talk here. Needs to be watched through.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад +3

      Hi Woody, I am glad to appreciated coming across the talk and that it give you reason for contemplation. I am grateful you’ve invited others to watch it all the way through!

    • @woodychuck
      @woodychuck 2 года назад +1

      @@dr.tarynmarie1729 wow, thanks for replying, so cool!

    • @viccromtron
      @viccromtron 2 года назад +1

      Woody! thanks finally watched!

    • @onurgalbas
      @onurgalbas 2 года назад +1

      Me too I get this.

    • @woodychuck
      @woodychuck 2 года назад +1

      @@onurgalbas cool

  • @sonny-johnson
    @sonny-johnson 2 года назад +1

    Saving for when I need a reminder.

  • @billy-martin
    @billy-martin 2 года назад +48

    I realised I don't have to have all the answers with no need to freeze by not knowing what to do. Routine keeps me present as its too easy to get stuck in thought. Turning resistance into resilience and a 'just get on with it' self cheer works for me.

    • @erikashik
      @erikashik 2 года назад +1

      As long as we aren't projecting our own experiences on others, assuming how we see life is how it actually is for others.

    • @dotheyrock8637
      @dotheyrock8637 2 года назад +1

      Its a good concept for sure.

    • @NICHAYONTARARAK
      @NICHAYONTARARAK 2 года назад +1

      Definitely well said, we have different kind of resiliency. And assuming how we see life is how it is for others is fine as long as we aren't projecting our own experiences on others.

    • @Iam-ok7oc
      @Iam-ok7oc 2 года назад +1

      I do completely agree with you. Keeping moving will help us no matter what. Thank you.

    • @Raul_Godan
      @Raul_Godan 2 года назад +1

      That was great, indeed.

  • @lanazaja
    @lanazaja 2 года назад +3

    Oh this is so good!

    • @emmashubert
      @emmashubert 2 года назад +1

      Hey, thanks for sending me this talk, she is awesome!

  • @pennjteller
    @pennjteller 2 года назад +1

    The deeper we can dig, the further we can go!

  • @makiweshter
    @makiweshter 2 года назад +1

    I needed to see this today. Thanks so much!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      I am so glad this message spoke to you at just the right moment in time!

  • @riciphariss107
    @riciphariss107 2 года назад +1

    Resilience will always be important, because in life there will always be setbacks.

  • @agathachristie7253
    @agathachristie7253 2 года назад +1

    I will show this video to my brother who needs a little more resilience in life

  • @joycewright2788
    @joycewright2788 2 года назад

    Oh Taryn, you are heavent sent and a true leader in healing work!

  • @victhatsme
    @victhatsme 2 года назад +1

    Quotable. Well worth the watch.

  • @bethanybutzerthesurfer
    @bethanybutzerthesurfer 2 года назад +1

    Lots of people have unbelievably heartbreaking trauma stories and most of them are people you would never expect.

  • @bagostan1898
    @bagostan1898 2 года назад +2

    It really is remarkable how much resilience and vulnerability go hand in hand.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад +1

      Right? I was initially surprised by this too. AND it makes total sense now.

    • @bagostan1898
      @bagostan1898 2 года назад

      @@dr.tarynmarie1729 Cool, thanks for replying, thats very cool too?

  • @virgillopez5889
    @virgillopez5889 2 года назад

    Resilient people have solid goals, and a desire to achieve those goals.

  • @leotencall
    @leotencall 2 года назад +1

    What she talks about around the 9:00 mark is seriously knowledge that everyone should have.

  • @tibogoth
    @tibogoth 2 года назад +1

    Very well-said, Taryn.

  • @graysonmyles
    @graysonmyles 2 года назад +2

    A clear-calm mind within acceptance is what I think everybody wants. There is graciousness that comes with it, a silence of the mind with quiet focus. This speaker has this and listening to her is very calming.

  • @giuliocecchinato
    @giuliocecchinato 2 года назад

    Your honest and authentic voice is inspiring.

  • @gazioktay441
    @gazioktay441 2 года назад +6

    This talk was pretty tough to get through but I think that ties in to the whole point she's making here. It can be tough to sit and listen to someone's trauma when we don't know how to respond. But if we face that with openness and an ability to express our own vulnerability it creates understanding, empathy and kindness. All of which we quite desperately need at this time

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      I really appreciate your perspective and how your experience feels very “meta” to having the actual experience of hearing my resilience story while I talk about the importance of sharing and bearing witness to others resilience stories! ❤️🙌🏻

  • @immayasass
    @immayasass 2 года назад +2

    I always feel a bit self-critical when I share stories about trauma, so I appreciate Taryn's perspective here.

  • @teclio7379
    @teclio7379 2 года назад

    It was interesting to read about the impact reliable transportation had on a patient's recovery and their sense of independence.

  • @thetrevorbinder
    @thetrevorbinder 2 года назад +1

    "Vulnerability is the cornerstone of resilience" Thanks Taryn something to think about.

  • @ca-it-lin-ro-ss
    @ca-it-lin-ro-ss 2 года назад +1

    8:40- this is where this talk really begins to deliver!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you, Caitlin! I am delighted this section spoke to you!

  • @averyrothschild
    @averyrothschild 2 года назад +1

    "Vulnerability, as it turns out, instead of being the opposite of resilience, it's the cornerstone of resilience." 💯💯💯

  • @caroldendy851
    @caroldendy851 2 года назад +2

    Love this!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад +2

      Thank you, Carol! I am honored and delighted that you do!

    • @caroldendy851
      @caroldendy851 2 года назад +1

      @@dr.tarynmarie1729 Bless you, and thank you!

  • @immanualjoseph3513
    @immanualjoseph3513 2 года назад +7

    Loved your talk Taryn and glad I got to see it in person! Congratulations!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      I'm so grateful for your kind words Immanual! So glad you got to see it in person too!

  • @theluisquinn
    @theluisquinn 2 года назад +4

    “We all will face our own moments of challenge, change and complexity”. This is a truth that runs very deep

    • @jodikennedy8886
      @jodikennedy8886 2 года назад +1

      Thanks, I get it too!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Dang! Yes. So well encapsulated!!!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Yessss! Right? This has resonated deeply for me. I am glad to hear this spoke to you as well.

  • @PedroSilva-gv1xl
    @PedroSilva-gv1xl 2 года назад +1

    very good this content of this video contribution friend, the explanation is absolutely good it helps me a lot with this information about this video

  • @sonyakirby
    @sonyakirby 2 года назад +1

    It takes a lot of courage and yes - vulnerability, or rather, willingness to display vulnerability - to be able to go there with some people.

  • @thehumanresolve
    @thehumanresolve Год назад

    Wonderful tips, Taryn!

  • @briannavantifcampen
    @briannavantifcampen 2 года назад +3

    Taryn is a woman who has truly looked within herself and opted for growth in the face of trauma. What a force

  • @jonathanvallers
    @jonathanvallers 2 года назад +1

    I can definitely understand how sharing your trauma makes other people feel safe to do the same thing, but in doing that, you're still being so vulnerable, there is no guarantee as to how that person will respond.

  • @marychristmaseveryone
    @marychristmaseveryone 2 года назад +2

    So very very true. Our minds carry loads of life data that can lock us in.

  • @juanwafford
    @juanwafford 2 года назад +1

    There is something really empowering about being honest about the instances in life that change our views, our security - instead of hiding away out of shame.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      I couldn’t agree more! Shame, unworthiness, lack, and pain all run rampant in the darkness of not sharing. Bringing them into the light allows us to shake free of their hold and see our stories and ourselves in a new light!

  • @erikashik
    @erikashik 2 года назад +1

    Brilliant talk. Thank you Taryn. Sharing.

  • @luna-marco
    @luna-marco 2 года назад +1

    There's something from her that just glows strength and peace. I adore her!

  • @forsaken-lover9508
    @forsaken-lover9508 2 года назад +1

    Taryn, this is brilliant. Thank you for this realness.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you for these incredible words and encouragement. It means so much to me!

  • @fortunaterbush8607
    @fortunaterbush8607 2 года назад

    You hear a lot about growing and developing resilience - both in ourselves and in children - for good reason.

  • @westhalbrook2472
    @westhalbrook2472 2 года назад +2

    When faced with trauma I agree most people would respond with either "fight, flight or freeze" instinctive behaviours hardwired in us.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Yes, exactly. These initial responses can save our lives. However, overtime they are not adaptive, and we get to cultivate other skills and behaviors!

  • @ThisIsMyGalaxy
    @ThisIsMyGalaxy 2 года назад +2

    Brilliant thinking! I see why she has the role and company that she does! Long gone are the days of stifling what we've been through to appear "strong".

  • @tomdashwood9578
    @tomdashwood9578 2 года назад +1

    She shares her story with such poise.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      It’s taken a whole boatload of healing ❤️‍🩹, courage, and practice!

  • @jeffgoldygold
    @jeffgoldygold 2 года назад +1

    Our perfectionist driven world means we hide the most important parts of our humanity, not only from other but also from ourselves.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      I could not agree more, Jeff!!! There is such a high standard to have it all together, and the pressure to be perfect is exhausting, and often detrimental, because it cuts us off from being truly real with others!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Yes to everything you said here!

  • @23-Max-23
    @23-Max-23 2 года назад +1

    This is such a good talk articulated perfectly and brilliantly.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Max!!! Thank you. Your words mean the world to me. 😊🎉

  • @bjdogg
    @bjdogg 2 года назад +2

    It breaks my heart that so many women have a similar story that began as a child or adolescent.

  • @hollymarston
    @hollymarston 2 года назад +1

    Wow... I am in shock about what this woman has experienced.

  • @DrishtiRaval17
    @DrishtiRaval17 2 года назад

    Self-learned resilience, as the name implies, is the resilience that you build up in yourself through concerted effort. It is the result of being aware of the opportunities for self-development and the courage to take advantage of them.

  • @jacetorence
    @jacetorence 2 года назад +1

    Definitely can break us out of our cage but there is something to be said about knowing when to reserve your energy and when to face the things that confront us the most.

  • @bridgettemsanders
    @bridgettemsanders 2 года назад +2

    RUclips won't let me use the kind of words I want to express how I'm feeling but she is definitely the right person to be talking about resilience.

  • @joemurray1664
    @joemurray1664 2 года назад

    Resilient people have a positive image of the future. That is, they maintain a positive outlook, and envision brighter days ahead.

  • @surut7825
    @surut7825 2 года назад +1

    I think this is going over some peoples heads. The whole point is that as you share your own story you are both stepping out of the 'vulnerability cage' and into your own sense of power through allowing yourself that vulnerability.

  • @blockchainbobisbroke
    @blockchainbobisbroke 2 года назад +1

    I'm blown away by how brave this woman is. Amazing Taryn, just amazing.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you 🙏 Blockchain Bob. I appreciate your thoughtful response! I am deeply grateful for your response!

  • @hamgifford
    @hamgifford 2 года назад +1

    Much respect Taryn, you should be incredibly proud of your achievements.

  • @hadlieghbaxter
    @hadlieghbaxter 2 года назад +1

    I like this talk very much, it's wonderful to tell the untold stories.

  • @jeansammy
    @jeansammy Год назад +1

    Taryn, I can't even find the words to say how grateful I am to have seen your talk today. I will be looking up more of your work. Thank you

  • @georgemanu
    @georgemanu 2 года назад

    "Productive perseverance" I think it's important for us to learn the difference between that and unproductive perseverance. You can only keep knocking your head against a wall for so long.

  • @janiceglanders
    @janiceglanders 2 года назад +1

    Brave and courageous how Taryn has managed to break through these obstacles and truly advocate the way she does. I appreciated her speech so very much.

  • @justineberne
    @justineberne Год назад +1

    I'd be interested to hear Taryn's thoughts on holding trauma in our bodies... She's certainly experienced and worked through enough of it to know.

  • @alanwoopchuck
    @alanwoopchuck 2 года назад +3

    It wasn't until I started going to a men's group did I realise just how important vulnerability is and the strength it can add in my day to day life. Really appreciate this one Taryn, will be sharing with my group.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you, Alan. I am honored that this was meaningful to you and that you plan to share with your group.

  • @janetsplace1953
    @janetsplace1953 2 года назад +1

    Love this, love her!

  • @lizb5458
    @lizb5458 2 года назад +1

    This is a brilliant talk, will definitely be sharing as I think we can only benefit from learning how to embrace vulnerability!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you, Liz B! I am honored and excited you plan to share the talk!

  • @suebakernottly
    @suebakernottly 2 года назад +3

    I love the storytelling aspect of this, I have been in companies where I didn't really know who I worked with. And then in a few cases learned about the people next to me and discovered the wealth of ideas they have based on what they went through. VERY GOOD TALK!!!!

    • @justinerather
      @justinerather 2 года назад +1

      Ha you saw it first, she is very good isn't she?

    • @suebakernottly
      @suebakernottly 2 года назад +1

      @@justinerather lol!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад +1

      Sue, thank you! Wow! I am reading through your comment now, along with you and Justine’s interchange, and it makes me giggle and feel so grateful that all this courage I mustered to tell this story and share these practices has been meaningful to you. It makes it all worth it! Thank YOU!

    • @suebakernottly
      @suebakernottly 2 года назад +1

      @@dr.tarynmarie1729 I loved your talk Taryn, some times I find if I just listen I learn so much, and I listened to your talk...

  • @tetrusexpert
    @tetrusexpert 2 года назад +1

    What a wonderful speaker you are and I feel your pain. Locked in and you don't even know it, until you learn to free yourself.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      This is such a beautiful way to explain it! Thank you!

  • @shiasmarglent8554
    @shiasmarglent8554 2 года назад +1

    Living independently, she explains recovery very well based on observation.

  • @alanpotsypotts
    @alanpotsypotts 2 года назад +1

    We've been inside these cages for way too long. Good work Taryn!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Time to break out, Alan! I feel you! I have been there!

  • @paulacharlesstanley
    @paulacharlesstanley 2 года назад +1

    I needed this today. I’m a mess of tears right now but feel so seen.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Paula, it is amazing to hear that this talk allows you to feel so seen. I am grateful!

  • @Osandy___jonesO
    @Osandy___jonesO 2 года назад +3

    For someone who has been fighting the duality of ignoring the feelings I have on certain events - I'm quite often told to "just get over it" or "stop holding onto things" but in reality, I just need to be able to talk about stuff in order to regain my sense of self and motivation.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад +1

      I feel your comment so much!!! I have been exactly there - just trying to be okay, feeling like I “should” be over it, wondering what’s wrong with me that I am still not over it! In reality, yes, I need to talk about it. And I will never be fully over it. It’s what formed me and shaped me, and I get to do my best to heal!

    • @thisislife8931
      @thisislife8931 2 года назад

      eat some cement and harden up is what my dad says

  • @lollo-lia
    @lollo-lia 2 года назад +1

    😬🤥😪 it's sad we have to continue to have these conversations, ensuring that people not only BELIEVE but UNDERSTAND. You would think by now with the access to information we have people would figure out what is actually important in our healing journey... Ms. Stejskal is a true angel here helping us, I just hope we listen!

  • @juliosester281
    @juliosester281 2 года назад

    Every mistake has the power to teach you something important, so look for the lesson in every situation.

  • @iamtheunusualsuspect
    @iamtheunusualsuspect 2 года назад

    A absolute trooper

  • @lauralegault
    @lauralegault 2 года назад +1

    I appreciate the perspective behind sharing our vulnerabilities and it would be great if we could help each other and support each other as we unravel in order to find our peace.

  • @hudsonhalloway
    @hudsonhalloway Год назад +1

    You're really onto something here Taryn, sharing your talk to a few groups I'm in! Thank you so much!

  • @cherylschiltz4242
    @cherylschiltz4242 2 года назад

    Fabulously presented! I too have trauma in my past and everything Taryn shared is the reason I have found resilience.

  • @jaxstub
    @jaxstub 2 года назад +1

    For me, Covid 19 provided such a valuable lesson in what it means to be on the frontline of society. Talk about resilience and vulnerability on a daily basis. Really, in this light I have no problems except for the ones I choose to hold on to.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Jax, what an incredible perspective. I really appreciate you’re looking at life now!

  • @wadewilsonjr
    @wadewilsonjr 2 года назад +1

    What Taryn said at the 10:00 minute was empowering and relatable. Knowing yourself and being able to connect to your intuition is hard.

  • @valentinalatonia
    @valentinalatonia 2 года назад +1

    Oh bless her heart, this is good and important!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      This might be the first time someone blessed my heart in a comment, and I am here for it! Thank you!

  • @jordanjpatterson
    @jordanjpatterson 2 года назад +2

    Resilience, I love that word. It helps me look for ways to stay present and connected. I've been meditating in this past year and it has changed my life for the better. This is a skill that, once honed, can be used again and again and again.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      This. Is. Amazing! Thank you for sharing!!! 😊😊😊

  • @Notthefootykevinrooney
    @Notthefootykevinrooney 2 года назад +1

    I use meditation for a deeper connection throughout my body and control of my thoughts, or lack of thought. This moves me from fear and past discomfort.

  • @austinjay9486
    @austinjay9486 2 года назад +3

    I was so shocked by her story. I know that sort of thing happens all the time but I just really wasn't expecting that to be where the story went.

  • @chantalbrovic
    @chantalbrovic 2 года назад +1

    What a lovely woman. I listened to her every word elegantly delivered, genuine, soft, emotionally strong and yet vulnerable.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you, Chantel! I am honored by your amazing words and feel encouraged by your share!

  • @markellwood9712
    @markellwood9712 2 года назад +1

    Dr. Taryn Marie shares her reslience story and discusses the five things that people can do to address challenges, complexity, and change. Worth a watch.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you, Mark. I am absolutely delighted and honored to read your comment. Dr. Taryn

  • @charlottewebbnotthebook
    @charlottewebbnotthebook 2 года назад +2

    There is a real obsession with ‘sharing your truth’ ‘being vulnerable’- yes, it has its place and can be healing for you and the listener. But what I believe the world really needs is to be taught to LISTEN to the stories and experiences that people share. No point in talking if no one is capable of listening.

    • @thisislife8931
      @thisislife8931 2 года назад +1

      so true, thanks for sending to me!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      I love your point about both telling and listening!

  • @thomaspowell3rd
    @thomaspowell3rd 2 года назад +1

    The question at the 8:20 mark took me a second to understand, just because of the timing but once I got it it really did make me think! Now I'm not sure if I've ever actually faced any of those things to any large degree because all my answers are just 'adapt'.

  • @lizettesimon478
    @lizettesimon478 2 года назад +1

    This is a powerful talk and quite heavy subject material. I have a lot of admiration for Taryn to be able to articulate all her thoughts and feelings around this without completely falling apart - regardless of whether or not you agree with her, opening up her story to be discussed like this in such a public way requires a level of courage I can't even fathom.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Lizette, thank you for your thoughtful and encouraging words. It has, indeed, been quite a path getting to embrace this story and the courage it has taken to learn to tell it in a way that I can share my resilience story with others in a way that is helpful.

  • @dakjussord821
    @dakjussord821 2 года назад +1

    sometimes it's also important to be detached from the outcome of sharing. Not everyone is capable of responding well, not everyone has the emotional intelligence to understand that need to share. If you share without expectation, that is a powerful place to come from.

  • @sandypogson
    @sandypogson 2 года назад +5

    Yes, sometimes there is strength in not telling your WHOLE story... Though not in this instance. I think it's important for her to have told the whole story, so we have a full understanding as to why she's an authority on the subject - and an incredible one at that. Well done Taryn for all that you are and all you have achieved.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      I agree and thank you. This is a great comment and addition to this conversation!

    • @hubert-olszewski
      @hubert-olszewski 2 года назад +1

      Thanks for sending me this Sandy!

  • @Favekillertunes
    @Favekillertunes 2 года назад +1

    In awe of people like Taryn who open their hearts so effortlessly, even after suffering something so traumatic.

  • @andrewtsilas
    @andrewtsilas 2 года назад +1

    I hate the idea that we have to normalize trauma and encourage resilience. I just keep reminding myself that hopefully this all leads to us breaking the cycles that are keeping us in this state.

  • @heathermack
    @heathermack 2 года назад +5

    Taryn is a gift sent from above! I’ve been fortunate enough to know her personally (ya i might be a little bias 😉) and she has taught me how to be vulnerable, love myself where I am at and how be resilient working through trauma. My heart fills with joy seeing her share this divine gift and touching more lives. Keep spreading your light sweet soul, we are blessed to have you!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад +2

      Thank you, beauty! You are a gift to this world. I love that I’ve gotten to contribute to your growth and evolution and healing in a meaningful way. There is no higher honor or greater success you could offer than this!!! 💕✨💕✨💕✨

    • @M-ps6ve
      @M-ps6ve 5 месяцев назад

      ur hot though

  • @owen-watson
    @owen-watson 2 года назад +1

    How heart breaking for you to have experienced such a violation in your own bedroom, your safe place.

  • @noahjerted
    @noahjerted 2 года назад +1

    I've had an experience very much like this woman though far less severe... the feeling of being so vulnerable and exposed in what is meant to be your ultimate safe place is one of the hardest things I've ever had to recover from. I can not commend this woman enough for the emotional and mental labour she must have done to get past it.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you, Noah. I feel seen and understood by what you shared and how my talk resonated with you. This. Is. Exactly. It. It’s taken decades to learn and grow and rehabilitate, and sometimes it comes back up for me. Thank you for being here with me in this journey!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you. Your words, empathy, and understanding mean so much to me! Yes, it’s been a difficult road, and I am grateful I get to share my journey in service of supporting others now!

  • @angelabedard2317
    @angelabedard2317 2 года назад +1

    I love you Taryn! We need this so much as we move forward with our resilience - I think for so many it has been thought that resilience means to be hardened by your experience and to carry on - but when we allow ourselves to let these times flow in and out of us and allow ourselves to be honest and real it brings such peace and stead-fastness. Thank you so so much!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you, Angela! What came to mind for me when I was reading your comment is that in the face of challenge, we can be wood or water, flexible or rigid. I like how you pointed this learning out and brought a new perspective too!!!

  • @junipruit
    @junipruit 2 года назад +1

    AMAZING!

  • @knockitdownagain
    @knockitdownagain 2 года назад +4

    I hope this gives voice to the reminder that sometimes, those who go onto act the same way to others as they were acted upon, is a sign of of needing to do exactly what Taryn is saying here - talk about. Talk about it, to a professional especially.

    • @thisislife8931
      @thisislife8931 2 года назад +1

      good send, thanks

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you for sharing this! You perspective is so important here. We often keep our resilience stories hidden, and when we bring them into the light, we can heal and grow. Thank you 🙏, Knock it down!

  • @jesvnt4128
    @jesvnt4128 2 года назад +2

    Loved your talk Taryn and glad I got to see it in person! Congratulations!"Challenge, change & complexity", I like how she pulls this together with vulnerability.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you so much! I was so nervous before I got on stage. I still can’t believe I was able to string together a sentence let alone articulate all that!!!

  • @actionfigure2191
    @actionfigure2191 2 года назад

    I think if we are vulnerable and allow people that same vulnerability we learn so much about why they are the way they are, and with that understanding we can better relate to them, which is pretty crucial for building any relationship.

  • @acciaisardino3470
    @acciaisardino3470 2 года назад

    The way she breaks down what it means to be vulnerable, and how it's the cornerstone of all these wonderful qualities like resilience and authenticity is pretty amazing.

  • @jodikennedy8886
    @jodikennedy8886 2 года назад +1

    So true, really love this talk!

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you, Jodi! I am so delighted you love it!!!

  • @jsisjajja
    @jsisjajja 2 года назад

    maaaan i keep seeing this type of stuff everywhere

  • @charlieonno
    @charlieonno 2 года назад +1

    Thank you Taryn for sharing this story. It really unravelled something in me but I am grateful for it.

    • @dr.tarynmarie1729
      @dr.tarynmarie1729 2 года назад

      Thank you, Charlie. I am grateful and honored that this TEDx talk spoke to you!