Please join the Facebook support group so that we can support each other! I’ll share updates and info about getting IVF in Korea there for those interested. facebook.com/groups/1058899261969918/
Hi my sis, Hellynn I am on the same page. give your self time and relax. Don’t lose hope don’t give up my dear. I do IVF then I have miscarriages the next month I don’t see my period I become pregnant naturally I am 12 weeks pregnant everything went well till now I am hoping my miracle baby continue to develop well I am praying for you miracle happen to you my dear.
In the last two years, I went through the 3rd cycle of ivf (icsi), 7 failed transfers, only one, 6. was a successful implantation that ended in a very early loss. In this cyclical process, I gained 12 extra kg, I feel broken emotionally, physically dissatisfied. I will also take a break through the summer, and try again in the fall. I'm trying to lose weight, I'm eating healthy, that's basically how I've been eating all the time, but I feel like the pounds have literally stuck on. Besides being sad about the seven losses, I still have to fight with the pounds that don't want to move down. I wish us both luck in the fall ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story and my heart goes out to you… I am so sorry for your losses. You have a very similar story to mine. I had seven embryos, and two of them stuck, but lost them. It is a very grueling journey, but we are strong 💪 I guess we’re on the same page having gained the same amount of kg! trying to exercise more and eat a tad less, hopefully by the end of the summer, I will be back to my normal self. Wishing you nothing but the best. Let me know how your progress goes, and have a restful and beautiful summer.💖
Thanks Hellynn for your channel. ❤ It's helped me get through my ER cycles last year (after being diagnosed with DOR at age 27 and 2 MCs). I'm still going through the IVF journey. But wanted to say your videos mean everything!! As an AAPI, I totally relate with the pressure of "doing it all" (e.g. body image, having kids, having a career). You're not alone. Your videos are SO inspiring and helped me feel understood and get through all the downs.🥺 Thank you!!! And I'm super hopeful for you!!!! Youre so strong! 💪🏽
@@megantsui6244 Hey there! Thank you for your beautiful and encouraging words! I am so grateful to be a small part of your journey and hope I can be helpful. Thank you soo much for sharing your story and I would love to have you join the facebook group so we can KIT💗
After IVF and the miscarriages I had an immune therapy that helped me to not feel tired and to do exercise again. Finally I lost 9 kilos in three months, 5 of them the first 3 weeks, and it felt much much better for trying IVF again. I made 7 embryos after that I had lost all my previous others with 5 miscarriages, and I am getting ready for embryo transfer now in the next days. I totally understand your path. Have a very good time enjoying yourself back home! All the love
Thank you for sharing your story. First of all, I am so sorry for all your losses. My heart really close out to you and everything that you went through, but I am so happy and excited for your future. Good luck on your embryo transfer.. lots of baby dust!! 💖💖💖 I am also interested in learning more about the immune therapy for myself as well.
Just a quick search: Immunotherapy can be used in in vitro fertilization (IVF) to improve outcomes for patients with recurrent implantation failure or pregnancy loss. The idea is that immunotherapy can correct an immunological imbalance that may prevent the embryo from implanting and lead to a better live birth outcome.
I recently went through 2 Egg freezing surgeries. The first one happened after a year of total imbalance, of not eating well, not sleeping enough, a huge amount of stress from work, from a really bad breakup. My AMH was .2 (I'm 31) and I only got 3 eggs. Then, i was fired, but it was the best that could happen cuz I could get my life back into balance. Eat well, sleep well, take a break from a toxic environment. I went through surgery again after 2 months of resting and taking supplements and this time I got 8 eggs! It really does help to give yourself a break! Wish you the best!
Thank you for sharing your story, how inspiring! I totally agree with you that sleep and rest will bring forth the best results. Wishing you all the best of luck in your journey, please let me know how it goes❤
I wish more people would say “you’ve gained weight” years ago I was so out of touch with my body I didn’t realize how much I was gaining. I’m down 96lbs. You need a good detox girl! You’ll get there ❤️
Wishing you the best! You deserve a break and in due time, you will get your baby! I was 41 and 45 1/2 when I had my daughters, natural conceptions. So, I hope that gives you some hope!
Did 1.5 years of IVF. Ended up gaining about 5 lbs but looks more like 15 lbs in how it completely changed my body composition. Like whoa. I exercised throughout whenever possible but my appetite was sooo high and bloating unreal through the egg retrievals & medications. Beyond an arduous process. Idk if my body will ever go back to the cute petite figure I had but that’s just not priority right now, healthy babies are. Btw, you are sooo lucky to be able to do IVF in Korea. It’s bankrupting in the US even with decent insurance if like most, it takes 1+ years.
Youre right, it’s not the priority right now as long as we are healthy❤ agree with you on appetite. I might have been eating healthy but i did eat a lot! You can always come to Korea if you feel its too expensive in the states. Ive set up bloomkorea.co so that we can help women from US and other countries come to get IVF in Korea. Wishing you so much luck on your journey. 🍀🍀🍀
It’s good you’re taking time off. After 4 treatments I was so stressed out. Emotionally hopeless, physically tired and anxious. Also had a bad family drama. I needed to take a break which I did. Those 1-2 months months I took a break, I filled myself with family. I started not to worry about IVF and beginning to accept that if we won’t have a child with my own egg, it would be okay as well. We can consider donor’s eggs or even adopt. I did my 5th treatment (4th IVF) I was positive and wasn’t over worrying, I became pregnant. I found out last week. Now it’s a different kind of worry. Worry if she will grow and if I will end up with the 25% of the women who were pregnant and have miscarriages in the first trimester. It has been very hard, but I’m hopeful she will grow into a good human. I wish the best of luck to you.
@@jadormycc8819 hi! Congratulations💖 that is such happy news. I think its all about letting go. I hope that I am lucky like you when I return to Korea. please let me know how it goes. Will be praying for you❤️
I'm in the middle of the video but felt compelled to share. I have a BMI of 41 and I am currently 41 with a starting AMH of 0.13. After 5 rounds of stem meds, and four egg retrieval, we got three viable embryos and I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant after a successful FET. It wasn't easy. I gained a total of 20 pounds throughout the year between starting IVF and transfer. I started at RMA and finished my journey with Generation Next Fertility both in NY. I never had a clinic turn me away for being overweight but I believe others when they say it has happened to them. My advice would be to those who have the opportunity to look into different clinics and keep looking for one that doesn't discriminate. I am positive you can find a clinic that will work with you. ❤❤
Congratulations! Whenever I see a comment that somebody is pregnant, I really feel like it’s extra baby dust for the entire community! So thank you so much. Yes, I’ve heard of clinics discriminating based on BMI because they want to protect their success rates, but I don’t think this is right because as long as you have a chance, doctor should want to help. Fortunately, my hospital is not like that. Anyway, thank you so much for sharing your good news with me. Praying for a peaceful pregnancy for you❤
Yes. I agree with your therapist. Think of the law of attraction. Do not chase, trusting the universe that it will bring you what you are asking for. Let go of control.
Irrespective on whether you have gained weight or not, you are beautiful inside and out! And enduring such a journey only makes you even more beautiful. Sending you all the love ❤
Hi dear Hellen, Firstly, thank you so much for creating this channel and shaing your incredible journey with other couples struggling with fertility. I strongly believe, by self experience, that you have taken the best decision by giving yourself time to rest and heal away from all baby making relating subject. I also had a rough year of IUI and IVF rounds, resulting in a pregnancy of our last embryo, which unfortunately I lost at almost 8 weeks but didn't know until my 11 weeks at the doctor's appointment. After that horrible episode in my life, I was given the amazing opportunity of housesitting and dogsitting in Florida for almost a month. I live in Montreal, Canada. I just came back, and let me tell you I am a different person now. I committed myself to just enjoy, relax, and detox. The company of the dog helped enormously. I realized I needed to be loved and I gave her so much love in return. It was a healing process that hasn't finished but it all started when I decided to take sometime for myself. I believe this time away with your husband and at home will make you wonders. I wish all the best to you. Take care dear.❤
@@lorenagalvez8124 Thank you for sharing your experience. Im so sorry for your loss🙏 I hope this summer will bring us many blessings as we focus on healing. 💗
I’m finally getting a chance to watch this video. First I had to lose a LOT of weight to even be eligible for IVF since my BMI was so high to start. Then after two-years of busting my butt and 100’s of pounds gone, I finally start IVF back in January and I’ve gained 30lbs so far, it’s crazy!!! When you fight so hard to lose the weight, gaining so much back from the meds, bloat, stress eating, change in exercise routines, and back to back DuoStim cycles has really messed with my mind. I keep reminding myself that my body is not really mine right now, it’s just a cog in this IVF machine right now, and unfortunately I’ve had to make some sacrifices. I am very grateful for my body though and what we’ve achieved by the grace of God so far 🙌🏻🙏🏻 - I will honor my body by doing what I can when I can right now and getting back on track as soon as I’m able. I’m so happy to hear you are also honoring what your body needs right now too Hellynn and I hope you get more rejuvination and healing than you ever expected in your wildest dreams. Each day you spend putting your best foot forward brings you one more step closer to your goal and that’s all that matters right now. I think your therapist is so right about this being so suffocating for us and infertility can truly draw all your focus and energy to where you have nothing left for anything else. I pray 🙏🏻 God oxgenates and invigorates all of your endeavors and paths!!!
@@lauraellerman9443 I agree with you! It’s crazy how much we put our bodies through and the changes we endure. Gratitude is key to get us through this tumultuous journey. The odds are against us but God is with us♥️ Thanks for sharing your story babe
I cried when I watched your video. I think I understand your feelings when I went through a 6-month IVF journey in Vietnam without my husband by my side. I can’t wait for 12 weeks of pregnancy to fly back to the US, so I decide to fly back home one week earlier. You make me admire you because of what you've been through. I send you a big hug. I really hope you will be successful in your next embryo transfer. Take time for yourself and take a break from the IVF journey for a few months, then come back to it full of energy.
I gained almost 15kg. I used to love do crossfit, hiit and being able to do them because you feel bloated and need recover after egg retrieval, was the hardest. When I look at my new pictures, i can’t recognize myself. I decided to give myself like around 6 months and finish this long journey, and stick to all the exercices I want. Be proud of yourself, I shall as well, kisses from Paris ❤
Thank you for sharing! I was told not to do anything new with exercises and nothing strenuous bc our fertility decreases in fight or flight mode, but I think its different for everyone, esp if you were exercising lots before! I am sticking to light weights, yoga, brisk walking but the weight is so slow to come off.🥹 Let me know how your journey goes, hormone weight is sticky!! Sending love.❤️
Hi, I just stumbled across your channel. Yes definitely take time to enjoy life, be easy on yourself. I know too well about infertility as I went through it for 7 years and finally had a baby at 38 with the help of IVF. I didn't want to go through ivf but I was struggling naturally. It only took 1 go, as I prayed. I know the desperation to want that baby in your arms. Unfortunately I learnt the hard way about Fertilty it's not so good for everyone over 30 years and especially over 35. But theres hope for people 35 and over. I think taking ubiquinol daily, organic chicken broth and drinking lots of water helped my egg Quality. Enjoy the summer break ❤
Hi Helynn, I'm taking a break from my IVF as well, after my IVF failure. Back home with my husband. You have a lot of company here. Wishing you a pleasant time of recovery and rejuvenation. ❤
Hi Helen. I have been watching your videos for a while, and following your journey. I'm in my early 40s as well and have been going through IVF. I just wanted to.say you look beautiful and you deserve this time off. Have a lovely summer and be kind to yourself.
@@nailakhan8528 Hi! So nice to meet you and thank you for listening to my story. It’s really nice to connect with other women in a similar situation because not many people know what it feels like going through this. Thank you for your sweet comment and being part of my journey with me💗
You are still beautiful just the way you are. I hope you are enjoying your well-deserved "vacation" in your home in CA. You’ve been through so much this year and you deserve all the peace, relaxation and a break from all these you were focusing on. Sending lots of love and positive vibes your way😘💖
I had a high BMI when starting IVF, but only gained about 3lbs throughout the process. I'm now 9 weeks pregnant, but I wish I had lost a little weight before starting the process. Fortunately my BP and blood sugar are good so hopefully this will be a healthy pregnancy and labor.
Thank you for sharing and have a restful 'time off'. What your therapist said really hit home for me right now as my first FET was 2 weeks ago and my 3rd lab resulted today which had a decline in HCG :( . Now we wait for Dr instructions on next steps. Every wait feels like a lifetime. xx
@@_justjackie im so sorry to hear that… i know how that feels… happened to me twice this yr and it was brutal… I am sending you a hug💗 youre not alone babe
You are strong and beautiful! I hope your summer will be full of fun :) And one thing to mention about BMI statistics - I fully agree that health is important for IVF, but every body is so different and BMI is not the best parameter to make a decision about someone's health. I have BMI 30 (average in US nowdays), height 170 and my waist is 78 cm, so I'm not super model, but it's quite far from severe obesity as well. My hormones just won't work properly if I loose weight to get that "healthy" BMI 20. To all the ladies with higher BMI - take care go yourself, talk to your doctor and believe in success!
i totally feel you. this summer, i decided to have 1 glass of mojito, after 10 months without drink at all.... it was so refreshing.... im also taking easy in ttc. But i would like to suggest, comeback to lift weight a bit ( it will help with your insulin hormones), and your mental health. Other than that, im 100% like u
Haha.. Me also got addition 5kg after my ivf last 4 month.. It's make me slight overweight now.. I'm still following u and hoping to hear your good news after this.. Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart. ❤
Be strong and give yourself some time to relax. You are really an inspiration by sharing your story with all women around you in the same path. Best wishes! ❤❤
It may be that you have a slightly higher body weight compared to before, but the fact is that you don't look fat at all, I know that being thin is a beauty ideal in Korea, but is it right and healthy? Your body is already preparing for pregnancy. I am 100 percent sure that you will reach your ideal weight again in the future, you will go for a walk in the park with your baby, in your absolute dream figure. Until then, I wish you a positive world of thoughts, the more often you imagine yourself and your baby in your mind, the more real it will become. Keep up the good work, giving up is not an option. You are close to your goal. Best regards, Mery
Hellynn, have you tried red light therapy treatments? Look into it❤ I really like how the treatments make me feel and it's great for recovery after and so much more. On the same journey as you, keeping hope alive. Thank you for sharing your story, it can be lonely sometimes- I know- but I love your videos and how they help me feel less alone on this path❤
Im glad you are taking a break and Getting a chance breath again.❤ I know everyone’s pain threshold is different but im curious how were u able to do 9 egg retrievals back to back.. (u are so strong) was that procedure painful?
@@MissKsr1 thank you 🙏 it wasn’t painful. Because i have DOR and not a lot of eggs, my ovaries were never too swollen or damaged after the egg retrieval. I would take a break after about 3 months in a row. But i definitely feel the effects of the hormones as im taking a break.. it stays with you!!!
Dear I want to help u....u know I was in depression since 3-4 years and I have never thought that this will cause difficulty in conceiving...when I wanted to plan for baby..I got some blood test done...and my amh , suger level, Thyroid level everything was imbalanced... Then I started satvik movement channel diet which is Indian you tuber channel..pls go through that diet....dear... After following that diet my amh, suger level , Thyroid level report was surprising... and my hemoglobin always below 10 only but after doing that diet my hb was 11.9 which was lifetime high and my doctor previously she said dnt expect from first IVF ..but my first IVF got successful...satvik movement has videos in English language also..pls go through dear..god bless u .god will give u child.. I did yoga with satvik diet...3 mnths...pls dnt waste time just start diet and then u can see ur report after 2 mnths
@@Koms2765 I remember congratulating you before! Hope your pregnancy is blissful. I will check out satvik movement. What was the diet, in a gist? Curious if it would benefit women in their 40s.
I feel the same .. i have had my second loss.. i took blood test and it seems my thyroid not working goodly. As a matter of fact it didnt work goodly before my first IVF. I feel anger because why my doctor didnt say we have to heal it..i put all of my faith in my doctor and now it seems 1 year IVF 2 transfers, 2 early losses ( 4th and 7 th week) , due to Ivf i gained 8 kgs , water stack on my body, if you know what i mean, i lost my job because of ivf , i am depressed , i am looking like a monster and for nothing because i didnt even have chance from the beginning...i need heal in so many ways 😢💔
“No air around me”: I 100% feel you, but I still haven’t found a way to balance. Everything I do and all daily decisions revert around egg quality and ivf timing.. it honestly makes me feel better, like more in control, but I’m aware it’s definitely not the right approach. Everyone knows you need to let go to make it happen, but how hard is it for us to define how?! And btw, I started with an BMI of almost 18 and I don’t know anymore how much it is after 3 cycles, it’s maybe just 4 kg because I’ve been eating super healthy and I lost some of the weight in between cycles, but today (I just tested negative after the 2weeks wait) I feel just so round and in need for a refreshed horizon… thanks for your videos, please try to relax, and enjoy life. We all should ❤
Aww I am sending you love and empathy. This journey is difficult! We become so obsessed and ivf controls our lives and yes, the cycle schedule takes priority over things like travel, events, etc. i feel you💗Rooting for you to have peace and find moments of happiness through this journey. Let me know how it goes🥰
Uni ivf is not an easy road, I really understand, I always tell myself these are things god is tested me , if I suitable for being a mom ? God wants me to cherish the baby if I really susseful for being a mom
Hey love, its a tough journey i know.. i am here for you. Imagine how much we are going to love our babies once they come to us. It will be so special. ❤
Thank you for your videos. They gives me hope. I am praying for you. I had 2 egg retrivals and 2 canceled retrivals and have also gained weight and am taking the summer off to relax. I have a question you mentioned winery in your videos can you drink some alcohol while on a break from IVF?
Thanks for your support! It makes me so happy to hear that you feel hope. I am only drinking maybe one or two glasses a week? If that. I used to be so obsessed with wine.. Ive really changed my lifestyle!
Hi hellyn Any tips or advice on how to lose the weight I've gained from my ivf cycles. I had failed fresh and failed FET and now I am hating my body so much
@@syz9199 I am in the process of trying to lose a little too. It’s really hard to take off hormone weight!! But I would say you just have to change your diet and increase moderate exercise. Getting strict on the fertility diet (Mediterranean diet) has been helping! Also, speak kinder words to your body - it’s been through a lot, give it grace and gratitude 🙏
Please join the Facebook support group so that we can support each other! I’ll share updates and info about getting IVF in Korea there for those interested. facebook.com/groups/1058899261969918/
Hi my sis, Hellynn I am on the same page. give your self time and relax. Don’t lose hope don’t give up my dear. I do IVF then I have miscarriages the next month I don’t see my period I become pregnant naturally I am 12 weeks pregnant everything went well till now I am hoping my miracle baby continue to develop well I am praying for you miracle happen to you my dear.
Wow! That is such great news, I am so so so so happy for you and I’m praying for a happy and healthy pregnancy. Thanks for giving all of us hope.❤
@@hellynn_j❤❤❤
In the last two years, I went through the 3rd cycle of ivf (icsi), 7 failed transfers, only one, 6. was a successful implantation that ended in a very early loss. In this cyclical process, I gained 12 extra kg, I feel broken emotionally, physically dissatisfied. I will also take a break through the summer, and try again in the fall. I'm trying to lose weight, I'm eating healthy, that's basically how I've been eating all the time, but I feel like the pounds have literally stuck on. Besides being sad about the seven losses, I still have to fight with the pounds that don't want to move down. I wish us both luck in the fall ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story and my heart goes out to you… I am so sorry for your losses. You have a very similar story to mine. I had seven embryos, and two of them stuck, but lost them. It is a very grueling journey, but we are strong 💪 I guess we’re on the same page having gained the same amount of kg! trying to exercise more and eat a tad less, hopefully by the end of the summer, I will be back to my normal self. Wishing you nothing but the best. Let me know how your progress goes, and have a restful and beautiful summer.💖
Thanks Hellynn for your channel. ❤ It's helped me get through my ER cycles last year (after being diagnosed with DOR at age 27 and 2 MCs). I'm still going through the IVF journey. But wanted to say your videos mean everything!! As an AAPI, I totally relate with the pressure of "doing it all" (e.g. body image, having kids, having a career).
You're not alone. Your videos are SO inspiring and helped me feel understood and get through all the downs.🥺 Thank you!!! And I'm super hopeful for you!!!! Youre so strong! 💪🏽
@@megantsui6244 Hey there! Thank you for your beautiful and encouraging words! I am so grateful to be a small part of your journey and hope I can be helpful. Thank you soo much for sharing your story and I would love to have you join the facebook group so we can KIT💗
After IVF and the miscarriages I had an immune therapy that helped me to not feel tired and to do exercise again. Finally I lost 9 kilos in three months, 5 of them the first 3 weeks, and it felt much much better for trying IVF again. I made 7 embryos after that I had lost all my previous others with 5 miscarriages, and I am getting ready for embryo transfer now in the next days. I totally understand your path. Have a very good time enjoying yourself back home! All the love
What is immune therapy
Tagging on to hear more about immune therapy. And wishing you a lot of luck with your upcoming transfer @XXTargaryenXX!
Thank you for sharing your story. First of all, I am so sorry for all your losses. My heart really close out to you and everything that you went through, but I am so happy and excited for your future. Good luck on your embryo transfer.. lots of baby dust!! 💖💖💖 I am also interested in learning more about the immune therapy for myself as well.
What is this immune therapy? I feel like I need it too as I’ve been through four failed IVF retrievals. 😢
Just a quick search: Immunotherapy can be used in in vitro fertilization (IVF) to improve outcomes for patients with recurrent implantation failure or pregnancy loss. The idea is that immunotherapy can correct an immunological imbalance that may prevent the embryo from implanting and lead to a better live birth outcome.
I recently went through 2 Egg freezing surgeries. The first one happened after a year of total imbalance, of not eating well, not sleeping enough, a huge amount of stress from work, from a really bad breakup. My AMH was .2 (I'm 31) and I only got 3 eggs. Then, i was fired, but it was the best that could happen cuz I could get my life back into balance. Eat well, sleep well, take a break from a toxic environment. I went through surgery again after 2 months of resting and taking supplements and this time I got 8 eggs! It really does help to give yourself a break! Wish you the best!
Thank you for sharing your story, how inspiring! I totally agree with you that sleep and rest will bring forth the best results. Wishing you all the best of luck in your journey, please let me know how it goes❤
I wish more people would say “you’ve gained weight” years ago I was so out of touch with my body I didn’t realize how much I was gaining. I’m down 96lbs.
You need a good detox girl! You’ll get there ❤️
@@Healinghands829 wow! Down 96. What an achievement!! 💗💗💗
Wishing you the best! You deserve a break and in due time, you will get your baby! I was 41 and 45 1/2 when I had my daughters, natural conceptions. So, I hope that gives you some hope!
Oh wow! That gives me so much hope, I love it💖💖💖
Praying that everyone who sees this has a beautiful pregnancy and baby soon💖💖💖💖💖
Yesss🙌
Did 1.5 years of IVF. Ended up gaining about 5 lbs but looks more like 15 lbs in how it completely changed my body composition. Like whoa. I exercised throughout whenever possible but my appetite was sooo high and bloating unreal through the egg retrievals & medications. Beyond an arduous process. Idk if my body will ever go back to the cute petite figure I had but that’s just not priority right now, healthy babies are.
Btw, you are sooo lucky to be able to do IVF in Korea. It’s bankrupting in the US even with decent insurance if like most, it takes 1+ years.
Youre right, it’s not the priority right now as long as we are healthy❤ agree with you on appetite. I might have been eating healthy but i did eat a lot!
You can always come to Korea if you feel its too expensive in the states. Ive set up bloomkorea.co so that we can help women from US and other countries come to get IVF in Korea.
Wishing you so much luck on your journey. 🍀🍀🍀
It’s good you’re taking time off. After 4 treatments I was so stressed out. Emotionally hopeless, physically tired and anxious. Also had a bad family drama. I needed to take a break which I did. Those 1-2 months months I took a break, I filled myself with family. I started not to worry about IVF and beginning to accept that if we won’t have a child with my own egg, it would be okay as well. We can consider donor’s eggs or even adopt. I did my 5th treatment (4th IVF) I was positive and wasn’t over worrying, I became pregnant. I found out last week. Now it’s a different kind of worry. Worry if she will grow and if I will end up with the 25% of the women who were pregnant and have miscarriages in the first trimester. It has been very hard, but I’m hopeful she will grow into a good human.
I wish the best of luck to you.
@@jadormycc8819 hi! Congratulations💖 that is such happy news. I think its all about letting go. I hope that I am lucky like you when I return to Korea. please let me know how it goes. Will be praying for you❤️
I'm in the middle of the video but felt compelled to share. I have a BMI of 41 and I am currently 41 with a starting AMH of 0.13. After 5 rounds of stem meds, and four egg retrieval, we got three viable embryos and I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant after a successful FET. It wasn't easy. I gained a total of 20 pounds throughout the year between starting IVF and transfer. I started at RMA and finished my journey with Generation Next Fertility both in NY. I never had a clinic turn me away for being overweight but I believe others when they say it has happened to them. My advice would be to those who have the opportunity to look into different clinics and keep looking for one that doesn't discriminate. I am positive you can find a clinic that will work with you. ❤❤
Congratulations! Whenever I see a comment that somebody is pregnant, I really feel like it’s extra baby dust for the entire community! So thank you so much. Yes, I’ve heard of clinics discriminating based on BMI because they want to protect their success rates, but I don’t think this is right because as long as you have a chance, doctor should want to help. Fortunately, my hospital is not like that. Anyway, thank you so much for sharing your good news with me. Praying for a peaceful pregnancy for you❤
what do you refer as " stem meds"?
@@romaniamyland6191 i think she means stims
Yes. I agree with your therapist. Think of the law of attraction. Do not chase, trusting the universe that it will bring you what you are asking for. Let go of control.
Agreed❤ The affirmation for this week is ‘I trust in the universe to get me to where Im meant to be’
Irrespective on whether you have gained weight or not, you are beautiful inside and out! And enduring such a journey only makes you even more beautiful. Sending you all the love ❤
@@samaramahindra1 Thank you, love. You are such a bright light. 💖
Hi dear Hellen,
Firstly, thank you so much for creating this channel and shaing your incredible journey with other couples struggling with fertility.
I strongly believe, by self experience, that you have taken the best decision by giving yourself time to rest and heal away from all baby making relating subject. I also had a rough year of IUI and IVF rounds, resulting in a pregnancy of our last embryo, which unfortunately I lost at almost 8 weeks but didn't know until my 11 weeks at the doctor's appointment.
After that horrible episode in my life, I was given the amazing opportunity of housesitting and dogsitting in Florida for almost a month. I live in Montreal, Canada. I just came back, and let me tell you I am a different person now. I committed myself to just enjoy, relax, and detox. The company of the dog helped enormously. I realized I needed to be loved and I gave her so much love in return. It was a healing process that hasn't finished but it all started when I decided to take sometime for myself. I believe this time away with your husband and at home will make you wonders. I wish all the best to you. Take care dear.❤
@@lorenagalvez8124 Thank you for sharing your experience. Im so sorry for your loss🙏 I hope this summer will bring us many blessings as we focus on healing. 💗
@hellynn_j thanks. It will for sure. Blessings for you ✨️
I’m so happy for you ❤ congratulations on your pregnancy ! Good things happen to those who wait
Thank you!! 😊 I guess you’re manifesting it for me!
I’m finally getting a chance to watch this video. First I had to lose a LOT of weight to even be eligible for IVF since my BMI was so high to start. Then after two-years of busting my butt and 100’s of pounds gone, I finally start IVF back in January and I’ve gained 30lbs so far, it’s crazy!!!
When you fight so hard to lose the weight, gaining so much back from the meds, bloat, stress eating, change in exercise routines, and back to back DuoStim cycles has really messed with my mind.
I keep reminding myself that my body is not really mine right now, it’s just a cog in this IVF machine right now, and unfortunately I’ve had to make some sacrifices.
I am very grateful for my body though and what we’ve achieved by the grace of God so far 🙌🏻🙏🏻 - I will honor my body by doing what I can when I can right now and getting back on track as soon as I’m able.
I’m so happy to hear you are also honoring what your body needs right now too Hellynn and I hope you get more rejuvination and healing than you ever expected in your wildest dreams. Each day you spend putting your best foot forward brings you one more step closer to your goal and that’s all that matters right now. I think your therapist is so right about this being so suffocating for us and infertility can truly draw all your focus and energy to where you have nothing left for anything else. I pray 🙏🏻 God oxgenates and invigorates all of your endeavors and paths!!!
@@lauraellerman9443 I agree with you! It’s crazy how much we put our bodies through and the changes we endure. Gratitude is key to get us through this tumultuous journey. The odds are against us but God is with us♥️ Thanks for sharing your story babe
I cried when I watched your video. I think I understand your feelings when I went through a 6-month IVF journey in Vietnam without my husband by my side. I can’t wait for 12 weeks of pregnancy to fly back to the US, so I decide to fly back home one week earlier. You make me admire you because of what you've been through. I send you a big hug. I really hope you will be successful in your next embryo transfer. Take time for yourself and take a break from the IVF journey for a few months, then come back to it full of energy.
@@hangtrang2502 thank you so much for your kindness. Im wishing you well in your pregnancy! Receiving your hug fully💗
I gained almost 15kg. I used to love do crossfit, hiit and being able to do them because you feel bloated and need recover after egg retrieval, was the hardest. When I look at my new pictures, i can’t recognize myself. I decided to give myself like around 6 months and finish this long journey, and stick to all the exercices I want. Be proud of yourself, I shall as well, kisses from Paris ❤
Thank you for sharing! I was told not to do anything new with exercises and nothing strenuous bc our fertility decreases in fight or flight mode, but I think its different for everyone, esp if you were exercising lots before! I am sticking to light weights, yoga, brisk walking but the weight is so slow to come off.🥹 Let me know how your journey goes, hormone weight is sticky!! Sending love.❤️
Hi, I just stumbled across your channel. Yes definitely take time to enjoy life, be easy on yourself. I know too well about infertility as I went through it for 7 years and finally had a baby at 38 with the help of IVF. I didn't want to go through ivf but I was struggling naturally. It only took 1 go, as I prayed. I know the desperation to want that baby in your arms. Unfortunately I learnt the hard way about Fertilty it's not so good for everyone over 30 years and especially over 35. But theres hope for people 35 and over. I think taking ubiquinol daily, organic chicken broth and drinking lots of water helped my egg Quality. Enjoy the summer break ❤
@@lishas2582 thank you. Hopefully I can have a baby although I am over 40! I have faith!!🥰
Hi Helynn, I'm taking a break from my IVF as well, after my IVF failure. Back home with my husband. You have a lot of company here. Wishing you a pleasant time of recovery and rejuvenation. ❤
@@Dev-qz3zh aww.. hugs. We just sometimes need to take a break from it all! Wishing you a beautiful summer full of blessings. 💗💗💗
Hi Helen. I have been watching your videos for a while, and following your journey. I'm in my early 40s as well and have been going through IVF. I just wanted to.say you look beautiful and you deserve this time off. Have a lovely summer and be kind to yourself.
@@nailakhan8528 Hi! So nice to meet you and thank you for listening to my story. It’s really nice to connect with other women in a similar situation because not many people know what it feels like going through this. Thank you for your sweet comment and being part of my journey with me💗
You are an incredibly strong lady! May lots of blessings come your way.
Thank you so much! That is so kind. 💗
You are still beautiful just the way you are. I hope you are enjoying your well-deserved "vacation" in your home in CA. You’ve been through so much this year and you deserve all the peace, relaxation and a break from all these you were focusing on. Sending lots of love and positive vibes your way😘💖
@@yeonsilb thank you🙏♥️ positive vibes back to you my friend
I had a high BMI when starting IVF, but only gained about 3lbs throughout the process. I'm now 9 weeks pregnant, but I wish I had lost a little weight before starting the process. Fortunately my BP and blood sugar are good so hopefully this will be a healthy pregnancy and labor.
@@user-iv8jq7dd9y Congratulations! That makes me so happy. Sending you good vibes for a healthy pregnancy.💗
That sounds like a beautiful summer. Take care of yourself ❤
Thank you love ❤
Thank you for sharing and have a restful 'time off'. What your therapist said really hit home for me right now as my first FET was 2 weeks ago and my 3rd lab resulted today which had a decline in HCG :( . Now we wait for Dr instructions on next steps. Every wait feels like a lifetime. xx
@@_justjackie im so sorry to hear that… i know how that feels… happened to me twice this yr and it was brutal… I am sending you a hug💗 youre not alone babe
You are strong and beautiful! I hope your summer will be full of fun :)
And one thing to mention about BMI statistics - I fully agree that health is important for IVF, but every body is so different and BMI is not the best parameter to make a decision about someone's health. I have BMI 30 (average in US nowdays), height 170 and my waist is 78 cm, so I'm not super model, but it's quite far from severe obesity as well. My hormones just won't work properly if I loose weight to get that "healthy" BMI 20.
To all the ladies with higher BMI - take care go yourself, talk to your doctor and believe in success!
@@anav09 good advice 🙂 everyones body is different!
Hugs Hellynn! IVF is hard on our bodies. Good for you for prioritizing your mental and physical health this summer. Enjoy! 🩷💕
I appreciate you! Will do, sending love and light your way 💗💗
I totally understand what you mean and how you feel about weight gain. I’ve put on weight about 10 kg after a few rounds of unsuccessful IVF attempts.
@@annakhan267 and it’s harder to get off too! But trying!!
i totally feel you. this summer, i decided to have 1 glass of mojito, after 10 months without drink at all.... it was so refreshing.... im also taking easy in ttc. But i would like to suggest, comeback to lift weight a bit ( it will help with your insulin hormones), and your mental health. Other than that, im 100% like u
@@annerose4285 yes ive been lifting light weights :) trying not to add anything strenuous to my workouts!
Definitely enjoy this summer! Praying for the recovery and healing ❤
@@lydiakim2093 thank you!! 🙏
I can super relate with everything you shared. ❤ thank you for making us feel we're not alone!
Thank YOU for making me not feel alone ❤
Haha.. Me also got addition 5kg after my ivf last 4 month.. It's make me slight overweight now.. I'm still following u and hoping to hear your good news after this.. Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart. ❤
Thank you for your kind support❤ I agree with you.. everything in Gods time.
Be strong and give yourself some time to relax. You are really an inspiration by sharing your story with all women around you in the same path. Best wishes! ❤❤
Thank you for your support, I will🥰
Sis I pray for a spontaneous pregnancy for you. Trust God❤
@@listiyanischna thank you.. what a sweet msg🙏
Your skin is so so good. Also, you look so good :) i can understand everything but to me you look quite slim ❤
@@logicandlove8555 aw thanks💗💗💗 i think no matter what, as long as im healthy, im happy 😊
It may be that you have a slightly higher body weight compared to before, but the fact is that you don't look fat at all, I know that being thin is a beauty ideal in Korea, but is it right and healthy? Your body is already preparing for pregnancy. I am 100 percent sure that you will reach your ideal weight again in the future, you will go for a walk in the park with your baby, in your absolute dream figure. Until then, I wish you a positive world of thoughts, the more often you imagine yourself and your baby in your mind, the more real it will become. Keep up the good work, giving up is not an option. You are close to your goal. Best regards, Mery
@@bmop978 Thank you for the encouragement and the advice! I will focus on the end goal🙂
Hellynn, have you tried red light therapy treatments? Look into it❤ I really like how the treatments make me feel and it's great for recovery after and so much more.
On the same journey as you, keeping hope alive. Thank you for sharing your story, it can be lonely sometimes- I know- but I love your videos and how they help me feel less alone on this path❤
@@CT-pn6ku thanks for the sweet message! Yes i have done red light therapy all of last year but stopped during transfers. Will probably start again. 💗
Im glad you are taking a break and Getting a chance breath again.❤ I know everyone’s pain threshold is different but im curious how were u able to do 9 egg retrievals back to back.. (u are so strong) was that procedure painful?
@@MissKsr1 thank you 🙏 it wasn’t painful. Because i have DOR and not a lot of eggs, my ovaries were never too swollen or damaged after the egg retrieval. I would take a break after about 3 months in a row. But i definitely feel the effects of the hormones as im taking a break.. it stays with you!!!
Have a chill summer 🏝️
Yesssss you too😘
I'm sending you the biggest hug 🤍🤍🤍
@@saffronkylls7276 thanks saffy💗💗💗
Dear I want to help u....u know I was in depression since 3-4 years and I have never thought that this will cause difficulty in conceiving...when I wanted to plan for baby..I got some blood test done...and my amh , suger level, Thyroid level everything was imbalanced... Then I started satvik movement channel diet which is Indian you tuber channel..pls go through that diet....dear... After following that diet my amh, suger level , Thyroid level report was surprising...
and my hemoglobin always below 10 only but after doing that diet my hb was 11.9 which was lifetime high and my doctor previously she said dnt expect from first IVF ..but my first IVF got successful...satvik movement has videos in English language also..pls go through dear..god bless u
.god will give u child..
I did yoga with satvik diet...3 mnths...pls dnt waste time just start diet and then u can see ur report after 2 mnths
@@Koms2765 I remember congratulating you before! Hope your pregnancy is blissful. I will check out satvik movement. What was the diet, in a gist? Curious if it would benefit women in their 40s.
@@hellynn_j 😊❤️
I feel the same .. i have had my second loss.. i took blood test and it seems my thyroid not working goodly. As a matter of fact it didnt work goodly before my first IVF. I feel anger because why my doctor didnt say we have to heal it..i put all of my faith in my doctor and now it seems 1 year IVF 2 transfers, 2 early losses ( 4th and 7 th week) , due to Ivf i gained 8 kgs , water stack on my body, if you know what i mean, i lost my job because of ivf , i am depressed , i am looking like a monster and for nothing because i didnt even have chance from the beginning...i need heal in so many ways 😢💔
Awwww i am so sorry love. I know so well how you feel. Give yourself lots of grace - we will get there. ❤
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“No air around me”: I 100% feel you, but I still haven’t found a way to balance. Everything I do and all daily decisions revert around egg quality and ivf timing.. it honestly makes me feel better, like more in control, but I’m aware it’s definitely not the right approach. Everyone knows you need to let go to make it happen, but how hard is it for us to define how?! And btw, I started with an BMI of almost 18 and I don’t know anymore how much it is after 3 cycles, it’s maybe just 4 kg because I’ve been eating super healthy and I lost some of the weight in between cycles, but today (I just tested negative after the 2weeks wait) I feel just so round and in need for a refreshed horizon… thanks for your videos, please try to relax, and enjoy life. We all should ❤
Aww I am sending you love and empathy. This journey is difficult! We become so obsessed and ivf controls our lives and yes, the cycle schedule takes priority over things like travel, events, etc. i feel you💗Rooting for you to have peace and find moments of happiness through this journey. Let me know how it goes🥰
Uni ivf is not an easy road, I really understand, I always tell myself these are things god is tested me , if I suitable for being a mom ? God wants me to cherish the baby if I really susseful for being a mom
Hey love, its a tough journey i know.. i am here for you. Imagine how much we are going to love our babies once they come to us. It will be so special. ❤
Thank you for your videos. They gives me hope. I am praying for you. I had 2 egg retrivals and 2 canceled retrivals and have also gained weight and am taking the summer off to relax. I have a question you mentioned winery in your videos can you drink some alcohol while on a break from IVF?
Thanks for your support! It makes me so happy to hear that you feel hope. I am only drinking maybe one or two glasses a week? If that. I used to be so obsessed with wine.. Ive really changed my lifestyle!
We will gain weight anyway if we want to be mothers, I am currently pregnant and already gained 3 kg in my first 2 months of pregnancy 😅
@@listiyanischna wow thats amazing news!! Congratulations ♥️
Hi hellyn
Any tips or advice on how to lose the weight I've gained from my ivf cycles. I had failed fresh and failed FET and now I am hating my body so much
@@syz9199 I am in the process of trying to lose a little too. It’s really hard to take off hormone weight!! But I would say you just have to change your diet and increase moderate exercise. Getting strict on the fertility diet (Mediterranean diet) has been helping! Also, speak kinder words to your body - it’s been through a lot, give it grace and gratitude 🙏
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