DIVORCE 101 with Bethenny Frankel | JUST B DIVORCE
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- You asked for it and I'm here to deliver... exclusively on RUclips! Just B Divorce is your guide to navigating the big D... DIVORCE. This first episode explores just some of my divorce rules and pro tips for HOW TO navigate divorce. This show is for anyone and everyone with the goal to empower and educate... and I'm going to mention it all!
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I married my best friend. But years of mistakes chipped away at our love. 8 years in he made a huge mistake and realized he needed help. I spent two years angry. He kept his head down, did the work, and waited for me to heal. One day I realized I was now the problem. Today, we are better than where we started. A marriage is so hard. We’re celebrating 11 years next month.
Retired therapist and high conflict family mediator here - Bethenny - you have nailed this! Every single bullet point is spot on. This is exactly what I would try to explain to my clients and/or people just asking for quick advice. ANYONE going through a separation/divorce please listen to this advise. If you have children they will thank you in the end. Engaging in a pissing match with your ex/soon-to-be ex and dragging your kids through it - IS CHILD ABUSE - stop it. Put your big girl/boy panties on, keep the hatred of the other out of it, document everything, stick to the facts, and act in the best interest of the child/children (if there are REAL time risks to the child by one of the parents - in this case - bring in a SKILLED professional to assess and document such) otherwise realize you will not get everything you want and seek to achieve a balanced and fair result for both parties, and most importantly, the child/children - it’s called give and take. Bethenny is right - those folks working in this area (Judges, Lawyers, most skilled Mediators, Therapists, Assessors, etc) have heard it/seen it all. Your ‘stories’ are not unique - we’ve heard some version of it repeatedly so stick to the facts and have it DOCUMENTED.
Anyway, I’m simply reiterating what Bethenny has already said. Please just listen to this and take heed. I can VERIFY she is 100% accurate and she is not off in left field and being bitter because of her particularly acrimonious and protracted circumstance.
Well done Bethenny! Thank you for putting this together for folks.
Also sending you a big hug regarding the situation with the passing of your Mom - I hope your heart is healing from all that you’ve gone through in that regard 🙏🏻
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I agreed. Thank you, B. I went to a similar situation, 7 years in and out of court. Every single piece of advise here is pure gold. I was able to move my case when I decided to represent myself. Not everyone can do it but when things get hard if you don't know the law, you add another problem.
What does one do when you carefully document the facts, and they are side stepped by blatant lies, and exparte and “emergency “ orders take place where blatant disgusting lies are leveraged against you , and then you will be drug o through the ringer , the abuser NEVER need prove their point, or even make it to an actual hearing- they win just by way of being listened to or given a temporary order-
In a case where an abuser is also financially able to hire someone who is without morals and willing to lie and cheat for them and for their money, that on top of our system , it’s seemingly impossible - you have good parents who have been years without seeing their child, when their abuser has full custody and continues to abuse you and them, and YES it can and does happen-
How can you get a court to deal with them, without harming you in their revenge and they have your child for ransom- not for love, they know no such thing, they only know “he who harms wins” that’s it - and revenge
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Get one hell of an attorney. This isn't just a moment in time, this is your future! Find a way to pay for a top notch attorney even if you have to beg or borrow. It's worth it.
Me, not even engaged or thinking about it, sitting here taking copious notes 😂
Seriously! This is great content and as Bethenny said, the younger generation and or anyone who had not been engaged or married yet definitely needs to take notes lol
DITTO. actually in other areas of your life not just for divorces!
Dont! Ive been with my partner for 20 years and we have 2 children. I tell my children, you do not have to be married to have a family, you MUST get an education and be able to financially care for yourself, then reproduce.
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Same. I’m in a happy marriage (married very young at 21) just celebrated 23 years lol
Hardest thing I've ever done is walk away from a marriage but I did it for my boys. . One day they'll understand why, I have to believe that.
This internet stranger is sending you affirmation and love. ❤️
Same here.
They will absolute will understand and will value your choice for the happiness you’ll gain in time
You did the best thing for them. I stayed too long.
You don’t need to explain why. In time when they are older they see for them- selves why it did not work. ❤️
Girlfriend this is your next chapter!!! This is what women need.
I am in the process of divorce right now.. I’m on my SECOND lawyer.. I’ve had to borrow money from all my family and friends.. my husband was emotionally, mentally, verbally and financially abusive. He cut me off from the finances and left me with nothing. I sold my house and relocated to be in this relationship and now I have nothing. I am living in a temporary apartment belonging to a friend of a friend, but I’m not sure how long I will be able to stay here. I believe I am suffering from some post traumatic stress.. I have withered down to 104 pounds and I’m 5’6”.. I had to pawn my $10,000 wedding ring just to pay my bills.. I can’t even tell you the nightmare I’ve been through.. I’m so GRATEFUL for these videos 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you Thank you Thank you
Lots of love and blessings -sending big hugs.💜,🙏
I’m in a very similar boat. Sending strength.
Financial abuse is HUGE! It's like cutting off a persons arm and throwing them in the Ocean with children on your back trying to swim back to shore. I will never understand the harmful abusive behaviour that happens to innocent children just to get back at an EX🤯
I truly believe it is the worst parts of people that comes out, evil forces, imo.
Probably he had the children for the sake of control... So it's all going according to the plan.
Do you mean like B did to Jason?
Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; each one is different. What makes one person content might not make another person content. But I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were facing divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we made it through
I really understand why what you're saying matters, and I truly want to find happiness as well. I have someone special in my life, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine living without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it happen. We've tried different ways, like therapy, to make things right.
Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is valued. I'll immediately seek her out online. Appreciate it. I'm hopeful that implementing this method will also bring me success; I miss her dearly.
You definitely should
Bethenny, you’ve always been beyond entertainment. You entertain well but you have real deep life wisdom to contribute. thank you so much for sharing it all
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My divorce lasted 6 years. Sooo glad you are doing this for the younger women
What are some things you’d do differently?
Omg 6 years! Why so long???
the youths!
Why 6 year???
@@beckysou143 exactly. wowo 6
I became my own private investigator when I was going through my divorce. My ex and I were fighting over custody of our son and it wasn't that he really wanted all this time with him he just didn't want to pay me child support. So I found out he was always leaving our son with his mom when it was his parenting time so I started collecting evidence by following him. I always had a tape recorder on when we had parenting exchange and thank god because I got him telling me he would see me in hell before he paid me child support. Needless to say the custody did not go his way. My top points that Bethenny mentioned are 1) being organized 2) play by the rules (don't color outside the lines) and most importantly 3) parent alienation. Do NOT speak poorly about the other parent no matter how much you despise them, the child will eventually figure it out on their own. Bethenny I hope you finish telling your story of divorce, I think it could really help others going through a similar situation. ❤
Just wait...new videos coming soon!
@@bethennyfrankelit really is helpful to young women! Boy do we all have stories.
@@bethennyfrankel I’m not going anywhere! 😂
Look fwd to more videos on this important topic B x❤
You are so helpful and supportive- funny thing I was disappointed you stopped talking about it but respectfully understood what you were going through but your story was so disturbing and interesting all at the same time - I watched you since Martha's apprentice and have always admired your strength- quick witted comments and of course your entrepreneurial success!! 15:54
Bethenny knows her audience so well- she knows that people absolutely want to hear her knowledge and experience on this topic. Thank you!! 🙏
Childhood trauma is so debilitating because when a child is confronted with alcohol /drug/physical/sexual or mental abuse in their parents or caregivers , they develop a keen sense of what BAD people act like, an we avoid that, at all cost. We think we know what dangerous acts an looks like. He doesnt!! Mr. NARCISSIS. He is confident more so than anyone youve ever met, an charm itself. He usually had an idealic childhood, and any teacher/friend/or parent that didnt recognise his significance was removed. You will not see this guy coming but he sees you. Successful /hardworking/intelligent an damaged. If you dont fan his flame, he will convince you to extinguish yours. If he doesnt shine, nobodys shinning. Listen up you beautiful, intelligent, hard working young girls. Bethanny is giving pearls.
Thank God this is back. When the other episodes disappeared I was so upset. I was loving each episode and soaking up every piece of knowledge. Thank you so much for sharing it all. I hope they don't get taken down again. This is such important work Bethenny.
Stay tuned…
I wonder if she will put those podcast back up since she is back at it. Weird how she took them down.
@@mdl8210I wonder if her legal team advised against it, in the fear of the Ex weaponizing it for some sort of defamation lawsuit
I thought maybe her ex objected to them
I’m betting they were retooled due to potential liability.
I’m very proud that my spouse and I will celebrate 34 years this June. Ours is a love story…one we have both worked our azzes off to hold onto. I’ve been chronically ill for nearly 20 years. He has taken THE BEST care of me, while running our successful business. He does everything he can…even learning to cook…and NEVER utters a syllable of complaint. I’m so incredibly thankful, every single day. If you’re focused on a wedding dress, you’re doomed to fail IMO. Focus on what matters. I’m sorry this show is necessary, but grateful Bethany is willing to help in this way. God bless you, Bethany. 💜
This all is SOOO true. I went through this…not quite 10 years but close. 16 years later he still would rather waste money and literally do whatever he can to not have to pay any additional child support. I guarantee you the money he spends to hide things, etc. has cost him hundreds of thousands of dollars. I always felt like unless I told him the whole story of people they wouldn’t get it just because it was so bad… It took a while to understand all of what B is saying. but it’s so true. The thought of having to talk about that story just makes me exhausted and want to fall asleep. Good luck to anyone going through it and please take her advice.
I’m 56 & I remember clear as day my parents divorce in ‘79 where the judge said this is the worse divorce he’d ever seen… my father is your ex. So I completely empathize with you and your daughter. My poor mother ( who remarried to a good man) still is traumatized. Grateful you’re sharing your story. I hope it will help others. Peace to you B ❤
Thanks for watching! Share with other women!
Bethenny…I’ve been wanting to reach out to you for YEARS and am so glad you’re doing this podcast. When my ex came into a LOT of money he started manipulating and abusing me. He would have me sign trust documents that his secretary would notarized and I had no idea what I was signing. I didn’t even know I could have an independent lawyer review it. I TRUSTED him!
He started emotionally and physically abusing me to the point I was in tears everyday! He wanted me to file so I’d look like the hysterical spouse. In addition he put every one of our assets into a trust under the name of our 2 boys with him as SOLE trustee, thinking I would never sue my boys. Unfortunately that was what I had to do. Each boy, 15 & 18 at the time needed legal representation because their MOTHER was suing them. My boys and I are still traumatized and one even refuses to talk to me now.
The divorce was the most excruciating event I have EVER gone thru and I’ve even survived breast cancer. Unfortunately, right now, I’ve lost trust in humanity when it comes to dating. I wish you well in life gurl and keep up the podcasts. I wish I had seen this while going thru my ugly time. You’re the best!!
Ugh, that has just pissed me off. Sorry that happened to you. Such a bitch ass move on his part. Wishing you the peace and emotional freedom and reconciliation with your child. 🫂
I hope I don't get chastised for saying this. I think a lot of the reason that people were so attached like glue to your divorce series was because they could relate to you, Bethenny Frankel. Bethenny Frankel was telling HER story that included RAW feelings and REAL emotions. You were an open book which many celebrities are NOT so you doing that series almost made you....HUMAN. And even though I completely agree that this new series of Divorce 101 is of utmost importance and such a needed topic to teach on, I think a lot of people were waiting for the continuation of YOUR divorce story.
Indeed ! You can preach all this advice til the cows come home , but sadly , most ppl still think divorce will NEVER , EVER happen to them . Until it does . And then it becomes a whole different perspective /understanding of the lengths partners will go to in order to control & destroy each other . ‘ You can’t put an old head on young shoulders ‘ …..we are doomed to repeat, repeat , repeat the mistakes of our parents
I think we all really just want to know ab her ex & the despicable lengths he went to in order to control & publicly humiliate B . Esp now that we r understanding more ab coercive abuse & the vile game playing & control methods used by narcs . But I guess she will have to navigate those recollections pretty cautiously for fear of him re litigating her all over again & doing what he does best . Bit of a slippery slope given he’s shown his tenacity for control
Just wait...new videos coming soon!
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This is your purpose, teach and preach sister ❤
I’d purchase a book on this subject. Along with a workbook and online website. Marriage, finances, divorce.
I was a major fan of Doris Day, her music, her films, as a child.
As an adult, I’ve continue to love and respect her for her animal advocacy. In her honor, I extended my clinical skills to include counseling people who’ve lost their furry family members, or as she’d say, “four-leggers🐾🐾
Doris Day started a grassroots movement before animal advocacy was trendy.
What was remarkable about her is how she used her stardom, her “celebrity”! She told Hitchcock she couldn’t work seeing the animals in Marrakesh starving.
The animals got fed…..
YOU, Bethenny Frankel, hustled to bring your brilliant idea to fruition. You are doing the same thing as Doris…..using your celebrity to bring awareness to important issues.
You have become a humanitarian, helping in disaster areas, and providing vital information about important social issues.
Bethenny, I have enormous respect for your brilliant, sharp mind, your work ethic, your devotion to Brin, and your willingness to help others, on a micro scale, as well as macro scale!
Thank you on behalf of all who will benefit from the time you’re taking to educate.
You’re using your celebrity for good causes.
YES!!!! So true. We SO need this!!! Thank you Bethenny!!!
Well said!! 👏🏻
VERY well said….thank you for sharing a beautiful perspective!
I am so glad you are doing this!! I am a High Conflict Divorce Consultant/CDC Divorce Coach and gave a TEDxTalk on Parental Alienation and cannot thank you enough for doing this. You say what I ALWAYS say to clients and that is you can start off with the best intentions but this can turn in a war zone very quickly. I have seen people lose everything and it does not have to been that way. Having a prenup should not give someone peace of mind. Some of the worst cases I have seen is when the prenup is challenged. High conflict people will always pull the kids into the drama, one way or another. I am so glad you are giving people the reality. I am directly all of my clients to your Divorce Podcast. Hearing it from someone who has lived it speaks volumes. Thank you again.
I got married at 20. I was a working poor and married a working poor. 33 years and 3 grown (productive) kids later we are doing great. No where rich like Bethenny, but very blessed and comfortable. Every marriage is different. Some need a prenup, some laugh at a prenup cause they have nothing but love when they get married. When we got married we were both hard working and barely making ends meet and said this marriage is forever. Now the kids are grown and gone and we have each other again. 😊
Most people don’t have that
Exactly. The vast majority of people go into a marriage with very little assets, at least until marriage 2 or 3. B has already had at least 2 failed marriages, so I bet she has learned a thing or two.
Anyone that enters into anything of significance without educating themselves... whether it be a job, career, purchasing a home, starting a business, getting engaged and getting married ... is irresponsible. Being an adult means taking responsibility. Not all marriages and/or weddings are about optics. I'm married, divorced, and now in a common law relationship and it doesn't have to be a nightmare. Can it be? Yes but not always. Be prepared and realistic.
@@klmcishere right, and B had a prenuptial agreement, good or not so good, which she did not want to honor in the divorce. That's why she battled for 10 years. She also didn't pay attention to her real estate deed documents, protecting her business assets, etc.
@marciamakoviecki3295 I read my comment again and it sounded rather harsh & judgmental but it's a rough world out there and we have to ready and steady ourselves. I don't know much about B's marriage & divorce but it does sound like a nightmare. I definitely feel for people going through it but before entering into any contract, we have to know our rights and protect ourselves.
As a licensed therapist who helps women during and after divorce, this information is so valuable. Some of us are out here talking about these topics but we don’t have the platform or influence that you do, so thank you. I am an experienced professional who knows narcissism and post separation abuse better than most, and I’m looking forward to hearing more about your story so I can use your story as an example. Thank you.
Love that! Thanks for watching ❤
Yes!! She has the platform, smarts, experience and verbal skills to shock people into understanding this very complex topic. Grateful that she’s picked this up and is carrying it across the finish line despite being the midst of grieving her mother. She knows how important this is. But B. please take care of yourself, take breaks, breathe, we can be patient. ❤❤❤Like you said, it’s the long game.
I'm a lawyer(not family). Good advice on how to behave as a client .
things that never happened
I've never been married and I am totally all in on this podcast. It's not just a lesson for married people, it's good info for all the ladies out there who want to protect themselves and their assets especially later in life.
Thanks for doing this!
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How many women become multimillionaires after they get married and try to keep their husband from getting what is in their prenuptial agreement? I think that's very rare actually.
We needed the next show for so many reasons. My mom texted me that I HAD to watch your divorce episodes and then I couldn’t find them. Thank you for reviving this issue on your channel. We here respect you and value your point of view B
God bless Bethenny Frankel. I wish you made more business and money videos. Really want to help end hunger and homelessness? Teach a man/woman how to fish. Bethenny is such an incredible wealth of knowledge
Bethenny you said it to perfection when you said don’t bad mouth the other parent,my mother did this to me as a young child and trust me it backfired 100% on her.l grew to realise that my father was just fine and that his parents my grandparents became my rocks.Due to her evilness l have not had a relationship with her for years 🙏❤️
Bethenny created a whole podcast that bad mouths her ex to a wide audience, killing her daughter’s self esteem one episode at a time. It’s heartbreaking.
I really hope Bethenny writes a Divorce 101 book in the future, they should teach this stuff in high school! The B ''knows it all'' Great stuff Bethenny you continue to do a great service for women ❤
Bethenny! I have followed you since the beginning of NY Housewives, your wedding, Brynn, Skinny Girl and now. This topic is so needed and I applaud you for sharing. I went through a late '90s Dallas style divorce and it was as nasty as they come. I wish I'd known what I know now but we all, my kids, my ex and myself have gotten to other side, peace. We may always be healing from it but are now doing things differently with our grown children, actually spending time as a family. Im grateful my kids are incredible young adults very forgiving and accepting individuals. It's truly a choice to forgive, learn, heal and grow from our bad divorces but everyone handles things differently and at different rates. I sure do applaud you for sharing and opening the discussion on your platform and hope it helps millions! Bless you Bethenny ❤🙏🏼
You are so spot on Bethenny. My divorce lasted 6 months but only because I wanted to stop the bleeding and I gave in to ridiculous demands. I wish I would have fought for full custody. My daughter, now 20, was completely damaged by his toxic behavior - 2 years before the divorce, during the divorce, and every step of the way after the divorce. Emotionally abusive, narcissistic man whose only objective was to try to get her away from me. When she waw about 15 she told him she did not want to abide by his "half time" rights and she stayed with me and my current husband. She is amazingly doing okay now, but she is damaged forever thanks to him.
Around the same time I was going through my divorce and becoming a single mom, my friend Angela lost her husband to leukemia. He was only 34 years old. She said to me that she thought divorce would be worse than what she went through with the death of her husband. She said it was because he didnt choose to stop loving her and leave. 💔
I agree with her.
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A close relative who lost her husband said the exact same thing. 💯
Of course, divorce is worse. A spouse who left the family for some stranger, then a financial fallout occurs. The kids down the road don't want steps, or halves in reality. And most don't want exes in the picture nor to have to share holidays. Divorce with kids is a nightmare in most cases, And NO blended families do NOT work. It was coined to disguise dysfunctional as normal...or new normal.
This series resonates with people far beyond your typical sphere of influence! Thank you for sharing your wisdom ❤
Thanks for watching ❤
Bethenny…I hope you take time to grieve however you grieve. I’ve been through a divorce and also lost my Mother. The topic of divorce is hugely important… and so is your self care & being gentle & kind with yourself. Everyone’s grief is different and it doesn’t happen in a linear line. Your loyalty is first & foremost to yourself and your Daughter! 💕🌸
I divorced by not 'playing' i refused to talk about nonsense. Represented myself in court (not recommended) and it all turned out exactly as we had originally agreed. I saved thousands of pounds. We are friends now because I remained calm and respectful. Bethany's advice is gold.
Thanks for watching ❤
She is dropping gems 💎 actual take away- I could give one sh!t about why old boy would not extricate himself from that apt. He has no character there’s your answer- she will likely package it so we understand our legal rights with assets that is what’s material and relevant those nuances - She is going beyond the used car lot called Instagram “coaches” who want you to buy in for a pep talk - coparenting coaches all these single moms and divorcees who stay talk talk talking but are not actually offering you anything. Bethenny has gone way beyond already- she has been more transparent about her life than your IG favorites- We know that her advice is informed and her experiences can level us all up.
In the settlement phase and we’re at the end. I’ve kept calm and focused to keep the waters calm. Your advice is Excellent, let the lawyers handle the weeds, limit communication, and walk away with a satisfactory settlement. There are no winners in divorce!
As someone who lives in the only country (apart from the Vatican) where divorce is illegal, I find this not only informative but also enlightening. I am in a committed 10 year relationship with someone and I have no plans of getting married. I have seen friends and acquaintances go through the painful and expensive process that of annulment. Divorce is certainly hell for most people. Annulment is a special kind of torture in and of itself. In my less than humble opinion, there are ways to have a family and be in a loving relationship without getting into a legal union. I stay because I want to, not because I am deathly afraid of what happens when I try to break free of the relationship and all the legal ramifications that come with the dissolution of a marriage. Thanks for sharing, B.
What country are you in?
We want the same format of what you were doing before with this whole divorce series. Love you Bethenny but sometimes we don't want to be schooled and educated, we would rather be able to relate to you and hear from your personal experience.
YES
Yea I think she took them down and changed the format because it was probably upsetting to her daughter but agreed it was way juicier- this is just kind of a bitter rant…
That’s what I was thinking!! Yes, experts are nice to hear from but it’s the personal experience and anecdotes that are missing from media stories about divorce. It’s the lived experience that people want to hear about. I would understand if the episodes had to be pulled because her ex or daughter requested them to be. I think any rational person would understand that so just be honest about it.
Yes I liked the previous videos.
Yeah. I so agree. This sounds like a bitter lecture..
MENTION IT ALL GIRL! TY TY
Bethenny, many years ago after hoing through some very tough times I composed a poem that seems to be so apt no matter how old and how tough the times are this has kept me going including the deaths of my parents and 2 sisters. This is what I came up with : If you had trod a different path, life sweeter might have been, and riches might have come your way, with every day serene. Dream not of yesteryear I say, but make the utmost of today. You are strong Bethenny and that strength has fought these battles and you are winning. 😊😊😊
Going not hoing 😂😂😂😂
Never wanted to get married. I'm constantly reminded, that was the BEST decision I've ever made!
I believe in marriage but I wasn't going to have kids so I didn't see the point in it. My husband is old fashioned and religious so he wanted to marry. We've been together for 20 years now and still doing well but honestly, I was not taught about the ins and outs of a marriage. I wasn't told how insanely fragile marriage can be. People don't realize how betrayal doesn't have to be about infedelity or lying, it could simply be not supporting your partner. We have learned so much together but marriage is not always easy. It's something to take very seriously and I hate when people pressure others into it. If you don't want marriage, don't do it. You have to make the best choices for you.
My best decision, too!
Divorce in family court, is nothing less than full contact of the heart & wallet
Absolutely agree !
Omg! This is amazing. Every single person on earth needs to hear this. Doesn't matter if u are divorced or not. This should be required pre-requisite in order to apply for marriage license. Seriously! I don't usually write comments but I am compelled to tell you my friend went through he'll bc of divorce and all the things Bethany is saying. She was beaten up and arrested bc her ex went to the police first and bc he knows all the in and outs of family law. The things I have seen her go through. . 😢 but as just said in the video even if the system is slow and imperfect in the end she was able to fight back. All of this while she could not see her 2 yo for months while they had 50/50 custody.
Keep them coming Bethany pls!!! There a social need. Wishing you the best and thank u
This is so bizarre. Where did the OG format of this podcast go? This feels too businessy and produced and formulaic now. We want the OG storytelling
Just wait...coming soon!
PRENUPS - how much, what can you include, where to get more info, how do they hold up in court, what if you AREN’T THE MONIED spouse - still get one? Putting cheating in a prenup??? Tell me more! My BFF is in this garbage bin of divorce and I send your content to her - she is so thankful and feels sooo validated hearing about this. She’s still in it so this series will be an ASSET to her NOW!
I’m sure she has her reasons for not continuing to speak about her personal divorce experience. Maybe she didn’t think dishing her own tea was helpful…which is why she transitioned to this? Either way - speaking about it is helpful regardless of the specifics. Thank you Bethenny for keeping it real AND relatable.
Best guess is a Cease & Desist letter threatening defamation suit was sent unless those divorce experience videos came down. It's a shame because that is what I wanted to see. Misery loves company 🤣. But there is no need to poke and re-engage a crazy bear. Hopefully these videos will help people who haven't already gone through the lunacy.
I think you may be right. I watched those videos and they were excellent. I wish she would address it.
Just wait...new videos coming soon!
@@bethennyfrankel Thank you for responding!
Thank you for talking about this. Makes me not feel crazy and alone.
God bless this woman for starting this podcast series. If you are watching, catalog it and refer back to it if needed to help yourself navigate what will in any moment, turn into armageddon if you let it. If only I'd had this as a resource when I was going through it myself. Still, you will come out the other side, damaged, but sharper, smarter, wiser, more connected to what matters .... you and your children. Never forget that. Ever! Best video she's ever done. Hands down!
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From watching her original divorce series (that r now gone) and her mom passing vlog I learned more about the real bethenny than anything u have ever done. It was like that last missing puzzle piece to tie it all together. From other interviews about u other peoples version of u, like what made ur clock tick. I wonder u recording about ur mom so fast if u have watched back and listened to some the chilling statements u have mirrored? So much clicked with the divorce segments and ur moms video. I was truely expecting a long pause and that u found the therapist u have searched for to dig into ur healing from a lot in ur life. It feels like the walls r back up hyper-focused bethenny is present and this will txtbook style now. I sincerly have admired u and will always enjoy ur endeavors. The small glimpse has passed and I pray u heal for brynns sake and her future as she becomes a woman and finde her place and experiences her way thru love on a new path. The 10yr divorce and present day still nocontact coparenting has imprinted on her. Her childhood never had a tone of family or snapshots of mom and dad and me. Parents never think the child is aware until u find out they r and its too late.
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The best thing I did in my own 4 year divorce process was to get myself into counseling. I also put my children in counseling. My kids were 12 and 14 and to this day at 25 and 27 they continue value a good counselor. My counselor gave me a lot of the divorce advice you are giving people. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you @bethennyfrankel for sharing! Custody battles are horrid! The trauma to our children are devastating! I'm in the thick of it. So heartbreaking for our babies!! Thank you for covering this topic! 🙏🏻
I’m in the uk and being harrasssed by my sister in law via social media. This side show advice I take on and has cemented things for me. She has had a campaign of harassment against me on social media for 6 months every day. And accuses me of awful things, thankfully I have a savy husband who knows his sister can’t keep her mouth shut and has kept a one drive of every thing she’s said. Now the police have it. She’s looking at charges for harassment , stalking and threats to harm my children. Part of that was publicly telling the world my child was autistic when we hadn’t told certain family members yet not because we were ashamed because he was still going through the diagnosis process. Iv had mums at school say they’ve seen her videos iv made responses with all my evidence in my drafts ready to press send so I can win the public battle. My assigned police officer said don’t respond to anything but like you said it’s a marathon not a sprint and soon she’ll be convicted and not allowed to contact us for 10 years. It’s really hard to stay quiet While horrendous allegations are made about you
You are so full of expert knowledge and here to help other’s navigate a very difficult time without letting emotions over take the situation. I don’t even need this advice but I love watching all your videos. I’ve been a fan from the beginning of your housewife journey 💕
I wish I knew all this a decade ago when I got divorced. B is absolutely correct on her advice! It took me two years and the suck level was high. I will never ever be married again. The court system and divorce process really needs to be redefined!
Bethenny FOR PRESIDENT!
Or, just don't get married and save yourself the bother and expense. I'm so glad I never did.
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Amen. This week is my 10 year anniversary in Illinois court. My ex (an attorney) has sued me for custody for a decade.
It is the long game.
Gaslighting abounds.
Rip off the veil, B: marriage IS business! So is divorce! It’s all a cottage industry.
In my case I am representing myself and I’m finally winning ❤
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As a former business manager this is the best advice 👏 thank you Bethenny for your using your platform to help others. I filed my own paperwork in my divorce and took a hit knowing I was young enough to build it back and the best deal I could get was freedom as quickly as possible. I also sought out a network of other women who were going through divorce at the same time as me and it really helped me heal in real time.
Every single word you are saying is absolutely correct!
I think it's important to point out that this is Bethenny Frankel's perspective on divorce based on HER reality, which is hardly the norm. While there is definitely some helpful information here that is universal, but most of us mere mortals watching this video simply cannot relate to battling over $ettlements involving hundreds of millions of dollars in business, personal, and real estate assets in the public eye, let alone in front of television cameras which obviously adds a whole other level of problems.
I am 42 and have never been married. No children. I have a middle class job. Nothing fancy. I have felt embarrassed and like I have missed the expected milestone because I did not find a man and "get the ring." In the beginning of the episode when you said that women are often in such a rush that they don't have a realistic expectation for how the relationship will be after the four dresses and the Bora Bora trip, I felt hopeful. Like, maybe my life isn't terrible and shameful because I haven't yet said "I do." I do aspire to get married and feel left behind that It hasn't happened. I would love to hear honest conversations on what marriage and longterm relationships are truly like. No one talks about in a meaningful way. Every married couple I see are walking around Whole Foods picking out kale in bliss. Is everyone pretending? Are the metaphorical Louis Vuitton bags I see women carrying their relationships in just purchased on Canal Street?
Why are you embarrassed? Sounds like a good life. So what you aren’t married.
You know who should be embarrassed people that abandoned their children, who cheated, who gaslighted and judged.
Not everybody is going to get married and have children. And it is ok. It is normal. And you can have a very good life not having all that.
Life is life. And is unpredictable. And it is nice lo live and breath air and buy kale by yourself is nice too.
It's the things you don't see behind closed doors. That's why some couples who are seemingly happy end up divorced. It can be small things that build up over time. It's something very difficult to describe. Marriage is like having children, you have to experience it in order to full grasp the concept of how incredibly fragile it is. Am I making sense?
The grass is always greener isn't it? We always want what we haven't experienced but I tell you, although marriage can be wonderful if you're married to the right person, you will hit some of the lowest lows in your life. And many feel lonely in their marriages and it's one of the worst feelings in the world. Feeling lonely when you're single is a lot less painful.
You don't need marriage to feel fulfilled and happy. A bad marriage can rob you of all that. Marriage isn't going to suddenly solve any problems you have or offer you some otherworldly type of happiness. Your life sounds pretty good as is tbh. Don't ever feel ashamed of your life. You're not doing anything wrong. Live it to the fullest regardless of your relationship status. It's too short to worry over the 'what ifs'.
Yes they are. All my married friend seem happy in public but I see what goes on behind the scenes with MIL, really different ideas on how to raise kids and had to leave because of screaming arguments. So I wouldn't worry about not fitting the "mould" I didn't either. I'm 45 I have a 27 year old son I worked my way upto head chef in some pretty good restaurants then re-trained as a social worker and now I work in child protection and my child manages an Art Gallery in Paris. You dont need a ring and a piece of paper to have a full life. Best of luck to you in the future love from Scotland ❤
Good for you for not settling. I live in Ireland …there is a huge amount of marriage breakdown…especially when people in their 40s. Yes ..people pretend that they are happy…some are…many are not…when people have kids they don’t even have time to analyse if they are happy or not….hold on for love….❤
What you're wishing for is valid. Unfortunately, I am not married, so I can not answer your initial question on what it's really like. I am sure when you meet your husband, you will find first and foremost a person you can feel emotionally and physically safe with. And someone who loves and cherishes you. Also the world needs more kind people. Treat your person with kindness and know they'll definitely disappoint you because they're human. All the best. Love is kind. Love is patient. Love is not dangerous.
Business licenses and Marriage licenses are no different in the court of law. It took me eleven months to realize that…. When I did… I looked at my attorney and said “All the Judge wants us to do is close the financial books equitably and take care of the assets until they turn eighteen. He doesn't care about anything else.” He said Yes, you're finally getting it.” I looked at him and said let’s close the books. When I got to THAT MINDSET…. The Judge awarded me 89% of what I felt was equitable.
So I've never been divorced, but between my parents I've been through 9 divorces and remarriage, as a child. That's 9 different families, multiple siblings, lots of loss. Lots of mistakes made by my parents, and lots done right. I have a very unique perspective from the kids point of view- and I'm just dying to hear what you say because I fully trust you as a parent- and from everything I see- you're doing it right.
I cook dinner and watch every second. I have always admired you Bethany you are as strong as iron 💪 ❤
I made SO MANY mistakes in my marriages and my divorces. I have dozens of regrets. Wish this video had been around decades ago.
Kudos to you Bethenny 🙌 & thank you for helping guide & enlighten many folk who need & should hear about the intricacies of this topic.
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Bethenny, you explain things so eloquently and clearly. This will be so helpful for many people ❤
Thanks for watching ❤
I worked in courts for 39 years and B is speaking the truth about judges, lawyers and the system…heed her advice
Mic drop! Have you thought about writing a book on this? Or audio book?
Having gone thru custody court with a narcissist, you are speaking straight FACTS Bethenny!!!
Glad she’s back and thank God I’m not getting divorced, but it’s still interesting and definitely stuff EVERYONE should know. I do hope that she gets more personal. Her fans who have been around such her first season of RHONY and followed everything she’s done, are invested and felt like she was finally going to tell her side of things. Hopefully she can mix at least a little of that in, with the overall advice. Love you B!!
I had the most horrific marriage and divorce. Minus the money that you spent I was in unmitigated hell. I keep thinking that one day, he will get paid back from all of the horrific things he did to me and his daughter. It was hell on earth.
I am so happy you brought this series back, I've learned so much and it cemented my decision in regards to marriage.
I will be here every single episode, thank you, thank you, this ia a much needed conversation for women, the fairytale has fallen, the truth is now available and accesible.
Thank you again, Bethenny ❤
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I'm so here for this content 🙌 So much hype around the wedding day but not enough focus on the reality of marriage or navigating divorce
What's amazing is I heard some points B made that can help in other aspects of your life legally that have NOTHING to do with divorce.!!
Lots of tips here folks - not just for divorce!! Please watch and listen. Bethenny gives very wise advice!
Thank you, Bethany, for being brave enough to be so open and transparent about what you have gone through in your divorce, along with the loss of your mother. I'm just amazed that you are doing this, and I am certainly appreciative to you for sharing all of this. Do it the way that's best for YOU, and I will be watching and listening and supporting all the way ❤️!
Thank you for watching xo
Right on point, so my life at 4pm drinking wine and talking about not getting laid while at home alone … preach the truth Bethany! Love it! 💜
Great series, really great advice. I believe in marriage, but i also 'know' it is a legal contract!!. I've had two long-term relationships, 7 and 13 years, respectively. The last one almost killed me, literally left with my clothes and some of my late moms cookware, even though we both owned the house, car, etc. That was seven years ago, the relationship completely changed my brain chemistry! I haven't been in a relationship since, the mental toll aged me internally by 30 years. Horrid. I wish everyone only the best ❤.
🍿🍿🍿🍿🍿 12 years into divorce.. and now comes goin to college ….. a whole new chapter in the divorce saga. This is balls. Here for it
This is excellent advice for anything legal and/or family trauma related. Thank you❤❤
Omg I’m so happy you are continuing on with this series! I listened to you first 3 episodes and I want you to know I was hanging on every word! You sharing your true story is so powerful I can’t even tell you how much I resonated with you.
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Wow. This is eye opening. Thanks so much Bethenny. Looking forward to the next one! ✨🌹
I wish you did this series three years ago when I went through HELL getting out. This is everything.
This is why I will always go to back for Bethenny!!! Name another reality star that achieved what they wanted as in stardom and still feels like the first time you ever watched them!!! Love you Scorpio sista and praying for you and your Daughter ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
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Financial abuse with grey divorce is absolutely debilitating. It almost broke me. Financially, it did. I was ordered to sell my house. I had lived there for twenty six years. 💔 I lost my medical insurance. PA is supposedly an “equitable “ divorce state. 😂 Don’t trust and don’t believe. In some places it’s still a man’s world. Sad but true.
Thank you Bethenny, I pray women who were most of the time stay at home mothers are treated with more respect and dignity soon. We’re told that the work we did at home counts and that it will be considered and taken into account. 🙄I don’t know what the answer is for this group of women. I spent $30,000.00 in legal fees over four years. I never made that much money in my life. I used cc’s and luckily I was able to get a personal loan. Honestly, luck was on my side that day. My DTI ratio was good so I was approved. 😮
Still, his lawyer was better. 🥺
I am very sorry about your mother. Thank you for staying strong for women. 💪
B became the 'monied spouse' after she married Jason. She never talks about what was actually in their prenuptial agreement. I think this entire discussion really hinges on what she agreed to, versus what she was willing to part with. Unfortunately, the kid ended up as the pawn, and still is today.
You are wonderful.. We are , I am going to say it not wealthy. My daughter stayed with her abusive husband for 26 years and is still with him. She has w grown children now ,he has her brain washed. I really wish she had your show 26 years ago. P.S. I really appreciate and respect what you, are doing for women in general. I feel what you went through as a young woman and I was a mom seeing you cry. Now you are helping others. What a great person you are. CeeCee Mc
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Thank you for sharing this. I know its really difficult to rehash but you are helping so many women.
I'm 33, never married, would love to get married. HOWEVER, it seems like EVERYONE today wants A WEDDING, but they don't want A MARRIAGE. My dad raised me to keep this constantly in my mind - he died right in front of my mom and me 3 years ago after a horrible short cancer battle…he and my mom would've been married 40 years this year. I will live and die by what my dad told me and I stand by it.
I’m exhausted listening to this. I’m thanking my lucky stars, I had one of the easiest, most amicable divorce ever, and there was a child, money and assets involved. Good luck to all the ladies. Be strong and smart.
Could you please speak to re-negotiations as the children grow older? Thank you for the advice and straight talk!! You are right - there are a lot of people affected and not many productive, direct resources to plug into. ❤❤❤
Excellent B this will the most impactful thing you will ever do.. 💜I felt strongly after I saw the first divorce episode. We need this to balance all the BS we have been fed for so long.. 🎉YAY xx
I was enjoying hearing your story. Will you get back to that?
Yes, that would be more interesting. Maybe she got in some kind of trouble because she dropped that..
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B I have always been a fan of yours as I like strong women and you always projected this confidence and strength. I will say years ago when you started dating your ex and you had the show with him I was like girl NO! To me I thought he was limp and whiny and I could see you just were not that into him. Look it happens we have all settled for someone for whatever reason but seriously I was hoping you were going to do a runner at that alter back in the day. I have always told people that he is obviously the problem as whatever you have been it has never been malicious or hateful and I could see you just wanted out and if he was decent he would have done the right thing and not been a greedy petty grubby small man.. I’m glad you’re educating people and I wish you all the happiness that you have earned and deserve.
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I think Bethany is laying the foundation of the what to do and not do, and then will delve into hers. Don’t know. It’s what I’m hoping.
But I really wanted to know what happened in the divorce with Hoppy and why it lasted 10 years
Just wait...coming soon!
Where are the eps about your divorce???? I am dyyyying to listen.
She wont put them back up because she said too much and her daughter will be affected , this podcast is not personal its just factual. She speaks in the third person to try and stop this, I guess you just read between the lines.
Just wait...coming soon!
Never even been close to married but this is fascinating and informative.
So happy this is back!!!❤❤❤