Power Struggle Triggers in Relationships | JUST B DIVORCE
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I was a huge fan of Bethenny Ever After, and to be honest, truly honest, Jason felt like a gaslighter and intimidated by Bethenny's success. I know she's not easy, but there was something petty and mean-spirited about him even before the SkinnyGirl contract. She deserved better.
Exactly! It was difficult to watch the way he treated her. Bethenny really put so much effort into making it work. She wasn't met halfway.
I think he watched her on the housewives and targeted her because hes nothing but a grifter.
@@Ruth78620and who would even know to inherently look out for this kind of predatory behavior!?! Scary AF.
She chose him to have a baby with and to marry. She's too smart to have not thought about what she was doing.
'All my worldly goods to thee I pledge.' Marital vows. Think about them.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've found out that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort them out. It was a tough period, but we survived
I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters
Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.
You are Welcome
Naw that ain't it. But keep trying to justify getting abused.
I believe EVERYTHING YOU ARE SAYING!! I REMEMBER YOU CALLING HIM INSIDE JASON AND OUTSIDE JASON!!!
All I can say is THANK GOD you and Brynn are out of that situation.
Brynn is close to her father, so what's sad is everyone talking trash about him so she can read it
@@marciamakoviecki3295how do you she's close with him?
This is EXACTLY the script of my first marriage without the pregnancy. My father was walking me down the aisle and said we can still call it off. You feel too deep into it. 😢
My dad did the same thing and I was so dumb.
There is a wonderful lawyer called James Sexton on RUclips and he talks about marriage and about how, instead of premarital counseling, couples should see a divorce attorney so they can really understand everything including the importance of a prenup. He is amazing! Very logical and very pragmatic about things. Thank you for your video.
I always listen to his interviews. He’s so smart.
@@pauletteyoung112 I so agree with you. He’s not angry, he is amicably divorced and he has a very realistic view of marriage and the work it takes to keep it healthy as well as all of the necessary steps required prior to the actual wedding. I am happily divorced but I love listening to James talk. I saw him of soft white underbelly first and I was really captivated by his brutal honesty and outlook 😁
And how he emphasizes that marriage is the most importantly BUSINESS contract you will ever enter into without getting any legal guidance beforehand. So true!
What's his name?
@@Megan6772 James Sexton
He was right about 1 thing only and ...now you have your lil Peanut!!!!
Good lessons. Marriage is a contract. Also, choose the parent for your children carefully.
My marriage never was and never will be a contract. We are married because we love and respect each other. Too bad she made bad choices and feels this way. She's a business woman, everything is a contract to her....
I've been married over 40 years. It is a contract. As she says not romantic. That is separate.
@@janeellis4926 that's too bad
your authenticity is so refreshing, i could listen to you talk about this for days.
Same here!
Me too!😉🙏💯❤️😉🌞😎
This is why I love her.
I been waiting for her to speak on this. Her daughter is old enough now and clearly they are close enough for this. Good for her. I’m glad for her. Always shocked me how she shut down when it came to him was not like her but she got her baby and it’s not about the package it’s comes in it’s the gift. Hope this is healing for her and even her daughter cuz more you know your parents you know yourself in my opinion
Everybody who watched Bethenny Ever After (or whatever it was called), saw how TOXIC Hoppy was. Everything was Bethenny's fault. He was always just after her money. It's like he targeted and groomed her. Just my two cents. And he was too tied to his parents. I save these episodes. So entertaining and informative! I've waited over a decade to hear this story.
Where do you see the video
Yes! Remember that vacation they went on when he was verbally abusive to her? Such a nightmare.
@@schoolcounselor6479Hulu and Peacock use to have the show on. It might still be check it out.
@@Randa_Dibayes, her eyes seemed empty. I don’t know how to describe it. Her eyes didn’t light up. You couldn’t see any happiness. It should be the happiest time of your life (getting married and/or having a baby) and it didn’t feel like it was for her 😞. He was so jealous, instead of being proud of her.
Ditto. I too have been waiting for her side. He was awful.
FINALLY SOMEONE SPEAKING OUR TRUTH!! ❤❤❤
I remember watching "Bethenny's getting married" years ago and she said to her (now ex-)husband "That's OUR money, honey" and I was so alarmed, cause something in me was screaming "That's not exactly true, that's HER money, he didn't make a dime!"
This series is going to be riviting, and I am tuning in to every new posting. I have been on "team Bethenny" since RHONY. You were always the most interesting character (and most admirable) on the show because you had a goal and were determined to make your dream a reality. I felt very sorry for the way a "friend" treated you on that show and was very concerned that you may not be able to emotionally handle that terrible treatment. But you are strong and thank God you overcame it just like you have overcome this tortuous divorce. Like any true fan, I was hoping your ex was the real deal and a really good upstanding guy. But some of what I saw of his behavior on the show began to feel "off" to me. It seemed like he wanted you to be "the little woman" and also that he really didn't have a clue as to who you really were. It was obvious that he was from a different world from you, had a very different life experience and wasn't very savvy compared to you. Anyway, thank you for putting the information out there for other women who need help with this issue today or might need it for tomorrow. And once again, you have my admiration for once again being a survivor who came through the storm stronger and wiser.
Jason and his lying notary mother need to go to JAIL!!
I think hearing more about this specific detail of the situation would be very helpful to anyone who has been in this awful circumstance- man or woman!
What about the lawyer! He knew she wasn't there in the meeting with the notary.
Men who are toxically attached and enmeshed with their parents are a huge red flag
@@maddyj8436 I wonder if Jason manipulated his mother into doing that for him. It sounds like something he would do and probably hounded her so much about it that she felt she had no choice.
Thank you for posting this series. It is a good reminder that marriage is something to take very seriously. After 50 I dont feel there is any point to getting married. Have & enjoy the relationship just do not get married.
After your late 30s there is no reason to marry.
A hard boundary was needed right from the start when courting Jason - and this is why the lines blurred down the line. Feel for you Bethenny. Proud of You
It’s great that you can now vent and purge all of this. I’m so hooked watching. You are truly brilliant. I can only imagine during this time you must have been in full survival mode, rather terrifying.
every sunday my ex husband wanted to spend the entire day with his brother and sister in law and their children. I am an attorney I work six days a week. I just could not go to someone else's home every sunday for the entire day. My ex husband could not understand. I get all of this
Sounds like he needed to make more money so you weren't forced to spend so much time away from your family who I'm sure needed you.
Long time fan here. I remember the helicopter incident on the show, I saw the toxic power dynamic. He looked like he was compensating and insecure. He would force you into these awkward situations, forcing you to try to develop relationships with people (his group friends at that bar😵💫). It was cringy af and reminded me of my divorce with a guy similar to him, but a bit worse. That’s when I knew you were in trouble because this guy was a REAL problem.
I work in the legal business and worked with lawyers and I still lost in my divorce but at least I got rid of him. Thank goodness we didn’t have kids. I’m glad you regained yourself and your daughter.
Omg you are scaring me. My daughter wants a divorce after 15 years of marriage. Her salary is 3 times that of her husband...they own multiple properties. I hope to God they can be amicable.
So happy you FINALLY broke free Bethenny!
He will get half of the assets acquired during the marriage including properties. He IS due that as would a wife if the tables were turned. If he doesn’t ask for spousal support, she need not pay. If there are children under 18 child support and joint custody will be part of the divorce settlement.
Your daughter’s future social security payments and 401k/Roth can also be divided as well since he makes less. If he goes after that too.
Best to remain respectful and cool during the process.
Hearing all the behind the scenes is so eye opening to me. I remember watching the wedding and relationship show, being so happy for B not really knowing what was happening behind the scenes. You never really know what a person is going through 🙏🏼🫶🏼 B is such a survivor & the great thing out of that whole experience is Bryn! I remember when she was born on TV & why they named her Bryn. She’s the blessing out of this storm!
Bethany you are a real one. Thank you for telling this story. I can see and feel how hard it is and you just want to move on. But it's gonna help a lot of women. You're a girls girl. ❤️
I have followed you since you first went on housewives…I am so happy you are out of that mess and you and Bryn look so happy together! I think he couldn’t handle how successful you were!
I’m living for this series
thank-you Bethenny for sharing all this to help those who may need some help. I'm so sorry you had to go thru all this--but you are so strong, smart, street-smart too, you are such an inspiration to so many of us. What a rock star you are!
BTW, am in awe of how strong you are, and what a great role model you are for your daughter AND any woman out there fighting for THEIR LIFE!!
The original video mentioned her ex MIL was the notary on the contract. Why was it omitted in this video? It's important people know son and mother were in cahoots.
My personal thoughts is she doesn't want brings grandmother painted as a thief, also possibility that she wasn't aware of his dishonesty
To add to your point, B originally stated that the MIL had an expired license AND was for another state
@@mcarr3655 Yes!!! major bombshells new viewers don't know.
I just recently watched Bethenny ever after, again and I was completely blown away how much Jason used to manipulate her. You could see the anguish in her face and I even yelled at the TV “run Bethenny” as if I were in the movie Interstellar. I hated how much he mistreated her.
Same!
It is true, we do allow ppl to marry so easily. I can understand the triggering as my own divorce, thirty-eight years ago, is being triggered. I shouldn't have conceded so much of my hard earned property, albeit peanuts comparatively, but I wanted out so much I did.
I said before I completely empathize with your horrific divorce, I had one too. My question is, how do you feel about your daughter hearing you bring this all out into the light now? As hard as it’s been, I’ve never talked about the details of the marriage or the divorce with my childbecause I don’t want him to feel torn.
In my marriage, my parents come twice a day, I cook, serve, and clean up after them. My husband never goes against that, but then again his parents come once a day also to visit and I never go against that either. Idk, I think it's important to have the ability to be accepting of ur husband's or your wife's ways...can't change them...not our place to do so...can't sweat the small stuff. And there always has to be a leader and someone willing to assist the leader. I prefer the man to be in charge, but that's just me. Every marriage is different.
I remember on the show you were always crying
One thing I learned after a divorce (with a lot less money..) is if you have money or assets going in..NEVER NEVER EVER COMINGLE! This means cars accounts etc. keep anything separate and do not use commingled funds for any improvements payments or refinance…you WILL regret it.
Bethany tells it like it is
The way SHE sees it, yes😂😂😂😂😂
You're AMAZING... EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON !!🙏💯❤️😉🌞😎
This is extremely honest. Appreciate that. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for speaking on daying yes, when yes is no. That was both my marriages that I never wanted.
I might be you in a parallel universe.. you’re telling my story. 🤯
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Bethany, I am so happy and relieved that you have thrived after--letalone survived- this nightmare!❤
@bethenny I realize you hated the Bravo spin-offs and it wasn’t what you pitched, but I think it was addictive and the best reality tv show I ever saw. It still holds up. I never watched Tori and Dean. I do think it did show a decent amount of building the SG business , but I enjoyed the rest of it as well.
I remember the sharing of the apartment on RHONY it looked tense!
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that, Bethany. ❤ Thank you for sharing some of the darkest and hardest moments of your life. You're right about attorneys. We are the best attorney for ourselves don't pay anyone😂❤.
Thank you for being so transparent with your fans about such a difficult and traumatic time in your life, Bethenny. We’ve been riding with you for a long time and those of us who have seen your trajectory know how rocky the path has been. You are an inspiration to NYC women like myself who have carved their own way, made no apologies for it and survived their dysfunctional childhoods. If you ever need a new Assistant, I’m your person! Lots of love from a long time fan in Brooklyn, NYC! ❤
I agree! Always follow your gut feeling ❤❤❤
Omg this is crazy. But thank you for sharing because it helps a lot of other people navigate their own situations. Hopefully it's a breath of relief now.
You are true warrior! Smart, savvy and chic!
You come alive talking about this stuff and that's why I'm tuning out
It's called venting. It's been along time and she couldn't talk about this stuff.
This needs to be a movie blockbuster.
Loving this series so so so much ❤
Speaking not only your truth…but many others less successful, and yet minimized and gaslit women everywhere nonetheless.. You are Brave young woman… and the love of your daughter, seems to have driven you to this place…Coming to terms with our own demons is tough work. I admire your spirit, your intellect, your snarkiness, but mostly, you demonstrate daily… the fight against misogyny and mean girls everywhere..Brin too is beyond lovely..good work B!
We NEED the rest of the notary story from the podcast!
I always hated him. Seriously I could tell he was a narcissistic user. I hated his parents too. They reminded me of my ex and his parents.
I feel you are such and imzpiratiion for young middle aged all. Wemon bethany
Thank you for all that you giv up
And that you can overcome anything and succeed
Thank you
Its not our money, whoever makes the most, or makes the money, it's their's, in a unhealthy marriage
loving this new content, Bethenny -- there's are lot of people out here that need to hear this advice!!!
Wow, you've been through hell and back, thank you for sharing this. We all are "he would never" in the start....
11:13 Hey B, sometimes I think you take way too much accountability. Especially about your childhood. Someone should have stepped in to help you 😢❤
You were like the best storyteller in the best podcast are unbelievable what you remember
Thanks Bethany. Been waiting for this
I’m so invested!! I can’t wait for them all
I remember watching you in all the shows & certain hwives bullied you & you were out hussling, it all seemed to hit at once, congratulations on your success & having a beautiful daughter.
Love you Bethenny. Thank you for this. 🙏❤
Classic bethenny deleting negative comments
Bethenny also emasculated him a lotttt she was constantly reminding him she was the bread winner
Also we saw on the show she would only see her in-laws once a month and still complained
Beyond frightning for you to prove Ownership of your apartment.
I found this mind blowing at the deceit of your former partner. Was he of the belief that never again he would work? Luv a Duck!
I photo copy every document that requires my signature.
I purchase 3 diaries per year.
One is only for documents I sign so I have proof if something blows up I can relate back to my diary.❤❤❤❤ Melbourne.
I love your honesty 👌 sending love from Scotland 🏴 ohh by the way your peanut is absolutely beautiful and you should be very proud of yourself with bringing up such a lovely young lady, xx
Blessings happen when we least expect it
Bethenny you give great advice with what happen in your divorce
Just as I say with my son………thank God for our children, despite how our relationships ended. Bryn is a blessing and I’m sure you’d go through it all over again, just to have Bryn💕Never date someone who makes MORE money than you-it will end like this. Dear Abbey
How wonderful are they?
Loved this video. I wish I was thirty years younger to go help them.
The surprise Birthday! I felt your overwhelming pain!!!! Ouch
I thought marriage meant 50/50 when it comes to assets? What am I missing here?
Is this a repost? I feel like these came out already….confused
Yes
Omg my ex did this with his mom. I was on bedrest with twins but coerced to go or see his family or they coming over. Since weve been split for 8 year he has not seen his mother once nor his extended family. Also all my assests i got before him was split with him. We were together 1 year. I bought the house and he got half. 1 year.
Literally just rewatched the shows about your marriage and you are SOOO lucky bc I watched you practically BEG him to work with you & he was hedging and wouldn’t do it. Thank God. And it’s fine and normal to be in love and fall out. He was an ass. But you were a good actress if you never loved him at one point. He is the father of your daughter. Give her that
I hope her daughter watches this and realizes who her father really is not so that she can cut him off, but that she’s aware so that she doesn’t give her father any of the money she has/inherited from her mom because that would be criminal
Thank you for sharing
Because you are smart as a whip, is why you survived and thrive. He was a sneaky snake , his roots are in his mother.
I believe the part about you paying your fiancé because they wouldn't pay him. I would probably do that too. The guilt and wanting to be fair.
What a life! What stories!
This is fascinating… thank you for sharing ❤
Thank you so much for this. How can we reach you for specific questions.
I come from a family that I would consider broken. My ex did not. Two parent literal white picket fence family. I would sometimes agree to doing extra family things with his people because he would make me feel like it was normal and I didnt know because I didn't come from a normal family.
Hiya Bethenny, Thankyou for sharing take care Luv Ontario Canada 🐝🇨🇦
Thats notary stuff is crazy!
When you have so much fast money involved, it will never end well. Never.
My soon-2-B ex,
there should have been a RED FLAG ❤ with him when he had no prob with me making all the money.
Normally, it should have bothered him. Didn’t he WANT to be the provider?
I want a man that protects/provides for me sometimes to elevate or share the stress….etc. WTF was I thinking??? 😢
Eagerly awaiting your next “adventure “!!!!❤Annie
If you don’t know yes, it’s NO said B 🔥
If you are married and one an a unit why is it still "MY money". I think if a man said that all would go nuts.
That much in law contact is just weird.
I would like to know where you got that sweater! 😍
How many engagement rings do you have?
I’m so sorry you had to go through this. Why was Jason so bitter? Why drag you through this? Has he ever given an explanation? Xx stay strong my lovely ❤
Miserable people only spread misery.
It takes a real man to be married to a successful woman. Man that supports her success helps remove hurdles and encourages her on days she wants to throw in the towel. That’s a real man. This man… I’ll reserve my comment.
Changing a deed requires legal signatures and legit notorizing or the county won't file it.
Nice 👍
Nothing is amicable with a “Prince Charming” never !