My Decade Long Divorce | JUST B DIVORCE
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- Опубликовано: 14 май 2024
- Back by popular demand... my decade long divorce. Ten years after my divorce nightmare began, I'm ready to tell my story.
If 60% of us will get divorced, let’s arm ourselves with this knowledge now to thrive when it happens or avoid it if at all possible.
Exclusively on RUclips, this new video podcast series JUST B DIVORCE is your guide to navigating the big D ... DIVORCE. As an unintentional expert on the topic, I am mentioning it all with the goal to empower and educate.
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I was widowed at 25; remarried & divorced. I was in custody court from 2011 thru 2020. I was a single Mama therapist & spent my entire life savings to be able to keep my kids. I am 51, broke & can’t even buy a house as the majority of my adult life was devoted to my kids. My kids are grown now & I am truly starting over. Divorce is absolute hell
Same my friend ♥️ I finally got away from mine then really found out how bad he is when he was arrested and jailed for CA. We also have a daughter with a disability! I’m trying very hard to keep us all together 🙏♥️
Same here. I fought for custody of my only child from age 2 to 11. Even though I got sole custody, it took seven trials and it cost me EVERYTHING I had. Today she is 23 and at gratuate school, and I cant believe that I survived that. Blessings to all of you ladies❤
So so sorry that's horrible
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Sending you love and light.I hope things get better for you.
If you didn’t have the money, he would just walked away. He felt entitled.
Not if she had the baby he thinks of the child as property he owns, that’s why it took ten years for custody!
They both have to take accountability. I think he just went to far at the end but if you followed them you know they were both toxic. In fact, in the beginning everyone felt she was toxic and controlling then he turn coo coo when he pulled all into her and was left financially dry. I think may people are forgetting how she was controlling at first but then he turned the tables! She literally was on their show bossing him around about what food they could eat, finances and everything with the child etc. Then she wanted him to just start over. I guess he lost it. I remember it from the beginning!!
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I was there from the beginning too & he most definitely had an ulterior motive. I didn't like him from the get go. He knew how she was before marrying her. She even told him! He psychologically tormented her & it wasn't bc of her ocd ways either. He uses their child as a bargaining tool... enough said.
Bethenny, please continue to help us women who have no resources .... it’s nice to here some advice and compassion.
So important to share with other women. Keep listening, spread the word!
I'm not even going thru a divorce, married or dating anyone...i just wanna be here to soak up any wisdom you are willing to share ..and to give you my support.
same 🙋🏼♀️
Ditto :)
Bethany is great, isn’t she? I’m here for the ride.
Love that!
There is an Australian journalist called Jess Hill. She wrote a book called See What What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Abuse. A friend recommended it to me and it made everything that was happening to me make sense. Domestic abuse doesn’t only mean physical. Emotional, financial, coercive control are serious forms of abuse that are only recently being addressed. Highly recommend this book
I divorced my ex after 25 years.
I worked as a receptionist for a divorce attorney prior to my divorce. I quit because the guy was a narcissist, belittled me, screamed at me daily. My ex hired him as his divorce attorney to spite me. I hired a female lawyer who I met when I worked for said attorney. She too left that firm because she couldn’t stand the guy and didn’t want to be associated with him. In the end I got everything I asked for and she charged me next to nothing. I relished in the fact that my ex spent thousands thinking he was doing something hiring the narcissistic lawyer to spite me and he didn’t gain a thing. The laws the law and I was entitled to everything I got.
good story but that would be the biggest conflict of interest ever and would simply not be allowed.
@@daniellejohnson9066it was not a conflict of interest. Said lawyer never represented me in any court case. Believe me my attorney and I checked into this. In the end it didn’t matter because my ex gained nothing by doing this. It actually hurt him because he paid way more than he should’ve have for said lawyer and I still got everything I asked for.
@@daniellejohnson9066 where is the conflict of interest? She hired an attorney who used to work for an attorney she used to work for.
Husband filed after I had breast cancer surgery. What a monster. Still battling now. He’s on his 3rd lawyer .
Omg I'm so sorry 😢
😢😢praying for u. Christ cares❤
Why are you battling???? He doesn't want you anymore, LET IT GOOOOOO!!!
@@chiefswife1212He left her and probably filed in court against her
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It broke my heart when you said you believed at one point that your life would be miserable forever as I felt that with you at points in RHONY episodes where you opened up and became vulnerable. Bethenny, you are always such an inspiration for all of us. Thank you for all you do and sharing your incredible life with all of us.
Thank you ❤
I have watched you on your bravo series for years. When watching your series with your ex, I felt his resentment. When he was arrested and you got the protection order I think we all knew who “inside Jason” was. Proud of you for using your voice to educate others. That’s what life is about, teaching others from wisdom. Love seeing you with your daughter! Keep being you B❤
Whoa he was arrested?
He was arrested? Why?
@@vmsantos520yes, stalking and harassing B. He’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
If you’re a real one, you’ll soak up every word this brilliant human being is saying. I adore the B. ❤
I so agree~ 🙏🏻
Oh wait this is the original episode 1. Okay got it. I am glad they are coming back out now! Thank you Bethenny!
I empathize with you. And it's across the board I'm a 47 year old gay man who's been trying to get divorced for almost 3 years. The process is exhausting and expensive. We had no kids so there was no custody issues or anything. But it sounds like you, like me, had a sociopathic narcissist at the other end of the versus, good luck! They will drag that sh*t out for as long as they can, filing injunctions just to file injunctions. It's a racket just to claim your freedom from someone. Keep these coming it's an important topic!!!
Get that divorce!!!! Wish you all the best my dear!!!!
It's almost unbelievable!! I'm happy you survived that nightmare!! ❤❤
Thank you for sharing this. I am going through a divorce right now and no one has any idea how grueling it can be until you go through it. It is heart wrenching, scary, and yes -- becoming my own detective. There needs to be soo much more support for women. It's called "Trust" -- you trusted in love, in your partner. Smart women are "duped" often because they don't suspect anyone could be that unstable, calculating, manipulative, etc...
Divorcing a malignant narcissist is a nightmare. I was able to bifurcate after 2 years so I could stop using my abuser’s last name and take my own back. I gave up a spousal support tax advantage to do so. It was worth it. Almost 8 years later, the rest is unresolved.
I took 10 years or more to get a divorce and didn’t except child support as I didn’t want my daughter to be forced to have visitation with her Father, I said I will wait till she can speak on her own behalf in court and postpone court appearances ! My daughter’s safety and mental well being was much more important than divorce papers! He wanted to remarry someone so he persued the divorce, my lawyer managed to use he not having visitation with my daughter in order for him to not have to pay back child support and Alimony ! He agreed ( apparently money talks). We were poor but in the end we were free and safe ! Divorce and marrying the wrong Man really sucks ! It has lifelong affects ! You can’t go through something so horrific and not PTSD ! 😢
You truely inspire me .
I will get my 26 year old daughter to listen to this and learn
Back in my day I was lucky my ex husband had integrity and we made a pact that our daughter always comes first .
Then new ex fiancé tried to take my home of 20 years from me !!! Bullied me to get his name on the title of my home my ex husband bought me after our marriage divorce.
Same …. I can’t trust men anymore
And men scare the shit out of me …. Meet a bear or a man alone in the woods 98% women say BEAR !!!!
Now I have a dog and happy and freedom … thanks Bethany your doing great education for younger women in todays world x
So there are only a few 100 thousand bears vs millions of adult men……so…… I mean….. we don’t live under the same roof as a bear. FYI, if a bear cub is killed or dies, its mother will eat it. Humans don’t do that. Bears will eat other animals when they’re still alive. Humans also do that (now). It’s a silly argument you’re making.
Next time you need an emergency service, ask for their bear department to help you.
I honestly love how informative B has always been and continues to be.
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Bethany how did you ever survive 10 years of that torment??? Mine took 19 months and left me with PTSD!!!
Been married twice and twice divorced. Lost my ass in both. Now that I am retired, I realize I should have fought for those dollars 😢😢
B, I believe in YOU‼️ Keep sharing and showing us bravery. We are SO MUCH STRONGER than we know.
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Thanks B, I’m finding comfort in your story. Maybe because we always think that if we were rich and famous our problems wouldn’t exist. But clearly divorce and custody fights can be very painful for anyone despite status. ❤🙏🏻
My husband is an attorney with family court in VA, he is certified GAL here as well. I worked in JDR court here. We have seen cases like yours last until the kids graduate high school. Craziness.
Sadly, Virginia has become more of a pro-father state under the "guise" of being in the best interest of the child. In most cases, the mom is doing all the heavy lifting of taking care of the child while dad gets to be a Disney dad because the courts cater to him in Virginia. It's a bad system.
@tiffanylocus251 I agree. It's been this way for quite sometime. Not to be a joke about this, my husband and I always said we would fight over who gets custody and who would be the weekend good cop.
I went thru a divorce and battle for my 4 kids after after a 10 year marriage. It took 4 years. And my kids and I have ptsd from the divorce. My kids are grown up now and have families and are very close becuz of what we went thru. I had nothing . It took me many years to get on my feet.
Ok so she's re-releasing the episodes from before the pause. EXCELLENT
This is a repeat, right?
This is refreshing. I too went through this- forensic psychologists, law guardians, becoming a detective and this motivated me to want to go back to law school to become a divorce lawyer. Thank you for being brave enough to share! ❤
Thanks for watching!
I was a young widow. I opened my own businesses. I hear ya Bethany that marriage is a business & divorce is too! TY for being honest!🙏🙏🙏
Another episode already! Omg I am SO excited! Listening immediately.
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This a repeat of episode 1. Good. Can’t wait for episode 3. Listened to 1 and 2
Just wait...coming soon!
Thank you for doing this. I went through a mini version of what you did. Child Psychologist, court ordered how to co parent classes because he was so disagreeable, failed financial mediation, 3 year divorce ending in a 3 day trial that did not go well for him and then he filed an appeal and tried to fight me some more.
It was awful, landed me in the hospital at one point with a possible heart attack from the stress and tbh, I don't know who I was happier to get away from at the end. Him or my attorney who was good but a bitchy, older woman, who was verbally abusive and who nickel and dimed me to death. Worst experience of my life and I've been through some tragedies. I swear I have ptsd from it all still. Finalized in 2018
This is where it really counts B.... this trading your own pain and allowing others to learn from it..... this is where you make a difference..... this is the aftermath of the storm that needs aid and a voice..... because this storm wreaks havoc..... Mica Miller has also shown the repercussions of the weight it bares....
Love you Bethany, raw and real
Divorce #1: we were so lucky - we did a "do it yourself", using forms bought at Office Max. Very difficult in a different way - he is a very nice man and although I initiated it, it was almost harder because we didn't have horrendous problems. But it was time. In fact, I found a new wife for him and they're still married, today. Divorce #2: I never knew about tremendous abuse until I married this person. Took me 2 yrs, start to finish to get rid of him AND get all of my stuff back. There will be no other divorces because there will be no other marriages. I'm so done.
Thank you Bethany for talking about it! I am a therapist and I give the link to your podcast to my clients who are fighting a divorce battle. Your experience will help others. ❤
Thank you for sharing ❤
You are the strongest, bravest, and smartest woman I have ever seen. Thank you. ❤
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I pray for you and how you handle your grief & bringing up old demons. I pray for your daughter. You have this God shaped hole inside of you (just as every single one of us does), which can only be filled by Him. We will never be fully satisfied on this side of the veil. But, we can have happiness. Reach out to God. Lament to Him. Read the Psalms. They are all about lamenting. God is big enough to handle any repressed anger you may have towards Him. Just try it. It only takes a mustard seed size of faith. He will grow your faith, but you must believe. You must believe. Cry out to your maker. I'm writing this from a place of love and I hope you read this and try it.
I lost my 1st husband & father of my children at 28.
I remarried at 42 ( was in a l/t relationship w/someone else in between) remarried at 42,thought i would hv happily ever after. HA.. my life was hell. I filed for divorce 3x, he talked me out of it the 1st time, the 2nd time he wouldnt sign the papers 16 yrs after getting marrird our divorce was final last June. The in between wasna living hell. You have a person who knows your secrets, your insecurities and those are now used as ammunition. You're giving someone else the bullets to emotionally kill you. In death those secrets die with the person .
Your greatest strength is dignity and holding your own through your own identity they are at loss not you. We are graced to have you, you're a blessing!
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So happy the series is back and will live here. Looking forward to hearing your story…so glad you made it through!
Grateful you're sharing these videos again!! So much can be learned from your story B. THIS will change lives and alter the course of children's lives as well. 🏆🏆🏆
Good to hear your truth and I hope young girls realise how slowly a controlling relationship starts. My friends used to ask how it happened to me as Im strong and I couldn’t explain it.
Ok where’s the story ?
It’s been 10 years! Wow ! Sorry Bethany you are so strong 🫶 I follow a couple of your books. I’m rereading a place of yes right now
Thank for you sharing and keeping it real. You are helping so many people including myself, on how to protect myself from losing 1cent and being trapped. Thank you. Love you Bethenny.
Thank you for watching! Share with other women!
@@bethennyfrankel you got it! I promise!!!! My niece Caitlin and I coincidentally learned about each other on vacation that we both follow you! She is 16 years younger than us and also dores you. I promise to share with many other women!
I wish you heard me through the television Bethenny! 😢 I use to yell at the tv as though somehow you might hear me. My heckles always stood up when you were filming your show with him. 😣
You are AMAZING please use glass NOT plastic!! When I get a divorce I will come over and have a great chat!!! Love always Kelli
I'm so sorry you went through this Bethenny ❤. Thank you for creating this series and opening your life to us. You are a real one for this!
Thank you for watching!
I'm loving these videos. They can't come fast enough, Bethenny!
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I can’t help them think about Mica Miller. That woman seems like she was absolutely tortured emotionally. Which led to her demise. Her divorce sounded, horrible.
This women is AMAZING ❤❤❤
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Litigation abuse is real. I spent over 40k and stiiillll making payments to my Atty. I only make 38k a year. Terrible that judges allow this to happen. I had my own successful business and had to sell to pay my Atty fees to just get to court
Yes we need the real B in our heads for protecting ourselves from our own emotions......
Thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing the story of the most painful period in your life with us, it's good for you and it's good for us to hear.
Thank you for sharing B💖 I don’t see me ever getting married.
That was him Bethenny. I truly believe he watched the show and targeted you because he saw you as a meal ticket. Im so glad you had a pre-nup and that youve done all you can to protect Bryn and it shows in her what a fantastic mother you are. Its delightful to watch a 13 year old be a 13 year old. Ive never married because i know it would end in divorce just by statistics andd im.sorry but ive worked really hard for what i have and nobody is getting a penny of it because they put a ring on it.
Strong beautiful tough women B!!! You are amazing take care😊❤❤❤
I just love you more and more- I respect you SO much. You are so raw and authentic, and you are able to make connections to those who don’t have the privilege you have and see how hard it is for them. I seriously wish I lived near you bc I feel your energy through the screen and feel that if I worked in your universe, I’d thrive bc of how inspired I’d feel. Thank you for being so raw!
Love that you watched xo
Bethany, I've been with u since the first time u started on bravo. I honestly think u should make the situation between u and ur husband a Movie on lifetime!! I think it would be great. Also the reason that man was able to play u is because you didn't fully love urself!! U were not seeing clearly!! Us girls have TO learn tha hard way!!
Good to see you, Bethenny
Can’t Wait!
I just heard about your video from a friend. What a blessing to hear you speak out and help us.
Love that you watched ❤
It depends on the person Bethenny, I have never been jealous of others success, the other way around actually. Success is available , but not everyone can achieve the same level as others, it’s just fact. Like fitness. I will never be an Olympian, or even close, but I’d be proud I knew one.
Published a book on finding true WHOLENESS after divorce called “THE SUN ALWAYS PIERCES THROUGH”
I remember how giddy and I love she looked . I was following her show and thought she wasn’t fake .
Kim and Kroy need your help
Have always loved you Bethany and I’m so sorry to hear any of this but ur story will absolutely help other women and maybe that’s the silver lining here!! Thank you for sharing prob one of the most personal things u r er went through!!❤❤
So important to share with other women. Keep listening, spread the word!
THANK YOU Bethenny. A voice in the darkness! 🩷🌿
Thanks for watching!
I am in my 6th year of divorce proceedings. No progress has been made. Zero. Almost $50,000 later and nothing to show for it.
We put the house for sale, I moved out because I had it staged professionally, he moved in behind my back and cancelled all the showings. He still lives there.
I will have to file a motion now to geg the house back on the market because his side lied in the case conference.
It is absolute hell and torture and feels hopeless and neverending. The legal system is so antiquated and atrocious. I am never surprised anymore.
The most important thing in life, more than a career is to find the right partner in life.
Love you Bethany. You will help so many.
I thought he was so creepy when I watched Bethany ever after
I always liked him. Thought he was charming and handsome. Then!, I saw the scene of them arguing in the car before the boat trip with the psychologist (if memory serves me??😖) and I thought...oh hell no. In an instant my blinkers fell off. Off off off... 🗑 🚮
Me toooooo
I thought he was creepy when he wanted you both to go to Pennsylvania every damn weekend to see his parents because I divorced a man like that. And the way he was weaseling in on your business and show.
My divorce after thirteen years was a shit show nightmare. But my husband of 26 years my one true love soulmate dying was one trillion times more traumatic. I’m a shell of a person as a widow. It’s nearly killed me. Love watching you share this.
Love it! I’m here for it. Love your honesty ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for watching!
I went through a hard divorce 10 years ago - I have been happily engaged for 9 years- I told my guy I’m sorry no one is ever getting paperwork on me again. I have a solid will giving everything to my sons and everyone knows about it. My attitude is - while it’s good that’s great and if it’s not it will be easy 🎤
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Let's just all pause for a moment and look at the smileys. There's a level of incongruity here based on the topic but I'm here for it!!
I can't thank you enough for this! 💜
Thanks for watching xoxo
I remember your show with J...and he did seem like the nicest guy..but the audio and mic where he said the wirst things when taking you in another room..ive been with people like that...its sick. They're monsters. Really awful that monsters live among us.
You had a beautiful wedding, but it was a no-go on the marriage. You were both blessed with Brynn.
I agree.. with it ALL!
so glad you're talking about it, so many of us women go thru and see our friends go through horrible treatment like what you speak of but in different life events
So important to share with other women. Keep listening, spread the word!
@@bethennyfrankel ❤
Where is part 2 to this episode, can someone kindly send the link or post it up.please? I really need this extremely helpful advice and tips, no one helps your completely lost and lawyers and just making money off you, you have to even battle the lawyers sometimes for over charging you and also taking advantage of you. Please, Bethanny, please make more videos, I truly love your advice. All your advice is truly helpful. MAY GOD BLESS YOU, and give all of us peace and decisions making and access to our children ---Ameen
It must’ve been a complicated case. It seems that he took advantage of the loopholes of the system and was trying to get as much out of you as possible since you are the most successful person. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through. I’m glad is over and I’m willing to listen to your story
OK, perfect. When does the series start? Does anybody know?
Just wait...coming soon!
Can you talk about differences between states? I remember Elizabeth Gilbert wrote in Eat Pray Love that a divorce in New York is especially hard
Ok lets go you keep recapping
Ok Karen, settle down or start your own podcast bc this one ISN'T YOURS
Did you make any mistakes, during the process of your divorce, that, in retrospect, you’d have done differently?
Was anyone else silently hoping for 25 parts? Because I definitely was 👍🏻😂😊
LOL
I left with nothing because I was afraid of him and I’m still poor but I’m no longer being beaten up and abused . It’s good you had money count your blessings . At least you still have a home and a beautiful child some of us are homeless .
All of those things are just things. The pain is the same no matter what social status a person is. Js
Still trying to free myself from my narcissistic, alcoholic ex. I would not wish them on my worst enemy 💔
Do you have the whole video?? I need to see it. Can you post it?
I never, EVER wanted to get married. I met someone amazing and she asked me to marry her. I said "yes!" happily. When I met her, I had been doing oxy's but was still very much a functioning adult. I had a full time job, etc. Eventually, she started doing them too and we moved to heroin/fentanyl. We married in August 2014 and by April 2015 she was moved out and we were separated. I was completely devastated. We had nothing so it was a super easy divorce but we didn't actually divorce until 2021/2022. Now I'm engaged again and I'm nervous! I'm sober and we have a beautiful son together but I'm still nervous.
Bethenny, I have walked a mile in your shoes. We walked through hell, and we kept on going. Thank you for, well being you.
Thanks for watching ❤️
When working on your custody agreement, don't just focus on the here & now, make sure to consider the future & how your children's needs could change. Every detail matters, ie., location & who drops off & picks up, etc. Otherwise, you pay to go back to have it amended. By then, it'll be way more difficult to tailor it to yours & your childs needs.
Hi Bethenny. I am so excited to watch your podcast and follow your unfortunate journey through divorce. Stay strong 💪 and keep your chin up. You are so strong and beautiful. 🙏🙏🙏🌟🙏🙏🙏🙏
Keep watching!
I will. ❤❤
Hi this was never your fault. I think you named the factors and aspects of the situations you struggled with and identified how women are taken advantage of by the systems and peoples …. We believe you 🌻🌻🌻💕💕🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
Is there a longer podcast with her whole story?
I think we really need to get real about our expectations from another person, no one is going to be the best at everything. If you end up in the divorce lawyers office you ARE divorcing the person you married (not who you thought they were or should be) throw off the rose colored glasses when getting into it, and NEVER ignore the red flags of abuse. Understanding the harsh truth of relationships has to be taught. You should have Sexton on the show.
Please label these in parts. I get so confused on the order
Why is this a repeat???