One of the harder things about being a single Christian is the Church itself. It is really a couple's world in Church. Many times, that pastors preach, the sermon leads to them talking about their marriage and how great it is to be married, even when the sermon has nothing to do with marriage. Add on top of that times that there are themed sermons that focus on the family. From child rearing to marriage relationships and not to mention the Sunday service that falls closest to Valentines Day. All the time this is happening, I am sitting in the pew asking why I am even there. A lot of the time, singles are the forgotten demographic.
Thank you for this word. Crying so hard. I’m 34 year old woman. Turning 35 in February. I’m a nurse. I’m God fearing. I’m loving & am told I’m pretty. But I cannot find a Godly man that I have an attraction physically & spiritually. It’s hard not to compare myself to my sister who just got married last month, my friends who are married having house, kids, husband/wife. It’s so hard waiting in the dark wanting something so bad…but you can’t see it happening bc you been praying so long. I pray I can rest & have peace trust God will come through like those in the Bible. I’m so tired…
Hello Nicole! I'm in my mid 30s and never been married. Let me tell you that you aren't late. God's timing will be perfect. He will restore back to you what the enemy took. Remember Jeremiah 29:11
You can’t begin to imagine what it’s like to be a single 63 year old guy, loyally serving The Lord since the age of 24, & praying for a wife for over 39 years …all to no avail. At least you two have each other …don’t take that for granted.
I hear you! We all go through desires or prayers with the result of waiting. Ive been going through singleness for over 20 years. Very testing and difficult to be encouraged but we perserve!
Wow you are inspiring seriously. God bless you. Don’t ever lose hope. You are precious to God with or without a marriage don’t let the enemy tell you otherwise. Hang onto what you got your friends, siblings, and relatives. 💜
@@HamiltonRowan-r6zIt doesn’t hurt to encourage people here. Doesn’t have to start off by dating. Just two people encouraging each other during these times .
The past few days have been some of the most painful I've been through in singleness. I saw one of my crushes get married. I think having added all the other disappointments the last few years it been overwhelming me. I imagine I will fade back to normal but I still feel that deep hopelessness feeling inside regardless. Trusting God has been a hard pill to swallow and it's only gotten harder the longer my singleness lasts. Your video did loft my spirits. Thank you and God bless.
I totally understand you. I am exactly there too. But, did you know that meeting someone actually starts with expose yourself to people and by a simple greeting can go a long way? Whatever it is, I keep saying I don’t want anything that does not come from God’s blessing, for it not then it has no meaning. Best be someone worthy of God before is worthy of me. My life, my whole being must be a throne for God. The Lord is love, remember that He empty Himself for all of us. Not just trust Jesus, can you truly trust Him *fully* Press forward, get out there. Keep it in prayer. Failure is part of success. Man up. You better shape up. We can make it with God.
I agree generally, but he was single for a long time and I've followed his channel for a long time. I'm still single, but he's actually been there and done that, and hasn't been married for a long enough time to forget.
For me as a 27 year old man, Being single and in the wilderness season is rough. It would be a really hard pill to swallow if God does not want me to get married even though I have the deep desire to. I want to contribute towards fighting back against the popular culture hating on marriage and fidelity. But I feel like I just have to trust God through the pain and suffering of my life. It doesn’t help that my life circumstances keep me in bondage and stagnant financially strapped and with no sign of a career taking off any time soon.
@@forranachNo it’s pursuing sexual gratification and marriage outside God’s Divine Design established in Genesis with Adam and Eve. The whole “gay marriage” lie comes from Satan’s envy and hatred for God and marriage. I don’t judge you because I sense you may be in this situation or know someone who is. The immoral, drunkenness, homosexuals, wicked and more will not be allowed to enter the kingdom of God as St Paul tells us meaning that it’s a lifelong battle against letting your pleasure and desire for a sex and a companion consume you so much that it corrupts your heart and mind.
im in exact same boat dude, 27 year old virgin male in debt struggling financially and fighting off lust and stuff lol i want marriage really bad to and God knows how much I do but idk just gotta be patient and trust God i suppose
Been crying all day because of how lonely I've been feeling and my singleness hurts me even if I try to not care. And yeah you're right it's hard regardless of how much faith and trust I put in God's timing. I hope I'll be able to get through this.
That's your problem. Wanting "much more" implies you are that "much more" for someone else. What I simply mean is to sit in the lowest seat as God commands. Sit humbly , so that God can elevate you if he wills, but if you constantly try to sit where you don't belong you'll be told to sit lower in front of all your peers. The media has you bamboozled into thinking you deserve more, and so many men are outside of your "standard". No body is good enough, no body is rich enough or "Godly" enough. The key to contentment is to know yourself- you are a fallen creature, and no one is perfect except our Lord Jesus. So once you get that through your heart and soul ; whatever God wills, So Be it, you will keep chasing after dreams. Let go, die to yourself, and you will live.
It kind of always feels like a slap in the face when married people, especially couples, try and preach to you about your issues as a single person. Just don't do it. You're potentially causing more harm than good. Your good intentions are overshadowed by the struggles you're highlighting.
I'm a 24 man who throughout my life so far came closer to God and trying to get better with serving him and being more knowledgeable to Bible but I can't agree more like when you try to express the struggle of being single mostly comes off as disingenuous and makes it feeling worse
I can see how you feel this way. I don't know them but possibly they struggled with this too, enough to still consider people who are continuing to struggle with this issue. Not many are talking about these issues. I think even if they are married, they are creating this space where men and women are compassionate to each other in this social media age where people are normally adversarial.
Over the past year, I've dropped a whopping 80 pounds and then some. I've upgraded my dance game, stepped out of my cozy bubble by striking up more conversations with women, dipped my toes into speed dating, let friends play matchmaker, and even hit up church social events. But, you know, the relationship scene is still a no-go. Not a single date in sight. I feel like a total mess, and no one, not even me, can fix it. It's like that feeling when you've exhaled every bit of air, held your breath for a sec, and you're just left with emptiness. That's my everyday vibe. I end up crying myself to sleep, craving someone to love and hold dear. People try to reassure me, saying I'm not alone, that God is there for me. But it's like trying to hug the air, wipe away tears from God's eyes, and surprise Him with a random sweater you found - you just can't.
Good on you for working on yourself! Losing 80lbs in a year is incredible. That takes a serious amount of dedication and mental fortitude. I understand and sympathize with you. I have been single all my life (m, 31) though I do not desire singleness. We are created for connection, to build one another up in the faith and charity, to encourage one another. Seek this out in life... connections with people anywhere you can find it. Have a hunger to serve others and help others. This brings joy and fulfillment when done in earnest. Do not have an expectation of anything in return. For me personally, I hunger to have a deep connection with a sister in Christ, someone to love unconditionally as Christ loves the church. Someone to cherish, support, and strengthen in the faith. I want her to encourage me, to be there for me, and to love me genuinely. The union of a husband and wife is irreplaceable by any other thing on this world. Seek the Lord first. Keep the strength, I pray the Lord guides you in your search.
let it go man, theres more fulfilling things than having a girlfriend, just look at the world we live in, this is intentional. Learn to live alone, youll get over it. If it comes it comes, but these days? yeah, good luck with that. Stay strong
@@johnfisher8401I’m going to agree with this guy. You can work on yourself but do it for yourself and God. Don’t do things so women will notice you. It doesn’t work or the attention you get won’t be the kind you want.
I took my time with a girl and she showed her true colors ended up falling into sin with another man that wasn’t even her bf . Shortly after she gets into a long distance relationship with a different man .God taught me many lessons this season .I will always be faithful to god wit or without a women .
33yo male divorced and recovering from addiction. I WISH my ex had left me because of addiction. She didn't care about that. She rejected the good in me while tolerating the bad as long as it didn't hurt her directly. I spent 4 years married to a woman who rejected me and God on virtually every level and seemed almost threatened by the idea of me actually bettering myself. I may not recover emotionally and I may never find a good woman for lack of my own ability to trust, but I have not given up and none of you should either. Get in the gym. Get off the phone. Get in the church. Get off the p*rn. Get in the Word. Get off yourself. marriage or no, you'll be too busy with the good wallow in self-pity.
I don't think I've ever seen a video better than this on youtube. This is such a calm, truthful expression of an aspect of Christian life that often goes unspoken. I'm single at 37, and I will definitely be using this video as a helpful reminder to be content and serve the Lord where I am and pray for the one whom God would have for me.
Blessings to you both Sam & Sadie! I have struggled with the single life as well, but I have many interests that I can pursue as God leads me. I lost my wife of 20 years 7 years ago, so I see things a little differently than say a 20 year old would. That said we all feel the pain & sorrow of loneliness at times, what seems to help me is just being real with myself & the Lord, and I give my heart and all that I desire to him in prayer, after that I leave my worries, cares, fears & anxieties with him. Time & time again I come across another person that's also in a hard place, and I have the privilege of blessing them with what God has already given me. There's no better way out of a personal dark place, than being a light to someone else sitting alone in darkness!
Glad I found this video! I’m been going through this weird time in my life where I’m continually waiting on God and praying about having a godly relationship one day with the right person, and almost everytime I pray about it, soon after I find out someone else that is in my life or that I know has found someone. It has been happening quite frequently. Quite frankly, I’m just getting tired of seeing other people received what I’ve been praying, looking, and discerning for from God. I think it’s just a sign that I’m not going to be married or something - I have no clear idea. Just confused, frustrated, and quite tired of trying at this point in my life. 😒
I am holding onto the promise that God has given me and all of you as well. Psalm 37:4. Take delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Walking through the storms of life are hard. But God knows the outcome. He is taking us through these things for a reason. I have to remind myself of this everyday. It doesn't make it any easier but knowing that God has a plan for my life brings hope.
Despite all my desires, even love from a significant other… I want what God wants of me. Completely surrender myself to the Lord and accept His will over mine. Although there’s things I want for sure, with all my heart, it has no significance without being in His grace. To make me obedient to His Church. 🤲🏻 ⛪️
The heart is desperately wicked who can know it? By your old nature, that is your flesh - the desire will always be pride, lust and covetousness. The passage of Psalm 37-4 is speaking of the New creature, born again in Christ Jesus. Therefore the desires of the new creation is the will of the Father. Which is to take away the first to establish the second. It isn't that our desires ought to "align" with God, it is that we willing give up ourselves as a living sacrifice unto God, and his Will envelopes us. In that comes his righteousness, and blessings which may or not include a help meet for you. But the sooner you let go of your old nature, the sooner you'll be under the shadow of the almighty.
This is what I needed to be remind of. Thank you guys for your video. Sometimes I jump the gun and say that I shouldn't be unhappy about singleness without recognizing that I am, and that I need to bring this to the Lord, and it becomes an unresolved issue hidden under the rug.
Never lose hope y’all! “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make straight your paths” (Proverbs 3:5)
Yes, no matter how much God’s plans negatively effect you, your well-being, or your psyche, you just keep a smile plastered on your face and act like everything is okay. I’m sorry, but that verse doesn’t really sit right with me. And I can’t image it would sit right with anyone going through a situation resembling what I described. Edit: I’m seriously unraveling right now. And I’d be lying to myself if I said I trust God.
My thoughts and prayers are with you both. I also struggle greatly with meeting a Godly woman getting married and having children and the pain of going through the season of singleness is so intense I can't describe it and letting go of that is something that I will absolutely refuse to do and I will even double down on that if necessary, I am currently 29 and I currently feel like I am running out of time. I am also am a proud Catholic Christian who strives as much as possible and make God a central piece of my life as it always should be.
I'm want to challenge this form of thinking . I have quietly listened to people speak like this to single people, and as much as it may seem genuine,( which I believe you all are), these forms of messages are insensitive. Christians tend to speak about single life as if there is no way out. Another flaw is using Paul opinion about relationships as a way to suggest that not everyone will get married . Listen, go outside, live your life, date and have fun. Scripture is very clear about God answering prayers regarding our desires. Now, the timing of it may vary, but God is not a wicked God, he won't neglect your desire to be intimate and married with someone . Ask the lord for wisdom , take courses on how to flirt, how to date etc. a lot of Christians are waiting on God but not even trying to go out and meet people . Take the pressure off and just live . Pray and believe God, and in due time your mate will come about . Amen 😩
Be content in the Lord. Try not make marriage an idol. Be content in the lord and satisfied in Him.. Maybe He wants you to learn that before He blesses you with a husband
I sense that you are lonely and are living alone in life. This is what God promises you in Psalm 68:6 “God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.” The daily grind of working and then coming back to an empty house is hard, but have faith and confess your hearts desires to Lord. Offer your brokenness and broken heart to the Lord fill the void in your heart with His presence as He does not turn those away with a crushed spirit and broken heart. Seek his peace to guard your mind and heart and be amazed at how it changes everything in your life.
I was a hopeless, lonely chronically single dude that couldn't find love at all. One day I was choosing to be thankful for everything I didn't like about my life rather than feel sorry for myself, and I realized I was ACTUALLY thankful for being single. I've spent my whole life pursuing and trying to seduce women, and my insecurities drove them all away because I was CRAZY. In thankfulness, God took away even my DESIRE for a relationship! I'm FREE! I could die ALONE and I just don't care! I have Jesus!!!! I can't express to you all how important it is to come closer to God than you are as close to the idea of a self-serving relationship (That's what it is, it's self-serving. You feel like you want to "love" someone, but really you want someone to love YOU because you do not feel loved, youself- I know this because that's what made ME fearful and lonely) You DON'T need to be in a relationship, and until you come to that level of security within yourself, then you will NOT function as the proper human being to securely be IN one!!!
I have been single for most of my life, only been in one long term relationship that I probably shouldn't have been in. Other than that, I tried so hard and I had one girl enter my life that I thought God had set aside for me, and me her, and I was so happy and joyful. She is not in my life anymore, and it hurts me to my core, but I need God more than anything because of that. Sometimes that may be the only purpose, to get you closer to Him. I pray that I will be with someone eventually, and I still even pray that she would return exactly as I left her or better, but overall I know His will reigns supreme. "The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, blessed be the Lord"- Job 1:21
Sam and Sadie, thank y'all for this video. I really needed to hear this! I've been going back and forth with being content and being upset about my time of singleness I'm in these past couple years as I've been getting to the age that I can be married. Videos like this one are helping me to have the right mindset about singleness! 😍
Was crying to my married twin brother last night about how low I'm feeling in this season of singleness. I know in my head that God loves me, is always here, and that I shouldn't desire marriage and a family as much as I do. I've felt His in other situations of life so it's been my prayer that that peace would spread to my desires relationally. But it just hasn't. And i want it to so badly. When I'm rejected by a girl, or a date doesn't go well, the bootup is to feel like it's a reflection on me. The fear of being single for another 10 years or never getting married is haunting, but I KNOW that I need to find peace with God and His direction for my life. Praying for all you fellow singles out there
What do you do when you want to be married one day, but are content with being single for a season and still want to work on your relationship with God? I want to be married but I enjoy my relationship with God
That’s a great situation to be in Ashley! Paul even says that as long as you can serve The Lord while single and not burn with lust, it’s actually best! Just wait for God’s calling for a relationship before you go looking for one!
Imagine being 45 and still waiting. Only the mighty God above has kept me. I give all credit to Him. He knows the desires of my heart and I truly believe He will fulfill them. It gets so hard at times but I continually pray and read my word to stay focused. 💍👰🏽♀️🤵🏾♂️💕
Someone who doesn’t want children, someone who is divorced, already has children, people who have no family and would like to invest in a family though their wife, people whose main priority is their mission, people who want a social life rather than children, people who want to share their hobbies with someone really compatible with them, someone in their 50s/60s, people who like older women, the list goes on and on. I can’t imagine Jesus saying what you said. Please apologize to her, as it’s totally fine if you don’t want to marry a 45yo but don’t kick someone when they’re down.
Being single is a great time to delve into your relationship with God with more intention. During this period, try to develop a take it or leave it attitude with regards to finding that special someone. When you take your mind off of it, it becomes a non issue. Focus on other things that bring you joy and remember that most relationships are not all that they are cracked up to be (appearances can often be unreliable) and lack the peace that you are currently experiencing.
Hey i know you guys are going through a really tough time but im praying for you guys❤ just remember how god gave Abraham and Sarah a child even when they were old . He will give you guys children if it is his will . Just trust and believe and keep praying. Prayer can really change things. Make sure that you pray unceasingly and im right here praying for you guys too ❤❤
This video was hard to watch. There was plenty of war when I pressed it, but your words touched my heart. Ultimately, God is sovereign, and we have to rest in the knowledge that he has a plan for us and that there is a purpose for every experience. Thank you for making this heartfelt video. God bless you.❤
Dear God, please help, bless, be with, and help everyone to trust God. Please help everyone that is going through a season of being single. May your will be done. In the name of Jesus. Amen.
This was so good 🤍 I believe I’ve reached that point of peace, joy & contentment in my singleness for the first time in my life, and it came after serious heartbreak. I decided to take the time to heal, God revealed soooo many things in me that we’re working on together and I finally fully trust that His timing and His choice of a person is infinitely better than mine. He loves us and He wants what’s best for us, and at times that can be really, really hard to accept (like when you have to break up with someone who you really love) but surrendering to His will always brings a deeper sense of peace than any earthly “good feeling” 🙌🏻
That’s definitely a very very hard season of life to be in Connie. But just like in your situation, God is good and often reveals to us what He was doing during those tough times. God bless!
I don't know if you guys are gonna read this, but I just wanna share how I felt watching this video and that was like grabbing a cup of coffee and sitting with long-term fellow friends to have an honest talk about the current tides of life. And I say THANK GOD, and thank YOU for giving me such a blessing of a feeling. It's been hard. Very hard. Not only copying with a singlesness that I do not want and that's been here for a too long time, feeling the desire of building a Kingdom marriage/family while seeing other believers becoming couples and asking what perhaps is wrong with me; but also facing the current trials of my life (unemployed, disappointed, frustated with life, feeling like every effort is in vain - been in a need of reading Psalm 73 these days btw!) and feeling sometimes completely left out. So... thank you once again, cuz it was like a breathe. And I know that, above all else, God remains Who He is, and He is good. Perfectly good. So He will show up His character in His ways and in His timming not only in my life, but in everyone's. Amen. God bless you sevenfold!
Im so sorry for you that you have to go through this suffering. It must be so hard and heartbreaking to experience a loss like you did. Thank you for sharing this openly to be a Light to others. You have to go through this dark season now, but I promise you that this miscariage is not the end and that god will bless your more than you can imagine. God sees your sorrow and hears your prayer and He will make your future bright and wonderful.
Thank you Thank you Thank you for being real. Being Single is hard but seeking God's will is my priority. My desire . Praying for you as well as you trust God to have children if it's His will. ❤
Love how you guys turned your situation with having kids into something like this, which honors God and gives hope to those who are single. Such wisdom and grace God is giving to us through you two. I’ll be praying for you.
Having kids in this day brings much pain much grief much sorrow, yes blessings beyond measure but the spiritual attacks that happen to our children and the things that they are exposed to and just the dangers they may come across is gut-wrenching heart-wrenchingwjat we have to watch satan try and do to our precious angels...I'm the mother of two boys 13 and 11 and have been raising them up in the Lord since they were one and three I would never take my kids back, they're my whole world I do not regret them, but it also brings much pain and sorrow because this world could never be good enough for these precious Souls. It's very very very hard to have to let go and have them in such a disgusting world. This is no walk in the park. I have never had a miscarriage I cannot imagine the pain that you're going through but it doesn't stop once you have the actual baby,it gets more painful. But I belive in you and your husband! God's plan for our children is the same plan he has for us and that is to make them more christ-like and is extremely painful to watch, and you just pray that this world doesn't get to them these murderers these child molesters these traffickers.stay prayed up.
HUGS in Christ. Even though i'm single man, your vision of the world is very much as mine and of course it's because of God the Holy Spirit inside us. God JESUS keep you and your household every day and every night.👍🕊✝ Take us HOME o LORD YESHUA ✝ John 14:2,3
Thanks to this couple for that empathy you have for us who are still single There is grace you have given us for understanding what we pass through because it is tough. Many people don't understand what we go through
Thank you this has given me a new perspective on this topic. I have struggled for along time with wanting a relationship and eventually be married and have kids. Right now it just doesn't seem even possible anymore because I have been made to feel like I'm not enough because I put my identity in the relationship instead of in Christ. If God has someone for me I will praise Him if He doesn't I will praise Him.
39, always rejected, been scammed, lead on, used. I'm at that place where I'm Heart broken angry jaded cynical apathetic aloof suicidal sometimes hold a grudge every time i see a couple. Its tough but i have gained wisdom and clarity still go thru fits of rage. But i thank God for it in a way Knowing what I know now I've been spared a lot of heartache.
Wow, I really needed this video, it came at the right time, Thankyou so much 🤍🤍also praying for Gods peace and comfort for you both during this time and God will bless you both with children x
Thank you for posting this! Very well said and a mature perspective on life as a Christian. I know the Lord will honor how you are living your lives for him!
Thank you for an encouraging video as i am 34 single i battle with loneliness all the time going to work and coming home to an empty house is so painful watching everyone around me getting married and having kids i stopped going to church because i feel like less of a person i desire a life partner and marriage more than anything i dont get why God wont bless me pray for me..
Same, Im 33 and been single my whole life. I saw all my old classmates, co workers and cousins get married and I cant even get a prospect. A former friend is nearing her 10 year anniversary and here I am struggling with the same issues 10 years later. The thought of staying single the rest of my life breaks my heart.
I'm single as well. One thing I want to encourage you with. DON'T Stop putting the Lord fisrt. I go to church every weekend and involved in a couple small groups. I would encourage worship the Lord at church with a cheerful heart. In HIS timing it Will happen. Be cheerful brother, and you WILL attract the right person for you
Brother, a reason God may not be giving you a spouse is because you currently view that event as something that will resolve your pain for you. It is likely that woman would become an idol in your life and perhaps the thoughts about it already are. God will not allow idolatry. Center Christ in your life. Join a good church. See what there is you can do there to *give* to God. Review your life and see if there is sin and idolatry in it: where are you taking your pain? Are you taking your pain to Christ? Or to perhaps pornography, alcohol, doom-scrolling on social media etc. Do not expect a holy wife, when you yourself are unholy. God will not allow it. When you can bear the pain as a man, that will be the moment God will allow you to be the head of a holy wife. I say this as a single Christian man, discovering these things for myself thanks to the Holy Spirit. God bless.
@@wspek I've already given up. Theres no point trying. Porn will always be an issue so why try to be holy when its impossible. Im used to never getting a victory in anything and im used to no girl wanting me. Why bother with church when all I'll get is pitying looks from the people or instant distrust because I question everything.
I pray God will bless your womb that you both will be fruitful and multiply. Continue to have faith, just as God made it happen for Sarah, I pray that in His perfect will, He makes it happen for you. Thank you so much for this post and for your beautiful hearts in serving the Lord! It my heart!!
I’m so hopeful to meet my person, but I hold this desire in an open hand. The Lord and I are walking through so much right now. I’m trying to focus on being a better friend of God, being kind to myself and to others, working through emotional and mental things, working on my words, going deeper into the word, building myself up in self discipline, etc.While watching this I realized that I’ve been holding out on myself for the next season. What I need to do develop myself for me and the Lord. Not for any future walk.
Ohhh…there’s so much to be said on this. I will be 40 soon and this is where I’m at just totally hopeless. Jesus be my all in all. Thank you for making this video.
@@kevinnorris6157 Nope, never. They always stare yet they’ll never talk to me. Usually bc they are married or too young. A lot of men look at me, and look away right away or turn their head quickly. I smile and say hi and then they run off right away. Maybe one day one will have the courage to speak to me. My bf and I broke up in May and I’ve been so sad, which doesn’t help my case. I’m prolly putting off some energy I’m not aware of. Honest to God, just don’t understand why it has to be so hard. Thanks for asking though.
@@Christina_320a college girl here and never been approached or dated and sometimes I just think I will be an old lady all alone one day. Perhaps I seem not approachable because I’m probably awkward in social settings too and don’t put myself out there as they say. I don’t know this generation of dating is messed up too. Finding a strong man of God or finding a strong women of God is practically impossible not to even exaggerate in this day and age. It is making me hopeless. It is so hard especially as Christians. May God help us all. God bless you, too.
First of all thank you for this encouragement, and I pray and bless you in Jesus name for all the strength and comfort He provides you with in such tough circumstances. It really helps to put thing in to perspective, but its not always easy. I've been walking this path for almost 15y now, and I thank God that at begging of my conversion (I was 18 and atheist, born as Catholic) He shown me some really amazing testimonies of people who waited for the right time and right person from God. It gave me strength to give up on my crush and overcome the desire to be with someone, hoping and praying for a person from God that will be everything He knows and I need to have in my life. BUT its been a while now.. and I feel like I'm at the end of my strength to wait, I still pray that He either brings person in my life or rid me of desire to be with someone yet I feel like I'm the end of me. I dont want to become indifferent regarding the whole thing, but even hoping becomes painful when I venture in to thoughts of it. It doesnt help the fact that I never had a family (orphan at the age of 7) and people I know in my life are either having teenagers or even worse are divorced already. None of them are Christians so I get that, but the cruelty of reality is hard to grasp. Lately depression is creeping in and the only hope that's left because its sure, is His return for the Church and the end of this valley of sadness and loneliness. A prayer would be much appreciated. Thank you and God bless you. Marana'tha!
Praying for you child of God! You're not alone a lot of us are going through that tough season with you even though we're not together physically. Stay strong in Gods strength, even when you couldn't find strength He got you! His holding your hand and he won't let go 🙏🏾
Isaiah 43:19 Listen carefully, I am about to do a new thing, Now it will spring forth; Will you not be aware of it? I will even put a road in the wilderness, Rivers in the desert. Jesus is the redeemer. He will make a way!
I have been trying to be content in the season I am in, but it is tough because it seems as if everything I am working towards is for something in the long term future, which makes it hard to enjoy the period I am in. I am doing uni and still have 3.5 years left. I am working hard at preparing myself to be a leader, protector and provider for my future spouse, but Ive never even been on a date before. Even my personal goals will take a really long time to achieve (I aim to become a pro natural bodybuilder, which will take at least another 4 years). I highly value relationships and friendships, so I try to enjoy this period and avoid feeling lonely through spending time with friends, but they are starting to get married and move on to the next stage of life. I know I am to be content, but it is so hard when I feel like everything I am doing is in preparation for something. I don't know how to enjoy 'the now' because I am doing so much to set up my future, which means I am always looking forward. It makes the present feel so dull in comparison to what I am wanting for my life in 3-5 years time. Not wanting pity, but just wanted to share my perspective of trying to be content. It's a tough battle being content and I really don't want to waste the gift of singleness that I currently have
Hi Shelby! Yeah that’s definitely a tough time to stay motivated and not feel discouraged when the payoff for your hard work feels really far away. Thanks for sharing your perspective and we pray that God gives you peace and joy in this season and all to come!
God loves you. Try to not pressure yourself too much. I pray that you feel his delight over you and his deep deep love for you here and now in this season. You are wonderful, son of god. dont lose hope.
Thank you for this video. It's my first of your videos, but I really needed to hear this. Thank you especially to you Sam for encouraging single guys like me to persevere and wait on God's timing while still pursuing Him. I've only had two relationships and neither lasted longer than three months. Besides those two I've been single for my 29 years on the earth that I praise God for. I became disabled in 2018, lost my job and lost so much of my confidence that I'm trying to get back. I blamed and still do blame myself in my low moments for the relationships not working out. I thought there was something wrong with me when nearly every woman I approached turned me down or didn't even give me the time of day, in person or on dating apps. I say this with a smile, you made me get choked up and teary because this hit home. I needed to hear it, thank you. God bless from a fellow brother in Christ, bought with His blood. Keep fighting the good fight in the Lord's name. Subscribed.
I'm so tired, genuinely tired of dating or even the prospect of a spouse. I'm 29 and every single time I'm met with the roadblock of "you're a really good guy but let's stay friends." It's gut wrenching. This desire for marriage and to have kids, to have a family. I wonder if most young people have been led astray? I think back to my parents and them telling me that to be happy I needed to buy a house, make money and have a family. I remember in church the constant focus being on married couples and guiding young people into getting married. There was never an ounce of "it's ok to be single". Recently I've started down this road of accepting that it may not be God's plan for me to get married. I pray that God's desires for my life become my desires. I have friends who tell me the most cliché things that all single people hear and are expected to just accept when they are told "It will happen when you least expect it" "I met my spouse when I wasn't even looking" "It's all in God's timing". Those same people though become so frustrated or change the topic when I respond with "It may not be His plan for me".
It's really sad but truthfully your better off alone than to be with the wrong person. Yes at times it is very very painful to be alone. There's no doubt about it. However your nightmare is just beginning if you get with the wrong person. There are horrors you can't even imagine and sometimes it's so bad it can even result in homelessness or even death. So sometimes it may be that living alone can actually save your life.
I’ve always looked at dating or finding someone as faith vs free will . I’ve been single as a Christian for 6 years plus and wish I could meet someone to honor and be thankful for. But girls these days have a completely different desire in men . It’s not about if nice guys finish last or not thing , it’s about can you see yourself with a guy you WANT to honor you and fall in love with and not be ashamed . Dating now a days is fake and hurts people who wish they had a chance but will never have bc of judgement
Amen!! With the part that you guys were talking about if I would be content if I didn't have what I desired. And it was similar to me thinking if I would be okay and content if I had what I wanted and was still struggling with what I was struggling with now and the answer is no. I had been struggling alot recently with what God wanting me to do and him changing me and it has been really really hard mostly. It something like I get out of the struggle and I'm okay but then something happens, I think of something or I don't do something that I feel lead to do and I go crazy and sad about that and even when he is comforting me there are other times where there still something lurking around physically ( I don't really know how but in a way) and mentally which don't make me feel okay don't make me feel the joy I should when dwelling in the Lord. And I have come to the understanding and listening to the holy spirit that marriage isn't going to solve or help (in the way needed to completely come out of) what I'm going through now,because God is the only one that can save me from my sins. So what he told me today while in the driving car with tears in my eyes and running is is that I should trust in him now and not look to the future (for me and why I am going through the cycle of what I have been going through) and say that yes I know that this and that can be linked to the future and be excited about the future. But I should think about now and trust in him that he will fix and solve my struggles (with me actually doing what it takes to change) now and not try to link it to the future, and thats what leads me to a thought of not trusting in him without knowing that because yes I still lead away to thoughts and situations that he did not put in my mind to think of so I should steadfast in him and make sure that the thoughts I think is what he has given me. THANK YOU JESUS FOR this deliverance !!!! In Jesus Name I am free and healed ❤❤🎉🎉 in JESUS NAME. please pray for me and continue to pray for me 😊😊😊 thank you for reading throughout i hoped this helped how the holy spirit intended it to. 😁😁😁 byeeeee later.
Dear hopeless single Christian: let me give you some hollow empty platitudes that will only make you more miserable and bitter. “What God has for you…” He can keep it!!!
Singleness is increasing every year for both men and women in this country now. It’s been projected that by 2030 45% of women from age 18-45 will be single and it’s already higher than that right now for men.
Im in a weird place where im happy with nothing 😂.... i had a rough few years, lost everything.... friends work.... i had hopes that things would get better but they just didn't so now i really don't feel like i even need what i desired, but i trust in God's promises to get them when it's the right time, for now I'll just enjoy the freedom.
Thank you guys for being obedient to the Holy Spirit and making this video. Not receiving a pure desire of your heart is so painful and I love that you guys didn’t paint a facade that it is easy. I have cried many of times, because experiencing a love ordained by God during my time here on earth seems so far fetched and it pains me to my innermost being. However, you guys taught me to relinquish my plans that I so strongly grip and instead give God complete control of my life. Thank you guys! Also, I pray that God blesses you both with the most beautiful rainbow baby in His perfect timing. ❤️
“Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act, making your righteousness shine like the dawn, your justice like the noonday.” Psalms 37:4-6
This is one of the BEST videos I have ever watched regarding this topic. Beautifully said by both of you and it was so awesome to hear the singleness journey from a male perspective. You two are a beautiful couple and what God intended. I recommend you pray to Our lady of La leche and if it interests you visit her shrine in St.Augustine,FL. Many baby miracles have happened after praying and visiting. God's will always reigns and my heart goes out to you both. Thank you for helping me in my singleness journey. You are both in my prayers. :)
Thanks for both of your honesty I must admit that I clicked on this video thinking, "Here we go again" a couple who don't understand the rawness of being single. I have been chatting to this Girl for 2 or 3 weeks online, and arranged to meet tomorrow, the 19th of Nov We were getting on so well, and laughing till it hurts Last night, she cancelled, and we have cut contact I kept reminding God that Hope deferred makes the Heart grow sick ps I am a long time Subscriber 🙏❤️
“She canceled” unfortunately it’s the norm today brother. At least with Christians it’s almost like the norms reversed. It’s the women who cannot handle commitment.
@@lukerestlessstudios It is horrible, how fickle women have become Yet, they do plain that no good men around Many want a man who has hard earnt success, money, looks, job and descends from heaven like Jesus or Angel wings These are the same women, who abandon a man, through tough times, just like Jobs wife did
I can honestly say I will always love christ and be content in him. But I don't think I can find peace and joy in my life if I don't get married and have children. That's been my desire since I was a child and I think God has placed that desire in me. Waiting is one of the worst feelings.
I tried it my will and my way. Led me smashing into that proverbial brick wall that left me broken. God's still piecing me together. But I desire someone to be with. Everyone else around me has someone. I have my daughter but our time is thinning out and that's to be expected since she's growing on me.
Most Christian RUclips videos involve attractive people telling average and unattractive people how to date or be content. We want to be attractive like you and have the chance to date.
On one hand, i really couldnt ask God for any more, im extremely blessed. I have amazing parents that love God, love each other and love me, I have a great extended family thats very close knit and are basically all believers who pray for and support each other. I have a job that i dont hate, God has provided me with the financial stability to be able to afford a house on a single income. I have great friends at church that im very close to and love serving with in different areas. On the other hand, i still feel God is somehow withholding the blessing of marriage and family that ive longed for. Im turning 29 next year and im not getting any younger. My sister and brother in law had a little boy a year and a half ago, and seeing my little nephew growing up has really made me want to have kids of my own. I know God has blessed me with so much and I know His plan and His timing is perfect, but I still have my own doubts and fears of being alone my whole earthly life. I need to have faith that His plan for me is perfect regardless of if i get married or not, but thats not easy
29 is not that old at all, trust me. The only time I’d be worried is if you’re still single at 35. For childbearing reasons, things may be more difficult. Until then, trust the process. God may have a way of bringing you to your husband at a specific time, any earlier would mean the relationship timing is off. That’s how I try to see it
@@ninagrace-lee8323 haha sorry I guess I didn't make it clear in my comment, but I am, in fact, a man looking for a wife, not the other way around. Thanks for your kind comment either way though!
I'm 48, and have been saved since I was 12. I have never met a Christian girl that I loved. I have tried to wait on the Lord most of that time, been involved with Churches, and other Christians since I was 18. God has not blessed me with spiritual wisdom, good health, good finances, a good family, good friends, good relationships, a good wife, kids, a good pet, artistic or music success. Nothing. After an injury, and a long battle with autoimmune issues, I lost my house, and have been living in an industrial shop for 7 months. I found a VW van to live in back in December when I thought I could afford to buy it, so I could have some freedom, and rebuild my life, and it's been nonstop roadblocks. It should have been paid for already. I'm going to lose it soon. The woman I love is 4,000 miles away, and doesn't know or want to know God. Every woman I've ever loved, I tell about Jesus, and they can't hang. Every Christian girl I've ever met is either really boring, not my type, or taken. I've also watched most of my Christian friends get divorced. This life is a joke, and I'm sick of living it.
May I ask do you feel like you pray all the time and do your part but don't really feel like God is even paying attention to you or answering? Because I seem to have this same problem, I'm 21 and in a similar situation where I'm fed up with everyday life ,in emotional pain(mental struggles) and can't get any help no offense but I saw your message and got scared that this could be me
My wife abandoned me and our two kids after 10 years of marriage. I had just given my life to Christ and a month later she abandoned us after telling me she hates God. She was practicing witchcraft which I had no clue and she had been having an affair. She is now pregnant by another man. I truly loved her. That was 4 months ago. Believe me that wrecked me. I just found out a few days ago that she is pregnant by him. It felt like someone punched me in the stomach yet again.
I’m sorry to hear that brother. Unfortunately the so called Christian women aren’t much better. Have a buddy with a few kids who was married and one day his wife woke up and decided that she did not want to be a mother or a wife anymore. She voluntarily gave up custody of the children and just left. That was also after a decade of marriage.
Thank you Sadie, for what you said just after you said a piece of love was a helpful as I've struggled with a relationship that I've had to let go....xx God bless you, wish we could be friends, Tina
I was looking at Klipsch speaker reviews saw this video had too give you guys a listen. Thanks I added this to my playlist I try not too think about being single I just enjoy my life God blessed me with never been married nor on a date in my life I’ll say it’s not the end of the world. Not saying I won’t find a wife I wish finding a wife was easy as making a decision on buying those Klipsch speakers from Best Buy.
Sad to hear about your miscarriage. My mother had a miscarriage before she became pregnant with my oldest brother and she went on to have 2 more kids after that including me . I pray you guys have a similar walk to that of my mother and thank you for the advice about being content in singlenesses in the video.
May EVERYONE who watches this video find the love of their lives
In the Almighty Name of the FATHER and His SON and the HOLY SPIRIT, Amen YESHUA.🙌🕊✝
AMEN!! IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME, I BELIEVE!
Probably too late for me.
I don’t believe in that
Yes a faithful one with his eyes mind and body ❤️
One of the harder things about being a single Christian is the Church itself. It is really a couple's world in Church. Many times, that pastors preach, the sermon leads to them talking about their marriage and how great it is to be married, even when the sermon has nothing to do with marriage. Add on top of that times that there are themed sermons that focus on the family. From child rearing to marriage relationships and not to mention the Sunday service that falls closest to Valentines Day. All the time this is happening, I am sitting in the pew asking why I am even there. A lot of the time, singles are the forgotten demographic.
Or worse, you're looked down upon as an abomination against nature because you failed to follow God's Commandment to be fruitful and multiply.
You hit the nail on the head. Singles in the church are not "forgotten". OLDER Singles (30 and older) are IGNORED.
@tothemax2175 I totally agree with everything you said
Is it a non-denominational church?
@@christopher5585: you hit the nail on the head...we are " persona- non- grata" as the Roman's used to say...a person of no interest.
Thank you for this word. Crying so hard. I’m 34 year old woman. Turning 35 in February. I’m a nurse. I’m God fearing. I’m loving & am told I’m pretty. But I cannot find a Godly man that I have an attraction physically & spiritually. It’s hard not to compare myself to my sister who just got married last month, my friends who are married having house, kids, husband/wife. It’s so hard waiting in the dark wanting something so bad…but you can’t see it happening bc you been praying so long. I pray I can rest & have peace trust God will come through like those in the Bible. I’m so tired…
I'm the same age! I get it. God has given me a lot of grace for this season but it can be very hard
Hello Nicole! I'm in my mid 30s and never been married. Let me tell you that you aren't late. God's timing will be perfect. He will restore back to you what the enemy took. Remember Jeremiah 29:11
Shaall we all be friends ? 😃
Believe me, 35 is still young.
I am 43 years old and still waiting... God bless you.
You can’t begin to imagine what it’s like to be a single 63 year old guy, loyally serving The Lord since the age of 24, & praying for a wife for over 39 years …all to no avail. At least you two have each other …don’t take that for granted.
I hear you! We all go through desires or prayers with the result of waiting. Ive been going through singleness for over 20 years. Very testing and difficult to be encouraged but we perserve!
Wow you are inspiring seriously. God bless you. Don’t ever lose hope. You are precious to God with or without a marriage don’t let the enemy tell you otherwise. Hang onto what you got your friends, siblings, and relatives. 💜
Hey Sir, read these comments, one of the gals is a single 57 year old. Why don’t you message her.
@@HamiltonRowan-r6z so what.
@@HamiltonRowan-r6zIt doesn’t hurt to encourage people here. Doesn’t have to start off by dating. Just two people encouraging each other during these times .
The past few days have been some of the most painful I've been through in singleness. I saw one of my crushes get married. I think having added all the other disappointments the last few years it been overwhelming me. I imagine I will fade back to normal but I still feel that deep hopelessness feeling inside regardless. Trusting God has been a hard pill to swallow and it's only gotten harder the longer my singleness lasts. Your video did loft my spirits. Thank you and God bless.
Remember Micah 7:7 There is power in persistent prayer & Luke 18:1 Always pray and never give up. 🙏🏼✨
Yes I'm finding it very hard...😔
be patient, work o yourself in every aspect, trust the Lord and at the right time he will provide
@@Lenaa90sHow long? Till you become 60’s
I totally understand you. I am exactly there too. But, did you know that meeting someone actually starts with expose yourself to people and by a simple greeting can go a long way? Whatever it is, I keep saying I don’t want anything that does not come from God’s blessing, for it not then it has no meaning. Best be someone worthy of God before is worthy of me. My life, my whole being must be a throne for God. The Lord is love, remember that He empty Himself for all of us. Not just trust Jesus, can you truly trust Him *fully*
Press forward, get out there. Keep it in prayer. Failure is part of success. Man up. You better shape up. We can make it with God.
It was always married couples telling me to be content single. I was like well you weren't.
@@theneverending9319 exactly!
Very annoying when a couple wants to talk to you about being single.
I agree generally, but he was single for a long time and I've followed his channel for a long time. I'm still single, but he's actually been there and done that, and hasn't been married for a long enough time to forget.
Do what you want as a man and ignore these people. Christians are unserious.
@lukyguy1240
Unless younger than he looks, a long time is a stretch. I peg them at late 20s.
And selfish perspectives are common in the church.
@@chriss4365 beyond annoying
For me as a 27 year old man, Being single and in the wilderness season is rough. It would be a really hard pill to swallow if God does not want me to get married even though I have the deep desire to. I want to contribute towards fighting back against the popular culture hating on marriage and fidelity. But I feel like I just have to trust God through the pain and suffering of my life. It doesn’t help that my life circumstances keep me in bondage and stagnant financially strapped and with no sign of a career taking off any time soon.
Hurry up to HELP and bless Your son o LORD YESHUA✝ Psalm 70🎯🕊
Come quicklyyy o ADONAI JESUS🙌... this satanic world really sucks👎
@@AncientSaxonHillbilly
He gives to His people new hearts with new desires and we are sealed with HIS ETERNAL SPIRIT/the HOLY SPIRIT.🧐🕊
@UbbaBlondskjegg So did God give gay people the desire to be in romantic relationship with the same sex ?
@@forranachNo it’s pursuing sexual gratification and marriage outside God’s Divine Design established in Genesis with Adam and Eve. The whole “gay marriage” lie comes from Satan’s envy and hatred for God and marriage. I don’t judge you because I sense you may be in this situation or know someone who is. The immoral, drunkenness, homosexuals, wicked and more will not be allowed to enter the kingdom of God as St Paul tells us meaning that it’s a lifelong battle against letting your pleasure and desire for a sex and a companion consume you so much that it corrupts your heart and mind.
im in exact same boat dude, 27 year old virgin male in debt struggling financially and fighting off lust and stuff lol i want marriage really bad to and God knows how much I do but idk just gotta be patient and trust God i suppose
"Hope deferred makes the heart sick, But desire fulfilled is a tree of life" Prov 13:12
Been heart sick since birth.
@@bibsma3401 Much love friend
What does this verse mean
Been crying all day because of how lonely I've been feeling and my singleness hurts me even if I try to not care. And yeah you're right it's hard regardless of how much faith and trust I put in God's timing. I hope I'll be able to get through this.
Girl?
I'm 31 single it's hard but I have faith on God that there is much more on the other side
I'm on the other side. 😘😂
31 is so young.
@@stevemacinnis5000 LMAO
31? Well men can make babies til death. Women til only 39. Which are you? Did you make good decisions in your youth?
That's your problem. Wanting "much more" implies you are that "much more" for someone else. What I simply mean is to sit in the lowest seat as God commands. Sit humbly , so that God can elevate you if he wills, but if you constantly try to sit where you don't belong you'll be told to sit lower in front of all your peers. The media has you bamboozled into thinking you deserve more, and so many men are outside of your "standard". No body is good enough, no body is rich enough or "Godly" enough. The key to contentment is to know yourself- you are a fallen creature, and no one is perfect except our Lord Jesus. So once you get that through your heart and soul ; whatever God wills, So Be it, you will keep chasing after dreams. Let go, die to yourself, and you will live.
It kind of always feels like a slap in the face when married people, especially couples, try and preach to you about your issues as a single person. Just don't do it. You're potentially causing more harm than good. Your good intentions are overshadowed by the struggles you're highlighting.
I'm a 24 man who throughout my life so far came closer to God and trying to get better with serving him and being more knowledgeable to Bible but I can't agree more like when you try to express the struggle of being single mostly comes off as disingenuous and makes it feeling worse
Exactly
I can see how you feel this way. I don't know them but possibly they struggled with this too, enough to still consider people who are continuing to struggle with this issue. Not many are talking about these issues. I think even if they are married, they are creating this space where men and women are compassionate to each other in this social media age where people are normally adversarial.
@@bh1916 it doesn’t feel that way…I usually find married people who talk about this to be patronising & condescending about it
@@msmelanin2425thats because they are patronizing and condescending.
I’m so tired of being sad and alone but I feel I have to perfect myself before putting myself out there creating an endless loneliness
You say you struggle but at least you have each other.
Over the past year, I've dropped a whopping 80 pounds and then some. I've upgraded my dance game, stepped out of my cozy bubble by striking up more conversations with women, dipped my toes into speed dating, let friends play matchmaker, and even hit up church social events. But, you know, the relationship scene is still a no-go. Not a single date in sight. I feel like a total mess, and no one, not even me, can fix it. It's like that feeling when you've exhaled every bit of air, held your breath for a sec, and you're just left with emptiness. That's my everyday vibe. I end up crying myself to sleep, craving someone to love and hold dear. People try to reassure me, saying I'm not alone, that God is there for me. But it's like trying to hug the air, wipe away tears from God's eyes, and surprise Him with a random sweater you found - you just can't.
Good on you for working on yourself! Losing 80lbs in a year is incredible. That takes a serious amount of dedication and mental fortitude. I understand and sympathize with you. I have been single all my life (m, 31) though I do not desire singleness. We are created for connection, to build one another up in the faith and charity, to encourage one another. Seek this out in life... connections with people anywhere you can find it. Have a hunger to serve others and help others. This brings joy and fulfillment when done in earnest. Do not have an expectation of anything in return.
For me personally, I hunger to have a deep connection with a sister in Christ, someone to love unconditionally as Christ loves the church. Someone to cherish, support, and strengthen in the faith. I want her to encourage me, to be there for me, and to love me genuinely.
The union of a husband and wife is irreplaceable by any other thing on this world.
Seek the Lord first. Keep the strength, I pray the Lord guides you in your search.
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let it go man, theres more fulfilling things than having a girlfriend, just look at the world we live in, this is intentional. Learn to live alone, youll get over it. If it comes it comes, but these days? yeah, good luck with that. Stay strong
@@johnfisher8401I’m going to agree with this guy. You can work on yourself but do it for yourself and God. Don’t do things so women will notice you. It doesn’t work or the attention you get won’t be the kind you want.
I took my time with a girl and she showed her true colors ended up falling into sin with another man that wasn’t even her bf . Shortly after she gets into a long distance relationship with a different man .God taught me many lessons this season .I will always be faithful to god wit or without a women .
33yo male divorced and recovering from addiction. I WISH my ex had left me because of addiction. She didn't care about that. She rejected the good in me while tolerating the bad as long as it didn't hurt her directly. I spent 4 years married to a woman who rejected me and God on virtually every level and seemed almost threatened by the idea of me actually bettering myself. I may not recover emotionally and I may never find a good woman for lack of my own ability to trust, but I have not given up and none of you should either. Get in the gym. Get off the phone. Get in the church. Get off the p*rn. Get in the Word. Get off yourself.
marriage or no, you'll be too busy with the good wallow in self-pity.
Looking at the faces of this man and woman. Holiness. They practice what they preach and that I can admire.
I don't think I've ever seen a video better than this on youtube. This is such a calm, truthful expression of an aspect of Christian life that often goes unspoken. I'm single at 37, and I will definitely be using this video as a helpful reminder to be content and serve the Lord where I am and pray for the one whom God would have for me.
Blessings to you both Sam & Sadie! I have struggled with the single life as well, but I have many interests that I can pursue as God leads me. I lost my wife of 20 years 7 years ago, so I see things a little differently than say a 20 year old would. That said we all feel the pain & sorrow of loneliness at times, what seems to help me is just being real with myself & the Lord, and I give my heart and all that I desire to him in prayer, after that I leave my worries, cares, fears & anxieties with him. Time & time again I come across another person that's also in a hard place, and I have the privilege of blessing them with what God has already given me. There's no better way out of a personal dark place, than being a light to someone else sitting alone in darkness!
Love your positive outlook. It really takes a strong soul like you to come in terms with things and keep trusting God no matter what. God bless you.
I'm not strong at all, but Christ in me, by the Holy Spirit is indeed strong. Ephesians 6:10-18 @@daughteroftheking3220
Glad I found this video! I’m been going through this weird time in my life where I’m continually waiting on God and praying about having a godly relationship one day with the right person, and almost everytime I pray about it, soon after I find out someone else that is in my life or that I know has found someone. It has been happening quite frequently. Quite frankly, I’m just getting tired of seeing other people received what I’ve been praying, looking, and discerning for from God. I think it’s just a sign that I’m not going to be married or something - I have no clear idea. Just confused, frustrated, and quite tired of trying at this point in my life. 😒
I am holding onto the promise that God has given me and all of you as well. Psalm 37:4. Take delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Walking through the storms of life are hard. But God knows the outcome. He is taking us through these things for a reason. I have to remind myself of this everyday. It doesn't make it any easier but knowing that God has a plan for my life brings hope.
Despite all my desires, even love from a significant other… I want what God wants of me. Completely surrender myself to the Lord and accept His will over mine. Although there’s things I want for sure, with all my heart, it has no significance without being in His grace. To make me obedient to His Church. 🤲🏻 ⛪️
The heart is desperately wicked who can know it?
By your old nature, that is your flesh - the desire will always be pride, lust and covetousness. The passage of Psalm 37-4 is speaking of the New creature, born again in Christ Jesus. Therefore the desires of the new creation is the will of the Father. Which is to take away the first to establish the second. It isn't that our desires ought to "align" with God, it is that we willing give up ourselves as a living sacrifice unto God, and his Will envelopes us. In that comes his righteousness, and blessings which may or not include a help meet for you. But the sooner you let go of your old nature, the sooner you'll be under the shadow of the almighty.
You have more faith than I ever will. Mines weak and withered so when I did try and pray, nothing ever happened.
This is what I needed to be remind of. Thank you guys for your video. Sometimes I jump the gun and say that I shouldn't be unhappy about singleness without recognizing that I am, and that I need to bring this to the Lord, and it becomes an unresolved issue hidden under the rug.
Never lose hope y’all!
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make straight your paths” (Proverbs 3:5)
Amen, thank you. 😊
Yes, no matter how much God’s plans negatively effect you, your well-being, or your psyche, you just keep a smile plastered on your face and act like everything is okay.
I’m sorry, but that verse doesn’t really sit right with me. And I can’t image it would sit right with anyone going through a situation resembling what I described.
Edit:
I’m seriously unraveling right now. And I’d be lying to myself if I said I trust God.
@@TrustandobeyGodyou are still so young; God bless you
My thoughts and prayers are with you both. I also struggle greatly with meeting a Godly woman getting married and having children and the pain of going through the season of singleness is so intense I can't describe it and letting go of that is something that I will absolutely refuse to do and I will even double down on that if necessary, I am currently 29 and I currently feel like I am running out of time. I am also am a proud Catholic Christian who strives as much as possible and make God a central piece of my life as it always should be.
You still have plenty of time my friend
God Jesus bless you with one of His daughters in the appointed time, Amen.✝✝✝
49 single. Rejection hurts it cuts deep. But i am in a season of wrestling in my spirit with God. Focusing on God .
I don't usually comment, but this is SO encouraging!!! Thankyou both so very so much for sharing !!!
-In Christ
Thank you for the kind words, Chelsea! God bless you! ♥️
@@samandsadie do u believe in biblical polygyny?
May the good Lord mend your hearts and comfort you both through this painful season. 🙏🏾
I'm want to challenge this form of thinking . I have quietly listened to people speak like this to single people, and as much as it may seem genuine,( which I believe you all are), these forms of messages are insensitive. Christians tend to speak about single life as if there is no way out. Another flaw is using Paul opinion about relationships as a way to suggest that not everyone will get married . Listen, go outside, live your life, date and have fun. Scripture is very clear about God answering prayers regarding our desires. Now, the timing of it may vary, but God is not a wicked God, he won't neglect your desire to be intimate and married with someone . Ask the lord for wisdom , take courses on how to flirt, how to date etc. a lot of Christians are waiting on God but not even trying to go out and meet people . Take the pressure off and just live . Pray and believe God, and in due time your mate will come about .
Amen 😩
I'm single and I'm so depress please pray for me
Be content in the Lord. Try not make marriage an idol. Be content in the lord and satisfied in Him.. Maybe He wants you to learn that before He blesses you with a husband
I sense that you are lonely and are living alone in life. This is what God promises you in Psalm 68:6 “God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land.” The daily grind of working and then coming back to an empty house is hard, but have faith and confess your hearts desires to Lord. Offer your brokenness and broken heart to the Lord fill the void in your heart with His presence as He does not turn those away with a crushed spirit and broken heart. Seek his peace to guard your mind and heart and be amazed at how it changes everything in your life.
@@Justyouraverageguy172 Psalms 55 and 68 are very anointed. God JESUS bless this Sister and you Bro in the appointed time.🤗❤🩹🕊✝✝✝
@@mikhaelkarapetyan4040this was a very good answer mikhael.
I'm single as well I feel your pain. In the Lords Time He will bring that right person to us.... 😊
I was a hopeless, lonely chronically single dude that couldn't find love at all. One day I was choosing to be thankful for everything I didn't like about my life rather than feel sorry for myself, and I realized I was ACTUALLY thankful for being single. I've spent my whole life pursuing and trying to seduce women, and my insecurities drove them all away because I was CRAZY. In thankfulness, God took away even my DESIRE for a relationship! I'm FREE! I could die ALONE and I just don't care! I have Jesus!!!! I can't express to you all how important it is to come closer to God than you are as close to the idea of a self-serving relationship (That's what it is, it's self-serving. You feel like you want to "love" someone, but really you want someone to love YOU because you do not feel loved, youself- I know this because that's what made ME fearful and lonely) You DON'T need to be in a relationship, and until you come to that level of security within yourself, then you will NOT function as the proper human being to securely be IN one!!!
I have been single for most of my life, only been in one long term relationship that I probably shouldn't have been in. Other than that, I tried so hard and I had one girl enter my life that I thought God had set aside for me, and me her, and I was so happy and joyful. She is not in my life anymore, and it hurts me to my core, but I need God more than anything because of that. Sometimes that may be the only purpose, to get you closer to Him. I pray that I will be with someone eventually, and I still even pray that she would return exactly as I left her or better, but overall I know His will reigns supreme. "The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, blessed be the Lord"- Job 1:21
Sam and Sadie, thank y'all for this video. I really needed to hear this! I've been going back and forth with being content and being upset about my time of singleness I'm in these past couple years as I've been getting to the age that I can be married. Videos like this one are helping me to have the right mindset about singleness! 😍
Was crying to my married twin brother last night about how low I'm feeling in this season of singleness. I know in my head that God loves me, is always here, and that I shouldn't desire marriage and a family as much as I do. I've felt His in other situations of life so it's been my prayer that that peace would spread to my desires relationally.
But it just hasn't. And i want it to so badly. When I'm rejected by a girl, or a date doesn't go well, the bootup is to feel like it's a reflection on me. The fear of being single for another 10 years or never getting married is haunting, but I KNOW that I need to find peace with God and His direction for my life. Praying for all you fellow singles out there
This is really helpful ! Praying that God does grant your desires. His peace is amazing !
What do you do when you want to be married one day, but are content with being single for a season and still want to work on your relationship with God? I want to be married but I enjoy my relationship with God
That’s a great situation to be in Ashley! Paul even says that as long as you can serve The Lord while single and not burn with lust, it’s actually best! Just wait for God’s calling for a relationship before you go looking for one!
That’s me, too, Ashley! I’m 27 years old, waiting on God’s timing for the right, godly man to come along, but until then, I am content serving Him!
@@MalkaLand1996 update! I am now dating a man of God! It was worth the wait!
Imagine being 45 and still waiting. Only the mighty God above has kept me. I give all credit to Him. He knows the desires of my heart and I truly believe He will fulfill them. It gets so hard at times but I continually pray and read my word to stay focused. 💍👰🏽♀️🤵🏾♂️💕
Who wants to marry a 45 yr old?
You're rude sir
@@kevinnorris6157bye troll 👋🏼👋🏼
Someone who doesn’t want children, someone who is divorced, already has children, people who have no family and would like to invest in a family though their wife, people whose main priority is their mission, people who want a social life rather than children, people who want to share their hobbies with someone really compatible with them, someone in their 50s/60s, people who like older women, the list goes on and on. I can’t imagine Jesus saying what you said. Please apologize to her, as it’s totally fine if you don’t want to marry a 45yo but don’t kick someone when they’re down.
So, you’re telling me they’re are plenty of men who would marry a 45 yr old woman? Then why isnt she married?
Being single is a great time to delve into your relationship with God with more intention. During this period, try to develop a take it or leave it attitude with regards to finding that special someone. When you take your mind off of it, it becomes a non issue. Focus on other things that bring you joy and remember that most relationships are not all that they are cracked up to be (appearances can often be unreliable) and lack the peace that you are currently experiencing.
Hey i know you guys are going through a really tough time but im praying for you guys❤ just remember how god gave Abraham and Sarah a child even when they were old . He will give you guys children if it is his will . Just trust and believe and keep praying. Prayer can really change things. Make sure that you pray unceasingly and im right here praying for you guys too ❤❤
May God comfort you guy's and bless you always ❤I'm single trusting God for my Godly spouse according to His Holy Will and timing.
I genuinely hate being single.
I cant believe i watched the whole video. I normally feel a bit of disgust seeing a married couple talk about the struggles of singleness
This video was hard to watch. There was plenty of war when I pressed it, but your words touched my heart. Ultimately, God is sovereign, and we have to rest in the knowledge that he has a plan for us and that there is a purpose for every experience. Thank you for making this heartfelt video. God bless you.❤
Death is the only embrace that awaits me in this life. There is nothing else in this life.
Probably better delivered by just one of you. The whole thing is coming across as a humble brag with you two next to each other.
Dear God, please help, bless, be with, and help everyone to trust God. Please help everyone that is going through a season of being single. May your will be done. In the name of Jesus. Amen.
This was so good 🤍 I believe I’ve reached that point of peace, joy & contentment in my singleness for the first time in my life, and it came after serious heartbreak. I decided to take the time to heal, God revealed soooo many things in me that we’re working on together and I finally fully trust that His timing and His choice of a person is infinitely better than mine. He loves us and He wants what’s best for us, and at times that can be really, really hard to accept (like when you have to break up with someone who you really love) but surrendering to His will always brings a deeper sense of peace than any earthly “good feeling” 🙌🏻
That’s definitely a very very hard season of life to be in Connie. But just like in your situation, God is good and often reveals to us what He was doing during those tough times. God bless!
I don't know if you guys are gonna read this, but I just wanna share how I felt watching this video and that was like grabbing a cup of coffee and sitting with long-term fellow friends to have an honest talk about the current tides of life. And I say THANK GOD, and thank YOU for giving me such a blessing of a feeling.
It's been hard. Very hard. Not only copying with a singlesness that I do not want and that's been here for a too long time, feeling the desire of building a Kingdom marriage/family while seeing other believers becoming couples and asking what perhaps is wrong with me; but also facing the current trials of my life (unemployed, disappointed, frustated with life, feeling like every effort is in vain - been in a need of reading Psalm 73 these days btw!) and feeling sometimes completely left out.
So... thank you once again, cuz it was like a breathe. And I know that, above all else, God remains Who He is, and He is good. Perfectly good. So He will show up His character in His ways and in His timming not only in my life, but in everyone's. Amen. God bless you sevenfold!
Im so sorry for you that you have to go through this suffering. It must be so hard and heartbreaking to experience a loss like you did. Thank you for sharing this openly to be a Light to others. You have to go through this dark season now, but I promise you that this miscariage is not the end and that god will bless your more than you can imagine. God sees your sorrow and hears your prayer and He will make your future bright and wonderful.
Tldr; trust God and get close to him. Everyrhint else will br added afterward
Thank you Thank you Thank you for being real. Being Single is hard but seeking God's will is my priority. My desire . Praying for you as well as you trust God to have children if it's His will. ❤
Im sorry to hear about your miscarriage! Im glad you are both strong in faith. Praying for healing , God will work this out for the good !
Love how you guys turned your situation with having kids into something like this, which honors God and gives hope to those who are single. Such wisdom and grace God is giving to us through you two. I’ll be praying for you.
Having kids in this day brings much pain much grief much sorrow, yes blessings beyond measure but the spiritual attacks that happen to our children and the things that they are exposed to and just the dangers they may come across is gut-wrenching heart-wrenchingwjat we have to watch satan try and do to our precious angels...I'm the mother of two boys 13 and 11 and have been raising them up in the Lord since they were one and three I would never take my kids back, they're my whole world I do not regret them, but it also brings much pain and sorrow because this world could never be good enough for these precious Souls. It's very very very hard to have to let go and have them in such a disgusting world. This is no walk in the park. I have never had a miscarriage I cannot imagine the pain that you're going through but it doesn't stop once you have the actual baby,it gets more painful. But I belive in you and your husband! God's plan for our children is the same plan he has for us and that is to make them more christ-like and is extremely painful to watch, and you just pray that this world doesn't get to them these murderers these child molesters these traffickers.stay prayed up.
HUGS in Christ. Even though i'm single man, your vision of the world is very much as mine and of course it's because of God the Holy Spirit inside us. God JESUS keep you and your household every day and every night.👍🕊✝
Take us HOME o LORD YESHUA ✝ John 14:2,3
God Bless all who see this message
I cant wait for God to put us in each other's lives. His timing > all.
Thanks to this couple for that empathy you have for us who are still single
There is grace you have given us for understanding what we pass through because it is tough.
Many people don't understand what we go through
Thank you this has given me a new perspective on this topic. I have struggled for along time with wanting a relationship and eventually be married and have kids. Right now it just doesn't seem even possible anymore because I have been made to feel like I'm not enough because I put my identity in the relationship instead of in Christ. If God has someone for me I will praise Him if He doesn't I will praise Him.
Romans 9:16
It does not, therefore, depend on human desire or effort, but on God’s mercy.
39, always rejected, been scammed, lead on, used. I'm at that place where I'm Heart broken angry jaded cynical apathetic aloof suicidal sometimes hold a grudge every time i see a couple. Its tough but i have gained wisdom and clarity still go thru fits of rage. But i thank God for it in a way Knowing what I know now I've been spared a lot of heartache.
You may be single, but the world needs you. Odds are, you perform a task that keeps our world turning. Maintain your faith in God.
@@InfrazaleGod bless you all. 🙏👐❤️
Wow, I really needed this video, it came at the right time, Thankyou so much 🤍🤍also praying for Gods peace and comfort for you both during this time and God will bless you both with children x
are you single ?
@@robb1312 yes
Thank you for posting this! Very well said and a mature perspective on life as a Christian. I know the Lord will honor how you are living your lives for him!
Thank you for an encouraging video as i am 34 single i battle with loneliness all the time going to work and coming home to an empty house is so painful watching everyone around me getting married and having kids i stopped going to church because i feel like less of a person i desire a life partner and marriage more than anything i dont get why God wont bless me pray for me..
Same, Im 33 and been single my whole life. I saw all my old classmates, co workers and cousins get married and I cant even get a prospect. A former friend is nearing her 10 year anniversary and here I am struggling with the same issues 10 years later. The thought of staying single the rest of my life breaks my heart.
I'm single as well. One thing I want to encourage you with. DON'T Stop putting the Lord fisrt. I go to church every weekend and involved in a couple small groups. I would encourage worship the Lord at church with a cheerful heart. In HIS timing it Will happen. Be cheerful brother, and you WILL attract the right person for you
Hi
Brother, a reason God may not be giving you a spouse is because you currently view that event as something that will resolve your pain for you. It is likely that woman would become an idol in your life and perhaps the thoughts about it already are. God will not allow idolatry.
Center Christ in your life. Join a good church. See what there is you can do there to *give* to God. Review your life and see if there is sin and idolatry in it: where are you taking your pain? Are you taking your pain to Christ? Or to perhaps pornography, alcohol, doom-scrolling on social media etc.
Do not expect a holy wife, when you yourself are unholy. God will not allow it. When you can bear the pain as a man, that will be the moment God will allow you to be the head of a holy wife.
I say this as a single Christian man, discovering these things for myself thanks to the Holy Spirit.
God bless.
@@wspek I've already given up. Theres no point trying. Porn will always be an issue so why try to be holy when its impossible. Im used to never getting a victory in anything and im used to no girl wanting me. Why bother with church when all I'll get is pitying looks from the people or instant distrust because I question everything.
I pray God will bless your womb that you both will be fruitful and multiply. Continue to have faith, just as God made it happen for Sarah, I pray that in His perfect will, He makes it happen for you. Thank you so much for this post and for your beautiful hearts in serving the Lord! It my heart!!
Matthew 6:33
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
I’m so hopeful to meet my person, but I hold this desire in an open hand.
The Lord and I are walking through so much right now. I’m trying to focus on being a better friend of God, being kind to myself and to others, working through emotional and mental things, working on my words, going deeper into the word, building myself up in self discipline, etc.While watching this I realized that I’ve been holding out on myself for the next season. What I need to do develop myself for me and the Lord. Not for any future walk.
Ohhh…there’s so much to be said on this. I will be 40 soon and this is where I’m at just totally hopeless. Jesus be my all in all. Thank you for making this video.
Do men approach you?
@@kevinnorris6157 Nope, never. They always stare yet they’ll never talk to me. Usually bc they are married or too young. A lot of men look at me, and look away right away or turn their head quickly. I smile and say hi and then they run off right away. Maybe one day one will have the courage to speak to me. My bf and I broke up in May and I’ve been so sad, which doesn’t help my case. I’m prolly putting off some energy I’m not aware of. Honest to God, just don’t understand why it has to be so hard. Thanks for asking though.
I don’t buy that. I think men have been asking you out your whole life. Your bf and you broke up…. Were you fornicating with this man?
@@Christina_320a college girl here and never been approached or dated and sometimes I just think I will be an old lady all alone one day. Perhaps I seem not approachable because I’m probably awkward in social settings too and don’t put myself out there as they say. I don’t know this generation of dating is messed up too. Finding a strong man of God or finding a strong women of God is practically impossible not to even exaggerate in this day and age. It is making me hopeless. It is so hard especially as Christians. May God help us all.
God bless you, too.
@@daughteroftheking3220 I whole heartedly understand. I will remember you in my daily prayers. God bless you.
39 and single. Been praying for a wife since the fall of 2011.
First of all thank you for this encouragement, and I pray and bless you in Jesus name for all the strength and comfort He provides you with in such tough circumstances. It really helps to put thing in to perspective, but its not always easy. I've been walking this path for almost 15y now, and I thank God that at begging of my conversion (I was 18 and atheist, born as Catholic) He shown me some really amazing testimonies of people who waited for the right time and right person from God. It gave me strength to give up on my crush and overcome the desire to be with someone, hoping and praying for a person from God that will be everything He knows and I need to have in my life. BUT its been a while now.. and I feel like I'm at the end of my strength to wait, I still pray that He either brings person in my life or rid me of desire to be with someone yet I feel like I'm the end of me. I dont want to become indifferent regarding the whole thing, but even hoping becomes painful when I venture in to thoughts of it. It doesnt help the fact that I never had a family (orphan at the age of 7) and people I know in my life are either having teenagers or even worse are divorced already. None of them are Christians so I get that, but the cruelty of reality is hard to grasp. Lately depression is creeping in and the only hope that's left because its sure, is His return for the Church and the end of this valley of sadness and loneliness. A prayer would be much appreciated. Thank you and God bless you. Marana'tha!
Praying for you child of God! You're not alone a lot of us are going through that tough season with you even though we're not together physically. Stay strong in Gods strength, even when you couldn't find strength He got you! His holding your hand and he won't let go 🙏🏾
I hate the wilderness Brother.😔 I hope God YESHUA will bless you suddenly and abundantly in the appointed time.❤🩹🕊✝
@@vijdamvsichko9077 Amen brotha! I hate this season of wilderness too but let his will be done not ours 🙏🏾
Isaiah 43:19
Listen carefully, I am about to do a new thing, Now it will spring forth; Will you not be aware of it? I will even put a road in the wilderness, Rivers in the desert.
Jesus is the redeemer. He will make a way!
I have been trying to be content in the season I am in, but it is tough because it seems as if everything I am working towards is for something in the long term future, which makes it hard to enjoy the period I am in. I am doing uni and still have 3.5 years left. I am working hard at preparing myself to be a leader, protector and provider for my future spouse, but Ive never even been on a date before. Even my personal goals will take a really long time to achieve (I aim to become a pro natural bodybuilder, which will take at least another 4 years). I highly value relationships and friendships, so I try to enjoy this period and avoid feeling lonely through spending time with friends, but they are starting to get married and move on to the next stage of life. I know I am to be content, but it is so hard when I feel like everything I am doing is in preparation for something. I don't know how to enjoy 'the now' because I am doing so much to set up my future, which means I am always looking forward. It makes the present feel so dull in comparison to what I am wanting for my life in 3-5 years time. Not wanting pity, but just wanted to share my perspective of trying to be content. It's a tough battle being content and I really don't want to waste the gift of singleness that I currently have
Hi Shelby! Yeah that’s definitely a tough time to stay motivated and not feel discouraged when the payoff for your hard work feels really far away. Thanks for sharing your perspective and we pray that God gives you peace and joy in this season and all to come!
God loves you. Try to not pressure yourself too much. I pray that you feel his delight over you and his deep deep love for you here and now in this season. You are wonderful, son of god. dont lose hope.
Thank you for this video. It's my first of your videos, but I really needed to hear this. Thank you especially to you Sam for encouraging single guys like me to persevere and wait on God's timing while still pursuing Him. I've only had two relationships and neither lasted longer than three months. Besides those two I've been single for my 29 years on the earth that I praise God for. I became disabled in 2018, lost my job and lost so much of my confidence that I'm trying to get back. I blamed and still do blame myself in my low moments for the relationships not working out. I thought there was something wrong with me when nearly every woman I approached turned me down or didn't even give me the time of day, in person or on dating apps. I say this with a smile, you made me get choked up and teary because this hit home. I needed to hear it, thank you. God bless from a fellow brother in Christ, bought with His blood. Keep fighting the good fight in the Lord's name. Subscribed.
I'm so tired, genuinely tired of dating or even the prospect of a spouse. I'm 29 and every single time I'm met with the roadblock of "you're a really good guy but let's stay friends." It's gut wrenching. This desire for marriage and to have kids, to have a family. I wonder if most young people have been led astray? I think back to my parents and them telling me that to be happy I needed to buy a house, make money and have a family. I remember in church the constant focus being on married couples and guiding young people into getting married. There was never an ounce of "it's ok to be single".
Recently I've started down this road of accepting that it may not be God's plan for me to get married. I pray that God's desires for my life become my desires. I have friends who tell me the most cliché things that all single people hear and are expected to just accept when they are told "It will happen when you least expect it" "I met my spouse when I wasn't even looking" "It's all in God's timing". Those same people though become so frustrated or change the topic when I respond with "It may not be His plan for me".
It's really sad but truthfully your better off alone than to be with the wrong person. Yes at times it is very very painful to be alone. There's no doubt about it. However your nightmare is just beginning if you get with the wrong person. There are horrors you can't even imagine and sometimes it's so bad it can even result in homelessness or even death. So sometimes it may be that living alone can actually save your life.
Yes! I totally agree.
I’ve always looked at dating or finding someone as faith vs free will . I’ve been single as a Christian for 6 years plus and wish I could meet someone to honor and be thankful for. But girls these days have a completely different desire in men . It’s not about if nice guys finish last or not thing , it’s about can you see yourself with a guy you WANT to honor you and fall in love with and not be ashamed . Dating now a days is fake and hurts people who wish they had a chance but will never have bc of judgement
Amen!! With the part that you guys were talking about if I would be content if I didn't have what I desired. And it was similar to me thinking if I would be okay and content if I had what I wanted and was still struggling with what I was struggling with now and the answer is no. I had been struggling alot recently with what God wanting me to do and him changing me and it has been really really hard mostly. It something like I get out of the struggle and I'm okay but then something happens, I think of something or I don't do something that I feel lead to do and I go crazy and sad about that and even when he is comforting me there are other times where there still something lurking around physically ( I don't really know how but in a way) and mentally which don't make me feel okay don't make me feel the joy I should when dwelling in the Lord. And I have come to the understanding and listening to the holy spirit that marriage isn't going to solve or help (in the way needed to completely come out of) what I'm going through now,because God is the only one that can save me from my sins. So what he told me today while in the driving car with tears in my eyes and running is is that I should trust in him now and not look to the future (for me and why I am going through the cycle of what I have been going through) and say that yes I know that this and that can be linked to the future and be excited about the future. But I should think about now and trust in him that he will fix and solve my struggles (with me actually doing what it takes to change) now and not try to link it to the future, and thats what leads me to a thought of not trusting in him without knowing that because yes I still lead away to thoughts and situations that he did not put in my mind to think of so I should steadfast in him and make sure that the thoughts I think is what he has given me. THANK YOU JESUS FOR this deliverance !!!! In Jesus Name I am free and healed ❤❤🎉🎉 in JESUS NAME. please pray for me and continue to pray for me 😊😊😊 thank you for reading throughout i hoped this helped how the holy spirit intended it to. 😁😁😁 byeeeee later.
Dear hopeless single Christian: let me give you some hollow empty platitudes that will only make you more miserable and bitter. “What God has for you…” He can keep it!!!
Singleness is increasing every year for both men and women in this country now. It’s been projected that by 2030 45% of women from age 18-45 will be single and it’s already higher than that right now for men.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss and will pray for you two. ❤❤
Im in a weird place where im happy with nothing 😂.... i had a rough few years, lost everything.... friends work.... i had hopes that things would get better but they just didn't so now i really don't feel like i even need what i desired, but i trust in God's promises to get them when it's the right time, for now I'll just enjoy the freedom.
Thank you guys for being obedient to the Holy Spirit and making this video. Not receiving a pure desire of your heart is so painful and I love that you guys didn’t paint a facade that it is easy. I have cried many of times, because experiencing a love ordained by God during my time here on earth seems so far fetched and it pains me to my innermost being. However, you guys taught me to relinquish my plans that I so strongly grip and instead give God complete control of my life. Thank you guys! Also, I pray that God blesses you both with the most beautiful rainbow baby in His perfect timing. ❤️
“Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act, making your righteousness shine like the dawn, your justice like the noonday.”
Psalms 37:4-6
This is one of the BEST videos I have ever watched regarding this topic. Beautifully said by both of you and it was so awesome to hear the singleness journey from a male perspective. You two are a beautiful couple and what God intended. I recommend you pray to Our lady of La leche and if it interests you visit her shrine in St.Augustine,FL. Many baby miracles have happened after praying and visiting. God's will always reigns and my heart goes out to you both. Thank you for helping me in my singleness journey. You are both in my prayers. :)
Thanks for both of your honesty
I must admit that I clicked on this video thinking, "Here we go again" a couple who don't understand the rawness of being single.
I have been chatting to this Girl for 2 or 3 weeks online, and arranged to meet tomorrow, the 19th of Nov
We were getting on so well, and laughing till it hurts
Last night, she cancelled, and we have cut contact
I kept reminding God that Hope deferred makes the Heart grow sick
ps I am a long time Subscriber 🙏❤️
“She canceled” unfortunately it’s the norm today brother. At least with Christians it’s almost like the norms reversed. It’s the women who cannot handle commitment.
@@lukerestlessstudios It is horrible, how fickle women have become
Yet, they do plain that no good men around
Many want a man who has hard earnt success, money, looks, job and descends from heaven like Jesus or Angel wings
These are the same women, who abandon a man, through tough times, just like Jobs wife did
I can honestly say I will always love christ and be content in him. But I don't think I can find peace and joy in my life if I don't get married and have children. That's been my desire since I was a child and I think God has placed that desire in me. Waiting is one of the worst feelings.
I tried it my will and my way. Led me smashing into that proverbial brick wall that left me broken. God's still piecing me together. But I desire someone to be with. Everyone else around me has someone. I have my daughter but our time is thinning out and that's to be expected since she's growing on me.
Most Christian RUclips videos involve attractive people telling average and unattractive people how to date or be content. We want to be attractive like you and have the chance to date.
Easy…. Just be tall!
Thank you so much !! I needed this . God bless y’all ❤
Thank you for the honesty.when I say I want to be married I get attacked and told that I'm not loving God enough.
On one hand, i really couldnt ask God for any more, im extremely blessed. I have amazing parents that love God, love each other and love me, I have a great extended family thats very close knit and are basically all believers who pray for and support each other. I have a job that i dont hate, God has provided me with the financial stability to be able to afford a house on a single income. I have great friends at church that im very close to and love serving with in different areas.
On the other hand, i still feel God is somehow withholding the blessing of marriage and family that ive longed for. Im turning 29 next year and im not getting any younger. My sister and brother in law had a little boy a year and a half ago, and seeing my little nephew growing up has really made me want to have kids of my own. I know God has blessed me with so much and I know His plan and His timing is perfect, but I still have my own doubts and fears of being alone my whole earthly life. I need to have faith that His plan for me is perfect regardless of if i get married or not, but thats not easy
29 is not that old at all, trust me. The only time I’d be worried is if you’re still single at 35. For childbearing reasons, things may be more difficult. Until then, trust the process. God may have a way of bringing you to your husband at a specific time, any earlier would mean the relationship timing is off. That’s how I try to see it
@@ninagrace-lee8323 haha sorry I guess I didn't make it clear in my comment, but I am, in fact, a man looking for a wife, not the other way around.
Thanks for your kind comment either way though!
Hello Sam and Sadie I've recently started watching you two. I love you both and God bless you two and RUclips channel and your future!
Thank you so much Simone! We love you too!! ❤️
Easy to say to have faith and to wait when you are a young or a pretty boy or girl. But for the average guy is very hard to be notice.
This video is great ❤️ Thank you for your advice!
together we weep, thats family god bless u all in jesus name
I'm 48, and have been saved since I was 12. I have never met a Christian girl that I loved. I have tried to wait on the Lord most of that time, been involved with Churches, and other Christians since I was 18. God has not blessed me with spiritual wisdom, good health, good finances, a good family, good friends, good relationships, a good wife, kids, a good pet, artistic or music success. Nothing. After an injury, and a long battle with autoimmune issues, I lost my house, and have been living in an industrial shop for 7 months. I found a VW van to live in back in December when I thought I could afford to buy it, so I could have some freedom, and rebuild my life, and it's been nonstop roadblocks. It should have been paid for already. I'm going to lose it soon. The woman I love is 4,000 miles away, and doesn't know or want to know God. Every woman I've ever loved, I tell about Jesus, and they can't hang. Every Christian girl I've ever met is either really boring, not my type, or taken. I've also watched most of my Christian friends get divorced. This life is a joke, and I'm sick of living it.
May I ask do you feel like you pray all the time and do your part but don't really feel like God is even paying attention to you or answering? Because I seem to have this same problem, I'm 21 and in a similar situation where I'm fed up with everyday life ,in emotional pain(mental struggles) and can't get any help no offense but I saw your message and got scared that this could be me
Amen, all things work together for our good.
You have such sweet tender hearts. I'm so glad you are sharing your experiences with us. I hope God blesses you with babies soon!
This video came my way at the right time. I was just thinking about this! Thank you for the video
My wife abandoned me and our two kids after 10 years of marriage. I had just given my life to Christ and a month later she abandoned us after telling me she hates God. She was practicing witchcraft which I had no clue and she had been having an affair. She is now pregnant by another man. I truly loved her. That was 4 months ago. Believe me that wrecked me. I just found out a few days ago that she is pregnant by him. It felt like someone punched me in the stomach yet again.
My heart goes out to you brother...
I’m sorry to hear that brother. Unfortunately the so called Christian women aren’t much better. Have a buddy with a few kids who was married and one day his wife woke up and decided that she did not want to be a mother or a wife anymore. She voluntarily gave up custody of the children and just left. That was also after a decade of marriage.
Thank you Sadie, for what you said just after you said a piece of love was a helpful as I've struggled with a relationship that I've had to let go....xx God bless you, wish we could be friends, Tina
I was looking at Klipsch speaker reviews saw this video had too give you guys a listen. Thanks I added this to my playlist I try not too think about being single I just enjoy my life God blessed me with never been married nor on a date in my life I’ll say it’s not the end of the world. Not saying I won’t find a wife I wish finding a wife was easy as making a decision on buying those Klipsch speakers from Best Buy.
Sad to hear about your miscarriage. My mother had a miscarriage before she became pregnant with my oldest brother and she went on to have 2 more kids after that including me . I pray you guys have a similar walk to that of my mother and thank you for the advice about being content in singlenesses in the video.
First video I’ve seen of y’all. You guys radiate the presence of Jesus and I deeply appreciate the rawness and honesty of your discussion. God bless ❤