DINK - DUAL INCOME NO KIDS | Dr. Armaan Pandey | TEDxKharghar
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- Опубликовано: 3 окт 2024
- Dr. Armaan Pandey is a Psychiatrist based in Mumbai, India. He completed his graduation in medicine and specialization in psychiatry, from the prestigious L.T. M. Medical College, known popularly as Sion Hospital. Apart from getting an extensive training in adult and child psychiatry, he has also done certified training courses in Learning disability, Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) and Transactional Analysis. He has been in Private Practice for 7 years now. Dr. Armaan is the co-founder of Sexuality Matters, a comprehensive sexuality-education platform. He has co-authored a book titled 'Sexuality Begins At Home'. Dr. Armaan Pandey is a Psychiatrist based in Mumbai, India. He completed his graduation in medicine and specialization in psychiatry, from the prestigious L.T. M. Medical College, known popularly as Sion Hospital. Apart from getting an extensive training in adult and child psychiatry, he has also done certified training courses in Learning disability, Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) and Transactional Analysis. He has been in Private Practice for 7 years now. Dr. Armaan is the co-founder of Sexuality Matters, a comprehensive sexuality-education platform. He has co-authored a book titled 'Sexuality Begins At Home' This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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"Not giving pain is more important than giving pleasure."
Wisest words I've ever heard in my 32 years of life. 🙏
So how many kids you have?
loved his talk "Not giving pain is more important than giving pleasure."
Childfree by choice, Absolutely no regrets.
My wife and I are DINKs. Life is good.
Tell us more about it.
@@Hrshsngh_19 Far less financial stress. We've both experienced lay offs but have been able to support each other through it. Being able to save alot more in our 401k in our 20s should allow us to retire in our 50s.
@@JB-kx9bx do you guys own a house or what? Also how are you planning to support each other in your old age. I'm not saying people who kids will definitely be supported as so many kids don't take care of their parents.
@@Hrshsngh_19 retirement homes their are some really good ones . those whose children r in america UK are choosing to stay in retirement homes .
Cheers to the DINK life! :)
My husband and I are child free by choice. Absolutely no regrets.
Double Income No Kids (DINK). Can you tell me more
U must be ashamed of your existence.. no legacy left behind
You forgot to add the words “just yet” at the end end of your statement
@@prasannarajendran9315 so you saying you are so pathetic that you can't leave a legacy by yourself and the only way for you is to have kids? I bet you can't even remember your ancestors names
@@maddie4894 having kids doesn't guarantee you won't die alone either. There are plenty of seniors in nursing homes with kids and their kids don't even bother to see them so
Very nice speech.. and proud that an indian has talked about going child free.. happy that indians too are adopting child free lifestyle for the future of our planet.. go child free.. save the planet.. 🙌🙌🙌♥️
Antinatalist and happy. Made best decision of my life.
Good to see more and more people becoming "antinatalist" in a country like India 👏!!
This speech made me cry in a good way. I’m betting a lot of millennials are feeling this way right now.
sameeee
!
Speak for yourself. All Millennials must have at least 2 kids.
@@blitzkreig4887 I am speaking for myself. No kids here, and only 10% of my millennial friends have kids.
@@blitzkreig4887I'm a millennial and will have NONE. 😊
Same☹️😭🥺
It's a brave speech in a conservative country like India
You can’t owe people that don’t exist anything
Very well said!
Damn right 💯
Just nitpicking around in hopes of finding excuses to breed?😅
@@Aldarinnit’s only natural to reproduce
1. No instinct to procreate, just a primitive urge to mate.
2. We learn gender roles from society, such as to have children.
3. There is not a biological clock to have children, only culture.
4. Ethics of childbirth is: death, disease, and suffering (of the planet too).
5. We are aware of our mortality, so live is one-way trip to the end.
6. Our we obliged to create life for what it has to offer? Decision matrix.
7. Family blood line obligation?
8. Environmentally conscientious avoiding overpopulation.
9. Unchecked mindless reproduction.
10. Childless no different in mental health in old age.
11. Parenting is a selfish act, (especially in cultures where children support).
12. Parenting is a choice.
Great Topic!
Combine DINK with Minimalism. Life then becomes 💥🤯
what is DINK?
Veganism is
more important
than any "ism"
I need to show this to anyone and everyone that gives me DINK shame. This man knows what’s up.
Yes, people don't respect choices
Nothing shameful to be DINK. People have kids for selfish reasons anyway
Such an important topic and so few views. Everyone should understand that parenting is an option, not an obligation. Not everybody must be a parent.
Its not an option. It's a crime. It cannot be a personal choice when their is a third person involved whose consent is not being cared for.
Great message!
We consume 50 % of the energy of the planet ..... wow
That makes me feel overwhelmed.
Raising a child is a Himalayan task! I wholeheartedly support married couples who resolve not to give birth to children.
And you should also thank to your parents who had to deliver and raise you.
@@azadjain8534that was their decision... I have no need to thank them for something they did for themselves.
There should be a community for childfree by choice so that we can get married as well with same thought process as it's very difficult to find partner.
But that community you can get only from those parents who are obviously not ChildFree. Actually those parents should be child free who burdened this world with this new gen species.
@@azadjain8534try to word one logical sentence, please.
@@antinatalistwitch111Sorry I can't explain it to you. It's out of scope for those who don't want to understand.
Whats the need for the people to get married. Even if they are getting married Its not going to sustain for a long term.
This is the best TEDx I've ever listened to....
I am SINKS. SINGLE INCOME. still happy and stress free
I'm sinks too
Oh no don't sink 🤣😊😝
I am an adopted child and I'm blessed with sweet an loving people as parents. I see them as my parents and they see me as their child. Even though we have different skincolor. I'm well loved and it has clearly nothing to do with 'their own blood'. (I'm an Indian-born child adopted by a western couple).
Childfree is FAR from being selfish, it's selfless.
why don'y you reduce the burden this planet has to bear, by you know, not existing. Your ridiculous wisdom in not needed.
@@blitzkreig4887well you see, all of us literally didn't ask to be here so telling us to off ourselves is not kind. Our families want us here, we just don't want kids ourselves. Go adopt if you feel so strongly about it
@@mikaylalewis6002 just amazing. There are cancer patients out there who would do absolutely anything just to stay alive, and then there are people like you. Childfree is ridiculous, selfish and devoid of humanity.
@@blitzkreig4887💯
Actually ChildFree parents are most selfish. They know they are enjoying there life that's why that want to live. But they don't want to deliver one who can get the opportunity to see the life which by any way they can give. There are trillions of lives in this world. If you can give a life to human which is far better than those suffering beings but still you are not choosing then you are the most selfish species.
This is still my favorite video out there. Thank you sir for giving this talk and educating the world.
This video is so ahead of its time….. waiting for the day when this video goes viral and hopefully this comment too❤️❤️
Well considering we're entering an era of population collapse I don't think it will ever go viral, but it's clearly low key viral.
This is the most neutral conversation I've heard on the child-free lifestyle. Thankyou so much! I can share it with my family and friends who are not able to comprehend this concept.
I prefer SINMAK==Single Income No Marriage And Kids
I don’t owe anyone anything.
Excellent talk!
11:08 Truth!
I LOVE children and I'd rather adopt!
Excellent!! 👏👏👏
courageous and wise man, thank you so much for this warm-hearted talk
This Tedx talk via Dr Armaan Pandey on dual income no kid couples is fair and contains thorough details. I have nothing against parents or children especially with I having been lucky to have been adopted by the time I was a teenager. However there is no denying that my husband and I being a dual income couple affords us freedom and options that are rationally unheard of for some couples with children. Fortunately this Tedx talk provides both fair and persuasive points on dual income no kid couples.
We are Dink and life is so good and stress free...
Love this guy, he's really smart.
simple.
very easy to understand.
respect....
Very informative and well researched video. Reaffirmed my thought process. Thank you for sharing.
I and my wife chose to make money and not make babies
Proud of u!!
DINK for the win!
one good thing is it will lower indias competition
Y is this not going viral or getting significant views??
I also want to be childfree but always feeling of fear to be alone.I know kids will not stay with us but back of the mind we think someone always be there.I dont know how to handle this situation.
I too think about this
If you dont wanna be alone then DINKS is not for you. Bcoz that fear will be constant everytime you think about future. Dont overanalyse it, go with gut feeling
If you are on the fence: try babysitting over night and living with kids. It is a like a fre/ temporary version of parenthood. If you feel like you want it everyday then have kids.( with or without support) If not you can always be around children without giving birth and be apart of someone's village. Children aren't a retirement plan- they r human beings.
I need a women who is a believer in DINK
You will find manyyy:)
I'm also searching for dink partner
Agreed
Got confidence about our decision
Well articulated speech.
Never thought about it in terms of his decision matrix, but damn, it couldn't be any simpler than that!
Absolutely fascinating!!!
Bloodline? Is that going to pay the bills after you have kids? If you can't afford them. Don't have them. I bet that guy had an arranged marriage.
Great talk!!
Excellent!
How to find antinatalist life partner? Is there option on matrimony or dating apps specifically
Write it in your bio😅
just stay single. Women want kids.
lots of women dont, i live with one lol. now go sit in a corner and cry@@blitzkreig4887
@@blitzkreig4887not me. 😊
@@blitzkreig4887not every woman
Where can I meet this Dr. Armaan Pandey..love his speech 😍
Its okay to be childfree.But I have fear of being alone.What to do about that
I think most of people never accept it, especially ladies.
As a child free woman (by choice), I definitely do feel far more pressure and judgement for my choice not to have a kid than my husband does.
I'm a childfree women so there are definitely a lot of women who doesn't want kids too
Trust me, more women genuinly don't want kids anymore. It's just a lot of people try to shame us into having children. Because you know, 'women are worthless if they don't breed' (sarcasm).
Country are full of them now... Of course!
That's my saviour Psych
However there will always be many parents from lower strata of society who will give birth to children, so the society will be deprived of educated intelligent people,if I have expressed it correctly.All other points are correct I feel.
Ths was great.
I can't believe that 100 species going extinct everyday.
😂It’s me I guess
That's because your thinking is confined to your house.
Mee too ❤
Dinkleberg!
Curious how many kids doctor has adopted...well your parents did lot of sacrifice to being you up and coz of that you are able to give these speeches
I won't blame u. Ur religion orders u to have kids and start a family. Pls don't judge others 🙏.
@@dhruvshukla2389and you will also converted once they outnumber😢
@@anil6191 Nooo. That won't ever happen.
Omg looking at an Indian man talking about Childless people …. I totally assumed he was going to somehow spin it to women’s fault ….. I was taken by surprise…..
I have been childless not by choice ….. but I always felt that mothers were the most selfish people …. I guess it’s the adaptation mechanism but I see it all the time…. ..
One thing for sure though I could have had a child by adoption …. I am not sure as why I didn’t do that …. That I think …I blame it on the society that might challenge me every step of the way …
Please give me some advice for not being alone at my old age mentally ??? But really dont want kids
I bet Dr. Jordan Peterson is going apoplectic on this lecture.
I also wanted to be childfree but when my grandfather felt severely ill and was in depression then my father,uncle and I were taking care of him and got admitted him in hospital where we stayed with him for 3 days and then I realised the importance of having kids . But yes you should plan kids after a stable income
U need care taker at ur old age not kids
@@RebelKannadiga-d6pyou should be thankful to parents of caretaker who gave birth to him
@@azadjain8534 yes & since the caretakers are there why do you need kids? No guarantee kids will stay with you either
@@srikanthsv79yeah thats why have 3 or 4 kids and then the possibility is most of them will be there😅
@@anil6191 not even 1 crore LPA will be enough to educate & care for them.
i am a SINK
Wanna be the mother of your child armaan 😅
Dual はDouble と同義語
only children have things to love in them.
also jesus having or not having children is a emotional choice and not a intellectual decision.
if having a child makes you happy do it and if it does not opt out. how and why are people trying to list pros and cons? ofc there are advantages of both, but listing advantages wont make you happy in the long run.
Nonexistence is better than a painful existence? This sounds like justification/promotion of suicide. That’s rather nihilistic and defeatist
It’s antinatalism. I don’t personally identify with it but it is a valid philosophical viewpoint.
Suicide and antinatalism are not the same. Antinatalism aims to prevent suicide. Something or someone that doesn't exist cannot commit suicide. By the way, I don't wish a painful existence for my children. That's why I don't have any. Children suffering for me and because of me, that would be cruel.
@@doloresvangaal2248 this would assume that life is suffering. What’s to say your children wouldn’t have a wonderful life?
@@ChadCilli I don't want to take the risk. And yes, they would probably suffer, as children, because I am this terribly selfish human that chooses not to have kids.
@@doloresvangaal2248 I'm very sorry you feel that way. I'm certainly not saying it's selfish to choose to not have children. There's nothing selfish about choosing your own life. But I do think it's nihilistic to assume that life is nothing but suffering. I can't agree with people like Sam Harris (who happens to have children) that we shouldn't have children because life is nothing but suffering. Rainy days make us appreciate the sunny days. I was in an accident, nearly died, and suffered tremendously. However, that experience is also why I am so grateful and filled with gratitude for my life every day.
I feel so sorry for you and for all the people who find even a tiny bit of logic in his talk. Life is precious. Everyone of us is like a comet with power to change the entire universe.
Then chnage it. Stop thinking 9billion people will make a difference. Do your thing.
his wife dosent love him. he knows it deep down
How much do you charge per hour for your psychic insights?
I want 2 kids that’s it
How u ll afford them 😂😂😂??
You just want to lose your Virginity for fun but have unwanted kids?
Hypocrisy at its best:
At one side you don't bring life, as life is miserable and blah blah. But another side you want to live a carefree, double income luxurious life?? Isn't life miserable contradicts here.. reminder to your philosophy.
If life has struggle & misery then why to marry even; take a cloth & move to pilgrims for blissful & no responsibility life.
Actually if bringing a life in this world is crime then Dinks can adopt & give a suitable life to already existential beings.
But they will not, because taking responsibility is what they are running away behind all these big claims.
Adopt, adopt, adopt or just shut your mouth & don't preach.
Of course we are not going to adopt. Please think a moment about the meaning and etymology of the word "childfree". Compare it with "lead-free", or "sugar-free".
"Childfree" doesn't refer to a person or persons who never gave birth. It refers to a person or persons who are uncontaminated by the presence of children in their life, just as a sugar-free soda is uncontaminated by sugar or a lead-free pipe is uncontaminated by lead.
_You_ do that. _You_ adopt. You take part fully in the game of life. But my wife and I insist on snubbing you and the game. We are DINKs, we are deserters, and there is nothing you can do against our sort of deserters.
Individual happiness and individual freedom leads to nothing than loneliness.... yes parenting in not an easy job...but it can be easy only if u are conscious about the path you are showing to ur kid... coz as u sow so u reep.... this DINK stuff is nothing but descions taken by those ppl who experienced an unconscious parenting... that why they feel parenting is selfish... anyways this is my opinion
People with children are most lonely, kids aren't obligated to old-sit you or change your diapers duh
I think it’s selfish. I know I might be a minority on that
Selfish to whom exactly? Meanwhile parents have kids for all the selfish reasons.
@@renek2913 Selfish in the fact you don’t want the responsibility and just care about yourselves
Everyone is selfish it's choice you can't judge anyone choice
Not having children doesn’t mean that one doesn’t care about others. How dim are you? They have friends and family they love and care about. Often involved in the community and volunteer and give to charities because not every last cent has to be spent on kids.
this guy consolidating stuff from reddit and giving a ted talk 😂😂
Wtf..Come with any poor ideology and give supportive arguments. 😅 I have two kids and they are not liability on me instead my assets. ❤❤❤
💯
We need to change that mindset. There's now enough population in India. No more kids 🙏.
Kids aren't assets, you get nothing in return, yeah call them depreciating assets as their value reduces over time costing you too much & won't make you retire early
@@srikanthsv79 100% agreed 🤣🤣🤣.
its empty. overly intellectual but not spiritual
I think my 5th grade cousin could give a more coherent Ted talk
Why don't you present your counter argument? 😂
Do us all a favor. When your daughter turns 13. Put her on birth control.
Khatam tata bye bye......... Genius way to get extinct
Loads of animals have been extinct too, it's just our time on earth & we will either evolve as different species or go extinct eventually
@@srikanthsv79 in order to evolve you need to survive
@@therock3301 we will go extinct otherwise that's all, what's the big deal?
@@therock3301what is the end goal or purpose to continuous evolving?
Mostly, everyone loves children but many couples don't want to take the responsibility of bringing up life. It's perfectly fine - To each its own. But please don't say bringing life is a misery. Life is an experience and it should be lived to the fullest whether good or bad.
From narrators perspective, I can easily make out that he wants to live his life as a childfree couple, that's absolutely his choice, but don't try to dissuade other people by bringing spirituality and false logic to counter his claims.
Just, simply accept this truth that you are not willing to take care of the responsibilities of a child and move on that's it...
Oh please, if anything he's offering a different view that is taboo for common people in society to even see. Childfree people are constantly facing the criticism from the lay person for not wanting to have children. He's not trying to dissuade anyone, the majority of the world are breeders anyways, he's just showing a different way of seeing it.
Most people are run by emotion and not by rational thinking. That's why the world is facing overpopulation.
Childfree couples should be respected.
he is not bringing any false logic here, its just that he isn't saying what you like to hear, its because of people who lack rational thinking that have populated this planet like mad circus. Your problem is you have stamped all the couples who doesn't want to have kids as the people who doesn't want to take responsibilities. I'd like to know how much responsibly you are living your life in the society and humanity!
On the same note, People with children must note criticise or abuse the people who want to be child free.
He didn’t say that as the only possible truth, he was explaining the antinatalist viewpoint as a possible argument against when people shame child free people for being “selfish”.
Why are people like them with ideas like this are even allowed to give a speech at all
Freedom of speech. Cope!
I don’t like his accent
Then don't listen
ThickSkinIndian it’s so annoying
Tryna dink up?
Hi
Then go watch another video.