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I want to give a hug to the first woman. That’s so horrible! My abusive ex recently committed suicide because I didn’t want to get back with him. I could have easily been his victim, and committing suicide hurt me more than him trying to strangle me. I am sorry for the woman, that must be so horrible bc you wanna get back at your dad and also tell your mom you love her but none of them are there. Please be okay🧡
My ex who assaulted me died in 2021 and a part of me was deeply sad even though I had gone no contact for many years. But another part of me that I’ve started accepting is that it’s okay to be angry at him too. I took a lot of blame for the situation for the relationship on myself, when in reality he probably held the lions share of our issues.
The segment about Dads and Fathers really hits home. My dad was and still is so distant. He hurt my sister worse. He complained about attending her high school graduation because he had to miss work. She was so broken.
What I really love about the Keep It 100 segment is getting to see all the faces framed and lit the same. And getting to see how everyone has unique features and shape sizes, different eye sizes and body shapes. I really like that. And the stories people share, of course 😊
Remember, sharing your story not only helps you heal, but it also inspires others who may be going through similar situations. Your resilience shines through and it's evident that you've grown from this experience. Keep pushing forward and never let the pain define you.
I'm surprised not a lot said their moms. My mom broke mine systematically through my childhood. Then, I chased boys who didn't want me because I was programmed to break my own self. Sad but true.
same! I have a lot of resentment towards my mother even though I know at her core she is not intentionally trying to hurt me. Doesn't mean she doesn't know better though, and still made the choices she did. It made me extremely hesitant to date because I was so afraid of never being enough. Now I'm 26 and she is exasperated at me not being married yet lol
Lmao my mom cheated on my stepdad and my entire work found out and I work with a lot of my stepdads friends she broke my family dawg I miss living with my siblings but I had to move out Ts was so toxic
That's where this whole "he's too nice" come from , the people use those words are typically women who have parent issues , either with their Moms or father . There is Nothing wrong being Nice .
My mom broke my heart 1st & frequently. I'm in my 40s now & I still suffer from the scars she inflicted upon me on a daily basis. I have a child of my own now & I pretty much hold my mother up as an example of what not to do. I also try to pour into my child all that I longed for from my mother during my own childhood.
Thank you people at CUT. I’m currently going through a breakup with my longest partner of over four years. He left and said some horrible things and this helped me a lot.
Honestly nice choice with the background music pick, not too cheesy and respectful enough, because this topic is absolutely brutal with how honest everyone was
“I don’t want to sound like I have daddy issues but I have daddy issues” if this ain’t me 😭. I feel you girl, but therapy and self growth is so important to combat this (for anyone else with the same problem)
if someone asks me if I have daddy issues I'll just start saying "yeah, my dad has issues" because that's 100% what it is 😂 I aint got no issues, man just be crazy childish
Seeing everyone smile after heartbreak is so amazing. We all get heartbroken and we all eventually move on and grow from it. Such a unique part of the human experience.
At this point I started bawling. My mother has always said the same thing to me both in childhood and adulthood, and I have never heard of someone with such a similar experience. Though it’s a horrible thing to say and hear, it is healing to hear someone else went through this and I’m not alone.
Heartbreak feels like coming down off a high/drug. It's like a mental detox of one specific person and it's as painful as actual detox but with different symptoms.
tbh i never thought she would be the my first heartbreak. I remember being terrified of getting my heart broken by guys but i forgot that the one closest to you are the ones whose betrayal hurts the most. There are no ballads or poems about you platonic bestfriend breaking your heart and no cures on how to heal. Hope you guys are doing well
This hit home for me. I had this happen to me a few months ago. It's so hurtful and I hope u can heal as well and don't worry, I'm sure it'll get better for you. Stay strong ^^
There might not be any commonly known formulas but healing from trust being broken and loss is probably always going to be helped along by therapy, and theres a co-counselling if you can’t afford professional x
Exactly most of them speak about romantic relationships but for me it’s the platonic ones that are the real heartbreakers :/ Like no man has ever got into my heart like a real friend
I live in the southern US where being gay is still kinda taboo. My ex and I have shared trauma from growing up in conservative households and we were dating long distance. We both had a loooot of insecurities and we brought them out of each other. Hes the only one ive ever found romantic, physical, and emotional comfort in and having to acknowledge that he wasnt good for me was the hardest choice ive ever had to make. I could have moved in with him and felt comfort, but I would have been totally limiting myself and what I want out of my life. I had 0 support system where I was at at the time but I just know he never had time for me and nothing would change if I go back. Its been almost a year and I still think about him every single day. Every ounce of my being wants to go back to him, and I know he would take me back. But its so hard to tell myself that I deserve better than what I had since he was the best I ever had.
I've lived a similar story (came from Christian households in the south). He was in the closet, I wasn't. No one here can tell you what to do. But we both went back to each other and it wasn't the same as it was and unfortunately, it was never going to be what I needed it to be. And that realization that comes during a breakup is something to hold on to because it will eventually propel you into finding the right person. And you will. I still wish my ex well. He and I are ok. We've apologized for the things we said and did over 10 years ago. Someone gave me similar advice when I was in your shoes. One foot in front of the other until you're there. You'll love again. I have and it was the greatest, magicalest thing. The love lasts, the relationship does not. But I'm so grateful to have had the experience of someone loving me and to love someone else. Give yourself more time.
Hey Philip! I'm so sure that u will find love and happiness❤ U sound like u went through a lot be kind to yourself. Maybe u can move to another more open place? Or find support in therapy or connect online with people who went through something similar? I'm not from the US but I'm pretty sure there are lgbtq groups who are supportive? Anyways wish u the best
I'm going through a very similar stage now. What helps me cheer myself up is understanding, that I'm now taking time which I need to build the best of myself. Sometimes I feel so lonley that I'd rather come back to my ex, or find completely anybody to make it feel easier. But the easiest way isn't always the best. You're embracing yourself and only attracting even better people into your life.
Unfortunately trauma bonding isn’t the strongest or healthiest of foundations for relationships of any kind. I’m sorry the cruelty of others has caused you this pain.
The ones about dads really got to me…I never really thought of my dad being the first person who broke my heart, but he absolutely did, and I’m working on a lot of that childhood trauma in therapy now. Love to anyone else who had a parent who broke their heart ❤
As a person that is going throught a heartbrake at the moment, it is really nice to see the people smile rather than cry or be sad about it. So i hope i am going to heal just as them and live happily just as them.
Honestly my dad was my first heart break too. We used to get into heated arguments growing up. He worked so hard to keep us fed and warm but never took care of himself during his 2 days off. He would drink and so when he would come in the house he’d turn his anger onto us kids but not physically but verbally. It really drove a wedge between him and I. I asked him one night “do you hate me?” And he said “maybe.” I was so hurt that I found every single evil thing I could think of to say to him. Him and I are good now since he’s home alot more now. Im 24 and so we’ve become a bit more close but the damage to my self esteem has already been done. What I lacked in validation, love and care in dad I went searching for it in men.
@@DK-210 Red flag is being a 'nice guy' meaning 'harmless', and even bigger red flag is not finding it a red flag. What kind of a woman would go for a harmless guy except the toxic and manipulative one? Men up, boys.
What’s really fucked up is thinking about how violent sexual predators can end a human life simply so that they can cum once. Every time I hear about a woman being R’d and killed I think about how their murderer valued their life less than one orgasm.
I really feel for the first woman’s story. My ex attempted a murder suicide when I wouldn’t get back together with him. Im lucky to have survived my attack but I know the ever lasting trauma and guilt it leaves you with. I can only imagine how that has affected her in life. I hope she’s found the love and support that was once taken from her but always deserved
pretty cliche but i was going through a rough time but then i started developing feelings for this one guy. he really cheered me up and motivated me to keep going. i was planning to give him this letter expressing my feelings for him and while i wasn't sure if i could actually do it, i wanted to try. but before i could actually give it to him, i saw him holding hands with another girl. it was valentines day. they're still together to this day and while i'm not completely over him, i am in a better place right now :)
Myself I kept letting someone lead me on despite I knew she wasn't interested Once she finally gave me a chance I was so confused and down on myself I didn't take it, I was afraid to lose her In the end I lost her and I still think we could have been perfect for one another
I was waiting for someone to say it was their mother. That was my first real heartbreak. Just realizing you are not loved in the truest sense. And then just people in general. They break your heart every day, little by little.
“I stayed for too long” I felt that in my soul.Sometimes it’s hard to let go when people hurt us because we try to see the good when some people are just shitty humans and not everyone meant to be in your life for every season.I had a ex of 5 years I had to cut things off and it weird cause we are now best friends and I’m the godmother of him and his gf baby.
..it’s crazy for me to hear that there are people out there that have never had their heart broken…they have no idea how lucky they are…charmed existence …
I’m the girl at 3:40 and lemme tell you.. we filmed this in January when I was with my first boyfriend, and yeah.. the director was right, it happened 💀
We live in such a broken society. Recognizing our pain and sitting with it, helps us process and heal ❤ sending love to everyone whose going through a hard time.
You know what, this video made me rethink about the last (and first) time I got broken hearted just before covid hit, and I just realized, I'm fully over it. Two years ago I wouldnt have thought that to be possible. So hang in there if you're going through heart break, it does get better :) ❤
“what does heartbreak feel like?” it feels like this huge pain in your chest with someone just slicing your heart in two. when you get heartbroken your heart actually has strings that rip apart, it’s not just emotional pain but physical.
Last time someone broke my heart was my best friend. She was in a pretty abusive relationship, and she still choose her partner and stopped talking to me, because their partner told her so
@Amirs_Articulate this is incredibly selfish and terrible advice... punishing the person being abused for being manipulated? Like did you even read wtf was said?
@@tbrown9328 yeahhh Its easy for me to cut off people who are hurting themselves and continuously show they have no effort in changing themselves. Ig its okay cause there is people like you who reaffirm toxic behavior that not only hurts the host but the other people close. Keep it that way and you’ll see who deprived of life you’ll be when you keep shit people in your life.
I love this video. You can feel with them so good because a heartbreak is one of the worst feelings you can have. Thankfully you can get through it. My heartbreak was 1.5 years ago. It started with lots of panic, anxiety attacks and moments, where I dissociated, because my head couldn't comprehend reality. My ex cheated and got together with that guy. I got rejected by lots of women in my life but this was the most painful experience I had to go through. To this day, I fight daily to get my self-worth back and try to get into therapy, because I wasn't able to do it alone, even though I tried really really hard.
I don't know why, but this is healing me, not because I feel like others have gone through something worse than me, but that we are all just trying our best to get through life. I don't feel alone anymore, thank you guys for being vulnerable
It's so awesome that this includes all form of heart break like parental or familial. I love that it also acknowledges being the person who (shamefully) was the heartbreaker and how they reflect on it. (Yup I have been the bad guy)
My answer to this question would be my best friend, a friend-break up (she was the one to “break up with me” but I never got an answer to why!!). It happened when I was like 12 (now I'm 21) and I wouldn’t be surprised if people laughed “pffftt you were so young, you don't know what heart break is”. I think it doesn’t matter. She was the only one I felt that I really loved, even over my own family. I think deep connections doesn’t always have to do with age.. It took me literally years to get over it and I don’t know if the sadness over the loss will ever not have a place in my heart.
I was gonna say something very similar but mine was pretty recent like just at the end of last year. It really does hurt though and I get what you mean when you say she was the only one you ever really loved because that’s how it was with my best friend, we had a really deep connection. The thing that I think really hurt even more though is that she just loved me really well back and I usually have a hard time actually feeling loved but she was able to love me just the way I needed without me having to ask and when it stopped all of a sudden I just felt empty. I still really struggle with it sometimes and I’m not entirely sure I’ll ever fully get over it so I understand that too. It’s just so hard.
You’re so right! The age does not matter because the depth of the relationship was so immense that it hurt you to the core when it ended. This situation also happened with a past friend of mine so I can relate to your story.
I've had multiple heartbreaks ever since my early childhood, and majority of them have nothing to do with my past romantic interests. My heart was broken when a young and loving cousin/neighbor died in a car crash. My heart was broken when my dog died while I was on my school trip to Spain, and only found out when I came back home. My heart was broken as well when my Grandma died. She raised me. Your heartbreak is as valid as anyone else's, Andrea. I wish you healing.
ain’t no way her mom said “I love you but I don’t like you”. If you genuinely loved someone, you would never say something so hurtful 😞 ESPECIALLY to ur own child smh
I don’t need somebody else, I thoroughly broke my heart myself with my choices and have no one but me to blame for it. Sadly I will forgive myself quicker than I should
My dad broke mine. And people are right, it effects you for the rest of your life. It’s hard for me to think that men like me and I’m always seeking approval from father figures. I feel like there will always be something wrong with me. I’ll never be right because of it.
@@finallygoated2361 I don’t have to let things go that I didn’t do. But of course we’ll never blame the parents for being shit. I’ll let it go when he fucking dies
Honestly, I think what's beautiful is the strength these people have to share their stories, our lives are defined by many experiences and it is important that we learn from them and grow from them. I also love the male interviewer, he's so engaging
Fearing what other people might think has held me back from pursuing the things I want practically my entire life. I've missed out on several opportunities to grow as a person because my brain would rather not play than risk failure, which ironically, guarantees failure. So, in that way, I keep breaking my own heart.
I haven't open the vídeo yet but I immediately said “my dad”. Then the first woman said her father as well. Sad that the people that should protect us have the power to ruin us.
My ex boyfriend broke my heart. While we never said we loved each other, I definitely saw a future with him. We talked about a lot of potential situations. I cried many nights, and drank plenty of alcohol. I’m better now. Thank God for therapy, family and friends.
The amount of times my mother told me “I have to love you but I don’t have to like you” is wild. She’s said a lot worse so I never really thought about that phrase. The hurt just kinda all came back for a sec watching that
i just got my heart broken and have been crying for days and am finding it really hard not to just lie in bed all day and wallow so this really hit hard for me :( i know it will take time and ill get over it but im just sad rn :(
My parents. And nothing else compares. I'm still not healing. My dad now has cancer but I'm just already too emotionally distant after decades of numbing myself.
Stumbled into this video when being 10000km away from home. I dont want to say it but i think my grandmother broke my heart. When I was a kid, I used to be around her a lot and I seem like I love her the most. When I got a bit older I started to learn about all the mental abuse she kinda did for my parents. And now I constantly hear about how she is wrecking this family...... and no one can actually stop her cause we all love her too much not to listen to her and let her do her things and give away all the money lol. Further than that, my grandparents' inequality in treating their children and grandchildren makes me want to cry everytime I think about them. I feel sad and tired and I dont want to say this but I felt so... free when I left home to go aboard. If there is a reason why I wouldnt go back then this is it.
It’s absolutely crazy to me the variety of lives that are being/have been lived out there. Like at some point, that historical photo was taken, somebody got that scar, at some point somebody decided they would/could no longer love again What led to that point I’ll never exactly know or be able to fathom, but at the end of the day it still happened
I just realized something when watching this. All my 25 years I have never had my heart broken before until last year when my ex committed suicide. I never would have imagined that, that is how things were going to end.
Breaking up because the person is too nice ? That's something I really don't understand... Can someone explain in what situation kindness could be problematic ?
I can share my experience. I had a boyfriend before. He was nice, smart, and hot. We encountered a really uncomfortable situation with other two stranger men once. I felt unsafe, disappointed, and embarrassed. I felt like I needed to defend him, instead of him defending both of us. From that moment on, I wasn't attracted to him anymore. If anything I need in a man it is to feel safe from him and protected by him from others. I want someone who's nice to me but is capable of being dangerous and intimidating when needed, instead of acting like a bi*ch. So, yeah, a negative meaning of a 'nice guy' is a *harmless guy* who's not stepping up for himself and others, is letting other people walk over him, thinking that you can solve everything with a smile and a talk. Wrong! Better learn some fighting skills. That's why I'd rather have a rough looking military guy over men from any other occupation.
Thank you to everyone sharing these stories, they have reminded me that heartbreak is a universal experience. Although painful, none of us are alone in it. My biggest heartbreaks were: my abusive parents (ofc, goes without saying) but also my friendship breakup with my best friend and, honestly, losing my dog totally shattered my heart too. (I was a little surprised that we didn't hear more about friendship breakups - mine hurt way more than any romantic relationship I've had with a boy!)
Dad, as a kid I was bullied a lot and was very passive regarding confrontations. At one point I confided in Dad that I was bullied, and as a kid, I needed that protection, or assurance, that it was going to be fine and he would do something about it. He didn't, instead, he asked me "What did you do then?". With that sentence alone I realized I couldn't go to him for help.
It’s insane when one goes through heart break we tend to think we are the only ones going through it but this just shows everyone is going thru something. Be nice to people
I sat down to think about this and realized I can't really say any singular person broke my heart. I lost a lot of hope and faith in the world and humans in general from a young age. I also realized many relationships don't last, aren't profound, aren't genuine, and are just the result of people being in the same place and situation, those ties sever as soon as the people are in different places, as if nothing ever happened. So I decided that the very few times I would have close relationships with anyone, I would never trust them 100%, never give those too much value in my mind and in my heart so that when there would be betrayal or any kind of horrible thing that happened, I wouldn't be too affected by it. It's proved useful until now. Therefore the only thing I can say really broke my heart is not an action or words uttered by a person, but the death of my dog 5 years ago.
don’t take life too seriously go out and meet people get your heart broken a couple times and break a couple hearts along the way enjoy the human experience and emotions
@@ivy8483 You are out of your mind. You are so messed up. You need therapy. This life is serious, because the next Eternal one is awaiting us all but not of the same quality - it's earned by our deeds now.
The opening story is gut wrenching, this human experience can be unimaginably painful. I thank you all for sharing.
so true
Life is so insane, people go through such things and decide death is better then living i don’t understand if theirs a point to life
Jus seems to try and have fun while u can
Right.. I need to hear the full story fr
Yes... you could feel her pain so much :(
1:25 I love her "oh no, we're done" with that smile 😭💖
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a whole queen. i hope she's in a better place
Her smile could get her a role in Get Out 2
L Take :)
I want to give a hug to the first woman. That’s so horrible! My abusive ex recently committed suicide because I didn’t want to get back with him. I could have easily been his victim, and committing suicide hurt me more than him trying to strangle me. I am sorry for the woman, that must be so horrible bc you wanna get back at your dad and also tell your mom you love her but none of them are there. Please be okay🧡
remember it wasn't your fault he did that. i wish you well.
You did nothing wrong. It was never in your hand.
I'm gonna sound mean but at least you don't have to deal with that anymore, I hope you're at peace.
@@nqtebob Outta pocket 💀
My ex who assaulted me died in 2021 and a part of me was deeply sad even though I had gone no contact for many years. But another part of me that I’ve started accepting is that it’s okay to be angry at him too. I took a lot of blame for the situation for the relationship on myself, when in reality he probably held the lions share of our issues.
The segment about Dads and Fathers really hits home. My dad was and still is so distant. He hurt my sister worse. He complained about attending her high school graduation because he had to miss work. She was so broken.
What a selfish man
sounds like he regrets becoming a dad.
Bruh it’s just a graduation .. highschool at best lmao call me when it’s college and she has her stem degree with 100K out the door
That dad segment hit hard 😢
@@mayacokie4811 what a selfish man for working.
What I really love about the Keep It 100 segment is getting to see all the faces framed and lit the same. And getting to see how everyone has unique features and shape sizes, different eye sizes and body shapes. I really like that. And the stories people share, of course 😊
That is exactly what I thought while watching this video. So many unique and wonderful faces.
L Take :)
L take??? what lol@@CursalMusic
Remember, sharing your story not only helps you heal, but it also inspires others who may be going through similar situations. Your resilience shines through and it's evident that you've grown from this experience. Keep pushing forward and never let the pain define you.
Omg this is such a beautiful comment! Thank you!
Thank you
L Take :)
Getting your heart ripped up is painful, but with time, it can be mended. You just need to be patient with yourself.
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@@khalilahd.girl u need a break seriously u all over😂😂
Them: “Who broke ur heart”
Me: “EVERYONE”
@@UnstableYT-u7k give it 3 months
@@UnstableYT-u7k You will eventually meet someone new and you will probably always love that other person as well deep down. It sucks, it's life..
I'm surprised not a lot said their moms. My mom broke mine systematically through my childhood. Then, I chased boys who didn't want me because I was programmed to break my own self. Sad but true.
same! I have a lot of resentment towards my mother even though I know at her core she is not intentionally trying to hurt me. Doesn't mean she doesn't know better though, and still made the choices she did. It made me extremely hesitant to date because I was so afraid of never being enough. Now I'm 26 and she is exasperated at me not being married yet lol
Lmao my mom cheated on my stepdad and my entire work found out and I work with a lot of my stepdads friends she broke my family dawg I miss living with my siblings but I had to move out Ts was so toxic
That's where this whole "he's too nice" come from , the people use those words are typically women who have parent issues , either with their Moms or father .
There is Nothing wrong being Nice .
My mom broke my heart as well I still love her to death but we are not close at all. Many things are the reason for this.
My mom broke my heart 1st & frequently. I'm in my 40s now & I still suffer from the scars she inflicted upon me on a daily basis. I have a child of my own now & I pretty much hold my mother up as an example of what not to do. I also try to pour into my child all that I longed for from my mother during my own childhood.
Thank you people at CUT. I’m currently going through a breakup with my longest partner of over four years. He left and said some horrible things and this helped me a lot.
I’m going through a really similar thing - don’t worry it will get easier. Time heals 💛
You deserve better and you’ll find it! Give yourself time to heal.
Me too. And never thought it would be this difficult
I’m so sorry.. I just wanna say Jesus loves you.♥️
I feel that, let yourself feel all the emotions you need rn and talk to the ones you love it really helps xx
Honestly nice choice with the background music pick, not too cheesy and respectful enough, because this topic is absolutely brutal with how honest everyone was
Gymnopedie No. 1 for anyone wondering
“I don’t want to sound like I have daddy issues but I have daddy issues” if this ain’t me 😭. I feel you girl, but therapy and self growth is so important to combat this (for anyone else with the same problem)
daddy issues lmao get real
if someone asks me if I have daddy issues I'll just start saying "yeah, my dad has issues" because that's 100% what it is 😂 I aint got no issues, man just be crazy childish
@@turtle5426What else? Lol
Seeing everyone smile after heartbreak is so amazing. We all get heartbroken and we all eventually move on and grow from it. Such a unique part of the human experience.
“I love you but I don’t like you” sadly so many young women can relate 😔 i could never imagine saying or thinking that about my daughter
"I love you, but I don't like you..." yeah, I felt that.
At this point I started bawling. My mother has always said the same thing to me both in childhood and adulthood, and I have never heard of someone with such a similar experience. Though it’s a horrible thing to say and hear, it is healing to hear someone else went through this and I’m not alone.
@@shanelle_a 🖤
Heartbreak feels like coming down off a high/drug. It's like a mental detox of one specific person and it's as painful as actual detox but with different symptoms.
exactly
i would argue same symptoms tbh
tbh i never thought she would be the my first heartbreak. I remember being terrified of getting my heart broken by guys but i forgot that the one closest to you are the ones whose betrayal hurts the most. There are no ballads or poems about you platonic bestfriend breaking your heart and no cures on how to heal. Hope you guys are doing well
This hit home for me. I had this happen to me a few months ago. It's so hurtful and I hope u can heal as well and don't worry, I'm sure it'll get better for you. Stay strong ^^
There might not be any commonly known formulas but healing from trust being broken and loss is probably always going to be helped along by therapy, and theres a co-counselling if you can’t afford professional x
Exactly most of them speak about romantic relationships but for me it’s the platonic ones that are the real heartbreakers :/ Like no man has ever got into my heart like a real friend
L Take :)
Everyone's faces are so beautiful and interesting to look at
I live in the southern US where being gay is still kinda taboo. My ex and I have shared trauma from growing up in conservative households and we were dating long distance. We both had a loooot of insecurities and we brought them out of each other. Hes the only one ive ever found romantic, physical, and emotional comfort in and having to acknowledge that he wasnt good for me was the hardest choice ive ever had to make. I could have moved in with him and felt comfort, but I would have been totally limiting myself and what I want out of my life. I had 0 support system where I was at at the time but I just know he never had time for me and nothing would change if I go back. Its been almost a year and I still think about him every single day. Every ounce of my being wants to go back to him, and I know he would take me back. But its so hard to tell myself that I deserve better than what I had since he was the best I ever had.
I've lived a similar story (came from Christian households in the south). He was in the closet, I wasn't. No one here can tell you what to do. But we both went back to each other and it wasn't the same as it was and unfortunately, it was never going to be what I needed it to be. And that realization that comes during a breakup is something to hold on to because it will eventually propel you into finding the right person.
And you will. I still wish my ex well. He and I are ok. We've apologized for the things we said and did over 10 years ago.
Someone gave me similar advice when I was in your shoes. One foot in front of the other until you're there.
You'll love again. I have and it was the greatest, magicalest thing.
The love lasts, the relationship does not. But I'm so grateful to have had the experience of someone loving me and to love someone else.
Give yourself more time.
Hey Philip! I'm so sure that u will find love and happiness❤ U sound like u went through a lot be kind to yourself. Maybe u can move to another more open place? Or find support in therapy or connect online with people who went through something similar? I'm not from the US but I'm pretty sure there are lgbtq groups who are supportive? Anyways wish u the best
Keep staying strong!!
I'm going through a very similar stage now. What helps me cheer myself up is understanding, that I'm now taking time which I need to build the best of myself. Sometimes I feel so lonley that I'd rather come back to my ex, or find completely anybody to make it feel easier.
But the easiest way isn't always the best. You're embracing yourself and only attracting even better people into your life.
Unfortunately trauma bonding isn’t the strongest or healthiest of foundations for relationships of any kind. I’m sorry the cruelty of others has caused you this pain.
The ones about dads really got to me…I never really thought of my dad being the first person who broke my heart, but he absolutely did, and I’m working on a lot of that childhood trauma in therapy now. Love to anyone else who had a parent who broke their heart ❤
You never really get over grief, you grow around it apparently
I think a parent breaking your heart hits harder. Those disappointments stay with you
As a person that is going throught a heartbrake at the moment, it is really nice to see the people smile rather than cry or be sad about it. So i hope i am going to heal just as them and live happily just as them.
Honestly my dad was my first heart break too. We used to get into heated arguments growing up. He worked so hard to keep us fed and warm but never took care of himself during his 2 days off. He would drink and so when he would come in the house he’d turn his anger onto us kids but not physically but verbally. It really drove a wedge between him and I. I asked him one night “do you hate me?” And he said “maybe.” I was so hurt that I found every single evil thing I could think of to say to him. Him and I are good now since he’s home alot more now. Im 24 and so we’ve become a bit more close but the damage to my self esteem has already been done. What I lacked in validation, love and care in dad I went searching for it in men.
Dw, every thing will be alright ❤
My heart was broken and it never stopped hurting . It’s definitely shaped how I deal with people and who i trust .
I never thought anyone else heard the exact words “I love you, but I don’t like you”…it was absolutely heart wrenching to hear that from a parent.
me too ): it’s like these parents read from the same instruction manual
Don't take it personal, you are awesome. No parent should ever say that to their child. They just have issues with themselves.
You did not!?🥺😭
My mom would always say, "I always tell my friends that I love you, but if you were not my daughter I would probably hate you." It still bothers me.
@@karaunale9286 I’m sorry you had to go through that, wishing you peace ❤️
0:05 5 seconds in and my eyes already watering
5:15 telling your mom that your family member hurted you and them not believing, can actually break a person more than we can imagine 😢
I think getting heartbroken with no one to turn to about it is especially painful, so all these people have my heart
The 'You're too nice' breakup. That hits me hard.
Anyone who says that is a red flag
@@DK-210 absolutely
@@DK-210 Red flag is being a 'nice guy' meaning 'harmless', and even bigger red flag is not finding it a red flag. What kind of a woman would go for a harmless guy except the toxic and manipulative one? Men up, boys.
2:35 I will never understand the mentality of wanting to sexually assault someone thinking its a great idea, glad she is doing better without her ex
The perpetrator doesn't do it with the intent of being a good idea. In my situation, he was a sex addict and wanted to feel good at any expense.
What’s really fucked up is thinking about how violent sexual predators can end a human life simply so that they can cum once. Every time I hear about a woman being R’d and killed I think about how their murderer valued their life less than one orgasm.
@Turtle he wasnt defending anybody. And why are you treating a victim that way? You got some stuff to work out.
@Turtle he wasn’t defending anyone and that’s a human construct!
I really feel for the first woman’s story. My ex attempted a murder suicide when I wouldn’t get back together with him. Im lucky to have survived my attack but I know the ever lasting trauma and guilt it leaves you with. I can only imagine how that has affected her in life. I hope she’s found the love and support that was once taken from her but always deserved
7:29 has the most beautifully soothing face and voice
we jumped right into the DEEP END with that first one. WOW 💔
This was really cathartic to watch and relate to.
May you all find your peace and love within yourself. Youre worth it.
6:41 the irish comment was def the funniest part of the vid
"It breaks you constantly rather than just once"
"Interesting🙂"
"I love you but I don't like you" damn.
2:26 damn who is this girl? She's an angel 🥲
pretty cliche but i was going through a rough time but then i started developing feelings for this one guy. he really cheered me up and motivated me to keep going. i was planning to give him this letter expressing my feelings for him and while i wasn't sure if i could actually do it, i wanted to try. but before i could actually give it to him, i saw him holding hands with another girl. it was valentines day. they're still together to this day and while i'm not completely over him, i am in a better place right now :)
Myself
I kept letting someone lead me on despite I knew she wasn't interested
Once she finally gave me a chance I was so confused and down on myself I didn't take it, I was afraid to lose her
In the end I lost her and I still think we could have been perfect for one another
Don't be the option, honey. You value more.
As a lovin father of a daughter, the dad stories def hit me in the feels.
Sad af
The opening story hits close to home. My best friend’s mother was accidentally killed by his dad and seeing him struggle and navigating it was tough.
I was waiting for someone to say it was their mother. That was my first real heartbreak. Just realizing you are not loved in the truest sense. And then just people in general. They break your heart every day, little by little.
“I stayed for too long” I felt that in my soul.Sometimes it’s hard to let go when people hurt us because we try to see the good when some people are just shitty humans and not everyone meant to be in your life for every season.I had a ex of 5 years I had to cut things off and it weird cause we are now best friends and I’m the godmother of him and his gf baby.
..it’s crazy for me to hear that there are people out there that have never had their heart broken…they have no idea how lucky they are…charmed existence …
I’m the girl at 3:40 and lemme tell you.. we filmed this in January when I was with my first boyfriend, and yeah.. the director was right, it happened 💀
@@karebthedog sorry to hear that. How are you holding up?
@@karebthedogwell then it means he won’t be your future husband! Hopefully you can find your future husband soon!!
We live in such a broken society. Recognizing our pain and sitting with it, helps us process and heal ❤ sending love to everyone whose going through a hard time.
You know what, this video made me rethink about the last (and first) time I got broken hearted just before covid hit, and I just realized, I'm fully over it. Two years ago I wouldnt have thought that to be possible. So hang in there if you're going through heart break, it does get better :) ❤
Thank you. I really needed this. My heart just got broken and it feels like hell on earth. I hope it gets better
Myself. I think being down my whole life broke my heart more than anyone did.
“what does heartbreak feel like?” it feels like this huge pain in your chest with someone just slicing your heart in two. when you get heartbroken your heart actually has strings that rip apart, it’s not just emotional pain but physical.
3:37 he sounds like a person that has never got his heartbroken. Love that for him, a lucky one. He is still young though ha
Last time someone broke my heart was my best friend. She was in a pretty abusive relationship, and she still choose her partner and stopped talking to me, because their partner told her so
same
Let her dig her own hole. When she gets to her lowest and feels the need to comeback to you, shut her out with silence
Literally same here
@Amirs_Articulate this is incredibly selfish and terrible advice... punishing the person being abused for being manipulated? Like did you even read wtf was said?
@@tbrown9328 yeahhh Its easy for me to cut off people who are hurting themselves and continuously show they have no effort in changing themselves. Ig its okay cause there is people like you who reaffirm toxic behavior that not only hurts the host but the other people close. Keep it that way and you’ll see who deprived of life you’ll be when you keep shit people in your life.
30 seconds into the video yet and I'm already crying ...
Literally me 😭 they held nothing back
I think everybody in some kind of way has a broken heart, whether they know it or not
:Heartbreak feels like a lot of nothing " so painful😢
One of the worst feelings ever. As a very emotional 20-year old, I've been heartbroken so many times
I love this video. You can feel with them so good because a heartbreak is one of the worst feelings you can have. Thankfully you can get through it. My heartbreak was 1.5 years ago. It started with lots of panic, anxiety attacks and moments, where I dissociated, because my head couldn't comprehend reality. My ex cheated and got together with that guy. I got rejected by lots of women in my life but this was the most painful experience I had to go through. To this day, I fight daily to get my self-worth back and try to get into therapy, because I wasn't able to do it alone, even though I tried really really hard.
I'm proud of all these brave people
I don't know why, but this is healing me, not because I feel like others have gone through something worse than me, but that we are all just trying our best to get through life. I don't feel alone anymore, thank you guys for being vulnerable
My heart is broken right now. But it feels like a rebirth
I like that people admitted to breaking hearts as well
I'm hoping that everyone in this vid ams everyone listening or watching this vid heals
♡
It's so awesome that this includes all form of heart break like parental or familial. I love that it also acknowledges being the person who (shamefully) was the heartbreaker and how they reflect on it. (Yup I have been the bad guy)
My answer to this question would be my best friend, a friend-break up (she was the one to “break up with me” but I never got an answer to why!!). It happened when I was like 12 (now I'm 21) and I wouldn’t be surprised if people laughed “pffftt you were so young, you don't know what heart break is”. I think it doesn’t matter. She was the only one I felt that I really loved, even over my own family. I think deep connections doesn’t always have to do with age.. It took me literally years to get over it and I don’t know if the sadness over the loss will ever not have a place in my heart.
I was gonna say something very similar but mine was pretty recent like just at the end of last year. It really does hurt though and I get what you mean when you say she was the only one you ever really loved because that’s how it was with my best friend, we had a really deep connection. The thing that I think really hurt even more though is that she just loved me really well back and I usually have a hard time actually feeling loved but she was able to love me just the way I needed without me having to ask and when it stopped all of a sudden I just felt empty. I still really struggle with it sometimes and I’m not entirely sure I’ll ever fully get over it so I understand that too. It’s just so hard.
You’re so right! The age does not matter because the depth of the relationship was so immense that it hurt you to the core when it ended. This situation also happened with a past friend of mine so I can relate to your story.
I've had multiple heartbreaks ever since my early childhood, and majority of them have nothing to do with my past romantic interests.
My heart was broken when a young and loving cousin/neighbor died in a car crash.
My heart was broken when my dog died while I was on my school trip to Spain, and only found out when I came back home.
My heart was broken as well when my Grandma died. She raised me.
Your heartbreak is as valid as anyone else's, Andrea.
I wish you healing.
ain’t no way her mom said “I love you but I don’t like you”. If you genuinely loved someone, you would never say something so hurtful 😞 ESPECIALLY to ur own child smh
I don’t need somebody else, I thoroughly broke my heart myself with my choices and have no one but me to blame for it. Sadly I will forgive myself quicker than I should
My dad broke mine. And people are right, it effects you for the rest of your life. It’s hard for me to think that men like me and I’m always seeking approval from father figures. I feel like there will always be something wrong with me. I’ll never be right because of it.
Aye shit happens, you need to let the pass go
@@finallygoated2361 I don’t have to let things go that I didn’t do. But of course we’ll never blame the parents for being shit. I’ll let it go when he fucking dies
The calm chill music playing in the background with the heavy theme is killing meeee.
Honestly, I think what's beautiful is the strength these people have to share their stories, our lives are defined by many experiences and it is important that we learn from them and grow from them. I also love the male interviewer, he's so engaging
to the first lady to speak in the video ... i'm so sorry
Fearing what other people might think has held me back from pursuing the things I want practically my entire life. I've missed out on several opportunities to grow as a person because my brain would rather not play than risk failure, which ironically, guarantees failure. So, in that way, I keep breaking my own heart.
I haven't open the vídeo yet but I immediately said “my dad”. Then the first woman said her father as well. Sad that the people that should protect us have the power to ruin us.
heartbreak looks like a lot of nothing. so accurate.
“I get high, watch sunsets, and snuggle with my cats”
Yes
My ex boyfriend broke my heart. While we never said we loved each other, I definitely saw a future with him. We talked about a lot of potential situations. I cried many nights, and drank plenty of alcohol. I’m better now. Thank God for therapy, family and friends.
My heart is still broken. But I'm trying, guys.
heartbreak is like someone rips off your heart, stomps it into a thousand pieces and puts it right in
The amount of times my mother told me “I have to love you but I don’t have to like you” is wild. She’s said a lot worse so I never really thought about that phrase. The hurt just kinda all came back for a sec watching that
I expected a lot of their answers to be their parents but then I realized that’s me projecting. It’s so fascinating to see others traumas.
i just got my heart broken and have been crying for days and am finding it really hard not to just lie in bed all day and wallow so this really hit hard for me :( i know it will take time and ill get over it but im just sad rn :(
Yeah my dad. For taking his own life. 7 years this year and it still knocks the wind out of me.
I am sorry
My parents. And nothing else compares. I'm still not healing. My dad now has cancer but I'm just already too emotionally distant after decades of numbing myself.
Stumbled into this video when being 10000km away from home. I dont want to say it but i think my grandmother broke my heart. When I was a kid, I used to be around her a lot and I seem like I love her the most. When I got a bit older I started to learn about all the mental abuse she kinda did for my parents. And now I constantly hear about how she is wrecking this family...... and no one can actually stop her cause we all love her too much not to listen to her and let her do her things and give away all the money lol. Further than that, my grandparents' inequality in treating their children and grandchildren makes me want to cry everytime I think about them. I feel sad and tired and I dont want to say this but I felt so... free when I left home to go aboard. If there is a reason why I wouldnt go back then this is it.
Nope. I don't have the heart right now to listen to this. I'll put it on a playlist and get back to it.
It’s absolutely crazy to me the variety of lives that are being/have been lived out there.
Like at some point, that historical photo was taken, somebody got that scar, at some point somebody decided they would/could no longer love again
What led to that point I’ll never exactly know or be able to fathom, but at the end of the day it still happened
I just realized something when watching this. All my 25 years I have never had my heart broken before until last year when my ex committed suicide. I never would have imagined that, that is how things were going to end.
So sorry to hear that.
Have you ever found out why?
Breaking up because the person is too nice ? That's something I really don't understand... Can someone explain in what situation kindness could be problematic ?
For some it can be too confronting or a 'waste of time'
It's often something a girl will say to avoid telling the real reason they're breaking up and hurting any feelings.
It’s probably that she didn’t love him anymore but said this to not hurt his feelings too much
I can share my experience.
I had a boyfriend before.
He was nice, smart, and hot.
We encountered a really uncomfortable situation with other two stranger men once.
I felt unsafe, disappointed, and embarrassed.
I felt like I needed to defend him, instead of him defending both of us.
From that moment on, I wasn't attracted to him anymore.
If anything I need in a man it is to feel safe from him and protected by him from others.
I want someone who's nice to me but is capable of being dangerous and intimidating when needed, instead of acting like a bi*ch.
So, yeah, a negative meaning of a 'nice guy' is a *harmless guy* who's not stepping up for himself and others, is letting other people walk over him, thinking that you can solve everything with a smile and a talk.
Wrong!
Better learn some fighting skills.
That's why I'd rather have a rough looking military guy over men from any other occupation.
I am wholeheartedly very sorry for the first woman
"Too nice" guy seems wonderful!
The girl I got right now. Has my whole heart in her hands. Never been so vulnerable.
Awe that’s sweet
I hope you guys have a happy and healthy relationship ❤
Why would you do that???? NEVER GIVE YOUR HEART TO A WOMAN
I admire your braveness, truly wish I’d dare to be vulnerable
@@redsthetics1297 cringe, women are not some enemy of men. Grow up, touch grass
Thank you to everyone sharing these stories, they have reminded me that heartbreak is a universal experience. Although painful, none of us are alone in it.
My biggest heartbreaks were: my abusive parents (ofc, goes without saying) but also my friendship breakup with my best friend and, honestly, losing my dog totally shattered my heart too. (I was a little surprised that we didn't hear more about friendship breakups - mine hurt way more than any romantic relationship I've had with a boy!)
We all carry our own issues. May we all heal with time ❤
"I stayed for too long..." that one....
Them: “Who broke ur heart”
Me: “EVERYONE”
Dad, as a kid I was bullied a lot and was very passive regarding confrontations. At one point I confided in Dad that I was bullied, and as a kid, I needed that protection, or assurance, that it was going to be fine and he would do something about it. He didn't, instead, he asked me "What did you do then?". With that sentence alone I realized I couldn't go to him for help.
Gahhh the dad ones hit me
It’s insane when one goes through heart break we tend to think we are the only ones going through it but this just shows everyone is going thru something. Be nice to people
for me literally everyone i knew in my life, now i'm 30 and i'm still getting heart broken :) you will get used to it sometimes
I sat down to think about this and realized I can't really say any singular person broke my heart. I lost a lot of hope and faith in the world and humans in general from a young age. I also realized many relationships don't last, aren't profound, aren't genuine, and are just the result of people being in the same place and situation, those ties sever as soon as the people are in different places, as if nothing ever happened. So I decided that the very few times I would have close relationships with anyone, I would never trust them 100%, never give those too much value in my mind and in my heart so that when there would be betrayal or any kind of horrible thing that happened, I wouldn't be too affected by it. It's proved useful until now. Therefore the only thing I can say really broke my heart is not an action or words uttered by a person, but the death of my dog 5 years ago.
don’t take life too seriously go out and meet people get your heart broken a couple times and break a couple hearts along the way enjoy the human experience and emotions
@@ivy8483 You are out of your mind. You are so messed up. You need therapy. This life is serious, because the next Eternal one is awaiting us all but not of the same quality - it's earned by our deeds now.
I'd probably break down crying if someone asked me this question in person
The person at 7:28 should do voice acting/read audiobooks. Such a fantastic, soothing, and comforting voice.
I said the exact same thing
Hell no
Sad
“Heartbreak feels like defeat”… Yeah that’s the one!