Why Your Friends Stopped Talking To You
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- Опубликовано: 11 ноя 2020
- Why your friends stopped talking to you, was it something you did ? Is it your fault ? My opinion.
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The worst part is when the person who gave u the best memories becomes a memory
It sucks.
This quote is literally my lock screen wallpaper ;-;
Forget them and those false memories. They are your enemy. Take control of the life you are given and be above the pitiful worthless thing your enemy is. Hopefully, you get a real friend. Don’t ever speak to them again even if they are literally in a life threading position.
I'm that person. I will block and move on from negative people.
@@Hello-nl1km Having mental health issues automatically makes you a negative person?
I stopped because I was fed up of always being the one putting in consistent effort to keep the friendship alive.
Same here, gaming addicted ass niggas
real
Same fuck thrm
I have experienced this a few times and honestly I took it personally. I kinda have gotten to the point where I feel like it's best to keep to myself. I am done with the mental gymnastics if trying to figure out what I did wrong. I have learned to let my conscience set me free.
Yeah sometimes the only thing you can do it just let it go and move on
Good message: it’s them not you.. always good advice
Thanks man. Usually it's not even your fault !
@LogosInAction facts and people are usually ranting I had the same situation same dude I grew up with knew him since 4 tears old whwn he came to America than we had on and off beef because of his b..... yeah anyways he let a girl get I'm between our long friendship not to mention she was racist along with her parents
Mental peace, guys. That's what they're offering you. Take it or keep suffering. I always move on as fast as I can. Never get too attached. Never reveal your weakness
When somebody stops talking to me I have learned to give them there space. When I go out for walks I leave my phone at home. When I'm downstairs leave my phone in my room or do something constructive. People come people go. When somebody leaves your life a new person comes along. Nick you're right confronting them makes it worse. Right now I am hurt and sad but I know I will get through this.
Yeah u r right 🥺 I'm going thru this and decided not to get close to anybody
I’m going through this and countless people told me to give space, which is what I did today. I *try* talking to them everyday but it’s not working, so I stopped and it felt weird, but good? Idk but I’m not sure if I’ll be their friend still by the end of 2023
Agreed ❤
I get that people need space but how does this explain that most of my friends seem to just never contact me. They’re all busy doing things but I’m not part of it suddenly. I’m not going to be the one always chasing for interaction
I think the reason some “friends” stop speaking to you via text or calls is (1) they feel that they have out grown the friendship, and doesn’t have the gall to tell you! (2) they just don’t want too!
Yep, I just got cut off and I am confused. But deep down I think God is purging some people out of my life to make room for better ones.
My family cut me off too, and my friends caught me off
I lost many friends because of this. They just stopped talking to me so suddenly. Maybe they just got bored of me, I dislike it, It hurts me because I always think something is fucked up inside of me that repulses them
I feel the same way
I have had this happen to me so many times. And honestly I learned that most people are super fake. When I moved away I learned who my real friends were. I always helped people with rides and money but I was always forgotten about when I needed help. But great video man I appreciate the talk.
Me to bro
Same
I feel the same way
Same! We feel it’s the only way to get people to like us. But we gotta believe now that we’d rather be respected than liked. Liked just boosts our ego. But being respected & somewhat feared is better. It’s more beneficial for us as the kind and generous givers
Don't make excuses for those people jealousy is the foundation leave them alone and close the door for them and keep it closed its a spiritual journey
My friend just stopped talking to me. She talks to all her other friends and behaves normally with them, but with me she isnt the same anymore.
Might be time to make some new friends at this point
I believe everybody is thinking about a certain person while watching this video😂
Btw is that the reason why I found your channel
They definitely are ! haha...it's very common I see from all the comments !
Glad to have you on board with my channel ! Thanks :)
couldnt agree more wit the "you progressing, and doing well, and the unfollow thing" real shame.
Yea man ! it can definitely hurt but it's a good sign you're changing and making progress !
A friend going through personal issues is perfectly understandable, as we all do from time to time. However, it would help a lot to clear up misunderstandings if more people took the time to let their friends (at least the ones they're closest to) know about it. Like at the very least say "hey man, I'm really sorry but I'm just going through some personal stuff at the moment, but I haven't forgotten about you or anything...."
Just that would go a long way towards helping preserve friendships by clearing up any misunderstandings and making sure the people you're close to know that it has nothing to do with them, or anything they did or said ect. I definitely have a tendency to overthink things and if/when a close friends suddenly stops contacting me, my mind starts racing and I start to think "Oh shit, they're mad at me! What did I do?! What did I say?!".....
Im thinking to talk to her about the matter. But im scared she would lie. She has gotten new friends where im still stuck thinking about my best friend. It hurts to having loose a friendship which stayed for 5 years. Im so confused
You just sound needy.
No. Communication isnt being needy when its a god damn friend bruh 💀@See-if_I_care
@@bazinga4148 Pestering someone yes, it is needy.
Leave it and give it time BUT be there for them! Birthdays, holidays, do they feel down? Do that. Don't give up the person but keep making more friends. That's my advice and that's the best way to handle it. And do not be confrontational. Just be there for them.
Yep, I had a friend that checked on me all the time but as soon as I got married and adopted three girls as well as giving birth to my son she stopped talking to me. It bothered me at first but it just makes me realize that it’s better to have no friends at all then to be surrounded by a million fake ones.
No one cares about your children, thats why they are YOUR CHILDREN!!! So you can care about them and we dont have to bother.
Doesnt sound like you did the same in return she knew you where doing good and had people that could check on you but did you call her and do the same to make sure was ok like she did you? Sounds like your mad cause shes not checking on you when you dont do it to her sounds kinda "fake"if you ask me
@madfun510 facts!! I noticed the same thing the same ones who rant and complain they nerd to look in the mirror cuz they doing the same thing
Tbh I try to leave my friends alone if they have kids cause they’re always so busy and sometimes they don’t have time to return msgs. It happens people are busy and don’t want to bother others
Probably was jealous
Half the people I love and care about hate me stopped really talking to me years ago but it officially stopped this year and I can’t stop caring
Another reason: They have a crush on you, and don't want to suffer anymore because you are more important to them than they are to you.
Yes. You never confront them. You’ll just drive that friend even further. I just recently lose a friend. I wanted to know whats going on and at the same time he doesn’t have to owe me an explanation. No one owes you any explanations. You don’t owe them anything. If its meant to be they will come back.
Perhaps they DO owe you an explanation, ever think about that. Pressure them, dont let them get away with disrespecting you like that!
Or else have fun wonder why and why and why for years and the rest of your life potentially
Giving some perspective from the one that stop texting and reaching out to an old friend of mine. The reason why I stop wanting to hang around them is because they got boring. I was the one that put all of the effort into our friendship. I initiated everything on my end while they reaped the benefits. The one thing that pushed me over the edge was went they didn't acknowledge my birthday even when people around us did. One sided friendships suck. Reflecting on everything reminded me why they became friends with in the first place. At the time they were going through a breakup and needed a shoulder. Fudge 'em!
Yup Now I know why my friends stopped talking to me...it's because of my success in my life ...
Thank you so much
Yeah, that was an epiphany for me too. That sucks
It feels so weird not being able to talk to them, when it's become second nature to do so. But you hit the nail on the coffin, I can't blame myself for them not wanting to be friends at the moment. This is something that's a little bit new to me, so I'm still learning. Thank you so much for this video.
I've had a friend do this recently. Strange thing is it happened right after I opened up to her about a recently mental health struggle.
After I took the time to really think about the interactions we had, I realised she only really contacted me when she wanted to rant and offload about her own problems.
I have the same problem with that, Now its only me texting my friend and her NEVER talking to me first. (also with my other friends) I feel like unfriending every single one of them.
I learned to actively pay attention to all the context between my friends and myself convos now to avoid that.
The people I stopped being friends with I realized we never really was friends to begin with.
I was the friend who stop calling when my friend told me she had mental issues.l have a kid l have to protect you.
@@Hello-nl1km What? That literally mad zero sense... 😂
Literally my position right now, first time it has ever happened to me too
I stopped taking to my friends when I noticed if they needed me I was there, but when I need them there is always something stopping them from helping me, so one day I said f it and now I am happy as I am. One of them asked me why I stopped taking to them and why I am no more showing up for there parties and shit, I said "I am busy helping my self coz I know you wont be there when I need you most.
Hard truth, but that's a way to find out who your true friends are..
Same situation 🥺
Your friends were pricks(not your real friends) and you left them for a legitimate reason and told them up front. This type of friendship ending I respect. Especially as they weren’t friends to begin with.
I really need to do this
I remember me and my friend were talking, we’ve been calling, then all of a sudden
They just stopped texting me, I’m getting kinda worried..
It happens! It can be really strange ! But just give it time ! 💪🏻
That’s the same exact thing whats happening to me guess I’m not alone
This happened to me, recently met someone, we were chatting for a bit and then they stopped replying. I tried calling them out on it over text and it’s been a few days so far, and nothing. This video helped a bit. It sucks because you try to just be friendly with people but not everyone appreciates it unfortunately. We’ll see if they ever respond lol
Thanks for the video
Any updates?
ive felt this, all my friends dont even talk to me anymore its sad we used to be best friend and play everyday and i hope this doesnt happen to anyone else anymore anyway i hope the best for all of you
Alot of social media platforms have encouraged this. People become very fickle. There's always been fickle people over the years but most commonly now. If your not on Facebook or social media then they don't want to know. Or if you want to meet up you have to be on Facebook. But that's only a part of this problem.
Some people are genuinely busy. That's fine. But alot now say "They're busy" when really they don't give a fuck. Because your not on their level so that's their problem not yours
Friends come and go... doesnt really matter...
That's life !
Man thanks for sharing this, I forget that I am too honest for most people and people are generally not honest about how they feel or who they are, I forget that just because I have nothing to hide others don't, most of us have insecurity issues, a few of us have already delt with ours and this creates misunderstanding
Very true what you say, I will not deny that I have never been that bad friend with envy for the progress of someone else, and when I realize what I think and feel I try to change it, because I would not like them to be like that with me, and feel all that bad vibe from others, recognize what we are doing each in our lives and support us in the process would be incredible, everyone in life has a moment to shine, at different stages, we must know how to admire that light in others, so that when our time comes, others will admire us ♥️ thanks Nick!
It’s completely normal and nothing to be ashamed of. The most important thing is the awareness of the problem, that’s the first step to overcome it ❤️
This has happened to me more than once and more than one friend group in my life. I appreciate you taking the time to share this video with us. Looking forward to seeing more content produced by you brother. You are a good script writer and filmmaker! =)
Thanks brother ! 💪🏼
I have a hard time making friends. Last year i had a friend and now she doesn’t talk to me anymore. I have been having dreams about hanging out with her again. I have thought about just not talking at all because I feel like I am a terrible person due to how hard it is for me to keep friends. The only thing that makes me think it might have not been my fault is that last year when we were talking she noticed she had not been talking to her other friend in a long time. My mom said she was a fair weather friend or something like that.
Same it’s hard…
The best answer I had to this back in 2004 from a spiritual friend and brother was after a brief pause thinking :” That’s life brother.” 😳
Friends come and go I’m fed up wit it tbh I feel like everybody fake
They can be sometimes.
I used to get along with my friends, we were inseparable. Lately they’ve just been really cold to me. I text them and they either ignore the text for hours or even days. Or they just reply in the coldest, driest way possible. I’m sure something changed because it wasn’t like that before, and I haven’t done anything to harm them in any way, it all just happened. I’ve found out exciting things on their lives through other people, they don’t even tell me about their lives anymore, and they used to do that. We have a group chat of course, and when they’re talking to my other friends they all sound happy, but once I text them individually I get a response of about 5 words. I honestly tried tracing back everything but I just can’t think of anything I did to them for them to feel that way about me. I’m supposed to see them this week and I’ll see how they act around me. I’ll try to update even though I highly doubt someone cares lmaoooo, i can’t promise anything.
People change and grow at different levels...it sucks when you're either higher or low then them. But it's normal for you not to be able to relate in those situations..
That's exactly what is happening to me right now and idk what i finna do tbh
@@kingz_chris6684 I’m so sorry you’re going through that. You know I was watching a show the other day and one of the characters mentioned something that really opened my eyes. “we'll always be friends. it's just never gonna be how it was. it can't be. and that doesn't have to be a sad thing.” It really helped me find peace with myself and stop blaming me for what my “friends” were doing. That’s when I knew it was time for me to move on. Yeah we still talk now and then but it’s not the same yk, but I’ve learned to ignore that feeling of sadness, emptiness and anger with myself. I always like to think changes are for the better, so I’m giving this change in my life a chance to prove to me that there are better things coming my way. I’m no expert on these kind of situations but I hope this helped!
@@user-nv9si9rk9u any updates
@@user-nv9si9rk9u yeah me to thinking the same !!! Changes are for better
Thank you for this Nick, something I'm dealing with atm and finding hard to get to grips with. I hope with time, I can move on and find people who want me around them.
It’s hard to move on sometimes! But things will change and you’ll meet new friends
Hey, thanks for this video. I think you got a lot of things right. One thing you got wrong is that you think your friends cant handle your success. Everyone interacts with someone who is doing better than themselves at one point or another. I think the issue happens when you force your ideas of success unto your friends and start giving people unsolicited advice. Thats what is happening to me and thats why Im ghosting a friend right now. Im extremely happy with my life and every time I speak with this friend he calls me a failure bc he’s making more than me now. It got old very quick. He’s convinced that he’s better than everyone who makes less than him now. So I would say to you that no, people around aren’t jealous of you; they are likely just bored of you. Not everyones hierarchy of value has money or financial success at number 1
Thank you for this video. My friend just stopped hangin out with me a few weeks ago and fully shut me out of their life. So this made me slightly better.
Glad I could help
I had a situation happen to me when I was 18. I had a friend (L) that we were together from the time I was 7 or 8 until I was 18. We were very close. Out of the blue, her sister calls me to tell me that (L) no longer wants to be friends with me. When I asked her sister why, she said I don't really know. A few years later another friend of mine runs into (L) at the doctors office and (L) told her she regretted the way she treated me and my other friend told her it was horrible the way she handled it. The reason she ended our friendship: She knew another group of girls who did not like me and they pressured her to drop me. I wish she would have had the decency to tell me to my face.
Crazy when the truth finally comes out...
The positive vibes u give are amazing ty
Thank you !!
Great video Nick!! I think you make great and valid points.
Keep it up!!
Thanks man !! Glad you found it valuable!
I had this group of friends in high school and we would all always hangout no matter what. After we graduated, they all of a sudden stopped talking to me. The weird thing is that my best friend is still in contact with all of them and she talks to them on regular bases. I always still do check up on them and ask if they’re ok and it’s so dry on their end so I eventually stopped but whenever I hang out with my best friend she always tells me she hung out with them and she went to go do this and that and inside it hurts so much hearing that because I just feel completely left out and I don’t know why they just cut it off with me. I tell my best friend why they don’t talk to me and she just says she doesn’t know why. I use to care so much about why they didn’t want to hangout with me anymore but I soon came to realize it was ok. I’m ok and I’m doing good it would feel nice to have some friends to talk to when I’m not going through some good days but I’m ok. I still will never know why they’re like that with me.
Sometimes you’re just on a different level than they are and you’ve progressed or you’re super different from when they remember you it’s OK and don’t take it personally that you’re in a different stage of life than they are it’s normal just try to live your life and do the best you can.
She knows🙄
I feel that
Seems like your bestie is a instigator
F...your friend I would just make new ones age is not a real friend I she hangs out with them but only hangs with you by yourself 😮
I'm so glad I'm not alone on this. This morning one of my best friends got rid of there facebook and I text them and no response. This video really helped me.
I had a friend that we had only known each other for 4 years but we really connected and had a lot in common and hung out the most with any one else in my friend group. When we started high school we were still talking since we were in the same class but that ended slowly. It went from having a long conversation in class to just doing that head bob to each other. I realized he started making new friends which I had no problem ,but then he started only talking to them. I realized He left the friend group after another friend told me he pushed him away. I started to think it was my fault because I’m a little aggressive at time but he can handle it and he does it back at me but I finally realized what it was. I overheard him telling some of his friends that he stopped talking to his old friend to focus on himself. Everyday I daydream of a scenario where we reconnect and he tells me why he stopped talking to me which I hope its my not my fault because it would hurt me more if it was my fault. I also wish he tells me why he stopped talking to all our other friends. So this is my story and my confession. I’m sorry C. And sorry to anyone else that has a friend who is like me an asshole. I hope I become a better person and my friend will talk to me again.
Same thing happened to me i feel you but we didn't know eachother for 4years
How old are yall?
Thank you for this video I went through this last two months it was very painful for me I though she was a true friend she help a lot through difficult times, but left me behind without any explanation I guess she quite bit immature, but I embrace the fact that she is no longer part of my life I realized that I don't really need her anymore I have to fulfill my dreams by focusing on myself with deeper a connection with my innerself right now I'm really doing good I had my smile back.
Yea it can be very difficult to have somebody that was once so close to you not be a part of your life anymore..but you’re taking the right steps and thinking positive!! Keep it up ! 🙏🏼
@@NickBB I really appreciate your videos it really helps please continue to do more videos this will attract the right people in our life
This happened to me. A friend reached out after almost 2 years of not talking, thanking me for setting him and his wife up. It's ironic as it's like 2 years you were good, then all of a sudden they realised lack or problems in their life. I decided to let this friend go, as this is a red flag and a sign of someone who does not prioritise our friendship.
I experienced this since the new year... perhaps much earlier, I wish I seen your video earlier so I could catch this. I guess I was a bit too late. Thank you for your video, at least one thing is cleared up for me. Subbed
Something like this happened to me . I confronted her and asked about not talking anymore and she said she doesn't want to talk to anyone anymore and feel like living alone . It happens with all of us many times but it's almost been two weeks she's feeling like this . I am just trying to be patient . Let's see what happens ,I am trying my level best to be patient but its really bothering me a lot .
Yeah this whole pandemic was hard for everyone could be directly related to that, I know it’s hard to be patient but just give it some time
@@NickBB thanks for the support brother .
"You have to be very careful when you show off" ajaja lmao I often show off on IG. oh goooddd... i show off a lot. but that's just a genre. and yeah, many ppl don't understand it and unfollow. Oh, god, ppl are so strange. In fact, no person would ever understands another person's motives fully. One may assume he/she grasps his or her friend. In fact, it can be so far from the truth. All these things have been on my mind a lot recently. I've even started writing a script for a short film that's going to show that ppl don't understand each other at all.
Some people will get inspired and some people will get very jealous of your success when you show off
I’m going through this right now with some family members. Something tells me that there was some gossip about me, but I just don’t know for sure. What I do know is that my texts have been ignored and I’m no longer contacted. I know that since the last time I saw them or spoke to them there was no argument or ill will on my part
I must say your channel is quite underrated !!
Thanks for that ! I hope more people see my content and subscribe 👏🏻🤌🏻
I made a friend when I started school and he even texted me first and we started to talk a lot after some time he just distant himself from me and he started to ignore me. I don't know what I did wrong but I really miss our friendship. We are in lockdown now so yesterday I texted him asking him how he was and he just kept saying "yeah" I feel like he doesn't want to talk to me anymore.
Yeah you never know what’s happening in someones life, he could be going through something very intense, just give it some time and see what happens
the thing is people get bored of people. it happens
Most of my past friendships usually end after they dated someone.
This was really comforting 💗
I had this friend for about 2 years we really got along we had the same interest we'd hangout alot we'd talk alot on the phone we got along so good even considered him as a blood brother then he gets a job seems not to like it, a couple of months go by and he deletes me as a friend on my consoles,my phone, discord etc and we'll I've sent him text like saying im sorry, ask how he was feeling, is it your job if you want to talk about it let me know, there's nothing else I could do so I just moved on and it sucks when that person you shared all those fun and awesome memories with just cuts you out so I just decided I'm moving on hopefully I make new friends one day because I am shy but it's all in the past now, thanks for your video 👍
I am going thru this now. I did the the text thing asked what I did wrong but no reply. Your video helped. Thank you, I do feel so much better. Thank you.
Glad it helped!
If you are successful, authentic, and independent, you are going to make people envious of you.
I had this friend who was really one sided and inconsistent and I decided that it’s best to take time away from them cus the situation seems toxic and a waste of energy. I don’t hate the guy and I forgive him but sometimes you have to remove yourself from situations.
Yea sometimes it’s just better to forgive and move on...
Same
I have this friend and we used to talk like 24/7 but now he’s ignoring my texts, I joined him in something and when I joined I said “hi!” Then he just left and ignored me. That was bothering me for a while and today I just kept thinking about it and I had to watch this, this helped me understand what I might be doing wrong and I think I am just bragging to much or something is going on in their life. Thanks
Yup exactly!!! Just give it some time! You never know what that other person is going through in their lives !
This happened to me Haha! We had been friends for about 2 years, even considered him to be a blood brother. He text me one day and said, "Why does everyone seem to like you more when we're out in public?" 🤣
Man...a pure case of jealousy...it happens! But don’t let that stop you from being who you are ! 💪🏻
@@NickBB My mom said the same thing. Thank you for confirming
Make money not friends
@@lillyp7389 so true
So i’ve been trying to find a place for advice today for a while and i finally found someone! Its so nice of you to react to everyone that needs help :) but this is what i need help with.
I have this family member. When we were younger, we used to be really close friends and we would call each other best friends all the time. And so when we had to meet because of family meetings, we would be happy to meet each other. But in the last 1/2 years, we are growing apart for some reason. And so every time we are together at family meetings, it just gets awkward and we dont really know what to talk about.. it makes me think back to who we used to be, and i just still dont know where we went wrong. And we are also not hanging out anymore, because we just don’t know each other that good anymore and it wouldn’t be as fun anymore as first. I wanna reach out to her again and built up our friendship again, but i just dont know where to start! Because i will have to speak up, otherwise family meetings won’t be fun anymore :/ So, (sorry for this long story lol i hope it’s ok) maybe if you have some tips, i would love to hear them. Thanks a lot for reading if you did! :)
Thanks for reaching out ! Yea it can be really unfortunate sometimes when you and your friends start growing apart. It does happen sometimes and I know the feeling… you guys could just be going through different phases at the same time and may just find it hard to relate on a lot of things ! I would definitely give this one some time and see what happens in the future! Hope this helps
@@NickBB thanks a lot! I think this might help. I hope our friendship will be like the old days again once. I think it might happen ;)
I have had ex friends who did those things to me. The sad one is my oldest friend (friends for 44 years) who only calls me to bitch about her life and jobs she hasn’t worked at for 15 years. The conversations are so negative that I can feel my blood pressure going up. It’s so stressful that I went no contact on her. After a week with no contact I feel the tension being sucked out of me. Keep toxic people out of your life!!
That's so crazy that you doing well would make someone jeleous. That usually motivates me and want me to cheer them on of I really rock with them. Like wahhhh???
Some people are just really envious of others, including friends
I thought this only happened to girls. It's comforting to know dudes have this too... My friend just cut me out of the blue. Still confused..
Yup ! It’s happened to me many times ! Give it time with your friend.
Me and my friends just stopped talking to each other for literally no reason
It sucks...I know. It’s hard to move on sometimes but that’s the flow of life !
I wanna talk with my friend about my feelings but, I did already and let me tell you, it helped me. They saw it and thanked me for telling them
That’s great to hear ! 👏🏻
Thank you so much for this !
You’re welcome!
Thank you Nick this video is very inspirational
You're welcome ! Glad it helped !
As a friend I also did this because I need to stay a little bit away from them or in other words I need space. And also sometimes they don't know they made something offending that can make us not talk to them
I've been dealing with this.. My best friend of over 10 years who i've had the best memories, banter and brotherly relationship with just unexpectedly started to fade to the point no communication in 3 months. From messaging almost daily or memes for years to nothing. Our friendship started to end from me turning down a favour that would really inconvenience me. Since then the messaging really slowed down, i seem to be the one talking, making the effort and the replies would be very short.
I actually reached out twice to make sure things are okay and have i done something, but i kept for a good 4 or 5 months trying to keep things as they were. However, I think now it's hit me that I've lost someone that i genuinely cared about and felt like family. It's the memories, or certain times of the year or they appear in a dream you had and that just makes you feel that loss all over again.
I met someone who I thought I was cool with. For whatever reason, every now and then, he would just act up and start throwing shots at me infront of others. Would catch him giving me dirty looks and would make passive aggressive remarks about me not having kids. I would send him texts, and he’d always ignore me. One day I just apologized to him if I ever did anything to him. He said nothing was wrong, but I knew he was lying. We had a short awkward convo where he’d ask me questions he already knew the answers to. But I just went with it. Before I left, I tried giving him a hug goodbye. He did not try to hug me back or get near me. That’s when I knew something was actually up. I don’t plan on texting him. I don’t plan on being social with him. If I’m putting the effort to resolve the issue and he wants to be the way he is, then there’s no point in me acting dumb.
I've this friend who I became really close with over the last year. She's an introvert and I'm totally an extrovert. She shared a lot of her secret things with me. We've met barely two times as a person and she was awkward as hell both the times and I assumed that it was coz of her introvert behavior. She's all chatty on texts but zips up her mouth when we meet in person and it's only me talking. She has said to me a million times how much she needs a best friend (I kinda felt she was pointing towards me) and she's jealous when I'm with my other friends. The thing is that I don't make best friends and she's aware of that. I've a lot of friends I'm close with but committing to one person and being only with them is not my thing. 2 days back, we were just talking about random stuff and I was having a bad day so she became all this control freak forcing me to tell her things about me and how I felt and stuff. I've helped her with suicidal thoughts and made her feel better a million times and she was resilient that I should share stuff with her. I've never been the type to share my personal life or struggling period stories with anyone, I've got trust issues. And she made an issue out of it and said that I could never trust her. I don't know what to do, we haven't talked since then and she's been ignoring me as well when I'm with my friends. She's a sweetheart but she got this cutting herself down issues when she looses a friend or smth. I've been initiating convos with her everytime since past few days and I don't think I could do that again lowering my self - esteem. Please guide me with this situation.
Thanks for sharing your life with me. I think giving things some time is always the best short term answer. But if it comes down to her doing physical harm to herself you need to contact the authorities or a doctor or someone that can help in a deeper way. Hope this helps.
@@NickBB thankyou so much, it means a lot that you replied🤍
No problem ! Glad to help
I’ve watched a number of videos like this, and yours is the only one to resonate with me. My friend in question is my closest friend, and I’ve known her for almost ten years. We’ve traveled the world together, twice. Recently, I’m not sure why, but she hasn’t talked to me in a month. We did not have any arguments, disagreements, or any negative interactions of any kind. She does not live in the states, so the only way for me to contact her is through Instagram or Facebook. She’ll like other people’s posts and stuff, but she won’t reply to any of my messages or comments on her posts, so it’s likely not a time issue. I really don’t know what to think man. The only thing that I can think of is that maybe she met a new boyfriend or something, and doesn’t have as much time for me. I wish she would just say something though, instead of seemingly ignoring me. The only thing I can do is give it more time. What are your thoughts?
Glad you came across my video and resonated with it so well ! Hmm, well it seems this whole thing has nothing to do with you at all. She could be going through something with her family and she could have that new BF. I would definitely recommend giving it another month or two and see if she reaches out. YOu never know what's actually going on in others lives....
@@NickBB thx dude 🙌😀👍…… in the past she has certainly taken her time other boyfriends, but this time it seems like forever lol. I hope she responds soon. 😌
@@NickBB she still hasn’t reached out, in fact I think she has shadow banned me on Instagram. I really don’t know what to think. I didn’t do anything to deserve this treatment from her.
That sucks, but it could have had nothing to do with you !
No excuses for these people- they have a personality flaw, that was always there. Good people don’t do this, to their friends.
Thank you this video helped me out a lot
It took me years to realize that so many that I surrounded myself with and called friends were at best Frienemies; but mostly enemies.
I felt like when good things were happening for them that I was their greatest cheerleader, but I started to see a pattern materialize- that they were secretly jealous and actually were doing all they could to make sure I failed. Mutual friends finally exposed what was going on and it encouraged me to cut the bad people and negative elements out of my life permanently! ❤️👍🏼
It’s new year day and officially the last attempt I made to reach out to a few friends with happy new year texts. One of them I noticed I was the one reaching out for the past 2 years with texts from him saying busy or catch up soon. Definitely gotta let these ppl go even though we were close friends in college, guess some ppl don’t find use in other ppl anymore 😕🤷🏻♀️
its not our fault if they are not doing well I dont have to suppress myself to make them feel better. I dont care if they go away I have done nothing wrong and I dont wanna degrade myself I dont want to be careful all the time walking on eggshells all the time I dont want to be needy. Thats just life people come and go.
100% truth !! 💪🏻💪🏻🔥
@@NickBB thanks. We should not let others hold us back just because they are jealous. They are adults they could always make conscious decisions to make their lives better. Stop holding yourself back from your true potential and doing what you love just because of these people
Exactly!!!
Same dude I feel the same way cause like they just stopped for no reason when I didn’t even do anything, it’s so dumb smh
I'm f-ing sick of waiting months and months for her to come back, it just feels like she won't ever come back and i bet she already replaced me with other people.
I miss my buddy, as soon as i told him im getting married he disappeared from my life quick and the funny thing about it, i tried to reach out and i got no response and 10 years later i went to his home to say hi and he completely blew me off, make a long story short he ended up getting married himself plus he has kids but his attitude was very cold 🥶 towards me like i did him wrong, smh
This is so sad. And tonight I went to my “friends” house for the Super Bowl and it was a little crowded but he didn’t even say hi or talk to me the whole night. I guess I gotta let him go? He is just slowly fading away from my life, and with the end of our friendship come the end of a era in my life… it’s time to let the past go and move on…☹️
Omg this is what I'm going through right now. I don't know what's happening and I'm trying to go through everything text, thoughts. I just don't understand. Literally everything you said is wild
Me rn, but it’s only me and one other person, everyone else they still talk to😔
Someone I care about did that to me, it hurts to see her doing this to me but I try by all means to keep it cool. However it's hard cause I see her everyday. It's tiring and it hurts.
I live in Ottawa Ontario Canada and here it’s very common thing , especially when u see a friend in public . I guess it’s a thing with my generation but my mom and dad Tells me it’s a cross generational cultural thing cause when they came to Canada they experienced a similar thing . Sometimes it’s best to move on and meet new people get into new experiences
Yeah I have a friend that’s married with kids and seems like she sometimes comes around and says hello via text . Then when I text her I never get a respond . I’m going to stop reaching out and just live my life .
It's not that she stopped talking to me, we just argued, offended each other and both wanted to stop talking to each other at all. But I know that she misses me, and I miss her too
When then you have you’re answer. Just give things some time.
ngl that shit hurts when it happens it makes where i just dont talk to nobody at school or at at all for like months
I recently stopped contacting a friend because conversations were all about her. I rarely got a word in hour long "conversations". When I had problems, I got a couple minutes, then it reverted back to her. I heard her life stories numerous times. One of the last calls, she rambled on about her past, then stated, "I know you probably don't care about this stuff, but I think it's funny." She started raising her voice when voicing her opinions. I finally stopped contact because as a working person my time is valuable, and as a non-working person, she wouldn't respect the value of my time.
She sounds like my last supervisor I had to work with couldn’t stand her everything was always about her god forbid anyone talks about themselves you’re better without those energy drainers in ur life I’m happy I changed jobs
@@Bunny11344 It is draining. She still calls me, and I choose when I answer. I never contact her anymore.
This is currently happening to me. I do a sport with her and that day I was texting her all day. But when I got to the sport she ignored me. I don’t know what I did wrong. It really hurt me. But now it’s the next day and I’m trying my best not to think about it. I texted her earlier showing her something funny I did. She hasn’t texted me back yet. But I’m hopeful. I guess that’s all I can do.
I've given my friend all his space and his time. I've always been there for him just as he was for me. I helped with his breakup with abusive fiance and we hung out sometime when we got the chance too hang out. We airways had deep conversation about things serious or nor serious. But he doenst reply anymore. I've tried taking his advice on things but he ends up ignoring me. Btw I have aspergers so uts hard to make friends. He's literally the only true friend I have. I'm no ms popular but I don't understand what to do.
Imagine that the person who was your good friend for over a decade and a half suddenly stops talking to you after you show him a gaming community for one game. Suddenly after a year of silence you see him as a viewer in your twitch stream for couple hours and he says nothing, just lurks.
People are definitely strange and unusual, I’ve learned to just let things be, and let people do them, and not take a large offence to it
Why would he do that over a game
Ha I had a friend since 6th grade and then in high school half way through the year we stopped talking i don’t even know why 😔
It sucks I know !
bro same thing! the problem for me was that alot of my other close friends went to different schools and some i had forgotten to get there contacts while the ones i did go to kind of just ignored me ;/ i message them alot but they don't respond
I don’t fully agree here. I did that with a friend because he was disrespectful and wasting my time while we had an appointment. He just didn’t show up on time. Eventually I thought we talked that out but he still holds a crutch about the fact that i just didn’t contact him for a year. Now again but i told him why this time. The problem is that when you tel them their flauws they don’t acknowledge what they did but put the blame on you instead… I don’t believe it’s a healthy friendship if they first exclude you from fun activities so yeah . I drop people because of how they treat me. By the way if you’re friend is not happy for your succes I mean… what a good friend you got !
Yess my brother! I need that message
Glad you got some value from it !
If your friends stopped talking to you it is not your problem it is them problem.
People i grew up with friends neighbours we were so good but after i went out of the state for work and i rarely come home and even when I come home they don't speak to me even though they know I'm home and I've been thinking is this something I've done or idk so i stopped talking to them.
my best friend of 7 years has started to shut me out recently, Im not sure what i did to her for her to act so cold towards me, every time i message her she leaves me on seen and she makes time for other people, everybody except me. Its really hurting me and i dont know what to do, we do go to school together but thats the only time we have genuine interaction, ive always been really careful about what i say to her because i know shes really sensitive but she still doesnt want to talk to me
Yea I know it hurts, I would definitely give it some time and distance
@@NickBB thank you!
I hate saying or dropping hint to hang out & they say ok but nothing materializes these were people I wanted in my life but it's obvious they don't want me in theirs.