The way you’ve talked about and protected your girls throughout all of this has been so admirable. You are an amazing mom they are so lucky to have you!
This aspyn is so refreshing- i stopped watching vlogs a while back because it seems inauthentic at moments- (of course now it makes sense) but i literally adore hearing your story thoughts and your graceful way of overcoming all of this 💓
I really admire your commitment to your daughters and how you talk about their individuality even at just 8 months old. You’re a good mom (I’m sure you know that but incase you needed a reminder)
I’ve been watching you for over a decade and just wanted to say, I’m so impressed with how beautifully and maturely you’re handling this whole situation. I can’t imagine going through what you’re going through with millions of people judging your every move. I’m sure your girls will be so proud of how you handled all this once they’re old enough to watch these vids and understand them. It’s honestly refreshing to see a RUclipsr I’ve followed since I was a teen grow and mature in a healthy way! Best of luck to you and your fam this holiday season 🤍
Thank you for being so respectful of your daughters’ experiences and feelings. Especially with the last question… my father told me that he did not love my mother despite them being married when they decided to have a baby. It really made me feel like I was a mistake and that I was created out of obligation instead of love. I have healed and moved past that, but it really did affect me for a long time. I wish my dad cared about me the way you care about your girls. Good on you for being a good role model and protector for them!
My mom & dad got divorced whenever I was 6 or 7. Whenever I got in my 20's my mom gave me her engagement ring from my dad. I love having it, but I was always the biggest daddy's girl and he passed away whenever I was 17. So I would definitely hold on to it for your girls just in case.
Similarly, my parents separated when I was an adult and I don’t have a relationship with my father anymore, but my mom gave me her wedding band and I love wearing and having it, being able to remember the happy memories of my family when things were good. I think holding onto it to give to her girls when they’re older is a really special idea.
Started the divorce process last month, finally after being a married single mum to my twins basically since they were born 🙃 can’t wait to be out of this house and finally have the space to breathe and heal
3:22 it absolutely was not always a choice to get divorced. “No fault divorce” which means you want a divorce for personal reasons not bc of cheating or something wasn’t legal until 1969 (in California). Women couldn’t even petition a divorce AT ALL until 1937. (All of this is for USA)
I’m the financially stuck woman you’re referring too and I’ll tell you, you’re lucky af to be able to leave on your own terms. I’d be such a better mom if I could leave this devil
But you still can. There are resources. I understand it takes time, but I just want to validate you can leave without money. I was able to leave as a mother who hadn't worked for a year. You can do this ❤❤❤
Hold your head up mama ! You got this ! Don’t beat yourself up! Your baby sees you as their everyday superhero ! Never forget that ! Hope everything gets better for you 💜
This popped up in my recommended.. I haven’t seen y’all in YEARS. So this was certainly a shock. I pray for peace and happiness for everyone. And I hope y’all can have a good coparenting relationship for the kids 💖 and I pray they adapt to the change well. I also admire how deeply you’re protecting them during this. Sending all the love
She still has the same agency to talk about and portray and curate her life as she's always had. She will continue to do whatever reconciliation of whatever gets her clicks without making her feel too icky about herself. So, y'all will continue to get divorce content and she's already planning her dating life content, she's actually going to get bigger because of the divorce - for better or worse.
If you’re in a financial position where you can’t afford an attorney, research legal aid clinics in your state! I helped many people file for divorce as a law student.
when you said you don't have a relationship with your ex-inlaw anymore, i immediately knew that they would choose to defend their son. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It must be really hard.
I feel it too and totally understand what she is going through. That so painful that they decided to defend a son, because in my case he was in 10000% wrong
I’m in a boat where I told my mother-in-law all the reasons I want to leave and was gaslit into thinking it’s all my fault. I know that isn’t the case but it just shows that the mama will always defend her boy unfortunately, no matter how wrong he is.
My mom kept her engagement ring and gave it to my partner who customized it. I am so proud to be able to wear a symbol of mine and my partners relationship and a symbol of the work my parents put in to co parenting so that I could be proud to wear it. The kids were always first and they still had love for each other as parents and friends. I’m so proud to represent their love of us by wearing her ring🤍
Just in case Aspyn reads this I just wanted to share a different perspective. Ik that a lot of parents feel guilty about getting a divorce or feel pressured to stay in relationships bc they are afraid it will impact the kids. PERSONALLY when my parents divorced (and they definitely do not like each other haha) I did not think it was the worst feeling. It was annoying/ uncomfortable, and sometimes a little sad, but definitely not the worst feeling I've experienced. Even as a child I understood that it was better for my parents to be apart. Ik that's not everyone's experience, but I hope it shows that its not always the case that children are super negatively impacted by their parent's divorce (even if they don't get along).
I'm also 28, and I used to be scared that my life would be over by 30. That I should be married and having kids by then and have my life wrapped up, but I realized that life is only beginning. If I'm healthy and lucky, I still have about 60 years to live. Seeing you recover after divorce helps a lot in this process because it shows me that I'm right to think that and that life can be heard, but there's a lot to enjoy still. And I say that coming from a totally different life experience than yours, but I think in general we're all here to be as happy as possible and have a good life.
In Wisconsin you can get divorced basically for free. It takes alot of work. And you can do all your own paperwork. My side hustle is helping people rep themselves. I'm NOT an attorney but I can help people and I do it for extremely cheap. Most of the time it's women with special needs children.
I filed for divorce in Utah after years of abuse. we had one child together. Because I was a stay at home mom/part time CNA, I was able to get a financial waiver and they covered all of the divorce costs. For anyone who may be in the same position see if that’s an option. However, I also did not get a lawyer I did it straight through the court. So that may be an option in other states as well. I’m so sorry for this happening. But it sounds like it was the best thing for you to do. Since my divorce I found an amazing man. We’ve been together 12 years, we have 4 children together, we had 2 boys (together) and a little girl, who we lost at 6 days old to SIDS in 2020, then we had our rainbow baby, another boy, in September of 2022. Also his son from another relationship and my son from that horrible marriage. So we lost our only little girl.. all of this to say, we have been through hell and back more times than one, and we are still going strong. As strong as we can. You’ll find that one, you’re still so young and I appreciate the way you are about your daughter’s privacy and what you say.
my parents divorced and my mom kept her ring and gave it to me - I do kind of feel like the ring has bad energy for *me* so I’m going to sell it and do a nice kitchen renovation. From all the pain and stride that came with that time - it is really nice that I get that now as an adult. Keep the ring and give it to the girls when they’re older so they can decide what they want to do with it - it’s very cathartic and healing in my experience❤
the part to get never married again because you ll be trapped and tied down is so relatable l, i am going through the process of divorce it's so draining and annoying !!!just want to feel normal again 😔
hi aspyn!! Just wanted to let you know if you’re on SSRIs like Zoloft that you’re not supposed to take things with ashwaganda or l-theanine. I only know bc I’ve been taking it awhile and learned what I’m not supposed to mix & wanted to tell in case you didn’t realize!💕
I got married young. It didn't last long. Everyone always asks if I will again and my answer is always "facebook doesn't even need to know my relationship status. The government damn sure doesn't." My current relationship, we have kids, the one I can see spending the rest of my life with, we both went into it knowing neither ever wanted to actually marry again and it works for us. I did just tell him though I want a ring minus the wedding.🤣
I’ve never been married but have been with my bf for 11 years. I don’t want a legal marriage but I want a ring! Also some type of party with our friends and family celebrating us. Maybe a 15 year anniversary party?
Thank you for sharing about your divorce! This has helped me soooo much! I am 25 getting divorced due to us opening our marriage and me realizing so much. This is from the man I’ve been with since I was 15 we have a 5 year old. So it’s nice hearing someone els is also restarting in there 20s with kids
I have been a viewer for probably a decade now and I just have to say you are handling this with such grace. Especially when it comes to your girls, I love your decisions to keep their experience private. So proud to be a supporter of yours
I think we have similar personalities and I’ve also gone through a lot - sometimes I feel insecure that I’m not “soft” but I view your toughness as such a positive quality, especially in the way you protect your daughters. It’s just nice to see a woman being unapologetic and helps me appreciate my own toughness a little more while also trying to find a balance ❤
Wow. I appreciate your honesty, your transparency, and your willingness to share your life with us. I was watching you when I was married, when I was going through pregnancy, and now as a divorced mama still watching and rooting you on. Our stories, our journeys, are all different but we are all in this together. We are rooting for you, girl, and I love that you are continuing to protect those babies. Stay strong. We love you.
My divorce was “easy” since we didn’t own property together nor have/had children together. I processed everything on my own, took multiple trip to city hall . I’m located in CA and it cost me about $500 to have it done. The cost for it definitely depends on what state you’re locating, if you have property together, own vehicles together and have kids. It can easily add up
I have an 8 month old baby boy. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to go through a divorce and have your entire life turn upside down at that time. I appreciate your honesty with what you’re comfortable with sharing and also appreciate so much you protecting your children’s privacy through this vulnerability in all of your lives!!
When my mom and dad divorced my mom kept her wedding ring and for my high school graduation she had the diamonds from it reset into a new personally designed for me ring. I still wear it everyday :)
Before my divorce we had the same fight every week. Almost every Sunday. Like you said. It's hell. Nothings right but it's not always all bad too. Very tough and you want to be okay for the kids sake etc.
The way you talk about your daughters is just so beautiful and admiring. 10:07 and 15:57 are two moments specifically. You can just tell by your words and tone how much you love your girls and how nothing else in the world matters other than their happiness. It is so inspiring to see 🩷 Also just the way you stand up for not only them, but yourself.
I never understood people who were marrying in their early 20s. Ain't that interesting, everybody who married really young are all getting divorces in their 30s 😅
The way you have been handling this is incredible. Your girls are so lucky to have you, coming from a child of parents who put their divorce battle above their kids. You are very admirable & a great influence to other moms who may be going through something similar. Thank you for being so open & sharing even though I’m sure it’s incredibly difficult. Wishing you all the happiness & love through this hard time ❤
After my divorce I swore I’d never get married again. And I held on to that feeling for many years. However, I am currently happily married to a man who also swore he’d never get married again. When it’s the right person, it’s not scary at all.
I had a similar experience to Aspen's. Although I didn't have children with my spouse, I was in a long-term relationship with my first boyfriend, who later became my first fiancé. I felt like I was the one putting in all the effort, but fortunately, my parents helped me see him for who he was. It's taken me over five years to move on, and I agree with Aspen that the end of a relationship isn't the end. Being single and rediscovering yourself is incredibly liberating.
Thank you for bringing up the topic of how some women are stuck for a while. It took me 5 out of the 8 years I was with my ex to finally be able to escape. I’m 1 year being happily free from my old life . And I’m so proud of u and anyone else who’s able to get away and out of their situations. and I’m proud of those who are still having to power through it and I hope and pray you’re able to find your escape
Please do part 2. I love listening to RUclips, too! I remember watching your past videos where you looked like you just went on with what you had to do with life and hid your feelings, just like me when I was so exhausted from work but still got tons of things to do that I couldn't let emotions in too much to bother me more.
My parents haven’t been together since I was 7 and I own a ring my dad gave mom and despite their relationship being so toxic I loved having a little souvenir of the happy times and a little bit of both of them!
Thank you for sharing everything with such honesty and detail. I’m so proud of you for handling the situation with respect and thoughtfulness toward everyone involved. Divorce is never easy, but your grace through it all is truly inspiring.
So spot on, you know it’s time when after trying so many times and doing everything in your part to repair the relationship and seeing that they don’t care to fix the relationship, it’s time to go. ❤
i love the answer to your last question. So thoughtful of your daughter and her thoughts if she were to find this video later in life. Above all, we protect children. Good job mama!
Hi everyone!! Just wanted to share my experience in case it helps others! I was 25 when I got a divorce. I have 2 kids and we did everything on our own without getting lawyers involved in order to save money! I’m sure every state is different but I was able to file the divorce myself through the court system and it was about $250 I think for me to do that! We did a separation agreement to document child support and schedules with custody and we take that to be notarized every year to update it. Although it is extremely challenging, we have a great co parenting relationship for our kids sake! I understand this is not the case for everyone but wanted to share!
You are so incredible aspyn! I am deeply sorry you had to go through something so difficult. The way you have protected your girls and only shared your personal experience is so touching and truly a testament to what an incredible human and mom you are! Your life is just beginning and I’m so exited to see what the future has in store for you! I truly deeply the deeper you have hurt the deeper you will experience love❤❤
You are correct…there was a time in our Country’s not too distant past that women barely had any choice, especially around divorce. I grew up in the 70/80’s & it was shameful & frowned upon in our town if any woman instigated divorce. In fact, I have family who would not leave their abusive spouse b/c their church told them divorce is sinful & she didn’t have any financial stability. Thank you for acknowledging this!! Some people still unfortunately perpetuate those closed minded beliefs & stereotypes so it is important to remember our history. Best of luck to you & your girls!!
I gave my wedding ring to my daughter and she treasures it. It never comes off her finger, so it might be equally sentimental to one of your daughters when they are older.
So proud of you babe, been following you forever and yo eee you really come into yourself and not have to hold back for someone else, and to see you and your kids happy is so special. You deserve it.
I know you’ve said your relationship was rocky for a while but was Parker ‘blind sided’ when you brought up divorce? I feel like men are clueless when women check out and they think it’s fine 🙄
My cousins fiancé comes from divorced parents and she just got her engagement Ring diamonds turned into earrings for her for Christmas. And I think that's really thought full like doing necklaces for each girl
I love you so much Aspyn and am sending you and your girls all the love in the world. You truly deserve it! Thank you for being so candid in this video!
Thanks for your comments at the end about baby #3. You’re 100% right and people are delusional to forget these little girls are humans with fragile emotions.
I think one day you might view marriage differently with time, healing and the right partner. My dad is a lot like you, when he divorced my mom he swore he would never get married again but now 4 years later he would consider it again if he might the right woman (he is also 60 so age plays a role in that) in general you do you but don’t be fearful if you find yourself in a situation where you want to do that again
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I LOVE that you acknowledged being out of touch with the financial reality of others. That's respectful and validating.
The way you’ve talked about and protected your girls throughout all of this has been so admirable. You are an amazing mom they are so lucky to have you!
This aspyn is so refreshing- i stopped watching vlogs a while back because it seems inauthentic at moments- (of course now it makes sense) but i literally adore hearing your story thoughts and your graceful way of overcoming all of this 💓
I really admire your commitment to your daughters and how you talk about their individuality even at just 8 months old. You’re a good mom (I’m sure you know that but incase you needed a reminder)
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I’ve been watching you for over a decade and just wanted to say, I’m so impressed with how beautifully and maturely you’re handling this whole situation. I can’t imagine going through what you’re going through with millions of people judging your every move. I’m sure your girls will be so proud of how you handled all this once they’re old enough to watch these vids and understand them. It’s honestly refreshing to see a RUclipsr I’ve followed since I was a teen grow and mature in a healthy way! Best of luck to you and your fam this holiday season 🤍
Thank you for being so respectful of your daughters’ experiences and feelings. Especially with the last question… my father told me that he did not love my mother despite them being married when they decided to have a baby. It really made me feel like I was a mistake and that I was created out of obligation instead of love. I have healed and moved past that, but it really did affect me for a long time. I wish my dad cared about me the way you care about your girls. Good on you for being a good role model and protector for them!
My mom & dad got divorced whenever I was 6 or 7. Whenever I got in my 20's my mom gave me her engagement ring from my dad. I love having it, but I was always the biggest daddy's girl and he passed away whenever I was 17. So I would definitely hold on to it for your girls just in case.
YESSS
Similarly, my parents separated when I was an adult and I don’t have a relationship with my father anymore, but my mom gave me her wedding band and I love wearing and having it, being able to remember the happy memories of my family when things were good. I think holding onto it to give to her girls when they’re older is a really special idea.
“did you ever try talking to your spouse” made me crack up laughing
Huge respect for how you’re handling keeping information private that could potentially affect your girls. You are an amazing mom.
Started the divorce process last month, finally after being a married single mum to my twins basically since they were born 🙃 can’t wait to be out of this house and finally have the space to breathe and heal
3:22 it absolutely was not always a choice to get divorced. “No fault divorce” which means you want a divorce for personal reasons not bc of cheating or something wasn’t legal until 1969 (in California). Women couldn’t even petition a divorce AT ALL until 1937. (All of this is for USA)
I’m the financially stuck woman you’re referring too and I’ll tell you, you’re lucky af to be able to leave on your own terms. I’d be such a better mom if I could leave this devil
This is so sad, I’m sorry 😢
But you still can. There are resources. I understand it takes time, but I just want to validate you can leave without money. I was able to leave as a mother who hadn't worked for a year. You can do this ❤❤❤
Hold your head up mama ! You got this ! Don’t beat yourself up! Your baby sees you as their everyday superhero ! Never forget that ! Hope everything gets better for you 💜
Yup i couldn’t get divorced for a decade because of finances he had all the money i had zero as a stay at home mom. I had nowhere to go
There was another comment about researching legal aid clinics. Hope this can help you xx
“Just hypothetically” has me dead ☠️ as a lawyer I know you’re lawyer is telling you to always phrase things as hypos
so u can legally say thing if u say hypothetically?
This popped up in my recommended.. I haven’t seen y’all in YEARS. So this was certainly a shock. I pray for peace and happiness for everyone. And I hope y’all can have a good coparenting relationship for the kids 💖 and I pray they adapt to the change well. I also admire how deeply you’re protecting them during this.
Sending all the love
“Now it’s my whole personality” lmao like the internet gave you a choice
She still has the same agency to talk about and portray and curate her life as she's always had.
She will continue to do whatever reconciliation of whatever gets her clicks without making her feel too icky about herself.
So, y'all will continue to get divorce content and she's already planning her dating life content, she's actually going to get bigger because of the divorce - for better or worse.
WHAT DID HE DOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
(I respect your privacy I’m just a nosy b)
maybe it's what he didn't do!
Aspyn you killed this video! Like you spilled and gave us what we wanted but kept your privacy at the same time. Would love to see part 2
If you’re in a financial position where you can’t afford an attorney, research legal aid clinics in your state! I helped many people file for divorce as a law student.
when you said you don't have a relationship with your ex-inlaw anymore, i immediately knew that they would choose to defend their son. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It must be really hard.
I feel it too and totally understand what she is going through. That so painful that they decided to defend a son, because in my case he was in 10000% wrong
I’m in a boat where I told my mother-in-law all the reasons I want to leave and was gaslit into thinking it’s all my fault. I know that isn’t the case but it just shows that the mama will always defend her boy unfortunately, no matter how wrong he is.
They always do. My mil treated me so nicely but stopped speaking to me when we had our separation
What happened to her??
My mom kept her engagement ring and gave it to my partner who customized it. I am so proud to be able to wear a symbol of mine and my partners relationship and a symbol of the work my parents put in to co parenting so that I could be proud to wear it. The kids were always first and they still had love for each other as parents and friends. I’m so proud to represent their love of us by wearing her ring🤍
Having parents that don’t like each other is one of THE WORST feelings and situations one can be in. Even as an adult. I hope your kids will be ok.
first hand experience & I AGREE !
It’s not ideal, but it’s certainly nowhere near THE WORST. It’s a pretty normal part of life. The kids are loved and will be fine.
100%🥺
😢😢
Just in case Aspyn reads this I just wanted to share a different perspective. Ik that a lot of parents feel guilty about getting a divorce or feel pressured to stay in relationships bc they are afraid it will impact the kids. PERSONALLY when my parents divorced (and they definitely do not like each other haha) I did not think it was the worst feeling. It was annoying/ uncomfortable, and sometimes a little sad, but definitely not the worst feeling I've experienced. Even as a child I understood that it was better for my parents to be apart. Ik that's not everyone's experience, but I hope it shows that its not always the case that children are super negatively impacted by their parent's divorce (even if they don't get along).
I'm also 28, and I used to be scared that my life would be over by 30. That I should be married and having kids by then and have my life wrapped up, but I realized that life is only beginning. If I'm healthy and lucky, I still have about 60 years to live. Seeing you recover after divorce helps a lot in this process because it shows me that I'm right to think that and that life can be heard, but there's a lot to enjoy still. And I say that coming from a totally different life experience than yours, but I think in general we're all here to be as happy as possible and have a good life.
The answer to the last question made me respect you even more! You're doing great.
We oooobviouslyyyy want part 2. Hahah but also I just love hearing whatever part of your experience you want to share! 🙌🏽💖
So tasteful with what you choose to share, you’re such a good mom
In Wisconsin you can get divorced basically for free. It takes alot of work. And you can do all your own paperwork. My side hustle is helping people rep themselves. I'm NOT an attorney but I can help people and I do it for extremely cheap. Most of the time it's women with special needs children.
I filed for divorce in Utah after years of abuse. we had one child together. Because I was a stay at home mom/part time CNA, I was able to get a financial waiver and they covered all of the divorce costs. For anyone who may be in the same position see if that’s an option. However, I also did not get a lawyer I did it straight through the court. So that may be an option in other states as well. I’m so sorry for this happening. But it sounds like it was the best thing for you to do.
Since my divorce I found an amazing man. We’ve been together 12 years, we have 4 children together, we had 2 boys (together) and a little girl, who we lost at 6 days old to SIDS in 2020, then we had our rainbow baby, another boy, in September of 2022. Also his son from another relationship and my son from that horrible marriage. So we lost our only little girl.. all of this to say, we have been through hell and back more times than one, and we are still going strong. As strong as we can.
You’ll find that one, you’re still so young and I appreciate the way you are about your daughter’s privacy and what you say.
So very sorry for your loss 🌸 sending love
my parents divorced and my mom kept her ring and gave it to me - I do kind of feel like the ring has bad energy for *me* so I’m going to sell it and do a nice kitchen renovation. From all the pain and stride that came with that time - it is really nice that I get that now as an adult. Keep the ring and give it to the girls when they’re older so they can decide what they want to do with it - it’s very cathartic and healing in my experience❤
The ending got me choked up. Good for you for keeping your daughter’s lives private. You are an incredible mom ❤
DOES ANYBODY KNOW ACTUALLY WHY THEY ARE DIVORCING ? LIKE WHAT DID THE HUSBAND DO
ok irrelevant, but ur hair looks soo good in this video. i just love the color and how u styled it
I'd love to see a Part 2! I love how respectful you are towards Parker and your daughters. You're a great mom Aspyn!
We love a girl who has boundaries! You are doing so great as a person and as a mom through this season in your life!
As a long time viewer- you’re like a different person now and I’m so happy for you
I’m proud on how far you’ve come🩷
You have blossomed after the divorce. I feel like I am seeing you after so long. Welcome back!
I just stopped what I was doing just to watch your videos. Love you!
the part to get never married again because you ll be trapped and tied down is so relatable l, i am going through the process of divorce it's so draining and annoying !!!just want to feel normal again 😔
hi aspyn!! Just wanted to let you know if you’re on SSRIs like Zoloft that you’re not supposed to take things with ashwaganda or l-theanine. I only know bc I’ve been taking it awhile and learned what I’m not supposed to mix & wanted to tell in case you didn’t realize!💕
Oh wow I didn't know this! Ik that comment wasn't for me but I appreciate it all the same❤
Really? I’ve been told the opposite.. whoops..
I got married young. It didn't last long. Everyone always asks if I will again and my answer is always "facebook doesn't even need to know my relationship status. The government damn sure doesn't." My current relationship, we have kids, the one I can see spending the rest of my life with, we both went into it knowing neither ever wanted to actually marry again and it works for us. I did just tell him though I want a ring minus the wedding.🤣
I’ve never been married but have been with my bf for 11 years. I don’t want a legal marriage but I want a ring! Also some type of party with our friends and family celebrating us. Maybe a 15 year anniversary party?
Thank you for sharing about your divorce! This has helped me soooo much! I am 25 getting divorced due to us opening our marriage and me realizing so much. This is from the man I’ve been with since I was 15 we have a 5 year old. So it’s nice hearing someone els is also restarting in there 20s with kids
I have been a viewer for probably a decade now and I just have to say you are handling this with such grace. Especially when it comes to your girls, I love your decisions to keep their experience private. So proud to be a supporter of yours
I think we have similar personalities and I’ve also gone through a lot - sometimes I feel insecure that I’m not “soft” but I view your toughness as such a positive quality, especially in the way you protect your daughters. It’s just nice to see a woman being unapologetic and helps me appreciate my own toughness a little more while also trying to find a balance ❤
Wow. I appreciate your honesty, your transparency, and your willingness to share your life with us. I was watching you when I was married, when I was going through pregnancy, and now as a divorced mama still watching and rooting you on. Our stories, our journeys, are all different but we are all in this together. We are rooting for you, girl, and I love that you are continuing to protect those babies. Stay strong. We love you.
My divorce was “easy” since we didn’t own property together nor have/had children together. I processed everything on my own, took multiple trip to city hall . I’m located in CA and it cost me about $500 to have it done. The cost for it definitely depends on what state you’re locating, if you have property together, own vehicles together and have kids. It can easily add up
I have an 8 month old baby boy. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to go through a divorce and have your entire life turn upside down at that time. I appreciate your honesty with what you’re comfortable with sharing and also appreciate so much you protecting your children’s privacy through this vulnerability in all of your lives!!
When my mom and dad divorced my mom kept her wedding ring and for my high school graduation she had the diamonds from it reset into a new personally designed for me ring. I still wear it everyday :)
Before my divorce we had the same fight every week. Almost every Sunday. Like you said. It's hell. Nothings right but it's not always all bad too. Very tough and you want to be okay for the kids sake etc.
YES! I love chatty vlogs. I listen to the vlogs while I clean.
The way you talk about your daughters is just so beautiful and admiring. 10:07 and 15:57 are two moments specifically. You can just tell by your words and tone how much you love your girls and how nothing else in the world matters other than their happiness. It is so inspiring to see 🩷 Also just the way you stand up for not only them, but yourself.
This!!!
PART 2 yesssss!!! Do you and your ex talk? Was he sad about your divorce request? Did he accept it calmly?
I love how aware and honest you are about your situation vs others. Recently found you through your TikTok videos big fan!
I never understood people who were marrying in their early 20s. Ain't that interesting, everybody who married really young are all getting divorces in their 30s 😅
The way you have been handling this is incredible. Your girls are so lucky to have you, coming from a child of parents who put their divorce battle above their kids. You are very admirable & a great influence to other moms who may be going through something similar. Thank you for being so open & sharing even though I’m sure it’s incredibly difficult. Wishing you all the happiness & love through this hard time ❤
The way you affirmed that your daughter was meant to be here and what you said about all that gave me chills
Never been this early, I’m glad you were able to make the decisions you made, proud of you❤
After my divorce I swore I’d never get married again. And I held on to that feeling for many years. However, I am currently happily married to a man who also swore he’d never get married again. When it’s the right person, it’s not scary at all.
I had a similar experience to Aspen's. Although I didn't have children with my spouse, I was in a long-term relationship with my first boyfriend, who later became my first fiancé. I felt like I was the one putting in all the effort, but fortunately, my parents helped me see him for who he was. It's taken me over five years to move on, and I agree with Aspen that the end of a relationship isn't the end. Being single and rediscovering yourself is incredibly liberating.
This hair color looks amazing on you!
Thank you for bringing up the topic of how some women are stuck for a while. It took me 5 out of the 8 years I was with my ex to finally be able to escape. I’m 1 year being happily free from my old life . And I’m so proud of u and anyone else who’s able to get away and out of their situations. and I’m proud of those who are still having to power through it and I hope and pray you’re able to find your escape
Please do part 2. I love listening to RUclips, too! I remember watching your past videos where you looked like you just went on with what you had to do with life and hid your feelings, just like me when I was so exhausted from work but still got tons of things to do that I couldn't let emotions in too much to bother me more.
I have my dads ring and my moms wedding band, I’m so greatful for them even years and years after their divorce
My parents haven’t been together since I was 7 and I own a ring my dad gave mom and despite their relationship being so toxic I loved having a little souvenir of the happy times and a little bit of both of them!
Thank you for sharing everything with such honesty and detail. I’m so proud of you for handling the situation with respect and thoughtfulness toward everyone involved. Divorce is never easy, but your grace through it all is truly inspiring.
thank you for sharing this. i got divorced this year as well. cheers and congrats! it is sooooo freeing.
So spot on, you know it’s time when after trying so many times and doing everything in your part to repair the relationship and seeing that they don’t care to fix the relationship, it’s time to go. ❤
So the divorce didnt catch him off guard then
i love the answer to your last question. So thoughtful of your daughter and her thoughts if she were to find this video later in life. Above all, we protect children. Good job mama!
i love how you protect your kids and think of them with what you’re putting out there. so proud of you girl!
Part 2 is needed! Talk it out girl❤
I love this era of you, Aspyn! ❤ You're glowing and you seem so much happier now
Hi everyone!! Just wanted to share my experience in case it helps others! I was 25 when I got a divorce. I have 2 kids and we did everything on our own without getting lawyers involved in order to save money! I’m sure every state is different but I was able to file the divorce myself through the court system and it was about $250 I think for me to do that! We did a separation agreement to document child support and schedules with custody and we take that to be notarized every year to update it. Although it is extremely challenging, we have a great co parenting relationship for our kids sake! I understand this is not the case for everyone but wanted to share!
You are so incredible aspyn! I am deeply sorry you had to go through something so difficult. The way you have protected your girls and only shared your personal experience is so touching and truly a testament to what an incredible human and mom you are! Your life is just beginning and I’m so exited to see what the future has in store for you! I truly deeply the deeper you have hurt the deeper you will experience love❤❤
I’ll watch anything you post, I’ve been watching since the haute brilliance days
Fifteen THOUSAND dollares to get divorced???? Dear god
That's crazy. I got divorced. It cost $500. Guess it's more if you have kids
Crazy right ? But I guess when you have assets and a thriving business to protect, it’s money well spent!
And that’s on the low scale. My friend has paid $30k and it’s not even final yet
I'm sure separating their assets is a complete nightmare. I can only imagine the lawyer fees
You are correct…there was a time in our Country’s not too distant past that women barely had any choice, especially around divorce. I grew up in the 70/80’s & it was shameful & frowned upon in our town if any woman instigated divorce. In fact, I have family who would not leave their abusive spouse b/c their church told them divorce is sinful & she didn’t have any financial stability. Thank you for acknowledging this!! Some people still unfortunately perpetuate those closed minded beliefs & stereotypes so it is important to remember our history. Best of luck to you & your girls!!
I gave my wedding ring to my daughter and she treasures it. It never comes off her finger, so it might be equally sentimental to one of your daughters when they are older.
whiplash from how fast I clicked 😅
Loved this. Sending good energy to you and your girls!
i got divorced at 20 from a serial cheater, thank god
the government doesn’t need to be involved in my relationship!!! love how you put that and i totally agree😊
this is the video we've all been waiting for!!!
I just got on lunch from work so I’m excited to watch this!
I have never been so early! But I love the new confidence I feel you have
So proud of you babe, been following you forever and yo eee you really come into yourself and not have to hold back for someone else, and to see you and your kids happy is so special. You deserve it.
I know you’ve said your relationship was rocky for a while but was Parker ‘blind sided’ when you brought up divorce? I feel like men are clueless when women check out and they think it’s fine 🙄
My cousins fiancé comes from divorced parents and she just got her engagement Ring diamonds turned into earrings for her for Christmas. And I think that's really thought full like doing necklaces for each girl
The timing for this video was very strategic 💵💰🎅🏼 lol go girl!
ahaha gotta get them 💴
I just wanted to say I respect your boundaries on what you feel comfortable sharing 🤍
Chat longer please!!! I need part 2! 💕💕 sending love to you and your fam
I’m a 26 year old divorcee and loving your energy on this. You do you gal, you are doing amazing ❤
I love you so much Aspyn and am sending you and your girls all the love in the world. You truly deserve it! Thank you for being so candid in this video!
I don’t know what happened between you two but I’m so sorry that it did 🩷 happy you trusted yourself to get out and are living your best life!!
You are handling this like a champ and being so respectful of your family
Thanks for your comments at the end about baby #3. You’re 100% right and people are delusional to forget these little girls are humans with fragile emotions.
Girl, so proud of you for doing this in a respectful manner, protecting your kids and having the open conversation to help others 🥹
we love u girly!!! part two please 🤍
I think one day you might view marriage differently with time, healing and the right partner. My dad is a lot like you, when he divorced my mom he swore he would never get married again but now 4 years later he would consider it again if he might the right woman (he is also 60 so age plays a role in that) in general you do you but don’t be fearful if you find yourself in a situation where you want to do that again