I've heard your story before and it still Just makes me sick to my stomach that people bullied you so much and said those horrendous things about you and your baby. I'm glad you had your family by your side. People forget once upon a time not too long ago it was completely normal to be a teen parent and to marry very young..
Should you encourage teen pregnancy? No. But if your child comes to you saying they are pregnant should you support them and make them feel loved? ABSOLUTELY YES.
@@manicpixiecoffeelovr not the place for what, the truth? The truth casts no shadow on the fact that the owner of the channel is amazing, strong and very likely a great mother (if that's your concern). Btw, "having options" goes in line with the original comment's opening remark "one shouldn't encourage teen pregnancies". As for the second part "if your child comes to you and says they're pregnant -- make them feel loved" -- definitely yes. As for the course of actions after that -- totally depends on CHOICE. I've taught my niece English and she watches a lot of English vids now. After she sent me this one with a comment "maybe this is what we girls should do", I decided to leave my comment. However, she might've been sarcastic. Gonna talk to her when I see her.
@@mayakuduwudu not the place for you to talk about abortion... and encourage it, rather than being strong and helping them through it instead you take the easy way out.
Your mom’s reaction to your pregnancy was impeccable. “It’s going to be okay, we love babies in this house” No more perfect words could have been spoken in that moment. That is a mother who showed her child pure love and support. Kudos to your mom!
Lovely and beautiful story,you are blessed with such a mother,you mentioned something about praying and God in your story.I have no doubt your mother was in prayer for the outcome,God’s blessings is always there you just have to ask for it,and He will deliver, Amen?may God bless you ,your daughter, and your mother, and your family always. Amen.
Completely agree. You got caught getting pregnant. But, I fully believe God creates babies and for a reason. He decided you and your family needed this little girl. Glad your family was supportive instead of pushing you into an abortion. I am sure your the Lord had to speak to your mother's heart before she gave you her reaction. Blessings to you all.
Ikr!!! That was the most amazing part of the story for me. I can’t imagine how relieved she’d have felt… just think, you think your mum is gonna disown you and then she just hugs you and says THAT.💕💕☺️
That little girl is her EVERYTHING 😍 she's such an amazing mother. I'm 23, I have an almost 6 year old and an almost 3 year old, and I'm SO proud of Maddie and inspired by her
Thank you…I am proud of all five of my daughters …all beautiful, talented musicians and singers besides their careers and being wonderful mothers …and our youngest who is almost a mother, is a talented graphic designer just like her third big sister who arrested the Dallas Art Institute…and her oldest big sister who is the first in our family to get her masters in education, and her second big sister who is a smashing photographer, and her next big sister who is only 22 months older and who was in the Texas All State Band for three years and has her BA in Music Education…not to forget my youngest son who is the protector of his five sisters since we lost my oldest son and who is a super collision repair specialist and who knows how to do those fancy paint jobs on cars…yes, I am proud of them… true marvels and miracles of creation…I love them and all 21 of their children as well…mine, my mother’s, my grandmother’s and my great-grandmother’s legacies as well. Sometime we have to believe that our children and our grandchildren are the reason we were put on this earth. I have always hoped that my being an EMT-Intermediate for 7 years might have been part of the reason my oldest grand son has the word Doctor in front of his name. I believe all 17 of my grandsons and my three granddaughters are all destined to do something wonderful in this world and do something that will help mankind in some way…something to be proud of indeed.
“Arrested” the Dallas Art Institute…lol… now that would be quite a feat indeed…sometimes I do not understand autocorrect. My third daughter attended and graduated from the Dallas Art Institute but don’t think she ever tried to arrest them…oh, my, my.
I truly think that this young lady for what all she has been through is an amazing and outstanding mother and example for parents everywhere. Her daughter is a lucky little girl and she is a lucky daughter and mother as well. God knows what he is doing.
It frustrates me that in situations like this, the girl is always accused (being called names) whereas the boy isn't at all bullied. I'm happy you made it out okay despite all that. Great video, I'm proud of you too :)
I had a baby at 16: got pregnant at 15. I had to give her up for adoption and thought of her everyday. When she turned 46 she decided to find me and find me she did. We’ve had a beautiful friendship since then. She has 4 boys which I ❤️ love. I was unable to keep her. My parents were alcoholics and didn’t want to raise another one. Abortion was off the table and the year was 1967. No government help programs. No anything. Kudos to you for your girl, aren’t they the cuties? You have my respect and admiration.
I am so, so sorry you had to give up your child. The world was a harsh place for women then. It makes me sick to my stomach when one reads about the cruelty that was inflicted on women and children even up to the 1980s. I had friends who had babies at 16 & 17 in Scotland in the late 1970s. Still slightly scandalous- BUT the welfare rules changed and they were entitled to a small flat, a benefit and support. This was an enormous help to those genuinely in need, but one or a hundred saw it as a way to financial and actual independence- and took it. Those of us slogging away at University in damp, draughty flats with no money often envied those girls their little flats with central heating, secure income and bonny baby. Mind you, they had to put Uni on a back burner for a while!
My mother-in-law got pregnant at 13 and had my husband at 14. This was 1969/70. Her family were also supportive. A few years later, she was diagnosed with a terminal illness and passed soon after she turned 21. I believe her early pregnancy was meant to be. She brought this wonderful person into the world and got to experience the joys of being his mom. When she passed, the blow was softened to her parents because she left behind this precious part of her that they got to raise.
I had my first child 2 months after turning 14 yrs old in 1987 , so i completely understand what you’re going through..I am now 50 and he is 36yrs old..YOU GOT THIS
My birth mom was 16 the entire time she carried me. I was adopted by loving parents who lived to be 92 and 99. I understand why my mom let go of me, and live her for carrying me. I have two daughters and eight grandchildren today. Best regards, Doug
My mom was adopted, she always prayed that her both mother was resigned with her decision . She was adopted by wonderful parents and was doted on as an only child. It takes great love to give up a child
Adoption is a wonderful thing. And it’s usually because a mother loves her child and wants more for her child and is why you were adopted. (Because a birth mother loves you ! )
My mother-in-law had my husband at 14. Her own father and step-mom gave her money to get an abortion. She didn't want to do it but her father told her he'd kick her out if she kept the baby. She went to the clinic, paid the fee, and met with the nurse who brought her back to the procedure room. The nurse told my mother-in-law, "You don't have to do this. You can keep the baby if you want." Thank God for that nurse!!
@@destituteanddecadent9106 You play with words to hide reality. Fetus is just the Latin word for "little one". That little one had all it's DNA on day one of conception and it's heart was beating by week 6. So by "disposing" of him you mean kill him, since he was clearly alive even though he wasn't fully developed. If you're okay with killing live babies, at least have the guts to say it.
I have a friend who got pregnant at 12 yo and had her son at 13. Her parents turned her over to social services when they found out she was pregnant. Her foster family became her real family. They raised her and her baby. Allowed her to be a child, go to school do extra curricular activities and taught her how to be a mother. She is 30 yo now, married and has a toddler. Both kids call her "foster" parents Nana and papa. Her biological parents completely cut her off. The biological dad was also 12. Him and his parents are very involved and paid support. She feels very fortunate the way her life turned out and having a family that cared.
I started crying when you said that your mother hugged you, I was so happy that youor mother supported you and that everytihing worked out. I'm so sorry about all the bullying you had to go through you did not deserve that, you're so strong!
My mom straight up asked me if I might be pregnant. I finally admitted it outloud not knowing what the reaction would be. She said "your dad and I want you to know that even though we wish the circumstances were different, we love you and were actually excited to be grandparents." The relief that there was no anger or moral judgment, just acknowledging that being pregnant at 16 was going to be rough. Btw...I ended up having twins and they're amazing!
I was 14. Disowned. That was 49 years ago. My son is the most wonderful person I know. He has my 3 grand babies. ❤ It was not an easy journey but am so glad I loved us both through it.
Sad to hear. On another note, unsurprisingly nobody even mentions the fathers bacause it reminds of the bad choises and non-accountabilities. Nobody talks about how every fatherless child misses their father, but the issue can just be kept hidden. A single mother hasn't wised up before she acknowledges and takes accountability for her poor choises which includes warning others. It's not a question of being either worthy or wothless, all people have worth. It's a question of wise or unwise living without moral condemnments attached.
Your mum is amazing. She definitely had to hide her worries and fears from you, as you were just a child yourself. This is the parent I want to be. So sorry you went through so much. You are an amazing mother just like your mother 💕💕
Oh yes! FOR SURE! Of course, she had 13yrs experience hiding her fears, worries, shock & anxieties from her child. Albeit, this was an extra big one, we parents are worried (& even terrified at times) for our children the moment they take their first breath. And we are masterful at hiding it.
What kind of lunatics would send messages to a 14 year old girl that they hope she dies, or that she should have an a bortion? That's completely unreal to me. I'm so happy to hear that you kept your daughter alive. That was a mature decision to make, right away.
@@DL-idk If so, it is a real shame that their mothers did not step in. I can't imagine how I'd feel if I found out my own children were treating someone this way.
Dude. People who say this to teen moms, and are also "pro life" / "anti-abortion". They'd shame young women for choosing to keep the baby, and also young women who choose to remove the undeveloped fetus (within 1st trimester). They don't want their daughters to have sex, but they let their sons to have sex with other people's daughters (even in their own homes). The mentality those kind of people carry are weird and pathetic.
The main roots for teenage pregnancy are bad childhood (bullying, child abuse, parents divorce etc) and the lack of communication between children and parents! I think parents should be more confident and mature enough to make children understand the consequences of teenage pregnancies via proper communication (NOT JUST GIRLS BUT ALSO TO THE BOYS)! But I do admire all the teen parents out there for their hard work and sacrifices to raise their children 💗💗
@@simply_lena8196 I am sorry to hear that. Hope you will have a good and strong social support. I know it’s hard to convey my emotions through online but “BE STRONG AND HAVE MORE AND HIGH QUALITY RELATIONSHIPS FOR SOCIAL SUPPORT”!
There are PLENTY of teen pregnancies from wealthy, non-abused, still together parent-families. I understand what you’re getting at. But have to disagree that the “main roots” are bullying or children of divorce. The main roots are indeed lack of communication AND lack of EDUCATION. Just like Maddi said, obviously teaching just abstinence is not working.
@@melaniebutson7933 seriously! I’m in the Air Force and before you get deployed women have to provide a negative pregnancy test. They sent me to a planned parenthood clinic to get that test done and I was SHOCKED at the literal group of 50+ year old MEN shouting expletives and calling us all “baby killers” that were walking into the clinic…?? First of all it’s none of their business why women are there. But secondly the clinic obviously provides all sorts of services! One being PREGNANCY TESTS for the USAF. That day really really opened my eyes up. I couldn’t imagine being a pregnant woman and considering termination only to have to face a group of men screaming at you “baby killer”!?
The same thing happened to my sister and she went on to get her Masters in Sociology and had a successful career as a social worker (she’s retired now) and raised her daughter, who is also an amazing woman. You got this! Praying for you.
Amazing story. Somewhere there is a 13 year old girl searching the internet for help and finding your video and hopefully finding some comfort in it and finding the help they need.
I hope the 13-year-olds watch this and learn what not to do at 13. The age of social media has made things even worse for teenagers. My 21-year-old sister was approached by a 13 yr old fella from the neighborhood and he wanted to be "in a relationship" with her. She reported the incident to his parents and advised them to keep a tab on their son's behavior.
I am 61 yrs old & i was pregnant at 14. I was taken for an abortion without anyone ever asking me what I wanted. I was told this is what we are doing. It has never been mentioned again to this day by my mother. I am glad you had support. Getting over the guilt I had for the abortion took many, many years & a relationship with Jesus. I wish you more success for you & your daughter. God bless you both!
@@shefinmathew1849 There is not a right thing in this situation. It is more complicated than that. Yes, a 14 year old should not have to raise a baby, but the parents of a 14 year old should step in and help while asking what the 14 year old would want.
Almost crying by the end of the video. I was 19 when I had my first baby. I had to relocate because I couldn't bear the shame back then, but now, I don't regret getting pregnant. Although I've never had the courage to share it until now. 😊. Thank you so much for this video ❤
@@InterestingMC 19 is still a teenager hence the words nine-teen years old. 19 is still a very young age to have to take on the responsibility of being a parent. She clearly stated how it made her feel so please don’t attempt to minimize her experience.
@@angelNdisguise252 I wasn't attempting to minimize her experience and I'm really sorry if it seemed like that way. I was just wondering. I just thought that because I know 2 people who married and had children at age 19, so I was just thinking that that is nothing to be ashamed of.
i started cryng when she said “i would be dead without my daughter” she is a great mom, and a good example to her daugher. God bless her and her daughter❤️
Well, sadly, this actually could have been true. You see, just last February, a 14 year old girl named Adriana Kuch took her own life following a severe bullying incident in which she was assaulted on video and left unconscious. This made national news and drew a lot of anger towards the school for negligence in her case. I believe that something similar could have happened to Maddie if she hadn't had Everly. In her case, the bullies likely knew that they would have gone to jail for a long time had they beat her up and killed her unborn child, so, in effect, Everly saved Maddie's life, even if they both nearly died in childbirth.
Hearing your mom say “we love babies in this house” brought me back to the morning I called my mom in a panic at 5a after a positive pregnancy test. She told me the same thing. My mom is not perfect, but she has come in clutch when I have needed her most as a mom. Here’s to moms who come through when needed most 🍻
I think a lot of parents don’t have the luxury of the five minutes they need to make a loving response. Many have it blurted out face to face, and saying something stupid. Now some parents are just not right, not loving.
When your daughter was being resuscitated and you were hemorrhaging, your poor mother must have been terrified. So glad it all turned out for you. And you have come farther than many people twice your age! Congratulations!
How are people even supporting this??!! Like literally teen pregnancy is not a thing to be proud of. Children watching this should learn that they shouldn't do anything in their sensitive years. Like feed yourself first and then feed someone else. You will just become a burden on your parents, with no job and career. Like will you study or look after the baby. Are the countries dumb to even make a legal age for marriage?? This is totally unacceptable.
@@allfire8056 Calm down. No one here is supporting teen pregnancy. We’re supporting her. Although having a baby this young is reckless, she has obviously matured and is openly trying to educate the youth about the dangers of child birth by sharing her story
I had to choke back tears when you told of your mums reaction. I can never understand how some parents don’t support their children unconditionally. My ‘babies’ are now 17, 19 & 21 but I could never push them away regardless of what mistakes they may make in life. I would always be there. So I was choked up to hear how supportive your immediate family were, and I’m so happy that it all worked out for you and your daughter. I know this video is a couple years old now and I’m just discovering it, so I’m sure your life has progressed further still. I wish you all the best in future endeavours and best wishes for your little family.
She just had a son a few weeks ago. She’s married, and has a beautiful family. Everly loves her little brother so much, and he’s very lucky to have her as a sister.
How about the fact that a 14 year old body isn't mature enough for child birth ? Or that her mother didn't give her any s*x ed ? She and her child could have easily died.
I’m so proud of you, I have followed you since Everly was a baby. I got pregnant at 15 and had my son 5 days after my 16 th birthday. I was only 25 weeks along. We spent 114 days in the NICU, they said he would never survive. I was treated horribly, but I showed everyone. He is now 23 and I own my own company. Your such an amazing woman and mom! 🥰🥰🥰
I wish I was that strong. I was mentally 12 at 15 so the idea of having sex was as distant as a space let alone giving a birth, definitely would not do it. I finished university, bought a flat, have an amazing husband almost finished my book, now time for a child.
You had a big desire to prove everybody wrong huh and now you're boasting about your success? Not everybody is successful when they have a child while they're still a child themselves, it's the height of selfishness to do so. I bet that you couldn't do it on your own if it wasn't for your mother or a large circle of people to help you! Again it's very selfish on your part. Imagine how much more successful you would have been had you waited to become a mother?
@@jillybean3688 Exactly, I always wonder who pays for the children needs when the mother is still legally unable to work full time. I would not do it to my parents. Too selfish.
@@jillybean3688 They were just sharing their experiences.. Pretty sure it isnt her fault that some are not successful. She is gladly blessed to have good people around her.
It completely blows my mind that STRANGERS, actual strangers sent you death threats for absolutely no reason?? Teenagers are scary. Also your mother is an amazing parent she didnt even think about disowning you instead she showed her support and love, thats how every parent should be :) You're a very strong person maddie
@@pencrunch6208 It's not her fault for being pregnant? So she didn't have unprotected relations with a guy then? What a strong and fierce person she is, getting herself knocked up at age 14, barely a teenager, if you think this is acceptable you seriously need to get psychiatrically evaluated!
Some people dont show this kind of selflessness and love towards their child as adults and you were able to put you daughter first while you were still a kid yourself. Thats incredible. You can tell how much you love her. She is lucky. Great job momma.
I'm the daughter of a teen mom and raising me at 17 was hard for my mother, and I saw it was, so I just think that you are so brave to go through what you went through.
I cannot even imagine that. I had no money at 17 yet, was at school , not 18 yet to find a full time job, my parents would have to pay for everything. That's why I would not do it to them as they did not have ant extra money to raise another child, not even a grandchild from money point of view. Love does not feed a baby.
I'm so astounded at how closely your story mirrors my own. I was pregnant at 15 and had my daughter at 16. My daughter's father and I were so naive and also weren't properly educated on the risks or how easy it was to become pregnant. One time. It only took one time. One of my sisters thought she was pregnant and she convinced me to take a test with her and imagine my shock when I had the positive test result and she didn't. I was so stunned that it happened so easily. I thought it was really hard to get pregnant from all the TV shows and magazines and real life stories I had heard from adults that couldn't conceive no matter what they tried. I was terrified. I thought my life was over. A was still a child myself, developing into adulthood, having a literal human life growing inside of her. I hid it for 2 or 3 months until my oldest sister who had guardianship of me at the time took me to the doctor for a UTI and I was trembling in fear because I knew what was going to happen at that doctor's office. The doctor asked me if I had been sexually active and I remember the look of disappointment and anger on my sister's face when I answered yes. I thought she was going to kick me out. I didnt have any other family members or friends to turn to and no job, no car. My aunt told me to get an abortion because having a baby would ruin my life and I wouldn't graduate high school or get a good job or enjoy my youth. But I refused. I was having this baby. And I was keeping her. The students at my school looked at me differently. They would call me easy and say horrible things and that if I didn't want to hear them, then I shouldn't have spread my legs. People would look at me like I was disgusting. My daughter's father's family was so supportive. They ended up taking me in and my daughter too, when she was born. I got a job immediately and was working as well as being a full time student, on top of being a new mother. Her father and I did split up because we were still too young to know what we really wanted and had different priorities, but he's been there for our daughter whenever she needed him and is a great co-parent. I proved my aunt wrong. I graduated high school, I moved out on my own, I got an amazing job, and there hasn't been a single day of my daughter being born that I regret. She literally saved my life. I was going down a dark road of depression from my grandma who raised me passing away suddenly, before I got pregnant and I know that if I didn't have her, I would be in a completely different and probably much worse place. She is my miracle. Even today, people are incredibly shocked when I tell them my little girl just turned 15 and is heading into high school as a freshman and I'm only 31. I look like a 15 year old myself, haha. I wouldn't change a thing about having her when I did. We're have such a close relationship and have so many silly stupid jokes together and every day with her is a true gift from God. I will never take her for granted or make her feel anything but my ultimate support and love for her. I've made sure to give her all the advice I wish someone had given to me when I was younger. All we can do is our best and hope for the best for our children. I'm so happy for you. I wish you all the best as a fellow young mother!
Good for you, We’re all very proud! Like you said, young teens don’t understand the consequences, which should be stressed more in society. Humans react on instinct, having sex being one of those instincts. It’s good to know that you’re taking care of your daughter teaching her things you wish someone taught you. I wish more moms did that for their children
The most shocking thing about your story, is the hate and negativity that people threw at you, I don't understand why people can be so cruel, you're a tough and courageous person and I respect and admire you so much. Be Blessed always.
I can understand why people would be a little judgmental but the death wishes against her and her baby are NOT okay. And people don’t realize that she was so young and unprepared. We cannot blame teen girls for our failure as a society to educate them.
"I prayed every single night...I wasn't scared for me...I was scared for my daughter." This tells me so, so much about your character. That sets a standard that none of the people who sent you nasty messages could live up to. BTW, my mom gave birth to me at 13; she became pregnant a couple of months after her 13th birthday and gave birth about a month before her 14th. I am by far the most successful person in either my mom's or dad's family, which just goes to show that you should never, ever give up on a kid. They are resilient and will surprise you when you least expect it. Your birth story is similar to my that of my daughter. My wife got to 40 weeks, and we still weren't parents yet, so out came the Pitocin. Things started progressing rapidly, and they put one of those scalp monitors on her. My wife got to 10 cm, and with every contraction, my daughter's heart rate dropped. So they wheeled my wife in for a C-section, and that's how our little girl came into the world.
My 15 year daughter got pregnant and my first thought of her and my grandchild’s health physical and mentally. She later in her twenties had 3 more all girls. Everyone in our family supported her. First born starts law school soon. My daughter did married in early 20’s. I was lucky to be able to be able to watch new baby half day why daughter finished hs. Grandpa and her uncles were adoring. It is sad parents don’t support their kids. One thing important is for the the grandma Mimi not to take charge.. it could undermine the teen mom. Our roles were clear naturally. This young woman and her mom have my heart And my huge smile and a tear in my eye . Smile
It's not. That poor girl could have died. It's a miracle her and her child survived, the mother was incredibly irresponsible for putting her daughter and grand child's life on the line.
Stumbled upon this video randomly. I am 26 years old, my mother is just 41 (turns 42 this year) I was born 2 months after she turned 16. Sadly she wasn't able to properly raise me, therefore I was raised by my grandparents. Nowedays my mom and I get along very well. The more adult I became, the better we got along with each other. Because of me, so to say, she couldn't grow up properly, because of her young age, I couldn't grow up properly to, but many years later, as we both grew up indipendently, we became mother and sun, almost like best friends. Only sixteen years apart from each other we are liking some of the same TV shows as a kid, we have the same opinions, same feelings sometimes. We have a strangely deep connection even tho we could not grow up as a "normal family" Sorry if my grammar and stuff is bad, I'm no native english speaker
That’s an amazing story. Thank you for sharing. Finding yourself pregnant so young must be so scary, your Mom did what was best for you at that time by allowing your grandparents raise you, that must have been extremely tough for her but so selfless. It’s so heartwarming to hear you have such a beautiful relationship with your Mom now 🥰
I’m almost 30 years old and about to try to have a baby for the first time and I can’t imagine anything scarier - and to do it as a child yourself. You are an incredible woman. So glad you and your daughter have a happy ending to your story ❤️
You gotta read Childbirth Without Fear, an old book by Grantley Dick-Reid! Ignore the women with horror stories to tell. Talk to some women who had good experiences. Maybe watch some Hipnobirth videos to see women giving birth naturally and peacefully. That book really helped me. The childbirth class wasn’t much help. It will teach you how to relax and WHY (basically, if you don’t your muscles are pushing the baby back up in the wrong direction and fighting the contractions). Sorry, I get excited about childbirth. Hehe. If you’re not pregnant yet write those things down for later. I’ve given birth 8 times. The only slightly negative experience was when I had a controlling midwife who wanted to hurry and go home. 🙄 It is the most amazing experience and I hope you get to experience it! Also, a really good midwife will educate the heck out of you and support you sooo much more than a doctor. 😬 They are usually so much more knowledgeable than an MD about labor and delivery and in PREVENTING a lot of problems. Well, that’s prob way more than you wanted to know. 😆
me to, but after 7 months of trying still no luck.had one miscarriage already. start to think that i am not able to have a baby. and the fact that my mum is miss negative so support from her is not a given.
As a maternity nurse for over 40 years I have seen countless moms become better persons. One mom that lost her baby at four months old. Her boyfriend broke up with her, she knew she was having a baby with a terminal genetic condition. She was only twenty. She came back to our unit after her baby died and told us how her life had changed. I still remember his name…Mathew. God bless you and your precious daughter.
My take away from this story: as a parent it is a MAJOR part of your job to explain the consequences of having sex to your children. It’s not the schools’ job. It’s yours. These conversations should be taking place routinely. No shame. No awkwardness. Just plain facts. Prepare your children for the reality of what might happen. Have an open line of communication early. This is not to say it won’t happen but these conversations will minimize the chances.
14:07 - I’m sorry for what people did to you while you were pregnant, but you are so strong and wholesome! You daughter is so lucky to have you as her mum.
Your mother's reaction is beautiful. My dad had a similar reaction when he found out I was self harming at 14. I thought he'd be angry and disappointed and I was so scared. When my mom told him and he called me into his room to talk, I thought for sure I was going to be talked down to. Instead he pulled me in for a hug and said "its okay. Its going to be okay, I love you". The way we respond to our children in hard moments programs their inner voice. Handle with care.
What many people don't understand is that there are kids that have sex and it's the education that can determine how safe they are with sex. It's so normal for these things to happen and the ignorance that some adults show is not going to change that. You are an amazing, loving mother and I can tell you care for your daughter so much. I'm about your age now (2 years after this video was posted lol) and couldn't imagine being in your position 6 years ago. So proud of you.
What I liked most about your whole story was your mother's action, when the doctor told her and she came to you, hugged you and said it was going to be okay, that everyone in that house liked babies. I got emotional about it. Congratulations to her. And congratulations to you for the courage to face everything you faced. God bless you and your family. Ana
Its good to supoort ur daughter in this bt bt ......is this mother thinking bout her daughter's health does she know for a 14 yr old girl its soo difficult emotionally n physically to carry a child,,all the teenagers should really be aware wht they r doing sex just for fun is not funny ,its just one time pleasure and lots of responsibility n mental damage in long run.
@@kashishkohli9967 she mentioned in the video that she didn’t have proper sex ed. also, while obviously it’s not ideal for such a young person to get pregnant, especially from a health perspective, she clearly wanted to have the baby, and it would not be anyone’s place to push her to get an abortion. for most people, it’s extremely emotionally traumatising to have your agency taken away in that type of decision, hence “my body, my choice”.
I think that families' economic situation/s may also come into play, it doesn't matter who likes and or loves babies unfortunately that doesn't feed babies. Sometimes parents would like to support their children in whatever decision they are comfortable making but also some kids can't see the full ramifications of their decisions and that would be a huge concern of mine. Also some parents no matter how much they love their children are tired and don't have the emotional or physical energy for various reasons to help their kids through it. It's irresponsible for people to paint a narrative of parents who aren't allowing their 14 year old to make their own decisions as insensitive or uncaring(not saying that's what you're doing).
@@kashishkohli9967 teens having sex responsibly don't have mental damage in the long run. Unless you have a judgmental, mostly, men who demand their wives are virgins. You wouldn't even realize how many girls/women get their hymen closed back up so it seems they are virgins . Demanding to see blood as proof of her virginity is also old. Not everyone bleeds with their first time, and men going beserk for saying their woman is a slut and whore when she really was a virgin should educate themselves and be less of a conservative uneducated dickface. Oh and uhm, let's all make sure that men are Just as much of a virgin,ok? Double standards are so Middle Ages.
Maybe I think maybe she feels that a kid in your house is pregnant at 13 years old and just realised "I never say anything to her about her body or boys etc..."she feels guilty .
I was pregnant and had a baby at 17... I put myself through college and got a Masters in Counseling degree. Both my kids are 30 and 27 now... Good for you for choosing life and looking past all the hate.. I'm proud of you for all that you have accomplished
Same here I got pregnant at 13, gave birth at 14. Am now 32 years and my daughter she's now 17. Being a single parent ain't a joke. Single moms can be good parents and also raise good children
Most criminals and degenerates come from single mother households these are actual statistics, women are good nurturing but not good at discipline & teaching to control emotions.
My cousin had her 1st baby at 14 as well, her second by 17, and her 3rd by 19. She had all her kids by her childhood sweetheart, and they married. She's now 44. Kids are all grown, now she travels everywhere! She loves going to bew places. I can't even lie, she was a great mother even as a kid. The point is, we all have challenges in life. But never let them keep u down bc majority of the time, it gets better. Im happy u didnt allow this to keep u down. Now ur married with a little boy too! Crazy how life works sometimes. Be blessed.❤
People are just disgusting - and sadly, they’re even more disgusting when they judge those who are not in the same position as they are. I wish you and your child the very best, and I sincerely hope that all the cruel, nasty, vicious-minded and vicious-mouthed people who criticised you will one day get their due come-uppance…
@@tsuchus exactly!! Its’s not hard to understand that you can support someone individually & lovingly, while at the same time trying to educate & warn other young people that this is definitely not the wisest life choice to make at *this particular life stage* and only children, weirdos and other immature fools/trolls won’t grasp this super easy & basic duality.
@Space The whole point is that once a situation has occurred, making judgements on it and criticising someone who has learnt from their mistakes achieves nothing. Especially when you have never been in her position and apparently lack the empathy to put yourself in her shoes. Instead parents should be educating their kids so that this doesn't happen... people aren't stupid we're well aware that pregnancy is caused by sex and we're also aware that a 13 year old having a child is a major cause for concern. But the point is she is sharing her story to raise awareness and to prevent her past from being someone else's future. And if your (imaginary) 13 year old child was pregnant yes I imagine you wouldn't be happy but I would hope you would still support her and understand that these things don't happen without reason. Maybe you should be questioning your skills as a parent and reflecting on your role as a parent in guiding your child to make the right decisions. Engaging in a little more critical thinking would do you well.
i'm watching this on international women's day and your story really shows how strong and resilient women are! I'm 27 and can't imagine going through an unplanned pregnancy right now... i cannot fathom what it must have been like for you. thank you for being vulnerable and happy international women's day!
she's not wrong when she said that teen pregnancy is higher in texas 💀. All the girls I went with in middle school already have children , either right now and highschool pregnancies 🤷🏻♀ i'm 18 almost 19 at the moment and yeah it's scary out here lol, even my friend has a baby who she got pregnant with at 16
They should teach comprehensive, scientific, fact-based sex education, not the religiously motivated abstinence-only nonsense that reliably results in situations like Maddie’s. Simply telling young teens not to do something is a pretty good way to increase the odds that they will do that thing. No amount of telling them that it displeases God will stop it and never, ever has. Want to decrease abortions, teen pregnancy, and STI’s? Me too. You do that by doing what has been proven time and again to work. Ditch the fear and loathing and teach the facts - all of them.
I’m so glad your mum’s reaction was the complete opposite of what you’d expected. Because a smart mum knows that her young, pregnant daughter is feeling a lot of emotions, and fear, and hormones, and a lot else, and a good, smart mum knows that the very last thing that same daughter needs is to feel shame, pressure, or like she’s alone on this new scary journey. ❤
I’m so proud of you, and so happy that you and your daughter have each other. Kudos to your mother, who knows how to be a truly loving parent-and set a phenomenal example for you.
Thank you for posting this. At 20 yrs old I was drugged and raped by a co-workers boyfriend. I became pregnant. My family loves babies also: they were great. I hadn't shared that I was raped. They loved on us. I was asked by a co-worker why I wouldn't get an abortion. I said, this is my baby. It has my DNA, my parents DNA, grandparents DNA, etc. My son is a wonderful young man, married with a daughter. I wouldn't change my years as a single mom ❤️ I met and married a great guy. We had 3 children. God bless you , your family, and precious little girl ❤️🕊️❤️
You have seriously matured so much. You can tell just by the speed you're speaking at. The transparency you now have for the sake of sharing a message that is real and genuine.. (I think your channel started to counter already existing hate & almost prove something to others and urself to only see even more hate appearing online ya know).. it's astounding. I can see 4 years w your daughter has given you a lot of patience and gratitude. You should be incredibly proud of yourself. You are doing fantastic mama 💛
I loved the part where you said that all your fears disappeared when you saw your baby 😭😭 that happened to me too! (And I had my baby at 33) everybody says that having babies is a bad decision but I think having them too late is worst, less energy and a harder time to be generous and to adapt easily to your new life, kudos for you and the great job you're doing for your baby 😍
@@signdebb Please take care of your health and try to make sure she is OK with you being an old mum because I was in the same situation and since I was 20 I started being TERRIFIED of losing my parents.
@@Serena-or7sl that is definitely a fear that my daughter has, however, I also had a fear of losing my parents when I was a child, and they were young when I was born. I think the fear if losing a parent is a fear that many children have, regardless of their parents age. I have talked to my daughter about this, and about the fact that nobody gets out of this life alive. The best we can do is love each other and appreciate the time we have while we're alive. Knowing that our time on earth is limited, we should try not to take anything for granted. Take care ~
i agree. i waited until i was 30 before i even considered it. then i was like, crap i better hurry if i want 3. i ended finally pregnant at 31, had her at 32, and we almost died due to the severity of my hyperemasis. not fun. i ended up with 1 more at 37 (ironically less hyperemasis as i was older) and Lord have mercy on me, i wish i did it 10 years sooner😂
It makes all the difference in the world when the pregnant mom and dad have their families support. So glad you're doing so good with your life and your daughters.
Maddie im am now 55 years old and my son is going on 41 years old. I fell pregnant at 14 and gave birth at 15.. I was like you.. I didn't really know how it happened I was so naive I had my son I named him kai And back then it wasn't a name much heard of... but I kept him and loved him all of his life... I gave him 2 more brothers from a different daddy but I married the last 2 boys dad... it didn't last forever but that's ok.... I love my 3 sons so so much... and I now have 5 grandkids... Sending love from Australia hunni U got this X
@@user-od1fm3hs9c Thank you Thank you I love my sons with all of my heart They will always be my babies Even tho now my youngest is 31years old...lol.... My middle child is 35 almost and my eldest 41 next bday... I'm 55 ... it was hard going but worth every single struggle I had to go through... we are very lucky tho in Australia the government pays us fairly good money every 2 weeks to get you by... but its still not that easy...
@@debfisher7593 I truly believe that children are the best gift of life. Our love for our children gets us through life's struggles. I didn't have my first one until 34. I take my hat off to any young lady who brings up a child, as it is hard work. Rewarding work though. You sound very relaxed about your marriage ending. Did your ex continue to be involved with the kids? I am currently going through divorce. I dont feel as relaxed as you sounded. I know life goes on though and I will focus on raising my kids.
@@dripxenseixensei3822 - No I wouldn't encourage it. But if it happened, I would not make them feel bad. I would give them my love and support and help them.
Although being pregnant at 13 is not a good thing, yet when I heard that she suffered from anxiety and bullying before it somehow not reasonable to judge someone without knowing their full story. She's so wonderful and really pretty indeed.
it is not any bad thing for a teenage to become mom Or to be pregnant. But their families should be supportive & . Nowadays young boys girls especially girls are too much interested to be relationship with boyfriends... And they do physical relationship without using protective measures. And they should also focus on their studies.... . And it is not ever body cup of tea for a teenage girl to become 🤰pregnant.. It needs lot of patience and courage... But they should also focus on their studies & Health...
@@ArtIsDrawing she was able to keep the baby being a single mom, gave birth, and now has her daughter that she worked hard for. She is strong because she went through this by herself as a teen- can u imagine how hard that is?
I'm so glad that your mum was so supportive! That is amazing. It's a direct contrast to my own experience, I was older than you were but I was still shamed horrendously for it, made to feel like I was the worst person in the world, and had messed my whole life up, disappointed everyone and generally like it was a terrible terrible thing. I look back and I think how awful to treat someone like that, it may not be what we would choose for our child, but there's no reason for the shame. A baby is a blessing, a wonderful bundle of joy, even if it's a challenging road. It's left me traumatised for the rest of my life. Anyway I love hearing stories like this, they're heart warming.
To hear something like : "you daughter might not make it" at the age of 14 is unimaginable so heartbreaking. Like Maddie is here telling us that Everly was her reason to really live and to be told that as a mother, not only as a 14 year old but a mother, is so hard. Then the fact that Mads had to go through criticism, and bullying is just another sick topic on its own. You're so strong Maddie 💕
You daughter might not make it at 14 is unimaginable so heartbreaking. Like Maddie is here telling us that Everly was her reason to really live and not only as a 14 years old but a mother , is so hard . Just another sick 🤢 topic on its own.
I think not openly talking to children and pre-teens about sexuality and not educating them about sex when they enter puberty is a huge mistake. I'm happy everything is working out for you and wish you and your family all the best.🤗🤗🤗
So true, and it’s 100% up to the parents. When my kid asked how babies were made i didn’t tell her a mommy & daddy had to get married bla blah blah- I told her in understandable terms how babies are made as scientifically as I could. I never had to have “the talk”because she knew all about puberty, hormones, periods, that sex makes babies, intercourse (not super graphic just whatever was age appropriate as she grew) birth control, and everything else that comes with living in a human body from day 1! It has never been uncomfortable because I didn’t make it that way. It’s not up to the schools or church to teach my child- that’s my job.
@@vickie1731Yes. 100% if a 13 gets pregnant, it's a FAIL on the parents. A 13 year does not need to date, much less sleep around. She should have been enjoying new friends and enjoy the little things.
You are right. My mother never told me about this. I was being fooled all the time by saying that babies come from the sky until I slowly get to know about this from others and it was a huge mess then
A few comments: Just came across. 1. I loved this uplifting video in the midst of deplorable world events. I needed that. Thank you. 2. Why did you have to move out? I would’ve kept my daughter until college graduation if I could. Your parents appeared very supportive. 3. Absolutely bizarre how many hecklers there are. I grew up in Sweden. There were some teenage pregnancies, and one or two births. Very few since we have sex education starting in 5th grade and it’s part of Biology class from 7th grade & repeated each year grade 8 & 9. It includes girls visiting the local doctor’s office for additional education on Birth Control and scheduling of individual appointments for prescriptions if so requested + free condoms & education how to use and their limitations. Parental involvement is zero & each individual have the freedom to decide for themselves. I was shocked when I moved to the US how backwards many states and counties are. Denial of the human sexual drive isn’t productive for the individual, nor optimal for the overall costs for the state. I recall one couple in 10th grade in my school of maybe 600 students had a baby. They continued normal schooling, lived with their parents, and occasionally brought the baby to school with them. I didn’t know them well. I never even heard a single negative thing about them, unless you count the occasional concern how they would plan their college years with a young kid. I did see many occasions with girls gushing over the cute baby. Boys were boys and gushed very little, but no negative expressions at all. I’m sorry you had to go through that.
She didn't have to move, that's something she chose for her daughter and herself. She's an adult now, financially stable, responsible, etc. So it's only natural that she go out on her own, being a wonderful example for her little girl. They also need that space of their own, instead of just a bedroom and bathroom. I'm sure she feels much better having her own kitchen, laundry, bathrooms, etc. Those things are important, they can really help a person feel accomplished and proud! She's doing what so many her age, in the same situation, would never do. And that's definitely something to be proud of!!
I was that girl trying to take my baby to class. I felt so ashamed and judged in the grade below me from time missed. I think my science teacher passed me because he felt sorry for me🥺 Teen pregnancy - it’s the fastest way to grow up🙃
@@kendramandisa Of course. But life is hard. Direct support is important. 18 is adult only on paper. It’s a random number unrelated to biology, and actual adult biological age based on brain development is ~25 (unless you want to set the bar at puberty, then adult is 11-13 somewhere). Raising a child is hard despite all the love you get in return. I was 30 when my firstborn arrived. I had a career & a wife. It was still hard work, and my career took me far away from both our support networks. It was extremely noticeable when we later for six months moved in with my parents. Enormous difference. Even financially. Hence my question. But there are many variables like you say, and like everything in life it’s a question of evaluating opportunity costs.
As you've found, the U.S. is extremely conservative in terms of sex being a taboo subject, abortion rights, compulsory education. I don't see it changing, unfortunately. If anything, we're going backwards... :(
Sex Education is so important. There is so much responsibility and body changes that occur when having a child at such a young age. It's nice to hear you talk about your back story and are real about it💙
Abstinence was taught to her in her school.. She talked about that.. But then she says that teenagers are not going to listen to abstinence.. So, it's her fault
@@verityh4918 Abstinence is best while humans are teenagers.. Just like cigarettes.. So having sex in teenage is ridiculous.. It harms humans.. Even science recommends the same thing.. But then when it comes to sex.. It is such a strong instinct that people throw common sense out of the window.. But then you will have to face consequences.. Liberals don't like that.. But actions do have consequences..
Yeah, because common sense is the first thing you think about when you think about teenagers. Having sex as a teenager is perfectly fine if you've had good sex education and use contraceptives and nothing you say will change that reality. If anyone is at fault, it's the education system and her parents who missed out on properly educating her.
Maddie, I am 15 and recently lost my V-Card and told my mom two days later (one week and one day before i am writing this) i was so so so scared that i was pregnant. when i told my mom we had to break up which absolutely sucks sm bc he was my first love. it has completely gotten spread around my high school. your story has honestly helped me realize just how lucky i am. there was also no protection. your story has helped me realize that my life isn’t over. it will get better. thank you so much Maddie. much love from Oklahoma, Aubrey
You have a good mom. I know it probably sucked and might still suck now, but she made you break up for a good reason. At fifteen you can not legally consent to having sex.
Boo, you're life is NOT over!!! It has barely even begun! And when you really do fall in love, you'll think of this moment and realize how small of a blip in your life it was.
I agree with your mom sweetie, ik it hurts now and you’re heartbroken but one day you’ll understand and thank her for it. Keep yourself for the man you marry, if they respect you, care about you and love you, they will wait. Guys are always cool when they do it and girls are sluts which is totally wrong and not true, try not to let them bullies get to you because I guarantee you that those girls have been with way more than you. Just respect yourself and save yourself for someone who will do the same and not spread your personal private relationship all over just to look cool. Stay strong hun, you will get through this. I have been in your shoes and girls are sooo mean. Hold your head up high and ignore them.
@@R0TT3N_B0N3S Well legally there's usually an exemption if its between two minors that are close in age and not too young (Romeo-and-Juliet exception). In Oklahoma there's an exemption if they are both between 14 and 18.
Not to mention got seriously bullied, had a few mental problems, had multiple occasions of problems with pregnancy/birth am they both made it out absolute queens. I say both of them are more than girl bosses, something higher than my vocabulary goes
I got pregnant at 17 and my mom reacted with a" you won't live in this house with a baby!!!" I aborted at two months..still regret it 20 years later. I am 38 this year and have no hope for the child I want.
Girl, you are a strong woman. I am 52 years old and listening everything you said make to understand a little more young people. Sometimes, we the “older” use to forget when we were 13, 14 and so young to take the right decision. You did it good, and thank you for to share your story.
I had my son at 15, I agree that it saved me as a person and made me a better person. He’s on his way to be a cardio thoracic surgeon now and was accepted undergrad into MIT. I couldn’t be prouder of him and since we grew up together we are really close. I’m glad you are okay and in a good space. We’re lucky because it doesn’t always turn out that way.
You keep saying 'naive', but honestly, you were 13 and not being educated! The system failed you by not teaching you something you had no other way of knowing! You deserve more credit, you were clearly an incredible young woman to be able to get through such an arduous journey and come out smiling with both you and your daughter happy and healthy, especially with a long history of mental health issues. . . I'm stunned by the amazing person you are honestly. Wish you both the best 💖
Well technically she was naive because if she wasn’t she would’ve known the consequences but what has happened has happen i am so happy she kept the baby and i hope she has a wonderful life experience is the best teacher 😊
i love how she didnt start crying while talking ab the hate she got and then instantly started getting teary when talking ab her daughters health girl you are so strong
That’s the great thing about a teen mom you can reflect on how a child thinks because not long ago before you were pregnant you new how you like things and I think that it is good for a closer relationship with your child. I wish you and your child the best of luck!!
Girl, you do you, it was none of anyone else's business, I'm not encouraging but those people should be supporting not critizing, you are a strong person.
You aren't the only one who was pregnant at 13... don't feel bad. I'm glad you had great support. You'll love it when you're 30 and your baby is in her teens to early 20s. Look at you now... own house at 18... millions of subscribers and probably a millionaire. Congrats to you! Proud of you too.
I was pregnant at 16, had my son 11 days to turning 17, and yes, I totally get it when you said your baby saved your life. 32 years later on my story, I am convinced that my son SAVED me, this young man has been not only my son, but my best friend, my confident, my true soulmate, my best teacher in the life lessons that usually you miss, my motivation to stay sane. I do hold my experience very close to my heart, however, I’m very concerned when I meet teenage moms, pregnancy is not always an easy trial, parenting is the deepest experience in life and life happens only once.
This girl is very mature, but still young. If that makes sense. I glad that her story turned out for the better, but her story is an exception. I agree with your message. I’d rather not shame a pregnant teenager, because life happens, but sometimes these narratives can encourage girls to think that it’s easier than it is. So I hope she puts a disclaimer in the future.
It’s not just the schools job to teach you about sex Ed!! Parents are who also need to step up! I also am a teen mom had my son at 19! He will be 16 this years. But you have done really well!
This! If you know the schools in your country don’t teach about sex ed, teach your side yourself. No matter where your child learns it from, it’s important your child learns it
Not to mention a fully developed body that is actually ideal for having babies, contrary to the girl in the video. Just because you have the suffix "-teen" in your age doesn't mean you're an adolescent. And adolescence, i.e., young girls still physically developing and still in basic school, is really the big issue. "Teen mom" wouldn't be a thing If only 18 and 19 year olds were having babies.
@@beyondwilline3634I don’t think they are they are just saying if they happen to get pregnant people should support the person not support getting pregnant if that makes sense
My daughter was 14 also. I became a grandma at 33 to a beautiful granddaughter. Advice to family members....support support support these kids, They grow up to become good parents.
What I see a beautiful strong smart woman who is determined to young woman, who loves her baby & will be very successful in her life. My daughter also got pregnant young , we supported our daughter & she has four beautiful children she got her schooling 15 yrs later she is still with her baby daddy ….I am so proud of them & so happy to be Nanny to them all love them all so much so do not to worry about others because you have done it , keep going beautiful young woman 👩….😊❤️✌️🕯💖🙏
I literally started crying when she revealed what her mom and close family members said about her being pregnant. Idek who she is and I'm feeling all these emotions as she goes on with her story. 😭 Btw, you are like, so beautiful it's hard to believe.
You are precious Maddie. I’m so sorry for the hate you received during your pregnancy. You didn’t deserve that and I’m so glad you had parents who supported you. You are amazing and I wish you the best life.
My mom had me the day after her 14th birthday. She ended up getting a PhD. in psychology! I'm now 38 going on 39, and my mom and I are very close. She didn't have any help from parents or family and father was absent. We went through many struggles the first 6 years of my upbringing, but it turned out wonderful. You can do it 💪! Your child will forever respect and appreciate you when old enough to truly understand how hard and how much my mom gave up but she also gained so much more. Good luck to you and your baby! As a child, now adult of a teen mom, you can do it!! I'm so grateful to my mom for everything she's done! Good luck
Yeah right, she didn't have any help but she was still able to buy you food and diapers and clothing 🙄 So where did she work at 14 that allowed her to bring you with her every day? Lmao
I’m 15, I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m watching all these videos of teen moms cuz I’m so scared. I’m too far along to get an abortion and even if I wasn’t I wouldn’t get one. I’m just so worried. I haven’t even told my boyfriend yet.. I’ve known for 2 months. I’ve been so terrified to tell him, I’m scared he’ll leave me. He’s only 14. He obviously doesn’t wanna be a dad. I’m planning on telling him in person tomorrow. Wish me luck. 😭
At 34, I'm listening to you explain how you felt when you saw your baby for the first time on the ultrasound screen and I cant help but to become so emotional. I pray that someday soon I will be able to feel the same joy, love and excitement you did. Getting pregnant isn't easy for everyone. There are millions of women who struggle with infertility, but it's not really brought to the light due to the feelings of shame. Should I someday have a daughter and she becomes pregnant at a young age, she will have my love and support as you did from your mother.
Also on the infertility path. Its crazy that our bodies could be ready for children much before we can maturely and socially care for them (with more ease, not to say this mama isnt doing a great job just because of her age)
I will personally be praying for the original poster and the commenter above. I was 28 and had tried for three years before we conceived my now six-year-old little girl. I thought something was terribly wrong as I had tried what seemed like everything! I tried calculating with apps, purchasing the daily ovulation tests & even with those saying I was ovulating and doctor saying there didn't appear to be anything wrong...nothing was happening and it was beyond devastating I couldn't even watch a TV show about people having babies or anything of the sort without losing my crap! I guess I'm saying all this to kind of build up to a little bit of I understand how you both feel and I just wanted to share what worked for me and my husband In Case by some wild chance it could work for you! I guess what worries me most about sharing this is that it might come across like I'm minimizing how someone else feels or, God forbid, give someone a tip that doesn't help them... But pushing that aside.... Menstrual cups got me pregnant! My doctor suggested that instead of sitting with my legs up for periods of time after sex that I could try holding it "in there" with period menstrual cups. I was pregnant in a month of this tip. Like I said, I'll be praying for you both 🙏
I know the feeling of wanting to get pregnant but it doesnt happen (we have tried for 2 years and 10 months now… put up a video recently of us taking a test that we really thought would be positive, but it wasnt… ). It for sure isnt easy for eveyone to get pregnant, but it can go in one time for some, so thats good to be aware of and educate about too❤ I really hope you get to experience the joy of becoming a mum soon❤❤
Don't give up. I was married for 17 years before I got pregnant with my first. I had just given up bc of age and health. I didn't kniw I was pregnant. 19 months later another baby. It's possible. Praying for thee. MAY GOD BLESS YALL 🙏
@@tracyparker550 wow thats amazing😍😍😍 that you got pregnant eventually! But can imagine it was many tears and questions on the way there. May God bless you and your family🤗
I just want you to know how extremely proud I am of you! You stepped up! I was a single mom , I was 26 when I got pregnant. Single moms can be good parents! We step up and we parent!
@Greg Machen bro why do u have to give hate?? Single mom is difficult and i agree, every child need mother and father figure both which morden feminists are denying
My mom gave birth to me at 25 (she was turning 26 that year). My father wanted her to get an abortion, but she chose not to, and had me 7 months later! Single mom's are amazing, and I've realized you guys struggle so much, - Aria from Nc
As a mom of 3, I'm so proud of you for owning being a mom - young or otherwise. You are tough and brave for everything you experienced and choosing your daughter over letting all the rude, ignorant people get you down. Lots of love and keep being a great role model for your daughter!!!!! ❤️
I feel like it's easy to get pregnant when you're trying not to, and hard when you are trying to. Either way, you sound like your little one brings you so much joy, which is fantastic to see. I wish you all the best!
This is it exactly, which is why it’s a shame to see these women get pregnant and have abortions while women who would love to be pregnant can’t have children…
@Luna Ski it's more a statistical thing. If there's a 1 in 3 chance of getting pregnant then that's a big margin for someone who doesn't want kids and a small margin for someone who does (that figure I just pulled out of the air to make this point)
@@katlyndobransky2419 Actually I think contraception and abortion are a woman's rights- and if you want less abortion there should be more contraception. If childless woman want kids in their life there are so many to adopt in the world. If I won the lottery I'd have biological and adopted kids/teens.
"Getting pregnant is so easy ". I was 37 with our first child and I was amazed at how quick it really was too. You are not alone in that. I am so sad that you didn't know about condoms. But happy that you have a beautiful child.
I was 21 and took me 2 years with my husband and then at 24 it took us 22 months :( it’s not easy for everyone which I think is why they do show the struggles more often now so people can understand the emotional stress related to pregnancies. 7 years late and over 7 miscarriages later but have 3 beautiful children ❤️ it’s amazing how we’re all so different
This is the first time I'm learning about you and your story. I can't imagine how painful it must have been to be ridiculed by all your peers during such a challenging time in life. You are very courageous and a beautiful woman with a bright future. Blessings to you and your sweet daughter. Thanks for sharing your story!
I simply cannot understand such evil comments from people you knew and people who didn't know you making such hateful and cruel attacks on you. Proud of you for not aborting her and making the choice to turn to God and turn your life into something positive. ❤
thereve been schmut articles thatve stolen her picture and situation to promote propaganda such as 'girl r@pped @12' and '14yo forced to give birth b/c theres no abortions' etc. all lies, in the ad articles at the bottom of the page. never clicked on em, but this popped up in my ytube, and i was like, huh. the real story, that ill take. such a wonderful story about an amazing girl. and horrific shame on any1 that wouldve given her a hard time. they are all just jealous haters thatll be fat, ugly n barren in about 10 years. this girl is hurtling circles around them at neckbreak pace.
Just realized I accidentally left in some raw footage at the end! oops, I just edited it out:)
Hi Maddi! I’m a huge fan! Can I have a shoutout?!
Schools shouldn't be teaching you sex ed, dear. That's the job of your parents!!!
@@dibutler9151 Thats not true.
I've heard your story before and it still Just makes me sick to my stomach that people bullied you so much and said those horrendous things about you and your baby.
I'm glad you had your family by your side. People forget once upon a time not too long ago it was completely normal to be a teen parent and to marry very young..
That is not true at all
Should you encourage teen pregnancy? No.
But if your child comes to you saying they are pregnant should you support them and make them feel loved? ABSOLUTELY YES.
And they need to have options
@@mayakuduwudu this is not the place
@@manicpixiecoffeelovr not the place for what, the truth? The truth casts no shadow on the fact that the owner of the channel is amazing, strong and very likely a great mother (if that's your concern).
Btw, "having options" goes in line with the original comment's opening remark "one shouldn't encourage teen pregnancies".
As for the second part "if your child comes to you and says they're pregnant -- make them feel loved" -- definitely yes. As for the course of actions after that -- totally depends on CHOICE.
I've taught my niece English and she watches a lot of English vids now. After she sent me this one with a comment "maybe this is what we girls should do", I decided to leave my comment. However, she might've been sarcastic. Gonna talk to her when I see her.
@@mayakuduwudu not the place for you to talk about abortion... and encourage it, rather than being strong and helping them through it instead you take the easy way out.
@@mayakuduwudu no one is encouraging, how about not encouraging teen sex how about that.
Your mom’s reaction to your pregnancy was impeccable. “It’s going to be okay, we love babies in this house” No more perfect words could have been spoken in that moment. That is a mother who showed her child pure love and support. Kudos to your mom!
You are soooo spot on!! Her mother is PRICELESS!!!👍🏻👏🏻👌🏻🇨🇦
If I ever become a mom this is how I'd react if my kid was pregnant
Lovely and beautiful story,you are blessed with such a mother,you mentioned something about praying and God in your story.I have no doubt your mother was in prayer for the outcome,God’s blessings is always there you just have to ask for it,and He will deliver, Amen?may God bless you ,your daughter, and your mother, and your family always. Amen.
Completely agree. You got caught getting pregnant. But, I fully believe God creates babies and for a reason. He decided you and your family needed this little girl. Glad your family was supportive instead of pushing you into an abortion. I am sure your the Lord had to speak to your mother's heart before she gave you her reaction. Blessings to you all.
Ikr!!! That was the most amazing part of the story for me. I can’t imagine how relieved she’d have felt… just think, you think your mum is gonna disown you and then she just hugs you and says THAT.💕💕☺️
you say "my daughter" with such pride and happiness its so beautiful.
That little girl is her EVERYTHING 😍 she's such an amazing mother. I'm 23, I have an almost 6 year old and an almost 3 year old, and I'm SO proud of Maddie and inspired by her
Thank you…I am proud of all five of my daughters …all beautiful, talented musicians and singers besides their careers and being wonderful mothers …and our youngest who is almost a mother, is a talented graphic designer just like her third big sister who arrested the Dallas Art Institute…and her oldest big sister who is the first in our family to get her masters in education, and her second big sister who is a smashing photographer, and her next big sister who is only 22 months older and who was in the Texas All State Band for three years and has her BA in Music Education…not to forget my youngest son who is the protector of his five sisters since we lost my oldest son and who is a super collision repair specialist and who knows how to do those fancy paint jobs on cars…yes, I am proud of them… true marvels and miracles of creation…I love them and all 21 of their children as well…mine, my mother’s, my grandmother’s and my great-grandmother’s legacies as well. Sometime we have to believe that our children and our grandchildren are the reason we were put on this earth. I have always hoped that my being an EMT-Intermediate for 7 years might have been part of the reason my oldest grand son has the word Doctor in front of his name. I believe all 17 of my grandsons and my three granddaughters are all destined to do something wonderful in this world and do something that will help mankind in some way…something to be proud of indeed.
“Arrested” the Dallas Art Institute…lol… now that would be quite a feat indeed…sometimes I do not understand autocorrect. My third daughter attended and graduated from the Dallas Art Institute but don’t think she ever tried to arrest them…oh, my, my.
I truly think that this young lady for what all she has been through is an amazing and outstanding mother and example for parents everywhere. Her daughter is a lucky little girl and she is a lucky daughter and mother as well. God knows what he is doing.
lmfao yeah cause it’s for the camera when yk she’s miserable on an average day
No one should make fun of or bully a pregnant teen. I'm glad your mom supported you through your pregnancy. Good luck with your college!
Nah theyre pregnant because they’re stupid and ignorant im 14 and i would never do that
Im living my age and ofc im not having a boyfriend and getting pregnant 😂😂😂😂😂
@@sofiavallepiyou’re really so obsessed with her that you start hating on her
For real life that's is so awesome.
13 is a little young and barely a teenager though. Some of us were still playongg with toys. Yikes
It frustrates me that in situations like this, the girl is always accused (being called names) whereas the boy isn't at all bullied.
I'm happy you made it out okay despite all that.
Great video, I'm proud of you too :)
And so goes the story that is as old as time…
Exactly... not that I want anyone to get bullied but like still... that isn't fair
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Yeah!
literally
I had a baby at 16: got pregnant at 15. I had to give her up for adoption and thought of her everyday. When she turned 46 she decided to find me and find me she did. We’ve had a beautiful friendship since then. She has 4 boys which I ❤️ love. I was unable to keep her. My parents were alcoholics and didn’t want to raise another one. Abortion was off the table and the year was 1967. No government help programs. No anything. Kudos to you for your girl, aren’t they the cuties? You have my respect and admiration.
You made the right choice for yourself and her, I hope both of you had a good life growing up.
I am so, so sorry you had to give up your child. The world was a harsh place for women then. It makes me sick to my stomach when one reads about the cruelty that was inflicted on women and children even up to the 1980s. I had friends who had babies at 16 & 17 in Scotland in the late 1970s. Still slightly scandalous- BUT the welfare rules changed and they were entitled to a small flat, a benefit and support. This was an enormous help to those genuinely in need, but one or a hundred saw it as a way to financial and actual independence- and took it. Those of us slogging away at University in damp, draughty flats with no money often envied those girls their little flats with central heating, secure income and bonny baby. Mind you, they had to put Uni on a back burner for a while!
I can't imagine what you went through emotionally. God bless you.
awwww that's sad and happy at the same time..
Nice
My mother-in-law got pregnant at 13 and had my husband at 14. This was 1969/70. Her family were also supportive. A few years later, she was diagnosed with a terminal illness and passed soon after she turned 21. I believe her early pregnancy was meant to be. She brought this wonderful person into the world and got to experience the joys of being his mom. When she passed, the blow was softened to her parents because she left behind this precious part of her that they got to raise.
Corellyn, that;s so touching. Yes, a blessing from God, how wonderful
Wow that's so sad
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He was gift from God.
I had my first child 2 months after turning 14 yrs old in 1987 , so i completely understand what you’re going through..I am now 50 and he is 36yrs old..YOU GOT THIS
I feel like you two are probably best friends. Thanks for sharing with us.
I had my first daughter at 15 in 1990. I'm 49 and she's 34. Although we are now best friends, it was really hard.
Good on you!❤
Same here ! Exactly same dates we share
I got pregnant at 17 in 1984. Thank goodness I had a right to choose because I would’ve been a crappy mom at that age.
My birth mom was 16 the entire time she carried me. I was adopted by loving parents who lived to be 92 and 99. I understand why my mom let go of me, and live her for carrying me. I have two daughters and eight grandchildren today. Best regards, Doug
My mom was adopted, she always prayed that her both mother was resigned with her decision . She was adopted by wonderful parents and was doted on as an only child. It takes great love to give up a child
Adoption is a wonderful thing. And it’s usually because a mother loves her child and wants more for her child and is why you were adopted. (Because a birth mother loves you ! )
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WOW
You seem like a nice man @ Douglas Fisher
My mother-in-law had my husband at 14. Her own father and step-mom gave her money to get an abortion. She didn't want to do it but her father told her he'd kick her out if she kept the baby.
She went to the clinic, paid the fee, and met with the nurse who brought her back to the procedure room.
The nurse told my mother-in-law, "You don't have to do this. You can keep the baby if you want."
Thank God for that nurse!!
Wow for sure. THANK GOD. FOR THAT NURSE❤
Well it’s her body, her choice. So if she wanted to have an abortion she should have been able to have one.
@@blumberg1982 So basically her husband's life was disposable? Wow.
@@MooJoo It wasn't a life back then. It only became a life *because* she didn't "dispose" of the fetus.
@@destituteanddecadent9106 You play with words to hide reality. Fetus is just the Latin word for "little one". That little one had all it's DNA on day one of conception and it's heart was beating by week 6.
So by "disposing" of him you mean kill him, since he was clearly alive even though he wasn't fully developed.
If you're okay with killing live babies, at least have the guts to say it.
I have a friend who got pregnant at 12 yo and had her son at 13. Her parents turned her over to social services when they found out she was pregnant. Her foster family became her real family. They raised her and her baby. Allowed her to be a child, go to school do extra curricular activities and taught her how to be a mother. She is 30 yo now, married and has a toddler. Both kids call her "foster" parents Nana and papa. Her biological parents completely cut her off. The biological dad was also 12. Him and his parents are very involved and paid support. She feels very fortunate the way her life turned out and having a family that cared.
I don't get it....why the western kids involve in something which is appropriate for adults
her real parents did good
Some blessings comes as disguises. Beautiful story.
@@classyart5322 exactly. It's a really really fked up world they live in. They all say their fked up stories so proudly too.
@@classyart5322 because there is no restriction in the society for having sex. It is not so something accepted bad before marriage
I started crying when you said that your mother hugged you, I was so happy that youor mother supported you and that everytihing worked out. I'm so sorry about all the bullying you had to go through you did not deserve that, you're so strong!
My mom straight up asked me if I might be pregnant. I finally admitted it outloud not knowing what the reaction would be. She said "your dad and I want you to know that even though we wish the circumstances were different, we love you and were actually excited to be grandparents." The relief that there was no anger or moral judgment, just acknowledging that being pregnant at 16 was going to be rough. Btw...I ended up having twins and they're amazing!
I'm really glad your parents were actually being good people towards you. I hope you and your twins are doing well!
@@kiwimiwi5452 They're doing awesome. They're 28 now and I'm having coffee with one of them this morning. :)
@@cherisola416 omg thats actually great to hear. im so happy for you!!!!!
You’re so blessed to have had a supportive 2 parent home.
Good for not having abortion ❤️
I was 14. Disowned. That was 49 years ago. My son is the most wonderful person I know. He has my 3 grand babies. ❤ It was not an easy journey but am so glad I loved us both through it.
Sad to hear. On another note, unsurprisingly nobody even mentions the fathers bacause it reminds of the bad choises and non-accountabilities. Nobody talks about how every fatherless child misses their father, but the issue can just be kept hidden.
A single mother hasn't wised up before she acknowledges and takes accountability for her poor choises which includes warning others.
It's not a question of being either worthy or wothless, all people have worth. It's a question of wise or unwise living without moral condemnments attached.
So glad you made it through and raised him succesfully!
so sorry you had to go through that, and i hope you, your son, and your grandchildren are having a wonderful life now 💗💗💗
@@haliaeetus8221Wow. You got problems, dude. Never speak or type again.
Same!!my son is 38!!I have 2 granddaughters!!
Your mum is amazing. She definitely had to hide her worries and fears from you, as you were just a child yourself. This is the parent I want to be. So sorry you went through so much. You are an amazing mother just like your mother 💕💕
that is teenagers for you
Oh yes! FOR SURE! Of course, she had 13yrs experience hiding her fears, worries, shock & anxieties from her child. Albeit, this was an extra big one, we parents are worried (& even terrified at times) for our children the moment they take their first breath. And we are masterful at hiding it.
Um excuse me she’s not a child she’s a teenager 13 not 3
@@mariadonkova2759 You realize a person's brain is not fully developed until they're 23
People telling her that they hope the baby dies just shows how evil people can be but I’m happy that she’s okay and has a healthy daughter 💗
What kind of lunatics would send messages to a 14 year old girl that they hope she dies, or that she should have an a bortion? That's completely unreal to me. I'm so happy to hear that you kept your daughter alive. That was a mature decision to make, right away.
It's awful to say, it happens a lot with teen pregnancy. I remember my mother telling me stories of all the awful things people used to say about her.
Probably other teenagers..
@@DL-idk If so, it is a real shame that their mothers did not step in. I can't imagine how I'd feel if I found out my own children were treating someone this way.
Maybe people who also had teen parents and weren't able to care good for them. A lot of this can stem from trauma. This is not an excuse but a reason
Dude. People who say this to teen moms, and are also "pro life" / "anti-abortion". They'd shame young women for choosing to keep the baby, and also young women who choose to remove the undeveloped fetus (within 1st trimester).
They don't want their daughters to have sex, but they let their sons to have sex with other people's daughters (even in their own homes). The mentality those kind of people carry are weird and pathetic.
The main roots for teenage pregnancy are bad childhood (bullying, child abuse, parents divorce etc) and the lack of communication between children and parents! I think parents should be more confident and mature enough to make children understand the consequences of teenage pregnancies via proper communication (NOT JUST GIRLS BUT ALSO TO THE BOYS)! But I do admire all the teen parents out there for their hard work and sacrifices to raise their children 💗💗
My parents just divorced like 5 months ago
@@simply_lena8196 I am sorry to hear that. Hope you will have a good and strong social support. I know it’s hard to convey my emotions through online but “BE STRONG AND HAVE MORE AND HIGH QUALITY RELATIONSHIPS FOR SOCIAL SUPPORT”!
Decent sex education for boys and girls, stopping the protests at family planning clinics, provide free contraception.
There are PLENTY of teen pregnancies from wealthy, non-abused, still together parent-families. I understand what you’re getting at. But have to disagree that the “main roots” are bullying or children of divorce. The main roots are indeed lack of communication AND lack of EDUCATION. Just like Maddi said, obviously teaching just abstinence is not working.
@@melaniebutson7933 seriously!
I’m in the Air Force and before you get deployed women have to provide a negative pregnancy test. They sent me to a planned parenthood clinic to get that test done and I was SHOCKED at the literal group of 50+ year old MEN shouting expletives and calling us all “baby killers” that were walking into the clinic…?? First of all it’s none of their business why women are there. But secondly the clinic obviously provides all sorts of services! One being PREGNANCY TESTS for the USAF. That day really really opened my eyes up. I couldn’t imagine being a pregnant woman and considering termination only to have to face a group of men screaming at you “baby killer”!?
The same thing happened to my sister and she went on to get her Masters in Sociology and had a successful career as a social worker (she’s retired now) and raised her daughter, who is also an amazing woman. You got this! Praying for you.
Amazing story. Somewhere there is a 13 year old girl searching the internet for help and finding your video and hopefully finding some comfort in it and finding the help they need.
I hope the 13-year-olds watch this and learn what not to do at 13. The age of social media has made things even worse for teenagers. My 21-year-old sister was approached by a 13 yr old fella from the neighborhood and he wanted to be "in a relationship" with her. She reported the incident to his parents and advised them to keep a tab on their son's behavior.
Yess!! I hope they find their comfort
im 13 and very glad i don’t have that problem.
@@shivinunitholi2493 lmao I'm 21 but I can't imagine anybody below 20 and me together
I rly hope this is not the common but well, everyone deserves a second chance v:
I am 61 yrs old & i was pregnant at 14. I was taken for an abortion without anyone ever asking me what I wanted. I was told this is what we are doing. It has never been mentioned again to this day by my mother. I am glad you had support. Getting over the guilt I had for the abortion took many, many years & a relationship with Jesus. I wish you more success for you & your daughter. God bless you both!
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@@shefinmathew1849 no they didnt, she literally just said they didnt even ask her if she wanted to have an abortion, youre sick
@@shefinmathew1849 yeah are you kidding me wth man i agree with @emz you are sick
@@maddiez3277 True!!!!! People need an big cup of reality...
@@shefinmathew1849 There is not a right thing in this situation. It is more complicated than that. Yes, a 14 year old should not have to raise a baby, but the parents of a 14 year old should step in and help while asking what the 14 year old would want.
I’m a 74 year old grandmother and this is such a sweet video. You are brave and need to be commended. Thanks for sharing.
aww so cute
Yo grandma i hope u still alive today
Almost crying by the end of the video. I was 19 when I had my first baby. I had to relocate because I couldn't bear the shame back then, but now, I don't regret getting pregnant.
Although I've never had the courage to share it until now. 😊.
Thank you so much for this video ❤
19? thats not even that young tho?
@@InterestingMC yeah really
@@InterestingMC 19 is still a teenager hence the words nine-teen years old. 19 is still a very young age to have to take on the responsibility of being a parent. She clearly stated how it made her feel so please don’t attempt to minimize her experience.
@@angelNdisguise252 I wasn't attempting to minimize her experience and I'm really sorry if it seemed like that way. I was just wondering. I just thought that because I know 2 people who married and had children at age 19, so I was just thinking that that is nothing to be ashamed of.
@@InterestingMC oh okay 🙂
i started cryng when she said “i would be dead without my daughter” she is a great mom, and a good example to her daugher. God bless her and her daughter❤️
Yes good example. Have a kid when starting 14y. I think she should be a president.
@@user-ru6lw4vt2p ikr? she should. u wanna support her?
love that
Well, sadly, this actually could have been true.
You see, just last February, a 14 year old girl named Adriana Kuch took her own life following a severe bullying incident in which she was assaulted on video and left unconscious. This made national news and drew a lot of anger towards the school for negligence in her case.
I believe that something similar could have happened to Maddie if she hadn't had Everly. In her case, the bullies likely knew that they would have gone to jail for a long time had they beat her up and killed her unborn child, so, in effect, Everly saved Maddie's life, even if they both nearly died in childbirth.
She gave her body as a child haha
Hearing your mom say “we love babies in this house” brought me back to the morning I called my mom in a panic at 5a after a positive pregnancy test. She told me the same thing. My mom is not perfect, but she has come in clutch when I have needed her most as a mom. Here’s to moms who come through when needed most 🍻
Brings tears to my eyes - what sweet moms! Making a note to be this kind of mom.
My mom shamed me publicly. I’m glad yours did not.
It was THE PERFECT response.
I think a lot of parents don’t have the luxury of the five minutes they need to make a loving response. Many have it blurted out face to face, and saying something stupid. Now some parents are just not right, not loving.
A good mom.
When your daughter was being resuscitated and you were hemorrhaging, your poor mother must have been terrified. So glad it all turned out for you. And you have come farther than many people twice your age! Congratulations!
Her mother should have explained to her how people get pregnant.
Getting baby means coming farther 😂😂😂😂! Man get a life animals on the street are farther too . Make them president of the country right now
How are people even supporting this??!! Like literally teen pregnancy is not a thing to be proud of. Children watching this should learn that they shouldn't do anything in their sensitive years. Like feed yourself first and then feed someone else. You will just become a burden on your parents, with no job and career. Like will you study or look after the baby. Are the countries dumb to even make a legal age for marriage?? This is totally unacceptable.
@@allfire8056 Calm down. No one here is supporting teen pregnancy. We’re supporting her. Although having a baby this young is reckless, she has obviously matured and is openly trying to educate the youth about the dangers of child birth by sharing her story
@@allfire8056 exactly how ruined this world has become ! She literally sold her dignity and people here are praising her like it's normal .
I had to choke back tears when you told of your mums reaction. I can never understand how some parents don’t support their children unconditionally. My ‘babies’ are now 17, 19 & 21 but I could never push them away regardless of what mistakes they may make in life. I would always be there. So I was choked up to hear how supportive your immediate family were, and I’m so happy that it all worked out for you and your daughter.
I know this video is a couple years old now and I’m just discovering it, so I’m sure your life has progressed further still. I wish you all the best in future endeavours and best wishes for your little family.
She just had a son a few weeks ago. She’s married, and has a beautiful family. Everly loves her little brother so much, and he’s very lucky to have her as a sister.
@@CassandraMarableaww thanks for the update. I’m so glad they are all happy and well ❤
@@misscazzybee No problem. I kind of watch her channel on and off so I just checked back in recently.
How about the fact that a 14 year old body isn't mature enough for child birth ? Or that her mother didn't give her any s*x ed ? She and her child could have easily died.
I’m so proud of you, I have followed you since Everly was a baby. I got pregnant at 15 and had my son 5 days after my 16 th birthday. I was only 25 weeks along. We spent 114 days in the NICU, they said he would never survive. I was treated horribly, but I showed everyone. He is now 23 and I own my own company. Your such an amazing woman and mom! 🥰🥰🥰
I wish I was that strong. I was mentally 12 at 15 so the idea of having sex was as distant as a space let alone giving a birth, definitely would not do it. I finished university, bought a flat, have an amazing husband almost finished my book, now time for a child.
You had a big desire to prove everybody wrong huh and now you're boasting about your success? Not everybody is successful when they have a child while they're still a child themselves, it's the height of selfishness to do so. I bet that you couldn't do it on your own if it wasn't for your mother or a large circle of people to help you! Again it's very selfish on your part. Imagine how much more successful you would have been had you waited to become a mother?
@@jillybean3688 Exactly, I always wonder who pays for the children needs when the mother is still legally unable to work full time. I would not do it to my parents. Too selfish.
@@jillybean3688 They were just sharing their experiences.. Pretty sure it isnt her fault that some are not successful. She is gladly blessed to have good people around her.
@@ZenitsuKunn no kidding. What's your point?
I would never kick my pregnant 14 year old out of the house. We are supposed to love our kids unconditionally.
Same
Wait did she get kicked out!?
@@preppyxstrangerthings3992 How about you watch the video?
@@saturn6563 I Did I just wanted to know incase I missed something sorry!
It’s okay don’t feel bad you were just curious
It completely blows my mind that STRANGERS, actual strangers sent you death threats for absolutely no reason?? Teenagers are scary. Also your mother is an amazing parent she didnt even think about disowning you instead she showed her support and love, thats how every parent should be :) You're a very strong person maddie
Right? Isn't Texas pro-life too? Ridiculous.
It completely blows my mind that strangers , actual strangers sent you death threats for absolutely no reason?? Teens
Teenager's and scary. Also your
Mother is an amazing parent she didn't even think about disowning
And it’s not even her fault for being pregnant at such a young age.
@@pencrunch6208 It's not her fault for being pregnant? So she didn't have unprotected relations with a guy then? What a strong and fierce person she is, getting herself knocked up at age 14, barely a teenager, if you think this is acceptable you seriously need to get psychiatrically evaluated!
Some people dont show this kind of selflessness and love towards their child as adults and you were able to put you daughter first while you were still a kid yourself. Thats incredible. You can tell how much you love her. She is lucky. Great job momma.
I'm the daughter of a teen mom and raising me at 17 was hard for my mother, and I saw it was, so I just think that you are so brave to go through what you went through.
I cannot even imagine that. I had no money at 17 yet, was at school , not 18 yet to find a full time job, my parents would have to pay for everything. That's why I would not do it to them as they did not have ant extra money to raise another child, not even a grandchild from money point of view. Love does not feed a baby.
@Kathia Perra What is wrong with you?? Hope you get insomnia for saying something like that, it should keep you up at night.
@Kathia Perra WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU
@Kathia Perra wtf is wrong with you????
@Kathia Perra What the hell? That is nothing to joke about. Getting deported is an awful thing.
I'm so astounded at how closely your story mirrors my own. I was pregnant at 15 and had my daughter at 16. My daughter's father and I were so naive and also weren't properly educated on the risks or how easy it was to become pregnant. One time. It only took one time.
One of my sisters thought she was pregnant and she convinced me to take a test with her and imagine my shock when I had the positive test result and she didn't. I was so stunned that it happened so easily. I thought it was really hard to get pregnant from all the TV shows and magazines and real life stories I had heard from adults that couldn't conceive no matter what they tried. I was terrified. I thought my life was over. A was still a child myself, developing into adulthood, having a literal human life growing inside of her.
I hid it for 2 or 3 months until my oldest sister who had guardianship of me at the time took me to the doctor for a UTI and I was trembling in fear because I knew what was going to happen at that doctor's office. The doctor asked me if I had been sexually active and I remember the look of disappointment and anger on my sister's face when I answered yes. I thought she was going to kick me out. I didnt have any other family members or friends to turn to and no job, no car. My aunt told me to get an abortion because having a baby would ruin my life and I wouldn't graduate high school or get a good job or enjoy my youth. But I refused. I was having this baby. And I was keeping her.
The students at my school looked at me differently. They would call me easy and say horrible things and that if I didn't want to hear them, then I shouldn't have spread my legs. People would look at me like I was disgusting.
My daughter's father's family was so supportive. They ended up taking me in and my daughter too, when she was born. I got a job immediately and was working as well as being a full time student, on top of being a new mother.
Her father and I did split up because we were still too young to know what we really wanted and had different priorities, but he's been there for our daughter whenever she needed him and is a great co-parent.
I proved my aunt wrong. I graduated high school, I moved out on my own, I got an amazing job, and there hasn't been a single day of my daughter being born that I regret. She literally saved my life. I was going down a dark road of depression from my grandma who raised me passing away suddenly, before I got pregnant and I know that if I didn't have her, I would be in a completely different and probably much worse place. She is my miracle.
Even today, people are incredibly shocked when I tell them my little girl just turned 15 and is heading into high school as a freshman and I'm only 31. I look like a 15 year old myself, haha.
I wouldn't change a thing about having her when I did. We're have such a close relationship and have so many silly stupid jokes together and every day with her is a true gift from God. I will never take her for granted or make her feel anything but my ultimate support and love for her. I've made sure to give her all the advice I wish someone had given to me when I was younger. All we can do is our best and hope for the best for our children.
I'm so happy for you. I wish you all the best as a fellow young mother!
Thank you for telling you’re story. I wish many more happy memories with your family! 🥰
Wow you’re very smart how you handle the situation it makes me so happy
God bless you for your strength.
so? you had a normal life, 15 is when people start fucking
Good for you, We’re all very proud! Like you said, young teens don’t understand the consequences, which should be stressed more in society. Humans react on instinct, having sex being one of those instincts. It’s good to know that you’re taking care of your daughter teaching her things you wish someone taught you. I wish more moms did that for their children
The most shocking thing about your story, is the hate and negativity that people threw at you, I don't understand why people can be so cruel, you're a tough and courageous person and I respect and admire you so much. Be Blessed always.
that was the least shocking for me.... people always bully teen moms. the father was doing just fine living his life normally, i bet
The girl looks like she’s out to get knocked up. It’s obvious proud of herself
Meanwhile it’s illegal what she did and the sperm donor
Why is that shocking we live in a crooked society
people see no boundaries anymore
I can understand why people would be a little judgmental but the death wishes against her and her baby are NOT okay. And people don’t realize that she was so young and unprepared. We cannot blame teen girls for our failure as a society to educate them.
"I prayed every single night...I wasn't scared for me...I was scared for my daughter."
This tells me so, so much about your character. That sets a standard that none of the people who sent you nasty messages could live up to.
BTW, my mom gave birth to me at 13; she became pregnant a couple of months after her 13th birthday and gave birth about a month before her 14th. I am by far the most successful person in either my mom's or dad's family, which just goes to show that you should never, ever give up on a kid. They are resilient and will surprise you when you least expect it.
Your birth story is similar to my that of my daughter. My wife got to 40 weeks, and we still weren't parents yet, so out came the Pitocin. Things started progressing rapidly, and they put one of those scalp monitors on her. My wife got to 10 cm, and with every contraction, my daughter's heart rate dropped. So they wheeled my wife in for a C-section, and that's how our little girl came into the world.
"we love babies in this house" that almost made me cry, I think thats the best answear, keeping that phrase in my mind ...
Especially when they wake you up in the night screaming
My 15 year daughter got pregnant and my first thought of her and my grandchild’s health physical and mentally. She later in her twenties had 3 more all girls. Everyone in our family supported her. First born starts law school soon. My daughter did married in early 20’s. I was lucky to be able to be able to watch new baby half day why daughter finished hs. Grandpa and her uncles were adoring. It is sad parents don’t support their kids. One thing important is for the the grandma Mimi not to take charge.. it could undermine the teen mom. Our roles were clear naturally.
This young woman and her mom have my heart And my huge smile and a tear in my eye . Smile
🎉❤@@sandionaran1454
TTS PFP SPOTTED
It's not. That poor girl could have died. It's a miracle her and her child survived, the mother was incredibly irresponsible for putting her daughter and grand child's life on the line.
Stumbled upon this video randomly. I am 26 years old, my mother is just 41 (turns 42 this year) I was born 2 months after she turned 16. Sadly she wasn't able to properly raise me, therefore I was raised by my grandparents. Nowedays my mom and I get along very well. The more adult I became, the better we got along with each other. Because of me, so to say, she couldn't grow up properly, because of her young age, I couldn't grow up properly to, but many years later, as we both grew up indipendently, we became mother and sun, almost like best friends. Only sixteen years apart from each other we are liking some of the same TV shows as a kid, we have the same opinions, same feelings sometimes. We have a strangely deep connection even tho we could not grow up as a "normal family"
Sorry if my grammar and stuff is bad, I'm no native english speaker
WOW! I am 41 with no kids... Reading this and thinking that I could have a 26 yr old made me almost faint!
I loved reading this.
That’s an amazing story. Thank you for sharing. Finding yourself pregnant so young must be so scary, your Mom did what was best for you at that time by allowing your grandparents raise you, that must have been extremely tough for her but so selfless. It’s so heartwarming to hear you have such a beautiful relationship with your Mom now 🥰
Im 43 and have a 27yr old. She will be 28 in a few months. I have an awesome 8yr old grandson
Loved your wonderful story 💖
I’m almost 30 years old and about to try to have a baby for the first time and I can’t imagine anything scarier - and to do it as a child yourself. You are an incredible woman. So glad you and your daughter have a happy ending to your story ❤️
You gotta read Childbirth Without Fear, an old book by Grantley Dick-Reid! Ignore the women with horror stories to tell. Talk to some women who had good experiences. Maybe watch some Hipnobirth videos to see women giving birth naturally and peacefully. That book really helped me. The childbirth class wasn’t much help. It will teach you how to relax and WHY (basically, if you don’t your muscles are pushing the baby back up in the wrong direction and fighting the contractions). Sorry, I get excited about childbirth. Hehe. If you’re not pregnant yet write those things down for later. I’ve given birth 8 times. The only slightly negative experience was when I had a controlling midwife who wanted to hurry and go home. 🙄 It is the most amazing experience and I hope you get to experience it! Also, a really good midwife will educate the heck out of you and support you sooo much more than a doctor. 😬 They are usually so much more knowledgeable than an MD about labor and delivery and in PREVENTING a lot of problems. Well, that’s prob way more than you wanted to know. 😆
Stay strong i had at 37 it was very hard
Oh and my last baby was born when I was 45 (almost 46!).
me to, but after 7 months of trying still no luck.had one miscarriage already. start to think that i am not able to have a baby. and the fact that my mum is miss negative so support from her is not a given.
@@MsDruup be sure you are taking a good prenatal now to increase your chances. Good nutrition matters.
As a maternity nurse for over 40 years I have seen countless moms become better persons. One mom that lost her baby at four months old. Her boyfriend broke up with her, she knew she was having a baby with a terminal genetic condition. She was only twenty. She came back to our unit after her baby died and told us how her life had changed. I still remember his name…Mathew. God bless you and your precious daughter.
I am a 70 year old woman. I enjoyed listening to your story and I’m glad things have worked out for you. God bless you, sweetie!
My take away from this story: as a parent it is a MAJOR part of your job to explain the consequences of having sex to your children. It’s not the schools’ job. It’s yours. These conversations should be taking place routinely. No shame. No awkwardness. Just plain facts. Prepare your children for the reality of what might happen. Have an open line of communication early. This is not to say it won’t happen but these conversations will minimize the chances.
14:07 - I’m sorry for what people did to you while you were pregnant, but you are so strong and wholesome! You daughter is so lucky to have you as her mum.
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@@nj-bu6ux what?
Your mother's reaction is beautiful. My dad had a similar reaction when he found out I was self harming at 14. I thought he'd be angry and disappointed and I was so scared. When my mom told him and he called me into his room to talk, I thought for sure I was going to be talked down to. Instead he pulled me in for a hug and said "its okay. Its going to be okay, I love you".
The way we respond to our children in hard moments programs their inner voice. Handle with care.
Your dad was awesome! Kids need love and support and not punishment! I’m crying reading all these comments 😭
what an amazing dad
@@Pferdefan21 so sorry that your mother responded that way.
@@Pferdefan21 im so sorry. I hope that you find someone that understands you.
And hang in on there. Things will get better one day 🕊
@@Pferdefan21 my mother reacted in a similar way
What many people don't understand is that there are kids that have sex and it's the education that can determine how safe they are with sex. It's so normal for these things to happen and the ignorance that some adults show is not going to change that. You are an amazing, loving mother and I can tell you care for your daughter so much. I'm about your age now (2 years after this video was posted lol) and couldn't imagine being in your position 6 years ago. So proud of you.
Sex should not be normalized for minors
What I liked most about your whole story was your mother's action, when the doctor told her and she came to you, hugged you and said it was going to be okay, that everyone in that house liked babies. I got emotional about it. Congratulations to her. And congratulations to you for the courage to face everything you faced. God bless you and your family.
Ana
Its good to supoort ur daughter in this bt bt ......is this mother thinking bout her daughter's health does she know for a 14 yr old girl its soo difficult emotionally n physically to carry a child,,all the teenagers should really be aware wht they r doing sex just for fun is not funny ,its just one time pleasure and lots of responsibility n mental damage in long run.
@@kashishkohli9967 she mentioned in the video that she didn’t have proper sex ed. also, while obviously it’s not ideal for such a young person to get pregnant, especially from a health perspective, she clearly wanted to have the baby, and it would not be anyone’s place to push her to get an abortion.
for most people, it’s extremely emotionally traumatising to have your agency taken away in that type of decision, hence “my body, my choice”.
I think that families' economic situation/s may also come into play, it doesn't matter who likes and or loves babies unfortunately that doesn't feed babies. Sometimes parents would like to support their children in whatever decision they are comfortable making but also some kids can't see the full ramifications of their decisions and that would be a huge concern of mine. Also some parents no matter how much they love their children are tired and don't have the emotional or physical energy for various reasons to help their kids through it. It's irresponsible for people to paint a narrative of parents who aren't allowing their 14 year old to make their own decisions as insensitive or uncaring(not saying that's what you're doing).
@@kashishkohli9967 teens having sex responsibly don't have mental damage in the long run. Unless you have a judgmental, mostly, men who demand their wives are virgins. You wouldn't even realize how many girls/women get their hymen closed back up so it seems they are virgins .
Demanding to see blood as proof of her virginity is also old. Not everyone bleeds with their first time, and men going beserk for saying their woman is a slut and whore when she really was a virgin should educate themselves and be less of a conservative uneducated dickface.
Oh and uhm, let's all make sure that men are Just as much of a virgin,ok? Double standards are so Middle Ages.
Maybe I think maybe she feels that a kid in your house is pregnant at 13 years old and just realised "I never say anything to her about her body or boys etc..."she feels guilty .
I was pregnant and had a baby at 17... I put myself through college and got a Masters in Counseling degree. Both my kids are 30 and 27 now... Good for you for choosing life and looking past all the hate.. I'm proud of you for all that you have accomplished
You all dared to take on a life and won abortion is not
Always the answer properly not the answer this Is proof
I’m pregnant and 16 I’m 13 weeks and 5 days pregnant, I will give birth 5 days before I turn 17
Same here I got pregnant at 13, gave birth at 14. Am now 32 years and my daughter she's now 17. Being a single parent ain't a joke. Single moms can be good parents and also raise good children
How did u give birth it would age hirt a ton
Single mom too
Most criminals and degenerates come from single mother households these are actual statistics, women are good nurturing but not good at discipline & teaching to control emotions.
@@maryangellanadunga1356Are u also single mom..
How old u r
@@LazyASMR123 Once you are in labor, there is no choice. It is happening.
My cousin had her 1st baby at 14 as well, her second by 17, and her 3rd by 19. She had all her kids by her childhood sweetheart, and they married. She's now 44. Kids are all grown, now she travels everywhere! She loves going to bew places. I can't even lie, she was a great mother even as a kid. The point is, we all have challenges in life. But never let them keep u down bc majority of the time, it gets better. Im happy u didnt allow this to keep u down. Now ur married with a little boy too! Crazy how life works sometimes. Be blessed.❤
People are just disgusting - and sadly, they’re even more disgusting when they judge those who are not in the same position as they are. I wish you and your child the very best, and I sincerely hope that all the cruel, nasty, vicious-minded and vicious-mouthed people who criticised you will one day get their due come-uppance…
yeah but bruh ppl should really REALLY start teaching their kids bout these stuff...
not blaming her just saying.
@@tsuchus exactly!! Its’s not hard to understand that you can support someone individually & lovingly, while at the same time trying to educate & warn other young people that this is definitely not the wisest life choice to make at *this particular life stage* and only children, weirdos and other immature fools/trolls won’t grasp this super easy & basic duality.
@@ns2110theonly yea :)
@Space The whole point is that once a situation has occurred, making judgements on it and criticising someone who has learnt from their mistakes achieves nothing. Especially when you have never been in her position and apparently lack the empathy to put yourself in her shoes.
Instead parents should be educating their kids so that this doesn't happen... people aren't stupid we're well aware that pregnancy is caused by sex and we're also aware that a 13 year old having a child is a major cause for concern. But the point is she is sharing her story to raise awareness and to prevent her past from being someone else's future.
And if your (imaginary) 13 year old child was pregnant yes I imagine you wouldn't be happy but I would hope you would still support her and understand that these things don't happen without reason. Maybe you should be questioning your skills as a parent and reflecting on your role as a parent in guiding your child to make the right decisions. Engaging in a little more critical thinking would do you well.
Bruh I crap-talked her. She deserved it. They’re 13 and were friccing. THIRTEEN. They shouldn’t be doing that when they’re that young.
i'm watching this on international women's day and your story really shows how strong and resilient women are! I'm 27 and can't imagine going through an unplanned pregnancy right now... i cannot fathom what it must have been like for you. thank you for being vulnerable and happy international women's day!
she's not wrong when she said that teen pregnancy is higher in texas 💀. All the girls I went with in middle school already have children , either right now and highschool pregnancies 🤷🏻♀ i'm 18 almost 19 at the moment and yeah it's scary out here lol, even my friend has a baby who she got pregnant with at 16
What, that’s so sad😭. Texas needs to teach them. Giving pregnancy at a young age could be really dangerous, maybe the mom dying.
They should teach a lot of teens that sex at a very young age is risky and can at least wait for their 20s
And then they call America a "first world nation" lol
They should teach comprehensive, scientific, fact-based sex education, not the religiously motivated abstinence-only nonsense that reliably results in situations like Maddie’s. Simply telling young teens not to do something is a pretty good way to increase the odds that they will do that thing. No amount of telling them that it displeases God will stop it and never, ever has. Want to decrease abortions, teen pregnancy, and STI’s? Me too. You do that by doing what has been proven time and again to work. Ditch the fear and loathing and teach the facts - all of them.
I cried during the entire video 😭 You're so strong and brave!
I’m so glad your mum’s reaction was the complete opposite of what you’d expected.
Because a smart mum knows that her young, pregnant daughter is feeling a lot of emotions, and fear, and hormones, and a lot else, and a good, smart mum knows that the very last thing that same daughter needs is to feel shame, pressure, or like she’s alone on this new scary journey.
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Kid having a kid. I cannot imagine going through this and you've gone through this. Omg. You're so brave! Bless your life and your baby's.
I’m 13 now and i cannot imagine how hard it would be to be a mother at 13! Proud of you babe❤
I’m so proud of you, and so happy that you and your daughter have each other. Kudos to your mother, who knows how to be a truly loving parent-and set a phenomenal example for you.
Thank you for posting this. At 20 yrs old I was drugged and raped by a co-workers boyfriend. I became pregnant. My family loves babies also: they were great. I hadn't shared that I was raped. They loved on us. I was asked by a co-worker why I wouldn't get an abortion. I said, this is my baby. It has my DNA, my parents DNA, grandparents DNA, etc. My son is a wonderful young man, married with a daughter. I wouldn't change my years as a single mom ❤️ I met and married a great guy. We had 3 children. God bless you , your family, and precious little girl ❤️🕊️❤️
I'm proud of you 💕
Wow what a sad horrible but yet beautiful and amazing story!! ❤️❤️❤️ 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
So proud of you ❤
You have seriously matured so much. You can tell just by the speed you're speaking at. The transparency you now have for the sake of sharing a message that is real and genuine.. (I think your channel started to counter already existing hate & almost prove something to others and urself to only see even more hate appearing online ya know).. it's astounding. I can see 4 years w your daughter has given you a lot of patience and gratitude. You should be incredibly proud of yourself. You are doing fantastic mama 💛
I completely 100% agree with you. She really has matured. It's in her voice and in the way she carries herself. I'm so very proud of her.
I loved the part where you said that all your fears disappeared when you saw your baby 😭😭 that happened to me too! (And I had my baby at 33) everybody says that having babies is a bad decision but I think having them too late is worst, less energy and a harder time to be generous and to adapt easily to your new life, kudos for you and the great job you're doing for your baby 😍
I had my daughter at 46, and she's the joy of my life. Yes, I'm more tired than when I was a young mom, but I'm also a more patient and present mom.
@@signdebb Please take care of your health and try to make sure she is OK with you being an old mum because I was in the same situation and since I was 20 I started being TERRIFIED of losing my parents.
@@Serena-or7sl that is definitely a fear that my daughter has, however, I also had a fear of losing my parents when I was a child, and they were young when I was born. I think the fear if losing a parent is a fear that many children have, regardless of their parents age. I have talked to my daughter about this, and about the fact that nobody gets out of this life alive. The best we can do is love each other and appreciate the time we have while we're alive. Knowing that our time on earth is limited, we should try not to take anything for granted. Take care ~
i agree. i waited until i was 30 before i even considered it. then i was like, crap i better hurry if i want 3. i ended finally pregnant at 31, had her at 32, and we almost died due to the severity of my hyperemasis. not fun. i ended up with 1 more at 37 (ironically less hyperemasis as i was older) and Lord have mercy on me, i wish i did it 10 years sooner😂
It makes all the difference in the world when the pregnant mom and dad have their families support. So glad you're doing so good with your life and your daughters.
Maddie im am now 55 years old and my son is going on 41 years old. I fell pregnant at 14 and gave birth at 15.. I was like you.. I didn't really know how it happened I was so naive
I had my son I named him kai
And back then it wasn't a name much heard of... but I kept him and loved him all of his life... I gave him 2 more brothers from a different daddy but I married the last 2 boys dad... it didn't last forever but that's ok....
I love my 3 sons so so much... and I now have 5 grandkids...
Sending love from Australia hunni
U got this
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You sound like a positive lady. Good for you. I hope you and your kids are very happy.❤
@@user-od1fm3hs9c
Thank you
Thank you
I love my sons with all of my heart
They will always be my babies
Even tho now my youngest is 31years old...lol....
My middle child is 35 almost and my eldest 41 next bday... I'm 55 ... it was hard going but worth every single struggle I had to go through... we are very lucky tho in Australia the government pays us fairly good money every 2 weeks to get you by... but its still not that easy...
@@debfisher7593 I truly believe that children are the best gift of life. Our love for our children gets us through life's struggles. I didn't have my first one until 34. I take my hat off to any young lady who brings up a child, as it is hard work. Rewarding work though. You sound very relaxed about your marriage ending. Did your ex continue to be involved with the kids? I am currently going through divorce. I dont feel as relaxed as you sounded. I know life goes on though and I will focus on raising my kids.
@@user-od1fm3hs9c would you encourage your kid to have a child at such a young age guy disgusting idiots.
@@dripxenseixensei3822 - No I wouldn't encourage it. But if it happened, I would not make them feel bad. I would give them my love and support and help them.
Although being pregnant at 13 is not a good thing, yet when I heard that she suffered from anxiety and bullying before it somehow not reasonable to judge someone without knowing their full story. She's so wonderful and really pretty indeed.
it is not any bad thing for a teenage to become mom Or to be pregnant.
But their families should be supportive & . Nowadays young boys girls especially girls are too much interested to be relationship with boyfriends...
And they do physical relationship without using protective measures.
And they should also focus on their studies....
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And it is not ever body cup of tea for a teenage girl to become 🤰pregnant..
It needs lot of patience and courage...
But they should also focus on their studies & Health...
It sounds like it was a good thing for her. She said it saved her life.
I almost started crying when she just about started. I swear girls are connected, but she is soooo strong. I love this
She is not strong since she cant be by herself without a man and focus on herself!!!
@@ArtIsDrawing did you watch the video at all
@@ArtIsDrawing she was able to keep the baby being a single mom, gave birth, and now has her daughter that she worked hard for. She is strong because she went through this by herself as a teen- can u imagine how hard that is?
@@ArtIsDrawing wtf did you watch the video? It seems like you just commented
I'm so glad that your mum was so supportive! That is amazing. It's a direct contrast to my own experience, I was older than you were but I was still shamed horrendously for it, made to feel like I was the worst person in the world, and had messed my whole life up, disappointed everyone and generally like it was a terrible terrible thing. I look back and I think how awful to treat someone like that, it may not be what we would choose for our child, but there's no reason for the shame. A baby is a blessing, a wonderful bundle of joy, even if it's a challenging road. It's left me traumatised for the rest of my life.
Anyway I love hearing stories like this, they're heart warming.
To hear something like : "you daughter might not make it" at the age of 14 is unimaginable so heartbreaking. Like Maddie is here telling us that Everly was her reason to really live and to be told that as a mother, not only as a 14 year old but a mother, is so hard.
Then the fact that Mads had to go through criticism, and bullying is just another sick topic on its own.
You're so strong Maddie 💕
You daughter might not make it at 14 is unimaginable so heartbreaking. Like Maddie is here telling us that Everly was her reason to really live and not only as a 14 years old but a mother , is so hard . Just another sick 🤢 topic on its own.
I think not openly talking to children and pre-teens about sexuality and not educating them about sex when they enter puberty is a huge mistake. I'm happy everything is working out for you and wish you and your family all the best.🤗🤗🤗
So true, and it’s 100% up to the parents. When my kid asked how babies were made i didn’t tell her a mommy & daddy had to get married bla blah blah- I told her in understandable terms how babies are made as scientifically as I could. I never had to have “the talk”because she knew all about puberty, hormones, periods, that sex makes babies, intercourse (not super graphic just whatever was age appropriate as she grew) birth control, and everything else that comes with living in a human body from day 1! It has never been uncomfortable because I didn’t make it that way. It’s not up to the schools or church to teach my child- that’s my job.
@@krystal6137 I wish that more parents were like you!
I don't think it's fair to blame your school. You should've been talked to by your parents.
@@vickie1731Yes. 100% if a 13 gets pregnant, it's a FAIL on the parents. A 13 year does not need to date, much less sleep around. She should have been enjoying new friends and enjoy the little things.
You are right. My mother never told me about this. I was being fooled all the time by saying that babies come from the sky until I slowly get to know about this from others and it was a huge mess then
A few comments: Just came across. 1. I loved this uplifting video in the midst of deplorable world events. I needed that. Thank you. 2. Why did you have to move out? I would’ve kept my daughter until college graduation if I could. Your parents appeared very supportive. 3. Absolutely bizarre how many hecklers there are. I grew up in Sweden. There were some teenage pregnancies, and one or two births. Very few since we have sex education starting in 5th grade and it’s part of Biology class from 7th grade & repeated each year grade 8 & 9. It includes girls visiting the local doctor’s office for additional education on Birth Control and scheduling of individual appointments for prescriptions if so requested + free condoms & education how to use and their limitations. Parental involvement is zero & each individual have the freedom to decide for themselves. I was shocked when I moved to the US how backwards many states and counties are. Denial of the human sexual drive isn’t productive for the individual, nor optimal for the overall costs for the state. I recall one couple in 10th grade in my school of maybe 600 students had a baby. They continued normal schooling, lived with their parents, and occasionally brought the baby to school with them. I didn’t know them well. I never even heard a single negative thing about them, unless you count the occasional concern how they would plan their college years with a young kid. I did see many occasions with girls gushing over the cute baby. Boys were boys and gushed very little, but no negative expressions at all. I’m sorry you had to go through that.
She didn't have to move, that's something she chose for her daughter and herself. She's an adult now, financially stable, responsible, etc. So it's only natural that she go out on her own, being a wonderful example for her little girl.
They also need that space of their own, instead of just a bedroom and bathroom. I'm sure she feels much better having her own kitchen, laundry, bathrooms, etc. Those things are important, they can really help a person feel accomplished and proud!
She's doing what so many her age, in the same situation, would never do. And that's definitely something to be proud of!!
I was that girl trying to take my baby to class. I felt so ashamed and judged in the grade below me from time missed. I think my science teacher passed me because he felt sorry for me🥺
Teen pregnancy - it’s the fastest way to grow up🙃
@@kendramandisa Of course. But life is hard. Direct support is important. 18 is adult only on paper. It’s a random number unrelated to biology, and actual adult biological age based on brain development is ~25 (unless you want to set the bar at puberty, then adult is 11-13 somewhere). Raising a child is hard despite all the love you get in return. I was 30 when my firstborn arrived. I had a career & a wife. It was still hard work, and my career took me far away from both our support networks. It was extremely noticeable when we later for six months moved in with my parents. Enormous difference. Even financially. Hence my question. But there are many variables like you say, and like everything in life it’s a question of evaluating opportunity costs.
@@bossthefluff agree with you 💯 totally
As you've found, the U.S. is extremely conservative in terms of sex being a taboo subject, abortion rights, compulsory education. I don't see it changing, unfortunately. If anything, we're going backwards... :(
You're so strong as a teenager, and your mum was so loving and supportive. I guess she inspired you to be a good mum yourself.
Sex Education is so important. There is so much responsibility and body changes that occur when having a child at such a young age.
It's nice to hear you talk about your back story and are real about it💙
Abstinence was taught to her in her school.. She talked about that.. But then she says that teenagers are not going to listen to abstinence.. So, it's her fault
@@indicphilosopher8772 You do know what teenagers are don't you, because you seem a little....
@@indicphilosopher8772 Abstinence is in no way sex education. It’s ridiculous.
@@verityh4918
Abstinence is best while humans are teenagers.. Just like cigarettes.. So having sex in teenage is ridiculous.. It harms humans.. Even science recommends the same thing.. But then when it comes to sex.. It is such a strong instinct that people throw common sense out of the window.. But then you will have to face consequences.. Liberals don't like that.. But actions do have consequences..
Yeah, because common sense is the first thing you think about when you think about teenagers. Having sex as a teenager is perfectly fine if you've had good sex education and use contraceptives and nothing you say will change that reality. If anyone is at fault, it's the education system and her parents who missed out on properly educating her.
Maddie,
I am 15 and recently lost my V-Card and told my mom two days later (one week and one day before i am writing this) i was so so so scared that i was pregnant. when i told my mom we had to break up which absolutely sucks sm bc he was my first love. it has completely gotten spread around my high school. your story has honestly helped me realize just how lucky i am. there was also no protection. your story has helped me realize that my life isn’t over. it will get better. thank you so much Maddie.
much love from Oklahoma,
Aubrey
You have a good mom. I know it probably sucked and might still suck now, but she made you break up for a good reason. At fifteen you can not legally consent to having sex.
Boo, you're life is NOT over!!! It has barely even begun! And when you really do fall in love, you'll think of this moment and realize how small of a blip in your life it was.
@@jeanettegood3676bro
I agree with your mom sweetie, ik it hurts now and you’re heartbroken but one day you’ll understand and thank her for it. Keep yourself for the man you marry, if they respect you, care about you and love you, they will wait. Guys are always cool when they do it and girls are sluts which is totally wrong and not true, try not to let them bullies get to you because I guarantee you that those girls have been with way more than you. Just respect yourself and save yourself for someone who will do the same and not spread your personal private relationship all over just to look cool. Stay strong hun, you will get through this. I have been in your shoes and girls are sooo mean. Hold your head up high and ignore them.
@@R0TT3N_B0N3S Well legally there's usually an exemption if its between two minors that are close in age and not too young (Romeo-and-Juliet exception). In Oklahoma there's an exemption if they are both between 14 and 18.
became a mother at 14? already bought 2 cars?!! already bought a house?!!!
You are really the definition of a: GIRL BOSS💅🏼💅🏼✨✨
Not to mention got seriously bullied, had a few mental problems, had multiple occasions of problems with pregnancy/birth am they both made it out absolute queens. I say both of them are more than girl bosses, something higher than my vocabulary goes
@The Poop Chronicles Well she sure had to go though a lot and loves her kid to not everyone would do that
YASSS SLAYY QUEEN
...back in the day.
buying 2 cars and having a house at such young age is for sure a W, but it isn,t right being pregnant at 14.
I got pregnant at 17 and my mom reacted with a" you won't live in this house with a baby!!!" I aborted at two months..still regret it 20 years later. I am 38 this year and have no hope for the child I want.
Awwww I hope u will get a baby!
My daughter had her daughter when she was 16 years old and I have never known a better mother in my life. She is a great mother.
i am very proud you did not kick her out! i am sure she is an amazing mother!
Girl, you are a strong woman. I am 52 years old and listening everything you said make to understand a little more young people. Sometimes, we the “older” use to forget when we were 13, 14 and so young to take the right decision. You did it good, and thank you for to share your story.
I had my son at 15, I agree that it saved me as a person and made me a better person. He’s on his way to be a cardio thoracic surgeon now and was accepted undergrad into MIT. I couldn’t be prouder of him and since we grew up together we are really close. I’m glad you are okay and in a good space. We’re lucky because it doesn’t always turn out that way.
That's awesome 💓 ... And way to go for your son!!!
Congratulations proud mama ❤👏
You keep saying 'naive', but honestly, you were 13 and not being educated! The system failed you by not teaching you something you had no other way of knowing! You deserve more credit, you were clearly an incredible young woman to be able to get through such an arduous journey and come out smiling with both you and your daughter happy and healthy, especially with a long history of mental health issues. . . I'm stunned by the amazing person you are honestly. Wish you both the best 💖
Well technically she was naive because if she wasn’t she would’ve known the consequences but what has happened has happen i am so happy she kept the baby and i hope she has a wonderful life experience is the best teacher 😊
@@Belleplaysgames600 that's weird for you to say you're happy she kept the baby 😂 it has nothing to do with you. I'm happy she had a choice back then.
@@hayleym1012 I’m tryna say I’m happy she didn’t abort the baby and is now happy with the end result i meant no harm really 😋
Not the « system », her mother. It’s the mother responsibility to raise their daughter.
If you think the system failed Maddie, look up the suicide of Adriana Kuch. The system failed her in a much more gruesome and sad way.
i love how she didnt start crying while talking ab the hate she got and then instantly started getting teary when talking ab her daughters health girl you are so strong
I got pregnant at 16 and I see myself in your story . Now I am almost 35 years old and my daughter is 18 years old. She is my best friends ❤️
God bless you ❤️
That’s the great thing about a teen mom you can reflect on how a child thinks because not long ago before you were pregnant you new how you like things and I think that it is good for a closer relationship with your child. I wish you and your child the best of luck!!
Girl, you do you, it was none of anyone else's business, I'm not encouraging but those people should be supporting not critizing, you are a strong person.
You aren't the only one who was pregnant at 13... don't feel bad. I'm glad you had great support. You'll love it when you're 30 and your baby is in her teens to early 20s. Look at you now... own house at 18... millions of subscribers and probably a millionaire. Congrats to you! Proud of you too.
millionare? she said she's saving up money, where did you get millionare from?
I was pregnant at 16, had my son 11 days to turning 17, and yes, I totally get it when you said your baby saved your life. 32 years later on my story, I am convinced that my son SAVED me, this young man has been not only my son, but my best friend, my confident, my true soulmate, my best teacher in the life lessons that usually you miss, my motivation to stay sane. I do hold my experience very close to my heart, however, I’m very concerned when I meet teenage moms, pregnancy is not always an easy trial, parenting is the deepest experience in life and life happens only once.
This girl is very mature, but still young. If that makes sense. I glad that her story turned out for the better, but her story is an exception. I agree with your message. I’d rather not shame a pregnant teenager, because life happens, but sometimes these narratives can encourage girls to think that it’s easier than it is. So I hope she puts a disclaimer in the future.
It’s not just the schools job to teach you about sex Ed!! Parents are who also need to step up! I also am a teen mom had my son at 19! He will be 16 this years. But you have done really well!
This! If you know the schools in your country don’t teach about sex ed, teach your side yourself. No matter where your child learns it from, it’s important your child learns it
The funny thing is: many parents teach the birds and bees. MOST teens think it won’t happen to them.
19 is a young adult. Absolutely not comparable.
Even if struggles can exist at any age
19 is drinking and voting age in our country. Which means a full fledged adult. This girl was 13 when she had her baby. A world of difference.
Not to mention a fully developed body that is actually ideal for having babies, contrary to the girl in the video. Just because you have the suffix "-teen" in your age doesn't mean you're an adolescent. And adolescence, i.e., young girls still physically developing and still in basic school, is really the big issue.
"Teen mom" wouldn't be a thing If only 18 and 19 year olds were having babies.
Remember we support
pregnant teens!
but not
teen pregnancy
stay safe 🫶
Yikes
Stop promoting teen sex
@@beyondwilline3634I don’t think they are they are just saying if they happen to get pregnant people should support the person not support getting pregnant if that makes sense
My daughter was 14 also. I became a grandma at 33 to a beautiful granddaughter.
Advice to family members....support support support these kids,
They grow up to become good parents.
Or teach them to break the cycle...
I hope your doing well.
It hard to through
Very tough
It's so foreign to me. I'm 36 and haven't even had a child yet, let alone a grandchild. Our lives can differ so much
What I see a beautiful strong smart woman who is determined to young woman, who loves her baby & will be very successful in her life. My daughter also got pregnant young , we supported our daughter & she has four beautiful children she got her schooling 15 yrs later she is still with her baby daddy ….I am so proud of them & so happy to be Nanny to them all love them all so much so do not to worry about others because you have done it , keep going beautiful young woman 👩….😊❤️✌️🕯💖🙏
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@Preppylifestyle it could’ve been a child in the house on the adults phone
lmfao “smart”
Smart??? Lmao
she is NOT a woman. She is a CHILD herself and it's insane to think children should be parents!
I literally started crying when she revealed what her mom and close family members said about her being pregnant. Idek who she is and I'm feeling all these emotions as she goes on with her story. 😭
Btw, you are like, so beautiful it's hard to believe.
Teen Mums who love their babies are some of the hardest working mamas. You’re a good example for your little girl
I was also 13 had a baby at 14. I’m now 42 with 4 beautiful children that have grown into wonderful young adults ❤
You should have Keep you stanky vagina closed at that age
Wow
🖤
no hate but what were u thinking
@@TiaraG-oo8mwthey were 13, leave them alone
You are precious Maddie. I’m so sorry for the hate you received during your pregnancy. You didn’t deserve that and I’m so glad you had parents who supported you. You are amazing and I wish you the best life.
My mom had me the day after her 14th birthday. She ended up getting a PhD. in psychology! I'm now 38 going on 39, and my mom and I are very close. She didn't have any help from parents or family and father was absent. We went through many struggles the first 6 years of my upbringing, but it turned out wonderful. You can do it 💪! Your child will forever respect and appreciate you when old enough to truly understand how hard and how much my mom gave up but she also gained so much more. Good luck to you and your baby! As a child, now adult of a teen mom, you can do it!! I'm so grateful to my mom for everything she's done! Good luck
Yeah right, she didn't have any help but she was still able to buy you food and diapers and clothing 🙄 So where did she work at 14 that allowed her to bring you with her every day? Lmao
@@Adelicowsyou sound mature 🙄
@@lichiehrb I don't know much about that commenter's level of maturity, but I am also curious about how things were paid for.
So wonderful that you kept your baby and are raising her. This video will help and encourage so many.
I’m 15, I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m watching all these videos of teen moms cuz I’m so scared. I’m too far along to get an abortion and even if I wasn’t I wouldn’t get one. I’m just so worried. I haven’t even told my boyfriend yet.. I’ve known for 2 months. I’ve been so terrified to tell him, I’m scared he’ll leave me. He’s only 14. He obviously doesn’t wanna be a dad. I’m planning on telling him in person tomorrow. Wish me luck. 😭
Hope you are doing Great!! And i hope your family is supportive!
How did it go?? Are you okay?
Update?
Hello! How did it go?
Good luck ~ It will be okay, you will be okay and your kid will be okay. You are stronger than you think.
At 34, I'm listening to you explain how you felt when you saw your baby for the first time on the ultrasound screen and I cant help but to become so emotional. I pray that someday soon I will be able to feel the same joy, love and excitement you did. Getting pregnant isn't easy for everyone. There are millions of women who struggle with infertility, but it's not really brought to the light due to the feelings of shame. Should I someday have a daughter and she becomes pregnant at a young age, she will have my love and support as you did from your mother.
Also on the infertility path. Its crazy that our bodies could be ready for children much before we can maturely and socially care for them (with more ease, not to say this mama isnt doing a great job just because of her age)
I will personally be praying for the original poster and the commenter above. I was 28 and had tried for three years before we conceived my now six-year-old little girl. I thought something was terribly wrong as I had tried what seemed like everything! I tried calculating with apps, purchasing the daily ovulation tests & even with those saying I was ovulating and doctor saying there didn't appear to be anything wrong...nothing was happening and it was beyond devastating I couldn't even watch a TV show about people having babies or anything of the sort without losing my crap! I guess I'm saying all this to kind of build up to a little bit of I understand how you both feel and I just wanted to share what worked for me and my husband In Case by some wild chance it could work for you! I guess what worries me most about sharing this is that it might come across like I'm minimizing how someone else feels or, God forbid, give someone a tip that doesn't help them... But pushing that aside.... Menstrual cups got me pregnant! My doctor suggested that instead of sitting with my legs up for periods of time after sex that I could try holding it "in there" with period menstrual cups. I was pregnant in a month of this tip. Like I said, I'll be praying for you both 🙏
I know the feeling of wanting to get pregnant but it doesnt happen (we have tried for 2 years and 10 months now… put up a video recently of us taking a test that we really thought would be positive, but it wasnt… ). It for sure isnt easy for eveyone to get pregnant, but it can go in one time for some, so thats good to be aware of and educate about too❤
I really hope you get to experience the joy of becoming a mum soon❤❤
Don't give up. I was married for 17 years before I got pregnant with my first. I had just given up bc of age and health. I didn't kniw I was pregnant. 19 months later another baby. It's possible. Praying for thee. MAY GOD BLESS YALL 🙏
@@tracyparker550 wow thats amazing😍😍😍 that you got pregnant eventually! But can imagine it was many tears and questions on the way there. May God bless you and your family🤗
I just want you to know how extremely proud I am of you! You stepped up! I was a single mom , I was 26 when I got pregnant. Single moms can be good parents! We step up and we parent!
I also was shamed at 26 years old and supporting myself and living on my own. That didn’t change anything.
@Greg Machen bro why do u have to give hate?? Single mom is difficult and i agree, every child need mother and father figure both which morden feminists are denying
@@california3186u got pregnant at 26 .
Which is enough mature age..
Are u presently single or having boyfriend
@@california3186 are u presently single or having boyfriend
My mom gave birth to me at 25 (she was turning 26 that year). My father wanted her to get an abortion, but she chose not to, and had me 7 months later! Single mom's are amazing, and I've realized you guys struggle so much,
- Aria from Nc
I’m so glad to hear your story and how you are doing. You did it girl. I’m so proud that you kept going no matter what people told you.
As a mom of 3, I'm so proud of you for owning being a mom - young or otherwise. You are tough and brave for everything you experienced and choosing your daughter over letting all the rude, ignorant people get you down. Lots of love and keep being a great role model for your daughter!!!!! ❤️
I feel like it's easy to get pregnant when you're trying not to, and hard when you are trying to. Either way, you sound like your little one brings you so much joy, which is fantastic to see. I wish you all the best!
exactly
This is it exactly, which is why it’s a shame to see these women get pregnant and have abortions while women who would love to be pregnant can’t have children…
@Luna Ski it's more a statistical thing. If there's a 1 in 3 chance of getting pregnant then that's a big margin for someone who doesn't want kids and a small margin for someone who does (that figure I just pulled out of the air to make this point)
@@katlyndobransky2419 Actually I think contraception and abortion are a woman's rights- and if you want less abortion there should be more contraception. If childless woman want kids in their life there are so many to adopt in the world. If I won the lottery I'd have biological and adopted kids/teens.
The twisted game of life
"Getting pregnant is so easy ".
I was 37 with our first child and I was amazed at how quick it really was too. You are not alone in that. I am so sad that you didn't know about condoms. But happy that you have a beautiful child.
I was 21 and took me 2 years with my husband and then at 24 it took us 22 months :( it’s not easy for everyone which I think is why they do show the struggles more often now so people can understand the emotional stress related to pregnancies. 7 years late and over 7 miscarriages later but have 3 beautiful children ❤️ it’s amazing how we’re all so different
It’s not easy for everyone. Took me YEARS and when I did I had a miscarriage
It's not.
@@clown2657 I'm so sorry
I’m so sorry for that people bullied you when you pregnant you do not deserve that ❤
This is the first time I'm learning about you and your story. I can't imagine how painful it must have been to be ridiculed by all your peers during such a challenging time in life. You are very courageous and a beautiful woman with a bright future. Blessings to you and your sweet daughter. Thanks for sharing your story!
I simply cannot understand such evil comments from people you knew and people who didn't know you making such hateful and cruel attacks on you. Proud of you for not aborting her and making the choice to turn to God and turn your life into something positive. ❤
thereve been schmut articles thatve stolen her picture and situation to promote propaganda such as 'girl r@pped @12' and '14yo forced to give birth b/c theres no abortions' etc. all lies, in the ad articles at the bottom of the page. never clicked on em, but this popped up in my ytube, and i was like, huh. the real story, that ill take. such a wonderful story about an amazing girl. and horrific shame on any1 that wouldve given her a hard time. they are all just jealous haters thatll be fat, ugly n barren in about 10 years. this girl is hurtling circles around them at neckbreak pace.