So good Laura! "Never, never be afraid to do what's right, especially if the well-being of a person or animal is at stake. Society's punishments are small compared to the wounds we inflict on our soul when we look the other way." ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
Sometimes you know you’re going to lose a friendship, but you have to tell them, because they need to know. What they need to know is more important than the friendship. I rarely get involved in my friends romantic relationships, but I was 99.9% certain she was being financially abused!
I agree, MsACtor. I did actually do this with a friend of mine who kept doing this certain thing that really annoyed me. She was a good friend, but after she did this thing for a whole year, I finally spoke up. She didn't like it, but I felt much better because I was honest with her about how what she was doing made me feel. We kind of got into a small fight. We didn't talk for a few months. I went back to see her to ask her something and the conversation went well. We still talk to this day. But even if we didn't talk again, I would still be glad I finally told her the truth about how I felt about what she was doing.
@@MsActor2009 I do , too, but sometimes I"m a bit blunt. I may not think, but if I tell someone something they may not like, I always do it because I'm trying to help them. I mean well. I think it's good people know the truth about something they're doing, especially if it's something that annoys others or is not helpful to them.
You mentioned social media. I do notice quite a few people will post things on my Facebook page about things or events that upset them then they ask their 'Facebook friends' to do something different that helps others. When they do this, they often get 'likes' and other comments by their 'facebook friends' about what to do about the certain situation the original poster posted. That's fine to put it on social media, but when they comment on different things that bother them, I often type or respond under their post something like, 'this is fine to post this on social media, but please also print this comment out or find a way to speak up and/or post this somewhere in PUBLIC, too'. Or I might suggest they have their pastor at church bring up the concern they posted about on social media. When I've done this, I RARELY have anyone 'like' my post or comment that they agree with what I posted. That tells me not many people have enough nerve to speak up about what bothered them in public. They much rather post about this on social media. In my opinion, that's sad.
People like fluff on social media nothing deep. But it has definitely become an excuse for really fixing anything. People like to complain but not take any meaningful action. You are spot on
@@laurahillauthor From what I see, I'm also starting to think people don't care too much about actually doing anything to fix the problem, they'd much rather go on social media or Facebook and complain about the problem and see how many 'likes' they get. It's strange.
This is a resonant message, laura... but just recently, I attempted to speak With a business person about some grave concerns I had first hand knowledge of.. This business person rejected my attempt to speak with him, Ignore my messages... And I ended up losing my contract position with a business he owned... What Is the answer to this?... I believe that wrong things are still occurring.But I have now been ousted... A business owner preferred to not respond to my attempt....
I’m so sorry that happened, and often speaking up comes at a great cost. But he has heard you and maybe his pride would not allow him to acknowledge what you were saying. Maybe it is something he refuses to believe, but the day will come. I also find for myself that the only person I have to live with is me. If you stand by what you did/said, then you did the right thing. But I’m not being naive. We often find ourselves balancing the right thing with the consequences. Hope a new business opportunity comes your way soon!
@@laurahillauthor yes. When we lay our heads on our pillows at night, we have to be at peace with who we are, what we represent and in my case (I work in healthcare), I have to honor the integrity of my profession- people trust me ! This is a grave trust that I hold gingerly, delicately. I had no choice but to speak out; when my attempts to "inform" were thwarted, I was grossly disappointed. There is already a negative trickle-down effect. It takes courage to do the right thing (often). And yes, there is a price. :/
This is a great reminder.
So good Laura! "Never, never be afraid to do what's right, especially if the well-being of a person or animal is at stake. Society's punishments are small compared to the wounds we inflict on our soul when we look the other way." ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
Great quote from a great man.
True and very good point, suef.
Sometimes you know you’re going to lose a friendship, but you have to tell them, because they need to know. What they need to know is more important than the friendship. I rarely get involved in my friends romantic relationships, but I was 99.9% certain she was being financially abused!
That is definitely the time to step in
I agree, MsACtor. I did actually do this with a friend of mine who kept doing this certain thing that really annoyed me. She was a good friend, but after she did this thing for a whole year, I finally spoke up. She didn't like it, but I felt much better because I was honest with her about how what she was doing made me feel. We kind of got into a small fight. We didn't talk for a few months. I went back to see her to ask her something and the conversation went well. We still talk to this day. But even if we didn't talk again, I would still be glad I finally told her the truth about how I felt about what she was doing.
Good for you! When I have to speak up, I try to do it in the nicest way I know how and in the way I would want to hear it.
@@MsActor2009 I do , too, but sometimes I"m a bit blunt. I may not think, but if I tell someone something they may not like, I always do it because I'm trying to help them. I mean well. I think it's good people know the truth about something they're doing, especially if it's something that annoys others or is not helpful to them.
Wonderful Laura! 🎉 Thank you for sharing your wisdom and courage
You set the bar high for the rest of us❤
@@laurahillauthor that is very kind 😇
You mentioned social media. I do notice quite a few people will post things on my Facebook page about things or events that upset them then they ask their 'Facebook friends' to do something different that helps others. When they do this, they often get 'likes' and other comments by their 'facebook friends' about what to do about the certain situation the original poster posted. That's fine to put it on social media, but when they comment on different things that bother them, I often type or respond under their post something like, 'this is fine to post this on social media, but please also print this comment out or find a way to speak up and/or post this somewhere in PUBLIC, too'. Or I might suggest they have their pastor at church bring up the concern they posted about on social media. When I've done this, I RARELY have anyone 'like' my post or comment that they agree with what I posted. That tells me not many people have enough nerve to speak up about what bothered them in public. They much rather post about this on social media. In my opinion, that's sad.
People like fluff on social media nothing deep. But it has definitely become an excuse for really fixing anything. People like to complain but not take any meaningful action. You are spot on
@@laurahillauthor From what I see, I'm also starting to think people don't care too much about actually doing anything to fix the problem, they'd much rather go on social media or Facebook and complain about the problem and see how many 'likes' they get. It's strange.
This is a resonant message, laura... but just recently, I attempted to speak With a business person about some grave concerns I had first hand knowledge of.. This business person rejected my attempt to speak with him, Ignore my messages... And I ended up losing my contract position with a business he owned... What
Is the answer to this?... I believe that wrong things are still occurring.But I have now been ousted... A business owner preferred to not respond to my attempt....
I’m so sorry that happened, and often speaking up comes at a great cost. But he has heard you and maybe his pride would not allow him to acknowledge what you were saying. Maybe it is something he refuses to believe, but the day will come. I also find for myself that the only person I have to live with is me. If you stand by what you did/said, then you did the right thing. But I’m not being naive. We often find ourselves balancing the right thing with the consequences. Hope a new business opportunity comes your way soon!
@@laurahillauthor yes. When we lay our heads on our pillows at night, we have to be at peace with who we are, what we represent and in my case (I work in healthcare), I have to honor the integrity of my profession- people trust me ! This is a grave trust that I hold gingerly, delicately. I had no choice but to speak out; when my attempts to "inform" were thwarted, I was grossly disappointed. There is already a negative trickle-down effect. It takes courage to do the right thing (often). And yes, there is a price. :/