@pezchef7577 Exactly. I remember years ago, my partner told me that he can do everything he can to help me have a happy life, but he can't make me happy, and that comment changed my life.
Yup! The smarter way would be to hand her the divorce papers, then fight tooth and nail for custody, along with proof that her ex is a risk to the kids.
THANK YOU IM SO SICK OF HEARING THAT CRAP plus is can influence them wen they get older to think this is how relationships are which is dangerous for them when they grow up and start establishing relationships of they’re own.
Yes you are Absolutely Right people think there kids don't know what's going on but kids are very perceptive and they understand well you are hurting your kids more by staying with a cheater
Op wife thought she could emotionally abuse op and he wouldn’t leave her but now she freaking out because he pull the trigger and file for divorce story 1
@yesidek A good father would never even let his wife treat him like this because, he would know that he's showing his kids what to tolerate later in life. Dude wanted to suffer, he was just a coward who couldn't pull the trigger and needed the terrible opinion of redditors to help him out.
He isn't enduring for the kids. He is staying cause he's a simp. I was raised by divorced parents and it was fine. All he is doing for his kids by staying is teaching them that it's ok to let others walk on you.
The amazing thing is that she'll get alimony because she needs to "maintain her lifestyle" while OP will be forced to live in a studio apartment and maintain his current job, because marriage is a broken system that rewards women who break the marriage contract ETA: "No alimony coming" Oh thank God. Don't cover her insurance or anything else. She can grow up. So sick of PPD being used an excuse for women being sh**ty people.
Yeah I agree I’m not saying this to make somebody feel bad for me or anything but I’ve had a lot of losses and ppd is a dumb excuse especially with how a lot of other ppl get treated
Agreed. And if/when OP's kids hit 16 and 17, bond gravitate toward loser boyfriends, become pregnant drop out of high school, marry the bums, have more kids,by 18 and 19, and they'll not only make their mother give up the alimony, in order to pay for baby needs, baby-related expenses, maternity/pregnancy expenses, they'll also make her their free babysitter, move their loser boyfriends into her sister's house, make their aunt and maternal grandmother their free housekeepers, their uncle, their free chauffeur, and turn their cousins' rooms into nurseries/daycare centers.⚠️
She's not upset about losing her husband and kids. She's upset about losing her Emotional Punching Bag/Living ATM Account and her tools to flex on Mommy Sites
Sounds like she settled thinking she’d have an easy life. She actually had far more privileges as a SAHM than all the other regular SAHMs have. She sounds spoiled and selfish , but the MIL is worth gold.
The title is misleading. OP spends 99% of the video complaining about how he's being treated, giving his wife chance after chance, justifying not divorcing her for the kids, and being passive aggressive towards the "macho men" in the comments calling him a simp. Then at the very end he divorces her in like a paragraph, and we get a sentence or two of her reaction. Honorary simp story. Skip this one.
I’m one of those children that these parents always think they are saving by staying together. You are not a hero. You are not making some great sacrifice. You are not a martyr. You are just making the situation worse. Get a divorce and stop wasting your children’s time and emotional energy.
Op should have left a while back, but glad he’s doing it now. For him and his children. Also when his MIL is on his side says more about the wife than anything
OP says he loves his wife but never checks her when she gets out of pocket. I know there is back and forth in marriage and sometimes discretion is needed. What the OP did was become a doormat, all while upgrading his education, taking care of the kids, working hard, and even providing for his wife's education. He probably just got beat down over the years, but that only added to his misery. Interestingly, it was his wife mocking him in public that finally sent him over the edge. What would have happened if she only continued degrading him in private? The diagnoses she received are no excuse, obviously.
He should have told her to pound sand the first time she started complaining. NEVER let a woman get away with it. Once you let her walk all over you, forget it! If my wife told me I had ruined her life, I would point to the door. Married 35 years. Shut down that BS right away!
A good man but weak continually setting himself on fire and burning for a "wife" who despised him and saw him as an ATM. He forced himself suffer too long before the public humiliation doused his piety, pain and misery.
3:31 This is the crux of his problem. He's afraid to be seen as less than. He cannot separate his experience from his biases (single mother raised him).
He took too long to divorce her. In the end, he still divorced her. About her bullcrap illness, its just and excuse. I am sure she was in an emotional affair with several men at maybe snapchat. She was living in that fantasy world. Thats why she couldnt be bothered with her husband and treated him like shit.
Wow! Why is OP is still with this selfish wife she is only using him! He is a simp and he doesn’t have a back bone! It’s sad that he don’t have self love and will just take the crap!
Expected result. FYI, I know from experience (childs side) staying in a marrage like that destroys what the child sees as how relationships are ment to be & raises abusive (in relationship) adults. Also from talking to hundreds of people raised like this.
Op has trained her to be this monster, like a dog owner has an ill trained dog: Now it bites. We all knew it would happen. Moral of story: Set demands and standards for your closest ones.
It was apparent this guy was a simp in the first few sentences. You have to put expectations and demands on your woman or she will lose respect for you. She probably lost respect for this guy because he has no spine and he just gave her everything that she ever wanted while asking nothing in return. That's not romantic, that's pathetic.
Buddy stayed with her too long. She has no love or respect for him. He works his butt off to support the family financially, in addition to taking care of the kids and doing the domestic work. Wife has only 2 children. The youngest is 3; so give me a break about PPD! She sits around all day, scrolling through her phone! She is rude and dismissive to him! She left to stay with her sister, but essentially, NOTHING changed for him. Note that he was already carrying all the workload! Even her own family realizes what she is! No alimony? GREAT!
This video sounds so much like the last 18 months of my marriage, except I didn’t have as good a job. My wife was unhappy and put all the blame on me. She left me, taking the children aged 2 and 3 with her and went to a women's shelter. Unbeknownst to me she spoke to a women's protection group and was referred to a lawyer. It took me a month and a half to get my kids back. Everyone except for her immediate family sided with me. "Everyone" means the psychiatrist, nursery school staff friends, and HER extended family. My wife's surprise was receiving a court order to have my kids returned to me. This is either a true story or based (as in paraphrasing) on one because you don't make these things up.
When you are given diagnosis and treatment options that may help and you blow them off, that's on you. If the assumption is, is that you still of sound mind after being told, you are responsible for actions or lack thereof. She loved wallowing in victimhood. No matter what, it was him keeping her down.
Sorry I disagree about staying for the kids. Ask yourself are they better off seeing you neglected and abused?? Your setting up your kids for failure in their future relationships as may think that's normal. You showing a lack of self care is not doing anything good for your kids or yourself.
You couldn't cheat with your whole pay check you'll only end up getting rob and kick in your blue balls! 😢😮😅 #sign a man who use to come and drop asleep. 😮😅
This story is a good example of a marriage which tracked on for too long. Suffering for the children is not in the best interest of the children. If you dont feel good, your children wont either. I also dont understand why he pays for the MIL after the divorce. I mean the laughed at him while saying "who would like to be marryed with a guy like him" (something like that). On that fathers day, his wife and MIL disrespected him.
Why is it that people come here looking for advice and then completely ignore that advice and do the opposite? You can't tell me that the resounding response from Reddit wasn't to leave her. Op is literally digging his own grave and just putting up with it for the sake of his kids. You aren't doing them any favors by staying in a dead marriage. It also makes me wonder if these "mommy groups" could be at the head of this because a lot of those groups are toxic af and like to get in your ear. OP says she never used to be like this so it makes me wonder
It’s funny how the writer of this dumb story got defensive when readers misunderstood his poor writing. He literally said he worked two full-time jobs at the same time to pay for his wife’s college, then got super defensive when everyone misunderstood him. Also, he seems to think that constantly talking with preemptive strikes is healthy in a relationship. He complains about his wife, trying to one up him, but that’s what happens when a person has to constantly defend themselves from his sideways attacks. Instead of trying to jump ahead of a complaint, try being a man and speak clearly without trying to corner everyone in your whining.
Wow just wow this guy doesnt want to see that he thinks he was protecting his kids from bullets but it wasn't bullets flying but it was frag grenades falling all around him and the kids
What the actual hell does she do all day. She doesn't take care of her kids cause she has a nanny, she doesn't work cause she's apparently a stay at home mum, Even though like OP said he hired a nanny to help her. How you stayed with her for as long as you did is beyond me. You are simping cause there is no way any guy would put up with that. You're partly to blame for how she acts cause you let her get away with it for too long.
Why would some dude come on here and expect everyone to be a sounding board but just ignore what the people say?! Obviously, what super simp is doing has never worked! The disastrous family life you are exposing your children to is not healthy! You must live a life of example, not martyrdom!
Sounds like a lazy cow
For real
Ingrate too.
He should have divorced her years ago - forget about love, she actively dislikes him & has contempt for him…
sounds like she has contempt for just about any and everybody. serious main character vibes oozing out of that wife.
@pezchef7577 Exactly. I remember years ago, my partner told me that he can do everything he can to help me have a happy life, but he can't make me happy, and that comment changed my life.
"Enduring" a relationahip when you have kids together isnt protecting your children. Its forcing them to endure along with you.
Not to mention. They may also be in the same relationship as OP one day. As they will see it as normal. Some men are idiots
Yup! The smarter way would be to hand her the divorce papers, then fight tooth and nail for custody, along with proof that her ex is a risk to the kids.
If there's no thanks or respect then leave.
THANK YOU IM SO SICK OF HEARING THAT CRAP plus is can influence them wen they get older to think this is how relationships are which is dangerous for them when they grow up and start establishing relationships of they’re own.
Yes you are Absolutely Right people think there kids don't know what's going on but kids are very perceptive and they understand well you are hurting your kids more by staying with a cheater
Op wife thought she could emotionally abuse op and he wouldn’t leave her but now she freaking out because he pull the trigger and file for divorce story 1
This woman sounds like a massive liability. You do NOT want to marry someone who’s not a team player.
Classic case of "nice guy" drama.. 😂😂
more of a "good father with a wife who does not deserve him" drama
@yesidek A good father would never even let his wife treat him like this because, he would know that he's showing his kids what to tolerate later in life. Dude wanted to suffer, he was just a coward who couldn't pull the trigger and needed the terrible opinion of redditors to help him out.
He isn't enduring for the kids. He is staying cause he's a simp. I was raised by divorced parents and it was fine. All he is doing for his kids by staying is teaching them that it's ok to let others walk on you.
The amazing thing is that she'll get alimony because she needs to "maintain her lifestyle" while OP will be forced to live in a studio apartment and maintain his current job, because marriage is a broken system that rewards women who break the marriage contract
ETA: "No alimony coming"
Oh thank God. Don't cover her insurance or anything else. She can grow up.
So sick of PPD being used an excuse for women being sh**ty people.
Yeah I agree I’m not saying this to make somebody feel bad for me or anything but I’ve had a lot of losses and ppd is a dumb excuse especially with how a lot of other ppl get treated
No she wil not, this is not in the US.. from Germany.
Agreed. And if/when OP's kids hit 16 and 17, bond gravitate toward loser boyfriends, become pregnant drop out of high school, marry the bums, have more kids,by 18 and 19, and they'll not only make their mother give up the alimony, in order to pay for baby needs, baby-related expenses, maternity/pregnancy expenses, they'll also make her their free babysitter, move their loser boyfriends into her sister's house, make their aunt and maternal grandmother their free housekeepers, their uncle, their free chauffeur, and turn their cousins' rooms into nurseries/daycare centers.⚠️
This is Germany. Things work way different in Europe.
She's not upset about losing her husband and kids. She's upset about losing her Emotional Punching Bag/Living ATM Account and her tools to flex on Mommy Sites
Exactly. And when her kids become parents, at 16 and/or 17, she'll be upset about being THEIR living ATM account/free daycare worker/maid.⚠️
Bedroom life suddenly ended a year ago? She is cheating
my head hurts from rolling my eyes during this story...this OP is weak
Sounds like she settled thinking she’d have an easy life. She actually had far more privileges as a SAHM than all the other regular SAHMs have.
She sounds spoiled and selfish , but the MIL is worth gold.
The title is misleading.
OP spends 99% of the video complaining about how he's being treated, giving his wife chance after chance, justifying not divorcing her for the kids, and being passive aggressive towards the "macho men" in the comments calling him a simp.
Then at the very end he divorces her in like a paragraph, and we get a sentence or two of her reaction.
Honorary simp story. Skip this one.
Thanks
Thank you
The guy is a wimp.
Damn. Sounds like a lost love Chronicles video
@@VineGrove123Agreed.
I’m one of those children that these parents always think they are saving by staying together.
You are not a hero. You are not making some great sacrifice. You are not a martyr. You are just making the situation worse.
Get a divorce and stop wasting your children’s time and emotional energy.
Op should have left a while back, but glad he’s doing it now. For him and his children. Also when his MIL is on his side says more about the wife than anything
It’s a bit ironic that he was mocking what was staring at him in the face for so long.
OP says he loves his wife but never checks her when she gets out of pocket. I know there is back and forth in marriage and sometimes discretion is needed. What the OP did was become a doormat, all while upgrading his education, taking care of the kids, working hard, and even providing for his wife's education. He probably just got beat down over the years, but that only added to his misery. Interestingly, it was his wife mocking him in public that finally sent him over the edge. What would have happened if she only continued degrading him in private? The diagnoses she received are no excuse, obviously.
WASN'T SHE IN THE
MEDICAL FIELD.
SHE KNOWS HOW TO
( CHEAT ) ON THE
MEDICAL QUESTIONNAIRE ‼️
JULY 2024
Doormat ultra pro max 😂😂
I suspect she's already sleeping with her ex for several months if not year
Wow, what an intense journey! I'm both shocked and moved by your story. Truly a rollercoaster of emotions packed into one narrative.
He should have told her to pound sand the first time she started complaining. NEVER let a woman get away with it. Once you let her walk all over you, forget it! If my wife told me I had ruined her life, I would point to the door. Married 35 years. Shut down that BS right away!
A good man but weak continually setting himself on fire and burning for a "wife" who despised him and saw him as an ATM. He forced himself suffer too long before the public humiliation doused his piety, pain and misery.
3:31 This is the crux of his problem. He's afraid to be seen as less than. He cannot separate his experience from his biases (single mother raised him).
I get he loves his family but enabling her doesn’t help anyone, even her.
What the heck does this lady do? I can’t.
I''m glad OP finally grew a pair !!!
He took too long to divorce her.
In the end, he still divorced her.
About her bullcrap illness, its just and excuse.
I am sure she was in an emotional affair with several men at maybe snapchat. She was living in that fantasy world.
Thats why she couldnt be bothered with her husband and treated him like shit.
Wow! Why is OP is still with this selfish wife she is only using him! He is a simp and he doesn’t have a back bone! It’s sad that he don’t have self love and will just take the crap!
Expected result.
FYI, I know from experience (childs side) staying in a marrage like that destroys what the child sees as how relationships are ment to be & raises abusive (in relationship) adults. Also from talking to hundreds of people raised like this.
Most men live a life of silent desperation.
Op has trained her to be this monster, like a dog owner has an ill trained dog: Now it bites. We all knew it would happen.
Moral of story: Set demands and standards for your closest ones.
It was apparent this guy was a simp in the first few sentences. You have to put expectations and demands on your woman or she will lose respect for you. She probably lost respect for this guy because he has no spine and he just gave her everything that she ever wanted while asking nothing in return. That's not romantic, that's pathetic.
Buddy stayed with her too long. She has no love or respect for him. He works his butt off to support the family financially, in addition to taking care of the kids and doing the domestic work. Wife has only 2 children. The youngest is 3; so give me a break about PPD! She sits around all day, scrolling through her phone! She is rude and dismissive to him! She left to stay with her sister, but essentially, NOTHING changed for him. Note that he was already carrying all the workload! Even her own family realizes what she is! No alimony? GREAT!
NO. JUST NO.
This women does bugger all . She cooks wow
This video sounds so much like the last 18 months of my marriage, except I didn’t have as good a job. My wife was unhappy and put all the blame on me. She left me, taking the children aged 2 and 3 with her and went to a women's shelter. Unbeknownst to me she spoke to a women's protection group and was referred to a lawyer. It took me a month and a half to get my kids back. Everyone except for her immediate family sided with me. "Everyone" means the psychiatrist, nursery school staff friends, and HER extended family.
My wife's surprise was receiving a court order to have my kids returned to me.
This is either a true story or based (as in paraphrasing) on one because you don't make these things up.
No, I don’t feel sorry for either of them. They both are ostriches burying their heads in the sand. I do feel sorry for their poor kids though.
When you are given diagnosis and treatment options that may help and you blow them off, that's on you. If the assumption is, is that you still of sound mind after being told, you are responsible for actions or lack thereof. She loved wallowing in victimhood. No matter what, it was him keeping her down.
He keeps bashing the RP, and got the weak man moment he deserved
Exaaaactly
Sorry I disagree about staying for the kids. Ask yourself are they better off seeing you neglected and abused?? Your setting up your kids for failure in their future relationships as may think that's normal. You showing a lack of self care is not doing anything good for your kids or yourself.
Bro You always mislead readers with the titles. You have to be stopped smh
Op should have left the marriage long before....
You couldn't cheat with your whole pay check you'll only end up getting rob and kick in your blue balls! 😢😮😅 #sign a man who use to come and drop asleep. 😮😅
This story is a good example of a marriage which tracked on for too long.
Suffering for the children is not in the best interest of the children.
If you dont feel good, your children wont either.
I also dont understand why he pays for the MIL after the divorce.
I mean the laughed at him while saying "who would like to be marryed with a guy like him" (something like that).
On that fathers day, his wife and MIL disrespected him.
This one is true, but it shouldn't be.
Hes weak and the wife knows it
This is the worst story ever!
Are those kids even his?
Post partum is no excuse to be a terrible partner. Grow up and sort yourself out.
That is what you get for hiring a nanny. Wife should be the only one taken care of the kids.
This story sounds like an ex- friend of mine whose wife was a hypocritical harpy
Gosh you just get to the point of I can't read/listen to this whining anymore.
I went through hell for the sake of my kids. Would do it again.
I think she is just lazy. Also you really should have asked her what is so hard about her life?
Guy's a simp to marriage or the idea of it.
Ex-Wife mockingly asked, "Who would want to marry HIM?!"
He turned around and said, "nobody is better than you, babydoll. Much better."
Smartphones destroyed women.
Social media destroyed women. Smart phones just gave them access.
*exposed
Why is it that people come here looking for advice and then completely ignore that advice and do the opposite? You can't tell me that the resounding response from Reddit wasn't to leave her. Op is literally digging his own grave and just putting up with it for the sake of his kids. You aren't doing them any favors by staying in a dead marriage. It also makes me wonder if these "mommy groups" could be at the head of this because a lot of those groups are toxic af and like to get in your ear. OP says she never used to be like this so it makes me wonder
Where's the location, where the people are biking and canoeing?
2:29 Two minutes im this giy doesn't have a wife, he has a queen that he works for
This story is fake. 2 full time jobs while working on a degree. They dont even try anymore.
Kudos to you. MH is as destructive to families as much, if not more than infidelity. Best of luck.
It’s funny how the writer of this dumb story got defensive when readers misunderstood his poor writing. He literally said he worked two full-time jobs at the same time to pay for his wife’s college, then got super defensive when everyone misunderstood him.
Also, he seems to think that constantly talking with preemptive strikes is healthy in a relationship. He complains about his wife, trying to one up him, but that’s what happens when a person has to constantly defend themselves from his sideways attacks. Instead of trying to jump ahead of a complaint, try being a man and speak clearly without trying to corner everyone in your whining.
Classic dormate story ...😅
Wow just wow this guy doesnt want to see that he thinks he was protecting his kids from bullets but it wasn't bullets flying but it was frag grenades falling all around him and the kids
What the actual hell does she do all day. She doesn't take care of her kids cause she has a nanny, she doesn't work cause she's apparently a stay at home mum, Even though like OP said he hired a nanny to help her. How you stayed with her for as long as you did is beyond me. You are simping cause there is no way any guy would put up with that. You're partly to blame for how she acts cause you let her get away with it for too long.
Why would some dude come on here and expect everyone to be a sounding board but just ignore what the people say?! Obviously, what super simp is doing has never worked! The disastrous family life you are exposing your children to is not healthy! You must live a life of example, not martyrdom!
Definitely you abandoned dating and being there for your wife. Put your job ahead of wife and now reaping the rewards.
She wanted to be a SAHM, he made that happen. She got what she asked for.