My uncle who is gay married his best friend who is a woman. This platonic relationship has worked for them for over 15 years. This is beautiful to see.
As an asexual person apart of the aromantic/asexual community, this is beautiful to me. This will open the door to more platonic relationships between all types of people. Remember, asexual people are a spectrum. Some have sex, some dont. Ask your partner what they want. What we don't experience is sexual attraction. Think of it like a more spiritual and emotional bond that is more intense than the average acquaintance. It's 2022 and people don't need to marry into a sexual partnership if they don't want too. You can simply grow old with your best friend. ☺
@@r.jdavos1981 dont speak for people. If you dont understand it then mind your business. Its proven to be a thing so move from here with your nonsense.
@@r.jdavos1981 yes it is. not everyone leads with attraction that leads to sex some people need more of a connection u can be attracted and not want to jump someone’s bones physically. With this day and age it’s so unbelievable for people to lead a healthy relationship with just an emotional connection. It’s what relationships are supposed to be built on and sex comes later because everything’s about sex nowadays
I love this! Most older Asian marriages are like this too, they're just between a man and a woman. We've been sold a story in the West that marriage should be based on passion and romance. But the truth is those things eventually fizzle out and what you're left with is love, respect and caring for one another. Why can't that also be the case here? Most marriages evolve into financial commitment, family commitment and a sense of safety...especially when you're older.
I agree...However, why can't you just have a friend then? Unless you plan on adopting children, (which I think is admirable of one of the couples) I would be remised if I didn't say that this just WREAKS of desperation and fear... Yes love and romance is scary, unrequited love is painful; but that doesn't mean you go with a safe route bc you are afraid of REAL feelings and how to navigate REAL emotions... WE have infantilized an entire generation, who are longing for a real connection... sad.
Basically that’s what marriage is, a contracted agreement of finance and family to get through life - because it’s a lot easier to have someone committed doing all that together.
@@r.jdavos1981 No, we have instilled a fear of intimacy in this generation by instilling an "avoidant attachment style" by putting children age 5 and under into daycare, othercare, and leaving the baby/toddler with grandma instead of babywearing and co-sleeping for 90%+ of the day. Dr. Faye Snyder says in her books that a 1-year-old child can't handle more than 1 hour away from their mom per week without getting core damage to their personality, I'm guessing borderline personality disorder (BPD), as it says in her book The Handbook. It's where the BPD symptom "frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment" come from. They can't stand to be abandoned because it triggers their unconscious memories of their babyhood terrors of being abandoned by their moms as infants, if only for an hour. Babies don't know why their mom left, and in our evolutionary past on the African savannah, the only situation where the mom wasn't near her baby was because the mom had died. If mom is dead, that means no breastmilk for the baby, and the baby will die of dehydration and/or starvation most likely. So, babies evolved to want to stay near their mom's nipple at all times. This is why the skin-on-skin babywearing slings, frontal knapsacks, and women shirts that can hold newborns and young babies exist. People who have a secure attachment style don't fear intimacy/abandonment. At the root of a fear of intimacy is a fear of abandonment. If you weren't abandoned by your mom as a baby, even temporarily, you won't have a fear of intimacy. Go read John Bowlby.
Wow... this never crossed my mind as an option. The best relationship I ever had was with a roommate for over 4 years. The apartment we had together, I originally got with my cousin. He was dating her and he moved in when they got more serious. Then one day, she pulls a total "See U next Tuesday" move, cheats and breaks up with him, and decides she wants to move in with some new guy. Leaving both of us hanging (me with the apartment lease). He, being low on money, living paycheck to paycheck with bad credit at the time and not wanting to move back with his parents, agrees to stay with me till the end of the lease (5 months left) and take over my cousin's part, which was a big help. What came out of that was an amazing 4 year partnership between two completely different people. Him a beer guzzling, football watching, X-box playing, red meat and fatty food eating, blue collar, every other word cussing, messy slobbish, macho chest beating straight white man. Me, a wine sipping, musical watching, health food eating, fitness obsessed, drag wearing, vanity focused, effeminate latino gay man. And we just complimented each other and got along wonderfully. I cooked and cleaned, he handled the heavy duty chores. I helped him get his finances in order, and get into healthier and better shape. He helped me become less obsessed with looks (my own and others) and grow a back bone in my actual relationships, as I use to let men walk all over me. And by extension, my work life. I'd call him my "hubby" and he'd refer to me as his "wify". There was even a long period where neither one of us were dating anyone, and we were just content. We'd go and have dinners or plan weekend activities together and it was strictly platonic! Of coarse time came when we had to move on to the next part of our lives. We still keep in touch, but live completely different lives now. But I always look back to our time together as the most comfortable and fun relationship I ever had with anyone... and it was without sex!!
Society has really turned us into sexaholics so much so that most don't know what it even means to truly love anymore. Even in sexual relationships, when you begin to grow old, your partner falls ill or disabled, will your love last? Or was it only held together by sex? Do you know what it means to be involved in a spiritual and emotional bond so great that sex falls second or none at all at the end of the day? I think many people should experience how beautiful this experience is.
This is so stupid.. what do you think the point of a marriage is? Are you trying to say that you can have sex with someone you aren't married to? Lol. Just find another soulmate dude. There's billions of people in this world. You people are crazy!
@@bobby6569 Marriage use to be more of a platonic thing 1000s of years ago. Some people like myself are not capable of feeling romantic attraction so we focus on platonic relationships instead.
@@britishhusky3543 everyone is capable of romantic attraction. if you aren't ''capable'' because your own personal reasons (that's a choice) Then don't get married. That's what the point of marriage is lol. You can't be married to someone and then sleep with someone else. Just don't marry that person because you clearly don't love them. You can do all of these platonic things with a friend that you don't marry. That's what I don't understand why you have to marry them...
@@britishhusky3543 that's called mental illness. also, if you have trauma, you might not be attracted to people anymore. that doesn't mean it's not possible to have a romantic attraction, it's just your choice not to have one. i guarantee the right person comes along, that person will feel different. unfortunately, it's hard to come across the right person so we have these kids making up new identities for attention.
Honestly, I was confused too, because I do want to spend my life with a person. But I do not want to have to carry the burden of the requirements in a romantic relationship. I would break under the pressure and be miserable every day. Perhaps a queer platonic relationship would be more suited for me.
@@geeblercobbler I feel like I will forever stay alone, because I simply do not experience a certain kind of attraction, that many people see as essential. Sure, romance sounds nice, but I am referring to the other kind, that is all over media. No one loves without it.
I’ve met a couple who was in a similar relationship. The only difference is that they were 79 years old and had been together for over 40 years. Their relationship enabled them to buy a house, look after each other, and become prosperous women living in the south. Eventually, they were able to help tons of people in our church and would spend their time educating children and doing missionary work in Haiti. They never got officially married but they genuinely loved each other. Only one is still alive today. It’s my opinion, that this type of relationship can work for many who don’t want to follow a traditional route as long as the values and respect are there. This is coming from a conservative person.
I think a lot of couples even become like that with time. Both stop been attracted but still appreciate the life partnership Also, I think it’s a great choice for women who wanna have children and don’t have a husband
I think sexual intimacy between certain individuals in a relationship is also a misnomer. Just because a “couple” has sex doesn’t even guarantee INTIMACY. Intimacy is a social emotional healthy skill that many don’t have.
Honestly I'm confused by couples who get divorced over not being " passionate" anymore despite being the best of friends. Tons of people will eventually "lose the passion" anyway no matter who they pair up with. They're trying to live up to a marriage that's basically a myth.
Personally, I never understood the whole sex thing, when there is so much more to being a person. I think it is insulting to define people solely based on sex.
This is odd but not in a bad way! It’s definitely a different perspective and something that I would never think of but I actually understand it. Am really happy for them 💖
@@ReinhardtX57 yea what's wrong with loving ur pets ???? jk we're talking about people NOT animals damn i swear y'all be comparing it to anything "wow what's next, plants? 🤓" stfu u know we aren't talking about that
@@ReinhardtX57 Well you thinking is always I extreme dumps.... There are people who remain single and take care of their pets and are happy. So just back off!!!!!
The plutonic marriage thing I get, it’s like raising a family with your best friend. In a place where 60% of marriages fail, if this works, go for it…. And I love that they adopted, so many kids need a stable home. Ideology doesn’t even matter if there isn’t stability and love.
This is very interesting cause I was just thinking about an old girlfriend of mine whom I lost touch with and was wondering what she was up to. I also thought about if she is alone then I wouldn't mind living with her. I am very hetero, but after a difficult marriage and divorce and at this stage in my life, I don't want to live with a man. I realized that they don't make good living partners for me. I don't want to share a bathroom with them, I don't want to live up to their libido, I don't want to cook, clean, do their laundry for them. I don't want to put up with the stress of him looking at other women or wondering if he is cheating when he starts acting weird. I don't want any of that anymore. However, I think it's important to have someone in your life who can be as close to you as a husband but without the physical attraction. With men, there's always the issue of sex. I can do without it now. So this story is quite interesting and eye opening.
So they are like committed roommates who are best friends and want to both raise a child. I just think the term marriage confused me. The legal and financial benefits of this is very understandable...if a person doesn't want a romantic partner but still wants a life partner, to be able to lean on, that would definitely work. Or they just don't want their romantic partner involved in their finances like that one girl.
This is interesting... and I could see it working.. there's so many different types of love ❤️ can't be mad if the children that come out if it are healthy and happy. Wish they had a male example of this too....
@@thekaren1111 Some of that and also just the different way men tend to view and interact in platonic relationships. Even though the two relationships featured in the video were not inherently romantic or sexual in nature, they still displayed some expressions of affection towards each other - hugging, kissing, cuddling, saying, "love you." Things that you almost never see even two close male friends doing, at least not in public. Also the socialization of men to be serious, stoic, and independent, traits that could make even platonic affection or intimacy tough, which may be why we hear of fewer deep, affectionate male friendships, unless it's a gay couple.
This may be that of many current marriages... after a certain number of years - some couples lose attraction for each other or lose interest or no longer want to have sex....yet are in love & committed to each other & their family. I believe many current marriages are sexless & platonic...I'll guess over 40% of marriages no longer have sex for whatever reason. What do you all think?
Most people get fat after being married a few years. When the wife starts to lose weight and fixing herself up, she’s probably looking for someone new or is cheating on the husband. LOL
I would love to have a beautiful, trusting, safe relationship with my best friend and not have the pressure to be sexually intimate with them or have kids.
I consider myself a proponent of more traditional relationship styles, and while I admit this is unusual and yeah, kind of weird to me, i just cant bring myself to hate it. I mean I certainly couldn't do it. Most people couldn't. Part of me worries what a family structure like this means for the development of a child. But in a way I do admire what these people have. Despite my conflicted thoughts, at the end of the day it's just people that are happy and at peace with their lifestyle, and who the hell am I to judge.
There are dozens of other things that society has normalized that can ruin a developing child. As long as the couple are decent people, this is not one of them
@@-XtraCredit- I don't know, I guess you're right. I didn't even have an opinion on the subject until I saw the video so my feelings on it aren't really concrete. All I can say is that in regards to the couple who mentioned adopting, I seriously cannot imagine that child turning out the slightest bit normal. But then again it's not really my place to care. I dunno
I like your perspective on this. And I agree I can’t hate it. How do you think having a 2 parent 2 paycheck household with happy parents. I can only think of being teased and questions by other people and them not knowing how to respond?
Thank you! Whatever this platonic partnership is or is not, I've witnessed a lot of "old fashioned" marriages. Some of them have failed miserably. I've also watched my parents who will be married for 41 years this week and their marriage has not been based on meeting all of each other's emotional needs. No relationship would survive if that's how it worked!
It makes sense and I would happily do this. Sometimes you form a bond with someone and love them completely but it's got nothing to do with anything sexual. They just fit. These stories are beautiful.
Correct. This generation are pseudo-intellectuals. Ruining things even more and being offended if you ask for logical pushback to their ideas. 🤦🏻♂️. Before you ask I am in my 20’s but I consider myself an “old soul”
I don't know why but this kind of reminds me of the show ‘Will & Grace’ (*somewhat*) but in real life. Life long best friends doing life together. Kinda cool actually. 🤷🏽♀️
Instead of a partner for sex I am looking for a best friend in marriage with whom I can share everything...no secrets... mostly I will be looking for platonic marriage with a human in future
Is it weird that I find this story both wholesome because of how happy they are together and ace-spec visibility and equally intrusive because of how unnecessary it is to qualify ANYONE'S sexuality or lack thereof? 😆😆😆
@@richcast66 i just don`t get it why such a thing should exist?!its just complicated the things!can they adopt a baby?would you feel comfortable to give your child to these couples?!how jealousy works in these equation?
Thank you for covering this. I'm happy these people are able to find happiness outside of the mold and it's important that people can see alternatives to the traditional lifestyle if that isn't working for them.
It's hard to watch this and not ask- why can't you just have a friend then? Unless you plan on adopting children, (which I think is admirable of one of the couples) I would be remised if I didn't say that this just WREAKS of desperation and fear... Yes love and romance is scary, unrequited love is painful; but that doesn't mean you go with a safe route bc you are afraid of REAL feelings and how to navigate REAL emotions... WE have infantilized an entire generation, who are longing for a real connection... sad. It seems like social media affects on Gen Z has accumulated quite a large psychological toll on people to never trust or even try to have a full life with REAL feelings, even if you get hurt in the process.
Wow! , you made a very interesting point here 🤔 it makes a ton of sense I never thought about it that way ! Best “get to the root of the matter” comment so far
Besties to the Nth power. I've been saying for a long time that I'm probably gonna end up in a Golden Girls type of situation in the end. And you know what? I have absolutely no issues with that. Several of my friends and I are all single females in our later years, with and without kids, and, unfortunately, fulfilling, fully sexual, long--term relationships have alluded us for whatever reason. It is what it is. Will we continue to date and be open to finding Mr. Right? Yeah, sure. But companionship is companionship and we have that with each other.
My uncle who is gay married his best friend who is a woman. This platonic relationship has worked for them for over 15 years. This is beautiful to see.
I agree! Any deep human connection between two ppl is beautiful.
in about 10 to 15 years time, beastiality and marrying your dog will be considered acceptable.
What!?
I've always wanted to marry a gay man because I want a relationship and a partner but I don't want to be bothered for sex all the time.
@@bubblybubbles4023 Eh… your house will be decoratively neat, and a good cook.
As an asexual person apart of the aromantic/asexual community, this is beautiful to me. This will open the door to more platonic relationships between all types of people. Remember, asexual people are a spectrum. Some have sex, some dont. Ask your partner what they want. What we don't experience is sexual attraction. Think of it like a more spiritual and emotional bond that is more intense than the average acquaintance. It's 2022 and people don't need to marry into a sexual partnership if they don't want too. You can simply grow old with your best friend. ☺
There's no such thing as asexual. Every human experiences attraction- lying about it helps no one.
@@r.jdavos1981 dont speak for people. If you dont understand it then mind your business. Its proven to be a thing so move from here with your nonsense.
@@r.jdavos1981 yes it is. not everyone leads with attraction that leads to sex some people need more of a connection u can be attracted and not want to jump someone’s bones physically. With this day and age it’s so unbelievable for people to lead a healthy relationship with just an emotional connection. It’s what relationships are supposed to be built on and sex comes later because everything’s about sex nowadays
I have just a romantic relationship, not platonic or sexual
@@r.jdavos1981 I myself literally don't experience sexual attraction lmao, we do exist whether you want to believe it or not
I love this! Most older Asian marriages are like this too, they're just between a man and a woman. We've been sold a story in the West that marriage should be based on passion and romance. But the truth is those things eventually fizzle out and what you're left with is love, respect and caring for one another. Why can't that also be the case here? Most marriages evolve into financial commitment, family commitment and a sense of safety...especially when you're older.
I agree...However, why can't you just have a friend then? Unless you plan on adopting children, (which I think is admirable of one of the couples) I would be remised if I didn't say that this just WREAKS of desperation and fear... Yes love and romance is scary, unrequited love is painful; but that doesn't mean you go with a safe route bc you are afraid of REAL feelings and how to navigate REAL emotions... WE have infantilized an entire generation, who are longing for a real connection... sad.
Basically that’s what marriage is, a contracted agreement of finance and family to get through life - because it’s a lot easier to have someone committed doing all that together.
@@r.jdavos1981 No, we have instilled a fear of intimacy in this generation by instilling an "avoidant attachment style" by putting children age 5 and under into daycare, othercare, and leaving the baby/toddler with grandma instead of babywearing and co-sleeping for 90%+ of the day. Dr. Faye Snyder says in her books that a 1-year-old child can't handle more than 1 hour away from their mom per week without getting core damage to their personality, I'm guessing borderline personality disorder (BPD), as it says in her book The Handbook. It's where the BPD symptom "frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment" come from. They can't stand to be abandoned because it triggers their unconscious memories of their babyhood terrors of being abandoned by their moms as infants, if only for an hour. Babies don't know why their mom left, and in our evolutionary past on the African savannah, the only situation where the mom wasn't near her baby was because the mom had died. If mom is dead, that means no breastmilk for the baby, and the baby will die of dehydration and/or starvation most likely. So, babies evolved to want to stay near their mom's nipple at all times. This is why the skin-on-skin babywearing slings, frontal knapsacks, and women shirts that can hold newborns and young babies exist. People who have a secure attachment style don't fear intimacy/abandonment. At the root of a fear of intimacy is a fear of abandonment. If you weren't abandoned by your mom as a baby, even temporarily, you won't have a fear of intimacy. Go read John Bowlby.
@@r.jdavos1981 men can also do this.
@@ladybug3380
Do what?
Wow... this never crossed my mind as an option. The best relationship I ever had was with a roommate for over 4 years. The apartment we had together, I originally got with my cousin. He was dating her and he moved in when they got more serious.
Then one day, she pulls a total "See U next Tuesday" move, cheats and breaks up with him, and decides she wants to move in with some new guy. Leaving both of us hanging (me with the apartment lease).
He, being low on money, living paycheck to paycheck with bad credit at the time and not wanting to move back with his parents, agrees to stay with me till the end of the lease (5 months left) and take over my cousin's part, which was a big help.
What came out of that was an amazing 4 year partnership between two completely different people. Him a beer guzzling, football watching, X-box playing, red meat and fatty food eating, blue collar, every other word cussing, messy slobbish, macho chest beating straight white man. Me, a wine sipping, musical watching, health food eating, fitness obsessed, drag wearing, vanity focused, effeminate latino gay man.
And we just complimented each other and got along wonderfully. I cooked and cleaned, he handled the heavy duty chores. I helped him get his finances in order, and get into healthier and better shape. He helped me become less obsessed with looks (my own and others) and grow a back bone in my actual relationships, as I use to let men walk all over me. And by extension, my work life.
I'd call him my "hubby" and he'd refer to me as his "wify". There was even a long period where neither one of us were dating anyone, and we were just content. We'd go and have dinners or plan weekend activities together and it was strictly platonic!
Of coarse time came when we had to move on to the next part of our lives. We still keep in touch, but live completely different lives now. But I always look back to our time together as the most comfortable and fun relationship I ever had with anyone... and it was without sex!!
Society has really turned us into sexaholics so much so that most don't know what it even means to truly love anymore. Even in sexual relationships, when you begin to grow old, your partner falls ill or disabled, will your love last? Or was it only held together by sex? Do you know what it means to be involved in a spiritual and emotional bond so great that sex falls second or none at all at the end of the day? I think many people should experience how beautiful this experience is.
Thank u for this
This is so beautiful and wholesome. Friendships are so underrated in our society.
This is so stupid.. what do you think the point of a marriage is? Are you trying to say that you can have sex with someone you aren't married to? Lol. Just find another soulmate dude. There's billions of people in this world. You people are crazy!
@@bobby6569 Marriage use to be more of a platonic thing 1000s of years ago. Some people like myself are not capable of feeling romantic attraction so we focus on platonic relationships instead.
@@britishhusky3543 everyone is capable of romantic attraction. if you aren't ''capable'' because your own personal reasons (that's a choice)
Then don't get married. That's what the point of marriage is lol. You can't be married to someone and then sleep with someone else. Just don't marry that person because you clearly don't love them. You can do all of these platonic things with a friend that you don't marry. That's what I don't understand why you have to marry them...
@@bobby6569 not feeling romantic attraction does exist. Here's some evidence ruclips.net/video/qF1DTK4U1AM/видео.html
@@britishhusky3543 that's called mental illness. also, if you have trauma, you might not be attracted to people anymore. that doesn't mean it's not possible to have a romantic attraction, it's just your choice not to have one. i guarantee the right person comes along, that person will feel different. unfortunately, it's hard to come across the right person so we have these kids making up new identities for attention.
Honestly, I was confused too, because I do want to spend my life with a person.
But I do not want to have to carry the burden of the requirements in a romantic relationship.
I would break under the pressure and be miserable every day.
Perhaps a queer platonic relationship would be more suited for me.
Honestly how i feel.
@@geeblercobbler
I feel like I will forever stay alone, because I simply do not experience a certain kind of attraction, that many people see as essential.
Sure, romance sounds nice, but I am referring to the other kind, that is all over media.
No one loves without it.
❤❤
“Are we happy?”
“Yeah.”
“So it’s valid?”
“Yeah.”
And that my friends is what matters. Happiness. 🦋
Yes ✨👌
❤
I’ve met a couple who was in a similar relationship. The only difference is that they were 79 years old and had been together for over 40 years. Their relationship enabled them to buy a house, look after each other, and become prosperous women living in the south. Eventually, they were able to help tons of people in our church and would spend their time educating children and doing missionary work in Haiti. They never got officially married but they genuinely loved each other. Only one is still alive today. It’s my opinion, that this type of relationship can work for many who don’t want to follow a traditional route as long as the values and respect are there. This is coming from a conservative person.
My uncle and his wife are like this.
I think a lot of couples even become like that with time. Both stop been attracted but still appreciate the life partnership
Also, I think it’s a great choice for women who wanna have children and don’t have a husband
what about the sex part, people need that.. how does that part work?
@@johnd3124 maybe they have an outside partner for that
@@johnd3124 they evolved past that part. Technology has its wonders too ;)
Well…why not 🤷🏻♀️ Traditional marriage has been failing for years.
Everyone has a right to be with someone who makes them happy.
including dogs or pigs?
@@ReinhardtX57 "someone"
Yes! I have the right to be with a very wealthy woman with a terminal illness and no living relatives! It's my right!
@@residentrump3271 yea get that cash
I think sexual intimacy between certain individuals in a relationship is also a misnomer. Just because a “couple” has sex doesn’t even guarantee INTIMACY. Intimacy is a social emotional healthy skill that many don’t have.
Its like most marriages, but they skipped straight to the part where they no longer find the other sexually attractive.
Honestly I'm confused by couples who get divorced over not being " passionate" anymore despite being the best of friends. Tons of people will eventually "lose the passion" anyway no matter who they pair up with. They're trying to live up to a marriage that's basically a myth.
Just like everyone else who was with them which made them that way lol.
you can be sexually attracted to friends too . marriages are about romantic attraction
😭😂😭
Lmao
Personally, I never understood the whole sex thing, when there is so much more to being a person. I think it is insulting to define people solely based on sex.
This is odd but not in a bad way! It’s definitely a different perspective and something that I would never think of but I actually understand it. Am really happy for them 💖
I am just so happy for these couples. I wish I was in a position to have a partnership like this. #lifegoals
It's exactly what I've been looking for!
Whatever makes them happy, makes me happy. 🙂
Life is short.
some people are happy with dogs, or pigs... is that make you happy too??
@@ReinhardtX57 why are obsessed with dogs and pigs? Weirdo.
Everybody know that dogs and pigs are intelligent, but it’s clear that you are not.
@@ReinhardtX57 yea what's wrong with loving ur pets ????
jk we're talking about people NOT animals damn i swear y'all be comparing it to anything
"wow what's next, plants? 🤓" stfu u know we aren't talking about that
@@ReinhardtX57 Well you thinking is always I extreme dumps.... There are people who remain single and take care of their pets and are happy. So just back off!!!!!
This seems pretty innocent. Not sure why all the negative comments ¿
The plutonic marriage thing I get, it’s like raising a family with your best friend. In a place where 60% of marriages fail, if this works, go for it…. And I love that they adopted, so many kids need a stable home. Ideology doesn’t even matter if there isn’t stability and love.
My husband is my best friend AND im attracted to him, for me this is a win win
Yes, but it can be difficult to find a person with those two qualities. The book "Will Our Love Last?" by Sam Hamburg, PhD talks about this.
@@moondog7694
Hmm
@@floflo8153 Why do you say "Hmm"?
A man can never be kept
@@auroramothergoddess
What do you mean?
This is cute ♥️ more kids will grow up in happier homes.
How are kids going to be born with out the parents having a sexual relationship?🤨
@@haleymoon657 ivf, sperm donation, egg donation, surrogacy, adoption, fostering
Those are all options
I am in a platonic partnership too, it’s the best 😊
I think its great! There are asexual men and women couples who are married. There is also a website for asexual people.
This is FASCINATING and beautiful. Everyone deserves a best friend and partner. I wish that for everyone.
This is very interesting cause I was just thinking about an old girlfriend of mine whom I lost touch with and was wondering what she was up to. I also thought about if she is alone then I wouldn't mind living with her. I am very hetero, but after a difficult marriage and divorce and at this stage in my life, I don't want to live with a man. I realized that they don't make good living partners for me. I don't want to share a bathroom with them, I don't want to live up to their libido, I don't want to cook, clean, do their laundry for them. I don't want to put up with the stress of him looking at other women or wondering if he is cheating when he starts acting weird. I don't want any of that anymore. However, I think it's important to have someone in your life who can be as close to you as a husband but without the physical attraction. With men, there's always the issue of sex. I can do without it now. So this story is quite interesting and eye opening.
It's just that the hostility towards men inside you has damaged your psychology. You need therapy.
You’re not damaged. You’re practicing self preservation. I hope you find the love you deserve.
My soulmate is my best friend! I’d marry her in a second! I’m not attacked to her at all but she’s my everything I’d be lost without her!
So they are like committed roommates who are best friends and want to both raise a child. I just think the term marriage confused me. The legal and financial benefits of this is very understandable...if a person doesn't want a romantic partner but still wants a life partner, to be able to lean on, that would definitely work. Or they just don't want their romantic partner involved in their finances like that one girl.
I love that idea!! As a woman i feel much more trust to live with a woman.
This is interesting... and I could see it working.. there's so many different types of love ❤️ can't be mad if the children that come out if it are healthy and happy.
Wish they had a male example of this too....
I think we know why they didn't...
@@thekaren1111 Some of that and also just the different way men tend to view and interact in platonic relationships. Even though the two relationships featured in the video were not inherently romantic or sexual in nature, they still displayed some expressions of affection towards each other - hugging, kissing, cuddling, saying, "love you." Things that you almost never see even two close male friends doing, at least not in public.
Also the socialization of men to be serious, stoic, and independent, traits that could make even platonic affection or intimacy tough, which may be why we hear of fewer deep, affectionate male friendships, unless it's a gay couple.
Envy not thou oppressor and choose none of his ways. Proverbs 3:31
@@tristanexantus6386 Ofc you’re a Christian. Your replies made a lot of sense lol. Y’all just have to push y’all’s stuff onto everybody else.
This may be that of many current marriages... after a certain number of years - some couples lose attraction for each other or lose interest or no longer want to have sex....yet are in love & committed to each other & their family. I believe many current marriages are sexless & platonic...I'll guess over 40% of marriages no longer have sex for whatever reason. What do you all think?
they have romantic attraction, but this video is about platonic
Most people get fat after being married a few years. When the wife starts to lose weight and fixing herself up, she’s probably looking for someone new or is cheating on the husband. LOL
@@mikewhocheeseharry5292 Good observation...
@@mikewhocheeseharry5292 men cheat when they dont find their wife attractive as well.
@@mikewhocheeseharry5292 men cheat too! If both people don't keep working in themselves it won't work
I would love to have a beautiful, trusting, safe relationship with my best friend and not have the pressure to be sexually intimate with them or have kids.
I consider myself a proponent of more traditional relationship styles, and while I admit this is unusual and yeah, kind of weird to me, i just cant bring myself to hate it. I mean I certainly couldn't do it. Most people couldn't. Part of me worries what a family structure like this means for the development of a child. But in a way I do admire what these people have. Despite my conflicted thoughts, at the end of the day it's just people that are happy and at peace with their lifestyle, and who the hell am I to judge.
There are dozens of other things that society has normalized that can ruin a developing child. As long as the couple are decent people, this is not one of them
@@-XtraCredit- I don't know, I guess you're right. I didn't even have an opinion on the subject until I saw the video so my feelings on it aren't really concrete. All I can say is that in regards to the couple who mentioned adopting, I seriously cannot imagine that child turning out the slightest bit normal. But then again it's not really my place to care. I dunno
I like your perspective on this. And I agree I can’t hate it. How do you think having a 2 parent 2 paycheck household with happy parents. I can only think of being teased and questions by other people and them not knowing how to respond?
Why do we impose our own views of happiness onto other people? Insecurity
Right there with ya. Well said.
Aren't they basically asexual lesbians?
@Buck Breaker How old are you? Is frigid still a word? 😂🤣
Marriage is not about one person meeting all of your emotional needs, no matter what that Tiktok doctor says.
Thank you! Whatever this platonic partnership is or is not, I've witnessed a lot of "old fashioned" marriages. Some of them have failed miserably. I've also watched my parents who will be married for 41 years this week and their marriage has not been based on meeting all of each other's emotional needs. No relationship would survive if that's how it worked!
Christians are clutching their pearls rn
😂
It makes sense and I would happily do this. Sometimes you form a bond with someone and love them completely but it's got nothing to do with anything sexual. They just fit. These stories are beautiful.
I couldn’t be with someone without that romantic aspect; but good for them if that’s what makes them happy.
So just another label for what we call friendship.
We're doomed...
Correct. This generation are pseudo-intellectuals. Ruining things even more and being offended if you ask for logical pushback to their ideas. 🤦🏻♂️. Before you ask I am in my 20’s but I consider myself an “old soul”
Yes very good, friendship is and always has been a label long before you were a twinkle in your daddy's sack.
@@budz5838 that's what I'm saying lol
not really? this is different clearly
@@laur-unstagenameactuallyca1587 yes your right. These people just registered their friendship with the state lol
Omg this is such a beautiful love story 💚
Finally, this is talked about in the open; this is something that was taboo and not spoken of but still did happen.
I totally understand what they are saying and doing really amazing thank you for sharing now maybe people will understand me better
The manosphere is gonna rage 😂
I think those guys should start shacking up with each other also since they hate women. 🤷🏻♀️
🤣🤣 I said the same thing!!!
Good for them ❤️❤️
I think that's what matters in ANY relationship is whether they are happy!!!
I don't know why but this kind of reminds me of the show ‘Will & Grace’ (*somewhat*) but in real life.
Life long best friends doing life together.
Kinda cool actually. 🤷🏽♀️
confused, and in denial, poor guy who is dating that asian girl is just wasting his time
Instead of a partner for sex I am looking for a best friend in marriage with whom I can share everything...no secrets... mostly I will be looking for platonic marriage with a human in future
Omg this is what I need
Same girl same
People are nuts🤣
To each their own.
As an aromantic, I love seeing more representation for platonic relationships. Sex/romance doesn’t matter, and it’s just nice to see more of that
OMG soo soo sooo beautiful!!!!!!
Sounds like 19th century "Boston marriages" but most of them probably not as wealthy.
Is it weird that I find this story both wholesome because of how happy they are together and ace-spec visibility and equally intrusive because of how unnecessary it is to qualify ANYONE'S sexuality or lack thereof? 😆😆😆
Omg I want this with another woman so bad
❤
“It doesn’t matter what we are. The question is ‘are we happy’”. Yep.
I wish the term Demisexual was around in the 60s. I was sort confused with "Free Love" when the rare times I did fell in love I went crazy in Love
this is fucking beautiful
This is fabulous! This is what I need & I didn’t know it wasn’t “just me“.
Cat ladies don’t have to be alone anymore
Or butch women boys
Get a life Andy…
🤣🤣🤣
They don’t seem like cat ladies
@@GlowingHazel people often mock that which they do not understand.
🕊️
The cost of living is so high we have to marry our best friend to survive.
I’ve literally been thinking of this!
lmao
I can understand this
I'm so glad non traditional marriages are gaining light
I think the society is evolving so should institutions…it just doesn’t make sense keeping archaic laws and thinking they would work right now…
what does it even mean?its stupid.there`s a word for that,frienship.
Ikr. Why this generation make everything so complicated.
Right wtf
@@-XtraCredit- yeah and the term of frienship it`s probably older than that but you don`t know about that cause youre a f... loner&never had a friend
But it isn't friendship. By law, they become family. They become sexless married couple's and aquire the rights that married couples have
@@richcast66 i just don`t get it why such a thing should exist?!its just complicated the things!can they adopt a baby?would you feel comfortable to give your child to these couples?!how jealousy works in these equation?
Frank Reynolds and Charlie Kelly. The OG platonic partnership.
Give credit where credit’s due.
This needs more thumbs up!!
🤣
Werd !
They look exactly like the people that would be in this kind of BS
Are u married?
lmfaooo on dawgs 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
I think it's called a FRIENDSHIP....
You raise kids with your friends and buy a house together and are committed to each other for the rest of your lives? Oh ok
@@marshmallow7640Yes you can do this with your friends.
Don’t see many men doing this. I believe women can go this route way easier.
GAY !
I love the gays they're great 👍
I am a Fictoromantic Asexual person with a Fictosexual person as a platonic life partner and it is so lovely to see that we are not alone. ❤❤❤
Thank you for covering this. I'm happy these people are able to find happiness outside of the mold and it's important that people can see alternatives to the traditional lifestyle if that isn't working for them.
I've never married or had kids-the money I saved meant I retired at 38 in 1995.
It's just been party party in SE asia since then.
Congrats ✌
This is my dream I’d love to do this ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
❤
PLEASE, PLEASE, HELP UKRAINE PEOPLE COME ON US SONS AND WOMEN AROUND THE WORLD COME JOIN THE UKRAINE ARMY AGAINST THE RUSSIAN COOLER...
Neither romantic nor sexual, a friendship is a platonic relationship.
Lets normalize this.. Yas!
They're Nuns by a different name.
So everyone who doesn’t have sex is a nun some nuns have experience sex and some who where married and some how have children
It's doesn't matter what kind of relationship your in the question is if your happy then what does it matter
I think it's great.
I've never heard of this until now. This seems very interesting
Who else thinks they look like sisters???!!😀😀😀😀😁😁😁😁😁 They look alike!
Oh well she won't have that boyfriend for long at all.
I love this!
It's hard to watch this and not ask- why can't you just have a friend then? Unless you plan on adopting children, (which I think is admirable of one of the couples) I would be remised if I didn't say that this just WREAKS of desperation and fear... Yes love and romance is scary, unrequited love is painful; but that doesn't mean you go with a safe route bc you are afraid of REAL feelings and how to navigate REAL emotions... WE have infantilized an entire generation, who are longing for a real connection... sad. It seems like social media affects on Gen Z has accumulated quite a large psychological toll on people to never trust or even try to have a full life with REAL feelings, even if you get hurt in the process.
This isn’t what this video was about
@@e113jelly6 lol. If you see a “cute” video about platonic friends then you are NOT paying attention…
Wow! , you made a very interesting point here 🤔 it makes a ton of sense I never thought about it that way ! Best “get to the root of the matter” comment so far
some relationships can't be put into romantic or platonic boxes, humans r more complicated than that, who r u to define "REAL" feelings ????
White culture so beautiful.
Nope
Also black, yellow, dark tan, ect.... Don't single out the other colors
I see there's a loophole for polygamy in platonic relationships. I think it's not the best idea not to be single.
Does everything need a special label? They're friends with a legal contract. Idk do u boo. Lol
The only comment worth liking. That's exactly what's going on and how I feel about it 🤙
@@thekaren1111 This is just another situation where the "state" should not be involved.
🤢🤮
That’s called a roommate
I'm so proud of you both
❤
I would do this.
nah they lesbians
I love this!!!!!!
PLEASE, PLEASE, HELP UKRAINE PEOPLE COME ON US SONS AND WOMEN AROUND THE WORLD COME JOIN THE UKRAINE ARMY AGAINST THE RUSSIAN COOLER.....
PLEASE, PLEASE, HELP UKRAINE PEOPLE COME ON US SONS AND WOMEN AROUND THE WORLD COME JOIN THE UKRAINE ARMY AGAINST THE RUSSIAN COOLER....
PLEASE, PLEASE, HELP UKRAINE PEOPLE COME ON US SONS AND WOMEN AROUND THE WORLD COME JOIN THE UKRAINE ARMY AGAINST THE RUSSIAN COOLER....
PLEASE, PLEASE, HELP UKRAINE PEOPLE COME ON US SONS AND WOMEN AROUND THE WORLD COME JOIN THE UKRAINE ARMY AGAINST THE RUSSIAN COOLER....
PLEASE, PLEASE, HELP UKRAINE PEOPLE COME ON US SONS AND WOMEN AROUND THE WORLD COME JOIN THE UKRAINE ARMY AGAINST THE RUSSIAN COOLER...
Besties to the Nth power. I've been saying for a long time that I'm probably gonna end up in a Golden Girls type of situation in the end. And you know what? I have absolutely no issues with that. Several of my friends and I are all single females in our later years, with and without kids, and, unfortunately, fulfilling, fully sexual, long--term relationships have alluded us for whatever reason. It is what it is. Will we continue to date and be open to finding Mr. Right? Yeah, sure. But companionship is companionship and we have that with each other.
That’s so cute and special! 💗