Does it have to be a "gripe session"? Sometimes we need to call or write a letter for the purpose of telling the truth. The other person can play an important role in that--by 'hearing' ours and by delivering theirs. IF they're mature enough, the couple can explore it jointly, responsibly. Love can grow out of that, with none of the sticky entanglement.
Wow this video is amazing. I feel like there is some divine intervention here Mr. David. It's been 2 years, we broke up with no calls or good byes it just happened. And I swore I'm over it but you said if there is still a sting after you seen a pic then I dnt have closure. I don't know what to do. Thanks for making me realize this
David, my ex recently broke up with me and was emotionally abusive. I understand your new no-victim approach and I think this has great value to me, but when it comes to my ex. She broke up 3 days after giving a valentines card saying we would be together for a long time. I was so stunted and baffled I froze in fear and never dared to confront her with anything. All I needed was peace and I was terrified of her, so I told her I wanted no contact until I had myself back together again. her reaction was aloof and uncaring. I would like to confront her just once, but I am scared if I see her again I will fall for her again and be all jelly and even go along with what ever plan she might have. I feel like all I have done in the relationship is own up to my percieved faults, taking responsabillity for her sick mind games and trying to make it work this way, only to be dumped offhandedly, so if I take your advice, wouldn't I actually be taking the blame on myself again like I did before ? How is doing the same thing suppose to empower me ? I know I should have set boundaries, boundaries I apparently didn't have, I feel like she let me down but I feel even more once again that I let myself down ... any advice ? I am willing to own up but it takes two to tango doesn't it ?
I know of some people on Divorce Support groups that are really hurting and could really benefit from your techniques. ( I like your ideas and have often ran some of them thru my mind, based on Biblical learning.) Do you every think about using a sliding scale (going off of individuals income) to help?
How would you handle a situation where the girl your dating had told you she had flash backs of some guy she loved a lot. She thought of the time they had plus sexual experiences. Than when we talk she brings up how she wish they had closure. The whole time saying it was a idea but she loves me.
I WOULD WORK WITH A PROFESSIONAL AND GET GUIDANCE ON HOW SHE CAN COME TO CLOSURE ON HER OWN...WE DO THAT WORK, YOU CAN FIND OUT MORE AT HTTP://WWW.DAVIDESSEL.COM
Are these suggestions in order to get closure for yourself? or do you need to do this to help others come to closure? Is it your responsibility to help others come to closure?
Excellent advice!
Thank you for this video, it was tremendously helpful to me!
Does it have to be a "gripe session"? Sometimes we need to call or write a letter for the purpose of telling the truth. The other person can play an important role in that--by 'hearing' ours and by delivering theirs. IF they're mature enough, the couple can explore it jointly, responsibly. Love can grow out of that, with none of the sticky entanglement.
Wow this video is amazing. I feel like there is some divine intervention here Mr. David. It's been 2 years, we broke up with no calls or good byes it just happened. And I swore I'm over it but you said if there is still a sting after you seen a pic then I dnt have closure. I don't know what to do. Thanks for making me realize this
David, my ex recently broke up with me and was emotionally abusive. I understand your new no-victim approach and I think this has great value to me, but when it comes to my ex. She broke up 3 days after giving a valentines card saying we would be together for a long time. I was so stunted and baffled I froze in fear and never dared to confront her with anything. All I needed was peace and I was terrified of her, so I told her I wanted no contact until I had myself back together again. her reaction was aloof and uncaring. I would like to confront her just once, but I am scared if I see her again I will fall for her again and be all jelly and even go along with what ever plan she might have. I feel like all I have done in the relationship is own up to my percieved faults, taking responsabillity for her sick mind games and trying to make it work this way, only to be dumped offhandedly, so if I take your advice, wouldn't I actually be taking the blame on myself again like I did before ? How is doing the same thing suppose to empower me ? I know I should have set boundaries, boundaries I apparently didn't have, I feel like she let me down but I feel even more once again that I let myself down ... any advice ? I am willing to own up but it takes two to tango doesn't it ?
I know of some people on Divorce Support groups that are really hurting and could really benefit from your techniques. ( I like your ideas and have often ran some of them thru my mind, based on Biblical learning.) Do you every think about using a sliding scale (going off of individuals income) to help?
John Bradshaw calls it doing your grief work
How would you handle a situation where the girl your dating had told you she had flash backs of some guy she loved a lot. She thought of the time they had plus sexual experiences. Than when we talk she brings up how she wish they had closure. The whole time saying it was a idea but she loves me.
I WOULD WORK WITH A PROFESSIONAL AND GET GUIDANCE ON HOW SHE CAN COME TO CLOSURE ON HER OWN...WE DO THAT WORK, YOU CAN FIND OUT MORE AT HTTP://WWW.DAVIDESSEL.COM
Are these suggestions in order to get closure for yourself? or do you need to do this to help others come to closure? Is it your responsibility to help others come to closure?
mike569112 great ?...... it is not our role to help others to closure
is that a ROSARY BEAD? =)
ajayNemintane yes....either called prayer beads or mala.....all same principles =)