I Helped Her Overcome Anxiety As Fast As I Could - HERE'S HOW
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 7 авг 2024
- Learn more about the process I used to get to the cause of her anxiety... Most people ignore this, but they really shouldn't!
►►► APPLY HERE FOR A FREE COACHING SESSION: bit.ly/2S9YVum
JULIEN's INSTAGRAM: / julienhimself
Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
===================================
I Helped Her Overcome Anxiety As Fast As I Could - HERE'S HOW
How to be confident in any situation! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to stop caring about what others think about you... This will allow you to feel confident and be confident in any social situation!
Discover how to be confident in any social situation, how to be confident around people and how to be grounded during social interactions!
#julienblanc #julienhimself
===================================
Subscribe to JulienHimself’s RUclips Channel: / @julienhimself
👉 APPLY FOR ONLINE COACHING: application.julienhimself.com/?l=q4huqj6bbb
👉 LEARN HOW TO LET GO: www.julienhimself.com/8p?l=lcn4bl0lbe
🚨 WATCH ME NEXT
- I studied social anxiety in thousands of clients: ruclips.net/video/jCTgb-pxssE/видео.html
- If I had low self esteem, I'd do this first: ruclips.net/video/s9yrMPIJHC8/видео.html
- Stop chasing a specific person and instead do this: ruclips.net/video/DDmqrbSdzPo/видео.html
- What I did to improve my social skills: ruclips.net/video/pCZdJiGSk8g/видео.html
👉 ATTEND A LIVE EVENT: www.noanxietytour.com
👉 BECOME A COACH ON MY TEAM: certification.transformationmastery.com
26:36 This Metaphor / visual gestures perfectly describe the "you place your goals behind a wall and attach you happiness/... to it"
We all feel alone because we have a God shaped void in ourselves. The only thing that can fill that is God. Pray with an honest heart to and accept Jesus into your life.
Was in the room at the time! Incredibly brave and a great free tour overall. All the best to her!
Massive respect to her, yes! And thank you for making it out in person!! 🙌
Did the air condition malfunction?
@@MyJAJAJAJJAmost European countries don't have air conditioning built in
Look at how she put her hand on her heart in the end like she said sorry unconsciously❤
I noticed that too! was very sincere
That gesture isn't "sorry", it's "thank you".
I do this a lot
Wow, really sat here and cried my eyes out thinking about how much of a bad parent I've been to myself for the last few years. I then went and got a photo of myself and put it on my mirror once the video was over. I needed this. Thank you so much. ❤
Same
For me it took years to rewire being hard on myself because I grew up invalidated by parents
Glad you were able to break free! Fortunately, it doesn't have to take people that long anymore with the right tools and guidance... 🙏
Interesting ideas:
1. Talk to myself like a parent/child relationship.
2. I am are in relationship till death with current me and past me.
3. Have a visible picture of a past me I hated and listen/write down what I don't like about myself and what I wanted in order to trigger and release.
4. Recultivate a respectful and nurturing relationship. Would I say this to my kid?
Hey Julien I just wanted to say that you’ve changed my perspective on self help and I can’t do anything but say thank you :)
You're so welcome! Glad my content has been impactful for you! 🙏
Thanks for this. I've had pretty bad social anxiety most of my life and I finally found the cause. It was my dad. He was pretty physically and emotionally abusive mainly traits learned from his own childhood cause my grandparents were like that to him. Anywans, I just pretty much grew up afraid of him and had a hard time talking to him and that feeling started to expand to other people, mainly authority figures like teachers, managers etc. I missed a lot of opportunities especially in college and its mainly all because of that. I'm 27 now, its slowly starting to get better and I've made lots of progress. I feel like finding the root cause is important in undertanding and overcoming
❤
This might be a hot take but I was taking notes from this video and when I was done my take on it was:
Fulfilment is something you access by allowing yourself to have it/feel it - it's not something you have to get in order to have, because there will always be something more to be wanted if I can put it like that. Its better just to access it, allow it and carry it around into everything that you do - That way you can be goal oriented and the fulfillment is a state of being rather than a state of getting - the fulfilment is in the pursuit of the goal - not in the goal.
I did it with her and when she started crying I did too. Really powerful stuff. Made me realise things I had locked up. I was harsh to myself as well. I also think that younger me fucked everything up.
Anxiety is such a bitch to deal with, I totally understand her.
Your teachings have been super helpful to me so far. It's a pretty long process that takes serious dedication and awareness, but I do feel an improvement so far. Sometimes I still get triggered and things aren't always easy. I think my biggest ''thing'' about my anxiety is, that in those moments where I know I'm being seen and I'm feeling happy, I'm not sure what to do with these positive experiences, as I've never truly experienced them before and then I fall back into anxiety mode again because it's a ''safe'' default mode. When I get triggered, I do however say to my younger self: ''It's okay to feel the way you do, I understand you. I got you, just as you got me and helped me survive, now it's my turn to keep you safe, you don't have to be afraid anymore''
So, I've learned to be more compassionate, loving and understanding towards my younger self. All I want to learn now, is how to embrace and manifest my current self and learning how to deal with being seen and actually allowing myself to be happy. Do you think I'm on the right path here? Any advice or daily practices?
Either way, thank you so much Julien! You're a great dude!
These are great first steps! If you'd like my help with this, I'd suggest applying here: application.julienhimself.com 🙏
I feel the exact same way. Im trying so hard everyday to solve this problem of stopping myself from being happy in those moments where im seen.
I actually wrote down all my reasons for hating myself in my notes, and then a reminder to allow myself to be happy BEFORE I finish a goal, or in between goals.
This triggered me, I started crying. I know I have lots to go through as a child, lots trauma. So I started yesterday, going through each memory that always pops up (burying), each time I'm critical of someone (projection), using humour (to deflect), when I start thinking things like travel, money, etc thinking thats' going to solve everything. I'm also noticing my son, as I know our children take on some of these traits unfortunatly as well, so I'm watching him to see whats going on inside. And its a lot, I'm not going to lie, but even just going in the little bit already, I can notice a change in my temperment and the way I'm thinking. Like I'm not thinking the same. SO thank you. I'm going to watch all your videos.
Been better, but it’s always that I want to strive for greatness. Still can’t believe I have been listening to Julian for more than 10 years
This is kinda like what John candy said in cool runnings “If you’re not enough without it, you’ll never be enough with it.”
I think more of us than we would like to admit can relate to this exact kind of issues. I really feel her. I can relate to hating younger me as well. She is obviously very kind and geunine, big props for expressing her feelings so well.
The way I overcame the hate of younger me was to understand that I had no choice of being that way given the life I had; it was also useful to remember there were also things I was proud of in my youth, and the past stupidity things were necessary to go in the more self-aware me of today.
As she kind of said, you can rarely succeed if you don't fail first on the road to your goals.
As for not hating your current self upon failing, try to allow yourself to do some, take note of each mistake you find and try to improve on this point; you can't do better than that so accept this as the plateau of anyone including yourself. Even trying to be the best version of you is already pretty respectable.
As for feeling fulfilled, well, I would say sometimes it's also what pushes you to do more things. But it's true we have to more frequently acknowledge and enjoy what we already have during the process, to make our life bearable.
Hey Julien I've been practicing letting go and self-love and I noticed a major decrease in depression! Thank you for helping people help themselves!
We're all inner child abusers. So true!!! This notion of conditional happiness and fulfillment is so relatable. I guess it stems from valuing external validation and acceptance.
I've recently started watching your videos, and you are absolutely inspiring and insightful! For this video, the top takeaway is: treat others how you want to be treated, even if this 'other' person is yourself. It's amazing what a shift of perspective can teach you. Thank you so much for being you, and for sharing your words with us!
Great takeaway!! And so glad my videos have been helpful for you! 🙏
Thank you for this man! I can feel that you are getting better as time goes by. You look very calm and showing much love in this video. Keep it going 💪
She did an awesome job with the honesty. That would be tough in a room full of people. Good on you Ms.
I fear been seen uncomfortable and fear making others uncomfortable as people have rejected me from been uncomfortable 🥴. I don’t fear rejection in relation to other things but only when I’m uncomfortable or anxious. I love been alone I just don’t like people not accepting my feelings of anxiety. I think that is what my problem is I want people to accept that I feel anxious which is basically approval. And another thing is be careful of the people who we surround ourselves with as there are a lot of people who only love us when we are a certain way
I cried just before her tears fell down. I think its because she was holding it back . Damn. She looks like a kind person and i respect her effort. I hope she's doing okay.
This one right here make me cry, you really push some buttons, amazing experience. ❤ true love with the self is so damn powerful, and connecting with your past for forgiveness and tenderness is always something beautiful to experiment. Great video J!
Many of Julien's videos put a lump in my throat also. 🥲
Her honesty is amazing!!
Good coaching demonstration brother!👍I will apply it & keep at it💪& much continued success to Ines on her journey U got this!🙏
The concept of always chasing fulfillment through goals is something I felt so much my whole life. Your statement that you run out of excuses when you achieve "success" rings so true and I think is the main reason for what people describe as a "midlife crisis". It's the thought, "I should be happy now, what's wrong with me?" and you start looking for new excuses or things that can provide you with happiness. Thank you so much for what you're doing to help people, and while I wish I had discovered this concept years ago, I'm thankful to understand it now. Living in the present and experiencing fulfillment where you are right now is such a powerful thing.
You are really opening my eyes you are hitting home so much with this. The way you're explaining things is going to help me heal. I'm sad that I'm 55 years old and I've lived this self Hatred and anxiety for my whole life. But better late than never. Thank you so much. ❤
This is awesome! I actually thought about the relationship with my younger self and a lot of good thoughts came up.
Thank you, Julian!
Good meaning positive*
Julien, I don't know if you have ever come across a therapy modality called Internal Family Systems, but you describe it very well here
An absolute masterclass. Well done julian
This made me tear up, just beautiful.
I have crippling anxiety. Sometimes can’t go into a store, mall. Recently diagnosed with complex ptsd from years of trauma. It’s wild to realize how much crippling trauma I have to unbox, confront and overcome.
I have anxiety too. But don’t put labels on yourself. Don’t say you’re anxious, because that will only make it worse. What I do is I accept the anxiety, sometimes I’m shivering, I can’t breathe properly, but I don’t overthink it, I just let it be. By time my anxiety got less extreme. I hope this helps.
She's cute and props for being honest and opening up. Step 1 of 12.
I knew this concept already of talking to different versions of you but this was an excellent demonstration
Massive respect to her, yes! Glad this demonstration resonated with you!
A very powerful exercice. I found myself in what she said. Congrats to the girl for the courage to exceed her fears 👍🙂
Yes, MASSIVE respect to her!! 🙌
What's been a huge help for me has been practicing mindfulness meditation. First thing in the morning and then throughout the day for a few minutes. Made a huge difference. The book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels was a good starting point to learn some CBT and exercises.
Julian,... Your approach to clients are so different.really an eye opener all your videos. God bless all your way and wisdom of abundance.
Sharing ancient wisdoms in a modern context. Wisdom being derived from experience of course. Ive avoided watching your content in long form for a while now. Well done bro, well done. I can connect to your Authenticity, therfore your content. The person on stage with you engaged the process, well done to young lady. 👍
Very good session. Thank you.
OMG, The insights I get when I watch these videos. My answers to the questions are shocking. When you asked her will you love me if I didn't achieve my goals, My answer was no because I'm the cruel mean society who would kick out the weak useless ones
You better teach, Julien!! Really good stuff! GOD BLESS 😊
This one hit me deep, I hate being alone because my thoughts overtake me. I force myself to go places I really don't want to go to because I hate the voices I get when I'm alone. I know they're there but I don't know what to do with them. Any suggestions?
Let them flow and go as they come and go. You are not ur thoughts, youre the observer of your thoughts.
Thank you so much for this video 😢!!
You are so welcome!
Wow!! This one I can relate to so much. Thank you for the help you gave her, as you have also helped me a lot. Thank you. I actually have somethings to think about 😅
You're welcome! Glad this was impactful! 🙌
Cried watching this & saw many others did too. Wow
Life changing video. Thank you from my heart
You're so welcome!!
You are a great soul Julien
I love the contrast between Julien being such an incredible teacher and shall I say “not the best “ dresser. Priceless.
Thanks! 😂
adamrose5952 He has let go of all the anxiety surrounding what people think of his attire=)!
he is a good dresser tho.
It was really beautiful, man. Cheers!
Thank you! Glad it spoke to you!
Man i was craying with her when she start craying😂 ,
actually i like the video, how to love with yourself even if the situation it is, respect for you and for him for honestly respondes
One of best videos that i've watched❤
Glad this video impacted you so deeply! Thank you for watching!
U can see big admiration through her eyes to him
I’m the opposite I’m crazy when I’m in a relationship,,,, I’m calm cool and collected when single lotta more patience
Julien is a superhero and so r all of u!!!!!
i am 31 .. i knew my young me, even my 15 years old of me and i envy all of my younger version and i am very sorry for all of younger me that you are soo late to recognize how hard to live a real life is. because we have parent that bad to motivate, teach,make us recognize what and how hard real life works.. after i watch your video which this video , yes i know i had been in this process and me right now is upset about my parent but i already tell them how i feel that how i pity my younger me.. so me right now have to live, learn, and fight againts this bitter reality of life by my self
This conversation has really touched my hate. And l realize that the old me was so gud and brave and she made me who l am now.l thank you ☺️😊
Sir you are so smart,I love watching your videos❤
Been following Julien for years, like his content because is not about to puttinng a "mask" to get laid or flirt. These topics are more deep, good
Thank you
New content!….sweeeet. 💪🙏
Enjoy! And let us know your top takeaway!
Wow that was powerful
This sad insanely powerful
This was amazing. Had a Ni🅱️🅱️a crying in the club too. And shout outs to her being part of the recovery community.
But hey, I just sent this to a friend b/c I had reserved a seat for Sept NYC, but just checked the site, and you won’t be there anymore!? Let me know your next live event. Take care.
I’ll be in nyc in September - event is still up on the site! 👌
How did you suddenly started showing up in my suggestions? Quite interesting so far !
relatable. Thanks
You're welcome! Glad this resonates!
Hello Julien, greetings from Kenya 🇰🇪.
Hey there! Let us know your top takeaway once done watching! 🔥👊
love ur videos
Thanks so much! Glad they're helpful!
Dude, this/you are killing me. And I need to talk to you, philosophically. Are you heading for west Europe some time?
Just imagine, alone talking to your youunger version of you, hes scared of what you become , hes a child, hes afraid of you, talk with him, show him you are no danger , say sorry to him, look what he become , sitting in a corner of room crying scared ... what you did to yourself ? do you like that? no? then show him that you love him and ask forgiveness and promise him to that child you will never even will make him afraid of yourself again.. if you got succes in all this then the outcome worth more then you think.
I have this issue with sweating when im nervous, and it feels very embarassing. Do you also have this issue, just that youre better at dealing with it when it happens?
He has everyone think about the worst why not visualize the best and move into it. ? Our brain will focus on what we give it. This has worked all my life. Acknowledge your fears but focus on positive change look for solutions vs feeling helpless. We are all equally powerful. We are capable of so much more when we are accepted included by a group. That is what the real magic of this experience is about if you ask me. Support of the room. It compensates for whatever he does. All due respect, I don’t like people who think they are experts. We hold all the answers inside us. Some of what he says is helpful some is weird. Believe in yourself and respect others. Attract what you focus on. Have compassion. Anxiety is normal it means you are thinking. Breathe, exercise. We have learned movement helps the brain. Sitting in front of a screen for endless hours isn’t healthy Your brain needs movement. Eat more fiber and green leafy vegetables. Be grateful. Love
How to do the triggers?
Do you have a tour schedule
Good
Damn, the marriage counselor thing and the parent child scenerio really helped separate the parts of myself that I really dont like. (The weak OLD parts of myself from childhood and teenage years that just shut down and took the years of physical abuse and emotional, verbal mental abuse from others) I would call it my drill sergeant..cuz i would yell at myself like i was one.
Glad those parts were impactful for you! 🔥👊
need that hair cut
I love her Dutch accent. And her hair is adorable.
*French accent... 😉
Yep, definitely French
Hello again 😆🔥
👋
What if i dont remember my inner child, my childhood, but obviously don't love myself now? 😳🤔
Watch other children. Talk with them. Let them inspire you.
Jesus said Become like children.
That’s the only way to fulfilment and happiness. Be like a child.
I went to an event in Seattle this weekend. I follow Julian but not Jeffie or Owen two speakers @ the event. I had to leave because they were so contradictory and had some of the most terrible advice. It was sad. I'm very surprised that Julian aligns himself with those people.
@JulienHimself I hate my shyness so much that if I had a son like me I would abandon him. How do I fix it if the self-hatred is so strong?
Using the same process... Deep inner work and letting go. Let me know if you'd like my help: application.julienhimself.com 🙏
That’s what my mom’s doing. She’s 73 now and I only heard few days ago from herself, that she was very shy. But she got so angry with us or her grandchildren, if they were afraid or didn’t want to do something because of being shy.
It was such an eye opener!
She simply rejected her own inner child when she did that.
What's up Julien!!
👋👋
@@JulienHimself ❤❤
Hey julien, when are you coming to Amsterdam again ?
Was just there last month! Probably in another year or so…
@@JulienHimself oh man 😩 i just found your channel a few days ago and would’ve gone! Maybe next time
Hello julian i am one of the most of people who have strong fear of social.anxiety
Work to be done then... Let me know if you're ready: application.julienhimself.com
on what event it was filmed?
This is from the live event I did in Paris last month! 👌
So what’s behind phobias and agoraphobia?
Anyone got any good tips on how to step on the gas for the whole anger thing ?
I figured out some stuff for grief (sad songs) and fear (horror games/movies), but I'm kinda stuck on how to get anger going.
It's really frustrating to feel it kinda close to the surface, but not being able to coax some of it out. (And before someone says frustration is anger, it is not the same as this excess shit inside, that feels fake in comparison)
Sometimes if you punch something (like a punching bag or even a pillow..) it helps get anger out. It gets the blood flowing. Even yelling out as you do it "yahh!" (Or whatever sounds you wanna make) helps too.
Find a place to scream at the top of your lungs. Make it a growl like scream. Give it some bass. If anger is there, it'll come up. Anger a lot of the times is felt in the chest, temples, and jaw. These places will be good indicators for you. Hope this helps. 😊
My son 10 years suddenly got anxiety and he dont want to go to school cause he had his first panic there nd he cries all time nd telling me he lost the joy of life and he want to come back the old happy boy he broke my heart olease can anyone help me
"fashion suicide " that had me laugthing outloud😆
🔼
💙💙💙
Cool girl
Julien bro, I had had a blighted childhood. Now I am completely alone. But solitary self that I have I don't hate. I love writing, playing guitar, sports, and ya smoking. Golden Virginia in an wooden pipe. I don't want money. But my worst part is I feel needy of love. I want to be Loved flesh and blood. This makes me sad and suicidal. That's why probably I smoke incessantly.
❤
Mate you are aware of Teal Swan’s process? this really really looks just like it
👏👏👏👏
I will be writing a letter shortly to point out all the hilarious advice that was devoid of spirituality even though Owen was touting that he was a Christian. Meanwhile calling people f****** idiots and using cheap tricks. The amount of times he told us about all the celebrities he knows and how much money he had... It was hilarious. He kept saying he was saving the world. I didn't see that in any form. Which is sad because he really could make a good impact if you wanted to.
Bunch of incoherent nonsense lol.
I mean there’s some shitty parents that would call their kid stupid and loser but ya I get your point😂
Fear of rejection be broken off in Jesus name !
Hey julien I am from Pakistan and i am 18 yrs small man. I just want to meet you.
@saaad2215 oka wait
@saaad2215 hey saaaad
That woman is beautiful